Hello doc...I had lot of supreessive situation during childhood....I am 35 now since 10 years I am having anger outbust...it generally happen when I am emotionally hurt and even very small hurt me deeply....and when I am in anger outburst I break anything ...and during anger if anything strike my eye ...even though I break anything I don't get cool down unless and until that particular thing is distroied completely...once that particular thing is distroied ....I get back to normal .....I don't hurt anyone but either to myself or any object....if I try to control my anger I can feel numbness to my entire body and my ears get red and buring and I use to have severe headache....kindly help me out
Wen i get angry i feel i want to damage something but i dont want to get in trouble so i just swear all the time and look for an excuse to damage something.
This is my problem, I get these a lot 1. get angry over little things. 2. calm down for 1-2 minutes 3. then outburst 4. destroy things 5. calm down 6. regret my action. I really need to manage my anger.
@@laughfeedtv3866 thats me everytime now. It has become so bad that when I am only annoyed I am turning into a serial killer and my head is just like, kill kill it won't stress you they deserve it because they are assholes and stuff. Its scary and it doesn't help that I have problems communicating with my family. half of why I can't is because of my anger becoming more and more angrier and me getting stressed or annyoed (after angry) to make me angry and yeah whole cycle continues. sorry if its confusing and also for writing such a long comment, stay safe!
@@frostmint3584 bro same here I suck at communicating I did this at work I started yelling and throwing 80lbs boxes I can’t really work around people I don’t want to hurt anybody
I've noticed that this disorder often manifests when a child is exposed to long term domestic violence, abuse, repeated, multiple traumas, etc, so the "out of proportion anger response to the situation" is because the brain has become so used to high stress situations, that it's literally wired the body to respond to _anything_ like that.
agreed. if the person refuses medication, then a great step would be a class for rewiring the brain (and thus all the hormones and chemicals in the body) to react differently over time. Many people respond to some sort of meditation or "mindfulness" techniques that can help overcome the immediate responses if anger, frustration, or anxiety, and provide a more thoughtful and calm response. speaking from experience....it is NOT easy, but has been worth it for my efforts.
I get angry too much and it stresses me out, and then after 1 or 2 minutes I cry Edit: I completely forgot that I commented this. I don’t really lash out as much as I used to. I actually kinda forgot the last time I really lashed out. I do still get angry but I just like…I isolate myself until I’m calm but that doesn’t happen since only competitive games really upset me back then and they still kind of do now.
These days I can't control my anger anymore. Even when I let it out you know breaking things or punching something. It doesn't feel like it goes away. Like I can feel the anger still in my chest waiting for the next trigger.
@@lazlo686 You can change with determination. To feel better reduce negative thoughts. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives good relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Do the practice without any expectations. When taking a walk, at office, in college, when reading, before sleep etc observe your breath sensations. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Reduce negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes--Counsellor.
My mum has this, and it's been horrible growing up with it. She's broken so many things, and she has even chased me while in one of the moods, threatened me, threw things at me, would hit me trying to start of fight. The verbal abuse has hit me so deep. and she has no idea. Absolutely horrible 😞 Please, if you think you suffer with this. get help.
So do I living in a house hold with my lil Cousin who constantly gets on my nerves Which I Really HATE!! It pisses me off to the point where my forehead gets warm & I wanna beat em senseless for it!
@Mango 🥭 I know this comment was made 11 months ago but if it helps, I am going through it right now. Just like your mom, my mom doesn’t recognize the damage she’s done to me and my brother. One time she broke the door and started pushing me. I just stood there silently, taking her abuse.
A lot of people are proud of their displays of anger as it makes them feel powerful or something. What they don’t realize is over time people and opportunities will just leave their lives and they’ll be all alone with their bizarre attachment to anger. And the world moves on.
If it's a brain disorder it's not their fault. Or caused by something like pmdd. I am currently being told by my psychiatrist she refuses to put me on meds for pmdd until I go to my ENT and gynecologist, because the sinus medicine I take can be very dangerous for me if on an antidepressant. problem is, I have no money and the gynecologists in my area do not take my insurance. And I may need sinus surgery I do not have money for. So I'm fucked.
I had a friend in elementary school who was kinda like this. He got annoyed and angry because of the most little things, but especially if someone mentioned that he made a mistake, or that something is wrong with his behaviour. In these cases he started to defend himself in a normal voice but if the other person didnt walk away immmediately or didnt apologize for mentioning his mistake to him, then he became insane. He switched from defensive to offensive, and he said really personal things. He was unreachable in these episodes and he did not stop or calm down if the other person didnt start to beg for mercy. He often became physically agressive after a while and he needed at least half an hour alone to calm down after these episodes/outbursts. He went to an other school in 5th grade, i never seen him since then. He struggled a lot with that people always seen him as 'the boy that cannot handle a simple conversation without hurting somebody'. Lately i decided to do research about mental disorders because I'm pretty sure he had one, that was mistaken as simply 'being agressive and impulsive'. I hope he has a diagnosis now, or just changed in a better way, or found people who actually know how to treat him well even when he seems rude and unbearable.
Depression and anger are related. These past 2 years have been unreal. I've accepted I need to be on medication but I look like a normal person. I wish everyone the best but this world is nuts. 🙏😔
Heavy meditation has helped me mostly sedate my intense rage, but i’ll admit when i stop meditating as frequently i can feel it start to creep back slowly. At this point i just view it as a survival mechanism to keep locked up until the right time, so it’s all about maintenance for now.
I'm VERY concerned about my anger issues. My mom died suddenly when I was 58. I'm now 60. I had to be hospitalized 2 weeks after her passing because I went into an uncontrollable RAGE that I'd NEVER felt or expressed in my life! My BP has been uncontrollably high for a few months & the PAIN (headache & severe fatigue that actually ACHES) makes my anger stay on a hair trigger. I have to use the VA (disabled Marine Corps veteran from the early Desert Storm era). They couldn't be bothered with my STROKE LEVEL high BP!!! I feel absolutely HELPLESS! & terrified of a stroke! Ok. Why did Propanolol make my anger WORSE? I've got a medication allergy / bad reaction list as long as your arm. So, yes. I'm a difficult case. But, to just leave me hanging? I had a phone appointment with my VA GP on Wednesday that my DOCTOR stood me up for! 😭 WHAT DO I DO? I feel like I'm DYING! 😭🤯😭😔
Dang I remember me turning into a mad dog as back as I was 4 years old, at some point I was even scared of myself. Well eventually I developed my own tricks to manage it, I still feel fear, guilt and shame of some deeds I did out of anger, may be they hold me back but I am so surprised to know it's a disorder, not just a flaw in character. So much awareness needed to be spread in the area of mental health.
@@dixichyna it's difficult to summarize it but I will try. - right in moment:[escape, diffuse with humor, imagine gratitude to adversary] ; - As a general strategy: [introspect, meditation and be mindful and self aware, don't let the temporary sense of power from anger lure you into accepting it .... Keep learning.] 1: Escape, run away if I feel the anger bubbling inside me is intense and unreasonable. May be make an excuse of fake phone call or borrow some time from them to address it later. Distract yourself - Play video game, watch funny cute videos, take a walk etc. Look back at issue after your emotion settles down address it with reasons and compassion to your counter. 2 - introspect : look inside yourself and evaluate your beliefs. For example if I am insecure and seek others validation instead of my own philosophy and value system, I am likely to get mad at a small insult. Don't get me wrong, in many instances it needs to be addressed but anger just don't help. 3- practice MEDITATION and MINDFULNESS. Those just 3 from top of my head but honestly my anger management for the most part was repeated commitments with many failures and learnings from literature, psychology , philosophy and life. It has so many elements and naunce that it can't fit in a comment. I still fail rarely but reasonably. Biggest challenge is to fight the urge to react on exact moment of heat. Self awareness, value system, experience and meditation helps. And I am still learning.
Broke a TV in fifth grade because the CD she install didn’t read. That kid even got tied with a rope around the hands due to her uncontrollable anger expressions. It almost been a year she hit her youngest cousin with a toy camera as he called her tomboy(which is kind of rude in an typical Asian language). Similarly she threw a compass at her middle school classmate, who made fun of her tutorial results. Two months ago, had a violent fight with mom and relatives while visiting her aunt’s house without no reason, she scream and punched the stairs. And there are many other scenarios occurred with her, although she’s a socialized kid she has lots of friends well known by teachers and school staffs for participating in school activities. Doctor your videos are very very helpful and I’ll be looking forward for more videos from you. I kindly request you to examine my situation and define what’s happening with me. Living in an Asian country without a belief in psychology is very hard for me to see a Pyscologist.
I haven’t been diagnosed with this, but it’s awfully familiar. My counselor is working with me on trying to break the habit of acting when this happens, and instead finding a safe place to go to where I won’t say/do things I’ll regret. It’s not perfect, but the goal is to make it to the bathroom, lock myself in, and let loose whatever expletives help until I can calm down. It’s honestly so embarrassing feeling so out of control, and it is inextricably linked to my depression.
Man, I was 40 before I started talking to someone and taking celexa. Do it sooner than later. It still comes around but not as often. And sometimes I can become aware of what's about to happen and at least minimize it. It's hard not to be angry in this world, though.
I have the urge to click the like button on the first 5 secs of the video, but I refrain this impulse, watch the video until the end and then I click it. Your videos are amazing and extremely helpful. More people should know it.
Recently I started therapy and a new doctor. This is what my doctor is leaning towards. It's nice to kinda have an answer for my lifetime of aggression and anger.
I lost my best friend due to this and wish i could explain to her its not me. Im realizing i may have this but never got checked out. Self evaluating myself i realize i dont have these often but it can make people lock you out their lives... for life. The feeling i get when going thru this is literally blacking out, no control of myself, its like a monster inside me thats been festering inside of me locked in a cage that i keep from coming out until a trigger happens then i just completely snap, in the moment its like you'renot feeling, you're not thinking, its just taking control of your whole being like a demon. As nerdish as this sounds(not to get carried away because this is a serious issue) its literally like how Gohan went ssj2 in that same manner except the stimuli may be small. I wish i wasnt this way, i have so much love in my heart, i grew up anti social. If anybody even cares to read this if you're going thru the same thing my prayers are for you, dont hate yourself it only worsens, talk to someone professional/unprofessional just get it out. Dont be me. One love.
