THIS MAN ISNT STANDING UP FOR HIMSELF. TAKE THE 3 YR OLD CHIKD AND LEAVE THE B. THE FORST MOVE WOULD HAVE BEEN TO TELL THE MAN NEXT DOOR TO NOT COME OVER WHEN HE IS AT WORK AND GYM.
I know, I thought that too... it was just a feeding thought, and I dismissed it right away... but going through the comments and seeing some like yours... I feel kinda validated in that I'm not the only one going there in my head. This hurts me... just thinking about it makes me emotional. IF this turns out not to be his kid... this kid's life is going to be even more confusing, filled with pain and grief, and so many negative feelings and experiences, than it already is. And this man's heart is going to be shattered for life... how do you come back from something like this? I'm not very familiar with the laws in the US, but I'd imagine that he then would be VERY hesitant regarding the divorce because she now has the kid all to herself, which is the best leverage one can have. I get physically sick just thinking about it. Btw... I hope you're having a great day, and that you're doing great. Take care 🙏🏻
@@LyYAHNyou really don’t get over it. Not that easily. And you’re right, both his and the child’s life would be wrecked. So would the neighbors wife, assuming he has one. They’re both ruining both families. And if it does come back that this child is in fact the neighbors, that’s going to ruin things even more. And here in the US he’d have the legal right to divorce her. I’d hate to think what the judge would say about how the kid is treated.
He needs to put a stop to his neighbor involving himself and his childs life. I don't trust anybody having that much to do with my child think about that.. Grooming is real
@@texan903 Everybody cheats somehow. This woman is just a critical case, but everybody does and there's a reason why. It takes less effort to just cheat to feel good for a while than starting over from scratch for a chance to find a good partner that makes you feel good for a while.
I could have forgiven my cheating ex husband easily, but him trying to mentally break me by gaslighting was just pure evil. He was in the wrong and he made me feel like the crazy one. I feel for this dude.
I think she just as such a low view of her husband that she honestly doesn't think he will leave her or do anything. She has zero respect for him. Perhaps she is pushing things to see how weak her husband is and far she can push things before he'll do anything.
It’s actually not a difficult to explain why a woman would behave this way. It’s studied and talked about routinely in men’s spaces - and not referring to a take from Andrew Tate. I know he says stuff like this, but his delivery is too annoying to capture my attention. But, aside from some outliers like myself, the only people that actually want to accept the truth are men that have been torn apart by women like this. And even then, some of these brutally tormented men still can’t accept the reality of modern women because of how plugged-in they are to the comforting lies of modern society. It’s sad
@Matt-tt4cu that's not a "modern" woman. That's a bad person like there are bad men aswell. Please stop listening to stupid wannabe man like Tate. I'm a "modern" woman and I would never do this to my husband. Being modern doesn't mean being a s..t. It means we have the same rights. Can work and have dignity nothing more or less. I don't need to be controlled by a man by violence nether by money. I would do anything for my husband as long he's great to me and vice versa. If love doesn't go away and there is no compatibility (what shouldn't dispear suddenly) there is no reason for separation. But if there would be lying or cheating, I would definitely run for the hills.
@@Matt-tt4cu @Matt-tt4cu that's not a "modern" woman. That's a bad person like there are bad men aswell. Please stop listening to stupid wannabe man like Tate. I'm a "modern" woman and I would never do this to my husband. Being modern doesn't mean being a s..t. It means we have the same rights. Can work and have dignity nothing more or less. I don't need to be controlled by a man by violence nether by money. I would do anything for my husband unless he's great to me and vice versa.
@@Matt-tt4cuI’ve experienced a past girlfriend who was just like this woman. I’m now married to a woman who is the polar opposite. So it’s not universal behavior amongst women. But it’s common enough to be a serious problem men need to be vigilant of when getting into relationships.
Blunt would be: your wife doesn’t respect you, man up, and protect yourself. She hates you and the law is going to take everything from you. Get mad and get ready to fight for your kids, because your slut wife is protected by the law even though it was her that broke up the marriage.
Not so easy. If Joe divorces his wife, the court will award her the house, full custody of their child, he`ll be stung for alimony, child support and only given visitation rights to his child on his wife`s terms, regardless whether she`s a cheater or not. Every which way Joe loses. I know this happened to me. Guys, stay single.
Exactly, he needs to understand a good mom doesn’t cheat let alone cheat in front of her child. My husband had a mom like this, she brought men around him while his dad was at work from as early as he could remember. This crap messes a kid up.
Yes, she’s a terrible mom. I know several people that their mother or father would bring around the lovers. It messes with the child seeing this. It makes the child feel guilty and they never get over it. He needs to get a divorce and move on with his son. Not healthy for the son or him.
Get a paternity test. Divorce her. Try and get full custody if the child is yours. Move. Focus on self improvement (education/additional training, getting in shape, new hobby etc). Living well is the best revenge.
@@elenigros "Infidelity and child custody have nothing to do with each other." - It absolutely does. In some states, if you establish you are not the paternal father you have no financial obligation. A married mother who cheats should absolutely have paternity established. Not only for the financial obligations, but also for potential medical issues that might require an organ transplant.
If she's gaslighting you, and a psych could confirm that, you are the better parent. Make sure you do everything you can to ensure that you get custody. See a lawyer and get this counseling immediately.
I can do that one better. My husband (I had figured it out and separated) would take our daughter with him on work getaways. He'd told his coworkers that his gf was his wife and our daughter's mother (he'd started a new job in another state and moved the gf with him). When our daughter would go in these getaways to "destinations", he instructed her to pretend the gf was her mother!!!
Yeah, to be warned away directly from the husband, and still insinuate yourself in their house and have contact with the child? That's either someone with deep issues and mental problems, she's encouraging him to behave like a lunatic, or there's something afoot.
DNA test is required. I think if he files for divorce she may pull her trump card of paternity. She is not going to file because she has it all. A guy to finance her, while having a lover 8 hrs a day.
@@elettramia6380 the wife allowed it, not him. The wife should’ve blocked it altogether from the beginning. She’s the one in the marriage with the husband, not the other guy.
