My personal belief is that he who loves you will never ever ever leave you. So, once they've left, it means that they will be ready to leave you again and again. Once they've decided to get out of your life, you should never ever let them back. Once the door is closed, it shouldn't be re-opened for them. You've got to teach them and yourself a lesson. If it were meant to be, you would still be together. You're valuable and they don't see you as you are. They don't realize your worth and appreciate what they have. So, let them go. They aren't in love with you.
for me, it really depends on how they act after the breakup. if they remain single, work on themselves for real like a mature adult then i will have respect for them, and i will definitely try to fix the relationship/ get them back when the time comes and the opportunity presents itself. BUT if they immediately rush into new relationships, rebound quickly so that they can replace you, then this person is definitely NOT worth any ounce of your attention anymore. letting them go is the best thing you could do!
Coming from personal experience this is true. He left me once he begged to come back. Promised the world. We got back exactly same day next year he left me again lol 😂
After a couple of back and forth my ex finally told me that move on and find someone else that will love me back and i told her a agreed with and wished her luck. Been in no contact ever since and been told by mutual friends how she's been struggling but hey it was her choice. Gotta stay strong out there everyone.
How do you know they been struggling, just had that happen to me with my ex and they been watching my socials but reblock ing me. Just tryna see if they’re feeling that same way
And one things for sure I can say after 46 years, they Always comeback and I mean ALWAYS..its your choice if you take them back or not.. But they'll definitely be back.. at least to my experience..
Ultimately, that is the decision you alone have to decide. However, for your self value, self worth, and self respect there is no coming back from that. If you alow that you have opened that door and it will happen again, and it will be even harder and longer for you to get over..
10 years together. She was with another man instantly. Left the whole family. She’s breadcrumbed me for 16 months. I’ve finally cut the chord. I have to move on. She’s told me how much she cares and loves me throughout all this but it’s been found out everything she’s done with this man days after we separated. I’ve finally let go. It’s been so hard and I miss her dearly but I cannot take her back now. I deserve better.
Same. 11 years, 3 kids. Wife left me for another guy. I'm only 3 months seperated, and she wants to be "friends" .. Im finally ready to go no contact except for if it has to do with the kids. I want her back, and this is so hard...
@@masjoshI know it’s hard, but you must accept she is for the streets. No self respecting woman would abandon her family for another dude. I’m sorry you are going through it
If she left you for another guy , let him have her .Take care of your self , kids & excel .Why bother taking back a woman who left your bed for another man's bed ?? Do you like to smell his sperm?🙄 Take your time & heal .... life is good , she's not the only woman in the planet .Good luck ✌️🥰@@masjosh
One of the best ones yet. Im going through this right now. My ex wife is in a rebound relationship and its really hard to take especially when i know they are intimate. It is what it is. I pray she comes back but also being realistic. If we do get back together, then of course ill have to think about what she put me through with seeing and being with another man. If its love, and we are meant to be, it will happen but if not then thats the path God as put me on
Sometimes they dont want to grow up or accept some things The only thing you can and you should do about it is move on trying to fix someone especially if they dont want to be fixed will broke you Im not saying it wont be hurtful it will hurt if you love them and expect them to love you back the pain you will experience is different and eventually the pain will open your eyes So live your life do your best and stop chasing disrespectful people dont waste your limited time hope you all the best
My Ex cheated on me he has been in 3 relationships with in 3 years after our break-up he even got engaged then got unengaged. He got cheated on by his ex fiancée. boke up with her now he's in another relationship Yes he knowns I still have feelings for him and always asking for help from me. Exactly he thinks he has me in his pocket thanks for sharing this message.
Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference 🙏 My ex starting to hang out with other men is something I cannot control or change. Me wanting to break no contact is something that I can control so I will not break contact. Stay the course.
If the grass wasn’t greener don’t take them back. She chose everyone over you let her go she’s not that special. Find someone who will chose you no matter what. If you take her back she will do it again. It makes you look weak less masculine
Mr. Blac, you are 100% right, recently my toxic ex asked about me through a mutual friend and said hi through him. Also she asked her bestie GF to be my friend on Facebook. But honestly I moved on. Thanks for your help.
Thank you for this video Blac. For helping me to realize that it's not my job to fix her. Knowing I did all I could to make her happy, simply was not enough. I am living my best life now and am glad it was her decision to leave.
I definitely appreciate this videos and others you have posted. I found myself trying to reach out and fix the relationship for 5 months with no results. I went on no contact beginning of this month and love the confidence I built. I noticed that they watch all my post even notifying me when I have mail at there place. My ex was very emboldened at the end. Going as far to say there going to see other people and that I’ll always come back. I know that we’ve had our ups and downs. I still want things to work out eventually but have accepted the situation as it is
People that leave you once will do it again… except this time real soon after they come back, get used to walking on eggshells all the time. It’s so much fun, don’t do it, if they positively insist that they’ve changed then be friends with the person, but don’t sleep with them. Keep it G rated and then you’ll see whether or not if they can even be a friend.
What if the person they get with was a “platonic” friend that the other person manipulated my ex into liking… and my ex asks me to move out only for her to move in? But our relationship was so incredibly healthy and loving… I can’t believe 4.5 months later they’re together.
My ex finally ended things with me for a “friend” from work also. I caught him other wise I would have never known. I had a feeling he was in over his head with someone but of course he denyed it. The crazy thing is that this girl dated 2 other coworkers and 1 still works there. I would have never imagined that he’d ever be with someone like that!
I am in a weird place. My ex and I work together a couple days a week & we are able to keep it casual, but it hurts to see her sometimes because she is very good at leaving her emotions/feelings at the door. She looks & seems happy & it’s taking a toll on me. Outside of work I’ve been in no contact, focusing on myself & hoping she reaches out at some point. The separation & depression is slowly eating away at me.
You will be alright. Stay strong and live your life. Grow through the pain, improve your self to the point you are irresistible. She is playing the game, don't let her outsmart you. The way you are feeling now is exactly what she wants to know you are feeling.
