My last ex was a narcissist. I lowered my standards because i was afraid i'll be alone. BIGGEST mistake, ever! Girls, NEVER lower your standards, i paid dearly for that.
Quick question, why did you wait so long to want to settle down? This might sound harsh but it's the truth, a man's value rises after He reaches 30 while a woman's value decreases at the same age group simply because men date down and women date up.
@@DinaStrange I think it's a perspective thing. Not to sound offensive but I firmly believe you attract what you are. The truth is quality attracts quality, you can't demand value without giving value. Most people don't realize this because they rarely have any self reflection that's why they have a skewed perspective of their situation. Ask yourself this to start, "As a woman, what do I have to offer (besides sex) that a man will want and value?
Glad you mentioned prayer before meals. Its something I always do, including on dates. It's funny, I've had gals get offended when I do this. It just tells to me she's not the one
It’s amazing! You keep it up. I never saw this as something I should prioritize, but it makes so much sense. If I’m (or any woman) is looking for an equally yoked parner than praying before meals is a good way to tell if that person has a true relationship with Jesus or if it's all just religion.
@@justkristinna7253 You have no way of knowing if a person is a hypocrite or a backslider. God knows His own even tho it might not be evident to you. I ran from God for many years and tried my best to blend in with the world so He wouldn't find me again and I even fled to different countries to get away from Him, but despite my best efforts to get away from God and His calling, God chased after me by sending multiple Christians into my life, some of which have been women who brushed me off as being unsaved at that time. Not everyone and I tell you, everyone is what you perceived as being just religious or unsaved. There are a lot of brothers and sisters in the world who lost their way and became like Jonah. It's up to you to decide to help the Lord who left the 99 to pursue 1.
@UChDoEK9rhfDiPLip3ZIdSfA Telling the truth is not being mean, it's being loving. For example, if your parents warn you not to do certain things or this or that will happen is not being mean, it's because they love you and don't want any harm to come to you. It's the same way with God and it's the reason why He died on the cross it's because He loves us and wants to spare us from harm. How I wish I had a brother or sister to tell me the truth or else I wouldn't have stayed for as long as I did and God wouldn't have to send a storm into my life to bring me back. If God had a plan to save your friend then he has a plan to restore him, tell him the truth, warn, and persuade him but if he refuses to listen distance yourself but continue to pray for him so you don't fall as well. Shine a light into his life every chance you get. Bless him if he curses you, show kindness if he is cruel towards you, show love in the presence of hatred, by doing so you will be displaying you are a child of God and earn treasures in heaven. Maybe just maybe, through you, God will demonstrate his loving-kindness and win him over again.
This really has helped me see my purpose in a whole new way. My grandma was talking about speaking to people about His word in any single opportunity we get. What you mentioned really did kinda clicked everything together. I appreciate you so much, thank you once again!
Was on a date with someone (like a 13th date!) and we were talking about spiritual leadership and Christian standards for dating. They made a joke about “you can lead I don’t mind” ..... I never realized how badly that would bother me until someone said that out loud to me. That was the last date and I have a firm standard in place where I demand to be led in Christ! 🤷🏻♀️💞
Well, to be honest, in Jesus and the Apostle's time, Christians didn't date, they only married. Dating is a new concept invented by the world just like Valentine's Day was invented by the Romans. God commands us to be holy (1 Peter 1:14-16) and we are not to conform to the world (Romans 12:2) . So by dating you are conforming to the world view and I think it's something we are all guilty of at some point. If you want a Godly man stop looking and ask God (Mark 11:24) and if it's His will He will give you what you have asked.
I've noticed theres a lot of pressure to be with someone in the christian community and what I like about the last point in particular is that its reminding people that they need to wait for the RIGHT relationship and not just dive in because theres that pressure. Pressuring people into marriage and relationships has the opposite effect from what you want. Leave single folks be and encourage them in their walk. Being married is not everything, be patient and wait and remember that singleness is a blessing. I'm at a really confusing point in my life right now but at the end of it the most important thing is to trust in God. X Keep your chin up guys you're fearfully and wonderfully made x
I'm still single but these kind of videos always pop up in my recommended 😂 but solid points u made 👌🏼 that whole point about even the pizza delivery guy comes to the door is so true 😂 and for your other point, I'm also a Christian so I'm obviously looking for a man of God so we should definitely be open to pray for each other and initiate to pray for the meal on a date 👌🏼❤
I love how you highlighted that its your standards: its important to have your own standards while dating thats not dictated by society or the opinion of others. I also agree with the fact that as a woman its important to have your discernment on high alert: prayer is important in knowing if a man can lead you spiritually-great video!
i didn't agree with everything you said, but i like that you stand in your truth, you were fun and straight to the point. I'm a young christian too and dating is like YIKES, good tips
Yes for sure its important to know when a man is wasting your time-one of the indicators like she said is that he just shows up literally out of nowhere and expects you to be available-that's so disrespectful
He opens doors for you Prays with you and for you He travels for you make plans beforehand Pays for your meals You dont feel like holding yourself back.
