She Reveals the BIGGEST Issue With Older Women
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Hi Alexander. Been a long time fan of your work since you were doing a lot more interviews. After you transitioned to a different type of content I was a bit wary but eventually liked it even more, as I found it much more relatable.
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I am a 32yo average joe that has a good, stable job. I am polite, moderately shy, smart individual who can at times transmit a certain degree of confidence (maybe not as much as I'd like). Dated an amazing girl (26) for about 3 months (really only went out on 6 dates maybe). Our relationship progressed to the level of being comfortable to make out and cuddle together (flag?) for hours. Unfortunately, she never actually accepted us being boyfriends as she "needed to keep going out to try and find the chemistry".
This was something that I really didn't understand, as she mentioned several times that she liked me on paper, but was having trouble finding that spark she always found in her past relationships. If I had to make a guess, it would be that I was/am really bad at opening up and making women feel a wider range of emotions, including a bit more of physical "passion". I don't consider myself the bad boy type and, from what I gather from her past relationships, that's something that she is def looking for (as it matches her warm, touchy feely personality).
My question is... is there any way that I can get a second chance with her and perhaps prove to her and myself that I can be more than I currently am? It's hard for me since we don't have many friends in common and I don't have any way to contact her besides messenger. Any advice would be much appreciated. Thanks.
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My advice, move on. For your own sanity.
1:45 actually judging by the oldest father in the world Ramjit Raghav, the age is 96
Forget that girl, she’ll only bring you misery. You’re a nice guy, and she doesn’t want that. And when she does, she’ll be too old. She’ll learn this lesson the hard way. Instead, you’d be better off dating an Asian girl, who was born and grew up in Asia. You’ll likely be more compatible. Best wishes.
I'd say the relationship they supposedly have is mainly on his part. Not saying you need to have sex on the first date, but you've seen her for 3 months and cuddled at the most, on top of the halfhearted compliment.
Sounds like a case of oneitus.
As others have said. Best way forward is to let her go. She's more likely to find you attractive if your dating other women anyway. So for you it's a win win either way.
Good luck.
Most women want to be the bride but not the wife.
Most men want the sex and not the relationship. Fair comparison?
@@JamesCraigWhoop ... Not really. Quite a lot of men crave a deep connection in addition to 30 minutes of pleasure.
@@JamesCraigWhoop Wrong. A lot of men want stable relationship and have babies.Women reject their biology.
Just use search engine and prove me wrong.
BTW.Men are 24/7 sperm factory.What do you expect them to be ?A robots without life?
Are you a feminist ?
@@breakingthemasks I would go so far as to say that MOST men crave a deep connection. We just know how dangerous it is to be vulnerable with a woman. That's why we rarely do it.
@@Mr_Don1 ... Preach brother. Preach. 👍
Leonardo DiCaprio definitely watches these vids. He only dates women in their 20’s. Smart man
He's a good looking rich superstar he could date anyone he likes. even 17 year olds, or whatever is the safe age in USA. Doesn't mean average fella can do the same ))
Date them but don't marry them. Get them in their prime and then get a newer model when they age.
Except that they're more hookers than his GF's. If he was just a regular poor guy, none of these women that he been with would even touch him with a 10 foot pole!
No he isn't smart, but he is also very constrained... women in their 20s are already about shallow calculations and scheming, their 'passion era almost always only exists in their teen years/ very-very early 20s.
Same lols
My narcissist ex wife said "I didn't even like you when I married you", and she literally could not see the utter insanity in such a statement. Effectively it means, "I'm a consciousless moron". I literally laughed and asked her if she genuinely u derstands what she just said. Clueless.
Mother of my son said the same i even moved country you loved me more then, i you! where her words..
These people are damaged goods.
She can be 20 and still have a body count higher than her age.
I knew a chick who had 80 when she was only 18. She would let whole sports teams screw her. They're not safe at any age.
My ex was a virgin, did everything for her like an idiot as I thought she was the 'one', she split with me for the one reason that she wanted to sleep with more people before she settles down, as of now, I'm still the only person she slept with (her sister told me). lol, being bang average looking and boring as hell isn't a good combination for women..... I'm just waiting for the phone call to get back together...... No chance!!
@@Marty7787 that's a shame but I've heard this from women. They get married as young virgins and by 30 they are itching to find someone else because they settled down to soon. They say their husband was the only man they slept with as negative. Very sad. I was a virgin when I met my husband but I was 25. I had taken myself out of the dating scene and was the Christian version of being a nun. I had been friendzoned by a guy I was in love with and it messed me up.
The upside is that even though I was a virgin, I had lived long enough and seen enough good and bad relationships that I knew my husband was a good man when I met him. We've been together since 1999.
I'm sorry your ex did that to you. But she does not deserve you.
Marty7787 what are you talking about, an ugly land whale can open their legs and have a couple fools lined up. An average girl still can get a huge lineup of guys. She likely is one of the good few women who don’t want to do one night stands, but those guys don’t want that and the other guys are looking for stuff that is too long term for her “sleeping” goal.
Dylan Rutter "had 80 when she was only 18" !! And I thought the gf (age 25) of a friend of mine was bad ... she admitted she'd had "90-something" partners and then went on to give one anecdote after the next (no shame). I don't think my friend was aware of this and only found out after she got pregnant by him.
This actually happened to me. After two kids, I would tell her that all I felt like was the maintenance guy around the house. She never cared. Even the day after we broke up she told me she loved me as a friend. Ten years of my life just to be thrown back to the world to be alone. Be cautious gentlemen of these types.
Got a vasectomy thanks for validating my choice
key is to never get married.
That happened to me as well. Exactly the same.
You ask yourself this question and keep it in your mind at all times, "what does this woman want?". She will blurt it out to you in a very short period of time.
@patkachu4 what will happen to your 2 Kids now that you have kick out? Will they still be yours?
More men need to be aware of this. Men can typically fall in love (or have lust) for a woman of any age. Usually it's to their own detriment leaving some guys emotionally or financially burned.
They can only take child support off you if you're unmarried. Any big purchases best to be put down in both names or your own.
No men can sleep with anything, and marry anything whereas most women cant
@pat bej yes it is, you guys pick any woman and just hope that a relationship will work out... Then you don't see it as a partnership and so the relationship fails
I kinda hate being a male and attracted to sexy female body. There's this single 50-something female co-worker (I'm 40) who has amazing body for her age (well at least in my eyes) and she always seems happy to see me. But her talk and "granny laugh" kinda turns me off. Until I look at her body again. I know it's just physical lust but I just can't seem to get over this and sometimes quiting my job seems like a good idea to get rid of her.
