#1 REASON The Rate Of SINGLE MEN In The US Looking For Dates Has DECLINED | Chris Williamson
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On Today's Episode:
Gender roles and equality continue to be a hot topic of discussion. As women make progress in the workplace, gender pay gaps improve, educational opportunities are getting better as women break glass ceilings.
Every action has a reaction and now we’re starting to see unintended problems arise for men. There is a mating crisis stemming from the masculinity crisis that has men and women questioning what it means to be a man.
Chris Williamson is a podcaster, UA-camr, and former professional party boy. His podcast Modern Wisdom is the inside journey of him learning out loud from some of the most interesting people on the planet. He’s working on his first book about the mating crisis and joining Tom in this thought provoking conversation about masculinity that doesn’t diminish femininity.
With women outperforming men in education and earning more than men in 2023 while also being the gatekeepers of sex men are turning to porn and video games, while women struggle to find male partners that complement their success.
Chris is very clear that this important conversation is not about putting the breaks of women, but rather solving how to put the gas on men to become worthy partners that add value, protect and preserve his relationship and family.
QUOTES:
“The alignment of essence and action would be a good way to get started with integrity.”
“It is a challenging time to be a man at the moment in 2023. I think that it is very hard for you to find a firm place to stand with your masculinity.”
“The pessimist always finds out that they’re right.”
“After a while you have to admit to yourself that your imposter syndrome has got nothing to do with your capacity and everything to do with your addiction to feeling like an imposter.”
“The male sedation hypothesis is that men are being sedated out of their status seeking and their reproductive desires through porn and video games…”
“I think men and women have biological predispositions that cause them to be better suited towards different sorts of tasks.”
“I really think that we’re going to have a mating crisis on our hands which is driven out of education and employment.”
“You have an ever increasing cohort of women competing for an ever decreasing cohort of ultra high-performing men.”
“If you give a man purpose and the ability to achieve it he will crawl over broken glass with a smile.”
“If you cannot find a partner that you genuinely are attracted to and that you genuinely want, that’s not good for you either. If one sex loses, both sexes lose.”
“Men and women are supposed to raise each other up.”
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"Jolly" Roger that.
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Hi can you block or ban ? This person has commented on everyone's post
When it comes to the environment, you guys are full of shit.
Wow…this is so needed right now. Spoken and explained with reason and openness. Thank you
We know))), maybe you can reffer him to Max, or maybe it's Max)) ...best 💥
Another big issue is the cost of living/house. One man cannot provide for a family any more. Or all he does is work to provide for his family. 15 years ago you could buy a house in Oshawa on for $150k to $175k. Those same houses are up to $650k but wages have not kept up. Where is the motivation for young men to forge their way in the world knowing that they can't even afford rent let alone a car or hobby or groceries for a child?
Fact
The original people made investments with their hard earned money that payed off huge. That should be motivation to make wiser decisions and make your own investments so they can pay off in the future also.
Same story in Europe. I am from low level middle class family. Studied two times as first education can’t provide me. Second time I went through databases and job adverts before choosing and now I earn multiple medium wages. It is neither that hard, neither that rare.
Literally! I don’t know why we aren’t speaking about this. The inflation is literally destroying, not just the birth rates and family structure, but killing the middle class. The small percentage of young adults who can afford to date and marry are holding off on kids.
"You will own nothing and be happy"
- World Economic Forum
"People won't be motivated to change until the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of change."
Does that only apply to the individual? We can put that same pain on society. That’s the underlying message behind all this.
That is why women divorce. They are motivated to change their situation. Most women leave just to get away
I somewhat disagree. People will also change if the reward for changing is worth the pain to them. The problem is, often times, it's not. Our society isn't as meritocratic as it was in the days of yore. Too many people put in the work, and don't get the reward, in spite of putting in the work and believing they will get the reward. Just working hard all by itself, although essential, isn't a cure all, the socioeconomic/political environment needs to change to become a place where that hard work results in the desired outcome most of the time, for most of most of the people who put it in. Part of getting there means admitting that the current environment isn't adequate and making systemic changes to improve that environment.
Apparently our govt feels the pain of following the constitution and wants that pesky bill of rights revoked so they can keep power. The fear of living in the future they want for us needs to be stronger than our fear of death. Those of us with nothing to lose need to start trying to win something dammit.
Amazing
The conditions for having babies and dealing with the many of the opposite sex are unbearable. Don't blame people for saying "I don't want this."
As a women it's not worth having a child for these man babies.
1 Moment of weakness break your life.
I used to work on a loading dock, and have been replaced by automation. My loved ones are dead, old work injuries are catching up with me and I'm getting too old to do the only work I'm qualified for. I'm losing my place in the world, worn out and obsolete. Dating isn't high on my priorities.
I totally get you. Gettin' up there myself and these factors are all kicking in for me too.
Hit the gym fellas! It will get your physicality back to a better place.
Learn a new skill. Learn about the online, digital economy. It's never too late to start over.
I'm 36, I have never held a career, I've worked only entry level for minimum wage in spurts of 2-3 years. And I'm a multimillionaire.
While you were sleeping, they were printing money. And I was stealing it through this thing called "The Stock Market"
You just played the game wrong friend. Should have kept your body in mint condition like we did.
@@Healthycowsure you did
Almost 40, been married, dated a bit, prefer being alone. I cannot stand compromise and intimacy isn't worth being stolen from. Plus, I don't like cleaning up after others or... well, really just dealing with people at all anymore.
"When you give men purpose and the ability to achieve it, he will crawl over broken glass with a smile." - Chris Williamson. This conversation has to be one of the most powerful ones I have ever heard!! I literally had goosebumps when Chris mentioned the men that men who were unresponsive for 5-10 years got up and started driving firetrucks and ambulances!
researchers consistently fail to address the magnitude of this issue.
People ultimately need love and validation. When a man doesn't matter to a woman, when she doesn't gaze at him with a loving smile, tell him she wants him/needs him, that he matters to her.
A lot of guys have never had that.
This will cause disillusionment/isolation/soul sadness and mental health issues in men. No amount of material things, por* will be able to replace that.
The problem in the west is 2 fold. Incels can't get a woman and the ones that do get one, end up in divorce/breaking up or being cheated on and losing more than the lady. So they swear off relationships and end up lonely all the same. (Mgtow)
Both have the effect of creating lonely, angry, atomised ppl and broken society with plummeting birth rates. And can spell the end of that society.
What are we seeing in the west now?
Falling sperm counts, falling testosterone levels, births, marriage, anomie and a rapidly ageing society, with catastrophic debt levels.
White ppl used to have close family bonds but now they no longer keep ties with family and send old ppl to homes.
Jobs for life are a thing of the past, from where they used to form friends.
White ppl lost their matchmaking culture and used to marry form within their own tried and tested social circle.
With all that now gone, internet dating and cold approaching/PUA random women that u know nothing about is the way. Which can be dehumanising and toxic.
Peace
JustHaveApurposeTheory
I think he got that quote from Adam Lane Smith if I'm not mistaken. Amazing quote.
A man living a life based on his God given purpose is a Gift from UNiverse
The best way to defeat demonization and defamation isn't to fight it. It's to simply provide more and more.. and more and more value until the world has no choice but to see it.
Provide value for the sake of value itself and the value we feel in return, because we don't need appreciation, even though we'll have it anyway.
Pity and marginalize the man haters.
Really enjoyed this one, thanks for having me man!
In my case it's not that I don't have any interest in relationships, I've just seen enough horror stories to understand that it isn't worth the risk.
Watching my brother find out his fiance was cheating on him broke his heart. Then seeing her accuse him of all manner of horrific deeds to then watch him bleed money and sanity for lawyers/court appearances and even spending time in jail over more false allegations that she never was held to account for. Really eye opening because you really don't know how bad it is till you've seen a family member or close friend go through it. I'm checked out at this point, I'll just sit in my house and enjoy the peace and quiet.
Rescue unwanted cats! Its soooo rewarding and they thank you for the rest of their lives. Works for me for past 20 years.
@@garyssimo In other words, choose cats instead of pussy😊
I totally understand where your coming from, I have seen the same but in reverse. There are evil messed up people everywhere in both genders, races and ages. I have personally witnessed in my life so many men abuse women in domestic violence, the cheating and secret second or third families, the abandonment of children and how it affected my peers in school, the rejection of children due to their gender (females not wanted) or if male not the son is not good enough and then rejected that it can be their sons even if DNA test were provided. This has kept more than half of all the female peers I know as volcel. That's the dirty secret no ones talking about men and women don't trust each anymore and many are walking a way living alone quiet peaceful lives watching the shit show. Many men just want to believe the lies online instead of investigating what is really really going on, after the good ones, the scared ones, the traumatised and broken voluntarily checked out, what was left was the unhealthy ones (obese, anorexia, infertile etc) no one is attracted to, and the female trickers/players/ users that get a lot of attention online that everyone thinks that is the dating pool when they are a small minority who go after the rich men or just plain riches, not to mention the ones that were never available (married to straight men, and the ever growing women in lgbt+), meaning there is low supply and high demand situation for the men who wants relationships, marriage and children.
