My cope is summed up best by a quote: “Chase butterflies and you’ll never catch them. Build a garden and then they’ll come. Even if they don’t, you’ll have your garden”
People don't want to be with somebody who. needs someone else to complete themselves or their life. Build a great life, and someone will want to be a part of it with you.
You don't even need to cope, just get off the dating apps and cold approach multiple women (kind of like what you're describing). If they show disinterest, move on immediately. Save yourself the time and energy and her the creep factor. Also, it depends on how much you vibe with a chick (sometimes ones you know)
This comment initiated a brain-spasm for me, arriving at a strong explanation for this: 1. Men's sexual urges peak much earlier than women's do (this is well-known among sexologists). 2. The perception of our own attractiveness is largely determined by the amount of undesired romantic attention we get, not the desired romantic attention. 3. People's understanding of the world around them revolves most strongly around lessons learned early. 4. The sexdrive asymmetry causes young women to fend off oversexed young men, during their late formative years, which then turns into a persistent overestimation, even when they themselves are the ones being turned down later on. This logically sums up why mediocrely attractive women overestimate their attractiveness: It's mostly a timing issue, though there's also the fad of women telling young girls that they're beautiful - which is quite harmful if you think about it; not only instilling false expectations but also a shallow sense of self-worth.
BS. Everyone suffers from self-doubt and a lot of people are compensating. Most dudes who COULD be kind of attractive don't want to put in the effort. Having a crappy personality makes you unnatractive to women as well. I'd say given your attitude towards women, most women find you unattractive.
@@AGHathaway Actually, my attitude towards women is just fine, I'm happily married and you're projecting your political bias - which I don't have. I mentioned it's a timing issue, not a "women are stoopid issue" or whatever your polarized mind turned it into.
I think a lot of dudes are telling girls they're hot, there's no girls telling an average dude he's hot lol Just the way it is, their horniness sets them up for delusions. Who knows if it's even a net positive though, the confidence itself is a good trait to have, but when it's too much it's definitely unattractive and comes off as crazy.
I found this very interesting. Especially re the attractiveness characteristics. I'm surprised there isn't more difference between the INITIAL high correlation toward finding youth and classic things like a given face highly attractive -- and what happens after some time when one comes to KNOW someone re their attitudes, beliefs, intelligence, sense of humor, etc. I'm 65. And yeah, it's genetic to initially find beautiful 20ish year old women highly attractive. But since I was working at age 22, after attending college around LOTS of silly and immature women, I found LOTS of women who were 30 to 35 and in shape and reasonably attractive but not "beautiful" FAR more attractive than the vast majority of the early 20's immature women/girls, especially once I got to know them a bit. I'm also surprised this attraction to more mature but still attractive women didn't show up more for men, but maybe I'm even weirder than I assumed I was...
I think what some fail to realize is that while growing up, girls get dating advice (what we should want in a man, and what a man expects us to be) from that larger group of women that only chase that top small group of men, and that screws up our perception of what our goals should be. Crap from women’s magazines, Disney Princess fantasies, rom coms… only to realize Prince Charming is nowhere to be found. When I took dating more seriously, loosened my expectations, and asked men what they actually want… they were much easier to please than I thought and some of the best bachelors were hidden gems you wouldn’t consider at first. I realized I was brainwashed. Women blame pornography for men’s supposed preferences, but truly, men won’t reject your company if you’re good company 😅
Truth Porn has nothing to do with anything real. We only interact with porn cause our urges get really bad, like when really hungry for food. The urge is constant and what you gonna do, you can’t focus on work if you don’t relieve it, your mind is clouded by it. It’s got nothing to do with reality and people we want to connect to..
@@Novusod What I have always found weird in women's friendships is that they will lie to each other all the time. I never understood it. Like "no, youre so pretty!" to their friend Gorlox the destroyer type person. My friends literally point out to me ive gained weight and im just like "ah sh*t, true" and I go back to the gym.
Treat life as a game and spend time with women, for gathering moments.. not for future expectations.. you will definitely enjoy it.. I, once went to a movie with a girl, 3 years above my age on a bike.. which I thought was impossible in my life.. one more thing to say, girls also have a dirty mind. They just don't share it with anyone.. if you are able to open it.. you may get what you need... 👉👌
A rancorous divorce definitely stopped my desire for relationship seeking. One of my attractive female colleagues said to me that if I keep dressing the way I do, that I would never find another girl. I commented back, "Thank God, my plan is working."
@@flynnk70 Real answer. Like an absolute slob. There are a couple of other things to mention. My colleague wasn't trying to be snarky. We've known each other for years. Additionally, she is quite the stylish dresser and the few times I saw her husband, he is kept stylish - not sure if that is his practice or hers. She has seen me when I have been dressed up and knows that I look nice. Baggy pants or shorts. Old t-shirts with logos. Beat up tennis shoes. Perhaps ultra-ultra-comfy sliding into slobbishness.
as a 27 year old virgin. Out of all my 6 best buddies I grew up with, they are all also absolute virgins +- 2 years my age. Everyone with their own place to rent, stable job and at least 4 of us are not obese lol. I can tell what lead to this tho. -None of us ever gained any visible muscle at all and I wouldnt exactly recommend modeling to anyone either. -Most of us work in tech, went to school in tech, studied in tech, so > or < 0 female friends or contacts built over the years. -We never went to drinking parties either. -We gamed a lot, so even less time spent in public. I think if I had to actually try avoiding women any harder, I wouldnt know what more I could do heh. I think clueless type of guys like us only avoided extinction historically because we got carried by arranged marriage honestly.
Yes, which was smarter than today. Dating is a scam and people fell for i. You need to spend a bunch of time and resources for it while time ago it was easy since you got someone anyway and back than all women where nice and beautiful
@@danicruz226cause they aren't problems. It's the path for success, while playing around leads to pregnancies when you aren't even capable of providing. What is he supposed to change? The dating market of the west itself is the only reason for the population collapse. This is why arranged marriages used to exist.
@@danicruz226 Have you ever heard people say "I'm going to start going to the gym this year, and lose some weight as my New Year's resolution!"? That's basically the reason. Establishing the habit of doing things with other people requires time, effort, and satisfying pre-requisites. It's not a switch you turn on, it's a full-blown lifestyle change. And people like me tend to be both reactive to the environment, as well as having a history where our ability to initiate and follow through on plans has been paralyzed by training. for example, it's easy to know that I should "reach out to people" or "join a club", but then I walk outside, and look around, and think "Well this is boring, what am I even doing here", and then turn around, walk back inside, do a search, click through the top few website results, fail to find something that looks good, and then get distracted by a youtube video, or a tutorial, or a book, or some video games, or netflix, or professional development, or a remote job, etc... And then there's the issue that meeting people requires you to know people, or be introduced, or know where to find people on a regular basis in a way where you can be friends. the longer you've been away from that, the more difficult it becomes to get plugged back in. You just loop the same day, over and over, as the years pass by.
The attractiveness/age correlation statistics hide a phenomena: the MOST attractive men do peak at 37, but the vast majority of men tank in their 30s, putting on a beer belly and losing muscle, which drives the average curve down.
@@rafaelamorim3527every men can age like fine wine. But most mens have shitty routines, habits and dont know how to take care for him self. If they would prioritize sleep, food, working out, skincare and mental health and stop doing their bad habits, it would easily double most men’s attractiveness
I'm in my 50s now, and looking back I can say that I got WAY more attention from women of all ages in the decade 35-45 than at any other stage of life.
Absolutely, 35-45 is truly men's prime. The fallacy with the study is that it doesn't take into account that women in their late 20s and early 30s become exponentially more desperate to find a partner while still looking for men older than themselves which results in dating becoming much easier for men between 35-45.
@@nitroneonicmanit also doesn't take into account that preferences need to be put into context. If a study shows that all other things being equal, mn who use pens are more attractive than pencils... That doesn't say anything about how important it is... Same with height, ya most mn want somebody like 5 inches shorter but most really don't care that much that it matters
@@nitroneonicmanso the reality is that for wmn age, looks, and chastity/baggage are literally what matter. Age especially because of fertility. Their smv is given to them and naturally declines or they ruin it with bad behavior. For mn age matters very little and it's just about working to increase smv. If you're a CEO billionaire who is confident, experienced, wise, and stylish at 22 great but even that guy will probably be better at 32
Interesting fact - when women judge the attractiveness of strangers - the dustribution is very skewed (only 15% are judged as better than average) but when they judge men they know from their social circle the distribution becomes normal. So if you're not in that top 15% of attractiveness you're much better off looking for love in your peer group.
That tracks with the charts he showed though right? A random person is more likely to be a hookup whereas someone in your social circle is more likely to be something long-term.
remember though, not every fits the median or is relevant to 2 unique people. We've all had the hots for someone we can't explain why, and it's not the type you'd typically be interested in.
That's probably just because they don't want to be rude towards them, kinda like how they tell their girlfriend Gorlox the Destroyer that she's beautiful, perfect and that she don't need to change in any way. It's just them avoiding conflict.
the reason they peak at that age is cuz they already had prior experience ffs lol dont think there'll be some blessing from the heavens that turns you into the rizzler at your 25th birthday
It is the average, does not reflect your specific case and a big bunch of men are as attractive (or unattractive) as you at this age. The most important thing inst age at all, but how you look at this age; I guess men at this age just happen to be more physically fit and corrected skin issues they may have had in the pas
@@DewiSant-o3y I mean if you aren't physically active people won't be attracted to you. Either find an easy high pay low hour job that allows you to dedicate 20 hours in the gym every week, or work a 50 hour a week job with low pay that keeps you in killer shape. I chose to be poor af and stay in shape. I miss money but the brainpower that comes with muscles is worth it on a karmic transcendental level. Still would rather be able to afford to live lmaooo. thats why im voting kamal
Finally someone with some common sense. I'll give everyone here a little secret: women are attracted to men who are busy with their own lives and could take them or leave them. Nothing is more unattractive to a woman than a man who's building his life around trying to attract women.
And in the modern day, they only behave well if there aren't excess resources going around. The only checks on women are when they actually need men, or socially there is shaming for restriction. Notice the west passes neither test.
Your daily reminder that the goal of Dating websites is NOT to find you a partner. Their goal is to MAKE MONEY. Dating sites actively benefit from pairing you with bad matches so that you stay and pay longer.
Eh, it is possible to have two goals at the same time, and more, but of course there can only be one at the top of the list but it's of course connected/related. You must be American, as only Americans can only see one side of the story.
Ya he's wrong. Studies are clear that there's a looks threshold where that's the only thing that matters. Then it becomes about everything else and looks take a backseat
yeah, looks will only get their attention, but your overall status, personality, money situation, etc is what determines if she will keep seeing you or not.