@@YoStu242 FORGET ABOUT THE 50YO - find a randy 21yo.
This is one of my biggest fears. That someone will convince me that she is in love with me and that we should start a family.
But after babymaking is over she will stop giving me any attention. Then it will become obvious that she only wanted me for my resources.
I suspect most marriages are "dead" like this, after family is made woman stops giving husband any attention or love.
Yes it happens. I would say that during the dead time, I’ve learned to love in a different way, like before you had sex for the first time. Now that my kids aren’t infants, they cling to me, tell me I’m the best dad, and I get everything I need from them. Hugs and kisses and affirmation does a lot for me. When they grow up and leave the house, maybe then , we will have to face the marriage demon.
Unfortunately this happens all the time. I think that by the time a woman is in her 30s she's received too many anti male messages and had too many partners to care for a man or how her actions might hurt one. They've internalized the 3rd wave feminist idea that men are inherently bad and therefore should rightfully be used for her purposes only. I think they convince themselves that you're playing the same game of deception that they are so whatever they do to you is justified.
@mavishill your friend won't do it, but he needs to make it clear that if she remains frigid, then he's going to explore other options. He should start with, "You've clearly made a decision to take the love out of our marriage. As you are broken, defective, and no longer capable of providing intimacy, I'll need to find someone who can. I'll stay fir the baby, but I need to spend time with someone who can can show me love."
I doubt that your friend can do it. I understand that. I went through a marriage that was shitty for other reasons. She's probably giving him occasional crumbs of hope, if he'll only do this or that. She's likely making it huis fault, and he lacks the spine to tell her that it is her fault. Your friend may just end up as a suicide.
And thats why you should show her how value you are to ither women
@@Carlos.Rivera A bit like, how I like to take recruiting calls in front of my boss.
I date a wide age range. The thing that separates the early 20s girls from early 30s girls absolutely is their ability to love. A young girl will believe in the relationship and invest herself in it, the 30 something knows the game and is using you to satisfy a specific set of needs. You hit the nail on the head
7:46. 59 year old Australian lawyer here. My experience is that the older woman does not abandon the strategy. They still act like they are the prize. The only difference is that the mature woman is concerned about her impending retirement, and wants a man as her financial plan. Amusingly, notwithstanding the generally low savings/superannuation levels of mature women and their cratering SMV they still won't settle for less than they believe they deserve. They still think what they are bringing to the table is of the same value as what they had when they were in their twenties. I recommend a binding financial agreement to all men who are thinking about partnering up.
I know plenty of "older women" in their mid/late 30's that act as if they're dating in their 20's. The entitlement force is strong in the older women too. This goes for non-attractive girls too
Oh, my, yes! Insert shudder here. It is sad that the inside is empty and they're looking to fill it from without.
especially the non-attractive girls .
@@johnvanegmond1812 butt hollow rot is da worse u can gut
Women don't love men. Women love that men love them. Very different if you ask me.
I realized this when I was 18.
Excellent remark. It's often only about narcissism and nothing else. On the other hand this is only true if you are not really attractive to her and/or she's beyond her 'passion' era, which usually end with their teens/very-very early 20s... so for most men this is true 100% of the times.
I think men are wonderful. You have a capacity for warmth, innocence and inner peace which I have never found in a woman. A good hug from a man seems like the safest place on earth.
I am very young still, though, so I have to protect myself to not get jaded.
I've thought about this quite a lot lately.
I hope you won't think badly of me for saying this, I am being honest.
@@dancingthedream1410 men are good natured, but imagine if we all were born billionaires. I'm pretty sure I would be a narcissistic asshole.
Mans desire is for the woman. Women's desire is for the desire of the man.
I see it a lot with career women, they'll get married for 2-4 years in the 30-35 zone.
that is basically the plot in Sex and the City and Trainwreck with Amy Schumer.
It's the storyline that appeals most to women.
@@keithbarbaro7590 Sex and the City is the playbook for these THOTs. Later on, they often end up with a cat or two, wondering where all the good men went. Idiots.
Yep, use the dude for a baby, and after the inevitable divorce, pin him down with child support for the next 18-24 yrs.
@@LuckysLair Yeah
@@LuckysLair Thats crazy...
A guy at my work is in his 40s and is married with two children . His youngest is about 10 years old and he told me he had not slept or had sex with his wife for those 10 years since the second child was born . Apparently she blames him for not earning more money ( even though they own 5 properties ) . I’ve given all my advice but he simply won’t leave because he says he will financially lose everything and also be cut off from his children .
It’s sad because he says once the children are asleep he goes out and sits in the garage alone or just wonders the streets.
More of this happens then we know.
Luckily I lived in a part of the country were it took a couple of hours an evening to shovel the driveway.
I guarantee somebody is hooking up with the wife!
damn your friend need to bust that nut
That's so sad!!!
When I was 62, I was invited to a wine tasting mixer. The room was filled with 30 to 40 year old women. I swear I heard uterus's vibrate when I walked in the door.
obsolete professor . Hahaha love your comment
Lol nice
Did you take any home or go to any of theirs and bang em? Or were you just swarmed all evening by them, or did a full room of over self valued women not seen you quality enough and ignore you not realising they are gas station sushi and you're the *insert higher quality food item here*?
@@blickluke they're nasty dude why would he bang them ewwww .
What were the signs? Where they all checking you out, complain about their relationships?
I wish I could have been around to hear vibrating uterus's.
In college and after graduation I dated a girl for 5 years. At age 27 she said “she wasn’t getting any younger” and if I didn’t marry her then our relationship was over. I declined and within 6 months she was married to another guy. The clock is that powerful.
Who marries a women after knowing her for 6 months... wtf ?
@@krisbron5734 an idiot marries a woman after 6 months.
@slice8844, no offense, but I can't believe she stayed with you 5 years without a marriage proposal. Did she discuss her expectations up front?
@@ROFusion
No she didn’t but 2-3 years in she started with the discussion.
She was likely dating him when she gave you that ultimatum.
If you want a loving relationship, buy a dog. lol.
@@barbellsamurai8014 So ? It needs to survive but don't forget it will give it's life to protect you .
Would you hump ya dog, mate?
I’m thinking about it
@@Walterrinho Sounds Ruff.
More correctly adopt a street dog
I'm turning 28 this summer and this concept is a huge part of why I find it very difficult to date women my age. They're right on the border of still thinking they have youth on their side and realizing the clock is ticking. It's an interesting transition to witness, to say the least
Use that "half of your age +7" rule. So that would be 21. Boom. Easy. Date girls ir early 20's.
