A good man who can openly communicate to and to express his emotions effectively to his partner is❤ the greatest blessing to a woman. Both embracing these skills with each other nurtures the relationship and sustains it. "One-sided relationships" are not relationships.
Sadly, most of the ppl I meet seem to struggle with that communication part unfortunately. Who knew it would be that hard finding a good single woman that's not toxic, that you're attracted to that is honest with good communication skills. Mann.
Sometimes he or she will not see the true value in you and how much of a blessing you are, until your gone, and they look for you in someone else and they can’t find you.
Leave him you are worth more than being verbally abused, shouting leads to anxiety, feeling overwhelmed and lack of confidence @@leslieiris7093PLEASE AS A WOMAN I ADVISE YOU TO LEAVE BEFORE THINGS ESCALATE YOU WERE NOT BORN TO BE ABUSED OR DEGRADED EVER KNOW YOUR WORTH AND LEAVE NEW FRESH CLEAN START!! LOVE YOURSELF!
I would like to ask a question. I'm sorry if this seems off-topic. My husband told me that it doesn't matter where he gets his appetite from as long as he comes home to eat (sexually). It makes me feel like he can't get horny with me, his wife.
@@skinman499A man that has good morals and can lead according. Caring, kind and loyal. A good man will take huge pride in the woman he choose and would want her to be the best version of herself (he would nurture and assist in her growth)
The spiritual journey is so TRUE! Finding God has made a big difference towards finding myself and truly heal before even looking for a relationship 🙏🏼
My ex told me once he was blessed to have an amazing girl who talked to him every day and hasn't got bored of him. He told me that. I said I was equally blessed to have a guy who liked me for me. How can we go from saying that to each other to what we are now? Broken up for 3 months 😭
I've been in that same situation! It was over 2 yrs ago. In retrospect, it was the best thing that could happen. His mouth said the positive things. His actions showed another side. I have peace!
@@denitrasmith7042 I am trying to see that him breaking up with me was maybe for the best. I am trying. But it gets hard since I had apparently more feelings for him than he did for me. And I put in more effort than he did. I try to keep telling myself this was for the best.
He was lieing to you. He’d rather have someone who wasn’t thinking abt him, that he had to chase or that would treat him the worst!! He prefers toxic women 😢
I’m very sorry that happened I pray that GOD heals your broken heart ❤️🩹 and HE gives you the man that will love you and treat you like the Queen 👑 that you are In JESUS Name Amen 🙏🏾
Thanks everyone 😢 I really appreciate your input and kind words. Yeah, this breakup has definitely screwed me and broke my heart 💔 I really thought he cared about me. And he knew he lost interest in me by month 3 of our 4 and half relationship, and he still continued leading me on. Giving me hope. I think that is what hurt the most. My hope being shattered. I don't know if I believe anything he ever told me 😭 but I am slowly healing. I deserve better. Someone who won't push me away, be cold to me and won't give me excuses. Who treats me like a priority and not an option. He also said I was just an option. That hurt me, too. Makes me wonder if he had other options on the side just in case we didn't work out 😭 and the fact that now he is hanging out with a girl he met a week before our breakup makes me wonder if the real reason he broke up with me was to be with other women 😭 I wasn't good enough. Sometimes I feel like that. But nope, I need to tell myself he wasn't good enough for me!!!!
All I did was attend to his needs and desires - but he had absolutely NO interest in any of my needs or desires AT ALL. I put my dreams on hold for his dreams and he just treated me like I was a slave and didn't give a shit.
I’m not looking for someone who just 🤮 their insides, but I’ve got to have some honesty and integrity when you are dealing with me. I’m basically a lie detector so don’t bother coming around me if you can’t handle that and me. 🏳️
❤ I hear you❤ Great reminders -Thank you so much! < words of wisdom - Embrace one another's differences and ways of thinking with good intentions and have a positive mindset and much better understanding to support one another! PEACE BE WITH YOU ❤🙏
Sadly, most of the ppl I meet seem to struggle with that communication part unfortunately. Who knew it would be that hard finding a good single woman that's not toxic, that you're attracted to that is honest with good communication skills. Mann.
