THE NARCISSIST DOESN'T WANT HELP!
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- Опубліковано 27 вер 2024
- #narcissist #narcissisticabuse Narcissists can sometimes seem needy, helpless or even pathetic. It can be tempting to think that we can help them out of their narcissism with some patience and understanding. But narcissists don't want help. Narcissists want to be enabled. Even when they seem to be asking for help, it's likely just one more manipulation backed by false promises.
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You can't hurt a narcissist's feelings. Anything you say to them ABOUT them, doesn't have any affect on how they see themselves or feel about themselves. Trying to "help" them is a total waste of time.
Yes u can. U hurt their feelings by walking away and living a great life without them.
@@ericalashan1923 You can't hurt the narc that way, either. The narc doesn't sit around, feeling sorry about the great life someone is living without them. They just replace you. Walking away from the narc shouldn't be to hurt the narc, anyway. Do it for yourself.
you are correct most people on here want the narc to suffer and be hurt , but I’m telling you a narc is worse than a robot because a robot can be programmed to be good etc a narc will never ever feel remorse empathy love , they are basically One of Satans minions and I literally mean that….
@@manfocusednot really because even after 5 years he was still super mad his ex moved on like it was yesterday.. they never forget and hold grudges
For all the emotional, psychological and other damage they cause their innocent victims, narcissists should absolutely be exposed and shamed.
I've noticed that a few of the narcissists I've known DO think they are caring and empathetic, like to the max. I think that's because they don't have the capacity to understand empathy as most people do, so they think they're doing it right according to their own point of view.
I also think they don't think they ARE narcissists. They think that's some super rare thing .. or it's YOU not them for even saying the word.
My ex gf promotes herself as an empath, which she is anything but. She’s a narcissist. Your message here is absolutely on point.
Once you understand the pathology, you know the nature of the beast. Who hasn't tried to lend an ear, help without pushing the issue, stayed in cognitive dissonance too long, endured triangulation humiliation and degradation of those things you cherish. Why would anyone volunteer to be repetitively albeit figuratively, punched in the face ? Guaranteed.
Love makes people do things they wouldn’t ordinally do.
Your videos are giving me life. You've un-gaslighted yourself and are shining the light for your viewers to get there, too. Absolutely invaluable!
Condescension, ridicule and disdain is the way to go.
“Their narcissism is their solution” perfectly said 👌🏻
TOTALLY AGREE with you, I use to think that if I got him help he could change but now see it differently, I wanted him to change so we could have a LOVELY marriage but now see I MUCH MUCH BETTER OFF without him, saw my narrisist ex husband recently and he has a CRAZY look and if anything looks like he getting worse and only thing I felt was THANK GOD DON'T HAVE TO TAKE ANYMORE ABUSE. feel FREE.
Yeah, if they were capable of seeking and obtaining help (aside from the exceptionally rare unicorns out there...) then it wouldn’t be the practically incomprehensible calamity it is for them and everyone’s lives they come to destroy.
Calamity absolutely describes the life of a narcissist. A life-long series of bad decisions, compounding each other. Even with a rational partner's guidance/ feedback, he cannot turn down the volume of the inner voice telling him to do some stupid thing. Then he's off and away with the latest hairbrained idea! The impulsively and lack of reflection turned my life into a series of damage control measures. The self sabotage caught me off guard, until I realized the pattern of bad stuff, always originating from HIM!
Yes. It’s a coping, survival mechanism. Poignant, exquisitely designed, precisely calculated. Absolute in nature and purpose. Any threat often followed by silent treatment, cynicism, temper tantrum or worse. It works for them. Find your peace in 2022. Happy New Year to all!
Thankyou for your insight and honesty. I recently discovered that I have been married to a narcissist for 40 years. Now I understand why all of my efforts to help him become the man I thought and hoped he could become have been in vain and ended in heartbreak for me. I have been watching channels such as yours and he mocks me and tells me I am being brainwashed. I have suggested that he may benefit from doing his own research into finding out why his behaviour causes him to sabotage his life. He refuses and hasn't made any effort at all to understand. You are right, they don't think they have done anything wrong and that there is nothing wrong with them. It is all your fault. Thankyou again and Happy New Year to all.
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YES I AGREE! I RECEIVED A LOVELY MESSAGE FR MY NPD SISTER, WHICH I AM NOT ANSWERING!
I grew up w narcs and know them quite well into my adulthood as well and if anyone criticizes your videos = a narc.
They will ask you for help when they really really really need it
Then you must figure out if it's genuine or manipulation. The whole business is otherworldly.
Mine is on his way to the bar good riddance happy New year to me
Brilliant video
I love your videos and your commentary is always on point. Thank you for being you and keeping shining ✨ 💛 💖 Glow up girl!!!
Thank you!
I didn't create this didn't cause it and can't cure it
I thought if I could get him to understand that he had a problem, he’d want to fix it so we could have a healthy relationship😂😂😂
The most I could achieve was get him to admit he was probably Dismissive Avoidant.
It was like he peaked his head out above the trees and then doubled down on the toxicity.
I ran from my narc
Thank you for your honesty😊
She messaged me hoovering me and in the next 20 or so text showed me how unconscious she was of her narcissistic traits and then when I demand that she tell me why she had text what is it she wanted she said I've never been able to find love like we had and I want to learn how to do it hilarious
I'll help them out.... right the hell out of my life. They don't want help because they are perfect. They want to use you and suck the life out of you. You are the perfect one because they picked you. Read that last part again.
Happy New year 🎈🥳💘 love from Albuquerque.
Happy New Year!
Narcissists think they're living right and are justified in doing whatever they want. If you get hurt, it's your own fault. Remember kids on the playground who used to say, "I'm just going to be punching the air and if you get in the way, that's your fault." That's narcissism being incubated.
That’s a great analogy.
It was a narcissist who said it..
One of your best videos! Happy New Year!
Thank you! Happy New Year!
There is no problem unmasking naricissist, especially speaking about the problem in general.
It may help them try to change if they recognize it in themselves.
The best way to handle them is to speak fluent nacisseeeze. This means ALWAYS treating them the way they were ABOUT TO treat you. Eg if you do this for me now I WILL do this for you LATER.. REPLY.. I DON'T BELIEVE YOU convince me by doing it NOW instead of later. If you love me you'd... Reply ... Would you like to see my verifiable proof of the few things you have occasionally done together with dates and how small these gestures ALWAYS WERE. FEEL FREE to SHOW me verifiable evidence that proves I missed something. You aren't doing enough to keep this relationship going... Reply... YOU'VE NEVER DONE ANYTHING since the love bombing wore off so if by tomorrow you don't go back to treating me the way you wish to be treated... I'll watch you pack as the useless emotional vampire deep down you know you've ALWAYS been. They will be so KEPT in reality that they will permanently improve or leave because you are SO SUPERIOR they KNOW they can't control you. When they leave they may initially try to cover their backsides with.. I would have stayed but THEY WERE TOO DEMANDING. Stay in control by giving them a CONTINUOUS reality check