@@AllisoninspirationsIt depends on the state. While most states have no fault divorce. There are still states that have at fault reasons for divorce. This means you can leave the marriage at any point for any reason, but the distribution of assets change if there is an at-fault reason. Honestly I think all states need to do this.
@@paulaqueiroszthat’s how it should be everywhere but America’s court system with divorces and children are skewed and favor the women to the fullest 99% of the time.
@@JacqueMiller-w1y This is a very astute observation. For all the wife's obvious crimes against their marriage, he obviously didn't have the self respect to stand up for himself, and thus invites this behaviour from her and their neighbour (not blaming the husband at all though).
Holy moly the anxiety is real, this poor guy needs to catch a break before he has a heart attack. He just can’t get away, poor dude. I really feel for that.
I'm not blaming him, but he can definitely get away. He just chooses not to leave. He's been confronting her every day for a long time with not following through. Of course she'd continue. Yes, divorce is horrible for men when it comes to divorce court, child support and possible alimony but it'd be worth it for sanity. Plus, the longer he's with her the more nonsense she'll create.
Joe you are worth more than that. Things Will get better. Hard to believe but the good guy always ends up better off when the dust settles. Been there.
@zachwear3217 because every kid deserves love. Be mad at the wife, not the kid. The kid just needs love. I get being mad but taking it out on a kid who has no say in the matter, and had nothing to do with the decision to cheat.
Lawyer --> Paternity Test --> Divorce --> Therapy regarding the relationship and for his low self-esteem/conflict avoidance. They're both daring him to make a move and laughing at him when he doesn't.
I agree, he’s evil, but as a woman, it tells me his wife is likely telling the neighbor all sorts of terrible things about the caller to justify the cheating. The neighbor probably feels like he’s doing a duty to her and the child by being present and bringing the kid gifts. I have never know a woman to do such a terrible thing and not try to justify it by making the other person out to be the bad guy.
@user-qp2qe5gf9b doesn't matter what a woman tells him, it snot his place to feel any sort of way about it, at the end of the day he's simply screwing that guys wife and that's about as deep as this needs to get.
The deep breathing from the caller off the gate is so real. That's how it feels when you know you have no reason to be there but you're just holding onto hope.
His wife's behavior is outrageous. He absolutely needs to divorce her asap. There are other women out there that will appreciate a man like him and not cheat.
Women today don’t appreciate men and likely never have. They appreciate what men do. They’re not the same. That’s why wasting time on them is dangerous. Men are capable of romantic love. I’m not so sure the other half is.
This honestly sounds like an Adam Sandler comedy . So ridiculous and irreverent. Waving to him? I could see his son calling the neighbor dad or the neighbor wearing his clothes in front of him. The wife emasculates him and he allows it. He needs to start standing up for himself. It's sad
It's situational as both have pros and cons. More peace, freedom, & money(?) being single but there's loneliness. Arguments/fights in a relationship & wanting space you can't always get, but there's way less loneliness and someone to do fun stuff with intimately. Being single can be way better than being with the wrong person or being in a relationship can be way better with the right person. It's all situational and both can change on any given day.
Being in a relationship with the wrong person absolutely yes. Being with the right person, defently not. It depends and setting boundaries and in this case move away or asked for divorce. Otherwise I don't see light...
They are 100% sleeping together and she will leave him for the neighbor eventually. I hope he gets a dna test and put up cameras in his house. Poor guy..
She gets the best of both worlds right now. That changes the minute this guy gets it together and gets the divorce. I wouldn't be surprise if she gets neither guy when that happens.
I want you to know I’ve been taking pointers from you. Especially how you say sorry and show compassion in the way the person needs. I do this so I can help as many as I can, and you’re helping me to do that
@@cynthiaborden4209proof, helps with court cases and maybe can get custody, assuming it’s his kid, but I think it helps with divorce if u have proof of cheating
So sad but yeah true. If that’s the case they should just divorce. Lets say even if they move to a different location, she will probably do it again with a diff neighbor or worse still continue with the previous neighbor. It’s just a sad situation. Sigh poor dude. Hope he finds his peace. For him and his kid.
Poor guy, there is nothing worse then being cheated on - it's a terrible betrayal and those who do it lack character. She gaslighted him - cheaters ALWAYS turn it around on the victim and blame them. He needs to stop defending this monster of a woman.
Bs. Have you ever loved someone, and that person neglects and abuses you sexually, emotionally, physically, with no attention and no intimacy. You cheat when you are fed up. The cheater becomes the bad guy?
Somebody is f*cking up somewhere in a relationship that causes the other person to cheat. The cheater cheats because he or she is sick and tired of the bs they have to deal with year after year. Have you thought about that?
@@mikeinmelbourne9491 So fkn selfish… it’s one thing to cheat in general when you’re in a relationship, but when there’s kid involved, I feel like it’s amplified x1000 on the disgust scale Kids ALWAYS, ALWAYS find out whats in their parent’s closet when they’re older.. they will 100% find out about this affair one day and that the reason the family isn’t together is because their Mom loved their neighbour more than her family… it’s absolutely soul crushing for everyone involved. F this woman.
Dr. John said his wife is practically rubbing his nose in her affair. She’s not the only one. Sounds like this “neighbor” is essentially daring Joe to step up to him and Joe seems to be on the edge of doing something ill advised. He needs to leave before someone ends up in jail, the hospital or the morgue.
Poor guy. Sounds like a chronic people pleaser who never learnt to respect himself and set boundaries, which is why he's being walked all over. I sympathise with him, as I've had to overcome that myself. Beneath "trying to do the nice thing" is rage, grief, and fear. May God bless him with the peace, love, and freedom he deserves,
Dude if you’re reading this. I’m sorry. I can’t imagine the pain you’re feeling, just thinking about your story makes my chest hurt for you. I hope you know better times are ahead for you. Make the tough decisions it’ll get better! You know what you gotta do.
