This is an EXCELLENT explanation of how early trauma and how those traumas ( no matter how "small") impact how the addict is hurting. This is NOT an excuse ("Momma didn't love me enough , so I became an addict") but it does help make the connection of the under current of lies addicts believe about themselves. Then when they get "triggered" by someone tapping into one of those weak areas the addict responds limbically (think "knee jerk") and they want to medicate that horrible feeling. So they reach out for their "drug" of choice: Dopamine. Hmmm Feels good right after "acting out".....bad feelings gone, but then SHAME and promises: "I'm Never gonna do that again...promise!" Until.....that shame creeps back in and reminds the addict what a failure they are or how no one really cares/loves them. THEN.....Right back to the mud puddle of their addiction.
Hi, this lecture was really well delivered. Very easy to understand. I hope you post part 2. The theory of switching the Betrayal therapy part after learning skills for sobriety makes total sense. Timothy D Stein, please do some more accessible videos! I would be encouraging my partner to see you (if you lived locally in England to us!) I have personally been researching sex addiction for about 6 months now. I've read various articles, watched videos, looked at evidence based studies, attended group, couples, and my own counselling as has my partner (but inconsistently)...This is one of the best lectures I've seen. He watched this with me (at first to appease me I think, but a little way in, and I'm convinced he was really paying attention. Not sure it had been put across to him in this way on some parts before) I hope I see your name come up in this field repeatedly!
Meditation is another way out of this. It helps to recover soon and brings about a real plasticity into a recovered brain. Some people use spiritual or religious practices to get rid of their sexual thoughts and stay 'pure'. ~Dr.Arun.
This is an EXCELLENT explanation of how early trauma and how those traumas ( no matter how "small") impact how the addict is hurting. This is NOT an excuse ("Momma didn't love me enough , so I became an addict") but it does help make the connection of the under current of lies addicts believe about themselves. Then when they get "triggered" by someone tapping into one of those weak areas the addict responds limbically (think "knee jerk") and they want to medicate that horrible feeling. So they reach out for their "drug" of choice: Dopamine. Hmmm Feels good right after "acting out".....bad feelings gone, but then SHAME and promises: "I'm Never gonna do that again...promise!" Until.....that shame creeps back in and reminds the addict what a failure they are or how no one really cares/loves them. THEN.....Right back to the mud puddle of their addiction.
Hi, this lecture was really well delivered. Very easy to understand. I hope you post part 2. The theory of switching the Betrayal therapy part after learning skills for sobriety makes total sense. Timothy D Stein, please do some more accessible videos! I would be encouraging my partner to see you (if you lived locally in England to us!) I have personally been researching sex addiction for about 6 months now. I've read various articles, watched videos, looked at evidence based studies, attended group, couples, and my own counselling as has my partner (but inconsistently)...This is one of the best lectures I've seen. He watched this with me (at first to appease me I think, but a little way in, and I'm convinced he was really paying attention. Not sure it had been put across to him in this way on some parts before) I hope I see your name come up in this field repeatedly!
Will there be a part 2 to this?
Meditation is another way out of this. It helps to recover soon and brings about a real plasticity into a recovered brain. Some people use spiritual or religious practices to get rid of their sexual thoughts and stay 'pure'.
~Dr.Arun.
Sadly this describes my husband to a T…