I have dated both black and white men, for me what matters the most is the individual's personality, not so much the race. Being comfortable in your skin is also very important.
Honey, idgad about someone's race either.... (we not on no racetrack lol) what makes it a deal for me is how the person treats me, and how courteous they are to others in my presence... I love everybody
You are right but white men have always been the type of men who wanted what a black woman had in her panties, they did when I was a child back in the 50's had sex with the black women they would get mad enough to kill if he saw a black man looking at his woman.The law would lock a black man up for having sex with a white women but they would not do the same if they knew that a white man was having sex with a black women it was no law on that around the world in all countries. Their women have talked to me many times how sorry they were in the bedroom. There was black girl I knew who was going to marry a white man, and her mother told her she heard they were not that good in bed, she did it anyway because her faith taught her not to do it until she was married, she came back and told her mother she was right, there was no joy for her in that part of the marriage the mother told her she need to stay with him because they were married, she was a Jehovah witness, they never had children, I guess he didn't want any, those men will marry a black woman but they don't want their children looking mixed. That is wrong because most women want a child but some of those men say no, because of the way they may look.
I am a black woman and married to a white man. I call him my Italian stallion. I have never been treated better. This man loves my soul. Ten years going strong. Black women step out, you deserve to be loved too.
I am a black woman married to a black man for 20 years. I would not trade our closeness and culturally in sync and he gets the black experience. That said, the white man + black woman marriage is statistically last longer than white man + white woman or black man + white woman relationships. So that says to me that black women make excellent wives when our needs are met in a marriage no matter the race of her husband.
I really think that black women are put their so much by their men., tbh. Not that none of them are a problem in their relationship, but I think the biggest problem as a whole is with the men. I bet that they only want what is important, support and love, protection, a man that provides...at least by the time that they usually consider White men. I think white men enjoy how laid back and appreciative black women can be, when compared to white women. I think these traits just mesh so well. Anyway, I hope to see more happy black women, they deserve it. I'm glad that more white men are seeing the underappreciated innate beauty of black women.
@AceBoogie_ OP's right, it's pretty well known that black woman/white man marriages are among the most stable for whatever reason. Those two don't seem to divorce anywhere near the rates of black couples and white couples.
I agree but it's really hard to change, no matter where you go or look, anything will be sexualized in a way and the people growing up in this sexualized environment wont notice most of the time
But it is part of a healthy relationship just like communication can be said to be the basis of a good relationship whether it be romantic or work!#THOSE ARE THE FACTS
You dont start a relationship solely based on the partners sex skills.. But... I´m a horny man and I want to get some... Especially after a long, hard day.
There is a certain power & comfort that comes from dating your own kind. Shared culture, beliefs, shared experiences, shared community. There is a comfort & familiarity built into these relationships there is less stress from families etc. Yet, the fact you posted dating black is "to settle for less" says a lot about you proving you're bringing negativity to the relationship. Black women are free to date whomever wants to date them. But just based upon their political beliefs and their cultural images black women are not the preferred choice for marriage partners or dates. Most black women are democrat while most white men are republican. Black women are feminist yet, most white men are traditionalist. Black women are complaining about emasculated black males? That is what you wanted. Well if black men want to exert his masculinity after centuries of suppression that shouldn't surprise BM they don't want masculine, domineering, boss women. Black women can date the gender-bending, politically correct mate sharing, sexually, ambiguous males, who are democrats though. But don't talk about wanting providers when you are strident feminists. Feminists don't like men and they don't need men.
Married to a strong Afro-latina and I am blessed by her being my wife... she isn't just black to me... she is my warmth and happiness... she fills my world with joy... and when I wake up next to her she is the first thing on my mind... and when I go to sleep she is the last thing on my mind... its that simple... I don't see my wife as black... she's just my wife to me...
@@israeliana when you are in an interracial relationship it’s not becoming color blind but you start to see the person first and race comes after because we are just people at the end of the day. It happens naturally and not intentionally. So his wife is just his wife who happens to be black instead of her being his “black wife”. Honestly after a while you just don’t care about the race of your partner anymore anyways 🤷🏾♀️.
@@Denise99881 I don’t think that’s what people mean when they say “ I don’t see color”. They are saying they dont care about color. To be honest women carry and preserve culture and we always keep our culture when we date other races. I honestly feel like if race and racism is someone’s main topic to focus on than they should not date interracially because they are mentally not ready. I am always woman first and then black.
@@Denise99881 ma’am why are you so pressed? everyone you come in contact with is not racist because they say “I don’t see color” y’all are so focused on the past and can’t function properly without thinking about racism and it’s really sickening. I don’t need to research anything and I am almost 100% positive that you are not expert on the issue. Most of y’all are bigoted and racist hypocrites yourselves. Turn that mirror to yourself and look in it. I am not sensitive and I don’t feel inferior about being black Therefore I don’t care about that type of statement and neither should you unless that is affecting you Economically, your health or your freedom. Most people like you are literal B- male identified perpetual victims.
As a white dude I have always found black women fascinating, smart and damn funny. I just want the black ladies out there to know a lot of white guys find you attractive but we feel like you are not interested in us, you ladies just feel so unattainable. I think the media and entertainment need to show more white men and black women couples to show that it isnt some scary thing to avoid. I love black women and it hurts my soul that so many will be alone.
Been hearing that a lot...that white men don't think we're interested. How do we come across as approachable and interested while still leaving the chase to you guys? And another question...If certain white men are afraid to step out of the shadows, is that predictive of future behavior, i.e. indicative of an inability to speak up to their friends, coworkers, family, strangers, when issues of discrimination and racism arise? Thoughts?
@@allisonkalloo2293 it’s deeper than that. White men are conditioned to look at white women and naturally act aggressive as their fathers did. It’s about the environment, where do most black women and white men even meet now? A College campus? Yeah Jus know Brad from Iowa City probably went to high school with 0 black girls. Does that mean there’s no hope? Not at all just meet some dude in a class that is looking for a women with shared goals and interests rather than only satisfying sexual needs.
My husband is white, and I'm black. I have never been treated better. When I couldn't find what I needed in my own race. I changed my mate must haves.. Let's just say, he made my choice very easy.
Well..., white men are also treated far better than bm. So they aren't given the same opportunities, and wm aren't hunted down like animals. So dont pat yourself on the back just yet. It's not all good, with society as a whole. And wm involvement in it.
@@waylonmccrae3546 Yes does Amaud Arbery ring a bell. Does being killed because if a broken tail light ring a bell? Does low quality education, and liquor stores on every block im black neighborhoods sound familiar ? Does higher interest rates for black and brown people, and denials of ownership in certain neighborhoods, systematic racism in healthcare sound familiar? End of lesson! If you don't know that's on you!
Whoa... I have actually had more positive experiences with WM than BM. All the men who introduced me to their families were white or Asian. Here's my worst story with someone white that could be directly attributed to being black: Was on a date with a WM and to make a long story short, my wig caught on fire. I panicked, ripped it off my head and threw it away from me. Needless to say I was completely mortified! This was date #3 with this guy, who didn't know I wore wigs. This WM didn't bat an eyelash. He put out the fire, made sure I wasn't burned, picked up the wig, but instead of handing it back to me, he asked why I wore it, and would I be comfortable showing him my real hair. I went in a bathroom and took out all my cornrows, did the best I could to comb my hair with my fingers, and stepped out looking a hot mess. What he said next changed my life. He simply said if I like wigs, feel free to wear them, but my real hair was just as beautiful, and he hoped I wasn't trying to hide such lovely hair with a wig. I eventually stopped wearing wigs or braids with him after that. Conversations about bonnets, overwhelming hair products, "wash day", police brutality, growing up black, were super easy because he was just focused on learning about my experience, and what did I need to feel safe and loved. Two years later we got married. I still actively participate in Black causes that affect black teens, and I am still every bit a black woman. My husband is a wonderful ally. We travel the world together, and he educates himself on where I might not be treated the same as him, and how does he need to show up in those instances to make sure I am safe, both as a black person AND as a woman. I wouldn't trade his character, protectiveness, integrity, values, sense of family, thoughtfulness, ability to take care of me for swag ever. Not for one minute.
@@nnebundoannaobi1386 I met him in a weekend personal development workshop. We had to pick partners for an exercise and I randomly picked him. We've been inseparable ever since.
@@Onebaybeedoll That's lovely, thanks for sharing your story. As a young African woman it helps to hear from black women who have found healthy relationships
@@nnebundoannaobi1386 It's really sad how hard it is to find healthy people. I met my hubby after searching for 14 years and certainly dealt with my share of crazy. I wish you all the best, and my best advice is to keep working to ensure your inner world is beautiful, and to always focus on your femininity.
How can I like this a thousand times 🥺🥰🥰 ,same here girl, I got my natural locs and that attracted my hubby like crazy. The whole point is these guys know how to respect and appreciate what they love🤷 and that is what's important
Sad thing is that BW in the Jean jacket, whose caping hard for BM; will end up single & lonely! Because BM aren’t checking for overweight BW like that 😣 Many BM prefer to date outside their race. So why stay loyal to BM who aren’t staying loyal to you 🤦🏽♀️ I’ll pray for her lol
@@ao8271 You sound like you don't know facts over falsehoods. BM are checking for BM who don't fit into their little box of horrors. BM don't want to be held accountable, nor do they want to be responsible for their actions & words. They want women to lower their standards and want BW to go 1/2 on dates and potentially on a lifestyle that will require her to give more than him. NOOOOO. We aren't going for that.
@@Truthseeker8morethan92 where I live, the BM date latinas and white girls and put them on a pedestal 🤷♀️ Non-black women are BM’s preferences nowadays. So where tf you been 🙄
Black men, in general, still struggle with empathizomg with Black women. Character and how he treats/ lift you up is most important. I've dated and received that emotional support from men of all races. Empathy doesn't require experience. Narcissist need experience to empathize. There are good Black men, White Men, Asian, and other men out there. Stop this horrible narrative and get to know people individually.
Definitely the best advise I’ve seen on this thread. What I tend to see is women comparing white men who they had standards for to black men who they didn’t have standards for. And what you get from that is all the comments I see in this thread.
Struggle with empathizing with black women ? But you putting white men up on a pedestal... study history much ? or at all... Stockholm Syndrome is in full effect
BM and BW are in a perpetual state of ‘war’ because of the culture war vultures not allowing wounds to heal. They keep the cycle going if BM subconsciously feeling like BW had it easier for centuries and BW will continue to shame BM for not being able to keep them safe in past centuries. Imo the root to finally moving on to the next phase of reconciliation between B&W is B people ‘claiming’ their European ancestry and learning about the context in which they came to the US. I’m Scottish born and raised (half Irish ancestry but great grandparents) and I can tell you for a fact that the first wave of slaves in NA were Scottish and Irish rebels. Scottish people were genuinely oppressed by England for 700 years before the Acts of Union (by modern definition England still oppressed Scotland because it can refuse an independence referendum but the reverse cany happen so ‘unfair authority=oppressed lol). Including ethnic cleansing, famine, forced disarmament and a whole host of other brutal nonsense. The Irish faced even worse and to this day their island is haunted by the spectre of colonialism being partitioned. If you actually learn the history of Western Europe pre slavery you might be surprised to see that conditions weren’t all that better in Europe.