I'm in the similar situation. I have dated my ex for around 6 months. We met at the gym and we still go to same gym. It's been 4-5 months since breakup. She did breadcrumbs in between I fell for them showed her I'm really interested in her. Now back to no contact again. But confused if I shall go at different time. So I will not see her or go at same time and just be indifferent.
I'm in a similar situation as well. I work with my ex and see her five days a week and it does hurt every day. The best I can do is just try and get through the day without spiraling or trying to pay too much attention to her. I'd suggest doing the same. And whether you want to get back together with your ex (like myself) or not, keep going and building yourself back up. Maybe telling someone else and helping them out will help me get back in gear myself lol. But seriously, stay strong.
I totally understand it's hard to stay in control especially when she comes and start talking to you or ask you to see if she's doing her exercise correctly or ask for help with her sets in between. She even suggested to go and try out different gym together but which never happened. She bailed out at last minute. @@brendonmccluskey665
No contact for a little over a month. Hurts bad still but getting easier. I’ve seen her in personal never Interacted. I hope she comes back I don’t think it will happen. Trying to stay strong.
We broke up about a year ago, did no contact around February. Got a missed call from her about a month ago and she said it was an accident?!? She’s had a boyfriend for a while now and I’m blocked. I’m not tripping because I’ve made peace with it. But the whole blocking I feel for a fact it’s her new man. And that tells me that there’s insecurity in the relp. I’m doing better, no relationship and I run into her siblings every now and then at events etc. I had a dream about her last night and that’s how I found out I was blocked. I wanted to reach out but couldn’t.
I get a similar feeling in my situation. The block came out of nowhere and even after having met my ex's rebound, the guy seems super sketch. Other things I've heard and somewhat pieced together don't paint any better of a picture either. Glad to hear that you have made peace with your situation. Good luck in the future.
Why should i tolerate being cheated on more than once and then watch him have a rebound with the one he emotionally cheated on me with which i know has happened? I told him, once he does that, he ain't be coming back to me because i will class him as contaminated and tarnished goods. I shouldn't be the one to bare the brunt of all the damage, abandonment, betrayl, trauma and then try and forgive him AGAIN. This time there is no coming back from it as much as i love him and want him back. I can't get past it this time.
This is exactly what im going through she left me in October 2023 i was hurt so jumped on dating sites had alot of flings she came bk got pissed of so i chased again now may 2024 shes found a rebound and im seeing a good female mate but also just focusing on myself and becoming the best version i can for myself . i do love her we were together 7 yrs 3 kids but i know my worth nd unfortunately for her she will realise the grass isnt much greener. I took her out on dates, i was the only one who brought her presents on her birthday 1 year, she got flowers every anniversary or valentines dayy was a great day out with love laughter and joy .. but time for me to live my best life . Thats why it is so hard for me to let her go because i do know she will come back 1 day but by then i would have definitely moved on
Not accepting them back overall contributes to a breakdown in soceity. If there is no value for those who seek reconciliation then where is the forgiveness. Lots of unhappy people walking around. Now flipside why do i need to accept you once i built myself up? Key words built myself up. Meaning you are now the better version of you. Thus what has re-attracted her was either forgotten or what was never there to begin with but now is. self respect is key here. The biggest question is do you take them back. They must have proven to you that they themselves have grown otherwise it may not pair well. If they have been through shitty relationships during your separation, then for sure they will be bringing baggage. Worst if you have kids together. Good luck. I dont have any real answers here. Perhaps Mr Black can offer a solution.
Was with my wife 14 years married for 11 and have 3 kids. One day she tells me she loves me but doesn't love me anymore. I've been out the house just shy of three months and she's told me she's going on a date with someone else, some extremely popular person from the area. Can't believe she moved on so quick. I stupidly did her loads of favours still, lifts in the car when she mucked up for time in the morning etc, I feel so naive
I don’t want my ex no contact for life karma is real and trust and respect is broken after you cross the line to be with someone else while we was together I value myself to much let em go best thing to happen to you or worst it’s your choice focus on yourself create anew and be blessed
What if you left them because they were acting crazy, and a year later you want to try again with that person. When you commmunicate with them, there is that old feeling of the happy times, like that passionate eye contact. Yet now they’re saying there will be nothing romantic between you. Almost as tho they’re being stubborn. How do I get passed that?
I forced him to end it, because he did not care about me especially after the injury I had. He didnt check in with me. So I told him to break it off.. Two days before my dearest friend's wedding.. It hurt so damn much when he did, but I suck it up because I had so much dealing with.. Then a month ago a friend told me he is now dating a next woman, that he told me not to worry about.. I was like Lawwwddd.. That's when I actually cried! I still feel hurt after no contact of about 6months and I am slowly trying to get over it. I really am. But it's. Still.. Heart-wrenching.. 😢
I complete the no contact period and I finally reached out myself My ex already knows that the rebound can't be better than me and she knows that she loves me more but she still didn't made a move She recently told me you knew my heart better than anyone how could you let us come to this? It's clear that she loves my but shes still a bit sad about the breakup By the way I did my best to avoid showing weaknesses and... Any advices sir?
It’s been 3 months of no contact with her, she even asked me NOT to go no contact bc she knew I believed in the rule before we broke up. I told her I have self respect. I’m a lot more over her now, I just hope one day I get to sit down with her and talk.
@@abcdaamazoniaa she never came back to talk. She didn’t say happy birthday to me. I think I’ll probably never hear from her again. It is what it is man.
I also want Coach do a video about this because I think my ex's friends has a big influence with his decision making 😔 All of them are single and he's the only one whose not, so he's one of them now 😔 3 years and 6 months relationship put into waste 😔 All of them always going to bars and clubs and they really enjoy it, including my ex 😢 Before I was with them going out that is why I know what they doing there and my mind and heart always hurts 😢
If they are surrounded by "friends' giving them $hit advice, chances are they're not the brightest bulb in the socket and their discernment is on board with Martha Stewart polishing brass knobs on the Titanic.
