Did They Move On or Are They in A Rebound Relationship?

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  • Опубліковано 28 гру 2024

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  • @AlexisFriedlander
    @AlexisFriedlander  3 роки тому +5

    ✍️ QUIZ: Check out your chances to get back with your ex:
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    • @drehimen4860
      @drehimen4860 3 роки тому

      Hi

    • @markomarkovic5729
      @markomarkovic5729 7 місяців тому

      I got 19.8. We were 15 years together and I'm crushed.

    • @FortniteReportz
      @FortniteReportz 6 місяців тому

      I'm your 100th Like, thank you for your information and advice, God bless you Sir!

  • @bryceoleski5680
    @bryceoleski5680 8 місяців тому +47

    If you’re in this comment section and are seriously considering waiting around to take your ex back after they are done screwing around, this is your wakeup call, have some respect for yourself.

    • @LarrytheFish-bp5qb
      @LarrytheFish-bp5qb 2 місяці тому +4

      Then why are you watching the video? This has nothing to do with self respect. Sometimes you’re the one who fucked up and you’re emotionally mature enough to understand that you’ve lost the person due to your own actions and therefore they are free to do as they please.
      There’s no issue reconciling after one or both parties have dated others. Your surface level opinion is not only ignorant but also inflammatory given that this channel is focused on getting your ex back.

    • @bryceoleski5680
      @bryceoleski5680 2 місяці тому

      @@LarrytheFish-bp5qb someone has a guilty conscience

  • @shannonc1793
    @shannonc1793 3 роки тому +199

    I don’t even want him back now but I’m highly interested in the psychology behind it and why people do rebound relationships. Diving deep into this is so fascinating and sad.

    • @laOrzy
      @laOrzy 3 роки тому +49

      I’m literally in the same boat, I wouldn’t take someone back after that but it’s definitely interesting to see why people can’t cope with being alone or by themselves and must find someone to fill their void. Most people who monkey branch relationships are broken in some capacity and look to others to complete them when in reality a healthy relationship is two people sharing their completeness

    • @shannonc1793
      @shannonc1793 3 роки тому +1

      @@laOrzy Well said! I couldn’t agree more.

    • @jimbotfoodie1811
      @jimbotfoodie1811 3 роки тому +1

      @@laOrzy because girls cant live alone, cant handle the void, loneliness and emptiness. (Not all) They go for the next relationship because they want band aid and validation.

    • @laOrzy
      @laOrzy 3 роки тому +9

      @@jimbotfoodie1811 I would say that’ true a good amount of the time because women have like 2-10 guys in their dms at any moment begging essentially to be picked so it’s easy to just fill the void so to speak, someone who is focused on emotional and self development/improvement will sit back and analyze what happened and how to can be better going forward. This step is most often skimmed over by women but used by men

    • @klasykapolskiegohh8798
      @klasykapolskiegohh8798 3 роки тому +27

      The simple short answer why people monkey branch and do rebounds is: insecurity and low self-esteem

  • @jamesthaoulin3955
    @jamesthaoulin3955 Рік тому +58

    If he/she is in rebound relationship or anytype of relationship, let it happen - wish her/him luck and move on - that's all need to be done - Don't dwell in it - move on and walk away nicely..Do your inner work - do your therapy - go to gym - fitness - yoga - whatever that improve yourslef and don't turn back.
    Protocol is walk away and move on. Period. If he/she ever want to reach out - you will know it - and they don't , you'll know also. So, whatever scenario come along the way, your remain the same => walk away and move on.

  • @emmalynrae592
    @emmalynrae592 3 роки тому +114

    Honeymoon phase in rebound relationships are shorter than normal relationships as well. I feel like honeymoon phase in a normal relationship that moves at a slow and steady pace lasts for a year or so. But in rebounds, because everything is moving so quickly and it’s not built on anything solid those honeymoon phase only last like maybe 3 months. Either way...focus on yourself! Let them be.

    • @HeroesField
      @HeroesField 2 роки тому +1

      Exactly

    • @brianrhodes8369
      @brianrhodes8369 2 роки тому +14

      This is true.. I have been in rebounds as the BF and not me doing the rebound. We loved fast.. moved in together within 2-3 months.. we were pretty much over with by month 5-7.. then just stuck living together for a couple more months.. lasted about 10 months overall.

