he's absolutely right on this stuff... especially the "dont have a sniper mentality" point; everyone is an opportunity for us to practice outgoingness and "flirting" with the world.
"flirting with the world" is how I live my life. (except on here) Especially with women I don't even find attractive in my day to day. It just helps you get ahead and leave a good impression. Along with the benefits he described.
If one is then hopefully you would've had plenty of practice. Sometimes if they're very attractive, it could be easier to talk to them, because there's not much ambiguity as to why you're speaking with them. Even you can be more genuine because she is genuinely attractive to you.🤣 and she would appreciate the spontaneous authenticity as opposed to a dude presenting a script, which you would more likely be doing if she was average looking. But anyway, practice, practice. My girl broke up with me a week ago, after two years, I'm back in these cold cold streets🤣
I devloped this kind of personality when i started to work as a cashier in Tesco, talked in a a fun way to a lot of woman. And this sticked with me and i don't have any problem approaching even the most beautiful females way above my league. Life is too depressing, we should make fun conversations whenever possible.
1. Be interesting 2. Genuine standards 3. Hold and enjoy sexual tension - Setting a vibe and sharing your values - be curious - Vibe and be outgoing with everyone, don't snipe
Found these points most enlightening 1. Flirtation is world building. 2. A good flirt is capable of creating a pleasant "world" through communication. 3. Flirt with the world. Everyone wants to inhabit a pleasant world!
Even though I’m married, this is still great advice. People in long-term committed relationships still need to take their significant others on dates where the two can just vibe and have fun and charm each other.
With ‘flirting with the world’ he just means to interact with other people even if there’s no sexual/relational interest. So no, I wouldn’t mind it. In fact my partner does that (way better than me). If you’re a more introverted person that’s a really hard thing to do, which is kind of my problem with these tips.
@@herb1563 It is pretty much clear he suggests you do this when you're single. So dunno how you got the conclusion you do this also when you're in a relationship
I currently work in customer service. I try to talk and engage in playful conversation with everyone at all times. its been over a month now and it comes so naturally to just flirt with more attractive young ladies now because being flirtatious with everyone makes it as easy as breathing. Not having a sniper mentality is probably the number one key in my opinion. Hes absolutely right
@ralphfurley4217You really think the origin of it is 20 years ago. Everything has been done in human history in some form. Everything is just built on prior knowledge.
Absolutely love the "flirt with the world" idea. I've always thought of flirtation as being strictly sexual, but it's really the foundation of pleasant interaction. Whenever you find yourself in a pleasant social situation, you're usually flirting with a person or a concept. It's a creative process 🤔.
This is absolutely not true, and really a very odd way to view social interactions. Unless, of course, we are going to completely change the definition of the word flirt, which is understood to mean behaving in a way to signal to another person that you are interested in them and you wish to attract them. Flirting is understood to be a precursor to a more intimate relationship. If on vacation I sit down next to a gentleman by the hotel pool and I strike up a conversation about the resort, where I’m from, what I do for a living.. I am not flirting with him in any way shape or form. Am I being friendly? Yes Am I being outgoing? Sure Is there a chance I just popped a Percocet? Of course Am I flirting with him? No, Not even a tiny bit.. And again, unless we are just redefining the word, I find it to be a very bizarre, and somewhat gross way to describe that interaction.
Love the idea of “flirting with the world”. I’m 21, and used to be so nervous talking to women. Recently working in a busy restaurant as a host really really helped me with this concept! I’d recommend it to anyone who’s young and looking for a job, and to build their social confidence at the same time. You’re constantly interacting with people from all walks of life, while walking them to their table you can practice your conversational abilities. Great advice.
I used to get nerves around attractive women, and then i would think to myself "supposing things went well, 6 months in there's things i would start to despise, and things i would take for granted. Why wait six months when i can start now?" The point wasn't to have a bad attitude, but to not absurdly overvalue some stranger because lizard brain and to counter it in a way my brain would genuinely accept. You too can imagine genuinely hating anyone! lol
Or you could just focus on having a good conversation with them, and make that your goal, instead of bringing a negative vibe from imagining you'll hate them eventually.
@@JoseDiaz-rd9fh That is a very stupid dehuman Ising thing to do. Look up Joseph Stalin that is the exact visualization. technique he used to justify murdering millions of people.
"Flirting with the world" just makes your day better - and often the other people too (hopefully) chatting to an old lady walking her dog etc. Helps the world go round.
My buddies and I used to start discussing whether 50 trained fighting midgets could beat a tiger in a pit fight. We would then ask nearby women to settle the debate. It generally started a long conversation that broke the ice, and made asking personal questions less uncomfortable. Don't try to drive 55 in first gear. You've got to use all the gears to drive highway speed.
That last piece of advice is GOLD. Don't become someone for the top girls. Become someone for anyone, or rather any situation worth of your time. It comes down to your values. Don't value only sex. Value your time being around others and by yourself. So much more than pleasure only, it's so a tiny glimpse of the spectrum, which unfortunaly tend to obscure the whole set.
