Poppy What I would like to know, is it something a person doesn’t remember, or acknowledge? The second question is, is it about something you’ve done wrong, or is it about them? I have a relative that does this to me, and it’s really messed me up. You feel like you are dealing with a lunatic. This person also had a nervous breakdown years ago. I don’t know if there is a connection between the two.
It's really strange that when you lose your head, you wish to explode the whole planet, after the turmoil, minutes after, you feel you are an idiot, and wants to save even the smallest creatures, like the ants. This oscillation is terrible and embarrassing.
I feel you my friend. I'm also afraid of hurting somebody... I have seen really scary dreams since last summer. In those dreams I had tortured and killed people and felt satisfaction... That scares me a lot...
I get really angry when/if something doesn't function right and/or I can't find something. I bite my arm, bang things, I've punched holes in walls, broken and smashed things, screamed, etc.
Sounds just like me, it gets really l hard functioning at a job sometimes, I can't stop it when it starts no matter what I think or even if I recognize it
@@JWC777 I love how you never reply again because you're scared of being confronted. If you are going to say something unacceptable, be prepared to fight, don't just run away from confrontations. You're probably just some eleven year old kid that feels safe behind a computer screen, but in reality, you would never say that to someone's face and you would be cowering in fear. Toughen up and be able to defend yourself before you insult someone, especially since you're on the internet.
I have this, and because of my condition I’ve unfortunately and regrettably have hurt my family members, lost countless friends, ruined relationships, and have even been arrested six times due to my episodes.
God man I feel for you. Just this Wednesday I really hurt my dad, got arrested, awaiting trial now but on bail and now my boyfriends family are scared of me and don't want me with him. Everything was going perfectly aswell. I have had outbursts in the past but never like this, and it was usually against a threatening individual and somewhat justified. But this time it was a pretty petty argument which led to it, and on most days I would be fine. The double vodkas didn't help though.
@@xxBurnsss101 pray for me please my mother has this. She was fighting with us yesterday didn't want to listen cursing at saying she wanted to kill herself. She's at a psychiatric centrum now
I'm really happy to read I'm not the only one that has this problem.I been arrested once because of it. Lost jobs because of it. Its not something that any one understand
I feel like Im not allowed to get angry or show any signs of anger what so ever. but as soon as all my anger bottles up and cant hold on,Im the bad person😐
I think I have this. I have a great patience. I am very passive aggressive. But once someone pushes me to a certain point I just black out and see red. I start yelling so loud I lose my voice, start phoning from the mouth. I start shaking and anything in my way gets destroyed. I’ve caused physical harm to people and my property. It’s very hard to deal with. I’ve had these temper outbursts since 16. I have gotten much better at controlling it but I hold a lot of things in and once somebody pushes me over the edge I just blow my lid.
Drew Andino even the most patient people has a limit. And it depends on your environment too, if it only happens to you with certain people maybe those people are toxic?? If it's with everybody and without a reason maybe you have the disorder. I used to be angry all the time when I was 12 but it was due to bullying and incredible stress from a toxic member of my family. Now I'm better since my environment changed.
I put this on everything. Everyday the moment I drive off my lot. 100% of the time someone FUCKING cuts me off. As if I'm in a matrix and its all planned out. Like FUCKING literally everyday RIGHT when I leave home. Hmmmm..... Coincidence? Or just super bad luck.... Hahahahaha this world is a fucken trip!!!
You can feel it coming on. There only a split second of time for you to catch it. I can stop myself sometimes. In that moment if i can think about the aftermath i can catch it. I have been in mid swing and stopped myself.i tell myself in that split second "you dont want to do this" Try that. It may help you. It wont stop it but after a few times you will get better at controlling it. Good luck my friend.
Shame is a great motivator for overcoming this nasty habit. Self control and growing sense of self respect really helped me . Don’t let a setback destroy your determination to quit the anger addiction.Its well worth the effort 😊
I was diagnosed with this instead of PTSD after military service. General Depressive Disorder with Explosive Episodes. It feels like a total lack of empathy for hours or days, followed by an explosion in my brain that leads to extremely quick and violent outburst, quickly followed by a flood of emotion and then return to a "normal" state.
I get really angry and try to walk away from situations before i rage in an outburst. however, sadly, that just leave people to antagonise me more and kind of laugh at me and tell me that i shouldn't get so angry which pisses me off more cause i know i shouldn't be that angry. It's very upsetting that people laugh or tend to push me to get more angry especially when i know i am being crazy. I also get a bit physical and damaging towards myself which i do sometimes cry about after i do it out of embarrassment. It's just a rollercoaster of emotion that i fear may become damaging to my health. This was also one of the reasons my girlfriend broke up with me.
I really think that my Father had Intermittent Explosive Disorder, in addition to Manic-Depression and Paranoia. I grew up chafing under my Dad's loud, vicious outbursts over: My values(long before I was old enough to have a mature set of values), watching too much TV, having the volume on the TV up too loud, not being in bed after bedtime, fooling around in the bathtub, or, once, jokingly saying something he said was a "lie". A few times he came into my room after I'd gone to bed, angrily lectured me about what a disappointment I was to him, and spank me very hard for talking back to him. The problem was that I had INFLEXIBLE-Explosive Disorder(before anybody knew there was such a thing), and his answer to that was to be an A**hole to me, thinking that it was the only way I'd learn anything. Every time I'd blow up at him or talk back to him after an argument that he'd started, he'd scream "You are forbidden to watch TV for two weeks!" My Father was basically a good man and could be a good Father about 25 percent of the time, but pretty awful the rest of it.
Its hard when you have a nasty verbally abusive person in your life who belittles you especially in front of your collegues ,,and if its ongoing bullying .. I have some explosive issues and I thought it was under control but I came very close to assaulting my co worker which could have left her with permanent scarring . It was honestly scary when i think about it . Luckily something just stopped me before I reacted . But it was a close call for both of us . 😨 Explosive disorders are destructive but also I think people need to becareful with TORMENTING and pushing others too far as well . EVERYONE HAS A BREAKING POINT .. ( Lesson for you bullies out there !!!) Good video though . 👍
Dear Dr. Grande, i have been watching for a few weeks and honestly my life has been a blur most of my life being on pscyh meds my whole life (almost) i was never able to percive my behaviors for myself.... i was diagnosed at age 8 with IED and have been through a few other diagnosis but your videos have helped me (since i have been off meds for a bit now) analyze my un medicated behaviors and be able to bring it to my doctor and explain myself better.... you are an amazing youtuber as well... most people on the internet that i have seen have "seemed" very biased even if it a positive bias... being mentally i hate it when people try to act like "oh your just different and thats ok and all that" i enjoy your calm and seeminly unbiased tone... it keeps me calm when trying to experience these emotions..... YOU HELP PEOPLE... dont stop doing this
i think its like an anxiety attack, but its translated into anger, instead of flight its fight, but its the precursor to fight.a rush of adrenaline maybe. to get ready for a fight. but a very highly inappropriate (possibly disinhibited response). but the rush. then the choice to go or no is the point, but control is dependant on justification and the situation.
mr table lamp i think you’re right im fine all day usally until i get home and if one thing goes wrong i go mental and feel like fighting something but nothing’s there. just results in self harm and me breaking things
Joseph Crispin I would think yes control is my problem for sure ... If feel if I don’t have control of the problem or job I get frustrated instantly lash out to all around me .. because I don’t have control .. or it didn’t go my way ... frustration runs deep.. I took a anger management class and feel it only works it you are always attending class ... Class got over and in weeks I was back to the same BS ... Honestly I was the happiest person in my 20’s brushed everything off the shoulder.. Here I am 38 and just angry at everything... I need help ,I might have this odd disorder .. Hope you all get well
My daughter has explosive angry outbursts and becomes very verbally abusive and belittling. It’s awful and I’m a peaceful person. It causes anxiety that I’m not used to. I try not to engage with her but sometimes her words are so cruel I’ll argue back and she will escalate and blame me. I’m always walking on eggshells around her. She thinks she’s perfectly fine and it’s never her problem. My suggestion that she figure out what the cause is just makes her angry. She has been diagnosed with ADD and takes medication for it but her psychiatrist doesn’t help her much. Unfortunately we live together and I can’t move at this time. It’s exhausting and I’m tired of the drama.
i need to be properly diagnosed but generally i'm pretty calm and can go with whatever comes but i seem to have certain triggers that just makes me feel like i'm choking to death, my chest is tight, my head gets blurry, and i start tearing up the only thing i can think about during this period is to hurt the person who started the feeling and holding back starts to become dizzying and incredibly painful
Yes me too. I'm always really calm. But when I get these episodes I start getting really impatient. Crying. Hitting things. But I have learned how to stop some.
Same here... I am really calm and very likeable person, but those triggers makes me wanna torture to death the idiot who almost made me commit a suicide... Panic attacks and constant mental pain...