George Bush I think you’re getting a little ahead of yourself there. I never said anything about marriage or even an LTR for that matter - because I’m not looking for it. Just dating. Appreciate your input and the thoroughness of your reply
I agree thank god we are men
Just don’t. Most women over 25 these days are emotionally broken.
@@Laurius57 That's a bullshit "rule" and no one should follow it
A 40-yr-old female client invited me over for apple pie and ice cream and coffee a few years ago when I was 46. We are both doctors of one sort or another, and we had a fun 5-hour conversation in her kitchen, then she completely ghosted me, despite telling me at the end of our talk that she hadn't had that long of a conversation in years. I had briefly mentioned my lifelong desire to not have children during those 5 hrs. About 6 months later she was visibly pregnant. I think she was looking for a sperm donor and had a fall-back man waiting in the wings.
@GP Goku Sounds like she was already preggers before the apple pie and ice cream:-)
@@ianrkav What are you talking about? You become visibly pregnant after just a few months. Nothing sounds like she was already pregnant.
Sounds like she was on the hunt.
and if it is about the food.That is quite normal combo in the south.
@@waltermh111 Some women hardly show at all even months into a pregnancy.
@@waltermh111 Ps. Women go on dates just for a meal where you're from?
@@Richjunior1 Agreed. Her body, her choice, but HIS financial responsibility for 18 years?
This is why it is *extremely important* to be perceptive of your surroundings.
Ex. Having the ability to be aware of what people want from you, like what women want from you within a relationship, can allow you to navigate a minefield of potential relationship danger.
Read true and read deep into people's portrayals for the clues of what their wants and needs are; it'll save you a ton of grief and strife in the long run~
Intellect = your ability to adapt to your given surroundings and circumstance
@@kaplislemesis4789 Intellect is relative to perception; it affects the maximum capacity of one's perceptive abilities.
@@rossdavis428 intellect
n. The ability to learn and reason; the capacity for knowledge and understanding.
n. A person's individual ability to think and reason.
@@kaplislemesis4789 So, what is your point? Are trying to correct me? Honestly, it seems as if you are trying to out philosophize me.
@@rossdavis428 poor boi I almost feel bad fo ya, almost :D I merely pointed out the difference between truth and reality and your personal opinion and misunderstanding of it. Anyone with grain of sense and respect generally thanks for it and implements in the reality in their thinking or if unable - start inventing words and excuses.
When I was 61, I dated a 34 year old woman. After three months she said we should have a baby. I said we can't...I told you I had a vasectomy. She then said well, we can adopt one. Then the aha moment. It clicked in my head...hmm... We adopt a baby. She quits her job, stays home with the baby and I support both of them. Nope. Not going to happen. I broke up with her two days later. Ohhh...women are so cunning!
Jun Gleno, and how is your life now that you are alone and without kids?
@@gavnonadoroge3092 in a bette place where he lives in peace,.
you know life isn't about having children marry and get a 9 to 5 jobs.
the perfect fantasy doesn;t excist lol it is an illusion.
being alone and loneliness is a different thing
@@Moesie 👏👏👏👏
Yessssss women have to their part
The older I get the less smart they seem. Once you know their tricks it's very easy.
What he's saying has happened exactly to me. I met her when we were both 29. At first it was amazing. Then she got pregnant at 31. Now my son is a year old and she won't even allow me to see him and I have to go to court for the custody.
Her and her parents' behaviour has been absolutely disgusting. Please be careful!
I’m sorry that happened to you. Bitter women are just 😣😣😣
Time to market to her.
Long term story telling.
Single mom statistics for kids.
No big dinners with grand kids.
Has she picked out her daughters porn name yet? Has she figured how many visits will be enough for her jailed son?
Study this. Then sell her.
Force her to think long term.
Hit her parents with the info.
She hates you BECAUSE she hates men and hates sharing... but she is a moron.
Prove to her she needs plans for the stats.
And you just are the best plan.
The kid may hate her later too.
Reminder her of that.
@@joeroot9142 Bitter? Homie, this is BEYOND bitter. Best you wise up.
Ultimately you are partially responsible, best you own up to the "blue pilled" mainstream BS you internalized as well.
@@snowfrosty1 Yes. I admit it. I will never have anything to do with wùmen of my age in this country, Italy. My only wùmen friends are the same age of my mother.
This is why I'm thankful for my wife. I was 19 and she was 18 when we started dating; 22 and 20 when we married. That was 10 years ago. She's my best friend and we've had 3 absurdly cute kids together.
EDIT: 13 years now.
20 years and I'll salute.
Good.
The story is not over yet.
@@robertjohnson4401 Nope, but if our parents' marriages are any indicator, we have "as long as we both shall live." My parents were together 41 years before my dad died of a brain tumor/related complications. My in-laws are celebrating their 37th anniversary this year.
Make sure you throw TV away. All shows teach and tell a woman to cheat. It is romanticized
Truth: Love combined with sex is far better than the two separately.
amen
How can there be love without sex in the first place? I cannot even imagine that.
@@Firemarioflower are you stupid or what ?
@@rdEye-jm8he No, but you clearly are you maggot
@@Firemarioflower lust and love dont always happen at the same time
This happened to my father-believe me, this stuff is true. He married a woman with 3 kids, and got VERY LITTLE in return. And yes, for the most part, the older a woman is, the less she gives a damn about you.
That’s his fault
@@joeroot9142 it’s his fault if he marries her, yes
Incredibly accurate. Women in their 20s are out to have a good time. As soon as I started dating women in their 30s, I had to meet pre-determined criteria because they had a calendar in their minds. Dodged all the bullets. In my early 50s happy as a clam. NOT so much for my married friends.
in my 50s as well, for me women in their 40s are the best, if they have taken care of themselves, exercise, non smoker, etc. At this age they know what they want, they don't play games, and if they like you or pursue you, you know it's for the whole you, ie. not for babies, or money.
@@geoffoakland ....and then there's the lifetime of baggage that accompany the ladies their 40's as a result of all their unrealistic hypergamy and poor choices, you have to deal with....
Not all marriages turn out badly though, just most. My mother and father have been together for a long ass time, and she married him in her mid 30s. She actually got the short end of the stick, because she worked as much as he did, but he hasn't cleaned up after himself once in his entire life and whines like a child if she's not around to cook supper for him. I think with more modern women in the "baby making" age, this is even less common now days though. Gotta be super careful.
