“I used to think I was introverted because I liked being alone, but it turns out I just like my peace, I’m very extroverted around people who bring me peace.” -Jhené Aiko
Duuuuude, this is so true. With some groups of people I just don't feel like being myself or talking to anyone and with others I never stop talking....
“Don’t drink poison just because you’re thirsty.” Don’t surround yourself with fake, toxic people just because you feel lonely. Fall in love with your solitude.
Life is not legendary if ur friends are not there to see it. Friends make it legendary and awesome. No one can fall in love with himself. There’s always the one waiting for us
“I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone.” -robin williams
right? at first i thought it sounded kinda stupid when you say “be your own friend” but it’s honestly SO true! you need to learn to love yourself n be kind n learn how to enjoy being by yourself every so often 😔😔 good luck on ur journey!!
When I'm socializing, I'll try best not to turn on my "fake mode". It might sound crazy, but I always want to develop deep connections with everyone I meets. I think some people got scared away when I'm being this honest because I might say stuff that they're not ready to hear from a stranger. But I'm learning not to care about those people who got scared away. I will cherish those who stay. This takes a LOOOOT of practices. There was a time that I tried to fake-mode everyone. It worked, in terms of being a nice guy and not hurting anyone. But it ended up tearing me apart because I don't even recognize myself anymore. I figured that being honest with people is soooo important because it's the only way to show them who you really are. The difficult part of being honest with strangers is that, you need to know how to protect yourself or even back out when you sense something is not right. It's a pretty sophisticated skill, which is somehow fun to master.
I get you buddy. I'm exactly the same way and some people who are on the other end of the spectrum are taken aback by your level of directness/authenticity and uniqueness. Some may even consider you 'crazy'. It made me doubt myself a lot, but I eventually resolved all of my inner issues and cherished my values and what I stand for and who I really am.
I relate to this 100! I never understood why I was always so exhausted after hanging out or meeting new people and realized it was because I was constantly turning on fake mode and that was mentally and emotionally exhausting. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!
I feel even I was like this.. I was able to socialize with random people but only if I was drinking alcohol. I have quit drinking now and am curious to see how I feel socializing sober..
@Funka Punka I've never had a gf either, if a girl ever has liked me they haven't really shown it. But I'm about half your age so I'm still surviving. Good luck finding your soul mate. And to any girls that might be reading this, no I'm not interested in online dating. Let's just say I know someone who had a REALLY bad experience with that...
Funka Punka I just read your comment and I feel sad for you. But you are only 30, you said. You do not have to have a girlfriend now. It’s fine if you did but you don’t have to. When you meet the right girl, you will have a girlfriend. I am more concerned that you are so lonely and say you have no friends. Can you try to talk to people from where you work? Or maybe your apartment building? You may have nice neighbors who would be glad to be friends with you. Start slowly, just talking to people you don’t know. It’s not so scary once you have done it a few times.
@Funka Punka Maybe you're just about to find your soulmate soon, I never had a girlfriend also and I'm 25. It will happen when you least expect it. You just want to find someone with positive energy who you can trust and open.
We need a balance of our own internal consultation as well as external consultation, regardless of how we're socially oriented in personality. We wither and die more quickly and painfully, if we don't get that balance correct (eg. If one of those two, in my opinion, fundamental social constructs are missing).
The older I get the more I realize I don’t have many “close friends” because I place high value on what it means to be a true friend. I can be “friendly” with many people, but there are few people who I feel my soul connects to and understands. Thank you for this conversation 🙏🏽
To be honest she gave me really weird vibes in this video...you will NOT have many great friends but you will have ppl you party with sometimes, ppl that you know and like to talk to...her view on the matter its very nordic like, im romanian, we are a bit more closer to other ppl in here even tho we are not best friends by any tretch of the imagination.... its alot about the culture and your sorroundings! It feels to me that it might be extrenly hard to approach her or be with her as a man! Not hatting at all just saying my thoughts!
Yes me too! I’ve learned a lot from experience that it’s much better to be alone and just friendly with others rather than having so many “close friends” who are fake. I’m someone who’s friendly with many people but I only have one true friend but we aren’t that close yet. That will just take time though.
Very true, I now feel lonely becuase I just realized, I never really had a friend I trusted, comfortable with, open with, or be my full self with. And I really want to find these friends, or an intimate special someone to share everything with
I'm sorry to hear that. I don't really know what to say to this tbh but attemping to saying something useful I'd encourage you to keep trying to go outside and find nice activities/groups, even if you may have had tough experiences. There are kind people out there and you are surely worth having good relationships.
when you truly know yourself and are proud of who you are ,what you truly resonate with is when you feel more confident in being authentically yourself.Lana is an inspiration :)
It’s not about having a lot of friends or having little to no friends, it’s about what you like and what makes you truly happy. If you’re happy having lots of friends even though you’re not that close to them, then I don’t think there is anything wrong with that. That also goes with having less friends but with whom you’re actually close with. There is nothing wrong with that too if it makes you happy.
I agree, but the more friends you have, the more responsibility is put on your shoulders to maintain your friendships. So in theory, having fewer friends is more stable.
Absolutely. If something works for you, then, by all means, do it. What I have a problem with, is the prevalence of the mainstream idea that if you spend most of your time alone, socialize very little, or have few to no friends, then you are a failure. This couldn't be further from the truth. I have 1 good friend in my life. Other than that I have my absolutely amazing parents and close family that I spend a lot of time with. I read a lot. I have a wealth of knowledge on certain subjects, and I have managed to improve my social skills so that I may get along with others in situations where I am required to talk to others. I am quite popular among those I meet, but I do not allow anyone to get close, and I expect to be left alone when I go about my day or retire to my own home. It's so peaceful and profound.
When I was little I thought "oh no, I don´t know a lot of people, my wedding wil be so boring" skksks Now, I have 2 amazing friends and other people that makes me laugh and distract. Close relationships give life a sense.
Me too. I like having short interactions with people I never met before. But pursuing a relation with them is hard because I don't wanna force myself to be friends with them. I want to decide to myself
I think jealousy is very common and is the underlying reason for people not being supportive or negative when you share aspirations. For that reason I'm very careful about who share things with.
here's something i learned about advices that i want to share, do not tell them what to do. do not direct them and decide for them. if they follow ur words and they end up in a bad situation, you may be blamed. instead, give them choices. tell them “if you do this or that, what do you think would happen? how would you feel?” show them that they have a choice and it's theirs to make. give ur thoughts if they ask, but do not control them and their choices.
