Chris. I have no clue if you will respond to me. I have the solution for men / women not interacting. I caught up with your long interview on Diary's channel on my men and women barely relate these days nor have as much sex than before. The trouble with my idea my " fix to the problem " and trust me its awesome it might drive out websites like plenty of fish. You may know POF they are on public stock trade now, they have went public and worth serious money. So here lies my dilemma, I have the wildest and most obvious fix to men and women finding each other. The problem I have is imagine I just invented the wheel likely mans greatest invention. Take that moment but now your me your just a regular dude and a construction guy for a living. I have no money for patents on my idea but on a daily basis you continue to watch youtubers like yourself / Jordan Peterson Joe Rogan your channels every other day are talking about man and woman issues Matt Walsh same thing but your me and have this genius " fix " for mankind I scream at my T.V screen with the solution. NO ONE on any videos can see the fix. Any ideas Chris , what would you do if you were me and felt you could better the world. We are faced as you know with global depopulation. I can safely say I know how to get men and women interacting on proper scale again. Will you help me?
1. Too shy / only talking about surface topics 2. Trying too hard / acting like a pick up artist 3. Playing games. I.E. not texting her for 3 days 4. Coming off as too needy 5. Trying to rush to sex 6. Never going to give you up, never going to let you down, never going to run around and desert you 7. Sharing the wrong type of stories 8. Three dates and bring up the commitment topic
Don’t 3 and 4 kind of contradict themselves though? You can’t wait 3 days because you’re playing games but you can’t text right away because you’re to needy. Bro what? 😂Also one and two, contradict themselves. You can’t be to shy but you also can’t be to confident 😂Just be mediocre lmao fuck that. To many rules. Go with the flow and if it feels good it’ll go well if it don’t feel genuine than who cares, more fish in the sea.
@@467076 3 days is too much and is pretty obvious that you're playing games, you do realise there's a lot of wiggle room between 3 seconds and 3 days, you can wait a few hours before answering because you're busy and that's good enough
Not going in for those serious conversations early is a big thing that causes early failure. 3 dates in she wants children and you don’t, you want to get married and she wants someone to pay for Gucci bags, you have incompatible morals etc. Men, it’s not needy or embarrassing to tell her what you want from this and who you are as a person, right away.
Guys, from what I've learned and what keeps me in peace these days when it comes to women is this, (Note: This works best and is easier to follow when you have a purpose and a mission in life and you are dealing with stable, secure women) 1. when you first meet a woman and u want to ask her out, make sure she IS INTERESTED, the more interested the better, because it makes it easier to talk to when going on a date compared to a girl that will give two word answers. Flow down the river, not up the river. 2. Always ask questions and try to keep her talking 80% of the time so that you can keep that mystery, CAUSE WOMEN ARE CURIOUS LIKE CATS, if you tell your whole story, you'll take out that special ingredient of mystery which really drives a girl into wanting to go out with you more to KNOW YOU MORE. 3. A girl already knows you are romantically interested if you ask her out, you don't have to mention it. What you can do is throw obvious hints that you are attracted to her. Be DIRECT BUT IN A PLAYFUL WAY. If she went out with you she most likely is attracted, so be bold and direct, BUT YOU HAVE TO OWN WHAT YOU SAY. DON'T GO BACK ON YOUR WORD OR BE APOLOGETIC if you say something like "Damn I love your lips", or "Damn you have an unbelievable body". 4. Never Text to know a person, use the phone to make calls and arrange dates. Just like in sales. U want to save conversation for the date and YOU WANT TO ACTUALLY KNOW THE GIRL IN PERSON. THAT TAKES BALLS. Always do what takes balls. 5.Never ask for another date on the same date. 6. At first the guy should pursue for the first 3-4 Dates. Meaning you should text first to arrange the date. Make Definite Dates. If you played your cards right she should be texting you about some random shit, assume she wants to see you and make a date right there because women are not direct and are not going to tell you that they want to see you, they just want to see if you are still interested in them and text you some random shit. UNLESSSS SHE IS REALLY INTO YOU AND SHE DOES DIRECTLY SAY SHE WANTS TO SEE YOU. In that case you're good cause she is REALLY interested. Now you change positions, she is pursuing you by texting first and you make a date. Boom, date cleared. She texts again to see you. You Make a date a different day a different place cause you always want to keep it juggling, creates mystery. Boom Date cleared. and you repeat that and you're good CAUSE WOMEN LOVE THE PURSUIT. You never want to tell her where you are going or what is going to happen on the date because that just spoils the date, like spoiling a movie. Every date 80% her talking and you making questions and every time she wants to talk about you, give her a little glimpse on what she asked but not the whole story and redirect it to her. 7. Around this time she should start to fall in love and she should indirectly throw the idea of a relationship. The more into you she is, the more obvious she will be. She might be like "I don't want to talking to other girls" or "I don't want you to be dating other girls but me", that is her way of saying she wants to something serious, but if you are not sure ASK HER. Then it is your decision if you want to commit, if not then tell her, " I'm not willing to commit, and I am just having fun right now" or just be straight up as to why you won't commit, but don't be an ASSHOLE and have her on a leash and trying to manipulate her. BE HONEST. And let her choose if she wants to stick around or if she decides to leave but never force. True love comes when the other person feels free. 8. If you commit, then the idea of a relationship is to keep it the same as when you were dating. Make dates. Be Spontaneous. Don't be too comfortable cause she might drop your ass. Just because the label is there does not mean her attraction can drop. Grow together. Be her Rock. Never argue with Women. Show Respect. Show Self respect and she will respect you. This is very superficial and it is actually more complex but at the same time simple. This is just for me to recap all what I've Learned from my coach Corey Wayne and from lots of experience. Started when I was 14, now 20 years old. As I said it goes deeper and if you really need help with women but the red pill strat does not resonate with you, I recommend you the coach. I am grateful to share this with anyone that sees it because it has truly changed my life for the better. Women are not a worry for me anymore. This guy might actually help you find your purpose/mission in life. LOVE YALL
@@moistpotatoe5277 Read 3%man from Corey Wayne, in the book he explains where to go to meet women. In short, you go to meet women at places you can talk comfortably. The more public the place, the more in her guard she will be and it will be more diffiicult. The bar and clubs is a good place to find lots of beautiful women however it is not recomendable as women are probably just hanging around with their girlriends having fun, probably are too drunk to remember you, and some are actually not girlfriend material. YOu can also get too druk and say something stupid. The best place are weddings, family stuff, friend reunions, places where you know people that she knows. Why? because it makes her feel comfortable. somewhere you like or you spend most of the time, like an art gallery, at least you know you are both interested in the same subject.
I think this is excellent advice. I am longing for deeper conversations on dates, hearing the story of someone, and being honest about goals. I don’t want you to flex, I want to know who you are. I’m hopeful there’s men out there like this!
Yes! Men in the comments will be disagreeing no matter how many women tell them otherwise but it's true. My long term ex was good looking, charming, sweet when he wanted to be but had low empathy/emotional intelligence and poor ethics. These are the things I now prioritise over looks and charisma.
@@stopdragginaround yea I’m sure women want these things, but the problem is that you are imagining yourself having these wonderful conversations with a man you are ALREADY attracted to. I.e. your dream guy. You are not imagining yourself having these deep conversations with a guy who you find yourself on a date with who is boring or not that attractive.