Ok, here are some practical tips from a straight woman. Feel free to add/disagree.0 1. He's absolutely right about breaking the touch barrier early. My "move" is to walk up to a bloke I like (and usually already know but want to let him know I like him) and give him a shove and walk off. Works every time. If you're going to do that though, be gentle. We're smaller than you lol. A hand touch is nice but I would find someone grabbing my arm way too much. If she's wearing a ring, gently taking her hand to look closely at it works. 2. If it's raining and neither of you have an umbrella, shelter her under your jacket. It's gentlemanly, gets you nice and close to each other and makes for lots of laughs. 3. Other old school gentlemanly stuff is nice like opening doors or even offering an elbow as you walk. We get to serrupticiously feel up your biceps and is another good way of breaking the touch barrier. 4. This one works well at a bar: If you're approaching someone for the first time, standing side-on is much less threatening than face to face (especially if it's crowded) and personally I love a bloke looking down at me out of the corner of his eye. Dunno why. Try a lop sided smile too. 5. The most charismatic people often are the ones who have developed genuine interests and persuits. Go try a quirky hobby. It gets you in the habit of striking up a good rapport with new people and there might even be some good looking women there :) Good luck.
@@Toleich the fish don’t want to get caught if they had a choice they would escape the nets for their lives. Comparing women who do want to be in relationships to fish is apples to oranges.
This is actually genuinely good advice... shame these wannabe 'alphas' are too busy trying to inflate their fragile little egos to take it... more 'fish' for me I guess 🤷😂🙏
That last advise is so on point! I know because it's naturally how I am with anyone. And women especially always mention "the vibe". If it's how you normally roll, it's never a stretch!
This is a great format: you have the full podcast which you can watch in its completion, or pick a topic from the podcast in separate videos that have specific titles in 10 minute chunks. Perfect for UA-cam’s taste, and for the viewers who like either long or short form content, or perhaps someone who wants to hammer in a topic into their daily mantra.
@@anglodoomer5995his channel is Charisma on Command. He started it over 10 years ago and was an ordinary nice-guy introverted type but overcame that and shared it with the world. Always had great content.
I've flirted with the world in the past, as an introvert it is absolutely exhausting. The type of girl that attracts would have me exhausted for the rest of my life. The best advice is actually "be yourself", specifically be the best version of yourself. The rich, ripped, interesting worldly version.
It’s easy for him to say: flirt with the world, talk to people, etc. because he has an extroverted personality type, that’s who he is. It’s not who we are.
I found its actually a lot easier, to pick up women, working in a liquor store than going to bars. It's quieter, so easier to have conversation, the women are are less defensive, plus, you get to meet the introverted bookish nerd girls who spend their weekend at home with video games and a bottle of wine, instead of going to bars.
I think I need to make a video on this topic myself. The sexiest thing a man ever did for me was come up and introduce himself and shake my hand. Now I'm the type of woman who values old fashionedness, so maybe not every woman will be so appreciative of this type of introduction. But for me, it represented manners, confidence, and sincerity. Three things I deeply value and admire. He had a humility about him too, and he completely captured my attention. I often compare his way to what I'm mostly used to. Men approaching me who immediately launch into a barrage of information about themselves, boasting and bragging, trying to force a good impression and agreeing with everything I say. A combination of arrogance and insincerity that will turn me off the most and quickest.
Many women talk about how much they hate approaches and try to encourage men not to do it at all, and I think the reason is because most men approach badly. A good approach is always at least pleasant for both parties, even if the woman isn’t interested in anything more.
You've never been a man approaching a woman. If you had, you'd know that it has practically nothing to do with what you do or say and everything to do with how you look.
I have noticed the days i have more conversations with normal people, it warms me up. And so moving forward i am already in the right mindset to talk to people I might otherwise be too cold for. For work, as a delivery guy, i had headphones in a lot and hardly took them out thinking the music helped overcome nerves but it did the opposite. Taking them out and engaging has helped me go from transactional to full attention. So now i warm up and give my attention and it does numbers. This flirting with the world idea is exactly what I experienced in the process.
“2:45” the way he’s broken down sexual tension is really intuitive and interesting. I’ve experienced this a lot but didn’t know how to describe it. Such a great topic to touch on 🎉
I love Charisma On Command! I found it from when he made the 3 vids on Russel Brand and spontaneously being witty. The advice he gives on his channel is dead-on!
Really great tips for spicing up a boring work meeting or gathering of family or friends too. Even just striking up a conversation at the bus stop with the right energy can be an awesome part of your day and others'
It doesn’t matter what u do if u don’t believe in yourself. Try something what’s the worse than no is the regret of not knowing if. I learned two years ago the hard way now I must use that regret as motivation. Best of luck to everyone.
At this point it’s a carrot on a stick. Tinder throttles your searches and how much you’re seen based on how much money you give them it’s like yo, mother fucker this is my community stop telling me who I can date lol
Works even better when you have some stong flashlights into their face during that interrogation. Also, waterboarding works well to find out if they are really not interested.
I remember someone saying men think in yes and no. Women think in maybe. Getting into the maybe playful type of conversation and just having fun is preferable for both the women and you :D
I knew it! Definitely it's not just the girls that I'm attracted to, but one must be able to be vulnerable. How I like to view people are just as life-forms roaming the Earth, with all their different flavours and spices about them. This way, I've been able to see people just as they are, and not judging them at face value. I just like to also look as tough experiences, not limited to dating, as something that will make me stronger and a better man.
Wow he provided a tonne of tangible examples and explained himself in a concise fashion, this was very informative ! At the end he brought up "sniper" type men, which I strongly identify with as I'm an introvert that is really productive. I have no inclination to flirt with the world, and to have it turned on all the time would be exhausting. My question is if being/acting extroverted is the only way to get women and their attention ? Talking and flirting with women comes very easy to me, my biggest difficulty is being able to do this with total strangers. If it's a girl in my class or at work it's easy, but talking to the cute barista or girl in the library seems so daunting.
