Why 20-Year-Old Says He Hopes The Next Time He Sees His Parents Is When They're Dying
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- Опубліковано 21 вер 2024
- Stephen, 20, claims he was physically, mentally, and verbally abused by his parents since he was a child and hates his parents so much, he never wants to see them again. But his parents adamantly deny abusing Stephen, and say he’s a liar and the abusive one.
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Woah how are u here? ITS BEEN 6 YEAR!
Were the comments phill
i already did
Do you know who SSSniperWolf is? She does reactions on your channel.😂
Damn, If i were worse this is what would happen to me. poor dude
As a kid who was emotionally & physically abused, I'll believe the kid. Esp after the parents admit to some of it but not all of it.
He made the right choice getting rid of them at 17.
If I were him I would've gone as far as to go to court and remove them from being my parents erase them off my records. Then systematically, it'll just be the two of them and the kid will just be him alone
I’m 21 and I still haven’t got rid of them yet
My parents kicked me out some years ago and since then they have been more abusive since I had to put the fact out there that they used me for their own financial gain. In the legal sense I was their slave. As long as they profited on my suffering and to be underpaid by legal stature, they reaped in their benefits. It's only fair to say now that it would be a blessing if they died of either covid-19 or terminal cancer
Yes yes yes
Call the police
Parents know nothing about children’s feeling. This is so relatable.
Relatable to me to.
Same
Fr
Maybe that’s why my siblings are toxic cuz of my parents i wish my parents get help somehow idk why i feel like that
Same
These parents are just mine. I left 12 days before my 18th birthday, it’s been 20 years and I haven’t seen anyone in my family since. Life is so good without them.
Thats great! I am happy for you :) Im 15 rn, and I have parents very similar to this but kinda worse, they refuse to take me to the doctor and/or get me any vaccinations. It is rlly bad. Do you have any tips on getting out?
@@Anonymous-ji4sb Wow thats amazing! Thanks for the story, I have been doing similar things, thanks for the advice! I actually plan on going to Wa university to cause its my home state!
@@Anonymous-ji4sb Omg thank you so much I’m definitely gonna do this when I’m older, your literally a life saver. Before I didn’t have a clue on how I was gonna get out of this horrible household but now I have an idea on what I’m gonna do. Thanks
@@itsveronica4146 You’re welcome. Just don’t use the credit cards for anything over $100 unless it’s an absolute emergency, you could end with a balance can’t pay or late/missed payments which will trash your credit. Maybe just use it to get Starbucks or something a few times a month and pay the bill on time!! Really the only point of having a credit card at 18 is to build credit, you can’t get anything without good credit.
What a story, can i ask you something?
How can you get 3 grand in only 3 years.
And how did you save your money?
Is it pure your money you save from your parent? Or you save some from a side job or something like that?
The parents scream gaslighting.
Periodt tho
Fr periodt.
FACTS
Yes
💯
Most kids these days have parents exactly like this.
Its sad really
Well i feel like more in the 70’s and 80’s at least in Canada because child care laws are a lot more strict since 1989 than then
Yeah unfortunately I have those parents cause my parents also abuse me never buy me anything new never let me play games never help me in homework (when I was young) never give me pocket
Money.
i dont im happy my mother dosent even act like those kind of other parents she would even litterally xd buy meh everything i want lol? i hate my father
Welcome to this status driven society whereas looking good means more than actually being good.
It's ironical how the people who are supposed to take care of you the most , hurt you the most
fr
Fact
The funny thing is if they do it too much there's a point where you yes you heard me *you* are the one that will hurt them next
With either undeniable facts or a Butt stock of an M16
my parents right here.
Welcome to the life of a human child who grows up and becomes miserable like the rest of the world who suffered in childhood one way or another.
Why would a boy wish her mother to die with no reason?
That actually shows how much he went through to reach that point
yea i hate how people say its like being disrespectful to parents while in reality they are disrespecting their own children
@@abikinebi6235 Look at how much of a competition life is, especially between you and your parents. What's wrong with going to prison for doing what's right?
