MEN SHOULDN’T CHASE WOMAN - HERE IS WHY

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  • @AliDawah
    @AliDawah  Рік тому +37

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    • @A7medUranium
      @A7medUranium Рік тому

      She talks very quickly 😅

    • @maryeve3984
      @maryeve3984 Рік тому +1

      $ay: “ N O N E in the heavens & the earth knows the GHAIB ( Unseen ) except
      👉🏼 Allah 👈🏼 nor can they perceive when they shall be resurrected ( Quran 27 : 65 )
      Say, [0 Muhammad], "I hold not for myself [ the power of ] benefit or harm, except what Allah has willed and 👉🏼 if I knew the unseen,👈🏼 I could have acquired much wealth, and no harm would have touched me ( -Quran 7 : 188 )
      Allah Says He is Knower of the unseen, and He does not disclose His knowledge of the unseen to anyone. Except whom He has approved of messengers.} [Quran 72:26-27]
      Prophets have always been chosen to pass on the news of the unseen ( Afterlife Warnings )
      To have the ability to know Ghaib & being told about the Ghaib are two different things
      Everything which Allah has told our Prophet P.B.U.H does not prove our Prophet P.B.U.H has Ghaib ( Unseen )
      If the Prophet P.B.U.H knew without Allah's help, then it would be classed as Ghaib
      To say our Prophet P.B.U.H had even a little bit of Ghaib ( Unseen ) would mean you have REJECTED the QURAN 👉🏼 ( Quran 7 : 188 )

    • @antidepressantscausesuicid9876
      @antidepressantscausesuicid9876 Рік тому +2

      Great video

    • @peace9265
      @peace9265 Рік тому

      Certainly this video is the best so far for a wakeup call and its heart breaking to hear it too because I have been looking for a wife for the past 12 years, Im 34 years old now and many of those rejection are due to the fact that Im far away or one level lower in education or im not in a certain caste. I hope this message is sent across so I may able to find a wife insha'allah

    • @james123957
      @james123957 Рік тому

      Salam. Aki please I need some advice

  • @NaimaBRobertTV
    @NaimaBRobertTV Рік тому +141

    JazakAllahu khairan for having me, Br Ali. I realise watching it back that I talked FAR too much! And my connection - subhanAllah. Forgive me! May Allah guide us all.

    • @untouchableali
      @untouchableali Рік тому +21

      You are the guest! Speak to your heart’s content! We listen to Br Ali all the time on this channel. 😂

    • @feefs2139
      @feefs2139 Рік тому +14

      Asalaamualaikum you deserve all positive recognition for all that you've been doing educating the ummah for years. I hope to work with you in the future in sha Allah. May Allah continue to put bakarah in what you do.

    • @wasimhanif6145
      @wasimhanif6145 Рік тому +6

      May Allah bless you so much ameen

    • @aal-dahir1773
      @aal-dahir1773 Рік тому +11

      Sister Naima, I wished you talked much longer. I was really enjoying it allahuma bariik.

    • @wasimmomin1128
      @wasimmomin1128 Рік тому +5

      Sister Naima you literally made a brutal attack on one of the shaitan's weapons against this Ummah. And that weapon is Feminism. Masha Allah you are such a warrior!

  • @razer0072073
    @razer0072073 Рік тому +216

    Feminism is female narcissism.
    Narcissism is a pathology of the self. If you have ever studied the personality disorder of narcissism, you know it has certain classic hallmark features. Thinking about it more deeply, I've realized lately that feminism and narcissism share many core features.
    The narcissist is a person who has key pathological aspects to their personality structure:
    1. An exaggerated sense of self-importance
    2. Entitlement
    3. Lack of empathy for others
    4. Victim complex
    5. Requires a convenient scapegoat
    Now let's see how well the ideology of feminism matches up with the pathology of narcissism.
    1. Exaggerated Self-importance:
    Feminism teaches women that they are all-important, that their needs and wants overrirde the needs of others. Women are placed at the center of all things. Women are the metric by which everything else is measured and judged. Based on how such-and-such society "treats women," we can judge it to be good or bad. Based on how this or that country "respects women's rights," we can deem it to be good or bad. Everything revolves around women and their feelings and whims. Women are "queens" who "slay." In essence, feminism teaches female supremacy.
    Psychologists call this mindset of delusions of grandeur the narcissist's "grandiosity." Feminism teaches women to have grandiosity, an inflated ego. In Islam, the word for this is كبر (kibr, arrogance).
    2. Entitlement:
    Feminists are women who are entitled. Feminism teaches women, who are "queens," to demand their "rights," which are in reality not their rights at all. As Muslims, we recognize that the only true rights of any person are those rights set by Allah the Creator. Demanding more rights above and beyond what Allah has decreed for women (or for men) is injustice. Taking more than your due is wrong. But if you believe that you are special and superior to others, you demand more than your due. This is entitlement.
    3. Lack of Empathy:
    Feminism drills into its adherents the need to put themselves as women first, at all costs. The woman is special and is entitled to special rights and privileges and can have all the choices, regardless of the consequences of those choices on men, children, the family, or society at large. None of this matters. As long as the woman pleases herself in the moment and reaches her "potential" and "takes up space" and "smashes the glass ceiling" and is fully "strong and independent." The suffering of her own children, or her husband, or her family, or of society is inconsequential in the mind of the self-centered feminist. Feminism indoctrinates women with not only fierce individualism, but also an utter lack of empathy for anyone who isn't a woman (read: another feminist).
    I once told a female acquaintance about an article I had read about a woman who had killed her husband by decapitating him and then chopping off his genitals. I was aghast, and mentioned how disturbed I felt by that crime. My female acquaintance shrugged and replied nonchalantly, "So what? He probably deserved it. She was probably pushed to it by something he did! She wouldn't have done that unprovoked. He got what he deserved."
    I was speechless. I had to pick my jaw up off the floor at her comment. Zero empathy.
    4. Victim Complex:
    This one is a no-brainer. If you have ever listened to a feminist or to a narcissist speak for any length of time, you can instantly note the similarity. There is a deep fixation on perceived slights, on imagined insults, on grievous "injustices." The narcisisst and the feminist are both masters at playing the victim in any and all scenarios.
    They are long-suffering martyrs. They are perpetual victims, wronged constantly by others and never wrong themselves. Nothing is ever their fault. If you try to point out something that a feminist could have done differently, the shrill answer comes back immediately, "You're blaming the victim!!"
    Feminism teaches women to see themselves as victims in all cases. This is also how the narcissist sees himself or herself. A person who is always the victim avoids all responsibility and all accountability for their own actions.
    5. The Scapegoat:
    If things are never the fault of the narcissist or the feminist, then whose fault is it?? *Somebody* must take the blame. But it can't be the feminist (or the narcissist) because that would entail taking some personal responsibility for actions and having some accountability. We can't have that.
    So it becomes necessary to assign blame to someone. If women are the victims, then who are the oppressors? Someone has to victimize the victim for the victim to even *be* a victim.
    It must be men.
    Feminism teaches women that *men* are the enemy. Women are the martyrs because men kill them. Women are the victims because men victimize them. Women face oppression, suppression, injustice at the hands of men as a collective across time and space because of one key word: THE PATRIARCHY!
    The most perfect scapegoat for all of women's problems is this much-maligned patriarchy. Feminism teaches women to take no responsiblity for any type of shortcoming and instead to expertly dodge any and all blame, and to project all blame onto men.
    Putting all these pieces of the puzzle together, it becomes easy to see why women under the delusional indoctrination of feminism can so casually blame men for "rapes and wars" and so easily paint all men with the same careless brush. Men are the handy scapegoat.
    Essentially, feminism teaches women narcissism, which is a pathology of the self.
    May Allah grant us protection from both feminism and narcissism and make us righteous Muslims who have taqwa, ameen.