You literally spoke to me!!!! I'm so energetic and positive! Often times I feel as though I'm too much in a classroom, zoom call, etc. YOU TAUGHT ME TO EMBRACE THAT, GLORY TO GOD.
A. opening the door B. Seeing them just as much as you see them. C. If they don't pray for you or at the dinner time. #relationship counts D. He should prioritize and plan ahead this shows you really care about her. E. Pay for the meals! man should be paying for all if that. That is humility and caring.come prepared for her. F. You be fully yourself
Kevin Samuels will destroy Nastasia in 5 minutes. She wants a traditional Christian man who will provide, protect and give her honor. But she doesn't represent a traditional Christian woman. A Christian woman must submit to her husband. What makes you think you deserve a good man? What do you have to offer?
Exactly where I am at right now. Working on outlining what my standards are so when the time comes I am clear where I stand so I will not accept less 🙏 fyi will use this along with my list as a supportive reminder of what I deserve 💜
Your videos are helping me put my singleness and my past with men into proper perspective. The part when you said your plans are now to hangout with you on youtube I looked at the screen and was like she's so cute because you feel like someone I'd really be friends with who is admitting to all the crap I do with men I am too embarrassed to admit. Thanks girls, I pray I can be more like you and God can write me a beautiful love story like he has now for you.
Chivalry is still around. I'm a guy so I know that it's up to us to pay for meals. It is respectful for the girl I'm courting. Plus I'm Catholic and I'm old school. I come from a country where it's the responsibility of the guy to please the girl pay for her meal and do whatever it takes to please her. And even beyond that I would follow the traditional customs that are seen today as a joke. Very well laid out video on the standards that seem to be getting lost by the day...
I agree on the planning thing. I’ve canceled plans to go out with a guy I liked when he asked me at the last minute but I realized that I deserve better.
Yes! If someone is pursuing me, the man SHOULD be paying for every date. It's the man's role to provide. It has nothing to do with you standing your feminine ground, but to let a man pay. BEEN there! DONE that! I expect it.
Where do we find men like this!?! I would like a Godly man but I don’t even know where to find them outside of church. 😩 Tips!? This advice is really great by the way! And I do believe men that do the right things, as you suggested, are out there, and it’s important to have a standards list to weed out the “tares”. ☺️ Thanks for sharing these!
Ariana G God created men to be the pursuer, so you don’t have to look. He’ll find you. The best thing to do now is enjoy your season of singleness and chase after the Lord ❤️. Then eventually he’ll place that special someone in your life.
But other than that you can pray for a boyfriend, or try online dating. I heard mingle and christian mingle are the best for christian dating. Or you can try being more involved in social events like bible study or any faith based activities
I feel like I used to be that guy, and he died when I had my heart crushed and stomped on. I’m not a bad guy now, but I’m a lot less hopeful about dating and the future. It feels like I’m never going to be fully me again... :(
Surprise, suriprise! She likes traditional, biblical roles when it benefits her. Guy must be a sacrificial provider and protector: yes! Girl needs to be submissive and a helpmate: no way!
Absolutely right! These were small things that truly matter because it’s almost like they set the tone for how things will go moving forward. I’ve found myself compromising my standards simply because I didn’t wanna be “lonely” and that is a HARD NO now! Hard no.‼️👏🏾
I asked the Holy Spirit to show me someone I could relate to and boom I found you😄 This was perfect! It’s so easy for me to love fully but it has felt like a curse at times. It’s not!! I’m blessed to be able to love so deeply despite what I’ve gone through! Thank you and God bless ❤🙏🏽
Thank you so much for this! We are not too compassionate and we are perfect just the way we are! Thank you so much for these liberating words! I'm actually hearing this advice about how my parents treated me. Thank you so much for liberating me from their judgement!
I've heard it said that whoever initiates a date is the one that's supposed to pay. Usually that's the guy, but say I've been dating a girl and she's like, "hey, come with me to watch this movie I really want to see!" In your opinion, would it be reasonable in that situation to assume that the girl will pay for the movie? Or should I pay for the movie regardless of who initiated the plans? I'm not trying to test you, I'm seriously asking because I don't date a lot haha.
Todd Marshall In that situation it seems like she’ll pay for herself and you pay for yourself. If you offer to pay for her, she’ll love that but in that situation it isn’t necessary
As a girl, if I were to initiate something with a guy I would definitely prepare to pay for myself BUT if you like the girl and want her to know that then you should pay. If you dont pay she'll definitely think you're not into her lol
With so many specific standards, don’t you think you owe it to the man (and yourself) to drop hints about your expectations? If the guy really likes you and respects you and you like him, an honest conversation will help clarify things.
