So I was molested at 9 by my aunt my mothers sister that she trusted to help out and move her in on several occasions I’m 45 now since 9 she turned me out on drugs, prostitution failing class and my life ain’t been the same since want to tell what happened been happening thru now 😢 where do I start live in Lancaster ca every guy I try to date believe they own me my trust issues are screwed up I would skip classes ditch to roam the streets meeting men getting raped I have a fortune to tell currently been involved with weird older creepy old men from 69 -85 for directions would love to release the pressure 😢
I’ll share my story with weight loss. I had the sleeve too, I went from 288 to 160. When you go from being a larger woman to a small woman you are treated differently. It’s a mixture of being desirable to the masses and you gaining confidence, dressing better and more. I gained a lot of attention. The difference between her and I is I didn’t let that go to my head. Some people seek attention, love, and validation. I didn’t. I think what made me not get big headed when it came to men was me realizing “this man wouldn’t want the old me, this seem more physical than mental” men I’ve known for YEARS who saw the bigger me didn’t want me. But now that I’m smaller they are all over me. I’m good, I hold grudges and remember the past. Lol attention is a drug…
You are absolutely correct on all your points and it shows your character as a human being to not allow false confidence and conceit to ruin your foundation and principles.
How do you know that ? She may not have even worked at the job she met the dude at when she was 300+ pounds, she could have gotten the job after the fact for all you know, please state where you’re getting your proof or facts.
There was a CEO that got rid of people who were cheating with other workers, no matter what... he said, " If your own spouse can't trust you, why should I? " More companies should do that.
@@symand3789Zero...but he also said if he had to, he would not care because it was important to cut the cancer out before it spread and killed company morale.
There’s a lot to unpack in this interview. This woman settled for her husband he wasn’t the it for her he was her backup. With weight loss the men that she was really attracted to started paying her attention and she no longer wanted her husband. This is a real lesson
Imagine loving your wife unconditionally…through her worse times…and she improved herself only to give her best to another man…what a horrible human being….
I'm sure your mother can say the same, what have you built? Owned? How many kids do you have with child support orders. I'm glad I left yall dusty ass bandits alone 20yrs ago. I'm sure you've done worse yet you're still breathing. She's forgiven and human unlike you
I totally understand how she have felt when it come to losing that amount off weight, but to turn your back on your family is just crazy! I’ve personally experienced being more desired after losing 90lbs. However… it opened my eyes to just how shallow men was and completely turned me off. I personally appreciated the man I was with before my weight loss even more.
I got into a relationship with a coworker who was overweight.The other coworkers use to talk crazy about her.She lost weight & turned around & cheated with one of the guys who talked about her.He told me soon as it happened.She said she made a mistake.I just cut her off.
I was dating this plus size girl I was fine with the way I met her, after a month getting to know I found out she had started a weight loss surgery i wasn’t okay with it but I was willing to overlook it, but she started saying things like ooh I can’t wait till I lose of this weight I’m going to this and that, and the final nail in the coffin was when she told me do I know how many men wants to get with her I knew then and there I had to end it
You gotta think a lot of big people dealing with internal issues. It’s some that’s extremely happy being big so I don’t wanna say all but yeah a lot of us have adddictive personalities too. We literally wear our addiction on our sleeves.
What she failed to realize is her husband loved her while she was at a larger size meaning he loved her unconditionally. The man you attracted after losing weight wouldn't have looked your way. Being desired more by YOUR HUSBAND was the key!
The thing about that is her husband loved what she perceived as the lowest version of herself. When she lost the weight and became the higher version of herself she left him behind with her old self
This is why you can’t be in a relationship with someone when you’re not happy with yourself no matter how much a person loves you it will never be enough until you love yourself you bleed on people who didn’t cut you. No judgment
What are u talking about it was the husband that settled for a 400 pound woman ... her didn't like her ever u see he moved on amd got married .. he didn't want that fat girl lol
It wasn't the weight loss to blame it was the mindset. This was the person she always were. She is an addict, similar to drug addicts. It was just dormant. Her first addiction was food then after the surgery it was attention and sex. When you have those surgeries you are supposed to go through therapy too. I guarantee she skipped that part.
I love your comment because it actually explains the root of the issue. Her weight loss only revealed the person that she actually was, not one that was created.
I just recently dropped 40lbs and counting, I’m also in the nursing program. My man stuck by me when I was 280lbs! I got really sick and he went with me to the hospital. The dr said she’s FAT and need to loose weight. My hubby cooked for me healthy delicious meals and restored my health. I don’t care about attention. I don’t care about the money I will be making. I will always remember the man that took on me and my two kids from a previous marriage. Unless he steps out on me, I can never!!
It’s sad how so many women are cheering her on..like this is the same behavior that they want to date wt men over lol knowing damn well that they pick aint shhh in the 1st place
Everytime I watch a video, I can’t help but credit how great of an interviewer he is! He’s very strategic with his responses and how he uses his words. I absolutely love it
I concur! I love how he jumps in and how he asks questions that the audience is thinking about! It’s like watching a movie and the “who did it” scene happens. And he always throws in moral compass questions for the straight laced ppl like myself because I just wanna know why you did something.
She had love and purposely threw it away. This amount of betrayal is sickening. This man loved her unconditionally and she treated him like trash. She tells the story so nonchalantly because she never truly and equally cared for her ex. Somehow she attempts to make herself the victim of the 'other man'. She's the worst kind of woman.
Kevin Samuels talked about this ad nauseum. That women wreck their own homes exactly like this. And these women are raising out girls and boys because women largely get custody. She's going to indirectly or directly teach her children to likewise be irresponsible with their emotional control.
I just went through this........ This is the worst kind of woman but she will forever live with the guilt of being trashy. Nothing like a trashy woman no man will ever truly respect her. Shame when this kind of woman is raising a teenage girl showing her these ways and have the new male friend buying the daughter things as well.... sickening but I keep them all in prayer I dont hate her God will deal with her
She said she knew it was real when she got the divorce papers but honestly she knew it was real when her lil boyfriend gave her a reality check. She was honest in the story but it really sounds like she didn’t love her husband until she realized he wasn’t coming back
Nawll the husband had to settle for her and I believe she knew he settled for her a fat lazy women... that got surgery became delusional and is now back fat
I agree . She didn’t value what he brought to the table . She thought he was weak and deep down didn’t think he had the balls to leave . I appreciate her brutal honesty in the interview … as hard as it was to hear .
@@fayeola6616she was disrespectful too she got pregnant by that other man. Meaning it was unprotected sex and if she knew he had a girlfriend then what made her think she was the only one? She could’ve gave him something.
@@TrappinAnonymous the child was definitely apart of it. She was neglecting her duties to her man AND child. She literally said she was ready to leave them both.
@@TrappinAnonymousyea that child is definitely in the equation. Due to her selfish desires and wants, her child can’t have both parents in the home on a daily basis.
I was her husband. Not literally of course. But I lived through the horrors of betrayal, the tragedy of my broken family, the loss of time with my son, the shame of having to carry the moniker " Divorced" added to my name for the rest of my life, the sadness of people thinking I was the guilty party in our divorce (Because I refused to talk about what happened), etc, all because my ex felt she needed some "excitement", even though I took care of our family and was supportive of her and her widowed Mum. Of Course, I had to take a level of accountability though, and I look a hard look into the mirror to see what I could've done better as a husband. This tragedy was a gift though. I divorced her, deepened my relationship with Christ, became red-pilled, travelled across South America, and South East Asia where I ultimately met the love of my life, a precious woman of God who is my best friend, and true helper in every sense of the word. Thank God for Romans 8:28. Thank God for Christ who gives new beginnings. Thank God who gives beauty for ashes.
I FEEL YA BRO, SO IN OTHER WORDS WHEN A LADY IS BOARD SHE CAN STEP OUT, SHE SAID DUDE WAS EVERTHING BUT SOMTHING WAS MISSING, YOU CAN HAVE 99 GREAT POINTS BUT THAT 1 POINT CAN BE A EXCUSE FOR HER TIPPING OUT..
@@music3n1entbruh, this is universal. It isn’t specific to any gender. Humans are lazy and will take the easy fix. Talk to your mate before the marriage. Learn how to effectively communicate.
Women Like to be Cuddled Like Wounded Little Birds And Escape all forms of Accountability Then Turn Around And Somehow Make It About Her So Now She's The Victim ? That's Wild My G ! She Had a Man That Treated her So Good even Despite her Obesity Yet She Felt That's The Keyword Felt Undesirable & Bored and Wanted To Spice Things up With a Bum *** Nigga And Turned around and single handedly Wrecked a Happy Home In search for Validation And Adventure Only for Dude To Turn around and Peel Out Like It Ain't Nobody's Bussiness Dude Said Peace And Bounced Now She Is left Alone SMH These Modern Chicks are for The Streets
The devil really had a hold on her. My goodness. I’m glad she shared this because it’s a warning to other women. I don’t even have male friends outside of my husband! Don’t hold long convos with guys. None of that. Anyone is capable of what she did so it’s important to keep you guard up and guard yourself/marriage
Yes! Alot like the Tyler Perry 'Temptation' movie. Glad no one got physically harmed or infected with disease.. i hope her husband finds a partner that truly loves him
I’m so happy for him too. He deserved better. Some people are only meant to be in your life temporarily and unfortunately some of them are spouses like this woman. I hope his new marriage last a lifetime.