@@theprinceofrealestate I've said mean stuff on here as well and then I explain to them what I have and they say "oh it's ok" but I know it's not a free pass
I had an anger episode once and called my husband a piece of shit and I ended up breaking one of my widding DVDs! I used to smoke to relieve my stress but I stopped smoking so I guess will have a lot of these anger episodes! It's getting ugly and I hate it
Hasn't happened to me in over a year now, I kind of learned what triggered it and I have done my best to stay out of those situations, but I'm actually glad to know that I still have it in me, because I feel like it protects me and actually has in dangerous situations before because I'm not at all a violent person outside of these outbursts but sometimes you need to be able to defend yourself and its good when your mind and body goes on autopilot and you become a force of addrenaline and insanity, the only bad thing is that since I cant control it, it has happened with my family many times as well but I've luckly always managed to direct my anger towards a piece of furniture or a wall when it comes to my family and I always feel very depressed and hate myself for what I've done when I come back to my senses, its very sad when your condition is viewed by most as "quick temper".
I have IED...when I have my episodes I have ticks that happens before like my hands shake my eye twitches my chest tightens...when I have an episode I completely black out.. When I come back to I'm really tired breathing heavy crying and just have to walk it off before I go back into another episode
@@winterblossom4446 I'm actually doing a lot better I have kids now so I can't afford to have episodes so I started taking my meds how I should and I do therapy twice a week or often if I'm going through something stressful so I have a better grib on it I learned to recognize my ticks so I can better control it so to speak I still have episodes but no where near as bad or often as before
I am 53 and all my life I have been very calm. Lately, I've been bothered by these outbursts of anger. I lose my temper easily. I suffer from depression and generalized anxiety. When something cause me great anger, I don't recognize myself, it's like a monster, but I try to control and don't harm no people, nor animal nor property, but I feel that all that anger is concentrated on myself and I could eventually die of it, of a heart attack, high blood pressure, etc. Few minutes later, I may come back to normal and be the most patient person in the world, then, I feel ashamed by having lost my temper so easily.
Ever since i joined the military 4 years ago i lose it physically and verbally way too often. I cant wait to get out and be away from all the bs and stress
I usually pull my hair, bite my arms, bite my lips, scratch myself, shake my arms, scream until my voice is raw, grind my teeth, bite things (I.e. walls phone pillows), tense my body and try not to lash out or hurt anyone. It feels like I’m not myself and out of control of my body. I can usually feel a pulsing behind my eyes, shaking, and not being able to control my breathing.
People used to call my mother a “rage-aholic” I think she must have had this. She’d just go off at the drop of a hat, pull me around by my hair, scream like a maniac and slap me in the face. once I forgot to wash the blender after making a smoothie and she was enraged that she took the whole unit and threw it on to the highway that our house was above.
I've got a neighbor that has this disorder. About every 3 months or so she without any bad behavior from me she starts getting madder and madder in a conversation. It escalates and I try to stay calm myself because this is not normal and when I go silent she always says "why aren't you saying anything". She has to be the "boss" in everything because she came from a very disfunctional family where her mother could not leave the house and she had to go out herself as a child and teenager and do the shopping and errands - so she was boss over younger brother and sister. I am older than her and like her I am the oldest child in my family. She never, ever asks me for help with rides if her car is in the shop or anything else for that matter but she is always trying to worm her way into my business and I have no problem accepting help from someone if they offer it or I ask for it. But with this woman it's a power play and she has to be the one who is on top and in charge - me I could care less about the power aspect. If I give a ride to someone that's fine, I I accept a ride from someone that's fine too. But the tirades are just awful and they come out of nowhere in conversation and while she is raging around I can't get a word in edgewise and then she accuses me of trying to talk over her - she blathers on and on like a crazy person.
vicreus rblx my husband has IED badly where he’s actually broken things. I’ve gotten him counseling several times and they’ve all confirmed he has it. I understand the fact if you feel like you’ll lose friends but I promise you if anyone loves you deeply enough they won’t leave, they’ll actually try and help you and how to get you help. Your not alone ♥️💖
I agree that you run the risk of pathologizing a quick temper. That being said, I have looked into this a lot and I sincerely don't know anyone who behaves the way I do (which would be easily described as Intermittent Explosive Disorder). I smashed my keyboard AND mouse into about 100 pieces in a matter of 2 seconds the other day over something really stupid. I won't say what the reason was, but it was not worthy of doing what I did. Granted I don't do that a lot but that type of thing has happened before. I also deal with a bit of depression and anxiety of course. But all that feels rather general and less extreme to me. It's the outbursts that I have now and then. They are HUGE!!
Does anybody's voice change when extremely angry? Ive been told by my family that my voice can sound very scary. It's like I'm another person, or that I have been possesed
That’s a very hard question to answer, Mental Health is a really difficult thing to explain. The only way you can improve is by keeping yourself focused to use that energy for something especially while you’re young. Get into a sport or hobby even weight lifting. Unfortunately no one really has the correct answer I still haven’t found it for myself but I know that if you set a goal for yourself you will improve.
There's mental health, and then there's mental health. Most mental health is just a label people assign to their designated scapegoats to give themselves a sense of moral superiority.
Everything that I love is gone because of this condition. Edna I'm so sorry for what ive put u and are children through. You and are children deserve happiness.
I've only lately began having symptoms of this. The guilt and shame afterwards give me hope But knowing that I did face abuses and traumas repeatedly through my life don't help
I feel like I might have traces of this.... I have a great work ethic and I am normally, for the most part very kind and considerate of others and their feelings. But when I get pushed over a certain edge, I just snap, all my logic disappears and I just see red, My whole body seizes up and I grind my teeth and it's like, for a moment, a monster takes over my body. As a result of my anger outbursts I have a dent in the side of my car and two holes in my bedroom walls. I have lost jobs because of my outbursts and ruined romantic relationships and friendships.... I hate myself....
Thank you so much for speaking upon this disorder. I worked with developmental disorders/dual diagnosed. individuals. I had to train and constantly train direct care and clinical staff. They (both) had a hard time “getting it” Sad but true
I work with adults with disabilities and one of them is diagnosed with this. I wanted to better understand it in order to better understand this individual. Thanks for all the information
Im 17 and for the past week nearly everyday I have had outbursts of anger and everything is getting to me even if it's something that doesn't matter and it will just feel like I can't do anything to stop it by shouting and hitting things.
i think my dad has this and he was always yelling at me and breaking my stuff when i was younger, and that's the only way i learned to process anger. so now unfortunately i have this as well. even ended up yelling at a professor in a college class once, it's a wonder i didn't get suspended. i really hope to break out of this behavior and process my anger in healthier ways, and i wish anyone else trying to do the same the best of luck.
Well this explains me, I cant help it most of the times. It's like a way for me to deal with my problems without having to say what's wrong, it's easy to take my anger out anyone except myself
It’s bad. When I was 6, my symptoms started to show. No one realised it, I just thought it was anger. One day a kid came up to me with a spider in his hand. I ran and he chased me his friend beat me into a corner and threw my lunch over the fence. I got up lost all sense of caring and just blurred out. I realised I just uncontrollably broke his nose and broke one of his friends legs. I moved to another school. I made friends and then a clear bully came up to me and started chatting to me about how I’m fat and was gay (it’s now 2013 and I’m 7). Started crying and once again got beat into a corner, on cue I got up and fractured his back by throwing him on a fence, same blur and lack of caring happened. I then got a bad reputation but still made friends. It took some getting used to my friend leaving because I “was a bad influence” his mum told me. I because deeply sad having no friends for a year straight. I worked my confidence and went to play 4 square with others. This kid told me I lost. I didn’t he just hated me. He threw the ball at my face. I had the blue once again and hit him 4 times in the face. 2 black eyes and a fractured eye socket I was taken into the office screaming I’m sorry I didn’t mean to. I couldn’t help it. I thought that it was normal. I was taken out of assembly every Friday and got help this nice woman probably knew what it was, she just didn’t tell me. I stopped being like that for a while didn’t get angry and learnt how to control it. I felt happy passed year 5 without getting angry didn’t hurt a soul not one person hated me and I made friends. This year 3, when I was in year 6 came up to me. (Year 3 = 7 yrs old Year 4 = 8 yrs old Year 5 = 9 yrs. old Year 6 = 10 yrs old) He kept punching my back but he didn’t hurt me I had to ignore him because I would get in trouble. He head butted me leaving me on the floor. He charged me again. I felt it the blur of the sudden dizzy ness to my hand launching into the side of his head hitting the brick wall leaving the corner flat. He had 2 black eyes and a bloody mouth. I couldnt stop saying sorry it wasn’t my fault. I couldn’t help it. I tried to forget but I still can’t. I moved to year 7 leaving my dark past hopefully behind. I warned people. They didn’t listen. I help of for 2 years. Slowly it was building up. I couldn’t help it. Now in year 9 I am 13 and I was stopped from handing in my test that I worked so hard on. He made a smart remark. “It was only 3 seconds” he said. That was it. I turned around pushing him on the floor then went to kneel on him and punch his face. I got up grabbed my bag and told the office what I had done and basically handed myself in. I got isolation for a day. I was sorry. I then got this kid called jack. He is racist, definitely not a feminist and was a nazi. The school kept tabs on him. He was in year 11 which means he was 15 and I was 11. He said that I was fat and he wanted to rape my sister. I lost it I continued to tackle him into a pillar the for him to punch my head hard. I actually enjoyed it. Finally another person with more fight. I was thrown on the floor and kicked while on the floor. I was in full control now the episode had gone quickly so I got up and was preparing to attack again. The fight was stopped and not another one since. But a recent incident. Made me question what it was. It’s not normal to blur out and want to hurt someone and feel bad after right?. So basically. I was playing on my phone near a river on a school trip. These girls were poking me with wooden rulers. I hit her. I full on hit a girl in the ear with a ruler. I can’t get over it. What is wrong with me. I need help but my mum has no clue. I need help but I don’t know what to do. Please help. Please.