Women from the Philippines are nice 🇵🇭
The homeless always need man-to-man, individual help without govt. intervention. You still have love to give. Simply point it in the direction of the homeless. Shake their hands. Learn their first names...
... Do you know the first names of any homeless people?
...I do...
Christus Vincit
Christus Regnant
Christus Imperat
You can be as optimistic as you want, work harder, work smarter and always aim to be the perfect person. The issue is that won’t make a shítty employer appreciate you or promote you or pay you well. Being the perfect person and optimistic won’t stop someone from cheating on you. It won’t make you better looking or taller or smarter.
My point is you have to recognize when it’s time to redirect and aim for something/someone else. You’d think this is common sense but I was so “optimistic” before that I believed all I needed to do was improve myself in someway but the reality is I should have redirected a long time ago.
Direction and discernment are the most important things we can develop. However, direction in the beginning is not always that important. It's momentum and redirection that is key. For example, a few years back I was partly motivated to improve myself so that I could stand a better chance of getting back a woman I used to love. Now, I realize that woman is probably not the best thing for me. But I made a ton of progress along the way and was able to redirect my goals, and harness the energy. Anyways, thanks for the thoughtful comment.
@@jessegarris7037 Thank you for sharing your perspective.
Redirected where though? You mean like mgtow? Believe me, I can empathize with what you’re saying, but isn’t it a kind of victim mentality trap? Really though, I just wonder what you mean by redirect? Thanks 🙏
@@mrz305Meaning if you are trying and trying yet the female you want (or maybe are with) doesn’t put in the effort too and it’s all just you…. Time to find someone else. This applies to work as well, where no matter how well you do your job, or go above and beyond, you’ll never be appreciated or paid well. That too, means it’s time to move on and find another job or start your own business. Don’t keep putting in effort where it’s one sided and the other side isn’t treating you well too. The key though is to be honest with yourself and don’t just say you are putting in the effort, if you really aren’t.
The edit is to say that the solution is very much an individual’s own choice, so if MGTOW is the right choice for you, then you have to decide that for yourself. I think there is almost always hope to find someone if that’s what you want, you just have to consider all options and maybe even other countries.
It's like "investing".
You'll always gain, right?
“It is better to be alone, than to be in bad company.” - George Washington.
I spent so many years trying to figure out how to fit in so people would like me, i wasted years not actually being myself. Bullied in school, hard time finding jobs and friends in my 20’s… one day i finally decided to try to start from scratch. Now im 45 and I’m finally having the best time of my life. My advice to my younger self would be, just do your thing and get right into living your life, and dont worry about the friends you dont have right now, because one day you will find the people you connect with. And you will have remained a whole person that whole time, and you will be better for it.
Thank you two, this episode was great
Or you don’t find them most people are pos of today
and avoid women
I´m 44. Same story only i have chosen to stay in solitude. i live alone in the countryside. I have no real freinds or family, no wife or kids and never really wanted it.. Some men struggle on loneliness. But i thrive on it.
Im a 75 year-old, highly educated woman who works hard at staying healthy... and so far remain meds and pain -free. These are 2 young men that I follow.
We don't care if you are highly educated. that's almost a negative.
I bet your one of those progressive crazy cat ladies.
Do you have have female grandkids in the age range of 18-22? Haha
Congratulations on finding the internet 😂
Good for you for taking care of yourself. It’s rare! Keep it going and ignore any negativity on here 😉
It's insane and sad people need to still be explained how big a problem modern dating has become even though so many suffer.
I am older guy and had no idea. I feel kind of ashamed that I was so clueless having believed young men were merely wining.
In my day, at the very tail end of the sexual revolution, sex just was everywhere and believe it or not, even though we were having sex all the time with multiple partners, it didn't seem transactional OR as if we objectified one another as is the case today.
I hate the following expressions but I will use them to make my point. Women had sex all the time with many partners and we men thought it was fine, even cool. The women were empowered. Today, many act like whores and I say that in how I read they speak of men as if men were a penis or a wallet or both.This is revolting. The men today appear desperate and pathetic in their attempts to woo women (by no fault of their own.)
For women, sex appears to concentrate on four things, penis, wallet, consent, and abortion, meaning of the latter a fixation on sex as an event associated with trauma or the risk of trauma.
I feel terribly for the plight of young men having to navigate all of this. In my generation, although the women created the norms, they tended to do a good job of it and lifted us men up in the process.
@@mileshalpern9320 You say the men today appear desperate and pathetic in their attempts to woo women (by no fault of their own). Whose fault is it?
In the good old days, there was no formal training for manhood.
@@infiniteworfare5089 I do not feel sorry for women when it comes to dating, it is like listening to rich guys whine about how they are struggling with money
@@James_36 One of the best descriptives I've heard in awhile.👍
I'm 22, a guy, and have never really wanted to get in a short-term relationship/have sex. It just doesn't seem like a good use of energy in my phase of life. Once I have a secure life situation, I will probably consider dating, but I am purposefully avoiding it right now.
You cannot plan life. This is the lie. You'll never be in a truly secure position. The only thing you can do is work on building a foundation which mitigates the risk of destabilising your life when a curve ball does come towards you, that can't be avoided.
The advice we're giving to young men who are out of relationships sounds to them like what was being told to women in the 50s, which we were all told no one should have to conform to. "Care less about your needs, be agreeable, be funny and stay in shape and don't expect any respect" I think just leaves men saying "fuck that" and amusing themselves in non-destructive ways (because actually they're not all rapists in waiting)
I agree. The advice given to men is the same old fashioned advice that has always been given to women in traditional communities. For women, the narrative changed with the women’s movement. It became, “women need men like a fish needs a bicycle.” It’s a silly saying in a lot of ways, but it did lead to women being more internally motivated to build their own lives independent of men. In the past, women were taught that their value and worth as a woman was based on how desirable they were to men. Everyone assumed women would always be motivated by marriage. This radically changed for women in the 60s and 70s. Men have never had their own movement where they reject the idea that they are always motivated by getting a gf and sex, and instead they are motivated by an internal desire to build something for themselves.
@@brandy4530 lol...the manosphere would disagree, cause apparently men are motivated by sex and desperately hope a women would allow him to abuse her body. Glad women stopped giving sex so easily.
Very true, which highlights the main problem. People are looking towards “society”, our mainstream culture, for their goals or motivating factors. When instead they should have been following the examples set before them of successful lives. Unfortunately we threw out the good with the bad and now we’re all left with a massive pile of shit.
Doormats are not attractive. I’ll take an out of shape confident, smart, deadpan, responsible guy over what you described any day.
My fear is having my world turned upside down. No more time for the things I want to do. Having added responsibilities, all give no take. But that’s probably based on my history & what I see in many relationships. I personally know there are exceptions,… they give me some hope.
In the meantime, I have a very hard time not imagining the worst scenario. So while I have a dating site profile, I can’t bring myself to respond to anyone. It feels like asking for trouble! 😂💁🏻♀️
It doesn’t help that most profiles are vague. It comes across as lazy and/or desperate - as in “I’m lonely/bored so I’m casting a WIDE net.” And when they ask me a question I answered in my profile… pass!
Anyway, just my 2 cents 😊
Well said
I see a lot of these UA-camrs trying to motivate people by saying "I was down and out but I became disciplined and worked hard and now look at how successful I am." The problem with that is that people realize the confirmation bias. That UA-camr is telling us these inspirational stuff because they happened to be the one who succeeded. We all know that for every one like that there are a million who were just as disciplined and worked as hard but did not make it (be in in YT or whatever area). They just aren't here to tell us about how they didn't succeed because they didn't succeed.
Yes, I feel like a motivational speaker is the one in a million who made it, talking shit about 999,999 others.
That’s because they’re not using their gift to propel their success. A lot of people just try to dive into anything but you need an advantage.
Yep it’s self referential confirmation bias.
I agree.
And more importantly those who become successful often just talk about how hard they worked and leave out the resources they have available to help achieve success; or maybe even they weren’t aware of it.
real shit
Watching Chris's growth these last 2 years has been an absolute joy. Love this guy.
Just what I was thinking. He's gone from simple smart northern lad to a person who is now a greater and more refined intellectual than any guest he has interviewed in that time.