    • @Jibril491
      @Jibril491 Рік тому +19

      You perfectly categorized this poisonous ideology

    • @-glitch-8195
      @-glitch-8195 Рік тому +21

      You forgot to add the redpill to your list of things that Allah should protect us from. You see brothers such as yourself have a deep seated hatred towards women and hide behind being against feminism. I personally don't agree with feminism and do not believe you need to be a feminist to see women as human beings. However, let's not get it twisted. Some women have turned to feminism as a reaction to mistreatment from men and some men have turned to the redpill as a reaction to mistreatment from women. The truth is somewhere in between. I've seen you promote redpill talking points a lot. Let's refrain from dabbling in ideologies outside of Islam and resorting to extremes.

    • @RmonK2000
      @RmonK2000 Рік тому +11

      You forgot to mention that narcissism is more common with males than women

    • @RmonK2000
      @RmonK2000 Рік тому

      ​@@-glitch-8195exactly 💯

    • @Altair-El-Haddad
      @Altair-El-Haddad Рік тому +2

      All the "Abdullah broke my heart so rajul bad I hate them😠😠" in your thread is just pure irony lmao.

  • @andra1110
    @andra1110 Рік тому +220

    This just makes me cry of love and happiness. As a former feminist myself, as a convert Muslim who grew up in the west I can't express how much this resonates with me now at 28 years old with 3 kids and a husband. I've been naging and hating my life and husband for 10 years and I now in the last year I just realise how amaizing he actually is. Sisters please give into the love! See everyone with compation and mercy and forget about me me me. Allah will not change your situation untill you change yourself. And what you give out is what you get back. We keep insisting how we give everything and we do so much but inside we are bitter and we can't hide it from Allah. This is why Allah doest change our relationships because our hearts are black. We don't serve with intention of Allah and Jannah. We serve to get something, or because that s what s expected of us. And all fruits you collect are by the intention you put in. That s why we are not appreciated for what we do. We ré doing it for the wrong reason

    • @wackypeace1135
      @wackypeace1135 Рік тому +7

      Sister Naima B Roberts is also a convert. I think in any relationship you have your ups and downs, but a successful one is where you put aside your needs over the needs of others I.e your family. Of course this does not mean you should neglect your own needs, as you nafs also has a right over you, but you should at first ask yourself first, if all your essential needs are being fulfilled, if so then alhamdullilah, your better off than most. Sure, if you still desire more, then you should try and communicate that with your other half, but just understand life ain't no fairytale so try not live upto unrealistic standards. Life can be hard and stressful and I'm just grateful I have my other half with me to lighten the burden, as well as enjoy the good times and memories we have made together along the way.

    • @pipulshom6082
      @pipulshom6082 Рік тому +4

      For 10 years you hated your husband and your life.......this is so awesome......what feminism has done to women......you were bitter inside......your heart was black and bitter......from outside was it fine....!!😮😮😮 you pretented for so long time...

    • @piraat070
      @piraat070 Рік тому

      Feminism is pure cancer glad you stopped following that BS.

    • @AC-mp7cx
      @AC-mp7cx Рік тому +3

      you should make it right for your husband

    • @hilalaydin1696
      @hilalaydin1696 Рік тому +1

      This is so true!

  • @atiqshahriarshourav2958
    @atiqshahriarshourav2958 7 місяців тому +8

    We men still must do better. May Allah show us path.