The one thing I do agree with her on is that marriage takes a whole lot of work. This September 8th, my wife and I celebrated 27yrs of marriage and let me tell you, we put in the work and it has been worth it. Till this day we have never cheated on each other. Thank God for that.
That is real. She thought that she was settling the whole time. So when she haf options, she stepped out. Classic, fuck around and find out. She fucked around and found out that she wasn't shit, and her husband is actually the desireable one.
Crazy that she calls the dating pool trash as if she's not part of the problem. What good man in his right mind would want a single mother who destroyed her marriage to a good man and aborted her child because she was afraid her husband wasn't the father?
This interview confirmed everything I've always said about cheating married women: 1. They'll NEVER tell you the whole truth when caught. 2. There's usually more than one sex partner other than the one they are caught with. If he didn't ask her about other lovers, she would NEVER have mentioned it. Trust me, there's more scandalous details than she let out. Still I applaud her for taking some measure of responsibility.
So let me get this straight….he didn’t emotionally neglect her,he didn’t physically neglect her ,he ain’t emotionally cheat or physically cheat,he wasn’t beating on her ,he was a good man and she chose to cheat on him? Just because she felt fine again? And looked good again??? Please somebody tell me if I heard this correctly because omg that poor man😭😭😭
Woman loves chaos believe me, if you don’t give it to them, especially when you are a guy who is too loving treating her right all the time always available believe me 70% of the time they will cheat on you. Why (familiarity) which deems you monotonous ( boring).
In the current relationship climate I highly doubt it. Such degenerate behavior from his big ass wife and he had a child with this loser. A MGTOW lifestyle is the only answer for a man such as himself.
She had to go to a new state because everyone in her own state probably already knew of her, or already had her already. She wouldn’t have been able to date and stay where she was
I lost over 100 pounds. I’m very fortunate to have my husband. He loved me at my heaviest, always made me feel special, and love me the same today. I love my husband’s soul and spirit. No amount of weight loss would ever change that. Keep God at the head of your marriage and in every aspect of your life. The Lord Will be done in Jesus name! Amen.
She was crushed... when she found out that he was married... when she was married the entire time.... how the HELL!!!! This is how stupid some people are. She is so unworthy of trust from anybody, bruh. Jesus .H Christ . She was so willing to throw away her family for betrayal.... her man did right and ditched her fam.
She talked about how he is a gem of a man and how she was so lucky to have him! He showed her Agape love. Then she says, "But I wasn't being fulfilled in the marriage...smh Im so glad he remarried, and i hope he's getting the unconditional love he deserves!"❤
Good for her husband, dont allow ppl to treat you any kinda way, hopefully he found someone who respects and honors him, fellas you deserve to be respected!
I am so thankful I learned these hard lessons early. A good man is to be appreciated just as much as a good woman deserves to be appreciated. Cheating is intoxicating because somehow in the twisted brain it’s fun to be sneaky. Once you lose your person all of sudden the side relationship isn’t as fun anymore. Crazy stuff
And so glad her ex found someone that actually appreciates him and treats him with respect. He did deserve so much more respect and so does his daughter.
Interviewer: "Do you think that he could've married that girl who lost 130lbs?" Her: "Honestly probably not" Interviewer: "Would he had wanted to?" Her: "Oh I look pretty amazing so he probably would've wanted to" A Narcissist at it's finest smh.
Upon further review, I have a though that what he was REALLY trying to ask was “Do you think he could have pulled YOU at your LOWER WEIGHT???” Or rather, “Would he have even had a chance to be romantically, sexually, maritally involved with the YOU that weighed 130 less, if y’all had met later in life?????”
@coolerthancj94 I'm glad you had that epiphany. I knew that's was what he meant from the start. For me, he was pretty clear on the questions he was asking.
@@knocc1 Well, not so much as an epiphany. I am a guy, and I’m guessing you are also. I was driving in heavy traffic when I listened to the interview for the first time, so I missed the nuance in the question. But when I re-listened in a quieter, non-driving environment, my antenna went up. Though she heard the WORDS of the question, her answer, no matter if she picked up the nuance or not, was STILL gonna be “No he would NOT have been able to have me but Yes (…..because I was so great and sexy and fly and the ish….) he absolutely would have wanted me. ”
I’m being completely honest when I say, if you listen to her closely she is exemplifying everything that is a covert narcissist… the duality, the deep sense of regret but tied with some sort of ‘rationale’. It’s insane but this gave me a sense of peace to know that these people do get their karma.
@@alisasmith1951 You can see the delusion of the modern woman. We can all see she did not deserve him. While she convinced herself he was not enough. This is the curse of hypergamy.
All these comments, and not ONE woman sympathized with the Husband or mentioned him at all. I just hear "she held herself accountable." Now that's crazy! She just had an AMAZING guy. Selfishness is inside and factors makes it materialize, and with her the attention brought hers to the surface. DOPE page and Interview Sir! DEFINITELY Subscribed.
I feel the same way. It seems like the women are more so cheering her for being honest and open. Like that not point at all. Also did you catch end when she said they co parent but she move to another state with her daughter? I'm sorry, but I am Damm, you cheat on and get to keep my child moving to another state
Question of do you think he felt betrayed? I didn't take that into consideration. Men love working out with women buy the surgery so swift/massive like you blindsided.
I wanted the interviewer to ask about the baby a bit more. As well as if she still wanted the man. Because both of these thoughts were glaring! I kept waiting for him to ask!
When she said they don’t make them like him no more I felt that. If you have a great person in your life don’t take them for granted. And let no one dupe you out of your blessing of a great marriage. So many of us often take a great thing and ruin it because the very thing we ask for we don’t know how to appreciate it until it’s gone. Salute to great men and women who are out here honoring one another for real. Her story truly is a cautionary tale and I salute her for having the courage to speak her truth. Oh and like she said the grass is greener where you water it!
I’ll share my story. Wife got cancer lost her weight, hair, breast and her mind in the process. Did everything to comfort her in the process. Married for 7 years at the time. She goes through treatment and beats cancer. All of features come back, she gets her health back and becomes the woman she was but better than she was after cancer. She then cheats and i find out but i keep silent. I just said we’re getting a divorce and that she has to leave. I get called all kinds of names, and lashed out upon but she eventually leaves with our two kids. For about 6 months everybody falls in line to the new life apart. About 7-8 months into beating cancer in came back but this time she’s alone. It came back more aggressive and she died in a few months. I got my kids back. Due to us not getting the divorce finalized the army gave my family the life insurance policy. All in all staying calm and true to myself karma came back around with a price. I got everything i wanted (my family) but they lost their mom and I’m torn on that aspect but life is good now. No more drama no more stress.
@@Cleanwithmenow1 So it was fine for his wife to cheat on him after he stood by her through her first run of cancer??? We all should act and be right b/c you never know justice/karma will come back knocking on our door.
The fact she grabbed her 1 year old baby just in case he was mad putting her child in harms way and laughed about it shows how bad of a person she is, she spewing out all the hate she felt when she was overweight to other people and only she matter nobody else, wow!
@user-li7lt4xq2t I didn't get the impression that she grabbed the baby for the purpose of using as a shield. She was already holding the baby when they were discussing her infidelity... sad all the same. She is being accountable for her actions and not blaming anyone but herself. 💌
I love the way she says that she has relocated this means I kinda want to make my ex husband suffer by not being able to see his kid easily even tho he did nothing wrong! She's bitter but acting like everything is cool. She's a terrible person who cheated and lied and didn't even care that she hurt her husband. She was willing to give up her family for a feeling! She even cheated on the side piece with other guys. Stay away from this kind of person trust me she has no real remorse!
Yeah I low key heard that too. I was thinking why would she take her daughter away from her dad. If anything she should give the daughter to the dad, so the daughter can have a stable home!
This is a cautionary tale for couples, married ppl, and folks succeeding on their fitness journeys. Also Its good to hear kindness shown in adversity. Alot of ppl are not this honestly
Woman: “He is such an amazing man. They don’t make men like him anymore.” Interviewer: “Would you get back with him if you could” Woman: “Absolutely not. I was unfulfilled.” So many lessons in this video.
@@AnimikeeGawbodyI couldn’t believe what I was hearing, I felt so pained in my soul. Anyway lesson I take from this is don’t be a pushover in marriage…can NEVER be too nice too a woman because look at the outcome..