When I started dating in my 40s after the breakdown of a long term relationship I found women in their 40s really don't give a shit about rules and life goals and security etc etc they have heard it all before. They just want to enjoy someone's company and see where it takes them. Also there is absolutely no pretence when it comes to sex. If they fancy you and want it, they will come and get it
THANK YOU for telling it like it REALLY is for grown-up women! WE appreciate it hearing a reality-based, affirming message in the midst of so many men's resentment & disrespect.
"They're tired of the fun" - Most common phrase on dating sites from older women who are tired of all the fuck boys and may or may not have several children laying around. They are looking for someone who's serious ($$$) to support them and help make them an honest women.
0:55 - I'd prefer to hear this line of thinking communicated more deeply than "if you're passionate about it, how could it be boring?" One persons passion, genuinely communicated can definitely be boring. Seems to contradict (7) - They share the wrong kinds of stories (9:46)
The main thing guys and equally women should do when interracting with eachother is being honest. And I don’t mean plain verbal honesty but general expressive honesty. Sit for a while. Breath. Yes tell a story. Don’t overload everything with too much meaning, too many questions that swirl in your head. Don’t play games or hit targets. Do your best to be aware of yourself, your peer and have an actual conversation. Sometimes it’s better to say “hey I have no idea how to do this” than fake it till you make it mindset. There’s too much of that online. So a simple honest expression not charged with bullshit I believe always works. And yes fun is good. Always better than taking it way too serious.
This is interesting information, if you can even make use of it. Men who aren't going full pick-up artist don't exactly have women lining up to go on dates with them, and when we do find someone to date, we want to know she's actually attracted to us instead of just using us for free dinner. I didn't see either of these two points addressed here
Using you for free dinner! Pick-up artists would make a good source of social security if this was every PUA's strategy. A financially troubled woman would be smart to take advantage of it. She could do that with the same man every night or a different man if he walks away and she has to find another one. If they use you, you use them back. You scratch my back and I'll scratch your's.
the dinner issue is an easy fix. choose a non dinner date. which you should be doing anyway-hard to imagine a worse early date activity unless you want to prove your beta provider bonafides.
People still do dinners??.... coffee in the first date cheap and fast to know if she is just a gold digger or could be taken serious. if she does not accept coffee dates, move on she is not the one.
He confuses red pill with pick up artist. I am a master in red pill and my wife is totally in love with me after 24 years together. Red pill means, you understand the nature of women and give them what they need, not what they say.
The dude conflates being red pill aware with being a pick-up artist. These are two completely different concepts. Being red pilled means understanding female hypergamous nature, chasing excellence, maintaining frame, etc. Ghosting a girl for three days is just some dumb pick-up artistry. Do not mix concepts.
Doing what you know is different than a mistake. Who's to say something is wrong if they don't know what's right or wrong🤷🏽♀️. Communicate what you want, don't have expectations... Accept the person for who they are showing up as versus the person you have in your head. If they share the morals and values are supportive etc. Know that it'll take years for you to either grow together or apart. If your foundation is solid and honest, water it and build love together. If your dating with the end goal of life partners, let's talk about what comes along with that, everything! Communication is key, honest and raw communication.
I disagree with you about expectations. It's really "in" these days for people to simply easily say "don't have expectations" to avoid getting hurt, but this is just impossible. With everything in life, we know what you put in is what you get out. So if you are putting in effort, you EXPECT to be reciprocated. To say "i have zero expectations" is ridiculous. Perhaps you can't have huge expectations during the first few interactions, but at some point, you will and to me that is perfectly normal. If I hire someone to do a job, I expect it done. I think the conversation needs to shift about how high ones expectations are versus what they are providing. Most men have very low expectations from a woman. It's more women who have huge expectations and requirements from a man. The expectations themselves need to be evaluated, but not a lack of expectations. Imagine a woman who is a victim of violent crime saying "my man watched me get assaulted and didn't try to defend me, but I had no expectations so were all good." Realistic expectations based on the value you yourself provide is a better approach in my opinion.
@@WitchOnABroomstick If someone can honestly channel out expectations from their mind, and it's not for a defense mechanism, then cool. I just think one will disappoint themselves as they will eventually develop expectations. It's subconscious.
@@Chris1000x Mhm, i agree its not easy indeed, empathic capacity is key here, only caring about needs and feelings first. But reality is indeed different for alot of people, unfortunately. How wonderfull life can be. We all make choices and i try to be the change i want to see. Selfless giving is one of the most enjoyable and fulfilling thing in life that humans can truly enjoy. 💚
8 Things to do on a date 1. Don’t be ugly 2. Be taller than her 3. Don’t be unemployed 4. Have good hygiene 5. Agree with 90% of her political views 6. Deny knowing what red pill is 7. Wait for her to bring up sex 8. Pay for the date Repeat 2 more dates….
Women use that term. What are you talking about? I'm online dating and women online are saying they're looking for a high value man. so stop thinking it's men who are the evil assholes. women are not so innocent. Women are effing superficial.
Dude! Thanks. Feel like this is stuff i used to intuitively know. But pursuing PUA stuff overrode this intuition. I have definitely felt that the PUA stuff has brought down the wrong track.
To piggyback the first point, lots of guys need to have a real world goal that a woman can see herself fitting into. Being delusional and having a goal of being the next Elon Musk doesn’t send the message you think it does. It’s not social media exciting, but having a life goal of slowly/steadily progressing career and income wise while maintaining a good family and retiring comfortably with a nice 401k sounds pretty great to most quality women.
"I am tired of having fun I am ready to settle down now" lmao. Dude on the right looks like he is about to give me a lecture about how it's okay that his wifes boyfriend gets the weekends while he takes care of the kids.
well, question is: does he have Real credibility??? how many women has he ever gotten in this entire life? if he's someone who just married the first girl he dated (and that was like 20 years ago) does he really know anything about the modern dating market? LOL
5:20 nailed it. Speaking solely of myself, I spent most of my life being a fraud, thinking my sense of self was flawed and couldn’t possibly be attractive. This manifested, after several decades, into self loathing and all that entails. I had an average or below-average number of girlfriends, a 20-25 year marriage, and two post-marriage relationships that were disasters. Those last two relationships were instrumental in beginning to accept myself. I’ve been alone 4-5 years and have learned that I’m actually being ok with being me. Although it’s lonely at time, sure, I’ve grown accustomed to being alone. If interactions with woman don’t seem to be what I’m looking for, I’ve no interest in being a chameleon for the sake of companionship. I want a long term relationship; I actually liked being married. But I won’t compromise needing to find someone compatible. I’d rather be alone than be miserable with myself for having to be someone I’m not. What works for me in the courtship process is a willingness to be alone if I don’t see it working out. Besides, it’s also not fair to the woman. Fast forward, I’ve found someone I mesh perfectly with, and am falling in love with. Unfortunately, we’re 2,000 miles apart at the moment, which is hard so we’ll see. I consider her sooo far out of my league, physically - she is jaw dropping beautiful. I’m not the Elephant Man, but on a male attractiveness scale, I’d give myself a 5 out of 10. However, she seems to find me attractive, especially on an emotional and spiritual level, and I’m coming around to believing her. I hope it works, because I was starting to think what I wanted didn’t exist. But if it doesn’t, well, it doesn’t. I would rather be alone than to sacrifice being me.
The biggest mistake I seem to make is not earning enough money... I love my job and I have ambitions but I'm never going to earn a fortune on this path. It's frustrating that is so important to women.
