Could you live without a smartphone? | Anastasia Dedyukhina | TEDxWandsworth
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- Опубліковано 3 сер 2024
- Anastasia Dedyukhina ditched her smartphone, together with her senior international career in digital marketing, when she realized how dependent she had become on the gadget. Today she acts as a business mentor, supporting ethical tech startups, and runs Consciously Digital, helping companies and individuals be more productive and less stressed in an age of digital distraction. In her talk, Anastasia will explain why we feel the uncontrollable urge to check our smartphones all the time and share the valuable lessons she learned and the tips that helped her find the balance between her online and offline life.
Having worked for 12+ years in senior digital marketing positions for global media and internet brands, and easily spending 16 hours a day connected and even sleeping with her phone, Anastasia eventually realised she needed to unplug to remain healthy and productive.
Giving up her smartphone was the first step to creating Consciously Digital - a London-based training and coaching company that helps individual and corporate clients be more productive online, so that they can have more time for things that matter.
Anastasia is a frequent speaker at global internet conferences on the topics of ethical tech and digital detox, as well as marketing in the age of digital distraction. She blogs for Huffington Post about digital detox, and is currently finalising her first book on the same subject. Anastasia was born in Russia, lived in six different countries, and has an MBA from SDA Bocconi (Italy) and NYU Stern (USA), and a PhD from Moscow State University.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx
" I just did not want to deal with my own problems. When you don't have anything that distracts you,
then you will have to start dealing with the stuff you have been running away from!" This is a hard true fact. (Escapism)
I've never owned a smartphone. A PC is still pretty amazing to me.
I've got a friend who keeps pestering me about my lack of dumbphone. "What if you want to find out what a thing is called? What if you want to find out whether a pub is open around? What if you want to look at a map?" Dude, what if you reach the age of 85 and discover that most of your life has been flushed down the drain of senseless browsing? What if you can't recall what your neighbourhood looked like in your youth because you never looked around? What if your memory is shot to pieces following a lifetime of looking things up instead of remembering? What if you become demented because instead of combating boredom via thinking or engaging in any other mentally stimulating activity you've been browsing Twitter and Instagram? What if you look back and discover that you had no hobby, developed no impressive skills, weren't there for your friends and family, didn't read any improving books (or if you did, you got little from them because you didn't have the attention span to reflect), had hardly a single interesting or original thought? What if you will have lived most of your life vicariously via your friend's social media posts?
Wise words, thanks.
Your words really made me think my life style thru thanx man I appreciate the effort 👍👍
Good words. One smartphone-quitter said "we overvalue convenience" and I agree 100%. I'd much rather sacrifice convenience over much more important things, such as a peace of mind.
I haven't owned a smartphone now for 1 month and I'm so happy about how things are now, every day.
Genetic Flotsam very thought provoking. Thank you.
Genetic Flotsam This post was the nail in the casket. I’m downgrading.
I’m getting rid of my iPhone tomorrow. I hope I will never go back to the smart phone. Those things are so addictive, I wasted more time starting in my phone than actually experiencing things in life. I’m also convinced that more and more people will ditch their smartphones in the future.
No
when my iphone se fails me i’ll do the same.
Damn, video games waste time as well.
Did you do it ? I did :)
Good luck
I've never owned a smart phone. I have a flip phone that my brother made me get for when I travel. When I'm not traveling, it sits on my desk at home. I get criticized by my co-workers about this all the time. They tell me that a cell phone is a necessity. I have to remind them that food, water and shelter are necessities, and if I truly needed a cell phone to survive, I'd be DEAD!
Ditched my 'Smart Phone' 5 years ago and haven't missed it one bit !
Great!
Which phone do you use and on which network?
This is the most sane talk I have heard in months - perhaps years. This is a topic that absolutely has to be addressed. I am surprised that neuroscientists who know directly about what Anastasia is talking about aren't more vocal. Lets join Anastasia's revolution and start occupying ourselves once again instead of being arbitrarily distracted by everything that isn't .
All strength to Anastasia.
I don't own one. I have a basic cellphone with an essentially useless browser which remains unused. I discourage my friends from texting me. Calling is more efficient, takes far less time, is far more personal, and far less distracting.
