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  • 30 RED FLAGS IN DATING | Christian Dating and Relationship Advice | Nastasia Grace
    Hope you guys enjoy this video! Again these are MY OPINIONS and any haters will be blocked haha. But I do think some of these red flags are a good idea to keep in mind if you have similar beliefs and values to my own!
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 193

  • @walkingthroughdusk
    @walkingthroughdusk 3 роки тому +92

    1. Not a Christian
    2. He isn't protective of you
    3. Response out of anger to everything
    4. Treats every woman with disrespect
    5. Sends mixed signals
    6. Keeps you as a secret
    7. Makes you come to him and never comes to you
    8. Doesn't make you a priority/Straight up tells you that you're an option
    9. Drinks alot
    10. Afraid to defend what he believes in
    11. Comparing you to his ex
    12. Always talking about himself/Arrogance in any way
    13. Making you feel insecure for having insecurities
    14. Making you feel like you have to prove yourself
    15. Immediately trying to get physical
    16. If he has any kind of issue addiction to pornography
    17. If he spends more time with his friends than you
    18. If he remarks on how other women look in any way
    19. If he tries to tell what to eat or what not to eat in a forceful way
    20. If he has a lot of girl friends
    21. If he is surrounded by friends that are a bad influence
    22. If he has any kind of addiction to drugs
    23. If he didn't have the same political views as you
    24. Always playing video games
    25. Complaining about praying together too much
    26. Being flirtatious to any girl especially your friends
    27. Still in touch with their ex or exes
    28. Doesn't know how to argue fairly
    29. If they love gambling
    30. How they treat animals
    Definitely agree with all 30! 👍🏻

  • @alisondamery5717
    @alisondamery5717 4 роки тому +188

    Red flag when I was dating - if he doesn’t care /make an effort to build any sort of relationship with the important people in your life (family, close friends, etc)

  • @kimmie__kim
    @kimmie__kim 4 роки тому +99

    Cigarettes, drinking too much alcohol, and drug use are huge red flags for me and I didn't realize how many people over-use those things

    • @amberabbott7563
      @amberabbott7563 4 роки тому +6

      People are nuts these days

    • @katieakin1091
      @katieakin1091 3 роки тому +3

      Yeah, those are red flags/turn-off’s for me. I hate the smell of cigarette smoke (even though I’m around it with my mom and sometimes older half sister), I don’t like when people drink a lot of alcohol and get drunk (my step dad does when he’s at home if he’s had a bad day), and yeah, I hate the smell of weed, so weed and other drugs are a big no for me

    • @livefromtheground7274
      @livefromtheground7274 2 роки тому

      And offering it to me from jump street - nah no addicts

  • @stephanieanguiano1004
    @stephanieanguiano1004 4 роки тому +65

    God has always been great in showing me the red flags at the very beginning with my past couple of relationships and a couple of guys I ‘talked’ with but unfortunately I never listened. I’ve been single for over a year now and I’m hoping that the next person I date is the one I marry. I’m tired of getting into relationships and getting hurt. I loved your videos!! I agreed with all the red flags! God bless you and your family and your fiancé!

  • @christinam81
    @christinam81 4 роки тому +28

    I ignored A LOT! Saying he had more in common with his ex and always pointing out our differences and blaming me for his new boring status. Red flags: arrogance, porn-watching, cancelling time with me to spend time with family and friends, daily alcohol drinking, strip club attending, having female friends, and NEVER making me a priority. Now he paraded me around his family, but after almost 7 years, I realized he was never going to post me on social media. The thing that ended it was him ignoring/ghosting me because of anger. His anger scared me. The things he would say when someone angered him... 👀 He admitted he was holding a grudge against me. I had seen him do it to family members but never thought he'd do that to me. He used to say he was cursed because of all the things that happened to him. Now I know that everything he went through came from a higher place to get him to repent. His stubbornness won't let him though. I've worked on myself with God and repented for my willful sinning. I hope he does the same. Thank the Lord for allowing the hardening of his heart. It helped me move.

  • @taylortran5970
    @taylortran5970 4 роки тому +67

    I kid you not, this entire list describes my previous ex. I’m screaming lol

    • @shakirascott4062
      @shakirascott4062 3 роки тому +1

      This is craaaazzZZzZyyyyy! I cannot right now🙆🏻‍♀️🤣🤣🤣🤣🤷🏻‍♀️😌

    • @d.l831
      @d.l831 3 роки тому

      Same dude same!!🙄

  • @valerielinares2068
    @valerielinares2068 4 роки тому +48

    I wouldn't mind if a guy I was dating enjoyed playing video games - as long as he doesn't do it to the extreme where it interferes with his life's responsibilities (walk with God, work, relationships, important obligations, etc.) and he doesn't want to do anything else. If it does, then I think he's taking it too far.
    But that's me. No hate or "criticisms" if you're not into it.