For men that don't know, it's possible to be a guy who is bangable (takes care of his appearance, confident, mysterious) AND also marriable (goal oriented, emotionally stable, good communicator). Once you become that, then it's just a matter of getting better at screening / analyzing women so you can differentiate the party girls from the relationship oriented girls. It's actually pretty simple... party girls rush things and relationship girls take their time with you. However, like Adam said in the video, if you're used to only dealing with party girls, you might perceive the relationship oriented girls as uninterested because they're not blowing up your phone and trying to rip your pants off from the get go. The good ones are out there but you have to be a good one first.
When I got out of my comfort zone and started getting to know a girl I liked, I messed it up because I didn't know what to do, so I just sat down with her shoulder to shoulder uninvited and she must have thought that was really awkward since she left a few minutes later without a word. Later when I started talking with her again a month or so later when she seemed to be interested again, I messed up again by unconsciously kinda lovebombing cuz I got anxious/insecure that she was going to leave again. Well, she left anyways. I have definitively learnt alot from this experience and won't make the same mistakes again.
Fact that Chris with as much experience as you have with women do not push back against this highly misguided charlatan is very telling about your ability to handle real intellectual honesty and rigor.
You don’t like what he’s saying so you call him a charlatan? No wonder so many of you guys have trouble finding relationships, you won’t even listen to those who spell it out in plain English for you in a LIST.
@Lion Arar you want to know for real. First everything he says about how to share your ambitions with women who you take on a date is 100% bad advice. Unless your goal is to not get laid and turn her off faster than Joe Biden when the hair on your legs dont stand up in the pool.
In my opinion. People put expectations on their partner they can even uphold themselves. Like low body count, slim/fit, clean living. And i think the attitude people have that im not going to be exclusive until i know we have a releationship is wrong. If you have a date on friday(and its monday). Then dont have sex with other people before then. Be exclusive from the moment you agree to go on a date.
Disagree with the entire notion that all these women are insecure. Alot of it is they are attracted to what man and dont care what he says. People heavily underestimate attraction. Its not always insecurities
" and dont care what he says"- this is the smoking pistol of someone without self-respect. If a woman is compromising on her standards, her boundaries, her safety, her comfort etc. (or has none entirely) that is a sign of insecurity and self-harming compliance. Are you able to perceive insecurities in women as easily as you perceive their attraction? Or does your sexual attraction to them bias you towards ignoring their insecure behavior in favor of their attraction? Is it plausible you are trying to rationalize to yourself and youtube why you've made predatory connections in the past? I've done it, most guys have done it, and hell most women have enjoyed it to some degree, especially those who were insecure and desperate. That doesn't mean it's a good strategy for personal development or long-term relationships. You can't fuck your way out of a cluster-b personality trait.
No, he's right. Insecure women have poor boundaries and fall prey to love bombing. Nerdy "nice guys" can be just as good at this as anyone, as I unfortunately had to learn the hard way, with a certain individual.
@@InsanitysApex nah. People dont take inconsideration of human emotions. Im not going to call a woman insecure for doing what she wants. If you are saying a woman cannot confidently have sax with a man you just lack understanding of humans
Better than generic advice, but not by much. Most of these mainstream coaches get it wrong. Men shouldn’t be trying to “get the woman”. They should be screening them out. They need to be masculine (oops woke police), confident, fun, and willing to walk away. And if a man asks for commitment after three dates, she’s gonna run from most guys who aren’t tall, good looking, and highly successful.
this is the insecure women he was talking about. yes those will dip after hearing about committment after 3 dates if those requirements you mentioned aren't met
what this man has said, works with women 40+ who are interested in deep connections and long talks, for most of the other ones, if you do what he said, you will never get a second date.
interesting... there is dating, (hanging out with your high school crush when you are both 15-16) and then there is "Dating" (clowning on the internet using an App when you are 30+ LOL...)
Exactly lol I was watching this thinking 'who the hell is this guy'? Is he dating a spreadsheet with legs? ALL of my best dates have been 'fun'... and not in the way he described.
Well, all I can say is good luck! Most women in their 20s don’t care about getting serious. Of course there are some women in the grey area who do want a serious relationship but that’s far and few in between. Marriage and family is put on the back burner these days. I know this guy means well but this information would only work on mature women, women 35+.
Highlights - Guys should avoid surface-level talk and instead show their life mission and purpose to attract women. 🗣 - Red pill and PUA tactics can come off as fake and manipulative, turning off secure women. 🎭 - Game playing and rushing to sex can lead to misunderstandings and hinder the development of a healthy relationship. 🎮 - Being overly nice or romantic can be perceived as insincere or eager to please, which is unattractive to secure women. 💑 - Sharing meaningful stories about values, accomplishments, and future goals is more attractive than bragging or trying to impress. 📖 - Talking about commitment early on can be intimidating, but it is essential for building a strong foundation for a relationship. 💍
"Hi. Who are you?" All you need to know, really. My view is that Date #1 is Introductions, Date #2 is Deciding, Date #3 is Decided, and then you go from there.
'trying to please mom and you'll only come across avoidant women who will eventually dump you' Wow, summing up my relationship with my ex fiancé...Im starting to see that's what I was doing
Nothing turns off a girl more than when you are vulnerable to her. It’s the fastest way get friend zoned. When a woman says you are a “catch” it means you’d make a great friend. Good dudes who get in the friend zone are not rapey but kind and generous.
Its crazy that some people would take any advice from internet and take it like doctors advice. Its just a discussion. He is making his points. It can create the conversation and stimulate different ideas. Dont just listen and copy bluntly anything people say on internet. Take a little bit, test in safe environment and make your own informed decision
What the guest never mentions is that most of these women are in their late 30s- early 40s and who have realized that their best years are behind them. Now their dream man is unattainable and they’re willing to settle.
Anyone can make themselves ten times more attractive if they become good conversationalists. The most attractive people can totally blow a date if they can't hold a conversation.
If you're a 30-year-old incel then insist on finding a beautiful 20-year-old submissive trad virgin who has no ambitions in life beyond making sandwiches and being obedient to a man, who was waiting just for you. Know your worth, kings. Never settle.
@@leefire2 25 - 30 for the avg woman. Maybe 35 at a push if she really tries. It's pretty cruel man, women being pushed into doing career stuff, when they ought to be seeking a partner from 18 - 25 for their own sake. Now taken up by career individualism, and then they look for someone seriously after hitting the wall, rip.
The first one: absolutely! I want to get to know the guy, what he is up to, what is important to him. And while doing so, the fun will happen automatically - or not.
How old are you? Best advice I can give to fix that, and improve your life in general. Quit watching porn. That’ll boost you up by 100x. Don’t lie and say you don’t because clearly you do, a lot, since you haven’t gone on dates your entire life.
If a woman is trying to have sex with me too soon, that is a giant red flag. If she's willing to give it up so quickly imagine how many other guys she's done that with. Hard pass.
@@DPMusicStudio Making a marriage work vs navigating the first few dates well and keeping the other person's interest high are completely different skills. He may have some good information when it comes to long term relationships but he's got a ton of blind spots about how much dating has changed since he was single, as do most men who have been married for years.
Uh .. on who's part? As a guy, *why* would you date someone you don't want to sleep with?? For the w0man - sure, she'll use dudes for resources. *He* has to determine his own point of lost time / resources / returns.
@@clintkantor *If* you solely think the *only* reason a w0man would want you is because of your resources .. you'd be better off "renting" and hitting Pahrump, NV whenever you get an itch.
The problem is you guys go simping through the friend zone and don't understand the difference between that and dating. You can easily tell by kissing someone if there's chemistry or not. There's no reason to rush it any further than that. You can't really stay bitter about a situation in which you were just friends and not dating. You did that to yourself.