I have trouble explaining my feelings. Always at war with myself esteem and those who have bullied me at work. They’ve turned me into a monster and I need to get out. I went for my colleague (my hardworking, amazing colleague) today because they were given tools I was told I couldn’t have. I am their manager. It hurts so bad. I lost my temper, it wasn’t their fault. I went to the toilet and hurt myself out of frustration. I’ve cried for hours. I’m paranoid they’re going to get rid of me, why would they do this? How can I change, I hate being me. I hate myself.
I have symptoms like this. But I also have CPTSD, so, not sure if it from that, or a separate condition on its own. The thing is with rage, is that it hurts so much more inside than outside-it is so internally destructive. I suggest trying a sport or boxing, specifically. It helps.
This might sound strange but, I have heard that people that were abused are susceptible to uncontrolled anger. Is this a sign of Intermittent Explosive Disorder? If it isn't, how is it different?
This has happened to me numerous times in the past and I genuinely don't consider myself a violent person. But to this day everytime someone has pushed me to far they've gotten hurt. Sometimes it can be for the smallest stupidest things as well and I feel really fucking guilty but yes it's really hard to control. I actually had an outburst last week and me in my dad got in a huge fight, I'm convinced he also has IED. I hate it but at the same time it makes me feel safe. I have infact once passed out from rage....
Has anyone here struggled with alcohol in the past? I used to binge drink one night then then take a few days off, and then do it again. I finally quit for good and my outbursts and fantasizing about violence got a lot better.
I shamefully have this, yet it's not as frequent as it comes, once or twice a year. Sometimes none. It's some sort of trigger, if things aren't going under your control. Sometimes the trigger is a thought, a person or a situation and I tell you, if it comes it really is hard to control. It's like a beast trying to release itself from your control and if you can't control it, all hell will break lose. It could be unspent anger and frustration accumulated thru years of not expressing it properly. I am trying my best to control it and guys, remember you're not alone we can help each other out. Peace.
My gf has that and what i do is walk away until she calms down. You cant argue by fighting back. The only way to beat it is to walk away but dont argue back or the situation will get WORST
Grudge That's the samething I asked I'm 37 yrs old and still out of control the doctor put me on topamax 125mg if I don't take it I will end up killing some1.
Hello dr. I’m not sure if this is what my adult child is experiencing. Out of my five adult children I have one son that became so violent that he attacked his father and almost bit his lip off. He went to prison for two yrs for this . He showed remorse but he has no recollection of the incident. He said that in the morning when he was in jail they had to give him the reason why he was there. He is the nicest and most caring person you could ever meet and would never expect that he would of done this. I’m trying to direct him to the right doctor for guidance. He says he wants to understand why he did this, but he doesnt know where to go. He has been taking anger management classes but I don’t think this is enough. We need to find the root of the problem before things get worse.
That feeling seconds after your outburst when you have that clarity and are shocked that YOU just acted that way... I am responsible for my actions and behavior but damn it's hard when the monster explodes inside.
Despite the fact that you probably won't see this, THANK YOU I've been currently researching this and this is exactly how I behave I'm not trying to self-diagnose but this is what I think I have
I have fluctuated temper especially if i have fight my close relative ie: parent, or siblings. When i m angry, my voice will raise and loud plus in same time i always thought want to leave the world or run away from everyone and wish never see them forever. I don't know how to manage this anger
I do believe I have this as well as maybe signs of cte as I played contact sports my entire childhood. I’m 23 going on 24 and I’ve honestly had this issue since I was 5-6. I was always in fights with kids in school and not fights where you push and scream abuse at your peers I’m talking I would black out and make other kids bleed, I was suspended multiple times and had hit my head at a very early age and since then I’ve had major difficulties controlling my behaviour. My father had similar issues and I didn’t even know the man my entire life. Just goes to show that it is in fact part generically and environment. I have had 4-5 other major head injuries since and haven’t played sport since I was 21, my last severe head injury. I felt a serious change that night, I didn’t feel like I was myself and since fought myself many of nights and days. I argue and get upset about things that are almost not even on a scale of impacting me yet I get so upset and emotional. I do however control it with methods and other ways to at least delay it in a way. However, I do feel like my body and my mind aren’t connected anymore and it’s scary.. I live everyday saying this is the day I play sports and get healthy back to the athlete I once was or even the young proud man I was, but every day I wake up late and think nah tomorrow I’ll do it and it’s been 2.5 years since I started saying this 😔 back to the point though, my anger and my emotions are almost uncontrollable and it scares me to the core because I have a beautiful girl and we are planning on getting married and I’m terrified of how I will raise my children and be a good father when I can’t even control myself
I had it. I had it for a long time. I quit drinking, recognized i was an alcoholic, i went to AA...its been a year now and it all slowly went away to near zero.
The embarrassment afterwards is unreal, like I feel sick to my stomach for days thinking back on completely losing control in front of people. The people around you will use words like "terrifying" to describe you, you get a bad reputation as some kind of unhinged psycho, it's awful. I only have an episode every 1-2yrs now, thank god, but it was bad when I was younger. In my mid 20s, I once trashed a fast food place fighting three people, fractured my arm punching them & gave myself a concussion from headbutting. No memory of the actual fight, just blacked out with rage. I distinctly remember, afterwards, thinking "Wow. I REALLY do not like who I am" and finally made efforts to address it.
Everyone asking what they should do if they think they have it should see a psychiatrist. Self diagnosing and not getting the right treatment will hurt you, not help you.
What if the type 1 is environmentally triggered? I'm specifically thinking of a disabling conditions that don't allow for the flight option or avoidance option, resulting in an explosive verbal outburst when feeling threatened. It seems disproportionate to everyone else, but to that person in the situation, they have to protect themselves NOW. What's the recommend treatment/management of such? Thank you in advance.
I know I have this too.Circumstances couples with PTSD and anxiety and Depression.Antidepressants, antipsychotics,etc do not help they worsen and can cause death.
All by myself. I was on psychotropic drugs for a long time. Now at least once a day doing the dishes, picking up , anything will send me into a frantic temper. Cussing and throwing things. Lord help me
I don't think i have this disorder but i still remember when i was in 5th grade elementary school. Someone punched me in the eye. ( i was bullied alot at that time). And straight up grabbed his neck and lifted him with one arm and punched him with the other untill he was bleeding from the nose. The worst part is that this is what witnesses said because i couldn't remember anything. Scary shit
aging has helped my condition, it was severely bad when i was younger, im 26 now and its still just as bad, but im a lot smarter about the situations i put myself in.
I am pretty sure now that this is the most diagnostic description of me. For the past 5-10 years now I was labeled bi polar and I knew that I didn’t really experience depression or mania. Anyways, I have a theory about this disorder. the anger is disproportionate in relationship to the situation. But I bet most people that have this diagnosis are having very very deep and complicated dialogues in their own head and then from the outside looking in, it’s disproportionate. But the story that is going on in the persons head is very much a precursor. Now it may seem in many cases that it’s very very erratic and out of nowhere. But what we are not able to measure or quantify is the overall story that is going on in the persons head on regular basis. I do believe that dialogue that people have with themselves is still very much a factor and can contribute to why their acting erratically. And also I suspect that there could be in a lot of causes, people having very connective thinking. What I mean is the small thing is a actually a microcosm of a larger grievance. What I am saying is the disproportionate behavior is actually not disproportionate in the persons head because they may be pretty analytical and rational people Normally, but what happens is because they are so good at making connections analytically, they are able to see the small thing as actually connected to the larger picture and because they mentally are always trying to make connections to the larger picture they actually aren’t seeing the social proportions that every one else sees because they’re so lost in Making connections in their head. I’m not saying this is the cause for all, but I know it’s the case for me. And maybe someone can relate. Because honestly I think the superficial symptoms are only tip of the iceberg
I think i may have this i can be fine for like a few minutes or hours and then just explode like a huge flame of anger and i have the outbursts about like 20 30 or 10 times when i have the outbursts i get verbally violent and almost physically violent if i get mad enough i do but its mostly verbal then i feel depressed after the outbursts because i feel bad about what i did and i noticed i dont hurt animals i only hurt humans these anger outbursts only happen for like 2 or 3 hours sometimes only 1 hour forgot to mention when i am angry (having a outburst) i get violent thoughts of hurting others sometimes even killing others but i would never do that i am scared of actually injuring someone or actually killing someone thats how bad my anger gets but i can be a friendly loving and caring girl when i am not angry
To everyone saying in the comments "I think I have this"....please don't just self diagnose like that....please talk to a mental health professional and get their educated opinion on the matter instead of googling and youtubing things that might not even be close to being the correct diagnosis.