All good gifts and perfect gifts comes down from the Father of lights in who there is no variableness or shadow or turning Jesus said he doesn’t share his glory with another 👟❤️📖📖📖
I think as humans and being not so typical, we get desperate. But I think girls like us learn to lean on the Lord bc of this, which is great! Ngl, I came into this after intentionally searching up Christian girl high standards thinking this probably isn’t for me, but imma watch it to see what the other girls are struggling with. Lol, clown, this was for me! And it may seem silly bc it’s as simple as everything you said being said from when I was a kid, but believing it is a different thing even as a twenty something. Thank you for your authenticness and being bold and outspoken about it. There are many other women out there like you that need to hear this truth and be healed in Jesus name. God bless you!
WHEW LADY!! Preach it! Thank you so much for doing this video!! I love this. I am on my celibacy journey and I couldn't be happier. Always makes me so happy to watch these types of videos. I cannot wait to talk more about it on my channel as well. Keep up the hard and amazing work!! :)
I wonder if you do establish and maintain a successful marriage you will look at this and consider it good advice... Watch it at 2x speed and what stands out is the term "for me" I hope this does work out for you but I suspect you have some very good points with some bad one and a number which are very context specific. The praying and not hiding your true self are very important. Compromising those can be devastating. The expectation of a man to pay or opening all doors for you just sound princess-y. The planning, equal traveling for long distance relationships and comming to the door are circumstancec dependant. This list may work out for you but if I were giving advice it is not covering all the really important stuff and is including some standards that are easily met by players and manipulators but not particularly good at filtering out good men.
This is hard to watch and not because it feels like a rebuke (the video isn't aimed at me). Relationships don't define a person, and a bad relationship affects not only those in the relationship, but the people around them too. I think Jesus just would expect more from everyone if I may speak bluntly.
I will say good luck with this viewpoint, and good luck in dating. Many Christian men have walked away from the modern dating scene because we are expected to be traditional while the woman doesn't want to be traditional. We want traditional too. Many of us Christian men are going to South East Asia to find our traditional wives.
Thank you for this! I have since read The Rules by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider. I highly recommend this book as it mentions some of these that you did and more ❤
A perfect guy christ like perfect, pays , your just way perfect as you are but no one is good enough , and he pays and he pays and he should give you life long christ like perfection by your judgment, and your just perfect. And you'll pay later but not untill he pays as a standard first, You can give give him brokenness and ate up Sister , stop broad casting untill you are well , have some positive energy and lead forth From a positive space ,maybe some gratitude, you are the only thing wrong with you, don't expand wounded energy, heal yourself and be well , make it about you getting right with you insteadnof about getting right thru a relational dynamic , a good relationship may be conducive but thats also yoh trying to get that energy from them for change because you want them to provide it and then you'll be ok but its a lie , you have to change for you from with in and take time, don't make a relationship responsible for where your growth is at , you be that person you should be enough first, later post something from you just being well and doing the positive , I think in my opinion don't listen to me im..completely wrong but first be the person you are looking for in a relationship ship, hold yourself to those standards first .
The last one is HUGE for me. With the paying one, I feel like whoever asks for the date, should I pay for the date. Like if I get asked to Olive Garden, they pay for both of our Olive Garden meals and if I ask them to Red Robbin, I pay for both of our Red Robbin meals.
I've failed so much with relationships because I couldn't pick up or understand social cues. It was horrible not being say something the way I meant it. Most of the times I said something which came across like cringy or awkward and I could feel myself drowning in embarrassment. Only a few girls I met saw me beyond my flaws, the rest were just judgemental. I don't blame them. I'm fortunate because now I can understand the difficulty some guys/girls face. When you genuinely put in the effort to make things work but your mental health screws you big time. The struggles of my ADHD.
I'll say dont compromise for nobody. Especially if you were waiting for marriage originally. Dont shift. And while its not always the case, 90% of the time do not even entertain a non-believer. Big mistake
Lol. Just saying, if you're a girl and expect someone to open the door for you, don't race to the door. Some girls will just go into the restaurant before you can even get it for them.
I agree with most things you said except have a guy picking me up at my place for if he is not the right dude for me usually the guy knows where I live becomes a stalker, thus lately I give them a different area of town if I have a date. I dont want a stranger following me around as I already have one and it is very uncomfortable.
