The Narcissist typically mistreats the empath the most. Narcissist's wish to destroy the empath in every way possible to prove to themselves they are superior. This is bc they envy the empath/sees their value.
@@bugostare yes. The last person a narcissist wants to engage with is a genuine intellectual. The best weapon to use against the narcissist is by shattering their ego with passive aggressive, truthful, and undermining insults. The narcissist over-values their ego. Insult them with genuine criticism whenever you are feeling confident and they are weak.
@@CrzYbaDmutha2245 It didn't work. Not an intellectual here, but I Checkmated the Narc over and over, when his spiel didn't make sense. There never was an admittance, that I was right, only simmering, silent anger. They keep coming back and trying, with an attack on several fronts-- enter the Smear campaign, Flying Monkeys, Lies and ramping up looking for any flaws in you with a magnifying glass. Still the Best is to leave their vicinity if you can.
It's little like the saying, "When you can tell your storry and it doesn't make you cry, you know you have heald". ❤ Thank you Andrew, for helping me heal! 🙏🇸🇪
@@missbearlockholmes, it takes time honey, just as it should. It took me about 2 yers to understand he was a narcissist after over 25 years together! Healing will Come to you and the tears will dry. ❤️🙏 Just hang in there.
They think we’re so stupid. That’s why they’re so shocked when we leave. My ex husband couldn’t believe that I came up with the idea of divorcing him on my own 🥴 He kept saying that I was letting “my friends have too much influence on me”. I think that’s why they Hoover. Because they can’t fathom that we could’ve possibly been strong enough to walk away without someone else’s influence.
I get you. The delusion that they're better, smarter, stronger than you are, will be their own fog they'll have to find their way out of. They'll be bumping into cement walls on their efforts to find their way out and most likely, never will.
Seems like he was trying to bait you and gaslight you at the same time! Good on you for not letting him get away with it! They will paint the picture and play the victim any way they can!!
@@JHavaJoe2-m1zyou’re right, they never will find their way out! They don’t see a problem with themselves, it’s everyone else that needs fixing. What a sad state to be in.
The narcissist saw me shopping in my local town and started shouting and filming me. I gave no emotion or reaction and carried on walking. Starve a narcissist of the attention they crave and they either act like spoilt little monsters or start a rage fit. They are weak, pathetic and fake. Do not give them any of your time and attention once you discover what they are. 🙏
It took me a long time to figure out that the best and effective way to get ride of toxic people for good is to not give them the light of day. Plain and simple. They fear to be ignored. So that's what we need to do. And goodbye narcissits. Have a wonderful afternoon Andrew 😚🫶💜
Kinda like "Mommy Dearest," where the whole world loves their facade and behind closed doors, you're getting whacked with a ( metaphorical ) clothes hanger. Note: never meta phor I didn't like.🙂☕
So true! I recently learned what word salad is, haha. Now I hear the salad a lot when I listen to these types. Always beautiful speech but never quite making a point and then they finish talking and most people are just like wow! That was beautiful!! Hahah
@JHavaJoe2-m1z Yeah, that was a creepy one I forgot about. Gonna sing Mary had a little lamb to change the picture that just entered my brain! 🐑🐑🐑 Or perhaps this calls for going on demand & pulling up a Brady Bunch episode....thanks Joe lol ☕
IT TOOK SOME PRAYING AND DETERMINATION!! HOWEVER, I HAVE MOVED ON WITH NO CONTACT FOR OVER TWO YEARS!! 😅 I AM MOVING FORWARD AND FEELING MUCH BETTER!! 😂🎉 THANK YOU GOD!! ❤ Thx Drew 😂❤
My narc exhole married me to create a family. I wanted a husband and children. He wanted props to create the illusion of his "best life" as a responsible family man, a head of the household. It was all a game to him. Fast forward 30 years, he has no wife to be at his side in his declining years, and neither of our adult children are in contact with him. Even his own sister calls him a liar. For those of you who have stayed, rescue yourselves. Get out as soon as you can. It is not too late to live free of these emotional vampires.
This 100%! My ex-wife soon moved onto another guy, I feel sorry for him actually, he was of low status (it's true ... I'm not blowing my own trumpet but I was the best she could have done and has done in her life!), submissive personality and what you would call a beta orbiter. She obviously hoovered him. They were actually engaged ... and after a while I hear they had split up and he walked - he had a lucky escape! My ex is still circling around in the old behaviour patterns, like she is in her late 20s/30s .... when she's in her early 50s, it's so sad and depressing. However, I am totally indifferent and I thank God every single day for escaping from that relationship and healing and finding personal growth and actually forgiveness. I am the 3rd version of myself and look back at that curious time I was with her. Everyone - YOU ARE NOT ALONE. Grow, heal, read, develop your mind, keep your body physically active, eat healthy and reduce your bad habits, cut down on the drink, don't do ANY drugs, give up smoking, go for a walk/go to the gym/engage with nature. Heal and you will get there God bless you all and thank you Andrew!
The silent treatment gets comical. Reminds me of 5th grade. Thank you for reminding me regularly, "the narcissist does know what they are doing." Several lawyers literate in narcissistic abuse assert that the legal system favors narcissists, especially powerful, wealthy ones, regardless of gender.
