Most Men Cant keep Up With Their Own Standards- Decenter Men

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  • @bougiepeaches5497
    @bougiepeaches5497 14 днів тому +121

    They’re lacking when it comes to literally everything.

  • @goldengal_
    @goldengal_ 14 днів тому +143

    True. The loudest ones are never fit , masculine, and friendly . And usually have a baby mama hiding somewhere. You won’t find out about her unless you have em on Facebook tho 😂

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  14 днів тому +32

      Omg 😂😂😂 “fit masculine and friendly”

    • @karenq.9571
      @karenq.9571 13 днів тому +8

      Yes and those men are the ones who are constantly on Facebook like an addiction.

    • @Exoticaworship7
      @Exoticaworship7 13 днів тому +4

      @@goldengal_ speaking of baby mama is he actually got real drunk one night and told me don't tell nobody but I got 5 baby mommas ..then had the nerve to tell me I need to tell me Im "difficult" and you know what means ...lol yup im Difficult and Delusional and Destiny Bound a triple threat 😁 💪🏼💯

    • @Exoticaworship7
      @Exoticaworship7 13 днів тому

      @@karenq.9571 yes what's up with the Facebook? I swear ...I hadn't been on Facebook since it aired LMAO 😂😂😂😅😅 omg !
      I swear I honestly judged any body when FB is their MAIN social media...I mean I get it, most folks families are there , but in my experience it's always the family that .....well ... Not necessarily on their bridgeton lol 😆 it always felt low vibrational being on FB ??? or maybe it's just me 🤔 lol and the guy I was speaking on ...omg ...I'd be laying next to him ... 🤔 About the decision I made to come be in his bed ..lol and I looked over and what do I see ...yup Facebooking it ....3 topics consist of red pill, or how to build more muscle 💪🏼
      Or what's the latest protein shake ..
      I high key lol began to believe he was bisexual...infact I asked him ...but we will circle back to his response later lol 😂😅😅😅 man ...

    • @Exoticaworship7
      @Exoticaworship7 13 днів тому +3

      @@ExoticalsUnited sound like a good ol topic huh lol please do it ! As a spin off of this video !

  • @suzannaflores1164
    @suzannaflores1164 14 днів тому +74

    Let's talk about it!!! This channel is helping heal 14+ years of incorrectly dealing with men. Nothing my two parents, siblings, any family members, mentors or pickmesha friends taught me.

  • @Sitababyy
    @Sitababyy 14 днів тому +76

    I hated it when guys I worked with thought they had a chance by flattery and bringing me $5 coffee. Sir, we make the same amount.🤢

    • @ТаняБирюкова-э3м
      @ТаняБирюкова-э3м 13 днів тому +9

      I use the "let them" principle in these situations. It's natural for them to flatter a beautiful woman, make small gifts. They do it because they want to do it, not because you ask. You don't owe them anything. If it's a 5$ coffee you don't even have to consider if it's appropriate to accept the gift, it's too small. Your smile and beautiful presence is more worthy.

    • @vinceclientel1411
      @vinceclientel1411 13 днів тому +3

      $5 cup of coffe. Where you work lol

    • @Exoticaworship7
      @Exoticaworship7 13 днів тому +4

      @@Sitababyy omg yes . I use to tell this one guy " the job don't give me enough time on our 30 min to an hour break for how I really want to be treated...in other words...
      coffee not gonna cut it .. UNLESS we going to a 5 star cafe somewhere which by the time we get there we both gonna be fired cus those kinds of coffee shops are not easily "obtainable" in other words no shade to Starbucks but ...nah. Man...I truly miss my old self when I gave no F...... About hurting a man's feelings....
      I was nothing to play with.
      Those were the days where I was operating in my " I'm out of your league energy " ..
      But slowly but surely it's coming back thanks to this community ❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • @kenasssss
      @kenasssss 11 днів тому

      😂😂

  • @imandalton4227
    @imandalton4227 13 днів тому +28

    The best advice I've heard is to never give a man money, let him live with you ,and to take your time getting to know him. All the extravagant dates, how he's supporting himself, his friends and family, everything he's about, will be revealed. A man constantly mentioning his goals, how hard life is for him and the right partner being all he needs to be successful, are red flags period. A man should be able to support himself extremely well if he wants to bring a woman into his life. Women will inspire, comfort and emotionally support you, but once you give a man money, you look at him as a child and you won't respect him. Men shouldn't bring more stress into your life, they should be greatly enhancing it.