@@jayc5756 when we consider the broader picture and history of how people were conditioned into BEing toxic we start to awaken. We heal ourselves. We pray for healing for family and friends. We pray healing for the world. Our parents were brought up a certain way. The environment and/or neighborhood influence us. Toxic relationships when we were younger but we thought was normal. Then the myriad of emotions that we have to allow ourselves to actually feel from 30 years ago so we no longer stuff them inside. Then the process of forgiveness for ourselves and others. And sometimes we want to hang onto the vibration of anger or protection. But then the Essence of Who we Are just has to BE because that's who we are in our core. And then allowing Ourselves to BEcome the L💖VE in the World because we choose to sow Love because we all deserve Love. ✨💖✨💖✨💖✨💖✨💖✨
Sometimes a man is too blind to see your positive actions towards him,so its best to ignore him when he won't see your natural worth and love ypurself more ,put that energy back into yourself
Omg. So refreshingly surprised to see a woman who understands the art of IGNORING a misbehaving man lol 😅😅 ignore him like the dirt on your shoe that you can clean next week and still use the shoes till then!!! There's nothing that a man hates more or responds to more than the woman he loves and wants ignoring him and his antics lol 😅 he will snap back to factory settings all by himself. I usually tell women all the yelling and fighting gets you nowhere. Just communicate to him clearly and if he pretends to not understand you just ignore and redirect your attention to yourself and your kids and your family. When he's ready to rejoin you he will tag along. 😅😅😅
@@misselle1430i stand on my word and sit back a see if he comprehend....i learned the hard way and as long as i know i tried to show and not just tell him all else does not matter when i silently walk away and stop turning around to look the past in the face ,i keep forward and stop wearing my heart under my shoe getting my feelings dragged by a man i gave pure unconditional love too,so be he does not see my love matters and not just as a weakness,i will continue to ignore him until he is can learn to stop trying to manipulate and learn to be a man to himself first before he can be my man,lil boys play with toys my azz aint a toy....i hold a woman's stance that lil girl mode left my system 45 years in the making of a genuine woman, i want but don't need a man and many men miss this point when a woman that holds her own says it or minds her business by living her own life and get defended when you see the game in his eyes and hear it when he opens his mouth,real is real fake can't waste my time❤🙏💯
@@misselle1430. You are so smart and a very intelligent person. . Arguing .and fighting will not get you anywhere... So good for you!. Keep being intelligent. We need to be a more of intelligent people !.😊❤
I needed to hear this, I love communicating to my partner about my emotions and thoughts but sometimes I forget he may be having a long tired and overwhelming day that sharing my thoughts at that moment can add more stress to what he is already going through. Waiting for a better time to share my thoughts when he’s more at ease is not dismissing my feelings but it’s knowing at that moment I need to be his peace and when he in a better space of mind I can share my thoughts with him with love.
I want my man, who previously was open and communicated… would open up again. He’s broken he said and now he doesn’t need anyone. I’ve stood by him as a friend, lover and support through EVERYTHING… it’s hard when you love someone for decades ❤
He used my ability to put him above my own needs against me. I compromised and was able to put myself in his shoes. Down to changing the type of toilet paper I used for over 30 years. It may seem small but small things shouldn’t be overlooked because I compromised on big things like empathizing with his lack of not being able to control his temperament when he was rattled about something. I would say it’s not about you, yet when I suggested counseling I became the enemy. All you can do is try but some of these people have a “slave mentality” and are never satisfied with anything you do, because to them you are their puppet who they are pulling the emotional strings with. I learned a lot from this last connection, mostly about myself and therefore I am grateful, happy and single and give thanks to the Most High for getting me out before it was too late.
Yeah alot of do a slave mentality due to childhood trauma, influces from others and lazy motives that easily satisfy them. Alot of people have a freaky BDSM mentality type in and outside the bedroom that causes nothing but abuse and no happiness added to it. Just like you mention slave mentality the bdsm mentality thinking is very similar to that if you really look at it.
We have the experience. He made me like a puppet and manipulated then he left us with my two daughters. He has other women and other family. A great liar and great manipulative person. I’m free and happy now being a single mom. It happens 5 years ago. Thanks God I’m satisfied with my two daughters. Living with my ex husband is stressing
Dysfunctional or toxic relationships are definitely NOT a blessing. A GOOD man is willing/able to communicate & express feelings while also capable of empathy & understanding those of his partner. It takes BOTH people being emotionally mature, open, nurturing, & willing to make the effort... Addressing conflict with humility & unselfish concern for each other's needs is important for growth & true connection.
I was the woman who were so focus on giving my best to the relationship my all I was blinded I automatically thought just because he said he loves me I thought he had same values same mindset as me. I understand now how important to observe a man actions and not his words
Nice video, I'm still struggling with the end of my 7-year relationship. My significant other, who I considered to be the love of my life, left me a month ago, and I can't seem to shake the constant thoughts of him. Despite my efforts to bring him back into my life, nothing has worked, and I feel frustrated and hopeless. I've tried to move on, but my heart still longs for him, and I don't see myself with anyone else. I apologize for sharing this here, but I just can't seem to stop missing him.
It's hard to let go of someone you love; I went through a similar experience when my 12-year relationship ended. I tried everything to get him back, and eventually I had to turn to a spiritual counselor for assistance.
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Here's what I do not understand - why are men constantly talking about how women are all about their feelings when since the beginning of time men have been absolutely unconcerned about the feelings and thoughts of women. Men have been blind to how women feel and the reality is men have beem wrongly socialized to think that they were created to 'lead' women when in fact both men and women were created to help and serve each other. Now if more men understood this philosophy there would be more successful relationships.
Good men tend to be givers but if they cannot communicate effectively, it will not create the bond that women desire. Social emotional intelligence is key! Touch they know, acts of service they do. Unfortunately, that’s not always enough.
