The Truth Of Social Bonds That FEED You VS SUCK YOU DRY - 4 Day Self Help Revealed (2 of 6)
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52:00 He shut that dork down. "This is not related to our topic, learn to go with the vibe. Have a seat. Thanks." That was beautiful lol
A lot of brutally embarrassing and raw stories in this one, that hopefully you will learn from. This is a lot of stories and analogies, and then at the event we go really deep into YOUR life and have you sort through this. I found it to be so effective in building energy and cultivating the direction that your life is really going to go. Had I known about this year ago my life would be very very different than it is now, and this was probably my single biggest failing. So I can speak and teach passionately on it -Tyler
This is pure gold. Feels like a next level Blueprint: Decoded. :)
I read a while ago in david deangelos e book, at the start,I want to help people, but some peopleu see, no matter ho much u try to help them, they wont accept the help, so I wont help some people, its not verbatim, but he said that at the start of his e book, I forgot which one
Thank you, Tyler!!! Your videos are such a blessing. I watch and take notes every time. you speak my language like better than anyone. I'm so greatful for everything you do!
@rsdfreetour Do a collaboration with Michael Bernoff! Very simular work
Nice video man. Congratulations
"The paradox is that when you accept yourself... you change"
GOLD BOMB
Great quote
Tyler is one of the very, very few men I really admire in this world.
Get ur test levels checked
There are better puas
But tyler is huge at speacking, he is a movie
Fabrício Santana yes same!
-Are you a 10% version of yourself? My guess is you are probably less.
-Thanks bro!
ur mommy gonna say u r 100 dont worry
@@vlvl7104 LMAO
its okay, now you have A. D.
Perfect, now you have a problem you didn't even know existed.
Sales 💯.
I love RSD and did a lot for me but I'm not into the self help path. Watch Dan Pena what he says about self help
Nofap helps with presence.
NOFAP - more energy to make cash,
to unleash genius, fast.
(Better relationships by having more strenght to deal with them, ideas, inner strenght, verbal confidence etc.)
Channel the Power of Nofap by doing squats for example, without weight, then a little, just for health dont have to go too heavy.😁
Beautiful video, man!!! 🙏
🤘
Boy this was an extremely difficult video to get through. Not because it was bad, but because it hit in extremely vulnerable places. The first hour is pure gold that I ask every single individual in game to watch. It will save you years upon years of bad heartbreaks, ignoring your purpose, and time you can't get back. Please guys. Don't end up like me and skip out on medical school for someone who never appreciated shit and gets caught cheating. Learn from what Tyler is teaching us. Invest in your fucking self.
The real Tyler is back! I can sense the presence in this video!
1:19:40 "Your self love empties out and they're topping it off." This analogy is so perfect its crazy. I was in a relationship where by the end of it, I hated myself so much and had so little self respect that I needed her to stay to justify my existence. She was the only thing that validated my own life." Really cool talk Owen.
This man's insight & ability to explain it all is just unreal.
Everytime i watch an RSD video I get a feeling that im part of a mission thats larger than life. Never fails to boost my momentum where ever I am. True Value, true heaven
Very enlightening, I wish I would’ve heard this at age 18 instead of 38
Haha... I'm actually 18
I wish my dad could have heard those at 38 but he never did and now he's 75
37 years here bro
Better late then never you know
Lol
Im
19
A clear and thorough understanding of such level makes him simply genuine
Massive respect 🙏🏼
I love what Tyler does. This is so much more valuable than just pickup alone. Its amazing. You are helping Men. Thank You.
Wow, this was eye opening for me. I am definitely codependent but I haven’t been able to articulate it until you and the rest of the guys in this video did it for me. I felt this on a very deep and honestly very emotionally painful level. Between my parents “trying there best” and growing up with a sister who always leaned more towards narcissism. I did everything I can chasing love and validation trying to please my parents and get my sister’s approval growing up.
My quick take on narcissistic behavior as I have experienced: They will gaslight you in situations, to where ALL the blame falls on you and you WILL believe it IS ALL your fault. They will GUILT TRIP you and play victim if you set up BOUNDARIES and pin you as the bad guy, to the people around you completely taking your voice and ability to speak out against them. All of this can eat away like a parasite at your self esteem, and completely shatter the person you are.
