The Secret to Getting Anything You Want in Life given by Jennifer Cohen | Jen Cohen | TEDxBuckhead
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- Опубліковано 20 лис 2019
- Jennifer Cohen, notable healthy lifestyle writer, entrepreneur, podcaster, and spokesperson shares her ‘10% Target Mindset’ which encourages people to be BOLD by asking for what they want, versus taking what is given to them. The challenge is to practice asking for what you really want and getting comfortable with “no’s” (roadblocks) along the way. Her talk is filled with fun personal anecdotes and some practical steps for getting anything you want in life. Listen in. This event was curated by Jercori Freeman. Jennifer has not only dominated the fitness industry, but she continues to change the game by helping others level up physically and mentally. Jennifer is a 3x best selling author , Health and Wellness entrepreneur, and leadership columnist for Forbes.
She also co founded the fitness app Hot 5 which was acquired by Weight Watchers in 2015.
Jennifer is a highly regarded Confidence Coach with a specific focus on building healthy habits and behavioral change. In 2019, Jennifer took her passion and turned it into one of the fastest rising, regularly ranked podcasts, Habits And Hustle, that brings together top authorities and thought leaders in their respective fields to discuss the tools needed to succeed in an ever changing world. Jennifer was recently named "100 Most Influential People in Health and Fitness" by Greatist and ranked #16 "Most Impactful Fitness Entrepreneurs" by Web MD. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
2 things I learnt from this TED Talk:
- Be bold, fail and fail again. Don’t settle
- Keanu Reeves is the best
I already knew the 2nd one 😉
being beautiful and born privileged (rich) helps too... so much "opportunity" is on "silver platters"
Facts
Number three: don’t bring babies to lectures
Ha ha...good one foster
1) Be bold (practice and harness this skill)
2) Ask for what you want (make 10 attempts)!
3) Just act
4) Get comfortable at failing 90% of the time
5) 10% target (see 4))
6) Practice (training your brain to be bold)
7) Write down anything you want in life and make 10 attempts with it (chasing what you want and not just taking what you can get)
The comment we all look for
Thanks a lot
Main points of the talk. I like it. I will write down in my dairy and try to implement in my life. One thing I have to learn never give up one day you will got all of those thing that you want do again and again and always be gratitude.
Everything is based of 10% chance of success? Now that is a low skill XD Imagine trying to fry eggs 10 times for a breakfast
Good luck trying to get a diploma 10 times, also many people already knew that.
Reminds me of my favorite quote.
“If you’re not direct about what you want, you’ll probably be dissatisfied with what you get” -Sonya Teclai
I am bold.I am smart. I am talented. I can do it. All of it. I'll be fulfilled!
People used to laugh at me when I said I wanted to be a comedian. Well they're not laughing now.
Bravo!! Love it!
Bhahahahahha!
😁
Nooooo, you are a comedian and people don't laugh, real sad man. Hope 2021 will be better, maybe the vaccine gives you a boost 😄
They should you are a comedian lol
Her first step in the right direction is knowing what she wanted. A lot of people really don't know what they want.
That is true, I have struggled for the same for a decade but I think I have finally found something I believe to be really what I want. Finding this purpose or passion also requires trying to think, knowing yourself and asking yourself questions. Failing 9/10 times to finding your purpose, Yes this theory applies here too.
Not true.. Everybody knows what they want.. U just have to feel what u like most and give u butterflies in life. That is what u want and just act to it.
I'm struggling with this.
@@ASMRCHARLIE No, not everybody knows what they want. Especially people who grew up poor and could not afford to have a hobby or join a sport. Finding yourself is difficault when parents are broke.
Our next gen is struggling with this. The problem could be the amount of options and lack of dedication. I really believe it is because instead of aligning with REAL life coaches, they are watching UA-cam videos and comparing themselves to those profiting from clickbait like magic and stupidity. Quick and easy is a distraction. Get to work, complete your commitments, and try to enjoy the ride. When you fail, pinch yourself, count your fingers and toes then look up to make sure their are no bars in your view.. then grow and be thankful for the experience.