  • @ku8458
    @ku8458 10 місяців тому +9

    To this day, I’ve never met a Muslimah who agrees with 100% and content with Allah & the Messagers ﷺ decision on matters of rights & responsibilities between husband & wife. If such sister exists then I will highly likely to propose to her asap.

    • @mohammedmujahiddinsuhiyini4064
      @mohammedmujahiddinsuhiyini4064 7 місяців тому +2

      Then may Allah make it possible for you to meet one and to also be worthy of one.

    • @dodgysmum8340
      @dodgysmum8340 5 місяців тому +1

      Forgive my ignorance of the religion. Is the sister saying that Allah will send women who please their husbands (inevitably based on the husband’s subjective preferences) will go to Jannah, but that men who do not treat their wives well ie provide will go to Hell? Or hv I misunderstand?

    • @mob-dee4210
      @mob-dee4210 День тому

      Sister Naima you’re such an intelligent woman and deserve protection at all costs. Masha’Allah

  • @zia-ulislam7761
    @zia-ulislam7761 Рік тому +24

    Sister Naima B Robert is a gem to the ummah. May Allah reward her and her family with khair!

    • @Jahannam...Hellfire.
      @Jahannam...Hellfire. Рік тому

      Allah said "And seek by means of what Allah has given you the future abode, and do not neglect your portion of this world, and do good (to others) as Allah has done good to you, and do not seek to make mischief in the land, surely Allah does not love the mischief-makers. Quran 28:77

  • @Nolungs1733
    @Nolungs1733 Рік тому +122

    I haven’t watched the full video yet but just by me already a few minutes in I can already tell how knowledgeable this sister is. We need more sisters like this within today’s society Subhanallah

    • @realist2020
      @realist2020 Рік тому

      Ameen

    • @bluelightmoon777
      @bluelightmoon777 Рік тому +4

      ​@@TS-zd2udHello Bot 🤡

    • @joerdim
      @joerdim Рік тому

      Can you name a sensible reason for why you think that Allah actually exists?

    • @Jibril491
      @Jibril491 Рік тому

      @@joerdimThe universes need for a necessary existence s

    • @joerdim
      @joerdim Рік тому

      @@Jibril491 How do you know that?

  • @hadildiab-hadaya9934
    @hadildiab-hadaya9934 3 місяці тому +25

    AA while I appreciate the sister’s goodwill in addressing a certain audience in which this info about pleasing a husband may be beneficial for them, it’s a dangerous message for men who are inclined toward selfishness, self centeredness, and stubbornness of the bad kind and will not be helpful for them in their marriages. It’s a beneficial discussion to discuss rights and responsibilities of both spouses in a marriage, and entitlement can be seen on both sides. Human nature wants good for oneself and good for others but sometimes when that desire comes into conflict, it can be hard. Definitely, both spouses should aim for peace and tranquility in marriage, and that will entail behaving in a way to please one another and please God. So it’s a balanced approach. So yes I do appreciate her hope to create balance which can be skewed at times. Just a reminder though that both spouses need to work toward healthy God pleasing balance.

    • @yambuh3247
      @yambuh3247 3 місяці тому +1

      it's been discussed in ansari podcast's, and by the same guest too. The man are also not perfect and need both participant to work together in a marriage.

  • @ayjay7425
    @ayjay7425 Рік тому +14

    Sister here. Couldn’t agree more with Sister Niama. Keep up the good message. One day it’ll be heard AND understood.

    • @Hell...FireIsReal
      @Hell...FireIsReal Рік тому

      Islam showed full respect to the women and ensured rights, dignity and honour and equal status of men and women in case of marriage because for being a valid marriage acquiescence of the bride groom as well as bride is mandatory. In this regard no one is superior.

    • @hoormalesinjannahforwomen2714
      @hoormalesinjannahforwomen2714 Рік тому

      The Quran explicitly states that men and women are equal in the eyes of God. Furthermore, the Quran: forbids female infanticide (practiced in pre-Islamic Arabia and other parts of the world) instructs Muslims to educate daughters as well as sons.

  • @shreksmith
    @shreksmith Рік тому +32

    I can't believe I've never thought about this before. That's so true. Mash'Allah there are still women who think like this. This message needs to be spread more.
    Much love to brother Ali and sister Nayema. May Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala guide us all.

  • @Tasleem274
    @Tasleem274 Рік тому +65

    What an amazing sister, mashaAllah!! It was so comforting listening to her. She has spoken the truth! May Allah protect her from the evil and cancerous feminists. We are desperately lacking sisters like her. If all women in our society become like her, the significant amount of misery from the society will vanish away, especially from the western society!! May Allah grant her Jannatul Firdause, Ameen! And same for my brother Ali ❤

    • @palestinelucas
      @palestinelucas Рік тому +2

      Feminist needs a shut-up call this is the best shut-up cal

    • @EB-jf5oi
      @EB-jf5oi Рік тому +1

      ​@@palestinelucasYes they do. Same as Muslims

  • @Adam-fc2lf
    @Adam-fc2lf Рік тому +311

    Here before the storm of feminists

    • @Adam-fc2lf
      @Adam-fc2lf Рік тому +40

      @Babycake. "If the shoe fits"

    • @ritamax5989
      @ritamax5989 Рік тому

      😊

    • @bethere7862
      @bethere7862 Рік тому +13

      @Babycake. why are you a feminist?