Funka Punka I had one ex boyfriend, but I don’t know whether to call him an ex bf or not.... It was complicated. But yes I dated afterwards but never got along with anyone
@Funka Punka work on yourself man. if u cant find friends or a girlfriend then you need something bigger than people. you need a passion, and when u are so devoted in that passion, people with same passion and love will come around. people should never be the centre of your life. the minute make them ur centre u loss them. just work on something greater than yourself .
I agree, I find people give their opinions so unsolicited rather than just adding to the conversation in a positive way. And they don’t realize when their opinions are super limiting & full of lack. That’s why I keep my goals & plans to myself, I don’t need anyone’s lens or energy raining on my parade.
I had a lot of “friends” in my 20s but once my friends started getting married and having kids that changed. Being single and childless in my mid 30s has truly shown me what real friendship is. I have 1 person that I truly consider a friend and we aren’t even super close. But I know when I need someone or just want company, she’s there for me and I do the same for her.
Same here 🙂 I don’t have kids nor do I plan on having them and that’s the reason me and some people who were close to me drifted apart. Our lives don’t have much in common anymore.
Agnieszka I had always planned on having kids up until the last 5 years. It’s odd because I was the one that started working full-time after just getting my associates degree. Because I didn’t really have the “average” college experience, I think I was kind of forced to grow up a little faster than most of my friends. Now I’m trying to figure out what I really want from life while they’re all settling down with school aged children.
i’m in med school and honestly it feels very cliquey, we have a lot of social events that involve partying & drinking alcohol and the more ppl you knew, then you would be on our magazines and photo albums, etc. as an introvert who loves being alone i’ve never felt so out of place 😂 but i have a few friends i can count on and thats enough ❤️
Its nice to see someone who is comfortable with themselves to be okay with not having an entourage and friends just for the sake of having them. There is something to be said about solitude and peace. Thank you for sharing.
The way she talks, it's like we are in the same room and having a conversation. I got myself lost in between, whether i am talking to her or watching her videos. She just captivates me. Thank you for the amazing conversation we had... 🙂🙂 (after watching this video, do I even have friends!! 🤔
I am so grateful that I have found my best friends last year. I'm 22 years old and at the age of 21 I didn't think I would find new friends. These are the friends that don't gossip behind your back and support you like no other. It is really the best feeling in the world!! That you can talk to someone about anything without being afraid of there responds:) hope everybody finds that kind of friends someday.
Faiibiian my dad does the same and its so annoying. Its taken me a while to get out of his standards and make my own. He was a popular at school so u can maybe say thats why he is like that. But i totally get it they just don’t understand that we prefer 3 friends we can trust and know super well rather than 10 that you cant talk abt personal stuff with
My best friend shared with me: Philosopher Aristotle identified three types of friendships: Ones based on utility or pleasure, and one on mutual appreciation of each other's values. The first two - 'accidental' friendships - are limited in-depth and don't last a long time. But friendships based on virtues build the strongest connections and last.
It’s been 2 years since I chose to be alone instead surrounding myself with fake and toxic friends. Now I’ve surrounded myself with good people however I’m not that close to them so I do feel alone when I’m around them. But I think I feel like that way because they’ve known each other longer than they’ve known me. There’s only one friend that I truly feel like I can call her my real friend. Despite only knowing her for a short time, I feel like I’ve known her for a long time. So currently, I would say I only have one friend. And that’s more than enough for me.
I have 3 friends and our bond is super strong. We can talk about anything and everything and our conversations are non-judgmental, yet at the same time we provide each other constructive, healthy, and thoughtful criticism. It is always about quality, never quality.
I resonate with this so much. I only have two really close friends as well as I only want to surround myself with people who help me grow as a person. Maintaining too many relationships is emotionally draining and overexerts me into a state of misery.
I'm 15 and I only have one close friend. I love her but there are some topics I can't talk to her about and things like that. That's pretty natural I guess. When you have more than one friend you can kind of spread out which friends you do certain things with(a friend who you share your love for photography with, another friend who you can go on spontaneous adventures with, a friend that you can talk about philosophical questions with etc). I feel like expecting it all from one person is not super realistic sometimes. But now that I only have one friend, I've learnt how to be my own best friend and do even more things alone. I've always really enjoyed alone time since I was a kid and I've always been introverted. But lately, that introversion has become even more intense. Don't get me wrong, I'm not shy or insecure at all. I'm not afraid of "exposing" myself to the world. In fact, spending so much time being able to get to know myself better, without the voices of others distracting me, has made me be much more confident, I know who I am and I love her. However, I find it hard to find kids my age who have my same interests and view life the same way I do. Sometimes I wish I had more friends, sure. But also, I got me, I don't really need anybody. I'm open to meaningful connections with people but I'm not desperate for them. At first, when my old friends and I started to get distanced I did feel desperate. And that's alright, learning to be "alone" when you're sorrounded by super sociable teenagers might be a little hard, but it's teaching me a lot. Wow this comment is so long this feels like my journal. Anyways. Thank you Lana for your meaningful content, you're so inspiring
What's great with Lana is that every word that comes out of her mouth is simply ringing with me and with my current situation in life. I've never really put words on what I think, but I feel like you can so thank you soooo much for such wonderful videos, advices and so on.
I love being alone, I feel overwhelmed when I spend too much time with my friends. A friend to me is someone I can trust and genuinely supports me with similar interests
This is possibly my first ever UA-cam comment. I don't like talking much anywhere in a virtual space or even real that much. Honestly I only have two or three people I would call my friend-friend, who've stood the test of time. Hardships and moving places really reveals who is for you. And I wouldn't have had it any other way. Recently I did feel like I was missing out on connections but this video made me realize what I already have is priceless. I really loved this video from the core of my heart. Thank you so much Lana
I've always found it very weird to be judged for having few friends. My parents were worried for me, and my dad made fun of me for having only one friend in high school. Didn't help that my brother had like 10 friends either lol. But I think it's because I don't define "friends" as easily as some others do. Some people have a chat with a stranger, then exchange numbers, and think they're friends already. But I'm the type to not consider you a friend until I feel like I know a lot about you. And some people's "friends" are actually their way of networking and having more people to help them out. The only downside to having few friends IMO is that certain activities (sports, board/video games, hosting a party, etc.) without a large amount of people wouldn''t be as much fun.