Hey Nast, I'm from India. Love your channel by the way. So....I clicked on some video links that you put in the description and it says "video removed" 😐 um.....that's it bye thank you
On the pay thing, i get your point. First few dates sure. But if im the only emptying my wallet all the Way. For me would not do it. Would like to be seen as an equal, in all part of our realationship. Not into the spoil her part.
enemy told truth .. protect your heart till right one or right people. then you wont be crazy even think about it .. hard to change who you are though . great advice .. i just joined the cult . to nice to wrong people. lots wolves out there .. good advice except for poor people but depends on who ya with . then again not ready yet as well and watch out for people with money travel all over and can afford to get you buy a meal that costs them nothing . i learned a lot ... biggest investment is a spouse ... should invest in good one or show it best you can so they know all you can do .. team work . you don't even need much . double of not much is a good pay check .. good video .. notice little things it points no empathy or not thinking people .. or more aware and caring .. thinking of others. then watch out for they don't think of the,sleves or own before others . help everyone but spouse and kids . lol. complicated man.. good rules though ... i always did doors even for guys or injured people ..
Imagine being this densely entitled. So he needs to pay, open all doors, initiate conversations, and initiate/plan dates, before he even knows if he likes you..? For all his effort, he may end up not even liking you-but he’s out a few hundred bucks and 5 hours of his life. what does he get out of it? You get free meals, tons of free attention, and the best part of dating in the 60s, while he gets what exactly? Does he get a young, supportive, kind/loving, motherly, virgin woman? No… you want chivalrous treatment for your basic, modern self. If only we lived in a world where people worried more about others more than themselves. You are selfish.
i pray to my own food . always thankful for it when i didn't pray . understood creation model ... slowly getting there . you guys pray a awful lot ... short and sweet ... if i killing the animal id pray before nd after . lol. i don't like attention or to boost, so pray to myself .. non of their business. private person . quickest wy ago get killed is to admit religion or country your from. some times best to stay alive than dead use the brain . i learned from jesus to not get persecuted by governments wolves sheep clothing . every one maned up and was responsible then i be first in line but most people ant .. maybe christians or some .. save your self.. amen . jesus taught me that and law . life experience .
If a woman doesn't offer she looks entitled so I will pay for the food if she offers too and I'll back it up with insisting on paying for her so I know I'm not wasting my time
Those are some awfully minor, petty, and superficial standards. So he opens the door for you but snorts cocaine? So he knocks on the door but is screwing every girl in town?
I would never buy a horse without first taking it for a ride & I would never date a girl who doesn't put out on the first date.😄😄😄😄If she expects me to wear a condom, she must supply it.....
My last ex was a narcissist. I lowered my standards because i was afraid i'll be alone. BIGGEST mistake, ever! Girls, NEVER lower your standards, i paid dearly for that.
Quick question, why did you wait so long to want to settle down? This might sound harsh but it's the truth, a man's value rises after He reaches 30 while a woman's value decreases at the same age group simply because men date down and women date up.
I turned 30 I spent 3 years in a relationship that had over 20 red Flags
@@deadcell1 Sometimes is not that she waisted is that most of her relationships failed and she kept trying
@@deadcell1 i was busy helping out my family. On top - there weren't that many quality men around. Truly there are none.
@@DinaStrange I think it's a perspective thing. Not to sound offensive but I firmly believe you attract what you are. The truth is quality attracts quality, you can't demand value without giving value. Most people don't realize this because they rarely have any self reflection that's why they have a skewed perspective of their situation.
Ask yourself this to start, "As a woman, what do I have to offer (besides sex) that a man will want and value?
Glad you mentioned prayer before meals. Its something I always do, including on dates. It's funny, I've had gals get offended when I do this. It just tells to me she's not the one
It’s amazing! You keep it up. I never saw this as something I should prioritize, but it makes so much sense. If I’m (or any woman) is looking for an equally yoked parner than praying before meals is a good way to tell if that person has a true relationship with Jesus or if it's all just religion.
@@justkristinna7253 You have no way of knowing if a person is a hypocrite or a backslider. God knows His own even tho it might not be evident to you. I ran from God for many years and tried my best to blend in with the world so He wouldn't find me again and I even fled to different countries to get away from Him, but despite my best efforts to get away from God and His calling, God chased after me by sending multiple Christians into my life, some of which have been women who brushed me off as being unsaved at that time.
Not everyone and I tell you, everyone is what you perceived as being just religious or unsaved. There are a lot of brothers and sisters in the world who lost their way and became like Jonah. It's up to you to decide to help the Lord who left the 99 to pursue 1.
@UChDoEK9rhfDiPLip3ZIdSfA Telling the truth is not being mean, it's being loving. For example, if your parents warn you not to do certain things or this or that will happen is not being mean, it's because they love you and don't want any harm to come to you. It's the same way with God and it's the reason why He died on the cross it's because He loves us and wants to spare us from harm. How I wish I had a brother or sister to tell me the truth or else I wouldn't have stayed for as long as I did and God wouldn't have to send a storm into my life to bring me back.
If God had a plan to save your friend then he has a plan to restore him, tell him the truth, warn, and persuade him but if he refuses to listen distance yourself but continue to pray for him so you don't fall as well. Shine a light into his life every chance you get. Bless him if he curses you, show kindness if he is cruel towards you, show love in the presence of hatred, by doing so you will be displaying you are a child of God and earn treasures in heaven. Maybe just maybe, through you, God will demonstrate his loving-kindness and win him over again.
