If the dumper is an avoidant, they probably left because they DO have romantic feelings for you. Avoidants will leave someone they love because of their fears. They will stay with someone they don't love and who is not so special because they feel safer. If that person abandons the avoidant it's no big deal. Ironic.
My FA ex is doing this now, he loved me madly, for a misunderstanding he jumped into a rebound . Now its 6 months for it. As a FA I was surprise how he came this far, but he hides it to me now after I msgd he misunderstood , I didnt leave him. I went NC in Feb, so he started reaching to me since March , April he came to an event in our college to see me. He acted as he came to see the event, but when I disappear he came searching me & had eye contacts to heal my hurts. He is curious abt the other guy whos interested in me. But my ex wont msg me, he wanted to reconnect desperately in Oct- Dec, now he is like he doesnt want it or he is frustrated abt me. But he checks my social media. Im in NC again. I love him so, he too. I know what u say is right, I heard it in Utube. He is not emotionally bonded wit her, as wit me. Hope he will come soon😐
@@andziagreen4922 Yes. Me, too. My avoidant expressed deep feelings for me, pulled back, and eventually monkey branched to a victim of narcissistic abuse. Crazy. I am happy to have finally healed.
so i was the rebound to her. and she went back to her ex. she is an avoidant and indicisive person i really love and care her do you guys think she will come back to me
His rebound is a downgrade from me. Not sure why he’s choosing her over me but I’m done trying to get him back. He can have that woman. I’m moving on now to find a new man!
Well said. I’ve seen people get back together after rebound relationships. But like you said, people need to do the work. Find themselves. Find what they really want from life. Both people need to be in the same place emotionally and mentally in order to have a good relationship
❤ I love your content on rebound relationships, it has helped me navigate my ex's rebound relationships and get my own healing to prepare for my upcoming relationship. Thank you Sir! ❤
I love everything about this video. The only exception is at 13:11, "she's strong enough to leave". Leaving someone who loves you isn't from a place of strength, it's from a place of fear
He’s right with this. Especially 1 and 2. I’m in a relationship but I feel lonely. I also have this block to connect with the new person even though she is great. But I’m trying to make it work.
You're the only dating coach out there who says that rebound relationship or if they quickly go on dating app that the relationship has been contaminated and the divine union has been polluted. I took your advice and didn't take him back, he called me during no contact. He asked me if he should stop, but I said no, do whatever you want bcos I don't care and if grass is greener on the other side, I don't care either. And I said he remains in the past and stay in his lane. Said wish him well and hung up. Blocked his private number too. The end
The one thing that I don't agree with is each relationship and circumstance is different. If you know your ex or think you do, and if you think giving your ex one more chance is right for you; if you take it very slow, you don't give everything back to him at once, it could be possible! It depends on his attitude also when he's trying to reconnect with you. It is possible that he learned something and that your relationship can be repaired and eventually restored and be stronger than ever... eventually... if he's willing to do what's necessary to do that... not everyone who rebounds is toxic who will do it repeatedly. Not everyone trying to reconnect is going to dump you again or rebound again... you have to know your ex, know your situation, know your relationship or former relationship and make that very personal decision for yourself... I don't agree with just lumping them all up in one category and saying they all are just going to do this again... that's not necessarily the case... again you have to use your judgment. How you handle this person during reconciliation could make the difference as to what outcome there is as well... it could be successful! Not every relationship like this has to break up permanently, it's possible for you to get back with him and it be successful... other than that, I do like this channel, very informative...
@lauraclark92 when you were with toxic narcissistic partner and being devalued and discarded multiple times, the best way to handle is to walk away and go no contact and heal from it. But if you were in a healthy relationship, no cheating etc, then by all means work on the relationship
I have the dumpers remorse 😬 she said she wanted to have a kid with me and I freaked out and really wanted space. We had like 2 months of no contact and now she just won’t answer me period. And it’s driving be crazy.
Sounds like it’s time to move in my dear friend! In the meantime educate yourself and do the work to heal! Feel free to check out my course “The Rise Of The Phoenix” this is a online healing coaching program that will guide through this challenging times my friend, in any case know that I’m here for you if you ever want to talk or simply as me a quick and where you story, much love and healing 🙏🏽🤍 pazgoldman.com/theriseofthephoenix
Mine told me a similar thing. I don’t know if it was the breakup and monkey branching talking or he really stayed with me for 3 years without loving me even though he always flirted and asked for attention and affection and such im so lost
@@user-es6px6rd9dit’s crazy how I left this comment 6 months ago… so much has happened since, she’s begged for me back like 3 times after breaking up, this last time tho I left her because she has a cycle of lovebombing then devaluing and treating me bad. I was done with it. She acted like she didn’t love me or care at all about me when I left her though. And this time she’s immediently jumped into a long distance relationship with a giant downgrade. At the breakup she admitted she has red flags and emotionally unstable so she needs to work on it b4 getting into a relationship. Lmao she definetly hasnt as she rebounded 1 week after. But this on and off relationship with her has gone on for a whole year, my fault for believing her everytime she’s promised to change.