I have doubled down(more like quadrupled down) horribly in my past relationships with people, and set no sense of boundaries whatsoever. DO NOT do this, you will lose all sense of yourself and who you can be as you drip every lost drop of yourself into a bottomless pit.
On a positive note, I have made many strides and continually find myself in a better and more grateful space. I speak on behalf of many when I say, thank you for the content.
Also having the people who attended the event come up on stage and speak their piece shows the sincere comradery and respect you have for the people you teach and everyone in general. There is a real brotherhood there that you built, you can see the love through this video, so maybe you did something right Owen hahaha. :)
TL;DR I appreciate this content.
This guy is like a goddamn modern day Socrates. TV and social media is the root cause of anxiety. The only way out is philosophical enlightenment baby I ain't lyin.
Whenever I listen to Tyler I shake my head over the years I’ve wasted. It’s so stupid simple I can’t believe it...
Thank you so much Tyler. Higher power moves you.
Who's down to start a 2-4 people mastermind?
@@pponcho8245 I am ;)
@@anissweb do you have instagram? Search me up @cgalve01
I have been watching Owen's videos for about 5-6 years, and this is quite possibly the best/most valuable video he's ever made. This stuff will massively massively help you in your life if you apply it.
I really miss the storytelling and jokes kind of talks you used to give.. glad to see some of it back in this one ! I can really relate to this subject tho.. the girl im dating lately is really testing the boundaries that i've built in these last years of inner work, this is definately the key to good interdependent relationships and true confidence !
I dont know your situation and either of you and you havent asked for help but i was in a similar situation doubting my inner work boundaries for a girl and now a year 10 months after i am here on UA-cam trying to help myself make sense of what happened to me. And i dont want someone go through this.
I really suggest take some time off the relationship. FIND yourself first. Find what you want in a relationship and if there is congruence in what you want and what you end up going for. Once you give yourself enough, once you are full of self love then you'll see clearly if that person belongs in your life or no.
The 9 dislikes are accounts made by Ronald.
ahahahahaha
Lol - Tyler
ive always heard Tai say to double down on yourself, but this helped me understand it deeper. thanks!
Very important subject. You really don't want to be the person that gets taken advantage of for being nice. So much heartbreak and resentment that goes along with it. We all know that can lead to a dark path of bitterness. It's good to learn from it and improve! You'll earn respect from people by setting boundaries, and the ones that get pissed off or don't like you afterwards tsk jokes on them. You're doing them a favor for making them look into themselves so they can improve but if they don't it's not your job to fix it for them.
“The Kingdom of God is Within You.” Owen, you’re not only making people’s life better (including mine), but you’re giving them consciousness. Like quiet literally. Free Will, Self, The Light, Love, all of that. Thank you
30:36 we always remember the ones that we gave everything we have and they couldn't see it... And we CRAVE that approval... Yes!! This is me in business. Thank you. I have learned how to give up on people and double down on myself. Thank you for this
I totally resonate with this. My mother’s a covert narcissist. I’m a codependent. I didn’t know Owen is codependent too. I’ve gone no contact with my mother a few months ago, it’s like I had been hypnotized by her my whole life, I was like a puppy controlled by her pathetic terrified ego. She used me to make up the hole that was torn up by her father when she was a child. I’ve finally start to heal myself and develop self love for myself.
This reminds me of good old blueprint days. Except Owens longer hair.
hahaha so true
this get weirdly spot on in the 2nd half. worth more than 1 listen to.
I used to watch your content 10 years ago, you got the best information on the internet I need to learn from you
About an hour in , I can hear Owen going deep and getting passionate in a way I haven’t heard in a couple years . This is the Owen I love listening to .
Damn, thank you Owen. An hour into the video and your business rant resonates and shows me my mistakes so clearly it’s becoming the saddest video for me from you but im glad it is! I’m so thankful you’ve had the courage to not only share your problems with the attendees but put it out on youtube for free. Wishing you to sort it out for yourself bro! ✊🏼
Fantastic man! Yes I'm happy talking about this stuff because I feel I've solved 90% of it -Tyler
One of the most important thing I realised in my life is "There's always an other side of the coin"
So true.
