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Psychedelic-Assisted Psychotherapy-The New Frontier Part 1
Psychedelic-Assisted Psychotherapy-The New Frontier: A Highly Effective Treatment for Depression, Anxiety, PTSD, Suicidality, and End-of-Life Existential Angst with Christina Ingenito, LCSW & Jim Matto-Shepard, PhD
Psychedelic-assisted psychotherapy consistently shows remarkable and dramatic results from the serious psychological distresses of treatment-resistant depression, anxiety, PTSD, and end-of-life existential angst. Clients and clinical trial participants describe these experiences as one of the most spiritual of their lives. Increased compassion and empathy have also been consistently reported. Many voices of vision recognize these treatments as the most significant advancements in psychiatry and psychology in decades.
Our speakers will provide an embodied experience of psychedelic-assisted psychotherapy by sharing Christina’s personal experience as a participant in an MDMA research study, thus grounding the presentation in the palpable reality of the potent, healing effects of this treatment. Discussion will include currently available psychedelic-assisted psychotherapy treatments; highlight the importance of “set and setting;” and share what’s coming soon through the FDA MDMA Expanded Access program. They will also talk about their work as founders of the first psychedelic-assisted psychotherapy clinic in Sonoma County - the Northern California Center for Integrative Psychotherapy in Petaluma.
Learning Objectives - After completion of the presentation the attendees will:
1. Have a basic understanding of the protocol and effectiveness of ketamine-assisted psychotherapy (KAP), and understand the differences between KAP, ketamine infusions, and the new esketamine medication by Johnson & Johnson.
2. Understand the protocol of FDA-approved clinical trials utilizing MDMA-assisted psychotherapy, and have a clear understanding of the consistent and dramatic results of these trials. Understand what will be available through the FDA MDMA Expanded Access program coming in late 2019.
3. Understand the importance of “set and setting” in the psychedelic-assisted psychotherapy model and the non-directive clinical approach to the work.
About our speakers
Christina Ingenito, LCSW is a transpersonal and somatic psychotherapist with a private practice in Petaluma. She has been an LCSW since 1986, has done hospice work for over 25 years; and she facilitates a restorative justice group for men serving life in prison at San Quentin. She works at the intersection of mystery, social justice, and empowerment.
Jim Matto-Shepard, PhD is a licensed psychologist with specializations in somatic, couples and group psychotherapy. He was licensed in 1997. He is also a certified conscious dance (Soul Motion) teacher. Jim is passionate about authenticity in relationship and has been immersed in ritual and meditation since 1978.
Both Christina and Jim are certified in ketamine-assisted psychotherapy and are recent graduates of the CIIS Certificate in Psychedelic Therapies and Research Program. Along with two colleagues, they have founded and opened the first psychedelic-assisted psychotherapy clinic in Sonoma County - the Northern California Center for Integrative Psychotherapy in Petaluma.
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  • @maramadawson8625
    @maramadawson8625 21 день тому

    Thanks ❤ great points

  • @jackiesell2877
    @jackiesell2877 Місяць тому

    I wish I could see part 2!

  • @tommac21
    @tommac21 2 місяці тому

    I think this title was wrong. They meant to say. PROSTITUTES.

  • @arif4654
    @arif4654 3 місяці тому

    Is there a part 2 available somewhere?

  • @MHobbs43
    @MHobbs43 6 місяців тому

    Has anyone researched what false 'positivity' creates in a human? Women do it a lot to be "nice" and then they get sick and die young. Real positivity comes from the freedom to be fully expressed in this world and be known by those we love. Avoiding, ignoring, and dismissing, will make it hard and almost impossible to have real positivity for any length of time in an environment where we are expected to give sex, support the male ego, and go without our own needs being considered as equally valuable. Removing ones-self from the relationship and getting needs met is necessary for survival if a partner just wants positivity, which is really just asking for conflict to be ignored and they don't want to be bothered to do something hard for the relationship.

  • @treplay8846
    @treplay8846 6 місяців тому

    The truth is couples need each other for having kids ...you always die alone

  • @michellek6533
    @michellek6533 6 місяців тому

    I gather they are not showing the video her audience sees?

