A New Chapter

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  • Опубліковано 5 вер 2024
  • I think this is the longest stretch I haven't posted, but wanted to film a life update with what's been going on. I definitely missed ya'll and I'm glad to be back❣️
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  • @1Onsokumaru1
    @1Onsokumaru1 Місяць тому +7826

    Saying someone is a bad mom for not sharing their kid online is crazy lol. Especially considering if UA-camrs do show their kid they get called out for using them for content

    • @CherylGoer
      @CherylGoer Місяць тому +121

      @@1Onsokumaru1 unfortunately, people don’t realize that the content we see is only a small portion of that UA-camr’s life. They think they know it all by watching a few videos lol

    • @isabellemoua6001
      @isabellemoua6001 Місяць тому +35

      THIS!!!! let them live their lives!!! no matter what they do, they get called out

    • @marginandcolumn
      @marginandcolumn Місяць тому +46

      The internet is a crazy place... damned if you do, damned if you don't!

    • @rmmr1168
      @rmmr1168 Місяць тому +25

      ‘Sharenting’ should be illegal

    • @natatatt
      @natatatt Місяць тому +32

      Yeah, it makes no sense. Jen has never been a family vlogger where people might grow to expect to see the kids. Plus sharing so much of a child online who can't consent is unethical anyways, IMO, so good on Jen for not doing it.

  • @piggywan
    @piggywan Місяць тому +1828

    Hey Jenn, me and my daughter’s dad got divorced when she was 2 years old. Now that she’s 8 let me tell you how our life looks like so far. Me and her dad talk every day, see each other almost every day. She still gets to hold both of our hands while walking to school on “back to school” days. We both got re-married, I had a baby and now his wife is also expecting. We now are a huge family. I always tell my daughter that me and her dad we’re like two different continents and she’s the bridge. No divorce is easy but when you set your priorities right, it works out just fine. Give it time and you’ll find your way. Wishing you the best ❤

    • @GoodandDelicious
      @GoodandDelicious Місяць тому +12

      Good for you ❤

    • @whachuupto
      @whachuupto Місяць тому +11

      @@piggywan I love this

    • @helene6686
      @helene6686 Місяць тому +7

      @@GoodandDeliciousthis is beautiful. Thank you for sharing 🥺

    • @peacelife
      @peacelife Місяць тому +2

      Beautiful! Thank you for sharing ❤

    • @peacensimplicity1811
      @peacensimplicity1811 Місяць тому +20

      I love what you said about your daughter being the bridge between you two. That is so true and so beautifuly explained❤

  • @l.m.8850
    @l.m.8850 Місяць тому +2222

    This woman is the most articulate influencer I know. I was always impressed with her ability to convey herself so deeply and clearly.

    • @rmmr1168
      @rmmr1168 Місяць тому +12

      100%

    • @lunasimplified
      @lunasimplified Місяць тому +8

      This I agree 100%.

    • @delucastudios3097
      @delucastudios3097 Місяць тому +26

      i'm convinced that it's because she reads

    • @luna8401
      @luna8401 Місяць тому

      And yet she never talked about an on going gen*cid* going on. 🍉Such a disapointment

    • @rmmr1168
      @rmmr1168 Місяць тому +9

      @@delucastudios3097 A huge factor but her degree was in communications as well.

  • @gogiberry9517
    @gogiberry9517 Місяць тому +1363

    Jesus Christ, Jenn, you always pop back up on my algorithm as soon as I need it. You did back when I was pregnant, and now here I am a single mom to a 16 month old, grieving my break up and feeling grateful for this video and for you.

    • @Stopcensoring
      @Stopcensoring Місяць тому +37

      God bless you, and I pray that you and others (who need/want it) find happiness, prosperity, abundance, and success. Thank you for being strong and being there for your child.

    • @justkatierose
      @justkatierose 14 днів тому

  • @kackie
    @kackie Місяць тому +1011

    I just got out of a 10 year relationship and we have a son. I feel this on such a deep level. Sending you so much love.

    • @user-fi7bb1ds3s
      @user-fi7bb1ds3s Місяць тому +9

      You will get through this. You got this!!!

    • @ZeProcrastinatorz
      @ZeProcrastinatorz Місяць тому +4

      sending you all the love and strength

    • @aud_ky9888
      @aud_ky9888 Місяць тому +1

      What is the final switch that got you out of the relationship? Cause i know its a total roller coaster everyday, where at one point i’m crying and telling myself i can do better myself but the next day things just started to get better being together. But the cycle always comes back. Being together means to almost forgive each other almost every time. But I don’t know how to be alone too.

  • @graces6561
    @graces6561 Місяць тому +3283

    oh and as a child of divorced but always amicable and loving parents i always say i am so grateful they made that decision to split when i was young. it gave me the best life possible and they went on to each have new partners - i got to witness that new love, have two happy parents AND have two amazing families!

    • @aurielove9177
      @aurielove9177 Місяць тому +66

      This is an absolutely beautiful comment. Thank you so much for sharing

    • @kanishkarathore4638
      @kanishkarathore4638 Місяць тому +10

      @@graces6561 weren't jenn and ben married?? She said broke up not divorced??

    • @yeahhi3207
      @yeahhi3207 Місяць тому

      @@kanishkarathore4638they’re separated, not divorced

    • @elenasimone2773
      @elenasimone2773 Місяць тому

      ​@@kanishkarathore4638 they were, but my guess is that they are still going through the long and complicated process of divorce so they aren't officially divorced yet, but separated. She doesn't need to share this with us at all nor should she be obligated to, but that's my suspicion

    • @babyitsnoram
      @babyitsnoram Місяць тому +2

      This is lovely ❤

  • @CherylGoer
    @CherylGoer Місяць тому +2764

    As we get older, we come to realize that a lot of things are out of our control. As much as we like to plan for the future, we must learn to stay positive and keep moving forward when things don’t align with what we had pictured. I’m so glad that you guys are co-parenting your son and still giving him the love he deserves. Stay strong and happy!🤍 Things always work out the way they should.