“What do I think?” This line hits so deeply because sometimes when meeting people and communicating with them, you end up hyper fixating on what they think that it overshadows what do you actually think and your own opinions. It can also seem to make your self identity unclear almost, when you don’t have the opportunity to make your own opinions and know your values in life
during this quarantine, i haven't met my friends for the longest time. so we had a chance to catch up last week. i wouldn't say they're like friend friends, but more like friends with benefit lol. cos they're many of them like 9 people. i met them and somehow i feel empty, no connection whatsoever. they were divided into two groups talking in different topics... and i just listen and observe. i feel sucks man, this is not what im looking for :/ as i reach home, i cried of how much time and energy wasted. i was wrong when i said miss them, that moment i truly believe i just like to be alone and appreciate my solitude
I am sorry to read that. But it changes, when you find people, who are like you in some way. Who understand you. Don't give up, find people with similar interests or passions and someday it wil "click" between you an another person. This person will become your friend :) Don't live in the past
I love that you made this video! Society tries to make you feel so weird for enjoying things alone but being able to enjoy your own company is so key to growing as a person!
Ive had some good friends and some bad friends in my life. Ive realized that regardless of how good you treat your friends, they will be consistent in being either bad or good. You can't change someone by your behavior.
Such an interesting topic. I would say my answer of real friends is zero. Sadly I knew this way before this video. Maintaining friendships gets harder as we get older or we become less dependant on others maybe. Most people get partners and their time is consumed by them. Enjoy what you have now as you have no guarantee of tomorrow.
Same here! I used to hang out with a lot of people, out of fear of being alone. I always got out of my way to fit in their world, and would pretend to be someone I was not. It became a habit, and I did it with almost everyone in my life at one point. But now I'm slowly learning that it's okay to be myself and the right people will be attracted to the real me. I also loooove being alone. Thank you for this video, Lana!
as someone in their first year of university, there's no doubt that so much worth is placed on how many people you know and are friends with - I'm still learning how to be more comfortable hanging out with myself and as you said maybe it comes down to age but I'm hoping as time goes on I'll be able to surround myself only with the people I really want to share my energy with
I only have two really close friends but I still try to have a little distance between us. I don't know why but I'm always scared that someone who I really trust is going to hurt me. So at the end of the day, I'm still my own best friend.
Try not to put barriers of scenarios that may or may not happen. Its like saying im not going out today it may be raining but if u dont go out u will never know. Also if they do hurt you when or if u trust them wholely then try to think it's positive as you do not want someone in your life that doesn't know and understand ur true worth as toxicity brings us down as people. However im so glad u have learnt how to enjoy your own company its a skill many find difficult!
My friends left for college last year and I haven't made any irl friends ever since. I did make one friend through Bumble and we met up once in January literally a week before lockdown and then she moved back to the US. While my high school friends and I hung out often when we were in school, I never felt like we were super close or that they really understood me. The things they said time and time again confirmed that. It made me feel really lonely. I felt more alone when I was with them than when I was by myself. They didn't understand that I needed me-time so sometimes I would force myself to agree to hang out with them and end up wishing I was home as soon as I got there. Although I think it was my fault too for being so afraid to open up. But I didn't know myself back then. Leaving school gave me a lot of time for introspection and space to cut away the toxic people. Now I only occasionally talk to one of them who I was closest to. Now I have an internet best friend who I've been talking to for two years. She lives halfway around the world. I never thought I could meet such a like-minded person before I met her. I've never met someone who I've truly connected with. When I talk to her, I feel the same way you do about your friend. I never feel like I will be judged when I tell her something, it feels safe when we talk to each other. I am so grateful to have her in my life. This year, I made one more friend who is so supportive and kind and understanding, something I've never really had in a friendship before. A classmate from the 4th grade also reached out to me earlier this year and we've been talking frequently since then. We hadn't talked to each other in seven years but he reached out to me suddenly and we instantly clicked! At the beginning of this year, all I wanted to do was get out of my shell a bit more and make genuine friends and I never would have guessed I'd be talking to someone I knew from lower school. I guess manifestation is magic because I wrote about making real, supportive, kind friends for so long and now it's happening. So, I don't have irl friends but I do have great online friends and I am content. Sure, I sometimes will cry about just wanting to hang out with a friend in a bookstore and exploring the city, wishing I had someone here with me, but I'm happy with the friends I have now. I know that eventually when I move out I will want to have one or two friends who live close to me so we can hang out, so that's what I'm manifesting now.
I have one friend, sometimes hard when she is busy and I have no one else to call to hang out. But nice that I only have her to get presents for (birthday, Christmas) and only have to deal with her personality and not anyone else's
I find myself coming to the conclusion that most people aren't worth more than superficial interaction. I wish it were not so, but it seems to be the case.
I used to be very introverted and had a very small group of friends who I am still friends with , but lately I have been talking to more people and have got some new friends along the way. I understood that just because I am talking to a lot of people doesn't mean all of them are my friends. The thing with asking a friend for advice isn't bad but we shouldn't and can't expect them to be always there. Great video 💙
you should create a podcast! your words and thought process on such important issues/topics/things alike are very much thought provoking, eye opening, and inspiring. grateful for u
Between the soft music and your soothing tone I was so relaxed that I drifted off and missed most of the dialog, but that's kind of what I needed to day. Thank you.
I've recently reflected on the "loss" of friends so this video came at a perfect time. I've always been comfortable and peaceful with my own company, but at times I feel as if I'm missing out even if I know people drain my energy.
I didn't. I went, "Eh, I can read it later." Four hours later, here I am. From what I understand, because of my non-simpiness, that should make Lana LOVE me (albeit that wasn't my intention)!! Do you love me now, Lana?? If you do, indicate YES by NOT hearting this message!! :o)
I appreciate your authenticity! I only have a small handful of friends as well, but I prefer having less yet more meaningful friendships than accumulating a large amount of acquaintances. Thank you for inspiring many aspects of my UA-cam channel.
Few friends require a little amount of maintenance. Requires less of your time.. effort,.. it is not draining.. you have more energy and time to focus on loving yourself, aiming for self growth.. also, the peace is overflowing..
I recently started feeling this way. It's insane the amount of things that keeping popping up at the right time through my current insecurity. I only have one friend at the moment and it's been a while since I've had any. It feels nice but it's also a little overwhelming because they have more than one. It does make me feel lonely sometimes and I'm realizing I started relying on our friendship too much. It's been a process of learning.