He's a complete fraud who literally parrots other awesome people to make it sound like he's clever. Use your brain for god sake.
8 years in. Monk mode. Self-determined to live outside of western culture as much as I can manage. I set out to engage with every aspect of my being, my transcendent self that simultaneously exists across time; past present and future me. I endeavor to be as healthy and complete in mind, body and spirit. I have decided to go on my spirit quest, the most ancient rite of passage much later in life, and as it turns out, I don't want to go back. There is nothing for me there.
This is the way.
I moved to Vietnam, living my best life!
@@SDtraining627 I just might!
@@Kevin-kj5th yeah, no point of living a stressful life in the West....
I’ve always thought serious relationships were overrated. There’s reward there but so much work and headache that goes along with it. I find single life to be where it’s at and I feel it’s a super power to be able to enjoy sitting in a room alone. Most people cannot do that
I went from 50% sexless to 90% sexless because of marriage 🤣
That's even worse than being single.
Lol, yes this is usually a reality. You really have to make sex and taking care of each other a priority. In hindsight, I would also recommend never stop dressing up for each other. Marriage is work resources are there, you two can reverse it.
@@lemonwater123 true you have to work on it and life gets super busy and isn't the same when you are in your 20s.
Your wife doesn't respect you and is probably smashing someone else.
It's 0vER for MarriedÇels lol
I'm leaving a comment mostly in response to the comments made by both Chris and Tom expressing some concern about how women will perceive some of the things you shared here. I am a woman and I feel grateful for this conversation. I watched this interview exactly when I needed to, during a time when I am introspecting deeply about femininity and masculinity within myself, in past relationships, and in society. Specifically, much of what Chris said seems to align with something I'm learning about through my study of Germanic Healing Knowledge, which is "living biologically". I value your masculine perspectives and I'd love to hear more on this topic. Thank you.
It's rough out here as a young guy. I just got out of a 3 year relationship, and while I'm not looking (I thought I was going to marry that girl and the rug got ripped out from under me), I can't help but see how dysfunctional the dating pool is. It truly feels hopeless, man. People treat eachother like disposable objects, women's egos are insane, and men are flopping around and doing anything to get a date. Most of the women I've met all think that they are on pedestals because of the constant drip of compliments and gifts from men, and most of the women I've met have close to zero values. Sad fucking world, social media is destroying society
i guess you seem to not see the men ghosting good women for bar trash, DMing every girl on instagram and wanting nothing serious until they're 50.
@@Underyourbedeyes lol the men you see and care about are the top percent don't kid yourself women always have options
Sorry to be the bearer of bad news but its all across the western world. I had something simular,just got out of a 5 year relationship and the dating game is exactly how you have described it,I live in NZ and iam in my late 20s
@@addomans2088 That fucking sucks, I'm sorry to hear that, man. Yeah, my heart aches honestly. It seems like girls just have so many options that even when you have a really close bond with someone, they can just move on because they know they can find another partner really quickly when they decide they want one again. It's only been 2 and a half months since the break up, and I'm still miserable but she seems totally fine. I'm still hitting the gym like always, getting good grades in college, focusing on being my best self, etc., but seeing how women can just move on like nothing happened really shows how replaceable a lot of them find us. I thought having a close and intimate bond for over three years with someone was supposed to mean something and was worth working on instead of just quitting. I can't imagine getting over a 5 year break up, hope you heal soon
@@robotmechanicalwhizkid2521 Truth. Women do always have options and a lot of them seem to just care about relationships in a transactional sort of way. It seems like when a guy is in a rough place a lot of women are quick to leave and find someone else instead of working on things. I'm assuming there has to still be some great women out there, maybe I'm just still hurt so it all seems worse than it is. I hope that's the case.
Like Chris Rock says, when a woman first meets a man she tells her girlfriends. The first question the girlfriends ask is, “What does he do..?” Not, what does he look like? Chris is right when he states that, “men are never loved unconditionally, they are only loved for what they can provide.”
And women are asked "Can you cook?"
@@natashadickson4819 ...and? It's far easier to learn to cook than it is to get a job most women would consider "respectable" (especially since many of those jobs are presently being _handed_ to unqualified _women_ so the company can meet diversity quotas). So...spare us your tears. If you were being asked to cook like a 5-star Chef, then you'd have a point. But you could learn to cook 10 meals that would satisfy 90% of men from videos right here on YT in under *one day* .
@@jeffersonadams8711
And? How hard it is isn’t relevant at all. That’s a condition. The quote was about no conditions, not low conditions. No one is ever loved “unconditionally”, and that’s a good thing. What the particular conditions are, that’s up in the air.
@@natashadickson4819 Yes but men dont love you because of your cooking
Women are loved for their beautiful
So beautiful to hear motherhood spoken about like this. I’ve been a stay at home mum for the last 20 years. I always felt it was my responsibility to care for my children, do the internal work to make sure I was psychologically fit for the task and to keep a functioning home for my family. Over the last 10 years or so it’s been heartbreaking to hear how our society is considering mothers, specifically SAHM’s as apparently we are a lazy drain on society.
It's the human male that's directly responsible for the repolsive behavior and massive devaluing" of the human female- and hes done it in every way, shap and form! ! try to keep that in mind.before u thank them for this "fear mongering" so woman can continue to be blind to what the human male has "truly done to her, and this entire world"- of course many do not want to bring more children in to this world- look who's been running the the show for thousands of years now! And tell the truth, how's that worked out so far???.
You are raising tomorrow's leaders. There is absolutely no other job that is more significant than that!!
@@Nadiaarmstrong95 well, I guess the human male made one enormous mistake when he decided it would be a good idea to devalue, dehumanize, repress and put her in the back seat, when she should have been in the front seat! And (his ass) did this in more ways then we can ever keep score of! It's far too late to make nice with her - this hideously corrupt and repulsivly toxic patriarchal regime, has done FAR TO MUCH DAMAGE, FOR FAR TOO LONG! - its time they pay there "KARMATIC DEBTS"-and so they shall!
Trust me, you’re not a lazy drain! The most hardworking people are mothers. As a mother myself, I found going to work easier than raising a child! I take my hats off to women who stay at home to do this. It can be a long and draining sometimes! It’s not for the faint hearted! And before any guy comes at me and say “it’s so easy!” Bro, attachment styles are different! Women attach differently to their kids than men do to their kids! Not better, just different bc we’re different!
I personally believe in women staying at home supporting their families while men work hard outside to provide. Both roles are equally challenging and essentials. But society has changed and has evolved, and role models have too. I just can’t believe you’re coming here to wine while it’s actually women who call the shots and are taking over the world! We’re talking sexless men, that’s sad. Is there anything you can do to help?
As a woman who has survived over half a century, you both have hit the bullseye. Keep speaking the truth and there will be hope for the younger men and boys. You are great role models!
retard
This is such a great conversation that I happened to stumble across thanks to youtube suggestions. I'm 30mins in and I'm loving how open and pure the conversation is, whilst being brutally honest at the same time. This is definitely something that we as a society should be looking at and discussing more.
As a man I love this trend, opens many more options for ME. (subtle pun intended)
Very interesting. What I just don't understand is that Chris keeps saying that women want men that they find attractive and men want women who find them attractive.
Really???? How come a man is not expected to be attracted to the women who like them? I really wish someone would address the elephant in the room, because it's worth addressing. What if men were not doing the effort because women are not attractive enough in the first place? (and we're not talking about their filtered profile pics, but in real life, as a presence)
@@florianb3935This is why I’m not having sex at all. I live in northern part of Sweden and I am 23 years old. Attractive women here are very rare, most of them are bossy and masculine….
And probably they kinda think the same about men.
no sex in at least 1 year for 18-30 years old people is hilarious as hell to me. Just by being an inc3l virgin for 32 years. Never had a kiss or a hug or first time with a woman on bed. This report just makes me laugh off so hard. You dont have idea about the amount of sexless men out there, for real. Not just about one year without it.
it is not all of that , not missed anything phenomenal, you can get a rush by working out or doing something adventurous. just analyze how testosterone makes you feel.
@@EddieTSanders Thank you, I appreciate the kind words bud. Have a nice weekend
As wise men have said, "the juice isn't worth the squeeze".