When she said black men let us feel strong and protected. My mouth dropped straight to the floor. It's fascinating how black women drop their standards without a thought for black men but their standards go higher for nonblack men. When the young lady in the jeans said there is so much about black for eg. their swag which is unique, I roll my eyes, what swag the one that turns their community into more single mothers. The young lady in the orange who said white men don't know when to listen and how to communicate with black women shows how poorly her selection is. I mean you are ready to talk about how blunt or bias white men is, but a blackman can talk about your fake hair, you fat you know what, you plastered makeup. Noone is more critical of black women than black men.Truth be told, 99% of successful, educated black men do not choose within their black community, the statistics and evidence are out there. Bad guest selection Marlie.
FOH!!! You can't say that about all BM, and it seems like you hate BM. I bet you are cool with a WM calling you a racist name??? BW like you are the problem. And there is no such thing as lowering standards. Just because a woman has a degree or a good job doesn't make her better than a BM who doesn't have those things.
If you have never in your life seen black men who stay with and love black women after 20 years or more, then i only feel pity for you and your personal trauma you are projecting on others. Not sure why you want your experience to be hers.
@@emmanuelasu9246it’s 2023. These dudes not taking her serious. I can guarantee the bm she attract needs her to some degree 50/50. They go off of looks way more than any other race I’ve seen so far.
This is the comment I was looking for. She’s going to eventually change her mind because the current state of black relationships statistically is not looking favorable for her,
For years, we have seen black men with white women. Even decades ago, I told my sister that things would change, and black men and white women would be very angry with the change, because in the future, white men would be choosing black women. And now it is happening. White men are choosing black women and vice-versa at a record pace. Now white women are jealous and so are black men. But guess what? Too bad. Times are changing and we are changing with the times!
What's funny is if Black Men don't see Black Women as desirable...what makes Black men think Black women see other Black men as desirable? Talk about a big conceited ego and assumption about how ALL black women think!!!!!
I was married to a black man who was very well Educated and quite handsome, hes up with every woman in San Francisco black white Asian anyone who would sleep with him. I spent many lonely days. Once I left him, I met the most wonderful white man we were together 30 years. Such such a peaceful, loving relationship. Never another women involve. Thank you lord for that peaceful period in my life.
What was a horrible experience , Joe and I We were walking through. Greenwich village In new york city, a black man saw us together and said "Hay old White man How much did you pay for that Slave?? I will buy her back from you. and I
Yep, I see that in most black men not being satisfied with one woman, one love. I'm not saying all, but I have seen them do this behavior in large portions
@@SunshineState-ou7pr ALL OF THEM ARE THE SAME DONT MATTER THE TAX BRACKET.. OR HOW PRETTY OR WELL BW TREAT THEM.. HELL THEY CHEAT ON HAILLE BERRY, BEYONCE ETC..
Oh also, my husband understands micro aggressions and things like that. Having biracial children made him more empathetic. These women are not representative of the women dating other races of men SERIOUSLY. If your husband is not empathetic to ra usual issues affecting you, he’s not that into you.
What's interesting is how much BW are expected to contextualize the BM "struggle" but yet BM who folks claim are the "only" ones who can "relate" to BW doesn't seem to have the ability to contextualize the BW experience. In addition, if all that was said about why BM date out was because of BW being to strong etc...they why aren't BM seeking African black women instead of non-BW I will tell you why because 1) they are usually not interested in blackness 2) BW live in a BM worshipping community and BM feel that BW are not worthy of them and we are not the prize and 3) BM seems to know BW "value" when they NEED BW but they have no desire to uplift their children or women,
I am a white man who wants to date a black woman and this video really helps me see things from the woman's side of things. She is very beautiful and that is why I want to know more about her. I have never dated a black woman before but I am not worried about it too much. I have been divorced for 4 years and am very happy being single if it doesn't work out, but she was so pretty I couldn't help but try to talk to her. She is a person to me, a human being and a very attractive one. She isn't black and I am not white. I am not going into this with color boundaries at all. I really hope she feels the same way.
Meh, the weight/size is gonna be a problem with most men. It's not brainwashing, it's biology, most men want a woman who is smaller than them... Nobody hates her... And nobody needs to be ashamed of their preference... You should be ashamed for trying to shame men for their natural preferences...
@@living9377 Interesting you point out the two girls who are NOT overweight as "fine"... But when men do it, that is, express preferences for smaller, thinner, normal, healthy-sized women, they are shamed for doing so... I have no idea why men you see do what they do... I do know, most men, whatever their colour, religion, ethnicity, culture want a simple (QUIET) life, with a cooperative, supportive, easy-going woman...
Tequila White - What black men can be provide? Lollllll black women are literally carrying the households monetarily and emotionally, even with shared culture. Can someone tell me if she is single?
Black women in the white male population of the U.S. have an absolutely stellar reputation... and the look of shock on many of their faces when told this is practically amusing. They are known for being gentle, attentive, humorous, educated, comforting, excellent cooks and even better lovers. (Call me sexist for those last two items but that's just tough. Men like good food and great loving...too bad if that offends.) Many of the black women I've met feel under-appreciated if they're even appreciated at all. My woman and I have been together for years and I love her as much now as the day that I first fell for her. She is my greatest source of joy. God bless her.
@prominence6922 Rolls Royce has the reputation of making the world's best cars. How many people drive them? Tour d'Argent has the reputation of being one of the best restaurants in Europe. How many people have eaten there? Stradivarius makes the world's greatest violins. How many people own one? There might be varying reasons as to why but the reputation stands. And although interracial relationships have lost a good amount of taboo in our day & age, it's still out there. My angel and I have gotten the occasional look but I don't have a friend in the world (and I do mean on a couple of continents) who don't envy me the beautiful, excellent black woman whom I've loved going on six years. American black women are the gold standard, like it or not.
She definitely interesting I hope she has this amazing BM providing for her and making her feel feminine and awesome because she is going hard especially as a dark-skin BW.
I had both parents in my home and my mom never worked a day in her life, and I have dated out of my race all of my life. But you have to remember that most black men don’t want to do what it takes to be that great boyfriend or husband like my dad and my brothers.
The woman with the jean shirt on 🙄. Why in world would you date any guy who is not an ally??? If he ain't cool enough to handle and hang with your family and friends why would you even be with him at all
I'm Hispanic and Native American man , my woman of my life is a Afro latina she strong will and self confidence , and she very beautiful ! She a Navy officer! And we love each other ! I'm very Happy and also I'm a lucky man to have her in my life. And I thank God for that !!
Let's just say there are alot bm out there, who really hated their single mothers. They never realized the struggles, and how the woman had to be the man and the woman in the house. Instead of appreciating her for being the one parent who took on 100% of their parental responsibilities. They need to realize she wasn't perfect, but was there for him, and she did the best she could.
Exactly what I thought. How do you rule out a group of people when you haven’t even give it a chance? Just because someone is a black man doesn’t mean they understand your plight as a black woman.
@Sabonis 3000 ok you need to stop your crap. Your saying all this probably because you assume I hate Bm? Well I don’t. I just don’t think it’s healthy to only want Bm because Bm don’t really like bw like that. I’m sure you know all about how Bm abuse bw mentally and physically, so I’m not getting into that. As for bw who date out: there are all sorts of bw who date out not just the “pretty ones.” And if these non black men are choosing non bw or bw than why do you see bw getting with non bw? Prince Harry stood by Meghan and in a way, protected her by getting her away from that toxic place that made her life a living hell. And just because Halle Berry had 2 failed relationships doesn’t mean it’s the end of the world and dating out is bad. Relationships fail all the time regardless of who your with. And they are bw married to rich non Bm and no if you don’t want to do your own research and find out for yourself then leave me alone. I’m not going to do it for you.Why do you have such a foul attitude anyway? Where did I even mention dating out? You seem bitter that some bw are no longer just focused on Bm only are dating out otherwise you wouldn’t have mentioned non Bm.
@Sabonis 3000 And by the way I have never dated outside my race and I’m no “fool who will trade in pride for temporary life case.” What are you even talking about? You say that like Bm collectively provide bw a safe in environment to thrive in. Only few do that. What are Bm offering bw collectively that we should only date them? Your the fool here who can’t let people be with who ever they want to be with.Btw bw and non black men relations actually last long idiot.
I've dated everyone. White, black, Asian, Egyptian, Tunisian, Latino, who am I missing, mixed ethnicities. Everyone has their pros and cons just matter if you vibe and can communicate. I still love my black men but I've also been most hurt by them.
Some BW are miserable by choice because they are waiting for a standard that they will never meet in a single lifetime. I've dated all races but I find that there are more BW than any other race who choose to only stick to their own race and then they stay alone for decades and then complain that men need to "man up" and find her. As is she doesn't have to put any work of her own into the search. It's self prescribed misery and it's very difficult to find sympathy for them that willingly choose this way of life and then complain about it.
Yes, I agree BW are the most race loyal out of every other female ethnic group. While BM are the most disloyal out of every male ethnic group. A lot of older BW refuse to date out, but gen X aren’t playing. 😂 I have soooooooo many single BW in my family who are over 40. I’m married to an Eastern European man. Best relationship I’ve ever had. I say all this to say BW need to open their options. We are the most loyal to a group of men who could care less. I took that loyalty trait and matched it with someone who matched me. I’ve convinced two women in my family so far to open their dating pool. Let’s see what happens next year. I find when BW open this options. They are wife’d up pretty quickly.
@@kamigriff the rate is 5% for BW compared to 12% for BM I believe. The difference is double but mentioning this every time is so weird bc 90% still marry inside their race. You mean to tell me you can’t find 1 BM bc 12% marry outside their race?
@@DreKM243 You are correct most black men marry black women. Only 30% of black men marry. Of those 30% only 27% marry outside of their race. So that's 70% of men not marrying anyone. With those numbers, I'm wasn't waiting around for a unicorn that doesn't exist. I opened my dating pool at a young age. I never thought about dating outside of my race. My favorite 6th grade teacher in my majority white school told me to open my options. There was a nonblack boy who brought my stuffed animals, balloons, and flowers. He even bought me a necklace for my birthday. I turned him down every single time. She asked me why, and the only answer I could give her was because he was not black. I'm not going to tell you everything she said, because you don't care. She planted a seed in me, and it grew. I'm glad she did. My husband is the best man I ever dated. I have two female cousins on my mothers side who are married one to a Bm, and the other is mixed man. I have one on my fathers side who is married. Can you guess how many female relatives I have who are single, and single mothers. one grand parent had 13 kids the other 11. each of my aunts and uncles had children I'm one of 5. The majority are women. They're all highly educated queens with most of us having masters degrees. some own their own businesses, some are in healthcare (nurses/NPs), others work high up in companies. They're still waiting on their Kangz some in their early 50s. My older sisters are finally listening to me. I'm planting the seeds in my family, friends, and any black woman who will listen. The real question isn't to us black women. That's a question you need to talk to black men about. Why are only 30% of black men marrying?
