Rebound Relationships | What Happens When The Dumpee Rebounds
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- Опубліковано 2 жов 2022
- What happens when the dumpee gets into rebound relationships?
In todays video, I will discuss the ups and downs of the dumpee getting into a rebound relationship.
Take a walk with me through this video and find out what happens to the dumpee in a rebound relationship.
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He is right gentlemen.I’m 52 & I can tell you from my experience, rebounds within 2 years or so of a breakup never work. Rebounds with your ex NEVER,EVER work. You need to take the time to get back to being the man you were, the man who was on top of his game & attracted the woman you thought you wanted to be with. BUT, you know yourself more now, you’ve taken real ownership of where you could’ve done better & NOT what someone else is projecting on you & now that you do, don’t you think you deserve better than that? If you truly are a good man, then there are so many good women who are looking for you too. Take your time gentlemen, the right choice of a partner can positively enhance your life, or tear you apart.
Well said.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick Hello Love Fix,my ex contacted recently by email asking for money as she was desperate so she claimed,I didn't respond to the email and deleted it! I was the one who broke up with her..she has a rebound boyfriend now,I was wondering why she contacted me asking for money when she has a guy! Its been 6 months since we were in touch by text,although I changed my phone number and moved home recently..We are separated but still married...I have no intention of getting back with her, just curious why she suddenly contacted me as she told me that I'm part of her past at the beginning of this year and I wished her well..Any thoughts on this love fix?
@@TheLoveFix-Nick Hello Love Fix,my ex contacted recently by email asking for money as she was desperate so she claimed,I didn't respond to the email and deleted it! I was the one who broke up with her..she has a rebound boyfriend now,I was wondering why she contacted me asking for money when she has a guy! Its been 6 months since we were in touch by text,although I changed my phone number and moved home recently..We are separated but still married...I have no intention of getting back with her, just curious why she suddenly contacted me as she told me that I'm part of her past at the beginning of this year and I wished her well..Any thoughts on this love fix?
Question, what if you were a man on top of their game and was just getting along with your life before your narcissistic spouse decided to end things one day.
When you figure out that the narcissist was just being a narcissist and your relationship was doomed the minute you started contacting the narcissist, does this still count as a rebound?
Owen, only your ex will know the answer to that buddy. Try not to waste your time mind reading the situation
It's also not fair to the new partner that you haven't healed
I broke up with my ex due to her inability to self correct and my becoming toxic. She rebounded 8 months later. It failed. Turns out he had terminal prostate cancer and was a junkie. Her rebound died on her. It wasn't all she thought it would be. She tried to rebound back to me less than 60 days after he passed. I explained to her that I can't be any more than a friend to her...and that is due to me having known her for over 2 decades...but I can't take her back. It'll never be the same as it once was.
It’s so helpful to see you talk about this topic from your own experience! Thank you for sharing, it’s really calming to hear that rebounding didn’t bring you happiness, as my ex rebounded and keeps it secret from me and told me that he needs time and the future will show how we will stand with each other and that I know what he feels for me … he said this one week after we split and again when I collected my stuff 4 weeks later even though he was already seeing her… I found out trough a shared friend that he introduced her just 4 weeks after we split to his family .. crazy to think what people are capable of and how they play with your feelings
He’s trying to keep you as a back up in case the rebound fails. Block him and move in. Trust me, you can do better but only if you love yourself enough to do so.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick You’re absolutely right, that’s what I thought too .. I’m SO GLAD that I was told that he’s seeing someone, because if I wouldn’t know I still would have had hope that things can work again but as you said, f*ck em .. someone that treats you this way doesn’t deserve you. I struggled like crazy for the first month and was at my lowest but as I found out I am feeling better and better day by day ❤️ The bigger the pain that is caused by the person, the easier it is to let go .. Thank you for your content, knowledge really is power.
Regardless of our pain, we have the ability to choose how we respond. That is everyone’s super power. You’re doing just fine. 😊
Similar situations in my life. Not being in love but loving someone anyway. It’s not healthy for either person. Monkey branching from the woman being not sure of you. Is not right. Would be better off alone. Being happy being alone is a super power. I’m on my journey through the pain and on my way to being happy with myself.
Excellent post, thanks for sharing mate ❤
Thank you, my pleasure 😊
Man, it’s just better to stay alone. You can work on yourself, but at the end of the day you can never change how someone else reacts or what they do. I just got out of a relationship were I was the rebound guy. I did everything I could and she jumped in to another rebound relationship. At the end of the day I feel I got here because I don’t want to be alone. I accept love that isn’t truly love. The thing that I’m proud of is that, I know jumping into anything new is not going to make me feel better. I don’t know if I’ll find anyone, but I need to be ok with that, and start to find happiness within that.
I hear you man but remember, the women you attract is a reflection of you. That’s where you need to do the work.
Thank you for sharing your story
Thanks for your comment 😊
Thanks for sharing, nick.
I feel that some of the people who rebound or that monkey branch, if they don't end the relationship when they should, will forcibly stay in that relationship for a long time out of stubbornness and trying to prove to their peers and their ex that they were right to rebound/monkey branch.
That's why I think some of them last a long time.
Idk. Just my thoughts based on what I've observed in people.
Yes I’ve heard other people say this. And I’ve heard other coaches say it too.
They look like idiots if they don’t keep it going
I’d say this is typically the case. Also from my own experience, I’ve never felt good in a rebound regardless if I’m the dumper or dumpee.
But a lot of people out of stubbornness will push it through.
Let them have it!