Shes right. I had an old boss that made me an offer to work for him and i turned him down because i didn't want to work for the pay he offered. He then called me back and offered me a $5 an hour raise for the same job, and i took it. However, i ended up quitting several months down the line because i didn't like the way he treated me. A few weeks later he called me back to apologize and said i was one of the best at what i do that He's ever had. I still turned him down. Today i am attempting to start my own business in my field, and i already have several potential customers lined up. I'll let you know how it goes in a couple years! I'm either going to become successful, or i will learn a lesson.
a business in what?
If youre willing to work hard - you'll be successful
Good luck on your next adventure
How’s it going?
@@bradforddickson2426 only been 2 months. Give him a time dude
This is the best advice talk ever.
Simple to remember, simple to do, and definitely going to put you in a better place than you started.
1) Make sure you're asking for what you want
2) Commit to 10 attempts for each of your goals
Amazing!
"Boldness is a better indicator of success than intelligence", I am a huge believer in this, yes
I am a living witness of this message. Being Bold doesn't always substantiate Courage but the more you Step Up and Forward Your Bold Presence will begin to Initiate Courage...
Yes , i am also agreed
Courage allows one to harness all intellectual plus intuitive knowing and discerning ...
Open heart , open ears and open mind to the pureness of the flow of life help a lot as well .All can go hand in hand if well integrated ...
Yes , I love what she says about not always chasing what we want but receiving what we deeply feel as we are naturally talented at and really meant to be ...Internet has been discovered without previous intention while they were trying to discover something else in communication world . The telephones were discovered when a scientist was trying to build a device related to telegraphs ...
It is maybe a great tactic, but a bad strategy.
Combination beats all
Keanu is seriously the nicest guy in the world. He says he’ll do something, he actually does it.
Imagine she waited an hour and walked up and tapped Harvey Weinstien on the shoulder instead
Everyone always says the nicest things about him fr
@@FleeceNRun Lol😂😂
Cringe
Keep trying. Don’t take the first thing offered. Go after what you really want! Be strong and bold. Ask for what you want! Never give up! Failure just makes you stronger! It’s getting you ready for success ♥️
hi
I am Retired in Finland , and This is Best Time in my Life !
Money is not all what you need !
Main Points:
Be *bold*
Don't take what you get
Don't have self doubt
Chase what you want
Ask for what you want
Ask! Until you get what you want.
YES!!
@@jennifercohen874 I am impressed how you handled yourself with a crying kid and your slide presentation being off- you are cool under pressure, and I am sure that served you well on your journey to success!
I tried this for 10 years.. didnt work
@@rave1704 Try again
I got my dream job after having 22 interviews in 10 months.
Gz
@@noguys5014 I know ah?
What was your dream job..?
Noice!
proud of you!
Thank you for making this. It reminds me of Roger Bannister, the European track & field athlete who aimed to break the 4 minute mile. Everyone said he couldn’t, but that didn’t stop him. He finally did, and when that happened everyone began to see that achieving this goal was impossible because they believed you couldn’t without being bold enough to try.
She lists all my fears in the first 30 seconds, that hooked me up listening to this talk. I found it amazing, truly inspiring. I feel determined now...
Now I have to find what is what I desire most in life because I have no idea.
Finding out your "why" will lead you to your purpose, which will reflect your strengths and passions.
"When you are comfortable with asking for the small things in life, it gives you the skills, the habit and the confidence to ask for the big things in life" 🙌
YES!!!
Yes
True
@@urlauburlaub2222 Get a life.
@@jennifercohen874 Excellent talk Jennifer, my last company i started, built and sold now has over 4000 employees. I discovered something over the years...often my best employees were college athletes who were NOT starters and often only played 1 or 2 years at school. I figured they were simply used to showing up, practicing, and accepting the fact they would not start. This 'habit' of showing up, trying and accepting the outcome proved to be one the secrets of our success. Great job!!!!
The kid howling in the background is very bold for sure.
Gosh....at last found someone saying this
The kid is having his own Ted Talk at the back and parents seem to enjoy it, as they didn`t make the slightest attempt to shut the little bugger.
@@behappyliving2549 He'll grow up to be a dolt, jusr like his parents.
@@behappyliving2549 That kid should have never been there in the first place, if they can't find a babysitter then they should be listening at home like the rest of us. Hopefully when that kid grows up it's bold enough not to follow in its parents self centered footsteps.