    • @pepethefrog3651
      @pepethefrog3651 Місяць тому +11

      Word.

    • @maix139
      @maix139 Місяць тому +13

      So true...I used to plan my life out but it just don't seem to go the way I want it to. It just stress me out. Now I just go with the flow. We really don't know what will happen in the future so stop worrying too much about it. Instead enjoy the moments now.

    • @niklag
      @niklag Місяць тому +6

      "things don't align with what we had pictured" right there is why most divorces happen and why relationships are hard.

    • @Dinhi-gq9rb
      @Dinhi-gq9rb 18 днів тому

      She is deleting comments that she is naive to the truth. Ben's intentions were never good , he knew it wouldn't be a nasty divorce from the start as she was 'sweet'. Look up Matthew HUSSEY also with credit card scams

    • @freddieellis5144
      @freddieellis5144 18 днів тому

      😂 Ben's intentions were never good to start with lol. It's a shame she couldn't see it, and he even said she was 'sweet' so there would never be a nasty divorce so he knew what he was doing, he is BRIITT TISH LOL look at Matthew Hussey, same thing, credit card scammer, knows it and keeps doing it but trying to censore people telling the truth about him

  • @RollEyesDeeply
    @RollEyesDeeply Місяць тому +1026

    I’m 35 years old, never married, and have been single for a long time. I think your journey has reaffirmed for me that I shouldn’t be hard on myself for not having it figured out. Not reaching “pinnacle moments” & forcing myself into a mainstream timeline. It’s incredible how we can all walk different lives but live very similar ones. Connection & vulnerability with each other is key.

  • @lydiaxlau
    @lydiaxlau Місяць тому +175

    Blowing bubbles also requires you to control your breath which can slow your heart rate and facilitate relaxing! Love you Jenn xx

    • @olgaalvarez5145
      @olgaalvarez5145 Місяць тому +1

      I've never heard of that before, but thank you for it!!!!

  • @Chalize
    @Chalize Місяць тому +165

    It's crazy that most of the youtubers I watched growing up are separated or divorced...

    • @rangochu2713
      @rangochu2713 Місяць тому +24

      Same, I’m convinced influencers are divorce prone

    • @anuugoo
      @anuugoo Місяць тому +12

      Ikr I am convinced divorce or break up is a very normal thing now

    • @TheNinjapancake14
      @TheNinjapancake14 Місяць тому +1

      Remember online is not real life, and your real life is not normal for everyone

    • @MadelaineCastro
      @MadelaineCastro 28 днів тому +2

      Desi Perkins is our last hope

    • @IVvOOvVI
      @IVvOOvVI 26 днів тому

      Don’t be like Kamala Harris wake up and see the light. It is a pattern for a reason you need to figure out what that is. I already did.

  • @VVS_SaiyanGod
    @VVS_SaiyanGod Місяць тому +1214

    Can’t believe I’m back to this channel after 5 years and now hearing this 😢, but to put that aside you have always articulated things so symmetrically and even when you didn’t it was still so see through and equitable, and this is your time to clean yourself up mentally/socially/physically/emotionally/financially

    • @RandomRebel17
      @RandomRebel17 Місяць тому +17

      bro same i left for college and i come back and im in the feels 🥹😭

    • @VVS_SaiyanGod
      @VVS_SaiyanGod Місяць тому +10

      @@RandomRebel17yeah but I keep in mind that “sometimes goodbye is a second chance.”

  • @thien-tamdo1162
    @thien-tamdo1162 Місяць тому +818

    I’m so proud of you, Jenn. There is so much courage and strength in choosing to split with a partner and also sharing it with your audience. You and Ben are so mature to be able to work through your own relationship while keeping love among all of it for the individual and combined relationships for your son.
    Thank you for continuing to inspire and sharing your life with us. ❤

    • @enriqueval7092
      @enriqueval7092 18 днів тому

      Ben's intentions were never good to start with lol. It's a shame she couldn't see it, and he even said she was 'sweet' so there would never be a nasty divorce so he knew what he was doing, he is BRIITT TISH LOL look at Matthew Hussey, same thing, credit card scammer, knows it and keeps doing it but trying to censore people telling the truth about him

  • @xueyingli6034
    @xueyingli6034 Місяць тому +410

    “Never question the good in your life. Accept it and be grateful “ simple quote but that rlly touched me bc of smth going on im my life at the moment where i fear ill lose these good ppl in my life bc i don’t deserve them

    • @LitziaBeltran
      @LitziaBeltran Місяць тому +5

      that was an amazing quote I also felt it.

    • @MinaPark11
      @MinaPark11 Місяць тому

      Thanks for the quote. I def needed it today.

  • @whachuupto
    @whachuupto Місяць тому +268

    Lennon's little hand on your knee when you read to him -- I am sobbing. 🥺 This is probably the most emotionally intelligent, self-aware, heart-wrenching while uplifting post separation video I've ever seen.
    But obviously, this is our Jenn, after all.