27 v bro but I attract women I choose to be incel challenge and rebel and push the boundaries
One thing I've found is that physical intimacy is something you get over very quickly if you don't have that fundamental attraction down for one another. And being alone (truly and honestly) isn't that bad if the alternative is the company of someone you don't truly resonate with, though you won't really grasp this until you've been there. It's a night and day difference sharing yourself with someone you're in love with, versus someone that you like just well enough and happens to like you. This is why you want to maximize yourself in areas you ideally want to strive in and not pedestalize having a woman next to you before you make headway on yourself. Chances are, if you chase a companion before you do the vital work on yourself, you're going to line up with a partner that doesn't truly ring your bells, and even reflects a lot of the same deficiencies you possess. I'm realizing that the best mate for your is someone you're going to discover on the way to realizing your potential. Because you'll be swinging closer to the type of person that is your ideal when you're being/at your best. Learn to be more addicted and obsessed with those big picture self-improvements than filling your immediate loneliness. This is 20/20 clarity of hindsight speaking.
The project of YOU is far more important and rewarding than the project of filling your loneliness, if you can reframe your solitude not as a heavy thing, but as helpful and freeing (for you to move forward).
Also, don't let the hypergamy chatter discourage you. I promise you it's not a law that governs the entire opposite sex. What matters is that you're doing what you're passionate about. It doesn't have to be extravagant. If you're self-actualizing in your own way, there will be those attracted to you. These gents have good points, but they do over-emphasize the importance of superficial factors. There is a distinctive aura about a man on his purpose who is full of optimism that more than compensates for those surface "deficiencies". I wish those pill communities knew just how possible it is for them.
This is just too long and explains why you're still a virgin.
Superficiality is how the world works nowadays
Sex is a basic need for men. Denying this reality is just being a simp.
Going a YEAR without sex is trauma for a man. It's not healthy at all.
@@mickethegoblin7167 Only if you've bought into what social media feeds us. People's insecurities are what generate clicks on these videos that discuss superficial "requirements", and thus more videos get made with titles like this one. We perpetuate this echo chamber until it takes on a life of its own, and then we start taking it as gospel. Yes, you don't want to be rudderless or without resources. But having 8% body fat, high six figures, and a prestigious position often aren't requirements for a good woman who has a well rounded personality that you can develop real feelings for. The types of women seeking those specific things might be nice to look at, but won't have any additional qualities that complement the exterior. Authentic attracts authentic. Pursuing your authenticity is what will attract the best quality mate for you. Pursuing strict superficial goals 7 days a week means it's likely you're not actually being yourself, but just a version of you that society tells you that you "need" to be, just to be competent. The problem is those goalposts will always move and it will never be enough, because approval is fleeting. Whereas being yourself and going after what resonates with who you actually are won't require endless chasing. You actually have the ability to feel adequate and enough right now, but no one actively works on that. Instead they keep running on society's hamster wheel and stress themselves out to no end. I'm telling you that you can get off of it, live on your own terms, and find great success in your dating life.
What is underrated constantly as a key factor is how you carry yourself, and learning to not do the things that turn women off. Many men today pursue these checklist items but don't work on the behavioral issues, which holds them back even when they achieve all the "things". Half the battle are things you can fix today, by reducing your pedestalizing of a relationship and becoming more authentic.
Guys need to stop getting tricked into believing who they are is inadequate because of surface level traits. That stuff is only a part of it. Behaviour, confidence and authenticity account for most of the battle.
If you sincerely believe that, then I don't envy the toll that living by that belief is going to take on you.
@@davidj5425 No, it's a basic need. It's on Maslow's hierarchy of needs. It isn't as much a need as food, but it's a need. It's a fundamental drive for pretty much every male in every living species. Food and sex.
It's also interesting how whenever we discuss men's issues we never seem to get past "self improvement".
When women face large scale issues, we look to change society, policy and social views to accomodate women's issues.
When men have a large scale issue, we just say "oh you are just lazy... you need to go do X ,Y Z for yourself with no help, assistance, aid, support or societal shifts bevause you have a penis."
We never consider that something outside the man could be causing his problems. Instead, we have a cheap default mindset that men with problems are defective machines. That they simply aren't "doing" something.
This whole conversation betrays a fundamental lack of understanding of men in general and reals of feminist filtration.
All i see is men blaming women at the moment. It’s all over social media, how much more hate do you want.
Women Go under the knife for men. Men cry to go to the gym for self compfort.
At the moment men are improving themselves 0% and spend hours on social media agreeing with women haters and pimps.
but it really does come down to self improvement when the issue is that you want sex, you want it easily, you want it NOW, and you can't get it so you start blaming the entire other gender for your own personal celibacy when the issue is _you_ and not the world.
Women generally have no interest in just jumping into bed with the nearest man who sees women only as objects to screw, that's _why_ those types of men end up single and celibate. it's their own personal mentality that causes them to be in that situation. Then people like Andrew Tate reinforce their attitudes which only makes the issue worse for them, not better.
That's why you also see overweight, ugly, poor men in happy relationships. They have a positive and loving attitude towards women, and seek commitment and open communication etc, and _that's_ what women want. Yet all these sexless men claim women ONLY want money and that's the ONLY reason they won't get into bed with you. It's ridiculous and these specific types of men really do need to fix _themselves_ ..
You can't ''fix society'' in a way that would mean random (always beautiful) women have no choice but to give you sex whenever you want, easily and quickly (even though secretly that's almost certainly what most of these men want to happen)
@@Vexarax why is fatherless on the rise. since the losers cant get women in bed.
Correct men are told to improve indervidually. No movements to help men has political power like the womens movements.
Are you seriously criticizing the women's movement, after an eternity of women being treated like property? The problem with young men today is that we're in the late stages of capitalism and you either have to be a tech genius or a street hustler to make it in business. If you work for an employer, you will be brow-beaten and will learn to be submissive so you can get along and keep your job. That's why our young men are miserable. So, yes, let's help them by improving the economy and working conditions.
Thank you Tom! I’m a 59 year old mom with two sons 31 & 29 years old .. I thinking of forwarding this to them 💪 You are making a difference in so many lives - please keep up the great work 😘
I would get there dad or a relative to send it it. 😆 ♡♡
Ya push them to get entangled with a westernized feminist college educated hell raiser
I’m 26 and needed to hear this today. Moments of this conversation felt like high-voltage wake up calls to get my act together. I’m taking step one today to get the aimless track. Thank you
Good luck. You will need it in the end.
I agree with Yellow Brand. 26 is young and change is very doable at that age. Best of luck Ian in all of your endeavors.
@Yellow Brand Still young, but time to get to some practice. Wishing you good luck.
I wish I could have heard this and absorbed it when I was 26.
@Yellow Brand anyone ever told you that your pretentious comments matter to nobody?
It’s not just porn and other video activity, its the misandry and hate speech that comes from women, the University and Corporate diversity culture, feminism, the woke culture, me too, the divorce courts and the cost of child support and alimony, and potential jail- its really just over over the top with negative attitude and energy why would any man want to put up with it or subject yourself to all that negativity. The cost is way to much.
Spot on and until that damage gets fixed this will only get worse!
_"If you give a man a purpose - and the ability to achieve it; he will crawl over broken glass with a smile..."_
Said - in a world without purpose...
There ist a purpose: Money, give me all your. Bei greedy or lose.........
I've been out of relationships for more than a year now and honestly i've lost all interest in it, every day when i finish what i have to do, all i need is to sit down, study and play video games, i never been so happy with this peace.
Gigachad energy, good for you!
A bad girlfriend leaving you is like taking off a 120 pound backpack off your back
@@Yggdrasill8 lol
@@Yggdrasill8 grown women don't weigh 120 lbs.
Different people need different things ...
My reason for never dating is quite simple. I never wanted to. I've never had a desire to be in a relationship since I was in high school. I just love being alone.
Same
I’ve been this way until recently
Biggest quiet loner man of few words there is. Blessing & curse.
Good for you Dude! 😉👍. Keep it that way and you’ll keep your sanity…😊
Yes woman are mentally exaughsting, stay single for your own mental health . I remember being the happiest when I was single.
You are a lucky man.
I have really enjoyed this discussion. I would like to push back on the idea that someone in the burn situation you used as an example will not have a relationship or find a mate. I have seem quite a few situations at that level where people have indeed found someone and have ended up not being lonely. The most recent was a friend who was in terrible shape, with diabetes, both legs amputated, a bad drug-resistant MRSA infection, and other problems. When he was at his worst he met someone online and for the last couple years of his life he was finally not alone and was actually happy. I can give you many more examples which I have all seen first hand. There are a lot of lonely people out there, both men and women, and if as a guy you are genuine and not an asshole it is simply a matter of getting out there and finding that right person. She exists and will get as much joy from being together as you do.
Being a real man isn’t a concept, it’s action. You just have to accomplish goals and do meaningful work. You can’t talk your way into it. Takes time to become that way but anyone can.
But then again I'm a gorgeous man with a huge penis.
There are few things less manly than a man sitting around talking about his problems?
@@jolly7728 says you. Big manly man hey?