YES... I caught on to that too and was puzzled... like WHAT a contradiction. It's because she needs that piece of feeling "unfulfilled" to justify why she started to cheat to begin with.
I’m so happy the ex husband got a happy ending and respected himself! But not only did she cheat on her husband she put another man that didn’t even want her before her CHILD which is so crazy and lame.
He will be find because he understands what a lot of people don't...Love is never contingent upon the other person. He loves her still and always will but he also knows that she is not mentally, spiritually, and emotionally ready for love. For too many people love is transactional, a feeling, but real love is energy embodied within the self. People who know love knows I can love you but not be satisfied with your behavior. You can love 1000 people, but accepting the behavior of a 1000 people is different.
@@soppres7406 Love is something a man radiates from himself. In order for a man to be oblivious to a woman who cheats like she did, could not possibly love himself. He remarried so quickly because like many individuals like himself he didn't learn the lesson life was trying to teach him...instead he is doing what he is "supposed" to do. He will either get that same lesson or age out the game. He is goofy af.
Girl. That is called LUST. Nobody falls in love faster than two coworkers already in relationships 🙄People really take their lives as a joke and the lives of others as just a trifle thing.. like nothing to just so easily discard them. It begins in the mind and if anyone wants to leave spouse and children and discard all responsibility, you’ve been duped by the enemy. She needs a deliverance. She is SO full of herself and prideful. Just because folks loose weight don’t mean their heart or soul is also dropping weight that’s necessary. She was obviously not grounded and rooted as a person and certain not in Christ. What a shame man. I feel sorry for her ex husband and child. What a stupid way to throw your life away. This is tragic.
Yelp! Just an insecure woman that had been fat all of her life and wanted to see what it was to be desired by other men when she lost weight! Now she's on UA-cam confessing her stupidity! And still looking overweight!
Limerence. If you've never heard the term look up the word "limerence". Every teenager starting puberty should be taught about so that they know how to properly navigate those confusing emotions and the illusion.
The fact that she “cheated” on her side piece too, means she was sleeping on her husband with multiple people. She was playing with that man life. I love that he’s literally playing with her mental but treating her kindly. Many of us don’t realize how strong a person has to be to do that. Strength isn’t the one who can win a fight but the one who knows how to calm and cool their anger.
I respectfully disagree. I'd say pain is the only true teacher for a woman. treating them nicely or holding it all in like a stonewall does nothing but paint a target on the next sucker
@@TheForkOnTheLeftist As she admits to being a selfish person, having to watch him do just fine, or possibly flourish, without her AND in spite of her betrayal…. while she has to wade in the pissy dating pool….. That seems to have gotten her attention!!!!
Women are consequential learners. It's sad that so many women have to literally destroy their lives, including the lives of others in order to finally "see the light" and change. But most of the time, it's already too late. This adulterous woman's story is not unique at all. She's literally just another statistic.
When you said “it’s interesting how you said you don’t want to step out of your relationship but emotionally you’ve stepped out” JUST WOW Chris ! That was right on the nose. People don’t understand.
I respect the hell out of her EX!! He handle the situation perfectly cause it had all the ingredients to go left but didn’t because he had his emotions in check. I wishing for his level of mental strength in situations cause just from this interview I can tell she was cocky as hell with it when all of this was going on😅.
His emotions were in check because he knew we settled for a fat 400 pound woman that was to lazy to workout and got surgery and became delusional... now she's back fat
So… she says she wouldn’t go back because she was unfulfilled then turns around and says she should have fought for her marriage. One of those is a lie. 😂
She only regrets how she feels, not how she treated her ex-husband. Her mentality is that of filth, and I don't feel sorry for any repercussions that she experiences.
This video sent me into so mamy emotions. This is the type of woman that destroy honest men, then send them back into the world hurt and beaten up mentally and emotionally. No wonder some men have trust issues and are emotionally unavailable. She did her "big one"🙄 with this! Disgusting
I just realized she was willing to use their daughter as a human shield if the father snapped and went after her. I’m not saying that was her actual intentions, but when you pick your daughter up just in case, that goes to show how selfish she really is.
Don’t let this go over your head, lots of women have done this, she’s just one of the few who accept accountability and tell her truth, trust me, she’s one of maaaaaany!!!!! This is why a man shouldn’t be too nice, I bet if she knew her man was a fireball she wouldn’t have played with that man like that, I bet you!!! And “the dating pool has sewage in it,” chick, you’re one of the fecal matter in that damn pool! The nerve! 😂
Thats why a man shouldn't be to nice. Thats bull. Men just need to pick women who appreciate it. Yall always want the real pretty gurls who think about themselves. There are women who can appreciate a man who do good things for them and I am one of them. I wouldn't trade him for the world.
❤true she fell for the other man and he had a wife and she had the nerves to because he had someone else she felt betrayed lied to when that’s exactly what she doing to her husband 😮❤❤😊
Do you call this “honest??” I don’t know what you’re looking at, but try telling the people she hurt, betrayed and insulted by her actions that she was being “honest.” Disgusting!!
@@lordshango4184I mean yes. Short terms, being honest is telling the truth and accepting accountability for your actions.. good or bad. Thats what she did.
@@dalmeshasloss7765, I don’t know where you see/hear honesty, truth and accountability. I don’t know where you see/hear regret, humility and/or taking responsibility. There’s a huge difference between recounting a wrong you did and genuinely being remorseful, penitent and contrite! You bet she’d still be in that adulterous relationship if she hadn’t been dumped by her equally morally bankrupt paramour!! How you think her untruthful “confession” is a virtue, honesty or accountability makes me wonder where our world is heading! Her only regret was being dumped by the person she cheated with. Think again.
Why would you want a "selfish" mother to take care of a child? That's how people end up in therapy. The best thing she could have did was allow the father to provide a stable home for the child.
This is a perfect picture of The deceitfulness of Sin . Sin will always take you where you don’t want to go , and then keep you longer then you want to stay .
She validated everything I've ever heard in all the RP spaces. The way she moved, the way she acted, how she viewed her husband, everything they say about women she just validated. She even validated all the RP recommendations on how men should move once they find out. Her ex maintained emmotional discipline, immediately seperated himself from her, Served her with divorce papers, then focused on himself, and rebuilt his life without her. He did this all while maintaining emotional control. He repaid her disdain & disrespect with indifference. No man should ever share their life with her or with a woman like her. Unfortunately, most women are like her. So most guys will get cheated on, lose half their stuff, or raise someone elses kid. It's not even worth it.
I’ve only watched 8 minutes so far but here’s what I came up with , it sounds like when she was with her ex husband it was kind of some form of complacency , like “ who else would want me at this weight “ but when she lost weight she came to the realization about the type of attention she could get from other men she felt to could not get attention from before , that’s why it’s important to love yourself fully and have confidence before tying things down with someone but let me finish watching cause that thought may change once I finish the video
This saddens me because there are women out here begging to be picked like she was by someone who loves them wholesomely for how they already are when they meet them & here she go fucking up for the rest of us 🙄
Or been married to an abusive controlling possessive monster and still willing to be faithful until your daughter dies as a result of the abuse/an accident and a part of you dies. THEN you accept that it has to end...
Went through this with a guy, he was 300+ not getting attention and he started having health scares. He started working out and dropping weight. Now he’s getting attention and I was helping him with his confidence. Now he doesn’t want to talk to me anymore and acts super cocky towards. Disrespect me and pretty much used me to help boost his ego. He always say “ I’m him and can’t nobody tell me nothing I’m in the gym”. He always calling people fat especially women. I’m sorry but i seen too many people turn ugly and cocky after loosing weight. Attention seeking is a serious drug…
As a big man himself trying to loose weight I have a fear of losing it all and being a different person. I don't believe that I as nice as I am because of my weight but it hasn't been truly tested. One thing I will say is that it's not just about confidence. It is about loving yourself enough. The confidence will come but you really have to love yourself to remain humble and not get too big headed
This is a horrible story. This brother loved her when she was 320 pounds. How do you walk away from that. She was having unprotected sex outside her marriage and she goes and talks to her pastor.
I said the same thing. Now it's I wasn't fulfilled in my marriage. You said best friends in my mind that means you can talk about anything. My bad. Yeah
I was thinking the same thing and I also was in that same situation with my ex I guess the whole thrill of it all and the fact that no one knows makes it so exciting
Her unhappiness 99% chance probably had nothing to do with her husband. It was just her. Time will pass, and she may even drop some more weight, and she'll find she's still not happy. It's such a BS excuse to cheat and then claim it was done because of unhappiness. Happiness and unhappiness are like clouds; they come and go.
This woman is sad and trifling. She's not sorry about what she did. If she was she wouldn't be trying to sell her story and embarrassed this man again on top of the pain she already caused. Then she deleted a child because she was getting raw dog by another man.