    • @buffy4525
      @buffy4525 Місяць тому +8

      She really is such an outstanding human. That little hand on her knee is so telling of the love, patience, kindness, and safety she shows her child. What a sweet moment. It had me sobbing, too! ❤

  • @JiwonHan
    @JiwonHan Місяць тому +192

    As someone who's been watching you since the early days, this was so vulnerable and I really felt every single word you said 🥺 It must've been so difficult putting this into words and sharing your raw emotions with your viewers. You are so strong for sharing this and I will always wish you the best ❤

  • @AlekarinaMadrid
    @AlekarinaMadrid Місяць тому +1026

    I'm glad you are back. I broke up with my ex bf in 2022 - i'm 35 years old and we've been together for 9 years... but we wanted different things in life - and to be fair, i stopped watching videos about happy families and couples because it triggered me a lot. I abandoned your channel because of that 💔 but i always felt happy for you and your new steps because i once could relate to it. Now i'm in a totally new place. I'm in love again with the most beautiful soul i've ever met and things are going great but life... life is just changing every second. We have to make decisions and hope for the best. I'm really sorry about what you are going through but you've been always an intelligent and inspiring woman, I'm pretty sure we all are going to learn a lot about your new chapter. Sending lots of love from Chile.

    • @katef1384
      @katef1384 Місяць тому +12

      This is such a kind and thoughtful comment ❤

    • @ItachiUchiha-gf5ls
      @ItachiUchiha-gf5ls Місяць тому +2

      Same I am married for 4 years my life has changed so much since I watched her. I get sad knowing that people move on. Knowing once they loved them. But I also understand people change over time. I’m Cristian and I love God even above myself. I guess that’s my fortitude and my husbands. I hope Jenn Im finds her soul mate. I will pray for her.

  • @EmmaShute
    @EmmaShute Місяць тому +541

    As a primary and high school teacher who works very closely with children through to teenagers, including learning support and wellbeing, your decision to reduce your sons digital footprint to almost zero is absolutely the correct choice! You’re amazing and so is Ben. Excellent parents, and you are doing it right! I firmly believe co parenting can actually be very beneficial for children. Keep going! And lots of love to Ben as well Xx

  • @NokthulaMadondo
    @NokthulaMadondo Місяць тому +348

    Jenn thanks for your vulnerability. Wishing you healing. This too shall pass.

    • @enriqueval7092
      @enriqueval7092 18 днів тому

      Ben's intentions were never good to start with lol. It's a shame she couldn't see it, and he even said she was 'sweet' so there would never be a nasty divorce so he knew what he was doing, he is BRIITT TISH LOL look at Matthew Hussey, same thing, credit card scammer, knows it and keeps doing it but trying to censore people telling the truth about him

    • @enriqueval7092
      @enriqueval7092 18 днів тому

      why are you deleting comments?

    • @enriqueval7092
      @enriqueval7092 18 днів тому

      can't handle the truth

  • @hrithvika1161
    @hrithvika1161 Місяць тому +50

    As somone who grew up in a toxic parent dynamic. As an adult i wish my parents seprated. I had to go to therapy for years. The result of the trauma was on my love life. So seeing you do this makes me want to thank you ❤, i wish more parents did this instead of staying in a toxic environment for their children. You are so strong to do this❤

    • @4651adri
      @4651adri Місяць тому +2

      Thank you for saying this. I feel exactly the same but people always seem to want to keep the pieces together of something that cannot be fixed.

    • @user-bj5lo2bo2u
      @user-bj5lo2bo2u 18 днів тому

      Ben's intentions were never good to start with lol. It's a shame she couldn't see it, and he even said she was 'sweet' so there would never be a nasty divorce so he knew what he was doing, he is BRIITT TISH LOL look at Matthew Hussey, same thing, credit card scammer, knows it and keeps doing it but trying to censore people telling the truth about him

  • @TheXyfzie
    @TheXyfzie Місяць тому +73

    Can you give us tips or lessons learned? Not because I want to know the details of what happened, but just genuinely wanting some guidelines and lessons you've learned to realize the relationship needed to end. I look up to your very thoughtful nature and open mindedness and honestly your breakup made me scared of my relationship since you guys have been together for so long and I just started mine and I just wanted to know what you would have done differently. Thank you. And I am proud of how you are carrying yourself and your outlook in life going forward. ❤️

    • @sayitisntso2867
      @sayitisntso2867 Місяць тому +8

      Can I second this? I’m currently in an almost 10 year relationship with my partner and we too share a beautiful 4 year daughter together. But I question all the time about our relationship and how unhappy we are. We are just trying to stick out our differences and not try to kill each other for the sake of our daughter. I feel like it’s so toxic and the best choice is to leave before it gets worse. It almost feels like we are enabling an abusive relationship 😢. Would love to hear about your past choices and thoughts on this topic!

  • @sassophoto
    @sassophoto Місяць тому +538

    thank you for being so brave and vulnerable with us Jenn, and sending you the biggest mother freaking hug through this. I cant wait to see what these new seeds bloom into. you're doing amazing

  • @ashleykim6668
    @ashleykim6668 Місяць тому +870

    The closing of one door is always a beautiful opening to another. I’m excited for you, and we’re all here for you Jenn

  • @independentjessy1634
    @independentjessy1634 Місяць тому +167

    “Sometimes the journey is harder because our calling is higher”
    Proud of you for addressing the uncomfortable and being unapologetically you. I truly believe you were meant to share your ever-changing story to normalize change and life’s constant duality❤

    • @Watch3rOfTheSkies
      @Watch3rOfTheSkies Місяць тому +2

      Ah yes, the high calling of making UA-cam videos sponsored by health and beauty brands.

