Nick & Ant On Gay Hook Up's, Gay Dating Advice & Timing for S*X
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- Опубліковано 9 лют 2025
- Join Nick and Ant (The New Gays) with Dan and Frank (The Old Gays) for a lively and insightful discussion on key topics in the gay community. In this episode, we explore gay hook up culture, offer tips on making gay friends, share valuable gay dating advice, and discuss the best time to have sex. Learn from the diverse experiences of our hosts and get both fresh and seasoned perspectives.
🔹Hook Up Culture: How has it evolved? Learn from diverse experiences.
🔹Making Gay Friends: Tips on building a supportive LGBTQ+ social circle.
🔹Dating Advice: Practical tips for navigating gay dating.
🔹Sex Timing: Understanding when the time is right.
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It's so refreshing to hear someone talk about intimacy and connections between two gays! ❤ As a gen z I feel like many gays forget that something like love making is a thing... I don't understand all that hook up culture. I couldn't give my body to guy I didn't even trust enough to give him my phone unlocked - position top or bttm doesn't matter.
exactly! i posted a tiktok saying the same thing and loads of people didn’t believe me
@@ItsJustNick_as an older gay man myself, I feel that there is way too much focus on the hookup culture and the physical/sexual side of being gay and even more so post-Covid, it holds no interest for me - I’ve always felt that it’s a poor way to relate to and interact with other people, that when you see a “hot” or “cute” guy that you feel the need to “jump his bones” in a “hookup” right there and then - but this applies as much to Grindr (which I will not use for that reason) as it does to the gay scene and the gay clubs/bathouses/saunas, etc
@@ItsJustNick_ hi my name is Chetan I always say it’s always best to get to know that person before doing any sexual things nick and ant such a cute couple I am gay too nice to meet you
@@ItsJustNick_ please I need advice on how to meet a guy please
@@chetanvinayak6799same here mee to im 17 and still single :(
Nick, you're talking to your husband, Anthony including Dan and Frank about gay hook ups, gay dating advice and timing for sex, but it's very important to do that, I'm proud of you!! 😮😮😮
Started to watch the premier but was interrupted with a call I had to take. Just wanted to say that you guys have a great chemistry. Love the banter between young and old. Take care guys. See ya next week
awee thank you for watching!
This is such a refreshingly honest conversation to see and I’m glad I can comment on it. As an openly gay man myself, I’ve often been troubled by the concept of ‘gay hookup culture’ as it’s something I’ve chosen not to participate in.
I think it warrants careful examination and pure honesty about what these encounters are. These encounters are characterised by their transitory nature and lack of emotional commitment. The existence of such a culture is often cited as a defining feature of modern gay life, but as I said before I disagree with this and refuse to participate in it. As we all know the gay community has long been marginalised and stigmatised, facing systemic discrimination and social ostracism.
In this light, the development of a subculture that prioritises sexual freedom can be seen as a form of resistance against normative societal constraints. Casual sex, in this sense, becomes a means of reclaiming agency and asserting identity.
However, while I’m sympathetic from a historical perspective, it is not without its problems. The valorization of hookup culture can inadvertently reinforce reductive stereotypes that paint gay men as inherently promiscuous and incapable of forming stable, long-term relationships. This reductionist view fails to account for the vast diversity of experiences and desires within the gay community. It also risks perpetuating internalised homophobia, where individuals may feel pressured to conform to this presumed norm at the expense of their authentic needs and desires.
That’s not even taking into account the psychological implications of this subculture, which are substantial. Research suggests that while some individuals may find hookup culture liberating and fulfilling, the reality is that an overwhelming number of others experience negative psychological outcomes, such as feelings of emptiness, decreased self-esteem, and a sense of disconnection.
Lastly never underestimate the role of technology in this topic. The role of technology in facilitating hookup culture is foundational. Dating apps and social media platforms have undoubtedly expanded opportunities for sexual exploration and connection. However, they have also commodified intimacy, reducing human interactions to transactional exchanges based on physical appearance and superficial criteria. This commodification can perpetuate body image issues and foster a culture of instant gratification that undermines the development of deeper, more meaningful connections. That’s simply my take on this subject.
On an unrelated note about careers, I think it’s about having a self-awareness about one’s strengths and weaknesses, formulating a plan that emphasises one’s strengths and playing to that plan.
For me personally, I’m lucky that I found my passion quite early, I hold two master degrees and I’m currently completing a PhD in mathematical physics.
Honesty with oneself is absolutely crucial to the realisation of one’s passions and subsequent careers.
Wow this was very very insightful, i can’t thank you enough for sharing this ❤
@@ItsJustNick_ You’re welcome. I’m glad you enjoyed my input.