Looks don't take u far if the girl is at your level w looks or higher. But if she's even 1 or 1.5 below (10 scale) oh boyy looks give u wings my friend 🪽 those women will even say they'll "wait for you' if you say emotionally u can't commit 🤫
@@zerocal76 any woman that thinks she is over 5 in looks thinks she looks better than any male and he needs to prove himself to her with status and a nice willing personality,bradpit gets woman far more than billgates because he is better looking,
There is difference if women want a man for their money, or she wants a man to be able to provide for her to raise a family. Women are like snakes, they will hear what man wants in relationship and they will try to trick you by telling you what you want to hear. In that case she will be desperate to fill those expectation but not because she wants it, but because she wants to keep you committed to her. In that case she will be unhappy, and eventually she will divorce you and give up, even if you have kids together.
I think the golden age for men is between 25 and 40. If a man eat healthy, works out, and doesn’t have hair loss, he can still look good and be attractive past his 40s.
You are right about eating healthy food and working out but you all need to stop obsessing over hair loss, it's not that big of a deal. Men like Dwayne Johnson and Jason Statam are considered to be absolute chads. A woman with small tits can still be super attractive, same goes for bald men.
The entire video refers to ONLINE dating and in reality, only to clicking but not to who really ends up with who. You should point that out more clearly. It's not what most people are interested in life. They don't wanna hook up with someone new all the time. They want to find a person they can see regularly, so it's more about how to be attractive for 3rd and 4th date. Stats will change massively. There's also data for this.
But as previously said, online dating IS reality. It's the reality now. Most couples start off online. And their online habits affect their irl habits as well. And they don't have to want to hook up with someone new all the time. Wanting to hook up with someone new every once in a while is enough to ruin any relationship, which is why it's much more difficult to have a healthy relationship lately. Relationship quality tanked with the advent of online dating. Who really ends up with who is also affected by online dating, because women end up with some dude that doesn't come even close to her online dating induced fantasies, and she'll never be happy with that guy, dooming the relationship in the short to mid term.
@@mrkiky still, the relative importance of the traits shown in the video are different outside of online dating. If I pay for a prostitute, I'll also look less for a high IQ compared to looks.
Lori Gottlieb is the best-selling author of "Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough." There's a study in the book where men and women are asked, "If you got 80 percent of everything you wanted of your ideal traits in a mate or partner would you be happy?" The majority of women said, "No, that's settling," and the majority of men said, "Eighty percent? I'd be thrilled; that's a catch. Men and women were asked, if they had any deal-breakers for going on a second date, what would those be? And men named three. If she's cute enough ... warm and kind ... and interesting enough to talk to, she gets a second date. Women named 300 things that would rule out a guy for a second date and we are talking about like another two hours and may be a free dinner and they wouldn't do it and there were things like "he wore a brown belt with black shoes or we were having a really good time and i thought he was cute and he was interesting but then he did this Austin Powers impression and i just can't get that out of my mind and i can't go out with him again." This was in 2010 when dating apps and social media weren't big.
I generally agree with the divorce graph, however one thing to keep in mind is that because of current divorce laws women are often net takers in a divorce, which makes divorce a somewhat more palatable option for them. Women get primary custody of children far more often, get spousal and child support far more often, typically contribute less to marital wealth and thus get cash they didn't work for, and more often get to remain in the marital home. Because of this, the downside risk for a woman in a divorce is far less.
This is why usually men are the one who ask women to marry them. If hookup culture has high risks for women, bc they might end up getting pregnant and 100% responsible for being the caregiver and the breadwinner for that family; divorce culture present a higher risk for men, since a lot of the families still see the man as the breadwinner and the woman as the caregiver exclusively. However, the risk is always higher for women when there's children involved: if the woman used to have a job and has a kid, there's a high chance she'll live her job at least in the first 2-5 years of the kid, if not forever, which creates a huge experience gap in a woman's career and makes her financially dependent to men, or, at least, it becomes more difficult for her to get a job. I think it's only fair that if men can call their's a child to who they contributed 1% into growing, women can call their's their husband's belongings as well.
@mujtabaalam5907 Agreed. I can't find any other reason that explains this other than women are generally more emotional and thus more likely to initiate divorce. If anything, same-sex females should have even higher chances of divorce.
Dating an attorney / lawyer was the most stupidest thing I ever did. Never date anybody who wants to be right all the time, has the mental arsenal to win every argument, and - in the end - can even use their job against you professionally. I'd like to hear from women who find lawyers attractive why they do. (In my case, the lawyer was the woman, so maybe male lawyers are different.)
Maybe I'm just being vulgar, but some people will just think the other person as a wallet so it doesn't matter what spew out of their mouth as long as the money flows.
The status of telling her girlfriends how her man is the big, big lawyer guy. The status of him always being well-dressed and of course the perceived high salary. Other to that job: doctor (healer), firefighter (real man), police man (good guy + fit + uniform) and pilot (traveller) are the archetypical jobs women love to see. Not to forget CEO of something (commanding people while earning a looooot).
Just to drive home the point; law is a career that attracts Psychopaths and narcisists. As does politics. (No surprises there). So the chances of getting a really troubling person are higher.
I was astonished that the most attractice occupation to women was lawyer! I never would have guessed. What we didn't see on the chart was that the most attractive occupations to women seem to be: - Royalty. (Which a man can't change) - Acting - Music, particularly singing. - Sport Just so long as THEY ARE VERY SUCCESSFUL IN THE OCCUPATION. LIKE "RICH". I don't think struggling actors or musicians, even if exceptionally good, get much attention.
@@stephenhosking7384 That's not correct. Depending on your age, you can absolutely struggle and women will be greatly interested. They don't care too much for the money if you're "rich" like you believe. It's about the perceived status. Top jobs are: doctor, firefighter, pilot. Those are the maximum prestige jobs, but they are relatively rare. A not-so-rare "job" is CEO or business founder. Let's say you're 35, you get to know a women your age and she asks what you do for a living. Telling her you just founded a company 3 months ago, you work very much and hard and it's just you working as UX/UI designer for example, designing internet pages and you don't have any employees. Do it. Will change your perception 180 degrees. She will basically jump at you. Just being rich inheritance won't help you at all with the average minded woman out there. On the very contrary. They will ENVY you. You didn't deserve to be rich. Therefore you are a crook! Or tell her you are a trader and multimillionaire already, because of Crypto. This is so massively unattractive to women, you could show up with a Porsche and they still will resent you, because they think of you as a speculator veeeeery badly Better tell her you're an addicted drug dealer then tell her you're a successful trader. Trust me.
Stopped watching this video after 90 seconds because the comments are WAY better. My advice...learn to love yourself FIRST, and remember that when you have a mate, you need your friends MORE, not less.
The chart #4 at 6:40 is actually devastating. If you're working in labor or services, you're actually less attractive than not working at all. Makes you realize why no one wants to work these jobs today. They're less than not appreciated; they're a negative effect on your status as a man.
The chart about profession is definitely spot on. When I joined the military I had a girl I was friends with comment about my uniform. She said, "that poor uniform..." I asked her what she meant, and she replied, "Its going to be all over the floor when I am done with you." That was definitely a confidence boost I wasn't expecting that day. 😆 Service, hospitality, and labor being so low is kind of unfortunate though. Those people are the backbone of society. People thank me for my service all the time, but its these people who have my thanks. And I truly mean that, as I've gotten older, and my previous career has taken its toll, these people have been a Godsend.
@@NelsonGuedes If you are good for society then you are an outlier and people hate outliers, they hate their betters. Society is a giant bucket of crabs.
Even profession is subjective. Since I don't make any distinction between a soldier and a serial killer, I would never get involved with a military man no matter how jacked they are. I don't support war pigs in politics or dating. Values trumps appearance.
It is important to consider that this is taking general preferences; alternative romantic-sexual preferences, including alternative preferences in heterosexual contexts, do exist. For example with chart 7, while in general there's a heteronormative preference for men to be relatively taller to women, that won't universally be the case. As an average height straight guy, I would be fine with being with a taller woman, and actually prefer that more than a woman who is 5" shorter than me or more. A 6'3" woman to me would be more attractive than a 5'3" woman IMO. One thing I would like elaboration on as well is the "facial attractiveness" of chart 3: what objective qualifiers are used to determine attractiveness? My initial reaction is that the top 91-100%, 81-90%, and 71-80% decile examples are less attractive then all the other faces since those top 3 decile example portraits all seem to have really blocky, angular, almost caricature-ish face shapes whereas the others look natural and actually like... human I guess. Even if a given face comes off potentially less masculine like the 31-40% face, it looks normal, and thereby better than the examples given for the top 30%. Even the 0%-10% example IMO looks better; the guy has normal teeth, a decent beard, and a good smile, and the receding hair for many wouldn't be a deal-breaker (tbf, for many it would, but that's whatever). I would anticipate like, 0%-10% to have facial deformities, scars, asymmetries, underbite or overbite, lazy eye, or other things people tend to have superficial prejudice against in terms of appearance. Better quantified information here would be much better.
My wife was loveliest in her 20s and hottest in her 40s. In our sixties we laugh a lot together, Find a love in your 20s- make it work. You may have to travel. Toys and "freedoms" are dust.
While these statistics may be correct, as a woman, I recognise myself as an outlier. I'm deeply suspicious of overly attractive men, and a bit the same about high-earning men. I know I'm not alone in this. Equally, lots of women (me included) don't care at all about a man's height. We all need to remember that finding suitable partners is the search for one person (or a few people over a lifetime) who are a good fit. If you look at the people who actually get married or into exclusive/long term relationships, there are a lot of ugly poor people making each other pretty happy.
And then there’s the outliers. I’m 47 and in the best shape of my life. Happily married for 13 years and getting told I’m aging like fine wine. I get more attention than I ever did in my thirties
Women also have a "what does he have that's so good?" mentality. Also when a guy is in a relationship women see it as a pre - screened guy as woman tend to trust each others approval.
The chart about females vs males max attractiveness is a good base, but still not showing the full truth. If men were completely free to choose without any legal and societal restrictions, they would choose even younger females partners as other, older data has shown. Still, great video again and keep up the awesome work!
I used to work with a guy who was great looking, had great hair, also a serial cheater, pregnant wife, smart as a brick, affair w/a co-worker, professionally unsuccessful (and eventually failed out of the business). Women would throw themselves at him, and even discuss what their babies would look like. I had him beat in every category but looks, and I was single and not a cheater/player. Although I could certainly get dates, the women didn't throw themselves at me like they did at this guy.
He was a serial cheat BECAUSE women threw themselves at him. IMO most men are not cheaters because of lack of access, not because they have better self control. Few have the willpower it takes to deny endless attractive females wanting a one night stand.
Its probably why its the only time of my life i got approached by à 23 yo girl and another 18 yo girl. It was never because i was actually attractive. I just "peaked". This is one of the funniest yet saddest things ever 😂😂😂. Im 33 now and im back to "normal" 😂😂😂...
Curious, what’s your height, fitness, rough attractiveness, lifestyle, and income (roughly). Not doubting you do well. More so that you may be an exception. Ex. I don’t doubt the 38 yr old, handsome fit, 6ft director of Marketing making $200k will thrive into his 30s.