Al anon 12 steps : keeping the focus on yourself and bring home healthy. The big differences are: Some one under influence of substances. The narcs are doing this stone cold sober. Yikes!😱
He wanted me to see a stable person, making me into the crazy one.. now, dragging out the divorce( and you are 💯 on dragging it out) he wants me to see him as the victim, and I’m the one who ruined his life..🤦♀️
Blames the victim is the oldest game in the book. Good for you! Don’t let him live rent free in your head! Stay Strong 💪 keep the focus on your goal and best of wishes 🙏💜💐
I'm in the same boat. Dragging out the divorce as if we're multi millionaires. The lawyers will win in the end, but if he wants me to get nothing, it will have to go both ways
@MuzzyWuzzy Sadly, I'm pretty sure that's what is left here. We are down to dividing up debt and whatever is in his little bit of retirement. He already necessitated me going through mine to cover the mortgage when he didn't feel like working last summer because I "wasn't working". I am a teacher, and I spent the summer getting ready to sell the house and move when he was busy not working in another state. 🙄
Like Andrew says ( listen to wisdom) "Cut the ties" that's the best advice. I'm remembering many years ago drowning in that cesspool of filth & abuse because the mask came off completedly. I had 2 little baby girls & my own family & sisters turned their back(they're narcs too I realize now). A complete stranger (Jesus Lady) helped me escape one day while he was at work. I had 3 plastic bags 1 for each of us ,myself & 2 babies full of whatever I could fit. Left everything behind. By the time he got out of work I was far far away in a safe home. I slept on the floor ,didn't know where I was, my daughters slept on loaned cribs & wore oversized clothes and hand me downs. I just had to get away. I was tempted to go back but I never did. I had no money He emptied my bank acct.& ruined my good credit) now I am in a much better place in my life & so like Andrew says "Cut the ties" whatever it takes you will heal & have peace of mind. No contact Peace Andrew thanks🙏🙏🙏💙💙💙🌄🌄🌄
I met mines when I was very young. Married him. Got a child. First cycle I didn’t know what was happening. I took the blame. Lying. Cheating and blaming. Being a victim. Cycle 2 on 2023. I learned about narcissists. Figured him out. Started recording his victimhood talks. Exposed him. Finally he left me alone. For now!
I've just filed for divorce, the exaggeration coming from him, to bait me is over the top. I refuse to respond and be his Narc feed. Life is so peaceful without his drama. Keep up he videos Andrew, it gives us empaths strength.
My solicitors are going through all that nonsense now with my ex-husband 8 years waiting to get divorced, so hopefully, the court date by the end of the month, manipulation of the kids is ripe, but they are older now so not so easy to manipulate so frustrating for him awww well
Thank you once again Andrew. You are such a blessing. 🌻 Just left the Narc 3 weeks ago after 24 years of marriage and going through exactly this. Really really really needed to hear this.🙏
This particular one has really hit home and given me a much needed kick up the backside, so thank you. 14 mins in - bam! 17.30 mins to 18.30 mins in - bam! You said exactly what I needed to hear, Andrew. Hit hard but so needed
I went no contact in January this year. This jerk is still getting his mail at my house. I have three claims with the post office and he does not give a crap. The mail just keeps coming… Also, I checked social media several times over the last few months, so so painful him and his new source just having the time of their life right now and it is so painful after almost 5 years you think someone could just have a little remorse for the rough relationship that we had.😢😢 thank you so much for your videos. They are truly so helpful and I know I’m not alone and again thank you.❤😮😢🎉❤
He,s not really having the time of his life, it's all an act and posted so you can see, it will all end the same way ! You need to watch some more vids maybe ✌️👍
Ps can you not put 'not known at this address return to sender' on the mail and keep posting back until the sender/post office gets the point, I did this with the previous person who lived at my new address and didnt change it to theirs.
@@lucius4556 absolutely! I’m newly at discovering this. I love the education. I’ll keep watching for sure and of course a big part of me knows he’ll never change so the new source is feeling the same pain. Thank you.
@@MsBrooklyn62 Thanks, I literally just did that this week!! Post office does nothing, right!! No Uhg. I’m pretty sure this will end it now!! Everything is such an uphill battle with narcs my gosh
The narc doesn’t want you to see he’s on a fishing expedition, a game to see how much he can manipulate you, he wants you to see the phony love mask. I had another narc nightmare last night. Having light💡 bulb moments, I believe of unresolved moments that have surfaced about the last few times I was with the narc and the level of involvement he was in with the new supply. The only reason I share this is, that 1 year and 1 month + no contact, this could happen to you. Resolve > and move forward. Never Accept a Hoover > why relive that nightmare again? If you have thoughts of accepting a hoover, make a phone appointment to talk to Andrew first. 💜 “My success is defined by what I make it.” ~ Nicole Biles 🌟
Hey Andrew... I broke no contact with my son after 2.5 years. He cried, lovebombed, bragged, didn't acknowledge anything from the past and after about a week of daily calls and texts, he came to Toronto and didn't even stop by or call me. I blocked him before he had the chance to attack, insult and devalue me. It's unfortunate because he's my only son, but I'll never go back to the hell he had me living in 3 years ago. I've become so strong that I no longer think about him. I wish him well.
You are very helpful. Check this out: About a year ago, my niece visited me (my narcissists daughter). During a conversation, she made sure to mention that her mother was living her best life. I could tell she had been versed. However, my reaction was to silently say, "I bet she is", because I know she can never be satisfied with anything in life. This is one of many reasons I could no longer have a relationship with her. God was with me when I dismissed her from my life, because I did not know about narcissism. I found your channel about six months ago, and then everything came together. Now, the missing link was found. I knew narcissism firsthand. So, whether she has new supply or is half dead, I don't care. There is absolutely nothing that will cause me to punish my loving self by being in her presence ever again, nor any of my siblings'. The end was the end for me, I'd done all I could, not even realizing I was being manipulated. I simply thought they were the biggest idiots that were ever created. If anyone is ever able to kick me to the curb after I have done so much for them, it will never be them, ever again. Thank you for your videos about this subject, every single video contains something I can relate to. I feel so sorry for anyone else who is going through the narcissistic fog (I learned that term from you!). Thanks always, Andrew.
That's a great way to describe it the Narcissistic fog. I rather take regular fog while driving on the road you can always pull over I think & do something but narcissistic fog you don't see & it could go on for years until eyes are opened 👀
Many thanks Andrew the world needs more altruistic people like you raising people up from the hell they are living with Narcs forever in you debt Sir for your wisdom
So very true. Thank you Andrew for your videos. They truly help. I'm highly sensitive and my Mum is a narcissist. She's been abusing me my whole life, I didn't know what narcissism was. I went no contact in january, best thing I ever done. It's scary and confusing but I don't have to deal with her anymore. Thank you for spreading the word about narcissism.