  • @blastprosful
    @blastprosful Рік тому +28

    The real question is why would you want them back !!!???
    They choose someone over you.
    They opened themselves to another.
    BYE !

  • @kikataye6293
    @kikataye6293 2 роки тому +29

    Nope. If the ex is rebounding he or she probably has other issues…keep it moving!

    • @progvisions
      @progvisions 4 місяці тому

      my relationship that lasted 5 years... i was very likely her rebound

  • @seanking6184
    @seanking6184 3 роки тому +76

    My ex tried to convince me it wasn’t a rebound even though we were together for 5 years and she got together with this person 2 weeks after lol

    • @jbirdy3024
      @jbirdy3024 3 роки тому +8

      Same here Smmfh , u ain’t alone brotha

    • @HeroesField
      @HeroesField 2 роки тому +1

      Lol same! Although i dont even give her attention for it. Let em burn

    • @remyd1984
      @remyd1984 2 роки тому +1

      What’s the update mate?

    • @seanking6184
      @seanking6184 2 роки тому +1

      @@remyd1984 hey mate, heading to work but will update when I’m off 👍

    • @remyd1984
      @remyd1984 2 роки тому

      @@seanking6184 sound cheers mate

  • @aaronmoses-330
    @aaronmoses-330 Рік тому +8

    I can forgive her if she wants to go out and date. But I will not forgive her if she sleeps with him.

    • @mostlysane6055
      @mostlysane6055 9 місяців тому +1

      How do you know he slept or not what if he hide it?

  • @RLynx
    @RLynx 5 місяців тому +4

    Ex reached out, called crying and begging for forgiveness for all the mistakes she made in the relationship and for breaking up. Says she loves me and now realizes she cant be without me. We talked for some days.
    She said that she misses me i'm the love of her life and that she wants to be with me...BUT cant be with me at the moment. Not revealing the reasons... I believe she might be in a rebound.
    Its been one week since we last spoke.

    • @BennySa-w4k
      @BennySa-w4k 3 місяці тому

      Sounds like she wants to go out and get ran through a bit before settling down with you. My ex did basically the same thing so I feel your pain bro.

  • @nimishapathak199
    @nimishapathak199 Рік тому +4

    I like how your videos explain all aspects, including attachment styles and are comprehensive

  • @BorkBorkMcGee
    @BorkBorkMcGee 8 місяців тому +5

    My ex is avoidant and avoided all the problems and let them fester till she fell out of love snd literally a month later she started to talk to my “friend” theyre not dating but theyre are talking. She tells him “ive never felt this way before” which shes told me that before.

  • @Cybertron123456
    @Cybertron123456 11 місяців тому +2

    When the fireworks are over , it’s unlikely they will contact you if they are a DA.

  • @captainkaveh1
    @captainkaveh1 Рік тому +12

    Why i should take her back after she dated someone else and already fail and now she wants to come back!!??
    I didn't get the second chance, why she should?
    The one who has decided to brake the rules and go, must go forever. this is what she deserves .

  • @hecticsheff1
    @hecticsheff1 2 роки тому +5

    When you had offers but stayed loyal and they take offers they arnt worth you, im going through a break up my self, I know this what ever it is shes found wont work

  • @DtroytDave
    @DtroytDave 4 місяці тому

    I just took the quiz, I scored 27.1 so I'll keep watching

  • @strawberryjam5844
    @strawberryjam5844 Рік тому +7

    Ex is fearful avoidant.

  • @hugorabe4395
    @hugorabe4395 Рік тому +1

    I really appreciate your input and like your style, Monsieur. Merci beaucoup from Germany.

  • @georgespangler1517
    @georgespangler1517 3 роки тому +7

    We was together 13 years and not until she saw me with another did you see another and projected what we had onto him and moved to fast and married and 3 months later reached out to me and I said I don't talk to married woman, that was 2 year's after she left.