@FoxIslanderSteve 50% of people have an IQ below 100 and are considered stupid. Perhaps the divorce rate is related? 😂
40yr olds perimenopause hormones running wild and divorced
This is all 100 pct accurate. You always go for the younger woman..I'm over 38 and a woman over 30 is too old for me. A younger woman is looking for love and romance. The younger woman is generally more fun to date, take trips with, etc. Isn't as bitter either. Also a single mom is the biggest mistake you will ever make. Avoid like the plague.
What do think the extra danger is with single mom's? I have heard that before, but I could not quite follow the logic, except for the kids' dad being disruptive?
To me the decision to bring another soul into this world is the biggest in my life. Right then and there your life no longer revolves around you, it revolves around the child you brought into the world. That child needs both a father and a mother so seeing a single mother tells me a lot about her (and the father).
When Alex says "She might even like you" - Boy that hurts. It reminds me of the When Harry Met Sally movie quote where the ex-wife stated " I don't think I ever was in love with you" - that after a decade of being married.
My friends give me crap for wanting to date women younger than me. Most of it is in good fun but a bit of it is mean-spirited. Maybe this is a short-sided view, but my career is coming together and I have a lot to offer now and why would I spend that on someone who never would have looked twice at me when I was younger? Suddenly I'm "OMG such a good catch!"?
go for younger women
Look, it's your and her choice. But just don't get married. If she's around, you have something to offer, but don't assume she will hang around or not cheat, I hope it works out well. But if she does, dump her.
Wyatt Stone Scout out your nearby highschool for those freshman cuties 😎
This is a joke FYI smh
It's funny how men like you assume an older woman you meet now wouldn't have appreciated you when you were both younger. That's seems to be the only type of guy I've ever dated, trying to build something, and yet here I am.
Good on you - enjoy!
I'm thankful for my girl and I being on the same page here. We're both in our 30s and neither of us have ever wanted kids.
For me, 25F, It is most important to be with a man that I can have a fulfilling partnership with. I don't want to have children with the wrong person. When I have children, I want to raise them as a family unit. Being a single mom is my worst nightmare. It bad for kids to grow up without the influence of both parents in their daily lives. So to hastily settle down & have kids with someone whom I am not compatible with would be like setting myself up for failure, & future divorce.
Of course I am going to gauge his ability to provide a stable home & financial means, because if at all possible I would like to be a stay at home mom until my child is old enough to go to school. I want to spend time raising my own child instead of having a stranger at a daycare do it. I figure that my biological clock has not yet set off the alarm for running out of time. But if kids are in the picture, it is their needs before my own. & if I could not provide them the life they deserve then I suppose I have no business making babies.
Ah yes, the dream of having it all. Good luck although I wonder how this viewpoint will change the closer you approach 35
@@fleepss2407 im sure its possible.
@@oz-ng4tl it's entirely impossible but unlikely. Similar to how it's possible to become a millionaire.
possible but probability is low given the circumstances. from a statistical standpoint only a certain percentage of people will achieve this goal.
i.e. it's possible, but until you show me the money you fall into the category of statistically improbable
@@fleepss2407 it is possible. I have a friend who is doing exactly that with his gf. He's working earning a decent wage and supporting his gf and kids while shes a stay at home mom an does online classes to get her degree. They met when she was 18 and theyve even spoken about what they plan on doing together once they reach retirement so i know theyre in it for the long run.
I agree with you. If and/or when i have kids its only going to be with one woman, at least thats the goal. Im not trying to be anyone's baby daddy or child support paycheck provider. Just turned 31 and the pull out game is strong so i know im not going to have kids until i choose to.
*Survival instinct*
You have the assets needed to attract male specimens for survival but having those in abundance, because contemporary societies, there is no rush to settle down and the wish for exploration kicks in.
Later in life, when the diminished results become a fact, you just rush into something, and thrust your claws in the first “best” opportunity. Out of scarcity, that choice befalls onto lesser favourable speciMENs.
Yo, just wanted to say you've had one tremendous start to your channel, I've seen your comments on videos from many channels I follow which makes me obviously pay off your target market. Your videos are very cool as well, filled with insight.
@@niespeludo Appreciate your words and support. Means a lot.
@@osse1n very poignant comment, I've just subbed.
I've found myself possibly being that man for that role for a woman at work in her early 30s, who I've had 4 sexual 1 night stands with, she doesn't put much effort into finding a man, but still very much wants kids, despite working 2 jobs and spending all her spare time with her fsmily and her sisters kids, bleeding off her maternal instincts on them refereing to them in work to colleagues as "her babies".
She's a great, sweet woman so it's sad to watch, she wanted to marry her teenage sweetheart, her first bf, but he turned out to want to be a player when he moved away to university.
To me, she seems like she genuinely could of been the type of girl to marry young as a virgin and have lots of kids and thrive and lover her role as a housewife and mother to 1 guy, but the societal norms and clown world we live in pushed or ebbed her down this fuckrd up modern path that women are in nowadays.
A good female corrupted and suffering in the bluepill matrix that is modernity, through no real fault of her own.
@@blickluke Welcome to the brotherhood.
Yes, she seems like a typical prey to feminisation of the western world and it's a tragic story.
How can one be enraged at women if they themselves don't know what’s going on?
There is no one to blame, everything is a cause of nature, and the best we can do is to adapt and live a serene healthy, lifestyle.
there are also female late bloomers, or women who are just plain lost I think. I'd hope to find someone who's at least older than 25. I'm not into young women. Most of them are childish, and the emotional maturity is different
I met some 36 yo on tinder, she thought I was baby material until we met up and she realised I live in my campervan. She got angry and left straight away. Hahaha ill stick to early 20s thanks
😎 you won!
Grandpa I hope you are okay with being a single dad.
You can't have that many early 20 somethings after you or you wouldn't have met up with the Tinder one in the first place. Someone is blowing smoke.
Ok, I am a woman, but please hear me out here. :) I don't think that having a mercantile "what can he do for me?" view of men is something age-related as much as it is mindset-related. The kind of woman who views a man as only a wallet and some sperm in her thirties has most likely viewed men as just wallets in her twenties, too (except that at the time, she didn't need the sperm).
Sure, having babies becomes more important with age for, well, all normal women. But if a woman is the type who understands that a genuine connection in a long-term relationship is far more valuable and desirable than pure mercantile interest, she is not likely to suddenly change her stance ten years down the road. And if she quotes bad experiences with men as a reason for becoming a mercantile b... witch, she is probably not being entirely honest, either with you or with herself. Again.. it's a mindset and an upbringing thing.