They want you to blame yourself for their foul lies and mistreatment of you. There is no peace with a narcissist and they will triangulate the hell out of you. Get out if there’s a chance or even create one if that works for you. 🌷
They love the game of showing you the devil but when anyone looking, they become an selfdepricating angel. If you can sever them from your life, DO IT NOW!!!
I was married to a narc for nearly thirteen years. She filed for divorce because she was unhappy. As we have children, I cannot go no-contact. However, I have gone minimal contact. I communicate with her only by text, as it allows me to keep a record of what she said. If we have to be together in person, I keep conversations to a bare minimum, and absolutely refuse to engage in any gaslighting or attempts at arguments. In those cases, I just go silent until she moves on to something else. I've learned that by doing this, I'm keeping the peace as well as saving my own inner peace.
thank you Andrew for doing what you do, trying to help people by sending out messages like this trying to save those who may be going through suffering at the hands of these people, i pray that they do hear & hopefuly move on to happier times. God bless you & thank you once again for doing what you do.
Andrew - I have found your videos so immensely helpful to my healing . I am however finding it challenging to move on from the person I fell in love with !! I know it was a mask but the emotions I felt for that fake person can’t be replaced !!! Is it just time ??? No one has a chance with me and I’m 55 so not a kid
Time and the Education .The later being the better and more powerful of the 2. Your emotions will re-align with the brain, eventually. Not true, if I make it sound easy--It may be one of the most difficult undertakings you've had to do in your life.
I love you. You're my big brother and I'm older than you. Lol. I am 68 years old and benefit from your lessons. God bless you and he has! Beautiful man.
Very glad to see you are safe from all the storm and its effects. You’ve encouraged us to put ourselves first second and third. Thank you for all the education to help us improve our lives. It does take time. I believe I’m still in process of healing. But making progress in my time. God bless you. Wishing everyone a safe and beautiful night. 🙏💖
Spot on as usual, Andrew. So hard to realize how I was lied to, manipulated, taken advantage of, taken for granted, made a fool of, etc. UGH! Have a good evening. ❤️🤗
I think they are dangerous people . The more I learn and understand the disgusting mindset and trap he deliberately put me in , and the devastation and shock after he left, and him relishing the fact that I was suffering and heart broken . What evil creature would deliberately destroy another. A dangerous mentality unstable person
Thanks so much Andrew for the info on Narcissist. I have followed you since I discovered your channel and we have journed. together. I have finally managed to leave the Narcissistic partner after 20 years of painful marriage. I made sure he came to an empty house the way he took virtually every thing I had.
you would think these people would just wanna live their life instead of focusing so much on being an arc it takes a lot of work to act like this. It feels like more work than going to work and paying your rent just so they can get free rent my gosh.😮
@@marieeakin8534 My Channel was slowing to a crawl and freezing. "I think" nearly 2 years of comments stored, that can't be batch erased easily... this new version of the online "me" works A--OK.
I have so much to say. But I just need to say thank you for putting these videos into the world. You have a different way understanding the abuse, and i realized today that i still have so much work to do for my recovery from narcissist abuses. My mom, my ex, my ex boss who fired me in a terrible way: they were all terrible for me to put my energy into. I'm scared to get a new job, but I am running out of money and i need to. I am going to be watching your videos in order to strengthen my soul again. Thank you ❤❤
Mine doesnt have a new primary supply....still.....9 years after I left. Only multiple strangers he uses and abuses for s*x, any age, any area....some he pays, some he doesnt pay, its an eternal string of new strangers who dont know about each other and who get blocked by him after he gets what he wants. He doesnt even regret losing his family unit for the second time (he was divorced when I met him) and it took all these years to realise he never valued the family unit....my child and I were simply a cover for him. So he could project an image of being a wholesome decent family man, while continuing to live the single life, while I 'thought' he and I were in a relationship. So demented and cruel to use people in a real life game without allowing me an option of being a player in the game. How could I have ever imagined I might actually be in a game?
@@BeTheLight624 It really is, and it dominates my thoughts a lot of the time. I cannot really comprehend that a person did this to me. That humans really do this. That its invisible to everybody else because of their evil sneaky tactics. That my kids dad is a subhuman specimen. That he hasnt even thought to apologise for any of it, but puts great efforts into hiding the real him and even raged at me many times for deciding to remove myself from his home. How does a human really expect the person they treat the worst to want to stay? I dont get that. To me, its very delusional.
And I didnt say in my original comment, but part of the game was pretending to care about building the family unit. My baby is his baby. Yes, he continues to prioritise his sordid lifestyle over us. And in addition, he charges for his 'services' with lesd prefferred bodies to help pay for the 'services' from his most preferred bodies. Hes 60. 2024. Melbourne.
They want you to see that you need them but its really a trap doorway because, once you walk in, that's when they can start to use you, until you are useless.
Bro 1.6 yes out, i am so peaceful...i support divorces men or women, guys your life is imp. No contact and stay bless an empath comez in your life...hugs love all empaths!❤
I’m newly out of a narc relationship and I’m still grieving. It’s nice that everyone is healing so well in the comments but I’m not there. I want him to talk to me again.
Exactly, the new supply figures them out and doesn’t want anything to do with them either… most of them I met since they are lazy and won’t work… have nothing or the bare minimum. They sure make it out that they work all the time, another lie.🙄
My step dad was a doctor...he would shout,slam doors,slam a chair on the ground all because he had to go and see a patient 'out of hours'....us kids would stay out the way until he had left,we weren't even that bothered because you get used to it,it becomes normal....it's NOT normal and it's very unhealthy.We tend to think oh that person is a doctor they must be a kind caring person,sadly this isn't always true. Take care of yourselves everyone on this channel, YOU matter and you always will ❤
Some in positions of higher social status sit more securely on their Thrones of Entitlement and Delusion. They are respected in the accomplishment , but folks forget, it's usually one focused field of expertise. They may be lacking in the general practice of "Not being an A-Hole."