As someone who "identified as an introvert" for years, I can say you just need to do it more. Try to chat up your cashier, waiter/ess, the random retail store worker. It is a muscle, the more you do it, the less effort it takes. You aren't stuck being "socially exhausted" after every conversation; you can and should change that.
I’m the same way, it comes easy with people I know but doing it with strangers is difficult sometimes. But the best way to get better at it is to do it. You don’t get better at something without practicing. It’s like being a comedian. Bill burr talks about how when he first started he’d go on stage and completely bomb and get booed off. But once you start getting those laughs and cheers you build confidence. Same thing with talking to strangers. Once you have some positive interactions then you start to get confident, and people notice. After that it’s easy
Just enjoy the evening...or what ever you are doing is a good start.... Just ignoring those moment of "empasse" , being comfortable in most of the situations... Being classy, not overdoing it... Being mysterious enough....
Who ever said “1st base is kissing” got it wrong and I think a lot of people have been mislead by this growing up and taking into adult hood.. first base is eye contact/talking, second base is touching, kissing is at least 3rd. Every time I’ve ever hooked up at a club there was plenty of touching before kissing I’ve always found this to be so much more comfortable
I hope someone sees this but when it was talked about flirting with everyone a) I figured out this on my own (I'm just trying to be a more charismatic person as a whole) b) once I came to this conclusion I found it's just fun. I honestly look forward to talking to the cashier because it makes my day better. One thing I do what to point out is, It really helps to not be afraid of people and I am not. Since childhood I have had little problems interacting with people (the times I had problems I wasn't being sincere/self confidence was low).
Having standards, sharing your values, your why - these are all great things to apply in business too. Be silly, share values-your why, qualify clients so they sense you might reject them if they aren't a fit for you. Not sure how to translate sexual tension. But being curious in them of course is great.
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“The mystery method” is the book where he probably got this from. The author Eric is a genius n will teach you all that and much more in an interesting and fun way
As a guy who was 10 years out and gaming girls as a sport and is now in a relationship this man is 100% right with everything he said. And also thank you for this reminder that I should flirt more with my girl and not allow the everyday work to beat me down.
I used to be a "sniper" ...obv without the "snipe effect" and about 9 month ago i started forcing myself to have converstions (and trying to enjoy them) with literally everybody. Made awesome new friends since them, got a few dating opportunities from real life AND when i think about engaging into a conversation with a cute girl on the street or whereever... not that scary any more...In general, people really dont mind being talked to.
Be yourself and actively listen. As long as it’s real life that’s pretty much it. This isn’t how to get any woman. But if there’s chemistry. This is your best chance.
This is so true. It takes lots of-uncomfortable-practice. Women love real charm (and no you don’t have to look perfect). The least attractive thing is unfortunately self-pity…
@@juliawinsa4260 How about stop being so condescending and disrespectful to him. He's just expressing his opinion, and he's right. Women have it so easy when it comes to dating and sex. They do nothing, have all the action come to them, and never get rejected. Men have to do everything, only to get shot down by all you ENTITLED women. We don't want to hear how you women all want equality with men, yet continue to passively behave as if you all are living in the Victorian era. You want equality? Then start approaching men and asking us out, instead of using shaming language and ridiculing men by calling us bitter. After you've been rejected a few dozen times in your life then we'll talk and see how empathetic you are towards men.
@@paulgiarmo3628 but BUT, it's exactly this attitude that makes women not want to approach you RIIIGHTTT? No, it's how you look. Being a suave charmer is hella important above a (pretty high) appearance threshold, but saying the exact same shit in the exact same manner as a guy who doesn't have a Hollywood-like smile and body, like both of the guys in the podcast do, will net a far less enthusiastic response. If online threads have thought me anything, it's that women are fucking X-men who can read self pity and low confidence "a mile away", yet they can't read that the chad she's grinding on doesn't give a single fuck about a relationship or commitment. That part always comes as a surprise it seems.
Life changing about those sniper guys and flirting with the world I was like that too, you have to be able to talk to anyone and make a lasting conversation out of anything and to do that you have to be a certain type of person
When I was in a "flirt with the world" mood at a party I got a date from a hot girl (unfortunately when we were by ourselves I was not able to be in the same mood, neither was she, so it did not lead anywhere) and the second time the interest from another one - It was like the first times I was behaving like that in years, so I would say that's very good advice.
I'll flirt with any man who flirts with me. It's good practice for both of us. I always let them know ASAP that I'm not single, but there are so many nice, confidence building (for the guy) ways to decline his approach... I dunno why women can be so rude or offended if a guy flirts with them. Take the compliment! There will come a time/age when you WISH that someone would flirt with you... or even see you at all. Enjoy life ❤
im naturally a good talker, i love telling stories and even other people stories. I'll have some beers with my friends and I end up having conversations with waitresses or hair dressers and my friends look at me like why didnt you ask her number she totally is into you. I tend to flirt without even realizing it and i cant get a clue if shes into me or not.
Hate to admit it but i definitely fall into that sniper category.. lol. Im always overthinking and shy and feel entitled to a good woman for no logical reason. Im going to really start working on breaking out of this and learn to make pleasant conversations with anyone i can. Thanks for the good advice
Easiest way is to just start trying with the mindset of reality that for most men its a numbers game. If yiu reflect some you will be able to learn as you go.
I never knew how to hook up with women until I was facing a 5 to life for Robbery. I'd tell them too. It's easy to know what you want when everything is taken from you. My lady and I date each other every day. Been 3 years now and I still feel giggity everyday. Everyone deserves love.