I am the dumper, but he cheated on me multiple times. We were 12 years together with a 10yr old kid. We were not married. We were having a long distance relationship during Covid due to work and he got stuck for 2 years was unable to travel to another country. After borders opened, we finally had each other again only to find out he was living with another woman for that 2 years. We tried to patch things out for our daughter but it was just tip of the iceburg, during this period I have discovered more cheating not just in one woman so I became toxic as I didn't trust him anymore we were always fighting. We ended up separating and after 2 weeks of our break up, he was already in a relationship with another woman (not the one I know he lived with for 2 yrs) and even introduced her to his family in just after a month. I was devastated but I went no contact and now I am moving on.
Coach. The way you break it down has helped me to process my emotions as the one who was dumped so much faster and healthier than ever before. Just wanted to tell you i appreciate your efforts and clarity. Thank you.
We were beautiful, planning our future, everyone around us was happy to see us so happy. After a year and a half, we had a big fight, no resolution, just stonewalling from him. About a month after the fight, he became involved with an old friend from his hometown. I always believed he had a strange attachment to his high school days and all his friends from those days (he's 52 years old!). This old friend lives 3 hours away, yet she now comes here every weekend for the past 2 months to see him and the rest of "the gang." When we were together, he immediately told his parents and his adult daughter about us. It seems he is keeping her a secret beyond "the gang." I just don't know what to think.
I had almost an identical situation happen to me. If they aren’t already messing around, they will be. That’s exactly what happened with mine. My intuition told me that something was amiss and it turned out that I was exactly right. She ended up leaving her Husband of over 25 years for him. I had already decided to leave him For other reasons, but I knew they were carrying on my behind my back the whole nine months I was with him, and the minute I left, they Couldn’t wait to make it official. In fact, they made it official before I even left. She left her husband and now They live together. Always trust your gut. You’re usually always right.
@@PazGoldmanOfficial so i was the rebound to her. and she went back to her ex. she is an avoidant and indicisive person i really love and care her do you guys think she will come back to me. and we talked on the phone for hours before we break up but she said something to me; I dont know when my relationship(with her ex) ends maybe it will end in 1 week maybe it will take a month. i mean if you still think like this why would you go back to yor ex. Isnt that relationship already doom to fail.
My question if they(dumper) have emotionally checled out a long time ago while they were with us, how couldn't they move on so fast? They wouldn't feel sad, but happy and free!!! They are ruthless and cruel
My ones cameback after 2 months. She monkeybranched me but started contacting me after a month(I was totally indifferent). She then started to chase me desperately even dated one of my enemies for a week or two to make me jealous. I took her back after keeping her hanging for one and a half month. But I saw some toxic patterns from her that she learned from being with the enemy(he was a narcissist). I kind of dumped her. She seems to be in a lot of pain. How should I help her? (She was my first girl. I was hurt as hell).
What if his rebound is a long distance situationship from three years ago, that he didn't like too much, also his family didn't like her, but she was still around and telling him she would do everything for him?.. It's still long distance too.
@@As-cc9ug I already made a video on this! Check it out here: My EX Is Back with THEIR EX?! 😱 Why They Reconnected & Will It Work THIS TIME?! ua-cam.com/video/ezP0UCzJznI/v-deo.html
All the videos on youtube are made as if you were the original ex. But what if you were the rebound yourself? Does no contact work in this situation? Do they ever regret? How the psychology work in this case? Thanks.
I think it would effect the dumper more than the dumpee but if both have feelings for one another then a rebound is a rebound either way. Usually want the dumper to reach out first and regret dumping you.