Double down on yourself! Then you will be able to offer more value, and just have better experiences in general. Thanks Owen!
1) "Give people who disrespect you, unpreciate you the permanent gift of missing you."
2) The perfect an
alogy is a guy who comes with a sword. you can either surrender, fight back with your sword, or put a shield.
If you figth back you could loose energy, and will keep sucking you out. Instead use a shield and dont waste any energy on them.
So the sword would be a verbal argument, like an implication that you are stupid, or whatver, something that makes you look inferior to them. If you counter attack that would cost you energy, and you can pottentially loose. And in most cases if you ar the codependent, you are already loosing, so chances are you are going to keep loosing. Instead use a shiel, put up a boundary, to cover their attack with out spending much energy.Asking them to change their behaviour with you, calling their attention on what they are doing, or just telling them to stop bothering you. Over time they will cease to attack because they will realize that every time they attack you they cant get you any more, so they would pottentially look for a better victim to feed their ego.
3) get out of this relationship, and dont talk more about that people with your new friends. Erase that memory from your present moment, dont give it more power by bringing it to the present because that will attract this dynamic in your new interactions. Chances are people are going to get that if the other abuse you, then you must be abusable. And they might be jerks that treat you respectfully, but as soon as they catch that you are an easy target they are going to get on the track of draining energy out of you. Only talk about that people which one you feel powerful being with, and that empower you.
Love some of the students that came up and talked they seemed very self reflective , like they were different men along time ago and now they've been growing into Great world serving humans! Beautiful
Owen you are a positive force for mankind, you are needed. Protect him, blessings
I probably said this before but this is the best I’ve seen of you Tyler. Completely connected when you talked about doubling down and I’ll be honest, sometimes it’s soo hard to just not simply say no or see that this person isn’t going to get it by continuing being negative.
Really helped me be more comfortable when taking my actions forward (This is still new to me). Thank you for sharing this!
its dope how you got on stage and talked about stuff i never would have.......... this man has no insincerity's
I think u mantt imsecurities! 😂
OMG this is the best RSD video I have seen yet and I’ve seen them all, OWEN THANK YOU 🙏🏽 SO MUCH for making this video and bringing up this topic, this is the first time I’ve shared RSD on my social media channels, the value is unprecedented and off the charts, I love you man
You hit the goldmine with this episode.
One UA-camr psychologist has previously spoken about this exact relationship between the narcissist and the empath. Good job Tyler for bringing this up!
I just lived the things that happened in this video. Glad I learned about this 4 tears ago
Tyler you know... I've seen several bios of celebrities on instagram where they put things like "making a better world..."
You know what... YOU are actually making a better world, you're healing sad souls in distress
You're the living case of someone who has suffered a lot trying to overcome his social anxiety to understand and connect with people, that's my case, that's what Im working on right now, lucky me unlike you, I have now a great shortcut with all the fucking amazing content available for free thanks to you
🤣 🤣Dude, i'm laughing my ass off rn, just because, I almost swear you mentioned Ronald in the Blueprint lmao 😎
I just love listening to him. So much truth and wisdom from a man who understands it. Love the teaching!
Owen.. this is one of your best videos of all time, if I had this video 15 years ago holy crap. But alas perfect timing
Thanks Tyler Durden!
Thank you! This gave me so much, and also thanks to the guys going up to the front and sharing some very powerfull insights 🙏
My friend was quite narcissistic, then thank God he became a Buddhist. Now he's still very self centered but it's awesome seeing him trying to improve and putting his ego on the line
This video is a life saver found just in time. Crazy how that always happens with sticking points!Thanks Owen for being vulnerable as I relate a lot of the tendencies you’ve overcome and would’ve never realized have you not shared
Fantastic great to hear -Tyler
I ♥️ you Owen Cook!
You deserve a hug from a man with a heart as big as yours!
You rock bro!
Keep it real.
You’re the one.
You’re epic.
Keep it alive.
You are loved.
🤗
"...Could a poker player WHO IS ARTICULATE AND LOUD..." - Another example of setting the boundary.
Today I've officially killed the low self-esteem that's been hindering me from suceeding with interactions. Thank you, man. Gonna try this out on the field NOW.
So powerful! Thank you, Owen and all the other speakers.