@Tim V talked your way into what? You dont make any point because everyone reading this comment can think of one instance where they were able to talk there way to success. It doesn't mean you can do much by talking.
Society has been feminized to the detriment of men. Any man can optimize himself to be the best among other men and fare well in this new cultural environment. But there's a bit of cowardice in doing that alone. If you want to be a real man, fight for the men who need help by fighting against feminism and to fix the culture, bring back monogamy (all men guaranteed partner, otherwise statistically bottom tier men will always lose out to finding any partner even if 100% of men improve themselves hugely). It's simple: if all men became perfect in every way, the bottom 30%, 40%, 50% would still be completely alone while close to 100% of women would have the option of dating while they're young. I hate to be harsh or mean, but being 100% about self improvement and neglecting mens rights is some pu***y fuckboy shit, and I say this as someone who is really competitive and pulled myself out of the gutter, fixed my health, lifestyle, etc. Etc, and continue to self improve.
It's too expensive to have children. This is a KEY point. ❤❤❤
100% facts. I am surprised neither of them brought this issue up as this is the key point. You have 100% nailed it. Financial reasons is often cited as a reason for divorce, and then children of divorce (i.e. millennials) then get nervous to marry and have kids after seeing what happen to their parents. This then reduces the marriage and birth rates to all time lows in multiple countries. It is nice to finally find a comment that actually acknowledges the elephant in the room. Thank you.
Probably by design as well
Much too expensive and risky for both parties.
@@Kevin-kj5th facts. He probably has a large female audience and doesn't want to anger them by talking about marriage/divorce.
it's because we're being taxed to pay for other people's kids
💜💜💜love that you brought up and discussed this topic. My own 19 year old son.told me this very observation about this issue, "there is no interest in real love in the world" ... and you guys describe the same... so insightful, and I wish things could change for the better again ....God bless !
He said man are looking for a sex, not love. that is why they are sexless.
@@MshTch Most men can't get either, 5% of men are having 50% of all the sex.
@@MshTch The only way a women can fall in love is through sex if she doesn’t sleep with you she doesn’t love you
Most men just want sex & sexual variety. They don’t want love. They just claim to want love now because women have given up on love & relationships & have moved on
WOW, I'm digging your conversation! Absolutely brilliant. As a sprog, I was on a mission from God to grow up at warp speed and get the eff away from my strict parents. I was about 11 both when I got my period and fell insanely in love with the Rolling Stones. So naïve - I hadn't a clue why the folks were in such a tizzy about where I was going, with whom and what time I was expected home. Jesus! How they lived through having me as a child is anyone's guess. I'm 70 now and have lived one of the most interesting lives anyone could hope for. And you mentioned the rag of all rags, Cosmopolitan. Girls like me in the 60s and 70s took Helen Gurley Brown's word as gospel. Guys were reading Penthouse and Playboy, with Hugh Heffner as some kind of role model. And we all thought we were "free." Yah, right. The two of those hustlers and thousands of others like them got filthy stinking rich peddling their BS to millions of us pinheads back in the day of the "Sexual Revolution." We couldn't wait to gobble up the next issue and take the Cosmo Girl Quiz. It was a revolution alright. War. People suffered and died and were taken captive. Glad to be old and out of the fray and so interesting to hear what y'all have to say about what's going on these days. Tough times. And I agree completely with getting young dudes to be kindergarten teachers! I had not a single male teacher till 7th grade. WAY too long a dry spell. I think it's imbalanced and not healthy. So, thank you for this video.
There’s a lot of factors in life. This conversation doesn’t take into account men who don’t have perfect health or a terrible family life.
I was born with a heart condition, I’ve always been overweight.
I took care of my dad through cancer/remission, until his death from 16-29. Financially, physically, and emotionally. Although I don’t regret the time spent and wouldn’t take it back. I missed out on so much in life. Women never gave me the time of day so I never dated, never had sex. Years of having online dating and not one date more less a message back. Meeting people at work is vilified. For the most part women just want to be left alone in public. My days are spent on hobbies making money for myself. I was also raised from a Christian background. So sleeping around never even looked appealing. I’ve checked out completely from society and don’t care about pursuing a relationships/kids. Seeing every man in my family divorced played a small part in that. From my experience women only use me for money or favors. I’ve never been seen as an option.
Impossible as an outsider to comment on your situation, but dont give up. Both women and men have unrealistic expectations of one another which creates this gap. If you are the best person you can be that will give you the best chance of finding someone, as well as being rewarding by itself. That's probably something your parents/grandparents would have wanted for you. All the best
We share similar life stories in many regards. Though I've never had to suffer any health conditions like you, in fact I've never had to spend any time at all in hospitals and I'm 40 now, never been overweight, no physical ailments, but I'm far from a 10, I am though like you checked out from society. I feel for you having cared for your father for so long, that's a great thing you did. I saw my mother care for her sister when she had cancer and it was very trying. Her sister chose to not be cared for in a hospital but at home and I was there when she passed away and could support my mom at that time.
I have never been on a single date, not even a failed one. Never been with a woman, can't even look or talk to one anymore if it's not to a coworker and the situation calls for it. I don't go out with friends, in fact I don't even have friends.
If a coworker has something lined up I always decline. I'm afraid of social activities, of what people think. Of expectations. I just shut myself in, and have been ever since I was 15. I don't even try anymore. I moved out at 25 and have been alone now for fifteen years. I do wish I could change myself and be more open, meet someone and have a good life. Be able to see my parents have grandkids. They probably suffer from not having any.
I probably can't read signs from women, looking back there have maybe been four or five times where one has shown interest (maybe) but I've backed away and lost the moment. I feel like I'm still a 16-year old because I've had so few interactions with people in the real world apart from work. I've been all over the western part of the world, probably around ten or twelve different countries, but only traveled alone or with family. I've never used a dating app, never used Facebook or anything else for trying to find love. And starting now would just feel wrong.
"You'll never meet anyone just staying inside." is what my sister said probably fifteen years ago.
"I wish you'd find someone" is what my mother said more than ten years ago.
"Why don't you get a girlfriend?" is what my other sister said probably twenty years ago.
I'm just a real loser at life, who's never even attempted life with someone else.
There's probably a whole host of reasons why. I'm not happy with my appearance, I always saw my parents fight, and all of their friends fought also, all of the married couples in their social surroundings were fighting, and I didn't want that. I thought that's how it was and it wasn't something I wanted to try for myself.
It's getting harder and harder at work to not seem like I'm ready to give up, because every day I feel like it more and more. I avoid conversations and interactions as best as I can, but when I have to I try and act normal.
But they can probably tell I'm not well. I've always bottled everything inside.
Escaping into the world of UA-cam, movies, music and sports have been my reality since I was a teenager.
I don't even know why I should hit the reply button here 🥴
But all the best to you, buddy
@@RIUUI007 when you said “I feel like a 16 year old” I felt that, same here.
Yea I grew up in nothing but domestic violence. It’s like now I have the longing for a relationship but also want peace. I had my share of what kids are like helping raise my nieces from when I was 12-21 tell children services took them when they found out my dad was terminal. Unfortunately our stories are very similar. Except I only have a half sister who I disowned and my mom.
I’ve had a few instances where I was flirted with but I too focused on my dad to worry about it. Probably my own self esteem getting in the way as well. At the very least men like us can live moderately happy in solitude. I just was scared of being THAT guy who had to pay child support and fight to see his kids and not get to see them grow anyway. Just this morning at church I had people telling me to “find a girlfriend”. Also thanks for letting me know I’m not the only man in the world in this position. It’s a breath of fresh air.
@@Fallensky17 Yes, thanks for sharing, Bob.
I've never or rarely wanted to talk about my life until very recently. I also helped raise younger siblings growing up. I was 8 and 9 years older than them and helped raise them until they got independent as teenagers. We also lived in a fairly small apartment and having a girl over was not even something I considered. I have a total of 3 siblings and growing up I felt that our family was all I needed. My family was also quite tight knit, and I've always been afraid of meeting someone and having to meet another family. And having that family meet my own family, the thought about that always gave me anxiety.
In all the loneliness and solitude I do try and remind myself that I am a strong-willed survivor. And it sounds like you are, too.
I lost a big piece of myself when having to go to 3 funerals in the space of 11 months back in 2017. I've been going on auto-pilot ever since then and always felt numb to everything.
Have a great week, Bob
thanks for listening 👋
@@RIUUI007 no problem, best of luck to you, same here , I had my last aunt die in early 2017 then my grandmother in late 2017, my dad in October 2021 then my moms uncle a few months ago, who I still have toys he gave me growing up. The only family I have is my mom at this point and I’m jaded by death. That last one was rough, I had to drive my mom 1000 miles within 24 hours down to Tennessee and back to Ohio. Men like us are survivors.