As for why women stop going for "bad boys" as they age is that they learn to distinguish between arrogance and confidence. The crack-smokin', class-skippin', motorcycle-ridin' rough-around-the-edges "bad boy" they thought was cool in high school is simply not long-term relationship material. But at this time, most girls are not mature enough to look past their own fantasies. They don't really fall in love with such a guy for who he really is, as with the picture of him that they paint in their heads. "He is a jerk to everyone around him, and to all the other girls he's dated, but he will be different with _me"_ is a bubble that bursts very quickly. :)
But the realities of 30-year olds are different. The desirable man is not some beta doormat. But he is not the typical masking-insecurities-with-arrogance college "bad boy", either. Instead, he is confident, intelligent, mature, collected and stoic. Someone who had time to work on himself. He can go through with achieving his goals, and commands respect from those around him. Aggressive when necessary, but also reliable, rational and, when necessary, gentle. Someone with a lot of control over his own life. Someone whom a woman can trust with leadership and decision-making. 20-year-old girls are also subconsciously looking for these traits, too, but they are usually not experienced enough to discern a young man with potential from a future meth head 😜 Yet older women, if they have a brain, learn to see what's really in front of them, rather than looking at the world through rosy-tinted glasses.
That doesn't mean that they view all men as trash or something. "Men are trash" is NOT a mindset of a mature and intelligent woman.
You made some decent points, but ultimatley miss your message is lame & sterile as you are an older(probably middle aged who hasn't taken care of herself) woman on her way out regarding these matters. It'd be best if you channel all you have to offer towards teen girls & young women instead of at us. Cuz men in their 30s, 40s & even older middle aged to retired elder gentlemen(max generally is 70) who have put in the work, have taken care of themselves, have come to understand themselves, genuinely love life, etc....will ultimately get with WHO EVER THEY WANT.
Only a rather small minority of women in our respective W.E.I.R.D. societies are comparable.
I’d actually have to agree. Habits are hard to break. But the scary part is to know if the woman is being authentic or lying to you. I guess it kinda comes down to acting
She is being completely consistent with her strategy, you are a role, not a person. Your best line ever: "She might even like you." Nicely done.
You might want to pick a girl based on personality traits. The things that drive women are not the same across the board. And they aren't limitless either. Enough women want the caring loving man. Who will form a foundation with her for having children.
Its always AND not either or. There is no choosing between love or being a provider. They should be part of the same driving force.
In all honesty I don't understand what the actual definition of marriage is in the West. It appears it's not about fidelity to one person, since the wife or guy cheats. It's not about sex, since it's not obligated in a 'modern' marriage. It's appears, it's just about resources for a woman. The guy has no real benefits. So what's the purpose of it? And then they wonder why guys don't get married. Even if people accept that sex or intimacy can be withheld from the guy, fine, then he should be allowed to seek time with other women, if for nothing more than 'meaningless, unemotional' sex. Everyone is happy 😊? No?
Politicians by their Democracy decisions granted women all their desires and destroyed marriage.....the consequences of giving women the right to Vote. see this ua-cam.com/video/mFTSt-A2Cls/v-deo.html
The biggest problem with dating a 'younger' woman is the likelihood that her head will be turned by others and you will end up just being another notch on her bedpost...
Well 20 something year olds don't think long term, they're more attracted to looks and look for a "cute" guy. if you're a 60 year old and you're dating a 20 year old, don't be surprised if the leaves you or cheats on you with someone her age
But ya still smashed tho
@@CaptinLongdong1 lol awesome
@@CaptinLongdong1 definitely. haha
@@TuAmigoElMorrocoy there’s always a reason to not do something
young women want fun and romance from you, old women want your money
..... nothing's free...
@@universeofopulence The only free cheese is in a mousetrap.
@@johnkaimins9998 ...even that is not free
Asura Young women want your money too.🤓
Mate, younger women also are quite cold and practical. They don't want romance... Also a 20 year old is inexperienced sexually and in life, has most of the time ulsoved physiological issues and just wants a complimentary man by her side to show off.
That "fall in love with thing", the 'passion era' ends a LOT sooner than their 30s. Most gals only have that in their teens. Even at their 20s the whole thing already starts to be about all kinds of shallow and usually very faulty calculations and scheming. Even classical authors wrote about this, read how Gogol describes in "Dead souls" that the worst thing that can happen to a girl is becoming a (scheming) woman, and that monologue isn't about a woman approaching her 30s... and he is 100% spot on as always.
I also don"t think they "desire to have a baby", that's BS. They fear poverty, and they think a baby is one of the surest safeguards. That's not how human reproductive instincts work at all, it doesn't wave around a 'cute baby' on front of your mind's eye. Nature is far more practical and looks for the simplest solutions. Men simply want to fuk women, women want security so they have to come to the man, and the baby happens. Nature never even trusted you with knowledge how babies happen, just like it gives you zero information about how your digestion or your heart works. You have drives, and it all just happens.
You thought yourself as a player when you started hooking up with the older woman, and wound up just playing yourself.
Damn I'm gonna be single for ever lol
I like your profile pic
I used to think that these videos were an exaggeration.
Until it happened to me. I was THIS close to being sold on the deal. At the last moment, her consistency “slipped up” and I was brave enough not walk away.
Looking back with a clearer eye, I see all the patterns you described where present in the relationship.
To think there’s that level or “practicality” in approaching a relationship that borders on pure manipulation makes me sick to my stomach
Jokes on them. I have no resources to provide.
@Malcolm M it's called sarcasm
Hahaha
Im at the age of 20, its funny because its true xD
Aahagaha
How true this is . I'm almost 60 and sadly my marriage is over to this exactly . I wish i would of had more knowledge of this when i was in my younger years in my 20's . So many of my family and, friends have run down this path . I think the study of psychology and biology should be a start before selection . Truly fascinating ..
Great topic Alexander .
Would you mind elaborating on your circumstance? For the sake of passing on knowledge
@@DragonFellowship you only have to listen to Alexander Grace.. he's telling you the truth .. she dosnt have the same intentions as you have .. she looks for a provider for her children and herself . We may think we have found a soul mate but you'll realize that's just not it . Choose wisely and take your time if your young . To many of us males think with the wrong head when we're young . There's plenty of time for men . Women have a smaller window for children .. beware of the child trap . Don't rush .
I agree 100% with this. Perfect example is a gorgeous woman i dated at work around 10 years ago. She and I still talk and now that she is in her mid 30s she's really wanting to have a kid with me and even jokes about wondering if I can have a beautiful baby like my brother's 3 year old daughter. It's obvious I can but I can tell that it's the only thing she really wants.