@@deadcell1 Thank so so much!!! I appreciate your time!! Seriously, thank you so much for the help!!!
This really has helped me see my purpose in a whole new way. My grandma was talking about speaking to people about His word in any single opportunity we get. What you mentioned really did kinda clicked everything together. I appreciate you so much, thank you once again!
Was on a date with someone (like a 13th date!) and we were talking about spiritual leadership and Christian standards for dating. They made a joke about “you can lead I don’t mind” ..... I never realized how badly that would bother me until someone said that out loud to me. That was the last date and I have a firm standard in place where I demand to be led in Christ! 🤷🏻♀️💞
nice job girl i'm proud of you!!
Well, to be honest, in Jesus and the Apostle's time, Christians didn't date, they only married. Dating is a new concept invented by the world just like Valentine's Day was invented by the Romans. God commands us to be holy (1 Peter 1:14-16) and we are not to conform to the world (Romans 12:2) . So by dating you are conforming to the world view and I think it's something we are all guilty of at some point. If you want a Godly man stop looking and ask God (Mark 11:24) and if it's His will He will give you what you have asked.
That made you end a 13 date streak?😕
This is actually really practical and wise. Any girl who is serious about relationships should watch this. God bless you :)
I completely agree!
Any woman who is serious about relationship need to watch Kevin Samuels.
I've noticed theres a lot of pressure to be with someone in the christian community and what I like about the last point in particular is that its reminding people that they need to wait for the RIGHT relationship and not just dive in because theres that pressure. Pressuring people into marriage and relationships has the opposite effect from what you want. Leave single folks be and encourage them in their walk. Being married is not everything, be patient and wait and remember that singleness is a blessing. I'm at a really confusing point in my life right now but at the end of it the most important thing is to trust in God. X Keep your chin up guys you're fearfully and wonderfully made x
I'm still single but these kind of videos always pop up in my recommended 😂 but solid points u made 👌🏼 that whole point about even the pizza delivery guy comes to the door is so true 😂 and for your other point, I'm also a Christian so I'm obviously looking for a man of God so we should definitely be open to pray for each other and initiate to pray for the meal on a date 👌🏼❤
SO true. Love the advice in this video!
You want the man to be traditional but I bet you don't want to stay home and cook, clean the house etc.
I will never tone myself down for someone again!
good!
I love how you highlighted that its your standards: its important to have your own standards while dating thats not dictated by society or the opinion of others. I also agree with the fact that as a woman its important to have your discernment on high alert: prayer is important in knowing if a man can lead you spiritually-great video!
i didn't agree with everything you said, but i like that you stand in your truth, you were fun and straight to the point. I'm a young christian too and dating is like YIKES, good tips
I wasn't going to comment but the part about if he has to take you in doses then he isn't the one. Spot on!!! Thanks for making this video
Yes for sure its important to know when a man is wasting your time-one of the indicators like she said is that he just shows up literally out of nowhere and expects you to be available-that's so disrespectful
He opens doors for you
Prays with you and for you
He travels for you make plans beforehand
Pays for your meals
You dont feel like holding yourself back.
You literally spoke to me!!!! I'm so energetic and positive! Often times I feel as though I'm too much in a classroom, zoom call, etc. YOU TAUGHT ME TO EMBRACE THAT, GLORY TO GOD.
Every word is true, Thank God young people still follow these ground rules of the traditional relationships. Love your videos.
A. opening the door
B. Seeing them just as much as you see them.
C. If they don't pray for you or at the dinner time. #relationship counts
D. He should prioritize and plan ahead this shows you really care about her.
E. Pay for the meals! man should be paying for all if that. That is humility and caring.come prepared for her.
F. You be fully yourself
Crazy ha!
Bruh u need to take the red pill
When did Christian dating become pseudo-feminism and entitlement? I am not paying for dates. We can split, other wise it is not gonna happen.
It’s great to find another Christian UA-camr! Keep doing your thing.:)✝️
Did you NOT see her tattoo?
Kevin Samuels will destroy Nastasia in 5 minutes. She wants a traditional Christian man who will provide, protect and give her honor. But she doesn't represent a traditional Christian woman. A Christian woman must submit to her husband. What makes you think you deserve a good man? What do you have to offer?
Exactly where I am at right now. Working on outlining what my standards are so when the time comes I am clear where I stand so I will not accept less 🙏 fyi will use this along with my list as a supportive reminder of what I deserve 💜
Kevin Samuels will destroy your idea in 5 minutes. What makes you think you DESERVE a good man?
You don’t understand how much you’re helping me through! God bless💖
Just Kristina are you single!
What do you guys think??? Let me know!