😑🙄😒😤
Two words: Menendez brothers.
Why do i have the same parents (
Why does all the abusive parents think that they never hurt their child even once?
that's what makes them abusive
@@agamkaur1614 i guess so
To deny their mistake
Psychopaths
they're stuck in fantasy : they're never wrong.
What’s worse than a narcissistic abusive father? A mother that stays silent about it.
She didn’t stay silent. She’s the most blatantly narcissistic of the two and spent all the interview abusing him in various ways, gaslighting, discrediting and being aggressive towards him. I would go as far as to say she may very well have been the main problem in this kid’s life, although the father could obviously be more violent. Definitely not a passive accomplice.
Also, no. A parent who stays silent about their partner’s abuse of their kid is far from ideal and should try to find a way to protect their child, but they might be failing at that out of (often reasonable) fear, they might be victims themselves, in denial (again, out of fear), or ignorant of the matter. The abuser is the one doing the abusing and putting everyone in a scary and dangerous situation. Not having the guts or means to get your kid out of an abusive home isn’t worse than abusing them. In a lot of cases it’s not even close.
They join eventually 🤷♀️
That’s my mother. Then they become even better at manipulating you to accept abuse from your father.
My parents
@@EIizabethGrace Well said Elizabeth
I'm instantly believing the kid.
"He's never even been spanked", "he's violent", "oh look how crazy he is and how rational we are".
That's all I hear.
This is an abuser's tactic.
Textbook case of gaslighting.
Please look at some of the threads above you and you will see some people disagreeing and knowing that he is a SPOILED BRAT who will not lose and must WIN at ANY COST ; even if it means LYING TO DESTROY OTHERS .
It is a type of sociopathy with people who become so spoiled they cannot ever lose ... not in a game of cards ; not in a dating scenario , and not when it comes to family .
I think by the time his parents realize they had spoiled him so much that he turned into a monster it was too late
@@gardensofthegods wow man amazing insight you got, goodluck raising your child i hope they will be just fine.
@@thefutureisalwaysbrightify8889 Please don't. I have children.
I was a victim of abuse, and even as a grown man, my father still emotionally and mentally abuses me. I'm not a perfect father but I do my best, I never want to treat my kids the way my parents treated me.
Please don't wish them luck raising a child. They should be barred from even having the opportunity to have kids, let alone raise them.
@@gardensofthegods he may be somewhat, but his parents demand to be in his life. They refuse to own their part
who else is here to feel anger instead of sadness rn
ME.
Me here like your commentator
ME
I feel sad not angry 😢
I'm fueling my anger right now , and it's boiling and waiting for the next time my parents abuse me , someone's gonna have a bleeding nose for this
I grew up in a similar situation, and my parents react the same way when called out. The kid is telling the truth
Truth teller here, that saying about nobody is hated more than he who tells the truth is so true, all I've ever wanted was some place to feel comfortable, I've never been physically abused, albeit I'd rather it have been physical
@@DJC_2003 emotional abuse hurts. Nobody hurts you quite like stupider ppl who feel inferior by your very presence and slight display of critical thinking. Stupid people are the most dangerous things on the planet. They do something and don’t learn, and keep doing it. Psychopaths are horrible too, but you can institutionalize capital punishment for them.
So much similarity to my own situation all around as well.
@@somewhereinagalaxyfarfaraway You have a high IQ and lots of creative talent. Use that to build a successful company and get rich so no one can ever power over you again
@@ekkamailax I don't know about that...but I am part of a ESOP company so I kinda own my own haha..
When that mom did the crazy eyes and raised her voice, i knew. Normal women don't do that, abusive ones do
and she has no idea. thats like my ratchety mom
@@jantelopez5626 I always point it out- and my mom gets so mad😂”look at your eye, you have white on both top and bottom”😂
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some parents thinks they're always right, but they aren't.
Ever realize how a parent is always biased towards your opinion too?
Exactly like mine its frustrating getting into an argument with them and they don't even try to understand us
so relatable. One of the reasons I hate my parents so much.