Don't listen to these comments dude; I lost my virginity sometime around 24 wishing so bad I had lost it in high school. Honestly, I wish I didn't even lose it that early. I'm married now to a different woman and have kids. But, being successful before finding a woman is such a win. You'll be rich by 35 if not sooner, you'll be dating girls in their early 20s which means you could definitely be their first (or, at least you could have the same number of partners if you lose yours before then). But even better: you can vacation whenever you want, not struggling financially. Fuck these people here; you should just peacock, take a hot 21 year old to a nice beach and enjoy yourself Then, when you finally decide to have kids, find a young one and pump her full of 10 children.
Dudes complain about not having looks, but trust me when I say not having money is wayyy worse, especially when you have good looks, its one of the most depressing things. 99% of my first dates end with hooking up, and all of them want to continue seeing me, but then they realize I'm too damn broke to even afford going on dates, and eventually they lose interest, despite them finding me attractive. Guys! Get Your Money Up!!! Get rich before you hit your 30s! Cause nothing is more unattractive then a broke 30 year old
Except an unnattractive 30 year old. You have zero logic for saying it's way worse to not have money. Unnattractive men wouldn't even get to hook up (beyond an overweight heffer) even if having a good job, so how on earth is that better? Being dumb doesn't seem to be much of a hindrance to hooking up in your case, but perhaps it is to making money.
Got divorced when i was 38 and thrown into digital dating pool. Had a lack of self confidence because i thought i was too old to be attractive. But i worked out regularly, also fortunate to be tall, and got many match requests.....many initiated from the woman side. I set my preferences for women between 3 -10 years younger than me. I got many coffee meetup requests, and had good number of date options any given week. i even had to keep a reference chart to keep track of each name, kids info, jobs, background etc etc before i would go out on dates with them to keep my conversations on point and not mix up her details. I was fortunate, and i can say i had way more attention from women in my early 40's than i ever did in my 20's. Was great....until i met the one i was ready to settle down with in my late 40's. Very happy, both now....and then.
you live in a big city....? I live in a very rural area & out here, there's almost no dating at all...Dating apps don't work out here....not enough women......& the guy better have a college degree, make big bucks & look great...I own 2 properties & to them, that means nothing...I'm only a 7...
To judge what women want they took data from dating sites. However, a certain type of woman would never consider using a dating site. So the statistics are possibly skewed. For example, lots of conservative or religious women don't do dating sites and would look for a possible marriage partner at church or maybe work. So those women might have different priorities such as sincerity. Women in the hookup culture go on dating sites a lot and so naturally they aren't as concerned about "sincerity".
I was thinking the same thing. He did preface that with the first chart, though (it's not that most men are too ugly to date, it's that most men are too ugly to hook up with)
nope. you are wrong. they are the same. conservative and religious women are not made of fairy dust. they all have the same apish biological imperative
Yet the apps ChristianDating and FarmersOnly are very much a thing. Probably because they're also marrying and divorcing younger, and so need to expand their pool outside the gossip bubble of their local church and small town.
Women spend hours painting their faces, picking out clothing and color coordinating things, getting their hair done, picking out perfumes. If men did the same in hopes of attracting a woman, the ratings for men may be way higher.
You say at 4:21, “Physical attractiveness is just as important to women as it is for men; women just don’t admit it.” No, it’s not. For women, physical attractiveness is way more important than it is for men. While we, as men, are totally okay with dating average-looking women, women are only really interested in men who are in the top 10% of attractiveness. That’s a huge difference. The data also clearly shows that they think most of us are ugly as hell.
Women are ok with dating average looking men, just not having casual sex with them. All the data I've seen shows it's basically even in terms of valuing looks. On average of course.
@@quitgoogle2534 nah, a lot of people just date casually these days with no intention of marriage, letting the relationships fizzle out and moving on to the next casual date. imo that defeats the purpose of dating but it is what it is
I slept with 100+ women till 27. I am bellow average looks but i am 6'5 and i enyoj talking to them, you should lower the preatty ones and pedestal the ugly ones and they will like you. And never spend money on them, rule no.1.
Im legit a 26 year old virgin and have never had dating options. Ironically according to this video, i should be having the most amount of options currently but i dont have any at all. Kinda crazy
@@LoveMadeLogical that's a good question! I know as a teenager I was shy so I think that was the main reason. However once I turned 20, I was no longer shy but I kept getting rejected. I think alot of it is that I'm never in a conducive environment for dating. For example, I'm in med school with 30 students with women who already have bfs. They aren't open to set up guys either. So I'm just not in a great position currently
it's obvious, but try to gym-max, face-routine-max, socialize more (not necessarily with women, just to increase the social circle), pursue some goals outside of a job
I am 28 now and let me say. Just be healthy and find women you can befriend. Once you befriend them you will meet their friends and you won’t feel lonely as well. You need to find activities that women enjoy too. Dancing is good, but I personally don’t like it enough, so it’s learning languages for me
The problem is simply that women find men unattractive on principle. This is a very smart strategy. Because they put themselves in a position of power and choice. By finding all man unattractive you can let them work for your affection. So if only he "changes" and "does something special" will he start to become attractive. And of course this changing and doing special things never is really enough. There is always more changing and doing special things to be done...
@@theBear89451 On the contrary. The "smartness" is not consious, but evolutionary. And your words confirm that. It is in the reproductive and thus evolutionary interest of women, and their children to create optimal circumstances for their growth and development. An important part of these circumstances is the ability to manipulate men into doing the things that women deem important and necessary for their children (provide money, food, clothes, safety, etc.). The combination of the eternal promisse of sex combined with the eternal pronunciation of rejection are precisely the tools in the womans arsenal to enable this manipulation.
You're sorta right. Women do act that way, EXCEPT when a man flips the script. When a man acts like he's not interested and he's too good for a girl, he instantly becomes more attractive.
@@UserNameAnonymous If we put attractiveness on a scale of 1-10, that strategy can give you maybe like +1 point or something. People love to pretend that guys with game can get any woman, but either that was never true, or it's not true for young adults nowadays.
@lightworker2956 it's as true as it has ever been. If it's not working for you, that means you haven't figured out your style yet. It means you don't really believe it. And it won't let a guy who is a 2 land a girl who is a 9, but a 4 guy can get a 7 girl. I've seen it over and over again. I've seen a fat, ugly guy get cute girlfriends repeatedly.
It's partly money, but it's also partly looks. A dead broke but gorgeous man can get laid whenever he wants. Granted, women might not want a serious relationship with him, but still.
This is ALMOST accurate. In the real world, it just keeps getting better and better for guys over 35 who want LTRs, if you have your act together. The reason is because the guys who are in shape, make good money, etc. and want LTRs are all married off before 40. So for a woman 30+ or 35+ who wants to date or get married, almost all the guys she will meet or see on dating apps are unsuitable guys (fat, poor, etc.). Women's preference will also start to shift significantly away from looks toward provisioning and husband/father traits over 30. So the kind of women you can pull over 30/35 for LTRs keeps improving if you are a suitable guy as you age. The problem with Tinder data is it's all centered on hookups, so of course it's looks and status.
A dude over 35 in shape and with money will be going for a 22 year old. He has no reason to settle for "leftover women" with no time left on the clock.
@@AutisticMorty No, 22 years want guys at most 5 years older than them, for either hookups or LTRs, it’s one of the things he talked about in the video. Also, most girls this age and in their 20s want hookups, if you want an LTR, most likely she will be late 20s minimum. What I’m saying is that you can more as an older guy than the same guy can get in his 20s.
@@alexmuenster2102 He wouldn’t. And I’m not talking about a top tier guy. A top tier guy can always get women in their 20s. But if you want an LTR, you’d have to hit the jackpot to find an attractive woman who isn’t planning on wasting her 20s.
@@JGComments That's what the data says that I have seen regarding age differences in couples and marriage. The only exception is in impoverished counties where there is a bigger age gap but in the west, it's on average 2-4 year age gaps.
Sincerity has always been something women shun. The worst thing you can tell a woman is the truth. Always tell her what she wants to hear and she will love you forever.
someone who tells me what i want to hear is a liar i cannot trust. true, i wasnt like the girls i grew up with. i never wear makeup for instance. If the outfit makes me look fat, id rather shrug, get changed and feel good ya know? vrs wearing something where everyone is secretly judging me
Women do not know they like you until they see you having fun. It has worked for over 4 decades for me. Do not waste time and money on the apps for a relationship. Most of those women have already done a bit too much.
Whoa, nice twist with the overlaid IQ graph! And the brain damaged analogy! *chef's kiss* You just earned a subscription, buddy. Well done. Creative, engaging and insightful. Everything I like in a UA-cam channel.
If anything older is better there, young prime women prefer foreigners in their early 30s over early 20s there, as what they tend to seek is a financilly well off husband, and not unstable relationships with young playboys.
Those women are often skilled at playing men like a fiddle. Western men who aren't good with women fall for every trick in their arsenal and often end up in a disaster. They'll fall in love with the first woman they fuck and then it's game on.
@@UsefullThing312I call this the white delusion. The reality is the women despise you and are only using you as a walking atm. They often have a local guy on the side, much younger.
And then if you bring them back to any western country, they gonna use the local law to ruin your financial and your saving if you are not careful. This is why those women prefer western men over Korean or Taiwanese men. SK and Taiwan law wont let those women do that to their husbands.
The amount of rejection I had as a young man destroyed my self confidence forever. Even in the rare occasion a woman flirts with me, I look at trying to "pick them up" as guaranteed rejection. Hopefully with all these UA-cam videos young men will be able to figure out what women want and have better luck. The future depends on it.
Nothing wrong with learning pickup and fucking a lot of chicks. It does wonders for your self-confidence no matter how shabbily you were treated when younger. Once you learn not to care about women's reactions to you because you know you can just get another one, that changes *everything* . Good luck brother, it can be done, YOU can do it!
Congratulations! This video was suggested to me I guess because my 29 year old son was at my home for a short period of time... very interesting study, though.
If we reduce ourselves to an online commodity via dating apps than, of course, one is reduced to mere superficialities - looks and status. Go outside and meet people IRL. For men, in particular, it turns all the purported "data" on its head. I have two buddies who were absolute legends among women when they were single - both were balding and overweight. One was a barely 5 feet tall. Why? They had an abundance of charm, charisma, and confidence and, no, neither were rich.
Nah, they peak at ~22-25. Once they got their education sorted and are functional adults. Nobody wants to actual date / marry a 18-19 Yo.. they are literally teenagers.
@@L4verdz I 100% agree with you. I don't want to be mean but guys who said that women peak at 19 are probably never been with a women. I have dated different women from different age and from my experience the women 18 to 20 years old are just child in an adult body. Now they are expections like always but most young women are just immature, you can't build a relationship let alone a family with the vast majority of them I mean some of them can't even do basic cooking or drive a car i have seen this first hand 😂😂
Not at all surprising. But I've seen many other large studies which totally substantiate all my observations: height is king in women's eyes. And it's not really important in men's eyes. And I believe a good argument can be made that women are _more_ concerned with physical attractiveness. Perhaps men just know, consciously or subconsciously, it's no use to pursue the best-looking women. It (seggs) will never happen. But we cannot say the opposite. By the way, 'irregardless' is not a word.