  • @mollywilkerson4964
    @mollywilkerson4964 Місяць тому +32

    jenn!!! my comfort creator throughout my most vulnerable years, even sharing something like this brings me immense comfort you don't even realize. I'm so thankful for you and proud of you

  • @maiavitale8458
    @maiavitale8458 Місяць тому +17

    2 months ago i turned 26, i feel lost and feeling behind my peers, i always thought my life my career my relationships would be all figured out by 25 but non of it did, feeling so behind of everyone but this little video definitely made me feel better
    thank you Jenn❤ i’ve been watching your videos since i was 14🥹 yes and i’m 26 now it’s been THAT LONG✨

  • @ginahtran1210
    @ginahtran1210 Місяць тому +402

    “Never question the good in your life and be damn grateful for it”
    I’m gonna write this down and put it somewhere I can see it everyday. Thanks Jenn

  • @jess_a_yo
    @jess_a_yo Місяць тому +897

    Ran over here. You’re all loved over here. ❤

  • @thatschicblog
    @thatschicblog Місяць тому +219

    JENN - ugh you are in such a healthy headspace despite the hardships. I can't even imagine how hard it was to come to this conclusion and to lean into this new era of picking yourself. Picking yourself when you start questioning what feels right; picking yourself when people want to bring you down; picking yourself when you have no one immediately available to comfort you. I am also in process of individuating through an intense relationship of enmeshment, and it's very confronting and challenging, but wow, is that growth so spectacular and beautiful. And we're not even on the other side. Cheers to you my dear for this new chapter and to navigating it with such grace. You and your family will look back at this time with such gratitude for your expansiveness.

  • @emilychan3476
    @emilychan3476 Місяць тому +137

    Nice to know that we all have no idea wtf we are doing

  • @ok_twins_0509
    @ok_twins_0509 Місяць тому +23

    오래전부터 즐겁게 보고 있어요. 시간이 흐르며 더 성숙해진 젠의 모습이 아름답고 고맙기도 하고 괜히 마음이 뭉클해요. 응원해요!

  • @christeee
    @christeee Місяць тому +119

    Your ability to articulate your feelings is admirable. Sometimes i feel frustrated with my partner and i end up being silent. I hope you heal and your journey to your next chapter is full of love.

    • @LitziaBeltran
      @LitziaBeltran Місяць тому

      you can write, communicating is important. I used to feel that way too, by sharing little by little I improved.

  • @Heysprinkles
    @Heysprinkles Місяць тому +339

    Take your time.. You guys will be awesome at co-parenting ❤

  • @tasinEpha
    @tasinEpha Місяць тому +436

    Im crying hear her talk. I wish some of us gave her more time so she could process this. I’m so proud of you Jenn

    • @kayleeyu3561
      @kayleeyu3561 Місяць тому +11

      No one pressured her to rush and tell us all about this. “Gave” is such a strong word.

    • @buffy4525
      @buffy4525 Місяць тому

      You're right. I saw a lot of comments pressuring Jenn to address the situation. Thank you for acknowledging that.

    • @teapotlily
      @teapotlily Місяць тому

      @@kayleeyu3561 The comments all over her socials during the last few months say otherwise :p

    • @Floppylikescheese
      @Floppylikescheese Місяць тому

      @@kayleeyu3561 yes they did. Go back a couple of videos everyone was spamming about it constantly.

    • @klumseyx
      @klumseyx Місяць тому

      @@kayleeyu3561people definitely did. Just look at her socials from the past year.

  • @selfcaretarotcups
    @selfcaretarotcups Місяць тому +56

    Keeping things offline is so precious ✨️ & thank you for your courage to share with us this difficult but important chapter you know you need to go through! Wishing you lots of love, positive vibes & peace 🫶🌿🦋

  • @sharon6952
    @sharon6952 Місяць тому +25

    twenty-two year old here watching this, just about to start my new grad job and move away from family for the first time. i broke up with my first boyfriend two months ago. in some ways, i feel like a baby bird watching this video, still new to the world and all the love and heartbreak it can contain. my heart hurts to see u going through this in ur 30s, having to sort of press restart and navigate through being there for lennon while rediscovering urself. it makes me a bit scared if i would ever have to do the same. yet at the same time, i am so inspired by ur love of life itself, and how you stay true to enjoying the little things in each moment. i strive to be the same - that no matter what future me will go through, i will be able to appreciate and love just being alive.

    • @pipadoepa
      @pipadoepa Місяць тому +1

      I'm also 22, graduating this year, and you perfectly described what I was thinking throughout the entire video ... I wasn't sure if I would be able to express it in writing so thank you for commenting this!

    • @sharon6952
      @sharon6952 Місяць тому +1

      @@pipadoepa of course!! and i’m glad i’m not alone in this sentiment :) we got this!

  • @missejlouie
    @missejlouie Місяць тому +50

    I’m so sorry this happened, but seeing you guys coparent in a healthy happy way is so inspiring. You are so brave. You will get through this a stronger, better woman and mother. Stay present and give you & Lennon everything. Surround yourself with loved ones and embrace your rebirth. I just finished my divorce from my ex of 12 yrs and now thriving as a co-parenting, single, working mom with my 3 yr old son. Tune out the noise about people calling you a bad mom. You are protecting him & you know what an incredible mom you are, WE know what an incredible mom you are. A new level of peace will arrive sooner than you know, take it a day at a time - we all send you so much love right now ❤❤❤

  • @anuroy4212
    @anuroy4212 Місяць тому +74

    I’ve been with you, since you started uploading. You are such a real, strong, and open human for us as your community. Sending you a big hug, your words and clips of this have made me emotional, having gone through a major breakup myself. To a new chapter, and a new path for you and your family ❤

  • @minnierary
    @minnierary Місяць тому +55

    i feel emotional just watching you talk about all of this. it's like having a heart-to-heart with an older sister. i hope that this new chapter in your life is a magical one. you'll always be the jenn im that we love and support here on your channel, and we'll continue to stand beside you through whatever comes next in your life!

  • @d.d.1397
    @d.d.1397 Місяць тому +5

    I met you in Vegas recently and you’re even more sweet in real life and I just wanna say once again - you’re such an inspiration to us single moms. Ily Jen!! Thanks for sharing such vulnerable moments with us it helps us feel less alone

  • @mesomaggie
    @mesomaggie Місяць тому +19

    I am also going through a separation with my husband and have a 1.5 year old with him. I needed to see this. Thank you.