Yikes this entire comment is me. I didn’t always feel like this until 2019. I just snapped one day and now I can’t stop. I absolutely hate myself for this
I’m so sorry for your pain. I decided to reply to you because I am on the opposite end of your situation, and I had to walk away from my best friend of 20 years due to her finally abusing me physically and violently in a way that I would have never expected! It was so bad that I feared for my life! I know she needs help, and she knows she needs help, but unfortunately no matter what is wrong with us it is not the responsibility of people to stay around and be abused by us. I told her that we were basically in a codependent enmeshed dysfunctional relationship and that I had someplace in this as well for being the codependent who never held her accountable hardly ever for anything she did and for me being too afraid to truly speak my mind and put my foot down, this goes to show you that I was in denial that I was actually afraid of her. Unfortunately she did not want to take her side of the responsibility and she choose chose to put me out of her life because I would not stay around and told her that I thought at least for a little while we needed to go no contact. I never told her I wouldn’t speak to her again or anything like that, but she made her decision that I was the bad guy. I wasn’t surprised frankly because this is very like her and often it is much easier to be angry than it is to be sad. For her and for many people I’ve seen like this the anger is a drug, it makes them feel powerful, it makes them feel like they did something about it, if they had to sit with their sadness and the feelings that they have that’s too overwhelming and actually what it really results in is that the person who is in pain is in so much pain and so angry that they cannot hold it themselves so they throw it onto other people and you can see how that turns into abuse this is why everyone needs to deal with their issues. No one is coming to rescue us, we have to deal with our stuff. If not if nothing changes then nothing will change and we can expect to not have loving true relationships because no one is going to put up with being abused in any way shape or form in a relationship even if it’s intermittently and then other times the person is wonderful. That’s the definition of a trauma bond and that’s definitely what she and I had. It was very sad, but I knew I had to learn from it and grow from it and that’s all I could take away from it even with my broken heart. As adults we are 100% responsible for our emotions in the now. We are not responsible for any trauma or abuse that happened to us in our lives, but we are responsible for picking up the responsibility because it is our lives after all, and there is no rescue squad coming except us and the people we hire or the professionals that we surround ourselves with to get the help we need. I grew up in a very abusive violent household, my best friend knew this, she knew that her behavior was a serious trigger for me, and I stuck it out for many years to try to maintain that friendship because clearly I loved her, I still love her but I can’t be around her. At this point I literally no longer can physically trust her and I don’t feel safe in her presence. It has broken my heart, and she basically hates me and thinks that I walked out on her while she was in a mental health crisis, but I am not her professional psychiatrist, and I don’t work in a mental hospital, so I don’t have to put up with abuse. It does not mean that I don’t have sympathy, and empathy for her actually because I know the pain of having psychological pain as I was suicidal and depressed and ridiculously anxious for most of my life it’s only in the past five years that I’ve dealt with everything and gotten help and that is what made it even more difficult for me to handle the way she behaved because this was not an occasional thing her anger was constant it just went on different levels but it was constant you never know it was going to happen and she was always fighting yelling throwing things at everyone & screaming at her own pets to the point that they would run to me. (We lived together 3 different times & every time I ended up having to leave for not feeling safe😿) IMHO there is possibility some type of repressed pain that is causing your nervous system to be on hyper-vigilant notice to the slightest thing. It can also be faulty belief systems connected to your anger. For many people the anger is a long ago learned coping mechanism to deal with stress. The longer the anger has been the way one has coped, the stronger the neural pathways are literally physically in the brain until it becomes the default response. When emotionally triggered by something, the flood of cortisol alone can make the pre frontal cortex basically go “offline” & this can cause an inability to think of something rational to say all the way to as bad as a full on blackout. At that point the limbic brain has taken over & excuse the comparison but it’s similar to the way 2yr olds literally BECOME anger because the only way they can express their emotions is with their body since they don’t have the language or understanding of what they’re feeling. Usually this anger response goes WAY back into childhood even if you have no memory of that. I have deep sympathy for anyone suffering from any form of mental illness, disorder etc. and none of us are broken, I firmly believe that we can all heal, but we have to be willing to go away deep down too often incredibly scary places within ourselves to sit with the pain and usually we need the help of professionals to do it because most of us are not emotionally regulated enough to be able to do the work. This is why many of us need to be on medication at least temporarily until our nervous system can become regulated. Are use so many different systems of help and different tools and I’ll kinds of things to keep myself healthy every single day. I can so easily slip back into deep anxiety, but I know what works so I stay on that healing path and I do that out of self-love. It took me a very long time to find that self love, I’m 52 years old after all, and some people think that’s too old and it’s too late but it’s never too late as long as we’re still alive. The road back home to ourselves and back to our own hearts can be and usually is a very scary one if we have been living with mental pain, but the thing is if we are in pain now, would you rather the pain of staying where you are, or would you rather have the pain of growth? Personally I will take the pain of growth any day even though my brain in my body often do not want to do it I have to remind myself that my relationship with myself is the most important one I will ever have because it is the only one I am guaranteed for life, and the relationship I have with myself is a direct reflection to the relationship I have with the rest of the world. Radical self acceptance enables us to have radical acceptance for everything else going on around us and that way we only control what we can and that is usually us not anyone else. I’ve learned it literally is an inside job and although I am not a religious person I deeply believe in the phrase “let there be peace on earth and let it begin with me “ I wish you all the grace and love and light on your journey to healing please know that it is possible🙏💖💫
I just Started dating someone with this. I'm out. To much insanity. Surely you see it from the other side. She lost her shit and threw things over a song. Nope not for me
You are so thorough on the descriptions and explanations. I believe our society’s overlook of mental health for so very long has taken a detrimental effect on us all to the point of no return. People are angry, some ALL THE TIME!!!!! A lot of erratic behaviors are so commonplace they are the “norm”. Growing up I was taught co dependence and did not understand the damage it does to all parties until I found myself in a cycle of trauma-domestic violence- drug addiction relationships,. As I am trying to repair my life I have had to purposefully change and unclutter my life of unnecessary people and habits. You DO ATTRACT HOW YOU FEEL INTO YOUR LIFE. Most if not all my relationships were unhealthy and toxic, and I don’t mean just the romantic relationships, I MEAN ALL.!!!! It’s been a hard year, but challenge brings about changes which usually produces growth. I’m much more me centered, and trying to heal me in so many ways. I appreciate your channel as an venue in helping me, THANKS
This is exactly what my father has. He verbally still puts me down. I cant be around him much. What helped me is going to church and realizing I have a father in heaven who guides me and who I can talk to. My father here on earth is not my father. Jesus, the holy spirit, and God are the ones I go to in prayer when I need a father. My god is my father and it's the best guidance I can have.💜🙏 I choose to not sit in it anymore I just have to move on from what happened. But also be aware and set strong boundaries when I do have to socialize with him.
You should show respect to your father even if he isn't the greatest... forgive freely and try to understand he is under spiritual warfare and doesn't even know it
Pray for your dad. Jesus didn't judge the man possessed in the garden, he casted the demon out. People judge angry people but If it's a brain disorder it's not their fault. Or caused by something like pmdd. I am currently being told by my psychiatrist she refuses to put me on meds for pmdd until I go to my ENT and gynecologist, because the sinus medicine I take can be very dangerous for me if on an antidepressant. problem is, I have no money and the gynecologists in my area do not take my insurance. And I may need sinus surgery I do not have money for. So I'm fucked.
Hi Tracey, I have ADHD and it makes it difficult for me to regulate my emotions. I noticed that you mention the connection between IED and Bipolar but I would like to know your take on the comorbidity of IED and ADHD.
I think I've got this.I suffer with depression but through my childhood and adulthood, I've suffered with extreme anger episode s. The anger is towards myself mostly and objects. Many times I have headbutted walls, punched myself, bit myself and cut myself, leaving bruises and scars in the process.Never been to therapy about it.I'm on medication for the depression but nothing for the anger. I really wish I was normal 😕
Sometimes. maybe often always in our cases. WE are not at fault for our "reactions". its the abnormal behaviour and engagement activity. They are the ones who are projecting and are unaware of their own internal, minute frustrations, and traumas, that is leading them.
OMG, so THIS is what I had / have (rarely now)! I thought I just had anger and anxiety problems. I never knew this had a name. Wow. I never went to therapy for it. I self-treated over about 15 years.
Great informative video Dr. Marks. Thank you. How much I always like the animations. They are so funny 😁.... hahaha. Laughing is one of the best medicines. Have a great day doc 😃🇳🇱
Thanks so much. I enjoy doing them. They are time consuming though because I’m not an animator but as I get better at them I’m able to put more of them in my videos.
i was always so sad until one day I just learned that the world is cruel, i than took my word i will end all of it, and i have a short temper and i rage and destroy anything or hurt people
I seriously got mad over everything, my brother talking got me mad for some reason. I've been thinking alot of messed up things, idk what triggers in my brain but when i saw something cute i wanted to stomp on it, i need to seek some mental help when the virus thingy is done.
@@mattDettling I'm still recovering, it's getting better every month due to having no school and i can chill all day i still have a few school work but i can usr google to my advantage
Please do. You'll feel better and things will turn around for you. In the meantime, try keeping a journal of your feelings and see if you can find triggers or patterns. I've known several people with IED and noticed that hunger is a common trigger (although none of them realized it until I pointed it out). If this is a trigger for you, try eating small meals or snacks every couple of hours, and choose foods that won't spike your blood sugar (more protein, fewer carbs, and stay away from sugar and sugary drinks). Also, when you're in a calm mood, explain to your friends and family that you have this problem, apologize for your outbursts, and tell them that you're trying to do better.
along with therapy and effective coping skills, i often find humor in my anger issues. like i find it so funny that i’m like a grumpy grandpa that even cute things piss me off
Enjoyable bullshit i found that mindfulness, meditation, exercise, and moderate cannabis use helps. I am by no means perfect but I have managed to finally make some progress since posting this comment. You should become familiar with the idea of emotional stamina. Figure out how much you have and learn to recognize when you are short on it. Always monitor it. I know its a lot of work, but in my experience, its the only thing that works. Best of luck!
My husband has problem with anger. He breaks stuff.(furnitures, 4 big tv's)We been married for 24 years. He said his going to divorce me because i yell at him that i dont respect him. I told him to get the paper and i will sign it.
Hi Dr. Marks. Thank you for sharing. I'm glad I discovered your channel. I very much appreciate your informative videos. I find myself calming down or better yet my anxiety decreases whenever I hear your voice. I think perhaps it's because you remind me of my therapist who I've been seeing for the last 9 years. Anyway, I get better understanding of my mental health illness from watching your videos. My Psychiatrist is wonderful as well but I'm uptight most of the time even in his office. I watch your videos alone and it's like you're speaking to me personally even though I know you are speaking to everyone who watches your videos. I'm a disabled veteran who needs all the mental health support and information for not only duty related mental health issues, but also for another area of trauma I experienced in childhood that was supressed for many years. Anyway, I think I've posted more info than I intended. Sorry for the length of this post. I just should've stopped at Thank You.....
Hi Michela. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I’m so glad my videos are a supplement to the treatment you’re receiving. That’s One of the reasons I make them. I think it’s pretty typical to be uptight when you see the doctor and not be able to take in that much information. So this can be very helpful that way.
OMG I am dealing with this right now with my 21 year old son, they said it was a mood disorder but he gets so angry to the point it's so hard to be around him. It's breaks my heart to see my son like this. I just want some help for him.
Yeah same here I struggle with controlling myself just like this and I can see the pain in my mom and grandmas eyes when they can’t do anything but stay out of the way🤦🏾♂️ I should probably try to get help as well I’m not ashamed to admit it
@@gooddoc8129 Sounds distressful. I hope you can talk to a medical professional about it because it will negatively affect every aspect of your life -- your quality of life, your relationships, your career, everything. Best wishes and I hope you find a solution.
@@biondatiziana No money no job i am very young Parents cant help either No way around , also i don't trust those fda drugs i might not be smart but i do know those drugs have serious side effects from sexual problems to zombie emotions
@@gooddoc8129 I feel for you. I'm sure the pandemic isn't helping any. I can't blame you for not wanting to be on medication, but sometimes the tradeoff is worth it. Are you able to work? Do you have any idea about what you want to do? Not having an income makes things worse because it limits your social life, and socializing is essential to everyone's well-being. Wishing you the best!
Thank you for this ! I’m researching this for school to write a story but, it’s hard to understand articles and ask questions about it when no one I know knows what it is
Thats was really interesting, it was just a chance that I saw the notification and I stopped what I was doing and came to watch the video. I am seeing my psychiatrrist for a mental health assesment next week and have just had an explosive outburst that left me facing down on the road thimping the tarmac with my fists whenthere was a queue of traffic behine me. I thought if I carry on like this I am going to have a stroke or a heart attack. My poor wife in the car was terrified. Thanks again for doing this.
@@DrTraceyMarks It certainly was Tracey, I will be watching your other videos. thank you for taking the time to publish this material, its very helpful . x
I second that. People with IED are very difficult to live with because they can explode at any moment for no reason, and whoever is in the line of fire gets the brunt of their anger.
I was literally mad af rn just bc my dad talked to me, it just annoys me that he always asks the same questions. So I tried to calm down got even angrier punched myself because I can't or don't want to hurt anybody else since I have pets and usually they want to comfort me but with my anger I would probably scream at them and cry after that bc I actually didnt mean to. Imma get help soon I guess.
My Dad’s father was alcoholic. His mom died when he was only six. Couldn’t face visiting her grave until his 30’s. A good man, strong morals, but was stressed by severe sleep apnea, 5 kids & finances,so worked lots of overtime. He’d yell a lot & pound the dinner table so hard we’d jump and be quiet. He was explosive. My worse memories were when he’d beat the hell out of the family dog while it screamed and cried. I’d hide in the corner watching, horrified. I absolutely hated him. We never talked back to our parents like kids today, because we’d get smacked. But mostly, he expressed anger verbally. He chilled a lot after retirement at 55, but still treats animals harshly. He acted this way only at home and said we should never talk about family issues to others. My parents were devout Catholics who sincerely believed and followed the teachings as much as possible, instilling a strong moral code and faith in god, along with an incredibly strong work ethic. I think both my parents were severely depressed and anxious, mostly about money, as they didn’t have college degrees and both worked lower/average middle-class jobs. I’ve suffered from chronic severe depression since age 11. Wondering how much is genetic vs being unloved by parents.
THIS EASILY escalates to worst case physical violence,verbal abuse,breaking things one must replace repeatedly. Adding alcohol usually exacerbates all related behavior. Physical harm,legal problems,financial,employment issues. Most with this disorder have to work very hard and be committed to change. If they do not work diligently at therapy,medication management,etc I implore you to cut your losses and LEAVE...AND FAST.
I'm trying to find out what is wrong with my daughter. This sounds really possible. I've been in line for months to get her a diagnosis. We've been at this for YEARS!! Anything sets her off, being told to do something she doesn't want like getting off the computer, being unable to find something, a toy or project breaks, a chore appears to be too overwhelming, homework appears like it is too difficult, and she is raging, screaming, crying, throwing things, yelling at people, and I just don't know what to do. she is nearly 12, and it has only been getting worse.