All the kids are bold until they're taught that some of their desires are not to be fulfilled
Be bold. Just ask. The secret is knowing what you want and believing you deserve it and believing there's no reason why you won't get it. When you're devoid of doubt, success becomes inevitable.
Be bold, accept failure and most important of all, chase what you want - don't take what you get!! Very inspiring, amazing job.
Keanu Reeves is a real class act man! God bless him.
Everything I've ever heard about Keanu makes him sound awesome.
Always has been!
100% agree
Greatest movie star of all time?? LOL... that is hilarious.
Keanu souled out .ugh!
"Smart people think of all the negative things that will happen when things go wrong, but bold people think of all the good things that will happen when things go right"!
RIGHT!!!
False. Smart people tend to think a lot as they have extra processing power. Negative focus creates overthinking on negative outcomes. But if a smart person has a positive focus, all the extra processing power is directed positively.
So?
@@trillionaireman9016 knowing what can go wrong and buffering against it is why civilization exists.
And all the bold people call the smart people to borrow money.... LoL!
Never heard anyone talk of the 10% target before, motivated more than ever now.
Thank you for the inspiration Jen 💪🏻
You are a gem. Thank you for your message. Yeah, it is true that we can practice and learn (that's what we were doing in childhood). ❤️❤️❤️
"..Stop deliberating, stop planning, stop flowcharts, and just act.." ..LOVE IT..!!
Thank you! So glad you enjoyed it.
I just came to this realisation recently. There's a guy who grew up in the slums in Uganda, became a rich pop star, and now is on the verge of becoming president, ending a 35 year dictatorship. When I examined his story carefully, he reminded me of the Nike tagline, just do it! You can find the guy in Facebook, he's called Bobi Wine
Took me 50 years to get that!
@@jennifercohen874 Loved it💜
i.e. analysis paralysis
She’s right. My philosophy since I was a teenager has been “You don’t ask, you don’t get”, it works
Exactly right:)
Beggars don't get much though they ask all days through. There are way more things to success.
@@Oleksiy777 Beggars don't get much, because they don't ask for much. Your attempt to sound intelligent is falling short.
I want u
@Broccolihighkicks. i disagree. i tried asking for what i want many times. but i never got it. so stop preaching a lie.
Thank you - I needed to hear "go for it 10 times". I was feeling discourage and tired, and this encouraged me to keep going because I still have a few attempts before I have hit my 10-times.
Love the energy she gives off. Reminds me of a scene in the movie 'Gladiator.' "I wasn't the best because I was the fastest or the strongest. I was the best because I won the crowd. Win the crowd and you shall win your freedom." In relation to this vid "success" is the "crowd." And your continual efforts will lead to you "winning."
Keanu has the craziest legacy, it's so crazy how many peoples lives he's touched
My priest touched my life and my no-no spot. I wish Keanu touched my no-no spot instead.
@@sofascialistadankulamegado1781 WTF 🤣😂🤣
His name is neo
That's cuz keanu is secretly jesus
@@sofascialistadankulamegado1781 bruh 😂😂😂
I have found that whenever something goes wrong, There's usually something good about it. You learn something, or another door is opened, or something.
Exactly true!
This is how God set it up. Life is a gift, no matter how things may look.
Romans 8:28 "And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose."
God is intentional. He has created all of us for a specified purpose. Whatever TRUE dream that you have in your heart, look at it as a gift from God that's given you to indicate that it is already yours. Try try and try and remember when one door closes God will surely open up another one for you. Trust him in Jesus name.
Dualism
Life is like a wheel
When u r at the bottom, be patient.
Why?
Good life is ahead
When u r at the top, be ready.
Why?
U r about to learn a new life lesson
@@raymondphilip6232 I'd really like to know what you do with all the time you save writing 'u' instead of 'you' and 'r' instead of 'are'.
This rule was the main reason I achieved success in my twenties.
I lost that boldness in my late twenties and my early thirties is a mess and failure now.
But thank God I have been recovering and standing up recently.
Go for it, see it, believe it, work for it, and enjoy working for it.
I'm going to get what I want out of life!! It doesn't matter what anyone thinks about it or tries to stop.