Perfect marriages or relationships aren't real; each one is different. What makes one person content might not make another person content. But I've discovered that there's always a solution to every problem. Five years ago, my wife and I were facing divorce because of issues in our marriage, but we managed to resolve them. It was challenging, but we made it through.
I genuinely want to be happy as well. I'm in a relationship, and even though we're apart, I can't think of life without her; my love for her is solid. I really want her back, and I'm committed to making it work. We've tried different things, like therapy, to mend things.
Learning to let someone you love go is always a tough journey, but in my case, I had the wisdom of a spiritual mentor who kept my marriage from crumbling. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
I'll swiftly look her up online. Thanks. I'm hopeful that following this course of action will bring about positive changes for me too; her absence is deeply felt.
@@gvintage Why should he get custody of his kid while working night shifts. This is not the way it goes. These are separate topics. And all of us don't know what's behind.
@@user-if4ke6en9r We don't know that. Custody is a legal issue. You cannot say: I never saw my son, haven't been to any of his events, but want full custody, because my neighbor took this role for over a year
This poor man is still in denial. He keeps downplaying his wife’s actions during the call. He’s hurting bad and doesn’t know what to do. That sucks! Please move on man! This is terrible.
If that emotional affair has been going on for a year, they've passed that. Its a sexual affair now. They're lying. This husband needs to get away from that situation, somebody is going to snap and wind up in a serious situation. She's not going to be the one to end it. She wants him too, so she can justify "setting up house" with that other guy. Her having the affair, and her putting her husband thru this emotional mess is a 🍆 move. I feel bad for him
Joe you have a heart made of gold. Any person who cheats once will always be easier for them to cheat again. You cannot trust her anymore, not with your marriage. Your life won't be over when you get divorced. You deserve so much better. Get a divorce, sell the house, take care of your kid in a rental until you can afford another house
I don’t think leaving the house for a month is going to quell his anxiety. All he’s going to be thinking about is his wife and his neighbor having a complete free for all while he’s away. Torture either way though…
Do it even if it’s is a no fault state. Give all the gathered evidence to every friend and every family member. Control the narrative and shame her in every way possible.
I am a woman. I did meet up with friends (single) from the opposite s*x sometimes for a late night cooking, chat etc. Mainly because of our work schedule or living arrangement or any other various reasons it had to be a late evening thing. I am not against that in any shape or form. But, also, I am a friend with a couple. The husband and I worked at the same job. And I never ever called the husband unless it was work related and it was during our shift (he was the shift leader so I reported to him) . Every personal call went to and through the wife (we're good friends) without exception. Every time I went over to their place it happened when the wife was there. Never occurred to me to go over there when only the husband was there even though we were friends and also work mates at one point. I just felt it would be disrespectful towards the wife. She and I met up a lot for a coffee, a chat, walking the dog etc. Every time they invited me over the wife called me to ask. The husband is a chef so he cooked good meals but he never called me to invite over. It was always up to the wife to make the call. And I always felt this is the respectful way to do it. I always felt that when you are managing your relationship with a couple you just have to do it slightly differently from when you are dealing with a single person. There are protocols in place for a reason and you got to keep them especially if its a couple, I think. And it works out quite well. They moved away to another country a year ago. I just had a nice long chat with the wife over the phone 🙂We are still good friends. I might be able to visit them next summer 🤞
People in a relationship should NEVER have friends or spend time with people of the opposite gender, period. It’s not controlling, it’s protecting the relationship. My current GF knows this, and she understands that I’m not telling her she can’t, I just choose to not be in a relationship with her if she does. My females know and understand that if I’m in a relationship,they won’t be hearing from me.
@@barryc9115 Lol no, that absolutely is controlling. If you have faith in your partner and are secure in your relationship you wouldn't need to worry about your spouse/partners behavior around the opposite gender, especially if it's someone that's been in their life for a long time. Why are you so afraid of plutonic relationships outside of your own?
@@ey3z4yalisten friend, my wife was with me while I was just a lad in the army, and we got married straight after high-school at 19 years old. We are still married to this day. You women really need to give up with this whole plutonic nonsense. You just admitted that you won’t be over there when his wife isn’t there. Meaning you can’t break certain barriers that lead to becoming deeper friends with him. Men are not able to live in plutonic spaces as well as women. Men can’t just get vulnerable with women without certain hormones being activated. You women best to start accepting that for your own mental health sake. Men are starting to leave ya’ll alone now due to this ignorance. If yo man say no guy friends you either with it or you not. But don’t make men seem evil because you’re ok with being vulnerable and open to human contact from the most dangerous yet unpredictable animal on the planet known as man.
This broke my heart to listen to. That was an absolutely defeated man that is just lost. I also worry about him ending up in jail or even worst deleting himself.
Once a man confronts another man on his wife subject, a decent man will never bother that family again. A wife respecting husband's feeling will not talk to that person again. A relation without respect and trust is already dead.
I used to hook up with a married female coworker. Her husband found out two years after it ended and he confronted me. I ended up hooking up with her a few more times.
This woman hates her husband, the amount of humiliation that she confronts him with on a daily basis is vile. 😠
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It's insane, but it shows how much some people will just sit in crap and eat it. Know your worth
THIS MAN ISNT STANDING UP FOR HIMSELF. TAKE THE 3 YR OLD CHIKD AND LEAVE THE B. THE FORST MOVE WOULD HAVE BEEN TO TELL THE MAN NEXT DOOR TO NOT COME OVER WHEN HE IS AT WORK AND GYM.
@@lilag3673 'hate' wasn't in there anywhere . You are reading things that just have no evidence.
@@itsPrezntwhat she is doing is intentionally cruel. What do you call that? Not exactly the biggest leap bro
Gaslighting someone is so much more traumatizing than most people realize.. i am wishing him healing.
It’s horrific.
Cruelty....
It's extreme psychological abuse yes.
Can send a person insane.
Crazy making behaviour.
It feels like everyone is doing it after you realize someone you trust is doing it. It's very hard to get past.
Oh wow. You said it! Took me 40 yrs to trust my own reality. It is traumatizing!!