My story, is with my brother.. I wanted to help him, as we both went with my dad after we where abused by my mom and her boyfriend and went to live with my dad. I saw him going to a bad road and he only got worse. I always tried to help him Eventually I stopped, but then he had a kid. I knew he needed help so I went back. Then my nephews mom abandoned him and I've been helping raise him for the past ten years. It's been very difficult. I've began to utilize greyrock but I'm left wit lh a lot of my own problems. Recently I had a good thing without him, but then I got pulled back in after my mom got divorced again. I need to heal and grow strong again, as a situation has developed where I have gained distance from him but he's still in my life. I can never break contact altogether. Really sucks. Hard not to be stuck in the past
I was unfortunate to fall in love with the narcissist. 3 months no contact. Still in shambles, but your videos have helped make me much better than I was three months ago.
You✨️💞speak the truth!!! It's just 😢, that 3 out 5 of my children, are Narcissist, like their decested father!!! They all drained me dry!!!😢😢😢I miss my children, but thanks for your steadfast information, I'm getting, a much better, life back!!! AND I have still have them on block 🚫,for my healing... 🙌 you ANDREW✨️💞 for helping to know, what I didn't know!!!⚘️💙MB
My nark ex refused to stop being overly kind and polite and refused to stop buying me gifts on occassions...stating that "the kids like it". It's bizzare behaviour. She wanted out ut yet she wants to be pals with me after she destroyed the family. I understand forgiveness...everyone has free will and respecting that forma that forgiveness But....doesnt mean I have to be her pal. If someone stabbed you in the face today do you go for beers tomorrow....
Never married but the friends ( of that relationship) gotta go too because they give information to the blocked.. I wonder how many drug addicts are victims of narc abuse? Numbing?
After the discard and demand for divorce, she then fought the very thing demand for over 4 1/2 years. Her attorney got "Covid" at least 3 times, always when we used leverage that he wasn't prepared for. No doctor's note required! Case continued. Getting abused by the legal process just add insult to injury, but we are close to crossing a major finish line (it will never be completely over, never 100% cancer-free, because of our kids and grandkids)
After we got married, he wanted his name on all of my accounts and my house. I looked at him and laughed. I told him that the house is not mine to give. The house belongs to the mortgage company. He was mad and took off.
" If I cut you off, it's because you gave me the scissors."
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@@lios583 That is so, so true! ❤️
@@lios583 genius metaphor
Well put!
Excellent! So true!
I love this saying
The Narcissist typically mistreats the empath the most. Narcissist's wish to destroy the empath in every way possible to prove to themselves they are superior. This is bc they envy the empath/sees their value.
And the funny thing is the narcissist will also effectively torment him/herself trying to corrupt you and fail repeatedly
@@bugostare yes. The last person a narcissist wants to engage with is a genuine intellectual. The best weapon to use against the narcissist is by shattering their ego with passive aggressive, truthful, and undermining insults. The narcissist over-values their ego. Insult them with genuine criticism whenever you are feeling confident and they are weak.
Thank you
@@CrzYbaDmutha2245 It didn't work. Not an intellectual here, but I Checkmated the Narc over and over, when his spiel didn't make sense. There never was an admittance, that I was right, only simmering, silent anger.
They keep coming back and trying, with an attack on several fronts-- enter the Smear campaign, Flying Monkeys, Lies and ramping up looking for any flaws in you with a magnifying glass. Still the Best is to leave
their vicinity if you can.
@@JHavaJoe2-m1z that's not what I meant. Of course. You're going to get easily gas lit if you "call them out" on their Narcissistic behavior.
It's little like the saying, "When you can tell your storry and it doesn't make you cry, you know you have heald". ❤ Thank you Andrew, for helping me heal! 🙏🇸🇪
Amen 👍💥❤
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I'm not there, yet. 😢
@@missbearlockholmes, it takes time honey, just as it should. It took me about 2 yers to understand he was a narcissist after over 25 years together! Healing will Come to you and the tears will dry. ❤️🙏 Just hang in there.
Exactly right I definitely can't cry anymore 15 years of bs I I'm so over him think God the worst is over More at peace 😊😊
Yes. Give them nothing, ever again!
They think we’re so stupid. That’s why they’re so shocked when we leave. My ex husband couldn’t believe that I came up with the idea of divorcing him on my own 🥴 He kept saying that I was letting “my friends have too much influence on me”. I think that’s why they Hoover. Because they can’t fathom that we could’ve possibly been strong enough to walk away without someone else’s influence.
I get you. The delusion that they're better, smarter, stronger than you are, will be their own fog they'll have to find their way out of. They'll be bumping into cement walls on their efforts to find their way out and most likely, never will.
I tell my hubby,you behave as if I have no brain cells of my own...
Seems like he was trying to bait you and gaslight you at the same time! Good on you for not letting him get away with it! They will paint the picture and play the victim any way they can!!
@@JHavaJoe2-m1zyou’re right, they never will find their way out! They don’t see a problem with themselves, it’s everyone else that needs fixing. What a sad state to be in.
@@MattyNelson-rs3ikThey think they’re the smartest person in the room! We’re just a bunch of lowly fools in their eyes.
The narcissist saw me shopping in my local town and started shouting and filming me. I gave no emotion or reaction and carried on walking. Starve a narcissist of the attention they crave and they either act like spoilt little monsters or start a rage fit. They are weak, pathetic and fake. Do not give them any of your time and attention once you discover what they are. 🙏
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Solid! Basically it!👍
It took me a long time to figure out that the best and effective way to get ride of toxic people for good is to not give them the light of day. Plain and simple. They fear to be ignored. So that's what we need to do. And goodbye narcissits. Have a wonderful afternoon Andrew 😚🫶💜
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Like thieves, if you're not an easy target, they give up very quickly.