As a guy who is tall and ugly, I can honestly say that height is definitely NOT king. I would say that height does matter but I've never been able to compete with shorter guys with prettier faces than I have.
Hi, PhD in Soc Psych here - just don’t think too much about potential implications of this video for you: Both the „studies“ and their interpretation are cringeworthy and misleading 😂 This is complete YT bs-science at its worst 🎉
@@ShortFuseFun No, he/she makes a valid point. The data come only from 2 studies while there are hundreds of similar ones all with slightly different conclusions. Some (obvious) principles are consistent (e.g. younger, richer, and/or better-looking people being more attractive on average), but nobody ever found a nuanced generalisable "formula of attractiveness". The comment above is trying to point out that while the data shown are true for a large population, they are being over interpreted when applied to the single individuals since they are simplified models that have some value only in a statistical sense
Came here to say a similar thing. This video from a scientific standpoint is downright negligent. Only cited 2 studies - and didn't even link the original studies. Further, WTH is happening at 2:10 ?? He says "although data was never posted, we can make a chart inferring on what he said". WTF is that?? You cant just make a visualization based on what someone said is a general trend. Absurd. When presenting the speed-dating study he only presented R coefficients - this is a measure of variance. It tells us very little about actual trend and direction, and the strength of that direction, only how close the data is to the line of best fit
Not really. The 50% of women that will gladly trade in a partner for something better is still the same today as yesterday. Only now those types of women are all competing for the top 10% of men. Who rotate them out like a carrousel. The Bros are coming to the rescue and saving many men from these predators.
actually you do... probably from ugly women Or unattractive women who has lower status than you, finds you attractive. The problem here is that you don't notice cuz (We) as average men, we ignore them and complaining that we can't find the "Pretty ones"
Okay wait soooo what I'm getting is that baby faced women would have the longest lasting desirability?? ex: I always get mistaken as a high schooler even tho I'm mid 20s which means mid 30s I'd be around my prime??🤔
@@RikusLategan yes that is true! Thanks for that perspective! I'm talking about solely looks here. Maturity in the partners' personality would require a whole other video haha
U missed one: which is the worst household for children: single mother, two-parent household, single father? Single mother. It’s not even close. The BEST for children, by a hair, is single father.
@@RisingSun0904 yes. Must be like gay marriage. Which are the most stable marriages: two men, man/woman or two women? Check it: gay male marriages are the most stable. It’s not even close. They are twice as stable as lesbian marriages.
@@BurningSmith I always thought the same. One thing to keep in mind: this is not a random sample. Men who are able to persevere against the deep biases against fatherhood to become primary caregivers are likely a special bunch.
I think it's partly because, when women were forced to get married early and have children, women with low attraction to men were not natural selected out.
Well done! This is along the same vein as hoemath's statistics and peeking behind the psychological curtains to see what's really going on. Math doesn't lie. Stats don't lie. Either "these people" are dishonest, or they don't have any idea what they really want. Maybe a little bit of both, it's not exactly a hot take to say they don't know what's good for them.
From a pool of Divorce Attorney's who exclusively act on behalf of women: Women initiate divorce frequently as an Ultimatum - not on the basis that they expect divorce. This play of course may backfire when the man accepts. If the woman is testing the man (as they do without regard for consequence or with insight frequently) his acceptance of her divorce proposal would be seen as a betrayal and source of anger and resentment I expect.
So... you're saying those women are pretty fucking stupid then. That's the only logical conclusion. Threatening divorce as a manipulation tactic without considering ACTUAL divorce as a consequence.... that's extremely stupid behavior. Those women get exactly what they deserve: divorce.
But men will settle. An average man foolishly looks in the mirror and says, gee I deserve an average woman. Not knowing that average women find him absolutely repulsive.
These statistics show how the western societies have changed by feminism. I'm a 55 years old and 30 years ago things were very different. It was alot easier for a young man to find a date. I kinda feel sorry for young men today.
I'm 50 year old had many relations during my life. I've been single for the past 4 years and never been happier. No Fuking drama, no negotiation, no spending on stupid shit, I do what I want, when I want, with who I want. Could have hock up with a "cute" girl 20 years younger than me few months ago and I turn her down. Nail polish, make-up, high heels and I low IQ is a big turn off.
For me some nicely done French tips, classy make-up and medium length heels is A+. She doesn't have to be Einstein either but smart enough to hold a conversation properly.
no offense, but im 42 and theres no way i could date someone that much older than me. Women who do that have such big daddy issues and the men who are attracted to them want the dominance, control n power imo from what i have seen Evidence? she is 30 years old and you called her a girl ffs which tells me so much about this dynamic
My cope is summed up best by a quote:
“Chase butterflies and you’ll never catch them. Build a garden and then they’ll come. Even if they don’t, you’ll have your garden”
Loving it.
People don't want to be with somebody who. needs someone else to complete themselves or their life. Build a great life, and someone will want to be a part of it with you.
This is the spirit! Love this! Thank you for sharing!
Now that I'm in my 30s and (thank god) don't have to date anymore, this is the best dating advice I've ever heard
You don't even need to cope, just get off the dating apps and cold approach multiple women (kind of like what you're describing). If they show disinterest, move on immediately. Save yourself the time and energy and her the creep factor. Also, it depends on how much you vibe with a chick (sometimes ones you know)
Most dudes who are mediocre, know it. Tons of mediocre women think they're hot.
This comment initiated a brain-spasm for me, arriving at a strong explanation for this:
1. Men's sexual urges peak much earlier than women's do (this is well-known among sexologists).
2. The perception of our own attractiveness is largely determined by the amount of undesired romantic attention we get, not the desired romantic attention.
3. People's understanding of the world around them revolves most strongly around lessons learned early.
4. The sexdrive asymmetry causes young women to fend off oversexed young men, during their late formative years, which then turns into a persistent overestimation, even when they themselves are the ones being turned down later on.
This logically sums up why mediocrely attractive women overestimate their attractiveness: It's mostly a timing issue, though there's also the fad of women telling young girls that they're beautiful - which is quite harmful if you think about it; not only instilling false expectations but also a shallow sense of self-worth.
BS. Everyone suffers from self-doubt and a lot of people are compensating. Most dudes who COULD be kind of attractive don't want to put in the effort. Having a crappy personality makes you unnatractive to women as well. I'd say given your attitude towards women, most women find you unattractive.
@@AGHathaway women find 95% of men UNattractive....
@@AGHathaway Actually, my attitude towards women is just fine, I'm happily married and you're projecting your political bias - which I don't have. I mentioned it's a timing issue, not a "women are stoopid issue" or whatever your polarized mind turned it into.
I think a lot of dudes are telling girls they're hot, there's no girls telling an average dude he's hot lol Just the way it is, their horniness sets them up for delusions. Who knows if it's even a net positive though, the confidence itself is a good trait to have, but when it's too much it's definitely unattractive and comes off as crazy.
Step 1: be attractive
Step 2: don't be unattractive
Step 3: Be a lawyer.
Step 4: Be young.
By "attractive" women mean "rich"
@@jackdaniel4875 That's literally impossible.
I found this very interesting. Especially re the attractiveness characteristics.
I'm surprised there isn't more difference between the INITIAL high correlation toward finding youth and classic things like a given face highly attractive -- and what happens after some time when one comes to KNOW someone re their attitudes, beliefs, intelligence, sense of humor, etc.
I'm 65. And yeah, it's genetic to initially find beautiful 20ish year old women highly attractive. But since I was working at age 22, after attending college around LOTS of silly and immature women, I found LOTS of women who were 30 to 35 and in shape and reasonably attractive but not "beautiful" FAR more attractive than the vast majority of the early 20's immature women/girls, especially once I got to know them a bit.
I'm also surprised this attraction to more mature but still attractive women didn't show up more for men, but maybe I'm even weirder than I assumed I was...
"Frank was awkward, and a little too pushy. Greg was handsome."
I think what some fail to realize is that while growing up, girls get dating advice (what we should want in a man, and what a man expects us to be) from that larger group of women that only chase that top small group of men, and that screws up our perception of what our goals should be.
Crap from women’s magazines, Disney Princess fantasies, rom coms… only to realize Prince Charming is nowhere to be found.
When I took dating more seriously, loosened my expectations, and asked men what they actually want… they were much easier to please than I thought and some of the best bachelors were hidden gems you wouldn’t consider at first. I realized I was brainwashed.
Women blame pornography for men’s supposed preferences, but truly, men won’t reject your company if you’re good company 😅
it's the personality that makes people stay right?
Truth
Porn has nothing to do with anything real. We only interact with porn cause our urges get really bad, like when really hungry for food. The urge is constant and what you gonna do, you can’t focus on work if you don’t relieve it, your mind is clouded by it. It’s got nothing to do with reality and people we want to connect to..
@@RisingSun0904Yep
Being a decent person, it’s literally as simple as that
You said exactly what my cousin has told me and other women. She married her 1st love and been married 24 years now for a reason.
Men are simple. Simply show interest and they’re yours
I'm 75 and I still haven't peaked
Maybe it was too low to have one anyway
Its funny when you are a 2/10 you were never worth anything
Bravo!
I'm 50+ and still a virgin.
@@rswow Dude, just pay for it.
I love how sincerety is so unimportant to women it's probably a turn-off
Yeah it was so small, but its the first they bitch about, they are such hypocrites
Women want to be lied to. Tell them that they are beautiful even if they are not.
@@Novusod What I have always found weird in women's friendships is that they will lie to each other all the time. I never understood it. Like "no, youre so pretty!" to their friend Gorlox the destroyer type person. My friends literally point out to me ive gained weight and im just like "ah sh*t, true" and I go back to the gym.
They love Chads.
@@jeepeedurocher😂 gorlox the destroyer
All my life I was told to focus on my education and become successful in life. Now I've got a shit ton of money but no women. Couldn't be happier.
Treat life as a game and spend time with women, for gathering moments.. not for future expectations.. you will definitely enjoy it.. I, once went to a movie with a girl, 3 years above my age on a bike.. which I thought was impossible in my life.. one more thing to say, girls also have a dirty mind. They just don't share it with anyone.. if you are able to open it.. you may get what you need... 👉👌
Just buy them
🎯 winning formula
Happy at not getting any action?!
@@irgendeinname9256Essentially marriage. You get what you pay for. I'd stay with leasing though....😅😅😅
A rancorous divorce definitely stopped my desire for relationship seeking. One of my attractive female colleagues said to me that if I keep dressing the way I do, that I would never find another girl. I commented back, "Thank God, my plan is working."
If a man made that comment about the dressing to a woman in the US, he would be reported to HR.
I'm curious, how do you dress? Real question.
@@flynnk70 Probably sporty and in clothes from the supermarket that don't match. ;)
Why marry in the first place?
@@flynnk70 Real answer. Like an absolute slob.