Fuck yes Tyler...
Going through a fucked up break up with a bitch I'm certain has "detached personality disorder"...its run me into the fucking ground for 6 months... I was ready to jump off a bridge today.. This dark cloud over my head is messing with me..
This video has saved me man.. Your content is better than wasting $200 on a shrink who won't do shit for me
Raw.. i relate so much ...love it. I built a team of 90k people in a MLM. I am a personal development stage trainer and had people treating me like a rockstar. Off stage codependent as F@ck. Lol. I spent 10s of thousands on therapy and saw the people closest to me and how I attracted them! Love this OWEN. So excited for more
silver lining aren’t MLM’s scams?
@@leejay5202 You bring in 5 people, and they bring in 5 people, and they all bring in 5 people, and soon we'll have the whole world in our network!
Masterpiece! Also I cannot believe you bought her 20k worth of clothes! She shouldve been buying you stuff!
The fact is when someone is lame they think youre lame too bcuz only a lame person is overtly into another lame!
Owen, thank you so much for being brutally honest. This helped me a ton.
Thank you so much. I am trying to stop drinking caffeine on the regular basis. Wish me luck God bless
Such an important part of life that once is worked on, feeds into your life like no other! Find the people who are holding you back and aren’t their to support you and cut them off! Better off without them. Essential to go out and explore endeavours you like to find people in a boat who are similar in someway
all i want to say is, there is a difference between being needy for approval and wanting to do well at things and put your best self-forward.
$20000 worth of therapy here. bloody gold treasure contents !
This is fantastic!
If guys all decided to double down on themselves, the world would change for the better!
If someone disrespects you after you treat them kindly then that person isn't good to be in your life in the first place. People who only act proper when they want something or because they're around someone with a lot of value aren't really good people to begin with
This is simply not how humans work. Status have a genuine primal influence on our psyche, even gorillas have social hierarchies.
thanks for sharing your experiences, boundaries is something i struggle with, I'm glad I understand how important they are and the cost of not drawing them for yourself and others
I've been researching codependency and childhood emotional neglect for the last year after giving up on Game, never thought I would hear Tyler start talking about the subject. I feel like I'm ahead for once in my life.
I love you for teaching me to change myself towards a better way to live my limited life
I loved the story about Ronald with the yellow cardigan 😂💯 perfect example that "game" or "pickup" has nothing to do with game or pickup because it's all internal: vibe, self love, self value, etc
He is dropping Amazing information. Feel like I should be paying for this
Alot of people have taken my kindess for weakness, it wasn't until, truly because unapologetic for my feelings and went with my gut, thats when morr folks. Specially women didnt waste my time
love this kind of talk. You should defintitly invit people more to share the stage with you. they add so much value and contribute to the understanding of your idea by their experiences. Thank you owen.
owens videos for me are like the bible for some religious people i know. the answers i need come through his videos at the exact phase of my life that i need them
Familiarity Breeds Contempt is a Dan Pena's Line!
Give Credit Tyler!!!
This. Is. GOLD
Appreciate it! -Tyler
I love it that you guys buy these cheap domains and use them so effectively. Awesome content! Love this. Peace!!!
Tyler we really need a podcast version of these.
Please invest in a podcast format (just upload the audio somewhere as a first iteration).
Also consider re-investing in the RSDMotivation channel - that's where I found you from and your old (2015-2016) videos from there are GOLDEN.
I 100% agree. A RSD podcast would be beautifull
There is. Search real social dynamics on podcast app. Tho the uploads are until March
Really sounds like Owen’s speaking from the heart here. I can relate to the points about being a codependent and a people pleaser. Not sure where it came from but I’ve got some self loving to do. Thanks for everything man
instead of chatting or texting my target girl.
im in here bettering my self i think its better cause i can see more better girl but also be better.
I used to work with a toxic guy who would always waist my time and complain about me at work. He always aggravated me (and everyone else) until one day I decided to complain about him and tell him what a piece of trash he was. That’s the first time I actually saw him smile and laugh. From that point on, I realized that the only way to get along with this guy was to call him names. He was never offended, in fact, a good put down always made him laugh. Since I had to work with this guy it became common place to call him humiliating things whenever he was around. He’d always come back with something demeaning for me but by this point it was actually becoming fun. Kinda like those mobster movies where you really never know if the person is being serious or joking (like Joe Pesci in Goodfellas) “funny how?” Everyone else hated working with that guy but after I was able to understand his sense of humor, he went from being annoying to be around to being fun and funny. Eventually we got along just fine.