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@@bugostare right 😉👍
@@marieeakin8534 Hi Marie 🫡💞
They want to appear as an angel of light.. but in reality they're a dark force that somewhere made a deal with the devil.
Be Well, Be Wise 🌈🎀😘
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So true. The one I knew loves to scatter Bible verses everywhere, as in comments he posted online. Deception
Kinda like "Mommy Dearest," where the whole world loves their facade and behind closed doors, you're
getting whacked with a ( metaphorical ) clothes hanger. Note: never meta phor I didn't like.🙂☕
So true! I recently learned what word salad is, haha. Now I hear the salad a lot when I listen to these types. Always beautiful speech but never quite making a point and then they finish talking and most people are just like wow! That was beautiful!! Hahah
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Yeah, that was a creepy one I forgot about.
Gonna sing Mary had a little lamb to change the picture that just entered my brain! 🐑🐑🐑
Or perhaps this calls for going on demand & pulling up a Brady Bunch episode....thanks Joe lol ☕
You are a beautiful soul Andrew.
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IT TOOK SOME PRAYING AND DETERMINATION!! HOWEVER, I HAVE MOVED ON WITH NO CONTACT FOR OVER TWO YEARS!! 😅 I AM MOVING FORWARD AND FEELING MUCH BETTER!! 😂🎉 THANK YOU GOD!! ❤ Thx Drew 😂❤
My narc exhole married me to create a family. I wanted a husband and children. He wanted props to create the illusion of his "best life" as a responsible family man, a head of the household.
It was all a game to him. Fast forward 30 years, he has no wife to be at his side in his declining years, and neither of our adult children are in contact with him. Even his own sister calls him a liar.
For those of you who have stayed, rescue yourselves. Get out as soon as you can. It is not too late to live free of these emotional vampires.
Exhole is my new favorite word. 😂
Thank you for sharing your story, and I'm sorry you've had to go through it, too. ❤
You are so right about how chllenging it is to break a trauma bond like this - so many people have no idea and sadly blame the victim.
100% TRUTH 💪❤️
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This 100%!
My ex-wife soon moved onto another guy, I feel sorry for him actually, he was of low status (it's true ... I'm not blowing my own trumpet but I was the best she could have done and has done in her life!), submissive personality and what you would call a beta orbiter. She obviously hoovered him. They were actually engaged ... and after a while I hear they had split up and he walked - he had a lucky escape!
My ex is still circling around in the old behaviour patterns, like she is in her late 20s/30s .... when she's in her early 50s, it's so sad and depressing.
However, I am totally indifferent and I thank God every single day for escaping from that relationship and healing and finding personal growth and actually forgiveness. I am the 3rd version of myself and look back at that curious time I was with her.
Everyone - YOU ARE NOT ALONE. Grow, heal, read, develop your mind, keep your body physically active, eat healthy and reduce your bad habits, cut down on the drink, don't do ANY drugs, give up smoking, go for a walk/go to the gym/engage with nature.
Heal and you will get there
God bless you all and thank you Andrew!
Really happy for you
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I was with the Narc a short time, but it took a lot out of me, I can only imagine if it was a longer time. Thank you, Andrew.
Welcome..🙏💜😌
Thanks, Andrew. I hope you are safe from the storm.
It is so much nicer when the narcissist is in the past.
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone Thanks.
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlonebro..come down to India will take u around
The silent treatment gets comical. Reminds me of 5th grade.
Thank you for reminding me regularly, "the narcissist does know what they are doing."
Several lawyers literate in narcissistic abuse assert that the legal system favors narcissists, especially powerful, wealthy ones, regardless of gender.
Love and thanksgiving to you Andrew for caring for we empaths 😘🐑
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Oh so true. They only care about their self. Great video.😊❤🙏
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Your welcome🙏❤️
Still looks calm there. Stay safe in the upcoming days, and Nelson and Nola too. ❤️🙏🐶🐶
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We need a 12-step program for narcissistic abuse survivors.
Thank you for this video. 🙏♥️
Al anon 12 steps : keeping the focus on yourself and bring home healthy. The big differences are: Some one under influence of substances. The narcs are doing this stone cold sober. Yikes!😱
We need to have a support group. I would pay a weekly fee for us to meet up online. In person is the winning best but we are in a big country.
Here are 12bsteps! NO Contact!
Hi Andrew, watching this video from the comfort of my cocoon of boundaries, and reaffirming no contact no contact no contact. Namaste as always 🕊️
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He wanted me to see a stable person, making me into the crazy one.. now, dragging out the divorce( and you are 💯 on dragging it out) he wants me to see him as the victim, and I’m the one who ruined his life..🤦♀️
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Blames the victim is the oldest game in the book. Good for you! Don’t let him live rent free in your head! Stay Strong 💪 keep the focus on your goal and best of wishes 🙏💜💐
I'm in the same boat. Dragging out the divorce as if we're multi millionaires. The lawyers will win in the end, but if he wants me to get nothing, it will have to go both ways
@MuzzyWuzzy Sadly, I'm pretty sure that's what is left here. We are down to dividing up debt and whatever is in his little bit of retirement. He already necessitated me going through mine to cover the mortgage when he didn't feel like working last summer because I "wasn't working". I am a teacher, and I spent the summer getting ready to sell the house and move when he was busy not working in another state. 🙄
Like Andrew says ( listen to wisdom) "Cut the ties" that's the best advice. I'm remembering many years ago drowning in that cesspool of filth & abuse because the mask came off completedly. I had 2 little baby girls & my own family & sisters turned their back(they're narcs too I realize now). A complete stranger (Jesus Lady) helped me escape one day while he was at work. I had 3 plastic bags 1 for each of us ,myself & 2 babies full of whatever I could fit. Left everything behind. By the time he got out of work I was far far away in a safe home. I slept on the floor ,didn't know where I was, my daughters slept on loaned cribs & wore oversized clothes and hand me downs. I just had to get away. I was tempted to go back but I never did. I had no money He emptied my bank acct.& ruined my good credit) now I am in a much better place in my life & so like Andrew says "Cut the ties" whatever it takes you will heal & have peace of mind. No contact Peace Andrew thanks🙏🙏🙏💙💙💙🌄🌄🌄
Best of wishes and prayers to you and your daughters. Keep yourself and daughters safe from evil doer. For the Grace of God there goes you! 🙏💜💐
I am so sorry you had that experience. Mine was destroyed by credit score, too, but I got it back, onwards and upwards
I met mines when I was very young. Married him. Got a child. First cycle I didn’t know what was happening. I took the blame. Lying. Cheating and blaming. Being a victim. Cycle 2 on 2023. I learned about narcissists. Figured him out. Started recording his victimhood talks. Exposed him. Finally he left me alone. For now!