    • @heyitsjujuu
      @heyitsjujuu Місяць тому

      Hope you get through your healing.

  • @lucymoon
    @lucymoon Місяць тому +76

    I’m so sorry you’re going through this, and doubly sorry that you’re doing it publicly. It’s so great to see you doing well, excited for you and your new chapter 🫶🌸

    • @Dinhi-gq9rb
      @Dinhi-gq9rb Місяць тому +3

      Yeah it's awful she is but she chose that life so there is nothing you should be sorry for. She still talks naively and also towards her viewers as many don't understand the break up and what really were Ben's intentions (he was always going to get divorced with her if you look over old videos) but she has to save face for her image as she also used him. She's got sucked into her BS.

    • @Dinhi-gq9rb
      @Dinhi-gq9rb Місяць тому

      *got you sucked

    • @Dinhi-gq9rb
      @Dinhi-gq9rb Місяць тому

      *you like many others have got sucked into her BS

    • @user-xs1lr1un6j
      @user-xs1lr1un6j 21 день тому

      ​@Dinhi-gq9rb what happened?

    • @user-bj5lo2bo2u
      @user-bj5lo2bo2u 18 днів тому

      ​@@user-xs1lr1un6j You must all be under 40 because whoever that is, is right, it is a shame she couldn't see ben's intentions, it is true what someone said, wrong husband, caught up in the fake story posting, look at her new vids as if you are her 'friends' lol, her advertisers pay her and you watch

  • @rj4356
    @rj4356 Місяць тому +480

    I hope Ben is okay too! He sacrificed alot to adapt. It can't be easy when his fam is in the UK❣️🎉🥰.

    • @poojakumaraguru8641
      @poojakumaraguru8641 Місяць тому +73

      I feel like this is very unfair to him. He can’t move back because his son is here. He doesn’t have a family here now either. The kind of sacrifice Ben did - most men from most countries won’t support their women like this at all.

    • @rj4356
      @rj4356 Місяць тому +40

      @poojakumaraguru8641 It is unfair to Ben. I knew this was going to happen. You see it in "solo" travel vids, the expressions on "friends" faces & their subtle comments, the in-laws always around, the house purchase in the paper (no mention of hubby's name) Wow.

    • @cybertteoki
      @cybertteoki Місяць тому +73

      @@LuxuryMommy You are INSANE for this speculation. Get a life.

    • @jenniferl3113
      @jenniferl3113 Місяць тому +40

      ⁠​⁠@@LuxuryMommyI don’t think this is true at all! In Asian culture it’s very normal for in laws to help look after the kid and be around all the time.. my grandma pretty much raised me even though my mum was around too.. I dont think it’s fair that your life as an individual must stop when you become a mum, otherwise you’re not a good one.

    • @nicolebennett9095
      @nicolebennett9095 Місяць тому +22

      @@LuxuryMommyThis is a wild take. In many cultures the mother will have their own mom help out and allow the mother to rest and the dad. She had just had the baby and PPD is something to help with at all costs if you can. It truly takes a village to raise a baby. I just think they both were not ready to have a kid and still love their son and took it on but these huge life choices can sever relationships.

  • @leslyecos8579
    @leslyecos8579 Місяць тому +105

    We are here for you, and I'm honestly very proud of you. Much luck with your new chapter. I'm trying to gain that courage❤

  • @cutieprincess431
    @cutieprincess431 27 днів тому +2

    Jenn, I’ve been watching you since I was a dorky little kid in high school. I’ve always looked up to your grace, intelligence, and of course, impeccable style.
    You’ve got this. You’re an amazing business woman, mother, and creative. ❤

  • @schmzowow
    @schmzowow Місяць тому +8

    this came at a crazy time for me lol. this is the first time in my life that i've been unemployed and sometimes it feels like a clock is ticking behind my head but then i just have to step outside breathe the fresh air and remind myself that things will be okay and that I have an amazing support system in my family.

  • @tlsgmlfla
    @tlsgmlfla Місяць тому +71

    젠 임 꽃길만 걷자!!!

  • @ZeeKansiime
    @ZeeKansiime Місяць тому +97

    😢 oh dear! Sending you so much love Jenn.
    Ps. Love the hair.

  • @rileywithendo
    @rileywithendo Місяць тому +67

    Ive been following/watching your videos since senior year of high school back in 2011 and I am turning 32 this year. I clicked so fast and I am glad you are in a better place now and that you both are doing your best for your son. It brings tears in my eyes when you express how you feel because I can kind of relate, I am about to get married to the love of my life in 3 weeks and I have been with him for 9 years. I cant imagine leaving him and i cant imagine the pain and love you both must be experiencing now that you both have a son who is a part of you. I cant wait to see what the future holds for you because the way you have changed has also changed me as a person so i know you are going to be okay! Love you Jenn

  • @pinkuharo
    @pinkuharo Місяць тому +14

    Thank you Jenn. I didn’t think I would cried watching this video but I did. I’ve followed you when I was in uni and now I’m also a mom, and 35. It’s been a long journey growing along side (not literally lol) with you. I honestly can’t find the words to express what I feel after the video, but just full gratitude of you sharing your story with us. You didn’t have to at all, but the fact that you did, the courage it took from you….you will always be one that I admire and look up to for your authentic self. Sending lots of love and hugs to you. I love you Jenn

  • @with_mee
    @with_mee Місяць тому +9

    You’re so well spoken and so real. I appreciate your transparency and showing your vulnerability. You’re right we are all equally clueless and navigating life the same. Time will heal and wishing you nothing but the best for you and Lennon. I’m glad you have a really great support system. Give yourself grace as you navigate motherhood and finding yourself again. You got this.