  • @marguskiis7711
    @marguskiis7711 2 місяці тому

    Women keep the rebounds strongly to show their success.
    Usually they choose somebody from neighbourhood.

  • @butterfly-pw9th
    @butterfly-pw9th 3 роки тому +9

    You are such a love alexis, i love that you frequently upload videos💜

    • @margatemiller512
      @margatemiller512 3 роки тому

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    • @margatemiller512
      @margatemiller512 3 роки тому

      If you need hlp, I know of someone who can help you

    • @margatemiller512
      @margatemiller512 3 роки тому

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    • @margatemiller512
      @margatemiller512 3 роки тому

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  • @3lewi
    @3lewi 2 роки тому +8

    My ex left after 4 years
    We were on good terms never had a fight or an argument. We were looking at places to rent and looking at wedding rings. We were talking about marriage, buying a house together and future plans. One sunday we had lunch together and on Thursday 4 days after the Sunday she ended everything out of no where.
    She said I wasnt approved by her family to marry her.
    The following Monday I saw her with a guy and she said she met him through her family and shes happy in her new relationship and hes going to propose.
    She cried and said sorry but theres no future with me and hes going to propose and she will say yes.
    The guy is 10 years older than her and hes a gym junkie I honestly think she went for his looks not anything else.
    Not sure if this is a rebound or not. I have been in no contact with her for 2 weeks now and I want to end my life everyday.

    • @vyvienne3216
      @vyvienne3216 2 роки тому +5

      It's been a month since my ex cheated on me. Look at him happy with his new girl everyday making me wanting to end my life too.
      I feel you and I'm spreading these words to you as a victim of a heartbreak:
      Stay strong! It's hard, it kills you from inside out, I know that. Trying change yourself a bit day by day, work on yourself, learn something new (I learn a new language) and you will feel much better after a month or two.
      Time will heal, scars will fade. You do you and you focus on you. One day, you will feel better and be ready for the best one to come.

    • @Luis.M.Castillo
      @Luis.M.Castillo 2 роки тому +3

      4.5 years, she’s with the receptionist of the shop my car is being worked on. A week after she ended it through text. Happens to everyone, you’re not alone, I can barely sleep, it gets not only better, you get to work on yourself and be ok single, they are hiding and distracted, hold a as a badge of honor. You healed yourself, by yourself.

    • @AllenTolbert-ld9ms
      @AllenTolbert-ld9ms Місяць тому +1

      ​@@vyvienne3216 Stay Strong 🙏❤🌹

  • @annnee6818
    @annnee6818 11 місяців тому +1

    The quiz isn't really a quiz it's an ad guys, you won't get an answer

  • @buysjproperties
    @buysjproperties 11 місяців тому +4

    I did NC and my ex dated someone within two months. They been together for less than 4 months and it looks like they are going to get engaged 🤦‍♂️
    We were together for almost four years! Wtf???

    • @balkee42
      @balkee42 7 місяців тому +5

      Engaged after 4 months???? Dude that aint gonna last

  • @alexandermelchers1497
    @alexandermelchers1497 Рік тому

    I think there are so many complicating factors to this. Like, how does this play out when there are kids involved, from either one of the two people involved in the rebound, or both. And how does the rebound being long-distance factor in with the timing or strength of the rebound? Also, I presume the wording that if it's three to four months (i.e., a couple of months) following the break-up, your partner is in a rebound means that if they got together with someone else in the interim, rather than just simply taking a snapshot. Because, while rebound relationships can potentially turn into (often unhealthy and dissatisfactory) over time, it can take months for a rebound to build up to its peak... It'd be really interesting to hear more about this kind of dynamic.

  • @raffaasker6074
    @raffaasker6074 8 днів тому

    mmy ex dating someone else after two weeks break up i try to tell her be careful she ignore everything about this person she won't listen is that limerent ?