    • @H.Severloh
      @H.Severloh Рік тому +2

      lol😂

    • @AbshirFuaad
      @AbshirFuaad Рік тому +5

      ​​@@Adam-fc2lf"if the shoe fits" 😂 you're funny man

  • @africanqueen4943
    @africanqueen4943 3 місяці тому +1

    Absolutely love this discussion. Sister Naima all the points that you have raised is something that i constantly talk about. We might get bullied by other sisters and then told we are defending men but we are saying don’t follow the feminist narrative as they have a motive is to get women to fight against men, rather than support your partners with love and mercy. Well done Ali for hosting this discussion and bringing such a intelligent sister.

  • @SnailGirlie
    @SnailGirlie 4 місяці тому +9

    I dont feeel i could trust a man to take of me again and be as she describes. The experience i had in my previous marriage thinking like this almost destroyed me. I rather be single and work and take care of my child alone than to risk again.

    • @Jew-burner99383
      @Jew-burner99383 4 місяці тому +5

      Not all men are the man from your previous marriage

    • @rebeccab4560
      @rebeccab4560 3 місяці тому

      Sounds like he swallowed the red pill

  • @mariama1802
    @mariama1802 Рік тому +48

    Mashallah, I remember coming across Naima B. Robert's work when I was a young Muslim girl in primary school. I admired her not only for her representation but also because I dreamed of becoming a writer myself. Now, as a young woman almost 20, I still love storytelling and poetry though it is not something I still desire to pursue as a career. This was an amazing discussion, iIt feels like our world has become superficial and insincere. Why did the world start thinking tradition was so bad and that we should all be more like the opposite gender? Even in literature, we've seen family values decline and this agenda start to be pushed. I have to admit, it's tough to find inspiration to write when the modern world is like this, often disappointing. Nonetheless all we can do is try to teach with sabr and compassion, Alhamdullilah for everything.

    • @Jahannam...Hellfire.
      @Jahannam...Hellfire. Рік тому

      Allah said "And seek by means of what Allah has given you the future abode, and do not neglect your portion of this world, and do good (to others) as Allah has done good to you, and do not seek to make mischief in the land, surely Allah does not love the mischief-makers. Quran 28:77

  • @anandnathan6851
    @anandnathan6851 Рік тому +9

    Sister Naima is very articulate and knowledgeable. I enjoy her perspective. I've seen her on a stream with Mahdi Tidjani before.

  • @BruvahSulaiman
    @BruvahSulaiman Рік тому +44

    The duty of every man and woman is to jump through rings of fire if necessary to please Allah. If you make that your focus, the right person for you will take interest in you based on that.

    • @Jahannam...Hellfire.
      @Jahannam...Hellfire. Рік тому +5

      Allah said "And seek by means of what Allah has given you the future abode, and do not neglect your portion of this world, and do good (to others) as Allah has done good to you, and do not seek to make mischief in the land, surely Allah does not love the mischief-makers. Quran 28:77

    • @falsesectslikeshiaarejudeo6543
      @falsesectslikeshiaarejudeo6543 Рік тому

      @@Jahannam...Hellfire. Thanks for posting the verse

    • @rebeccab4560
      @rebeccab4560 3 місяці тому

      Subhanallah I just made the same comment ❤

  • @muslim-pk8nn
    @muslim-pk8nn Рік тому +15

    I like this woman first time i see a woman who speaking so logical things.Mashallah i am proud of her.May allah make all woman like her.

  • @MS-Hussain
    @MS-Hussain Рік тому +13

    Masha Allah,
    Jazakallah brother and sister for coming up together for this noble work.

    • @tajudeenbintijani
      @tajudeenbintijani Рік тому

      If God wills, we stop this wrong idea of Men being providers and protectors of the Women. God alone is the creator of both men and women, and provider (razaq) and protector (hafiz) of both men and women. He alone places the affection in us both - men and women, whom He has perfectly paired us for each other - men and women, and He has told men to spend from the wealth that He alone has given men on the women. ... wabima anfaqu min amwalihim... [Quran chp 4 ver 34]

  • @k50159
    @k50159 Рік тому +9

    JazakaAllaahu Khayr to you both. Much appreciated

    • @halalmuslimsidechickssexyf4641
      @halalmuslimsidechickssexyf4641 Рік тому

      Islam showed full respect to the women and ensured rights, dignity and honour and equal status of men and women in case of marriage because for being a valid marriage acquiescence of the bride groom as well as bride is mandatory. In this regard no one is superior.

  • @siloa6273
    @siloa6273 Рік тому +2

    She’s well spoken and easy to listen to and props to Ali for not actually I nterrupting to much and let her speak mind.

  • @iNikkah
    @iNikkah Рік тому +2

    Sister Naima is correct when she says we should be Pro Ummah, too many times we judge situations from our own egos and perspectives, did Allah put you in earth to be happy or did Allah put you in earth to worship- part of that worship means leaving aside some of your desires and having tunnel vision for what Allah has prepared for us

  • @ritamax5989
    @ritamax5989 Рік тому +9

    Alhamdulillah
    Very refreshing.....real talk...Love sister Naima.
    Brilliant discussion.

    • @halalmuslimsidechickssexyf4641
      @halalmuslimsidechickssexyf4641 Рік тому

      Islam showed full respect to the women and ensured rights, dignity and honour and equal status of men and women in case of marriage because for being a valid marriage acquiescence of the bride groom as well as bride is mandatory. In this regard no one is superior.

  • @ameerakhtar1348
    @ameerakhtar1348 Рік тому +69

    This sister is a valuable gem to the ummah

    • @napez4126
      @napez4126 Рік тому

      Definitely subscribing to her channel now

  • @zeet4z
    @zeet4z Рік тому +8

    Spot on sister Naima you nailed it, I tell the same thing to my sons aswel may Allah guide us all Ameen

  • @drasifofficial
    @drasifofficial Рік тому +6

    One of the most refreshing videos I've seen. Self-accountability is amiss in most of todays women. As a man, put your mission first.