  • @Anali.V.7903
    @Anali.V.7903 Місяць тому +54

    Thank you for sharing Jenn. We wish you the best in your healing journey and I hope you have the most amazing time in doing so.

  • @Bagelchip35
    @Bagelchip35 Місяць тому +58

    Beautifully said, Jenn. I, too, am going through a tumultuous period of my life - your reframing of all of the overwhelming feelings/newness to be seen through a lens of feeling alive is so refreshing to hear!!

  • @marisayuechuenmusing
    @marisayuechuenmusing Місяць тому +26

    I've been here since early 2010s, I remember watching your videos when it was still you and Sarah doing clothesencounters always putting together the coolest looks from thrift store finds. It's been a beautiful journey seeing your life from the side lines and I am very grateful to still be inspired by you to this day. Thank you Jenn

  • @tiffanyliji98
    @tiffanyliji98 10 годин тому

    I have been growing up watching your videos, and I have always loved them! Unfortunately life hits hard sometimes, but we still have to move on like you are. I wish you the best on your new chapter! 💪

  • @shesyen
    @shesyen Місяць тому +26

    Been Following your journey for 12 plus years. You are seriously the most down to earth realist person I have ever come across on the internet. You're as real as they get!

  • @mybrkly
    @mybrkly Місяць тому +139

    I believe the criticism regarding sharing your child online is unique, and probably those of us who are observers cannot fully comprehend/understand. I been a subscriber for over 10 years! Take care!❤❤❤

  • @cane4144
    @cane4144 Місяць тому +78

    My parents split when I was 12 and I really appreciated the way they did it and I tell them often as an adult how much I appreciate the way they went about it. They split up in March and only told us in June after the school year was over so it wouldn’t affect our grades or anything. Afterwards my mom moved out and from then on my parents would actively not speak badly about eachother in front of us, they never tried to make us pick sides and they were always good with eachother where they and their new partners could both be there for the important moments in our lives. I was sad at first but now I’m very happy that they made us the priority in all this, while some of my friends parents couldn’t be in the same room and they constantly had to choose and they were always in a chaotic environment, so mom and dad, thanks.

    • @mariaminghi4297
      @mariaminghi4297 Місяць тому

      I’m so glad to hear adults being adults. I hope the best in the future for you❤

  • @Ferncovered
    @Ferncovered Місяць тому +77

    Oh Jenn

    • @Sakurade
      @Sakurade Місяць тому

      Thank you so much for your experience. You have no idea how much this helps.

  • @flagrantly
    @flagrantly Місяць тому +3

    I just want to say that I have been watching you since I was in high school and used to go back to your days with Sarah and try to emulate my style like yours when you wore dark red lipstick and bowlers hats. Seeing your growth and the milestones and celebrations over the years has been so incredible. You have been such a warming presence to come back to time and time again, and I hope you can find some of the warmth you have shared with me for yourself while you are processing and healing. Sending so much grace

  • @Hu2Kay
    @Hu2Kay Місяць тому +5

    Hey jenn ive been a longtime follower from the beginning and it truly astonishes me realizing just how resilient and strong you are girl! Life is crazy in the way that there is no exact point A to point B, excited for you to navigate this new chapter in your life and i will always be here to support you! 🤍

  • @v3vm11
    @v3vm11 Місяць тому +123

    People don’t understand how scary the internet really is. I mean just a normal person can figure out where someone is just because of what they post online. I’m a mom too, so I totally understand your choice! I’m rooting for your next chapter in life, and wishing you and your beautiful family the best.

  • @emilyfishie
    @emilyfishie Місяць тому +25

    you didnt have to share this vulnerability with us but you did. and it’s helping me, and im sure a lot of us, learn about our own lives too. through you, we get to see an example of how to face life challenges with grace. im appreciative that you still share your life with us after so many years!

  • @fashionluv66
    @fashionluv66 Місяць тому +21

    I’ve been watching your videos from the clothesencounters days; I’m so grateful for all that you’ve shared over the years as you navigate your life while I navigate mine. This year, I too am going through a divorce with my partner in life of 10 years. There aren’t enough words to express what it’s like to grow with someone, to experience the depths of love with someone, for a decade - before it all changes. But every word you did find resonated so deeply with me.
    Sending you all so much love as you enter this new chapter 💞

  • @seachelles7
    @seachelles7 Місяць тому +29

    You’ve got this! Very respectful of your decision to keep your son out of your digital presence and I look forward to seeing what you post as you enter this season of rediscovering yourself.
    Hope to see vids of the new home decor when it’s all sorted

  • @tuliposensa
    @tuliposensa Місяць тому +96

    the way I SPRINTED here when I got a notification you uploaded. We missed you!

  • @raddad7847
    @raddad7847 Місяць тому +8

    Oh, Jenn! Thank you for this. I’m turning 30 this year and I’m also going through a tumultuous time and watching this is healing and motivating and just…I’m kind of glad that I’m not the only one going through these feelings and life situations and it’s comforting. I wish only good things for you and your family. Thank you for being vulnerable with us!!

  • @nina-jl4cw
    @nina-jl4cw Місяць тому +11

    this has helped so much, I've had a really horrible week in which I've really felt hatred for myself. watching this made me realise how truly valid that feeling is, but also how, just like a bubble, it will pop and the thoughts and feelings will pass eventually. just give yourself patience as well as love

  • @Kaylinnf56
    @Kaylinnf56 Місяць тому +43

    Jenn, i've been with you since the Sarah days. Im so sorry you're going through a hard time. Life is tough, parenting is tougher. Please don't forget to make time for yourself and take care of yourself. We're all rooting for you ❤

  • @mienchen07
    @mienchen07 Місяць тому +1

    “Never ever question the good in your life, accept it and be goddamn grateful” - you are so right, Jenn. ❤❤❤ Thank you for sharing this beautiful insight into your journey with us. It helps to hear that I am not alone feeling this rollercoaster of emotions. Life can be so confusing and intense. I wish you and your beautiful family all the best, you got this!