I was in rebound relationship, I was his rebound, didn't pick up in the beginning, we broke up and I went on no contact, but he reached out to me after 3 months, we got back together but couple months later, we argued and he ghosted me. I chased him, we got back together but by then I realized I don't want him back so I ended things with him and never heard from him ever since
@@Layla-hg4ux so i was the rebound to her. and she went back to her ex. she is an avoidant and indicisive person i really love and care her do you guys think she will come back to me
@@oskay7079 good news is she may come back or reach out to you but the bad news is, history repeats. Would you want to be with someone who treats you like an option or a place holder? She feels like she can come back and leave as she wishes. The relationship won't last, unfortunately. It's best to move on.
so i was the rebound to her. and she went back to her ex. she is an avoidant and indicisive person i really love and care her do you guys think she will come back to me
Depends if the other guy is on top of his game. The issue is she never lost feelings for the other game and didn't heal properly and used you as a distraction. True indeed she probably does like you and attracted to you but we can never overcome time. Even if it was a bad relationship with him they have time invested. This is coming from someone who is currently not with his woman who I have kids with and she dating another man and says " He does everything right he's great he's not going nowhere" that was a few months ago Last few weeks she been sending me old photos of us and I talked to her last night for 30 min and she debating on giving my family another chance because she wants it. Even said she's willing to compromise. So only thing u can do is focus on you. Focus on your mindset. If she reaches out it's on you to move accordingly. It's tough I know it's tough on me. I hope the best for you my friend peace and love
@@AndreM37 I'm aware of every problem i have. i just don't have the motivation to do it. She put me in so much pain that i don't know what to do. I usually hate tactics in relationships in any way but now im thinking to use tactics. And i feel that this is not our last interaction tbh. Can i reach out to you from somewhere i need someone's opinion about it. I would really appreciate it.
Once they jump on a new ship.. sail away and wave goodbye. The voyage is over from that point. Continue your own journey, and learn from your mistakes. That is what life is about.
If the dumper is an avoidant, they probably left because they DO have romantic feelings for you. Avoidants will leave someone they love because of their fears. They will stay with someone they don't love and who is not so special because they feel safer. If that person abandons the avoidant it's no big deal. Ironic.
It's sick. Been there so saying from experience
My FA ex is doing this now, he loved me madly, for a misunderstanding he jumped into a rebound . Now its 6 months for it. As a FA I was surprise how he came this far, but he hides it to me now after I msgd he misunderstood , I didnt leave him. I went NC in Feb, so he started reaching to me since March , April he came to an event in our college to see me. He acted as he came to see the event, but when I disappear he came searching me & had eye contacts to heal my hurts. He is curious abt the other guy whos interested in me. But my ex wont msg me, he wanted to reconnect desperately in Oct- Dec, now he is like he doesnt want it or he is frustrated abt me. But he checks my social media. Im in NC again. I love him so, he too. I know what u say is right, I heard it in Utube. He is not emotionally bonded wit her, as wit me. Hope he will come soon😐
@@andziagreen4922 Yes. Me, too. My avoidant expressed deep feelings for me, pulled back, and eventually monkey branched to a victim of narcissistic abuse. Crazy. I am happy to have finally healed.
so i was the rebound to her. and she went back to her ex. she is an avoidant and indicisive person i really love and care her do you guys think she will come back to me
But why?
His rebound is a downgrade from me. Not sure why he’s choosing her over me but I’m done trying to get him back. He can have that woman. I’m moving on now to find a new man!
I am still thinking that they left us before. So, the mind , was already free from us.
Well said. I’ve seen people get back together after rebound relationships. But like you said, people need to do the work. Find themselves. Find what they really want from life. Both people need to be in the same place emotionally and mentally in order to have a good relationship
❤ I love your content on rebound relationships, it has helped me navigate my ex's rebound relationships and get my own healing to prepare for my upcoming relationship. Thank you Sir! ❤
I love everything about this video. The only exception is at 13:11, "she's strong enough to leave". Leaving someone who loves you isn't from a place of strength, it's from a place of fear
He’s right with this. Especially 1 and 2. I’m in a relationship but I feel lonely. I also have this block to connect with the new person even though she is great. But I’m trying to make it work.
You're the only dating coach out there who says that rebound relationship or if they quickly go on dating app that the relationship has been contaminated and the divine union has been polluted.
I took your advice and didn't take him back, he called me during no contact. He asked me if he should stop, but I said no, do whatever you want bcos I don't care and if grass is greener on the other side, I don't care either. And I said he remains in the past and stay in his lane. Said wish him well and hung up. Blocked his private number too. The end
@@Layla-hg4ux I’m glad you took my advice my friend!