@@rolondabest7500And what do "sistas" provide! BBLs, fake horse hair, demonic looking eyelashes, and a lifetime of pain! White women for this brother, p!ease...
I personally haven’t had to deal with my Eastern European husband not understanding micro aggressions. He isn’t with me because I’m black. The guests were horrible. We talk about social issues, and he can EMPATHIZE with my plight as a BW in America. He’s seen how black people are treated, and talked about when others think they are in a safe space. I dated everyone, and I’ve honestly never dealt with being fetishized by people of no color. I’m light skin, lighter than Marlie. Ive been fetishized by black men more for colorist reasons. I do find Europeans are less likely to be worried about race than Americans. I say all this to say. Women open your options. Do not limit yourselves. You can find horrible men in any ethnic group. Biologically you are supposed to be the pickers of mates not men. Take birds for example, Males are colorful peacocking for the female who does the choosing.
In Europe nationality and culture are what truly holds meaning not colour of your skin. Im Scottish and I have more affinity for black Americans (don’t use silly hyphens for any group) than I do for ‘the English’ 🤣🏴. A continuous black presence in Europe is also relatively new (post ww2) and the populations in European countries aren’t as diverse as they are in the US so racial politics are of no real use.
The therapist was on point with how she carried herself and her way of thinking. Jean jacket and orange sweater should definitely book a few sessions with her because they need some guidance and coaching.
LOL. Therapist needs the stats too. She said it was okay to date a man out of jail. Those relationships have high failure rates. The woman does all the work.
I’ve dated several non black races. Where I’ve had to explain how I feel most as a women and a first generation, child of immigrants is with a black man. I either heard I overreacted or I didn’t understand his world or opinion. I’m Haitian, middle class and I’ve been exposed p a lot of different things. Dating men who are the opposite and mature, some don’t have the capacity at a certain age to learn about women who have experienced life differently or to be simply open minded. Maybe I’ve dated the wrong black men. I look at people as people so I need more than a certain color. I want to be treated right, treat him right and be happy. I don’t want to have to curse someone out to be black enough. Anyways, I am in a place where I’m embracing working on me to prepare for who is a good match for me. Have a great day, who ever reads this. Be blessed!
No mo mo no no no! All im hearing is a lack of self confidence. Do not focus on them. We focus too too much on them. Have it in your mind that there are many fishes in the sea. Be open minded and have some confidence that if you dont want me there are others waiting to come forward!
I wish this conversation was among professionals and not single experiences. I'm married to a white man and my experience is totally different from the participation. Also if you have never dated white man you can't share your opinion...sorry. And for the dear interviewer if you being passive aggressive is not professional...she was totally throwing shade on the girl who dated white guys.
And when he gets racially disrespectful to you, don't come back home!!! Too many SELLOUTS in our culture, BM and BW. I noticed that a lot of you swirlers wear "Locs" to pretend that you are still proud of being black. FOH
I don't care who you are, or what color your SKIN is; EVERYONE needs love. More power and happiness to whomever has found what they consider to be true love ❤️! I'm truly happy for ALL y'all!😁💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
It is refreshing to hear women of colour discussing interracial relationships. As an intellectual woman of mixed heritage looking for a man with a similar outside. Although I am single, childless and spiritual I am not expecting to meet a man who is childless, it is still hard to meet white men who are available. There is always hope and prayer keeps me sane! FDH LLB MA
Definitely get out there and take a chance! The majority of my relationships have been with white men, tbh. My husband is white and we’ve been together since 2005. I, personally, don’t have anything against black men at all! I just seem to have interests that align more with white men, I suppose? All I can say is go where you are loved and appreciated regardless of color/race.
I’m 1/2 Swedish quarter Irish and quarter Native American! To be honest I love black women and Asian women because they aren’t so pompous and self centered! Go ahead and tell me that I’m full of shit! I would love to be with an equal of mine!
I'm demisexual and for me dating in the Era of FWB, sneaky links, Netflix & chill etc has left me with little to no options. I'm pretty much asexual in the beginning of relations. I love starting off as friends but that word has become so taboo today. They mistake this for permanent friend zoning lol...the only guys who've took the time to understand were WM. They don't pressure into anything....
Your view is unfortunately so uncommon these days and I really respect you for respecting yourself and filtering out men that are there for the wrong reason.
As a white man, I have to comment on Marlie's beauty. I've always been a guy who sees beauty in women of all races. Part of the privilege of being white, I suppose, is that our ethnicity doesn't play a part in deciding our character. There's no social pressure to behave a certain way because we look a certain way. We have the freedom to be individuals and decisive on who we choose as our peer group. With that being said, most white people are much more open and excepting of dating outside our race because there typically isn't that social expectation of who we're going to end up with, as long as they're a person of quality.
I totally agree with you...White people are free to be individuals and are celebrated for it... I decided long ago that I would claim my freedom to be myself and not worry what other people who happen to have the same skin tone as me think of what i do... Much happier for it...
I can agree with that. I do feel like white men are afraid to approach me but they are very open to me when they get to know me. Then tell me their reaction of how laid back and cool I am and that I'm not that "black girl stereotype"
By the way this lady (based on her bad experiences) is not painting the right picture about us. I understand that black people still do go through alot of crap and that part of that is people assuming things about them because of bad stereotypes. Im not going to negate that at all. But shes coming from bad experiences and is painting a picture based on those experiences. I just dont think shes the best guest for talking about white men. Maybe its because im a musician but i have alot of personality, swagger, whatever people want to call it. By the way we tend to reveal more as you go. Sometimes we may seem boring but end up having alot of personality and senses of humor as you go. Im a white man and grew up around white man and had white man friends so i have the inside scoop. Im not going to speak bad about black men because 1 thats not me and 2 your brothers and dads are black men and im not going to be disrespectful but if yall are having problems with any of them venture off and dont be on some i have to stay in my race out of loyalty thinking. What if God has different plans for you? And about yall not being found attractive ive heard whites and mexicans and more talk about how theyd date yall and find yall attractive. Alot of men in other races have this perception that yall just want black which is one reason why yall might not be getting pursued by men other races. As for me im going to go out and pursue what i want especially because i know a woman is wired for a man whatever race she is.
@@jasminealexander5050 can you imagine what this world would be like if we disciplined ourselves to let our words be only good and only truth through careful consideration and a realization that goodness is the only thing that has true value?
@@truthonly6498 That world would be paradisimo. I would love to live in that world but sadly this is our reality. It doesn't mean we have succumb to its meaningless hatred. You are right that valuing one another is something we all can apply in our lives.
@@jasminealexander5050 only God can make a perfect world, because only God has a perfect heart to drive perfect actions and words only and a perfect heart void of the possibility of imperfection. Jesus is the perfect perfectionist Who made that perfectly clear by being perfectly willing to die for sinners and therefore imperfect so that they could be made perfect and have perfect harmony With God the Perfect. Perfect sacrifice for the good of others is to the fullest extent , the act of dying for us leaving nothing more that can be done.
I wish the host had had more women on the panel that could speak to more than just the stereotypes and superficial things (like swag or having to explain something, if you are in a relationship, you should be willing to explain, teach and educate your partner, black or white, it’s called communication and besides, as a women, there are a myriad of things you may need to explain to black men too) I would have preferred a more astute panel that could speak to what the two types of relationships each brought to the table in as they relate to basic human needs as described by Maslow (self actualization, esteem, love & acceptance, safety & security, physiological). As demonstrated in the video clip of Lonnie Love. I will say though, the questions asked by the host and the concepts expressed by the Dr (the person in white top, I believed she said was a doctor) tried to get the conversation to a deeper level. But it just wasn’t happening.
I notice the only things most bw say that they love about bm is their swag.....and nothing else. They never mention their integrity, their intelligence, how well they are with children, how they provide or protect. The only thing bw seem to care about and require when it comes to bm is that he has a penis (doesn't matter how many diseases are oozing from it) and that he has swag.......I find it funny that bm even want bw to lower their standards even more.
Color isn't the issue. Self worth is. Make sure that white man your with Lori that loves you for you and not because of what you can afford him. and the woman in the denim shirt, needs to sit down. Both her and the woman with the bamboo earrings seem like broken toys and im not saying that woman is a toy but its more metaphorical. It is hard to heal a broken person. You have to know your worth, even at your lowest
She is very macho,,, she is looking for a man to build hold doowwwn like a STRONG BLACK WOMEN ,, also the white jumper,,, I mean to be open to criminals,,, no madam
"certain swag and flavour blk men have that cant be duplicated" oh really.. this "swag" you talk of clearly isnt working otherwise these blk women wouldnt be here having this discussion 🤣🤣🤣
Date abroad/international. Get a passport. Applications @ post office. $150 for 10 years. Dated a Ghanaian. He was kind, made laugh, easy to talk to. Appreciated my beauty. Black women, love 💘, who loves/ respects you.
I keep hearing about race. It's not race, so much, it's culture. So whether it's a White, Latin, Indian, Asian, etc., it's going to be different because of culture, not the color of one's skin!
The lady at the 5minute mark is definitely correct about the situation of having to explain things to a partner that is not your race. I have dated both white and black and I will say there is a nice ease that comes with being able to express myself and understand that they know why and everything does not have to be a learning point. With that being said I am engaged to a white guy and the reason it works is because he is willing to learn. Positives on both sides just gotta be willing.
BM and BW need to stop the trauma cycle by ignoring the race hustlers and ‘activists’ who do more harm than good and only tear open healing wounds. BP from former colonies would be well suited to claiming their European ancestry and learning about it. Learning about the context in which the European immigration happened could very well bring you some peace. Right now the narrative is ‘white people are just evil’ but the reality is closer to, formerly oppressed white people wete cleared off their land and left for the colonies with nowhere else to go. They got there and are then given total and absolute authority over another group considered subhuman and as history proves every time the oppressed when the roles are reversed will do the same thing (think Israel, Rwanda, Yugoslavia, Ukraine). ‘Stanford prison experiment’ and in a sense ‘house slave’ complex’y
I started being open to dating white men 6 yrs ago bc I realized they were interested in me. I just broke up with a white man who loves black women. He was married to a sista and he has biracial children. His good qualities were very appealing and sexy and damn great. I appreciated not having to explain a blk woman's nuances. He is comfortable being with blk women. I loved him putting his hand in and playing with my sister locks. It was great. He just understood that part of me.
@Danny Owens He couldn't handle me and told me he wasnt ready for a serious relationship. And yes, I will acknowledge the great parts of the relationship. He has great qualities that I appreciated. And that's it.
@Danny Owens no he didn't. I'm saying he's not willing to face his pain. The narrative u r trying to label here is not reflective in this situation. So dont try to force a square peg on a round hole.
I am a 48 year old white (Italian) man. I dated black women years ago. The amount of racist comments and hate that I got from black men at the time were terrible.
I’m a white man (23) who’s been dating a black woman (22) for about 5 months. It’s my first time dating outside of my race and her first time dating a white guy for an extended period of time. This video came up in my recommended and I’m really glad I watched, it was really nice to hear all of your perspectives on this subject - I’ve been learning as I go and trying to be cognizant of societal pressures that she might face. We’ve talked a lot about this and I’m glad we can have an open dialogue on race and how it impacts our relationship.