  • @mscottster444
    @mscottster444 3 роки тому +54

    As someone who deals with Porn I completely 100% agree with you and I am glad that you are that way. I am not even going to try to date until I am able to get over it. It’s not fair to the girl in my opinion if you deal with that. Completely justified! 👍💪💪

    • @ceeceedior21
      @ceeceedior21 2 роки тому

      From a woman’s perspective it’s also not fair for a woman to bring a man into that either

    • @lordisthetruthrepentandrej5494
      @lordisthetruthrepentandrej5494 Рік тому

      Hi, Jesus Christ can 100% free you from those bondages. He set me free from masterbation after a decade of struggling with it and now I’m completely set free. Just Repent (stop doing it) and ask the Lord for forgiveness and the desire to walk in Holiness.You are so Loved by Jesus Christ and His Power is Unfathomable!

  • @banessagarcia8317
    @banessagarcia8317 4 роки тому +61

    I’d love to have a close friend like you

  • @valerielinares2068
    @valerielinares2068 4 роки тому +26

    You are COMPLETELY valid when you're concerned about how they treat animals!! If a guy would treat an animal badly, that says something about his character.
    For example, you know how they say that an dog can tell when a human is bad news, there's something too that. I don't know what it is. Maybe they can just feel the human's vibes, but something is there. I once had a friend that she had two dogs. She was dating a guy and her dogs never liked him. Turned out he was a jerk. Seriously, if you're not paying attention to your own instincts, pay attention to your animal. They will let you know when something's not right!

  • @yuliyalyube
    @yuliyalyube 4 роки тому +77

    Definitely agree with the guy having girl friends that know more about him than you

    • @brittanyb5293
      @brittanyb5293 4 роки тому +11

      @Brazilian Goddess it's not about not having confidence. It's about not knowing if there was something there before or unaddressed feelings. I dated a guy who had friends that were girls and it didnt bother me AT ALL. Welp I learned that lesson because he cheated with one of them. It was never a confidence thing. It's a "can I trust you" thing

    • @amberabbott7563
      @amberabbott7563 4 роки тому +14

      If he can't have good enough boundaries with women until marriage, then it's a no from me.

    • @SharkAcademy
      @SharkAcademy 3 роки тому +1

      Amber Abbott not sure what you mean by boundaries. My best friend before I moved so we’re not as close anymore (plus it was right after college when people change a lot) was a woman and she was my best friend who we could both talk to each other about anything which I’ve never had with guys. I had 0 attraction for her and she was really like my sister. If the person I was dating found out and was like I don’t want you to be friends with her or talk to her about personal things about you, I would not only that’s the ultimate flag of someone who is extremely jealous and possessive, my experience and from what I’ve noticed from others is that it usually from people who themselves can’t be around other people of the opposite sex without it turning sexual

  • @SincerelyHannah9
    @SincerelyHannah9 3 роки тому +7

    Red flags for me:
    •anger issues
    •materialism
    •narcissism
    •having two lives: one thats nice that he shows to the world and then a bad secret life
    •leaving me on read
    •can’t hold a conversation with me
    •having no similar interests or hobbies
    •being stingy
    •smokes or does drugs (any illegal activities lmao)

  • @Silversparkles
    @Silversparkles 4 роки тому +38

    I totally agree with you about pornography not being something I can handle. It feels to me personally just as if I've been cheated on. It destroys my trust. It ended up ruining my first marriage. My second marriage, it also became an issue, but there was something worse that ended up causing the end of that marriage. I just don't want to deal with any issues like that anymore, so am planning on being single the rest of my life. It's sad, but that's how it is. I know a lot of people don't agree with my feelings about pornography. Any woman who has been able to heal a marriage after dealing with things like that, I have the utmost respect for.

    • @janaeg2698
      @janaeg2698 3 роки тому +2

      May God bless you!🙏🏽❤️❤️

    • @tama3442
      @tama3442 3 роки тому +5

      May GOD help you in this journey and yeah the pornography thing is definitely not okay because it's just wrong in so many ways leading to not want your significant other, lusting after another person(s) - adultery, and cheating on your spouse in your heart and in real life (adultery), agreeing that it's okay to have sex outside of marriage (not okay) these all sin of sexual immorality and so much more.

  • @sandrasalinas9787
    @sandrasalinas9787 3 роки тому +37

    There’s also red flags on Christians lol 😂 too controlling and possessive. ( not saying all are the same)The last two Christian guys I dated were a bit controlling no humility, One told me No makeup! The other, if you don’t pray like this the marriage won’t work. Very legalistic it’s just not my style. They were both in ministry and I thought I was going to possibly get married. Long story short you could also be unequally Yolked with Christians too. I was hurt 😞 but oh well it’s just frustrating. I want a much more humble Christian not a controlling freak or a legalistic but a guy who is down too earth and takes times to get to know me and not control me and but most importantly is not self righteous but does what he can to have a relationship with Christ and lives it

  • @mannaformom3711
    @mannaformom3711 4 роки тому +20

    Oh yeah, Baby!! I've been married for 21 years. Ya gotta pick the right one!! Be smart ladies!!!