It's because sometimes we are made to feel that our existence in the relationship is only to cater to our man and be submissive, and our needs goals and desires don't matter. So we slowly become worn out, and our motivation to please him decreases
Desires of BOTH partners should embrace their feelings for each other. Communication is necessary because most of us don't listen to understand, we only listen to respond. Listen and silent are spelled with the same letters. Think about that. Peace and love ✨️ ❤️
All I see is good women being underappreciated, neglected, not cared for. Beautiful, smart, caring, generous women. Taken for granted. Discarded. But where are the 'good' men ? 🤔 I don't see women worshipped, adored, feeling safe and loved. One-sided relationships all around, regardless of which generation. So depressing!
This is true, it's important as women to not to get caught up with our feelings so we dont get blind to how our guy is feeling... I found out the hard way. I hope I can forgive myself for the things I didn't know then.
I embraced that mindset of pouring into each other but I was the only one pouring since he turned out to be a narcissist and those people have a hole in their cup it’ll never get full
Thats called self-centered , that is a tool of the devil ! We are here to love each other unconditionally , as Jesus loves us all ! Relationships are eqal give and take , not one sided ! 😘
I find the opposite to be more commonly true. A good woman gets so lost in understanding her good man and his needs, desires, etc. that she and he, lose sight of her goodness and her equivalent needs, desires, and understanding of her.
So you think the secret to a woman getting a good husband is to not care about a man’s needs and desires? Would your husband confirm that he decided to marry you because you didn’t care about his needs?
Assuming he's even capable of communicating his feels instead of just sitting back and blaming our feelings for being in his way of ignoring all feelings
Sometimes men just do the most stupidest things to please other people without even thinking of his wife first then thinks later. It’s so hurtful but a woman in love puts all his feelings first worried to hurt his feelings.. I’m really getting over relationships already.. our job as ladies is always to be desired by your old man.. once he doesn’t desire you anymore relationship is pretty much useless unless you in for something in return
People think “good” means “right” nothing wrong with a good man but just bc he is a good man doesn’t make him the RIGHT man. The RIGHT man is gonna be good automatically bc good comes with being right! I think that’s why oftentimes good men get cheated on bc although they are good they aren’t right for that particular woman, same the other way around. You can be good but if you not right for that person then you will experience all the heartbreak that accompanies being a “good man” but not having that “good woman” to hold you down. If you’re a good man then instead of looking for a “good woman” look for the “RIGHT woman” and vise versa! Stop looking for somebody “good” and look for somebody who is RIGHT
Please help me with this. A friend of mine is having issues with their partner, not yet married but hoping for that. The guy is someone who is not emotionally involved in everything he is ,he is insensitive but somehow seems like he loves the girl, just can't love her right. On the other side , the girl is someone very soft and emotional, words of affirmation , communication, are her love language but they are failing to get along. How best can they work together to better the relationship?
I agree. As a woman it's so easy to get caught up in how I feel about things. True. ❤. Great point. I have to keep that thought front and center to think of his needs and desires.
I'm always giving. Very rarely do men even care about who I am let alone what I need. They are only interested in me in regard to how I make them feel and only that...
You're so right because soon as someone says something to make me upset my empathy is gone it's hard for me to see pass because I'm not going to love him like he my child he held to the same standard as my parents I forgive him as much as I forgive my parents
Thank you much for your videos!! You are helping a lot of us womens who are trying to understand more our mens! I think you are a blessing too to us! God bless you! Please don't stop with your videos! 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
You are so correct! I was this way and I felt this way n thought this way when I met the person I thought felt the same way....... However!!!! It was probably the Wrong man.... Because he could care less
So true! I can see how this can happen. But the only thing I can add to this is when you remind us of this just remember that we did not want to forget you, just try to be kind about it. ❤❤
What about when his desire is to stack you up with a whole lot of lesser females so he can have a back up in case? If he’s argumentative because he feels unheard and assumes you’ll be deaf to him too. Don’t even give it a chance, comes in bobbing and weaving trying to avoid blows that aren’t even coming. Can’t see value that way. 😣
I was the one pouring into him and constantly taking into account his needs desires and feelings. It was as you said, one sided. Now my next relationship ought to bring me as much as I give and nothing less. 😊
That is so true I've been in a relationship just like the way you we have to consider their feelings and their thoughts as well because sometimes us women are be consider about their thoughts and feelings as so basically is a two-way street 50%50% if I'm wrong🙂🙂🙂
Is has been a blessing listening to your UA-cam broadcast videos. I have been learning alot. You and your wife are a great blessing🙌thank you. I am in my 40s,I am not married I had a boyfriend when I was 19 and than became a Christian. I value myself and believe that God has a great plan for me when it comes to marriage,that's why I never wanted to comprise and also want to keep my body a heavan until the right person come. I didn't want to have children with no father around. I couldn't see myself with different man in bed as I value my body as temple of the Lord. ❤ Thank you once again and keep spreading the life changing message. God bless🙌
I ordered your book, Love after heartbreak, and the Journal. Ebook, all I received is a confirmation of purchase over 24 hours a go, and I have not received this book, I contacted them, and still, no book or response..