Nastasia Grace I would love to meet someone who can lead me closer to Christ and who loves the Lord ❤️
I agree with all your standards, can you do a video on your boundaries? Lol I love how serious you’re about your standards, you go girl!
@UCoxw3KPmFQJa8qjbnKb0k7g YES girl! do you mean physically or emotionally?
I agree with everything you said it definitely helped me especially being a young woman thank you 🤗
@@aysiafaye awesome thanks so much!!!
Your videos are helping me put my singleness and my past with men into proper perspective. The part when you said your plans are now to hangout with you on youtube I looked at the screen and was like she's so cute because you feel like someone I'd really be friends with who is admitting to all the crap I do with men I am too embarrassed to admit. Thanks girls, I pray I can be more like you and God can write me a beautiful love story like he has now for you.
This is actually a precious 5 red flags for us, guys. It's great, no one is gonna waste someone else's time, Thanks.
Chivalry is still around. I'm a guy so I know that it's up to us to pay for meals. It is respectful for the girl I'm courting. Plus I'm Catholic and I'm old school. I come from a country where it's the responsibility of the guy to please the girl pay for her meal and do whatever it takes to please her. And even beyond that I would follow the traditional customs that are seen today as a joke. Very well laid out video on the standards that seem to be getting lost by the day...
I agree on the planning thing. I’ve canceled plans to go out with a guy I liked when he asked me at the last minute but I realized that I deserve better.
Yes! If someone is pursuing me, the man SHOULD be paying for every date. It's the man's role to provide. It has nothing to do with you standing your feminine ground, but to let a man pay. BEEN there! DONE that! I expect it.
If a man is paying. You better have slept with less then 5 guys.
PREACH!! I can relate to so many of these 🤦🏼♀️ Keep it up, girl! Love your vids and your personality
Where do we find men like this!?! I would like a Godly man but I don’t even know where to find them outside of church. 😩 Tips!?
This advice is really great by the way! And I do believe men that do the right things, as you suggested, are out there, and it’s important to have a standards list to weed out the “tares”. ☺️ Thanks for sharing these!
Ariana G God created men to be the pursuer, so you don’t have to look. He’ll find you. The best thing to do now is enjoy your season of singleness and chase after the Lord ❤️. Then eventually he’ll place that special someone in your life.
But other than that you can pray for a boyfriend, or try online dating. I heard mingle and christian mingle are the best for christian dating. Or you can try being more involved in social events like bible study or any faith based activities
I wonder how to meet godly women.
Brenton Gandy My thoughts exactly.
I feel like I used to be that guy, and he died when I had my heart crushed and stomped on. I’m not a bad guy now, but I’m a lot less hopeful about dating and the future. It feels like I’m never going to be fully me again... :(
Some of these just felt a bit too extra honestly
Surprise, suriprise! She likes traditional, biblical roles when it benefits her. Guy must be a sacrificial provider and protector: yes! Girl needs to be submissive and a helpmate: no way!
"Your plan is to hang out with me, on UA-cam"
😂😂 I love this.
If you're not a virgin all of this is null and void.
I always offer to pay for the meal. If they insist I don't fight it, but feel its necessary for the man to always offer to provide.
Absolutely right! These were small things that truly matter because it’s almost like they set the tone for how things will go moving forward. I’ve found myself compromising my standards simply because I didn’t wanna be “lonely” and that is a HARD NO now! Hard no.‼️👏🏾
I asked the Holy Spirit to show me someone I could relate to and boom I found you😄 This was perfect! It’s so easy for me to love fully but it has felt like a curse at times. It’s not!! I’m blessed to be able to love so deeply despite what I’ve gone through! Thank you and God bless ❤🙏🏽
“My greatest weakness is that I love people too much.” Somebody needs an ego check.
spot on thats so true what you say!!!
You are such a good role model ,i have always though about picking me was the right thing ,that says a lot about the guy
aww thank you. and yes you are FOR SURE worth that!
this is a good video. remember this- the same things you settle on are the same reasons why it'll go down in flames. As women we are worth more!
Thank you so much for this! We are not too compassionate and we are perfect just the way we are! Thank you so much for these liberating words! I'm actually hearing this advice about how my parents treated me. Thank you so much for liberating me from their judgement!
I've heard it said that whoever initiates a date is the one that's supposed to pay. Usually that's the guy, but say I've been dating a girl and she's like, "hey, come with me to watch this movie I really want to see!" In your opinion, would it be reasonable in that situation to assume that the girl will pay for the movie? Or should I pay for the movie regardless of who initiated the plans?
I'm not trying to test you, I'm seriously asking because I don't date a lot haha.
Todd Marshall In that situation it seems like she’ll pay for herself and you pay for yourself. If you offer to pay for her, she’ll love that but in that situation it isn’t necessary
As a girl, if I were to initiate something with a guy I would definitely prepare to pay for myself BUT if you like the girl and want her to know that then you should pay. If you dont pay she'll definitely think you're not into her lol
Cool, thanks for the advice!