Exactly. make some effort, but don't try too hard and seem needy. contact her but, don't contact her too much. Use the force Luke. I already have my family but I feel so bad for younger men trying to date today. Modern dating advice reminds me of the Sphinx from Mystery Men: He who questions training only trains himself at asking questions.When you care what is outside, what is inside cares for you. To learn my teachings, I must first teach you how to learn. You must be like wolf pack, not six-pack.
Yea 3 and 4 kind of contradict themselves. You can’t wait 3 days because you’re playing games but you can’t text right away because you’re to needy. Bro what? 😂Also one and two, contradict themselves. You can’t be to shy but you also can’t be to confident 😂Just be mediocre lmao fuck that. To many rules. Go with the flow and if it feels good it’ll go well if it don’t feel genuine than who cares, more fish in the sea.
They dont have to have an interest in those things but if you are passionate about them they will vibe with it. Of coarse if that is all you talk about they have trouble vibing but certainly drop that in. Also good to be aware of your surroundings and live in the moment, take observations of things that are happening around you comment on them. I know this can be difficult to do organically but it helps to Be aware you are are a mortal human that will die some day. Strangely, thinking about your mortality helps your natural self come out.
Just focus on yourselves, gentlemen. Modern dating isn't worth the headache and costs too much money. If she wants you or wants something from you, then you won't have to worry about any of this because she'll do all the work and make sure she gets what she's looking for lol
Wrong. Men are the ones who need to do the winning. Quality marriage minded women are not going to be the man and do the heavy lifting. They want a real man, who will lead, provide, protect his wife and children.
Well maybe not all the work like keeping the relationship afloat but in the courting process, she'll do everything especially if there's money involved lol
@@josephortiz6371 Women who want something will do the work, can absolutely confirm. Like Billy said not all of it, you obviously have some back and forth to give, but basically it won't be a 100% your effort lopsided game if she wants you. Women who aren't interested but will let you court them for a one night stand or a short Benefits relationship will let you do all the work and dump you later. Generally though I find it's a higher portion of quality women that are like this who will put effort in for what they want. There's a lot of women out there who want but don't try who are essentially modern female incels lol.
I can't deal with these head games / dating games. I found an Asian wife, honest and does not play games. Married almost 20 years now. Find a partner who has decided, along with you, to exist outside of the games and BS they are talking about it. Go outside of this sick "System."
He’s been married for 20+ years if I remember correctly. Hasn’t spent any time in the field, has prolly little to absolutely 0 skills w woman, never has been on social media or dating apps, hasn’t been to a club gym or bar in over a decade, hasn’t spoken to a girl younger than 35 (his wife) in an intimate manner in god knows how long. It’s like listening to a Walmart cashier telling you how to be a navy seal
the first point was so on point haha. its something i as a woman didnt realize until i heard it explained here and it exactly describes my boyfriend, who is the most attractive guy i have met so far
"who is the most attractive guy I have met so far" SO FAR. Don't forget guys... women never stop looking. If you listen to women, they'll give away the whole game.
@@DPMusicStudio so far means until present time, i dont live in the future, stop making bullshit out of nothing. and if you think women end up marrying the most physically attractive guy they have ever met then you are mad crazy. we care for other things as well, a pretty face and body wont build me a family, its just something to look at. and on average men are looking more than women, stop kidding yourself.
This idea that you have to have a mission and want to change the world in order to be loved and appreciated is not healthy. I'm all for self improvement and aspirations but I think most of us are ordinary people just trying our best to get through life, and most of the women we will talk to are as well. Let's take the pressure off a little hey?
Hello you legends. Watch the full episode with Adam here - ua-cam.com/video/v3BnroTQuOg/v-deo.html
Chris. I have no clue if you will respond to me. I have the solution for men / women not interacting. I caught up with your long interview on Diary's channel on my men and women barely relate these days nor have as much sex than before.
The trouble with my idea my " fix to the problem " and trust me its awesome it might drive out websites like plenty of fish. You may know POF they are on public stock trade now, they have went public and worth serious money.
So here lies my dilemma, I have the wildest and most obvious fix to men and women finding each other. The problem I have is imagine I just invented the wheel likely mans greatest invention. Take that moment but now your me your just a regular dude and a construction guy for a living. I have no money for patents on my idea but on a daily basis you continue to watch youtubers like yourself / Jordan Peterson Joe Rogan your channels every other day are talking about man and woman issues Matt Walsh same thing but your me and have this genius " fix " for mankind
I scream at my T.V screen with the solution. NO ONE on any videos can see the fix.
Any ideas Chris , what would you do if you were me and felt you could better the world. We are faced as you know with global depopulation. I can safely say I know how to get men and women interacting on proper scale again. Will you help me?
1. Too shy / only talking about surface topics
2. Trying too hard / acting like a pick up artist
3. Playing games. I.E. not texting her for 3 days
4. Coming off as too needy
5. Trying to rush to sex
6. Never going to give you up, never going to let you down, never going to run around and desert you
7. Sharing the wrong type of stories
8. Three dates and bring up the commitment topic
Never gonna give iuu uppp 😂
Don’t 3 and 4 kind of contradict themselves though? You can’t wait 3 days because you’re playing games but you can’t text right away because you’re to needy. Bro what? 😂Also one and two, contradict themselves. You can’t be to shy but you also can’t be to confident 😂Just be mediocre lmao fuck that. To many rules. Go with the flow and if it feels good it’ll go well if it don’t feel genuine than who cares, more fish in the sea.
@@467076 3 days is too much and is pretty obvious that you're playing games, you do realise there's a lot of wiggle room between 3 seconds and 3 days, you can wait a few hours before answering because you're busy and that's good enough
@@Maria-sq4jl We just got Rick rolled. Lol
@@467076 only 2 days! 😆
*Mistakes like talking too much about yourself or being overly needy can definitely kill the vibe. Fantastic breakdown!*
Not going in for those serious conversations early is a big thing that causes early failure. 3 dates in she wants children and you don’t, you want to get married and she wants someone to pay for Gucci bags, you have incompatible morals etc.
Men, it’s not needy or embarrassing to tell her what you want from this and who you are as a person, right away.
😂😂 Hilarious!
What makes him "random"?
Is this advice coming from a man or a woman??
@@EastlakeRasta7 a woman.
Guys, from what I've learned and what keeps me in peace these days when it comes to women is this, (Note: This works best and is easier to follow when you have a purpose and a mission in life and you are dealing with stable, secure women)
1. when you first meet a woman and u want to ask her out, make sure she IS INTERESTED, the more interested the better, because it makes it easier to talk to when going on a date compared to a girl that will give two word answers. Flow down the river, not up the river.
2. Always ask questions and try to keep her talking 80% of the time so that you can keep that mystery, CAUSE WOMEN ARE CURIOUS LIKE CATS, if you tell your whole story, you'll take out that special ingredient of mystery which really drives a girl into wanting to go out with you more to KNOW YOU MORE.
3. A girl already knows you are romantically interested if you ask her out, you don't have to mention it. What you can do is throw obvious hints that you are attracted to her. Be DIRECT BUT IN A PLAYFUL WAY. If she went out with you she most likely is attracted, so be bold and direct, BUT YOU HAVE TO OWN WHAT YOU SAY. DON'T GO BACK ON YOUR WORD OR BE APOLOGETIC if you say something like "Damn I love your lips", or "Damn you have an unbelievable body".