OMYGOD this is what I exactly needed! I really thought that Im just being weird for loving "me-time". I'm surrounded by extroverted person, happy go-luck people, but I just can't relate to them and I thought I'm just being weird. This video really helps a lot! Thank you💕
funny how I was thinking about my friendships the other day (and also concluding that I only have two friend friends) and now this video appears on my recommendations. In my opinion, a friend friend is someone with who you can express your thoughts and ideas without the classic "mentalwarning" of "what is she/he going to think about this?" or "am I being too this/that?"...basically, someone with who you can be authentic, cause you know that, even if there are disagreements, he/she is going to support you no matter what and, as you said, it's always going to have your best interest at heart. I know they're never going to read this, but I lof u Leo and Esme
I realized I have no friends, because of my personality before. Not only I wasn’t the best, but didn’t treat others right. But now that I could tone down my behavior, it’s really about *who* is my friend. I can chat all day and talk about my life forever, but does that person care? And I find few people that actually do... actually no, no one does lol. But it’s okay, I will grow and find better people along the way
ive never been satisfied as a loner but it ends up that way because people arent as serious as i am even if they miss me i feel i was the queit one and when i decided to talk it was always someone else either talking louder, over me and i never really felt like i was really there i guess i realized that i have to be okay with the silence because of mental health issues i have always had
@@shannonarchie3681 hey shannon, you're definitely not the only who feels this way. i often feel this way and i know how difficult it can be. you're certainly not as alone as you might think and there are always supports available to you, including myself 💛
I lost one friend in 2017, we weren't extremely close yet, but I felt a sweet connection with him. His death really had an impact on me. After that, I realized that our time could be really short, therefore it's very important to sorround us with good people. I am so glad I met him. He was only 22, I will never forget him.
i think as i approach 20 im beginning to realise i dont have so many friends and start to feel like i've always missed out on the cool stuff. i think im trying to figure out whats helping me and whats destroying me - validation, fitting in, etc. And hearing words like yours from someone who has figured it out i think im convinced im going to be okay once i stop forcing things, find my own worth from within, and find my cute little circle. I'll finally know that thats going to be enough for me to go on:)
What is a friend-friend to you?
Someone who I can come to even if we didn’t talk for ages.
someone who understands me and doesn't try to change who I am
Someone we can believe and rely on even during apocalypse
Someone who's real intentions you can never doubt no matter the context
A friend in need is friend indeed
“I used to think I was introverted because I liked being alone, but it turns out I just like my peace, I’m very extroverted around people who bring me peace.” -Jhené Aiko
GREAT QUOTE
This is exactly me, I just couldn't put it into words myself🙃
That quote is literally me. Wow
Duuuuude, this is so true. With some groups of people I just don't feel like being myself or talking to anyone and with others I never stop talking....
Same 🙌🏼
“Don’t drink poison just because you’re thirsty.” Don’t surround yourself with fake, toxic people just because you feel lonely. Fall in love with your solitude.
yes!
Life is not legendary if ur friends are not there to see it. Friends make it legendary and awesome. No one can fall in love with himself. There’s always the one waiting for us
You'll find more of these in social media. It made me sick. 😂
me
Yes.
“I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone.” -robin williams
That is so powerful!! Thank you for sharing it!! 🤗
I love robin williams and this is very good and real sentence
greetings from Poland!
Yeah
Wow, he Really said that? A gifted Comic, but a Tragic end, R.I.P.
"I live in that solitude which is painful in youth, but delicious in the years of maturity." - Einstein
My past life.
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a friend is someone who defends you in your absence...and true friends are those who accept your good and bad sides
"A friend to all is a friend to none."
That quote rings true in so many ways.
Is that a phrase from cardigan?
@@melissapaz6036 yeah it is!
Love this! So true 🤯
I don’t get it
Which means?
"Not everyone is worth sharing your life with".
Sooo true. I’m finally understanding this
I'm slowly realizing this. Sometimes you are not special for the people you consider special.
Gath that’s the truth...
That's why I've been using social media less to update people with my life. Not everyone needs to know what's going on.
I felt it when she said it
I’m slowly learning how to be my own best friend.
it's very rewarding :)
right? at first i thought it sounded kinda stupid when you say “be your own friend” but it’s honestly SO true! you need to learn to love yourself n be kind n learn how to enjoy being by yourself every so often 😔😔 good luck on ur journey!!
*Yeah I'm still learning* 😊🙌
firstly you have to learn how to deal with ur brain haha :)
me too. i'm taking myself on a coffee date this week ☺️
"Just gently and politely kick those people out of your life"
~Lana Blakely
How do u do that??
When I'm socializing, I'll try best not to turn on my "fake mode". It might sound crazy, but I always want to develop deep connections with everyone I meets. I think some people got scared away when I'm being this honest because I might say stuff that they're not ready to hear from a stranger. But I'm learning not to care about those people who got scared away. I will cherish those who stay. This takes a LOOOOT of practices. There was a time that I tried to fake-mode everyone. It worked, in terms of being a nice guy and not hurting anyone. But it ended up tearing me apart because I don't even recognize myself anymore. I figured that being honest with people is soooo important because it's the only way to show them who you really are. The difficult part of being honest with strangers is that, you need to know how to protect yourself or even back out when you sense something is not right. It's a pretty sophisticated skill, which is somehow fun to master.
I get you buddy. I'm exactly the same way and some people who are on the other end of the spectrum are taken aback by your level of directness/authenticity and uniqueness. Some may even consider you 'crazy'. It made me doubt myself a lot, but I eventually resolved all of my inner issues and cherished my values and what I stand for and who I really am.
@@Blessed_369 I'm super glad I'm not the only one who ends up with this style of presenting myself. Thank you for letting me know!
Andy Wu thank YOU for sharing your truth!
Keep going, cheers.
I relate to this 100! I never understood why I was always so exhausted after hanging out or meeting new people and realized it was because I was constantly turning on fake mode and that was mentally and emotionally exhausting. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!
I feel even I was like this.. I was able to socialize with random people but only if I was drinking alcohol. I have quit drinking now and am curious to see how I feel socializing sober..
It's better to be alone, than to be surrounded by the wrong people
True, I know this from my own experience.
Exactly!
True!
yes always!
100%
It's better to have 1 real friend instead of 100's of fake ones.
no doubt!
@Funka Punka I've never had a gf either, if a girl ever has liked me they haven't really shown it. But I'm about half your age so I'm still surviving. Good luck finding your soul mate. And to any girls that might be reading this, no I'm not interested in online dating. Let's just say I know someone who had a REALLY bad experience with that...
Funka Punka I just read your comment and I feel sad for you. But you are only 30, you said. You do not have to have a girlfriend now. It’s fine if you did but you don’t have to. When you meet the right girl, you will have a girlfriend. I am more concerned that you are so lonely and say you have no friends. Can you try to talk to people from where you work? Or maybe your apartment building? You may have nice neighbors who would be glad to be friends with you. Start slowly, just talking to people you don’t know. It’s not so scary once you have done it a few times.
@Funka Punka Maybe you're just about to find your soulmate soon, I never had a girlfriend also and I'm 25. It will happen when you least expect it. You just want to find someone with positive energy who you can trust and open.