Given the way the neighbor helped paint the kid's room, the caller needs to get a paternity test done on "his" kid.
I know, I thought that too... it was just a feeding thought, and I dismissed it right away... but going through the comments and seeing some like yours... I feel kinda validated in that I'm not the only one going there in my head. This hurts me... just thinking about it makes me emotional. IF this turns out not to be his kid... this kid's life is going to be even more confusing, filled with pain and grief, and so many negative feelings and experiences, than it already is. And this man's heart is going to be shattered for life... how do you come back from something like this? I'm not very familiar with the laws in the US, but I'd imagine that he then would be VERY hesitant regarding the divorce because she now has the kid all to herself, which is the best leverage one can have. I get physically sick just thinking about it.
Btw... I hope you're having a great day, and that you're doing great. Take care 🙏🏻
This is so important !!! If she's like this now, she's been like this forever.
Yep and he bought him clothes too
DNA RIGHT AWAY
@@LyYAHNyou really don’t get over it. Not that easily. And you’re right, both his and the child’s life would be wrecked. So would the neighbors wife, assuming he has one. They’re both ruining both families. And if it does come back that this child is in fact the neighbors, that’s going to ruin things even more. And here in the US he’d have the legal right to divorce her. I’d hate to think what the judge would say about how the kid is treated.
He needs to put a stop to his neighbor involving himself and his childs life. I don't trust anybody having that much to do with my child think about that.. Grooming is real
Just want to give this man a hug. The level of disrespect from his wife is unbelievable.
Just another example of why most men shouldn't get married in 2024 and beyond. We are done with most women.
"A great mom doesn't bring another man in the house" amen!
And around another man's kid. She wild.
This spoke volumes !! 💯 🎯
Cheating on the husband doesn't make her a bad mom. >That husband is a poor provider. She needs to get out of that marriage.
Please stop making excuses for fellow cheaters. If the relationship isn't working, just leave .
@@texan903 Everybody cheats somehow. This woman is just a critical case, but everybody does and there's a reason why. It takes less effort to just cheat to feel good for a while than starting over from scratch for a chance to find a good partner that makes you feel good for a while.
His wife and neighbor are disrespecting him to his face. You deserve better bro 🙏🏾🙏🏾.
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She’s gaslighting him by leaving evidence and then denying them.
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I could have forgiven my cheating ex husband easily, but him trying to mentally break me by gaslighting was just pure evil. He was in the wrong and he made me feel like the crazy one. I feel for this dude.
Get DNA
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I think she just as such a low view of her husband that she honestly doesn't think he will leave her or do anything. She has zero respect for him. Perhaps she is pushing things to see how weak her husband is and far she can push things before he'll do anything.
The room painting incident broke my heart. He wanted to paint the room for his son. This woman is so cruel.
SHE LIST RESPECT FOR HER HUSBAND. SHE PROLLY LOST RESPECT WHEN THEY HAD TO FILE BANKRUPTCY, SHE LIKELY DOESNT RESPECT HIM DUE TO HIN BEING A PUSHOVER.
@@JENKEN425you're right. He needs to get rid of the coont.
@@JENKEN425that's a crappy excuse, stop. doesn't excuse her behavior.
As a women, I don't understand a women like this. They are rubbing his nose in it. They are beyond despicable.
It’s actually not a difficult to explain why a woman would behave this way. It’s studied and talked about routinely in men’s spaces - and not referring to a take from Andrew Tate. I know he says stuff like this, but his delivery is too annoying to capture my attention. But, aside from some outliers like myself, the only people that actually want to accept the truth are men that have been torn apart by women like this. And even then, some of these brutally tormented men still can’t accept the reality of modern women because of how plugged-in they are to the comforting lies of modern society. It’s sad
@Matt-tt4cu that's not a "modern" woman. That's a bad person like there are bad men aswell. Please stop listening to stupid wannabe man like Tate. I'm a "modern" woman and I would never do this to my husband. Being modern doesn't mean being a s..t. It means we have the same rights. Can work and have dignity nothing more or less. I don't need to be controlled by a man by violence nether by money. I would do anything for my husband as long he's great to me and vice versa. If love doesn't go away and there is no compatibility (what shouldn't dispear suddenly) there is no reason for separation. But if there would be lying or cheating, I would definitely run for the hills.
As a human I don't understand humans like this. Don't matter their gender.
@@Matt-tt4cu @Matt-tt4cu that's not a "modern" woman. That's a bad person like there are bad men aswell. Please stop listening to stupid wannabe man like Tate. I'm a "modern" woman and I would never do this to my husband. Being modern doesn't mean being a s..t. It means we have the same rights. Can work and have dignity nothing more or less. I don't need to be controlled by a man by violence nether by money. I would do anything for my husband unless he's great to me and vice versa.
@@Matt-tt4cuI’ve experienced a past girlfriend who was just like this woman. I’m now married to a woman who is the polar opposite. So it’s not universal behavior amongst women. But it’s common enough to be a serious problem men need to be vigilant of when getting into relationships.
John's bluntness is exactly what this poor man needed to hear. I hope he takes John's professional suggestions to heart and follows through.
JOE NEEDS COUNSELING, HES A WHIMP.
Yeah and he hears him, but he sounds like it’s going in one ear, and out of the same ear ☹️
Blunt would be: your wife doesn’t respect you, man up, and protect yourself. She hates you and the law is going to take everything from you. Get mad and get ready to fight for your kids, because your slut wife is protected by the law even though it was her that broke up the marriage.
Your marriage is over bro. Take whatever little dignity you have left and get away from that nightmare you married.
Exactly
What a soulless woman
Not so easy.
If Joe divorces his wife, the court will award her the house, full custody of their child, he`ll be stung for alimony, child support and only given visitation rights to his child on his wife`s terms, regardless whether she`s a cheater or not.
Every which way Joe loses.
I know this happened to me.
Guys, stay single.
“Take whatever little dignity you have left and get away with it” 😢😢😢 noted!