I find the way that you were able to convey the message was quite elegant and I found it easily palatable as well. As for the bad taste in my mouth, I believe it's because I suddenly became aware of a few things about myself. I only try to do better and not hinder anyone's basic right to exist as well as we can.
Hi Dr. Marks, Could you make a video on why it is very common for psychiatrists to misdiagnose patients? I got diagnosed with bipolar from one psychiatrist and internalised it and accepted it, until I went to a very thorough psychological evaluation where I was reassured I was "absolutely not bipolar." Diagnoses cause a lot of distress to many of us, so receiving false diagnoses traumatises us to a certain extent. Thanks for your informative excellent work!
My non-professional opinion is that most people in most professions are merely adequate at their job. i.e. Only about 1/3 of people are actually good at their given field of knowledge and about 10% should be in another profession. Those ratios mimic my experience with mental health professionals, other service industries, and people that I have encountered in my career. A metaphor would be a college class that is graded on a curve. 10% of students did excellent work on their exams/papers and deserve an A grade. Another 10% were good and deserve a B. Another 10% did fairly decent and deserve a C. But the vast majority are just able to pass the class. Probably about 10% deserve to fail the class. When it comes to any major health diagnosis, a 2nd opinion is usually recommended. The mental health industry doesn't promote this concept nearly enough (if at all). Another metaphor would be having major work done on a house. Most people get multiple estimates before choosing the vendor.
I totally agree that The patient has to do part of the work by Expressing him self as much as h could Second to search those kind of advanced videos to help to compare the symptoms So we are so grateful for Dr Tracy About her time and efforts Thanks
I have had very similar things happen too me, sometimes I cant control my anger and rage, I've had long history of mental health and have never been able to get controll of it and its started in early teen years
i don’t know if i have anger issues, but i have been getting really mad over small problems. for example, someone taking my things without asking, my friends/siblings eating my food, or when my friends tease me. it’s so hard to suppress it sometimes that i have to physically inflict pain on myself so i can forget what i was mad about. sometimes it gets even worse when i tell my family or friends that i’m angry and they call me sensitive. when i get mad, i usually can’t go back to sleep, or do anything because i can’t focus. please help
@@lilyjr.1384 yea. i fight w my parents a lot and it usually ends up with them hitting or kicking me. I used to throw things and break stuff, but my parents always yelled at me for it, so i stopped doing it when people are around, and yes i scream a lot.
cindayyy Hm, it’s definitely worth a psychiatric evaluation. You’re not super duper impulsive, which is good. Perhaps you can tell your parents about some form of therapy to work on this early on.
@@lilyjr.1384okay, and i also feel like my dad has anger issues too. when he gets mad, he usually destroys things more than me. he punches holes through doors and when me or my brother make him angry, he hits or kicks us. he usually takes our stuff and breaks them,
I'm a mystery case😔 I'm kind,compassionate,soft spoken,big hearted. Yet, those closest to me & that I love the most,I sometimes yell hurtful things,I'm overwhelmed with anger to where I can't control myself,my words, or actions. Im not even me anymore. I can't calm myself down..I'm not in control..Even when I see the pain on my loved ones face:( after I go off..I feel absolutely beyond horrible & hate myself. I can't take my hurtful words back or a slap. I feel like there's a monster inside of me. Like there's 2 people. I feel like a failure as a mom..the last people that I want to ever hurt..are those that I hurt the most. I don't want to be this way. I hate myself because of this & mentally beat myself up because I'm so awful..but yet I am a loving,devoted mother,don't smoke,drink,or do drugs. I try so hard to be the best mom I can be but I am cursed with this monster inside of me. How do I get them out😔 I do not want to be this way. I have been like this for many years. This isn't a way to live..hurting those I love. It's absolutely awful.. I devote my life to be there for my kids,all sports,events,tell them that I Love them daily,support them,encourage them. But then when I'm overly stressed or get mad..I lose it:( I'm a failure and failing at the only thing that I care about in life to be successful at..and that's being the best mom that I can be
I am currently crying because of too much frustration. My boyfriend and I had a fight and because I get mad easily and can't control my anger. I asked him to let me watch a series even for a short time in order to calm myself because I don't want to fight him with a high pitched voice but he's not listening, and he can't understand. And now I am really distressed and am crying due to this outburst.
I am almost sure that my father do have IED, he always has beeing so aggressive and strict for anything. I'm afraid to tell him that and makes he more aggressive with me. I think that's why I have anxiety. He's such a good person though, but I hold so many grudges. 💔
Same story here also, we all grew up walking on eggshells, I've never seen another human express such voracious anger. He is also a great man that would do anything for you and I love him but am also semi frightened of him. I think my father also has some paranoia.
I get this almost every single day. I get so mad and start punching things and yelling. It doesn't typically last long but it's getting worse and getting to the point of where I'm taking it out on people. Getting hard to handle it's uncontrollable. It's like my anger just cones and goes as it pleases. I also have bipolar disorder but I'm not sure if it has anything to do with this. It's usually the smallest of things that shouldn't be getting so mad about. Im not a big drinker or drugs.
I haven't been diagnosed, but I have a very similar problem. The only difference from IED is that I can sometimes control the outbursts (although it's very difficult). Of course when I don't control the outbursts (that usually happen three or four times a week if not more) I start breaking stuff and sometimes feel the urge to bite my arm. If I'm controlling an anger attack, the next one coming is going to be more intense, so when I can, I let it out. I'm the chillest dude ever but the wrong trigger at the wrong time makes me go berserker. I only hope I stick with breaking stuff and not start breaking people, I'm very peaceful and I hate violence.
So similar to me, I've learned to control the impulses way more than years ago but ironically? It's kinda scary because recently I had another outburst after years of peace and the feeling prior to it had my neck shaking so hard, my hands were going crazy and I just exploded (I had those shakes before but they were never so hard and never felt them on my neck) this makes me wonder if somehow holding this stuff for too long could actually have detrimental effects on us because imagine the amount of adrenaline and blood that I was pumping in those few minutes prior to it. I also wonder about what you said about holding them making the next one worse because like I said, I went a few years without outbursts and honestly? This one I had recently is definitely the worst I've ever had, I managed to reach a punching bag that I got and the rest is kinda blurry but I do remember yelling, growling and even drooling because I had to wipe my mouth after I came back to my senses, thankfully I didn't break my hands but did get bruised and damaged skin with bit of blood. Funny thing is, I actually felt way better after that even though I had the usual guilt/crying I always have after an attack, even my face looked different, like tons of bad weight had dropped from it.
@@shadowmaster452 I recommend (as it worked for me) spending more time doing things you like and actively looking for positive stimuli in every activity, or (even better) put all the rage and negativity in something creative and/or productive. After 2 years of doing this I can look back and read my comment almost laughing at how I used to be. I'm not saying my anger is gone and that my outbursts have vanished, but it has become much easier to control it and manage it safely. I hope I helped.
@@ghost6975 oh yeah, I still forget to put that rage and negativity into something productive, I should go back to drawing or music. The rest? I already do, that's how I managed to go a few years clean (3 years until what I mentioned in my comment), we're on the same boat and I know I can do better with your tips, hopefully after this recent episode I can reach an even longer streak. My objective? A lifelong streak of no rage lol a man can dream... Kinda forgot to mention but I'm really into meditation and spiritual things so that also helps, really recommend it to you too, helps a lot, I'm happy to hear that you're now in a better place and don't worry about it being "embarrassing" because it gives hope to others like me.
I have a really bad rage problem when it comes to school work. It’s so annoying to see everyone around me doing good and understanding everything. I need help
Hi I am from India and I'm 22. For past few year (1/2) I started hate my life and everything around it. I've tried by doing some research of why is it happening to me but it has only gotten worse. I'm not a bad kid (atleast i like to think that), i was always very passionate and ambitious student, i still am. But i don't understand what my parents ask more for. I love and respect my parents very much, so much that for them i broke up with the only person who used to love me just the way i wanted it. But everyday they provoke me about me being unemployed. They never supported me. Now i think i was never loved as a child. All of this thoughts were weighing me down everyday. Today they told that they knew i smoked weed. And i never smoked weed in my entire life. They provoked me so much i lost it and i literally attacked them, i broke my only earphones. Then they understood that i did not smoke. I've never done or even think about doing these type of things with my mom and dad, i cried and i said sorry, they also said it's okay. But I'm starting to hate myself even more. While raging i lost control of everything i slammed the door so hard thank god it didn't broke. I am sorry for everything.
@@lilyjr.1384 Google contains numerous medical research studies on medicines such as this. Or does it have to be on cnn for you? Willful ignorance isn't a charming quality.
My wife gets angry for any little thing ,just for a minute, than everything is normal but sometimes for none important things she gets very angry and violent, she hits me with tremendous amount of violence, her close fist,,kicks me,,hits me with the phone flash on my face, is very difficult for me, I have scars in many places on my body, i love her very much, im trying my best to resist, when she's her self, she's the most loving person on the planet, now she's pregnant, im hoping that some how there is a change in her brain,,im afraid that if she doesn't stop , I will be force to leave her,,something that I will never want to do, it would brake my heart,, I mean,she has broken my body , she hits me with any thing and with out mercy,,than she sleeps for 3 or more days on a thin matt on the floor and won't talk to me,,she also brake things and hit me with them,,,im trying my best not to trigger her violent behavior, its as im walking on eggshells,,,can any one advise , any medication or anything safe that would help her,,thanks
Uh yeah it might be time to throw the towel in and leave, she is abusing you. But since you said you wanna try and stick it out I will be keeping you, her and the baby in my prayers.
@@SugaBabieT thank you for been so kind,,,there are a lot of things with her that brake my heart if I was to abandon her,,,maybe I would be able to explain in an email,,eather way,please pray, i believe that my marriage with her is part of God's design, because of many things I see,,at the end,,im sure if it wasn't Part of Gods plan, he would have intervene so i wouldn't make such a huge mistake
I thought the dsmV was reaching for a long time. But we know so much about the stars than our own mind. We are still learning about humanity. Or maybe these are concepts we knew for a long time but didn't have the words.
Usually i am a happy, cheerful person but as soon as some one interfere me ...i get angry on silly things.... specially on my family.....then i feel bad. Everyone in my house think i am an angry, annoying, useless person... thought they love me alot but this anger even i feel bad after few minutes of anger. Don't know what to do.
Wow this is literally me , I’m a really cool person & friendly but anything can get me mad I mean anything if you laugh too hard I might bug out . Everyone around me thinks the same & I don’t know what to do neither
just know, you guys are not alone. this also happens to me, its sad that we hurt or are mean to the people we love the most. I wish I could understand why but the best we can do is reach out for help (therapist) because it's hard to work on this on our own.
Wow this was very informative and helpful! My boyfriend definitely qualifies for this disorder. He has all these symptoms. I don’t know how to get him help because he denies he has a problem and blames me for his outbursts and when he breaks things.
I'm glad there are some women out there that still support their significant other about stuff like this. I wan't a girlfriend but I don't want her to be scared of me it sucks. I don't hit people except I punch MYSELF in the face. And break things.
Great video Doctor Marks! Could you maybe do a video on long term effects a person exposed to trauma may experience, and what professional help and treatment options are mostly recommended?
I'm watching this video while I'm having uncontrollable anger. As I'm residing abroad and have many bad moments of childhood bullying by parents Infront of relatives still being carried at age 27, I feel annoyed to the core when my parents actions cause me slightest of the trouble. I'm protective about myself. While I'm on my way to do things that I'm passionate about at the age 27 after trying to get over bad past, I'm exhibiting outburst of anger. I'm not breaking things but I feel my blood vessels in the brain are about to explode. I'm writing this with the same intense feeling. Have been uncomfortable for past 7-8 hours after the fights over call.
I have no idea what steps you’re taking so don’t think I’m ignorant but try get professional help for it, I’m 20 and just realised I have this, when I learn coping mechanisms etc can already see me living a 10x better happier life
I use to be destructive in the house as a kid and what made it worst was living in a house full of girls who would provoke me and hit me….That messed me up. I also seen a lot of abuse of other child other growing up consistently.
The example you provided is likely related to blood sugar issues, considering the outburst occurred when the expected meal was not there. It triggers a survival response that includes adrenaline. Most men don't eat lunch at work, so he must have been pretty hungry by then, and his body is used to receiving food at that time.