I agree completely my boyfriend is such a gift from god a true blessing I appreciate him so much. As I lost my husband 3 years ago he is also a widower
Stephen we get along we don't block each other out we take the time out for each other got feelings for him like he do for him check too see if he's okay daily❤
He was so mean expressing his desires that I couldn’t see past my own hurt emotions. Sure, he was telling me how he was feeling, but I’m so emotional I would just focus on the fact that he was yelling and maybe I never heard him. Now he’s gone and I’m devastated.
I needed this video right here, I needed to hear this. I think God brought me to this video, because I truly needed to hear this. Thank you father, hallelujah! I’ve been hearing mixed messages over the years, I did not know what to think. But now I know I’m doing the right thing. Thank you.
Yes that s true me I want to know how he feels and think, how we be. On the same page with out, having some thing in common and love. Honesty compromise,there you should not be any competition between each other . We should be able to work together it’s giving and taking situations. And one more thing never base a marriage or relationship bye what other people do. Or did.❤
I hung up in his face for scolding me like a child over something petty. I asked him what did he think about Robert F. Kennedy as a candidate on the ballot . He went on a rant, talking about Trump and all this other stuff he cannot control. He went on several rants, about Father’s Day, his son’s mother, etc. during the course of our situation-ship. He is a bully and immature, always trying to control me. He called me back. I didn’t answer. He left me a message stating we need to take a break. I texted him your wish is my command. I feel a big weight has been lifted off my shoulders, tired of pouring into a grown baby! Glad, I never slept with him! He will not have to worry about me calling him again.
A good man who can openly communicate to and to express his emotions effectively to his partner is❤ the greatest blessing to a woman. Both embracing these skills with each other nurtures the relationship and sustains it. "One-sided relationships" are not relationships.
Sadly, most of the ppl I meet seem to struggle with that communication part unfortunately. Who knew it would be that hard finding a good single woman that's not toxic, that you're attracted to that is honest with good communication skills. Mann.
Agree with you. Men who don’t how to communicate are annoying because they would either get defensive or try to gaslight you 🙄🙄
Yes!!!! It truly is !!!! ❤
A two way process ✨️
Ase' ❤❤❤
Sometimes he or she will not see the true value in you and how much of a blessing you are, until your gone, and they look for you in someone else and they can’t find you.
Do they come back? Would you take them back?
@@debragulbrand6296 it’s up to that individual and if her or she wants that person back in their life.
This makes sense 💯💯
I like this ! 👍
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Receiving a man who can communicate without yelling and saying degrading things when speaking on his feeling is a blessing.
I am with someone who yells all the time and that says degrading things.when he talks
Ther many.....set boundaries.....u shout at he when we still, am out!
@@leslieiris7093 How that makes you feel matters.
Leave him you are worth more than being verbally abused, shouting leads to anxiety, feeling overwhelmed and lack of confidence @@leslieiris7093PLEASE AS A WOMAN I ADVISE YOU TO LEAVE BEFORE THINGS ESCALATE YOU WERE NOT BORN TO BE ABUSED OR DEGRADED EVER KNOW YOUR WORTH AND LEAVE NEW FRESH CLEAN START!! LOVE YOURSELF!
@@leslieiris7093 he is insecure
My husband of 17 years is the biggest blessing in my life…. Not perfect as I am not perfect but he has made my life 100 times better by being in it!
❤❤❤❤❤Hearing this thx
CONGRATS & MANY MO HAPPY YEARS TOO U BOTH!!
🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤❤❤❤🙌🏾👌🏾💯
I would like to ask a question. I'm sorry if this seems off-topic. My husband told me that it doesn't matter where he gets his appetite from as long as he comes home to eat (sexually). It makes me feel like he can't get horny with me, his wife.
Can you please share what makes him so great?
A Good Man is a blessing 🙏🏾
Amen, and so hard to find nowadays
So true the problem is these good men don't see that their woman are good women
Define a good man?
@@skinman499A man that has good morals and can lead according. Caring, kind and loyal.
A good man will take huge pride in the woman he choose and would want her to be the best version of herself (he would nurture and assist in her growth)
@@wakondahazel5627 How are they a good man then? 😅
The spiritual journey is so TRUE! Finding God has made a big difference towards finding myself and truly heal before even looking for a relationship 🙏🏼
I made him more important than myself. My bad. Never again.
Nah don't do that, big mistake....I hope you find your king.....just let God do it for you, he will come
Live and learn right... been there too.
You did it for the wrong guy
@@MR.Nobody9.11 Yep, it goes both ways.
@@IMarie-xs5dg
Amen
My ex told me once he was blessed to have an amazing girl who talked to him every day and hasn't got bored of him. He told me that. I said I was equally blessed to have a guy who liked me for me. How can we go from saying that to each other to what we are now? Broken up for 3 months 😭
I've been in that same situation! It was over 2 yrs ago. In retrospect, it was the best thing that could happen. His mouth said the positive things. His actions showed another side. I have peace!