I also have a old samsung 10 years old.Never startet with smartphone because i saw how addicted you can get to it. and i am 29
Good for you, Hippie. I'm considering doing the same, and also just asking my friends to simply stop by the house if they want to talk to me and call, also. I don't know that I've heard of people actually stopping by someone's house UNANNOUNCED to go visit someone. I think I would welcome that. I"m getting to where I don't like texting, either.
Smartphones *are* useful and effective tools and this is what makes it so hard to draw the line. And the expectation now is that everyone has one. A lot of things like say Uber and curbside store pickup and hundreds of other useful services are not available to you if you don't have a smart phone. I also switched to a basic phone. I have a smart phone without a plan that I bring with me when I travel. I can use it to consult downloaded maps, listen to downloaded podcasts, and if I come across free wifi here or there I can update email and whatnot. I didn't find it that hard. Like she says - don't try to do it by willpower. It really is like trying to diet while keeping a box of chocolates with you all the time. Just get rid of it. Yet even on my laptop here I find myself checking email and whatnot more often than I should. So I boycotted social media and the news. You have to be brutally honest with yourself to catch yourself developing bad habits again in some other way.
@@Hippiekinkster Yeah!!!! Well said!!!
I really think her tone and pace throughout the talk reflects her message nicely.
I'm pretty sure I ruined my phone, and the last couple days I have gone without my phone, and it wasn't even that hard, but it is so liberating!!
In 2 days I am switching to a dumbphone. I am a 15 year old girl who has no clue how this is gonna go, but I'll see. All I know is that I have to stop waisting these precious years and life my life. I'd go days with laying in bed and being on my phone, I am done. I'm selling my smartphone and switching to a Nokia which I can call and send messages on. I thought this video was so inspiring
I hope you succeed. When I was your age dumbphones were all we had . You will feel much better for it
People seem to forget that we lived very easily without a smartphone of any kind until the late 90s. So, why not again?
This is not 90s era, right. So now the time has been changed, everything which you want to do you can do in your smartphone,
Smartphones didn’t happen until the 2000s but otherwise yea
@@Amarsingh-ge9iu But in theory, a lot of what changed the times was smartphones, so if people stopped using them... Sure, the 90s aren't coming back, but the times could change again. I've never had anything more than a flip phone, personally, and it's never been inconvenient.
Because society is railroading us into positions where we can’t function without one (a smartphone). When society goes cashless less it’ll be scan or scram!
I never had a smartphone, never had any (anti)social media and never will. My life is perfectly fine, married, kids, job, friends, the whole nine yards. And no, I am not 96 years old, I'm from 1983.
It shocks me to my very core that this question is worthy of a TED talk.
But you do use social media because well, here you are on social media posting a comment.
Technocracy
nice jab
@@emward6858 I would agree, em Ward. I'm still a little shocked when I see how much it's changed society-and not in a good way!
How are you abre to comment on UA-cam?
I currently have taken a smart phone away for the last 4 weeks... I have had a lot more time to read books. I feel like I have gained more from the books than the many small doses of information that you get on a smart phone. Additionally my focus at work has been very strong. I thought at first my workouts at the gym would suffer without tunes, but what I found was I had better workouts because I am not distracted from checking various apps on my phone while in the gym.
Scott Cohen very good
I know i am late but you can buy a iPod or mp3 player instead of the phone
Thanks.. same as me.. I feel exhausted with smartphone..
But .... how do you check you bankacount or make a payment?
You have the ability to change, you are the best 💪👍🔥🔥
Can you live without a smartphone? Is that an actual question? Of course you can. Nobody is as important as they think they are. I have a flip-phone and most of the time I don´t even use that. And no, I am not even on FB... I have a life. And I hate texting.
I remember when you could just turn up at peoples houses without calling ahead and they were happy to see you. Then came the time when we started to call before a visit, to check. Now we text before we call, just to make sure its not inconvenient.
Wonder what the next step is... scheduling texts? And yet, we are expected to be available 24/7.
No, I don´t get it. I´m a dinosaur. I have to own that.
Really good talk. Your device is just a tool.
thanks for the tip, I will check it out
Dalma Mirabal You have an opinion on the matter, but it sounds as though you've never had a smartphone. If you've never experienced this technology and software you have no idea how addicting it is.
You should try one out; along with UA-cam and Facebook, for a year and then give it up.
I held out on getting a smartphone until my employer gave me one in 2013. I haven't been able to give it up.