    • @rebeccab4560
      @rebeccab4560 3 місяці тому

      In a healthy relationship, both people put Allah swt first

  • @content-tj2lh
    @content-tj2lh Рік тому +9

    Jazaakillah kheiran sister I'm a women and Im
    actually in complete agreement with this.

    • @adnanrashtogi4553
      @adnanrashtogi4553 Рік тому

      As a devoted follower of islam do you support the practice of slavery , female sëx slavery as permitted in quran, islam, would you still support it ifyou , your family members , community are subjected to female sëx slavery,
      Quran 4:24
      Also ˹forbidden are˺ married women-except ˹female˺ captives in your possession This is Allah’s commandment to you. Lawful to you are all beyond these-as long as you seek them with your wealth in a legal marriage, not in fornication. Give those you have consummated marriage with their due dowries. It is permissible to be mutually gracious regarding the set dowry. Surely Allah is All-Knowing, All-Wise.
      Sahih Muslim 1456 a
      Abu Sa'id al-Khudri (Allah her pleased with him) reported that at the Battle of Hanain Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) sent an army to Autas and encountered the enemy and fought with them. Having overcome them and taken them captives, the Companions of Allah's Messenger (may peace te upon him) seemed to refrain from having intercourse with captive women because of their husbands being polytheists. Then Allah, Most High, sent down regarding that:
      " And women already married, except those whom your right hands possess (iv. 24)" (i. e. they were lawful for them when their 'Idda period came to an end).
      Hadeeth was narrated by al-Bukhaari (2542) from Ibn Muhayreez who said: I saw Abu Sa’eed (may Allaah be pleased with him) and I asked him. He said: We went out with the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) on the campaign of Banu al-Mustaliq, and we captured some prisoners from among the Arabs. We desired women and the period of abstention was hard for us, and we wanted to engage in ‘azl (coitus interruptus). We asked the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and he said, “There is no point in doing that, for there is no soul which Allaah has decreed should exist until the Day of Resurrection but it will come into existence.”
      Abu Sa'id al-Khudri reported that at the Battle of Hunain Allah's Messenger sent an army to Autas and encountered the enemy and fought with them. Having overcome them and taken them captives, the Companions of Allah's Messenger seemed to refrain from having intercourse with captive women because of their husbands being polytheists. Then Allah, Most High, sent down regarding that:" And women already married, except those whom your right hands possess (Quran 4:. 24)" (i. e. they were lawful for them when their 'Idda period came to an end).
      Sahih Muslim 8:3432
      *As a devoted follower of islam do you support the practice of marriage of prepubescent muslim girls with grown up muslim men and having sexual intercourse*
      Quran 65:4
      And those who no longer expect menstruation among your women - if you doubt, then their period is three months, and [also for] those who have not menstruated. And for those who are pregnant, their term is until they give birth. And whoever fears Allah - He will make for him of his matter ease.
      Age of Aisha
      Narrated 'Aisha: that the Prophet married her when she was six years old and he consummated his marriage when she was nine years old, and then she remained with him for nine years (i.e., till his death).
      Sahih Bukhari 7:62:64
      A'isha (Allah be pleased with her) reported: Allah's Apostle (may peace be upon him) married me when I was six years old, and I was admitted to his house when I was nine years old.'
      Sahih Muslim 8:3310
      Aisha said, "The Apostle of Allah married me when I was seven years old." (The narrator Sulaiman said: "Or six years."). "He had intercourse with me when I was 9 years old.
      Sunan Abu Dawud 2116
      By God, I do not say this to exalt myself over any of my companions." "What are these?" he asked. She replied, "The angel brought down my likeness; the Messenger of God married me when I was seven; my marriage was consummated when I was nine; he married me when I was a virgin,no other man having shared me with him; inspiration came to him when he and I were in a single blanket; I was one of the dearest people to him, a verse of the Qur’an was revealed concerning me when the community was almost destroyed; I saw Gabriel when none of his other wives saw him; and he was taken (that is, died) in his house when there was nobody with him but the angel and myself."
      According to Abu Ja‘far (Al-Tabari): The Messenger of God married her, so it is said, in Shawwal, and consummated his marriage to her in a later year, also in Shawwal.
      Al-Tabari, Vol. 7, pp. 6-7
      As a devoted follower of īslåm do you support the kïllïng of apostates ie those who have left the īslåm religion as ordered by Mūhãmmãd
      Sunan an-Nasa'i » The Book of Fighting [The Prohibition of Bloodshed] » Hadith
      كتاب تحريم الدم37 The Book of Fighting [The Prohibition of Bloodshed]
      (14)Chapter: The Ruling on Apostates(14)باب الْحُكْمِ فِي الْمُرْتَدِّ ‏‏
      Sunan an-Nasa'i 4059
      Ibn 'Abbas said:
      "The Messenger of Allah [SAW] said: 'Whoever changes his religion, kill him.'"
      أَخْبَرَنَا عِمْرَانُ بْنُ مُوسَى، قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الْوَارِثِ، قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا أَيُّوبُ، عَنْ عِكْرِمَةَ، قَالَ قَالَ ابْنُ عَبَّاسٍ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏ "‏ مَنْ بَدَّلَ دِينَهُ فَاقْتُلُوهُ ‏"‏ ‏.‏
      Grade: Sahih (Darussalam)
      Reference : Sunan an-Nasa'i 4059
      In-book reference : Book 37, Hadith 94
      English translation : Vol. 5, Book 37, Hadith 4064