Make it a forever choice, IT'S YOUR LIFE
Love fahima divorce him.move on
Thank you for your tenderness always Andrew💜🙏❤️
I've just filed for divorce, the exaggeration coming from him, to bait me is over the top. I refuse to respond and be his Narc feed. Life is so peaceful without his drama. Keep up he videos Andrew, it gives us empaths strength.
I am your sister ..divorce pending hope everything goes well for you
My solicitors are going through all that nonsense now with my ex-husband 8 years waiting to get divorced, so hopefully, the court date by the end of the month, manipulation of the kids is ripe, but they are older now so not so easy to manipulate so frustrating for him awww well
Thank you once again Andrew. You are such a blessing. 🌻 Just left the Narc 3 weeks ago after 24 years of marriage and going through exactly this. Really really really needed to hear this.🙏
Prayers 🙏🏽
This particular one has really hit home and given me a much needed kick up the backside, so thank you. 14 mins in - bam! 17.30 mins to 18.30 mins in - bam! You said exactly what I needed to hear, Andrew. Hit hard but so needed
THIS Your Best Narc-Decorder Talk Of All Time.
ALL SO TRUE IN DETAIL. APPRECIATE YOUR HARDWORK!
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I went no contact in January this year. This jerk is still getting his mail at my house. I have three claims with the post office and he does not give a crap. The mail just keeps coming… Also, I checked social media several times over the last few months, so so painful him and his new source just having the time of their life right now and it is so painful after almost 5 years you think someone could just have a little remorse for the rough relationship that we had.😢😢 thank you so much for your videos. They are truly so helpful and I know I’m not alone and again thank you.❤😮😢🎉❤
I'm having to send out form letters to whoever sends my narc mail to my house. The post office is no help.
He,s not really having the time of his life, it's all an act and posted so you can see, it will all end the same way ! You need to watch some more vids maybe ✌️👍
Ps can you not put 'not known at this address return to sender' on the mail and keep posting back until the sender/post office gets the point, I did this with the previous person who lived at my new address and didnt change it to theirs.
@@lucius4556 absolutely! I’m newly at discovering this. I love the education. I’ll keep watching for sure and of course a big part of me knows he’ll never change so the new source is feeling the same pain. Thank you.
@@MsBrooklyn62 Thanks, I literally just did that this week!! Post office does nothing, right!! No Uhg. I’m pretty sure this will end it now!! Everything is such an uphill battle with narcs my gosh
The narc doesn’t want you to see he’s on a fishing expedition, a game to see how much he can manipulate you, he wants you to see the phony love mask. I had another narc nightmare last night. Having light💡 bulb moments, I believe of unresolved moments that have surfaced about the last few times I was with the narc and the level of involvement he was in with the new supply. The only reason I share this is, that 1 year and 1 month + no contact, this could happen to you. Resolve > and move forward.
Never Accept a Hoover > why relive that nightmare again? If you have thoughts of accepting a hoover, make a phone appointment to talk to Andrew first. 💜
“My success is defined by what I make it.” ~ Nicole Biles 🌟
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Run to the hills from the narcissists 👿😡😠. The narcissists ruin people's lives. Persevering in Prayers Psalms 1-150🇯🇲👑🙏😇👋
Hey Andrew... I broke no contact with my son after 2.5 years. He cried, lovebombed, bragged, didn't acknowledge anything from the past and after about a week of daily calls and texts, he came to Toronto and didn't even stop by or call me. I blocked him before he had the chance to attack, insult and devalue me. It's unfortunate because he's my only son, but I'll never go back to the hell he had me living in 3 years ago. I've become so strong that I no longer think about him. I wish him well.
You are very helpful. Check this out: About a year ago, my niece visited me (my narcissists daughter). During a conversation, she made sure to mention that her mother was living her best life. I could tell she had been versed. However, my reaction was to silently say, "I bet she is", because I know she can never be satisfied with anything in life. This is one of many reasons I could no longer have a relationship with her. God was with me when I dismissed her from my life, because I did not know about narcissism. I found your channel about six months ago, and then everything came together. Now, the missing link was found. I knew narcissism firsthand. So, whether she has new supply or is half dead, I don't care. There is absolutely nothing that will cause me to punish my loving self by being in her presence ever again, nor any of my siblings'. The end was the end for me, I'd done all I could, not even realizing I was being manipulated. I simply thought they were the biggest idiots that were ever created. If anyone is ever able to kick me to the curb after I have done so much for them, it will never be them, ever again. Thank you for your videos about this subject, every single video contains something I can relate to. I feel so sorry for anyone else who is going through the narcissistic fog (I learned that term from you!). Thanks always, Andrew.