And proud of you on the way you handle things 👌🏽
@@Layla-hg4ux wow I commend you! I wish I was as strong as you mentally! Well done really so great to see this
The one thing that I don't agree with is each relationship and circumstance is different. If you know your ex or think you do, and if you think giving your ex one more chance is right for you; if you take it very slow, you don't give everything back to him at once, it could be possible! It depends on his attitude also when he's trying to reconnect with you. It is possible that he learned something and that your relationship can be repaired and eventually restored and be stronger than ever... eventually... if he's willing to do what's necessary to do that... not everyone who rebounds is toxic who will do it repeatedly. Not everyone trying to reconnect is going to dump you again or rebound again... you have to know your ex, know your situation, know your relationship or former relationship and make that very personal decision for yourself... I don't agree with just lumping them all up in one category and saying they all are just going to do this again... that's not necessarily the case... again you have to use your judgment. How you handle this person during reconciliation could make the difference as to what outcome there is as well... it could be successful! Not every relationship like this has to break up permanently, it's possible for you to get back with him and it be successful... other than that, I do like this channel, very informative...
@lauraclark92 when you were with toxic narcissistic partner and being devalued and discarded multiple times, the best way to handle is to walk away and go no contact and heal from it. But if you were in a healthy relationship, no cheating etc, then by all means work on the relationship
I have the dumpers remorse 😬 she said she wanted to have a kid with me and I freaked out and really wanted space. We had like 2 months of no contact and now she just won’t answer me period. And it’s driving be crazy.
She admitted she never loved me and was just obsessed. Even though she was first interested in me and acting so sweet and loving in the beginning.
Sounds like it’s time to move in my dear friend!
In the meantime educate yourself and do the work to heal!
Feel free to check out my course “The Rise Of The Phoenix” this is a online healing coaching program that will guide through this challenging times my friend, in any case know that I’m here for you if you ever want to talk or simply as me a quick and where you story, much love and healing 🙏🏽🤍
pazgoldman.com/theriseofthephoenix
Mine told me a similar thing. I don’t know if it was the breakup and monkey branching talking or he really stayed with me for 3 years without loving me even though he always flirted and asked for attention and affection and such im so lost
@@user-es6px6rd9dit’s crazy how I left this comment 6 months ago… so much has happened since, she’s begged for me back like 3 times after breaking up, this last time tho I left her because she has a cycle of lovebombing then devaluing and treating me bad. I was done with it. She acted like she didn’t love me or care at all about me when I left her though. And this time she’s immediently jumped into a long distance relationship with a giant downgrade. At the breakup she admitted she has red flags and emotionally unstable so she needs to work on it b4 getting into a relationship. Lmao she definetly hasnt as she rebounded 1 week after. But this on and off relationship with her has gone on for a whole year, my fault for believing her everytime she’s promised to change.
I am the dumper, but he cheated on me multiple times. We were 12 years together with a 10yr old kid. We were not married. We were having a long distance relationship during Covid due to work and he got stuck for 2 years was unable to travel to another country. After borders opened, we finally had each other again only to find out he was living with another woman for that 2 years. We tried to patch things out for our daughter but it was just tip of the iceburg, during this period I have discovered more cheating not just in one woman so I became toxic as I didn't trust him anymore we were always fighting. We ended up separating and after 2 weeks of our break up, he was already in a relationship with another woman (not the one I know he lived with for 2 yrs) and even introduced her to his family in just after a month. I was devastated but I went no contact and now I am moving on.
Coach. The way you break it down has helped me to process my emotions as the one who was dumped so much faster and healthier than ever before. Just wanted to tell you i appreciate your efforts and clarity. Thank you.
He's strong enough to leave me. I need that to sink in.
We broke up 27 days ago. Today wouldve been our 1st anniversary. She currently on holiday with her new boi.
Same here after 3 years of relationship she is with a guy beside the beach in Mexico. Terrible woman
You are the best coach out there.I have so much respect for your integrity and no sugar coated BS.❤❤❤
We were beautiful, planning our future, everyone around us was happy to see us so happy. After a year and a half, we had a big fight, no resolution, just stonewalling from him. About a month after the fight, he became involved with an old friend from his hometown. I always believed he had a strange attachment to his high school days and all his friends from those days (he's 52 years old!). This old friend lives 3 hours away, yet she now comes here every weekend for the past 2 months to see him and the rest of "the gang." When we were together, he immediately told his parents and his adult daughter about us. It seems he is keeping her a secret beyond "the gang." I just don't know what to think.
I had almost an identical situation happen to me. If they aren’t already messing around, they will be. That’s exactly what happened with mine. My intuition told me that something was amiss and it turned out that I was exactly right. She ended up leaving her Husband of over 25 years for him. I had already decided to leave him For other reasons, but I knew they were carrying on my behind my back the whole nine months I was with him, and the minute I left, they Couldn’t wait to make it official. In fact, they made it official before I even left. She left her husband and now They live together. Always trust your gut. You’re usually always right.
I prefer being dumped than dumping others - recently dumped a lovely lady who practically meant it couldn't work
What if my ex went back to HIS ex!?? What if I was the rebound?