I recently started dating an Italian guy but haven’t dated a white guy in over 10 years. It felt strange at first but one day I just said kiss me and grabbed his face towards me. I didn’t even think about color after that.
International? In Europe there is no They vs Us, Black men and women will date white people as easily as black people and are all the one culture, we don't have slavery hanging over our heads or the racism that has haunted America for 400 years, Black people are equal in every way to white or any other color, simply put, Black women are beautiful, but they are not seen as Black, they are either Irish, French, British, Spanish etc, they are simply women.
I'm a product of a black mother and white father and I love it! My mom said in some of her experience white men are more attentive, romantic, and not to believe the stereotypes that white men are lacking because it wasn't true just like every black man is blessed down there.
My first time dating outside my race and he's white. We had our first date last wknd & the entire date he treated me like a Queen. He made me feel so seen, heard and truly appreciating me. I have never in my entire life had a man do that. Here I was thinking all I wanted to do was marry a BM, until I met my boo. My WM is so gentle with me! The date consisted of: bar arcade, star gazing, nightly boardwalk & long talks. I have never had no BM ask me to go star gazing! 😅 - that excited me to the core to go look at some stars 😂! But frfr I hope my WM & I work out ❤
I am a black man and I was married for 39 years to a black woman, my wife passed away 2 years ago. Skin color is not important in a relationship loving each other is important. This is unbelievable, in those 39 years I never had a day of arguing with my wife. My wife was sick I took care of her every day for 6 years .Things are going well between us because we fit together. I live in the Netherlands, marrying a white woman is different and sometimes it doesn't go well because the culture is different. If I get married again I want to marry a woman from my own culture. In the Netherlands, many black women date a white men.
I so enjoyed this discussion! I appreciate all of these beautiful black women being realistic . I can understand all of the viewpoints the women had. I think I'm over the point of believing that I have to stay within my race when it comes to dating as a black woman. I just know that I have a winning personality and I would appreciate a man that has similar viewpoints as I do and is like minded and has a winning personality as well. I've actually been married to a black man in the past and unfortunately it didn't work and we divorced. I do think as a black woman that I shouldn't be looked down upon by my community if I don't want to limit myself to only black men. I think at the beginning and the end of every day a man is going to act like a man regardless of what color he is. Our cultures could possibly be different, but I think we are more alike then we think and what I mean is people of different cultures are more alike then we think regardless of what color or culture we are we all bleed the same color-red. I've just grown to the point in my life where I don't want to limit myself and possibly miss an ultimate experience of love because a person doesn't show the same skin tone as me. Love doesn't have a color. I think real love can come in any color and I'm definitely open to that.
There is only one race; the human race. When people catch on to this important and core understanding, then respect will be a place we can build relationships from irrespective of the colour of a persons skin.
Scientists prove you wrong, for there's 3 races. Caucasoid, Mongoloid, and Negroid. That's why God divided the races and ethnicities to different nations.
After talking to several brothers out and about, I realized that brothers are so kind and easy to talk to and be around like ol girl said. It's frustrating to continuously have to have that conversation with your white man sometimes on a daily it's going to get racial and it does cause me anxiety that I don't have when around black men.. the anxiety dealing with his family friends and society is a bit stressful. It dawned on me it's always been that way and frankly I'm tired. I'm tired of race being a topic of conversation on a daily because he may need to understand why blacks think this way or do things differently because... Just tired
Me too I’m dating a white man now for the first time never been treated so well I don’t know what I was waiting for after yrs of disrespect from black men I’d NEVER go back to black men period 🙅🏽♀️
@@missellz7630 Keep telling yourself that sweetie but when you get those odd looks and uncomfortable stares from other white people then you’ll know why.
I grew up in a mixed group of friends. Sometimes I would be asked by girls “are you Oreo?” I was to unknowingly young to understand. My life would have been so different if I did. Still I did date girls of different races, and wish I had been strong enough to withstand the racist comments I heard. It’s so sad ,but I still have hope the kids today will resist and be more open minded. I hope you all will be open to interracial relationships. I believe love is the answer to all the world’s problems.
Black men making you feeling guilty for dating white guys but they date white girls. i Love African women because they tret you amazing its not about color.
8:48 I just noticed the table was the shape of Africa now that is cool .props. A Nigerian 🇳🇬 brothers salutes what you did with the studio design.I like it.
I was born in Seattle in 1973, where I grew up. Japanese-American. Male. In 2012, I married a very pretty Black/Cherokee/White woman. We had a daughter in 2013, who is very pretty. For what qualifies as "10 year old love," the boys my daughter likes, are mostly White boys. It's likely that the boys she's going to date in high school will be White boys. So, on a younger scale, videos like this may be very helpful, in foreshadowing how she can help herself.
I am white and my wife is black. We have been married 18 years and never argue and she is my soul mate.
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Awww 🥺✨✨
Awww stephen so happy for your both its something i would love to be with someone special..x
Beautiful 😍
My best friend, a white man, has been married to a black woman for the last 26 years.
I have dated both black and white men, for me what matters the most is the individual's personality, not so much the race. Being comfortable in your skin is also very important.
Thank you!
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No real BLK man is dating u after u been with a wyt guy
Honey, idgad about someone's race either.... (we not on no racetrack lol) what makes it a deal for me is how the person treats me, and how courteous they are to others in my presence... I love everybody
You are right but white men have always been the type of men who wanted what a black woman had in her panties, they did when I was a child back in the 50's had sex with the black women they would get mad enough to kill if he saw a black man looking at his woman.The law would lock a black man up for having sex with a white women but they would not do the same if they knew that a white man was having sex with a black women it was no law on that around the world in all countries. Their women have talked to me many times how sorry they were in the bedroom. There was black girl I knew who was going to marry a white man, and her mother told her she heard they were not that good in bed, she did it anyway because her faith taught her not to do it until she was married, she came back and told her mother she was right, there was no joy for her in that part of the marriage the mother told her she need to stay with him because they were married, she was a Jehovah witness, they never had children, I guess he didn't want any, those men will marry a black woman but they don't want their children looking mixed. That is wrong because most women want a child but some of those men say no, because of the way they may look.
39 years married to a white man. Just love my man. That's it.
I’ll take a provider over a swagger any day…
Amen
I want a provider leader respect
Not swag
Chillleeeee
@@misguidedpearls7456 are you saying black men are not providers
@@veronicajata3121 🙌🏽
@@veronicajata3121 WITH A 'T' ON THE END OF THE LAST WORD IN THE SENTENCE!!!+
I am a black woman and married to a white man. I call him my Italian stallion. I have never been treated better. This man loves my soul. Ten years going strong. Black women step out, you deserve to be loved too.
I am so happy for you 🙂
Knowing this, I love on my Black queen. Peace and Blessings.
I’m currently dating a white man. This is my first time ever dating outside my race. He treats me so well I never had this before
I can understand why a black would date a white but for a white to date a black it takes a tremendous level of self hate.
I am a VIP (Venezuelan Italian Prince!) and my girl is my queen. I am her king. She's always right and I'm never wrong. Perfect!
I’ve had all races of men to approach me and the white man approach always seems to be more gentle/ respectful towards me then any other race.
Yes, they seem shy. I have them just stare.
So you've had Asian and Latino men hit on you too?
@Atzo we will and we will be happy because love is love
It’s so true!
@Atzo we are doing well and thriving ✌🏽
I am a black woman married to a black man for 20 years. I would not trade our closeness and culturally in sync and he gets the black experience. That said, the white man + black woman marriage is statistically last longer than white man + white woman or black man + white woman relationships.
So that says to me that black women make excellent wives when our needs are met in a marriage no matter the race of her husband.
@J Kap according to the United States Census Bureau. I am a experienced Statistician. This is a well known statistic. Nothing new.
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I really think that black women are put their so much by their men., tbh. Not that none of them are a problem in their relationship, but I think the biggest problem as a whole is with the men. I bet that they only want what is important, support and love, protection, a man that provides...at least by the time that they usually consider White men. I think white men enjoy how laid back and appreciative black women can be, when compared to white women. I think these traits just mesh so well. Anyway, I hope to see more happy black women, they deserve it. I'm glad that more white men are seeing the underappreciated innate beauty of black women.
@AceBoogie_ OP's right, it's pretty well known that black woman/white man marriages are among the most stable for whatever reason. Those two don't seem to divorce anywhere near the rates of black couples and white couples.
May God continue to bless ur union in JESUS Name Amen
A relationship is not about sex, once American realizes this. This society is too sexualized. It's sad.
I agree but it's really hard to change, no matter where you go or look, anything will be sexualized in a way and the people growing up in this sexualized environment wont notice most of the time
But it is part of a healthy relationship just like communication can be said to be the basis of a good relationship whether it be romantic or work!#THOSE ARE THE FACTS
Not all about sex*
Finances, communication and sex are very important
its not about sex at all
You dont start a relationship solely based on the partners sex skills..
But... I´m a horny man and I want to get some... Especially after a long, hard day.
Talking about black men swag exactly why she gon stay single
So black women should settle just to date black. Nah bye girl date who likes you and who you like.
There is a certain power & comfort that comes from dating your own kind. Shared culture, beliefs, shared experiences, shared community. There is a comfort & familiarity built into these relationships there is less stress from families etc. Yet, the fact you posted dating black is "to settle for less" says a lot about you proving you're bringing negativity to the relationship. Black women are free to date whomever wants to date them. But just based upon their political beliefs and their cultural images black women are not the preferred choice for marriage partners or dates. Most black women are democrat while most white men are republican. Black women are feminist yet, most white men are traditionalist. Black women are complaining about emasculated black males? That is what you wanted. Well if black men want to exert his masculinity after centuries of suppression that shouldn't surprise BM they don't want masculine, domineering, boss women. Black women can date the gender-bending, politically correct mate sharing, sexually, ambiguous males, who are democrats though. But don't talk about wanting providers when you are strident feminists. Feminists don't like men and they don't need men.
White people are a cop out sista in fact these were never our people.
@AthenaLolita2 what do you expect them to say we are dealing with typical black women sigh smh of course they are gonna say that
You can date who you want to as long as they are black. No race traitors pls.
Black women only like black men. So if there are no black men for you who do you date?
Married to a strong Afro-latina and I am blessed by her being my wife... she isn't just black to me... she is my warmth and happiness... she fills my world with joy... and when I wake up next to her she is the first thing on my mind... and when I go to sleep she is the last thing on my mind... its that simple... I don't see my wife as black... she's just my wife to me...
Happy for you guys!
This isn't colorblindness? Because you got to recognize and respect her Blackness, but primarily she's your wife. Is that what you mean?
@@israeliana when you are in an interracial relationship it’s not becoming color blind but you start to see the person first and race comes after because we are just people at the end of the day. It happens naturally and not intentionally. So his wife is just his wife who happens to be black instead of her being his “black wife”. Honestly after a while you just don’t care about the race of your partner anymore anyways 🤷🏾♀️.