There are a couple of other things to mention. My colleague wasn't trying to be snarky. We've known each other for years. Additionally, she is quite the stylish dresser and the few times I saw her husband, he is kept stylish - not sure if that is his practice or hers. She has seen me when I have been dressed up and knows that I look nice.
Baggy pants or shorts. Old t-shirts with logos. Beat up tennis shoes. Perhaps ultra-ultra-comfy sliding into slobbishness.
as a 27 year old virgin. Out of all my 6 best buddies I grew up with, they are all also absolute virgins +- 2 years my age.
Everyone with their own place to rent, stable job and at least 4 of us are not obese lol.
I can tell what lead to this tho.
-None of us ever gained any visible muscle at all and I wouldnt exactly recommend modeling to anyone either.
-Most of us work in tech, went to school in tech, studied in tech, so > or < 0 female friends or contacts built over the years.
-We never went to drinking parties either.
-We gamed a lot, so even less time spent in public.
I think if I had to actually try avoiding women any harder, I wouldnt know what more I could do heh.
I think clueless type of guys like us only avoided extinction historically because we got carried by arranged marriage honestly.
Yes, which was smarter than today. Dating is a scam and people fell for i. You need to spend a bunch of time and resources for it while time ago it was easy since you got someone anyway and back than all women where nice and beautiful
You would have been the ideal husbands, unless woman wanted a fun partnernimstead of a reliable husband
If you know your problems why don't you change them
@@danicruz226cause they aren't problems. It's the path for success, while playing around leads to pregnancies when you aren't even capable of providing. What is he supposed to change? The dating market of the west itself is the only reason for the population collapse. This is why arranged marriages used to exist.
@@danicruz226 Have you ever heard people say "I'm going to start going to the gym this year, and lose some weight as my New Year's resolution!"?
That's basically the reason. Establishing the habit of doing things with other people requires time, effort, and satisfying pre-requisites.
It's not a switch you turn on, it's a full-blown lifestyle change. And people like me tend to be both reactive to the environment, as well as having a history where our ability to initiate and follow through on plans has been paralyzed by training.
for example, it's easy to know that I should "reach out to people" or "join a club", but then I walk outside, and look around, and think "Well this is boring, what am I even doing here", and then turn around, walk back inside, do a search, click through the top few website results, fail to find something that looks good, and then get distracted by a youtube video, or a tutorial, or a book, or some video games, or netflix, or professional development, or a remote job, etc...
And then there's the issue that meeting people requires you to know people, or be introduced, or know where to find people on a regular basis in a way where you can be friends. the longer you've been away from that, the more difficult it becomes to get plugged back in. You just loop the same day, over and over, as the years pass by.
The attractiveness/age correlation statistics hide a phenomena: the MOST attractive men do peak at 37, but the vast majority of men tank in their 30s, putting on a beer belly and losing muscle, which drives the average curve down.
also attractiveness means better dressed, better shape than in 20s
most guys here have receding hairline and look tired by late20s early30s , i think 20 to 30 its real physical prime after you start aging slowly
@@rafaelamorim3527every men can age like fine wine. But most mens have shitty routines, habits and dont know how to take care for him self. If they would prioritize sleep, food, working out, skincare and mental health and stop doing their bad habits, it would easily double most men’s attractiveness
Hair loss too. Even for attractive men they still look best in their 20's
@@ardianha5346Nah, you can't look better as you age. You can only maintain your looks, soften the decline
I'm in my 50s now, and looking back I can say that I got WAY more attention from women of all ages in the decade 35-45 than at any other stage of life.
Absolutely, 35-45 is truly men's prime. The fallacy with the study is that it doesn't take into account that women in their late 20s and early 30s become exponentially more desperate to find a partner while still looking for men older than themselves which results in dating becoming much easier for men between 35-45.
that's probably because you were in a better place.
@@nitroneonicmanit also doesn't take into account that preferences need to be put into context. If a study shows that all other things being equal, mn who use pens are more attractive than pencils... That doesn't say anything about how important it is... Same with height, ya most mn want somebody like 5 inches shorter but most really don't care that much that it matters
@@nitroneonicmanso the reality is that for wmn age, looks, and chastity/baggage are literally what matter. Age especially because of fertility. Their smv is given to them and naturally declines or they ruin it with bad behavior. For mn age matters very little and it's just about working to increase smv. If you're a CEO billionaire who is confident, experienced, wise, and stylish at 22 great but even that guy will probably be better at 32
In my dating life I learned only one thing, white guy asian female works just fine. Don't even try to speak to a Western woman of any age!
Interesting fact - when women judge the attractiveness of strangers - the dustribution is very skewed (only 15% are judged as better than average) but when they judge men they know from their social circle the distribution becomes normal. So if you're not in that top 15% of attractiveness you're much better off looking for love in your peer group.
That's actually saves us from being with someone we don't know much about.
Sucks to be women.
That tracks with the charts he showed though right? A random person is more likely to be a hookup whereas someone in your social circle is more likely to be something long-term.
remember though, not every fits the median or is relevant to 2 unique people. We've all had the hots for someone we can't explain why, and it's not the type you'd typically be interested in.
Interesting. Likely related to the risk thing.
That's probably just because they don't want to be rude towards them, kinda like how they tell their girlfriend Gorlox the Destroyer that she's beautiful, perfect and that she don't need to change in any way. It's just them avoiding conflict.
I am 27 and invisible to women. They ignore me completely. If this is what peaking is for me, then I am cooked
train your chest, work on your posture and gait
Mew, and unlock that inner Rizz lord of the sigma.
go to thailand and buy a women. Earn some money first... otherwise shes gone fast. hf
You should consider law school.
Go to the gym, get a Nice hair cut and start going to the club, youre gonna make it
dude when im at peak at 25 and still invisible its over 💀
If it happened to me at 30, it will happen to you. Im not attractive yet i got some attention weirdly
the reason they peak at that age is cuz they already had prior experience ffs lol dont think there'll be some blessing from the heavens that turns you into the rizzler at your 25th birthday
It is the average, does not reflect your specific case and a big bunch of men are as attractive (or unattractive) as you at this age. The most important thing inst age at all, but how you look at this age; I guess men at this age just happen to be more physically fit and corrected skin issues they may have had in the pas
Excel in non-physical attractive characteristics then
@@DewiSant-o3y I mean if you aren't physically active people won't be attracted to you. Either find an easy high pay low hour job that allows you to dedicate 20 hours in the gym every week, or work a 50 hour a week job with low pay that keeps you in killer shape.
I chose to be poor af and stay in shape. I miss money but the brainpower that comes with muscles is worth it on a karmic transcendental level.
Still would rather be able to afford to live lmaooo. thats why im voting kamal
Asking women what they want is always a losing strategy
Finally someone with some common sense. I'll give everyone here a little secret: women are attracted to men who are busy with their own lives and could take them or leave them. Nothing is more unattractive to a woman than a man who's building his life around trying to attract women.
And in the modern day, they only behave well if there aren't excess resources going around. The only checks on women are when they actually need men, or socially there is shaming for restriction. Notice the west passes neither test.
Ask a woman their opinion and you'll get 100.
Ok boomer
There is some truth to this. As the study shows, What they say and what they actually do are completely different.
Your daily reminder that the goal of Dating websites is NOT to find you a partner. Their goal is to MAKE MONEY.
Dating sites actively benefit from pairing you with bad matches so that you stay and pay longer.
Eh, it is possible to have two goals at the same time, and more, but of course there can only be one at the top of the list but it's of course connected/related. You must be American, as only Americans can only see one side of the story.
This works for 1st dates only, then you meet and find out there is absolutely no chemistry. Looks will only take you so far. I speak from experience.
Ya he's wrong. Studies are clear that there's a looks threshold where that's the only thing that matters. Then it becomes about everything else and looks take a backseat
yeah, looks will only get their attention, but your overall status, personality, money situation, etc is what determines if she will keep seeing you or not.
Looks don't take u far if the girl is at your level w looks or higher. But if she's even 1 or 1.5 below (10 scale) oh boyy looks give u wings my friend 🪽 those women will even say they'll "wait for you' if you say emotionally u can't commit 🤫
@@zerocal76 any woman that thinks she is over 5 in looks thinks she looks better than any male and he needs to prove himself to her with status and a nice willing personality,bradpit gets woman far more than billgates because he is better looking,
There is difference if women want a man for their money, or she wants a man to be able to provide for her to raise a family.
Women are like snakes, they will hear what man wants in relationship and they will try to trick you by telling you what you want to hear. In that case she will be desperate to fill those expectation but not because she wants it, but because she wants to keep you committed to her. In that case she will be unhappy, and eventually she will divorce you and give up, even if you have kids together.
I think the golden age for men is between 25 and 40. If a man eat healthy, works out, and doesn’t have hair loss, he can still look good and be attractive past his 40s.
physical prime: 18-35
working prime: 18-45-49 ish.
You are right about eating healthy food and working out but you all need to stop obsessing over hair loss, it's not that big of a deal. Men like Dwayne Johnson and Jason Statam are considered to be absolute chads. A woman with small tits can still be super attractive, same goes for bald men.
But you are not responsible for hair loss though …
Well, you might also want to lose some hair in places. Approaching my 30s, this new back hair really sucks.
@@cachememorythere's a lot of idiots posting who think that it's controllable, and that one should have to go on life long drugs for it. Its a joke
The entire video refers to ONLINE dating and in reality, only to clicking but not to who really ends up with who.
You should point that out more clearly. It's not what most people are interested in life. They don't wanna hook up with someone new all the time. They want to find a person they can see regularly, so it's more about how to be attractive for 3rd and 4th date. Stats will change massively. There's also data for this.
This data has also been reviewed thousands upon thousands of times by better content creators. Not sure why this video was even made
But as previously said, online dating IS reality. It's the reality now. Most couples start off online. And their online habits affect their irl habits as well. And they don't have to want to hook up with someone new all the time. Wanting to hook up with someone new every once in a while is enough to ruin any relationship, which is why it's much more difficult to have a healthy relationship lately. Relationship quality tanked with the advent of online dating.
Who really ends up with who is also affected by online dating, because women end up with some dude that doesn't come even close to her online dating induced fantasies, and she'll never be happy with that guy, dooming the relationship in the short to mid term.
@@PepsiFuture can you share a link? Of the best one. Much appreciated
@@mrkiky still, the relative importance of the traits shown in the video are different outside of online dating. If I pay for a prostitute, I'll also look less for a high IQ compared to looks.
Lori Gottlieb is the best-selling author of "Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough."
There's a study in the book where men and women are asked, "If you got 80 percent of everything you wanted of your ideal traits in a mate or partner would you be happy?" The majority of women said, "No, that's settling," and the majority of men said, "Eighty percent? I'd be thrilled; that's a catch.
Men and women were asked, if they had any deal-breakers for going on a second date, what would those be? And men named three. If she's cute enough ... warm and kind ... and interesting enough to talk to, she gets a second date.
Women named 300 things that would rule out a guy for a second date and we are talking about like another two hours and may be a free dinner and they wouldn't do it and there were things like "he wore a brown belt with black shoes or we were having a really good time and i thought he was cute and he was interesting but then he did this Austin Powers impression and i just can't get that out of my mind and i can't go out with him again." This was in 2010 when dating apps and social media weren't big.