Dalma Mirabal It is not that I disagree with you, but leaving an addiction is not as easy as you are trying to portray it. I remember the days when I used to be addicted to Facebook, it took me a solid year to completely delete my account and never create another. Well, level of willpower is not same for everyone.
Hi Aaron. With all due respect, if it were me, I would look for a job where I was not required to use a Smart phone. I've found the internet to be addictive, too, and the last thing I want on my phone is the internet or to be tied down to responding to a boss on my phone.
It is so true.
Yeah... my phone died while I was at the police station waiting to identify a suspect the other day and I actually started going through old memories in detail - was surprised how much joy that brought me.
Because of this I changed the way I use my phone. I was so addicted to my phone. It was like tied to my wrist. Thank You.
4 years ago when I fully retired at 48 years old, I got rid of the 3 phones I had been using. A company kept me on the line all day whenever they wanted, on my days off as well. I have NO cellphone at all now. I use a home phone, old technology, and my computer to write with people or have videocalls with relatives. My life is much better. I see smartphone addictions in people every day. I hear firsthand of divorces due to smartphone addiction. In these past 4 years I walked out on at least 1 woman due to her phone addictions. Now I am married and ask my new wife not to become addicted to her phone, instagram, and so forth. Don`t put up with it.
Sir, did the company require you to have a smartphone (being online) or a just phone in general?
Kudos! I got rid of my cell phone 14 years ago and I have not regretted it at all. I have a landline with answering machine. That's all you need.
@@peterpiper487 Good for you, Peter Piper! Just wondering, do you have trouble making friends? Many people don't seem to like it if you don't text them.
You weren't able to resist the comment section during her talk, right? Right?
Right =)
yes
got caught
Cang right!! But it was a worthwhile action. Unlike sitting on the toilet whilst having a mighty dump reaching for he toilet roll but realising you've wiped your bum....with your smart phone?
Guilty. We used to call it multi- tasking. My nano second attention span makes it difficult to listen to anyone talk about anything! 😖
Yes, but I am responding on a laptop, not a smart phone. Is that your point?
I’m living with this couple, and every single day I come in they’re sitting together, not talking, starring at their phones... how many memories with them have I lost out on because we’ve been glued to screens? If the devices didn’t exist, we’d constantly have to go out and find fun things to do- instead of sitting alone, watching videos of people we’ll never know. We’re all actors, and I can’t imagine how much more time we would have put into becoming successful had we not been starring st a screen for hours every day of the two years we’ve lived in Hollywood. I can’t help but feel that this isn’t the best time to be alive.
I feel the same way
One of the most profound TEDs out there. Still making sense, rather more than ever, now in 2021.
2023 even
I've worked as a university lecturer in Helsinki, Finland for nearly 25 years. Many of my students sound as if they'd just taken a copious amount of nitrous oxide when I tell them that I have a sixty-euro phone, and show it to them. I gently put forth the idea that knowing each and every time-wasting app on a "smart phone" is not something that should be conflated with the concept of actually being smart. After I say that, they usually look at me as if I were a couple cans shy of a six-pack, a reaction that indicates I might not be completely off in my assertion.
@Ernie Buchinski Don't worry many of us out there who feel the same way about Smartphones and their use. Never had one never will buy one.
my phone stopped working so now i'm on my laptop trying to learn how to live without it :")
the same for me hhhh
You are so beautiful RAYA, by the way 😉
I know this is an old video and all in 2019, but this lady's presentation hit me. Been working at shedding the whole social media/smartphone pit and this is great inspiration. Not only was the content great, but the way she spoke and held herself conveyed true care and concern. Not only did I NOT look at my phone during, I reached over and turned it off to make damn sure I was taking in and processing her message once it began rattling my eardrums. Thank you madam.
I have one i keep in my car glove box only for emergencies. No social media just my banking app to transfer funds and a way to get directions if i need them. My daily driver is a land line that sits on my computer desk. And i get by just fine. For real
I am 69 years old and have never owned one, and do not need one.
ok booooooooooooooomer.
So how did u comment then?
@@fathimashery8834 PC
Charles I'm glad that working out for you man. I am going to implement these principles very shortly....unfortunately for me, my job, and my ability to do it, might suffer.
@@jasonb.3902 Good luck
Get a dumbphone with a microSD card slot, fill it with music. That's all you need.