I don’t even have a good friend now. She married and have 2 babes and work full time times. No more time to be my friend anymore.
"Be careful who you call your friends. I’d rather have four quarters than one hundred pennies." - Al Capone
Paul Ratiu I absolutely love that quote
That doesn't make any cents
@@spoiled4047 😂
Great quote!
AGREE :]
I think the key word you used.... "safe" really sums up what we should be looking for to feel around the people we call friends.
Making friends and socializing as an introvert in my Early twenties is so hard and I find it exhausting 🤦🏻♀️
we're convinced we need lots of friends because we haven't learned to enjoy our own company.
very true
We need a balance of our own internal consultation as well as external consultation, regardless of how we're socially oriented in personality. We wither and die more quickly and painfully, if we don't get that balance correct (eg. If one of those two, in my opinion, fundamental social constructs are missing).
*laughs bc this is what’s causing 2020 to still suck*
omg hi i watch your vids
We need to be our own best friends and then we can attract people who think similarly and have similar vibes.Your vibe attracts your tribe :)
The older I get the more I realize I don’t have many “close friends” because I place high value on what it means to be a true friend. I can be “friendly” with many people, but there are few people who I feel my soul connects to and understands. Thank you for this conversation 🙏🏽
To be honest she gave me really weird vibes in this video...you will NOT have many great friends but you will have ppl you party with sometimes, ppl that you know and like to talk to...her view on the matter its very nordic like, im romanian, we are a bit more closer to other ppl in here even tho we are not best friends by any tretch of the imagination.... its alot about the culture and your sorroundings!
It feels to me that it might be extrenly hard to approach her or be with her as a man! Not hatting at all just saying my thoughts!
Yes me too! I’ve learned a lot from experience that it’s much better to be alone and just friendly with others rather than having so many “close friends” who are fake. I’m someone who’s friendly with many people but I only have one true friend but we aren’t that close yet. That will just take time though.
Very true, I now feel lonely becuase I just realized, I never really had a friend I trusted, comfortable with, open with, or be my full self with. And I really want to find these friends, or an intimate special someone to share everything with
@@tiagomota4734 if it doesn't apply, don't cry
Getting rid of fake people was probably one of the most important things I did over the past year
Omg same
Arfa Alim it’s great when you’re content with yourself 🙏
Jack Schroder couldn’t agree more! 🙌🏻 we pray for peace only!
Dude, how old are you?
Congratulations.
You will not regret it.... TRUST ME!
"I don't have colleagues.... I'm a youtuber" LOL
Lots of friends, lots of problems.
The older you get, the fewer friends you can trust.
Somewhat truthful
It's refreshing to see someone speak so confidently about being happy with a small circle of friends.
One really needs to think who are
real friends and not just hanging
on to each or one another.
good point!
I'm sorry to hear that. I don't really know what to say to this tbh but attemping to saying something useful I'd encourage you to keep trying to go outside and find nice activities/groups, even if you may have had tough experiences. There are kind people out there and you are surely worth having good relationships.
when you truly know yourself and are proud of who you are ,what you truly resonate with is when you feel more confident in being authentically yourself.Lana is an inspiration :)
@Mister LoremIpsum i think u need to take a break from internet. And maybe figure things out.
"Anything that protects your peace without harming anyone else is encouraged". - Lana Blakely
im in love with your eloquence
Beautifully said!
It’s not about having a lot of friends or having little to no friends, it’s about what you like and what makes you truly happy.
If you’re happy having lots of friends even though you’re not that close to them, then I don’t think there is anything wrong with that.
That also goes with having less friends but with whom you’re actually close with. There is nothing wrong with that too if it makes you happy.
Exactly!
I agree, but the more friends you have, the more responsibility is put on your shoulders to maintain your friendships. So in theory, having fewer friends is more stable.
Agreed! That's a pretty good perspective
I feel lonely because I have no one to go out , sucks
Absolutely. If something works for you, then, by all means, do it. What I have a problem with, is the prevalence of the mainstream idea that if you spend most of your time alone, socialize very little, or have few to no friends, then you are a failure. This couldn't be further from the truth.
I have 1 good friend in my life. Other than that I have my absolutely amazing parents and close family that I spend a lot of time with. I read a lot. I have a wealth of knowledge on certain subjects, and I have managed to improve my social skills so that I may get along with others in situations where I am required to talk to others. I am quite popular among those I meet, but I do not allow anyone to get close, and I expect to be left alone when I go about my day or retire to my own home. It's so peaceful and profound.
When I was little I thought "oh no, I don´t know a lot of people, my wedding wil be so boring" skksks Now, I have 2 amazing friends and other people that makes me laugh and distract. Close relationships give life a sense.
lol same about the wedding. now I couldn't care less about having a "big" wedding with 100 "friends".
@@LanaBlakely Yeees, agreed, love from Brazil
Same thoughts. I’m still trying to work on my mind about it. But I’m happy I’m not the only one
"Why I only Have 2 Friends" ahhh spoken like a true INFJ
I like socialising and interacting with people, but developing a really close friendship with someone just feels like too much for me.
Me too. I like having short interactions with people I never met before. But pursuing a relation with them is hard because I don't wanna force myself to be friends with them. I want to decide to myself
Same
Exactly how I feel, good luck to us
yess its hard and having a "best friend" is the most stressful thing its like being in a relationship where someone controls you all the time
Ozgur Caglar I agree I just don’t like that clingy feeling
I think jealousy is very common and is the underlying reason for people not being supportive or negative when you share aspirations. For that reason I'm very careful about who share things with.
yeah. jealousy is a terrible disease.
Yea my exflatmate was jealous of my spending money,tried to scam me after.Another one stole my stuff and sold for his travel expenses..
"Anything that protects your peace without harming anyone else is encouraged".
Love this
Wow 💯
Agree
here's something i learned about advices that i want to share,
do not tell them what to do. do not direct them and decide for them. if they follow ur words and they end up in a bad situation, you may be blamed. instead, give them choices. tell them “if you do this or that, what do you think would happen? how would you feel?” show them that they have a choice and it's theirs to make. give ur thoughts if they ask, but do not control them and their choices.
"Anything that protects your peace without harming anyone else is encouraged"
You got it just right!
It is lonely knowing that your “friends” don’t wish the best for you.
Uggghhh true
Funka Punka I can totally relate
Funka Punka I had one ex boyfriend, but I don’t know whether to call him an ex bf or not.... It was complicated. But yes I dated afterwards but never got along with anyone
Funka Punka I am so sorry to hear this!