I have the same symtoms i break something when i am angry and im always angry for little reasons im scared i might punch someone and i just want this to go away But i can't i think i need help
Well, if I came home and found my Wife reading the National Busybody, I’d be angry too. 😉 It’s interesting how many disorders are due to serotonin imbalances. I had no idea a BP medication could be used as a mood stabilizer. Very interesting Dr. Marks, and well done as usual. 👍
After i got rear ended by a truck i started having personality differences due to the chronic undiagnosed concussion my neurologist said i had along with nerve damage from back and neck. I got surgery on my back last yr at the end. I had complications and was admitted to the NEURO-ICU. I had to have an immediate second exploratory surgery to find out what was causing my inability to walk and blurred vision etc. On the second surgery he put in a drain to drain the clots/spinal fluid from my back. The release of the extra spinal fluid completely caused a reverse in the personality change i experienced after the accident. I am lucky in that respect. My friend also had spinal tap to remove extra fluid, and she stopped being abusive and having mood swings. I think it is underdiagnosed
earlier this morning i had a huge argument with my younger sister who is 13 and i’m 19. i overheard her crying and growing frustrated over her school work. from my room i shouted (respectfully) that she should take a breather because she’s been out of it lately. she responds with an attitude and of course that made me furious. we go back and forth and i try to explain my situation but she continues to cut me off. this provokes me more and i end up getting physical by grabbing my waterbottle, throwing it. hitting the door or the wall, etc etc. we go back and forth telling each other to shut up but in my defense, all i wanted to do is give her the most simplistic advice. my sister has always had an attitude and i cannot handle it anymore. my anger has been on edge and i can easily snap. in the end i’ll feel so guilty and embarrassed and like a “monster” per say. finding this makes me wonder. idk how to tell the fam i wanna get a diagnosis because they might blow it off. siblings fight, yk? but with how my sister and i argue it seems like i’m the issue but idk. she has a big mouth ngl :((
I totally get you. Your sister has a part in it too. I have ied undiagnosed and my ex would take offence and say stupid comments back that would enrage me more... All i want deep down is connection. When I'm triggered it's usually because someone is being rude to me. I'll never randomly just go off on one. I wish i didn't react in such an aggressive way. I'll break stuff, usually my own and i want to make as much noise as possible. The rage will just spill out. Once started it has to run its cause. I'm 40 and i have friends I've known for time and wouldn't react this way with them. They are my empathetic friends. When I'm normal I'm very empathetic. I love connecting with people. I love relationships and im hot on respect. If I'm disrespected i can sometimes loose it. Being tired stressed and being on the receiving end of rude people are my triggers. 🤷🏻♀️ Broke up with my partner of 17 years because he exasperated my anger rather than comfort me... They say to not get in a relationship with anyone who isn't whole! So WHAT! people like us shouldn't have relationships!? With a new guy now. When i express my irritations he stops and listens. I feel heard and my anger subsides. Usually over a misunderstanding. My ex would do ALL the wrong things. Arghhh it's horrible. But i think having awareness about our condition is the first step. And keeping away from dick heads. When I'm angry i say the most horrible things. Was talking to a cop once and he made a silly comment. I tried to hold my mouth shut. I've also been to prison for slapping an officer. People think it's funny. It's not. I can't stand the shame and guilt after an episode. I have suicidal ideation as well after it. I can't change. I'm just picky with who i have in my life now. Mental health are crap. Just keep reaching out. Stay positive. Your not alone ❤️
Interesting video. I have an elderly neighbor that walks into my home, yard, unannounced, uninvited. Whenever I have contractors in my home, he always walks over, through closed doors to see what is going on.Never knocks. I asked politely, told him this was unacceptable. Unfortunately this didn't register. It came to a head when contractors were bothered by his walking in several times during work. One female worker was scared of him and locked me out of my home. The workers asked him not to bother them. He didn't listen. I began distancing myself with my neighbors having learned he killed a neighbor cat in his yard. (I have two cats-my kids) I cannot accept his behavior. Angrily he approached me and asked what was going on as I no longer interacted with them as before. I politely answered his concern saying I did not appreciate his walking into my yard, my house and especially when asked not to. He went into a rage, insulting me. I ignored him. His wife called him to leave me alone. I said nothing. From that point, he calls me profane names, goes into a rage when I ignore him etc. I ended up calling the police. They ordered him not to set foot on my property. He continues to call me names, and embarrasses me when I have company. The police said because he was in his yard, it was freedom of speech. I have ignored he and his wife who is also extremely nosy. I planted fast growing trees to maintain privacy and my attempt to live peacefully but it did create anxiety, for me, feeling bullied, and abused. I have never been exposed to someone that cannot control his anger. He is in his 70's and I am in my 70's, live alone. Because he doesn't understand boundaries, etiquette and common sense, I have ignored them and have no desire to interact with them for fear the situation would be recreated. . He has stayed off my property. Does he have IED, or just a narcissistic individual that never grew up? Is my ignoring him the best way to handle this person? Feedback for my anxiety would be helpful.
hope you sort it out Margie :( that sounds horrible , please speak to more people in your community/ family especially / friends / professionals , all the best
I really have this problem with my anger. I get angry very easily even for those little things and sometimes I even get angry for nothing. I always tell myself to control my anger and think before doing something I might regret. but every time I get angry it's just like my mind blacks out like I've been possessed and my ability to think just disappears and the next thing I know I already did something terrible. In most cases, hurting someone. In some cases, I'm conscious but I just can't control my hand and mouth. If I'm conscious and my mind doesn't blackout, I turn my anger into tears. My brother told me I'am a crybaby with a bad attitude. I really want to overcome this, cause I don't want to hurt people anymore physically.
Hi Tracey, thank you for always putting up such great videos! I wanted to see if you might be able to cover this topic - or maybe already have. I’d like to know some tips for how to help friends when you notice things changing with them in a worrying way. Recently a friend of mine started losing weight quickly and has become kind of obsessed - for lack of a better word - with tummy teas and workout plans and cutting out and only eating certain foods in a way that I can see affecting her life. I want to help but don’t know how/what would actually be useful for her for me to say/do. I brought it up to her sister, who I'm also friends with, but she blew it off and said that she's fine. Is there a time when it’s appropriate and helpful for the person going through something for a friend to bring it up? And how should one go about that? Or is there something else that’s better? Especially in circumstances where you don't see anyone else in their life taking it seriously. I really appreciate any insight you have into this! Thank you!
Please continue to talk to her family. Family members are not always observant, and since they see the person on a daily basis, don't notice gradual changes. Sometimes they just don't want to admit that anything is wrong. I had a close friend in grad school who was anorexic/bulimic. I was concerned about her and tried to talk to her husband, who was also a close friend. He passed it off saying that she had always been picky about food. A few months later, she died. I wish I had been more persistent.
My sister has some weird symptoms and she gets mad or harms the ones she loves, and has the need to hit someone especially me, some time ago my father was almost kidnapped and she revealed this weird things about her and I'm wondering if there is any mental disorder that she could have I'm very worried
It’s hard to say based on what you’ve said because that kind of behavior can be present and other disorders. But it sounds like some kind of compulsion she has. OCD is a disorder where people have compulsions and obsessions but people can have compulsions in other scenarios as well. Here’s a video I did on OCD ua-cam.com/video/bYm8kdGmpeA/v-deo.html
Dr Marks, I’m sure you read some of the comments . You’re making some people realize they could have this IED .I’m glad you did this video for me .sorry for pestering you about it but it turned out awesome 👏. Unfortunately this sounds like my father 100% and also unfortunately a bit like me I put plenty of holes through doors hollow doors of course . Life is so difficult with mental illness I have a suggestion for your next video or to come how about(. Living with psychosis ) this would be also very educational for people who don’t understand people like me with bipolar disorder and potentially IED . Thank you 🙏 General repair
Hi General Repair. I was hoping you wouldn't miss this. 😊 I'm not sure about the living with psychosis. That sounds like it should come from the person affected - kind of like in an interview and I don't do interviews (not set up for it). Gary at Bipolar Corner has a lot of videos talking about his personal experience. His diagnosis was changed to schizoaffective d/o so he has the psychotic symptoms. There's another channel called living well with schizophrenia. She talks about her experiences. You may want to check them out.
Dr Tracey Marks 🤔Wow i Had know idea of this!! This is literally just Like my wife thanks and just like her Dad and 🤔 and therapy has Not been able too help or Identity Anything so i will bring this up next time thanks so much💜🙏🏼
How is it going? I feel that this gives me a greater context on my wife and her father. I am not sure what to do- her anger has killed my desire to be with her. But we now have a nine month old.
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Hello doc...I had lot of supreessive situation during childhood....I am 35 now since 10 years I am having anger outbust...it generally happen when I am emotionally hurt and even very small hurt me deeply....and when I am in anger outburst I break anything ...and during anger if anything strike my eye ...even though I break anything I don't get cool down unless and until that particular thing is distroied completely...once that particular thing is distroied ....I get back to normal .....I don't hurt anyone but either to myself or any object....if I try to control my anger I can feel numbness to my entire body and my ears get red and buring and I use to have severe headache....kindly help me out
I need your help dr. Tracy marks
I think I might have it because I get angry alot but I want to know what causes it
Wen i get angry i feel i want to damage something but i dont want to get in trouble so i just swear all the time and look for an excuse to damage something.
@@arshisami2939 is
This is my problem, I get these a lot
1. get angry over little things.
2. calm down for 1-2 minutes
3. then outburst
4. destroy things
5. calm down
6. regret my action.
I really need to manage my anger.
same but i feel like i could kill a person
@@laughfeedtv3866 thats me everytime now. It has become so bad that when I am only annoyed I am turning into a serial killer and my head is just like, kill kill it won't stress you they deserve it because they are assholes and stuff. Its scary and it doesn't help that I have problems communicating with my family. half of why I can't is because of my anger becoming more and more angrier and me getting stressed or annyoed (after angry) to make me angry and yeah whole cycle continues. sorry if its confusing and also for writing such a long comment, stay safe!
@@frostmint3584 bro same here I suck at communicating I did this at work I started yelling and throwing 80lbs boxes I can’t really work around people I don’t want to hurt anybody
@@laughfeedtv3866 I have a list of people to kill.
Geez this is me...or else even self harm
I've noticed that this disorder often manifests when a child is exposed to long term domestic violence, abuse, repeated, multiple traumas, etc, so the "out of proportion anger response to the situation" is because the brain has become so used to high stress situations, that it's literally wired the body to respond to _anything_ like that.
agreed. if the person refuses medication, then a great step would be a class for rewiring the brain (and thus all the hormones and chemicals in the body) to react differently over time. Many people respond to some sort of meditation or "mindfulness" techniques that can help overcome the immediate responses if anger, frustration, or anxiety, and provide a more thoughtful and calm response. speaking from experience....it is NOT easy, but has been worth it for my efforts.
im that child
Exactly
Im that child and i have anger issues now that i cannot control
mhm. that's me
I get angry too much and it stresses me out, and then after 1 or 2 minutes I cry
Edit: I completely forgot that I commented this. I don’t really lash out as much as I used to. I actually kinda forgot the last time I really lashed out. I do still get angry but I just like…I isolate myself until I’m calm but that doesn’t happen since only competitive games really upset me back then and they still kind of do now.
Same. I feel really embarrassed and ashamed of myself but Im glad I'm not alone
pretentious BRO same I get angry, lash out then cry in my bedroom and if anyone sees me cry I get embarrassed
kiwi :3 this is literally me
Me too its so hard
Same I get angry very easily and then I get stressed and then cry,oof
These days I can't control my anger anymore. Even when I let it out you know breaking things or punching something. It doesn't feel like it goes away. Like I can feel the anger still in my chest waiting for the next trigger.
I've seen u comment on three videos abt anger issues lol tf
Axel Kookie I know how you feel, it’s the same for me most of the time and I don’t know how to stop it from coming out.
Lmao 🤣🤣🤣
@@TR-qh9eg I'm sorry this comment is funny.😂
The heartbeats get heavier..
I don’t get manic anymore... I get rage. I miss that “full of life” feeling. I hate that I feel so angry towards everyone.
I’ve been calling my anger RAGE lately it’s no longer anger it feels different.
@@curlychicknikki I can feel m y heart getting weaker every time I feel angry
@@curlychicknikki I’m so depressed and scared that I’ll never change
@@lazlo686 You can change with determination. To feel better reduce negative thoughts. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives good relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Do the practice without any expectations. When taking a walk, at office, in college, when reading, before sleep etc observe your breath sensations. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Reduce negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes--Counsellor.
@@lazlo686 yes it will physically hurt the more you indulge in it... esp screaming
My father had this (undiagnosed), he called it “parenting.”
Oh god 💔
I haven't spoke to my father in twelve years due to his ''parenting''. Tell him this is his future.
Is this where the pity party is? So pathetic
@🐰Choccy Bunny🐰 it was probably for the first comment...