Dear Dr. Grande: You cured me! Well, thank you very much for explaining "intermittent" explosive disorder. I was beginning to think I was crazy - ;-) Respectfully, etc.
My husband has this. Taking 5mg Lithium Orotate every few days makes all the difference. It’s OTC too. Doesn’t take it everyday though because it can have a rebound effect. Important to calibrate it to your system.
I strongly believe my stepdad has this. If he gets frustrated, like, say, for example, if he drops something on the floor, or he can't get something to go his way or someone says something he doesn't agree with, he has a loud verbal outburst. Sometimes things escalate to a full-blown temper tantrum with cursing and yelling. Sometimes, it's even verbal threats against the inanimate object or person. I hate it so bad for my mom to have to put up with him. We never know what will set him off, and there's no telling what he says when it's just them. He has some sort of undiagnosed intellectual disability that compounds things. His mom had it, too. It's a nightmare, and I wish he'd get help. I'm nice to him for my mom's sake, but honestly, I can't stand him whatsoever.
My mom always said. When you get these outburst break something that's gonna hurt you more in the long run. You will learn system when your paying for your actions. It has showed me alot. It works.
I have been trying to figure out what I have, this describes what I’ve been going through. I haven’t been diagnosed. I get mad at the littlest things and I’m mad for hours. My emotions are also more intense than normal. I get mad at my husband and take it out on him, my marriage is suffering because of it too
I was looking up a way to try to explain what's wrong with me.. I'm a friendly non violent person, but when something like a barking puppy when I'm trying to sleep is happening ill lay there raging and the longer it does it the more my rage burns and the evil in me comes out.. I'm an animal lover but I legit made my way to go drown this dog to make it shut up, but when I got within sight I thought "this is not you" and asked my gf to please let it sleep in the bed with her so he doesn't yelp anymore.. I don't like this side of me.. .many different instances in life where I've BARELY been able to control it
i have major anger issues, i am angry every single day . it’s became toxic not only for me but for the ones i love . i am physically aggressive and extremely verbally aggressive..i will go all out and have 0 control . and afterwards i find myself feeling relieved bc that’s my toxicity just coming out, but again that is not who i want to be . i try hard to control it, but it hasn’t left me. i find extreme joy and mainly RELIEF with hurting others. after a few years i will feel bad. but recently, i feel bad for hurting someone verbally, and pretty much it really affected me and i’m trying to reach out to get this out of me . i found no relief with this recent situation. no joy at all.
I have actually punched myself in the face to the point of getting black eyes, busted lip...when it hits I literally feel like an eruption...lose my sight sometimes and just feel the need to destroy something ...the other 90 percent of the time I am literally an outstanding person ...I help many, constantly look out for the next person ....wish I knew why I explode the way i do I've never been physical with my family but they have witnessed me having a fit, and destroying stuff in the garage...the level of rage and pure anger totally consumes me ..I have punched through windshields,..seems whenever it is real bad I inflict pain on myself ....I have gotten way better now that I'm in my 40s, but growing up I was in many many fights because of it. My dad was a violent man ...but I don't blame that ...but who knows....it sucks though.
Wonderful video. Excellent channel. But can you do a video about "explosive anger directed at social injustices"? The "horrors and atrocities" that take place (particularly in underdeveloped nations) is something that can (and does) actually cause me to lose sleep at night and has caused me to miss days at work (calling in sick cuz I can't concentrate on my job:-/), on occasion. How can we not be angry when we see human and animal suffering in other countries? Thank you for your channel.
I never forget what I'm doing and I'm trying to control it but it continously boils over and I can't stop it until The anger is gone and all I have left is EXTREME guilt and depression. I know what I'm doing is wrong and I want to apologize but I'm so embarrassed for being that way I don't! I would NEVER hurt a loved one but I'm afraid for someone else sometimes that breaks the Lock to the cage of the beast inside me and IDK what I'd do!!
I'm diagnosed with this. Episodes are fast onset and brief. Maybe only seconds in duration. I am often already in a frustrated state. Those few times that life is good then this is easily controlled. Right now I'm on disability and living on a fix poverty level income, so there is always frustration. Gabapentin helps a lot. But because of IDE I avoid intimate relationships which is saddening.
i lived a whole life of being told what to do, cover up for others. if i choose to have an outburst i should be allowed to. it’s not a failure in self control. i did it on purpose. i thrive in chaos. the more you try and control me the worse i will retaliate. the older i get the more professional i am about it. 😈
So uhhh, I punched my tv like five times in e weeks then it finally broke. Took a sledgehammer to my tablet, threw my phone into the wall, and just now I stopped myself from hitting my guitar into my window. I’m healthy 😋. Also, what about self harm? Because sometimes I’ll like get mad a a little thing and hit myself or hit my head to the wall.
I might have this. been diagnosed with bipolar and depression as a teen. now I'm in my 30s. my anger is very bad. I say very hurtful evil things to my gf. I get very verbally abusive. I sometimes punch and or throw things. at work I tend to get angry over something small like a box falling over. i get hot and uncontrollably grunt and pick it up aggressively. even smashing it out of anger. I cuss loud and uncontrollably too. almost like tourettes. ik I need help but idk who to trust. I have no friends and I distance myself away from family. the gym used to help but now I can't go so I feel it getting worse
Ive always been angry since i can remember. It fucks up my whole day most days. I have to keep myself in check very often. I have been fired and kicked out of places where i had roomates. Anger has been the bane of my existence. It makes you a difficult and toxic person. I dont think I have IED but I do have a very long and terrible relationship with anger and rage.
Tell them that people Behavior upon a quiet person can destroy their minds and they kept the inside until they black out alone from holding the anger and stress from so long actually make you blackout it doesn't have nothing to do with drinking drugs but the trouble from people who were outburst anger upon the victim personally can traumatize their brain to get the fact that have caused to block out.
During my early years in life ive not had a healthy way of dealing with emotions or stress so i let it all build up. Now that im older i can blow my top at any moment and i cant control anger anymore. If i get angry it has to come out. No holding it in.
Idk if I have it. I kind of just blow my top at the smallest things. I feel like I have smoke in my head that blocks me from seeing straight. I just start to throw things, hurt somebody or just start to run around like a crazy person. This happens to me at least 2 times a week.
The word I learned as an adult to describe my mother’s daily behavior was “rageaholic.” 3 minutes into this video I am hearing a description of my mother’s behavior. “Blowing up” was a word I used as a child. Until age 8 I thought all mothers blew up. I knew she could kill me and it would likely be accidental while she was in a rage. Dead is dead so the reason didn’t matter to me. She sliced the tip of my older sister’s big toe off when in a rage…slammed the front door. My sister used the guilt card on mom after that.
Wow… I think I’ve dealt with people who have this issue. I thought they were just malignant narcissists but I continue to do research and it seems there’s a lot of comorbidity with cluster B’s. Thank you!
It isn't a temper; it's an uncontrollable beast that holds no prisoners and it leaves you full of shame and regret.
Herbie so true
Tru.
Poppy
What I would like to know, is it something a person doesn’t remember, or acknowledge?
The second question is, is it about something you’ve done wrong, or is it about them?
I have a relative that does this to me, and it’s really messed me up. You feel like you
are dealing with a lunatic. This person also had a nervous breakdown years ago.
I don’t know if there is a connection between the two.
Ronald Martin
So right after you go though this, you’re saying you don’t remember flying
into a rage?
my friend i know exactly what you mean
It's really strange that when you lose your head, you wish to explode the whole planet, after the turmoil, minutes after, you feel you are an idiot, and wants to save even the smallest creatures, like the ants. This oscillation is terrible and embarrassing.
Angry people are usually depressed, but their anger pushes so many people away that it can be hard to get help. So, the cycle gets worse.
Having this scares me. I'm afraid of hurting someone one day. It's so hard to control.
I feel you my friend. I'm also afraid of hurting somebody... I have seen really scary dreams since last summer. In those dreams I had tortured and killed people and felt satisfaction... That scares me a lot...
Same. My outbursts are more controlled now but I tend to fantasize more about some pretty unpleasant situations.
I know...
I don't wanna hurt anyone or myself but there is no relief for the anger
Same bro...but something I used to do was just like punch things and myself. I’m also scared to hurt someone..
I get really angry when/if something doesn't function right and/or I can't find something. I bite my arm, bang things, I've punched holes in walls, broken and smashed things, screamed, etc.
Sounds just like me, it gets really l hard functioning at a job sometimes, I can't stop it when it starts no matter what I think or even if I recognize it
Whoa ur crazy 😂
@@JWC777 shut the hell up ok just shut the hell up
@@JWC777 I love how you never reply again because you're scared of being confronted. If you are going to say something unacceptable, be prepared to fight, don't just run away from confrontations. You're probably just some eleven year old kid that feels safe behind a computer screen, but in reality, you would never say that to someone's face and you would be cowering in fear. Toughen up and be able to defend yourself before you insult someone, especially since you're on the internet.