I was so sad when she said I was ready to leave my child with the dad full time and just go get my baby on the weekends! And the side man didn't want her at all! But she got something from him n she never had before! AMEN!
She really helped me make a decision to leave my son mom alone because I can feel the same energy from her. It's She still uses me when she needs me but doesn't really want me and I can tell. She doesn't call or text unless she wants to share something or I for some kind of help.
Use a parenting app and tell her no communication unless it has to do with the kid. If she speaks about anything other than your son hang up bruv. Don't let her make you her emotional tampon or be her sounding board.
@@jamarr27 yep. The Family Wizard is an app that courts usually require or recommend in custody issues. Been there done that. Everything you type is on record and can be viewed by the judge. If she curses you out..the judge will see it...and vice versa.
Be strong ! Be smart. Speak to a family lawyer... to protect yourself from child support and alimentation and custody A conceited woman .... a possessive woman will retaliate because she can't use you anymore
I cringe when I hear people say "work husband" or "work wife." Assigning the title of husband/wife to someone who is NOT your spouse diminishes the title. The sacredness of marriage has changed so much. Lying and cheating, sneaking around, being deceitful always ends messy & your representation takes a major hit!
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I don’t have a social media can you give me your email
So I was molested at 9 by my aunt my mothers sister that she trusted to help out and move her in on several occasions I’m 45 now since 9 she turned me out on drugs, prostitution failing class and my life ain’t been the same since want to tell what happened been happening thru now 😢 where do I start live in Lancaster ca every guy I try to date believe they own me my trust issues are screwed up I would skip classes ditch to roam the streets meeting men getting raped I have a fortune to tell currently been involved with weird older creepy old men from 69 -85 for directions would love to release the pressure 😢
I have a story
I’ll share my story with weight loss. I had the sleeve too, I went from 288 to 160. When you go from being a larger woman to a small woman you are treated differently. It’s a mixture of being desirable to the masses and you gaining confidence, dressing better and more. I gained a lot of attention. The difference between her and I is I didn’t let that go to my head. Some people seek attention, love, and validation. I didn’t. I think what made me not get big headed when it came to men was me realizing “this man wouldn’t want the old me, this seem more physical than mental” men I’ve known for YEARS who saw the bigger me didn’t want me. But now that I’m smaller they are all over me. I’m good, I hold grudges and remember the past. Lol attention is a drug…
One thing I realized is revenge is a dish best served cold. Sometimes “get back” will keep you in such a place of protection that nobody can penetrate
I get it!
Because you have Sense!!!!!!
Thank you for sharing!
You are absolutely correct on all your points and it shows your character as a human being to not allow false confidence and conceit to ruin your foundation and principles.
She didn't want her husband in the first place, she settled for him because she couldn't get the guy she wanted because of the weight.
Facts
EXACTLY!!!!
Exactly!!
How do you know that ? She may not have even worked at the job she met the dude at when she was 300+ pounds, she could have gotten the job after the fact for all you know, please state where you’re getting your proof or facts.
Fact
There was a CEO that got rid of people who were cheating with other workers, no matter what... he said, " If your own spouse can't trust you, why should I? "
More companies should do that.
How many legal penalties did that CEO pay?
@@symand3789Zero...but he also said if he had to, he would not care because it was important to cut the cancer out before it spread and killed company morale.
@@symand3789 ever company have some sort of ethics conduct. And fraternization. especially married that’s already adultery
Sounds nice.. until labor relations enters the chat..
It’s called a “morality clause”, and they are more common that you think.
There’s a lot to unpack in this interview. This woman settled for her husband he wasn’t the it for her he was her backup. With weight loss the men that she was really attracted to started paying her attention and she no longer wanted her husband. This is a real lesson
Exactly
That is crazy
Nah, you can say that for most people. Her options changed, so she changed with them
Fact!!
@@Brookintellectsounds like y’all saying the same thing.
Imagine loving your wife unconditionally…through her worse times…and she improved herself only to give her best to another man…what a horrible human being….
Ouch 🎯
I'm sure your mother can say the same, what have you built? Owned? How many kids do you have with child support orders. I'm glad I left yall dusty ass bandits alone 20yrs ago. I'm sure you've done worse yet you're still breathing. She's forgiven and human unlike you
Exactly
Oh that's common with most women
I totally understand how she have felt when it come to losing that amount off weight, but to turn your back on your family is just crazy! I’ve personally experienced being more desired after losing 90lbs. However… it opened my eyes to just how shallow men was and completely turned me off. I personally appreciated the man I was with before my weight loss even more.
The fact she felt betrayed because her
side dude lied to her is beyond wild 😭
Not really. It because she thought they were in a relationship, and the dude was just smashing. He just played her emotions
@DezGrowSpot no. She admitted she knew what it was, but she lied to herself to not feel wrong.
That's a woman's train of thought for you 😒
That part took me out 😂.
@@DezGrowSpotfacts.
I got into a relationship with a coworker who was overweight.The other coworkers use to talk crazy about her.She lost weight & turned around & cheated with one of the guys who talked about her.He told me soon as it happened.She said she made a mistake.I just cut her off.
I was dating this plus size girl I was fine with the way I met her, after a month getting to know I found out she had started a weight loss surgery i wasn’t okay with it but I was willing to overlook it, but she started saying things like ooh I can’t wait till I lose of this weight I’m going to this and that, and the final nail in the coffin was when she told me do I know how many men wants to get with her I knew then and there I had to end it
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awww, sorry that happened to you.
You gotta think a lot of big people dealing with internal issues. It’s some that’s extremely happy being big so I don’t wanna say all but yeah a lot of us have adddictive personalities too. We literally wear our addiction on our sleeves.
She’s a fool sorry you had to go through that 🤦🏾♀️
What she failed to realize is her husband loved her while she was at a larger size meaning he loved her unconditionally. The man you attracted after losing weight wouldn't have looked your way. Being desired more by YOUR HUSBAND was the key!
The thing about that is her husband loved what she perceived as the lowest version of herself. When she lost the weight and became the higher version of herself she left him behind with her old self
....this truth hasn't come to her yet unfortunately
“For better or for worse” she forgot her vows.
The thing is she fail to realize none she took full accountability. She just told her story & gave advice
This is why you can’t be in a relationship with someone when you’re not happy with yourself no matter how much a person loves you it will never be enough until you love yourself you bleed on people who didn’t cut you. No judgment
Listennnnnnn
Truth! 💯
I was just thinking the same thing!
An absolute fact low-self esteem is a HUGE red flag 🚩 for me 🚫🙅🏾♂️
What are u talking about it was the husband that settled for a 400 pound woman ... her didn't like her ever u see he moved on amd got married .. he didn't want that fat girl lol
If your husband was your best friend. I’d hate to see how she’d treat her enemy.
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Exactly
Right. She could’ve left that part out of it. Because, clearly he was not
It wasn't the weight loss to blame it was the mindset. This was the person she always were. She is an addict, similar to drug addicts. It was just dormant. Her first addiction was food then after the surgery it was attention and sex. When you have those surgeries you are supposed to go through therapy too. I guarantee she skipped that part.
I love your comment because it actually explains the root of the issue. Her weight loss only revealed the person that she actually was, not one that was created.
This!!!
Completely missed it.
Great observation
Super facts!
I just recently dropped 40lbs and counting, I’m also in the nursing program.
My man stuck by me when I was 280lbs! I got really sick and he went with me to the hospital. The dr said she’s FAT and need to loose weight.
My hubby cooked for me healthy delicious meals and restored my health. I don’t care about attention. I don’t care about the money I will be making. I will always remember the man that took on me and my two kids from a previous marriage.
Unless he steps out on me, I can never!!
So if he does step out…All that other shit out the window 🪟 ?
Girl, bye. You weren’t his friend. That is not what friends do to each other. Drop that “he was my best friend” thing.
Damn
It’s sad how so many women are cheering her on..like this is the same behavior that they want to date wt men over lol knowing damn well that they pick aint shhh in the 1st place
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That's her truth!
Sometimes you don't realize a good thing until its gone. When she lost him she realized she lost a good thing, which was her best friend.
Everytime I watch a video, I can’t help but credit how great of an interviewer he is! He’s very strategic with his responses and how he uses his words. I absolutely love it
It’s comments like yours that keep me so focused on my craft. Thank you
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Great minds think alike my sister. This brother should start interviewing more often. There compassion in his questions. No condemnation.🙏🏽🌎🇪🇨
I was thinking the same thing!! He's an excellent interviewer!
I concur! I love how he jumps in and how he asks questions that the audience is thinking about! It’s like watching a movie and the “who did it” scene happens. And he always throws in moral compass questions for the straight laced ppl like myself because I just wanna know why you did something.