In my opinion you should chek out MGTOW
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Wait, wut? Why? Why would your opinion be that?
With so many specific standards, don’t you think you owe it to the man (and yourself) to drop hints about your expectations? If the guy really likes you and respects you and you like him, an honest conversation will help clarify things.
and what do you bring to the table if i may ask?
This is just what I needed. The last point about being too much and reducing yourself. Definitely going to be myself again.
What I heard "wait on me hand and foot while I do nothing but act entitled." Nothing Christian about most of this video.
If a guy is not respecting you and boundaries, just doing whatever he wants anyway. That's a big no. That means he doesn't love other like himself
All good gifts and perfect gifts comes down from the Father of lights in who there is no variableness or shadow or turning Jesus said he doesn’t share his glory with another 👟❤️📖📖📖
thanks for the advice 💓🙏
I totally 100% agree with you men should pay on those first dates, men actually want to pay. Praying is so HUGE too! Great job!
I think as humans and being not so typical, we get desperate. But I think girls like us learn to lean on the Lord bc of this, which is great!
Ngl, I came into this after intentionally searching up Christian girl high standards thinking this probably isn’t for me, but imma watch it to see what the other girls are struggling with. Lol, clown, this was for me! And it may seem silly bc it’s as simple as everything you said being said from when I was a kid, but believing it is a different thing even as a twenty something.
Thank you for your authenticness and being bold and outspoken about it. There are many other women out there like you that need to hear this truth and be healed in Jesus name. God bless you!
Wow love this, this was so good!!
Nice points . Thank you.
WHEW LADY!! Preach it! Thank you so much for doing this video!! I love this. I am on my celibacy journey and I couldn't be happier. Always makes me so happy to watch these types of videos. I cannot wait to talk more about it on my channel as well. Keep up the hard and amazing work!! :)
Thank you so much for making this video! 🤍
Loves it Nastasia, first time viewer, definitely subscribed 😭❤
thank you!!
I wonder if you do establish and maintain a successful marriage you will look at this and consider it good advice...
Watch it at 2x speed and what stands out is the term "for me" I hope this does work out for you but I suspect you have some very good points with some bad one and a number which are very context specific.
The praying and not hiding your true self are very important. Compromising those can be devastating.
The expectation of a man to pay or opening all doors for you just sound princess-y.
The planning, equal traveling for long distance relationships and comming to the door are circumstancec dependant.
This list may work out for you but if I were giving advice it is not covering all the really important stuff and is including some standards that are easily met by players and manipulators but not particularly good at filtering out good men.
This is very very helpful 💗
This is hard to watch and not because it feels like a rebuke (the video isn't aimed at me). Relationships don't define a person, and a bad relationship affects not only those in the relationship, but the people around them too. I think Jesus just would expect more from everyone if I may speak bluntly.
Love that last point especially.
I will say good luck with this viewpoint, and good luck in dating. Many Christian men have walked away from the modern dating scene because we are expected to be traditional while the woman doesn't want to be traditional. We want traditional too. Many of us Christian men are going to South East Asia to find our traditional wives.
Thank you for this! I have since read The Rules by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider. I highly recommend this book as it mentions some of these that you did and more ❤
I needed this! Thanks Sis 💞
A perfect guy christ like perfect, pays , your just way perfect as you are but no one is good enough , and he pays and he pays and he should give you life long christ like perfection by your judgment, and your just perfect. And you'll pay later but not untill he pays as a standard first,
You can give give him brokenness and ate up
Sister , stop broad casting untill you are well , have some positive energy and lead forth From a positive space ,maybe some gratitude, you are the only thing wrong with you, don't expand wounded energy, heal yourself and be well , make it about you getting right with you insteadnof about getting right thru a relational dynamic , a good relationship may be conducive but thats also yoh trying to get that energy from them for change because you want them to provide it and then you'll be ok but its a lie , you have to change for you from with in and take time, don't make a relationship responsible for where your growth is at , you be that person you should be enough first, later post something from you just being well and doing the positive , I think in my opinion don't listen to me im..completely wrong but first be the person you are looking for in a relationship ship, hold yourself to those standards first .
Thank you so much 🤗Keep making videos..
The last one is HUGE for me.
With the paying one, I feel like whoever asks for the date, should I pay for the date. Like if I get asked to Olive Garden, they pay for both of our Olive Garden meals and if I ask them to Red Robbin, I pay for both of our Red Robbin meals.
I've failed so much with relationships because I couldn't pick up or understand social cues. It was horrible not being say something the way I meant it. Most of the times I said something which came across like cringy or awkward and I could feel myself drowning in embarrassment. Only a few girls I met saw me beyond my flaws, the rest were just judgemental. I don't blame them. I'm fortunate because now I can understand the difficulty some guys/girls face. When you genuinely put in the effort to make things work but your mental health screws you big time. The struggles of my ADHD.