@@johnnyq2769 invalidating mm yes
My mum has this, and it's been horrible growing up with it. She's broken so many things, and she has even chased me while in one of the moods, threatened me, threw things at me, would hit me trying to start of fight. The verbal abuse has hit me so deep. and she has no idea. Absolutely horrible 😞
Please, if you think you suffer with this. get help.
You deserve it! Twerp
@@AskYaMommyBoutMeBoi you're joking right?
So do I living in a house hold with my lil Cousin who constantly gets on my nerves Which I Really HATE!! It pisses me off to the point where my forehead gets warm & I wanna beat em senseless for it!
@Mango 🥭 I know this comment was made 11 months ago but if it helps, I am going through it right now. Just like your mom, my mom doesn’t recognize the damage she’s done to me and my brother. One time she broke the door and started pushing me. I just stood there silently, taking her abuse.
How are you?
You're really good at translating vague symptom descriptions into specific, practical examples of their manifestation. Thanks again Tracey !
Thank you Ren. That’s exactly what I try to do. I’m glad I’m achieving that purpose. 😊
@DrTraceyMarks besides verbal abuse outbursts and threatening what else does i.e.d do??????? I have never in my life heard of this until now.
My anger wont stop, i have hermitised myself, and as much as i want these outburst to stop, it happens 3 times a day
Me too 🙁🙁
Well, same! I find myself angry for being alone but I also am angry around anyone, ever! Lmao 🙃
take no flush Niacin, get online or at any serious health food store; take magnesium before bed, with the niacin, and niacin during the day also.
How do you manage now have things gotten better or easier in a sense
I can’t be around people because of this so now I’m looking into going into accounting
A lot of people are proud of their displays of anger as it makes them feel powerful or something. What they don’t realize is over time people and opportunities will just leave their lives and they’ll be all alone with their bizarre attachment to anger. And the world moves on.
Facts
Then again it’s usually the people who are ashamed of their anger and try to hide it who usually have the worst most destructive tempers, like me tbh.
Like the incredible hulk?
So true.
If it's a brain disorder it's not their fault. Or caused by something like pmdd. I am currently being told by my psychiatrist she refuses to put me on meds for pmdd until I go to my ENT and gynecologist, because the sinus medicine I take can be very dangerous for me if on an antidepressant. problem is, I have no money and the gynecologists in my area do not take my insurance. And I may need sinus surgery I do not have money for. So I'm fucked.
Chronic stress and exhaustion, both mentally and physically, also contributes to lack of restraint. Wow-zer!!!
You can hurt someone badly by being verbally abusive
I verbally hurt one of my friend over Doritos just cuz he wouldn’t give it to me ... I don’t even like Doritos .all of a sudden I felt so angry
They need to get over it, they'll survive.
I had a coworker and a boss with this. The coworker was forced to quit. The boss , can’t work for him
Ehh
this situation destroys property, cars, sometimes worse... Verbal abuse is a stepping stone to the HULK bullshit.
I had a friend in elementary school who was kinda like this. He got annoyed and angry because of the most little things, but especially if someone mentioned that he made a mistake, or that something is wrong with his behaviour. In these cases he started to defend himself in a normal voice but if the other person didnt walk away immmediately or didnt apologize for mentioning his mistake to him, then he became insane. He switched from defensive to offensive, and he said really personal things. He was unreachable in these episodes and he did not stop or calm down if the other person didnt start to beg for mercy. He often became physically agressive after a while and he needed at least half an hour alone to calm down after these episodes/outbursts. He went to an other school in 5th grade, i never seen him since then.
He struggled a lot with that people always seen him as 'the boy that cannot handle a simple conversation without hurting somebody'. Lately i decided to do research about mental disorders because I'm pretty sure he had one, that was mistaken as simply 'being agressive and impulsive'. I hope he has a diagnosis now, or just changed in a better way, or found people who actually know how to treat him well even when he seems rude and unbearable.
Depression and anger are related.
These past 2 years have been unreal. I've accepted I need to be on medication but I look like a normal person. I wish everyone the best but this world is nuts.
🙏😔
Heavy meditation has helped me mostly sedate my intense rage, but i’ll admit when i stop meditating as frequently i can feel it start to creep back slowly. At this point i just view it as a survival mechanism to keep locked up until the right time, so it’s all about maintenance for now.
When the action doesn't match the situation
Hmm, good video. I should probably get professional help.
Same but fuck right I’ll just get 30 years one day
Sammeee 🙋🏻♀️
Funny hagh.
Dude i hit myself all my life i blow and act a fool and i think im in control and for whatever reason im not
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I'm VERY concerned about my anger issues. My mom died suddenly when I was 58. I'm now 60. I had to be hospitalized 2 weeks after her passing because I went into an uncontrollable RAGE that I'd NEVER felt or expressed in my life!
My BP has been uncontrollably high for a few months & the PAIN (headache & severe fatigue that actually ACHES) makes my anger stay on a hair trigger.
I have to use the VA (disabled Marine Corps veteran from the early Desert Storm era). They couldn't be bothered with my STROKE LEVEL high BP!!!
I feel absolutely HELPLESS! & terrified of a stroke!
Ok. Why did Propanolol make my anger WORSE?
I've got a medication allergy / bad reaction list as long as your arm. So, yes. I'm a difficult case.
But, to just leave me hanging? I had a phone appointment with my VA GP on Wednesday that my DOCTOR stood me up for! 😭
WHAT DO I DO?
I feel like I'm DYING!
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Dang I remember me turning into a mad dog as back as I was 4 years old, at some point I was even scared of myself. Well eventually I developed my own tricks to manage it, I still feel fear, guilt and shame of some deeds I did out of anger, may be they hold me back but I am so surprised to know it's a disorder, not just a flaw in character. So much awareness needed to be spread in the area of mental health.
Can you share your tricks? Thanks so much!
@@dixichyna it's difficult to summarize it but I will try.
- right in moment:[escape, diffuse with humor, imagine gratitude to adversary] ;
- As a general strategy: [introspect, meditation and be mindful and self aware, don't let the temporary sense of power from anger lure you into accepting it .... Keep learning.]
1: Escape, run away if I feel the anger bubbling inside me is intense and unreasonable. May be make an excuse of fake phone call or borrow some time from them to address it later. Distract yourself - Play video game, watch funny cute videos, take a walk etc. Look back at issue after your emotion settles down address it with reasons and compassion to your counter.
2 - introspect : look inside yourself and evaluate your beliefs. For example if I am insecure and seek others validation instead of my own philosophy and value system, I am likely to get mad at a small insult. Don't get me wrong, in many instances it needs to be addressed but anger just don't help.
3- practice MEDITATION and MINDFULNESS.
Those just 3 from top of my head but honestly my anger management for the most part was repeated commitments with many failures and learnings from literature, psychology , philosophy and life. It has so many elements and naunce that it can't fit in a comment. I still fail rarely but reasonably. Biggest challenge is to fight the urge to react on exact moment of heat. Self awareness, value system, experience and meditation helps. And I am still learning.
@@saurabht3540 thank you very much, you input is helpful!
Broke a TV in fifth grade because the CD she install didn’t read.
That kid even got tied with a rope around the hands due to her uncontrollable anger expressions.
It almost been a year she hit her youngest cousin with a toy camera as he called her tomboy(which is kind of rude in an typical Asian language).
Similarly she threw a compass at her middle school classmate, who made fun of her tutorial results.
Two months ago, had a violent fight with mom and relatives while visiting her aunt’s house without no reason, she scream and punched the stairs.
And there are many other scenarios occurred with her, although she’s a socialized kid she has lots of friends well known by teachers and school staffs for participating in school activities.
Doctor your videos are very very helpful and I’ll be looking forward for more videos from you.
I kindly request you to examine my situation and define what’s happening with me.
Living in an Asian country without a belief in psychology is very hard for me to see a Pyscologist.
I hope you are doing well.
Well, I one time in High School punched a hole in my moms wall because I was in rage because my dad was yelling at me
She explained why I’ve been so confused about my anger
I haven’t been diagnosed with this, but it’s awfully familiar. My counselor is working with me on trying to break the habit of acting when this happens, and instead finding a safe place to go to where I won’t say/do things I’ll regret. It’s not perfect, but the goal is to make it to the bathroom, lock myself in, and let loose whatever expletives help until I can calm down. It’s honestly so embarrassing feeling so out of control, and it is inextricably linked to my depression.
Man, I was 40 before I started talking to someone and taking celexa. Do it sooner than later. It still comes around but not as often. And sometimes I can become aware of what's about to happen and at least minimize it. It's hard not to be angry in this world, though.
I have the urge to click the like button on the first 5 secs of the video, but I refrain this impulse, watch the video until the end and then I click it. Your videos are amazing and extremely helpful. More people should know it.
Recently I started therapy and a new doctor. This is what my doctor is leaning towards. It's nice to kinda have an answer for my lifetime of aggression and anger.
I lost my best friend due to this and wish i could explain to her its not me. Im realizing i may have this but never got checked out. Self evaluating myself i realize i dont have these often but it can make people lock you out their lives... for life. The feeling i get when going thru this is literally blacking out, no control of myself, its like a monster inside me thats been festering inside of me locked in a cage that i keep from coming out until a trigger happens then i just completely snap, in the moment its like you'renot feeling, you're not thinking, its just taking control of your whole being like a demon. As nerdish as this sounds(not to get carried away because this is a serious issue) its literally like how Gohan went ssj2 in that same manner except the stimuli may be small. I wish i wasnt this way, i have so much love in my heart, i grew up anti social. If anybody even cares to read this if you're going thru the same thing my prayers are for you, dont hate yourself it only worsens, talk to someone professional/unprofessional just get it out. Dont be me. One love.
Yikes this entire comment is me. I didn’t always feel like this until 2019. I just snapped one day and now I can’t stop. I absolutely hate myself for this
I’m so sorry for your pain. I decided to reply to you because I am on the opposite end of your situation, and I had to walk away from my best friend of 20 years due to her finally abusing me physically and violently in a way that I would have never expected! It was so bad that I feared for my life!
I know she needs help, and she knows she needs help, but unfortunately no matter what is wrong with us it is not the responsibility of people to stay around and be abused by us.
I told her that we were basically in a codependent enmeshed dysfunctional relationship and that I had someplace in this as well for being the codependent who never held her accountable hardly ever for anything she did and for me being too afraid to truly speak my mind and put my foot down, this goes to show you that I was in denial that I was actually afraid of her.
Unfortunately she did not want to take her side of the responsibility and she choose chose to put me out of her life because I would not stay around and told her that I thought at least for a little while we needed to go no contact. I never told her I wouldn’t speak to her again or anything like that, but she made her decision that I was the bad guy. I wasn’t surprised frankly because this is very like her and often it is much easier to be angry than it is to be sad.
For her and for many people I’ve seen like this the anger is a drug, it makes them feel powerful, it makes them feel like they did something about it, if they had to sit with their sadness and the feelings that they have that’s too overwhelming and actually what it really results in is that the person who is in pain is in so much pain and so angry that they cannot hold it themselves so they throw it onto other people and you can see how that turns into abuse this is why everyone needs to deal with their issues.
No one is coming to rescue us, we have to deal with our stuff. If not if nothing changes then nothing will change and we can expect to not have loving true relationships because no one is going to put up with being abused in any way shape or form in a relationship even if it’s intermittently and then other times the person is wonderful. That’s the definition of a trauma bond and that’s definitely what she and I had. It was very sad, but I knew I had to learn from it and grow from it and that’s all I could take away from it even with my broken heart.
As adults we are 100% responsible for our emotions in the now. We are not responsible for any trauma or abuse that happened to us in our lives, but we are responsible for picking up the responsibility because it is our lives after all, and there is no rescue squad coming except us and the people we hire or the professionals that we surround ourselves with to get the help we need.
I grew up in a very abusive violent household, my best friend knew this, she knew that her behavior was a serious trigger for me, and I stuck it out for many years to try to maintain that friendship because clearly I loved her, I still love her but I can’t be around her. At this point I literally no longer can physically trust her and I don’t feel safe in her presence.
It has broken my heart, and she basically hates me and thinks that I walked out on her while she was in a mental health crisis, but I am not her professional psychiatrist, and I don’t work in a mental hospital, so I don’t have to put up with abuse.
It does not mean that I don’t have sympathy, and empathy for her actually because I know the pain of having psychological pain as I was suicidal and depressed and ridiculously anxious for most of my life it’s only in the past five years that I’ve dealt with everything and gotten help and that is what made it even more difficult for me to handle the way she behaved because this was not an occasional thing her anger was constant it just went on different levels but it was constant you never know it was going to happen and she was always fighting yelling throwing things at everyone & screaming at her own pets to the point that they would run to me. (We lived together 3 different times & every time I ended up having to leave for not feeling safe😿)
IMHO there is possibility some type of repressed pain that is causing your nervous system to be on hyper-vigilant notice to the slightest thing.