  • @markbales8594
    @markbales8594 3 роки тому +17

    "MEN YOU HAVE INSECURITIES TOO"
    Me: No I don't.
    **hides calves**

  • @madelyng8624
    @madelyng8624 4 роки тому +9

    Such a great video! I really liked the point of you saying that “we are all equipped for different things in relationships.” We are all gifted in different areas and can handle different things. I think that’s a beautiful thing and God brings two people together that are equipped for each other. ❤️

  • @kristenhollingsworth8976
    @kristenhollingsworth8976 3 роки тому +6

    I was basically snap applauding the whole time!! I love thinking about these red flags and also applying them to myself. Be the person you want to be with! Love this video :)

  • @thechildofgodpodcast116
    @thechildofgodpodcast116 4 роки тому +32

    I reckon if someone has a porn problem then that's something you should know before you even start dating them

  • @audrakelloway3736
    @audrakelloway3736 4 роки тому +12

    I was with my ex for way longer than I care to admit and he never posted pics of us. So many red flags! Loved these!

    • @charlesbell5500
      @charlesbell5500 2 роки тому

      I know I'm a bit late but there's only 1 reason why a guy won't post you on his social media: because he doesn't want to upset the others. It's been 2 years, have you found the one? Are you still looking? I don't even have social media and you're really beautiful. I know this is probably creepy but I know you're most likely not even gonna see this haha! But anyway, I'm 23, working on my career, I'll be ready for marrige in a couple years but maybe we could keep in contact until then if you're interested? We wouldn't visit or anything because I'm remaining celibate until marriage. Don't worry, I'm actually good looking, I'm not a wolf, that's just my favourite animal. See, I already don't have the last red flag (although I don't want to live with animals, I just think wolves are sick). I don't usually do this on UA-cam, I'm gonna search on Christian Mingle for my wife soon but just on the off chance.....HAHAHA! I don't have any of the red flags listed in the video and was literally watching just to find out what deal-breakers Christian women tend to have. Of course you might not be a Christian, and if you're not that's a deal-breaker for me.

  • @YFL.111
    @YFL.111 4 роки тому +8

    Really wise advices! Thank you so much to share it. I always feel that as I have some insicurities I have to wait till the moment when I feel perfect, to then find somebody.
    A friend of mine she told me the other day that this is not what love is about, you can still have some insicurities or things to work on, and find love anyway.
    Because otherwise if you wait till you have zero insicurities or till you are perfect... That is not gonna happen, because life is a process.

  • @nonnnniss
    @nonnnniss 4 роки тому +5

    Wow, beautiful that you were talking about how you dont like arrogance and you radiate so much humility, by just hearing the voice of you talking, you radiate so much humility from the Holy Spirit. So loving, God bless you! ♥️

  • @Chryslerdealership
    @Chryslerdealership 4 роки тому +13

    Honestly, I completely agree with all of these! There is so much wisdom here, I feel like you’re my older sister haha. Praise God you found a good man, I hope someday I’ll find one too ❤️

  • @hiscanvasofgrace3391
    @hiscanvasofgrace3391 4 роки тому +10

    Your headband is adorable on you!!❤️ I would say if he admits an issue with porn, you need to put things on hold. Another red flag is when he needs a "sign" to feel confident about your relationship, instead of seeing all the positives and appreciating love and loyalty. .he needs to know the direction he is going in and be able to follow through on his promises

  • @Eleni868
    @Eleni868 3 роки тому +13

    I totally agree with you about the girlfriends. I ended up being the "problematic" jealous girlfriend because I couldn't accept getting too physical with them like hugging, caressing, getting too close, touching, comments on social media. And he claimed that I am the one full of complexes. That drove me nuts and I am glad that other women agree cause he tried to convince me that I am the crazy bitch

  • @melissacalderon1515
    @melissacalderon1515 3 роки тому +3

    If he says I’m not ready for relationship BIG RED FLAG immature guys are the worst 😖😖

  • @emilyhird2332
    @emilyhird2332 3 роки тому +3

    Agree completely with everything you just said! Another few red flags that have come up recently for me have been, whilst in the initial getting to know each other phase- barely saying anything over text, having a disrespect for the government/law (despite your opinions on them), and asking my love language in about our second conversation. Also being overly flirty!

  • @idiotbun3552
    @idiotbun3552 2 роки тому +1

    This generation doesn't have forgiveness and unconditional love. You are expecting so much from a person. "Fulfil these expectations otherwise you are not worthy of my love." That's the modern love mantra.
    The real biblical principle is. "No matter what sin you commit, I will stay with you, forgive you and be faithful to you."