“I get to watch him with his new wife and his new life flourish with out me”
I love that for you 🥹❤
All manure don’t allow your garden to flourish. She was the issue. I too love this for her 🫠🥰
Rs!! 😂😂
His wife watching this interview like "she fumbled the bag so I caught it"😂🤣 I'm happy that she has accepted and taken accountability.
She had love and purposely threw it away. This amount of betrayal is sickening. This man loved her unconditionally and she treated him like trash. She tells the story so nonchalantly because she never truly and equally cared for her ex. Somehow she attempts to make herself the victim of the 'other man'. She's the worst kind of woman.
Kevin Samuels talked about this ad nauseum. That women wreck their own homes exactly like this. And these women are raising out girls and boys because women largely get custody. She's going to indirectly or directly teach her children to likewise be irresponsible with their emotional control.
I noticed that nonchalant attitude during the interview. Gave me the shivers. She's a covert narcissists
I just went through this........ This is the worst kind of woman but she will forever live with the guilt of being trashy. Nothing like a trashy woman no man will ever truly respect her. Shame when this kind of woman is raising a teenage girl showing her these ways and have the new male friend buying the daughter things as well.... sickening but I keep them all in prayer I dont hate her God will deal with her
@@daninwangabia6270straight evil 👿 but honest
@@ian_fordand that's a problem
When she said “he couldn’t have married the -130 her,her full delusion was revealed! Girl you crashed out over the 1st man who gawked over you!
Yup 😂😂 it’s sad and sick. Now she fat again
Seriously, that part had me screaming “girl be for real!”.. the delusion was real with this one
She said she knew it was real when she got the divorce papers but honestly she knew it was real when her lil boyfriend gave her a reality check. She was honest in the story but it really sounds like she didn’t love her husband until she realized he wasn’t coming back
Nawll the husband had to settle for her and I believe she knew he settled for her a fat lazy women... that got surgery became delusional and is now back fat
I agree . She didn’t value what he brought to the table . She thought he was weak and deep down didn’t think he had the balls to leave . I appreciate her brutal honesty in the interview … as hard as it was to hear .
@@fayeola6616she was disrespectful too she got pregnant by that other man. Meaning it was unprotected sex and if she knew he had a girlfriend then what made her think she was the only one? She could’ve gave him something.
she never loved anyone but herself tbh. she was mad she lost her meal ticket and that no one will care about her and her kid moving forward
@@kmombo8610 Thankyou bro 💯
Shouts Out To Her For Holding Herself Accountable … Most Humans Dont
After the fact 😂😂😂😂
@@demetreusross5150right cus I’m fina say at what point….?
The fact that she said she hated coming home while she had child let alone a husband says alot
Don’t think the child was part of that thought process
She's a woman. DUH!!
@@TrappinAnonymous the child was definitely apart of it. She was neglecting her duties to her man AND child. She literally said she was ready to leave them both.
@@TrappinAnonymousyea that child is definitely in the equation. Due to her selfish desires and wants, her child can’t have both parents in the home on a daily basis.
Facts smh
I was her husband. Not literally of course. But I lived through the horrors of betrayal, the tragedy of my broken family, the loss of time with my son, the shame of having to carry the moniker " Divorced" added to my name for the rest of my life, the sadness of people thinking I was the guilty party in our divorce (Because I refused to talk about what happened), etc, all because my ex felt she needed some "excitement", even though I took care of our family and was supportive of her and her widowed Mum.
Of Course, I had to take a level of accountability though, and I look a hard look into the mirror to see what I could've done better as a husband. This tragedy was a gift though. I divorced her, deepened my relationship with Christ, became red-pilled, travelled across South America, and South East Asia where I ultimately met the love of my life, a precious woman of God who is my best friend, and true helper in every sense of the word. Thank God for Romans 8:28. Thank God for Christ who gives new beginnings. Thank God who gives beauty for ashes.
Wow mehn I'm sorry you had to go through the horrors. (What do you mean by not literally though, at the very start?)
Red pill and passport bro 😎 you won my G
What a wonderful comment. God bless you and your family
@@jessebaseal6577basically saying what she did to her ex is almost exactly what was done to him.
You rose from the ashes and took flight phoenix style🔥. Congratulations to you and may God bless you with more testimonies bro🤝🏾
she traded a lifetime with a great man who treated her like a queen...for 18 months of being a sidechick...and a jumpoff 😅 i cant with women anymore😂
These women are lost as fuck
I FEEL YA BRO, SO IN OTHER WORDS WHEN A LADY IS BOARD SHE CAN STEP OUT, SHE SAID DUDE WAS EVERTHING BUT SOMTHING WAS MISSING, YOU CAN HAVE 99 GREAT POINTS BUT THAT 1 POINT CAN BE A EXCUSE FOR HER TIPPING OUT..
@@music3n1entbruh, this is universal. It isn’t specific to any gender. Humans are lazy and will take the easy fix. Talk to your mate before the marriage. Learn how to effectively communicate.
100 percent agree. Nonsense
Women Like to be Cuddled Like Wounded Little Birds And Escape all forms of Accountability Then Turn Around And Somehow Make It About Her So Now She's The Victim ? That's Wild My G ! She Had a Man That Treated her So Good even Despite her Obesity Yet She Felt That's The Keyword Felt Undesirable & Bored and Wanted To Spice Things up With a Bum *** Nigga And Turned around and single handedly Wrecked a Happy Home In search for Validation And Adventure Only for Dude To Turn around and Peel Out Like It Ain't Nobody's Bussiness Dude Said Peace And Bounced Now She Is left Alone SMH These Modern Chicks are for The Streets
The devil really had a hold on her. My goodness. I’m glad she shared this because it’s a warning to other women. I don’t even have male friends outside of my husband! Don’t hold long convos with guys. None of that. Anyone is capable of what she did so it’s important to keep you guard up and guard yourself/marriage
Correct
Yes! Alot like the Tyler Perry 'Temptation' movie. Glad no one got physically harmed or infected with disease.. i hope her husband finds a partner that truly loves him
The devil didn’t have anything to do with that, she made choices. Those choices bore fruit.
@@ShineGuttalmao 😂
Amen 💯
Him being remarried is the silver lining of this horror story
And the fact that he didn't lost faith in love and marriage ,is incredible
happy for him
He was the catch.
I’m so happy for him too. He deserved better. Some people are only meant to be in your life temporarily and unfortunately some of them are spouses like this woman. I hope his new marriage last a lifetime.
I’m happy for him & happy she gets to witness it
The one thing I do agree with her on is that marriage takes a whole lot of work. This September 8th, my wife and I celebrated 27yrs of marriage and let me tell you, we put in the work and it has been worth it. Till this day we have never cheated on each other. Thank God for that.
Amen!!
Thank you for the example sir
R u sure?
ABSOLUTELY!
Love it ❤️
She NEVER wanted the Man that she had…she took what was available to her😢😢. A man can’t stand up to the cunning and manipulation that’s within a woman
SOOOOO true. After not being a FAT ass she went looking for someone slimmer and better.
That is real. She thought that she was settling the whole time. So when she haf options, she stepped out. Classic, fuck around and find out. She fucked around and found out that she wasn't shit, and her husband is actually the desireable one.
That’s true but I def don’t put up with none of that bs
This is the absolute truth.
@@stupidrules1000👍🏽💯
Attention seeking is a major addiction & can be detrimental to a person’s life when not handled properly.
Crazy that she calls the dating pool trash as if she's not part of the problem. What good man in his right mind would want a single mother who destroyed her marriage to a good man and aborted her child because she was afraid her husband wasn't the father?
Damn😮
Exactly
Good lord! When you read it, it sounds 100 time worse lol.
Exactly and any man that would have trust issues I know I would do why bother
Women NEVER see themselves as the problem. The most toxic chick will tell you that everyone else is toxic and she's the normal one.
"Relationships are greener where you water it." Love this.
This interview confirmed everything I've always said about cheating married women: 1. They'll NEVER tell you the whole truth when caught. 2. There's usually more than one sex partner other than the one they are caught with.
If he didn't ask her about other lovers, she would NEVER have mentioned it. Trust me, there's more scandalous details than she let out.
Still I applaud her for taking some measure of responsibility.
i wanna know what the side dude looks like, was he in shape?
Exactly
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@@munix9351 She’s definitely trash
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So let me get this straight….he didn’t emotionally neglect her,he didn’t physically neglect her ,he ain’t emotionally cheat or physically cheat,he wasn’t beating on her ,he was a good man and she chose to cheat on him? Just because she felt fine again? And looked good again??? Please somebody tell me if I heard this correctly because omg that poor man😭😭😭
Believe it or not alot of women think this way
Sounds about right SMH
Woman loves chaos believe me, if you don’t give it to them, especially when you are a guy who is too loving treating her right all the time always available believe me 70% of the time they will cheat on you. Why (familiarity) which deems you monotonous ( boring).