  • @georgespangler1517
    @georgespangler1517 3 роки тому +13

    I don't think there is a time limit on a rebound could be years if there's still strong feelings for the ex

    • @CrazyBunniePanda
      @CrazyBunniePanda 3 роки тому +8

      Agreed... My ex was in love with his ex from 2017.. we met 2020 broke up August. 2021.. now he's with a new girl, through all th B.S. we went through for him... he's portraying like he's changed and he's on cloud 9.. sucks.. wish I never let myself go that low for someone... Only thing that hurts is he never really liked me for me.. I was just a stepping stool.... 💔😞

  • @HCJose
    @HCJose 2 роки тому +1

    My ex and I dated for 4 months, she was an avoidant person and I was anxious because of the avoidant personality and it caused confusion, so I broke it off for a week, and I thought about it and got back with her, a week later she kissed me and went to another city and started posting pictures with another guy the same night I was messaging her on social media. I was hysterical when I found out and then crushed, in denial, and depressed
    but now I'm doing way better and learned a ton!! I saw her at the gym today and I still got nervous and anxiety, however I ignored her and I'm on my purpose and goals! P.s she knows I work there and have been avoiding and ignoring her this whole time.

    • @levicookslevi1437
      @levicookslevi1437 2 роки тому

      I'm so happy having back my ex fiance back, after bring separated for 3months All thanks to mr Willson whom held me to get back my ex again I will suggest y'all get help from him and it's works within 4days.

    • @levicookslevi1437
      @levicookslevi1437 2 роки тому

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      @levicookslevi1437 2 роки тому

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    • @levicookslevi1437
      @levicookslevi1437 2 роки тому

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  • @ozziefunbury
    @ozziefunbury Рік тому +1

    My ex and I officially broke up in December 2021. We didnt stop sleeping with eachother until July 2022. and that was only becuase I was having issues finishing in bed. September 2022, she jumped into a long distance relationship with a 22 y.o. college kid (we are both 27). we still talk almost everyday, but i miss her alot. in December she said we couldn't see eachother physically anymore, but can still talk on the phone and text. we still keep up with eachothers social media, and tbh she tells me alot about her relationship. I miss her alot, and we are still best friends. But i never took our relationship as seriously as I should have in the past. the 22 y.o. is definitely using her as a rebound (in fact he monkey branched to her from his toxic ex who he broke up with 7 times apparently) from what she tells me. So i'm pretty sure they are both rebounding. Just recently she said we are okay to see eachother in person again, and is just gonna have to tell her boyfriend that he is going to have to accept that. I know we are headed in the right direction. but he is coming into town valentines day weekend so i have to figure out how to occupy myself for those 3 days. party anyone?

  • @pj8624
    @pj8624 2 роки тому

    Great information, thank you!! :)

  • @joanna2736
    @joanna2736 2 роки тому +3

    27 years of marriage and I left him but within 3 days he was dating my best friend who always wanted him but he denied. So rebound or not? I’m disgusted by her not surprised by him.

    • @d.v.k.6592
      @d.v.k.6592 2 роки тому

      😵‍💫

    • @adventureleopards
      @adventureleopards 2 роки тому

      Mostly a women is enemy of her/female friend. Don’t share any personal problems with your so called besties. They throw you in the dark hole 🕳.

    • @StumpyComedyAct
      @StumpyComedyAct 7 місяців тому

      Serves you right.😂

  • @zen9er
    @zen9er 7 місяців тому

    Not that I want to get back anymore. But watching this trying to feel better because my ex rebounded 1 week after me (2 year long relationship) and then realising now that I WAS also the rebound of his 5 year long ex (we met 1 month after his ex).. So.. would he be thinking about or missing his ex or me the rebound ex at this point? I am lost. We didnt last.. but I think I helped him heal through his ex and he lost feelings for me.. Does that mean he's ready for this new rebound relationship because it's not a rebound anymore? What a rebound inception...

  • @BennySa-w4k
    @BennySa-w4k 3 місяці тому

    Your other video says they can not get over you and that’s why the rebound fails, now it’s saying the rebound makes them get over you?

  • @umbraphoenix08
    @umbraphoenix08 2 роки тому +3

    My ex left me for another women that he was talking to for years behind my back and told everything to her. Now she's going around boasting about how she's been working on him for years and she's finally got him, he was engaged to me... Can someone tell me if they think this will last or not.