  • @andrella7748
    @andrella7748 3 роки тому +1

    Your not petty your super real. And woman who says she doesn’t want what your saying is deceiving her self

  • @valerielinares2068
    @valerielinares2068 4 роки тому +6

    Concerning the thing about social media, I think we can agree with this point - you're not saying to post about you on social media as a source of validation. But more so, don't make a point to avoid posting about me on social media like you're ashamed of me. I think that's sort of what you're getting at.

  • @abigailgrace8402
    @abigailgrace8402 4 роки тому +14

    I'm cringing so hard because every single of of these describes my ex hahah oops not going down that route again

  • @lindybright1938
    @lindybright1938 4 роки тому +5

    Let’s try this again, haha!! Don’t come for me in the comments! Loved this video, Nastasia! Keep up the great work ❤️

  • @netanyapeters2352
    @netanyapeters2352 4 роки тому +3

    There was not one thing you said that I don't 100% agree with! Awesome job girl 💕

  • @labellezachica
    @labellezachica 3 роки тому +5

    My ex-boyfriend was a Christian but of a different denomination but he has influenced me to fall short. I know that I also have a choice but I literally grew up in a Christian family and I was really a devout Christian.. but he was this kind of Christian who kinda just goes to church and then goes home like and he's back to his old self. It lasted for 5 years until eventually he broke up with me. Many times I know that God already told me to stop it but I didn't, I was so influenced and I let my flesh and emotions take over me. It's really sad because I know that I should've known better :( I should be the one to influence him to grow deeper in Christ but it's the other way around. I still feel really guilty up to know, I broke a lot of rules for him- which is def not worth it!

    • @virz4432
      @virz4432 3 роки тому

      She already mentioned that red flag.
      "When he doesn't live as a Christian".
      Say is not enough. He has to prove it.

    • @Ethereal-jb3le
      @Ethereal-jb3le 3 роки тому +1

      Girl!!! I feel the same..I’m just getting out of something like this..where we was from a different denomination. I was trying my best throughout the relationship to bring God as our focus and not our own pleasures.. it was really hard and when I was engaging in this and being influenced..I was wavering in my faith and it was really hard to pick up the Bible or engage in any church activities. I feel like God stopped all of this to save me and my faith.

    • @itz_gemma_xox_4940
      @itz_gemma_xox_4940 3 роки тому

      I feel the same way! I've only been with my boyfriend for about 4 months but it just doesn't feel right. Even at the start I felt as if it wasn't quite right but I followed my feelings and now I still feel very strongly that it's not right. I feel like if I ignore this feeling longer it will just lead to more hurt and unhappiness. There are quite a few red flags the main one just being that he's not a godly guy and I just feel like it could seperate me from living life the way Jesus wants me to especially as in the first month I was led a bit astray. I'm really scared to end it though as it's my first relationship and I know it will still really hurt as I care about him a lot. I also know he'd be heartbroken but it's just really not right as we want completely different things. Please pray that I will seek God and continue following his path instead of being led by my own emotions. 🙏💕

    • @Perennial1997
      @Perennial1997 Рік тому

      ⁠​⁠​⁠​⁠@@Ethereal-jb3le how did you try and bring the focus on God? By fondling his parts with your mouth? I don’t think that’s very godly of you .. that’s not exactly bringing focus to God is it? Begging a man to go inside you isn’t bringing the focus on God. Neither is removing all your clothes and sending pictures. Sounds like you were the problem.

  • @jessicahem4701
    @jessicahem4701 3 роки тому +1

    WOAH. I relate to these so much. I never realized how many people went through the same experiences

  • @yourcomforter5755
    @yourcomforter5755 2 роки тому +4

    Nastacia, you are teaching people how not to accept a sinner. Love is not to expect the other person to do what you want them to do. That's selfishness. Love is to accept the person as who he or she is, a sinner.
    All the points that you mentioned are selfish cries that say, "Love me". You are forcing love. You must be willing to stay committed to the other person even if he or she commits sins against you. You must love them unconditionally and forgive them. This is what the Biblical mandate is, to love just as Christ loved the Church, in forgiveness and unconditional love. It needs guts to love someone, you need guts to forgive. You are preaching a gutless love which is absolutely wrong. Bless you! 😊

    • @ItachiUchiha-ue5ri
      @ItachiUchiha-ue5ri 2 роки тому +1

      Totally agree with you. To love is to forgive them no matter what they do and stay committed to them. All the so-called "red flags" are basically the things that we would want them to do in order to be worthy of our love. That's just wrong.

  • @rachelg6413
    @rachelg6413 3 роки тому +3

    The guy that's a "Sunday christian" ... No prayer life, don't even own a bible, and no personal experience with G-d ... I seen lots of these end in divorce, and the girl is left confused ☹️☹️☹️ "how can two walk together less the agree" -from some awesome book 😎

  • @WordsPictures997
    @WordsPictures997 3 роки тому +2

    Giiirrrrlll!!!! THIS LIST!!!! Yaaassss! 👏👏👏👏👏 Soooooo much healing for me. Thank you so much for this.