  • @rkkt12345
    @rkkt12345 Рік тому +32

    I used to have that kind of mindset...unfortunately I found out later on that it is deem to fail. I was the boss in my family, gave that up after reading the Quran. The realization that we are created that way we are finally sink in.
    If women are given the power to rule, chaos will reign.... no offense. The present day is the prove of that.
    To Iive in harmony and peace with each other is to cooperate, forget about romance....it isn't reality. A real woman respect her husband, took care of him and their children and help with decision making in her family to balance the scale.
    Alhamdulilah all that is behind me now and redefining my role as a woman has opened my eyes. JzkAllah for the clip...totally 100% confirm my realization.
    I was a feminist,

    • @alimohammad-dp7om
      @alimohammad-dp7om Рік тому

      And your husband was fine with that ❓

    • @rkkt12345
      @rkkt12345 Рік тому +3

      @@alimohammad-dp7om
      Yes....he is. He's a Christian so he didn't know.
      Now we are starting over again....I'm letting him be the head of the family but would you believe me if I told you that he's adjusting???
      He told me himself that he'll think about it. He's like that....he's okay with everything.
      Now I'm teaching him about Islam.

    • @sarfun
      @sarfun Рік тому +3

      @@rkkt12345 Alhamdulillah, also sister your husband must also be a Muslim for your marriage to be valid

    • @rkkt12345
      @rkkt12345 Рік тому +1

      @@sarfun I know. Unfortunately it was impossible to marry a Muslim man back then in my country because there were none.
      We live in a country where Christianity is a predominant religion. Hopefully our numbers will grow Inshallah.

    • @mohammadzain32
      @mohammadzain32 Рік тому +1

      Sister my mother is boss of our house but she is not feminist

  • @muslim61073
    @muslim61073 Рік тому +4

    Ma Shaa ALLAH. Amazing speech from a very mature, wise muslim sister. Hope all muslim sisters think the same way. Jazakum ALLAH khairan and we are looking for more videos like this.

    • @Jahannam...Hellfire.
      @Jahannam...Hellfire. Рік тому

      Allah said "And seek by means of what Allah has given you the future abode, and do not neglect your portion of this world, and do good (to others) as Allah has done good to you, and do not seek to make mischief in the land, surely Allah does not love the mischief-makers. Quran 28:77

  • @snowflake1458
    @snowflake1458 Рік тому +12

    5:20 so true. Even in western (Christian) weddings you see the father always telling the man to take care of his daughter, but you never hear anyone tell the woman to also take care of the husband. Also like the sister mentioned: in these movies or just in general you see always the guy chasing the girl, trying to impress her and he has to prove himself to her and her family and we never think about how hard it must be for men, because they are also scared of rejection from the girl or her family and he is constantly on thin ice. We need to stop following these nonsense western relationship idea and focus on how our beloved Nabi (Peace be upon him) was with his wives and how the greatest people were in a marriage. We need to follow the best generation, which was the generation of the Prophet and the one after him and not what America etc. portrays. You see most relationships fail. The problem is also that they have this boyfriend girlfriend thing. Thats haram. Marriage is the solution.

    • @adnanrashtogi4553
      @adnanrashtogi4553 Рік тому +1

      Due you know about the Christian matrimonial wows ! Both take a solemn oath before God to love and be with each other through good times and bad till the end of their lives.

    • @alphauno6614
      @alphauno6614 Рік тому

      @@adnanrashtogi4553 tbf the vows don’t mean much if he can come home drunk

  • @RimaDennaoui
    @RimaDennaoui 3 місяці тому +1

    Sister Naima has spoken the truth🏆

  • @sarahhassan2914
    @sarahhassan2914 Рік тому +1

    Your showing the world the bigger picture of Islam... only if and when we see ourselves as ummah your words will ring true. Allah loves us!!

  • @ameah5054
    @ameah5054 Рік тому +3

    May Allah bless sister Naima for the work that she does. I would recommend all to watch every single video on her channel. May Allah bless you brother Ali for this video!

    • @halalmuslimsidechickssexyf4641
      @halalmuslimsidechickssexyf4641 Рік тому

      The Quran explicitly states that men and women are equal in the eyes of God. Furthermore, the Quran: forbids female infanticide (practiced in pre-Islamic Arabia and other parts of the world) instructs Muslims to educate daughters as well as sons.

  • @udippatel6147
    @udippatel6147 Рік тому +5

    Bruh at 18:30, the woman just said "your life is not about you once you have children. It is about the next generation". This is true to some extent, but to give up your own agency to focus all your energy on children is known as helicopter parenting. It does not result in the optimal outcome.
    Also Islam demands men to go to war and stigmatizes cowardice in war not because it is a man's natural 'responsibility'. it's something Mohammed needed his followers to do when he was campaigning against the Sassanids lol.

  • @isaX5
    @isaX5 Рік тому +1

    I pray Allah blesses this sister. Need more women like this

  • @amisy7044
    @amisy7044 Рік тому +4

    Haven’t heard such a good podcast in a while machallah

    • @hoormalesinjannahforwomen2714
      @hoormalesinjannahforwomen2714 Рік тому

      The Quran explicitly states that men and women are equal in the eyes of God. Furthermore, the Quran: forbids female infanticide (practiced in pre-Islamic Arabia and other parts of the world) instructs Muslims to educate daughters as well as sons.