    • @OnePieceTheorist
      @OnePieceTheorist 2 роки тому +5

      Dude-ess, please don't take him back no matter what... He was with you but was talking behind your back with other woman... Dude was cheating on you, perhaps not physically but emotionally.
      And it doesn't matter if it lasts or not, you need to cut out that person from your life, you don't need him, you need yourself. (but i think it will not last, as she was going after him for so long because he was unavailable, but now that she caught him and ruined your relationship, she'll not be satisfied with the taste of the meat, its no longer thrilling to hunt something that gave in).

    • @Niqua10023
      @Niqua10023 2 роки тому +4

      I been there and it won't last forever. How you get them is how you lose them. When ppl say they don't last for less than 2 or 3 months isn't the case. It can go for 1 to 2 years or so. Just remember the grass is never greener on the other side. He will never be fully happy. He lose that happiness.

    • @joshuamac6302
      @joshuamac6302 3 місяці тому

      Nope. Wont last

  • @robertoieva9809
    @robertoieva9809 2 роки тому

    Hi Alexis, tank you for your videos. Is there a chance if I'm blocked everywhere? If I'm blocked, how can they see a change? Thank you

  • @nonameextra5434
    @nonameextra5434 2 роки тому +2

    Just take time and be cool hard to get man

  • @benjaminsydneypretsch786
    @benjaminsydneypretsch786 2 роки тому

    Great video Alexis!
    I chat sometimes with my ex. Can I tell her that she just started dating a new guy as coping mechanism? And that it is easier during no-contact to escape and look for a new guy than focusing on improving our relationship in rough times?

  • @mariasideri3772
    @mariasideri3772 7 місяців тому

    Yes but what if he returns and he only want sex?? If he tells you straight that he can’t be in love and he like to meet more people and he want from you to be his friend with benefits?

    • @balkee42
      @balkee42 7 місяців тому

      Have more respect for yourself than that

  • @mariosolis9319
    @mariosolis9319 3 роки тому +2

    Hi Sr Alexis I'm from Philippines. My ex girlfriend and me broke up last May and he block me for all of our contact like Facebook, Instagram and TikTok. the first one to two months I contact him using his friends and classmates but when I knew he is stress about me I'll stop contact him. Then last Sept I see him walking with another guy so I think he got a new boyfriend so I watch then from a farm distance. What should I do? is there still a chance to win back my girlfriend?

    • @AlexisFriedlander
      @AlexisFriedlander  3 роки тому +4

      The more you will try to control the more she will react negatively. At this stage, I would focus on what you could be doing today to make yourself 'attractive' --> get back to the person she fell in love with

    • @ozuhakachiogoloma3383
      @ozuhakachiogoloma3383 3 роки тому

      Hello the do you need help to fix all kinds of problems in your relationship including getting your ex husband girlfriend boyfriend crush within 48hours??????

    • @ozuhakachiogoloma3383
      @ozuhakachiogoloma3383 3 роки тому

      Contact father right..away Text him now through whatzapp

    • @ozuhakachiogoloma3383
      @ozuhakachiogoloma3383 3 роки тому

      +1204

    • @ozuhakachiogoloma3383
      @ozuhakachiogoloma3383 3 роки тому

      808

  • @lmfisher650
    @lmfisher650 11 місяців тому

    What if it's monkey branching and then he moves in with her within 15wks. Married 15yrs, together 17yrs.

  • @xXHavocGamerXx
    @xXHavocGamerXx Рік тому

    I was with my ex about 5 or 6 months and we broke up January 2023 and she's already with someone else after a month, I hope all of what you said is true but at the same time I'm not sure she will be back and if not it's okay. I'm changing myself for the better

    • @300AR22
      @300AR22 Рік тому

      Same. Has she reached out?

  • @taylordavidson9099
    @taylordavidson9099 3 роки тому +1

    How do I know this is a good sign my ex is in a rebound? She left me in late July and got together in a rebound with someone we both know. We were together for 3 years and she cut it off. She dsid she won't get the same feelings she had before. How can I change mind?