Ex hmu out of the blue texted & called me in the middle of the night. Next morning I responded “Who’s this” & haven’t heard from this since. Thought they may have missed me or something. Of course, I did think about other possibilities. Now they are posting on social media flexing the new person they are hanging out with. Straight up narcissist
After a year of NC, I have moved on. I think she is with another, but I don’t know as I am giving her what’s she wants - plenty of space. 5 years together and I still don’t know why, especially since I treated her like a queen. Guess she thought she had all the power? I’m taking it back. I am tired of the whole thing dealing with an DA, she can no longer live in my mind for free.
My ex contacted me after no contact to offer me couches we had in her grandma's storage... also to give me the congrats on my new house I just bought... I wonder if it was an excuse or if it was really the couches. Told her to leave everything the way it is.
I broke up with her on an argument. Came back 4 days later to apologise and fix things up but she tell me that she’s dating someone else already . After 3 mfckn years
it’s not your fault. If she decided to see someone else only after three days, it may be that she already was seeing this person before, or they are trying to make you jealous, but if you focus on yourself and you know your worth, if they still love you they’ll just hurt themselves, and if they don’t love you anymore, be glad it’s over! Stay strong, go no contact and focus on yourself. If she’s the one she will regret it she’ll come back to you, and if not, you dodged a bullet! You’ll be okay either way. And if she ever comes back don’t accept her right away even if you want to, make her beg you 💪
I guess this only works if u was more good to ya ex then bad cause I do feel like I wasn’t a great boyfriend I really do love her thou jus was a broken man
I was texting a female friend for a couple of weeks. I thought she was lesbian but apparently she got feelings for me, and I ended the convo. My gf of almost two years found out. She was hysterical, but said we could work it out. Not even two weeks later, she broke up with me over text. I was devastated but had some hope. After not even 2 months, she’s already dating a coworker (whom she told me she had absolutely no feelings for) who doesn’t even hold a candle to me. Already introduced him to her mom and going to places we used to frequent. It’s super discouraging but it’s helped to finally move on. Wish I could grab some popcorn and watch it implode, but blocked everywhere as well
@@blacademic she left 2 months ago, did the norm of messaging thinking we could work it out, started no contact for 2 weeks, when she messaged a week ago tried keeping it casual as she asked about how I’d feel about a closure talk. Said I couldn’t meet as I had plans, no back in NC for a week so far
What if his rebound is a long distance situationship from three years ago, that he didn't like too much, but she was still around and telling him she would do everything for him?
In a rebound happier than ever she was with me. She doesnt just show that she is happy. She actually is. At least for now. I think she entered rebound after 5 or 6 months of the break up. I know she slept with more between those months. I know its still early to determine if its gonna turn into a relationship. For now this situantioship makes her happy and thats what i want her to be. Happy. Broke up in december. Nc since March 6th. I wished her HB and asked her not to reply back. Never did. Never will. She is strong and will move on. I wish the next guy wont make the same mistakes. I hope she stays safe.
We broke up in January 2024 a few months later he's taken interest in someone else. He's now Doing work on himself to build up the courage to ask her out. :( I asked if he had feelings for me, he said he can't answer that right now. What does that even me? I need to move on before he starts a relationship with her..
I messaged her on day 10-12 after the breakup telling her that she broke me and that I changed then I asked her how long the disconnect is for. I also stated "Alright this is my last message for a while" (obv implying there will be more). In the message I told her that her grief was most likely the reason for the breakup. She never replied. So I deleted her a few days ago from everything. It's now day 24 and I've stopped caring to a large respect, and haven't contacted her since and I will not. ( Context: She has a lot of my stuff including pc etc, but I have a clean slate and don't care about it. ) I know I made a mistake but is there any pro's to what I said?
See what you said about the reflection about the fog in the reflection on the water I so can equate with that regarding he. I hope he does jump in the water and sees the dog is no bigger and the bone is not bigger. I studied physiology many years I now 66! This is not how I expected to spend my retirement. Btw sounds egoistic but most don’t believe my age but alas I am. Hey ho it is what it is. Also reminded me of Narcissus who fell in love with his own reflection in the pool. You have a way of describing things that I totally equate with. Your quite magic
Love your videos dude, this one really resonates with me in particular. Off-topic question - where did you get the denim shirt in this vid from? It's dope and I'm after something similar!! lol
We dated for 6 months/i’m 34 n she’s 24/been broken up for 3 months/she reached a month ago(breadcrumbs)/ been NC for 2 1/2 months/ I believe she has been seeing someone for a month… need some advice
I think after 11 months you've found the advice I never really needed to put-time heals all and I bet your in a better place right now spiritually and mentally
It's been a month and a half since the breakup, the feeling has split my soul into a million pieces. I really love this woman and I've broken a couple of hearts in the past, so I dont want to be a hipocric and not accept her when she really wants us to be an item again. She walked passed me this weekend and she couldn't look me in the eye. I felt the connection between us as she passed. Should I wait?
we broke up 3 months ago after a 2 year relationship. She started seeing someone less than 2 months after the breakup. She was following me on every social media up until about 2 weeks ago when she randomly unfollowed me, so i ask if it was someone else? She didn't deny it, but talked around it and said it was because she didn't want to see me doing better, making change, and doing things that she like because it upset her I changed after the breakup. any advice??
My ex and I were together for 4 years. We had a great relationship and a lot of fun with each other. Back in April, I noticed she started pushing away from me and finally told me she needed space after making so many promises for our future together. It's now September, and we hardly talk or text each other at all. She really hurt me badly and caused me to seek counseling. I'm doing much better but I really miss her. Can you please give me some advice on what I need to do going forward?
Two year relationship is an interesting grey area where it can be labeled as a long or short term relationship. There are people that can move on quickly from this but there are others that might be stuck with feelings for their former partner. In general, you should focus on yourself and move on. They don't deserve to know what you're doing in life, so them unfollowing you is an advantage to you.