  • @LottiezLotts-k3i
    @LottiezLotts-k3i 12 днів тому +15

    This is such a true video. They literally get handed women out of their league and then mistreat them and then turn around and sy no good women exist. They mean the beautiful gullible women no longer exist or want them.

  • @PunkBunniii
    @PunkBunniii 14 днів тому +47

    Never clicked on a video sooo fastt 😜

  • @AnnaGrace603
    @AnnaGrace603 14 днів тому +66

    As women get older their standards rise since they become smarter. Once I was 33 I lost all interest in broke men. So the men who didnt develope themselfs will try to get a young women with low standards but the women will prefer the young hot (broke) guy instead of the old (broke) guy

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  14 днів тому +30

      Yes! Like . My standards are different now than in my 20s. I no longer date younger men, shorter men, broke men or men with a bunch of kids and baby mamas . 😂

    • @sophiam9886
      @sophiam9886 13 днів тому +6

      That's true most of the time, but I've been a golddigger since I was a teenager.😁🤣🤣🤭

    • @Dayzdajay
      @Dayzdajay 12 днів тому +1

      Dating broke men is like charity you need to write it off of your taxes

    • @AnnaGrace603
      @AnnaGrace603 11 днів тому +2

      ​@@Dayzdajay It is 😂😭😭😭 I swear I was a maid, a social worker, a therapist, a mommy for free. Worse I paid the bills and the dept of one boyfriend. I was so dump

  • @33asiamonet33
    @33asiamonet33 13 днів тому +27

    Beauty is expensive. Excuse me while i catch my rest 🤷🏽‍♀️

    • @lolitah8560
      @lolitah8560 13 днів тому +4

      😂😂 yes rest in your femininity ❤

  • @Exoticaworship7
    @Exoticaworship7 14 днів тому +53

    The financial wall yes !!! The difference that you speak of is ..a salt daddy vs a sugar daddy 😂 i was seeing a guy who when i went over to his house ( we will circle back to that later but anyhoo ) lol he would go through the house turning off the lights and then one night he was working ( he worked the graveyard shift..and he had cameras in his apartment. Then he text me and asked if I could turn off the lights.... But what made it a tad bit creepy is because as soon as I turn off the lights, jump back in the bed he has text back "thank you" i was like 😮 . Yes found out he had a camera in every room watching me while he was @ work..
    I'm not saying that bills are not high but there are other things as well like he'd drive further out of his location to get cheaper gas which never made sense to me cuz by the time you go to get the cheaper gas you would have ran out of more gas make it make sense. .😂 ..
    Then we never went on dates , and although we never went any where but the grocery store ..which btw he always wanted to hold my hand in the grocery store...and I would always say " this is boring" ill just sit in the car ". But how I knew he really hit the wall or was gonna , and fighting it for dear life...was when I'd come over, I'd be dolled up and he'd always be in the same muscle shirt. Plus he's the same one who was wearing the body shaper .. never knew there was even such a thing until I started dating him.. 😅 but always on diets and watching red pill content or he would be praising other men who had muscles ...🤔.
    Then the other guy I dated wore a spray on Beard...( Will circle back to that later as well
    😂😂😂 ..man ..
    Sexually.... Don't get me started lol the same guy who would drive miles away for gas also fell asleep right on top of me in the middle of doing the do lol yep ..
    And the other one.... never mind 😭😭😭 but I will say this ...
    his nappy beard hurt me so bad while he call his self going down on me and he had the audacity to tell me
    " I never had any complaints before" I said yep ...they just didn't complain to YOU but all their friends know 😂