    • @laOrzy
      @laOrzy 3 роки тому +3

      You don’t change her mind, move on and don’t look back, if she comes back then the power is in your hands but if you keep crawling back she will only see weakness I promise you

  • @oulhadjs
    @oulhadjs 3 роки тому +2

    Hi, this is my story in short I have been married for 25 years we have 3 growing up boys age 20/17/15 years old my ex wife her father passed away also she was suffering from enxiaty and depression she had a breakdown so she had to go to hospital , there she meet someone she had an affair with him and she dumped me I was a heart broken my boys were in shock And still now.
    So the boys decided to come with me we left here behind back home here origin country now we not in contact and I don't know what is the solution ?????

    • @margatemiller512
      @margatemiller512 3 роки тому

      Hey there, how are you doing, I know how it feels to get heartbroken

    • @margatemiller512
      @margatemiller512 3 роки тому +1

      If you need hlp, I know of someone who can help you

    • @margatemiller512
      @margatemiller512 3 роки тому

      *W ha ts A pp* right away for help

    • @margatemiller512
      @margatemiller512 3 роки тому

      ±19515998468⏯️⏯️⏯️⏯️ Hello it's works i can't believe i am with my lover back after many years of break-up.,...

    • @AlexisFriedlander
      @AlexisFriedlander  3 роки тому +3

      Really hard to tell with this info only. Let's have a chat.
      It sounds like she's having a mid life crisis (potentially triggered by the death of her mum)

  • @gladyssibug332
    @gladyssibug332 3 роки тому +12

    He already had a diamond then he chose to go to a shitt. Whatever he do I don’t give a shitt because I already gave him opportunity to be with me despite he’s not even on my level from looks to brain he likes cheap. His loss! He can’t get someone like me. I’m rare! 😂 better to be single and financially stable than be with narcissistic. He can’t have best head anymore 😂 😝

  • @drshankikilovespelltemple679
    @drshankikilovespelltemple679 3 роки тому +1

    Hello

  • @marivaldomessias9988
    @marivaldomessias9988 2 роки тому +2

    Hi Alexis, I have one question: I broke up with my ex about 6 months ago because he was rushing things up such as trying to move in together after 18 months of a relationship and it wasn't the right moment for me as I lost my father, etc... He never stopped contacting me, yes I wanted us to be together again but I needed some time to recover. When I asked him to meet up so that I could tell him about my intentions, he said that he was seeing someone for two months, which broke my heart. When telling me this, he was very emotional, crying... and gave me a strong hug saying that he never wanted to lose contact with me because he loves me very much. Now I applied the 'no contact rules' and I wanted to ask if you think that I still have a chance here as I waited too long?

  • @markvincentr.degrano8901
    @markvincentr.degrano8901 3 роки тому +1

    My ex throw my promise ring to her new guy just to throw in garbage. 🤣 i dont know why all of the sudden she bring the ring and ask the rebound to throw it. My coworker tell me that drama. Hahaha

  • @alexandre9328
    @alexandre9328 2 роки тому

    Amen

  • @Brittaba
    @Brittaba 6 місяців тому

    I had a few rebound relationships. Mainly because I couldn’t be alone. I was desperately lonely. BUT one relationship was for a specific reason I wanted to share my insight on. I was in a toxic relationship with a guy (named Mark) & I knew I needed to get out & there was another guy (we’ll call him Sam) that was very interested in dating me for quite some time & offered to help me get out of the relationship with Mark. I was reluctant but Sam promised that if I gave him a shot, he’d make sure Mark never bothered me again. I wasn’t really interested in Sam but I agreed & we had a 4 month fling. It too became toxic and I left Sam. But was grateful he got me away from Mark. Sometimes you need to burn a bridge down so you don’t cross it again. It wasn’t mature or right. But I entered a rebound for protection & safety to get me away from an angry alcoholic. I don’t regret it. It was a necessary evil that worked & at the time felt like my only way out.

  • @KarelChytilArt
    @KarelChytilArt 3 роки тому

    You are right

  • @TeresaJeanna
    @TeresaJeanna Рік тому

    Can you add "engaged" to your quiz?

  • @user-wr3gy7el2h
    @user-wr3gy7el2h 2 роки тому +1

    My avoidant ex never got together with anyone only for s-x and I am still broken 💔. Horrible situation all around. 2 years nothing =