Integrity also means telling the truth. But, if you tell the truth today, you'll get fired.
saying normal stuff gets u in trouble
dont play
Then get fired! That's a terrible way to live. Better jobs exist for those who are willing to live in an authentic way. I'm living proof. It takes guts, I guess, but I want to love my life. Not just pretend to.
😂😂
Shit i got it for refusing the vaccines that made my co workers very sick .
Coming of age rituals was a big thing for me. Fell in love with the rituals in Assassins creed. The focus on brotherhood was very special to me. Taking “Leaps of faith” and things like “branding ceremonies” or tattoos was significant to me.
Amen on the over coddling. I had a pocket knife when I was 7, and a .22 rifle by 11. I was allowed to go about 2 miles from home( hard to be more accurate cause the boundaries were bases on street names) at 10, and as far as I could go in 4 hours by 13. Left up to my own devices on camping trips, the list goes on. However, I had to earn these boons by maintaining the yard, doing dishes, laundry, and cleaning, staying out of trouble, and checking in regularly. Treating children like injury prone idiots is only gonna stunt their personal growth, and instill them with deep seated fear, cowardice, and indecisiveness. Really damn sad. Oh, and if my little brother came home with so much as a black eye, I had better have been beaten half to death defending him, or I was gonna be.
I was lucky to have two years living like this, but rest was overprotectivness, especially during formative years. I agree it's debilitating.
Let your kids do those things today and child protective services will take them away. It sounds more like the idealistic way rural dwellers see the world. Try living in the middle of a suburb or urban area and see how those things play out. "Mayberry" only exists in places that don't have a McDonald's.
lead poisoning has got you
This is for me the best interview on the channel! Loved it, thank you for having this conversation for us!
retard
Why are there no time stamps anymore? I think it was way better to have them. Seems like a step backwards by not adding them.
Seriously...I can watch a 2hr video obviously.
because it's helps people skip the useless trash thats is most of their videos
As a 32 y/o man that hasn't had sex in 5 years, I can say that chris is so spot on with all of this.
But have you tried to have sex and didn’t meet the right woman or…? Are you fine being without sex and a woman?
He's probably tried and had zero opportunities. I'm 6ft, 100k, and good looking.... I can easily go six months without so much as getting a girl's number, let alone sex. And I'm trying hard
@@jesseking9254 what makes you a good mate?
@umichgal1 still trying to figure that out buddy
You are a young man. Find a way; you will never be young again. Five years at your age is too long, even five months is too long. Don't resign yourself to this fate.
I work hard to provide for my family and thought it was something innate. But after Tom's comments, I see that my wife's appreciation and support a way that makes me feel powerful makes me want to run through a wall everyday for her.
This was legitimately the best podcast I have seen in a while. Very articulate and concise points while touching on broad topics at the same time. I've realized a FEW things that I need to work on based on this... Cheers everyone.
and the lesson is to avoid women
Chris Williamson is imho very accomplished. I recommend his podcast Modern Wisdom :)
And a message to everybody from me as millenial: dating is not that difficult, you will manage. Good luck, folks!
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The kindergarten teachers look men are chased out of those jobs and no one cares. As a male Nurse it can be very tough fitting in and there's an entire spectrum of discrimination that is completely overlooked.😊
People who put their kids in public school are subhuman
There’s a perfect storm brewing that’s already negatively impacting men AND women. Instant gratification (social media/internet, pron, streaming services, etc.), dating apps, the broken education system, atomization/breakdown of community and families, the mental health crisis, rising inflation, etc. are all contributing to this brewing storm. I think this storm will come in the form of widespread societal decay and many people being miserable. I also think that the instant gratification issue is the main culprit, and we may need to cut that out like we did with cigarettes, or at least attempt to reduce its usage significantly in our society.
We are already in the midst of cultural decay.
The storm is already here.
@@SamStone1964 Been here. Lowest birth and marriage rates in recorded history. Men and women are more divided than ever and all of this is by design. Everything we are seeing in real time is being put in place on purpose. They want the population down and people distracted and fighting and as we can see it's working really well.
@@mck7646 Who is "they"?
The real storm is the fact that the social security system is based on harnessing the productivity of male energy and distributing it to women to and children, all the while having sufficient replacement rate from the next generation. That's not just conjecture either, 80% of all the socialized welfare type systems are utilized by single parent families (almost all single mothers) and two parent families make triple that of single motherhood families on average. Without proper families the monetary system will begin to implode and with no form of morals/ethics then people will stop trying to salvage whatever is left during the hard times. There's a large number of factors that contribute to it but those will still be the core ones since we are already below replacement level population.
I have wanted to hear you two chat since I first started watching these podcasts... I am glad I got to see it
My mind was blown by this interview. It is just such a well-articulated and on-point dissection of the modern struggles that men have. Bravo gentlemen!
As an older guy out of the dating pool I found this difficult to watch. It actually hurt me to hear how life for young men has devolved since I was young. It's as if young men have no place anymore and the sexes compete rather than compliment one another which they used to. So troubling. Be well Blake.
@@mileshalpern9320 What an out of touch interpretation of what goes on.
@@hollyjolli Seems to be in touch with what I am reading Holly, however, I am glad to be corrected if someone wishes to explain. Something is apparently very wrong based on the accounts and comments I am reading written by what appear to be very thoughtful down-to-earth young men.
Since all pretty girls are doing Onlyfans, We need Someone like Andrew Tate to Fix Weak Men who pay for their onlyfans
@hollyharrison8284 wrong idiot it's the precise interpretation of what's going on. Facts and statistics don't lie.
Something I think is often overlooked and not talked about is the motivation you get from being the first or feeling like you are contributing something new to the world.
During the beginning of the information age you had a gold rush effect of everyone building or creating the first X, Y, Z... But overtime it becomes more challenging to find ways of contributing that are truly unique. So even though information is abundant and everything easier than it was in the past, you don't get that satisfaction of being the first and figuring it out.
Bullocks
Men continue to build our roads and houses. Now I know that you and I wouldn't be the first one to come up with the idea for roads or houses, but the importance in providing that work to society... I am astonished seeing the capabilities of a man and his tools.
99.999% of men never brought anything first to a market. The difference between me and all the old men I've met in my life is that they were concerned with their reputation as a man. Their work had to be great so people wouldn't judge them. Basically their work was their identity. They got their pride from doing a good job.
Maybe excellence surfers because of options. Maybe people dont have options, but a addiction.
google = you're literally relying on that someone has figure it out already 🤣
Of all podcasts on this channel, this one really had me on the edge of my seat, literally wishing I was in the room with you two asking questions every 5 minutes. :)
Hold the line, men. Go your own way.
Don't let them trick you to letting your guard down. They WILL suck you dry of your resource if you show a single inch of vulnerability.
This was a really amazing conversation. You both expressed many of the same feelings and understandings I've been having around the problems facing both men and women. Also, I have totally used Anime for good role models in the past.
This is so interesting to me as a woman. I appreciate the pains you both went to in this episode to qualify your comments -not offend- just wanted to reach out and let you know I appreciate your content.
I agree with you Rochelle!
Start fighting for the divorce laws, child custody laws, domestic violence laws and false accusation laws to be made fairer to men.
As much as I see you here, Rochelle, and appreciate your empathy ; you must understand that every man today has a massive frustration over life and a massive need to lash out, to hit back at women, to vent out their anger and frustration : to "offend", as you say.
@@EightFrancs start fighting for women in domestic violence situations, misogyny, demeaning of motherhood, and men in wigs/dresses trying to replace women. Then we can talk.
@@EightFrancs and rape culture too. Why you’re at it.
You have successfully convinced me that society, and perhaps mankind overall, are doomed to end much sooner than I had ever imagined.
cause women are not sleeping with you? Chill bro.
This is all propaganda. Dont allow it to demoralise you. That's what all these video's are trying to do.
@@Vhfash Nah, because birth rates across the globe are way in the negatives lol
@@VhfashNo because we are fucking up the planet.
@@someone-ji2zb AI will probably kill off biological humans before we even have a declining world population
Chris is a Chad and might as well be preaching from the pulpit.
Asking guys to step up as buyers for a beat up, 300 owner dually with 200,000 miles on it and a lawyer in the truck bed isn't realistic.
Chris is always tiptoeing around that issue, never really addresses it. Become "educated and economically attractive" for what exactly? A 30+ meh looking woman who got fucked by god knows how many guys and she'll probably won't even like you that much and probably also divorce you? No wonder men are playing video games and jerking off to porn. The juice isn't worth the squeeze.