@@TheLoveFix-Nick I bet this will be with my ex, who was the dumpee, but sort of the one who distanced herself in the relationship. 2 weeks after the break up she moved in with a guy to another country and after two weeks got engaged to him. She has nowhere to go if it goes south and is entirely dependant on him and is the stubborn type.
Clark, we all make our own hell. Wish her well with hers.
Soooo true mate 👍
Thanks Kevin. I hope you’re well.
Powerful story, thanks for sharing. For this exact reason I've stayed away from rebounding because everything you and other coaches say I feel inside myself. I'm desperate to avoid the loneliness, I hurt badly and want someone to soothe my pain, I want a band-aid - but all the reasons that rebounds fails also resonate inside me - I'm not ready to invest in another person, I'm not interested in getting to know another person, I'm not emotional available, I'm still in love with my ex, I would constantly compare anyone new with my ex, so I stay single, go to therapy, work out and think hard about what I learned from the relationship. What the future brings, If I'll ever talk with my X- who is in a rebound to numb her pain and avoid the pain of being alone, who knows and I won't lie it causes moments of massive anxiety.
Good for you. Stay strong 😊💪
Hey, is your Ex still with her rebound?
Nick, my girlfriend of 1.5 years broke up with me last weekend. In the moment, I took it really well and I told her its not what i want but I respect her decision.. the next day I sent her a text saying sorry for the reasons she stated hurt her and that I will leave her alone and work on myself. No reply.
I had some weakness and a few days later just texted her asking if she could talk that night and still no reply.
I started therapy to work on some self sabotaging cycles. I also downloaded bumble and started talking to women again and organizing dates.
I'm completely open with these women of my situation and how I need time to work on myself before jumping into a serious relationship.. just wondering if I'm doing the right things [minus texting my ex]
Keep working on yourself and delete bumble. I doubt you’re ready for dating right now, and all you’re doing by dating is rebounding.
Back in 2011?
Damn I was 8/9 years old
Appreciate you reminding me i am closer to 40 than i am 30, now. 😂😂
I don't understand why my ex of ten years would continue to lie to me after we are done. However, my ex hooked up with some woman he met parting with friends four days after he dumped me, and for the last almost four months after I know that it's all over on Facebook that they are in love and already shackled up together he keeps lying and saying that she is not with him and she is only a friend and nothing more. Then I text my ex gf and asked her whether she was with him while he was coming home to me, and the woman said , you will never know. Then he found out that I now know for sure he was with some pig. Now he hates me and is putting me down all over Facebook. What is the matter with this man. He is I believe back into using hard drugs again.
I’m sorry to that Summer. It sounds heartbreaking. 😩
What if your the dumber and your ex is in a rebound and you want her back?
Counter question.
Why take a rebounder back?
What if your married. When he decided 2 yrs ago to move out of our apartment. But he didn't know I planned to move out days before he moved out. He was devastated that I moved out first. After 2 months of living by myself I missed him .I begged n pleated for 4 months then finally went no contact. We got back together 10 months after being separated. For 7 months he did not move in with me but for those 7 months it was awesome. One day he ghosted me. When I called him he said he didnt know what he wanted for his future. I called n text him for 7 months. I saw a video of him dancing at a club n he kissed this girl. I called him on this shit n he told me that he didn't want to hurt me anymore. I found out that he was seeing this girl before we got back together. Probably was seeing her while we got back together. Today I started no contact because I made the mistake of telling him that I was never gonna give up on our marriage.Its so fucked up but I'm strong n going back to school soon to work on my bachelor degree in physiology.
Sorry to hear that Teresa. I guess the big question is why chase a man who ghosts and cheats
His actions say more than his words.
There are better men out there.
This is great, really helpful! I haven’t really put it in that perspective. I’m kinda seeing someone, but it’s more like a friend, I just don’t want to get into another relationship as I jump going through a breakup of 3 months in of my 5 and a half year relationship. I just don’t know how to tell my family. Now I k know how to tell it to them. I don’t want to get into another relationship or a rebound because I feel that I need to work on myself first and do the personal growth.
And you’re the dumpee?
@@LG-ly7pw Yes, I’m the dumpee. Never thought I’d ever say that word, nor be where I am now.
Pono, it’s going to take some time. 5.5 years is a long time. You won’t get over it in minutes.
You haven’t told your family the relationship ended yet?
@@TheLoveFix-Nick I did. I meant, I didn’t know how or what to tell them about me not being in a rebound and to work on myself and to just stay friends.
Have you tried just being up front with me it?
Besides, I don’t feel attracted to her (emotionally and physically). Plus, I kinda lost my sexual urge and desire more now.
Then I highly suggest you do not take it any further. You’re using her as an emotional painkiller. Nothing more.
@@TheLoveFix-Nick Well, I didn’t really want to see or meet anyone yet, the girl is coming from a friend of one of my sisters. She introduced us too early, about 4, 5 weeks out of my breakup.
If and when my ex comes back to me from his rebound, how do I avoid being his rebound?
May be you can’t. Or May be he realised he still loves you and just wants you back. It depends where he is emotionally.
But I’ll ask this. Why would you take someone back who rebounded on you?
@@TheLoveFix-Nick I ended it with him because of something he did. I really really enjoy your videos. Thanks, also, for your vulnerability in them.
I appreciate your kind words 😊
So you ended it because of something it did. So that must have been pretty bad. So is it worth taking him back based on his historical actions?
@@TheLoveFix-Nick that is the million dollar question for me
I think maybe you already know the answer 😊
You're like my narcissist ex, but a dude pathetic lol
You’re welcome. 😁