Do it while you’re still young, you can find love again and if you don’t the peace that comes with being alone and happy is PLENTY
That "yes, Sir." makes it somehow even worse... he seems like such a great man. Well-mannered, polite... just overall an amazing man.
She’s not a good mom, not a good wife and not a good person.
Exactly, he needs to understand a good mom doesn’t cheat let alone cheat in front of her child. My husband had a mom like this, she brought men around him while his dad was at work from as early as he could remember. This crap messes a kid up.
True. Nowadays, I would not bring anybody in front of my child.
yes. it’s as simple as that!
As a wife and a mother I 100% agree
Yes, she’s a terrible mom. I know several people that their mother or father would bring around the lovers. It messes with the child seeing this.
It makes the child feel guilty and they never get over it.
He needs to get a divorce and move on with his son.
Not healthy for the son or him.
This was me many years ago. This call really got to me. I was there. He's going to be a new person in the future when he gains his strength.
My prayers are with you.❤
@@BlueJeans1952 Sweet. I'm great and I hope you are too, thank you.
Get a paternity test. Divorce her. Try and get full custody if the child is yours. Move. Focus on self improvement (education/additional training, getting in shape, new hobby etc). Living well is the best revenge.
Best post on here. Well done.
Infidelity and child custody have nothing to do with each other.
@@elenigros "Infidelity and child custody have nothing to do with each other." - It absolutely does. In some states, if you establish you are not the paternal father you have no financial obligation. A married mother who cheats should absolutely have paternity established. Not only for the financial obligations, but also for potential medical issues that might require an organ transplant.
If she's gaslighting you, and a psych could confirm that, you are the better parent. Make sure you do everything you can to ensure that you get custody. See a lawyer and get this counseling immediately.
He won't have standing for full custody based on infidelity alone.
She’s not a good mom. She’s making a fool of you. Your a good man that deserves better.
He better get a DNA test. Sounds like the Neighbor is providing for his son.
Same
Gosh that’s a sad thought.
Good point
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Yep DNA test your son!
My mother had a similar affair to this.
She told me and my brother that the new man was our father now.
I still feel disgusted to this day.
I can do that one better. My husband (I had figured it out and separated) would take our daughter with him on work getaways. He'd told his coworkers that his gf was his wife and our daughter's mother (he'd started a new job in another state and moved the gf with him). When our daughter would go in these getaways to "destinations", he instructed her to pretend the gf was her mother!!!
If he thinks it's just emotional, especially when they are neighbors... I have some bad news for him
@@joea9222 Well, not all people are like you think.
@@KuchenCraftyou'd end up like this dude, totally cucked and blind to it
@@KuchenCraftlol, you'd end up just like this dude. 🙄
Does it even matter at this point?
@@MsMinoula if he's still with her, then yes...
I wish we had an update on this. Poor guy, his wife is being so cruel and gaslighting him actually
that might be the neighbors kid. hes doing too much work
Yup, another man will not invest in another man’s child. Specially while she is married .
Yeah, to be warned away directly from the husband, and still insinuate yourself in their house and have contact with the child?
That's either someone with deep issues and mental problems, she's encouraging him to behave like a lunatic, or there's something afoot.
DNA test is required. I think if he files for divorce she may pull her trump card of paternity. She is not going to file because she has it all. A guy to finance her, while having a lover 8 hrs a day.
They’re literally pushing him out of his own life - how cruel
Women don’t give a F about a man’s struggles. End of story.
This is more than an emotional affair bro.
Yep Sadia said something similar...they are just trying to minimize their actions. Fact is they are cheating and its more than emotional
An affair is an affair. Period.
@@jwebby85 Absolutely, except you can't get an STD or pregnant from an emotional affair.
IF THEY ARE HAVING RELATIONS BEHIND HIS BACK HE NEEDS TO LIKELY LEAVE. HE MIGHT BE AFRAID TO PAY BILLS BY HIMSELF.
@@Sam11747Correct! It’s worse! You’re breaking marriage covenant and breaking their heart! (The kids too)
what's crazy is the amount of gaslighting those 2 are putting this guy through
And he let it happen.
Seriously, what neighbour gives you pet names and buys clothes for you? In front of your other half. This is so bad
@@xsuzannex but bro he’s “not sure if they have had sex” lololol
Some ppl are just so wicked. Selfish mofos
@@CRobinsonpk I mean 🙄😬 he sounds like a pushover very sad. She has made a fool out of him
I don’t understand how the husband allowed this to begin with. It’s a very odd situation to allow to happen in your own home
@@elettramia6380 the wife allowed it, not him. The wife should’ve blocked it altogether from the beginning. She’s the one in the marriage with the husband, not the other guy.
I thank you John for being there for this man. I feel for him so much.
He needs to set up secret cameras in the house for evidence in the divorce.
I don't know about laws in US, but in Brazil an unfaithful spouse is not eligible to alimony.
Most states in the U.S are "no fault" divorces. I know this because I've been through this. It doesn't matter if one spouse cheats in most states.
@@paulaqueiroszthere's a law that makes sense.
@@AllisoninspirationsIt depends on the state. While most states have no fault divorce. There are still states that have at fault reasons for divorce. This means you can leave the marriage at any point for any reason, but the distribution of assets change if there is an at-fault reason.
Honestly I think all states need to do this.
@@paulaqueiroszthat’s how it should be everywhere but America’s court system with divorces and children are skewed and favor the women to the fullest 99% of the time.
i dont even know this poor guy, but I can feel his pain. Sending you prayers
This poor man. Wow. Yes, move before you have a bad day and end up in prison.
Without a doubt!
Same reason why a battered woman stays in a relationship sadly
I would be on my way and not regret a second of it
@@JacqueMiller-w1y This is a very astute observation. For all the wife's obvious crimes against their marriage, he obviously didn't have the self respect to stand up for himself, and thus invites this behaviour from her and their neighbour (not blaming the husband at all though).
I don’t know that there’s a jury that would convict him if he ends this guy. I mean this is biblical. He has every right to protect his son.
John is so good at what he does...