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  14 днів тому +18

      Omg I screamed when you said he’s always in the same muscle shirt 😂😂😂

    • @Exoticaworship7
      @Exoticaworship7 14 днів тому

      @ExoticalsUnited yes. EU?You know the kind of shirts men will wear then roll up the sleeves at the very end of the shirt to show off their wanna be 💪🏼 those.
      it was gray and fit him real tight .. he's also the one that walked on the back of his shoes ...and would get drunk and start singing in a high pitch voice like prince 🤣 he's also the one who tell my I was pretty but then when would be putting on make up , hed call me vain .
      And reprimand me about how God doesn't like vanity.
      I would just sit on the side of the bed like "Jesus....I know for sure I'm down bad lol ( which i was)
      Now that I think about it he probably was missing a few ice cubes from the ice tray 😂😂😂
      btw, he hit me up last week after almost a year of "so called" ghosting me.
      I told him frankly
      "I'm a part of a society now ..( the pretty girl club )
      That will hold me accountable if I ever go back to peasantville .
      He of course called me crazy ..and said "take care i was just checking on you" yeah right . I went in on him so hard . I literally crashed out 😩 and I didn't care..cus who's going to check me 😂 but I said Alllll I had wanted to say ( I'll circle back on that too. But waaaaay later) these men are really pitiful.
      But my girls over here at Exoticals United ❤️ is getting me RIGHT ! And do you know since being apart of this community I had 2 of my ex's try to spend the block . And do you know how many are lerkin on my sm .another reason why I fell back a bit .
      All I can say for now is ....
      Strategy is now in full effect 💪🏼.
      Thanks to EU and other women in this community..I will never go back to making excuses for dust .
      So my lesson for these last few months of this year is..
      " If the dust is making me sneeze then its obvious my body, mind and spirit is trying to reject a demon 😈 lol
      I already feel a shift. between JESUS ! YOU , Bridgeton 😁 and Princellas the Queen maker..Im beginning to see the light ..😁

  • @bonita-u9ve
    @bonita-u9ve 13 днів тому +16

    I dated a guy and he was Polish .He literally wanted us to open a joint bank account with me but i didnt like the fact he could control MY spending and empty my account without my permission the last straw was when i saw him steal a cheque from an employer of his and asked ME to forge it !!!

    • @lareineii
      @lareineii 13 днів тому

      Ewwww brotha ewwww ❌️💰

  • @dantayhylton9938
    @dantayhylton9938 14 днів тому +21

    The worst feeling 😪 is investing your support in a ungrateful man!!! My ex never believed in himself and i always supported him and guess what he always interested in the wrong things. You want to have sex unprotected but you don't have a house or future plans?

  • @sliverscreen
    @sliverscreen 14 днів тому +18

    Either he’s broke or he’s no longer able to court you while he’s courting the next woman he’s trying to hook…

  • @iluvdant
    @iluvdant 13 днів тому +7

    OMG my ex hated his jobs. It was so exhausting. Like dude, “ just find another job.” Then he still wasnt happen. I later noticed he hated to see me happy. You are right!!!

  • @AnnaGrace603
    @AnnaGrace603 14 днів тому +20

    The queen has posted ❤ Great video! Once I was over 33 I lost ALL interest in broke men. I decentered men from my life. But I work in a men dominated office. Can you maybe make a video about how to protect your energy from low vibe male co-workers? They hit on me. They say weird things to me like "women are best between 18-24 because this is when you can form them." They make me strage compliments that feel more like humbling " you look good, you are not dump." And they talk so much to me and use me as an listening ear. I spend every day with them. Its not fun and I feel like they suck on my energy

    • @marlyb176
      @marlyb176 14 днів тому +6

      Weirdos . I’ve noticed that when women are attractive beyond the ages of 18 to 24, they like to try and humble them by saying nonsense like that.But they are attracted to you. And you probably give up a vibe that you’re confident and that you’ve decentred which is why they act like that.

    • @0l0l00l0
      @0l0l00l0 12 днів тому +3

      personally, i just use my acting skills.. its a job afterall. they dont like a confident woman and you cant change these men. i'm also in a male dominated field and i just pretend to be a shy girl pick me and i have them all wrapped in my finger lol. they spoil me with gifts, money, food, attention and compliments. i only do this to guys i don't want to date. which is also why i don't let all the negging and dusty behaviors get to me. i think its funny. i let them talk and do whatever they want while i get all the microvalidations from them and get paid.