Yeah !! Bc ain’t no way
Not only that she got pregnant and didn’t even know which dude was the dad !! Insane, then aborted the baby … she’s a mess
I hope and pray that the ex husband has fully healed from this betrayal and is in a loving and caring relationship with a woman that he deserves
In the current relationship climate I highly doubt it. Such degenerate behavior from his big ass wife and he had a child with this loser. A MGTOW lifestyle is the only answer for a man such as himself.
He won’t recover..this is how toxic men are bred….he’s turns toxic and then he brings that toxicity to a woman and the cycle continues.
Unlikely.. people don't forget betrayal. But.. hopefully he's in a better place
yup a dude that lets this happen to him often never recovers. it's a defense mechanism@@kibiego
I think he did. Men heal quicker
She lied, cheated, got divorced, and took his child to another state. A sorry woman.
Damn
@@gyasiwilliams5102
A true case study
I was just saying this!
@@jonathanberry8255 And she showed no remorse
She had to go to a new state because everyone in her own state probably already knew of her, or already had her already. She wouldn’t have been able to date and stay where she was
You can tell she is so aware of herself now. Thank you for sharing your story. So many need to hear this!
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I lost over 100 pounds. I’m very fortunate to have my husband.
He loved me at my heaviest, always made me feel special, and love me the same today.
I love my husband’s soul and spirit.
No amount of weight loss would ever change that.
Keep God at the head of your marriage and in every aspect of your life.
The Lord Will be done in Jesus name! Amen.
Thank you 💞🙏
This is great, I hope you always maintain that thought process
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You better not be lying.
Amen
Big credit to her. I hope her story helps others who do not want to ruin their marriage or exclusive relationships they already have. ✌️&Luv
She was crushed... when she found out that he was married... when she was married the entire time.... how the HELL!!!! This is how stupid some people are. She is so unworthy of trust from anybody, bruh. Jesus .H Christ . She was so willing to throw away her family for betrayal.... her man did right and ditched her fam.
What does the H stand for?
@@SoulSearch11110 loooool I don't think it stands for anything. I just use it because it sounds a little funny.
She talked about how he is a gem of a man and how she was so lucky to have him! He showed her Agape love. Then she says, "But I wasn't being fulfilled in the marriage...smh Im so glad he remarried, and i hope he's getting the unconditional love he deserves!"❤
Good for her husband, dont allow ppl to treat you any kinda way, hopefully he found someone who respects and honors him, fellas you deserve to be respected!
I am so thankful I learned these hard lessons early. A good man is to be appreciated just as much as a good woman deserves to be appreciated.
Cheating is intoxicating because somehow in the twisted brain it’s fun to be sneaky. Once you lose your person all of sudden the side relationship isn’t as fun anymore. Crazy stuff
Crazy how that works
@@TrappinAnonymoushe lied to me but she was lying to her husband
It's always funny how that happens. 😂
Infidelity is a learned behavior that starts at home.
And so glad her ex found someone that actually appreciates him and treats him with respect. He did deserve so much more respect and so does his daughter.
Great interview. I can appreciate her honesty and him for not coming off as judgmental like most interviewers.
Interviewer: "Do you think that he could've married that girl who lost 130lbs?"
Her: "Honestly probably not"
Interviewer: "Would he had wanted to?"
Her: "Oh I look pretty amazing so he probably would've wanted to"
A Narcissist at it's finest smh.
That weight loss went straight to her head and it looks like she gained most of it back.
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Upon further review, I have a though that what he was REALLY trying to ask was “Do you think he could have pulled YOU at your LOWER WEIGHT???” Or rather, “Would he have even had a chance to be romantically, sexually, maritally involved with the YOU that weighed 130 less, if y’all had met later in life?????”
@coolerthancj94 I'm glad you had that epiphany. I knew that's was what he meant from the start. For me, he was pretty clear on the questions he was asking.
@@knocc1 Well, not so much as an epiphany. I am a guy, and I’m guessing you are also. I was driving in heavy traffic when I listened to the interview for the first time, so I missed the nuance in the question. But when I re-listened in a quieter, non-driving environment, my antenna went up.
Though she heard the WORDS of the question, her answer, no matter if she picked up the nuance or not, was STILL gonna be “No he would NOT have been able to have me but Yes (…..because I was so great and sexy and fly and the ish….) he absolutely would have wanted me. ”
I’m being completely honest when I say, if you listen to her closely she is exemplifying everything that is a covert narcissist… the duality, the deep sense of regret but tied with some sort of ‘rationale’. It’s insane but this gave me a sense of peace to know that these people do get their karma.
I completely agree! She never loved him. She just settled and it was all about her a##!
I agree completely
It is what it is.
You can say that again. I felt cold chills listening to her talk casually about something that gave smother human being sleepless nights
@@alisasmith1951 You can see the delusion of the modern woman.
We can all see she did not deserve him. While she convinced herself he was not enough.
This is the curse of hypergamy.
All these comments, and not ONE woman sympathized with the Husband or mentioned him at all. I just hear "she held herself accountable." Now that's crazy! She just had an AMAZING guy. Selfishness is inside and factors makes it materialize, and with her the attention brought hers to the surface.
DOPE page and Interview Sir! DEFINITELY Subscribed.
I agree and I definitely feel it for the husband. It's got me reflecting on how a good person always seems to be attracted to bad!!
Respect. N nobody pity’s men. We know this.
@@TrappinAnonymous Indeed, Salute brotha!
I feel the same way. It seems like the women are more so cheering her for being honest and open. Like that not point at all.
Also did you catch end when she said they co parent but she move to another state with her daughter? I'm sorry, but I am Damm, you cheat on and get to keep my child moving to another state
Not one woman smh
The sad thing is, I bet The ex-husband is the one that paid for the surgery
You see how calmly she says. He was mine sorry honey He was mine. Very hard to believe that she has moved on from that situation
Thank you!! I said that the whole time, she STILL wants him! In her mind, at least it would have been "worth it".
I was looking for this comment cause I thought same. She still sound delusional
Both the interviewer and the interviewee did well in speaking about this story😮
I appreciate that
Favorite part of the episode?
Question of do you think he felt betrayed? I didn't take that into consideration. Men love working out with women buy the surgery so swift/massive like you blindsided.
I wanted the interviewer to ask about the baby a bit more. As well as if she still wanted the man. Because both of these thoughts were glaring! I kept waiting for him to ask!
"The wise woman builds her house, But the foolish pulls it down with her hands." -Proverbs 14:1 ❤
Bingo!
Hello
Amen yess
That's cold I like that
That part!
When she said they don’t make them like him no more I felt that. If you have a great person in your life don’t take them for granted. And let no one dupe you out of your blessing of a great marriage. So many of us often take a great thing and ruin it because the very thing we ask for we don’t know how to appreciate it until it’s gone. Salute to great men and women who are out here honoring one another for real. Her story truly is a cautionary tale and I salute her for having the courage to speak her truth. Oh and like she said the grass is greener where you water it!
Wow... I wasn't expecting this. It's an amazing interview and sad at the same time.
I’ll share my story. Wife got cancer lost her weight, hair, breast and her mind in the process. Did everything to comfort her in the process. Married for 7 years at the time. She goes through treatment and beats cancer. All of features come back, she gets her health back and becomes the woman she was but better than she was after cancer. She then cheats and i find out but i keep silent. I just said we’re getting a divorce and that she has to leave. I get called all kinds of names, and lashed out upon but she eventually leaves with our two kids. For about 6 months everybody falls in line to the new life apart. About 7-8 months into beating cancer in came back but this time she’s alone. It came back more aggressive and she died in a few months. I got my kids back. Due to us not getting the divorce finalized the army gave my family the life insurance policy. All in all staying calm and true to myself karma came back around with a price. I got everything i wanted (my family) but they lost their mom and I’m torn on that aspect but life is good now. No more drama no more stress.
You kept the covenant. proud.
Cold blooded 😮
God is great and is the best of planners
You cold
@@Cleanwithmenow1 So it was fine for his wife to cheat on him after he stood by her through her first run of cancer??? We all should act and be right b/c you never know justice/karma will come back knocking on our door.
The fact she grabbed her 1 year old baby just in case he was mad putting her child in harms way and laughed about it shows how bad of a person she is, she spewing out all the hate she felt when she was overweight to other people and only she matter nobody else, wow!
She was willing to leave her kids with the father so of course she'll use the baby as a shield. Sad. Hope her children never see this.
@@BonnieHansen-w6lthey will find it and see her for what she is. The internet is always forever. Nothing leaves when it goes up
This!!! 🎉❤💯🤦🏻♀️
@user-li7lt4xq2t I didn't get the impression that she grabbed the baby for the purpose of using as a shield. She was already holding the baby when they were discussing her infidelity... sad all the same. She is being accountable for her actions and not blaming anyone but herself. 💌
I love the way she says that she has relocated this means I kinda want to make my ex husband suffer by not being able to see his kid easily even tho he did nothing wrong! She's bitter but acting like everything is cool. She's a terrible person who cheated and lied and didn't even care that she hurt her husband. She was willing to give up her family for a feeling! She even cheated on the side piece with other guys. Stay away from this kind of person trust me she has no real remorse!