"...She'll laugh at all your jokes, she might even like you!" - ouch. Felt that one.
Damn it, that's spot on. Wish I had listened to that long time ago.
I dated an older woman a few years back and the love bombing was all I could see. But the more I got to know her to more I could see the bigger picture.
She was in her late 30's , so clearly thinking about having babies after having a lot of fun in her prime.
After a few weeks dating my spidey senses tingled.
We're still in touch but I can tell she was really looking for someone to secure a child with. The older they get , the more desperate they get unfortunately. I feel like I've dodged a bullet with that one.
Great video Alexander.
I had exactly the same thing with my ex and after 9 years I realised that she didn't love me and I'm not sure she ever did.
I don't need much attention I just want my sandwich
No talking, just the samich.
With a Pickle on the side!🥒🤣🤣
Don't forget cake and pie with whip cream for dessert!
@@OneNiftyBoi I got a better one that will cause her to file for divorce. When she say, "Honey can you clean the bathroom" say, "Do I look like a janitor to you, that's a woman's job." : )
There’s a lot of truth in this. Most men would be happy to be with a woman of their own age. All she needs to do is be nice to them, and don’t bring drama.
I generally agree with you. But 20 years old women are also not so good, for a guy who 32 years old. Why? Because it's not all about the love she gives you. It's not just about her sex appeal. It's also about her "ability" to see the real you. Yes, a 20 year old girl might really want to see you for who you are, but can they? When you are so much more complicated, and experienced as a guy? What I love about older women is that, they are much more clever, experienced and grounded. Generally. Also, when your ages are closer, you'll have same kind of issues regarding age (more or less). A 20 year old girl is not necessarily committed either. They are usually really spoiled and want to "get everyone", want to try out every man they can get. So their emotions are also not very reliable. My ideal partner would be around my age, preferable one or two years younger than me, and DOESN'T WANT CHILDREN. :)
Hahahahaaaa doesnt want children r u hearing urself
He interviewed 2 girls in her early 20's that can only "guess" how and why their strategy would change 10 years down the road.
When a girl is young, the main appeal they find in a guy is looks... They wanna have fun and date someone "cute" ... Their relationships are more based on superficial, physical attraction.... In the same way that a young girl, would take a 100k loan to study some bullshit degree that won't generate any jobs, she would date a good for nothing just because he's "cute"
Older women, are usually more calculative and they would think of you as a long term partner, they know themselves better and recognize what their streghts and weaknesses are and would think about someone that will make a better fit. It is in fact women who marry in their late 20's and early 30's the ones who have the lowest rate of divorce, and despite of miniscule increase of complications during pregnancy, their children tend to have lower poverty rate, higher rates of education and lower chances of having issues with the law... Simply because they are born to more financially and psychologically stable women and are less likely to have divorced parent's. It's not a coincidence that most middle and upper class women tend to have children around this age.
To be honest I think that this video was made for this group of guys trying to convince themselves that they're really not superficial and that they are looking for something other than just looks and fertility. Young chicks are dumb AF for the most part, and aside from their biological advantages generally speaking there is not other upside from dating them. These guys should just own up to the fact that they just look for looks and fertility, rather than trying to lie to themselves and others that they're looking for something else. Looks and fertility are valid reasons, so it's not like it's something to be ashamed of anyways...
I think it quite genuine that many guys want to feel actually loved for who they are, not just for their resources. This, I think, is something many men suspect is easier to get from young women, as they are less experienced and more likely to give in to their emotions (love included) than the older ones. Don't think it's quite true that these men just want looks and fertility, as men are often attracted to older women as well. Looks, of course, also play a factor, but it's not all, and even if the guys are wrong about being more likely to get love from younger women, their motivation might well be genuine.
2020: When you have to apologize for being corny because u used the words "fall in love with".
I sometimes joke that woman are temperamental when they hit puberty, before the period, during the period, after the period, in between periods, pre-menopausal, during menopause, but then back to being normal again after that.
Wow you really know very little about women
@@makeitcount2985 I'd say he's got it about right in my experience
@@theb3654 and yet quite a number of normal well balanced men are happy in relationships with them, what does this indicate?
Just J xx That they’re simps
@@fernandoc8505 or otherwise it's just you that may be the issue!? 🙄
This is so sad to hear :( for both genders. I’m a 30 year old woman. Happily married though with babies. My friends my age either don’t want kids or have them already so I never get to hear things like this in person. But I do believe women like this exist. And it makes sense.
I met my man at 27 and he was 35. I had baby fever at the time, but luckily so did he. My question is, is it a bad thing for women in their late 20’s/early 30’s to want children right away? What if they are looking for love too?
Its not bad to be lookin for children. It's only bad if you will make them with the mext best guy, don't even love or like him only get together with him for his money and semen, his practicality, go into the relationship only for yourself. If you actually seek love and care about the person thats all we ask for
Sad to say it but this crap is exactly what happened to me. Claimed she had polycystic ovarian syndrome and couldn't get pregnant without a doctor's assistance so the condom wasn't necessary.... WRONG!!
She likely didn't lie just was misinformed. My wife has that and we didn't have a kid for a long time, even with trying. It finally did happen, naturally, although we were done step away from going to a fertility clinic. My sister had to take drugs just to get pregnant.
@@hengineer counterpoint, my ex is telling men that she became infertile when she was treated for breast cancer. That isn't true. In fact she has an IUD that is currently preventing pregnancy. That can come out at any time. She is also a doctor. We didn't have children, but you can guess what she got out of me.
Interesting. I think men do this too. How much do men really care about a woman's deepest desires and thoughts? Not that much I think. These videos are really good, and seem to describe basic biology of men and women, and strangely we've all been lied to about this forever.
Nobody cares. I just be with my cats.
@@nullenbuffeh3201 cute
My intuition is that it's more difficult to keep a younger woman because she will want to explore and not settle down too early and that she will demand more kicks from you compared too an older woman who would be more content with a reasonably good relationship.
That's why living in a country where they don't automatically get 50%, or big alimonies and where prenuptuals actually count - is a great place to start from. Economic realism and sense of the man's worth keep their fantasies (entitlement, fantasy ideals, ideology etc.) in check. That combined with their highly fluctuating emotions are a real danger to the family unit.
@@ytusersumone Which country is this?
@@rationalis5867 Dominican Republic for example Prenup do work here of course until now.