  • @honeygirl4910
    @honeygirl4910 3 роки тому +3

    This is great advice nastasia ! Especially when you have 2 years left till your parents let you date😊
    Look for a Godly man, kind, makes an effort for a good relationship , protective , cute, very funny , caring , responsible, respectful or anybody who you think suits you or your criteria ! ! But Godly should defiently at the tippy top of the list !!!

  • @Vessel_ofCHRIST7
    @Vessel_ofCHRIST7 4 роки тому +2

    Greetings to you @Nastasia! Where do I even begin....I have always admire your work. You inspire me and your advice have encouraged me to do better despite my struggles and me running away from the truth (Prayers for guidance🙏🏾). Most of these red flags 🚩 I DO RELATE TO. I truly believe that God has brought me here for a very specific reason. I’m forever thankful that I got the opportunity to find you. You are a warrior!!! 🔥I cannot think you enough for the great work you’re doing. May God lavishes his eternal blessings into your life. Trusting you are doing well &in great health. I send my love and hugs to you Queen!!! ☺️Cheers💕🎉

  • @valerielinares2068
    @valerielinares2068 4 роки тому +3

    I sort of agree with "immediately trying to get physical." But I think it also depends on the context. Like, if you're dating someone that you're literally _just_ getting to know and you were maybe barely acquaintances before starting to date, yeah, I agree. But, there's also situations where for instance, the couple were best friends before they officially decided to date. So it was clear from the get-go that they already know each other really well, already feel comfortable with each other, and already attracted to one another. In which case, it might not be so bad for them to get physical right away if they wanted to.
    Either way, I understand what you're saying and where you're coming from. In the context you seemed to allude to was the former of the two circumstances I mentioned, not the latter. No hate or anything. Just mentioning that nuance for clarity. :-)

  • @AngelaWang724
    @AngelaWang724 4 роки тому +5

    Honestly everything you said was 💯👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

  • @onimendez7735
    @onimendez7735 4 роки тому +9

    If a man doesn't love animals or is abusive towards them, I will not have any feelings for that person. Total turn off!

  • @kellanmkeinan1104
    @kellanmkeinan1104 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you so much for all these videos! I just discovered your channel, and I've watched three of them in a row! I love the honest, frank, way you talk about things like this. I'm kinda nervous about this stage of my life. I've talked about it my dad and he's super good about it. But I am afraid about not knowing what to watch out for. Thank you so much for being so up front and open. Arrogance is one of my biggest weaknesses. I really like how you look at things like this through a scriptural base. Please keep going and being such a light.

  • @kaones5928
    @kaones5928 3 роки тому +1

    Oh no no no, you're not insecure at all. You're absolutely right

  • @lisam6907
    @lisam6907 2 роки тому

    With all the red flags you look out for and/or exit the relationship for I am the same exact way! now I know I’m not alone with the way I think 😌

  • @priscillahernandez3452
    @priscillahernandez3452 3 роки тому +1

    New to the channel and now subscribed!!
    Thank you for speaking honest truth about toxic behavior in relationships. This has truly helped. God bless girl ❤️✨🙏🙌🔥

  • @ninagarcia878
    @ninagarcia878 2 роки тому

    I LOVE THIS VID! I also had an experience where a guy I was in a relationship with didn't want to put pictures of me on his social media, so strange! It made me so annoyed because like you said, you want to feel like that other person wants you to be known to his friends and family... God bless you and thank you for sharing.

  • @RobertKramer17
    @RobertKramer17 3 роки тому +3

    30 seems exorbitant, to be honest. Is this a competition for who can be least satisfied with their partner? I hate being part of this generation.

  • @jillmclean8626
    @jillmclean8626 3 роки тому

    I completely relate to ALL 30! And at the very end when you red flag the animal thing, your laugh is so adorable! Great video. :)

  • @annadubinetsofficial702
    @annadubinetsofficial702 3 роки тому +2

    Thank you for this video!! I love your personal thoughts on dating God bless you Sista!