4. Never Text to know a person, use the phone to make calls and arrange dates. Just like in sales. U want to save conversation for the date and YOU WANT TO ACTUALLY KNOW THE GIRL IN PERSON. THAT TAKES BALLS. Always do what takes balls.
5.Never ask for another date on the same date.
6. At first the guy should pursue for the first 3-4 Dates. Meaning you should text first to arrange the date. Make Definite Dates. If you played your cards right she should be texting you about some random shit, assume she wants to see you and make a date right there because women are not direct and are not going to tell you that they want to see you, they just want to see if you are still interested in them and text you some random shit. UNLESSSS SHE IS REALLY INTO YOU AND SHE DOES DIRECTLY SAY SHE WANTS TO SEE YOU. In that case you're good cause she is REALLY interested. Now you change positions, she is pursuing you by texting first and you make a date. Boom, date cleared. She texts again to see you. You Make a date a different day a different place cause you always want to keep it juggling, creates mystery. Boom Date cleared. and you repeat that and you're good CAUSE WOMEN LOVE THE PURSUIT. You never want to tell her where you are going or what is going to happen on the date because that just spoils the date, like spoiling a movie. Every date 80% her talking and you making questions and every time she wants to talk about you, give her a little glimpse on what she asked but not the whole story and redirect it to her.
7. Around this time she should start to fall in love and she should indirectly throw the idea of a relationship. The more into you she is, the more obvious she will be. She might be like "I don't want to talking to other girls" or "I don't want you to be dating other girls but me", that is her way of saying she wants to something serious, but if you are not sure ASK HER. Then it is your decision if you want to commit, if not then tell her, " I'm not willing to commit, and I am just having fun right now" or just be straight up as to why you won't commit, but don't be an ASSHOLE and have her on a leash and trying to manipulate her. BE HONEST. And let her choose if she wants to stick around or if she decides to leave but never force. True love comes when the other person feels free.
8. If you commit, then the idea of a relationship is to keep it the same as when you were dating. Make dates. Be Spontaneous. Don't be too comfortable cause she might drop your ass. Just because the label is there does not mean her attraction can drop. Grow together. Be her Rock. Never argue with Women. Show Respect. Show Self respect and she will respect you.
This is very superficial and it is actually more complex but at the same time simple. This is just for me to recap all what I've Learned from my coach Corey Wayne and from lots of experience. Started when I was 14, now 20 years old. As I said it goes deeper and if you really need help with women but the red pill strat does not resonate with you, I recommend you the coach. I am grateful to share this with anyone that sees it because it has truly changed my life for the better. Women are not a worry for me anymore. This guy might actually help you find your purpose/mission in life. LOVE YALL
Your comments was super helpful to me.
Thank you for giving out your time and knowledge 🙏
my biggest problem is that I have no idea where to meet women, especially with the semester ending now and ill be home all the time. Any tips?
Sounds like some Coach Corey Wayne wisdom
“ always do what takes balls “
i love this
@@moistpotatoe5277 Read 3%man from Corey Wayne, in the book he explains where to go to meet women. In short, you go to meet women at places you can talk comfortably. The more public the place, the more in her guard she will be and it will be more diffiicult. The bar and clubs is a good place to find lots of beautiful women however it is not recomendable as women are probably just hanging around with their girlriends having fun, probably are too drunk to remember you, and some are actually not girlfriend material. YOu can also get too druk and say something stupid. The best place are weddings, family stuff, friend reunions, places where you know people that she knows. Why? because it makes her feel comfortable. somewhere you like or you spend most of the time, like an art gallery, at least you know you are both interested in the same subject.
I think this is excellent advice. I am longing for deeper conversations on dates, hearing the story of someone, and being honest about goals. I don’t want you to flex, I want to know who you are. I’m hopeful there’s men out there like this!
We no longer care. Women told us to F off and we did. This is pure entertainment for me. Like watching something burn and not giving a crap.
I dont believe you lol if a guy did this stuff you would think hes boring
Yes! Men in the comments will be disagreeing no matter how many women tell them otherwise but it's true. My long term ex was good looking, charming, sweet when he wanted to be but had low empathy/emotional intelligence and poor ethics. These are the things I now prioritise over looks and charisma.
@@stopdragginaround yea I’m sure women want these things, but the problem is that you are imagining yourself having these wonderful conversations with a man you are ALREADY attracted to. I.e. your dream guy. You are not imagining yourself having these deep conversations with a guy who you find yourself on a date with who is boring or not that attractive.
@@RFdaniel or a nice woman!
When I started dating in my 40s after the breakdown of a long term relationship I found women in their 40s really don't give a shit about rules and life goals and security etc etc they have heard it all before. They just want to enjoy someone's company and see where it takes them. Also there is absolutely no pretence when it comes to sex. If they fancy you and want it, they will come and get it
THANK YOU for telling it like it REALLY is for grown-up women! WE appreciate it hearing a reality-based, affirming message in the midst of so many men's resentment & disrespect.
100%
“They’re tired of the fun.”
Exactly the signal men are looking for in order to expunge them as a potential candidate.
Yep, she's hitting a wall and now wants to settle after having all the fun but chads are not interested so she needs to find herself a beta lol
tired of STI's
@@MB-up3mh + dead on
Right. If she's "tired of the fun", you know she's sold herself out to pretty much anybody already.
"They're tired of the fun" - Most common phrase on dating sites from older women who are tired of all the fuck boys and may or may not have several children laying around. They are looking for someone who's serious ($$$) to support them and help make them an honest women.
Love the honest and positive vibe about this.
0:55 - I'd prefer to hear this line of thinking communicated more deeply than "if you're passionate about it, how could it be boring?"
One persons passion, genuinely communicated can definitely be boring.
Seems to contradict (7) - They share the wrong kinds of stories (9:46)
If someone has been through enough failed relationships to be tired of the fun part, that's not a good sign.
The main thing guys and equally women should do when interracting with eachother is being honest. And I don’t mean plain verbal honesty but general expressive honesty. Sit for a while. Breath. Yes tell a story. Don’t overload everything with too much meaning, too many questions that swirl in your head. Don’t play games or hit targets. Do your best to be aware of yourself, your peer and have an actual conversation. Sometimes it’s better to say “hey I have no idea how to do this” than fake it till you make it mindset. There’s too much of that online. So a simple honest expression not charged with bullshit I believe always works. And yes fun is good. Always better than taking it way too serious.
What a REFRESHING thing to say!(from a woman)
This is interesting information, if you can even make use of it. Men who aren't going full pick-up artist don't exactly have women lining up to go on dates with them, and when we do find someone to date, we want to know she's actually attracted to us instead of just using us for free dinner. I didn't see either of these two points addressed here
Did you kiss?
Was it hot?
Using you for free dinner!
Pick-up artists would make a good source of social security if this was every PUA's strategy. A financially troubled woman would be smart to take advantage of it. She could do that with the same man every night or a different man if he walks away and she has to find another one. If they use you, you use them back. You scratch my back and I'll scratch your's.
the dinner issue is an easy fix. choose a non dinner date. which you should be doing anyway-hard to imagine a worse early date activity unless you want to prove your beta provider bonafides.
@@onsidelegal1002My thoughts exactly, I thought it was a joke at first
People still do dinners??.... coffee in the first date cheap and fast to know if she is just a gold digger or could be taken serious.
if she does not accept coffee dates, move on she is not the one.
He confuses red pill with pick up artist. I am a master in red pill and my wife is totally in love with me after 24 years together. Red pill means, you understand the nature of women and give them what they need, not what they say.