  • @snoopywuzhere817
    @snoopywuzhere817 Місяць тому +21

    Hey Jenn. I love how much you've grown and are still growing after being an all around awesome mother. 10/10 and forever my favorite youtuber

  • @limeskyline2672
    @limeskyline2672 Місяць тому +33

    Dear Jen, you are so strong. This step requires the entire courage of one's being and it must be taking so much from you but hoping that the healing is worth it. Sending you so much love ❤️

  • @rickchanylong8101
    @rickchanylong8101 Місяць тому +16

    Thank you for sharing this experience of your relationship. As long as you and Ben is there for your son that all that matters. You are protected your son as well. ❤

  • @kanishkarathore4638
    @kanishkarathore4638 Місяць тому +12

    Jenn you are one of those people on this platform that I love for the fact that you always limit sharing your kid's life with us, people just go ahead and share whatever they want the moment that should not be shared, absolutely destroying the privacy of their children, you as a parent is doing amazing.

  • @AdalynDiaz
    @AdalynDiaz Місяць тому +20

    I dont think ive cried over a stranger's break up like this before. Ive watched this channel on and off because I would tend to feel I could just admire and rarely relate. Im shocked .Im going through my own hurdles, a lot of heartbreak… so I do feel less alone but I wish it wasn't due to this pain. Sucks growing up and realizing dating and love is not the fairytale romance we thought of as teens.

    • @loomonda18
      @loomonda18 Місяць тому +2

      Right! 😢 They were honestly the last couple I'd ever expect in the world for this to happen...

    • @AdalynDiaz
      @AdalynDiaz Місяць тому

      @@loomonda18 Exactly T-T

  • @lilgege527
    @lilgege527 Місяць тому +20

    Proud of you! You’re doing the best you can and that’s all that matters. Keep going! You’ve got this Jenn ❤

  • @spiritawaywithme
    @spiritawaywithme Місяць тому +2

    Went through it when my son was exactly the same age. People also judged me for not being a good mom, and I definitely got defensive about it and told them to STFU. I also felt alone as well, but as the time went on, I became comfortable with the new life. Best of all, I became so proud of myself for all the super power and love I could give my son. There is light at the end of the tunnel, I promise you that you’ll see it sooner than you expected. Lots of love and positive vibes to you ❤

  • @chrisbenoit5044
    @chrisbenoit5044 Місяць тому +217

    Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

    • @xx_-love-mags354
      @xx_-love-mags354 Місяць тому +1

      Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!

    • @ThailandLottery-vz3pm
      @ThailandLottery-vz3pm Місяць тому

      Yes, dr.porassss. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.

    • @Jerome12222H
      @Jerome12222H Місяць тому +3

      I wish they were readily available in my place.
      Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
      He's constantly talking about killing someone.
      He's violent. Anyone reading this
      Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.

    • @xx_-love-mags354
      @xx_-love-mags354 Місяць тому

      Is he on instagram?

    • @ThailandLottery-vz3pm
      @ThailandLottery-vz3pm Місяць тому

      Yes he is dr.porassss.

  • @deedekitty13
    @deedekitty13 Місяць тому +19

    I can’t believe I’m writing this but this video compelled me lol but Jenn I love you and your spirit and your energy and your videos. You were the first UA-camr that I ever watched intentionally in college 13 years ago and it introduced me to a world of UA-cam that I love so much - one with beautify, lifestyle, GRWM, fashion, introspection, and education. Your videos have always been my safe haven. And I never comment on UA-cam videos lmaoo cuz I’m too much of a weenie for that lol but I hope you know how much you mean to us and how you just sharing this stage in your life means so much. I recently broke up with a long term partner and we are the best of friends but it still is something that I will be healing from for a while. And it’s still hard and emotional and different and okay and everything you expressed and I appreciate it so much. I’m so happy for you, Ben, and Len because he’s gonna grow up with amazing happy parents and that’s all that matters and that’s all a kid growing up wants and needs. You are the dopest fucking mom. I can’t wait to continue being on this journey with you! I’m so proud you are my fav UA-camr ❤

  • @almirajoyann
    @almirajoyann Місяць тому +11

    I cried and almost sobbed watching this. You've always been so genuine and that's why everyone always comes back to your channel. Thank you for sharing your life with us for the past 13 years, and I wish you nothing but the best for you and your family.

    • @wyc-ru4jr
      @wyc-ru4jr Місяць тому

      She is happy dear

  • @sn8602
    @sn8602 Місяць тому +10

    힘내요 젠! I am rooting for you. You taught me how to articulate even in the most vulnerable situation and how to live our lives fully. 다음 비디오 빨리 보고 싶어요! ❤

  • @LeonardoMordhost
    @LeonardoMordhost Місяць тому +6

    jenn, i've been following your videos since the clothesencounters days. it's really interesting because it feels like i'm catching up with an old friend. sending lots of love!

  • @user-cv6xr5jn5x
    @user-cv6xr5jn5x Місяць тому +5

    Jenn I always get so much power and strength from your videos. You are a beautiful, confident and strong young lady. There is nothing that could hold you back! You can do anything Jenn.

  • @insideddsworld
    @insideddsworld Місяць тому +28

    I'm sorry to hear what you are going through, unfortunately or maybe fortunately, its life. It'll take some time, thanks for sharing an update and wishing you all the good healing and vibes!

  • @simplybychristine
    @simplybychristine Місяць тому +8

    So much love for you Jenn - thanks for your honesty throughout the process. No one will ever truly understand what you're going through, but you will. We are rooting for this next chapter and hope it is one of abundance and authentic growth!