"When you're smart you're really good at predicting all the possible negative outcome" That's deep
this is probably why people say "you think too much, you're overthinking it" ect. its pretty irritating.
Basic the theme of Goodwill Hunting.
That why luffy will be king 👑
Kalvin
@@wedomusic9451 I'm gonna atch that again today it's been a while
I used to watch this talk thinking about my dream job. I got motivated to try 10 times, and then I got it on the second try.
Be bold, take action, break your fear of failure.
Only YOU decide what the end of your current chapter will read like.
Yes!! Love this!!
@@jennifercohen874 omg thank you!
Congrats! Keep killing it 🙌
That is so incredible! I am so happy to have read this comment.
Congrats!!!
What happened after you joined this job ? Do you like it there ? For me, my mind is filled with the aftermath of achieving that dream job, whether I would be a worthy employee there or will I be a misfit and suffer from impostor syndrome all the time. Preparing to crack the interview for a few months is different than actually belonging there. This kind of demotivates me.
So true and would add that the more you can be bold and step put of your comfort zone the wider that comfort zone becomes until you can do almost anything with little or no fear.
She was nervous but her confidence came through greatly.
I was very nervous. Lol
@@jennifercohen874 You did great! Really inspired me this morning.
last year at age 55 i made the decision to become a professional artist... but that was right when covid hit... even my husband who is normally very supportive said 'don't go into art- nobody buys art'! but something deep inside of me said GO FOR IT. it was a huge learning curve but within months my paintings were $elling :)
love this and well done for following your heart
No way! That's so good, so happy for you. I'd love to see your paintings
Ohh that's really great!! All the best for ur future 👍👍
I’m glad to hear you stuck it out and pushed ahead
My Biology teacher laughed at me when I told her I wanted to be a teacher. I'm a teacher!
Why would she laugh at you?
YOU GO GIRLLL
yo go girl.......Imagine you teaching their sons and daughters.....
I'm a teacher, too. At school, I was joint bottom with Philip from Kindergarten to Secondary. Then I was joint bottom with Jason from secondary to another school. Then with Steven till I got a job. But when I got the job (Boatbuilder) I was top with Wig and then Losco. And now I'm a teacher at the top with Eoghan (Owen).
Silvia your biology teacher set you up....by laughing at you that can be interpreted as a put down...like saying you shouldn't or you couldn't do it...you can let others define you...or you can simply live your own truth...I applaud you...for being you. Oh by the way...I am also a teacher....and a student.
That has been my biggest hurdle, not asking for what I want in life. Thanks Jennifer
I think you Jennifer Cohen for having given to me this 10% rule, it gives a framework to think really easily on "how many trials must I be prepare to give in order to achieve some results".
I am right now applying it to the preparation of my master thesis defense presentation by saying to me that after 10 trainings I will be bold enough so that it will become a formality.
Another takeaway: Keanu Reeves is awesome.
Most definitely
100%
What was this video all about?
@@ROTHSTEIN01 It was a lot of bull
@Gemini Vortex That is silly why would a straight girl want to ask out 10 girls for a date.
another important truth comes to mind watching this talk: very often, the person who has the most important thing to say doesn't necessarily have the experience or confidence or polish or the right slide on the screen. when THIS imperfect, maybe shy speaker speaks, i will always listen carefully. i've found in life that SO many polished, overly confident, authoritative people have nothing at all to say. thank you Jen!
Exactly. I think I have so many original thoughts to say but because I am not fluent in English, I am not making videos about them. English speaking people have a big advantage.
Mmmmmmm
👌
@@naturesgifts5682 how many people in the world speak your native language?
@@naturesgifts5682 lmao sounds like a great excuse to me
This was so inspiring. I've always felt held back and doubting etc. but this year I have decided to take more chances and go after what I want. It has been a bit scary so far but this video confirmed to me that it's important to take those chances. When I was a teen my art teacher asked us to write in our notebooks we had to hand in after each class what grade we thought we deserved at the end of the course. Normally, I probably would have written that I deserved an E or C, but that time I wrote that I thought I deserved an A and stated why. And she did give me an A! And I always wondered if she would've if I didn't ask for it.
She is amazing
so what reason you give to say you deserved an A, i dont think she will give you A without you asking, the purpose of she doing this asking the kid wat grade they deserve is to precisely teach this, to make them feel confident that they deserve good grades.