This babe is BOLD 🤯🤯🤯
What a cruel cruel woman
Yeah the next conversation they have is “honey I think we should have an open marriage.” I feel sorry for this man.
She probably feels justified if the baby is the neighbor's. She's absolutely vile.
I agree. She is stringing him along yet rubbing his nose in her affair.
@@Ayeteeemm She is either dumb, or one evil B.
They have zero respect for you! RUN!!🏃♀️
Don’t leave your house! You will lose custody of your child. It’s considered abandonment
@@Chapeeze yep worst advice ever. Tell her to leave
Tell HER to go next door to move in with Jody. If the "wife" can't and he's married, dime him out to his wife.
Depends on the state. In many it is not considered abandonment anymore.
I’m not so sure that’s his child
Change the locks and kick her out!
Man, people on this show make me feel so much better about my problems.
Holy moly the anxiety is real, this poor guy needs to catch a break before he has a heart attack. He just can’t get away, poor dude. I really feel for that.
I'm not blaming him, but he can definitely get away. He just chooses not to leave. He's been confronting her every day for a long time with not following through. Of course she'd continue. Yes, divorce is horrible for men when it comes to divorce court, child support and possible alimony but it'd be worth it for sanity. Plus, the longer he's with her the more nonsense she'll create.
Joe you are worth more than that. Things Will get better. Hard to believe but the good guy always ends up better off when the dust settles. Been there.
If I was the dad I’d get a dna test on his 3 year old child.
He’s going to need to!
I would get a DNA test too.
Yeah this is insane , I’m not sure what other reason another grown man would give so much attention to someone else’s child
@zachwear3217 because every kid deserves love. Be mad at the wife, not the kid. The kid just needs love. I get being mad but taking it out on a kid who has no say in the matter, and had nothing to do with the decision to cheat.
@@zachwear3217 there is definitely even worse reasons. Some people are more evil than you think.
This guys denial is heartbreaking.
Lawyer --> Paternity Test --> Divorce --> Therapy regarding the relationship and for his low self-esteem/conflict avoidance.
They're both daring him to make a move and laughing at him when he doesn't.
Oh yeah they're wanting it in front of his face they know exactly what they're doing
His wife is sick and has found the perfect disgusting affair partner.....
Therapy first, then attorney and all the rest
She’s sent a pretty clear message. So sad.
Man that neighbor is pure evil. To wave and look the man whose wife you are sleeping with in the eye is obnoxious and that is putting it lightly.
I agree, he’s evil, but as a woman, it tells me his wife is likely telling the neighbor all sorts of terrible things about the caller to justify the cheating. The neighbor probably feels like he’s doing a duty to her and the child by being present and bringing the kid gifts. I have never know a woman to do such a terrible thing and not try to justify it by making the other person out to be the bad guy.
I know for sure that neighbor wouldn’t have fingers to wave with
@user-qp2qe5gf9b doesn't matter what a woman tells him, it snot his place to feel any sort of way about it, at the end of the day he's simply screwing that guys wife and that's about as deep as this needs to get.
@@user-qp2qe5gf9bthis is very true
thats why this story is hard to believe, no one would do that
Put up a doorbell camera, it will notify you when someone is at the doors.
He’s bankrupt. He can’t fund much here.
The deep breathing from the caller off the gate is so real. That's how it feels when you know you have no reason to be there but you're just holding onto hope.
Yesss
I hope you mean no reason to be in his marriage, and not no reason to be on earth! Plenty of things to live for aside from a rotten cheating spouse
Yes, I heard that. His body clearly knows😔
Self respect is priceless!
9:26 I want to hug this man 😢you deserve to be loved and be faithful to. Be well.
He needs to wake up and man up! He needs a group of strong men to help him stop being weak!!!
Caller: My wife is having an affair with our next door neighbor
Dave: Sell the House
His wife's behavior is outrageous. He absolutely needs to divorce her asap. There are other women out there that will appreciate a man like him and not cheat.
Bullshit. There s none of that. And if they are , its like 0.00001%
@synx7874 🤔🤔🤔
YES BUT HES BROKE FINANCIALLY.
Women today don’t appreciate men and likely never have. They appreciate what men do. They’re not the same.
That’s why wasting time on them is dangerous. Men are capable of romantic love. I’m not so sure the other half is.
This honestly sounds like an Adam Sandler comedy . So ridiculous and irreverent. Waving to him? I could see his son calling the neighbor dad or the neighbor wearing his clothes in front of him. The wife emasculates him and he allows it. He needs to start standing up for himself. It's sad
She'll keep doing it until he files for divorce. Some people have no shame.
A lot of times it's better to be single than in a relationship
Tracy,Agree
@@Asapgrossmany of the calls are similar to this one. Not so bad being single.
It's situational as both have pros and cons. More peace, freedom, & money(?) being single but there's loneliness. Arguments/fights in a relationship & wanting space you can't always get, but there's way less loneliness and someone to do fun stuff with intimately. Being single can be way better than being with the wrong person or being in a relationship can be way better with the right person. It's all situational and both can change on any given day.
@@alluringbliss4165 because people call if they have problems not if they have a strong relationship lol
Being in a relationship with the wrong person absolutely yes. Being with the right person, defently not. It depends and setting boundaries and in this case move away or asked for divorce. Otherwise I don't see light...
This guys too nice, neither wife or neighbour fear him.
It’s not about nice. It’s about weak. He is a weak man with no self respect. Women punish weak men until they quit being weak.
They are 100% sleeping together and she will leave him for the neighbor eventually. I hope he gets a dna test and put up cameras in his house. Poor guy..
If the neighbour wanted that it would've happened already.
@@johnmcconnell8151yup he’s using her. How men like this are so weak is beyond me
She gets the best of both worlds right now. That changes the minute this guy gets it together and gets the divorce. I wouldn't be surprise if she gets neither guy when that happens.
JUST SELL IT ,,,,GET OT ,,,,,,GO RENT A HOUSE ...............
Yes, they are.