It can also be faulty belief systems connected to your anger.
For many people the anger is a long ago learned coping mechanism to deal with stress. The longer the anger has been the way one has coped, the stronger the neural pathways are literally physically in the brain until it becomes the default response.
When emotionally triggered by something, the flood of cortisol alone can make the pre frontal cortex basically go “offline” & this can cause an inability to think of something rational to say all the way to as bad as a full on blackout. At that point the limbic brain has taken over & excuse the comparison but it’s similar to the way 2yr olds literally BECOME anger because the only way they can express their emotions is with their body since they don’t have the language or understanding of what they’re feeling.
Usually this anger response goes WAY back into childhood even if you have no memory of that.
I have deep sympathy for anyone suffering from any form of mental illness, disorder etc. and none of us are broken, I firmly believe that we can all heal, but we have to be willing to go away deep down too often incredibly scary places within ourselves to sit with the pain and usually we need the help of professionals to do it because most of us are not emotionally regulated enough to be able to do the work. This is why many of us need to be on medication at least temporarily until our nervous system can become regulated.
Are use so many different systems of help and different tools and I’ll kinds of things to keep myself healthy every single day. I can so easily slip back into deep anxiety, but I know what works so I stay on that healing path and I do that out of self-love.
It took me a very long time to find that self love, I’m 52 years old after all, and some people think that’s too old and it’s too late but it’s never too late as long as we’re still alive.
The road back home to ourselves and back to our own hearts can be and usually is a very scary one if we have been living with mental pain, but the thing is if we are in pain now, would you rather the pain of staying where you are, or would you rather have the pain of growth?
Personally I will take the pain of growth any day even though my brain in my body often do not want to do it I have to remind myself that my relationship with myself is the most important one I will ever have because it is the only one I am guaranteed for life, and the relationship I have with myself is a direct reflection to the relationship I have with the rest of the world. Radical self acceptance enables us to have radical acceptance for everything else going on around us and that way we only control what we can and that is usually us not anyone else.
I’ve learned it literally is an inside job and although I am not a religious person I deeply believe in the phrase “let there be peace on earth and let it begin with me “
I wish you all the grace and love and light on your journey to healing please know that it is possible🙏💖💫
I just Started dating someone with this. I'm out. To much insanity. Surely you see it from the other side. She lost her shit and threw things over a song. Nope not for me
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I think I’ve finally found what I’m struggling with; thank you for this video.
You are so thorough on the descriptions and explanations. I believe our society’s overlook of mental health for so very long has taken a detrimental effect on us all to the point of no return. People are angry, some ALL THE TIME!!!!! A lot of erratic behaviors are so commonplace they are the “norm”. Growing up I was taught co dependence and did not understand the damage it does to all parties until I found myself in a cycle of trauma-domestic violence- drug addiction relationships,. As I am trying to repair my life I have had to purposefully change and unclutter my life of unnecessary people and habits. You DO ATTRACT HOW YOU FEEL INTO YOUR LIFE. Most if not all my relationships were unhealthy and toxic, and I don’t mean just the romantic relationships, I MEAN ALL.!!!! It’s been a hard year, but challenge brings about changes which usually produces growth. I’m much more me centered, and trying to heal me in so many ways. I appreciate your channel as an venue in helping me, THANKS
You’re welcome Ruth. Thanks for watching and sharing your thoughts.
I was diagnosed with IED way back when, when i was about 17. I was officially diagnosed with BP1 (Lower end of spectrum) at 25. Great video!
This is exactly what my father has. He verbally still puts me down. I cant be around him much. What helped me is going to church and realizing I have a father in heaven who guides me and who I can talk to. My father here on earth is not my father. Jesus, the holy spirit, and God are the ones I go to in prayer when I need a father. My god is my father and it's the best guidance I can have.💜🙏 I choose to not sit in it anymore I just have to move on from what happened. But also be aware and set strong boundaries when I do have to socialize with him.
You should show respect to your father even if he isn't the greatest... forgive freely and try to understand he is under spiritual warfare and doesn't even know it
Lol, pathetic
Pray for your dad. Jesus didn't judge the man possessed in the garden, he casted the demon out. People judge angry people but If it's a brain disorder it's not their fault. Or caused by something like pmdd. I am currently being told by my psychiatrist she refuses to put me on meds for pmdd until I go to my ENT and gynecologist, because the sinus medicine I take can be very dangerous for me if on an antidepressant. problem is, I have no money and the gynecologists in my area do not take my insurance. And I may need sinus surgery I do not have money for. So I'm fucked.
this is me down to a tee and affects me and my relationships everyday and ive never understood why i was like this until now
Hi Tracey, I have ADHD and it makes it difficult for me to regulate my emotions. I noticed that you mention the connection between IED and Bipolar but I would like to know your take on the comorbidity of IED and ADHD.
THANK YOU
I agree
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I agree
There's definitely a link.
I think I've got this.I suffer with depression but through my childhood and adulthood, I've suffered with extreme anger episode s. The anger is towards myself mostly and objects. Many times I have headbutted walls, punched myself, bit myself and cut myself, leaving bruises and scars in the process.Never been to therapy about it.I'm on medication for the depression but nothing for the anger. I really wish I was normal 😕
I literally react JUST like you, mate, you can do it! It's a matter of time, patience and caring about yourself. ❤
Sometimes. maybe often always in our cases. WE are not at fault for our "reactions". its the abnormal behaviour and engagement activity. They are the ones who are projecting and are unaware of their own internal, minute frustrations, and traumas, that is leading them.
OMG, so THIS is what I had / have (rarely now)! I thought I just had anger and anxiety problems. I never knew this had a name. Wow. I never went to therapy for it. I self-treated over about 15 years.
Great informative video Dr. Marks. Thank you. How much I always like the animations. They are so funny 😁.... hahaha. Laughing is one of the best medicines. Have a great day doc 😃🇳🇱
Thanks so much. I enjoy doing them. They are time consuming though because I’m not an animator but as I get better at them I’m able to put more of them in my videos.
@@DrTraceyMarks keep it up! They are definitely helpful!!! Thank you!!!!!
i was always so sad until one day I just learned that the world is cruel, i than took my word i will end all of it, and i have a short temper and i rage and destroy anything or hurt people
I seriously got mad over everything, my brother talking got me mad for some reason.
I've been thinking alot of messed up things, idk what triggers in my brain but when i saw something cute i wanted to stomp on it, i need to seek some mental help when the virus thingy is done.
Ya get help
@@mattDettling I'm still recovering, it's getting better every month due to having no school and i can chill all day
i still have a few school work but i can usr google to my advantage
Please do. You'll feel better and things will turn around for you. In the meantime, try keeping a journal of your feelings and see if you can find triggers or patterns. I've known several people with IED and noticed that hunger is a common trigger (although none of them realized it until I pointed it out). If this is a trigger for you, try eating small meals or snacks every couple of hours, and choose foods that won't spike your blood sugar (more protein, fewer carbs, and stay away from sugar and sugary drinks). Also, when you're in a calm mood, explain to your friends and family that you have this problem, apologize for your outbursts, and tell them that you're trying to do better.
along with therapy and effective coping skills, i often find humor in my anger issues. like i find it so funny that i’m like a grumpy grandpa that even cute things piss me off
@@biondatiziana yes I'm feeling better now, thanks for asking
I have been having a hard time dealing with IEDs ... I literally have a go at my family.... and believe me I'm even getting therapy...
I have IED and I am still struggling to cope with it. It sucks. And I assure you, its NOT normal anger.
I suffer from anger issues, do you also aggressively scream like I do?
Enjoyable bullshit i found that mindfulness, meditation, exercise, and moderate cannabis use helps. I am by no means perfect but I have managed to finally make some progress since posting this comment. You should become familiar with the idea of emotional stamina. Figure out how much you have and learn to recognize when you are short on it. Always monitor it. I know its a lot of work, but in my experience, its the only thing that works. Best of luck!
@@puffcatcosame
Most of the time i'm cool, but sometimes when I get angry, I actaully can go insane.
My husband has problem with anger. He breaks stuff.(furnitures, 4 big tv's)We been married for 24 years. He said his going to divorce me because i yell at him that i dont respect him. I told him to get the paper and i will sign it.
Hi Dr. Marks. Thank you for sharing. I'm glad I discovered your channel. I very much appreciate your informative videos. I find myself calming down or better yet my anxiety decreases whenever I hear your voice. I think perhaps it's because you remind me of my therapist who I've been seeing for the last 9 years. Anyway, I get better understanding of my mental health illness from watching your videos. My Psychiatrist is wonderful as well but I'm uptight most of the time even in his office. I watch your videos alone and it's like you're speaking to me personally even though I know you are speaking to everyone who watches your videos. I'm a disabled veteran who needs all the mental health support and information for not only duty related mental health issues, but also for another area of trauma I experienced in childhood that was supressed for many years. Anyway, I think I've posted more info than I intended. Sorry for the length of this post. I just should've stopped at Thank You.....
Hi Michela. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I’m so glad my videos are a supplement to the treatment you’re receiving. That’s One of the reasons I make them. I think it’s pretty typical to be uptight when you see the doctor and not be able to take in that much information. So this can be very helpful that way.
OMG I am dealing with this right now with my 21 year old son, they said it was a mood disorder but he gets so angry to the point it's so hard to be around him.
It's breaks my heart to see my son like this. I just want some help for him.
Yeah same here I struggle with controlling myself just like this and I can see the pain in my mom and grandmas eyes when they can’t do anything but stay out of the way🤦🏾♂️ I should probably try to get help as well I’m not ashamed to admit it
I think you are great
You seem very honest and professional
So glad that I found your channel
I’ve awoken multiple times in a rage. I never fully wake up but I do remember rolling around and yelling profanity and punching my bed my hardest
Are you a guy? Testosterone is highest in the morning. Testosterone is linked to anger and mood, although recently some scientists have disputed this.
@@biondatiziana
It happens to me in morning at the peak
@@gooddoc8129 Sounds distressful. I hope you can talk to a medical professional about it because it will negatively affect every aspect of your life -- your quality of life, your relationships, your career, everything. Best wishes and I hope you find a solution.
@@biondatiziana
No money no job i am very young
Parents cant help either
No way around , also i don't trust those fda drugs i might not be smart but i do know those drugs have serious side effects from sexual problems to zombie emotions
@@gooddoc8129 I feel for you. I'm sure the pandemic isn't helping any. I can't blame you for not wanting to be on medication, but sometimes the tradeoff is worth it. Are you able to work? Do you have any idea about what you want to do? Not having an income makes things worse because it limits your social life, and socializing is essential to everyone's well-being.
Wishing you the best!
Thank you for this ! I’m researching this for school to write a story but, it’s hard to understand articles and ask questions about it when no one I know knows what it is
I just feel anger,and then I cry for a bit,calm down
Repeat
😢😢😢😢😢me too it's so embarrassing
Thats was really interesting, it was just a chance that I saw the notification and I stopped what I was doing and came to watch the video. I am seeing my psychiatrrist for a mental health assesment next week and have just had an explosive outburst that left me facing down on the road thimping the tarmac with my fists whenthere was a queue of traffic behine me. I thought if I carry on like this I am going to have a stroke or a heart attack. My poor wife in the car was terrified. Thanks again for doing this.
You’re welcome Chris. I hope the assessment is helpful
@@DrTraceyMarks It certainly was Tracey, I will be watching your other videos. thank you for taking the time to publish this material, its very helpful . x
Chris Cain do you have an update?
Hey, Dr. Marks! I loved this video. Can you make a follow-up with some techniques to calm down or channel the aggression in a less destructive way?
Great idea. Thanks for the suggestion I’ll work on it.
Hi yes please video on this topic!
I second that. People with IED are very difficult to live with because they can explode at any moment for no reason, and whoever is in the line of fire gets the brunt of their anger.
Thank you for the video Dr. I hope everyone finds peace and resolution from their pain and anger!
I was literally mad af rn just bc my dad talked to me, it just annoys me that he always asks the same questions. So I tried to calm down got even angrier punched myself because I can't or don't want to hurt anybody else since I have pets and usually they want to comfort me but with my anger I would probably scream at them and cry after that bc I actually didnt mean to. Imma get help soon I guess.
I relate to this :(
My Dad’s father was alcoholic. His mom died when he was only six. Couldn’t face visiting her grave until his 30’s. A good man, strong morals, but was stressed by severe sleep apnea, 5 kids & finances,so worked lots of overtime. He’d yell a lot & pound the dinner table so hard we’d jump and be quiet. He was explosive. My worse memories were when he’d beat the hell out of the family dog while it screamed and cried. I’d hide in the corner watching, horrified. I absolutely hated him.