Thank you so much for this speech. You speaking from bottom of my heart. I told this many many people and they dont trust me. They said i have pink glasses
Thank you one more for get me back to my hard long journey to my goal ❤️❤️❤️
There is no failure… there is only feedback… 🙏✨💜🍀💐
I usually adjust the input gain on the mic channel to stop the feedback. If the feedback doesn't stop, this constitutes some sort of failure.
Of course there's failure, that's why the word exists. It's a perfectly valid word. Failure is common. What a silly idea that there's no failure.
@@markhirstwood4190 but if you shift the experience of the failure to be feedback, an object lesson, or a test, you can train yourself to accept the disappointment and commit to keep trying.
@@markhirstwood4190 You miss the point. Failure is feedback and "failure" is your judgment saying its "bad" when it's simply feedback.
I like that one
"Chase what you want; don't just take what you can get."
YES!!!!
@@jennifercohen874 : I really appreciated your talk, and took away many salient points. Thank you for encouraging me, and so many others, my lovely fellow Canadian! 💞🇨🇦 HAPPY NEW YEAR!
That's right but sometimes you are afraid that if you don't take what you can get, you may miss the chance because you don't really know what you want until you try it ..add to that we live in a world crowded with people and lack ideal opportunities
By those means it also states we shouldn't go for jobs that gets us lots of money but we don't like.
A lot of people have jobs they don't like so they can get the money needed to do what they do like.
Society is run by people doing jobs they don't like for money.
@aena mustafa
That's a tough call.
I can't say money ain't important but working a job you hate can make the money seem miniscule anyway.
I don't know what priorities or responsibility you have though.
Ofc you need to study to something that will get you money but maybe balance it with something you also like.
Thank you, love that!
Never say never, even at 61. Still practicing. 🇨🇦💚🦋
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Greetings from Egypt 🇪🇬
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Inspiring and profoundly simple. I like simple, and personally believe that most of life is simple... it's our human convoluted minds that make things complex. I even found your talk to be bold... I can tell that you strive for perfection tho don't let it stop you; and had intended a preciseness in your delivery, but kept going regardless of the glitches you encountered. And, you even kept your composure... well done 🙂
Key point: "Boldness is the stronger indicator of success than intelligence."
I thought it was grit. Probably a combination of things
Exactly!!!
I thought it was risk taking.
Thats kind of what causes the inverse bell curve of success for men.
is IQ also one?
The highest paying job I ever got (my current one) came from an interview where I opened by saying "You need to know that I'm looking to go right to the top, so if you need someone who wants to stay in this position for the rest of their career, we shouldn't continue."
They said, 'there's room at the top here.'
Then they hired me and on day 1 said, "list 3 goals for 2020 and we'll help you accomplish them so you can get promoted."
@@bellavic4777
Seems totally legit
@@bellavic4777 I'm good
@@bellavic4777 And your ex is pleased about that?
When I was a kid I always used to have these bold ideas. Often times my mother would tell me to be realistic and not a dreamer. Well, I kept dreaming and also realized that my mom was a wounded person. She kept herself safe by not reaching too far. All she wanted to do was keep me safe too but she didn’t have to.
One of the most insightful Tedx talks I've ever listened to. The 10% target is a phenomenon that if embraced and genuinely applied will surely bring about positive results. Boldness is surely a more quicker and effective way of being successful and attaining what you really desire in life. I hope to wholeheartedly practice being bold.
Thank you for the wise words Jennifer 🙏
I am so happy you enjoyed it. Thank you
the one thing that has always stuck with me, is when my grandma once said to me " If you dont program or change your own mindset , someone else will"
Wise words from Grandma
Soo needed to hear this
Did she say how to program your mind as you want?
One thing I really like here, is that she has notes written on her palm. You don't need to be have things down perfectly to achieve great things.
Exactly true!
YES!! It's about the message she wanted to give, the way of presenting it doesn't matter.. I loved the authenticity of this ted talk..