There’s so much value in this video I had to pause it a couple times to let the information absorb 🔥
Dear Owen, thanks so much for opening yourself up in this video. I always clicked with your coaching style and it might have to do with the fact that I'm also a codependent in recovery. Keep it up with these videos and self help seminars. I know that you as a great communicator can bring tons of value to a lot of people.
One of my top 5 favorite free tour videos
1h 57min, short Tyler Video. Let's listen to this on the go. - Charles
Lol yes exactly -Tyler
Epic. Can't wait for the next 4 parts! 👍👏😁
OMG first good video from RSD let alone Tyler in YEARS!
I watched this video initially and I was very excited about it! I've been noticing a struggle to connect with people that was beyond technique and had to figure it out. After watching this, I thought it was great but I think this information really did clear up some deeper issues for me. I was in a dark place a few hours after watching it but then something in my brain just clicked and I started to notice my part in my failed relationships. I won't ramble much longer but thank you Tyler.
Tyler, to avoid the jerky camera movements, invest in fluid head tripods for your team. It will make all the movements smoother when tracking you on stage. I know you are looking to always improve fine details such as this
- pat
Great video. My mind felt like it needed its pain validated before I could move on. This video helps me see other guys admit their pain and validate my own
Ya I get it, that's great you're moving on tho ! -Tyler
@@OwenCookFreeTour thanks Tyler. I thought it was important, because now I feel like I can progress my life since my feelings are validated.
NOFAP - more energy to make cash,
to unleash genius, fast.
(Better relationships by having more strenght to deal with them, ideas, inner strenght, verbal confidence etc.)
Channel the Power of Nofap by doing squats for example, without weight, then a little, just for health dont have to go too heavy.😁
Raimond Põld pseudoscience
"Dont spill seed"(by masturbating) is actually one of the universal laws like "dont steal", "dont lie/speak bad about others", "dont murder". Also one of the worst character flaw people have to refine is to not express anger by breaking things for example.
They all bring very bad consequences and damage. Using pornography is epidemic which weakens the potential, intelligence, social skills etc of men.
NOFAP ITS my tiny pênis, brother
Big huge for u
this is fire dude - boundaries has been a huge theme lately for me and many who I've been doing coaching with, went through some gaslighting experiences back in the day too (that shit is hypnotizing if you are on the receiving end- I had to shake myself awake out of it). Love the video soo much, it has a Men's Circle Vibe to it- just want to thank Owen and everyone for being so f*cking raw and authentic, the truth is medicine. Blessings- I will be joining you for a Self-Help event when it lines up
Wow this one was powerful Owen thank you man for real
Part 1 was so good that when I saw part 2 I clicked right away! Amazing content Owen!
This was really golden Tyler. Gotta attend this!!
Damn!!! You wonder how the content can get any better... then it does. Great stuff. can't wait until those 4dayselfhelp dates are released.
Thanks man that's a great compliment -Tyler
Wow Tyler.. i didn't expect this.. ALOT of respect for you opening up in such a big way.. i have seen you as this "perfect idol guy" for so many years and it really fucked me up in some ways because i always felt like i could never live up to all your expectations and be this perfect god like yourself.. lately i'm beginning to think more for myself and able to also see your human and negative sides.. to hear you openly talk about them is amazing and refreshing to see !
I definitely have MANY short comings, and thanks! -Tyler
This was an incredible video. A big thank you to Tyker and also the people who got up an shared, there was some really useful stuff in there
Thanks for sharing Tyler, I relate to everything you're saying, things which I'm going through currently. Very helpful talk.
This relates alot to trading cut your losses quickly..the market will punish you
Right. Get emotional and "double down", and you'll blow your account. I was thinking of the same analogy :)
Owen, when are you coming to Europe?! We are waiting for you.
I NEED to work on my boundaries. I feel like I'm on the same boat as Owen
great video, loved the dudes coming on stage sharing their anecdotes