@@denitrasmith7042 I am trying to see that him breaking up with me was maybe for the best. I am trying. But it gets hard since I had apparently more feelings for him than he did for me. And I put in more effort than he did. I try to keep telling myself this was for the best.
He was lieing to you. He’d rather have someone who wasn’t thinking abt him, that he had to chase or that would treat him the worst!! He prefers toxic women 😢
I’m very sorry that happened I pray that GOD heals your broken heart ❤️🩹 and HE gives you the man that will love you and treat you like the Queen 👑 that you are In JESUS Name Amen 🙏🏾
Thanks everyone 😢 I really appreciate your input and kind words. Yeah, this breakup has definitely screwed me and broke my heart 💔 I really thought he cared about me. And he knew he lost interest in me by month 3 of our 4 and half relationship, and he still continued leading me on. Giving me hope. I think that is what hurt the most. My hope being shattered. I don't know if I believe anything he ever told me 😭 but I am slowly healing. I deserve better. Someone who won't push me away, be cold to me and won't give me excuses. Who treats me like a priority and not an option. He also said I was just an option. That hurt me, too. Makes me wonder if he had other options on the side just in case we didn't work out 😭 and the fact that now he is hanging out with a girl he met a week before our breakup makes me wonder if the real reason he broke up with me was to be with other women 😭 I wasn't good enough. Sometimes I feel like that. But nope, I need to tell myself he wasn't good enough for me!!!!
All I did was attend to his needs and desires - but he had absolutely NO interest in any of my needs or desires AT ALL. I put my dreams on hold for his dreams and he just treated me like I was a slave and didn't give a shit.
Emotionally unavailable he was/is 🙅♀️🙅♀️.
We teach people how to treat us by what we allow or don't tolerate. Learn from the experience and move on to greate with ❤
@@michelekeaton6392. You are right I have tolerated enough
It's easy to communicate, when you're used to telling the truth.
And YES, it is that simple.
Yes po
Yes po true po yang
I’m not looking for someone who just 🤮 their insides, but I’ve got to have some honesty and integrity when you are dealing with me. I’m basically a lie detector so don’t bother coming around me if you can’t handle that and me. 🏳️
I need a man who is open & honest
❤ I hear you❤ Great reminders -Thank you so much! < words of wisdom - Embrace one another's differences and ways of thinking with good intentions and have a positive mindset and much better understanding to support one another! PEACE BE WITH YOU ❤🙏
A man who knows his feelings and can communicate that?
Yes please. Xoxoxo 🥰😭💖✨
Sadly, most of the ppl I meet seem to struggle with that communication part unfortunately. Who knew it would be that hard finding a good single woman that's not toxic, that you're attracted to that is honest with good communication skills. Mann.
@@jayc5756 when we consider the broader picture and history of how people were conditioned into BEing toxic we start to awaken.
We heal ourselves.
We pray for healing for family and friends.
We pray healing for the world.
Our parents were brought up a certain way.
The environment and/or neighborhood influence us.
Toxic relationships when we were younger but we thought was normal.
Then the myriad of emotions that we have to allow ourselves to actually feel from 30 years ago so we no longer stuff them inside.
Then the process of forgiveness for ourselves and others.
And sometimes we want to hang onto the vibration of anger or protection.
But then the Essence of Who we Are just has to BE because that's who we are in our core.
And then allowing Ourselves to BEcome the L💖VE in the World because we choose to sow Love because we all deserve Love.
✨💖✨💖✨💖✨💖✨💖✨
Oh I will take at least 2 of them ❤
Date a woman. No man should be more emotional than a woman.lol.
@@AG-nn8lp- everyone has emotions. You like the suppressed exploder guys?
Sometimes a man is too blind to see your positive actions towards him,so its best to ignore him when he won't see your natural worth and love ypurself more ,put that energy back into yourself
Omg.
So refreshingly surprised to see a woman who understands the art of IGNORING a misbehaving man lol 😅😅 ignore him like the dirt on your shoe that you can clean next week and still use the shoes till then!!! There's nothing that a man hates more or responds to more than the woman he loves and wants ignoring him and his antics lol 😅 he will snap back to factory settings all by himself. I usually tell women all the yelling and fighting gets you nowhere. Just communicate to him clearly and if he pretends to not understand you just ignore and redirect your attention to yourself and your kids and your family. When he's ready to rejoin you he will tag along. 😅😅😅
@@misselle1430i stand on my word and sit back a see if he comprehend....i learned the hard way and as long as i know i tried to show and not just tell him all else does not matter when i silently walk away and stop turning around to look the past in the face ,i keep forward and stop wearing my heart under my shoe getting my feelings dragged by a man i gave pure unconditional love too,so be he does not see my love matters and not just as a weakness,i will continue to ignore him until he is can learn to stop trying to manipulate and learn to be a man to himself first before he can be my man,lil boys play with toys my azz aint a toy....i hold a woman's stance that lil girl mode left my system 45 years in the making of a genuine woman, i want but don't need a man and many men miss this point when a woman that holds her own says it or minds her business by living her own life and get defended when you see the game in his eyes and hear it when he opens his mouth,real is real fake can't waste my time❤🙏💯
@@misselle1430😂😂😂"snap back to factory settings lol" you are too funny
@@misselle1430. You are so smart and a very intelligent person. . Arguing .and fighting will not get you anywhere... So good for you!. Keep being intelligent. We need to be a more of intelligent people !.😊❤
@@misselle1430. And. Yes you are a very funny person😊😂
I needed to hear this, I love communicating to my partner about my emotions and thoughts but sometimes I forget he may be having a long tired and overwhelming day that sharing my thoughts at that moment can add more stress to what he is already going through. Waiting for a better time to share my thoughts when he’s more at ease is not dismissing my feelings but it’s knowing at that moment I need to be his peace and when he in a better space of mind I can share my thoughts with him with love.