@@chocolatechipcookie7161 exactly
Agreex
The mother is trying so hard it comes off as even more fake.
She’s playing victim because she knows she’s loosing
@@deonambrose Plus she looks like a Plastic surgery gone wrong
3:57 Look at those jezebel eyes, certified narcissist..
I can tell the parents are lying. Whoever raises their voice is always wrong.
Cardi B: 👀
I feel like it's ok to raise a voice unless if its necessary. We Filipinos has always lived that kind of discipline. In the end they still care for us because they don't want their child to grow like a spoiled brat right? But what's not good is raising your voice when it's not even necessary to the point where the child will be hurt you know what I mean? But hey it's just my opinion so yeah
Body langage and they emotion response says it all.
mine are the definition of lies
The Way She Raised Her Voice like That. is A Red Flag.
Parents think that since there older than there child, they think it’s ok to do this. It’s like every parents dream.😔😔
Not my parents, these kind of parents often have no ties with religious norms
@@glennhonestly6600 oh boy, you’re in for a ride.
They always think they’re smarter because they’re older, they never can admit when their wrong. And that’s the bad thing.
@@glennhonestly6600 Both my parents are Christian Catholics and they did far worse to my siblings and I. It got to a point I wanted to kill my father and still do and wish nothing but death on my mother to this day.
@glenn honestly my parents are religious but they are similar to this and controlling we barley went out. If we did it was to look good and pretend to be a family and to tell them we went places and to brag about it.
Typical parents that take no accountability
Typical baby boomer parents. The whole generation is made up of sociopathic narcissists
I know right
I know, these are my parents in a basket
Them parents nothing but trash
This is exactly how my parents were
If your going to treat children like this don't have them. Put them up for adoption or abort. As cruel as that sounds you DON'T treat children this way!!!!
Errrrm how about just be on permanent birth control to begin with instead of waiting to get pregnant to think about whether u want a child
@@sharkisland5931 it doesn't work all the time. if they are pregnant and they dont want the kid they can adopt
@@sharkisland5931 Not that black and white.
I believe him. Parents are absolutely outrageous
Ok
As someone who still lives with a toxic family, trust me when I say if you don’t have a healthy relationship with your parents, if they’re like this, cut them off and don’t look back. You will be so much happier without them.
I understand the kids feeling. He just wants nothing to do with them. He's an adult now so he can now fortunately move out on his own.
The way the parents, especially the mother, talk to their son in this very episode just proves they were abusive to him in the past. No questions asked.
Exactly. The way she’s screaming and yelling and not listening to a single thing he’s saying simply proves that’s how they’ve been the kids whole life.
That man is 100% right! Those so called parents don't deserve even a hi back 😡😡😡
If any of my children said I abused them my reaction wouldn't be to shout and scream at them. Instead, I would comfort them and ask them why they feel that way. Well, that's what someone who hasn't abused their child would do.
If a parent's reaction to their child's claim of abuse is to screen and shout at them, then they are clearly guilty.
Also, remember that kids don't become spoiled & bratty without any cause
Yes. He has narcissistic injuries caused by his childhood. He’s young and brash, but also angry with them for how they treated him.
Bridaw, he is in no way brash. He is perfectly normal. His reaction is 100% healthy.
Must be nice, what’s that like? Comforting? Asking me how I feel? That wou
The second her eyes bugged out and she flipped, I knew he was telling the truth.
The truth has a ring to it. You can just tell he's the honest one. He seems like a very strong person, too.
Nobody ever believes children until it’s too late
The fact that they immediately denied everything tells me the kid was telling the truth. They project everything they do onto their kid in defense.
I wonder why he became a black belt and started what ever martial arts he did? Just sit on that thought
Self defense and to burn out the negative energy, definitely.
That's a good thing to note though.
Martial artists have a ton more self control than you might think. Most of them are rational people.
I definitely think the parents are lying about him.