Me and babys mother were together for almost 7 years. We were in limbo for a year and a half. I officially broke it off 4 months ago because of some super scandalous actions. Today she tells me she wants me to meet A man shes been dating for a while. Ok fine i did that. Shook the mans hand said it was nice to meet you. Then said how long have you guys been dating he then states a few months. I laughed she then says whys that funny i said because three weeks ago i got text from you stating that you miss me, so F***** much. She then says weve only actually been dating for a month and we weren't talking when i said that. I gave a look of confusion and said bro so you you think youve been dating for a few months she thinks its only been a month but nonetheless its weird either way that 4 months or 1 why has this been such a point that i needed to meet you as im obviously baby daddy and yall only been dating for a a month or 4. That shits weird right or am I trippin?
I walked away from my girlfriend of a year because she'd cheated on me (right at the beginning....and told me about it 5 months later), and I'd stayed with her. We lived together. We did drugs every day together. I left to get myself well, get off drugs (71 days clean now), and reshape my whole way of being. I still love her and want to be with her, but we'll see. We'll see if when I move back to that city, where I'm at and where she's at. I'm not certain that she would take me back and I'm not certain that I want her back; I just know that at no point since I left her more than two months ago, that I've felt anything but love for her (and learning how to put myself first, too). I'm not rebounding, I'm not interested, I haven't had a hook up or a date or anything since I left. It was brutal to have to leave but it was truly the only way I could grow, and if she doesn't, it's a shame.
Most if your comments here come from place of confusion , almost as if your listening to this video but yet yall dont want to comprehend it and what its true meaning
At first I didn't give the space she asked for. I begged and acted the wrong way when she asked for space. It took me a long time to give here the space and distance. Now she wants a break up. We have been on no contact but keeps on breaking NC. She will be working in another country but she wants me to take care of her dog and still hasn't said a word about our things in their house and also in my house. Any advice?
He jumped back to a recycled supply he kept jumping to whole promising me it wasn't happening and we had a future . Yeah . Clearly that's why he want he want leave her alone . I'm gone
Give more advice coach i am always watching your videos trying to win back my ex wife she have in rebound right now we break up 1 year amd 2months right now and the guy she choice thw rebound becouae the rwvound give his a house and anything she wants i dont now maybe materialistic my ex wife
First time I’m watching you. Your diffrent than they others in a good way. I was n long distant relationship 8yrs. He jus totally changed and I had to break off took me months to do it. I love this man unconditionally and he switched up. I guess I scared him I was Gona bring him from Ghana 🇬🇭 to 🇺🇸. No contact 4months and Ik he’s not gonna hurt me anymore and it really traumatized me Damnnn it’s so hard. I jus built up his ego and I was nothing. I kno it’s long distance he changed. He peeps my social media I do not peep his I don’t want to see it hurts I can’t even erase or look @ his pics. Im jus telling you my story. Im sorry I didn’t introduce myself. Im Amy from Indiana you jus like I said are diffrent than others. It’s good your chill. Ty what you think I should do jus go find another ? I don’t even want to. It’s 4months no contact. I will not contact him. What you think ?
My personal belief is that he who loves you will never ever ever leave you. So, once they've left, it means that they will be ready to leave you again and again. Once they've decided to get out of your life, you should never ever let them back. Once the door is closed, it shouldn't be re-opened for them. You've got to teach them and yourself a lesson. If it were meant to be, you would still be together. You're valuable and they don't see you as you are. They don't realize your worth and appreciate what they have. So, let them go. They aren't in love with you.
I agree!
for me, it really depends on how they act after the breakup. if they remain single, work on themselves for real like a mature adult then i will have respect for them, and i will definitely try to fix the relationship/ get them back when the time comes and the opportunity presents itself. BUT if they immediately rush into new relationships, rebound quickly so that they can replace you, then this person is definitely NOT worth any ounce of your attention anymore. letting them go is the best thing you could do!
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Coming from personal experience this is true. He left me once he begged to come back. Promised the world. We got back exactly same day next year he left me again lol 😂
After a couple of back and forth my ex finally told me that move on and find someone else that will love me back and i told her a agreed with and wished her luck. Been in no contact ever since and been told by mutual friends how she's been struggling but hey it was her choice. Gotta stay strong out there everyone.
How do you know they been struggling, just had that happen to me with my ex and they been watching my socials but reblock ing me. Just tryna see if they’re feeling that same way
He said that he was told by mutual friends that she's been struggling.
Im going through the same situation lol everyone’s the same… sooner or later they’ll be bak.
Question is do we want them bak?
@hitman310 update?
Thank u for this. My ex lost a damn good thing. No contact for 4 months and i am so much stronger.
I'm 2 months NC
@@gematriawithjen28 is that you in the picture? ❤
@@johnforman953 yes 😊
@@gematriawithjen28 Sometimes an Ex is an Ex for very good reason. The fact that they are back and forth means they are a rolling stone.
The grass is not greener on the other side. Brilliant illustrations coach. Great job!! Big up!
And one things for sure I can say after 46 years, they Always comeback and I mean ALWAYS..its your choice if you take them back or not.. But they'll definitely be back.. at least to my experience..
for women grass is usually really greener.
If they do come back, how do i get over that they've been intimate with other people while apart? That stings.
Go live ya life n fuck other people yourself
Ultimately, that is the decision you alone have to decide. However, for your self value, self worth, and self respect there is no coming back from that. If you alow that you have opened that door and it will happen again, and it will be even harder and longer for you to get over..
More than likely, before they were with you, they were with other people...of course that would be up to you though.
No cut them off.
It sucks. Believe me it sucks. You have to decide if you're willing to swallow your pride and sacrifice to make it worth it.
I won't take him back if he moves forward F THAT!!!
10 years together. She was with another man instantly. Left the whole family. She’s breadcrumbed me for 16 months. I’ve finally cut the chord. I have to move on. She’s told me how much she cares and loves me throughout all this but it’s been found out everything she’s done with this man days after we separated. I’ve finally let go. It’s been so hard and I miss her dearly but I cannot take her back now. I deserve better.