@@Denise99881 I don’t think that’s what people mean when they say “ I don’t see color”. They are saying they dont care about color. To be honest women carry and preserve culture and we always keep our culture when we date other races. I honestly feel like if race and racism is someone’s main topic to focus on than they should not date interracially because they are mentally not ready. I am always woman first and then black.
@@Denise99881 ma’am why are you so pressed? everyone you come in contact with is not racist because they say “I don’t see color” y’all are so focused on the past and can’t function properly without thinking about racism and it’s really sickening. I don’t need to research anything and I am almost 100% positive that you are not expert on the issue. Most of y’all are bigoted and racist hypocrites yourselves. Turn that mirror to yourself and look in it. I am not sensitive and I don’t feel inferior about being black Therefore I don’t care about that type of statement and neither should you unless that is affecting you Economically, your health or your freedom. Most people like you are literal B- male identified perpetual victims.
As a white dude I have always found black women fascinating, smart and damn funny.
I just want the black ladies out there to know a lot of white guys find you attractive but we feel like you are not interested in us, you ladies just feel so unattainable.
I think the media and entertainment need to show more white men and black women couples to show that it isnt some scary thing to avoid.
I love black women and it hurts my soul that so many will be alone.
Been hearing that a lot...that white men don't think we're interested. How do we come across as approachable and interested while still leaving the chase to you guys? And another question...If certain white men are afraid to step out of the shadows, is that predictive of future behavior, i.e. indicative of an inability to speak up to their friends, coworkers, family, strangers, when issues of discrimination and racism arise? Thoughts?
@@allisonkalloo2293 it’s deeper than that. White men are conditioned to look at white women and naturally act aggressive as their fathers did. It’s about the environment, where do most black women and white men even meet now? A College campus? Yeah Jus know Brad from Iowa City probably went to high school with 0 black girls. Does that mean there’s no hope? Not at all just meet some dude in a class that is looking for a women with shared goals and interests rather than only satisfying sexual needs.
@@isthatyoujaunwayne4183 Having trouble tying your response back to mine. What are you suggesting as a possible solution?
@@allisonkalloo2293 Good question!
I think you should start traveling abroad more. Go to Europe and all you see is, mixed couples
My husband is white, and I'm black. I have never been treated better. When I couldn't find what I needed in my own race. I changed my mate must haves.. Let's just say, he made my choice very easy.
honestly I feel like white men treat women better tbh
We white guys, not all but most, just tend to be men. We take care of our children and women.
Well..., white men are also treated far better than bm. So they aren't given the same opportunities, and wm aren't hunted down like animals. So dont pat yourself on the back just yet. It's not all good, with society as a whole. And wm involvement in it.
@@mustbeheard9834 Seriously ?? NOT given the same opportunities , and hunted down like Animals ??? Wow .... Explain that one to us please !!
@@waylonmccrae3546 Yes does Amaud Arbery ring a bell. Does being killed because if a broken tail light ring a bell? Does low quality education, and liquor stores on every block im black neighborhoods sound familiar ? Does higher interest rates for black and brown people, and denials of ownership in certain neighborhoods, systematic racism in healthcare sound familiar? End of lesson! If you don't know that's on you!
Whoa... I have actually had more positive experiences with WM than BM. All the men who introduced me to their families were white or Asian.
Here's my worst story with someone white that could be directly attributed to being black:
Was on a date with a WM and to make a long story short, my wig caught on fire. I panicked, ripped it off my head and threw it away from me. Needless to say I was completely mortified! This was date #3 with this guy, who didn't know I wore wigs. This WM didn't bat an eyelash. He put out the fire, made sure I wasn't burned, picked up the wig, but instead of handing it back to me, he asked why I wore it, and would I be comfortable showing him my real hair.
I went in a bathroom and took out all my cornrows, did the best I could to comb my hair with my fingers, and stepped out looking a hot mess. What he said next changed my life. He simply said if I like wigs, feel free to wear them, but my real hair was just as beautiful, and he hoped I wasn't trying to hide such lovely hair with a wig. I eventually stopped wearing wigs or braids with him after that. Conversations about bonnets, overwhelming hair products, "wash day", police brutality, growing up black, were super easy because he was just focused on learning about my experience, and what did I need to feel safe and loved.
Two years later we got married. I still actively participate in Black causes that affect black teens, and I am still every bit a black woman. My husband is a wonderful ally. We travel the world together, and he educates himself on where I might not be treated the same as him, and how does he need to show up in those instances to make sure I am safe, both as a black person AND as a woman. I wouldn't trade his character, protectiveness, integrity, values, sense of family, thoughtfulness, ability to take care of me for swag ever. Not for one minute.
Lucky you, how did you meet your husband if I may ask?
@@nnebundoannaobi1386 I met him in a weekend personal development workshop. We had to pick partners for an exercise and I randomly picked him. We've been inseparable ever since.
@@Onebaybeedoll That's lovely, thanks for sharing your story.
As a young African woman it helps to hear from black women who have found healthy relationships
@@nnebundoannaobi1386 It's really sad how hard it is to find healthy people. I met my hubby after searching for 14 years and certainly dealt with my share of crazy. I wish you all the best, and my best advice is to keep working to ensure your inner world is beautiful, and to always focus on your femininity.
How can I like this a thousand times 🥺🥰🥰 ,same here girl, I got my natural locs and that attracted my hubby like crazy. The whole point is these guys know how to respect and appreciate what they love🤷 and that is what's important
Sad thing is that BW in the Jean jacket, whose caping hard for BM; will end up single & lonely! Because BM aren’t checking for overweight BW like that 😣 Many BM prefer to date outside their race. So why stay loyal to BM who aren’t staying loyal to you 🤦🏽♀️ I’ll pray for her lol
You sound hypocritical
I thought the exact SAME!
@@ao8271 You sound like you don't know facts over falsehoods.
BM are checking for BM who don't fit into their little box of horrors. BM don't want to be held accountable, nor do they want to be responsible for their actions & words. They want women to lower their standards and want BW to go 1/2 on dates and potentially on a lifestyle that will require her to give more than him. NOOOOO. We aren't going for that.
Wow a lot of black men do date curvy women wtf are you on?!
@@Truthseeker8morethan92 where I live, the BM date latinas and white girls and put them on a pedestal 🤷♀️ Non-black women are BM’s preferences nowadays. So where tf you been 🙄
That black girl with the jean jacket on needs to go sit down somewhere 😒
@Buffy Strongs interesting........I don't think anyone is checking for fat white women either
@@ASprinkleofAnime A lot of Black men are.
@@hopefulagnostic336 LOL truth...
Yup!!! A whole entire 🤡 ughh
She needs to BURN the Cape!! 🤣😂😂
Black men, in general, still struggle with empathizomg with Black women. Character and how he treats/ lift you up is most important. I've dated and received that emotional support from men of all races. Empathy doesn't require experience. Narcissist need experience to empathize.
There are good Black men, White Men, Asian, and other men out there. Stop this horrible narrative and get to know people individually.
This is probably the best advice on this thread
Definitely the best advise I’ve seen on this thread. What I tend to see is women comparing white men who they had standards for to black men who they didn’t have standards for. And what you get from that is all the comments I see in this thread.
Struggle with empathizing with black women ? But you putting white men up on a pedestal... study history much ? or at all...
Stockholm Syndrome is in full effect
BM and BW are in a perpetual state of ‘war’ because of the culture war vultures not allowing wounds to heal. They keep the cycle going if BM subconsciously feeling like BW had it easier for centuries and BW will continue to shame BM for not being able to keep them safe in past centuries.
Imo the root to finally moving on to the next phase of reconciliation between B&W is B people ‘claiming’ their European ancestry and learning about the context in which they came to the US.
I’m Scottish born and raised (half Irish ancestry but great grandparents) and I can tell you for a fact that the first wave of slaves in NA were Scottish and Irish rebels. Scottish people were genuinely oppressed by England for 700 years before the Acts of Union (by modern definition England still oppressed Scotland because it can refuse an independence referendum but the reverse cany happen so ‘unfair authority=oppressed lol). Including ethnic cleansing, famine, forced disarmament and a whole host of other brutal nonsense. The Irish faced even worse and to this day their island is haunted by the spectre of colonialism being partitioned.
If you actually learn the history of Western Europe pre slavery you might be surprised to see that conditions weren’t all that better in Europe.
Tequilla caping super hard for BM when most black men won’t even check her.
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Her MAMMIE bone 🦴 is STRONG 💪🏽 😂
Omg thats the same thing i thought!!!
Bi&$s ain't 💩
When she said black men let us feel strong and protected. My mouth dropped straight to the floor. It's fascinating how black women drop their standards without a thought for black men but their standards go higher for nonblack men. When the young lady in the jeans said there is so much about black for eg. their swag which is unique, I roll my eyes, what swag the one that turns their community into more single mothers. The young lady in the orange who said white men don't know when to listen and how to communicate with black women shows how poorly her selection is. I mean you are ready to talk about how blunt or bias white men is, but a blackman can talk about your fake hair, you fat you know what, you plastered makeup. Noone is more critical of black women than black men.Truth be told, 99% of successful, educated black men do not choose within their black community, the statistics and evidence are out there. Bad guest selection Marlie.
girl nothing but the truth. it’s sad cause sis really isn’t most brothers type either. she’s who they categorize as a work horse.
Well said 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️ if swag is the reason you date black men you’re lost lol
FOH!!!
You can't say that about all BM, and it seems like you hate BM. I bet you are cool with a WM calling you a racist name??? BW like you are the problem.
And there is no such thing as lowering standards. Just because a woman has a degree or a good job doesn't make her better than a BM who doesn't have those things.
I was like since when are bm providing anything positive to any bw. She sounds delusional af
@@blkpaladin7992 who sent you go where you are wanted . Go to your exoticals and ww many bw are waking up and won’t be your punching bags anymore
Check back with the sistah who doesn't date outside her race in about 20 years.
If you have never in your life seen black men who stay with and love black women after 20 years or more, then i only feel pity for you and your personal trauma you are projecting on others. Not sure why you want your experience to be hers.
@@emmanuelasu9246it’s 2023. These dudes not taking her serious. I can guarantee the bm she attract needs her to some degree 50/50. They go off of looks way more than any other race I’ve seen so far.
Key word DATE
In 20 years there wont be no more White people.😂The sun is getting too hot for them to survive on this planet
This is the comment I was looking for. She’s going to eventually change her mind because the current state of black relationships statistically is not looking favorable for her,
For years, we have seen black men with white women. Even decades ago, I told my sister that things would change, and black men and white women would be very angry with the change, because in the future, white men would be choosing black women. And now it is happening. White men are choosing black women and vice-versa at a record pace. Now white women are jealous and so are black men. But guess what? Too bad. Times are changing and we are changing with the times!
white men been choosing black woman since the late 60's. Long before black men been with white women
What's funny is if Black Men don't see Black Women as desirable...what makes Black men think Black women see other Black men as desirable? Talk about a big conceited ego and assumption about how ALL black women think!!!!!