I want you to know I’ve been taking pointers from you. Especially how you say sorry and show compassion in the way the person needs. I do this so I can help as many as I can, and you’re helping me to do that
This is brutal. Its gonna take years to heal from this. Start that process now and get the divorce asap. You get one life. Stay strong brother
So glad he said put cameras up!!!!
Why put cameras up now? He knows.
@@cynthiaborden4209proof, helps with court cases and maybe can get custody, assuming it’s his kid, but I think it helps with divorce if u have proof of cheating
If he leaves, the neighbor will be over there 24/7
So sad but yeah true. If that’s the case they should just divorce. Lets say even if they move to a different location, she will probably do it again with a diff neighbor or worse still continue with the previous neighbor. It’s just a sad situation. Sigh poor dude. Hope he finds his peace. For him and his kid.
Yeah until she has another "emotional affair"
He already is.
If he stays and she knows a divorce is coming, good chance she'll falsely claim domestic violence.
Yea terrible advice from baloney
Bless his heart 😢 I could just cry. I’m praying for you man!
Poor guy, there is nothing worse then being cheated on - it's a terrible betrayal and those who do it lack character. She gaslighted him - cheaters ALWAYS turn it around on the victim and blame them.
He needs to stop defending this monster of a woman.
@@mikeinmelbourne9491 usually it's because they have done the cheating in the past.
Bs. Have you ever loved someone, and that person neglects and abuses you sexually, emotionally, physically, with no attention and no intimacy. You cheat when you are fed up. The cheater becomes the bad guy?
Somebody is f*cking up somewhere in a relationship that causes the other person to cheat. The cheater cheats because he or she is sick and tired of the bs they have to deal with year after year. Have you thought about that?
@@mikeinmelbourne9491 So fkn selfish… it’s one thing to cheat in general when you’re in a relationship, but when there’s kid involved, I feel like it’s amplified x1000 on the disgust scale
Kids ALWAYS, ALWAYS find out whats in their parent’s closet when they’re older.. they will 100% find out about this affair one day and that the reason the family isn’t together is because their Mom loved their neighbour more than her family… it’s absolutely soul crushing for everyone involved.
F this woman.
@@troytruong8246 then leave.
Awe man I hope this guy has started his healing journey.
I love that response, “It’s ok.”
“No, it’s not ok.”
So deep 😂
The neighbor is probably just a really good friend and wants to help out whenever he can! ❤ sounds like a great guy!
Is the child his? I mean he's buying the child clothes.
I bet the child is his.
At times I feel lonely but calls like this make me realize I’d rather spend my life alone than be subject to something like this.
Those things are bringing the worst in a man. I hope he will not do what am i thinking he is going to
This is extremely uncommon. I have never experienced anything anywhere near this and I've had many long term partners.
Joe doesn’t want to leave. He just wants to vent. He’s gonna stay and get cheated on.
@@jhonilocran6077 yup unfortunately he’s stayed around to long and lost his dignity.
I believe it's an ego issue too..he doesn't want the other guy to win even though he's already won the "cheating" wife. Some prize.
Dr. John said his wife is practically rubbing his nose in her affair. She’s not the only one. Sounds like this “neighbor” is essentially daring Joe to step up to him and Joe seems to be on the edge of doing something ill advised. He needs to leave before someone ends up in jail, the hospital or the morgue.
It’s embarrassing
I THINK HE IS BROKE FINANCIALLY.
The dude needs to bring his self worth and dignity to the top of the list. Accept the loss and become a new person.
Poor guy. Sounds like a chronic people pleaser who never learnt to respect himself and set boundaries, which is why he's being walked all over. I sympathise with him, as I've had to overcome that myself. Beneath "trying to do the nice thing" is rage, grief, and fear. May God bless him with the peace, love, and freedom he deserves,
Joe, please get stronger, . . . Your son needs YOU ❤
I want an update on how he’s doing
Such a kind man but this is over.
People are hating on the man for being a coward. But the true coward in this story is the wife and that neighbor.
@@SarahConnor562 it’s easier to leave a trail of bread crumbs than it is to have a sit down conversation. In my opinion.
What can he do. If he puts his hands on anyone he goes to jail.
the wife is downright evil.
Paternity test she is trifling!
@@Honeycomblife Paternity fraud should be criminal.
Do not leave. You will be charged with abandonment. See a lawyer first.
Dude if you’re reading this. I’m sorry. I can’t imagine the pain you’re feeling, just thinking about your story makes my chest hurt for you. I hope you know better times are ahead for you. Make the tough decisions it’ll get better! You know what you gotta do.
Paternity test she is trifling!
Id love to get an update from this guy in a month
Dr. D is at his best when he dishes out the stone cold advice.
You don't say divorce you do it and have her served
You can hear the distress in his voice immediately. 😢
Praying you find healing. Just keep being the best dad you can be. You will find love and happiness again. Sorry you have to go through this pain. 😢
Perfect marriages or relationships aren't real; each one is different. What makes one person content might not make another person content. But I've discovered that there's always a solution to every problem. Five years ago, my wife and I were facing divorce because of issues in our marriage, but we managed to resolve them. It was challenging, but we made it through.
I genuinely want to be happy as well. I'm in a relationship, and even though we're apart, I can't think of life without her; my love for her is solid. I really want her back, and I'm committed to making it work. We've tried different things, like therapy, to mend things.
Learning to let someone you love go is always a tough journey, but in my case, I had the wisdom of a spiritual mentor who kept my marriage from crumbling. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
I'll swiftly look her up online. Thanks. I'm hopeful that following this course of action will bring about positive changes for me too; her absence is deeply felt.
I promise you will not regret it
Did one of your problems involve one of y'all sleeping with a neighbor?
He may want access to your child. Protect your child!
The kid is likely the neighbor's kid anyway.
Paternity tests need to be mandatory.
They should be. The father's name shouldn't be added to a birth certificate until paternity is confirmed.
So should lie detector tests every 3 months in any marriage.
The poor little boy will wonder where his father went. What a sad situation.
He is in a dangerous situation IMO. She's done with their marriage. Take your child and seperate.. legally of course.