RPG 808 this is very hard to accept
I have this, and because of my condition I’ve unfortunately and regrettably have hurt my family members, lost countless friends, ruined relationships, and have even been arrested six times due to my episodes.
God man I feel for you. Just this Wednesday I really hurt my dad, got arrested, awaiting trial now but on bail and now my boyfriends family are scared of me and don't want me with him. Everything was going perfectly aswell. I have had outbursts in the past but never like this, and it was usually against a threatening individual and somewhat justified. But this time it was a pretty petty argument which led to it, and on most days I would be fine. The double vodkas didn't help though.
99 ron try to stay sober my friend. Have you been getting counseling or therapy? I wish you the best of luck.
yeah...
@@xxBurnsss101 pray for me please my mother has this. She was fighting with us yesterday didn't want to listen cursing at saying she wanted to kill herself. She's at a psychiatric centrum now
I'm really happy to read I'm not the only one that has this problem.I been arrested once because of it. Lost jobs because of it. Its not something that any one understand
This one often goes unchecked in our society. In fact, it's glorified to an extent.
yea
people love to see someone else 'loose their shit'
Hilarious to some, devastating to others
@@astick7777 The problem is that you get so angry that it could lead to killing someone
@@astick7777 what if the person who loses their shit starts losing their shit on literally everybody around them.......I know fucked up right?
I feel like Im not allowed to get angry or show any signs of anger what so ever. but as soon as all my anger bottles up and cant hold on,Im the bad person😐
I think I have this. I have a great patience. I am very passive aggressive. But once someone pushes me to a certain point I just black out and see red. I start yelling so loud I lose my voice, start phoning from the mouth. I start shaking and anything in my way gets destroyed. I’ve caused physical harm to people and my property. It’s very hard to deal with. I’ve had these temper outbursts since 16. I have gotten much better at controlling it but I hold a lot of things in and once somebody pushes me over the edge I just blow my lid.
Drew Andino even the most patient people has a limit. And it depends on your environment too, if it only happens to you with certain people maybe those people are toxic?? If it's with everybody and without a reason maybe you have the disorder. I used to be angry all the time when I was 12 but it was due to bullying and incredible stress from a toxic member of my family. Now I'm better since my environment changed.
Try less anime and more being an adult kek
I put this on everything. Everyday the moment I drive off my lot. 100% of the time someone FUCKING cuts me off. As if I'm in a matrix and its all planned out. Like FUCKING literally everyday RIGHT when I leave home. Hmmmm..... Coincidence? Or just super bad luck.... Hahahahaha this world is a fucken trip!!!
Feels. It makes me afraid to be around anyone.
You can feel it coming on. There only a split second of time for you to catch it. I can stop myself sometimes. In that moment if i can think about the aftermath i can catch it. I have been in mid swing and stopped myself.i tell myself in that split second "you dont want to do this" Try that. It may help you. It wont stop it but after a few times you will get better at controlling it. Good luck my friend.
Shame is a great motivator for overcoming this nasty habit. Self control and growing sense of self respect really helped me . Don’t let a setback destroy your determination to quit the anger addiction.Its well worth the effort 😊
I was diagnosed with this instead of PTSD after military service. General Depressive Disorder with Explosive Episodes. It feels like a total lack of empathy for hours or days, followed by an explosion in my brain that leads to extremely quick and violent outburst, quickly followed by a flood of emotion and then return to a "normal" state.
My rage anxiety go's from 0 - 10 like a bomb explosion
I get really angry and try to walk away from situations before i rage in an outburst. however, sadly, that just leave people to antagonise me more and kind of laugh at me and tell me that i shouldn't get so angry which pisses me off more cause i know i shouldn't be that angry. It's very upsetting that people laugh or tend to push me to get more angry especially when i know i am being crazy. I also get a bit physical and damaging towards myself which i do sometimes cry about after i do it out of embarrassment. It's just a rollercoaster of emotion that i fear may become damaging to my health. This was also one of the reasons my girlfriend broke up with me.
I really think that my Father had Intermittent Explosive Disorder, in addition to Manic-Depression and Paranoia. I grew up chafing under my Dad's loud, vicious outbursts over: My values(long before I was old enough to have a mature set of values), watching too much TV, having the volume on the TV up too loud, not being in bed after bedtime, fooling around in the bathtub, or, once, jokingly saying something he said was a "lie". A few times he came into my room after I'd gone to bed, angrily lectured me about what a disappointment I was to him, and spank me very hard for talking back to him. The problem was that I had INFLEXIBLE-Explosive Disorder(before anybody knew there was such a thing), and his answer to that was to be an A**hole to me, thinking that it was the only way I'd learn anything. Every time I'd blow up at him or talk back to him after an argument that he'd started, he'd scream "You are forbidden to watch TV for two weeks!" My Father was basically a good man and could be a good Father about 25 percent of the time, but pretty awful the rest of it.
Try holding a job when you're like this. I'm pretty sure I just lost another one, along with another chunk of my dignity.
Its hard when you have a nasty verbally abusive person in your life who belittles you especially in front of your collegues ,,and if its ongoing bullying .. I have some explosive issues and I thought it was under control but I came very close to assaulting my co worker which could have left her with permanent scarring . It was honestly scary when i think about it .
Luckily something just stopped me before I reacted . But it was a close call for both of us . 😨 Explosive disorders are destructive but also I think people need to becareful with TORMENTING and pushing others too far as well . EVERYONE HAS A BREAKING POINT .. ( Lesson for you bullies out there !!!)
Good video though . 👍
Dear Dr. Grande, i have been watching for a few weeks and honestly my life has been a blur most of my life being on pscyh meds my whole life (almost) i was never able to percive my behaviors for myself.... i was diagnosed at age 8 with IED and have been through a few other diagnosis but your videos have helped me (since i have been off meds for a bit now) analyze my un medicated behaviors and be able to bring it to my doctor and explain myself better.... you are an amazing youtuber as well... most people on the internet that i have seen have "seemed" very biased even if it a positive bias... being mentally i hate it when people try to act like "oh your just different and thats ok and all that" i enjoy your calm and seeminly unbiased tone... it keeps me calm when trying to experience these emotions..... YOU HELP PEOPLE... dont stop doing this
I think it's the need to control everything.
Joseph Crispin this is what I think my problem is
Control.. yes Thats what i really need
i think its like an anxiety attack, but its translated into anger, instead of flight its fight, but its the precursor to fight.a rush of adrenaline maybe. to get ready for a fight. but a very highly inappropriate (possibly disinhibited response). but the rush. then the choice to go or no is the point, but control is dependant on justification and the situation.
mr table lamp i think you’re right im fine all day usally until i get home and if one thing goes wrong i go mental and feel like fighting something but nothing’s there. just results in self harm and me breaking things
Joseph Crispin I would think yes control is my problem for sure ... If feel if I don’t have control of the problem or job I get frustrated instantly lash out to all around me ..
because I don’t have control .. or it didn’t go my way ...
frustration runs deep.. I took a anger management class and feel it only works it you are always attending class ... Class got over and in weeks I was back to the same BS ...
Honestly I was the happiest person in my 20’s brushed everything off the shoulder..
Here I am 38 and just angry at everything...
I need help ,I might have this odd disorder ..
Hope you all get well
My daughter has explosive angry outbursts and becomes very verbally abusive and belittling. It’s awful and I’m a peaceful person. It causes anxiety that I’m not used to. I try not to engage with her but sometimes her words are so cruel I’ll argue back and she will escalate and blame me. I’m always walking on eggshells around her. She thinks she’s perfectly fine and it’s never her problem. My suggestion that she figure out what the cause is just makes her angry. She has been diagnosed with ADD and takes medication for it but her psychiatrist doesn’t help her much. Unfortunately we live together and I can’t move at this time. It’s exhausting and I’m tired of the drama.
i need to be properly diagnosed but generally i'm pretty calm and can go with whatever comes but i seem to have certain triggers that just makes me feel like i'm choking to death, my chest is tight, my head gets blurry, and i start tearing up
the only thing i can think about during this period is to hurt the person who started the feeling and holding back starts to become dizzying and incredibly painful
Yes me too. I'm always really calm. But when I get these episodes I start getting really impatient. Crying. Hitting things.
But I have learned how to stop some.
Same here... I am really calm and very likeable person, but those triggers makes me wanna torture to death the idiot who almost made me commit a suicide... Panic attacks and constant mental pain...
im similar but it’s not anyone elses fault its just mine
I've had this since I was ten years old, it's really hard to live with I have said some of the nastiest stuff to those I love and cherish.
Karley Hanson omg me too. Let’s beat this together.
@@theprinceofrealestate I've said mean stuff on here as well and then I explain to them what I have and they say "oh it's ok" but I know it's not a free pass
I had an anger episode once and called my husband a piece of shit and I ended up breaking one of my widding DVDs! I used to smoke to relieve my stress but I stopped smoking so I guess will have a lot of these anger episodes! It's getting ugly and I hate it
Hasn't happened to me in over a year now, I kind of learned what triggered it and I have done my best to stay out of those situations, but I'm actually glad to know that I still have it in me, because I feel like it protects me and actually has in dangerous situations before because I'm not at all a violent person outside of these outbursts but sometimes you need to be able to defend yourself and its good when your mind and body goes on autopilot and you become a force of addrenaline and insanity, the only bad thing is that since I cant control it, it has happened with my family many times as well but I've luckly always managed to direct my anger towards a piece of furniture or a wall when it comes to my family and I always feel very depressed and hate myself for what I've done when I come back to my senses, its very sad when your condition is viewed by most as "quick temper".