Contact?
@@unknowngirl5147 get it transferred from previous phone :)
You have the ability to change, you are the best 💪👍🔥🔥
I not only live without a smart phone (for the past 14 years) I live without ANY phone. I have only a laptop from which I text and e-mail. That's it. I'm delighted with my set-up for communication. You should try it... for more than a week! If a physician can go without a phone, you can too.
I'm in the 70th decade of my life, adequately tech-savvy, with an iPad, a Kindle Fire Tablet, a MacBook Pro and I'm a digital graphics designer and.... *shock of shocks*.... I have never owned any kind of cell phone, smart or otherwise. People seem completely dumbfounded when they find out I have no cell phone. They can't imagine how I can survive from day to day! LOL One woman recently said to me, "How in the world will we be able to talk?" I laughed and said, "Call me. I have a land line." I'm beginning to suspect there are actually people out there who don't even know what a land line is anymore. The really funny thing is that she didn't even really mean "talk". What she really meant was "text" because apparently no one ever actually "talks" on their cell phone. ;-)
congrats on 700 years old
Code 9 EXCELLENT 👍👍👍👍👍👍
Vampire
Hey, you're really up there in years Code 9 - it's been over 4000 yrs since people lived for over 700 years.
@@emward6858 yeah but 70 decades is 700 years 70*10=700. 7 decades would be 70 years.
It’s interesting to note that without phones, we just shift our focus to something else. May it be books, art, video games. Point is, we have to fill our time with something.
Потрясающий Ted во всех отношениях, особенно хотелось бы отметить манеру речи Анастасии - плавный темп, все четко, по делу и без воды, хочется слушать и слушать. И, конечно, тема, тут даже и говорить нечего, практически все, кто имеют смартфоны, зависимы от них, тут лишь вопрос в том, признаётся человек сам себе в этом или нет.
I attended a webinar with Dr. Dedyukhea via the National Wellness Institute today, 7-20-22. This TEDx Talk is still relevant! Take you “Digital Wellness” to heart.
i can listen to her all day
You have the ability to change, you are the best 💪👍🔥🔥
I can turn it off and disconnect completely. My problem is other people complaining that I am never available, they there is a reason why you have a phone, turn it on.
Anthon Deutsch yup that is my problem also... other people, not me, especially bosses and co workers and close family
you can use a basic phone. always can tell them to text or call
@@englishandmotivation7779 But bosses tend to be a**holes :P
Bosses are a problem, yeah, but when other people complain, if you stick to it and let them know how to reach you (or that it's just not going to be quite as easy anymore, sorry, etc.), they'll get used to it. It seems to be change that bothers most people, more than specifically what the change was.
@@ShinnoEli I agree
wow! Amazing talk- think I'm finally going to go and get a flip phone
Super very good insane incredible speech!! I feel calm and excited at the same time when I listen to her. This is crazy!
Smartphones everywhere,so bad.
My opinion is having a laptop do your work and once you finish go out having only the flip phone!!
I am doing this and i feel sooooo soo good.
which flip phone you use?I use desktop computer and I want to ditch smartphone entirely
Србомбоница I am using Nokia 130.Also i have smartphone and i use it for create content and posting on my instagram and tiktok page.
@adityagivesPDF Yes i am using it and i try only for work.Creating content for social media
I am gonna do this
@@emmarose7402 Awesome!!
Very well stated! The problem that annoys me the most of cell phone users is in traffic. More drivers are not watching the traffic signal when it turns green. I don't look at or answer my phone when I'm driving, only when parked in a lot and sometimes not even then⛔️🚫⚠️
Such a wonderful talk i ever listened so far.. seriously this lady made my day and opened my eyes from the problem I’ve been trying to figure and sort out for many years.. thanks a lot madam.. 👏🏻
Exceptionally perceptive and level-headed perspective on smartphone. A really great TED talk!!
The world should hear about this talk. BUT, If only a few people started living without a phone, and all of their friends and family didn't, social life wouldn't be so easy for the individuals. The more people stop using phone the easier for them will be to find other people who did the same.
не треба чекати друштво да се мења,треба мењати само себе.....мени не смета да будем сама,имам фиксни телефон и то ми је довољно:)))
I agree. I’m found a lot of people to talk to. I just turn my smartphone off and go into the nature.