Thank god I'm gay.
Hahaha, love this comment. ;-)
A bisexual man once told me that he feels sorry for straight guys, having to put up with women 😂
Sounds great Norstator, but do you have a partner?
@@GrnXnhamI get your point.
Really, so you cant have a family. Nothing to be "proud" of.
I generally agree with the divorce graph, however one thing to keep in mind is that because of current divorce laws women are often net takers in a divorce, which makes divorce a somewhat more palatable option for them. Women get primary custody of children far more often, get spousal and child support far more often, typically contribute less to marital wealth and thus get cash they didn't work for, and more often get to remain in the marital home. Because of this, the downside risk for a woman in a divorce is far less.
This is why usually men are the one who ask women to marry them. If hookup culture has high risks for women, bc they might end up getting pregnant and 100% responsible for being the caregiver and the breadwinner for that family; divorce culture present a higher risk for men, since a lot of the families still see the man as the breadwinner and the woman as the caregiver exclusively. However, the risk is always higher for women when there's children involved: if the woman used to have a job and has a kid, there's a high chance she'll live her job at least in the first 2-5 years of the kid, if not forever, which creates a huge experience gap in a woman's career and makes her financially dependent to men, or, at least, it becomes more difficult for her to get a job. I think it's only fair that if men can call their's a child to who they contributed 1% into growing, women can call their's their husband's belongings as well.
If that was true, women in same sex marriages would be less likely to divorce than women in single sex marriages, but that is not the case
@mujtabaalam5907 Agreed. I can't find any other reason that explains this other than women are generally more emotional and thus more likely to initiate divorce. If anything, same-sex females should have even higher chances of divorce.
@@revenger211 it is, just like in same sex men marriages cheating is more common than other scenarios
And they do. Lesbian couples have higher incidence of divorce than straight couples.
Dating an attorney / lawyer was the most stupidest thing I ever did.
Never date anybody who wants to be right all the time, has the mental arsenal to win every argument, and - in the end - can even use their job against you professionally.
I'd like to hear from women who find lawyers attractive why they do.
(In my case, the lawyer was the woman, so maybe male lawyers are different.)
Maybe I'm just being vulgar, but some people will just think the other person as a wallet so it doesn't matter what spew out of their mouth as long as the money flows.
The status of telling her girlfriends how her man is the big, big lawyer guy. The status of him always being well-dressed and of course the perceived high salary.
Other to that job: doctor (healer), firefighter (real man), police man (good guy + fit + uniform) and pilot (traveller) are the archetypical jobs women love to see. Not to forget CEO of something (commanding people while earning a looooot).
Just to drive home the point; law is a career that attracts Psychopaths and narcisists. As does politics. (No surprises there). So the chances of getting a really troubling person are higher.
I was astonished that the most attractice occupation to women was lawyer! I never would have guessed.
What we didn't see on the chart was that the most attractive occupations to women seem to be:
- Royalty. (Which a man can't change)
- Acting
- Music, particularly singing.
- Sport
Just so long as THEY ARE VERY SUCCESSFUL IN THE OCCUPATION. LIKE "RICH". I don't think struggling actors or musicians, even if exceptionally good, get much attention.
@@stephenhosking7384 That's not correct. Depending on your age, you can absolutely struggle and women will be greatly interested. They don't care too much for the money if you're "rich" like you believe. It's about the perceived status.
Top jobs are: doctor, firefighter, pilot. Those are the maximum prestige jobs, but they are relatively rare. A not-so-rare "job" is CEO or business founder.
Let's say you're 35, you get to know a women your age and she asks what you do for a living. Telling her you just founded a company 3 months ago, you work very much and hard and it's just you working as UX/UI designer for example, designing internet pages and you don't have any employees. Do it. Will change your perception 180 degrees. She will basically jump at you.
Just being rich inheritance won't help you at all with the average minded woman out there. On the very contrary. They will ENVY you. You didn't deserve to be rich. Therefore you are a crook! Or tell her you are a trader and multimillionaire already, because of Crypto. This is so massively unattractive to women, you could show up with a Porsche and they still will resent you, because they think of you as a speculator veeeeery badly Better tell her you're an addicted drug dealer then tell her you're a successful trader. Trust me.
Stopped watching this video after 90 seconds because the comments are WAY better. My advice...learn to love yourself FIRST, and remember that when you have a mate, you need your friends MORE, not less.
The chart #4 at 6:40 is actually devastating. If you're working in labor or services, you're actually less attractive than not working at all. Makes you realize why no one wants to work these jobs today. They're less than not appreciated; they're a negative effect on your status as a man.
The chart about profession is definitely spot on. When I joined the military I had a girl I was friends with comment about my uniform. She said, "that poor uniform..." I asked her what she meant, and she replied, "Its going to be all over the floor when I am done with you." That was definitely a confidence boost I wasn't expecting that day. 😆
Service, hospitality, and labor being so low is kind of unfortunate though. Those people are the backbone of society. People thank me for my service all the time, but its these people who have my thanks. And I truly mean that, as I've gotten older, and my previous career has taken its toll, these people have been a Godsend.
In my experience, the better you are for society the worse off you are treated...
@@NelsonGuedes
If you are good for society then you are an outlier and people hate outliers, they hate their betters. Society is a giant bucket of crabs.
Even profession is subjective. Since I don't make any distinction between a soldier and a serial killer, I would never get involved with a military man no matter how jacked they are. I don't support war pigs in politics or dating. Values trumps appearance.
@@NelsonGuedesYes. Teachers are also a prime example. What could be more important than preparing the next generation to.take over?
@@RC-eb5hqmost teachers are useless or indoctrinators
It is important to consider that this is taking general preferences; alternative romantic-sexual preferences, including alternative preferences in heterosexual contexts, do exist. For example with chart 7, while in general there's a heteronormative preference for men to be relatively taller to women, that won't universally be the case. As an average height straight guy, I would be fine with being with a taller woman, and actually prefer that more than a woman who is 5" shorter than me or more. A 6'3" woman to me would be more attractive than a 5'3" woman IMO.
One thing I would like elaboration on as well is the "facial attractiveness" of chart 3: what objective qualifiers are used to determine attractiveness? My initial reaction is that the top 91-100%, 81-90%, and 71-80% decile examples are less attractive then all the other faces since those top 3 decile example portraits all seem to have really blocky, angular, almost caricature-ish face shapes whereas the others look natural and actually like... human I guess. Even if a given face comes off potentially less masculine like the 31-40% face, it looks normal, and thereby better than the examples given for the top 30%. Even the 0%-10% example IMO looks better; the guy has normal teeth, a decent beard, and a good smile, and the receding hair for many wouldn't be a deal-breaker (tbf, for many it would, but that's whatever).
I would anticipate like, 0%-10% to have facial deformities, scars, asymmetries, underbite or overbite, lazy eye, or other things people tend to have superficial prejudice against in terms of appearance. Better quantified information here would be much better.
My wife was loveliest in her 20s and hottest in her 40s. In our sixties we laugh a lot together, Find a love in your 20s- make it work. You may have to travel. Toys and "freedoms" are dust.
Many people nowadays can't find anything, that is datable in their twenties
You got a better chance of winning the lottery than finding love like that.
You use hottest instead of beautiful to describe your wife. I don’t trust you
How many kids do you have?
“Hottest in her 40s”
My God, the crap people come up with to cope with monogamy.
While these statistics may be correct, as a woman, I recognise myself as an outlier. I'm deeply suspicious of overly attractive men, and a bit the same about high-earning men. I know I'm not alone in this. Equally, lots of women (me included) don't care at all about a man's height. We all need to remember that finding suitable partners is the search for one person (or a few people over a lifetime) who are a good fit. If you look at the people who actually get married or into exclusive/long term relationships, there are a lot of ugly poor people making each other pretty happy.
And then there’s the outliers. I’m 47 and in the best shape of my life. Happily married for 13 years and getting told I’m aging like fine wine. I get more attention than I ever did in my thirties
Men age like fine wine. Women age like milk...
Women also have a "what does he have that's so good?" mentality. Also when a guy is in a relationship women see it as a pre - screened guy as woman tend to trust each others approval.
Agreed. This guy who made this video is a SIMP. Most of this video is objectively false & dishonest data.
Not blimping out and if you're lucky enough to keep your hair helps a lot.
@@Heike-- I'm 67 years old and still look like my profile picture you see here from 12 years ago at 55 This video is objectively FALSE information.
The chart about females vs males max attractiveness is a good base, but still not showing the full truth.
If men were completely free to choose without any legal and societal restrictions, they would choose even younger females partners as other, older data has shown.
Still, great video again and keep up the awesome work!
The OkCupid data cuts off at 20. It's definitely likely women's prime it stretches down to at least 19, probably 18.
up to 10% of men would choose girls as young as 9
Exactly, trust no one, there are monsters everywhere.
@@zackdrake8735 trust is the bedrock of society.
@@zackdrake8735monsters? It’s just biology lol
Moral of the story: Avoid hook up sites.
This applies to all social media and IRL unfortunately
Well put together and I appreciate the data on factors I hadn't been aware of before. Well done
I peaked at 1 year old, that was my most attractive stage in life!!
Grew up in DC or Hollywood?
@@trumpwonyoudolts 200iq joke that went over too many peoples heads.
Lol
I must of peaked in the womb, b/c when i came out, my mom looked at me, then at the the Dr, & said, Shove it back in, it's UGLY....
I used to work with a guy who was great looking, had great hair, also a serial cheater, pregnant wife, smart as a brick, affair w/a co-worker, professionally unsuccessful (and eventually failed out of the business). Women would throw themselves at him, and even discuss what their babies would look like.
I had him beat in every category but looks, and I was single and not a cheater/player. Although I could certainly get dates, the women didn't throw themselves at me like they did at this guy.
He was a serial cheat BECAUSE women threw themselves at him. IMO most men are not cheaters because of lack of access, not because they have better self control. Few have the willpower it takes to deny endless attractive females wanting a one night stand.
that's life for ya
I was getting A LOT more play from dimes at age 30-33 than I was at 25-29. I would say men’s peak is definitely in the early 30s.
25-35 is prime, before that most men even have money to date properly
38 is prime. Source "corn" site data. Women peak is 25
Its probably why its the only time of my life i got approached by à 23 yo girl and another 18 yo girl. It was never because i was actually attractive. I just "peaked". This is one of the funniest yet saddest things ever 😂😂😂. Im 33 now and im back to "normal" 😂😂😂...
My guy, this is the average. It's not "100% of men peak in their 20s"
Curious, what’s your height, fitness, rough attractiveness, lifestyle, and income (roughly).
Not doubting you do well. More so that you may be an exception. Ex. I don’t doubt the 38 yr old, handsome fit, 6ft director of Marketing making $200k will thrive into his 30s.
Thank you for this video. Excellent information, very well-presented.
Take it from a financially succesful 27 yo virgin,
Its better to have a house than a girl.