You found pot didn't you?
I feel the same way. Its a double edged sword. If we were cavemen we’d be alphas, but in modern times we’re just nutjobs.
I just start shaking, mumbling angry things and squeezing or scratching something nearby
I have IED...when I have my episodes I have ticks that happens before like my hands shake my eye twitches my chest tightens...when I have an episode I completely black out.. When I come back to I'm really tired breathing heavy crying and just have to walk it off before I go back into another episode
@@winterblossom4446 I'm actually doing a lot better I have kids now so I can't afford to have episodes so I started taking my meds how I should and I do therapy twice a week or often if I'm going through something stressful so I have a better grib on it I learned to recognize my ticks so I can better control it so to speak I still have episodes but no where near as bad or often as before
When I reach the destructive part, I black out not before that.
And then you see the coffee table hanging out of the TV.
This. I am this post.
My mother has this please pray for her.
I am 53 and all my life I have been very calm. Lately, I've been bothered by these outbursts of anger. I lose my temper easily. I suffer from depression and generalized anxiety. When something cause me great anger, I don't recognize myself, it's like a monster, but I try to control and don't harm no people, nor animal nor property, but I feel that all that anger is concentrated on myself and I could eventually die of it, of a heart attack, high blood pressure, etc. Few minutes later, I may come back to normal and be the most patient person in the world, then, I feel ashamed by having lost my temper so easily.
Ever since i joined the military 4 years ago i lose it physically and verbally way too often. I cant wait to get out and be away from all the bs and stress
I usually pull my hair, bite my arms, bite my lips, scratch myself, shake my arms, scream until my voice is raw, grind my teeth, bite things (I.e. walls phone pillows), tense my body and try not to lash out or hurt anyone. It feels like I’m not myself and out of control of my body. I can usually feel a pulsing behind my eyes, shaking, and not being able to control my breathing.
People used to call my mother a “rage-aholic” I think she must have had this. She’d just go off at the drop of a hat, pull me around by my hair, scream like a maniac and slap me in the face. once I forgot to wash the blender after making a smoothie and she was enraged that she took the whole unit and threw it on to the highway that our house was above.
I've got a neighbor that has this disorder. About every 3 months or so she without any bad behavior from me she starts getting madder and madder in a conversation. It escalates and I try to stay calm myself because this is not normal and when I go silent she always says "why aren't you saying anything". She has to be the "boss" in everything because she came from a very disfunctional family where her mother could not leave the house and she had to go out herself as a child and teenager and do the shopping and errands - so she was boss over younger brother and sister. I am older than her and like her I am the oldest child in my family. She never, ever asks me for help with rides if her car is in the shop or anything else for that matter but she is always trying to worm her way into my business and I have no problem accepting help from someone if they offer it or I ask for it. But with this woman it's a power play and she has to be the one who is on top and in charge - me I could care less about the power aspect. If I give a ride to someone that's fine, I I accept a ride from someone that's fine too. But the tirades are just awful and they come out of nowhere in conversation and while she is raging around I can't get a word in edgewise and then she accuses me of trying to talk over her - she blathers on and on like a crazy person.
I have ied and it just saddens me. I have episodes out of no where and I’ve lost many friends because of this. :(
vicreus rblx my husband has IED badly where he’s actually broken things. I’ve gotten him counseling several times and they’ve all confirmed he has it. I understand the fact if you feel like you’ll lose friends but I promise you if anyone loves you deeply enough they won’t leave, they’ll actually try and help you and how to get you help. Your not alone ♥️💖
Go see a fucking neurologist.
I agree that you run the risk of pathologizing a quick temper. That being said, I have looked into this a lot and I sincerely don't know anyone who behaves the way I do (which would be easily described as Intermittent Explosive Disorder). I smashed my keyboard AND mouse into about 100 pieces in a matter of 2 seconds the other day over something really stupid. I won't say what the reason was, but it was not worthy of doing what I did. Granted I don't do that a lot but that type of thing has happened before. I also deal with a bit of depression and anxiety of course. But all that feels rather general and less extreme to me. It's the outbursts that I have now and then. They are HUGE!!
Does anybody's voice change when extremely angry? Ive been told by my family that my voice can sound very scary. It's like I'm another person, or that I have been possesed
My parents say I'm a bully and rude I can't hold in my anger or keep my hands to myself and I feel guilty and hold back tears what does this mean
That’s a very hard question to answer, Mental Health is a really difficult thing to explain. The only way you can improve is by keeping yourself focused to use that energy for something especially while you’re young. Get into a sport or hobby even weight lifting.
Unfortunately no one really has the correct answer I still haven’t found it for myself but I know that if you set a goal for yourself you will improve.
Emi the wolfy bean prob a sociopath
There's mental health, and then there's mental health. Most mental health is just a label people assign to their designated scapegoats to give themselves a sense of moral superiority.
It means we both have unsupportive assholes for parents.
Living with someone like this is very hard. The frequency of explosions wears me out.
Everything that I love is gone because of this condition. Edna I'm so sorry for what ive put u and are children through. You and are children deserve happiness.
I've only lately began having symptoms of this.
The guilt and shame afterwards give me hope
But knowing that I did face abuses and traumas repeatedly through my life don't help
I feel like I might have traces of this.... I have a great work ethic and I am normally, for the most part very kind and considerate of others and their feelings. But when I get pushed over a certain edge, I just snap, all my logic disappears and I just see red, My whole body seizes up and I grind my teeth and it's like, for a moment, a monster takes over my body. As a result of my anger outbursts I have a dent in the side of my car and two holes in my bedroom walls. I have lost jobs because of my outbursts and ruined romantic relationships and friendships.... I hate myself....
I've lost my beautiful wife and children because of this condition. I hate my self.
Thank you so much for speaking upon this disorder. I worked with developmental disorders/dual diagnosed. individuals. I had to train and constantly train direct care and clinical staff. They (both) had a hard time “getting it” Sad but true
I work with adults with disabilities and one of them is diagnosed with this. I wanted to better understand it in order to better understand this individual. Thanks for all the information
Im 17 and for the past week nearly everyday I have had outbursts of anger and everything is getting to me even if it's something that doesn't matter and it will just feel like I can't do anything to stop it by shouting and hitting things.
i think my dad has this and he was always yelling at me and breaking my stuff when i was younger, and that's the only way i learned to process anger. so now unfortunately i have this as well. even ended up yelling at a professor in a college class once, it's a wonder i didn't get suspended. i really hope to break out of this behavior and process my anger in healthier ways, and i wish anyone else trying to do the same the best of luck.
Well this explains me, I cant help it most of the times. It's like a way for me to deal with my problems without having to say what's wrong, it's easy to take my anger out anyone except myself
It’s bad. When I was 6, my symptoms started to show. No one realised it, I just thought it was anger. One day a kid came up to me with a spider in his hand. I ran and he chased me his friend beat me into a corner and threw my lunch over the fence. I got up lost all sense of caring and just blurred out. I realised I just uncontrollably broke his nose and broke one of his friends legs. I moved to another school. I made friends and then a clear bully came up to me and started chatting to me about how I’m fat and was gay (it’s now 2013 and I’m 7). Started crying and once again got beat into a corner, on cue I got up and fractured his back by throwing him on a fence, same blur and lack of caring happened. I then got a bad reputation but still made friends. It took some getting used to my friend leaving because I “was a bad influence” his mum told me. I because deeply sad having no friends for a year straight. I worked my confidence and went to play 4 square with others. This kid told me I lost. I didn’t he just hated me. He threw the ball at my face. I had the blue once again and hit him 4 times in the face. 2 black eyes and a fractured eye socket I was taken into the office screaming I’m sorry I didn’t mean to. I couldn’t help it. I thought that it was normal. I was taken out of assembly every Friday and got help this nice woman probably knew what it was, she just didn’t tell me. I stopped being like that for a while didn’t get angry and learnt how to control it. I felt happy passed year 5 without getting angry didn’t hurt a soul not one person hated me and I made friends. This year 3, when I was in year 6 came up to me.