  • @Matthew8473
    @Matthew8473 7 місяців тому

    I'm fascinated by this content. A book I read with similar themes really shifted my perspective. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint

  • @millizbeez
    @millizbeez 10 місяців тому

    Yay! Such a pleasure to see you in action, Theresa! And Kitty! Recommending the Body Knot to my clients :)

  • @Russell6906
    @Russell6906 11 місяців тому

    I've been reading Dan Wile's and Dorothy Kaufmann's great, short book, "Solving the Moment: A Collaborative Couple Therapy Manual" (138 pages) so I was happy to find this UA-cam video featuring Dan Wile talking about his Collaborative Couple Therapy. I love his comment from 18:33 - 18:43 mins. "To do this kind of therapy, what you want to do is to be able to get into each person's perspective and appreciate what they're struggling with, rather than stand back and judging them." To put his comment in context, at 17:29 mins. Dan said, "Sometimes you just kind of know you hate this person and you want the other person to get divorced." What a miraculous thing it is to be able to appreciate what someone is struggling with from their perspective rather than judging them from one's own perspective! There are 3 parts to Dan's Collaborative Couple Therapy: (1) Theory (Solving the Moment), (2) Methods (the method of Doubling mostly but a few others), and (3) Sensibility (the therapist's self-monitoring of any slippage from listening to judging). I highly recommend Dan's and Dorothy's book and this video. 😊

  • @nadjagruberg9451
    @nadjagruberg9451 Рік тому

    Great but where is part 2?

  • @sharonarruda2518
    @sharonarruda2518 Рік тому

    Valuable information for this counsellor-in-training, who also is an HSP. Thank you for sharing this video.

  • @sarahalderman3126
    @sarahalderman3126 Рік тому

    Sadly this describes my husband to a T…

  • @kendrao4512
    @kendrao4512 2 роки тому

    I'm only at 13:06, so might be premature, 30% of the 15-20% are OUTGOING. We do not come off as shy.. at all! But, we process the same and get exhausted, etc. Same, but, not shy. (from Dr. Aron's findings)

  • @gandrewmill4115
    @gandrewmill4115 2 роки тому

    Where can i access part 2?

  • @severly4160
    @severly4160 2 роки тому

    I read a few of his articles on psychology today. I wish he had his own channel.

  • @nenasadie
    @nenasadie 3 роки тому

    I had such a sudden epiphany watching this lecture. Regarding how we question ourselves, and I thought about how he said the narcissist doesn't question themselves. Maybe it is kind of like when someone doesn't blink, so your eyes water and you blink for them. You can help it. Perhaps, as well as the projection and gaslighting and manipulation and toxic shame, we also end up doubting ourselves simply because the narcissist doesn't, and we naturally try to correct that interpersonal imbalance.

  • @karen07825
    @karen07825 3 роки тому

    Where is part 2?

  • @TheAbergel
    @TheAbergel 3 роки тому

    What a wonderful taste of Hakomi.

  • @amendqureshi2676
    @amendqureshi2676 3 роки тому

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  • @fernwhitfield3416
    @fernwhitfield3416 3 роки тому

    Where do I find part 2?

  • @Rickrod22109
    @Rickrod22109 3 роки тому

    This is an EXCELLENT explanation of how early trauma and how those traumas ( no matter how "small") impact how the addict is hurting. This is NOT an excuse ("Momma didn't love me enough , so I became an addict") but it does help make the connection of the under current of lies addicts believe about themselves. Then when they get "triggered" by someone tapping into one of those weak areas the addict responds limbically (think "knee jerk") and they want to medicate that horrible feeling. So they reach out for their "drug" of choice: Dopamine. Hmmm Feels good right after "acting out".....bad feelings gone, but then SHAME and promises: "I'm Never gonna do that again...promise!" Until.....that shame creeps back in and reminds the addict what a failure they are or how no one really cares/loves them. THEN.....Right back to the mud puddle of their addiction.

  • @leneberentzen7301
    @leneberentzen7301 3 роки тому

    Anyone know how I can find part 2 of this video? Really enjoyed this

  • @chriswalth
    @chriswalth 3 роки тому

    part 2 anywhere?

  • @ela_seo
    @ela_seo 3 роки тому

    I recognized myself in so many of the mentioned traits. I loved hearing how from an evolutionary point of view HS has a purpose.

  • @adelesharp7736
    @adelesharp7736 3 роки тому

    Hi, this lecture was really well delivered. Very easy to understand. I hope you post part 2. The theory of switching the Betrayal therapy part after learning skills for sobriety makes total sense. Timothy D Stein, please do some more accessible videos! I would be encouraging my partner to see you (if you lived locally in England to us!) I have personally been researching sex addiction for about 6 months now. I've read various articles, watched videos, looked at evidence based studies, attended group, couples, and my own counselling as has my partner (but inconsistently)...This is one of the best lectures I've seen. He watched this with me (at first to appease me I think, but a little way in, and I'm convinced he was really paying attention. Not sure it had been put across to him in this way on some parts before) I hope I see your name come up in this field repeatedly!