We never talked back to our parents like kids today, because we’d get smacked. But mostly, he expressed anger verbally. He chilled a lot after retirement at 55, but still treats animals harshly. He acted this way only at home and said we should never talk about family issues to others. My parents were devout Catholics who sincerely believed and followed the teachings as much as possible, instilling a strong moral code and faith in god, along with an incredibly strong work ethic.
I think both my parents were severely depressed and anxious, mostly about money, as they didn’t have college degrees and both worked lower/average middle-class jobs. I’ve suffered from chronic severe depression since age 11. Wondering how much is genetic vs being unloved by parents.
Whenever I'm at work I'll get this.
Thank you for explaining it I have ied myself and everyone thinks that it's just about anger but its not
1:25 "she put on her clothes, though" 🤣
Lol. Thanks for noticing that 😀
Yeah! A quick, OK?! 😂🤣😂🤣😂
Don't drive naked guys LOL
THIS EASILY escalates to worst case physical violence,verbal abuse,breaking things one must replace repeatedly. Adding alcohol usually exacerbates all related behavior. Physical harm,legal problems,financial,employment issues. Most with this disorder have to work very hard and be committed to change. If they do not work diligently at therapy,medication management,etc I implore you to cut your losses and LEAVE...AND FAST.
I'm trying to find out what is wrong with my daughter. This sounds really possible. I've been in line for months to get her a diagnosis. We've been at this for YEARS!! Anything sets her off, being told to do something she doesn't want like getting off the computer, being unable to find something, a toy or project breaks, a chore appears to be too overwhelming, homework appears like it is too difficult, and she is raging, screaming, crying, throwing things, yelling at people, and I just don't know what to do. she is nearly 12, and it has only been getting worse.
I find the way that you were able to convey the message was quite elegant and I found it easily palatable as well. As for the bad taste in my mouth, I believe it's because I suddenly became aware of a few things about myself. I only try to do better and not hinder anyone's basic right to exist as well as we can.
Hi Dr. Marks,
Could you make a video on why it is very common for psychiatrists to misdiagnose patients? I got diagnosed with bipolar from one psychiatrist and internalised it and accepted it, until I went to a very thorough psychological evaluation where I was reassured I was "absolutely not bipolar."
Diagnoses cause a lot of distress to many of us, so receiving false diagnoses traumatises us to a certain extent.
Thanks for your informative excellent work!
My non-professional opinion is that most people in most professions are merely adequate at their job. i.e. Only about 1/3 of people are actually good at their given field of knowledge and about 10% should be in another profession.
Those ratios mimic my experience with mental health professionals, other service industries, and people that I have encountered in my career.
A metaphor would be a college class that is graded on a curve.
10% of students did excellent work on their exams/papers and deserve an A grade. Another 10% were good and deserve a B.
Another 10% did fairly decent and deserve a C.
But the vast majority are just able to pass the class.
Probably about 10% deserve to fail the class.
When it comes to any major health diagnosis, a 2nd opinion is usually recommended.
The mental health industry doesn't promote this concept nearly enough (if at all).
Another metaphor would be having major work done on a house. Most people get multiple estimates before choosing the vendor.
I speak to that issue a little bit in this video. ua-cam.com/video/o5zSEO1xAlg/v-deo.html
I totally agree that
The patient has to do part of the work by
Expressing him self as much as h could
Second to search those kind of advanced videos to help to compare the symptoms
So we are so grateful for Dr Tracy
About her time and efforts
Thanks
I have had very similar things happen too me, sometimes I cant control my anger and rage, I've had long history of mental health and have never been able to get controll of it and its started in early teen years
Are we both me? 🤔
i don’t know if i have anger issues, but i have been getting really mad over small problems. for example, someone taking my things without asking, my friends/siblings eating my food, or when my friends tease me. it’s so hard to suppress it sometimes that i have to physically inflict pain on myself so i can forget what i was mad about. sometimes it gets even worse when i tell my family or friends that i’m angry and they call me sensitive. when i get mad, i usually can’t go back to sleep, or do anything because i can’t focus. please help
Do you scream?
Destroy things?
Fight?
@@lilyjr.1384 yea. i fight w my parents a lot and it usually ends up with them hitting or kicking me. I used to throw things and break stuff, but my parents always yelled at me for it, so i stopped doing it when people are around, and yes i scream a lot.
cindayyy Hm, it’s definitely worth a psychiatric evaluation. You’re not super duper impulsive, which is good. Perhaps you can tell your parents about some form of therapy to work on this early on.
cindayyy If it’s getting between your relationship with your parents, I’d recommend family therapy.
@@lilyjr.1384okay, and i also feel like my dad has anger issues too. when he gets mad, he usually destroys things more than me. he punches holes through doors and when me or my brother make him angry, he hits or kicks us. he usually takes our stuff and breaks them,
Could I.E.D come out of nowhere randomly say you've had depression and anxiety since teenage years and now mid twenties you have a year of I.E.D.??
I'm a mystery case😔 I'm kind,compassionate,soft spoken,big hearted. Yet, those closest to me & that I love the most,I sometimes yell hurtful things,I'm overwhelmed with anger to where I can't control myself,my words, or actions. Im not even me anymore. I can't calm myself down..I'm not in control..Even when I see the pain on my loved ones face:( after I go off..I feel absolutely beyond horrible & hate myself. I can't take my hurtful words back or a slap. I feel like there's a monster inside of me. Like there's 2 people. I feel like a failure as a mom..the last people that I want to ever hurt..are those that I hurt the most. I don't want to be this way. I hate myself because of this & mentally beat myself up because I'm so awful..but yet I am a loving,devoted mother,don't smoke,drink,or do drugs. I try so hard to be the best mom I can be but I am cursed with this monster inside of me. How do I get them out😔 I do not want to be this way. I have been like this for many years. This isn't a way to live..hurting those I love. It's absolutely awful.. I devote my life to be there for my kids,all sports,events,tell them that I Love them daily,support them,encourage them. But then when I'm overly stressed or get mad..I lose it:( I'm a failure and failing at the only thing that I care about in life to be successful at..and that's being the best mom that I can be
I am currently crying because of too much frustration. My boyfriend and I had a fight and because I get mad easily and can't control my anger. I asked him to let me watch a series even for a short time in order to calm myself because I don't want to fight him with a high pitched voice but he's not listening, and he can't understand. And now I am really distressed and am crying due to this outburst.
I am almost sure that my father do have IED, he always has beeing so aggressive and strict for anything. I'm afraid to tell him that and makes he more aggressive with me. I think that's why I have anxiety. He's such a good person though, but I hold so many grudges. 💔
I can understand because I have a same story 😞
@@WanderingSoul-yn9tb 😕
Same story here also, we all grew up walking on eggshells, I've never seen another human express such voracious anger. He is also a great man that would do anything for you and I love him but am also semi frightened of him. I think my father also has some paranoia.
I get this almost every single day. I get so mad and start punching things and yelling. It doesn't typically last long but it's getting worse and getting to the point of where I'm taking it out on people. Getting hard to handle it's uncontrollable. It's like my anger just cones and goes as it pleases. I also have bipolar disorder but I'm not sure if it has anything to do with this. It's usually the smallest of things that shouldn't be getting so mad about. Im not a big drinker or drugs.
I haven't been diagnosed, but I have a very similar problem. The only difference from IED is that I can sometimes control the outbursts (although it's very difficult). Of course when I don't control the outbursts (that usually happen three or four times a week if not more) I start breaking stuff and sometimes feel the urge to bite my arm. If I'm controlling an anger attack, the next one coming is going to be more intense, so when I can, I let it out. I'm the chillest dude ever but the wrong trigger at the wrong time makes me go berserker. I only hope I stick with breaking stuff and not start breaking people, I'm very peaceful and I hate violence.
So similar to me, I've learned to control the impulses way more than years ago but ironically? It's kinda scary because recently I had another outburst after years of peace and the feeling prior to it had my neck shaking so hard, my hands were going crazy and I just exploded (I had those shakes before but they were never so hard and never felt them on my neck) this makes me wonder if somehow holding this stuff for too long could actually have detrimental effects on us because imagine the amount of adrenaline and blood that I was pumping in those few minutes prior to it. I also wonder about what you said about holding them making the next one worse because like I said, I went a few years without outbursts and honestly? This one I had recently is definitely the worst I've ever had, I managed to reach a punching bag that I got and the rest is kinda blurry but I do remember yelling, growling and even drooling because I had to wipe my mouth after I came back to my senses, thankfully I didn't break my hands but did get bruised and damaged skin with bit of blood.
Funny thing is, I actually felt way better after that even though I had the usual guilt/crying I always have after an attack, even my face looked different, like tons of bad weight had dropped from it.
@@shadowmaster452 I recommend (as it worked for me) spending more time doing things you like and actively looking for positive stimuli in every activity, or (even better) put all the rage and negativity in something creative and/or productive. After 2 years of doing this I can look back and read my comment almost laughing at how I used to be. I'm not saying my anger is gone and that my outbursts have vanished, but it has become much easier to control it and manage it safely. I hope I helped.
@@ghost6975 oh yeah, I still forget to put that rage and negativity into something productive, I should go back to drawing or music. The rest? I already do, that's how I managed to go a few years clean (3 years until what I mentioned in my comment), we're on the same boat and I know I can do better with your tips, hopefully after this recent episode I can reach an even longer streak. My objective? A lifelong streak of no rage lol a man can dream...
Kinda forgot to mention but I'm really into meditation and spiritual things so that also helps, really recommend it to you too, helps a lot, I'm happy to hear that you're now in a better place and don't worry about it being "embarrassing" because it gives hope to others like me.
I have a really bad rage problem when it comes to school work. It’s so annoying to see everyone around me doing good and understanding everything.
I need help
don't we all need help
Hi I am from India and I'm 22. For past few year (1/2) I started hate my life and everything around it. I've tried by doing some research of why is it happening to me but it has only gotten worse. I'm not a bad kid (atleast i like to think that), i was always very passionate and ambitious student, i still am. But i don't understand what my parents ask more for. I love and respect my parents very much, so much that for them i broke up with the only person who used to love me just the way i wanted it. But everyday they provoke me about me being unemployed. They never supported me. Now i think i was never loved as a child.
All of this thoughts were weighing me down everyday. Today they told that they knew i smoked weed. And i never smoked weed in my entire life. They provoked me so much i lost it and i literally attacked them, i broke my only earphones. Then they understood that i did not smoke. I've never done or even think about doing these type of things with my mom and dad, i cried and i said sorry, they also said it's okay. But I'm starting to hate myself even more. While raging i lost control of everything i slammed the door so hard thank god it didn't broke. I am sorry for everything.
A family member of mine has this disorder and responded well to abilify
CarFiends4Life I mean you could just explain..
@@lilyjr.1384 I mean you could just use google before taking what the government says is good for you.
Alexander Rahl Who said I took what the government says is good for me?
Is google a reliable source?
@@lilyjr.1384 Google contains numerous medical research studies on medicines such as this. Or does it have to be on cnn for you? Willful ignorance isn't a charming quality.
Alexander Rahl Baseless assumptions aren’t either.
It’s clear that you were looking for someone to act condescending towards. This is done.
What if I just have anti bs syndrome? I tend to quickly blow up on people who are full of you know what.
Emma Waun Yup! I understand.
Lmao this 100%
You will get your jaw broken one day, more than likely.
Exactly. They are gaslighters
Intermittent explosive disorder with Logic Features.*
quite a handy tool if you ask me.
My wife gets angry for any little thing ,just for a minute, than everything is normal but sometimes for none important things she gets very angry and violent, she hits me with tremendous amount of violence, her close fist,,kicks me,,hits me with the phone flash on my face, is very difficult for me, I have scars in many places on my body, i love her very much, im trying my best to resist, when she's her self, she's the most loving person on the planet, now she's pregnant, im hoping that some how there is a change in her brain,,im afraid that if she doesn't stop , I will be force to leave her,,something that I will never want to do, it would brake my heart,, I mean,she has broken my body , she hits me with any thing and with out mercy,,than she sleeps for 3 or more days on a thin matt on the floor and won't talk to me,,she also brake things and hit me with them,,,im trying my best not to trigger her violent behavior, its as im walking on eggshells,,,can any one advise , any medication or anything safe that would help her,,thanks
Uh yeah it might be time to throw the towel in and leave, she is abusing you. But since you said you wanna try and stick it out I will be keeping you, her and the baby in my prayers.
@@SugaBabieT thank you for been so kind,,,there are a lot of things with her that brake my heart if I was to abandon her,,,maybe I would be able to explain in an email,,eather way,please pray, i believe that my marriage with her is part of God's design, because of many things I see,,at the end,,im sure if it wasn't Part of Gods plan, he would have intervene so i wouldn't make such a huge mistake
I thought the dsmV was reaching for a long time. But we know so much about the stars than our own mind. We are still learning about humanity. Or maybe these are concepts we knew for a long time but didn't have the words.