(Year 3 = 7 yrs old
Year 4 = 8 yrs old
Year 5 = 9 yrs. old
Year 6 = 10 yrs old)
He kept punching my back but he didn’t hurt me I had to ignore him because I would get in trouble. He head butted me leaving me on the floor. He charged me again. I felt it the blur of the sudden dizzy ness to my hand launching into the side of his head hitting the brick wall leaving the corner flat. He had 2 black eyes and a bloody mouth. I couldnt stop saying sorry it wasn’t my fault. I couldn’t help it. I tried to forget but I still can’t. I moved to year 7 leaving my dark past hopefully behind. I warned people. They didn’t listen. I help of for 2 years. Slowly it was building up. I couldn’t help it. Now in year 9 I am 13 and I was stopped from handing in my test that I worked so hard on. He made a smart remark. “It was only 3 seconds” he said. That was it. I turned around pushing him on the floor then went to kneel on him and punch his face. I got up grabbed my bag and told the office what I had done and basically handed myself in. I got isolation for a day. I was sorry. I then got this kid called jack. He is racist, definitely not a feminist and was a nazi. The school kept tabs on him. He was in year 11 which means he was 15 and I was 11. He said that I was fat and he wanted to rape my sister. I lost it I continued to tackle him into a pillar the for him to punch my head hard. I actually enjoyed it. Finally another person with more fight. I was thrown on the floor and kicked while on the floor. I was in full control now the episode had gone quickly so I got up and was preparing to attack again. The fight was stopped and not another one since. But a recent incident. Made me question what it was. It’s not normal to blur out and want to hurt someone and feel bad after right?. So basically. I was playing on my phone near a river on a school trip. These girls were poking me with wooden rulers. I hit her. I full on hit a girl in the ear with a ruler. I can’t get over it. What is wrong with me. I need help but my mum has no clue. I need help but I don’t know what to do.
Please help. Please.
I have trouble explaining my feelings. Always at war with myself esteem and those who have bullied me at work. They’ve turned me into a monster and I need to get out. I went for my colleague (my hardworking, amazing colleague) today because they were given tools I was told I couldn’t have. I am their manager. It hurts so bad. I lost my temper, it wasn’t their fault. I went to the toilet and hurt myself out of frustration. I’ve cried for hours. I’m paranoid they’re going to get rid of me, why would they do this? How can I change, I hate being me. I hate myself.
My mother has this. She put my brothers and me through HELL. It’s miracle we survived.
I have symptoms like this. But I also have CPTSD, so, not sure if it from that, or a separate condition on its own. The thing is with rage, is that it hurts so much more inside than outside-it is so internally destructive. I suggest trying a sport or boxing, specifically. It helps.
Thanks for sharing this! Never actually looked it up before. Nice to know that I am not the only Peaceful Warrior living with a Demon inside of me
This might sound strange but, I have heard that people that were abused are susceptible to uncontrolled anger. Is this a sign of Intermittent Explosive Disorder? If it isn't, how is it different?
Anak NangFilipina I’ve never been abused and I have it.
There is a link between IED and childhood trauma.
i can tell u this is true
This has happened to me numerous times in the past and I genuinely don't consider myself a violent person. But to this day everytime someone has pushed me to far they've gotten hurt. Sometimes it can be for the smallest stupidest things as well and I feel really fucking guilty but yes it's really hard to control. I actually had an outburst last week and me in my dad got in a huge fight, I'm convinced he also has IED. I hate it but at the same time it makes me feel safe. I have infact once passed out from rage....
Has anyone here struggled with alcohol in the past? I used to binge drink one night then then take a few days off, and then do it again. I finally quit for good and my outbursts and fantasizing about violence got a lot better.
I shamefully have this, yet it's not as frequent as it comes, once or twice a year. Sometimes none. It's some sort of trigger, if things aren't going under your control. Sometimes the trigger is a thought, a person or a situation and I tell you, if it comes it really is hard to control. It's like a beast trying to release itself from your control and if you can't control it, all hell will break lose. It could be unspent anger and frustration accumulated thru years of not expressing it properly. I am trying my best to control it and guys, remember you're not alone we can help each other out. Peace.
My gf has that and what i do is walk away until she calms down. You cant argue by fighting back. The only way to beat it is to walk away but dont argue back or the situation will get WORST
Do you ever grow out of it? Cause im 22 and i still haven't
I don´t think you will, but you can try to work with it. Try to count to 10 or breath heavely. Good luck :)
Grudge I was told it gets weaker as you get older, my first symptoms were when I was 11, and it has decreased a bit.
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That's the samething I
asked I'm 37 yrs old and
still out of control the
doctor put me on topamax
125mg if I don't take it I
will end up killing some1.
I’m 26 and I still haven’t
I’m 20 and i still havent grown out of it as well
Hello dr. I’m not sure if this is what my adult child is experiencing. Out of my five adult children I have one son that became so violent that he attacked his father and almost bit his lip off. He went to prison for two yrs for this
. He showed remorse but he has no recollection of the incident. He said that in the morning when he was in jail they had to give him the reason why he was there. He is the nicest and most caring person you could ever meet and would never expect that he would of done this. I’m trying to direct him to the right doctor for guidance. He says he wants to understand why he did this, but he doesnt know where to go. He has been taking anger management classes but I don’t think this is enough. We need to find the root of the problem before things get worse.
Well that explains everything, all the anger I have and why I find it so hard to control it.
That feeling seconds after your outburst when you have that clarity and are shocked that YOU just acted that way... I am responsible for my actions and behavior but damn it's hard when the monster explodes inside.
Despite the fact that you probably won't see this, THANK YOU I've been currently researching this and this is exactly how I behave I'm not trying to self-diagnose but this is what I think I have
I have fluctuated temper especially if i have fight my close relative ie: parent, or siblings. When i m angry, my voice will raise and loud plus in same time i always thought want to leave the world or run away from everyone and wish never see them forever. I don't know how to manage this anger
I do believe I have this as well as maybe signs of cte as I played contact sports my entire childhood. I’m 23 going on 24 and I’ve honestly had this issue since I was 5-6. I was always in fights with kids in school and not fights where you push and scream abuse at your peers I’m talking I would black out and make other kids bleed, I was suspended multiple times and had hit my head at a very early age and since then I’ve had major difficulties controlling my behaviour. My father had similar issues and I didn’t even know the man my entire life. Just goes to show that it is in fact part generically and environment. I have had 4-5 other major head injuries since and haven’t played sport since I was 21, my last severe head injury. I felt a serious change that night, I didn’t feel like I was myself and since fought myself many of nights and days. I argue and get upset about things that are almost not even on a scale of impacting me yet I get so upset and emotional. I do however control it with methods and other ways to at least delay it in a way. However, I do feel like my body and my mind aren’t connected anymore and it’s scary.. I live everyday saying this is the day I play sports and get healthy back to the athlete I once was or even the young proud man I was, but every day I wake up late and think nah tomorrow I’ll do it and it’s been 2.5 years since I started saying this 😔 back to the point though, my anger and my emotions are almost uncontrollable and it scares me to the core because I have a beautiful girl and we are planning on getting married and I’m terrified of how I will raise my children and be a good father when I can’t even control myself
I had it. I had it for a long time. I quit drinking, recognized i was an alcoholic, i went to AA...its been a year now and it all slowly went away to near zero.
The embarrassment afterwards is unreal, like I feel sick to my stomach for days thinking back on completely losing control in front of people. The people around you will use words like "terrifying" to describe you, you get a bad reputation as some kind of unhinged psycho, it's awful. I only have an episode every 1-2yrs now, thank god, but it was bad when I was younger. In my mid 20s, I once trashed a fast food place fighting three people, fractured my arm punching them & gave myself a concussion from headbutting. No memory of the actual fight, just blacked out with rage. I distinctly remember, afterwards, thinking "Wow. I REALLY do not like who I am" and finally made efforts to address it.
Everyone asking what they should do if they think they have it should see a psychiatrist. Self diagnosing and not getting the right treatment will hurt you, not help you.
wow, 2 times a week for 3 months? this happens to me multiple times a day every day
What if the type 1 is environmentally triggered? I'm specifically thinking of a disabling conditions that don't allow for the flight option or avoidance option, resulting in an explosive verbal outburst when feeling threatened. It seems disproportionate to everyone else, but to that person in the situation, they have to protect themselves NOW. What's the recommend treatment/management of such?
Thank you in advance.
I know I have this too.Circumstances couples with PTSD and anxiety and Depression.Antidepressants, antipsychotics,etc do not help they worsen and can cause death.
All by myself. I was on psychotropic drugs for a long time. Now at least once a day doing the dishes, picking up , anything will send me into a frantic temper. Cussing and throwing things. Lord help me
I don't think i have this disorder but i still remember when i was in 5th grade elementary school. Someone punched me in the eye. ( i was bullied alot at that time). And straight up grabbed his neck and lifted him with one arm and punched him with the other untill he was bleeding from the nose. The worst part is that this is what witnesses said because i couldn't remember anything. Scary shit
aging has helped my condition, it was severely bad when i was younger, im 26 now and its still just as bad, but im a lot smarter about the situations i put myself in.
I had it since the age of 9 and still have it 20 years later...