She reasons like a child. Her reactions are that of a tall child, not an adult.
Exactly just like my own ex girlfriend unfortunately!
that's why whenever you deal with black women like this ( Dog her) every chance you get. ✊️
@@tpayne12noWomen are grown children.
Yeah I low key heard that too. I was thinking why would she take her daughter away from her dad. If anything she should give the daughter to the dad, so the daughter can have a stable home!
This is a cautionary tale for couples, married ppl, and folks succeeding on their fitness journeys. Also Its good to hear kindness shown in adversity. Alot of ppl are not this honestly
Woman: “He is such an amazing man. They don’t make men like him anymore.”
Interviewer: “Would you get back with him if you could”
Woman: “Absolutely not. I was unfulfilled.”
So many lessons in this video.
Jesus that part made me physically sick
@@AnimikeeGawbodyI couldn’t believe what I was hearing, I felt so pained in my soul. Anyway lesson I take from this is don’t be a pushover in marriage…can NEVER be too nice too a woman because look at the outcome..
YES... I caught on to that too and was puzzled... like WHAT a contradiction. It's because she needs that piece of feeling "unfulfilled" to justify why she started to cheat to begin with.
Just proves that bending over backwards to make a woman happy is a waste of time. Just do right by God
Lol bro was blowin that back out . She couldn’t go back to her husband
I’m so happy the ex husband got a happy ending and respected himself! But not only did she cheat on her husband she put another man that didn’t even want her before her CHILD which is so crazy and lame.
I’m mad the father didn’t get full Custody
That man will never be the same. Regardless how nice he is.
He better learn how to be ruthless
No he will not. He's free.
I think he'll be fine because of who he is love will always find him. The embarrassment and having to see him happy made her relocate.
He will be find because he understands what a lot of people don't...Love is never contingent upon the other person. He loves her still and always will but he also knows that she is not mentally, spiritually, and emotionally ready for love. For too many people love is transactional, a feeling, but real love is energy embodied within the self. People who know love knows I can love you but not be satisfied with your behavior. You can love 1000 people, but accepting the behavior of a 1000 people is different.
@@soppres7406 Love is something a man radiates from himself.
In order for a man to be oblivious to a woman who cheats like she did, could not possibly love himself.
He remarried so quickly because like many individuals like himself he didn't learn the lesson life was trying to teach him...instead he is doing what he is "supposed" to do.
He will either get that same lesson or age out the game.
He is goofy af.
Girl. That is called LUST. Nobody falls in love faster than two coworkers already in relationships 🙄People really take their lives as a joke and the lives of others as just a trifle thing.. like nothing to just so easily discard them. It begins in the mind and if anyone wants to leave spouse and children and discard all responsibility, you’ve been duped by the enemy. She needs a deliverance. She is SO full of herself and prideful. Just because folks loose weight don’t mean their heart or soul is also dropping weight that’s necessary. She was obviously not grounded and rooted as a person and certain not in Christ. What a shame man. I feel sorry for her ex husband and child. What a stupid way to throw your life away. This is tragic.
Great way of putting it straight! 💯
@@deonwaller9457 thank you
Yelp! Just an insecure woman that had been fat all of her life and wanted to see what it was to be desired by other men when she lost weight! Now she's on UA-cam confessing her stupidity! And still looking overweight!
When you mix sex with emotions and self worth this is what you get. Unfortunately alot of women can not separate sex from emotions.
It's nothing new . Same story then, now and the future
Don't forget people die over these scenarios
This is so DISTURBING that , fellas if you find out your being stepped out on don’t ask for a explanation just WALK away and don’t look back…
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FACTS!!!!!
What do you suggest women do when this happens?
@@gottagetit2943same rule goes for both men and & women
The level of pride in her voice is crazy!!
The way she felt about the side guy is how women get caught up with a man and do illegal things for them.
Limerence. If you've never heard the term look up the word "limerence". Every teenager starting puberty should be taught about so that they know how to properly navigate those confusing emotions and the illusion.
The fact that she “cheated” on her side piece too, means she was sleeping on her husband with multiple people. She was playing with that man life. I love that he’s literally playing with her mental but treating her kindly. Many of us don’t realize how strong a person has to be to do that. Strength isn’t the one who can win a fight but the one who knows how to calm and cool their anger.
I respectfully disagree. I'd say pain is the only true teacher for a woman. treating them nicely or holding it all in like a stonewall does nothing but paint a target on the next sucker
@@TheForkOnTheLeftist As she admits to being a selfish person, having to watch him do just fine, or possibly flourish, without her AND in spite of her betrayal…. while she has to wade in the pissy dating pool….. That seems to have gotten her attention!!!!
@@coolerthancj94 I don't favor soft deterrents. I like to know shit will never happen again. That's just me
Women are consequential learners. It's sad that so many women have to literally destroy their lives, including the lives of others in order to finally "see the light" and change. But most of the time, it's already too late. This adulterous woman's story is not unique at all. She's literally just another statistic.
@@coolerthancj94no disrespect but isn’t she a drop in that pissy dating pool?
She was married and getting ran through. Nothing admirable or fly about it. She has no remorse over her actions
She had the nerve to say the dating pool is garbage. How are you judging people when you are a whole cheater and liar.
I applaud her honesty and transparency. We are so used to hearing this same story in reverse to I hella appreciated hearing it the other way around
When you said “it’s interesting how you said you don’t want to step out of your relationship but emotionally you’ve stepped out” JUST WOW Chris ! That was right on the nose. People don’t understand.
Lol thank you for noticing
Been there, not a good feeling
That's where it all starts; emotional attachments.
You let him hit it raw. You didn’t have second thoughts. Now you a single mom!
I respect the hell out of her EX!! He handle the situation perfectly cause it had all the ingredients to go left but didn’t because he had his emotions in check. I wishing for his level of mental strength in situations cause just from this interview I can tell she was cocky as hell with it when all of this was going on😅.
His emotions were in check because he knew we settled for a fat 400 pound woman that was to lazy to workout and got surgery and became delusional... now she's back fat
He had to control his emotion because she was trying to make him go insane
I felt the same way. Hearing this face to face can make a man go Forensic Files for real
@@grovedwayne390some weak ass shit. Kill because you got cheated on? Lol
Sad...this just brought tears to my eyes.. It take me back to my life as a married man and divorce and all the things that came out
Sorry bro 🙏
Yall need therapy lol
If someone isn’t used to getting attention, you definitely don’t wanna be in a relationship with them when they start getting it.
Whew
Okayy mf don’t know how to act lol
Man 💯 real shit
So they f0c7 ninjas
Bingo 👏🏾
So… she says she wouldn’t go back because she was unfulfilled then turns around and says she should have fought for her marriage. One of those is a lie. 😂
She was NEVER into her husband. She has the idea of marriage as respect (in the mind) not being necessary.
She regrets what her life turned into.
She only regrets how she feels, not how she treated her ex-husband. Her mentality is that of filth, and I don't feel sorry for any repercussions that she experiences.
Good for her being so transparent. i feel so bad for the guy, I’ve been there and it hurts so bad. You never really recover from it.
Right! You never really do. That stain is a constant reminder
The difference between love and lust: love lasts a lifetime, and lust lasts 4 a season.
This video sent me into so mamy emotions. This is the type of woman that destroy honest men, then send them back into the world hurt and beaten up mentally and emotionally. No wonder some men have trust issues and are emotionally unavailable. She did her "big one"🙄 with this! Disgusting
Lol girl. Yes shes trash but lets not give men too much chile. We’re not about to blame trash ppl for trash ppl
TELL EM boo
That's why most of us are the way we are.
Girl wtf. Pickmesha men are already screwed up biologically that's nobodys fault
She never cared for that she settled because she felt like that's all she could get
I just realized she was willing to use their daughter as a human shield if the father snapped and went after her. I’m not saying that was her actual intentions, but when you pick your daughter up just in case, that goes to show how selfish she really is.
Oh it was definitely her intention. She ain't shit and she knows it.
Sick
She didn’t give a crap about their daughter anyway. She was willing to leave them. She was a lousy cheating wife and a bad mother. She ain’t 💩
She didn’t give a crap about their daughter anyway. She was willing to leave them. She was a lousy cheating wife and a bad mother. She ain’t sh-
Don’t let this go over your head, lots of women have done this, she’s just one of the few who accept accountability and tell her truth, trust me, she’s one of maaaaaany!!!!! This is why a man shouldn’t be too nice, I bet if she knew her man was a fireball she wouldn’t have played with that man like that, I bet you!!! And “the dating pool has sewage in it,” chick, you’re one of the fecal matter in that damn pool! The nerve! 😂
Amen brother!