  • @lisar5349
    @lisar5349 4 роки тому +11

    Regarding porn, there is an awesome organization I just found, called Fight the new drug, doing good work in this area 💚💚💙

  • @bgrant07
    @bgrant07 3 роки тому

    Hi! I COMPLETELY AGREE with EVERY red flag you mentioned. Thank you so much for your videos!! 💜

    • @alysonlentini1615
      @alysonlentini1615 3 роки тому

      I suspected my husband always texting a lady on his phone , We’ve been married for 18 years, we’ve both been happy together until recently when he switched side and I found out he has been cheating .I explained my story to a colleague at work then she introduced me to this genuine hacker, Darkwebprohacker who gave me access to his phone , I had complete access to his phone right on my own device and I could see all his activities for the past 2 years and also have access to new notifications, his text messages, Facebook messages,location, call logs, and I found out my husband was also flirting on dating sites..I love my husband a lot and I still don’t understand why he betrayed me, I have been a good hardworking wife and never for once cheated on him. I tracked him down and found out he was always going to sleep in another woman’s house with me thinking my husband is always at work for night shift. You can contact this great hacker who helped me found out the truth about my husband at darkwebprohack(at)gmail com or Whats app +19087998357 or text and call them directly on the same number.They helped me get access into his phone without even touching his phone.I have enough evidence against my husband and I am thinking of Filing for divorce.I want advice if I should give him another chance or let go ? We have 2 kids together
      it's a painful feeling but I believe things happen in life it comes as it goes, as it says what doesn't kills makes you stronger.

  • @brandimiller3560
    @brandimiller3560 3 роки тому +2

    Yes girl... if you date a guy that isn’t a Christian and you are... you won’t realize it right away but the longer you are with that person little by little you will begin to wonder off from God! Just like Peter in the Bible, as long as he kept his eyes on Jesus he could walk on water... but when he lost focus he started sinking! If you take your eyes off of God and you start to focus on your “boyfriend” You’ll start sinking! Never forget that The Bible says not to be unequally yoked and there’s a good reason for that!

  • @toniamoronczyk1132
    @toniamoronczyk1132 4 роки тому +1

    I definitely see those as red flags. Thanks for sharing!

  • @openhearts5000
    @openhearts5000 3 роки тому +1

    I don't have a strike system, but I do set a deadline in my head if I see that the other person is not willing to make an effort to fix something in the relationship after multiple conversations about the matter. If by then and even more convos later they are not willing to change that thing, I'm gone.

    • @alysonlentini1615
      @alysonlentini1615 3 роки тому

      I suspected my husband always texting a lady on his phone , We’ve been married for 18 years, we’ve both been happy together until recently when he switched side and I found out he has been cheating .I explained my story to a colleague at work then she introduced me to this genuine hacker, Darkwebprohacker who gave me access to his phone , I had complete access to his phone right on my own device and I could see all his activities for the past 2 years and also have access to new notifications, his text messages, Facebook messages,location, call logs, and I found out my husband was also flirting on dating sites..I love my husband a lot and I still don’t understand why he betrayed me, I have been a good hardworking wife and never for once cheated on him. I tracked him down and found out he was always going to sleep in another woman’s house with me thinking my husband is always at work for night shift. You can contact this great hacker who helped me found out the truth about my husband at darkwebprohack(at)gmail com or Whats app +19087998357 or text and call them directly on the same number.They helped me get access into his phone without even touching his phone.I have enough evidence against my husband and I am thinking of Filing for divorce.I want advice if I should give him another chance or let go ? We have 2 kids together
      it's a painful feeling but I believe things happen in life it comes as it goes, as it says what doesn't kills makes you stronger.

  • @annatope1031
    @annatope1031 4 роки тому +1

    Girl, soooo on point! I agree with each and every one of these and God is really speaking through you. Love how you ended with one of the most important ones - animals!!! (No really...I don't know how I'd get by with a dude who doesn't love animals as much as me)

  • @kintania3798
    @kintania3798 2 роки тому

    Thankyou, Nastasia for sharing!
    and I love the look of you with overflowing joy as always :)

  • @madewithpurposeyt
    @madewithpurposeyt 4 роки тому +1

    this video is so helpful!!! also, you rock that headband!

  • @ceeceedior21
    @ceeceedior21 2 роки тому

    You pretty much covered everything. You don’t owe us an explanation about what your red flags are.

  • @MargaretNahmias
    @MargaretNahmias 3 роки тому +1

    If he is too protective that can be a bad sign too.

  • @Tfouch09
    @Tfouch09 3 роки тому

    All of these are SO IMPORTANT 👏🏽

  • @ooviyamanickam6368
    @ooviyamanickam6368 3 роки тому +2

    God !!! I'm so thankful for a lot of reasons😂❤️thank you so much Jesus ❤️thank you for plucking my feet out of the snare🤡✨💯💘

  • @lifeofjazminherrera
    @lifeofjazminherrera 3 роки тому +1

    You spoke the TRUTH!!!

  • @brianking834
    @brianking834 2 роки тому

    Great information. Congratulations on finding the love of your life.

  • @kimmie__kim
    @kimmie__kim 4 роки тому +2

    My husband has to absolutely LOVE animals because I do and believe that God created humans to care for them and the Earth

  • @thechildofgodpodcast116
    @thechildofgodpodcast116 3 роки тому +2

    I'd say calling someone pretty is fine, but if that person was like hot damn she's fine, then that would be uncomfortable at that stage, because I reckon there's a big difference between a small compliment and an over the top pick up line sorta one

  • @AlexMiotto1
    @AlexMiotto1 4 роки тому +1

    Love this list Stas! 🙌🏻

  • @lifesgrowinggreat
    @lifesgrowinggreat 4 роки тому

    HILARIOUS!! comedy 10/10! Well done the satire was not missed on me👏👏

  • @mmneander1316
    @mmneander1316 2 роки тому

    Good list ! Bravo.