I am pretty sure now that this is the most diagnostic description of me. For the past 5-10 years now I was labeled bi polar and I knew that I didn’t really experience depression or mania. Anyways, I have a theory about this disorder. the anger is disproportionate in relationship to the situation. But I bet most people that have this diagnosis are having very very deep and complicated dialogues in their own head and then from the outside looking in, it’s disproportionate. But the story that is going on in the persons head is very much a precursor. Now it may seem in many cases that it’s very very erratic and out of nowhere. But what we are not able to measure or quantify is the overall story that is going on in the persons head on regular basis. I do believe that dialogue that people have with themselves is still very much a factor and can contribute to why their acting erratically. And also I suspect that there could be in a lot of causes, people having very connective thinking. What I mean is the small thing is a actually a microcosm of a larger grievance. What I am saying is the disproportionate behavior is actually not disproportionate in the persons head because they may be pretty analytical and rational people Normally, but what happens is because they are so good at making connections analytically, they are able to see the small thing as actually connected to the larger picture and because they mentally are always trying to make connections to the larger picture they actually aren’t seeing the social proportions that every one else sees because they’re so lost in Making connections in their head. I’m not saying this is the cause for all, but I know it’s the case for me. And maybe someone can relate. Because honestly I think the superficial symptoms are only tip of the iceberg
I can relate
I've just been diagnosed with this.. I'm really bad with it 😞thanks for the info doc, helped me understand it a bit more..
I think i may have this i can be fine for like a few minutes or hours and then just explode like a huge flame of anger and i have the outbursts about like 20 30 or 10 times when i have the outbursts i get verbally violent and almost physically violent if i get mad enough i do but its mostly verbal then i feel depressed after the outbursts because i feel bad about what i did and i noticed i dont hurt animals i only hurt humans these anger outbursts only happen for like 2 or 3 hours sometimes only 1 hour forgot to mention when i am angry (having a outburst) i get violent thoughts of hurting others sometimes even killing others but i would never do that i am scared of actually injuring someone or actually killing someone thats how bad my anger gets but i can be a friendly loving and caring girl when i am not angry
To everyone saying in the comments "I think I have this"....please don't just self diagnose like that....please talk to a mental health professional and get their educated opinion on the matter instead of googling and youtubing things that might not even be close to being the correct diagnosis.
Dear Dr. Grande: You cured me! Well, thank you very much for explaining "intermittent" explosive disorder. I was beginning to think I was crazy - ;-)
Respectfully,
etc.
My husband has this. Taking 5mg Lithium Orotate every few days makes all the difference. It’s OTC too. Doesn’t take it everyday though because it can have a rebound effect. Important to calibrate it to your system.
I strongly believe my stepdad has this. If he gets frustrated, like, say, for example, if he drops something on the floor, or he can't get something to go his way or someone says something he doesn't agree with, he has a loud verbal outburst. Sometimes things escalate to a full-blown temper tantrum with cursing and yelling. Sometimes, it's even verbal threats against the inanimate object or person. I hate it so bad for my mom to have to put up with him. We never know what will set him off, and there's no telling what he says when it's just them. He has some sort of undiagnosed intellectual disability that compounds things. His mom had it, too. It's a nightmare, and I wish he'd get help. I'm nice to him for my mom's sake, but honestly, I can't stand him whatsoever.
My mom always said. When you get these outburst break something that's gonna hurt you more in the long run. You will learn system when your paying for your actions. It has showed me alot. It works.
I have been trying to figure out what I have, this describes what I’ve been going through. I haven’t been diagnosed. I get mad at the littlest things and I’m mad for hours. My emotions are also more intense than normal. I get mad at my husband and take it out on him, my marriage is suffering because of it too
I was looking up a way to try to explain what's wrong with me.. I'm a friendly non violent person, but when something like a barking puppy when I'm trying to sleep is happening ill lay there raging and the longer it does it the more my rage burns and the evil in me comes out.. I'm an animal lover but I legit made my way to go drown this dog to make it shut up, but when I got within sight I thought "this is not you" and asked my gf to please let it sleep in the bed with her so he doesn't yelp anymore..
I don't like this side of me.. .many different instances in life where I've BARELY been able to control it
Is this connected to anxiety and obsessive compulsion?
i have major anger issues, i am angry every single day . it’s became toxic not only for me but for the ones i love . i am physically aggressive and extremely verbally aggressive..i will go all out and have 0 control . and afterwards i find myself feeling relieved bc that’s my toxicity just coming out, but again that is not who i want to be . i try hard to control it, but it hasn’t left me. i find extreme joy and mainly RELIEF with hurting others. after a few years i will feel bad. but recently, i feel bad for hurting someone verbally, and pretty much it really affected me and i’m trying to reach out to get this out of me . i found no relief with this recent situation. no joy at all.
I have actually punched myself in the face to the point of getting black eyes, busted lip...when it hits I literally feel like an eruption...lose my sight sometimes and just feel the need to destroy something ...the other 90 percent of the time I am literally an outstanding person ...I help many, constantly look out for the next person ....wish I knew why I explode the way i do I've never been physical with my family but they have witnessed me having a fit, and destroying stuff in the garage...the level of rage and pure anger totally consumes me ..I have punched through windshields,..seems whenever it is real bad I inflict pain on myself ....I have gotten way better now that I'm in my 40s, but growing up I was in many many fights because of it. My dad was a violent man ...but I don't blame that ...but who knows....it sucks though.
Wonderful video. Excellent channel. But can you do a video about "explosive anger directed at social injustices"? The "horrors and atrocities" that take place (particularly in underdeveloped nations) is something that can (and does) actually cause me to lose sleep at night and has caused me to miss days at work (calling in sick cuz I can't concentrate on my job:-/), on occasion. How can we not be angry when we see human and animal suffering in other countries? Thank you for your channel.
to people in the comment's this video is not a diagnosis, you need a proper evaluation not just checking a list of in your head while you watch this.
I never forget what I'm doing and I'm trying to control it but it continously boils over and I can't stop it until The anger is gone and all I have left is EXTREME guilt and depression. I know what I'm doing is wrong and I want to apologize but I'm so embarrassed for being that way I don't! I would NEVER hurt a loved one but I'm afraid for someone else sometimes that breaks the Lock to the cage of the beast inside me and IDK what I'd do!!
i have a good anger management however cant handle when people doesnt know their limits.
I'm diagnosed with this. Episodes are fast onset and brief. Maybe only seconds in duration. I am often already in a frustrated state. Those few times that life is good then this is easily controlled. Right now I'm on disability and living on a fix poverty level income, so there is always frustration. Gabapentin helps a lot. But because of IDE I avoid intimate relationships which is saddening.
i lived a whole life of being told what to do, cover up for others. if i choose to have an outburst i should be allowed to. it’s not a failure in self control. i did it on purpose. i thrive in chaos. the more you try and control me the worse i will retaliate. the older i get the more professional i am about it. 😈
you do me dirty, i do you dirty and we can all have homeostasis 😌
Hi. Thank you for this video. What type of specialist should we see?
So uhhh, I punched my tv like five times in e weeks then it finally broke. Took a sledgehammer to my tablet, threw my phone into the wall, and just now I stopped myself from hitting my guitar into my window. I’m healthy 😋.
Also, what about self harm? Because sometimes I’ll like get mad a a little thing and hit myself or hit my head to the wall.
I might have this. been diagnosed with bipolar and depression as a teen. now I'm in my 30s. my anger is very bad. I say very hurtful evil things to my gf. I get very verbally abusive. I sometimes punch and or throw things. at work I tend to get angry over something small like a box falling over. i get hot and uncontrollably grunt and pick it up aggressively. even smashing it out of anger. I cuss loud and uncontrollably too. almost like tourettes. ik I need help but idk who to trust. I have no friends and I distance myself away from family. the gym used to help but now I can't go so I feel it getting worse
Ive always been angry since i can remember. It fucks up my whole day most days. I have to keep myself in check very often. I have been fired and kicked out of places where i had roomates. Anger has been the bane of my existence. It makes you a difficult and toxic person. I dont think I have IED but I do have a very long and terrible relationship with anger and rage.
is it normal that I have had anger issues and then I learned to get rid of my anger issues, but then got them again?
Tell them that people Behavior upon a quiet person can destroy their minds and they kept the inside until they black out alone from holding the anger and stress from so long actually make you blackout it doesn't have nothing to do with drinking drugs but the trouble from people who were outburst anger upon the victim personally can traumatize their brain to get the fact that have caused to block out.
During my early years in life ive not had a healthy way of dealing with emotions or stress so i let it all build up. Now that im older i can blow my top at any moment and i cant control anger anymore. If i get angry it has to come out. No holding it in.
Am I the only one who finds his voice calming ?
Would you say that people with this diagnosis are always constantly irritable?
Idk if I have it. I kind of just blow my top at the smallest things. I feel like I have smoke in my head that blocks me from seeing straight. I just start to throw things, hurt somebody or just start to run around like a crazy person. This happens to me at least 2 times a week.
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The word I learned as an adult to describe my mother’s daily behavior was “rageaholic.” 3 minutes into this video I am hearing a description of my mother’s behavior. “Blowing up” was a word I used as a child. Until age 8 I thought all mothers blew up.
I knew she could kill me and it would likely be accidental while she was in a rage. Dead is dead so the reason didn’t matter to me.
She sliced the tip of my older sister’s big toe off when in a rage…slammed the front door. My sister used the guilt card on mom after that.
Wow… I think I’ve dealt with people who have this issue. I thought they were just malignant narcissists but I continue to do research and it seems there’s a lot of comorbidity with cluster B’s.
Thank you!