I swear every black man I run into think I’m automatically attracted to them, no matter wth they look like 🤷🏽♀️
@@EnlightenedGoldenBeauty LMAO.....FOOOOOOLS
Yesssss bc why is white men such a problem
@@FUNNIESTSIMMER_ What do u mean? Can't the same thing be said of Asian and Latino men?
But you just generalize all black men. Plenty of black men desire black women. You just had bad experiences, but that’s not the whole.
I was married to a black man who was very well Educated and quite handsome, hes up with every woman in San Francisco black white Asian anyone who would sleep with him. I spent many lonely days. Once I left him, I met the most wonderful white man we were together 30 years. Such such a peaceful, loving relationship. Never another women involve. Thank you lord for that peaceful period in my life.
What was a horrible experience , Joe and I We were walking through. Greenwich village In new york city, a black man saw us together and said
"Hay old White man How much did you pay for that Slave?? I will buy her back from you.
and I
Yep, I see that in most black men not being satisfied with one woman, one love. I'm not saying all, but I have seen them do this behavior in large portions
@@BOBBYYODB-ec5lhi hope your husband yelled back…you can’t AFFORD her! 😅
@@SunshineState-ou7pr ALL OF THEM ARE THE SAME DONT MATTER THE TAX BRACKET.. OR HOW PRETTY OR WELL BW TREAT THEM.. HELL THEY CHEAT ON HAILLE BERRY, BEYONCE ETC..
Oh also, my husband understands micro aggressions and things like that. Having biracial children made him more empathetic. These women are not representative of the women dating other races of men SERIOUSLY. If your husband is not empathetic to ra usual issues affecting you, he’s not that into you.
What's interesting is how much BW are expected to contextualize the BM "struggle" but yet BM who folks claim are the "only" ones who can "relate" to BW doesn't seem to have the ability to contextualize the BW experience. In addition, if all that was said about why BM date out was because of BW being to strong etc...they why aren't BM seeking African black women instead of non-BW I will tell you why because 1) they are usually not interested in blackness 2) BW live in a BM worshipping community and BM feel that BW are not worthy of them and we are not the prize and 3) BM seems to know BW "value" when they NEED BW but they have no desire to uplift their children or women,
Absolutely! Well said.
I am a white man who wants to date a black woman and this video really helps me see things from the woman's side of things. She is very beautiful and that is why I want to know more about her. I have never dated a black woman before but I am not worried about it too much. I have been divorced for 4 years and am very happy being single if it doesn't work out, but she was so pretty I couldn't help but try to talk to her. She is a person to me, a human being and a very attractive one. She isn't black and I am not white. I am not going into this with color boundaries at all. I really hope she feels the same way.
🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿
How old r u?
@@lightyagami1731 53, does it really matter?
@@mjstrailsandadventures8983 It does I'm just 21
@@lightyagami1731 But that has nothing to do with interracial dating.
Tequila is the type of Black woman most Black men are NOT checking for.
Nor white, Indian, Chinese, or any others...
True
Those be the one who are the most pro black. Looking crazy af!
Meh, the weight/size is gonna be a problem with most men.
It's not brainwashing, it's biology, most men want a woman who is smaller than them...
Nobody hates her... And nobody needs to be ashamed of their preference...
You should be ashamed for trying to shame men for their natural preferences...
@@living9377 Interesting you point out the two girls who are NOT overweight as "fine"...
But when men do it, that is, express preferences for smaller, thinner, normal, healthy-sized women, they are shamed for doing so...
I have no idea why men you see do what they do...
I do know, most men, whatever their colour, religion, ethnicity, culture want a simple (QUIET) life, with a cooperative, supportive, easy-going woman...
Tequila White - What black men can be provide? Lollllll black women are literally carrying the households monetarily and emotionally, even with shared culture.
Can someone tell me if she is single?
She definitely is single considering her thought process
Black women in the white male population of the U.S. have an absolutely stellar reputation... and the look of shock on many of their faces when told this is practically amusing. They are known for being gentle, attentive, humorous, educated, comforting, excellent cooks and even better lovers. (Call me sexist for those last two items but that's just tough. Men like good food and great loving...too bad if that offends.) Many of the black women I've met feel under-appreciated if they're even appreciated at all. My woman and I have been together for years and I love her as much now as the day that I first fell for her. She is my greatest source of joy. God bless her.
ITS THE CRAZY ATTITUDE WE DONT WANT !!
❤️🖤❤️
@prominence6922 Rolls Royce has the reputation of making the world's best cars. How many people drive them? Tour d'Argent has the reputation of being one of the best restaurants in Europe. How many people have eaten there? Stradivarius makes the world's greatest violins. How many people own one? There might be varying reasons as to why but the reputation stands. And although interracial relationships have lost a good amount of taboo in our day & age, it's still out there. My angel and I have gotten the occasional look but I don't have a friend in the world (and I do mean on a couple of continents) who don't envy me the beautiful, excellent black woman whom I've loved going on six years. American black women are the gold standard, like it or not.
@prominence6922where’s the lie? He speaking off him and his community outlook on us. We can only imagine their outlook on y’all lol
I don’t call black women mammies but if the Bonnet fits Tequila is one. Notice how much Nicole is glowing, she dates what serves her and it shows lol.
I hear you
She definitely interesting I hope she has this amazing BM providing for her and making her feel feminine and awesome because she is going hard especially as a dark-skin BW.
@@jmjenkins97 she won’t get a good black men!
Good observation.
but both are overweight and will have very limited options, outside of casual sex...
I had both parents in my home and my mom never worked a day in her life, and I have dated out of my race all of my life. But you have to remember that most black men don’t want to do what it takes to be that great boyfriend or husband like my dad and my brothers.
The woman with the jean shirt on 🙄. Why in world would you date any guy who is not an ally??? If he ain't cool enough to handle and hang with your family and friends why would you even be with him at all
The swag,the community dick the fight over it,, according to her traumatised brain
I'm Hispanic and Native American man , my woman of my life is a Afro latina she strong will and self confidence , and she very beautiful ! She a Navy officer! And we love each other ! I'm very Happy and also I'm a lucky man to have her in my life. And I thank God for that !!
Tequila girl, no no no. 😭
Good luck getting a ring. My white husband purposed so damn quick. I don't lift a finger and he's a provider.
You just don't wanna do anything.. that's your idea of some man being the ideal man...
@@funkdocdoppelganger7720 😂😂😂
@@keva4672 ....I think you're struggling to say " PROPOSED "...
@@funkdocdoppelganger7720 😂😂😂😂😂
@@funkdocdoppelganger7720 😂
Let's just say there are alot bm out there, who really hated their single mothers. They never realized the struggles, and how the woman had to be the man and the woman in the house. Instead of appreciating her for being the one parent who took on 100% of their parental responsibilities. They need to realize she wasn't perfect, but was there for him, and she did the best she could.
Which leads to a narcissistic mindset in adulthood.
Black people have been forced and taught to hate each other, period!!!!!!!!
Tequila was drinking tequila before, during and after this conversation.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
You are funny lol
Tequila and Cuban cigar come join me lol amigooooo
Tequilla White will be alone for a long time, she is going to miss out on a lot of growth
Exactly what I thought. How do you rule out a group of people when you haven’t even give it a chance? Just because someone is a black man doesn’t mean they understand your plight as a black woman.
That’s what I was thinking. She is a pick me.
@Sabonis 3000 What’s that got to do with anything?
@Sabonis 3000 ok you need to stop your crap. Your saying all this probably because you assume I hate Bm? Well I don’t. I just don’t think it’s healthy to only want Bm because Bm don’t really like bw like that. I’m sure you know all about how Bm abuse bw mentally and physically, so I’m not getting into that. As for bw who date out: there are all sorts of bw who date out not just the “pretty ones.” And if these non black men are choosing non bw or bw than why do you see bw getting with non bw? Prince Harry stood by Meghan and in a way, protected her by getting her away from that toxic place that made her life a living hell. And just because Halle Berry had 2 failed relationships doesn’t mean it’s the end of the world and dating out is bad. Relationships fail all the time regardless of who your with. And they are bw married to rich non Bm and no if you don’t want to do your own research and find out for yourself then leave me alone. I’m not going to do it for you.Why do you have such a foul attitude anyway? Where did I even mention dating out? You seem bitter that some bw are no longer just focused on Bm only are dating out otherwise you wouldn’t have mentioned non Bm.
@Sabonis 3000 And by the way I have never dated outside my race and I’m no “fool who will trade in pride for temporary life case.” What are you even talking about? You say that like Bm collectively provide bw a safe in environment to thrive in. Only few do that. What are Bm offering bw collectively that we should only date them? Your the fool here who can’t let people be with who ever they want to be with.Btw bw and non black men relations actually last long idiot.
What I don't understand is why the hyper-focus is on white guys when there's other races of men too.
Bc white men statistically are the most desired race of men .
how can you say that white men are basically not good enough if you haven't even tried dating them?
She said her friends have told her stories and they weren't good stories.
Probably America’s history or things she went through due to white men.
No one wants her
I've dated everyone. White, black, Asian, Egyptian, Tunisian, Latino, who am I missing, mixed ethnicities. Everyone has their pros and cons just matter if you vibe and can communicate. I still love my black men but I've also been most hurt by them.
whore leave BM alone 💩💩💩💩💩
Some BW are miserable by choice because they are waiting for a standard that they will
never meet in a single lifetime.
I've dated all races but I find that there are more BW than any other race who choose to
only stick to their own race and then they stay alone for decades and then complain that
men need to "man up" and find her. As is she doesn't have to put any work of her own into
the search.
It's self prescribed misery and it's very difficult to find sympathy for them that willingly
choose this way of life and then complain about it.
And what race are you?
Bitter black man no doubt
Yes, I agree BW are the most race loyal out of every other female ethnic group. While BM are the most disloyal out of every male ethnic group. A lot of older BW refuse to date out, but gen X aren’t playing. 😂 I have soooooooo many single BW in my family who are over 40. I’m married to an Eastern European man. Best relationship I’ve ever had. I say all this to say BW need to open their options. We are the most loyal to a group of men who could care less. I took that loyalty trait and matched it with someone who matched me. I’ve convinced two women in my family so far to open their dating pool. Let’s see what happens next year. I find when BW open this options. They are wife’d up pretty quickly.
@@kamigriff the rate is 5% for BW compared to 12% for BM I believe. The difference is double but mentioning this every time is so weird bc 90% still marry inside their race. You mean to tell me you can’t find 1 BM bc 12% marry outside their race?
@@DreKM243 You are correct most black men marry black women. Only 30% of black men marry. Of those 30% only 27% marry outside of their race. So that's 70% of men not marrying anyone. With those numbers, I'm wasn't waiting around for a unicorn that doesn't exist. I opened my dating pool at a young age. I never thought about dating outside of my race. My favorite 6th grade teacher in my majority white school told me to open my options. There was a nonblack boy who brought my stuffed animals, balloons, and flowers. He even bought me a necklace for my birthday. I turned him down every single time. She asked me why, and the only answer I could give her was because he was not black. I'm not going to tell you everything she said, because you don't care. She planted a seed in me, and it grew. I'm glad she did. My husband is the best man I ever dated. I have two female cousins on my mothers side who are married one to a Bm, and the other is mixed man. I have one on my fathers side who is married. Can you guess how many female relatives I have who are single, and single mothers. one grand parent had 13 kids the other 11. each of my aunts and uncles had children I'm one of 5. The majority are women. They're all highly educated queens with most of us having masters degrees. some own their own businesses, some are in healthcare (nurses/NPs), others work high up in companies. They're still waiting on their Kangz some in their early 50s. My older sisters are finally listening to me. I'm planting the seeds in my family, friends, and any black woman who will listen. The real question isn't to us black women. That's a question you need to talk to black men about. Why are only 30% of black men marrying?