I agree once a woman reaches an age where children are not a priority there is a chance for genuine love. The trick is to find one.
Something u may have overlooked is the effect of hormonal contraceptives on the woman's instincts. Women on birth control act and think different. Similar to post menopausal women but just without the life experience.
I'd love for Alex to make a video on such a topic.
@@vasihris5956 Be careful of unearned wisdom.
Men definitely have more time. When my grandfather was born, his father was 62, and grandpa was not the last child.
Oldest father is 96 or something
Maybe people should get married earlier? Is that old fashioned? Since this is true, it's practical. My wife was 25 and I was 31. She was in love with me. I wanted to commit. Almost 20 years later we,are happy. People might argue I got a raw deal by being a man who's value will go up while hers goes down... whats the benefit of remaining single for me? Just sex? waiting longer for embittered and manipulative or bitter older single women to form a relationship with isn't a good move. My advice, get your bearings in your late 20s and early 30s fall in love with someone who sees your potential before you start really succeeding but is still smitten with you. Marry her.
Agreed.
Young marriages are best.
31 to 25 is ok, and pretty practical these days.
It would be better to be 25 to 20.. but that requires good parenting.
Finally, a comment with which I can agree. The path to happiness needs to be traversed together if a couple wants to succeed in their pursuit.
Question #1 for any woman:
"Can I CONTROL him?"
This video is true.
@Xanthus Primus I think you're right.
Based
i don't mind being controlled to certain degree by a beautiful woman.
Strongly disagree. There is nothing more irresponsible and immature than a 20 year old girl. Their main interests are clubbing and getting laid by some bad boy, exploring their bisexuality with another girl or being on Girls Gone Wild. By the time they'er 30 or 40 more of them have learned their lesson and made their dumb party girl mistakes and hopefully learned something about life. That actually applies to both sexes.
The hormone of pair-bonding, oxytocin modulates this action. Oxytocin is a powerful hormone that diminishes over time
Yeah my mom married at 38, had me at 39. My dad was two years younger. They live together and love each other. I dated older men, I had 0 connection to them, I just kinda did it as a joke and cause it made me feel superior to older women, since I’m the one getting their men. Never would I seriously consider choosing an older man over someone my age.
As a joke? You sound f*cking horrible. Go away.
If you really want to be loved. Love yourself!
This is very true. Women are practical, and don't necessarily love you. They just see you as a person to fill a role for HER.
20 yos are after money and security or drugs.
The problem with being in relationships with younger women is that, they'll leave you in a few years and leave you broke and broken!
Why would you let anyone do that ? Just remember she isn't yours , it's just your turn and treat the situation as such . Keep yourself sharp , don't get comfortable or complacent , spot the end coming , you grab the relationship wheel and you park it ,get out and walk before she crashes it !
Yeah you hit the nail on the head on this one. The people who are exceptions to this, are fringe and knowingly ignore most men.
a friend of mine's wife is pregnant at the tender age of 44. Thinking that at 30 they are running out of time is unrealistic.
News flash! Whether she's 20 or 30 or whatever, once a baby comes into the picture, you take a back seat with sex or any attention for a while with most women. And the younger girls are realizing more now that hypergamy is the way to go so you better be financially equipped to raise a family either way.
Yeah hypergamy is when she is 2 but thing she deserves a 10
Where do you even find older women who don't already have children from their past marriage(s)?
@Mr Awesome interesting. I've only met women in their late 20s hunting for men to pay for feeding their (three, usually three) children from another man.
Well, usually those children and their father never see any of that money. Maybe I've been to the wrong piss poor eastern European countries.
Meet a woman outside of North America. That's the best advice I'll give.
@@paulbarnes9490 cuz they're not corrupted by feminism
Don't get an asian who has been "Americanized", i-e- had enough men through her gates to fill up an aircraft hangar-because she is a novelty in the U.S.
@GP Goku female nature is not the problem. Americanized intense feminists who are on the pill are the problem because they're essentially like men.
@@nureauamerica lol i didnt say all women outside of north america are good.
From THIS perspective, the point made makes sense. Except for ONE detail not mentioned. If I'm an older man, let's say 30-plus, a 20-year-old is not typically going to be as interesting as a 30-year-old woman.
Beyond a woman motivation to have a baby, a 30-year-old woman is going to be more interesting to me. A 20-year-old woman is going to bore me to tears. I won't have anything of any significance to say to her.
Give it time... you’ll like her later. Baby sitting is okay 😂
It is very very true that Romance belongs to the young, not the old, wisdom belongs to the old, but Romance belongs to the young
I'd add a caveat - 20-something year olds are not going to be interesting to talk to. You'll get bored insanely quick by them. At least older women are more interesting. Not that I'm looking at dating, having just separated from my wife of 17 years. It's just an observation, there are no golden rules when it comes to women, other than don't trust them.
I had a discussion on another platform, about the best time for women to have babies. Due to complications and potential health issues, over 40 is out. Most women feel their biological clock ticking loudly at age 29, and if they have two or three children, they'll be stepping on lego blocks as they get up for their night-time pee, well into their 40s. Until you reach that age, you have no idea how tiring it is to do this. Not just that, but a woman's body gets squished out of shape by each pregnancy, and it just doesn't bounce back like it used to do in her early 20s. Now she has incontinence to deal with. And so do you (hers).
So I concluded that the *best* time to have *all* your children was by the age of 29. i.e. start at 23-ish.
When I told my dad (born in the 40s) he scoffed and said, "When I was at school, most of the girls left at age 16 and were pregnant and married within the year."
Society isn't ready for that change, but it doesn't make it any less true.
I was living in non-capitalist country for first 20 years of my life. We haven't most of these dating etc problems and if, then in much less extent. After counter-revolutions at the end of eighties, it started be the same here and sometimes even worse. In Northern/Western Europe, there is a less pressure for man to be a "provider", women are pretty sure they can provide themselves including little crying problem. They are less harsh to the men which are at the moment unemployed etc., they are willing to help them instead of dumping them. Here in Middle/Eastern Europe women are pretty harsh, and often acts absolutely inadequately taking into account their real status.
Personally, I'd go older, they know what they want, and don't mess around, know where you stand with them.Younger women are immature, too flighty, this is just my experience.
All the other channels say 20 year old chick just wants to ride all different wood, and spend all Woody's money. To me, the 30 year old virgin churchy gal is the one for me. She was raised strict to be a family gal, and not cheat, and not run wild on lots of wood.
After she get her baby, she can file for divorce and she is set for life. It's brilliant strategy.