  • @sandratcarrascom8024
    @sandratcarrascom8024 23 дні тому +1

    Jenn, you are super strong and a great person. Keep taking one day at a time. I send a big hug!!!! You got this!!!

  • @meredithkoh2128
    @meredithkoh2128 Місяць тому +4

    ‘Part of me awaken… it’s scary.. also electrifying to feel alive’ I could not have relate to this better this year. Had a big change, bad change but somehow a part of life has awaken, very scary and painful but I feel much more on the ground. If it weren’t for the people around me I wouldn’t know how to move forward.

    • @buffy4525
      @buffy4525 Місяць тому +1

      I can relate to this so much. Once I made the decision to divorce my ex, I felt like I was barreling forward into some unknown oblivion at a breakneck pace. It was electrifying and terrifying all at once. You are a real one and I wish you the best. We're all in this rollercoaster of life together. ❤ Fellow human, let's do this thing together.

    • @meredithkoh2128
      @meredithkoh2128 Місяць тому +1

      @@buffy4525 thank you, I wish you the best too.❤️❤️❤️

  • @flomaxify
    @flomaxify Місяць тому +24

    I've been following you for over 10 years now, Jenn and will support you on this new chapter of yours, along with many other long-time subscribers!

  • @sandra23_05
    @sandra23_05 Місяць тому +6

    “never question the good in your life” so accurate 💯 we’re here with you jenn 🙏🏼

  • @jvang1111
    @jvang1111 Місяць тому +6

    Life will always throw us curve balls. It’s how we catch and deal with those balls that continue to allow us to grow as an individual. You’re an awesome person. You and your son will be awesome. Wishing you all the best! ❤

  • @h2osgetaway76
    @h2osgetaway76 Місяць тому +3

    Thank you for sharing this Jenn! I’m in my early 20s and don’t even relate being a mom but I’m getting so much good energy from you and my heart’s more at peace watching this.

  • @nurita4
    @nurita4 Місяць тому +2

    I've been following you since forever it feels like lol and it's crazy how life changes for everyone and this just feels like a good friend you hadnt talked to in a while is updating you. I separated from my exhusband almost 2 years ago and it was 10 years since we met this month. It's very relatable and it makes me feel like I'm not alone when it feels like we are alone :)

  • @lisbeth2557
    @lisbeth2557 Місяць тому +27

    May you take all the time to heal 🫶🏻

  • @kathrynvosch4332
    @kathrynvosch4332 Місяць тому +9

    You are actually an amazing mother who people online should learn from! Keeping your son offline is so protective and caring and shows you CARE about his future and online presence. You are a GREAT mother! YOU are a GREAT mother!!!!!!

  • @skyjellyhazel
    @skyjellyhazel Місяць тому +6

    Hi Jenn, this is my first commet to you since I have been subscribing you. I am not sure but I was quite young when I first met you - maybe my late teen or early twenties around 2010. Now I found myself in early thirties.
    Most of all, I would like to thank you for all the energies and the strength you have given during my good days and my bad days. Your cheerful energy and power to life and sharing them with good will have always been so inspiring to me.
    As I have been always receiving, I hope my short comment could be the same to you. Please note that we are here for you with all our heart.
    I thought I know myself 100% during the time when I met you but going forward, now I am so not sure about who I am - but this is life, isn't it? I decided to embrace the uncertainty of who I am and trust this will lead me further.
    Hope you could find your inner strength and also be vulnerable too. Love you so so much from Korea.

  • @Bluebarvrdd90
    @Bluebarvrdd90 Місяць тому +1

    I love you Jenn I’ve been watching you since I was in high school. The older I get, I realized that every hardship made you grow and glow. I learned that from you and this made me a better person.

  • @vivian8130
    @vivian8130 Місяць тому +1

    Followed and loved you since the community college clothesencounters days (I ended up transferring from a CC too). I’m 28 now, not married or a mother and sometimes worry about it, so completely felt it when you said no one knows wtf they’re doing. Only thing constant in life is change. Thank you for the vulnerability and please keep putting yourself and your child above all else. Love you Jenn!

  • @anle3938
    @anle3938 Місяць тому +4

    Sending you so much love and support and we are all here for you!!!! You’ve spoken so articulated and expressing yourself so well and that’s fantastic to heal . Looking positively and forward to continuing this healing and new chapter with you !

  • @gamja_hani
    @gamja_hani Місяць тому +4

    Thank you for sharing Jenn. This is a hard time but I pray for healing and strength during this time. Thank you for being vulnerable. Lots of love..

  • @J4rming
    @J4rming Місяць тому +3

    Sending you love! its a wild ride and its HARDDD having to rework out what life is after so long.
    I had my 9 year relationship breakdown in my late 20's and it was a hell of a rocky break. ( There was a new baby on the way and it wasn't mine 🫠 It was all very toxic ) ......
    But life always surprises us. Life always sends you a new route.
    I'm so thankful for that life flip because even though I felt like life had ended and the deep dark hole in the brain felt never ending, I'm 31 now and I've never felt more ME.
    I have my own business and career, a relationship that is teaching me what it is to be loved and treated well, I've formed amazing relationships with new friends and strengthened others and I've learnt how to love me more too.
    So for anyone who's in a similar boat or sailing on a similar sea, like you Jenn.
    You really have got this. (and you're allowed to break and rebuild as many times as you need to along the way).
    We love ya!

  • @running.swiftly
    @running.swiftly Місяць тому +2

    I always appreciate your vulnerability you’re willing to share with us. You do such a great job of articulating a beautiful point of view on different moments in your life that have helped me through the years when I’ve caught your videos. Wishing you the best in this next chapter and thanks for sharing your life with us 🤍