That's a great way to describe it the Narcissistic fog. I rather take regular fog while driving on the road you can always pull over I think & do something but narcissistic fog you don't see & it could go on for years until eyes are opened 👀
Many thanks Andrew the world needs more altruistic people like you raising people up from the hell they are living with Narcs forever in you debt Sir for your wisdom
So very true. Thank you Andrew for your videos. They truly help. I'm highly sensitive and my Mum is a narcissist. She's been abusing me my whole life, I didn't know what narcissism was. I went no contact in january, best thing I ever done. It's scary and confusing but I don't have to deal with her anymore. Thank you for spreading the word about narcissism.
THANK UUUUU ANDREW!!!!! This is one of my favorite vids u made so far HE IS BLOCKED 👍🏽💯
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Hi Jennifer!!🙃👍
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Thank you so much Andrew for all of the healing support!
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They want you to blame yourself for their foul lies and mistreatment of you. There is no peace with a narcissist and they will triangulate the hell out of you. Get out if there’s a chance or even create one if that works for you. 🌷
gracias andrew yes they only care about one person it's themselves
They love the game of showing you the devil but when anyone looking, they become an selfdepricating angel. If you can sever them from your life, DO IT NOW!!!
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Exactly
They are the devil.
Don't forget he is the greatest deceiver.
Devil's advocate
Bible says they need at least 3 exorcisms.
@@BobbyRomo-u3j verse??
I was married to a narc for nearly thirteen years. She filed for divorce because she was unhappy. As we have children, I cannot go no-contact. However, I have gone minimal contact. I communicate with her only by text, as it allows me to keep a record of what she said. If we have to be together in person, I keep conversations to a bare minimum, and absolutely refuse to engage in any gaslighting or attempts at arguments. In those cases, I just go silent until she moves on to something else. I've learned that by doing this, I'm keeping the peace as well as saving my own inner peace.
Thank you for pulling me up Andrew
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thank you Andrew for doing what you do, trying to help people by sending out messages like this trying to save those who may be going through suffering at the hands of these people, i pray that they do hear & hopefuly move on to happier times. God bless you & thank you once again for doing what you do.
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Keep the videos coming I love them and you have helped me to sort out my situation thank you ❤
Your videos are amazing….. thank you. Damn so many years without this understanding…..
Andrew, you are an angel ❤Thank you!
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Andrew - I have found your videos so immensely helpful to my healing . I am however finding it challenging to move on from the person I fell in love with !! I know it was a mask but the emotions I felt for that fake person can’t be replaced !!! Is it just time ??? No one has a chance with me and I’m 55 so not a kid
Time and the Education .The later being the better and more powerful of the 2. Your emotions will re-align with the
brain, eventually. Not true, if I make it sound easy--It may be one of the most difficult undertakings you've had to do
in your life.
I love you. You're my big brother and I'm older than you. Lol. I am 68 years old and benefit from your lessons. God bless you and he has! Beautiful man.
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Very glad to see you are safe from all the storm and its effects. You’ve encouraged us to put ourselves first second and third. Thank you for all the education to help us improve our lives. It does take time. I believe I’m still in process of healing. But making progress in my time. God bless you. Wishing everyone a safe and beautiful night. 🙏💖
Spot on as usual, Andrew. So hard to realize how I was lied to, manipulated, taken advantage of, taken for granted, made a fool of, etc. UGH! Have a good evening. ❤️🤗
I think they are dangerous people . The more I learn and understand the disgusting mindset and trap he deliberately put me in , and the devastation and shock after he left, and him relishing the fact that I was suffering and heart broken . What evil creature would deliberately destroy another. A dangerous mentality unstable person
Yes….
That same thing happened to me. It's devastating. I hope you feel better soon.
Thanks so much Andrew for the info on Narcissist. I have followed you since I discovered your channel and we have journed. together. I have finally managed to leave the Narcissistic partner after 20 years of painful marriage. I made sure he came to an empty house the way he took virtually every thing I had.
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you would think these people would just wanna live their life instead of focusing so much on being an arc it takes a lot of work to act like this. It feels like more work than going to work and paying your rent just so they can get free rent my gosh.😮
Thanks Andrew! I SEE them clearly now.👁 Namaste.🙏
I SEE that you changed your contact info....gonna have to change up my brain 🤕☕
@@marieeakin8534 My Channel was slowing to a crawl and freezing. "I think" nearly 2 years of comments
stored, that can't be batch erased easily... this new version of the online "me" works A--OK.
This little lamb 🐑 is a Mommy Dearest eraser, sending it over just because. 👍❤☕
@@marieeakin8534 Hohoho! Needed chuckle for the evening!😆👍☕
Andy thank you thank you thank you thank you I love you too man
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I have so much to say. But I just need to say thank you for putting these videos into the world. You have a different way understanding the abuse, and i realized today that i still have so much work to do for my recovery from narcissist abuses. My mom, my ex, my ex boss who fired me in a terrible way: they were all terrible for me to put my energy into. I'm scared to get a new job, but I am running out of money and i need to. I am going to be watching your videos in order to strengthen my soul again. Thank you ❤❤
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Mine doesnt have a new primary supply....still.....9 years after I left. Only multiple strangers he uses and abuses for s*x, any age, any area....some he pays, some he doesnt pay, its an eternal string of new strangers who dont know about each other and who get blocked by him after he gets what he wants. He doesnt even regret losing his family unit for the second time (he was divorced when I met him) and it took all these years to realise he never valued the family unit....my child and I were simply a cover for him. So he could project an image of being a wholesome decent family man, while continuing to live the single life, while I 'thought' he and I were in a relationship. So demented and cruel to use people in a real life game without allowing me an option of being a player in the game. How could I have ever imagined I might actually be in a game?
That is the ultimate cruelty and one of the ultimate sins.
@@BeTheLight624 It really is, and it dominates my thoughts a lot of the time. I cannot really comprehend that a person did this to me. That humans really do this. That its invisible to everybody else because of their evil sneaky tactics. That my kids dad is a subhuman specimen. That he hasnt even thought to apologise for any of it, but puts great efforts into hiding the real him and even raged at me many times for deciding to remove myself from his home. How does a human really expect the person they treat the worst to want to stay? I dont get that. To me, its very delusional.