Same. 11 years, 3 kids. Wife left me for another guy. I'm only 3 months seperated, and she wants to be "friends" .. Im finally ready to go no contact except for if it has to do with the kids. I want her back, and this is so hard...
@@masjoshI know it’s hard, but you must accept she is for the streets. No self respecting woman would abandon her family for another dude. I’m sorry you are going through it
That’s beautiful, you have discovered your self love and how much you deserve and how much your worth 😊 keep moving forward!
If she left you for another guy , let him have her .Take care of your self , kids & excel .Why bother taking back a woman who left your bed for another man's bed ?? Do you like to smell his sperm?🙄 Take your time & heal .... life is good , she's not the only woman in the planet .Good luck ✌️🥰@@masjosh
One of the best ones yet. Im going through this right now. My ex wife is in a rebound relationship and its really hard to take especially when i know they are intimate. It is what it is. I pray she comes back but also being realistic. If we do get back together, then of course ill have to think about what she put me through with seeing and being with another man. If its love, and we are meant to be, it will happen but if not then thats the path God as put me on
same scenerio. strung me along 3 months until she had the backup ready.
Any update?
Gotta stay focused on yourself and the situations you can control 💯
Sometimes they dont want to grow up or accept some things
The only thing you can and you should do about it is move on
trying to fix someone especially if they dont want to be fixed will broke you
Im not saying it wont be hurtful it will hurt if you love them and expect them to love you back the pain you will experience is different and eventually the pain will open your eyes
So live your life do your best and stop chasing disrespectful people
dont waste your limited time
hope you all the best
@@Hopegift-jb1kp i dont think i want her back the damage can not be undone and im fine with it i took my time to heal and now im in search for better
My ex came back After a year of break u and told me that deep inside his heart am unreplaceable
Update?
Forget losing you to someone else.
We don’t even know the hour of our death.
My Ex cheated on me he has been in 3 relationships with in 3 years after our break-up he even got engaged then got unengaged. He got cheated on by his ex fiancée. boke up with her now he's in another relationship Yes he knowns I still have feelings for him and always asking for help from me. Exactly he thinks he has me in his pocket thanks for sharing this message.
He is on rebounding and I was 18 years relationship, can’t wait till he clawing back and I will flip him like HELL! He won’t find anyone like me!
Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference 🙏
My ex starting to hang out with other men is something I cannot control or change.
Me wanting to break no contact is something that I can control so I will not break contact. Stay the course.
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@@Shornandkenny 🎯
If the grass wasn’t greener don’t take them back. She chose everyone over you let her go she’s not that special. Find someone who will chose you no matter what. If you take her back she will do it again. It makes you look weak less masculine
Never take sloppy seconds. The best predictor of future behavior, is past behavior. Never ignore her history.
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Mr. Blac, you are 100% right, recently my toxic ex asked about me through a mutual friend and said hi through him. Also she asked her bestie GF to be my friend on Facebook. But honestly I moved on. Thanks for your help.
Thank you for this video Blac. For helping me to realize that it's not my job to fix her. Knowing I did all I could to make her happy, simply was not enough. I am living my best life now and am glad it was her decision to leave.
I definitely appreciate this videos and others you have posted. I found myself trying to reach out and fix the relationship for 5 months with no results. I went on no contact beginning of this month and love the confidence I built. I noticed that they watch all my post even notifying me when I have mail at there place. My ex was very emboldened at the end. Going as far to say there going to see other people and that I’ll always come back. I know that we’ve had our ups and downs. I still want things to work out eventually but have accepted the situation as it is
So true brothers I stand with this let them go ,and just find yourself
People that leave you once will do it again… except this time real soon after they come back, get used to walking on eggshells all the time. It’s so much fun, don’t do it, if they positively insist that they’ve changed then be friends with the person, but don’t sleep with them. Keep it G rated and then you’ll see whether or not if they can even be a friend.
What if the person they get with was a “platonic” friend that the other person manipulated my ex into liking… and my ex asks me to move out only for her to move in? But our relationship was so incredibly healthy and loving… I can’t believe 4.5 months later they’re together.
My ex finally ended things with me for a “friend” from work also. I caught him other wise I would have never known. I had a feeling he was in over his head with someone but of course he denyed it. The crazy thing is that this girl dated 2 other coworkers and 1 still works there. I would have never imagined that he’d ever be with someone like that!
I am in a weird place. My ex and I work together a couple days a week & we are able to keep it casual, but it hurts to see her sometimes because she is very good at leaving her emotions/feelings at the door. She looks & seems happy & it’s taking a toll on me. Outside of work I’ve been in no contact, focusing on myself & hoping she reaches out at some point. The separation & depression is slowly eating away at me.
I had to check to see if I wrote this myself !!!! I almost feel defeated coming to work some days
You will be alright. Stay strong and live your life. Grow through the pain, improve your self to the point you are irresistible. She is playing the game, don't let her outsmart you. The way you are feeling now is exactly what she wants to know you are feeling.
I'm in the similar situation. I have dated my ex for around 6 months. We met at the gym and we still go to same gym. It's been 4-5 months since breakup. She did breadcrumbs in between I fell for them showed her I'm really interested in her. Now back to no contact again. But confused if I shall go at different time. So I will not see her or go at same time and just be indifferent.
I'm in a similar situation as well. I work with my ex and see her five days a week and it does hurt every day. The best I can do is just try and get through the day without spiraling or trying to pay too much attention to her. I'd suggest doing the same. And whether you want to get back together with your ex (like myself) or not, keep going and building yourself back up. Maybe telling someone else and helping them out will help me get back in gear myself lol. But seriously, stay strong.
I totally understand it's hard to stay in control especially when she comes and start talking to you or ask you to see if she's doing her exercise correctly or ask for help with her sets in between. She even suggested to go and try out different gym together but which never happened. She bailed out at last minute. @@brendonmccluskey665
No contact for a little over a month. Hurts bad still but getting easier. I’ve seen her in personal never Interacted. I hope she comes back I don’t think it will happen. Trying to stay strong.