@Funka Punka work on yourself man. if u cant find friends or a girlfriend then you need something bigger than people. you need a passion, and when u are so devoted in that passion, people with same passion and love will come around. people should never be the centre of your life. the minute make them ur centre u loss them. just work on something greater than yourself .
Lana is literally my Therapist tbh
Same
You really might want to look into someone who is actually qualified.
You don't need many friends, you need the right friend that will motivate and support you. I'm lucky because my best friend is my wife. Peace
awwwww
You just did smart work 😂 by reducing the work of 2 to one person
aww that’s so cute🥺
I relate, the lockdown however made me feel lonely despite being a huge introvert and I started seeking out more social interactions
I can relate with this, A LOT!
I agree, I find people give their opinions so unsolicited rather than just adding to the conversation in a positive way. And they don’t realize when their opinions are super limiting & full of lack. That’s why I keep my goals & plans to myself, I don’t need anyone’s lens or energy raining on my parade.
I had a lot of “friends” in my 20s but once my friends started getting married and having kids that changed. Being single and childless in my mid 30s has truly shown me what real friendship is. I have 1 person that I truly consider a friend and we aren’t even super close. But I know when I need someone or just want company, she’s there for me and I do the same for her.
Same here 🙂 I don’t have kids nor do I plan on having them and that’s the reason me and some people who were close to me drifted apart. Our lives don’t have much in common anymore.
Agnieszka I had always planned on having kids up until the last 5 years. It’s odd because I was the one that started working full-time after just getting my associates degree. Because I didn’t really have the “average” college experience, I think I was kind of forced to grow up a little faster than most of my friends. Now I’m trying to figure out what I really want from life while they’re all settling down with school aged children.
Currently I'm struggling a little bit with the same problem but I have still some friends left who are not married and childless 😄
Amy W you should have children & a family. That'd bring MEANING to your life. Hurry up, its not too late, for now
Pedro Casonatti Thanks for your concern, Pedro. I already have family and meaning to my life.
I NEED a Spotify podcast of her!! Her voice is beautiful and the themes she talks about are sooooo relatable as well
Lana's "friends" when they see the title: sweating.gif
LOL they about to learn real quick what it means to be an “associate” instead 😂😂
lolol
@doug robertson how you know that?
@@alexdragon6893 source: trust me bro
i’m in med school and honestly it feels very cliquey, we have a lot of social events that involve partying & drinking alcohol and the more ppl you knew, then you would be on our magazines and photo albums, etc. as an introvert who loves being alone i’ve never felt so out of place 😂 but i have a few friends i can count on and thats enough ❤️
you have such big sister energy, i love sitting here and pretending you’re a big sister figure in my life 🥺
“Friends: 1-3 is sufficient.”
Ron Swanson
Aristotelis said .
I clicked because of the title. Where’s my introverts at?
I low-key think that 90% of Lana’s viewers are introverts, lol
tenshi More like 95% lol
I am extrovert ,yet i spent 95% of my time alone ,i fucking love it,sooo)
INFP :)
What an ironic question
Its nice to see someone who is comfortable with themselves to be okay with not having an entourage and friends just for the sake of having them. There is something to be said about solitude and peace. Thank you for sharing.
The way she talks, it's like we are in the same room and having a conversation. I got myself lost in between, whether i am talking to her or watching her videos. She just captivates me. Thank you for the amazing conversation we had... 🙂🙂 (after watching this video, do I even have friends!! 🤔
I am so grateful that I have found my best friends last year. I'm 22 years old and at the age of 21 I didn't think I would find new friends. These are the friends that don't gossip behind your back and support you like no other. It is really the best feeling in the world!! That you can talk to someone about anything without being afraid of there responds:) hope everybody finds that kind of friends someday.
People who judge others for having little friends have never had someone that they can trust and open up to completely through thick and thin.
True
Emilie this hits different- and it's so truee
THIS HITS ME ON A WHOLE DIFFERENT LEVEL
My parents do this too much I say to them I'm fins
Faiibiian my dad does the same and its so annoying. Its taken me a while to get out of his standards and make my own. He was a popular at school so u can maybe say thats why he is like that. But i totally get it they just don’t understand that we prefer 3 friends we can trust and know super well rather than 10 that you cant talk abt personal stuff with
My best friend shared with me:
Philosopher Aristotle identified three types of friendships:
Ones based on utility or pleasure, and one on mutual appreciation of each other's values.
The first two - 'accidental' friendships - are limited in-depth and don't last a long time.
But friendships based on virtues build the strongest connections and last.
Well then one must ask oneself: What "virtues" are taught today? Where to people get them?
It’s been 2 years since I chose to be alone instead surrounding myself with fake and toxic friends. Now I’ve surrounded myself with good people however I’m not that close to them so I do feel alone when I’m around them. But I think I feel like that way because they’ve known each other longer than they’ve known me. There’s only one friend that I truly feel like I can call her my real friend. Despite only knowing her for a short time, I feel like I’ve known her for a long time. So currently, I would say I only have one friend. And that’s more than enough for me.
I have 3 friends and our bond is super strong. We can talk about anything and everything and our conversations are non-judgmental, yet at the same time we provide each other constructive, healthy, and thoughtful criticism. It is always about quality, never quality.
I don't have any friends, all of they turn out to be fake.
Yeha
Be your own friend, I’m sure you wouldn’t find yourself fake lol
@@melie3054 yeah I'm my own best friend, I love spending time alone.
Fatima Tu Zahra same, it’s the best
That's a pretty common experience
I resonate with this so much. I only have two really close friends as well as I only want to surround myself with people who help me grow as a person. Maintaining too many relationships is emotionally draining and overexerts me into a state of misery.
I can definetely agree with this
I'm 15 and I only have one close friend. I love her but there are some topics I can't talk to her about and things like that. That's pretty natural I guess. When you have more than one friend you can kind of spread out which friends you do certain things with(a friend who you share your love for photography with, another friend who you can go on spontaneous adventures with, a friend that you can talk about philosophical questions with etc). I feel like expecting it all from one person is not super realistic sometimes.
But now that I only have one friend, I've learnt how to be my own best friend and do even more things alone. I've always really enjoyed alone time since I was a kid and I've always been introverted. But lately, that introversion has become even more intense. Don't get me wrong, I'm not shy or insecure at all. I'm not afraid of "exposing" myself to the world. In fact, spending so much time being able to get to know myself better, without the voices of others distracting me, has made me be much more confident, I know who I am and I love her.
However, I find it hard to find kids my age who have my same interests and view life the same way I do. Sometimes I wish I had more friends, sure. But also, I got me, I don't really need anybody. I'm open to meaningful connections with people but I'm not desperate for them. At first, when my old friends and I started to get distanced I did feel desperate. And that's alright, learning to be "alone" when you're sorrounded by super sociable teenagers might be a little hard, but it's teaching me a lot.