Jennifer, you are truly inspiring, thank you!! You have managed to simplify a life law that has baffled me for years!! I am currently stuck in a mundane life, simply accepting what life throws at me!! Your 10% rule has opened up my eyes to a whole new world & future!! 🤩
I love your Keanu story, it reminds me of when I was 16yrs old (24yrs ago) when I was obsessed with the Backstreet Boys & was telling my friends I would meet them one day (I live in Australia). My friends laughed at me, telling me to keep dreaming. I entered many competitions to meet them, but never won. When I was 21, the Backstreet Boys finally toured Australia, they performed a concert in my hometown of Adelaide which I obviously attended, the next day I flew over to Melbourne with some friends to watch them at their final concert in Australia...whilst at Adelaide Airport guess who I happened to meet? Their drummer & guitarist, we exchanged numbers & next thing I know I am being introduced to the Backstreet Boys themselves!! We had different flights to Melbourne, but agreed to meet up after the concert that night. I couldn't get a hold of the drummer after the concert, but a bunch of fans were screaming over a balcony to which I baldly pushed my way to the front, saw the drummer, got his attention, found out where their VIP after-party was & managed to not only meet the Backstreet Boys, I partied with them at their after-party!! This is proof that yes, if you want something bad enough in life, be bald & go for it!! 😁🙏
So inspiring!
I instinctively relate to Jennifer's comments about boldness but you also need the correct blend of skill and caution to add to the mix for any venture to succeed
Most of us fall into a comfort zone and stay there. A person can only grow in times of hardship or discomfort.
Sophistry. Complete rubbish.
Nailed it
What she says is true! I attribute all of my past successes to my "boldness". I always believed, "If you don't ask, you don't get.", and "If you always do what you did, you'll always get what you got." Those were my fave mantras. Go for it!
Hi thank you for sharing your mantras. Very good reasoning for better future
Boldness is very important in every aspect of our lives . A man can be handsome and capable of attracting women. But if he has no courage to ask them out, he will remain single.
I know I want something different, but I don't know what I really want.
@@angelrobinson5257 I hope you have figured it out by now, if not, we can reason together
This is a whole package to learn about succeeding, thank you 🙏👏👏
This is so awesome. Today I realized I am actually following this from long. You have put in exact words. So easy to explain to other peoples. Thanks a lot.
Keanu is the type of person we should all aspire to be like, he is the pinnacle of what a person should be like, a true inspiration a true good soul, we need people like him guiding us not politicians etc, the man truly is an earth angel and I have so much respect for him :)
He’s my all-time FAV
Keanu for world president :p
My neighbor worked with him to redesign the flooring one of his CA homes years ago. She said he really is the nicest person.
settle down. He's broken more hearts than most.
For me, that guy is Manny Pacquiao. He grew up in poverty in the Philippines, which is much more severe than being poor in America. He often went without food. He slept on the street. He got paid $1 for his first professional fight. He fought just so he could earn some money to buy some rice. Best thing about Pacquiao? He was never invincible. He got knocked out early in his career, but he came back to become champion again. He then got knocked out AGAIN, but rose up and became champion AGAIN. Then he got knocked out really badly by Marquez, yet, once again, Emmanuel Pacquiao rose up to become champion AGAIN. In life, people talk about "getting back up after getting knocked down." But in boxing, one has to LITERALLY do this. It's not just a figure of speech. Boxing is brutal both mentally and physically. Manny Pacquiao is much bigger than even Rocky Balboa. He's an 8 time world champion who came from nothing. He is loved in America and idolized in the Philippines. He literally hands out food and money in the Philippines. He has never forgotten where he came from. And now he wants to help his people by getting in to politics. He gives Filipinos hope.
Moral to the story don’t let your fears control your life. Take action don’t wait for tomorrow. You’re welcome that’ll be $50,000 thank you
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Maybe if you ask a few more times I'll give you the money.
thanks, spare me 15 min of bs
🤣🤣🤣
@@2006hectordavid why ulistened than?
I LOVE this so much!! You get what you ask for, so ask for what you want!!
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getting to know you if that’s ok for you
Greetings from Egypt 🇪🇬
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One of the most inspiring ted talks I’ve ever watched
If your smart you over calculate and if you aren’t you basically get ahead... finally it all makes sense.
Yup I'm an overthinker and I totally get this
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@@janicedsilva2857 Self doubt is an illusion!