Update
We broke up about a year ago, did no contact around February. Got a missed call from her about a month ago and she said it was an accident?!?
She’s had a boyfriend for a while now and I’m blocked.
I’m not tripping because I’ve made peace with it. But the whole blocking I feel for a fact it’s her new man. And that tells me that there’s insecurity in the relp.
I’m doing better, no relationship and I run into her siblings every now and then at events etc. I had a dream about her last night and that’s how I found out I was blocked. I wanted to reach out but couldn’t.
I get a similar feeling in my situation. The block came out of nowhere and even after having met my ex's rebound, the guy seems super sketch. Other things I've heard and somewhat pieced together don't paint any better of a picture either. Glad to hear that you have made peace with your situation. Good luck in the future.
Move on be a man
Her rebound giving her everything I couldn’t. Been 18 months, she won’t be back
Why should i tolerate being cheated on more than once and then watch him have a rebound with the one he emotionally cheated on me with which i know has happened? I told him, once he does that, he ain't be coming back to me because i will class him as contaminated and tarnished goods. I shouldn't be the one to bare the brunt of all the damage, abandonment, betrayl, trauma and then try and forgive him AGAIN. This time there is no coming back from it as much as i love him and want him back. I can't get past it this time.
Can't want someone that doesn't want you, it won't work
Got hurt so bad that my UA-cam algorithm understands me more than her 🥲
So real
I’m sorry. Hope you’re feeling better now ❤
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This is exactly what im going through she left me in October 2023 i was hurt so jumped on dating sites had alot of flings she came bk got pissed of so i chased again now may 2024 shes found a rebound and im seeing a good female mate but also just focusing on myself and becoming the best version i can for myself . i do love her we were together 7 yrs 3 kids but i know my worth nd unfortunately for her she will realise the grass isnt much greener. I took her out on dates, i was the only one who brought her presents on her birthday 1 year, she got flowers every anniversary or valentines dayy was a great day out with love laughter and joy .. but time for me to live my best life . Thats why it is so hard for me to let her go because i do know she will come back 1 day but by then i would have definitely moved on
Not accepting them back overall contributes to a breakdown in soceity. If there is no value for those who seek reconciliation then where is the forgiveness. Lots of unhappy people walking around.
Now flipside why do i need to accept you once i built myself up? Key words built myself up. Meaning you are now the better version of you. Thus what has re-attracted her was either forgotten or what was never there to begin with but now is. self respect is key here.
The biggest question is do you take them back. They must have proven to you that they themselves have grown otherwise it may not pair well.
If they have been through shitty relationships during your separation, then for sure they will be bringing baggage.
Worst if you have kids together.
Good luck. I dont have any real answers here. Perhaps Mr Black can offer a solution.
Was with my wife 14 years married for 11 and have 3 kids. One day she tells me she loves me but doesn't love me anymore. I've been out the house just shy of three months and she's told me she's going on a date with someone else, some extremely popular person from the area. Can't believe she moved on so quick.
I stupidly did her loads of favours still, lifts in the car when she mucked up for time in the morning etc, I feel so naive
I don’t want my ex no contact for life karma is real and trust and respect is broken after you cross the line to be with someone else while we was together I value myself to much let em go best thing to happen to you or worst it’s your choice focus on yourself create anew and be blessed
Facts again... but I say an ex is an ex for a reason. No going back. You live and you learn you grow from it.
A part of me wants him to regret. Everything but he wasn’t good. So why should i even care.
Extremely helpful video I was waiting for something like this, thank you.
What next time?!? Seriously you treat someone bad, you lose
What if you left them because they were acting crazy, and a year later you want to try again with that person. When you commmunicate with them, there is that old feeling of the happy times, like that passionate eye contact. Yet now they’re saying there will be nothing romantic between you. Almost as tho they’re being stubborn. How do I get passed that?
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I forced him to end it, because he did not care about me especially after the injury I had. He didnt check in with me. So I told him to break it off.. Two days before my dearest friend's wedding.. It hurt so damn much when he did, but I suck it up because I had so much dealing with.. Then a month ago a friend told me he is now dating a next woman, that he told me not to worry about.. I was like Lawwwddd.. That's when I actually cried! I still feel hurt after no contact of about 6months and I am slowly trying to get over it. I really am. But it's. Still.. Heart-wrenching.. 😢
Merry Christmas 🎄 2023 Coach Black! You’re simply the best guide through this whole process! 👌🏽💯 God bless you! 🙏🏽
I complete the no contact period and I finally reached out myself
My ex already knows that the rebound can't be better than me and she knows that she loves me more but she still didn't made a move
She recently told me you knew my heart better than anyone how could you let us come to this?
It's clear that she loves my but shes still a bit sad about the breakup
By the way I did my best to avoid showing weaknesses and...
Any advices sir?
It’s been 3 months of no contact with her, she even asked me NOT to go no contact bc she knew I believed in the rule before we broke up. I told her I have self respect. I’m a lot more over her now, I just hope one day I get to sit down with her and talk.
Update?
@@abcdaamazoniaa she never came back to talk. She didn’t say happy birthday to me. I think I’ll probably never hear from her again. It is what it is man.
@@johncatalano7101 Its her loss brother
I like that dog story. Great analogy. The grass isn't greener on the other side, but good luck finding some that is. ✌️
Once she has sex with someone else, I’m done. We can be fwb, but that’s it.
Thanks for the wisdom coach! Could you touch on exes friends influencing them to stay single and play the field?
I also want Coach do a video about this because I think my ex's friends has a big influence with his decision making 😔 All of them are single and he's the only one whose not, so he's one of them now 😔 3 years and 6 months relationship put into waste 😔 All of them always going to bars and clubs and they really enjoy it, including my ex 😢 Before I was with them going out that is why I know what they doing there and my mind and heart always hurts 😢
Good topic. One of her friends talked her out of considering getting back together.
If they are surrounded by "friends' giving them $hit advice, chances are they're not the brightest bulb in the socket and their discernment is on board with Martha Stewart polishing brass knobs on the Titanic.