@@cheddarchemist5644 can agree, and then they play the card that we are using it on them, if you jsut use your hands to cover when they beat you
He don't even beat his parents...that sucks
@@lifelyrics5659 trust me one day he will and the Judge will give him just 20 minutes in Prison
@@heavy4173 Someone understands that not all ppl are respected based on age
I saw my narcissistic mother die recently and now my father won’t be far behind.
As bad as it sounds, good on this kid for exposing them.
Letting go of people that have no value to you is the best thing one can do.
How do you deal with feelings of guilt and shame? My family abused me and I struggle with breaking free and dealing with shame
Chernobyl is less toxic than this family.
You have a good taste of roasting people XD
Damn
Lol
Lol
Lol
parents like them use their kids as a toy to withdraw their stress and anger from society.
And it usually ends up destroying the child. Lol.
My parents are always saying I have no social skills when at school I have lots of friends. I'm always trying to improve my relationship with them but they just tell me to go away and 'get some friends' I'm at the point where I've decided that when I'm older I'm going to do the same thing this guy did.
I'm so sorry u have to go threw that
good for you! stay strong and never lose sight of your worth and value ❤️ my parents were emotionally abusive growing up. i left at 18- never looked back. best decision i ever made. i’m now living happily w my bf/fiancé (were in that weird stage lmfao)
Bro.....as an indian,
You just spoke my heart out !
Really!
If you have abusive parents and your turning 18 leave and never come back, delete everything and its much better without them
Parents can make their child depressed by just saying these hurtful words to us...
It’s just disgusting. It’s called emotional guilt tripping and gaslighting what the mother just did.
Parents are capping hard asf, you can tell they're lying as soon as the mom goes off at him
They are most likely narcissistic. There is so much more information we have at our fingertips nowadays, My mom definitely spanked me and hit me with wooden handles all that but that was the least of it.I was parentified and she is incredibly toxic. I cut contact with her 6 months ago and I don’t know why I didn’t do this 20 years ago my life is so much better
damn i wish i can move out too
@@queenlasarah4493 You’ll be OK just try to go no contact or no contact
@@SaltstringMusic they constantly check my phone and control everything
@@queenlasarah4493 Emails can be private?
My mom gave me whoopings as a kid, but only when I really did something wrong and needed to know better. Other than that, she loves me and did everything to help me when others underestimated me. I wished other moms and dads were like that.
If your kid is that pissed off at you. It's because you failed him
People should be required to take a long course and pass tests before becoming parents, because most are incompetent and clueless. Guess what: parenting actually requires responsibility and very hard work every single day.
It really does, and the sad thing is MOST parents in the nation are like this.
teachers are technically more accountable for protecting children than parents apparently .. seriously though.. parents should be forced to pay damages to kids who's suffer long term disadvantages because of their abusive parents .. we'll be able to measure the physical damages of emotional abuse better and better in the future
More like being watched every single second
@@jantelopez5626 The best medicine is to distance yourself from your parents, no contact indefinitely and mind your own business. Years from now, at least one relative will inform you that your parents are weak, fragile and helpless, or terminally ill. Karma will take care of them. Ask me how I know, I did the same with my grandparents.
I believe that boy!
Trust me guys. As some who has abusive parents, when they deny that they are abusive in a certain manner, they are 100% lying and abusive.
My mother embarrasses me, she always thinks she's right, she yells at me, she makes fun of me when I'm confused, and she manipulates me. I HATE HER
Nothing says "excellent parent" like having to scream "YOU WERE NEVER ABUSED!" I'm Team Son all day, every day.
If you parents claim they never abused you they most likely did because they want to cover up their faults and act like they didn't do anything wrong by victimizing themselves and quickly defending themselves.
I hate my father, he's an abusive uneducated, who used to abuse me then apologize & laugh.
Cheers mate, hope you're doing better
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never gonna happen..
@@Islam_is_a_Mental_Illness i still want to wish you that.
I see you're a ygo fan, same here
@@Islam_is_a_Mental_Illness How are you doing now?
@@mortis3732
FRANKLY, it's awful.
"I even went so far as to raise my fist, realize it's my son, let go of him and I stood back up."