It’s always the ones with the phenotype they hate the most who are the super mammies. Swag over active fathers, and providers.
It's pathetic
Facts!!!!
What do black men provide exactly? Be specific. Swag and flavor brings nothing to the table during the relationship.
i agree
I heard nothing substantial or beneficial. High school like terms used for grown men
@@rolondabest7500And what do "sistas" provide! BBLs, fake horse hair, demonic looking eyelashes, and a lifetime of pain! White women for this brother, p!ease...
Yes! My question too
@@desdior1207wonderfully explained
I personally haven’t had to deal with my Eastern European husband not understanding micro aggressions. He isn’t with me because I’m black. The guests were horrible. We talk about social issues, and he can EMPATHIZE with my plight as a BW in America. He’s seen how black people are treated, and talked about when others think they are in a safe space. I dated everyone, and I’ve honestly never dealt with being fetishized by people of no color. I’m light skin, lighter than Marlie. Ive been fetishized by black men more for colorist reasons. I do find Europeans are less likely to be worried about race than Americans. I say all this to say. Women open your options. Do not limit yourselves. You can find horrible men in any ethnic group. Biologically you are supposed to be the pickers of mates not men. Take birds for example, Males are colorful peacocking for the female who does the choosing.
British men will love you.
Is that why men grow beards
@@lizfair5157 yeah, they should be peacocking for us.
In Europe nationality and culture are what truly holds meaning not colour of your skin. Im Scottish and I have more affinity for black Americans (don’t use silly hyphens for any group) than I do for ‘the English’ 🤣🏴.
A continuous black presence in Europe is also relatively new (post ww2) and the populations in European countries aren’t as diverse as they are in the US so racial politics are of no real use.
@@boxtradums0073 Another affinity you have with black people is the Scottish being useless and bring 0 to the table
These black women are so intelligent. S. Tia Brown speaks so wonderfully. She's a great analyst. Black men dont know what they are missing
OH YA WE DO !!! HAHAHAHA
The therapist was on point with how she carried herself and her way of thinking. Jean jacket and orange sweater should definitely book a few sessions with her because they need some guidance and coaching.
LOL. Therapist needs the stats too. She said it was okay to date a man out of jail. Those relationships have high failure rates. The woman does all the work.
😂
I’ve dated several non black races. Where I’ve had to explain how I feel most as a women and a first generation, child of immigrants is with a black man. I either heard I overreacted or I didn’t understand his world or opinion. I’m Haitian, middle class and I’ve been exposed p a lot of different things. Dating men who are the opposite and mature, some don’t have the capacity at a certain age to learn about women who have experienced life differently or to be simply open minded. Maybe I’ve dated the wrong black men. I look at people as people so I need more than a certain color. I want to be treated right, treat him right and be happy. I don’t want to have to curse someone out to be black enough. Anyways, I am in a place where I’m embracing working on me to prepare for who is a good match for me.
Have a great day, who ever reads this. Be blessed!
No mo mo no no no! All im hearing is a lack of self confidence. Do not focus on them. We focus too too much on them. Have it in your mind that there are many fishes in the sea. Be open minded and have some confidence that if you dont want me there are others waiting to come forward!
Hey what general relationship/life advice do you have for non-African American young black women living in the US?
I wish this conversation was among professionals and not single experiences. I'm married to a white man and my experience is totally different from the participation.
Also if you have never dated white man you can't share your opinion...sorry.
And for the dear interviewer if you being passive aggressive is not professional...she was totally throwing shade on the girl who dated white guys.
And when he gets racially disrespectful to you, don't come back home!!! Too many SELLOUTS in our culture, BM and BW.
I noticed that a lot of you swirlers wear "Locs" to pretend that you are still proud of being black. FOH
@@MADNEWYORKER914 Well said and Well put.
@@MADNEWYORKER914 She is married and won’t be “returning” don’t worry :)
@@MADNEWYORKER914
Somehow you've noticed black women swirl more than black men too. Which is a statistical lie. You must be trolling
@@Pickmewhowasntpicked
Where did I post that, I'll wait.
I’m finally stepping out my comfort zone and it is nice here.
(Reading this made me happy…🤗)
Amen
Me too and I am loving it!
I don't care who you are, or what color your SKIN is; EVERYONE needs love. More power and happiness to whomever has found what they consider to be true love ❤️! I'm truly happy for ALL y'all!😁💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
It is refreshing to hear women of colour discussing interracial relationships. As an intellectual woman of mixed heritage looking for a man with a similar outside. Although I am single, childless and spiritual I am not expecting to meet a man who is childless, it is still hard to meet white men who are available. There is always hope and prayer keeps me sane! FDH LLB MA
There are plenty white men out there. I’ll date any woman as long as she’s rocking my boat.
Definitely get out there and take a chance! The majority of my relationships have been with white men, tbh. My husband is white and we’ve been together since 2005. I, personally, don’t have anything against black men at all! I just seem to have interests that align more with white men, I suppose? All I can say is go where you are loved and appreciated regardless of color/race.
AMEN
True, that's what counts!!!!!!!
I’m 1/2 Swedish quarter Irish and quarter Native American! To be honest I love black women and Asian women because they aren’t so pompous and self centered! Go ahead and tell me that I’m full of shit! I would love to be with an equal of mine!
See that's what I hate. White dudes mainly "settle" for us cause we aren't as snobby as the gorgeous blondes huh. Nah
Quarter native American... LOL. You Europeans kill the natives one day , and claim them the next...
How is that settling? When he loves our character? And looks for values and etiquette @@nawal10
Marlie, you need a better class of guests on this topic...
Yes, I don't do casual sex. I need a committed relationship.
I'm demisexual and for me dating in the Era of FWB, sneaky links, Netflix & chill etc has left me with little to no options. I'm pretty much asexual in the beginning of relations. I love starting off as friends but that word has become so taboo today. They mistake this for permanent friend zoning lol...the only guys who've took the time to understand were WM. They don't pressure into anything....
Your view is unfortunately so uncommon these days and I really respect you for respecting yourself and filtering out men that are there for the wrong reason.
Why the hell I'm here I'm a short mexican dude lol but this is super interesting
Lol
🤣
Lmfao 🤣
Maybe you're normal sized and everyone else is freakishly tall.
@@shurppa64 So he's like regular sized Rudy?
As a white man, I have to comment on Marlie's beauty. I've always been a guy who sees beauty in women of all races. Part of the privilege of being white, I suppose, is that our ethnicity doesn't play a part in deciding our character. There's no social pressure to behave a certain way because we look a certain way. We have the freedom to be individuals and decisive on who we choose as our peer group. With that being said, most white people are much more open and excepting of dating outside our race because there typically isn't that social expectation of who we're going to end up with, as long as they're a person of quality.
That's a damn lie!!!
Marli is very light
I totally agree with you...White people are free to be individuals and are celebrated for it...
I decided long ago that I would claim my freedom to be myself and not worry what other people who happen to have the same skin tone as me think of what i do... Much happier for it...
I can agree with that. I do feel like white men are afraid to approach me but they are very open to me when they get to know me. Then tell me their reaction of how laid back and cool I am and that I'm not that "black girl stereotype"
I see multiple beautiful BW here but you chose the lightest appearing one… hmmm they are all beautiful sir
By the way this lady (based on her bad experiences) is not painting the right picture about us. I understand that black people still do go through alot of crap and that part of that is people assuming things about them because of bad stereotypes. Im not going to negate that at all. But shes coming from bad experiences and is painting a picture based on those experiences. I just dont think shes the best guest for talking about white men. Maybe its because im a musician but i have alot of personality, swagger, whatever people want to call it. By the way we tend to reveal more as you go. Sometimes we may seem boring but end up having alot of personality and senses of humor as you go. Im a white man and grew up around white man and had white man friends so i have the inside scoop. Im not going to speak bad about black men because 1 thats not me and 2 your brothers and dads are black men and im not going to be disrespectful but if yall are having problems with any of them venture off and dont be on some i have to stay in my race out of loyalty thinking. What if God has different plans for you? And about yall not being found attractive ive heard whites and mexicans and more talk about how theyd date yall and find yall attractive. Alot of men in other races have this perception that yall just want black which is one reason why yall might not be getting pursued by men other races. As for me im going to go out and pursue what i want especially because i know a woman is wired for a man whatever race she is.
Tell it! 😊
100% agree with everything you written.😊
@@jasminealexander5050 can you imagine what this world would be like if we disciplined ourselves to let our words be only good and only truth through careful consideration and a realization that goodness is the only thing that has true value?
@@truthonly6498 That world would be paradisimo. I would love to live in that world but sadly this is our reality. It doesn't mean we have succumb to its meaningless hatred. You are right that valuing one another is something we all can apply in our lives.
@@jasminealexander5050 only God can make a perfect world, because only God has a perfect heart to drive perfect actions and words only and a perfect heart void of the possibility of imperfection. Jesus is the perfect perfectionist Who made that perfectly clear by being perfectly willing to die for sinners and therefore imperfect so that they could be made perfect and have perfect harmony With God the Perfect. Perfect sacrifice for the good of others is to the fullest extent , the act of dying for us leaving nothing more that can be done.
I wish the host had had more women on the panel that could speak to more than just the stereotypes and superficial things (like swag or having to explain something, if you are in a relationship, you should be willing to explain, teach and educate your partner, black or white, it’s called communication and besides, as a women, there are a myriad of things you may need to explain to black men too) I would have preferred a more astute panel that could speak to what the two types of relationships each brought to the table in as they relate to basic human needs as described by Maslow (self actualization, esteem, love & acceptance, safety & security, physiological). As demonstrated in the video clip of Lonnie Love. I will say though, the questions asked by the host and the concepts expressed by the Dr (the person in white top, I believed she said was a doctor) tried to get the conversation to a deeper level. But it just wasn’t happening.
People won't want to explain things all the time. There are differences and it can be frustrating at times.
I notice the only things most bw say that they love about bm is their swag.....and nothing else. They never mention their integrity, their intelligence, how well they are with children, how they provide or protect. The only thing bw seem to care about and require when it comes to bm is that he has a penis (doesn't matter how many diseases are oozing from it) and that he has swag.......I find it funny that bm even want bw to lower their standards even more.
@@KayDejaVu living a life of crime, poverty and abuse when being with a bm is frustrating too I bet.
Agreed, the teenage minded overweight one, the overweight 1 night stand player are sub par to begin with..
Agree! I feel she should have had black women who were married to white men, and it is working.