And I didnt say in my original comment, but part of the game was pretending to care about building the family unit. My baby is his baby. Yes, he continues to prioritise his sordid lifestyle over us. And in addition, he charges for his 'services' with lesd prefferred bodies to help pay for the 'services' from his most preferred bodies. Hes 60. 2024. Melbourne.
They want you to see that you need them but its really a trap doorway because, once you walk in, that's when they can start to use you, until you are useless.
Bro 1.6 yes out, i am so peaceful...i support divorces men or women, guys your life is imp. No contact and stay bless an empath comez in your life...hugs love all empaths!❤
I’m newly out of a narc relationship and I’m still grieving. It’s nice that everyone is healing so well in the comments but I’m not there. I want him to talk to me again.
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Exactly, the new supply figures them out and doesn’t want anything to do with them either… most of them I met since they are lazy and won’t work… have nothing or the bare minimum. They sure make it out that they work all the time, another lie.🙄
Thank you Andrew Great force needed .
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❤thank you❤Namaste
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Ty Andrew ❤
Have a great day andrew!
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Amen 🙏 🌹
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My step dad was a doctor...he would shout,slam doors,slam a chair on the ground all because he had to go and see a patient 'out of hours'....us kids would stay out the way until he had left,we weren't even that bothered because you get used to it,it becomes normal....it's NOT normal and it's very unhealthy.We tend to think oh that person is a doctor they must be a kind caring person,sadly this isn't always true. Take care of yourselves everyone on this channel, YOU matter and you always will ❤
Some in positions of higher social status sit more securely on their Thrones of Entitlement and Delusion.
They are respected in the accomplishment , but folks forget, it's usually one focused field of expertise.
They may be lacking in the general practice of "Not being an A-Hole."
Thanks Andrew.
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Such a helpful video. 💜💜💜💜 Sever connections to narcs even parents.
IGNORE, IGNORE, DELETE, DELETE, BLOCK, BLOCK, WHO, WHO. Can you see my back as I walk away???
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I been no contact for over a year, calling to test my temperature.
Agreed with both previous comments on good day and 🙏
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I removed myself from social media and have a scenic picture on my messenger. Don't look at theirs, it will set you back.
Andrew you are Awesome man
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To the mountain 🏔️ top of indifference! 🥾🥰
My story, is with my brother..
I wanted to help him, as we both went with my dad after we where abused by my mom and her boyfriend and went to live with my dad. I saw him going to a bad road and he only got worse. I always tried to help him
Eventually I stopped, but then he had a kid. I knew he needed help so I went back.
Then my nephews mom abandoned him and I've been helping raise him for the past ten years.
It's been very difficult.
I've began to utilize greyrock but I'm left wit lh a lot of my own problems.
Recently I had a good thing without him, but then I got pulled back in after my mom got divorced again.
I need to heal and grow strong again, as a situation has developed where I have gained distance from him but he's still in my life.
I can never break contact altogether. Really sucks. Hard not to be stuck in the past
Thank you. We will get two welcomed cool days. Yeah! Everyone stay strong and sane.❣️
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Thank you brother❤❤❤thank you God for everything🙏🙏🙏
“The moment that you start to wonder if you deserve better, you do.” Unknown
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Yes thank you for your support for the information about your information 👍
I was unfortunate to fall in love with the narcissist. 3 months no contact. Still in shambles, but your videos have helped make me much better than I was three months ago.
Ty.
we love you too
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You✨️💞speak the truth!!! It's just 😢, that 3 out 5 of my children, are Narcissist, like their decested father!!! They all drained me dry!!!😢😢😢I miss my children, but thanks for your steadfast information, I'm getting, a much better, life back!!! AND I have still have them on block 🚫,for my healing... 🙌 you ANDREW✨️💞 for helping to know, what I didn't know!!!⚘️💙MB
After discard and devaluation
I dont care what they think unless my bullying destroys their hope
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Thank You Jesus I got out
Perfect timing for this title
Thank you!! 💚
Thanks for your information Andrew, and have a good Day 😉👍
Thank you Jesus.🤍
I just ran into him at Wawa and he said to tell you you're welcome. He was buying a Coke and I was getting a Turkey sandwich
Excellent podcast, Good looking man… Continue to help many as you have……..
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My nark ex refused to stop being overly kind and polite and refused to stop buying me gifts on occassions...stating that "the kids like it".
It's bizzare behaviour. She wanted out ut yet she wants to be pals with me after she destroyed the family.
I understand forgiveness...everyone has free will and respecting that forma that forgiveness
But....doesnt mean I have to be her pal.
If someone stabbed you in the face today do you go for beers tomorrow....
Never married but the friends ( of that relationship) gotta go too because they give information to the blocked..
I wonder how many drug addicts are victims of narc abuse? Numbing?
Why is it after being with a Narcaasist I now question all the random people I see in everyday life are the same
Thank you please keep pulling us up the mountain. It is greatly appreciated❤️🩹 ⛰️
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After the discard and demand for divorce, she then fought the very thing demand for over 4 1/2 years. Her attorney got "Covid" at least 3 times, always when we used leverage that he wasn't prepared for. No doctor's note required! Case continued. Getting abused by the legal process just add insult to injury, but we are close to crossing a major finish line (it will never be completely over, never 100% cancer-free, because of our kids and grandkids)
❤Thank you Andrew ❤
After we got married, he wanted his name on all of my accounts and my house. I looked at him and laughed. I told him that the house is not mine to give. The house belongs to the mortgage company. He was mad and took off.
Like a brother, Andrew is there for us every day! Thank you so much!!
Narcissist??
Andrew: NO. NO. NO. NO!!!
Totally agree
Yes. Wonderful!