  • @Md_sadiq_Md
    @Md_sadiq_Md Рік тому +27

    May Allah bless our brothers and sisters of ummah with Jannah ❤

    • @kikikoko607
      @kikikoko607 Рік тому

      Ameen! 🤲

    • @joerdim
      @joerdim Рік тому +2

      How do you know that this supposed Allah guy even exist?

    • @adnanrashtogi4553
      @adnanrashtogi4553 Рік тому +1

      What are the women blessed with in Jannah ???

    • @JahannamIsReal
      @JahannamIsReal Рік тому

      Allah said "And seek by means of what Allah has given you the future abode, and do not neglect your portion of this world, and do good (to others) as Allah has done good to you, and do not seek to make mischief in the land, surely Allah does not love the mischief-makers. Quran 28:77

    • @adnanrashtogi4553
      @adnanrashtogi4553 Рік тому

      @@JahannamIsReal
      Sura 19:83
      Sending devils
      Do you ˹O Prophet˺ not see that We have sent the devils against the disbelievers, constantly inciting them?

  • @3amopr638
    @3amopr638 Рік тому +2

    Allhouma barek! As a brother in faith, this sisters mind is such a delight and a breath of fresh air! Very knowledgeable, wise and sincere. I have high regards and respect for this sister. Great conversation brother Ali, please continue with these conversations with her, as these are the word of truth

    • @Hell...FireIsReal
      @Hell...FireIsReal Рік тому

      The Quran explicitly states that men and women are equal in the eyes of God. Furthermore, the Quran: forbids female infanticide (practiced in pre-Islamic Arabia and other parts of the world) instructs Muslims to educate daughters as well as sons.

  • @bassama6958
    @bassama6958 Рік тому

    Great discussion ALi & Naima! Hopefully to see more discussions with sister Naima more because a lot of women need to hear positive and caring voices like her which I believe will help them a lot.

  • @aniabediako3609
    @aniabediako3609 Рік тому +24

    May Allah protect her and keep her safe and secure to continue with the truth men are afraid to speak of. Now here's our blessed sister educating us all about the truth. What she needs from us all is Dua and stop praising her. All of you good sisters out there, if you agreed, come out and support her. The best support is, you should be out there educating other sisters. If she has to do it alone, many of us will die without having the taste of a righteous wife(religiously committed wife) in our lives. May Allah forbid. Will continue Inshallah.

  • @ahmadmoneer741
    @ahmadmoneer741 Рік тому +3

    May Allah bless you all.. may Allah gather ourselves with the prophet Muhammad peace be upon him

  • @anitachow8910
    @anitachow8910 Рік тому +2

    💯 she said what she said. YES PRO UMMAH

  • @ArhamYuu
    @ArhamYuu Рік тому +8

    I think this discussion is very necessary for the Muslim community, especially in my country Indonesia

    • @kbb8962
      @kbb8962 Рік тому

      Relevant to all Muslims Worldwide

  • @mahnoorburney2323
    @mahnoorburney2323 Рік тому +17

    The great collaboration that the world needed!! ❤❤

    • @JahannamIsReal
      @JahannamIsReal Рік тому

      Allah said "And seek by means of what Allah has given you the future abode, and do not neglect your portion of this world, and do good (to others) as Allah has done good to you, and do not seek to make mischief in the land, surely Allah does not love the mischief-makers. Quran 28:77

    • @EB-jf5oi
      @EB-jf5oi Рік тому

      Inbred and Ninja?

  • @gc6497
    @gc6497 Рік тому +22

    She is one of my favourites on the web. she is amazing. May Allah always protect her. I'm a revert woman from Italy !