Wow this comment is so long this feels like my journal. Anyways. Thank you Lana for your meaningful content, you're so inspiring
Sis same, you literally just said what I couldn't put into words
you sound so wise. Good for you for recognizing this at such a young age :)
@@purebubbles thank u so much you're so kind
It's funny cause right after writing this I met a bunch of cool people and we're becoming really good friends lolsies
You must be an old soul to be so wise so young!
What's great with Lana is that every word that comes out of her mouth is simply ringing with me and with my current situation in life. I've never really put words on what I think, but I feel like you can so thank you soooo much for such wonderful videos, advices and so on.
A real friend is there for you on not ONLY your SUCCESS but most importantly on your DOWNFALL
I love being alone, I feel overwhelmed when I spend too much time with my friends. A friend to me is someone I can trust and genuinely supports me with similar interests
This is possibly my first ever UA-cam comment. I don't like talking much anywhere in a virtual space or even real that much. Honestly I only have two or three people I would call my friend-friend, who've stood the test of time. Hardships and moving places really reveals who is for you. And I wouldn't have had it any other way. Recently I did feel like I was missing out on connections but this video made me realize what I already have is priceless. I really loved this video from the core of my heart. Thank you so much Lana
Exactly my words!! (im also an INFP btw haha)
aw, what a lovely comment. thanks so much for writing it, I'm glad you did. all the best to you :) x
infp here as well. Hardships and moving really do indeed reveal who your true friends are
"Be civil to all; sociable to many; familiar with few; friend to one; enemy to none." - Benjamin Franklin
I've always found it very weird to be judged for having few friends. My parents were worried for me, and my dad made fun of me for having only one friend in high school. Didn't help that my brother had like 10 friends either lol. But I think it's because I don't define "friends" as easily as some others do. Some people have a chat with a stranger, then exchange numbers, and think they're friends already. But I'm the type to not consider you a friend until I feel like I know a lot about you. And some people's "friends" are actually their way of networking and having more people to help them out. The only downside to having few friends IMO is that certain activities (sports, board/video games, hosting a party, etc.) without a large amount of people wouldn''t be as much fun.
“What do I think?” This line hits so deeply because sometimes when meeting people and communicating with them, you end up hyper fixating on what they think that it overshadows what do you actually think and your own opinions. It can also seem to make your self identity unclear almost, when you don’t have the opportunity to make your own opinions and know your values in life
I love how relatable your content is❤
"Stop seeking validation externally and start seeking it internally"👏👏
I see a fellow South African here!
@@JulianLetard 🇿🇦🇿🇦🇿🇦❤
Quality over quaantity is the best, Lana. You can live your best life even only with two friends.
Well put and so true! 🤗
Just saw this title pop up on my notifications, and I was like "YES!!"
during this quarantine, i haven't met my friends for the longest time. so we had a chance to catch up last week. i wouldn't say they're like friend friends, but more like friends with benefit lol. cos they're many of them like 9 people. i met them and somehow i feel empty, no connection whatsoever. they were divided into two groups talking in different topics... and i just listen and observe. i feel sucks man, this is not what im looking for :/ as i reach home, i cried of how much time and energy wasted. i was wrong when i said miss them, that moment i truly believe i just like to be alone and appreciate my solitude
I am sorry to read that. But it changes, when you find people, who are like you in some way. Who understand you. Don't give up, find people with similar interests or passions and someday it wil "click" between you an another person. This person will become your friend :) Don't live in the past
I love that you made this video! Society tries to make you feel so weird for enjoying things alone but being able to enjoy your own company is so key to growing as a person!
She talks with every muscle on face, very expressive..
haha, not even sure what it means but I get quite a few of these comments. especially that I move my eyebrows a lot.
Lana Blakely not a bad thing
@@LanaBlakely yassssss that's what i said lol. it's really cute
Lana: "Do you want more friends?"
Me: I want Lana to be my friend
Yep. Me too..😭 I really wish I was one of her mates in college or school or neighbours!
I consider Lana as my internet big sister, I just love how she creates these videos where it's like we're just casually conversing about life.
Same with me. Only few friends. But I do not like to be alone or to do thinks alone. I really feel ”delad glädje är dubbel glädje” is true for me.
Ive had some good friends and some bad friends in my life. Ive realized that regardless of how good you treat your friends, they will be consistent in being either bad or good. You can't change someone by your behavior.
Such an interesting topic. I would say my answer of real friends is zero. Sadly I knew this way before this video. Maintaining friendships gets harder as we get older or we become less dependant on others maybe. Most people get partners and their time is consumed by them. Enjoy what you have now as you have no guarantee of tomorrow.
:)
Anyone else feel like Lana’s videos are just so meaningful?? .. she is honestly so inspiring ❤️🦋
Indeed! I get so excited when I get a notification haha
anushka shanbhag yessss me too😊😊😊
I don't understand lana
She is hot but doesn't have friends
'Latte with Lana' is a great name for these small videos
Same here! I used to hang out with a lot of people, out of fear of being alone. I always got out of my way to fit in their world, and would pretend to be someone I was not. It became a habit, and I did it with almost everyone in my life at one point. But now I'm slowly learning that it's okay to be myself and the right people will be attracted to the real me. I also loooove being alone. Thank you for this video, Lana!
as someone in their first year of university, there's no doubt that so much worth is placed on how many people you know and are friends with - I'm still learning how to be more comfortable hanging out with myself and as you said maybe it comes down to age but I'm hoping as time goes on I'll be able to surround myself only with the people I really want to share my energy with
Thank you so much for this video i learned a lot..!!
Sameeee
Rasheed oh 😂 I watch your videos 💕
Yo Rasheeeeed !!! OH, love ur video brother
I watch ur vids😊
thank you for watching :))
It's hard making friends as an adult. Everyone is too busy and at the end of the day exhausted.
I only have two really close friends but I still try to have a little distance between us. I don't know why but I'm always scared that someone who I really trust is going to hurt me. So at the end of the day, I'm still my own best friend.
Try not to put barriers of scenarios that may or may not happen. Its like saying im not going out today it may be raining but if u dont go out u will never know. Also if they do hurt you when or if u trust them wholely then try to think it's positive as you do not want someone in your life that doesn't know and understand ur true worth as toxicity brings us down as people. However im so glad u have learnt how to enjoy your own company its a skill many find difficult!