I was a little straightforward with my conversation style usually and that resulted in a lot of quiet moments where I ran out of things to say. Once I switched it up to have more easygoing/flirty filler stuff it became a bit easy
look for Mystery's old videos from the early 2000's, i think. Mystery was a true pioneer and made the very same points with far more cogency, charisma, and thrust. His technique was known as the Mystery Method.
How confidently flirt with women. First step: be as attractive as brad Pitt. Step 2: say literally anything. Step 3 : wait 3 seconds. There. You've successfully flirted with a woman and you're not going to jail or losing your job.
This is all good but it seems to apply to when you meet strangers. Tell me how to flirt with women I work with everyday or have known as friends/acquaintances for many years. They are the ones I tend to like 😂
Workout like crazy, groom well, smell nice, take care of teeth/hair/etc and these will automatically put vast majority of people above the minimum threshold for most women.
@@timofaust1315 I believe the most attractive height is really about 6 to 6'1. It starts to drop already at about 6'2½, not to below average extends but pushing the 2 meter mark makes men look lanky skinny, fragile, especially if they don't work out, even if they do but aren't super serious about it. Other than that attractiveness is just first impressions. If you're a boring or non sympathetic, unconfident person looks won't matter much once you get to know one another, at least not when it comes to building meaningful long-term relationships. ALSO I'm getting very sick of all these doomer type people pretending that looks are all genetic when you can always look more attractive and it's not even hard. The best reason to improve your physical appearance is for self confidence boosts. Can't deny that finances aren't important. It goes back to female nature wanting a man that can care for her and her offspring. More important than being rich is being active though, female nature despises inactivity in men and being unemployed usually doesn't come with a lot of activity and initiative
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he's absolutely right on this stuff... especially the "dont have a sniper mentality" point; everyone is an opportunity for us to practice outgoingness and "flirting" with the world.
"flirting with the world" is how I live my life. (except on here) Especially with women I don't even find attractive in my day to day. It just helps you get ahead and leave a good impression. Along with the benefits he described.
....well...I would tend to agree....
😏...but what if one is?🤔
If one is then hopefully you would've had plenty of practice. Sometimes if they're very attractive, it could be easier to talk to them, because there's not much ambiguity as to why you're speaking with them. Even you can be more genuine because she is genuinely attractive to you.🤣 and she would appreciate the spontaneous authenticity as opposed to a dude presenting a script, which you would more likely be doing if she was average looking. But anyway, practice, practice. My girl broke up with me a week ago, after two years, I'm back in these cold cold streets🤣
@@Sakattack2023 bruh.....please don’t flirt with me......
Plz 😂
I devloped this kind of personality when i started to work as a cashier in Tesco, talked in a a fun way to a lot of woman. And this sticked with me and i don't have any problem approaching even the most beautiful females way above my league. Life is too depressing, we should make fun conversations whenever possible.
1. Be interesting
2. Genuine standards
3. Hold and enjoy sexual tension
- Setting a vibe and sharing your values
- be curious
- Vibe and be outgoing with everyone, don't snipe
If anyone is struggling to be interesting: Be interested in a topic you enjoy, and others will empathize with you.
@@ainzooalgown1364 What if i enjoy like 50 different topics?
@@jerkkub choose those, that will probably interest her most
@@ainzooalgown1364 What if I enjoy electric cars and biotech?
@@thewaysh Go to electric car and biotech seminars and conferences...
Found these points most enlightening
1. Flirtation is world building.
2. A good flirt is capable of creating a pleasant "world" through communication.
3. Flirt with the world. Everyone wants to inhabit a pleasant world!
Stupid conversation from a stupid man that was born wealthy, never had to fight for anything. isnt short. isnt ugly. and a completely fake persona
Even though I’m married, this is still great advice. People in long-term committed relationships still need to take their significant others on dates where the two can just vibe and have fun and charm each other.
If your partner were ‘flirting with the world’ would you be fine with that or would it be cause for concern?
With ‘flirting with the world’ he just means to interact with other people even if there’s no sexual/relational interest. So no, I wouldn’t mind it. In fact my partner does that (way better than me). If you’re a more introverted person that’s a really hard thing to do, which is kind of my problem with these tips.
Married and watching a video on how to rizz
@@herb1563 It is pretty much clear he suggests you do this when you're single. So dunno how you got the conclusion you do this also when you're in a relationship
What does vibe mean?
Charisma On Command has legitimately changed my life for the better. I owe so much to this dude.
I currently work in customer service. I try to talk and engage in playful conversation with everyone at all times. its been over a month now and it comes so naturally to just flirt with more attractive young ladies now because being flirtatious with everyone makes it as easy as breathing. Not having a sniper mentality is probably the number one key in my opinion. Hes absolutely right
"Flirt with the world." So true. Definitely makes you more attractive to anyone witnessing it as well. Masterclass. Thank you!
@Ralph Furley and?
@ralphfurley4217Well most people still don't do it so a reminder is probably warranted.
@ralphfurley4217You really think the origin of it is 20 years ago. Everything has been done in human history in some form. Everything is just built on prior knowledge.
Absolutely love the "flirt with the world" idea. I've always thought of flirtation as being strictly sexual, but it's really the foundation of pleasant interaction. Whenever you find yourself in a pleasant social situation, you're usually flirting with a person or a concept. It's a creative process 🤔.