Based on your line of argument, you might as well date women who are past menopause. They are not looking to make children either. If you as a man is 35, I think a twenty year old woman - especially these days - is going to be too childish and immature for you. Fine for sex, but not for a relationship.
One of your best videos.
One of the most critical topics.
One thing that scares me bad.
Chinese got that right, they only marry women aged 18-25. Any woman older than 25 is considered unwanted.
Leftover women. In Turkey the limit is 24. And when you go to the -stans, Uzbekhistan, Afghanistan, Kazakhstan etc, the limit is 15 - 18. Further, virginity is a pre-requisite in these places. Western culture will begin to heal when virginity is demanded of the woman and not some mythical low body count number. A body count of 1 is too high if that 1 was not your husband. Otherwise the destruction will continue.
Also, be aware that there are people living in western societies but do not live by western culture. For example, a Pakistani or Indian girl living in the UK will typically look to getting married at 22 - 25 year old and will marry as a virgin.
You are breaking new ground with your commentary and laser focused interviews of women, congratulations!
For our older folks there is a minority of woman 40+ who aged not like milk but like wine but only for men who are looking for strong companionship without the wish for a child. These woman don't have any pressure anymore this minority had come to good terms with their age and new role these woman have the best character cause it is like a selection of the woman who are smart, emotional intelligent, educated in health and self improvement so that they can cope with her situation in the middle in her life. Also the sex is great these woman is grown, experienced and kind of wise. So the focus in such relationships is based on compatibility of personity and character because either sex nor children are clouding the judgment. There is a sense of reality coupled with the ability to relax and far better enjoy the relationship also the ability the solve emotional conflicts and issues are greatly enhanced. Sure if you are still driven by sexual urges mainly this will cloud your judgment and you will be repelled cause you summit that such woman are ugly, fat and smelly. But please don't go in this trap you will miss great companions who can take fun as well as responsibility. The thing is life selected the best woman out after they got 40 many around 80% will bad, boring or toxic woman but the remaining 20% are great shiffered by life to diamonds.
Interestingly nobody talks abut this woman who aren't get children anymore it is like these woman are as non existent as the majority of young average dudes for the most young woman (18-29) Alex it would great if you could make a vid about this kind of woman. Mature high value guys who are also a minority are covered by a great extend but their counterparts are not. I must add that I live in middle Europe so we have a different culture here also health, education and food -system is better this leads some solidly attractive 40+ woman. Also today's 40+ woman are only slightly influenced by feminism cause the were grown up in the golden age of western civilisation the 70's and 80's. Likelyhood that they were grown up in an intact family is very high.
You give young women too much credit. They’re just as bad if not worse.
I have one concern in all of this. This day and age the 20 year old isnt thinking long term at all. Sure she wants to connect with somebody but many women are quite superficial with regards to what they mean by "connection." The issue is the 20 year old doesnt realize that shes going to change her strategy when she turns 30 so she doesnt plan for it.
Check this explanation ua-cam.com/video/UfiL-JjbxSY/v-deo.html
This is what happened with Monica and Chandler in Friends series :-)
“She might even like you” says it all. It’s all a cruel joke that I don’t wish to be the butt of again. Every stable Dad I know has said any romance you thought you had, after you had a baby, is dead.
Very true!
I have lived through this..
Also, most of my family are females, so I've seen all sorts of female levels, emotionalism, schemes, hiding stuff, etc, etc, but the biggest thing is my mom is a really down to earth, salt of the earth type of old days farm girl and I witnessed a lot of her life and she always liked men more than women!
Today at 78 she still hasn't changed her opinions on females .
She says they're too messy and full of bullcrap!!!
She is different and I think only approx 5% of female's are somewhat more like men and 95%of them are follower's of societal social trends and of other petty, silly, selfish types of females...
Anyway, good content!
Peace, Power and Prosperity Brother!!!
If you look hot as male women will tell you straight away. They are super into you if you are "hot". Looks maxing is the only strategy for love/sex.
Also if you want to get married and it to last you need to look like Chad. If not she will "resent" you.
Wow this video is spot on, it's the exact situation I find myself in. Thank you for helping me understand. I met a 40 year old childless woman when I was 21. I had never been as love showered as with her. I got struck by infatuation and three months later she was pregnant. Now we have a 18 month old son which I love but our relationship is so boring and I just want to leave her but it makes me look selfish. Great insights mate!
Are you still with this woman? I’m sure she is a great woman and all but do you feel like you sold yourself short in anyway? She doesn’t have as much fertility as a 25 year old would have let alone life expectancy. She probably treats you super great cause to her you being 21/22 and her 42 you are a lottery ticket to her with your youth potential and lack of baggage. She gets all of your prime years and in 20 years when you are 42 she will be 61. When you’re 35 she will be 54 etc. if you wanted more kids she can likely give you 2 more. I’ve heard of a lot of younger guys dating older women etc but not too many who have had kids with them like you. Are you married to her etc? What’s your overall view of the situation. Or are you all good and cool with the timing when you met her? Appreciate it bro.
While that is common, it's also common that men are sweet and attentive to a woman, showing her love and interest until marriage and then that stops and they expect a women to take care of them but don't return the favour.
marriage is practiccal, seems women kown that men dont. so both genders should be aware this fact.
You have just described my marriage. I was married for 13 years and it took me too long, not to realize but to accept all the facts you are talking about in this video. Which is great, btw. Like most of your videos. Good work Alexander!
I came across a few comments stating how the girl who spoke is a sheep for looking at her friend.
The girl actually did well, she said her mind and I feel looked over, in this case, for agreement, as in "hey i said the truth and we both know thats the truth, say something plz".
That girl isnt a sheep, cause she said the truth with a friend there, without looking over FIRST . That answer would have been given by her with or without a friend.
They might be looking over for a number of reasons...
they prefer to look at a familiar face rather because they might feel awkward about the topic, specially being asked by a male stranger...
Girls being the more social and emotional out of the genders, tend to form very very close bonds with eachother, and generally speaking they tend to feel uneasy with male strangers... Hence why they make such a big deal out of "cat calling" or they often refer to dudes who approach them on the street as "creepy" even when dudes are not even doing anything that would be considered creepy. They are easily freaked out by male strangers
It is possible that maybe she might have felt awkward or slightly intimidated around Alex, and was looking over to her looking for comfort or just to avoid eye contact, specially since she was trying to be honest about a subject that might be deemed "taboo"...
I know that if a random dude with a camera approached me on the street and just started asking me questions about dating out of the blue, I definitely feel a little awkward and put on the spot.