Funny how blue pill shills mixed those up.
@sealcycle2020 My success in my relationship. Your bitter tone indicates failure.
@@r.s.4174 correct
if our wife says this not you than i agree
The dude conflates being red pill aware with being a pick-up artist. These are two completely different concepts. Being red pilled means understanding female hypergamous nature, chasing excellence, maintaining frame, etc. Ghosting a girl for three days is just some dumb pick-up artistry. Do not mix concepts.
One of the saddest things to happen to "red-pill" is the mixing of the medicine in the "manosphere".
Doing what you know is different than a mistake. Who's to say something is wrong if they don't know what's right or wrong🤷🏽♀️. Communicate what you want, don't have expectations... Accept the person for who they are showing up as versus the person you have in your head. If they share the morals and values are supportive etc. Know that it'll take years for you to either grow together or apart. If your foundation is solid and honest, water it and build love together. If your dating with the end goal of life partners, let's talk about what comes along with that, everything! Communication is key, honest and raw communication.
I disagree with you about expectations. It's really "in" these days for people to simply easily say "don't have expectations" to avoid getting hurt, but this is just impossible. With everything in life, we know what you put in is what you get out. So if you are putting in effort, you EXPECT to be reciprocated. To say "i have zero expectations" is ridiculous. Perhaps you can't have huge expectations during the first few interactions, but at some point, you will and to me that is perfectly normal. If I hire someone to do a job, I expect it done. I think the conversation needs to shift about how high ones expectations are versus what they are providing. Most men have very low expectations from a woman. It's more women who have huge expectations and requirements from a man. The expectations themselves need to be evaluated, but not a lack of expectations. Imagine a woman who is a victim of violent crime saying "my man watched me get assaulted and didn't try to defend me, but I had no expectations so were all good." Realistic expectations based on the value you yourself provide is a better approach in my opinion.
@@Chris1000x expectations are thoughts, dont even hear them. act on needs, a need for love perhaps?
@@WitchOnABroomstick If someone can honestly channel out expectations from their mind, and it's not for a defense mechanism, then cool. I just think one will disappoint themselves as they will eventually develop expectations. It's subconscious.
@@Chris1000x Mhm, i agree its not easy indeed, empathic capacity is key here, only caring about needs and feelings first.
But reality is indeed different for alot of people, unfortunately. How wonderfull life can be. We all make choices and i try to be the change i want to see.
Selfless giving is one of the most enjoyable and fulfilling thing in life that humans can truly enjoy. 💚
Wow. I’ve listened to a lot of dating videos and this has been one of the most powerful.
Yeah, this guy is 100% no BS. Everything was spot on, i'm impressed.
This is really good advice, I’m impressed. Especially the bit about passion and showing her what drives you and what your goals are
8 Things to do on a date
1. Don’t be ugly
2. Be taller than her
3. Don’t be unemployed
4. Have good hygiene
5. Agree with 90% of her political views
6. Deny knowing what red pill is
7. Wait for her to bring up sex
8. Pay for the date
Repeat 2 more dates….
Lmbo
This is unironically not bad.
Atleast four of those are not needed. Get out there more.
first 4 is like 90% of it
even then it only works like less than 10% of the time LOL
Incel detected
A great way to send a woman running is to use the term "high value man" on the first date.
Women use that term. What are you talking about? I'm online dating and women online are saying they're looking for a high value man. so stop thinking it's men who are the evil assholes. women are not so innocent. Women are effing superficial.
Dude! Thanks. Feel like this is stuff i used to intuitively know. But pursuing PUA stuff overrode this intuition. I have definitely felt that the PUA stuff has brought down the wrong track.
To piggyback the first point, lots of guys need to have a real world goal that a woman can see herself fitting into. Being delusional and having a goal of being the next Elon Musk doesn’t send the message you think it does.
It’s not social media exciting, but having a life goal of slowly/steadily progressing career and income wise while maintaining a good family and retiring comfortably with a nice 401k sounds pretty great to most quality women.
@@luxurybuzz3681 Well we know where you’ll be in 10 years.
Really needed this today itself.
Wow, Ive listened to a lot of dating coach advice and this really seems like solid advice. I like this guy.
Owen Cook is good too.
"I am tired of having fun I am ready to settle down now" lmao. Dude on the right looks like he is about to give me a lecture about how it's okay that his wifes boyfriend gets the weekends while he takes care of the kids.
Biggest mistake - listen to a random person on the internet.
like you?
Lol he isn't a random person tho
well, question is: does he have Real credibility???
how many women has he ever gotten in this entire life?
if he's someone who just married the first girl he dated (and that was like 20 years ago)
does he really know anything about the modern dating market? LOL
@@therearenoshortcuts9868 His tactics probably only works for mature women over 30.
Biggest mistake thinking too much of it, because it’s probably just a waste of time and money. Best of luck modern dating sucks.
5:20 nailed it. Speaking solely of myself, I spent most of my life being a fraud, thinking my sense of self was flawed and couldn’t possibly be attractive. This manifested, after several decades, into self loathing and all that entails. I had an average or below-average number of girlfriends, a 20-25 year marriage, and two post-marriage relationships that were disasters. Those last two relationships were instrumental in beginning to accept myself. I’ve been alone 4-5 years and have learned that I’m actually being ok with being me. Although it’s lonely at time, sure, I’ve grown accustomed to being alone. If interactions with woman don’t seem to be what I’m looking for, I’ve no interest in being a chameleon for the sake of companionship.
I want a long term relationship; I actually liked being married. But I won’t compromise needing to find someone compatible. I’d rather be alone than be miserable with myself for having to be someone I’m not. What works for me in the courtship process is a willingness to be alone if I don’t see it working out. Besides, it’s also not fair to the woman.
Fast forward, I’ve found someone I mesh perfectly with, and am falling in love with. Unfortunately, we’re 2,000 miles apart at the moment, which is hard so we’ll see. I consider her sooo far out of my league, physically - she is jaw dropping beautiful. I’m not the Elephant Man, but on a male attractiveness scale, I’d give myself a 5 out of 10. However, she seems to find me attractive, especially on an emotional and spiritual level, and I’m coming around to believing her. I hope it works, because I was starting to think what I wanted didn’t exist. But if it doesn’t, well, it doesn’t. I would rather be alone than to sacrifice being me.
Will definitly watch the full episode. Loved what this guy said! He seems to be well down to earth.
The biggest mistake I seem to make is not earning enough money... I love my job and I have ambitions but I'm never going to earn a fortune on this path. It's frustrating that is so important to women.
For men that don't know, it's possible to be a guy who is bangable (takes care of his appearance, confident, mysterious) AND also marriable (goal oriented, emotionally stable, good communicator). Once you become that, then it's just a matter of getting better at screening / analyzing women so you can differentiate the party girls from the relationship oriented girls. It's actually pretty simple... party girls rush things and relationship girls take their time with you. However, like Adam said in the video, if you're used to only dealing with party girls, you might perceive the relationship oriented girls as uninterested because they're not blowing up your phone and trying to rip your pants off from the get go. The good ones are out there but you have to be a good one first.
My wife was just laughing at everything I said.. 17 years later dam I’m still there. Lol
When I got out of my comfort zone and started getting to know a girl I liked, I messed it up because I didn't know what to do, so I just sat down with her shoulder to shoulder uninvited and she must have thought that was really awkward since she left a few minutes later without a word. Later when I started talking with her again a month or so later when she seemed to be interested again, I messed up again by unconsciously kinda lovebombing cuz I got anxious/insecure that she was going to leave again. Well, she left anyways.