@@dang6467 Hahaha how do I get out of it?
@creme good Thanks but I'm not good committing to routines. I've tried these things :/
"it's the squeeky wheel, that gets the grease." I can work with that. ON POINT!
Very well explained. She kept it simple and straight forward.
Fearless Voice!
You have delivered and spoken the words with Lion Energy, Attitude, Power, and with Higher Frequency.
❤ Claps for you! 🎉
I once boldly walked about to a famous Hollywood movie director and asked if I could gather some experience on his set, because I wanted to become a director, as well. He wasn't even hesitating for a second and said "yes". That moment, that bold move, changed everything in my career. The worst thing that can happen is that people will say "no" and you leave it at that. But if you never try, you'll never know. Be polite. Tell them honestly what your intentions are. Stay calm and professional. The right people will help you no matter how famous they are.
You are spot on. I have this conversation with my wife and sons on a damn near daily basis. No one can read your mind. So you must advocate for yourself.
YOU ARE 100% CORRECT!
One of the best TED talks I have ever heard 💕
Thank you so much! I appreciate it
I've learnt that any "thing" I want never makes me okay once I get it. Its about placing less demands on how reality needs to be for me to be okay.
Ooh I like this!
Abundance mindset
Cool
When you answer a 2nd question "Why you want something?"- many times you realize you either dont want the thing or you start "attracting" other things that get you the same feeling as the first thing
That was bold- especially being so young but let’s be honest: Keanu Reeves is literally the nicest actor on this planet. He is such an angel. You picked the right person
...maybe, I would love to hear his version of the story. Probably goes like....I am here in Winnipeg bored out if my skull and this kid was crazy enough to give me her number which peaks my curiosity ...beats sitting in the hotel, ...maybe I,'ll get a home cooked meal. ...let's go! ...lots of times it is lonely at the top so it really is true that reaching out might work.
@@SalettaRocks he asked for her number *
@@xtra_612 ...and then she gave it to him... :-).
knowing what you want is the first step. Having her looks and brains, helps a lot when "asking" and getting.
she lives in a different reality xD.
Step 1 - be beautiful.
Step 2 - ask for what you want.
Step 3 - get what you want.
unfortunately, this is true....if she was overweight, this vid wouldn't have anything close to the amount of views
I just want to say thank you, I needed to hear this.
Boldness is a skill, you need to practice it to develop it,
The 10% rule: take whatever you want most in life and take 10 attempts at it. (The purpose of this rule is to get very comfortable with failing 90% of the time)
Ask for what you want.
Chose what you want, and not just take what you can get.
Well said
I love you Alisa!😍⚘😘
Relax. We should watch these videos to motivate ourselves
@@miguelrodas8505 Don't relax.
What if I want to be a sports star but didn’t win the genetics olympics
I can’t believe no one brought her a water 🤷🏽♂️💯 priceless information thanks Jennifer
haha! i know right.
They did there was a skip in the video and that's y there was a skip if u didn't see it no big deal, a minute after or so when she asked..
It’s a shame if they cut that out
Same person in charge of the venue, who did not quietly and politely usher parent and kid to another space for a bit, and a chat. JENNIFER, great work.
She should have asked for it since she wanted it ;)
This is the best motivational speech I've ever listened to. God bless Jennifer Cohen
Amazing speech, thank you, Jen
Being bold takes courage. This is something I will be working on in 2021!
Wow my words exactly. God inspire, guide & help us!!!"2021 here we(with u , of course )come!!!!
@@oamwangase2332 Thank you so much
Redesign Your Mind, still a few weeks to practice in 2020. ;)
start now! don't wait.
@@noobstyleRR Yep! And indeed why not?
That's speak volumes about the type of person Keanu Reeves is.
...and has always been.
Keanu is an amazing human! But if she wasn't bold enough to ask, she would've never experienced his kindness and missed a potential opportunity.
I know. I'm shocked. He didn't even get his agent or manager to call and check up on her.
SO SO SO PERFECT; 100% ADMIRE AND AGREE!!!
This was very inspiring! Thank you so much for this talk.
I always thought my mom for example was often why to bold and by that kind of impolite. This talk gave me actually a lot more appreciation for that trait and I should really start to act on it aswell
One of those very few talks that actually contain something unique. The talk is not so "awesome" and perfect, but it is real content. Thank you!