Agreed, I tried, but it's very hard, DUE TO OTHERS..
You have the ability to change, you are the best 💪👍🔥🔥
Tq anastasia. Love the way u deliver this talk. So calm and relax.
Loved this video. Super real. Thank you.
Thank you very much for sharing these great principles!
When I didn't use electronics for a couple months, I was more productive than I was in a year. I would finish my choirs right away. I would read and enjoy doing things that I always pushed away from. I could think clearly and plan effectively. I was more happy and complete. I enjoyed looking for new things to do, people to meet and things to think about. I am planning on giving up my cell phone in less than a month and plan to use my desktop if need be or discover other ways to communicate with people I meet and friends.
fric stix WOW I didn’t know you can time travel to the 90s
DragonPupEclipse They had phones in the ninties. But, you're most likely joking right?
remember. the four important takeaways from this are how we should tackle Time management, Self Management, Space Management, and Relationship Management instead of letting our devices take over our lives and attention.
Absolutely incredible. Thank you so much for this.
You have the ability to change, you are the best 💪👍🔥🔥
You cleared all my doubts...Thank you Ma'am ❤️👍
....i am 36 years old, it is 2019 now, I do not now, nor have I ever owned a cell phone in my life. I never liked them and did not want one. People keep saying that I'm like a 'Unicorn' ...honestly I find it very telling about other people, I have slowly watched the people around my throughout the years get more and more addicted to cell phones (digital leashes) to the point they cant seem to even imagine the act of simply 'NOT' being available. The Human race managed just fine for thousands of years without the cell phone, it will not kill you to go without.
@Nemecil you can use just a landline,thats what I plan to do:)
What do u do without map applications when u drive
@@sorenamoghaddam6736 You can use GPS! ^_^ If your car doesn't have a system already, they're pretty easy to find and install. (...Or you can do what I do and just look up where you're going and jot the directions down before you leave home. It doesn't take long, and I've never gotten catastrophically lost.)
You have the ability to change, you are the best 💪👍🔥🔥
No phones at dinner, sleep area, and bathroom. Very insightful talk on digital behaviour.
WE HAVE TO STOP EVOLVING.
WE MUST PRESERVE WHAT MUST TO BE PRESERVE
AND PERFECT WHAT MUST TO BE PERFECTED.
Thank you
This was a VERY valuable video. I didn't pick up my phone not once while she was talking. I'm working harder on finding that digital balance. I'm long overdue.
I knew something was very wrong with the world when I saw people on bikes glued to their cell phone, on skateboards glued to their cell phone, driving a car and glued to their cell phone, in movie theaters and glued to their cell phone, a mother pushing her baby in a carriage and glued to her cell phone, a mother walking her little daughter home from school and glued to her cell phone, people walking in a park and glued to their cell phone, a father playing soccer with his daughter at the park and periodically checking his cell phone. My advice is PUT YOUR CELL PHONE DOWN AND PAY ATTENTION TO THE PERSON IN FRONT OF YOU.
Fantastic talk. I've been struggling with smartphone addiction for a while now and while I'm definitely on the right track, there's still some way to go. I've got a brick phone but also use my iPhone too much next to it. This talk is definitely one I'll be watching again and again to keep me on track. I've seen how to live without one, but actually doing it is hard at times!
How's your addiction management going? :)
Excellent. Thank you
Great talk to listen carefully and to be shared with our relatives. It is one of the most critical issues nowadays, affecting both the adults and the children in the real social life. We are truly wasting our time by being "connected". The sooner we set aside our smartphone the sooner we are going to get our life back.
Inspiring.precious.wonderful..A true eyeopener
I have been weaning myself of my iPhone slowly. One day at work without it a week. Next week two, etc. still have a apple watch, just for calls /emergency and the occasional sms if needed. No email notifications, no social media ( latter of which I’ve never been into anyways). It’s early days but I must say for now it seems quite liberating.
Best one, It will help also your four principles, way of presentation especially loved it.
Thanks
Amazing woman, what a wonderful speaker :)
So wonderfull, totally loved itt🧡🧡
I am using a flip phone for sometime now and truthfully I cannot think a life without whatsapp, I mean its really important to receive important texts. So now I use an emulator, and the advantage of that is one cannot be online for more than 10 mins due to overheating, after which the laptop starts freezing. Hope this helps because Facebook (who owns Whatsapp) only made an app for smartphones, perhaps intentionally so we can never ditch our smartphones.