THIS EPISODE!!!!!!! Hands down one of my favorites! Soooo good! Gotta follow Chris now! Impact Theory never disappoints! 💪🏽👏🏽❤️
I grew up with a strong and good example of how an ideal man should be through my Dad. He showed me how a man should treat women by how he treated my mom and myself. Both my parents are very ambitious and hard working people with some traditional views. Before I married my husband, I had boyfriends who called me high maintenance when I was just asking for basic competency and respect. Things I saw my father do, so I didn't settle for them and it didn't last long. My dad taught me that saying, "why buy the cow, if the milk is free." As a teen, I hated that saying, but I do see some truth to it. My husband hooked me through his confidence and humor. We have similar interests, beliefs, and lifestyles. When I saw characteristics of both my mom and dad in him, I knew he was the one. Our marriage isn't perfect and it takes a lot of work, but I'm grateful for the good example my dad has given me. I think it would have been really hard finding a good partner if I didn't him in my life.
Interesting, in my day it was the woman that "hooked" the men and the men that were in high demand. That said, it is no longer my day.
Fathers are so important to guide daughters and sons. Sad that laws are design in a way to destroy the nuclear family
@@zalodelsolar3366 Not all fathers are good at guiding their children. Nothing to do with the law.
@@SamStone1964 not all mothers are good at it either
@@gaiagasm That's irrelevant to the comment I was responding to.
Haven’t done it in all my 35 years of life and don’t feel I’m missing a thing.
Loved this chat, men and woman both need to hear this.
One thing that left me confused was if woman have lowered the bar and having casual sex more often, why are so many men having less and less sex. Is it not easier now than ever?
conquering yourself, getting in touch with your soul, finding your path, then teach your partner to do the same (on her own path) and help her when needed.
Awe, she needs teaching and help, but the man doesn't ok
@@lrm52283 i didn't say that at all. Both need to be in touch with their soul, if not, its a recipe for disaster. both need to be growing and recognize both are on their own paths as well at different stages of that growth, but should be respected no matter where they are at in that growth. If one or neither isn't working on their soul and attempting to raise their consciousness, then most likely those two don't belong together at all. e.g. money, looks and titles are all temporary. The easiest approach to finding true love is to write down everything you wish to see in a partner and be..... that.
Fifty percent may be sexless, but they are not "crime-less," armed to the teeth conspiring to do someone harm and consuming plenty of illicit chemical substances as well as anti-social ideas. Is there a correlation between being sexless and being self-destructive?
again a man “must” crap. It’s time women start getting responsible and accountable for their own development and actions!
@@lrm52283 That's not what he said.
Even if women by and large figured out that men don't care about their income, that wouldn't matter because a woman's income enforces the idea that she deserves a high tier man and can settle for no less. It's a trap that is turning into a black hole the more that academia and corporatism play into feminine views and desires.
Based.
Why do you think corporations support abortion. It gets them back to the desk quicker.
@@richcook2007 LOL Sad, but true. Corporations pander to Modern Womxn because it serves the Machine. The current state of the Machine simply wouldn't sustain if it was male oriented. We are surrounded by absurdity because only under that simulacrum can women buy into the Machine and men be confused enough to not fight it. Without the simulacrum, most of the jobs women covet in the first world would simply not exist because there would be no narrative to support them, and too few women would willingly serve corporations in the first place. The sooner women figure out that corporations do not care about them at all, or their "allies", the closer we get to a collapse followed by a reconstruction. Whether we are far from or near that stage yet, I don't really know. Female Millennials and onward haven't yet experienced the kind of economic ruin that more men experienced in 2008, so it's possible that a serious recession will actually wake some of them up. Probably not, but I don't think it's hopeless.
There are quite a few men that feel differently. I recall being a low income earner 15-20 years ago thinking men didn’t care about income and a couple of higher income men told me that I was nice and attractive, but I needed to earn more money (many friends experienced the same. These men didn’t “cut me off” but I certainly didn’t move forward with either. I went on to grow my income by an additional $160k and now remarried to my former husband who didn’t care about my income, many of the men I met while I was single were looking for “leverage” over me and had none in the area of income.
@@MoonLightOnWater1 exceptions don't disprove the rule.
What a beautiful and "powerful" conversation. Thank you both so much for your honesty and so much time and interest in such a difficult dilemma we all face at this time of great change.
Chris is a male bashing feminist
You are not powerful Sonja.
70 % of American women are overweight its ez for men to get sex from these women.Chris is a whitenight
We have too many emotionally immature people now. Adults are jealous of others and having people to look up to is getting harder. Our sense of community is being ruined. This is the main thing. Rituals are really not going to take its place to me. Rituals make a memory of your culture, which would be community...that is what is lacking now...our sense of community. It's going too global now. We are reaching for more global things to be in community with...our basic community in our neighborhoods are dying. It's so sad...this is why people are turn to apps to date.
Dating is mostly looks based. If you're really short and ugly nothing else matters, you won't date. If you are at least average then other things like charisma and confidence matter. If you are tall and really handsome then nothing else matters, you will date loads.
Lots of great analysis and no real practical solutions here
@@Alexandratheberge There are no solutions. If you're short and ugly, there's nothing you can do. If you're Tall and handsome there's nothing you need to do. If you're average height and looks, then maximise those looks, develop as much confidence and social skills as you can, and date if/when possible.
this podcast was mostly about professional achievments not looks.But we got it women are outperforming men academically and professionaly and women date up then what? They say stuff like giving value to motherhood and being more ambitious but thats not practical.
Also about looks are you speaking of personal experience?
@@Alexandratheberge Professional achievements are irrelevant compared to looks. Ugly Professional men get less women than attractive underachievers. Though, if you want a woman who is a high achiever you need both f5ir anything more than a hook up.
Based on personal experience, the expereinces of hundreds I've spoken to, and research data and findings.
The only real solution to the dating crisis and the motherhood crisisI can think of are sexbots and artifical wombs.
@@someonesomeone25 Rank those choices
1. 6'4 guy who is a 6/10 on looks.
2. 5'9 guy who is a 8/10 on looks
3.5'4 guy who is a 10/10 on looks
We really need more people like you guys. It is a responsibility. Great work.
A couple of white nighting simps
Just being honest instead of politically correct (another name for deception) is a little rare today.
The price of avoiding controversy and group think so prevalent in recent yrs.
Thanks for having Chris on, great discussion! Surprised there wasn't more talk on men's rights, especially regarding marriage and kids.
And men and boys rights in general. Protecting the negative rights of men and boys like we do for women and girls would solve all the worst problems of gender relations today; rights like sexual integrity, reproductive choice (regarding pregnancy entrapment), paternity rights, and property rights. But these two idiots are instead opting with "wHeRe ArE aLl ThE rEaL mEn!"
This was a really great conversation. Tom, never worry or hesitate for fear of “obliterating your channel”.. I haven’t heard a single thing that you’ve said that I disagree with. You say publicly what I think and believe privately. It’s CRAZY how similar me and my wife’s relationship is to you and your wife’s. I’ve gotten some good laughs from things you’ve commented about your wife and marriage. Love your channel and please continue making videos just like this. 🤙🏽
Such a great conversation. Thank you, guys, and thanks for putting in the work to have something valuable to say!
Having been deployed to nearly every conflict & war from 1986-2004: putting my life on the line for a gender, society, culture, country that doesn't give a shit about me / men. I am quite happy to step out, step away and not participate, support, protect not invest in the clown world that has become the norm.
My money, energy, attention & time are off the table. Sod it off. I will not comply, I will not submit, I will not play the game anymore.
Get fit, get smart, get rich, travel - never settle down.
Marriage is not a 'WIN' for men. Not with a 50%+ divorce rate, where women file for it 80-90% of the time; and the vast majority of men lose their house, income, assets, investments, retirement, reputation always under the threat of alimony, child support (for maybe not even your kid), spousal support. meh. Just not worth it.
Blue Pill - Follow Traditional Society mantras / Disney idioms - Go to school, get good grades, get a good job, buy a house, get married, have kids (and get divorced)
Red Pill - wake the f up - women are dangerous to your assets, money, sanity, freedom - they will run through you for whim and clout. (and you get divorced)
Black Pill - Society hates men, Society hates masculinity - you can do nothing to change the collapse of society, it is best to celebrate it - let it all burn. (watch the rest of them get divorced)
One key to happiness is don't compare yourself to others.
HAHAHAH, the hell? trick question? You are on a platform that will have you do just that of what you just mentioned 😂
Too true! The only guy a man needs to be better than is the man you were yesterday
@@wolfsmith7285 Not necessarily you gotta form a kind of 'bubble mind' so to speak when you're online.