How do you know, you haven't had a women?
Time for you to take a trip to Thailand, Philippines and Vietnam.
You can have both
Dude if you have a house and there's no girl in it, you're doing something wrong.
Don't listen to these comments dude; I lost my virginity sometime around 24 wishing so bad I had lost it in high school. Honestly, I wish I didn't even lose it that early. I'm married now to a different woman and have kids.
But, being successful before finding a woman is such a win.
You'll be rich by 35 if not sooner, you'll be dating girls in their early 20s which means you could definitely be their first (or, at least you could have the same number of partners if you lose yours before then).
But even better: you can vacation whenever you want, not struggling financially.
Fuck these people here; you should just peacock, take a hot 21 year old to a nice beach and enjoy yourself
Then, when you finally decide to have kids, find a young one and pump her full of 10 children.
Dudes complain about not having looks, but trust me when I say not having money is wayyy worse, especially when you have good looks, its one of the most depressing things.
99% of my first dates end with hooking up, and all of them want to continue seeing me, but then they realize I'm too damn broke to even afford going on dates, and eventually they lose interest, despite them finding me attractive.
Guys! Get Your Money Up!!! Get rich before you hit your 30s! Cause nothing is more unattractive then a broke 30 year old
true
I dont think you realize how many men aren’t getting dates let alone GETTING LAID. You’re actually winning my friend
@@jelaninoel He's not winning if he's looking for a life partner and not just sex.
@@vinced2514 most men aren’t getting as far as he is. Take every win
Except an unnattractive 30 year old. You have zero logic for saying it's way worse to not have money. Unnattractive men wouldn't even get to hook up (beyond an overweight heffer) even if having a good job, so how on earth is that better?
Being dumb doesn't seem to be much of a hindrance to hooking up in your case, but perhaps it is to making money.
Got divorced when i was 38 and thrown into digital dating pool. Had a lack of self confidence because i thought i was too old to be attractive. But i worked out regularly, also fortunate to be tall, and got many match requests.....many initiated from the woman side. I set my preferences for women between 3 -10 years younger than me. I got many coffee meetup requests, and had good number of date options any given week. i even had to keep a reference chart to keep track of each name, kids info, jobs, background etc etc before i would go out on dates with them to keep my conversations on point and not mix up her details. I was fortunate, and i can say i had way more attention from women in my early 40's than i ever did in my 20's. Was great....until i met the one i was ready to settle down with in my late 40's. Very happy, both now....and then.
you live in a big city....? I live in a very rural area & out here, there's almost no dating at all...Dating apps don't work out here....not enough women......& the guy better have a college degree, make big bucks & look great...I own 2 properties & to them, that means nothing...I'm only a 7...
Love This! Finally, someone has said what I always knew...men do not get better with age like they all think
To judge what women want they took data from dating sites. However, a certain type of woman would never consider using a dating site. So the statistics are possibly skewed. For example, lots of conservative or religious women don't do dating sites and would look for a possible marriage partner at church or maybe work. So those women might have different priorities such as sincerity. Women in the hookup culture go on dating sites a lot and so naturally they aren't as concerned about "sincerity".
I was thinking the same thing. He did preface that with the first chart, though (it's not that most men are too ugly to date, it's that most men are too ugly to hook up with)
nope. you are wrong. they are the same. conservative and religious women are not made of fairy dust. they all have the same apish biological imperative
Yet the apps ChristianDating and FarmersOnly are very much a thing. Probably because they're also marrying and divorcing younger, and so need to expand their pool outside the gossip bubble of their local church and small town.
Women spend hours painting their faces, picking out clothing and color coordinating things, getting their hair done, picking out perfumes. If men did the same in hopes of attracting a woman, the ratings for men may be way higher.
So i should buy makeup and use fake hair to look good?
You say at 4:21, “Physical attractiveness is just as important to women as it is for men; women just don’t admit it.”
No, it’s not. For women, physical attractiveness is way more important than it is for men. While we, as men, are totally okay with dating average-looking women, women are only really interested in men who are in the top 10% of attractiveness. That’s a huge difference. The data also clearly shows that they think most of us are ugly as hell.
Women are ok with dating average looking men, just not having casual sex with them. All the data I've seen shows it's basically even in terms of valuing looks. On average of course.
@@LoveMadeLogical Why would they date them if they don't find them attractive?
It's important for both but women are more selective, they only like 4.5% of male profiles on Tinder.
To be fair, many men don't really care where their pipe goes into. Pretty? OK! Ugly? OK! Vacuum cleaner? OK!
@@DavidZ4-gg3dm
Seeking for a provider.
For someone who likes stats and visuals this video is great, thanks!
Best advice is to start looking for a wife/husband in early twenties... and hopefully find a compatible one by 30.. and start a family.
Pretty much.
Not if you don't want marriage or kids.
@@DavidZ4-gg3dm True. But you clicked on this video because you're curious about dating. The natural goal of dating is marriage.
@@DavidZ4-gg3dm loser
@@quitgoogle2534 nah, a lot of people just date casually these days with no intention of marriage, letting the relationships fizzle out and moving on to the next casual date. imo that defeats the purpose of dating but it is what it is
6:38 - _Less attractive than being unemployed … pretty much, being in the service industry._
😂
Dayum. That is rough.
You can't be "the man" if you're clearly a servant.
Absolutely fantastic storytelling from data visualization.
I slept with 100+ women till 27. I am bellow average looks but i am 6'5 and i enyoj talking to them, you should lower the preatty ones and pedestal the ugly ones and they will like you. And never spend money on them, rule no.1.
Im legit a 26 year old virgin and have never had dating options. Ironically according to this video, i should be having the most amount of options currently but i dont have any at all. Kinda crazy
Why do you think you've been struggling?
You look young for age? When I was 26 I looked 16 on a good day.
@@LoveMadeLogical that's a good question! I know as a teenager I was shy so I think that was the main reason. However once I turned 20, I was no longer shy but I kept getting rejected. I think alot of it is that I'm never in a conducive environment for dating. For example, I'm in med school with 30 students with women who already have bfs. They aren't open to set up guys either. So I'm just not in a great position currently
it's obvious, but try to gym-max, face-routine-max, socialize more (not necessarily with women, just to increase the social circle), pursue some goals outside of a job
acording to this video, it will only get worse from now on 💀
I am 28 now and let me say. Just be healthy and find women you can befriend. Once you befriend them you will meet their friends and you won’t feel lonely as well. You need to find activities that women enjoy too. Dancing is good, but I personally don’t like it enough, so it’s learning languages for me
Great advice! It won't help the ones who are too horny or stuck in the victim mindset tho
@@moonie6083 unfortunately true
Never, ever, befriend women.
Amazing video! Well explained and to the point. Good job!
The problem is simply that women find men unattractive on principle. This is a very smart strategy. Because they put themselves in a position of power and choice. By finding all man unattractive you can let them work for your affection. So if only he "changes" and "does something special" will he start to become attractive. And of course this changing and doing special things never is really enough. There is always more changing and doing special things to be done...
The strategy is because of cost of pregnancy, there is no way for one sex to maintain a "smart strategy".
@@theBear89451 On the contrary. The "smartness" is not consious, but evolutionary. And your words confirm that. It is in the reproductive and thus evolutionary interest of women, and their children to create optimal circumstances for their growth and development. An important part of these circumstances is the ability to manipulate men into doing the things that women deem important and necessary for their children (provide money, food, clothes, safety, etc.). The combination of the eternal promisse of sex combined with the eternal pronunciation of rejection are precisely the tools in the womans arsenal to enable this manipulation.
You're sorta right. Women do act that way, EXCEPT when a man flips the script. When a man acts like he's not interested and he's too good for a girl, he instantly becomes more attractive.
@@UserNameAnonymous If we put attractiveness on a scale of 1-10, that strategy can give you maybe like +1 point or something. People love to pretend that guys with game can get any woman, but either that was never true, or it's not true for young adults nowadays.
@lightworker2956 it's as true as it has ever been. If it's not working for you, that means you haven't figured out your style yet. It means you don't really believe it.
And it won't let a guy who is a 2 land a girl who is a 9, but a 4 guy can get a 7 girl. I've seen it over and over again. I've seen a fat, ugly guy get cute girlfriends repeatedly.
For women it's all about money, plain and simple. They'll crawl all over some 1/2 dead toad that's loaded $$$ all day.
It's partly money, but it's also partly looks.
A dead broke but gorgeous man can get laid whenever he wants. Granted, women might not want a serious relationship with him, but still.
totally wrong.
yeah totally gotta disagree with you here for the average women... if you are looking for a doll, that might be more true...
8 charts that show it's too late for me. lol
You and me both brother lol
Don't belive them. I am 46 and I have more chances than anytime before.
Great Charts!
I love charts, always loved them they do teach us in more approachable way.
This is ALMOST accurate. In the real world, it just keeps getting better and better for guys over 35 who want LTRs, if you have your act together. The reason is because the guys who are in shape, make good money, etc. and want LTRs are all married off before 40. So for a woman 30+ or 35+ who wants to date or get married, almost all the guys she will meet or see on dating apps are unsuitable guys (fat, poor, etc.). Women's preference will also start to shift significantly away from looks toward provisioning and husband/father traits over 30. So the kind of women you can pull over 30/35 for LTRs keeps improving if you are a suitable guy as you age. The problem with Tinder data is it's all centered on hookups, so of course it's looks and status.
A dude over 35 in shape and with money will be going for a 22 year old. He has no reason to settle for "leftover women" with no time left on the clock.
@@AutisticMorty No, 22 years want guys at most 5 years older than them, for either hookups or LTRs, it’s one of the things he talked about in the video. Also, most girls this age and in their 20s want hookups, if you want an LTR, most likely she will be late 20s minimum. What I’m saying is that you can more as an older guy than the same guy can get in his 20s.
>>So for a woman 30+ or 35+ who wants to date or get married
@@alexmuenster2102 He wouldn’t. And I’m not talking about a top tier guy. A top tier guy can always get women in their 20s. But if you want an LTR, you’d have to hit the jackpot to find an attractive woman who isn’t planning on wasting her 20s.
@@JGComments That's what the data says that I have seen regarding age differences in couples and marriage. The only exception is in impoverished counties where there is a bigger age gap but in the west, it's on average 2-4 year age gaps.
Sincerity has always been something women shun. The worst thing you can tell a woman is the truth. Always tell her what she wants to hear and she will love you forever.
someone who tells me what i want to hear is a liar i cannot trust. true, i wasnt like the girls i grew up with. i never wear makeup for instance.
If the outfit makes me look fat, id rather shrug, get changed and feel good ya know? vrs wearing something where everyone is secretly judging me
Not forever. Until she runs into a more convincing liar.
@@kim-ys2fsCongrats, you're the exception to the rule.
"The worst thing you can tell a woman is the truth. "
I will tell the truth, period.