Such a needed video! Wow.
SUCH A BLESSING TO HEAR THAT. Thank you. New subs
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Love this!😂❤️
Once again thank you for sharing your experience. It blessed me, again. Lol. Wow. God is good.
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Love love loved this! Christian UA-camrs should make more videos like this. You are super amazing 💕
this is SO GOOD thank you
I'll say dont compromise for nobody. Especially if you were waiting for marriage originally. Dont shift.
And while its not always the case, 90% of the time do not even entertain a non-believer. Big mistake
very important conversation...
BE BAPTIZED IN JESUS NAME, BY WATER AND BY THE HOLY SPIRIT !!!!!
Lol. Just saying, if you're a girl and expect someone to open the door for you, don't race to the door. Some girls will just go into the restaurant before you can even get it for them.
100% AGREE!
Hey, Can you make a video of standards a guy should have?
That should be a man telling other men what standards they should have. Cause a women isn't about a men's struggle. It is about the sisterhood.
Yep not a video for normal people only for the religious and those who don't believe in equality.
I agree with most things you said except have a guy picking me up at my place for if he is not the right dude for me usually the guy knows where I live becomes a stalker, thus lately I give them a different area of town if I have a date. I dont want a stranger following me around as I already have one and it is very uncomfortable.
Stop being so paranoid.
Agree with every single one of these
Such an empowering & grounding video! Thank you!
Hey Nast, I'm from India. Love your channel by the way. So....I clicked on some video links that you put in the description and it says "video removed" 😐 um.....that's it bye thank you
Sister of Alexander Grace ?
5 standards to keep you single.
Cat food prices are raising :)
I fed like a lot of these are for brand new relationships.
On the pay thing, i get your point. First few dates sure. But if im the only emptying my wallet all the Way. For me would not do it. Would like to be seen as an equal, in all part of our realationship. Not into the spoil her part.
enemy told truth .. protect your heart till right one or right people. then you wont be crazy even think about it .. hard to change who you are though . great advice .. i just joined the cult . to nice to wrong people. lots wolves out there .. good advice except for poor people but depends on who ya with . then again not ready yet as well and watch out for people with money travel all over and can afford to get you buy a meal that costs them nothing . i learned a lot ... biggest investment is a spouse ... should invest in good one or show it best you can so they know all you can do .. team work . you don't even need much . double of not much is a good pay check .. good video .. notice little things it points no empathy or not thinking people .. or more aware and caring .. thinking of others. then watch out for they don't think of the,sleves or own before others . help everyone but spouse and kids . lol. complicated man.. good rules though ... i always did doors even for guys or injured people ..
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You lost me when you use the word like five times in the first 30 seconds
Glad I’m not the only one who noticed lol
Imagine being this densely entitled. So he needs to pay, open all doors, initiate conversations, and initiate/plan dates, before he even knows if he likes you..? For all his effort, he may end up not even liking you-but he’s out a few hundred bucks and 5 hours of his life. what does he get out of it? You get free meals, tons of free attention, and the best part of dating in the 60s, while he gets what exactly? Does he get a young, supportive, kind/loving, motherly, virgin woman? No… you want chivalrous treatment for your basic, modern self. If only we lived in a world where people worried more about others more than themselves. You are selfish.
Sooo...I gotta be traditional while you guys can do w/e the hell you guys want? None this made sense to me.
REPENT FOR THE KINGDOM OF GOD IS AT HAND !!!!!!!!
hope god will bless me with a good wife
i pray to my own food . always thankful for it when i didn't pray . understood creation model ... slowly getting there . you guys pray a awful lot ... short and sweet ... if i killing the animal id pray before nd after . lol. i don't like attention or to boost, so pray to myself .. non of their business. private person . quickest wy ago get killed is to admit religion or country your from. some times best to stay alive than dead use the brain . i learned from jesus to not get persecuted by governments wolves sheep clothing . every one maned up and was responsible then i be first in line but most people ant .. maybe christians or some .. save your self.. amen . jesus taught me that and law . life experience .
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If a woman doesn't offer she looks entitled so I will pay for the food if she offers too and I'll back it up with insisting on paying for her so I know I'm not wasting my time
lol bless your heart.
Those are some awfully minor, petty, and superficial standards. So he opens the door for you but snorts cocaine? So he knocks on the door but is screwing every girl in town?
Now you're talking. She is focusing on minor things in the larger picture of life and ignoring true character. Not surprised she's past her due date.
this is exactly why many white girls end up being 60 and alone, they have unreal standards like the ones this girl promotes XD
what does me being white have anything to do with it?
I agree with you and I would like to know what they offer us in return?
I would never buy a horse without first taking it for a ride & I would never date a girl who doesn't put out on the first date.😄😄😄😄If she expects me to wear a condom, she must supply it.....