Wow ! Great episode 🎉 teasing our big and important societal problems (like masculinity crisis, women's problems with an unfulfilling sex life because of disconnected/unemotional sex), looking into them from different angles 😍 Love the way this discussion flows 😊
i think that a man has to ask himself a question some time in his life " is sex really worth all the risk and problems you are taking because of it ? " and i answered myself that question long time ago .
Women ask it too. Very early on.
How can they ask that question, when the majority have never had any sexual intercourse? It’s like worrying about if having a car is worth the maintenance costs without having a license, folk.
@@drillingig2368 Women know it's NOT worth the RISK of out-of-wedlock pregnancy, nor the premarital loss of virginity for which men LOVE to shame women.
@@drillingig2368 it's like after the 600th rejection is it worth anymore? Most say not you got porn and anime girls so f it same boat as them at 21 I will just live life for me.
@@natashadickson4819 I dont think thats true for modern women. Tons fo babies are born out of wedlock in modern society
Over two years since I last got any action (coming-up on 29 months at the end of this month). As I don't want to repeat the mistakes I've made in my previous relationships & am keeping myself to myself while I'm working to improve myself I've not been actively trying to get any in all that time, but I'm not deluding myself that's the only reason why I haven't.
Thank you for this , every person feeling lost or suffering but do not know why can benefit from this segment, In our progress we threw away too much good, what great knowledge and work these men are sharing, thanks again 🙏
One reason some may not try is they know they can’t do it. Not everyone can be successful in life or succeed with woman. One man may pull himself out but the other guy doesn’t have the strength to do so.
Big fan of both Impact Theory and Chris Williamson, so good to see these come together to talk about male issues and give them a voice. Thank you for this.
Interesting they discuss the symptoms but no discussion of the decades of social engineering that got us here
Great video. One thing I'd add is to your definition, at the beginning, of integrity. You say it's actions and words aligning. I think that's more like consistency - not being a hypocrite. Moral or character integrity has to do with maintaining structure in the face of external forces.
This is why moral integrity is important to begin with: morals are all fine and good unless they wither under stress. Integrity is the strength to adhere to morality in the face of external stress.
It’s not that I’m not able to have sex if I want to, it’s that I don’t feel I have anything to gain from it or a relationship.
Completely agree with having more male kindergarden teachers. I was lucky enough to have a really good one while growing up without a father and I'm certain it saved me all sorts of daddy issues.
What kind of men do you think kindergartens attract??
Pedophiles! Pedophiles would love to have access to vulnerable children.
You know who are the main tutors in Church? Priests. You know how many children have been abused by Priests? Many!
You know why? They has access to children
It's not an attractive job for men
@@mickethegoblin7167 agreed his point on fighter pilots is wrong, as women can't physically do that line of work because of g forces of modern jets.
Thank you for this informative talk. I wish this was a subject in schools. I live in South Africa and the living conditions here are what I call "character building"; having a child with everything else going on would be less than ideal and I can't afford to be a stay-at-home mom, independence is key to my survival as a woman in SA. For me, It's all about timing and the right circumstances. Sadly, most of my friends (men and women) have this stance toward having kids, which makes this discussion more real than ever.
Have you watched the Green Renaissance UA-cam channel. Most of the films are from South Africa.
@@SamStone1964 Thanks Sam, I will look into it
What a good interview, things that we do not have to forget, that are basic: men and women are different. And that builds everything.
Well, when women are telling women that he has to be 6’ tall +, 6 figure salary +, 6 pack abs and minimum 6” member or bigger otherwise he isn’t a real man.
What were they expecting to happen to the vast majority of men that don’t fall into those categories? Where do we go? We go where we are accepted and that is NOT into the arms of women anymore clearly.
Perhaps social media has shifted how women view an "average" man.
I've lost to many times. I've learned "why even try". It's a no win. At least grief of losing is avoided.
I'm 50 all but a few weeks. Haven't had sex, or a date or had any interest from women whatsoever since I broke up with my now ex-wife 4 years ago after 18 years spent with her. I keep looking for a UV style tattoo that only women can see that she snuck onto me at some point that just says AVOID THIS MAN right across my forehead. I was 28 when I got with her and 46 when we split. i don't like this new world. There's no place and indeed nobody for me in it anymore. I don't even have kids. The loneliness I feel is so deep and upsetting that I have become a complete hermit, convinced that the best place for me is locked away inside my house and as far away from everybody else as possible. It's very damaging.
Oh man, that's a said story but a very understandable one. I feel for ya all the same..
Don't let fear or sadness the stand in your way.
You never know what's around the corner..
It’s worse for young men they don’t have any Feminine women to date and most young men are involuntary virgins due to unrealistic standards of young women.
I am also nearly 50. Loveless marriage, but I do have 2 kids. If I were in your situation, I would make myself into someone worthy of love and then find a foreign bride. There is a toxic femininity brewing in the states. It is ruining everyone, but it doesn’t have to ruin you. You are probably at your peak earning potential. If your tool still works, you need to make a baby and have all that joy. There is a woman out there that wants that with you.
I agree women have ruined a lot of men. And there aren't any good men left anymore.
there are so many guys who feel like you so clearly you do have a place in this world we just need to group up and take our rightful place. its coming guys be ready
Second generation single mother here, feeling the sting of so much of this, including in my 27 year old son who has never had a girlfriend. I felt and still feel completely devalued for being a mother, and a woman in general. I see and live the crisis you are talking about, and appreciate this conversation very much.
u sound like a victim 🎻
Sounds like he needs to work on himself.
Bro, I'm 26 and never had a girlfriend. I'm starting to see a trend with men near my age.
Moms tend to teach how to be nice and polite however this isn't what attracts women generally. 👌 Women want a man who does what he wants and don't give a damn what others think. However he is a God fearing man and knows right from wrong and acts accordingly. He also respects his mother.
I hope your son is not picking up on your way of thinking because those beliefs will make him weak and manless and will effect his ability to find a female partner.
People lost sight of what dating meant these days. It was about oneself trying to impress their potential dates instead of wanting to get to know their dates better. Enough said.
I LOVE CHRIS WILLIAMSON. Everything he says is GOLD. 100% truth about women and men.
Excellent conversation Gentleman.I agreed/disagreed with different points,but overall very well thought-out questions and answers.
I'm whole heartedly cynical about this stupid world we live in. Not alot makes sense other than what I actively choose to engage in.
Women ruined everything
I get that view but whatever you feed or pay attention to grows, there are always better options even while dealing with a sick world..
Great content. I wish the best of happiness for the good people out there. Good luck lads and ladies.
best quote: "Give a man purpose and the ability to perform and he will crawl through broken glass to achieve it"
Feels crazy that I’m watching this on valentine’s day, alone and single in my one bedroom apartment. Humanity’s FUCKED lol
Turn the frown upside down , there's a very happy women glad to have her space and peace just down the Rd, ignoring you because she's happy alone
You will be fine Jon. Most of us have been there and go on to have more than a fair share of love, romance, and all the rest to the point of it becoming routine at times.
You have a place to yourself… seems like you’re actually doing great.
@@floatingvirago you forgot killing itself with alcohol. lmao
@IronScooby yes I imagined alcohol in that scene too
I remember when my boy was a baby, in our “mums n bubs” group, the 3 girls would sit quietly listening to us mothers chatting, and the 2 boys would have to get out of their high chairs and crawl around. Such and interesting conversation about an important issue in society.
This reminds me of a day I was sitting in the car and watching my brother leave out the house with his three children ( my nephew and nieces). His son was 8 at the time and the daughters were ages 3 and 5.
My nephew came out the door all energetic and jumped off the porch then turned around and had each of his sisters to jump into his arms for him to catch them (one at a time), and they did it.
I said awwww. They trust their big brother ❤❤❤
Then they proceeded to walk to the car while he leaped, hopped, and skipped his way to the car lol...
Was it his age???
Was it what he just ate???
Was it excitement about where they were going???
Was he reenacting something he just finished watching on television???
Was he practicing his basketball drills???
Or was it because that's what boys do???
The five-year-old niece is now 7 and she was very wiggly full of energy flipping off of furniture to the point we had to keep telling her to SIT DOWN, CHILL OUT so much so that we put her in gymnastics and she loves it and because we put her in it, we had to put the 3 year-old (who's now 5) in it, but after trying it, she said she was scared she only like the dancing part so we put her in dance class and she loves it.
In this case I think it's what's in the DNA. My family is full of athletes cheerleaders and dancers.
Absolutely. At playgrounds you find the girls having collaborative play and then the boys running as fast as they can and jumping from the highest structure they can climb😂
lots of analysis and no real solutions
I just love Chris’s style. How does he just spew stats like that? Fave podcaster for sure 🙌