Was it after he left you?
@@PazGoldmanOfficial so i was the rebound to her. and she went back to her ex. she is an avoidant and indicisive person i really love and care her do you guys think she will come back to me. and we talked on the phone for hours before we break up but she said something to me; I dont know when my relationship(with her ex) ends maybe it will end in 1 week maybe it will take a month. i mean if you still think like this why would you go back to yor ex. Isnt that relationship already doom to fail.
My question if they(dumper) have emotionally checled out a long time ago while they were with us, how couldn't they move on so fast? They wouldn't feel sad, but happy and free!!! They are ruthless and cruel
I am finding my way back to the gold in the green of Spring ... thank you Coach... Anni
My ones cameback after 2 months. She monkeybranched me but started contacting me after a month(I was totally indifferent). She then started to chase me desperately even dated one of my enemies for a week or two to make me jealous. I took her back after keeping her hanging for one and a half month. But I saw some toxic patterns from her that she learned from being with the enemy(he was a narcissist). I kind of dumped her. She seems to be in a lot of pain. How should I help her? (She was my first girl. I was hurt as hell).
You know her behavioural patterns, so why do you want to take back someone like that??
You help her by letting her sit the pain she's into..
Let her clean her mess by herself, don't pitty her. Ler her be.
Coach Paz man- -dealt 😮with your hotness 😅
You are so right! My ex came back after his rebounds failed. He taught me that if the ex doesn’t change, they’ll repeat their actions.
What if his rebound is a long distance situationship from three years ago, that he didn't like too much, also his family didn't like her, but she was still around and telling him she would do everything for him?.. It's still long distance too.
Does the dumpers remorse come up if they went back to an old ex ? Been profusley professing love and future togeher all over the internet 😢
@@As-cc9ug I already made a video on this! Check it out here:
My EX Is Back with THEIR EX?! 😱 Why They Reconnected & Will It Work THIS TIME?!
ua-cam.com/video/ezP0UCzJznI/v-deo.html
What about monkey branching and ending up with their ex from 2+ years ago?
Even if they are a DA??
If you were the best thing since sliced bread, does the length of the relationship really matter? 😜
All the videos on youtube are made as if you were the original ex. But what if you were the rebound yourself? Does no contact work in this situation? Do they ever regret? How the psychology work in this case? Thanks.
I think it would effect the dumper more than the dumpee but if both have feelings for one another then a rebound is a rebound either way. Usually want the dumper to reach out first and regret dumping you.
@@-taylor-9980 why would it affect the dumper if he goes back to his ex.. You wanted to say it affects the dumpee?
I was in rebound relationship, I was his rebound, didn't pick up in the beginning, we broke up and I went on no contact, but he reached out to me after 3 months, we got back together but couple months later, we argued and he ghosted me. I chased him, we got back together but by then I realized I don't want him back so I ended things with him and never heard from him ever since
@@Layla-hg4ux so i was the rebound to her. and she went back to her ex. she is an avoidant and indicisive person i really love and care her do you guys think she will come back to me
@@oskay7079 good news is she may come back or reach out to you but the bad news is, history repeats. Would you want to be with someone who treats you like an option or a place holder? She feels like she can come back and leave as she wishes. The relationship won't last, unfortunately. It's best to move on.
I know I can do the same but I have kids with this person and idk I want my family
I love you so much
No I didn't
so i was the rebound to her. and she went back to her ex. she is an avoidant and indicisive person i really love and care her do you guys think she will come back to me
Depends if the other guy is on top of his game. The issue is she never lost feelings for the other game and didn't heal properly and used you as a distraction. True indeed she probably does like you and attracted to you but we can never overcome time. Even if it was a bad relationship with him they have time invested. This is coming from someone who is currently not with his woman who I have kids with and she dating another man and says " He does everything right he's great he's not going nowhere" that was a few months ago Last few weeks she been sending me old photos of us and I talked to her last night for 30 min and she debating on giving my family another chance because she wants it. Even said she's willing to compromise. So only thing u can do is focus on you. Focus on your mindset. If she reaches out it's on you to move accordingly. It's tough I know it's tough on me. I hope the best for you my friend peace and love
@@AndreM37 I'm aware of every problem i have. i just don't have the motivation to do it. She put me in so much pain that i don't know what to do. I usually hate tactics in relationships in any way but now im thinking to use tactics. And i feel that this is not our last interaction tbh. Can i reach out to you from somewhere i need someone's opinion about it. I would really appreciate it.
Once they jump on a new ship.. sail away and wave goodbye. The voyage is over from that point. Continue your own journey, and learn from your mistakes. That is what life is about.