  • @elenifotopoulou7379
    @elenifotopoulou7379 3 роки тому

    Thank you for your presentation and validation. The sad part one narcissistic parent can effect the family system like a disease. It effects you personally especially when you the rebel or scapegoat as a kid you think is your fault but when you grow up to an Adult especially having children and seeing parents scapegoat your own children and you never good enough or your own children are never good enough to the family system is sad. No matter how hard you try, or try to communicate with them in hopes to explain or make sense to them or be there for them and fix it you will never do sadly. Siblings and family members are pitted against each other everyone is angry at each other, bitter no one wants to talk, triangulation and shame exists and always you are at fault. Of course in the beginning you start wondering if you are the narcissist or is something wrong with you because you have everyone pointing the finger on to you. And when you start searching slowly you understand isn't you but the narcissistic disease that has spread to the family system. The more you try to defend your self or in hopes to fix it or get along the worst it gets. I really don't know how to have compassion for these people when they don't deserve any because each time you had compassion and empathy and kept trying to please them or don't rock the boat and kept apologizing they got worse and miss treating you. I believe no contact is the only solution especially when you are the Scapegoat the problem is not the narcissistic parent or parents anymore in later years but the siblings or extended family that they don't care to see what is happening and are apathetic towards the scapegoat and isolate you and blame you and your family you create. I believe they should educate young generations about narcissistic behavior in families and how it metaphor to the rest of the family members. The only one who can see this is the scapegoat slowly because is never good enough. Thank you for your excellent speach.

  • @carlmarcus910
    @carlmarcus910 3 роки тому

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  • @TheNovemberRose
    @TheNovemberRose 4 роки тому

    I second the below. Nicely done.. thank you for illuminating this trait. <3

  • @arunsk3650
    @arunsk3650 4 роки тому

    Meditation is another way out of this. It helps to recover soon and brings about a real plasticity into a recovered brain. Some people use spiritual or religious practices to get rid of their sexual thoughts and stay 'pure'. ~Dr.Arun.

  • @ladyoftheveil8342
    @ladyoftheveil8342 4 роки тому

    He makes me sleep alone

  • @ladyoftheveil8342
    @ladyoftheveil8342 4 роки тому

    I’ve taught him way MORE !!! He didn’t even know how to touch my lady parts !!!

  • @ladyoftheveil8342
    @ladyoftheveil8342 4 роки тому

    She didn’t teach him anything! Just had intercourse !!!

  • @ladyoftheveil8342
    @ladyoftheveil8342 4 роки тому

    I NEVER WANTED A MAN WHO WASNT EVEN NORMAL ENOUGH TO HAVE A REGULAR FIRST SEXUAL EXPERIENCE!!! It makes me want to vomit 🤮

  • @ladyoftheveil8342
    @ladyoftheveil8342 4 роки тому

    Sick stuff ! I hate my boy friend for telling me he had a damn sex surrogate ugh !! I want to get away from his nasty butt

  • @philos_theos
    @philos_theos 4 роки тому

    Will there be a part 2 to this?

  • @mariancounsellor
    @mariancounsellor 4 роки тому

    I found this really interesting as a couples counsellor 👍🏽

  • @dbsabo2
    @dbsabo2 4 роки тому

    If one is taking Ketamine IV Infusions to treat G Anxiety disorder and/or M Depressive disorder or PTSD, there is no need to combine it with Psychotherapy. First of all, it raises the already expensive cost, which is harmful to distressed clients. ESPECIALLY since these treatments are off-label, and out of pocket, since most insurance companies will not cover them. Secondly, Ketamine infusion therapy is far more efficacious than Psychotherapy, i.e. 70-85 percent according to clinical trials. Show me any type of psychotherapy that has THOSE numbers! So why combine the two? Psychotherapists should not be mucking up these treatments. I have had four infusions so far, four more to go this month. These four sessions are doing FAR MORE for me than over a year of psychotherapy. The last thing I would want during my infusion, is a shrink sitting next to me telling me how I feel while in a Temporary medical induced state of dissociation. I prefer sitting next to my wife, during this highly PRIVATE situation. Plus there is FAR too much possibility for a therapist TAINTING the process, and abuse. The only reason why Psychotherapists want to get onto the ketamine bandwagon, is because they see their trade as being under threat of a far better treatment. Psychotherapists, social workers, PsyD's - please do all use ex clients a favor and stay out of the Ketamine business. Ketamine infusions need no help from the mental health profession, they work FINE on their own. Yeah take a breath doc, you are in a dying profession. In particular, I am taking treatments in part to assist in the healing of PSYCHOTHERAPY induced trauma. Check out this vid - me in it: Title: Casual sex non intimate couples counseling; unethical, hurtful, legal, NASW & APA complicit. Ban it? Link: ua-cam.com/video/ciwvvs1C3bU/v-deo.html You mental health professinals waited far TOO LONG to clean up your profession. Now there is something better, and it's too late. JMHO.