That's beautiful that u r aware about his needs and the timing
You got that wisdom Sis.. Blessings
I want my man, who previously was open and communicated… would open up again. He’s broken he said and now he doesn’t need anyone. I’ve stood by him as a friend, lover and support through EVERYTHING… it’s hard when you love someone for decades ❤
A good man is definitely a blessing
Good people are a blessing to eachother ❤
FACTZ!!
❤ exactly.. Fairness
Being MINDFUL IS DEFINITELY A MUST for a HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP
❤❤❤
Absolutely ❤️🔥
He used my ability to put him above my own needs against me. I compromised and was able to put myself in his shoes. Down to changing the type of toilet paper I used for over 30 years. It may seem small but small things shouldn’t be overlooked because I compromised on big things like empathizing with his lack of not being able to control his temperament when he was rattled about something. I would say it’s not about you, yet when I suggested counseling I became the enemy. All you can do is try but some of these people have a “slave mentality” and are never satisfied with anything you do, because to them you are their puppet who they are pulling the emotional strings with. I learned a lot from this last connection, mostly about myself and therefore I am grateful, happy and single and give thanks to the Most High for getting me out before it was too late.
Yes. They are master manipulators. I am so grateful that you got free from that too.
My heart celebrates that for you.
Same. Sounds a little familiar. But I learned
Yeah alot of do a slave mentality due to childhood trauma, influces from others and lazy motives that easily satisfy them. Alot of people have a freaky BDSM mentality type in and outside the bedroom that causes nothing but abuse and no happiness added to it. Just like you mention slave mentality the bdsm mentality thinking is very similar to that if you really look at it.
We have the experience. He made me like a puppet and manipulated then he left us with my two daughters. He has other women and other family. A great liar and great manipulative person. I’m free and happy now being a single mom. It happens 5 years ago. Thanks God I’m satisfied with my two daughters. Living with my ex husband is stressing
Dysfunctional or toxic relationships are definitely NOT a blessing. A GOOD man is willing/able to communicate & express feelings while also capable of empathy & understanding those of his partner. It takes BOTH people being emotionally mature, open, nurturing, & willing to make the effort... Addressing conflict with humility & unselfish concern for each other's needs is important for growth & true connection.
BOTH people are the prize in any relationship
Women
@@Theunknown65no not at all
The woman is the prize. The man is the winner 🎉
I was the woman who were so focus on giving my best to the relationship my all I was blinded I automatically thought just because he said he loves me I thought he had same values same mindset as me. I understand now how important to observe a man actions and not his words
VALUES and Mindset?
Values Whst mindset?
Nice video, I'm still struggling with the end of my 7-year relationship. My significant other, who I considered to be the love of my life, left me a month ago, and I can't seem to shake the constant thoughts of him. Despite my efforts to bring him back into my life, nothing has worked, and I feel frustrated and hopeless. I've tried to move on, but my heart still longs for him, and I don't see myself with anyone else. I apologize for sharing this here, but I just can't seem to stop missing him.
It's hard to let go of someone you love; I went through a similar experience when my 12-year relationship ended. I tried everything to get him back, and eventually I had to turn to a spiritual counselor for assistance.
Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?
His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive
Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤
Poured too much into him that he took me for granted and diminished my value and called me worthless saying I never did anything for him.
Just know that you’re the exact opposite of what names he called you. A bully preys on the weak because he/she is weak.
Here's what I do not understand - why are men constantly talking about how women are all about their feelings when since the beginning of time men have been absolutely unconcerned about the feelings and thoughts of women. Men have been blind to how women feel and the reality is men have beem wrongly socialized to think that they were created to 'lead' women when in fact both men and women were created to help and serve each other. Now if more men understood this philosophy there would be more successful relationships.
Good men tend to be givers but if they cannot communicate effectively, it will not create the bond that women desire. Social emotional intelligence is key! Touch they know, acts of service they do. Unfortunately, that’s not always enough.