This is absolutely not true, and really a very odd way to view social interactions. Unless, of course, we are going to completely change the definition of the word flirt, which is understood to mean behaving in a way to signal to another person that you are interested in them and you wish to attract them. Flirting is understood to be a precursor to a more intimate relationship.
If on vacation I sit down next to a gentleman by the hotel pool and I strike up a conversation about the resort, where I’m from, what I do for a living.. I am not flirting with him in any way shape or form.
Am I being friendly? Yes
Am I being outgoing? Sure
Is there a chance I just popped a Percocet? Of course
Am I flirting with him? No, Not even a tiny bit..
And again, unless we are just redefining the word, I find it to be a very bizarre, and somewhat gross way to describe that interaction.
Read the way of the superior men, if this concept interests you
@@zerodarkthirty703 I'm sorry what you said was bs
@@jamesmarsden7111 yeah.. why is that? What did say that is false or misleading?
@@zerodarkthirty703 sounds like you have no desire to come off as a charismatic person.
Love the idea of “flirting with the world”. I’m 21, and used to be so nervous talking to women. Recently working in a busy restaurant as a host really really helped me with this concept! I’d recommend it to anyone who’s young and looking for a job, and to build their social confidence at the same time. You’re constantly interacting with people from all walks of life, while walking them to their table you can practice your conversational abilities. Great advice.
I used to get nerves around attractive women, and then i would think to myself "supposing things went well, 6 months in there's things i would start to despise, and things i would take for granted. Why wait six months when i can start now?"
The point wasn't to have a bad attitude, but to not absurdly overvalue some stranger because lizard brain and to counter it in a way my brain would genuinely accept. You too can imagine genuinely hating anyone! lol
I feel like I need to continue letting this soak in. All these 10s walking around out here with perfect lives and perfect souls lol
@@danfontaine8179 Imagine them taking a dump. Yes it stinks too
Or you could just focus on having a good conversation with them, and make that your goal, instead of bringing a negative vibe from imagining you'll hate them eventually.
@@lavienestpasunlongfleuvetr2559 cool
@@JoseDiaz-rd9fh That is a very stupid dehuman Ising thing to do. Look up Joseph Stalin that is the exact visualization. technique he used to justify murdering millions of people.
Flirt with the world. What a powerful message put so succinctly. I'mma embody this.
How’s it been so far?
"Flirting with the world" just makes your day better - and often the other people too (hopefully) chatting to an old lady walking her dog etc. Helps the world go round.
My buddies and I used to start discussing whether 50 trained fighting midgets could beat a tiger in a pit fight. We would then ask nearby women to settle the debate. It generally started a long conversation that broke the ice, and made asking personal questions less uncomfortable. Don't try to drive 55 in first gear. You've got to use all the gears to drive highway speed.
This is the way. Dude is right.
Seriously. Really. It works like a CHARM.
What year was that? Can you do that today.
So who won? The tiger or the midgets?
That last piece of advice is GOLD. Don't become someone for the top girls. Become someone for anyone, or rather any situation worth of your time. It comes down to your values. Don't value only sex. Value your time being around others and by yourself. So much more than pleasure only, it's so a tiny glimpse of the spectrum, which unfortunaly tend to obscure the whole set.
Ok, here are some practical tips from a straight woman. Feel free to add/disagree.0
1. He's absolutely right about breaking the touch barrier early. My "move" is to walk up to a bloke I like (and usually already know but want to let him know I like him) and give him a shove and walk off. Works every time. If you're going to do that though, be gentle. We're smaller than you lol. A hand touch is nice but I would find someone grabbing my arm way too much. If she's wearing a ring, gently taking her hand to look closely at it works.
2. If it's raining and neither of you have an umbrella, shelter her under your jacket. It's gentlemanly, gets you nice and close to each other and makes for lots of laughs.
3. Other old school gentlemanly stuff is nice like opening doors or even offering an elbow as you walk. We get to serrupticiously feel up your biceps and is another good way of breaking the touch barrier.
4. This one works well at a bar: If you're approaching someone for the first time, standing side-on is much less threatening than face to face (especially if it's crowded) and personally I love a bloke looking down at me out of the corner of his eye. Dunno why. Try a lop sided smile too.
5. The most charismatic people often are the ones who have developed genuine interests and persuits. Go try a quirky hobby. It gets you in the habit of striking up a good rapport with new people and there might even be some good looking women there :)
Good luck.
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If you want to catch more fish, don't take advice from a fish. Talk to the fisherman.
I disagree.......
With the idea that us men NEED a woman’s advice 😂✌️🇺🇸
@@Toleich the fish don’t want to get caught if they had a choice they would escape the nets for their lives. Comparing women who do want to be in relationships to fish is apples to oranges.
This is actually genuinely good advice... shame these wannabe 'alphas' are too busy trying to inflate their fragile little egos to take it... more 'fish' for me I guess 🤷😂🙏
"Flirt with the world" is probably the best flirting advice I have never heard
That last advise is so on point! I know because it's naturally how I am with anyone. And women especially always mention "the vibe". If it's how you normally roll, it's never a stretch!
This is a great format: you have the full podcast which you can watch in its completion, or pick a topic from the podcast in separate videos that have specific titles in 10 minute chunks. Perfect for UA-cam’s taste, and for the viewers who like either long or short form content, or perhaps someone who wants to hammer in a topic into their daily mantra.
Yes, the format that every UA-cam podcast employs.
I genuinely like this guest.
You could say he's pretty charismatic
@@lookinforhumanz7640 the fact he’s a sexy guy means nothing?