  • @lisaleis8960
    @lisaleis8960 4 роки тому

    fear or public speaking is weak adrenals, which are very connected to kidney function

  • @danashannon8234
    @danashannon8234 4 роки тому

    Is there a part 2

    • @hcaratti
      @hcaratti 4 роки тому

      Sorry there is no Part 2 of this video. But www.counselingyogameditation.com has a newsletter you can join so we can stay in touch!

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  • @kharmon
    @kharmon 4 роки тому

    This is an amazing talk, where can I find part 2?

  • @jameshendrickson4845
    @jameshendrickson4845 4 роки тому

    I think the not-so subtle digs against Southerners could be avoided.

  • @angelo7217
    @angelo7217 4 роки тому

    Thorough discussion thank you. I'm introducing this to my psych class as a part of a Gender Roles assignment.

  • @chelemae
    @chelemae 4 роки тому

    Perhaps I'm not understanding this or, this was missed in the video and that is - I've told my husband multitudes of times that I'm teachable, I'm coachable, willing to learn, etc. but he has to really soften his approach, not be so harsh and hard, hostile. Of course that rarely happens with him and when this happens, I don't want to do anything he suggests or says because he is so, so "hard", abrasive, etc. And so I feel I'm in the 'failure to accept influence' category and that might not be fair? again, maybe I'm not understanding this but my husband has me in tears so much with how he criticizes me.

    • @l.1273
      @l.1273 4 роки тому

      I’m sorry to read about this situation with your husband. I want to share with you that I was told that I was like your husband. I can’t say by how much but because I grew up in an abusive household I grew up being loud and fighting and arguing and thought that normal for a very long time. In relationships this was not much appreciated as you can imagine. I didn’t realize the degree to which people were inwardly cowering around me. One friend expressed what you did, I needed to tone things down. We tried different things. One was whispering. I had to whisper. Well, this could bring on laughter which of course helped a lot. Another thing was writing things down instead of talking out loud. One needs to be somewhat calm to write clearly and easily. It also slowed down the interaction quite a bit making things more comfortable. Another was the ‘stop’ hand signal. Just putting up a hand and indicating stop. That way the intimidated person didn’t need to speak. When the hand went up it was a signal for me to back off. Because relationships can be complex, other issues began to surface when I slowed down and changed this behavior and one thing was the degree to which the other person wasn’t being assertive, not expressing their needs and surprisingly not able to very easily. So as things began to change it was found there were issues on both sides. Passive aggressive behavior came up as well from the intimidated person. It wasn’t one person being responsible for everything but it certainly helps when what is seen as aggressive behavior changes as it allows these other issues to emerge for the attention they need. I’d like to add one more thing. If your husband isn’t willing to try these things, well, that indicates a much deeper issue, that, in my opinion calls for more professional help. I was willing to change because I really cared and truly didn’t understand the affect I was having. I hope your husband is willing to experiment as well. I wish you both good fortune as you go forward.

    • @elliegonzaleza
      @elliegonzaleza Рік тому

      @@l.1273wow that’s so enlightening to me to read your advice and process! Thank you so much for taking the time to type it and post it and thank you for being so open kind and vulnerable with your message. All the best!

    • @l.1273
      @l.1273 Рік тому

      @@elliegonzaleza I appreciate your kind reply.

  • @carynmiller1
    @carynmiller1 5 років тому

    I’d love to see the video! How can I access it?

  • @Bev1946
    @Bev1946 5 років тому

    Not they are dying, their body is dying.

  • @One_Call_System
    @One_Call_System 5 років тому

    Hey, they cut out the dialog of the couples! 12:15

    • @watcherwlc53
      @watcherwlc53 5 років тому

      yeah, I was waiting for that, and it never happened!