I have definitively learnt alot from this experience and won't make the same mistakes again.
1. Not being rich
2. Not being at least 6' 6" tall
3. Not looking like one of the 10 most handsome men on earth
salty balls
@@ChickFenwick chef( southpark) is that you?
4. Being redpilled dude
Walk down any street and you'll see ugly guys with a girl on his arm. The problem is with you. You can improve though so don't give up
be a 10 or go home :V
I think this should be context for commitment
Fact that Chris with as much experience as you have with women do not push back against this highly misguided charlatan is very telling about your ability to handle real intellectual honesty and rigor.
What about him do makes you think he's a charlatan? I'm not here to debate, just wanted to know.
@@lionarar5981The OP's username is Troll University, so I'd steer clear of any advice they have to give.
You don’t like what he’s saying so you call him a charlatan? No wonder so many of you guys have trouble finding relationships, you won’t even listen to those who spell it out in plain English for you in a LIST.
Hey look I found a white knight who thinks he is a male feminist!
@Lion Arar you want to know for real. First everything he says about how to share your ambitions with women who you take on a date is 100% bad advice. Unless your goal is to not get laid and turn her off faster than Joe Biden when the hair on your legs dont stand up in the pool.
In my opinion. People put expectations on their partner they can even uphold themselves. Like low body count, slim/fit, clean living.
And i think the attitude people have that im not going to be exclusive until i know we have a releationship is wrong. If you have a date on friday(and its monday). Then
dont have sex with other people before then. Be exclusive from the moment you agree to go on a date.
I’ll take the dating coach. Please and thank you. 🤣 J/K!
Disagree with the entire notion that all these women are insecure. Alot of it is they are attracted to what man and dont care what he says. People heavily underestimate attraction. Its not always insecurities
" and dont care what he says"- this is the smoking pistol of someone without self-respect.
If a woman is compromising on her standards, her boundaries, her safety, her comfort etc. (or has none entirely) that is a sign of insecurity and self-harming compliance. Are you able to perceive insecurities in women as easily as you perceive their attraction? Or does your sexual attraction to them bias you towards ignoring their insecure behavior in favor of their attraction?
Is it plausible you are trying to rationalize to yourself and youtube why you've made predatory connections in the past? I've done it, most guys have done it, and hell most women have enjoyed it to some degree, especially those who were insecure and desperate. That doesn't mean it's a good strategy for personal development or long-term relationships. You can't fuck your way out of a cluster-b personality trait.
@@InsanitysApex fuck and cluster, I love those B’s
No, he's right. Insecure women have poor boundaries and fall prey to love bombing. Nerdy "nice guys" can be just as good at this as anyone, as I unfortunately had to learn the hard way, with a certain individual.
This comment demonstrates that you lack self-awareness and need to get to work on yourself and your goals & values.
@@InsanitysApex nah. People dont take inconsideration of human emotions. Im not going to call a woman insecure for doing what she wants. If you are saying a woman cannot confidently have sax with a man you just lack understanding of humans
All this doesn't take into account the fact that a great deal of men *don't* have a goal in life and will not achieve anything great.
This is spot on.. I would add that men need to learn to actively listen and be able to engage in meaningful dialogue, not just tell stories.
Better than generic advice, but not by much. Most of these mainstream coaches get it wrong. Men shouldn’t be trying to “get the woman”. They should be screening them out. They need to be masculine (oops woke police), confident, fun, and willing to walk away. And if a man asks for commitment after three dates, she’s gonna run from most guys who aren’t tall, good looking, and highly successful.
this is the insecure women he was talking about. yes those will dip after hearing about committment after 3 dates if those requirements you mentioned aren't met
Golden advice
"What do you want?" ~ third date, my now wife.
what this man has said, works with women 40+ who are interested in deep connections and long talks, for most of the other ones, if you do what he said, you will never get a second date.
Dude this guy is so right, take the advice!
Thank you so much, very helpful🙂
So basically, the secure man will treat his dates like job interviews.
The first date is very much a casual job interview. You gotta put your best foot forward the entire time.
@@SisterliskNo you gotta have fun. It's a date after all. A woman doesn't want to be with someone who isn't fun to be around.
such great content! thank you for that chris and adam!
Really good video, learnt a lot, thanks guys 🙏
Better idea: Don't lower yourself to dating....
interesting...
there is dating, (hanging out with your high school crush when you are both 15-16)
and then there is "Dating" (clowning on the internet using an App when you are 30+ LOL...)
Only boomers still date.
I'm pretty sure this guy has never been on a fourth date.
I doubt he even managed a second date.
Exactly lol I was watching this thinking 'who the hell is this guy'? Is he dating a spreadsheet with legs? ALL of my best dates have been 'fun'... and not in the way he described.
He’s married with 5 kids
Me too
Well, all I can say is good luck! Most women in their 20s don’t care about getting serious. Of course there are some women in the grey area who do want a serious relationship but that’s far and few in between. Marriage and family is put on the back burner these days. I know this guy means well but this information would only work on mature women, women 35+.
Nuh 28+ until early 40s.
who want +35 women for something serious??.
who would want to marry others leftovers?
Spot on
if I just need to meet the right woman once then I guess I have the rest of my life to meet her.
That isn’t exclusive to women. Get on any dating app with a fake female profile, and see how many modern men prioritize serious relationships.
Thanks for this guys!
GOD DAMN... I so needed to see this video. And so glad I did.
Great talk! Love it 😊
60 % of the time, these tactics work every time!
Smith is at his best here in this cut / clip.
Number 1 big mistake, going on the date in the first place.
As a woman this is so on point ! Thank you for that video
Highlights
- Guys should avoid surface-level talk and instead show their life mission and purpose to attract women. 🗣
- Red pill and PUA tactics can come off as fake and manipulative, turning off secure women. 🎭
- Game playing and rushing to sex can lead to misunderstandings and hinder the development of a healthy relationship. 🎮
- Being overly nice or romantic can be perceived as insincere or eager to please, which is unattractive to secure women. 💑
- Sharing meaningful stories about values, accomplishments, and future goals is more attractive than bragging or trying to impress. 📖
- Talking about commitment early on can be intimidating, but it is essential for building a strong foundation for a relationship. 💍
"Hi. Who are you?" All you need to know, really.
My view is that Date #1 is Introductions, Date #2 is Deciding, Date #3 is Decided, and then you go from there.
'trying to please mom and you'll only come across avoidant women who will eventually dump you'
Wow, summing up my relationship with my ex fiancé...Im starting to see that's what I was doing
This is the same type of simp that will bring the girl for 'a dinner' in the first date 🤣
If you're afraid to talk about commitment to a potential romantic partner then you might not be ready for commitment.
The biggest mistake a guy makes on the first date is showing up
Just deleted all my dating apps. Probably won't be going on a date for a while...
Nothing turns off a girl more than when you are vulnerable to her. It’s the fastest way get friend zoned. When a woman says you are a “catch” it means you’d make a great friend. Good dudes who get in the friend zone are not rapey but kind and generous.
very very good stuff
Its crazy that some people would take any advice from internet and take it like doctors advice. Its just a discussion. He is making his points. It can create the conversation and stimulate different ideas. Dont just listen and copy bluntly anything people say on internet. Take a little bit, test in safe environment and make your own informed decision
What the guest never mentions is that most of these women are in their late 30s- early 40s and who have realized that their best years are behind them.