Just lost my smartphone, that's why I'm here
great talk. thank you very much.
nowadays, most of my friend use line for interact with each other, we have a group for sharing information about class and the changing schedule, and because of it now we barely contact with phone number. its hard to totally not using smarthphone, because my friends often get mad on me because i shutdown my phone and they cannot contact me.
but i feel more peaceful and free. sometimes i dont get some important information, but i just let it go and enjoy my free time without smartphone...
Honestly, if the information is really important and people get used to the fact that you don't have your phone on all the time, they'll make sure you find out about it some other way. In fact, the more often your phone is off, the faster they'll get used to it.
Very helpful to me. Thanks
This idea and practice changed my life a lot! ❤️ Tq
Great talk.i have been thinking about this will take it into action step by step out of phone addiction.
Wow, wish I had seen this 5 years ago. Not ready perhaps, but all that she highlights I have learned the hard way.
You have the ability to change, you are the best 💪👍🔥🔥
many things to be learnt from this talk 🤠🤠🙏🙏
Thank you for sharing your experience
It's a great video and it's a pity that I couldn't find it on TED website, hope you can add it!
such a great talk.
Great talk! Thank you.
You have the ability to change, you are the best 💪👍🔥🔥
খুবই গোছালো ও বুদ্ধিবৃত্তিক আলোচনা। সংক্ষেপে অনেক টপিকের উপর আলোকপাত করেছেন। আমি মুগ্ধ। আমি বিমোহিত।
I don't have a Smartphone.
thank you so much
17:45 so trueeee
31 years old, I havent had a smartphone since 2010. And I only had it for a year. I have to tell you that you will be less social and you will be slightly alienated but I enjoy it.
Well, I never got that problem to be honest. I am 30 and never owned a smartphone nor mobile phone during my life. *Applause* I'm working in IT and I do like computers, but smartphones always seemed like gadtets to replace functioning parts of the brain for me. I mean, I can do spatial navigation in my head. I can take a look at a map and don't get lost in a foreign city. Some of my age-mates get lost in their own city without Google Maps.
lol :D
What she spoke really makes sense.
I would have never come across this most interesting and insightful presentation if I hadn't opened UA-cam while commuting on the bus on my mobile device...🤔🙄
I have 2 cell phones. The one I actually use as a phone is a BlackBerry Torch 9810. It doesn't have Internet, but I can call with it, text with it, and use it to take pictures. What more do I need?
The Samsung Galaxy S8 I own is used for one thing, and one thing only: a screen for when I fly my drone. It doesn't have a SIM card in it, because I feel like flying distrated isn't a great idea.
excellent talk.. I'm in process of mailing (postal).. my car payments and any other payments instead of going online.. it'll cause me to use my mind like I used to.. to plan ahead for due dates.. i actually miss doing that
Great vid 👌
This is great.
This was amazing
Aye! None here, except for a LAND LINE, although our biz manager owns one. LOVE "unplugging" from the matrix :)
Excellent presentation 💖
Thank you ❤❤❤❤❤❤
Asking me if I could live without a cell phone is like asking me if I could live without being attacked by a bear every morning. I have not had a cell phone in 14 years and SO GLAD I got rid of it long ago. I find that a landline with an answering machine is sufficient for my needs. Not having a cell phone is good for your health.
When you have no pockets but you feel vibrations from your phone. "Ah yes, my spider-sense has awakened."
They should teach this in schools
One of the best ted talks
I really appreciate you
watching this on my smart phone at work.
Excellent info
She could follow me around all day reading the genealogies of ancient Chinese rulers and I’d be a very happy man. What a soothing voice! (Typed from my smart phone that’s getting ditched tomorrow)
This is amazing! Thank you thank you! Add to this the proven negative health effects of cell-phone radiation. This is really making me think.
I only look at my phone when i need to charge it and check for mail.
I mostly use my PC.
I hate smart phones and will continue using my flip phone as long as possible!
I can go days without my smartphone. I'm just afraid after I turn it on. how many angry whatsapp and email msg I'll get
Lolana Kahale I fell you so badly:))
lol
I took myself off of social media entirely last year, you can’t believe the anger that brought about.
Same here