Talk is not awesome or perfect, only after that kid in the audience started being a kid... Before that it was smooth... Yet she managed to deliver what she wanted...
I think I like it more because it’s not perfect, kinda makes it more real
Boldness was a skill I learned at a job I had when I was 18-23... I didn't call it "boldness", I called it "the hustle." It has been one of the most important skills I have ever learned in life.
Hustle is a good word also. That's why I have a podcast called Habits and Hustle :)
How did you teach yourself this skill?
@@zainababdulrashid3313 It's in all the self help books. And based on a line in the old testament.
Another word for the Boldness she is talking about is Persistence. Keep trying enough times that you either succeed or move on to the next thing. Good talk 👍
I love this!!! It reminded me of practicing on the piano, do it over and over again working through the mistakes until you can do it right by slowing it down comfortably and speeding it up perfectly! The 10% Target is to keep at it, Fail you your to Success!! I was doing this in other areas unknowingly. Cool!!!
Summary: "Be bold": You can fail 90% and win only 10% of the time - but that 10% can be a HUGE win - " be bold "
Go for what you want - don't accept less than you want.
I am not sure about that.
@@lostnlonely669 me too
@@keithpotter7366 yes
@@lostnlonely669 Need to change your mind! Affirm what you want & push for it! Become Found and Loved!
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Rose Reality
I don't keep track of the number of times I failed. It doesn't matter how many time I fail. I only need to succeed once.
Great advice from Jennifer Cohen.
Step One: Be Gorgeous
Step Two: Be Aggressive
Step Three: Be Gorgeous
😂🤙🏻
I think that's the only thing people can take from this presentation. Rest of it is a priviledged bulshit.
Yes everything is easier when you look good. So look good.
@@jolank she wasn’t always rich, you understand that right?
@@lucidviolin1298 actually I never referred to her wealth. I was rather referring to the fact that she's a white, gorgeous, possibly smart female living in California. Which I'd say is 80% of her success. Maybe about 10% is the points that she was presenting. You know how I know? Because I already had the courtesy of working with (and even firing) several people who exactly matched the criteria she presented. They were bold, aspiring, relentless and... useless. You don't want an employee who is bald but fails 90% of time and presents it as his strengths. So what I'm saying is what she's presenting is not the "secret to getting anything you want". It's a tiny piece in a big puzzle to actually getting it.
Probably one of the very few TED Talks that I actually listened to completely, found to be extremely clear and helpful. Great job. And thank you.
Thank you so much! I appreciate the nice feedback
100% Agree!
This is something I know of but haven’t fully embodied all of the time. I totally agree with your, we take what we can get, not what we want viewpoint. As I look back I realize I have done this in a few major parts of my life and this now..stops.
I often am not totally sure what it is I want because I doubt that I can have that and therefore don’t commit to that ideal but often a lesser one that I know is easy for me to achieve.
I have had a blessed and good life so far, but a GREAT one is forthcoming.
Thanks Jennifer. Well articulated speech. Got allot out of this. Tx.
gosh, you people are hilarious.😂😂😂😂
True
"Believe you can do it and you're halfway there."
YES!
@@jennifercohen874 omg is it you????
@@VictoriaWilliams5994 it's me!!!
@@jennifercohen874 amazing Ted talk and great message! You did a great job ❤️
Teddy Roosevelt
I consider myself bold and I have encouraged others to be bold. One can cultivate boldness and like I tell others--people will not know that you aren't naturally bold. Just act as if you are. The more you practice being bold the easier it gets.
I loved this talk ... Thank you for the inspiration .. Needed that a lot!
"You need to ask for what you want." Simple like that!
I started balding this year, now I know I'm on the path to success.
Same
I’m so proud to be bald. I am 32 always shoved my head as a kid and absolutely felt so uncomfortable when I would grow my hair out. And 32 years later I use a razor and keep it shiny. My beard is on point and I make guys who have the nice hair feel uncomfortable because I come in like a Viking god.
000))))
2021
The path to success is getting rid of my hair....that’s super easy,off to buy razor now
Good speech...thank you!
keanu is the right person to ask help for!! so much love and respect for him. Thanks