Ex hmu out of the blue texted & called me in the middle of the night. Next morning I responded “Who’s this” & haven’t heard from this since. Thought they may have missed me or something. Of course, I did think about other possibilities. Now they are posting on social media flexing the new person they are hanging out with. Straight up narcissist
After a year of NC, I have moved on. I think she is with another, but I don’t know as I am giving her what’s she wants - plenty of space. 5 years together and I still don’t know why, especially since I treated her like a queen. Guess she thought she had all the power? I’m taking it back. I am tired of the whole thing dealing with an DA, she can no longer live in my mind for free.
You said it. You treat her like a queen that’s why she left.
how else should one treat a lady @@lassinediawara7331
i totally resonate with your story. the fact that you recognise she is a DA OR FA gets me thinking how they behave
She will be back mate and cheating on him with you trust me 👍
Did your ex ever reach out to you??
My ex contacted me after no contact to offer me couches we had in her grandma's storage... also to give me the congrats on my new house I just bought... I wonder if it was an excuse or if it was really the couches. Told her to leave everything the way it is.
She's still attracted to how great of a father I am and tries to sleep with me. I am sure she doesn't tell her boyfriend that. Poor guy
I broke up with her on an argument. Came back 4 days later to apologise and fix things up but she tell me that she’s dating someone else already . After 3 mfckn years
it’s not your fault. If she decided to see someone else only after three days, it may be that she already was seeing this person before, or they are trying to make you jealous, but if you focus on yourself and you know your worth, if they still love you they’ll just hurt themselves, and if they don’t love you anymore, be glad it’s over! Stay strong, go no contact and focus on yourself. If she’s the one she will regret it she’ll come back to you, and if not, you dodged a bullet! You’ll be okay either way. And if she ever comes back don’t accept her right away even if you want to, make her beg you 💪
@@EddyPZ2002 I can’t get her out of my head . I m in nc for a month now . Idn what to do
She's lying to piss u off
I guess this only works if u was more good to ya ex then bad cause I do feel like I wasn’t a great boyfriend I really do love her thou jus was a broken man
What did you do specifically?
@@blacademic just consistent arguing and allowing myself to get to a point to say disrespectful things just immature behavior
On the same boat with you I was awful. Not a cheater but could’ve been more affectionate and less insulting to him.
Same here boys
I was texting a female friend for a couple of weeks. I thought she was lesbian but apparently she got feelings for me, and I ended the convo. My gf of almost two years found out. She was hysterical, but said we could work it out. Not even two weeks later, she broke up with me over text. I was devastated but had some hope. After not even 2 months, she’s already dating a coworker (whom she told me she had absolutely no feelings for) who doesn’t even hold a candle to me. Already introduced him to her mom and going to places we used to frequent. It’s super discouraging but it’s helped to finally move on. Wish I could grab some popcorn and watch it implode, but blocked everywhere as well
That dude is having his turn. No trip. You deserve better 🎉
Want to send her a Hail Mary text, but scared to, in NC but her stuff is still at mine with no sign of her coming to get it…. Help
How long have you been in no contact?
@@blacademic she left 2 months ago, did the norm of messaging thinking we could work it out, started no contact for 2 weeks, when she messaged a week ago tried keeping it casual as she asked about how I’d feel about a closure talk. Said I couldn’t meet as I had plans, no back in NC for a week so far
What if his rebound is a long distance situationship from three years ago, that he didn't like too much, but she was still around and telling him she would do everything for him?
Thank you sooo much for enlightening me on some things on my recent break up! 🙌🏽❤️😔
Peace and blessings to you sir🫡
In a rebound happier than ever she was with me. She doesnt just show that she is happy. She actually is. At least for now. I think she entered rebound after 5 or 6 months of the break up. I know she slept with more between those months. I know its still early to determine if its gonna turn into a relationship. For now this situantioship makes her happy and thats what i want her to be. Happy. Broke up in december. Nc since March 6th. I wished her HB and asked her not to reply back. Never did. Never will. She is strong and will move on. I wish the next guy wont make the same mistakes. I hope she stays safe.
My ex could never come back. My number is changed.
We broke up in January 2024 a few months later he's taken interest in someone else. He's now
Doing work on himself to build up the courage to ask her out. :( I asked if he had feelings for me, he said he can't answer that right now. What does that even me? I need to move on before he starts a relationship with her..
I messaged her on day 10-12 after the breakup telling her that she broke me and that I changed then I asked her how long the disconnect is for. I also stated "Alright this is my last message for a while" (obv implying there will be more). In the message I told her that her grief was most likely the reason for the breakup. She never replied. So I deleted her a few days ago from everything. It's now day 24 and I've stopped caring to a large respect, and haven't contacted her since and I will not. ( Context: She has a lot of my stuff including pc etc, but I have a clean slate and don't care about it. )
I know I made a mistake but is there any pro's to what I said?
She came back after one month. She disrespected me and I walked away never contacted her. Now she is back apologizing
Update
Thank you for your guidance.
4months after break up and I just found out he’s dating the girl I told him gives me a bad vibe. The girl he told me is his friend’s girl.
how to know if you are the rebound?
As always I appreciate your words of wisdom my guy...
Good information. Thank you
Thank you for this again
well said coach❤
What if the “new” person is someone they had been friends with for a really long time?
See what you said about the reflection about the fog in the reflection on the water I so can equate with that regarding he. I hope he does jump in the water and sees the dog is no bigger and the bone is not bigger. I studied physiology many years I now 66! This is not how I expected to spend my retirement. Btw sounds egoistic but most don’t believe my age but alas I am. Hey ho it is what it is. Also reminded me of Narcissus who fell in love with his own reflection in the pool. You have a way of describing things that I totally equate with. Your quite magic
Thanks Coach Black
This is great info... thanks so much
Love your videos dude, this one really resonates with me in particular. Off-topic question - where did you get the denim shirt in this vid from? It's dope and I'm after something similar!! lol
fantastic analogy
A bird in the hand is better than 2 in the bush.