💩🚽matter😂
Cheating women don't care how tough a man is. They want what they want regardless
EXACTLY
Thats why a man shouldn't be to nice. Thats bull. Men just need to pick women who appreciate it. Yall always want the real pretty gurls who think about themselves. There are women who can appreciate a man who do good things for them and I am one of them. I wouldn't trade him for the world.
I feel nothing for this cheater. She's a part of the problem of why us good women can't find a good man!!
Speak on it!! 👀☝️🧐🤔
❤true she fell for the other man and he had a wife and she had the nerves to because he had someone else she felt betrayed lied to when that’s exactly what she doing to her husband 😮❤❤😊
Preach sister.
Don't blame her. Blame the women who let men treat them like sh****. So they think they can do it with others.
@@michelleartis5241are you serious? Still blaming the man smh
She’s definitely honest. I can respect her honesty
Do you call this “honest??” I don’t know what you’re looking at, but try telling the people she hurt, betrayed and insulted by her actions that she was being “honest.” Disgusting!!
@@lordshango4184I mean yes. Short terms, being honest is telling the truth and accepting accountability for your actions.. good or bad. Thats what she did.
@@dalmeshasloss7765, I don’t know where you see/hear honesty, truth and accountability. I don’t know where you see/hear regret, humility and/or taking responsibility. There’s a huge difference between recounting a wrong you did and genuinely being remorseful, penitent and contrite! You bet she’d still be in that adulterous relationship if she hadn’t been dumped by her equally morally bankrupt paramour!! How you think her untruthful “confession” is a virtue, honesty or accountability makes me wonder where our world is heading! Her only regret was being dumped by the person she cheated with. Think again.
she's promoting a book
You’re 💯 right
Wow! She's so selfish that she even considered leaving her baby. I hope she falls in love with someone who does the same thing to her, but worse!
On God I say the same thing she doesn't deserve any marriage for the rest of her life
Why would you want a "selfish" mother to take care of a child? That's how people end up in therapy. The best thing she could have did was allow the father to provide a stable home for the child.
She will leave a miserable life.
This is a perfect picture of The deceitfulness of Sin . Sin will always take you where you don’t want to go , and then keep you longer then you want to stay .
This.
She is so self aware and honest. I like that she can admit how wrong she was and express regret.
Right
Regret!!? Where?? This woman is a horrible person.. you can tell she still wishes the relationship worked
Self aware of what
Right
She only have regrets when things didn't go as planned
I appreciate her honesty. I must say…great story time. I was engaged the whole time. The interviewer asked great questions. 👏🏽 👏🏽👏🏽
Y’all peep when she said she cheated on her side dude because he wasn’t acting right that shows you that she really is not a good women
She validated everything I've ever heard in all the RP spaces. The way she moved, the way she acted, how she viewed her husband, everything they say about women she just validated. She even validated all the RP recommendations on how men should move once they find out. Her ex maintained emmotional discipline, immediately seperated himself from her, Served her with divorce papers, then focused on himself, and rebuilt his life without her. He did this all while maintaining emotional control. He repaid her disdain & disrespect with indifference. No man should ever share their life with her or with a woman like her. Unfortunately, most women are like her. So most guys will get cheated on, lose half their stuff, or raise someone elses kid. It's not even worth it.
My thoughts exactly
So what's the answer? Do dudes want a boyfriend now?
@@kelliepatterson1035😅😅😅
@@kelliepatterson1035 what does it have to do with this? stupidity.
Do you know most people?
listening to this just shows me nobody is safe... and being a good man doesn't make any difference
True
It doesn't pay, u have to search real hard to find a good woman
@@michaelacheampong2869 And you won’t find her while defaming all women.
Nice guys finish last
Extreme bravery by the guest. Excellent questions from the interviewer.
I’ve only watched 8 minutes so far but here’s what I came up with , it sounds like when she was with her ex husband it was kind of some form of complacency , like “ who else would want me at this weight “ but when she lost weight she came to the realization about the type of attention she could get from other men she felt to could not get attention from before , that’s why it’s important to love yourself fully and have confidence before tying things down with someone but let me finish watching cause that thought may change once I finish the video
Her husband settled for her.... thats thr problem he settled and she think she a catch a fat girl who had surgery now she back fat a real loser
Exactly
Well...did it change😂?
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@@correlationqueen3565 lmaoo😂 no lol, i felt the same after lol
This saddens me because there are women out here begging to be picked like she was by someone who loves them wholesomely for how they already are when they meet them & here she go fucking up for the rest of us 🙄
Sheesh
Or been married to an abusive controlling possessive monster and still willing to be faithful until your daughter dies as a result of the abuse/an accident and a part of you dies. THEN you accept that it has to end...
This 🤦🏽♀️
@@missmaxinethompson7407personal trauma
@missmaxinethompson7407 ........😐 imma pray.... for whomever is going through that...
This was great 👍. Selfiness will destroy a relationship. Don't run, fight for it.
Yooooo this was the best interview!! I loved every piece of it! Thank you sista girl for your truth ❤
Went through this with a guy, he was 300+ not getting attention and he started having health scares. He started working out and dropping weight. Now he’s getting attention and I was helping him with his confidence. Now he doesn’t want to talk to me anymore and acts super cocky towards. Disrespect me and pretty much used me to help boost his ego. He always say “ I’m him and can’t nobody tell me nothing I’m in the gym”. He always calling people fat especially women. I’m sorry but i seen too many people turn ugly and cocky after loosing weight. Attention seeking is a serious drug…
Wow! That's so horrible! I hate when people act like that. Humility goes a long way!
As a big man himself trying to loose weight I have a fear of losing it all and being a different person. I don't believe that I as nice as I am because of my weight but it hasn't been truly tested. One thing I will say is that it's not just about confidence. It is about loving yourself enough. The confidence will come but you really have to love yourself to remain humble and not get too big headed
Yea he has issues, and needs to see a therapist ASAP
This is a horrible story. This brother loved her when she was 320 pounds. How do you walk away from that. She was having unprotected sex outside her marriage and she goes and talks to her pastor.
Tough story.
Very tough pill
I said the same thing. Now it's I wasn't fulfilled in my marriage. You said best friends in my mind that means you can talk about anything. My bad. Yeah
She’s so blunt and honest in this interview, why not use that bluntness to tell her husband she wasn’t happy…
I was thinking the same thing and I also was in that same situation with my ex I guess the whole thrill of it all and the fact that no one knows makes it so exciting
@@terrystouchphotos438 smh sorry to hear that .. they’ll get what’s coming to them
Her unhappiness 99% chance probably had nothing to do with her husband. It was just her. Time will pass, and she may even drop some more weight, and she'll find she's still not happy. It's such a BS excuse to cheat and then claim it was done because of unhappiness. Happiness and unhappiness are like clouds; they come and go.
She wanted her cake and ice cream too
Women tell everybody expect the person they in a relationship with how they feel
She didn’t confess on her own, He suspected it. The ultimate betrayal to a guy who genuinely wanted and loved her.
This woman is sad and trifling. She's not sorry about what she did. If she was she wouldn't be trying to sell her story and embarrassed this man again on top of the pain she already caused. Then she deleted a child because she was getting raw dog by another man.
Exactly!
I was so sad when she said I was ready to leave my child with the dad full time and just go get my baby on the weekends!
And the side man didn't want her at all!
But she got something from him n she never had before!
AMEN!
She really helped me make a decision to leave my son mom alone because I can feel the same energy from her. It's She still uses me when she needs me but doesn't really want me and I can tell. She doesn't call or text unless she wants to share something or I for some kind of help.
Good for you!!
Go with your gut and Do exactly what is Best for you. Be your Best self for your child as well.
Use a parenting app and tell her no communication unless it has to do with the kid. If she speaks about anything other than your son hang up bruv. Don't let her make you her emotional tampon or be her sounding board.
@@jamarr27 yep. The Family Wizard is an app that courts usually require or recommend in custody issues. Been there done that. Everything you type is on record and can be viewed by the judge. If she curses you out..the judge will see it...and vice versa.
Be strong ! Be smart.
Speak to a family lawyer... to protect yourself from child support and alimentation and custody
A conceited woman .... a possessive woman will retaliate because she can't use you anymore
So proud of her transparency. This happens more often than you’d think.
Exactly! she was dirty but she giving it to us raw and honestly.
I cringe when I hear people say "work husband" or "work wife." Assigning the title of husband/wife to someone who is NOT your spouse diminishes the title. The sacredness of marriage has changed so much.
Lying and cheating, sneaking around, being deceitful always ends messy & your representation takes a major hit!
Yes I don’t believe in “work spouses” either. It doesn’t sound right. They’re co-workers and that’s all they should be.
Right?! It’s soooo cringey and just vile to me.