Thank you to you and Anthony for this podcast. I look forward to hearing more of your perspectives ❤️
Do you have social media?
Love "Old Gays, New Gays." I would watch more parts on this topic. ✌🌈
Thank you ❤❤
Wonderfully executed in a mature, sensible way with real, grounded and valid answers but with a sense of ease too. Also you make atmosphere fun in order to talk about such things. Another great Podcast ! Xxx🤗
Heyy! Twee I really appreciate this comment
Thank you for this interesting conversation, I haven't spoken to my mother for seven years as she is homophoic.
A person living their life to the best of their ability and finding peace with rejection helps with emotional intelligence for their future.
I talk to others and now help others with the same issues in which, I feel provides happiness and comfort.
This is great advice!
Thank you for sharing this!
I love this more serious side of "ItsJustNick." Yes, responding directly to viewers questions is quite helpful. So, I would definitely encourage more of this type of podcast. My entire career has been in education, and so my concerns lie with younger viewers - especially those who live in small, rural communities and/or in ultra conservative areas. While this younger generation seems more open about their sexuality, there are still so many who lead that life of quiet desperation. Even if they realize who they are, they may still have limited (or no) opportunities to meet other queer people. Nick's comments about Facebook, I believe, are quite valuable. As you all stated, if a person wants a real relationship with another, connecting with that person is so critical - and may lead to all things being better. But first the person needs to have opportunities to actually meet like-minded people. Exactly how to do that can be quite difficult for a young person living in a very conservative family in a very conservative part of the country. All four of you guys are awesome, and in a position to make significant changes in people's lives. Thank you.
Your podcast is sooo informative and lighthearted too. I love it. Don't stop! Love you!
awee thanks Tracy 🥺
I came out before the Internet was in society. I’m not really good at making friends and as I’ve gotten older has gotten harder. But when I was younger, I used to join an off a lot of gay groups like front runners, metropolitan community church, gay men’s dinner groups gay sports groups. You come back to these groups and you tend to meet the same people over and over. You build relationships with this constant meeting and before you know it, you could have a friend.
Hi guys these podcasts have been so good. Keep up the good work
Thank you so much!
You guys are the Greatest. I love the relationship between both couples. Nick and Ant are the relationship I wish I had and Dan and Frank are the relationship I would love for the future. As a guy that isn’t out yet, but on the border of coming out to my family…..including my wife, your UA-cam is a confidence boost.
Love for all. I look forward to another season.
Nick hit the sex overdrive question right. Some individuals actually have hyper sex drives. And they can be challenging for a partner. The best way to deal with that s to talk about what’s happening and find a mentor middle place that’s good for you both. And you may need to allow your partner to have sexy alone time so they don’t want to explore outside of the relationship.
happy someone thinks the same way! 🙌🏼
i used to watch your channel when i was little like at 9, and i just randomly remembered you and im in awe that you’re still posting, yall are so cute together and a part of my childhood, im 15 now😭❤
I knew of Nick for years, but didn’t start religiously watching until his blogs mentioning his long distant bf in England. When that catastrophe fell about and Anthony stepped in like a Knight to save the day, I became a SUPER FAN!! Ant was always the strong quiet hero in my eyes. Then this podcast started and now this Seggsy Hero really stepped up to tge plate with his thoughts & ideas. I LOVE how Ant appears to have Blossomed to the audience, but it’s probably Just him feeling really comfortable being himself in this setting Nick & their Uncles. Keep up the great topics, discussions, opinions, & advice!! 🙌👑👑👑👑🙌
Very informative. I liked it. Looking forward to to more podcast episodes.😊
awee this is so sweet thank you 🥺
OOOOOh I missed the premiere (leg day "oblige"), but I'm here now!!
omg you’re here now don’t worry!!
So good episode 🧡 Thank you and love 😄
Awe we love you 🤩
Yes, absolutely. I absolutely love you 4 because I happen to be in the middle of both sets of partner's ages. This is very applicable to me. Thank you for putting this information out there for others.
I am an only child and there has been... tension isn't the right word, but a lot of sadness, particularly with my mother who always wanted to be a grandparent. Now that she's getting older she feels a lot of hopelessness in her life, that she won't ever be a grandmother, she's kind of giving up on life in a way. I feel guilty but don't know what to do. She's always been supportive and loving, and she never 'blames' me for not giving her grandchildren, but I see her just so sad and it breaks my heart. :(
Awe i’m so sorry to hear that, it’s something that you’re not alone on and hear from a lot of members of the LGBTQ. Keep being yourself 🏳️🌈🤍
Love yall thanks for shareing ur opinions it helps. ❤
awee no worries! Glad you like this
This was really interesting! On the lesbian question, I think people may doubt them more because many straight women are affectionate with each other and might kiss each other for fun. Whereas, if men were to kiss or show affection, people think there’s no way they could be straight (which is problematic in itself). Loved this podcast so much, just wanted to add that thought 😊🩵
Great insight.