Color isn't the issue. Self worth is. Make sure that white man your with Lori that loves you for you and not because of what you can afford him. and the woman in the denim shirt, needs to sit down. Both her and the woman with the bamboo earrings seem like broken toys and im not saying that woman is a toy but its more metaphorical. It is hard to heal a broken person. You have to know your worth, even at your lowest
She is very macho,,, she is looking for a man to build hold doowwwn like a STRONG BLACK WOMEN ,, also the white jumper,,, I mean to be open to criminals,,, no madam
denim shirt is fox and the grapes..
A woman's opinion of men is often a reflection of her own judgment.
After watching this all I can think of is how gorgeous Marlie is... and why can’t it be that simple
Me i will say one thing colour, beauty, money is useless without real love misssion most relationships in this generation are in pretence mission.
"certain swag and flavour blk men have that cant be duplicated"
oh really.. this "swag" you talk of clearly isnt working otherwise these blk women wouldnt be here having this discussion 🤣🤣🤣
Date abroad/international. Get a passport. Applications @ post office. $150 for 10 years. Dated a Ghanaian. He was kind, made laugh, easy to talk to. Appreciated my beauty. Black women, love 💘, who loves/ respects you.
I keep hearing about race. It's not race, so much, it's culture. So whether it's a White, Latin, Indian, Asian, etc., it's going to be different because of culture, not the color of one's skin!
The lady at the 5minute mark is definitely correct about the situation of having to explain things to a partner that is not your race. I have dated both white and black and I will say there is a nice ease that comes with being able to express myself and understand that they know why and everything does not have to be a learning point. With that being said I am engaged to a white guy and the reason it works is because he is willing to learn. Positives on both sides just gotta be willing.
YOU GO GIRL !! TEACH THAT WHITE BOY WHAT HE NEEDS TO DO !!
BM and BW need to stop the trauma cycle by ignoring the race hustlers and ‘activists’ who do more harm than good and only tear open healing wounds.
BP from former colonies would be well suited to claiming their European ancestry and learning about it. Learning about the context in which the European immigration happened could very well bring you some peace. Right now the narrative is ‘white people are just evil’ but the reality is closer to, formerly oppressed white people wete cleared off their land and left for the colonies with nowhere else to go. They got there and are then given total and absolute authority over another group considered subhuman and as history proves every time the oppressed when the roles are reversed will do the same thing (think Israel, Rwanda, Yugoslavia, Ukraine). ‘Stanford prison experiment’ and in a sense ‘house slave’ complex’y
I'm a black woman and with a biracial son. Love all races❤
I started being open to dating white men 6 yrs ago bc I realized they were interested in me. I just broke up with a white man who loves black women. He was married to a sista and he has biracial children. His good qualities were very appealing and sexy and damn great. I appreciated not having to explain a blk woman's nuances. He is comfortable being with blk women. I loved him putting his hand in and playing with my sister locks. It was great. He just understood that part of me.
@Danny Owens ur conditioned to think all exes are bad but some simply don’t work out
@Danny Owens He couldn't handle me and told me he wasnt ready for a serious relationship. And yes, I will acknowledge the great parts of the relationship. He has great qualities that I appreciated. And that's it.
@Danny Owens no he didn't. I'm saying he's not willing to face his pain. The narrative u r trying to label here is not reflective in this situation. So dont try to force a square peg on a round hole.
Hmmm what were his responses about conversation on the struggle of being a black person in an oppressive society
FOH!!!
Another "swirler" with locs, pretending to be a proud black woman. SMFH
I am a 48 year old white (Italian) man. I dated black women years ago. The amount of racist comments and hate that I got from black men at the time were terrible.
Non black men are very polite and respectful towards me even if they are with other people.
I’m a white man (23) who’s been dating a black woman (22) for about 5 months. It’s my first time dating outside of my race and her first time dating a white guy for an extended period of time. This video came up in my recommended and I’m really glad I watched, it was really nice to hear all of your perspectives on this subject - I’ve been learning as I go and trying to be cognizant of societal pressures that she might face. We’ve talked a lot about this and I’m glad we can have an open dialogue on race and how it impacts our relationship.
I recently started dating an Italian guy but haven’t dated a white guy in over 10 years. It felt strange at first but one day I just said kiss me and grabbed his face towards me. I didn’t even think about color after that.
I think you guys will workout..REAL honest communication is the key...
This was so interesting but I'd love to view how interracial couples are viewed on an international scale, thank you ladies
International? In Europe there is no They vs Us, Black men and women will date white people as easily as black people and are all the one culture, we don't have slavery hanging over our heads or the racism that has haunted America for 400 years, Black people are equal in every way to white or any other color, simply put, Black women are beautiful, but they are not seen as Black, they are either Irish, French, British, Spanish etc, they are simply women.
I'm a product of a black mother and white father and I love it! My mom said in some of her experience white men are more attentive, romantic, and not to believe the stereotypes that white men are lacking because it wasn't true just like every black man is blessed down there.
you mom are for the street ok😂😂😂😂
@@iszakdoukoume you're an idiot!
My first time dating outside my race and he's white. We had our first date last wknd & the entire date he treated me like a Queen. He made me feel so seen, heard and truly appreciating me. I have never in my entire life had a man do that. Here I was thinking all I wanted to do was marry a BM, until I met my boo. My WM is so gentle with me!
The date consisted of: bar arcade, star gazing, nightly boardwalk & long talks.
I have never had no BM ask me to go star gazing! 😅 - that excited me to the core to go look at some stars 😂!
But frfr I hope my WM & I work out ❤
Have you ever thought about what you look for in BM isn’t the same thing you look for in WM? Just curious
"But if you're thinkin' about my baby it don't matter if you're black or white." If he's attractive than he's attractive.
This therapist isn't doing anyone any favors by what she's repeating.
I am a black man and I was married for 39 years to a black woman, my wife passed away 2 years ago. Skin color is not important in a relationship loving each other is important. This is unbelievable, in those 39 years I never had a day of arguing with my wife. My wife was sick I took care of her every day for 6 years .Things are going well between us because we fit together. I live in the Netherlands, marrying a white woman is different and sometimes it doesn't go well because the culture is different. If I get married again I want to marry a woman from my own culture. In the Netherlands, many black women date a white men.
Good for them I would too
Sorry for your loss. God bless.
Yep, those who are focusing on skin color are their own problems. Find people who love you for you and most of all, love yourself
"Men are always not looking to settle down". Really?
I so enjoyed this discussion! I appreciate all of these beautiful black women being realistic . I can understand all of the viewpoints the women had. I think I'm over the point of believing that I have to stay within my race when it comes to dating as a black woman. I just know that I have a winning personality and I would appreciate a man that has similar viewpoints as I do and is like minded and has a winning personality as well. I've actually been married to a black man in the past and unfortunately it didn't work and we divorced. I do think as a black woman that I shouldn't be looked down upon by my community if I don't want to limit myself to only black men. I think at the beginning and the end of every day a man is going to act like a man regardless of what color he is. Our cultures could possibly be different, but I think we are more alike then we think and what I mean is people of different cultures are more alike then we think regardless of what color or culture we are we all bleed the same color-red. I've just grown to the point in my life where I don't want to limit myself and possibly miss an ultimate experience of love because a person doesn't show the same skin tone as me. Love doesn't have a color. I think real love can come in any color and I'm definitely open to that.
There is only one race; the human race. When people catch on to this important and core understanding, then respect will be a place we can build relationships from irrespective of the colour of a persons skin.
Scientists prove you wrong, for there's 3 races.
Caucasoid, Mongoloid, and Negroid.
That's why God divided the races and ethnicities to different nations.
Lol. That’s “science” from the 17th century to make it okay to enslave those of other races.
That isn’t science, that’s observational non-science.
@@hamilton7798
Through DNA and Skulls they can tell what race you are and where you're from originally😆
@Sicilianu Pazzu so you are saying there are black skulls and white skulls. Huh…that’s interesting…the kkk believed that as well
@@sicilianupazzu5374 where's that in the bible?
After talking to several brothers out and about, I realized that brothers are so kind and easy to talk to and be around like ol girl said. It's frustrating to continuously have to have that conversation with your white man sometimes on a daily it's going to get racial and it does cause me anxiety that I don't have when around black men.. the anxiety dealing with his family friends and society is a bit stressful. It dawned on me it's always been that way and frankly I'm tired. I'm tired of race being a topic of conversation on a daily because he may need to understand why blacks think this way or do things differently because... Just tired
As beautiful as marlie is and super smart and a magnificent personality I wouldn't want nothing else in life what a woman 💘💘
I just prefer white guys tbh I had rlly bad experiences with black men end of story
i like any as long as they are faithfull.....BIG THING!!!!!
Me too I’m dating a white man now for the first time never been treated so well I don’t know what I was waiting for after yrs of disrespect from black men I’d NEVER go back to black men period 🙅🏽♀️
@@missellz7630 Keep telling yourself that sweetie but when you get those odd looks and uncomfortable stares from other white people then you’ll know why.
So all black men are like that 😒😒😒
😂😂😂 listen to how u sound
These women are honest. Thank You 🙏🏾
"Settling" is not a good word. You get what you attract.
poor guest selection
Yea this sounded very “mammy” like to me 🤦🏽♀️
the one who dates wm is a bit of a garden tool...
@@DLBMOS ??
@@acemogany6369 not a rake, but.... 🙄
@@acemogany6369 304
" our men" 😒
I grew up in a mixed group of friends. Sometimes I would be asked by girls “are you Oreo?” I was to unknowingly young to understand. My life would have been so different if I did. Still I did date girls of different races, and wish I had been strong enough to withstand the racist comments I heard. It’s so sad ,but I still have hope the kids today will resist and be more open minded. I hope you all will be open to interracial relationships. I believe love is the answer to all the world’s problems.
I am black and never had a problem with being found by men of all races.
Apparently, ladies, don't let those degrees keep you from dating the formerly incarcerated Black man... This is a thing that was said.
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Because BM depend on BW taking care of them
Absolutely not😂
ghetto gagger It's good job for u😂😂😂😂
Black men making you feeling guilty for dating white guys but they date white girls. i Love African women because they tret you amazing its not about color.
Marlie, I Love your hair! You’re so beautiful! ❤️❤️❤️
Do you have a family ?
The lady in white is the most beautiful imo
All women are beautiful who love you and deserves to be treated well and deserves with care, love etc
I don't know who this woman is but she's gorgeous oh my God beautiful
Going to other races has NOT increase marriage results for black females
8:48 I just noticed the table was the shape of Africa now that is cool .props. A Nigerian 🇳🇬 brothers salutes what you did with the studio design.I like it.
How can we say one race yet it's an issue for a woman of color to date a white man and vice versa?
What is this table? I need to know!!
I was born in Seattle in 1973, where I grew up. Japanese-American. Male. In 2012, I married a very pretty Black/Cherokee/White woman. We had a daughter in 2013, who is very pretty. For what qualifies as "10 year old love," the boys my daughter likes, are mostly White boys. It's likely that the boys she's going to date in high school will be White boys. So, on a younger scale, videos like this may be very helpful, in foreshadowing how she can help herself.