It's because sometimes we are made to feel that our existence in the relationship is only to cater to our man and be submissive, and our needs goals and desires don't matter. So we slowly become worn out, and our motivation to please him decreases
Desires of BOTH partners should embrace their feelings for each other. Communication is necessary because most of us don't listen to understand, we only listen to respond. Listen and silent are spelled with the same letters. Think about that. Peace and love ✨️ ❤️
All I see is good women being underappreciated, neglected, not cared for. Beautiful, smart, caring, generous women. Taken for granted. Discarded. But where are the 'good' men ? 🤔
I don't see women worshipped, adored, feeling safe and loved. One-sided relationships all around, regardless of which generation. So depressing!
This is true, it's important as women to not to get caught up with our feelings so we dont get blind to how our guy is feeling... I found out the hard way. I hope I can forgive myself for the things I didn't know then.
Absolutely. Exactly
Both sides have to have open communicate from the start in expressing their wants and needs in a union that is a blessing. ❤❤❤
A good man is a husband who acknowledges that you become 1 and not throw up other ppl in your face and value money & mistakes over marriage
I had just initiated that conversation and he ghosted me the next day. I felt like a fool.
I embraced that mindset of pouring into each other but I was the only one pouring since he turned out to be a narcissist and those people have a hole in their cup it’ll never get full
Thats called self-centered , that is a tool of the devil ! We are here to love each other unconditionally , as Jesus loves us all ! Relationships are eqal give and take , not one sided ! 😘
A good man is a blessing to a woman😍💕
I have met a guy. He is my blessings❤
Both people matter in a healthy relationship
Most women see their man as a blessing and are beyond reciprocal in my experience
I find the opposite to be more commonly true. A good woman gets so lost in understanding her good man and his needs, desires, etc. that she and he,
lose sight of her goodness and her equivalent needs, desires, and understanding of her.
So you think the secret to a woman getting a good husband is to not care about a man’s needs and desires? Would your husband confirm that he decided to marry you because you didn’t care about his needs?
Assuming he's even capable of communicating his feels instead of just sitting back and blaming our feelings for being in his way of ignoring all feelings
This definitely goes both ways. The capacity to feel worthy enough to receive and accept love is just as important.
Yes you don't want to be left out on time together
I am set free in the mighty name of Lord Jesus, Amen 🙏🏽❤️
Amen 🙏🏾
Right. Its not always about us.
Sometimes men just do the most stupidest things to please other people without even thinking of his wife first then thinks later. It’s so hurtful but a woman in love puts all his feelings first worried to hurt his feelings.. I’m really getting over relationships already..
our job as ladies is always to be desired by your old man..
once he doesn’t desire you anymore relationship is pretty much useless unless you in for something in return
People think “good” means “right” nothing wrong with a good man but just bc he is a good man doesn’t make him the RIGHT man. The RIGHT man is gonna be good automatically bc good comes with being right! I think that’s why oftentimes good men get cheated on bc although they are good they aren’t right for that particular woman, same the other way around. You can be good but if you not right for that person then you will experience all the heartbreak that accompanies being a “good man” but not having that “good woman” to hold you down. If you’re a good man then instead of looking for a “good woman” look for the “RIGHT woman” and vise versa! Stop looking for somebody “good” and look for somebody who is RIGHT
Yes thats a very accurate concept. Being more conscious of each others feelings. 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿❤
I’m not blind to how my man feels.. me I observe him listen to him pay attention to everything that involves him.
Yes Indeed
I have always embraced his feelings and desires. And he did too for a few years, but he changed and started ignoring me and drooling over other women
Please help me with this. A friend of mine is having issues with their partner, not yet married but hoping for that. The guy is someone who is not emotionally involved in everything he is ,he is insensitive but somehow seems like he loves the girl, just can't love her right. On the other side , the girl is someone very soft and emotional, words of affirmation , communication, are her love language but they are failing to get along. How best can they work together to better the relationship?
My communication experience with my husband had been he kept silent bc he was uncomfortable talking to express his personal perspective
I listened very well.
You have a good point.
Understanding each needs as a man and woman, is very important.
Thank you for the topic you shared.
I agree. As a woman it's so easy to get caught up in how I feel about things. True. ❤. Great point. I have to keep that thought front and center to think of his needs and desires.
I'm always giving. Very rarely do men even care about who I am let alone what I need. They are only interested in me in regard to how I make them feel and only that...
You're so right because soon as someone says something to make me upset my empathy is gone it's hard for me to see pass because I'm not going to love him like he my child he held to the same standard as my parents I forgive him as much as I forgive my parents
This is so good and true. Thanks for sharing ❤
✨️Good reminder. Thanks.
Amen! We are BOTH the prize and should be treated as precious
Hmmmmm... That's very true, and hopefully when asked he will tell you how he's feeling.
Thank you much for your videos!! You are helping a lot of us womens who are trying to understand more our mens! I think you are a blessing too to us! God bless you! Please don't stop with your videos! 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
This is so true, a good man and a good woman it should be to each other
It makes the relationship way more beautiful
You are so correct! I was this way and I felt this way n thought this way when I met the person I thought felt the same way.......