Usually i am a happy, cheerful person but as soon as some one interfere me ...i get angry on silly things.... specially on my family.....then i feel bad. Everyone in my house think i am an angry, annoying, useless person... thought they love me alot but this anger even i feel bad after few minutes of anger. Don't know what to do.
Wow this is literally me , I’m a really cool person & friendly but anything can get me mad I mean anything if you laugh too hard I might bug out . Everyone around me thinks the same & I don’t know what to do neither
just know, you guys are not alone. this also happens to me, its sad that we hurt or are mean to the people we love the most. I wish I could understand why but the best we can do is reach out for help (therapist) because it's hard to work on this on our own.
I feel like these sound effects will make me develop this disorder
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Wow this was very informative and helpful! My boyfriend definitely qualifies for this disorder. He has all these symptoms. I don’t know how to get him help because he denies he has a problem and blames me for his outbursts and when he breaks things.
Hey I have the same issue, u want to connect?
RUN!!! get away from him
I'm glad there are some women out there that still support their significant other about stuff like this. I wan't a girlfriend but I don't want her to be scared of me it sucks. I don't hit people except I punch MYSELF in the face. And break things.
Leave him.
I absolutely hate when my anger strucks, it comes more from frustration but how I explode to the smallest thing is just sad. I hate it
Great video Doctor Marks! Could you maybe do a video on long term effects a
person exposed to trauma may experience, and what professional help and treatment
options are mostly recommended?
Check out this video I did on CPTSD and see if that addresses your questions. ua-cam.com/video/7Is7U6QW8mc/v-deo.html
I'm watching this video while I'm having uncontrollable anger. As I'm residing abroad and have many bad moments of childhood bullying by parents Infront of relatives still being carried at age 27, I feel annoyed to the core when my parents actions cause me slightest of the trouble. I'm protective about myself. While I'm on my way to do things that I'm passionate about at the age 27 after trying to get over bad past, I'm exhibiting outburst of anger. I'm not breaking things but I feel my blood vessels in the brain are about to explode. I'm writing this with the same intense feeling. Have been uncomfortable for past 7-8 hours after the fights over call.
I have no idea what steps you’re taking so don’t think I’m ignorant but try get professional help for it, I’m 20 and just realised I have this, when I learn coping mechanisms etc can already see me living a 10x better happier life
I use to be destructive in the house as a kid and what made it worst was living in a house full of girls who would provoke me and hit me….That messed me up. I also seen a lot of abuse of other child other growing up consistently.
Equal rights equal fights
The example you provided is likely related to blood sugar issues, considering the outburst occurred when the expected meal was not there. It triggers a survival response that includes adrenaline. Most men don't eat lunch at work, so he must have been pretty hungry by then, and his body is used to receiving food at that time.
I act this way often, but I also have BPD so it's confusing to understand what exactly is going on.
Bipolar rage is very real.
ssss.
The acronym fits the phrase very well. IED. Nice.
I have the same symtoms i break something when i am angry and im always angry for little reasons im scared i might punch someone and i just want this to go away
But i can't i think i need help
Thanks for the great video 👍 , Dr. Marks. I always feel like I am setting in a classroom while watching you. Have a great Easter!
Well, if I came home and found my Wife reading the National Busybody, I’d be angry too. 😉 It’s interesting how many disorders are due to serotonin imbalances. I had no idea a BP medication could be used as a mood stabilizer. Very interesting Dr. Marks, and well done as usual. 👍
Thank you Mark. 😊
After i got rear ended by a truck i started having personality differences due to the chronic undiagnosed concussion my neurologist said i had along with nerve damage from back and neck. I got surgery on my back last yr at the end. I had complications and was admitted to the NEURO-ICU. I had to have an immediate second exploratory surgery to find out what was causing my inability to walk and blurred vision etc. On the second surgery he put in a drain to drain the clots/spinal fluid from my back.
The release of the extra spinal fluid completely caused a reverse in the personality change i experienced after the accident. I am lucky in that respect. My friend also had spinal tap to remove extra fluid, and she stopped being abusive and having mood swings. I think it is underdiagnosed
Now I begin to doubt my diagnosis...
Why
IED is no joke. I wish I would’ve been Dx as a child. Therapy and treatment CAN help.
What treatment? Which medication?
I’m always lashing out i made mistakes because of my anger I really need to change
earlier this morning i had a huge argument with my younger sister who is 13 and i’m 19. i overheard her crying and growing frustrated over her school work. from my room i shouted (respectfully) that she should take a breather because she’s been out of it lately. she responds with an attitude and of course that made me furious. we go back and forth and i try to explain my situation but she continues to cut me off. this provokes me more and i end up getting physical by grabbing my waterbottle, throwing it. hitting the door or the wall, etc etc. we go back and forth telling each other to shut up but in my defense, all i wanted to do is give her the most simplistic advice. my sister has always had an attitude and i cannot handle it anymore. my anger has been on edge and i can easily snap. in the end i’ll feel so guilty and embarrassed and like a “monster” per say. finding this makes me wonder. idk how to tell the fam i wanna get a diagnosis because they might blow it off. siblings fight, yk? but with how my sister and i argue it seems like i’m the issue but idk. she has a big mouth ngl :((
I totally get you. Your sister has a part in it too.
I have ied undiagnosed and my ex would take offence and say stupid comments back that would enrage me more... All i want deep down is connection. When I'm triggered it's usually because someone is being rude to me. I'll never randomly just go off on one. I wish i didn't react in such an aggressive way. I'll break stuff, usually my own and i want to make as much noise as possible. The rage will just spill out. Once started it has to run its cause.
I'm 40 and i have friends I've known for time and wouldn't react this way with them. They are my empathetic friends. When I'm normal I'm very empathetic. I love connecting with people. I love relationships and im hot on respect. If I'm disrespected i can sometimes loose it. Being tired stressed and being on the receiving end of rude people are my triggers. 🤷🏻♀️ Broke up with my partner of 17 years because he exasperated my anger rather than comfort me... They say to not get in a relationship with anyone who isn't whole! So WHAT! people like us shouldn't have relationships!?
With a new guy now. When i express my irritations he stops and listens. I feel heard and my anger subsides. Usually over a misunderstanding.
My ex would do ALL the wrong things. Arghhh it's horrible.
But i think having awareness about our condition is the first step. And keeping away from dick heads. When I'm angry i say the most horrible things.
Was talking to a cop once and he made a silly comment. I tried to hold my mouth shut. I've also been to prison for slapping an officer. People think it's funny. It's not. I can't stand the shame and guilt after an episode. I have suicidal ideation as well after it.
I can't change. I'm just picky with who i have in my life now. Mental health are crap. Just keep reaching out. Stay positive. Your not alone ❤️
Interesting video.
I have an elderly neighbor that walks into my home, yard, unannounced, uninvited. Whenever I have contractors in my home, he always walks over, through closed doors to see what is going on.Never knocks. I asked politely, told him this was unacceptable. Unfortunately this didn't register. It came to a head when contractors were bothered by his walking in several times during work. One female worker was scared of him and locked me out of my home.
The workers asked him not to bother them. He didn't listen.
I began distancing myself with my neighbors having learned he killed a neighbor cat in his yard. (I have two cats-my kids) I cannot accept his behavior.
Angrily he approached me and asked what was going on as I no longer interacted with them as before. I politely answered his concern saying I did not appreciate his walking into my yard, my house and especially when asked not to. He went into a rage, insulting me. I ignored him. His wife called him to leave me alone. I said nothing. From that point, he calls me profane names, goes into a rage when I ignore him etc. I ended up calling the police. They ordered him not to set foot on my property. He continues to call me names, and embarrasses me when I have company. The police said because he was in his yard, it was freedom of speech. I have ignored he and his wife who is also extremely nosy. I planted fast growing trees to maintain privacy and my attempt to live peacefully but it did create anxiety, for me, feeling bullied, and abused. I have never been exposed to someone that cannot control his anger.
He is in his 70's and I am in my 70's, live alone.
Because he doesn't understand boundaries, etiquette and common sense, I have ignored them and have no desire to interact with them for fear the situation would be recreated. . He has stayed off my property.
Does he have IED, or just a narcissistic individual that never grew up? Is my ignoring him the best way to handle this person? Feedback for my anxiety would be helpful.
hope you sort it out Margie :( that sounds horrible , please speak to more people in your community/ family especially / friends / professionals ,
all the best
Sounds like my dad!
I really have this problem with my anger. I get angry very easily even for those little things and sometimes I even get angry for nothing. I always tell myself to control my anger and think before doing something I might regret. but every time I get angry it's just like my mind blacks out like I've been possessed and my ability to think just disappears and the next thing I know I already did something terrible. In most cases, hurting someone. In some cases, I'm conscious but I just can't control my hand and mouth. If I'm conscious and my mind doesn't blackout, I turn my anger into tears. My brother told me I'am a crybaby with a bad attitude. I really want to overcome this, cause I don't want to hurt people anymore physically.
Hi Tracey, thank you for always putting up such great videos! I wanted to see if you might be able to cover this topic - or maybe already have. I’d like to know some tips for how to help friends when you notice things changing with them in a worrying way. Recently a friend of mine started losing weight quickly and has become kind of obsessed - for lack of a better word - with tummy teas and workout plans and cutting out and only eating certain foods in a way that I can see affecting her life. I want to help but don’t know how/what would actually be useful for her for me to say/do. I brought it up to her sister, who I'm also friends with, but she blew it off and said that she's fine.
Is there a time when it’s appropriate and helpful for the person going through something for a friend to bring it up? And how should one go about that? Or is there something else that’s better? Especially in circumstances where you don't see anyone else in their life taking it seriously. I really appreciate any insight you have into this! Thank you!
Let me see what I can come up with. There’s not one universal answer it depends on your circumstances. Thanks for your question
@@DrTraceyMarks Thank you!! I truly appreciate any insight you might have.
Please continue to talk to her family. Family members are not always observant, and since they see the person on a daily basis, don't notice gradual changes. Sometimes they just don't want to admit that anything is wrong. I had a close friend in grad school who was anorexic/bulimic. I was concerned about her and tried to talk to her husband, who was also a close friend. He passed it off saying that she had always been picky about food. A few months later, she died. I wish I had been more persistent.
I've been getting anger attacks lately. It's honestly really annoying, I would end up destroying something.
My sister has some weird symptoms and she gets mad or harms the ones she loves, and has the need to hit someone especially me, some time ago my father was almost kidnapped and she revealed this weird things about her and I'm wondering if there is any mental disorder that she could have
I'm very worried
It’s hard to say based on what you’ve said because that kind of behavior can be present and other disorders. But it sounds like some kind of compulsion she has. OCD is a disorder where people have compulsions and obsessions but people can have compulsions in other scenarios as well. Here’s a video I did on OCD ua-cam.com/video/bYm8kdGmpeA/v-deo.html
Dr. Tracey Marks thank you very much i appreciate you're help
Dr Marks,
I’m sure you read some of the comments . You’re making some people realize they could have this IED .I’m glad you did this video for me .sorry for pestering you about it but it turned out awesome 👏. Unfortunately this sounds like my father 100% and also unfortunately a bit like me I put plenty of holes through doors hollow doors of course . Life is so difficult with mental illness I have a suggestion for your next video or to come how about(. Living with psychosis ) this would be also very educational for people who don’t understand people like me with bipolar disorder and potentially IED .
Thank you 🙏
General repair
Hi General Repair. I was hoping you wouldn't miss this. 😊 I'm not sure about the living with psychosis. That sounds like it should come from the person affected - kind of like in an interview and I don't do interviews (not set up for it). Gary at Bipolar Corner has a lot of videos talking about his personal experience. His diagnosis was changed to schizoaffective d/o so he has the psychotic symptoms. There's another channel called living well with schizophrenia. She talks about her experiences. You may want to check them out.
Dr Marks
Is bipolar disorder not considered a psychosis ? Thank you for the recommendations but I think I’ll stick with your channel .
Dr Tracey Marks 🤔Wow i Had know idea of this!! This is literally just Like my wife thanks and just like her Dad and 🤔 and therapy has Not been able too help or Identity Anything so i will bring this up next time thanks so much💜🙏🏼
You’re welcome Uriel!
How is it going? I feel that this gives me a greater context on my wife and her father. I am not sure what to do- her anger has killed my desire to be with her. But we now have a nine month old.
My dad are paternal grandmother had IED... kindof scared now. I’m 19 but both of them didn’t start having outbursts until their 40s
My sons started around 18 months