As a father myself you *NEVER* just forget who you're about to brutalize. And you never lose sight that it's your own child.
This man just tattled on himself.
I don’t trust a man with a soul patch
"you abused me" is what all abusive parents say.
narcissism at its finest.
Imagine making a life then blaming it for existing.
My parents never loved me. I wanted to accomplish my goals, but these stupid idiots never let me do anything
Dear parents: your actions have influence in the mental health of your kids, be aware of your attitudes.
I’m completely supportive of this boy. Everything he says has happened to me. Parents blaming and not taking responsibility is typical of these abuseres.
Proud of this kid for making this type of life altering decision
abusive parents will always blame the kid. No matter what.
I hate these types of parents. They never reflect on why their child does not look up to them or why they are sad. They always try to blame their kid on camera while in-doors they beat and abuse them in inhuman ways.
Oh the parents gave themselves away right off the bat. Yup, I believe the young man.
When they said his girlfriend is behind this then obviously he will get angry 😂
Its the common thing because its easier to point out finger on some one
@@debarghyachattopadhyay2614 yah
Those parents are awful
Exact. They are nothing but liars
You can see the narcissism in the parent's face, ESPECIALLY the mother's.
Also, the 2nd degree black belt would be kicked out of his class if he abused his parents.
And karate is for punks.
The abusive parents almost always say their child is lying about the abuse. 😤
Because the son is not lying!
The kid doesn’t lying, they see the truth of who the parents are.
Y'all, I never said in my previous comment that the son is lying. Especially since I started the comment out calling them abusive parents. I KNEW they were abusive.
Sometimes your better of by yourself honestly, I've always said that family is just a fancy word for freinds.
So true man so true 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
I want most of my family members out of my life I don't wanna see them again I wished I never saw them, I don't want to talk to them again.
Same tbh
everyone does
Same
Same
Same
That woman proved her self to be abuse Just by talking . No one even had to ask her anything
"Oh why are you so mean to your parents they LOVE you"
That's why I hate society.people can be SO STUPID sometimes
This is illegal and child abuse. No matter what your age, race, gender, or religion is, we are all equals and I think we all need to learn how to stand up for ourselves. Y’all stay safe out there.❤
I will ♥️
For a mother not to do anything when he is being choked ?!?!! Trash and a weak weak woman ...as for the father hope he is deeply ashamed of himself but somehow I feel some ppl never learn from their mistakes as they have no empathy
For Stephen to explain how his mother never liked any of his girlfriends or friends, and for the mother to say that his girlfriend, Melissa is rude and bitchy… woman… you’re the real definition of rude and bitchy
I believe and support the son….. all the way. Corporal punishment/child abuse isn’t right, and it’s not right to belittle or even to yell at a child. The right thing to do would be to have a simple CONVERSATION!
What angers me is that when we see and hear about all of these spoiled and entitled kids running around nowadays thinking they can do whatever they want and hurt whomever they want and show total disrespect for others including authority figures and not face consequences for their actions. As someone who was abused growing up, Kids like that infuriate me because they give credibility to the argument of others that corporal punishment is needed and effective.
I feel this. My mother is trash too. I would come home from school and she would immediately get in my face and tell me how much she can’t stand me and that she wants to beat me to death.
The parents are lying. Enough said
Not everyone deserves to have children period.
Sad but true
It's amazing how he was able to survive with these people for so long 😔
The parents body language gave it away guilty as charged
Her face when she's angry isnt exactly conducive to feelings of love toward her. Imagine having to live with that face every day.
No kids wish that their parents was dead unless it was for good good reason.
I can see the behavior on her mothers tone that she is LYING!
When my parents choked me the cops told me I should have been more respectful to my parents. They’ve hated me my whole life. I wish I knew what it was like to have someone who loves you...
I believe him. I knew nothing as a kid or baby but all my life i got bullied and beaten by my father.
He must have dealt with serious abuse to want his parents dead. Believe me, I know because I was in a similar situation with mine.