  • @cheryl5667
    @cheryl5667 3 роки тому

    This spoke to me in some type of way. Thank you so much and don't stop!!

  • @cheryl5667
    @cheryl5667 3 роки тому +3

    I would also include substance abuse as porn users (most men) also smoke pot and drink a lot. There are SO many things we have to dodge.

    • @cheryl5667
      @cheryl5667 3 роки тому

      @18:58 well look at me being all premature and what not... you're on it!

  • @louisegrigg1118
    @louisegrigg1118 4 роки тому +2

    This is so important 💓

  • @elizabetha6421
    @elizabetha6421 Рік тому

    I remember my ex during the time we were dating he said one of my professors was hot after I sent a pic of her while she was lecturing. It caught me off guard and I tried laughing it off immediately. I told him I was surprised he would say that to me. He justified it by saying he’s a man and has needs. I called him out on it and how that made me think he wasn’t serious about pursuing me. He circled back, apologized, and said he’d do better (he said he would behave first). I should have dumped him there. We were 6-7 months in. Ultimately we lasted for a year and a half. Other issues came up that check off a lot of what is on the red flag list 🙃

  • @rheab43
    @rheab43 3 роки тому

    I share the same thoughts when it comes to red flags...nice to see someone thinks like me🙂

  • @tammyreise
    @tammyreise 3 роки тому +1

    Agree with you on all levels, and the part about abusing animals could mean they are schizophrenic or serial killers.

    • @susannah6500
      @susannah6500 3 роки тому

      How on earth does abusing animals suggest someone has schizophrenia? Schizophrenia is a mental illness that often makes the sufferer vulnerable and distressed. They are far more likely to hurt or be a danger to themselves than to other people or animals. Of course violence and abuse can be committed by people with schizophrenia, but it is very unlikely caused directly by the schizophrenia itself. It’s more likely to be the result of a person already being violent/abusive while also happening to have schizophrenia.

  • @ashleydaniella4700
    @ashleydaniella4700 3 роки тому

    Me having all those red flags and i finally left the relationship! Christ gives you peace !

  • @joanna4237
    @joanna4237 3 роки тому +1

    You make me feel good, thank you.❤️

  • @andrella7748
    @andrella7748 3 роки тому

    Gurlll . That grocery store story I so relate too. You got a subscriber out of me with that wooooo 🤣🤣 I feel you .

  • @JasmineFriesen
    @JasmineFriesen 7 місяців тому

    i actually so relate about the animal thing lol. red flags for me too.

  • @amberkirton6422
    @amberkirton6422 Рік тому

    Love this list 🎉

  • @anniegarnett
    @anniegarnett 3 роки тому

    Here are some Bible verse references to go with the video:
    * dating Christians only - 2 Cor. 6:14
    * protective husband - Colossians 3:19

  • @MargaretNahmias
    @MargaretNahmias 3 роки тому

    For me being too needy or promising to rescue or fix me. That's recipe for codependency. I also agree with not keeping up with exes. There was a reason you left it best to make a clean break for the sake of the new relationship

  • @Stella-cv4mc
    @Stella-cv4mc 3 роки тому

    I agree with literally every single one of these points! Had to learn all this from experience 😅 my God. I just can't follow advice if I haven't learned the lesson first hand haha. Only point I could disagree with is the guy having female friends bc I also have "close" male friends I could never imagine dating. But not everyone is "capable" of being pure friends with the opposite gender.
    Anyway great great wisdom here.
    May God bless you abundantly you lovely lady :) ❤️💐

    • @amandaryan3263
      @amandaryan3263 3 роки тому +1

      I suspected my husband always texting a lady on his phone , We’ve been married for 18 years, we’ve both been happy together until recently when he switched side and I found out he has been cheating .I explained my story to a colleague at work then she introduced me to this genuine hacker, Darkwebprohacker who gave me access to his phone , I had complete access to his phone right on my own device and I could see all his activities for the past 2 years and also have access to new notifications, his text messages, Facebook messages,location, call logs, and I found out my husband was also flirting on dating sites..I love my husband a lot and I still don’t understand why he betrayed me, I have been a good hardworking wife and never for once cheated on him. I tracked him down and found out he was always going to sleep in another woman’s house with me thinking my husband is always at work for night shift. You can contact this great hacker who helped me found out the truth about my husband at darkwebprohack(at)gmail com or Whats app +17076225057 or text and call them directly on the same number.They helped me get access into his phone without even touching his phone.I have enough evidence against my husband and I am thinking of Filing for divorce.I want advice if I should give him another chance or let go ?We have 2 kids together It's a painful feeling but I believe things happen in life it comes as it goes, as it says what doesn't kills makes you stronger.