🥴🤢🤮
@@anglodoomer5995his channel is Charisma on Command. He started it over 10 years ago and was an ordinary nice-guy introverted type but overcame that and shared it with the world. Always had great content.
Bro on the left was FOCUSED at 5:12
The world-building thing is SO on the nose. Perfect.
not having to always crack a joke when there is sexual tension is really hard to achieve, but is a really good point
I've flirted with the world in the past, as an introvert it is absolutely exhausting. The type of girl that attracts would have me exhausted for the rest of my life.
The best advice is actually "be yourself", specifically be the best version of yourself. The rich, ripped, interesting worldly version.
It’s easy for him to say: flirt with the world, talk to people, etc. because he has an extroverted personality type, that’s who he is. It’s not who we are.
I found its actually a lot easier, to pick up women, working in a liquor store than going to bars. It's quieter, so easier to have conversation, the women are are less defensive, plus, you get to meet the introverted bookish nerd girls who spend their weekend at home with video games and a bottle of wine, instead of going to bars.
Plus you get paid
Ah the alchoes
giga chad move
Don't go to bars. Be the Barman. They come to you.
Location matters a lot lol
I think I need to make a video on this topic myself. The sexiest thing a man ever did for me was come up and introduce himself and shake my hand. Now I'm the type of woman who values old fashionedness, so maybe not every woman will be so appreciative of this type of introduction. But for me, it represented manners, confidence, and sincerity. Three things I deeply value and admire. He had a humility about him too, and he completely captured my attention.
I often compare his way to what I'm mostly used to. Men approaching me who immediately launch into a barrage of information about themselves, boasting and bragging, trying to force a good impression and agreeing with everything I say. A combination of arrogance and insincerity that will turn me off the most and quickest.
Many women talk about how much they hate approaches and try to encourage men not to do it at all, and I think the reason is because most men approach badly. A good approach is always at least pleasant for both parties, even if the woman isn’t interested in anything more.
You've never been a man approaching a woman. If you had, you'd know that it has practically nothing to do with what you do or say and everything to do with how you look.
You shoupd make that video, really good topic.
@@ultrafly100u mean being unattractive?
@@kaim8115No. He means not approaching like he sees this potential lover as a blow up doll instead of a fellow human being.
Those last lines from the video are gold💯👏 flirt with the world, and have patterns of communication that are habituated in that way
I have noticed the days i have more conversations with normal people, it warms me up. And so moving forward i am already in the right mindset to talk to people I might otherwise be too cold for. For work, as a delivery guy, i had headphones in a lot and hardly took them out thinking the music helped overcome nerves but it did the opposite. Taking them out and engaging has helped me go from transactional to full attention. So now i warm up and give my attention and it does numbers. This flirting with the world idea is exactly what I experienced in the process.
“2:45” the way he’s broken down sexual tension is really intuitive and interesting. I’ve experienced this a lot but didn’t know how to describe it. Such a great topic to touch on 🎉
I love Charisma On Command! I found it from when he made the 3 vids on Russel Brand and spontaneously being witty.
The advice he gives on his channel is dead-on!
Their podcast is even better
Really great tips for spicing up a boring work meeting or gathering of family or friends too. Even just striking up a conversation at the bus stop with the right energy can be an awesome part of your day and others'
It doesn’t matter what u do if u don’t believe in yourself. Try something what’s the worse than no is the regret of not knowing if. I learned two years ago the hard way now I must use that regret as motivation. Best of luck to everyone.
He gives an example of two people dating if they match online… most men can’t even get a quality match.
At this point it’s a carrot on a stick. Tinder throttles your searches and how much you’re seen based on how much money you give them it’s like yo, mother fucker this is my community stop telling me who I can date lol
Facts
Constantly asking “why”? after a simple question is a good way to keep a conversation going and to better connect with someone as well I’ve learned
Works even better when you have some stong flashlights into their face during that interrogation. Also, waterboarding works well to find out if they are really not interested.
‘Why’ makes us defensive. It’s way better to ask ‘what about that is x y z to you?’ Use the words they chose
Why?
I remember someone saying men think in yes and no. Women think in maybe. Getting into the maybe playful type of conversation and just having fun is preferable for both the women and you :D
This was the best video I have seen on this topic. Useful, practical and relevant advice.
I knew it! Definitely it's not just the girls that I'm attracted to, but one must be able to be vulnerable.
How I like to view people are just as life-forms roaming the Earth, with all their different flavours and spices about them. This way, I've been able to see people just as they are, and not judging them at face value. I just like to also look as tough experiences, not limited to dating, as something that will make me stronger and a better man.
My two cents:
1) Be comfortable in your own skin
2) Have something interesting to say
3) Be interested in what she has to say
4) Enjoy the interaction
Wow he provided a tonne of tangible examples and explained himself in a concise fashion, this was very informative ! At the end he brought up "sniper" type men, which I strongly identify with as I'm an introvert that is really productive. I have no inclination to flirt with the world, and to have it turned on all the time would be exhausting.
My question is if being/acting extroverted is the only way to get women and their attention ?
Talking and flirting with women comes very easy to me, my biggest difficulty is being able to do this with total strangers. If it's a girl in my class or at work it's easy, but talking to the cute barista or girl in the library seems so daunting.
As someone who "identified as an introvert" for years, I can say you just need to do it more. Try to chat up your cashier, waiter/ess, the random retail store worker.
It is a muscle, the more you do it, the less effort it takes. You aren't stuck being "socially exhausted" after every conversation; you can and should change that.