However!!!! It was probably the Wrong man.... Because he could care less
There is no one, that is more important than another, but Cant say Ive seen many men wanting healthy relationships. It takes 2
Men need to RECOGNIZE this as a Blessing!
What kind of exfoliator do you use my body has too many hyperpigmentation please
This comes natural for me but I know now to start small. There are levels to this thing
Loved this video, thank you! ✨
Very true I agree ❤
So true! I can see how this can happen. But the only thing I can add to this is when you remind us of this just remember that we did not want to forget you, just try to be kind about it. ❤❤
What about when his desire is to stack you up with a whole lot of lesser females so he can have a back up in case? If he’s argumentative because he feels unheard and assumes you’ll be deaf to him too. Don’t even give it a chance, comes in bobbing and weaving trying to avoid blows that aren’t even coming. Can’t see value that way. 😣
I was the one pouring into him and constantly taking into account his needs desires and feelings. It was as you said, one sided.
Now my next relationship ought to bring me as much as I give and nothing less. 😊
This guy is a blessing in my life🎉got blue eyes happy birthday honey🎉
Happy 🎈🎂 birthday
Love kiwana southern God bless ya jeff
Happy belated jeff
Thanks Jeff for remembering my birthday hope too see ya Jeff that day ya brightan my day
That is so true I've been in a relationship just like the way you we have to consider their feelings and their thoughts as well because sometimes us women are be consider about their thoughts and feelings as so basically is a two-way street 50%50% if I'm wrong🙂🙂🙂
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Is has been a blessing listening to your UA-cam broadcast videos.
I have been learning alot.
You and your wife are a great blessing🙌thank you.
I am in my 40s,I am not married I had a boyfriend when I was 19 and than became a Christian.
I value myself and believe that God has a great plan for me when it comes to marriage,that's why I never wanted to comprise and also want to keep my body a heavan until the right person come.
I didn't want to have children with no father around.
I couldn't see myself with different man in bed as I value my body as temple of the Lord.
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Thank you once again and keep spreading the life changing message.
God bless🙌
I ordered your book, Love after heartbreak, and the Journal. Ebook, all I received is a confirmation of purchase over 24 hours a go, and I have not received this book, I contacted them, and still, no book or response..
Been married for 26 years very happily. His wants matter!!
When he loves her right. She will out love him. That's why women stay after infidelity. Most men will not do the same.
A good man won't cheat.
@@cherrylane79that's not the point ahe was making. Comprehension skills needed
Women statistically are more likely to be unfaithful
@Kim-ok5tn Every one is entitled to their own opinion. That was my point. Trust and believe I have excellent comprehensive skills. Haveva blessed day.
I doubt she was referring to you cos she tagged the other person @@latresawilliams1158
AMEN!❤
What constitutes a "good" man? Some of the worst Souls seem to believe they are God's gift to women.
Thank you.
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I agree completely my boyfriend is such a gift from god a true blessing I appreciate him so much. As I lost my husband 3 years ago he is also a widower
Thank you for allowing God use you Sir
Stephen we get along we don't block each other out we take the time out for each other got feelings for him like he do for him check too see if he's okay daily❤
He was so mean expressing his desires that I couldn’t see past my own hurt emotions. Sure, he was telling me how he was feeling, but I’m so emotional I would just focus on the fact that he was yelling and maybe I never heard him.
Now he’s gone and I’m devastated.
Quans voice when imitating Mickey 😂❤
“ it is Very easy as a women to get so caught up into how you feel about things,that you become blind to how he is feeling “ Real Life 💔
Relationships/Marriage is about serving the other person before yourself.
I needed this video right here, I needed to hear this. I think God brought me to this video, because I truly needed to hear this. Thank you father, hallelujah! I’ve been hearing mixed messages over the years, I did not know what to think. But now I know I’m doing the right thing. Thank you.
Yes im great women im respect my relationships im not blander 🎉🎉
Amen ❤🙏♥️🙏♥️
Great reminder 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Yes Stephan thank you for becoming a blessing 🙌🏽 for this message to resonate 😊
Yes that s true me I want to know how he feels and think, how we be. On the same page with out, having some thing in common and love. Honesty compromise,there you should not be any competition between each other . We should be able to work together it’s giving and taking situations. And one more thing never base a marriage or relationship bye what other people do. Or did.❤
🎉 Thanks for the information 😊
This is great advice. I needed to hear it.
I hung up in his face for scolding me like a child over something petty. I asked him what did he think about Robert F. Kennedy as a candidate on the ballot . He went on a rant, talking about Trump and all this other stuff he cannot control. He went on several rants, about Father’s Day, his son’s mother, etc. during the course of our situation-ship. He is a bully and immature, always trying to control me. He called me back. I didn’t answer. He left me a message stating we need to take a break. I texted him your wish is my command. I feel a big weight has been lifted off my shoulders, tired of pouring into a grown baby! Glad, I never slept with him! He will not have to worry about me calling him again.
So true❤