You'll attract more fish with honey than with vinegar
Women do not know they like you until they see you having fun. It has worked for over 4 decades for me. Do not waste time and money on the apps for a relationship. Most of those women have already done a bit too much.
its really interesting to see love in a logical way, thank you for the work my friend
1. Get of UA-cam
2. Go talk to actual women.
3. Why are you still reading this? Do you want to be like the guy in this video?
why would I 'talk to actual women'
Dumb
Studies show women find it extremely unattractive to stare directly at the camera barely moving you head.
Just breathing and existing has the same effect.
He's young. He'll get better at it. Give him time.
Whoa, nice twist with the overlaid IQ graph! And the brain damaged analogy! *chef's kiss*
You just earned a subscription, buddy. Well done. Creative, engaging and insightful. Everything I like in a UA-cam channel.
same here. He explained it nicely
Fascinating video. Excellently organized and presented. I subscribed immediately after watching it.
same
Loss of libido is such a liberator. When George Melly went through 'the change', he said it was like being unchained from a lunatic.
Truest statement ever!
PS. This chart doesn't apply for men traveling to South East Asia. The age doesn't matter when you can lift a girl's entire family out of poverty.
If anything older is better there, young prime women prefer foreigners in their early 30s over early 20s there, as what they tend to seek is a financilly well off husband, and not unstable relationships with young playboys.
Those women are often skilled at playing men like a fiddle. Western men who aren't good with women fall for every trick in their arsenal and often end up in a disaster. They'll fall in love with the first woman they fuck and then it's game on.
@@UsefullThing312I call this the white delusion. The reality is the women despise you and are only using you as a walking atm. They often have a local guy on the side, much younger.
Don't give money out like candy. They don't deserve it lmfao.
And then if you bring them back to any western country, they gonna use the local law to ruin your financial and your saving if you are not careful. This is why those women prefer western men over Korean or Taiwanese men. SK and Taiwan law wont let those women do that to their husbands.
The amount of rejection I had as a young man destroyed my self confidence forever. Even in the rare occasion a woman flirts with me, I look at trying to "pick them up" as guaranteed rejection. Hopefully with all these UA-cam videos young men will be able to figure out what women want and have better luck. The future depends on it.
Nothing wrong with learning pickup and fucking a lot of chicks. It does wonders for your self-confidence no matter how shabbily you were treated when younger. Once you learn not to care about women's reactions to you because you know you can just get another one, that changes *everything* .
Good luck brother, it can be done, YOU can do it!
What an incredible video. Thanks much for the informations. 🙏🏾
I'm a male in my 40s and get more attention than my 20s no idea why, maybe not giving a crap helps😂
Probably money
@@deleted01 but how do they know I have money just by looking at me?
Women that I’ve showed this to seem to hate some these stats, especially the divorce ones…..
The truth offends them.
Do not use dating app data to get an idea of what real life dating is like. It’s very different
It's a strong indicator though, since online matching is the increasingly dominant way to meet new people after graduating from school.
Congratulations! This video was suggested to me I guess because my 29 year old son was at my home for a short period of time... very interesting study, though.
If we reduce ourselves to an online commodity via dating apps than, of course, one is reduced to mere superficialities - looks and status. Go outside and meet people IRL. For men, in particular, it turns all the purported "data" on its head. I have two buddies who were absolute legends among women when they were single - both were balding and overweight. One was a barely 5 feet tall. Why? They had an abundance of charm, charisma, and confidence and, no, neither were rich.
I’d say women peak at 18-20
Nah, they peak at ~22-25. Once they got their education sorted and are functional adults. Nobody wants to actual date / marry a 18-19 Yo.. they are literally teenagers.
@@L4verdz I 100% agree with you. I don't want to be mean but guys who said that women peak at 19 are probably never been with a women.
I have dated different women from different age and from my experience the women 18 to 20 years old are just child in an adult body. Now they are expections like always but most young women are just immature, you can't build a relationship let alone a family with the vast majority of them
I mean some of them can't even do basic cooking or drive a car i have seen this first hand 😂😂
Not at all surprising. But I've seen many other large studies which totally substantiate all my observations: height is king in women's eyes. And it's not really important in men's eyes. And I believe a good argument can be made that women are _more_ concerned with physical attractiveness. Perhaps men just know, consciously or subconsciously, it's no use to pursue the best-looking women. It (seggs) will never happen. But we cannot say the opposite. By the way, 'irregardless' is not a word.
As a guy who is tall and ugly, I can honestly say that height is definitely NOT king. I would say that height does matter but I've never been able to compete with shorter guys with prettier faces than I have.
That was enlightening, I learned something new today
I love how well made this video is, great job 👍
Hi, PhD in Soc Psych here - just don’t think too much about potential implications of this video for you: Both the „studies“ and their interpretation are cringeworthy and misleading 😂 This is complete YT bs-science at its worst 🎉
its concerning you have those qualifications if you are attempting to write off the presented data like that
@@ShortFuseFun No, he/she makes a valid point. The data come only from 2 studies while there are hundreds of similar ones all with slightly different conclusions. Some (obvious) principles are consistent (e.g. younger, richer, and/or better-looking people being more attractive on average), but nobody ever found a nuanced generalisable "formula of attractiveness". The comment above is trying to point out that while the data shown are true for a large population, they are being over interpreted when applied to the single individuals since they are simplified models that have some value only in a statistical sense
Came here to say a similar thing. This video from a scientific standpoint is downright negligent. Only cited 2 studies - and didn't even link the original studies. Further, WTH is happening at 2:10 ?? He says "although data was never posted, we can make a chart inferring on what he said". WTF is that?? You cant just make a visualization based on what someone said is a general trend. Absurd. When presenting the speed-dating study he only presented R coefficients - this is a measure of variance. It tells us very little about actual trend and direction, and the strength of that direction, only how close the data is to the line of best fit
Man attractiveness will change not according to age but wealthy
Cope
VERY interesting video. Nice work.
the funny thing is, everybody already knew all of this. we know it because we live it
NO, this simp is dead wrong on many counts. This video is bullshit
Lets get real. Internet ruined dating.
Not really. The 50% of women that will gladly trade in a partner for something better is still the same today as yesterday.
Only now those types of women are all competing for the top 10% of men. Who rotate them out like a carrousel. The Bros are coming to the rescue and saving many men from these predators.
Great content, hope your channel blows up so we can get more interesting videos. Leaving a comment for the algorithm.
Appreciate you bro. You're a real one.
As a man you receive attention from woman....NEVER!!!!!
as an *unattractive man, you mean
actually you do... probably from ugly women Or unattractive women
who has lower status than you, finds you attractive.
The problem here is that you don't notice cuz (We) as average men, we ignore them
and complaining that we can't find the "Pretty ones"
Okay wait soooo what I'm getting is that baby faced women would have the longest lasting desirability?? ex: I always get mistaken as a high schooler even tho I'm mid 20s which means mid 30s I'd be around my prime??🤔
yes
Lol, aye. Hot women are not always hot, but cute women are always cute.
Surely it also counts in your favour if you do not come across as young by being naïve or having other childlike characteristics. 👍
@@CoranceLChandler awww you right. A cute woman will eventually just become a cute grandma HAHA
@@RikusLategan yes that is true! Thanks for that perspective! I'm talking about solely looks here. Maturity in the partners' personality would require a whole other video haha
U missed one: which is the worst household for children: single mother, two-parent household, single father?
Single mother. It’s not even close. The BEST for children, by a hair, is single father.
better than two-parent household?
@@RisingSun0904 Yeah Rising Sun has a point, two-parent house hold is hands down the best.
How come? I think a two-parent (men/women) household is best.
@@RisingSun0904 yes. Must be like gay marriage. Which are the most stable marriages: two men, man/woman or two women?
Check it: gay male marriages are the most stable. It’s not even close. They are twice as stable as lesbian marriages.
@@BurningSmith I always thought the same. One thing to keep in mind: this is not a random sample. Men who are able to persevere against the deep biases against fatherhood to become primary caregivers are likely a special bunch.
Great! We need much more people like you presenting data and facts instead of wishful thinking!
I am 35. I am screwed. I hope to become a desert monk now lol
Try ASMR .
Well, from now on you'll be more desirable than any woman your age will ever be
I think it's partly because, when women were forced to get married early and have children, women with low attraction to men were not natural selected out.
wo-MEN were never forced to get married simp
The average dentist makes more money than most attorneys.
Well done! This is along the same vein as hoemath's statistics and peeking behind the psychological curtains to see what's really going on. Math doesn't lie. Stats don't lie. Either "these people" are dishonest, or they don't have any idea what they really want. Maybe a little bit of both, it's not exactly a hot take to say they don't know what's good for them.
From a pool of Divorce Attorney's who exclusively act on behalf of women: Women initiate divorce frequently as an Ultimatum - not on the basis that they expect divorce. This play of course may backfire when the man accepts. If the woman is testing the man (as they do without regard for consequence or with insight frequently) his acceptance of her divorce proposal would be seen as a betrayal and source of anger and resentment I expect.
They do anything they can to manipulate their husbands. When it gets down to threatening divorce, the marriage is pretty much over at that point.
So... you're saying those women are pretty fucking stupid then. That's the only logical conclusion. Threatening divorce as a manipulation tactic without considering ACTUAL divorce as a consequence.... that's extremely stupid behavior. Those women get exactly what they deserve: divorce.
My takeaway is that women want Prince Charming and men want a supermodel.
But men will settle. An average man foolishly looks in the mirror and says, gee I deserve an average woman. Not knowing that average women find him absolutely repulsive.
it's just natural selection
I actually think it's the other way - women want a male supermodel, men a gorgeous woman that will tend to them (Princess Charming?)
These statistics show how the western societies have changed by feminism. I'm a 55 years old and 30 years ago things were very different. It was alot easier for a young man to find a date. I kinda feel sorry for young men today.
Brilliant presentation, especially like how you quantify the data
As a 58-year-old outlier, my girlfriend, who is 25, is exceptionally attractive. Don't let data fool you!"
Sometimes you just get lucky lol
Data shows the most likely outcome, doesn't mean you can't have a younger girlfriend when you are older, but it's way less likely.
dating apps are definitely different from real life
I don't think I've ever heard anyone rate attractiveness on a scale of 1-5. It's always 1-10
lol best comment
Interesting video, was fun and entertaining to watch a good Ambience to the whole thing, keep up the good work
Money changes everything when it comes to gold diggers.
I'm 50 year old had many relations during my life. I've been single for the past 4 years and never been happier. No Fuking drama, no negotiation, no spending on stupid shit, I do what I want, when I want, with who I want. Could have hock up with a "cute" girl 20 years younger than me few months ago and I turn her down. Nail polish, make-up, high heels and I low IQ is a big turn off.
For me some nicely done French tips, classy make-up and medium length heels is A+. She doesn't have to be Einstein either but smart enough to hold a conversation properly.
Everything well done😊
no offense, but im 42 and theres no way i could date someone that much older than me. Women who do that have such big daddy issues and the men who are attracted to them want the dominance, control n power imo from what i have seen
Evidence? she is 30 years old and you called her a girl ffs which tells me so much about this dynamic
Cope old man
you are daydreaming old man