Heyy! Love you guys and this podcast so much!!💙💙 Sorry for missing the premiere, different time zones☺
Its not just hookup culture too, its about the fact that you can get sex easily therefore if your needs aren't being met they can find someone else. But I do love to see that you guys waited 3 months before having sexy time which is rare.
i just love the motivating conversation 🤭❤❤❤
thanks 🥺
I want more episodes like this❤️
We will definitely do more! 💘
Another episode like this would be great
Love to see more of this 😉
Hey thank you so much ❤
here is a question I think lots of people will like, how do you ask a fellow gay out? p.s love the podcast listen to it every day on the bus!
GREAT !! Wish in my youth I'd had this kind of shared learnings and mentorship from mature gays ! Later want to hear. (1) how talk about money/income differences, saving for retirement vs not spending now; and. (2) what if you really love your mate then learn he's into a heavy kink. How do couples 'negotiate' learn to live with the fact that my partner wants/needs to do 'something I find abhorrent' yet still 'think' we love each other?
Wow! Love this idea of 2 generations talking about their gay lives. Very interesting.!
I’m in with the older generation from America. Will help so many people out there. Good job guys👍🏼💪🏼❤️🏳️🌈
Help them out….like, subscribe and give them 5 stars👍🏼
You guys covered all the topics in my head!! It was long due. Also, I and my fiance waited in long distance for almost 2years before we had sexy time. Haha 🫶❤️🏳️🌈
Awee wow! So nice to hear its not just us ☺
Great vid guys!!! I think it’ll probably help a lot of people out there. Btw u guys r super cute!! 😊😊😊😊 just saying!! Adorable couple! ❤❤❤😊😊😊😊
What do you see is your role as a queer individual in broader society?
Good question
this is a great question! Might need to answer this in our next one
What are your thoughts on polyamorous relationships? Maybe that could be a topic?
Oh yess thank you! It definitely will
This is my favourite podcast. I love hearing the different thoughts, experiences, opinions of each of you. I also think Frank & Dan are really hot! 🔥🔥🔥🥵🥵🥵
Awee. Thanks.
Congratulations on this incredible podcast!!
I do have a question I'd be interested to hear the perspective from all 4 of you! I'm a plus-sized man. I've found myself in situations where men I'm attracted to have literally told me I'm not good looking. It has affected my mental health and my relationship with my body.
So, what advice do you have on body image and mental health in our community?
As a question what do you guys think of homophobic/transphobic schools. I go to a Christian school and I’m lesbian/bi🙃
ohh this is interesting! Could be good for our next questions podcast
I met my boyfriend through instagram 🥰 we didnt rush thing now we are together for 2 years😊
for the next episode i would like to know how did u know u were gay....at a young age
oh this is a good question!
Nick, who is more ticklish? You or Ant?
I know im four weeks late but ly guys and how is blue your dog nick
lol I keep hearing service lines and Partners and I think: are you a BIG 4? lol
AM I HEARING MENTIONS OF ME AND JAS??? 😯😝
Oh yes you are ;)
@@ItsJustNick_ i appriciate it man 💅💅
Crushed it
Thanks Kenn
LovelyOnes!!!! Always!!!! With An Other Lovely Ones!!!! Always!!!!
Awe thank you ❤
I think y’all’s need like an intro video before getting into the juice.
oh perfect! will tell this to our editor ✍️
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I wonder if that study rings true today. Do finance jobs in this day and age do better then jobs such as cybersecurity and so forth.
There are tons of us gays who enjoy Minecraft 😁
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Can’t find a bf 😢
*Great advice that you've had years to figure out who you are, so give your parents time (up to 12 months) to learn who you are.*
I've wondered if parents' rejection of gay kids is because they think that their bloodline is not worth passing on. If you believe in survival of the fittest, in Darwinism, is having a gay child or children plreventing the continuation of a family line? That must be frustrating for them, if that's what they're thinking.
Oh both of you and Ant are bi so that explains why you don't have two don't have that insecurities. One thing that isn't discussed much is gay men and lesbians' insecurities about dating bisexuals. Being bi you faced double the rejection.
Young kids telling you how to live, LOL
I imagine that Nick and Ant come off as a bit racist in real life but of course I could be very wrong. I’d have to be proven wrong about that though. I do love the two of them but there is that gnawing feeling that tells me they have a racist side to them.