I’m the same way, it comes easy with people I know but doing it with strangers is difficult sometimes. But the best way to get better at it is to do it. You don’t get better at something without practicing. It’s like being a comedian. Bill burr talks about how when he first started he’d go on stage and completely bomb and get booed off. But once you start getting those laughs and cheers you build confidence. Same thing with talking to strangers. Once you have some positive interactions then you start to get confident, and people notice. After that it’s easy
Just enjoy the evening...or what ever you are doing is a good start....
Just ignoring those moment of "empasse" , being comfortable in most of the situations...
Being classy, not overdoing it...
Being mysterious enough....
Bruh just whip it out.....
Worst case she says no 😂
@@Macheako ...brooo.🤣🤣🤣...
Well this is after the proposal of a "coffee "...and the traditional..." I am not doing it normally..."
...and why not?
@@robgoodsight6216 hahaha 😂 hell yea
"flirt with the world" is a good legit advice
Who ever said “1st base is kissing” got it wrong and I think a lot of people have been mislead by this growing up and taking into adult hood.. first base is eye contact/talking, second base is touching, kissing is at least 3rd. Every time I’ve ever hooked up at a club there was plenty of touching before kissing I’ve always found this to be so much more comfortable
I hope someone sees this but when it was talked about flirting with everyone a) I figured out this on my own (I'm just trying to be a more charismatic person as a whole) b) once I came to this conclusion I found it's just fun. I honestly look forward to talking to the cashier because it makes my day better. One thing I do what to point out is, It really helps to not be afraid of people and I am not. Since childhood I have had little problems interacting with people (the times I had problems I wasn't being sincere/self confidence was low).
Having standards, sharing your values, your why - these are all great things to apply in business too. Be silly, share values-your why,
qualify clients so they sense you might reject them if they aren't a fit for you. Not sure how to translate sexual tension. But being curious in them of course is great.
Some good advice in here… Coming from two beautifully symmetrical people.
Astonishing! Just WOW to your videos! Definitely will share this video with my friends. Also, I’ll share a product Spanish Fly natural aphrodisiacs with them because my sex experience was unbelievable! I’m really excited about all the effects 🔥.
my boyfriend jack wanted me to be better in bed. haha jack and how? and out. of the blue your comment. thx to it he didn't break up with me luckily
That eye contact is what made me lean in for the first kiss. My man gave me that approval with his eyes. It was magical 😌
“The mystery method” is the book where he probably got this from. The author Eric is a genius n will teach you all that and much more in an interesting and fun way
Good job female that joke was great! Here's a hug 😂
As a guy who was 10 years out and gaming girls as a sport and is now in a relationship this man is 100% right with everything he said. And also thank you for this reminder that I should flirt more with my girl and not allow the everyday work to beat me down.
I used to be a "sniper" ...obv without the "snipe effect" and about 9 month ago i started forcing myself to have converstions (and trying to enjoy them) with literally everybody.
Made awesome new friends since them, got a few dating opportunities from real life AND when i think about engaging into a conversation with a cute girl on the street or whereever... not that scary any more...In general, people really dont mind being talked to.
flirting with the world is the best way i can think of to put it, bravo
This is exactly what ive had to learn over the last decade.. best advice ever!
Be yourself and actively listen. As long as it’s real life that’s pretty much it. This isn’t how to get any woman. But if there’s chemistry. This is your best chance.
Fellow northener. Haway the lads! Proud of you for doing what you do
"Just be handsome bro. It's easy bro"
LMAO so hard "By the power of GraySkull ..." 😂 !!
Great insight, guys!!! Thank you
This is so true. It takes lots of-uncomfortable-practice. Women love real charm (and no you don’t have to look perfect).
The least attractive thing is unfortunately self-pity…
😑😑😑😑😑😑😑😑 I never listen to women....cause y’all say things like this 😂
@@Macheako is there bitterness behind those distrustful and crying happy smileys?
Putting all women in one box will sure do that to you.
@@juliawinsa4260 nah.....I just legit don’t think I NEED y’alls advice to live my life.....
So far.....I been right 🤣
@@juliawinsa4260 How about stop being so condescending and disrespectful to him. He's just expressing his opinion, and he's right.
Women have it so easy when it comes to dating and sex. They do nothing, have all the action come to them, and never get rejected. Men have to do everything, only to get shot down by all you ENTITLED women.
We don't want to hear how you women all want equality with men, yet continue to passively behave as if you all are living in the Victorian era. You want equality? Then start approaching men and asking us out, instead of using shaming language and ridiculing men by calling us bitter. After you've been rejected a few dozen times in your life then we'll talk and see how empathetic you are towards men.
@@paulgiarmo3628 but BUT, it's exactly this attitude that makes women not want to approach you RIIIGHTTT? No, it's how you look.
Being a suave charmer is hella important above a (pretty high) appearance threshold, but saying the exact same shit in the exact same manner as a guy who doesn't have a Hollywood-like smile and body, like both of the guys in the podcast do, will net a far less enthusiastic response.
If online threads have thought me anything, it's that women are fucking X-men who can read self pity and low confidence "a mile away", yet they can't read that the chad she's grinding on doesn't give a single fuck about a relationship or commitment. That part always comes as a surprise it seems.
I remember getting accepted to community college and feeling pretty good about it lol
I have never once heard #3 on that list. That's simple yet clever thinking.