@@gvintage Why should he get custody of his kid while working night shifts. This is not the way it goes. These are separate topics. And all of us don't know what's behind.
@@KuchenCrafthe should get custody because he’s not the one who stepped out not only on the marriage, but the son also.
@@user-if4ke6en9r We don't know that. Custody is a legal issue. You cannot say: I never saw my son, haven't been to any of his events, but want full custody, because my neighbor took this role for over a year
Is it his child? DNA test is needed.
@@msbeaz Nonsense
This poor man is still in denial. He keeps downplaying his wife’s actions during the call. He’s hurting bad and doesn’t know what to do. That sucks! Please move on man! This is terrible.
If that emotional affair has been going on for a year, they've passed that. Its a sexual affair now. They're lying. This husband needs to get away from that situation, somebody is going to snap and wind up in a serious situation. She's not going to be the one to end it. She wants him too, so she can justify "setting up house" with that other guy. Her having the affair, and her putting her husband thru this emotional mess is a 🍆 move. I feel bad for him
Exactly! There is absolutely less than zero chance that it hasn’t been physical for a loooong time.
Joe you have a heart made of gold. Any person who cheats once will always be easier for them to cheat again. You cannot trust her anymore, not with your marriage. Your life won't be over when you get divorced. You deserve so much better. Get a divorce, sell the house, take care of your kid in a rental until you can afford another house
Heart goes out for the guy. He's gotta get out.
@@TheAgentmigs I just don’t understand how you get into this situation without doing something so much earlier
he has to stop loving her, she is a big liar!
DNA test that kid, I would be in jail. Good god
He needs to get a DNA test on the kid.
Its a very real next step in this process and it is disappointing that Dr. John didn't say it.
@@timothyrosman6371he might have preferred to tell him off air.
She is trifling!
The kid doesn't deserve a weak father. He already has a coward mother.
The neighbor guy is provoking the poor husband.
I don’t think leaving the house for a month is going to quell his anxiety. All he’s going to be thinking about is his wife and his neighbor having a complete free for all while he’s away. Torture either way though…
Yeah wtf and then he just comes right back? Nah leave and never come back
I want to give this man a big hug. He sounds like he needs it.
I’m so sad for him. He deserves so much better!!!
Man, he sounds so exhausted and numb. I feel so bad for him.
Good for this guy for not going scorched earth on everybody
Hire a PI immediately and gather evidence if it's at fault location.
Do it even if it’s is a no fault state. Give all the gathered evidence to every friend and every family member. Control the narrative and shame her in every way possible.
see a lawyer and a therapist in that order
Hire a lawyer and ask them to meet at your first therapy appointment so everyone is on the same page
@@dyllangames3592yep! The lawyer is gonna need therapy too, after this! And a cigarette
with what money?
So sorry you’re going through this brother. I hope you are able to get past this such a terrible situation which I would not wish on my worst enemy.
I am a woman. I did meet up with friends (single) from the opposite s*x sometimes for a late night cooking, chat etc. Mainly because of our work schedule or living arrangement or any other various reasons it had to be a late evening thing. I am not against that in any shape or form.
But, also, I am a friend with a couple. The husband and I worked at the same job. And I never ever called the husband unless it was work related and it was during our shift (he was the shift leader so I reported to him) . Every personal call went to and through the wife (we're good friends) without exception. Every time I went over to their place it happened when the wife was there. Never occurred to me to go over there when only the husband was there even though we were friends and also work mates at one point. I just felt it would be disrespectful towards the wife. She and I met up a lot for a coffee, a chat, walking the dog etc. Every time they invited me over the wife called me to ask. The husband is a chef so he cooked good meals but he never called me to invite over. It was always up to the wife to make the call. And I always felt this is the respectful way to do it. I always felt that when you are managing your relationship with a couple you just have to do it slightly differently from when you are dealing with a single person. There are protocols in place for a reason and you got to keep them especially if its a couple, I think.
And it works out quite well. They moved away to another country a year ago. I just had a nice long chat with the wife over the phone 🙂We are still good friends. I might be able to visit them next summer 🤞
People in a relationship should NEVER have friends or spend time with people of the opposite gender, period. It’s not controlling, it’s protecting the relationship. My current GF knows this, and she understands that I’m not telling her she can’t, I just choose to not be in a relationship with her if she does.
My females know and understand that if I’m in a relationship,they won’t be hearing from me.
@@barryc9115 Lol no, that absolutely is controlling. If you have faith in your partner and are secure in your relationship you wouldn't need to worry about your spouse/partners behavior around the opposite gender, especially if it's someone that's been in their life for a long time. Why are you so afraid of plutonic relationships outside of your own?
@@ey3z4yalisten friend, my wife was with me while I was just a lad in the army, and we got married straight after high-school at 19 years old. We are still married to this day. You women really need to give up with this whole plutonic nonsense. You just admitted that you won’t be over there when his wife isn’t there. Meaning you can’t break certain barriers that lead to becoming deeper friends with him. Men are not able to live in plutonic spaces as well as women. Men can’t just get vulnerable with women without certain hormones being activated. You women best to start accepting that for your own mental health sake. Men are starting to leave ya’ll alone now due to this ignorance. If yo man say no guy friends you either with it or you not. But don’t make men seem evil because you’re ok with being vulnerable and open to human contact from the most dangerous yet unpredictable animal on the planet known as man.
This broke my heart to listen to. That was an absolutely defeated man that is just lost. I also worry about him ending up in jail or even worst deleting himself.
Once a man confronts another man on his wife subject, a decent man will never bother that family again. A wife respecting husband's feeling will not talk to that person again. A relation without respect and trust is already dead.
True wisdom. The key to any successful relationship ❤
I agree with you… this has been over for a while. Leave her… fight for your son (If he’s truly yours) and move away.
I used to hook up with a married female coworker. Her husband found out two years after it ended and he confronted me. I ended up hooking up with her a few more times.
@@herschelsquirts2338 Is he still with her?!
@@EtoCobra he stayed with her
Almost shed a tear for him