    • @AnnaGrace603
      @AnnaGrace603 11 днів тому +2

      ​​@@marlyb176 True. Im 36 and pretty and look young. The old guy who said women age out at 25 is super attracted to me. The other one who said Im "not dump" even confessed his feelings. Weirdos. I feel little uncomfortable knowing how much subtle misogynisic ideas they secretly have. But that is the funny thing with men.....it does not matter how much they hate women. They still so desperately want access to a women. I for sure will not stay at that office for too long.

    • @AnnaGrace603
      @AnnaGrace603 11 днів тому

      ​@@0l0l00l0 haha wow maybe I should learn from you. I dont let them do anything for me. Or buy me anything. I dont want to hear any rediculous complaints from them afterwards if they dont get back what they hoped to get back. Dusties are dusties and dont give anything away out of pure generosity. Dont they?!
      Had one work mate invite me to a concert. I wanted to give him the money for the ticket at work. He started to hit on me and harass me and I refused to go to the convert with him. I said I will give him the money for the ticket at work and he should go alone. He was like " Keep the money. Only women care about money, only women.." It was a whole disgusting rant about women.
      Absolutly insane and bizarr.

  • @Sheila_zone
    @Sheila_zone 13 днів тому +7

    I am leveling up since last summer , going to the gym nearly every day , lose weight , being skinny , i want now remove my stretchmarks from my last realtionship (i got pregnant) , hairlaser removel ect.
    I fell hart for my lession on my beginning 20 s .
    Now it s time for a real provider , protector men !!!
    Lady s do not settl for less , he want a woman that cook s , clean , have his children ... so he musst pay !! ( like trational)

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  13 днів тому +2

      Oh that’s awesome ! There are lots of good skin care regimens for removing stretch marks

  • @ambrusin4889
    @ambrusin4889 14 днів тому +14

    lol those pics at 19:30 ; yeah, your take on men and dating is refreshing and fun to listen to , thanks for the vid !

  • @boujeeExotical
    @boujeeExotical 13 днів тому +13

    This is unfortunately true. And men will wait till you’ve fallen for them to tell you about their debt 🤦🏽‍♀️

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  13 днів тому +2

      Right 😂

    • @vinceclientel1411
      @vinceclientel1411 13 днів тому

      So that means you are for sale no? You dont want to be viewed as objects but arent objects for sale?

    • @PalisUK
      @PalisUK 12 днів тому

      or their criminal past

    • @vinceclientel1411
      @vinceclientel1411 11 днів тому

      So you have a price. You dont want to be objectified but dont Objects have a price?

  • @503ashkatchem4
    @503ashkatchem4 13 днів тому +8

    Yep I had a guy that was land scaper and he told me he was a contractor how embarrassing

  • @anulakshmi1630
    @anulakshmi1630 14 днів тому +14

    I can’t with the men that wear pink. My ex husband would never. He would rather fall off the roof. I know it’s petty but I can’t.

  • @CL-do5eq
    @CL-do5eq 13 днів тому +8

    When you mention that men hide how much that they’re in in my experience, you are correct. Now I was living with a man thank God we weren’t married, but I wouldn’t recommend it. If you’re not married, I end up finding out that he was truly not a cleanly person like we should closet in his side was always a mess and not only found, my engagement ring while cleaning up the closet but I also found an envelope that said he owed $100,000 in student loan debt. I have been with this person for many years. He never talked about it. He never said the amount was nothing but God showing me everything I needed to know because I had invested so much into this relationship mainly my time, thankfully I was delivered, but that is a part of my top priorities when vetting when we get to that topic, I talk about things upfront. There’s no beating around the bush. What if I was married, you would be liable as well.

  • @amithebrand5095
    @amithebrand5095 10 днів тому +2

    1:20 omggg this is part of what ended my last relationship 🤦🏽‍♀️ spent all his money courting me lol. Pretended he could sustain a certain lifestyle and couldn’t. Then had the audacity to tell me we didn’t have the same values because I told him I didn’t sign up to build with him (I already built with a man and then we divorced). He wanted me to lower my lifestyle standards to adjust for his lack 😂