That sexual tensions is the hardest part, but I've done it accidentally when I've felt the most confident with my body
Life changing about those sniper guys and flirting with the world I was like that too, you have to be able to talk to anyone and make a lasting conversation out of anything and to do that you have to be a certain type of person
1 - Be handsome
2 - Don’t be Ugly
3 - Avoid to do 1 and 2
Ty for the lol
You missed the point of the video
Instructions unclear. Should one avoid being handsome and avoid not being ugly?
You get confident when you look like these guys 😂
When I was in a "flirt with the world" mood at a party I got a date from a hot girl (unfortunately when we were by ourselves I was not able to be in the same mood, neither was she, so it did not lead anywhere) and the second time the interest from another one - It was like the first times I was behaving like that in years, so I would say that's very good advice.
I'll flirt with any man who flirts with me.
It's good practice for both of us. I always let them know ASAP that I'm not single, but there are so many nice, confidence building (for the guy) ways to decline his approach... I dunno why women can be so rude or offended if a guy flirts with them. Take the compliment! There will come a time/age when you WISH that someone would flirt with you... or even see you at all. Enjoy life ❤
Sorry, this life thing is being replaced
Why do you need the practice if you're not single?
@@mike4179 the ability to interact with people is an important skill.
Life isn't black and white.
You shouldn't do that.
Not if you have a fucking boyfriend.
You should politely let them know you're taken.
@@mike4179 she's a woman. Most women need attention from men to build their self esteem
im naturally a good talker, i love telling stories and even other people stories. I'll have some beers with my friends and I end up having conversations with waitresses or hair dressers and my friends look at me like why didnt you ask her number she totally is into you. I tend to flirt without even realizing it and i cant get a clue if shes into me or not.
This would have been great advice 10 years ago 😊
Chris you earned a new subscriber with his one, thanks a lot for what you do
Hate to admit it but i definitely fall into that sniper category.. lol. Im always overthinking and shy and feel entitled to a good woman for no logical reason. Im going to really start working on breaking out of this and learn to make pleasant conversations with anyone i can. Thanks for the good advice
One principe. It's money. 100%
Easiest way is to just start trying with the mindset of reality that for most men its a numbers game. If yiu reflect some you will be able to learn as you go.
Someone who's flirting with the world... this really got me thinking 🤔
This is the most attractive I’ve seen Charlie
Damn thank for this may just change my life
I found insightful
Firstly and most importantly, be attractive to them. Everything after that is practice.
Sounds like an excuse to never try ngl
@@Bozowomp Nope. Just try in the right direction, and it'll get a lot easier.
I never knew how to hook up with women until I was facing a 5 to life for Robbery. I'd tell them too. It's easy to know what you want when everything is taken from you. My lady and I date each other every day. Been 3 years now and I still feel giggity everyday. Everyone deserves love.
Can we get some tips on how to end it painlessly? Preferably minimizing mess
It does help to be stunningly beatiful, and have this guys voice.
Step 1: Be good looking.
Step 2: See Step 1.
Any recommendations on women flirting with men? How do we approach men?
I was a little straightforward with my conversation style usually and that resulted in a lot of quiet moments where I ran out of things to say. Once I switched it up to have more easygoing/flirty filler stuff it became a bit easy
look for Mystery's old videos from the early 2000's, i think. Mystery was a true pioneer and made the very same points with far more cogency, charisma, and thrust. His technique was known as the Mystery Method.
For me the biggest takeaway is „flirt with the world“ :D ❤
Fantastic interview
How confidently flirt with women.
First step: be as attractive as brad Pitt.
Step 2: say literally anything.
Step 3 : wait 3 seconds.
There. You've successfully flirted with a woman and you're not going to jail or losing your job.
This is all good but it seems to apply to when you meet strangers. Tell me how to flirt with women I work with everyday or have known as friends/acquaintances for many years. They are the ones I tend to like 😂
Step 1. Be absurdly handsome
Step 2, be a comedian, they love comedians
Practice self grooming habits
Hardcore cope, there are so many things that come before that
Cope harder
Workout like crazy, groom well, smell nice, take care of teeth/hair/etc and these will automatically put vast majority of people above the minimum threshold for most women.
1. Be handsome
2. Don't be unattractive
3. All of the above
😂
Bonuspoints for being higher than 6`6 and having a six figure income ;)
@@timofaust1315 I believe the most attractive height is really about 6 to 6'1. It starts to drop already at about 6'2½, not to below average extends but pushing the 2 meter mark makes men look lanky skinny, fragile, especially if they don't work out, even if they do but aren't super serious about it.
Other than that attractiveness is just first impressions. If you're a boring or non sympathetic, unconfident person looks won't matter much once you get to know one another, at least not when it comes to building meaningful long-term relationships. ALSO I'm getting very sick of all these doomer type people pretending that looks are all genetic when you can always look more attractive and it's not even hard. The best reason to improve your physical appearance is for self confidence boosts.
Can't deny that finances aren't important. It goes back to female nature wanting a man that can care for her and her offspring. More important than being rich is being active though, female nature despises inactivity in men and being unemployed usually doesn't come with a lot of activity and initiative
Thanks Chris! Great video
The last part was eye opening, thanks
I'm way too autistic to "flirt with the world", and I suspect quite a large proportion of men are as well.
You should try negging.
Tell her one ear is higher than another and make fun of that.
Sounds good, no toxic red pill crap.
He is 100% correct
This guy really gets it.
Very good breakdown
This is actually helpful. Thank you.
Look at Charlie's micro-expressions after getting these questions for the millionth time...
So, in essence, the art of courting a woman in a highly globalized and fast-paced world.
If it makes you feel any better, that globalized world isn't going to exist for much longer with a breakdown into regionalism