Lived in a house where I wasn’t allowed to be human without there being repercussions
Just her rage on TV is enough proof for me.
4:49 Notice how Christine smirks when she say’s “there was no abuse”, she’s obviously lying.
My old man wasn't involved in 80% of my life. The more I learnt about him, the more I realized how much I resent him.
I can tell Stephen is trying to holding himself back from punching his Mom as soon as she started raising her voice for no reason
the moment a mother said "you were never abused, you abused me" , outed as a narc. no question
The family is the prison without trial in which we are born
To have a toxic parent is a destroying thing.
Lol toxic parents hate when you call them out and stand up to them
The best is when they never admit when they’re wrong even when they’re 1000000000000000000% wrong
So trueeeeeeee 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Wow. The look on that moms face screaming at her kid??? She's terrifying. 😢
My mother is worse!
Son: my parents are abusive.
Mom: how dare you! (While lunging toward him)
Me: yeah, it doesn't seem like there's any aggression in those parents. (Sarcasm turned all the way up)
I don't blame him for only wanting to see his parents when they're dying, sometimes I feel like not taking care of my parents when they get older but at least pay someone to do it or something but not take care of them myself. But that's how I feel right now tho, maybe I'll change my mind someday. 🤷🏽♀️
To all of you in the comments who hate/loathe their abusive parents, i wish you all for living a happy live and didn't repeat the cycle or turned out exactly like those monsters because it'll be a shame for the next generations to experiece the exact pain and suffering from the past.
I won't have children, but if there is one thing I learned from my trashy father, it's how to treat people. Exactly the opposite of how he treated me.
Respect to that kid he held his own up there like a man
What a beautiful and intelligent man, parents probably jealous of their goregous son.
The worst thing is that I was in the same situation as this guy but the fear and shame of not going to University straight after high school didn't allow me to get away from my abusive parents because I couldn't didn't earn enough money. I was essentially coerced to endure their abuse by being mentally caged from running away. You know your parents are shitbags when you are academically gifted yet in primary scholar dream of going to a foster family as anything other than your birth parents is better.
people like you need to lobby government and let them know that education finance leaves kids enduring abusive parents and that education is a right not a privilege and that kids are humans not posessions. if you are old enough to die for your country in a war you are old enough for your country to invest in your education so that you can develop your skills and beyond ignorant bitter Assholes like these parents
Damn those Parents are Psychopaths, that 21 year old man has to be saved. I agree with Steven, he needs more respect! His girlfriend (Melissa) is also right, she needs respect too!
Drop a like down below, if you’re with me!
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All kids want to hear is an " I love you. I'm so sorry, please forgive me"
All parents want to hear is an " I love you. Thankyou for everything, please forgive me"
The old ‘he was never beat’ excuse. Cause everything anybody says is never abusive, and choking isn’t hitting. Disgraceful people.
what kind of person beats their kid? we need to start screening every parent for signed of being violent and emotionally immature.
I had emotionally neglectful and critical family. I wish I knew earlier that I could make it on my own. I was so debilitated from mental health issues and low self esteem, I never made a life of my own, I just locked myself away at my parents home and society because of it. I feel really sorry for myself because I deserved better all along. Still working on it. Glad this kid got out and was brave enough to.
What are you up to these days?
It’s like watching a documentary about my life!
Yep this was my life until i ran away at 16.
Im 32 now and ive never been back and i never will!
Their lives are constant drama and trouble.
My life now is happy and content with my own business that i have just launched!
Take yourself out of a situation and grow!
Even if you have to be homeless at 16.
I congratulate you, I live in a poor country and I don't have any chance, and my parents have a manic behavior. absolutely toxic and unbearable my parents. good for you.
@@brunogreco290 just do whats right for you. No one person can tell you what makes you feel at ease as a person.
Thats why i left.. it was hard but i paved my own way.
As you age, as you get older, you really can put tougher, piece bu piece, just how traumatic your extremely dysfunctional family life, including actual ,physical violence between other members of the family, can be a significant answer to your own adult mental health conditions (minus any genetic factors involved).