Now their dream man is unattainable and they’re willing to settle.
this is good and legit,
Problem is, some of the advice that was given, sounds like the perfect antidote for "Attracting Gold Diggers" :(
I never understand how men with no gold keeps worrying about gold diggers. Which gold?
Anyone can make themselves ten times more attractive if they become good conversationalists. The most attractive people can totally blow a date if they can't hold a conversation.
Yup.
Don't date any women who's hit the wall if you have any bit of success. Know your worth kings.
If you're a 30-year-old incel then insist on finding a beautiful 20-year-old submissive trad virgin who has no ambitions in life beyond making sandwiches and being obedient to a man, who was waiting just for you. Know your worth, kings. Never settle.
Don’t date losers who think they’re better than they are . Know your worth queens
What age do you think the wall hits the avg woman?
@@leefire2 25 - 30
@@leefire2 25 - 30 for the avg woman. Maybe 35 at a push if she really tries. It's pretty cruel man, women being pushed into doing career stuff, when they ought to be seeking a partner from 18 - 25 for their own sake. Now taken up by career individualism, and then they look for someone seriously after hitting the wall, rip.
This is the truth
1. Be attractive to her
2. Your job is to make her feel comfortable
Give her that and she will tell you, youre too much and get scared ...
But yes, neediness is the biggest turn off (he kind of brushed that question off) 😬 Probably for men too.
The first one: absolutely! I want to get to know the guy, what he is up to, what is important to him. And while doing so, the fun will happen automatically - or not.
Excellent video Chris! Very insightful and changed the way I view dating
Tip #1 all the way. I've full out told men this point blank and they still don't get it.
Never been on a date my entire life 😅
How old are you? Best advice I can give to fix that, and improve your life in general. Quit watching porn. That’ll boost you up by 100x. Don’t lie and say you don’t because clearly you do, a lot, since you haven’t gone on dates your entire life.
Good luck, you’ll get there!
How old are you? Dude modern dating is fucked.
If a woman is trying to have sex with me too soon, that is a giant red flag. If she's willing to give it up so quickly imagine how many other guys she's done that with. Hard pass.
Spoken like the typical married guy who has been out of the dating game for years, and thinks men just need to “be themselves”.
Does it make MORE sense to listen to a guy who hasn't successfully maintained a long-term relationship?
@@DPMusicStudio Making a marriage work vs navigating the first few dates well and keeping the other person's interest high are completely different skills. He may have some good information when it comes to long term relationships but he's got a ton of blind spots about how much dating has changed since he was single, as do most men who have been married for years.
@@RFdaniel very well said.
See marriage might seem that it’s harsher on women, but divorce is evidently a lot harder on men
Rock Solid Premarital Agreement.
Best Advice: Be tall.
heightpill strikes again
Biggest Mistake men make is they dont vet for sexuaI attraction
Uh .. on who's part? As a guy, *why* would you date someone you don't want to sleep with?? For the w0man - sure, she'll use dudes for resources. *He* has to determine his own point of lost time / resources / returns.
@@clintkantor *If* you solely think the *only* reason a w0man would want you is because of your resources .. you'd be better off "renting" and hitting Pahrump, NV whenever you get an itch.
@@clintkantor I vet women who vet for resources.
Is that hard to do?
The problem is you guys go simping through the friend zone and don't understand the difference between that and dating. You can easily tell by kissing someone if there's chemistry or not. There's no reason to rush it any further than that. You can't really stay bitter about a situation in which you were just friends and not dating. You did that to yourself.
Great advice: men need to be real, and authentic, to attract the right person who is also a decent human being.
I'm meeting a girl, we had 2 dates already. Right on time.
Anu updates
100% yes
This is great advice
Bruh this is like getting “Where’s Waldo” advice from a blind man
Exactly. make some effort, but don't try too hard and seem needy. contact her but, don't contact her too much. Use the force Luke. I already have my family but I feel so bad for younger men trying to date today. Modern dating advice reminds me of the Sphinx from Mystery Men: He who questions training only trains himself at asking questions.When you care what is outside, what is inside cares for you. To learn my teachings, I must first teach you how to learn. You must be like wolf pack, not six-pack.
Yea 3 and 4 kind of contradict themselves. You can’t wait 3 days because you’re playing games but you can’t text right away because you’re to needy. Bro what? 😂Also one and two, contradict themselves. You can’t be to shy but you also can’t be to confident 😂Just be mediocre lmao fuck that. To many rules. Go with the flow and if it feels good it’ll go well if it don’t feel genuine than who cares, more fish in the sea.
What if I consider a fun conversation to be my love for lubricants or model railroads
They dont have to have an interest in those things but if you are passionate about them they will vibe with it. Of coarse if that is all you talk about they have trouble vibing but certainly drop that in. Also good to be aware of your surroundings and live in the moment, take observations of things that are happening around you comment on them. I know this can be difficult to do organically but it helps to Be aware you are are a mortal human that will die some day. Strangely, thinking about your mortality helps your natural self come out.
Just focus on yourselves, gentlemen. Modern dating isn't worth the headache and costs too much money. If she wants you or wants something from you, then you won't have to worry about any of this because she'll do all the work and make sure she gets what she's looking for lol
Women will definitely not do all the work lol
Wrong. Men are the ones who need to do the winning. Quality marriage minded women are not going to be the man and do the heavy lifting. They want a real man, who will lead, provide, protect his wife and children.
Well maybe not all the work like keeping the relationship afloat but in the courting process, she'll do everything especially if there's money involved lol
"I'm the prize"
No you're not.
@@josephortiz6371 Women who want something will do the work, can absolutely confirm. Like Billy said not all of it, you obviously have some back and forth to give, but basically it won't be a 100% your effort lopsided game if she wants you. Women who aren't interested but will let you court them for a one night stand or a short Benefits relationship will let you do all the work and dump you later. Generally though I find it's a higher portion of quality women that are like this who will put effort in for what they want. There's a lot of women out there who want but don't try who are essentially modern female incels lol.
I can't deal with these head games / dating games. I found an Asian wife, honest and does not play games. Married almost 20 years now. Find a partner who has decided, along with you, to exist outside of the games and BS they are talking about it. Go outside of this sick "System."
Refreshingly good advice, for this type of channel. Enough of the games-everybody is sick of them; and they don’t even work anymore!
When was the last time this guy even went on a date?
He’s been married for 20+ years if I remember correctly. Hasn’t spent any time in the field, has prolly little to absolutely 0 skills w woman, never has been on social media or dating apps, hasn’t been to a club gym or bar in over a decade, hasn’t spoken to a girl younger than 35 (his wife) in an intimate manner in god knows how long. It’s like listening to a Walmart cashier telling you how to be a navy seal
the first point was so on point haha. its something i as a woman didnt realize until i heard it explained here and it exactly describes my boyfriend, who is the most attractive guy i have met so far
Lol
"who is the most attractive guy I have met so far"
SO FAR.
Don't forget guys... women never stop looking.
If you listen to women, they'll give away the whole game.
@@DPMusicStudio so far means until present time, i dont live in the future, stop making bullshit out of nothing. and if you think women end up marrying the most physically attractive guy they have ever met then you are mad crazy. we care for other things as well, a pretty face and body wont build me a family, its just something to look at. and on average men are looking more than women, stop kidding yourself.
This idea that you have to have a mission and want to change the world in order to be loved and appreciated is not healthy. I'm all for self improvement and aspirations but I think most of us are ordinary people just trying our best to get through life, and most of the women we will talk to are as well. Let's take the pressure off a little hey?
Yeah the guy being interviewed is clueless.