  • @thechildofgodpodcast116
    @thechildofgodpodcast116 3 роки тому +1

    I agree with most of them but some I'm like yes but probably not for me, so 70 percent agreement! Hahahaha!

  • @ChiefCedricJohnson
    @ChiefCedricJohnson Рік тому

    John 4:24
    God is a Spirit: and they that worship him must worship him in spirit and in truth.

  • @wilianette
    @wilianette 3 роки тому

    Binge watching ur videos!!! Is my fave thing ✨✨🤗 thanks for the encouragement nd advice!

  • @thechildofgodpodcast116
    @thechildofgodpodcast116 4 роки тому +5

    Men don't get women, so we'll stop sending mixed signals when we understand you or your more direct with us

    • @skylersilva6135
      @skylersilva6135 4 роки тому +1

      Women don't get men...the fact that women don't approach men if they're interested in a guy , but think that sending "choosing signals" to him is enough but yet we look like the jerk if we can't catch them...use your words ladies!

    • @skylersilva6135
      @skylersilva6135 4 роки тому +1

      Women don't get men...If you're interested in a guy then use your words and tell him ...stop sending choosing signals

  • @jazzyj6640
    @jazzyj6640 3 роки тому +2

    Damn, my ex fit the description!
    He was vegan and always tried to “advise” me in what to eat and what’s healthy. I’m a grown ass woman. I know what to eat.
    And he could NOT stop smoking weed, I mean Mary Jane was his girlfriend (not me!), also he definitely made me feel insecure about my body shape and just me as a person. Omg it’s crazy. He watched a lot of porn too. 😐🤭 like too much...
    And the way he spoke to his mom?! I’m from the south and if I EVER spoke to my mother like that, I would be 6 feet under and there would be a funeral. I would never speak to either of my parents the way he spoke to his mother.
    Toon town and the sims! Love those games. 😅

  • @Dr-Alexx
    @Dr-Alexx 4 роки тому

    I needed this so bad. Thank you Nastasia! *Subscribed :)

  • @Anthony-yy3kc
    @Anthony-yy3kc Рік тому

    I gave up on dating years ago!

  • @Maria-sc5wz
    @Maria-sc5wz 3 роки тому +1

    5:17 had me dying of laughter

  • @MinisterRoy205
    @MinisterRoy205 3 роки тому

    Guy here.
    Personally, I've never had a girlfriend.
    My dad was airforce so friends at all was rare, and military families don't keep in contact after leaving the military.
    I only have 1 female friend which I made last year from a dating app, but I choose not to date her because of my own personal flags that make her a bad choice.
    Any advice on what I can do?
    Pre-covid I played cello at my church.
    I'm working towards being a pastor, but I find it a daunting, impossible task.
    I never seek perfection in others, actually I seek imperfection.
    All my friends have only ever been social outcasts, because when you can give them the care they need, they really shine.
    You'll never find a better friend than the one you help out of the shadows and into the light.
    I have been hurt, it wasn't a dating thing, but she thought I wanted more than I did, and so she chose to end it.
    I'm a loving friend, I'll worry, and i value spending time with my friends.
    Which again, I have had few and that's why it's valuable to me.
    Any advice, people here, not just the video maker, all constructive and destructive criticism help.
    There is value in breaking down things that shouldn't be made in the first place.

  • @thechildofgodpodcast116
    @thechildofgodpodcast116 4 роки тому

    I agree with the food one but I would also be aware of health issues with that too

  • @emmat7910
    @emmat7910 3 роки тому

    Thank you so helpful.. Can relate ❤️😊

  • @Sammythatjewishnerd
    @Sammythatjewishnerd 3 роки тому

    I have to disagree with the one about him not coming to you. My boyfriend and I both live with our parents, and my mom is immunocompromised. So due to Covid, she’s not comfortable with hi. Being in our home. She does like and approve of him, it’s more a health and safety issue.

    • @ItachiUchiha-ue5ri
      @ItachiUchiha-ue5ri 2 роки тому

      I disagree with the whole thing that she said though.😅

  • @marytichelaar7225
    @marytichelaar7225 3 роки тому

    I also agree with your point on how they treat animals, because I too animal lover . So yeah if they mistreated animals I would be out!

  • @brandimiller3560
    @brandimiller3560 3 роки тому

    All of these I agree with 💯

  • @celestinatarin2025
    @celestinatarin2025 3 роки тому

    the girl friend one is interesting to me. my best friend is a guy and i would be shocked if someone he was dating saw me as a red flag. we have a completely respectable platonic relationship and honestly if his girl was jealous i would see that as a red flag for him. thoughts??

  • @Nika-en1sx
    @Nika-en1sx 3 роки тому

    Thank you! ❤️