We dated for 6 months/i’m 34 n she’s 24/been broken up for 3 months/she reached a month ago(breadcrumbs)/ been NC for 2 1/2 months/ I believe she has been seeing someone for a month… need some advice
The advice is to follow tour gut instinct and not take her back. Trust 😢
I think after 11 months you've found the advice I never really needed to put-time heals all and I bet your in a better place right now spiritually and mentally
It's been a month and a half since the breakup, the feeling has split my soul into a million pieces. I really love this woman and I've broken a couple of hearts in the past, so I dont want to be a hipocric and not accept her when she really wants us to be an item again. She walked passed me this weekend and she couldn't look me in the eye. I felt the connection between us as she passed. Should I wait?
Move on dude be a man
we broke up 3 months ago after a 2 year relationship. She started seeing someone less than 2 months after the breakup. She was following me on every social media up until about 2 weeks ago when she randomly unfollowed me, so i ask if it was someone else? She didn't deny it, but talked around it and said it was because she didn't want to see me doing better, making change, and doing things that she like because it upset her I changed after the breakup. any advice??
Focus on you. Work on you. No contact her. Move on.
Focus on you, get better, make changes. Stay positive and don’t chase, everything you deserve will fall on your lap!
My ex and I were together for 4 years. We had a great relationship and a lot of fun with each other. Back in April, I noticed she started pushing away from me and finally told me she needed space after making so many promises for our future together. It's now September, and we hardly talk or text each other at all. She really hurt me badly and caused me to seek counseling. I'm doing much better but I really miss her. Can you please give me some advice on what I need to do going forward?
Two year relationship is an interesting grey area where it can be labeled as a long or short term relationship. There are people that can move on quickly from this but there are others that might be stuck with feelings for their former partner. In general, you should focus on yourself and move on. They don't deserve to know what you're doing in life, so them unfollowing you is an advantage to you.
On point!! 💯💯
She don't love me no more shit hurt ain't gone lie
Me and babys mother were together for almost 7 years. We were in limbo for a year and a half. I officially broke it off 4 months ago because of some super scandalous actions. Today she tells me she wants me to meet A man shes been dating for a while. Ok fine i did that. Shook the mans hand said it was nice to meet you. Then said how long have you guys been dating he then states a few months. I laughed she then says whys that funny i said because three weeks ago i got text from you stating that you miss me, so F***** much. She then says weve only actually been dating for a month and we weren't talking when i said that. I gave a look of confusion and said bro so you you think youve been dating for a few months she thinks its only been a month but nonetheless its weird either way that 4 months or 1 why has this been such a point that i needed to meet you as im obviously baby daddy and yall only been dating for a a month or 4. That shits weird right or am I trippin?
Thank you so very much.
Hi!! Can you please make a video about after NC they reached out to you…. But what now? How do I progress our relationship?
For a woman, rebound replaces you well.
I walked away from my girlfriend of a year because she'd cheated on me (right at the beginning....and told me about it 5 months later), and I'd stayed with her. We lived together. We did drugs every day together. I left to get myself well, get off drugs (71 days clean now), and reshape my whole way of being. I still love her and want to be with her, but we'll see. We'll see if when I move back to that city, where I'm at and where she's at. I'm not certain that she would take me back and I'm not certain that I want her back; I just know that at no point since I left her more than two months ago, that I've felt anything but love for her (and learning how to put myself first, too). I'm not rebounding, I'm not interested, I haven't had a hook up or a date or anything since I left. It was brutal to have to leave but it was truly the only way I could grow, and if she doesn't, it's a shame.
Great adventures coach
My gf for 4 years left me 1 month later. She posted a pic with a new guy. I’m completely broken.
Most if your comments here come from place of confusion , almost as if your listening to this video but yet yall dont want to comprehend it and what its true meaning
At first I didn't give the space she asked for. I begged and acted the wrong way when she asked for space. It took me a long time to give here the space and distance. Now she wants a break up. We have been on no contact but keeps on breaking NC. She will be working in another country but she wants me to take care of her dog and still hasn't said a word about our things in their house and also in my house. Any advice?
Yes Run as far away as possible!!! She’s not worth it …
He jumped back to a recycled supply he kept jumping to whole promising me it wasn't happening and we had a future . Yeah . Clearly that's why he want he want leave her alone . I'm gone
I’m laughing dude got my sloppy seconds. I got the glass of milk and didn’t even have to think about buying the farm.
You are demonic
😂 dude really thought he found the one too. They both will never forget about me for the rest of their lives. 😊
Coach, does it apply to monkey branching too?
❤ my hero 100% right... Sir
She came back from the rebound . And yesterday I find out she has a date with him .
Give more advice coach i am always watching your videos trying to win back my ex wife she have in rebound right now we break up 1 year amd 2months right now and the guy she choice thw rebound becouae the rwvound give his a house and anything she wants i dont now maybe materialistic my ex wife
Excellent. My ex and I have been through alot in 25 years. In his new relationship she will never have the history we had.
You were their oxygen tank if they actually loved you and it was real.
First time I’m watching you. Your diffrent than they others in a good way. I was n long distant relationship 8yrs. He jus totally changed and I had to break off took me months to do it. I love this man unconditionally and he switched up. I guess I scared him I was Gona bring him from Ghana 🇬🇭 to 🇺🇸. No contact 4months and Ik he’s not gonna hurt me anymore and it really traumatized me Damnnn it’s so hard. I jus built up his ego and I was nothing. I kno it’s long distance he changed. He peeps my social media I do not peep his I don’t want to see it hurts I can’t even erase or look @ his pics. Im jus telling you my story. Im sorry I didn’t introduce myself. Im Amy from Indiana you jus like I said are diffrent than others. It’s good your chill. Ty what you think I should do jus go find another ? I don’t even want to. It’s 4months no contact. I will not contact him. What you think ?
It’s so hard, but you have to move forward. Why would you want anybody back? Who treated you so bad in the end?
What if they ignore u