  • @PickMescia
    @PickMescia 14 днів тому +10

    I laughed through the whole video 🤣

  • @JohanasHoward
    @JohanasHoward 7 днів тому +1

    jesus christ you hit the nail with the male psychoanalytics. 👍🏿👍🏿

  • @Exoticaworship7
    @Exoticaworship7 14 днів тому +14

    First..woohooo
    okay listening 🎧

  • @hiniewinie
    @hiniewinie 11 днів тому +2

    Glad I have videos like this so I won't be catching feelings for my "starter boyfriends"
    I genuinely see certain types of guys a practice 😕

  • @kayvee-g1c
    @kayvee-g1c 14 днів тому +19

    Yesss had a guy choose a single mom of two over me, she doesn't even speak english lol

    • @CL-do5eq
      @CL-do5eq 13 днів тому +5

      That was the point. You challenged him and you think for yourself. It’s a blessing.

    • @Of_infinite_Faith
      @Of_infinite_Faith 13 днів тому +5

      ​@@CL-do5eq the single mom gave in because she needs the help

    • @vinceclientel1411
      @vinceclientel1411 13 днів тому

      Delusion 🤪 egging you on 😂

    • @leonfrancis3418
      @leonfrancis3418 13 днів тому +4

      What if she was a better person?

    • @siyabongamakhoba4057
      @siyabongamakhoba4057 9 днів тому +1

      @@leonfrancis3418they always think they are the best option

  • @Pinkpearls555
    @Pinkpearls555 13 днів тому +7

    I appluad 👏 u for quitting accounting to follow ur fashion

  • @muringosubliminals
    @muringosubliminals 13 днів тому +5

    Thank you!

  • @TheYouTubePrincess
    @TheYouTubePrincess 13 днів тому +1

    THIS👏🏾 I'm sharing this video with my subscribers because you hit the nail on the dot!💖

  • @TheCleverExotical
    @TheCleverExotical 13 днів тому +4

    Ate and left no crumbs!

  • @lolitah8560
    @lolitah8560 13 днів тому +1

    😂😂😂😂 This needs to go viral what a slam dunk !! ❤❤❤most hit the wall of China 🇨🇳

  • @ettaj21
    @ettaj21 13 днів тому +1

    Love a decentering men video!
    On the money! 👌🏽💯

  • @RabiaSammy
    @RabiaSammy 13 днів тому +2

    will you talk more about your accounting experience? because im considering studying accounting even if its for a while

  • @Tinytony-m7v
    @Tinytony-m7v 13 днів тому +9

    I am a Nigerian girl, that has been mistaken for other races like Indians, half white, Hispanic, or multiracial, North African like Moroccans, Egyptians, or Ethiopian since I was a child even till now, by other Nigerians, white people and people of other races, can you make a video about it and how to use privileges based on that, I will really appreciate it.
    I have light skin, with type 4a hair, pink lips, I think my facial features plus skin colour contributed to the ambiguity.

  • @bexatronxexe2670
    @bexatronxexe2670 14 днів тому +17

    What do you think about the 7 million men who dropped out the labour force and became NEET

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  14 днів тому +12

      What did they end up doing then? Like did they go on section 8 or what?

    • @Iwantallmymoney2024
      @Iwantallmymoney2024 14 днів тому

      @@ExoticalsUnited girl look into it. Is so sad!!

    • @kaylam8707
      @kaylam8707 14 днів тому +17

      @@ExoticalsUnited They're living off of women.

    • @bexatronxexe2670
      @bexatronxexe2670 14 днів тому +7

      @@kaylam8707 also mommy and daddy too

    • @kaylam8707
      @kaylam8707 14 днів тому +11

      @@bexatronxexe2670 Yep. Mom, dad, grandparents, wife, girlfriend, baby mama...

  • @lareineii
    @lareineii 14 днів тому +10

    100% 💅

  • @Rukifitt
    @Rukifitt 12 днів тому +1

    Can you do a part two of how men are not your friends.

  • @deek5295
    @deek5295 14 днів тому +8

    I clicked on the discord link but it said it was expired 😭

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  14 днів тому +2

      Are you in the members page or patreon? I can post a new link

  • @Texotical
    @Texotical 14 днів тому +5

    1,000%

  • @GoldyLoxxx42
    @GoldyLoxxx42 13 днів тому

    😂😂😂😂😂❤

  • @chicagofever
    @chicagofever 13 днів тому

    😂