My friends left for college last year and I haven't made any irl friends ever since. I did make one friend through Bumble and we met up once in January literally a week before lockdown and then she moved back to the US. While my high school friends and I hung out often when we were in school, I never felt like we were super close or that they really understood me. The things they said time and time again confirmed that. It made me feel really lonely. I felt more alone when I was with them than when I was by myself. They didn't understand that I needed me-time so sometimes I would force myself to agree to hang out with them and end up wishing I was home as soon as I got there. Although I think it was my fault too for being so afraid to open up. But I didn't know myself back then. Leaving school gave me a lot of time for introspection and space to cut away the toxic people. Now I only occasionally talk to one of them who I was closest to.
Now I have an internet best friend who I've been talking to for two years. She lives halfway around the world. I never thought I could meet such a like-minded person before I met her. I've never met someone who I've truly connected with. When I talk to her, I feel the same way you do about your friend. I never feel like I will be judged when I tell her something, it feels safe when we talk to each other. I am so grateful to have her in my life.
This year, I made one more friend who is so supportive and kind and understanding, something I've never really had in a friendship before. A classmate from the 4th grade also reached out to me earlier this year and we've been talking frequently since then. We hadn't talked to each other in seven years but he reached out to me suddenly and we instantly clicked! At the beginning of this year, all I wanted to do was get out of my shell a bit more and make genuine friends and I never would have guessed I'd be talking to someone I knew from lower school. I guess manifestation is magic because I wrote about making real, supportive, kind friends for so long and now it's happening.
So, I don't have irl friends but I do have great online friends and I am content. Sure, I sometimes will cry about just wanting to hang out with a friend in a bookstore and exploring the city, wishing I had someone here with me, but I'm happy with the friends I have now. I know that eventually when I move out I will want to have one or two friends who live close to me so we can hang out, so that's what I'm manifesting now.
I have one friend, sometimes hard when she is busy and I have no one else to call to hang out. But nice that I only have her to get presents for (birthday, Christmas) and only have to deal with her personality and not anyone else's
Is hard to trust someone and meet a good friend in life when age grows older.
*thats the truth* 😬
I’m 16 but same like that’s too much eee
I’m 18 and I already don’t have any real friends
I find myself coming to the conclusion that most people aren't worth more than superficial interaction. I wish it were not so, but it seems to be the case.
I used to be very introverted and had a very small group of friends who I am still friends with , but lately I have been talking to more people and have got some new friends along the way. I understood that just because I am talking to a lot of people doesn't mean all of them are my friends. The thing with asking a friend for advice isn't bad but we shouldn't and can't expect them to be always there. Great video 💙
you should create a podcast! your words and thought process on such important issues/topics/things alike are very much thought provoking, eye opening, and inspiring. grateful for u
Between the soft music and your soothing tone I was so relaxed that I drifted off and missed most of the dialog, but that's kind of what I needed to day. Thank you.
I've recently reflected on the "loss" of friends so this video came at a perfect time. I've always been comfortable and peaceful with my own company, but at times I feel as if I'm missing out even if I know people drain my energy.
Same
left everything and came straight away here
I didn't. I went, "Eh, I can read it later." Four hours later, here I am. From what I understand, because of my non-simpiness, that should make Lana LOVE me (albeit that wasn't my intention)!! Do you love me now, Lana?? If you do, indicate YES by NOT hearting this message!! :o)
I appreciate your authenticity! I only have a small handful of friends as well, but I prefer having less yet more meaningful friendships than accumulating a large amount of acquaintances. Thank you for inspiring many aspects of my UA-cam channel.
I knew this thing. And since then I genuinely have 2 people who are valuable & worth it. It's better people realise this sooner.
Few friends require a little amount of maintenance. Requires less of your time.. effort,.. it is not draining.. you have more energy and time to focus on loving yourself, aiming for self growth.. also, the peace is overflowing..
The number of friends means nothing. The quality is what counts! I’d take 2 real friends over several fake ones!
I recently started feeling this way. It's insane the amount of things that keeping popping up at the right time through my current insecurity. I only have one friend at the moment and it's been a while since I've had any. It feels nice but it's also a little overwhelming because they have more than one. It does make me feel lonely sometimes and I'm realizing I started relying on our friendship too much. It's been a process of learning.
I understand this now that i'm an adult.
I’m a teen and I’m glad I found Lana’s channel! :)
OMYGOD this is what I exactly needed! I really thought that Im just being weird for loving "me-time". I'm surrounded by extroverted person, happy go-luck people, but I just can't relate to them and I thought I'm just being weird. This video really helps a lot! Thank you💕
funny how I was thinking about my friendships the other day (and also concluding that I only have two friend friends) and now this video appears on my recommendations. In my opinion, a friend friend is someone with who you can express your thoughts and ideas without the classic "mentalwarning" of "what is she/he going to think about this?" or "am I being too this/that?"...basically, someone with who you can be authentic, cause you know that, even if there are disagreements, he/she is going to support you no matter what and, as you said, it's always going to have your best interest at heart.
I know they're never going to read this, but I lof u Leo and Esme
your videos, your soft voice feels like home, feels like family, feels like countryside nature, and all kinds of peace and happiness.
what a wholesome comment.
I realized I have no friends, because of my personality before. Not only I wasn’t the best, but didn’t treat others right. But now that I could tone down my behavior, it’s really about *who* is my friend. I can chat all day and talk about my life forever, but does that person care? And I find few people that actually do... actually no, no one does lol. But it’s okay, I will grow and find better people along the way
who else is in the satisfied loner club? 🙋🏻♀️
I’m a loner too so I accepted it at this point 🤷🏽♀️
Me too!!
ive never been satisfied as a loner but it ends up that way because people arent as serious as i am even if they miss me i feel i was the queit one and when i decided to talk it was always someone else either talking louder, over me and i never really felt like i was really there i guess i realized that i have to be okay with the silence because of mental health issues i have always had
@@sij809 i think they could be the best of friends
@@shannonarchie3681 hey shannon, you're definitely not the only who feels this way. i often feel this way and i know how difficult it can be. you're certainly not as alone as you might think and there are always supports available to you, including myself 💛
I lost one friend in 2017, we weren't extremely close yet, but I felt a sweet connection with him. His death really had an impact on me. After that, I realized that our time could be really short, therefore it's very important to sorround us with good people. I am so glad I met him. He was only 22, I will never forget him.
i think as i approach 20 im beginning to realise i dont have so many friends and start to feel like i've always missed out on the cool stuff. i think im trying to figure out whats helping me and whats destroying me - validation, fitting in, etc. And hearing words like yours from someone who has figured it out i think im convinced im going to be okay once i stop forcing things, find my own worth from within, and find my cute little circle. I'll finally know that thats going to be enough for me to go on:)