    • @adnanrashtogi4553
      @adnanrashtogi4553 Рік тому

      As a devoted follower of islam do you support the practice of slavery , female sëx slavery as permitted in quran, islam, would you still support it ifyou , your family members , community are subjected to female sëx slavery,
      Quran 4:24
      Also ˹forbidden are˺ married women-except ˹female˺ captives in your possession This is Allah’s commandment to you. Lawful to you are all beyond these-as long as you seek them with your wealth in a legal marriage, not in fornication. Give those you have consummated marriage with their due dowries. It is permissible to be mutually gracious regarding the set dowry. Surely Allah is All-Knowing, All-Wise.
      Sahih Muslim 1456 a
      Abu Sa'id al-Khudri (Allah her pleased with him) reported that at the Battle of Hanain Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) sent an army to Autas and encountered the enemy and fought with them. Having overcome them and taken them captives, the Companions of Allah's Messenger (may peace te upon him) seemed to refrain from having intercourse with captive women because of their husbands being polytheists. Then Allah, Most High, sent down regarding that:
      " And women already married, except those whom your right hands possess (iv. 24)" (i. e. they were lawful for them when their 'Idda period came to an end).
      Hadeeth was narrated by al-Bukhaari (2542) from Ibn Muhayreez who said: I saw Abu Sa’eed (may Allaah be pleased with him) and I asked him. He said: We went out with the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) on the campaign of Banu al-Mustaliq, and we captured some prisoners from among the Arabs. We desired women and the period of abstention was hard for us, and we wanted to engage in ‘azl (coitus interruptus). We asked the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and he said, “There is no point in doing that, for there is no soul which Allaah has decreed should exist until the Day of Resurrection but it will come into existence.”
      Abu Sa'id al-Khudri reported that at the Battle of Hunain Allah's Messenger sent an army to Autas and encountered the enemy and fought with them. Having overcome them and taken them captives, the Companions of Allah's Messenger seemed to refrain from having intercourse with captive women because of their husbands being polytheists. Then Allah, Most High, sent down regarding that:" And women already married, except those whom your right hands possess (Quran 4:. 24)" (i. e. they were lawful for them when their 'Idda period came to an end).
      Sahih Muslim 8:3432
      *As a devoted follower of islam do you support the practice of marriage of prepubescent muslim girls with grown up muslim men and having sexual intercourse*
      Quran 65:4
      And those who no longer expect menstruation among your women - if you doubt, then their period is three months, and [also for] those who have not menstruated. And for those who are pregnant, their term is until they give birth. And whoever fears Allah - He will make for him of his matter ease.
      Age of Aisha
      Narrated 'Aisha: that the Prophet married her when she was six years old and he consummated his marriage when she was nine years old, and then she remained with him for nine years (i.e., till his death).
      Sahih Bukhari 7:62:64
      A'isha (Allah be pleased with her) reported: Allah's Apostle (may peace be upon him) married me when I was six years old, and I was admitted to his house when I was nine years old.'
      Sahih Muslim 8:3310
      Aisha said, "The Apostle of Allah married me when I was seven years old." (The narrator Sulaiman said: "Or six years."). "He had intercourse with me when I was 9 years old.
      Sunan Abu Dawud 2116
      By God, I do not say this to exalt myself over any of my companions." "What are these?" he asked. She replied, "The angel brought down my likeness; the Messenger of God married me when I was seven; my marriage was consummated when I was nine; he married me when I was a virgin,no other man having shared me with him; inspiration came to him when he and I were in a single blanket; I was one of the dearest people to him, a verse of the Qur’an was revealed concerning me when the community was almost destroyed; I saw Gabriel when none of his other wives saw him; and he was taken (that is, died) in his house when there was nobody with him but the angel and myself."
      According to Abu Ja‘far (Al-Tabari): The Messenger of God married her, so it is said, in Shawwal, and consummated his marriage to her in a later year, also in Shawwal.
      Al-Tabari, Vol. 7, pp. 6-7
      As a devoted follower of īslåm do you support the kïllïng of apostates ie those who have left the īslåm religion as ordered by Mūhãmmãd
      Sunan an-Nasa'i » The Book of Fighting [The Prohibition of Bloodshed] » Hadith
      كتاب تحريم الدم37 The Book of Fighting [The Prohibition of Bloodshed]
      (14)Chapter: The Ruling on Apostates(14)باب الْحُكْمِ فِي الْمُرْتَدِّ ‏‏
      Sunan an-Nasa'i 4059
      Ibn 'Abbas said:
      "The Messenger of Allah [SAW] said: 'Whoever changes his religion, kill him.'"
      أَخْبَرَنَا عِمْرَانُ بْنُ مُوسَى، قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الْوَارِثِ، قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا أَيُّوبُ، عَنْ عِكْرِمَةَ، قَالَ قَالَ ابْنُ عَبَّاسٍ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏ "‏ مَنْ بَدَّلَ دِينَهُ فَاقْتُلُوهُ ‏"‏ ‏.‏
      Grade: Sahih (Darussalam)
      Reference : Sunan an-Nasa'i 4059
      In-book reference : Book 37, Hadith 94
      English translation : Vol. 5, Book 37, Hadith 4064

  • @Aifxnfjff
    @Aifxnfjff Рік тому +3

    Shukran Ali for bringing ladies on the show especially modest noble ladies.

  • @SalamamusaKonneh-jk4kk
    @SalamamusaKonneh-jk4kk Рік тому +1

    Thank you for the important conversation

  • @untouchableali
    @untouchableali Рік тому +8

    Yes there are many men who are jerks out there. But as a woman you need to choose right. Once you’ve chosen and he is fulfilling his actual duties, be happy. Don’t try to find cracks where they don’t exist.

  • @gadeerb7
    @gadeerb7 Рік тому +9

    I really needed to hear what sister Naima had to say and check myself. Barakallah feeki sister I’ve never seen your content before but inshallah I will start watching your videos for reminders because even though I try my hardest to stick to what I learned when I received Islamic advice, I get emotional in the moment and forget. Thank you for enlightening me and keep it up!!

    • @JahannamIsReal
      @JahannamIsReal Рік тому

      Allah said "And seek by means of what Allah has given you the future abode, and do not neglect your portion of this world, and do good (to others) as Allah has done good to you, and do not seek to make mischief in the land, surely Allah does not love the mischief-makers. Quran 28:77

  • @freedomPalestine23
    @freedomPalestine23 Рік тому +25

    If you want to get married, look for someone who has a fear of Allah. They don't have to be knowledgeable but if they have fear of Allah, they will always put Allah first and want to get better in Islam. If your married as long as the person has a fear of Allah, no matter what happens, the ups and downs are normal, but Allah will always come first.

    • @joerdim
      @joerdim Рік тому +2

      No, I will rather look for someone without superstitious beliefs and who is brave and not easily scared.

    • @shahee6579
      @shahee6579 Рік тому +2

      ​@@joerdimno one asked

    • @joerdim
      @joerdim Рік тому

      @@shahee6579 And I didn't ask for your response.

    • @shahee6579
      @shahee6579 Рік тому

      @@joerdim love you

    • @joerdim
      @joerdim Рік тому

      @@shahee6579 I don't believe you.

  • @bbb-jn8dv
    @bbb-jn8dv Рік тому +10

    If i TRULY have someone with a good heart nothing wrong with him being my guide….

    • @Asad-2166
      @Asad-2166 Рік тому +2

      Correct but have you listened to the sister and understood what she said?

    • @999legend8
      @999legend8 Рік тому

      Many women make stupid conditions to not let a man lead. Always idiotic conditions. How do you 'truly' know someone has a good heart?

    • @purplelove3666
      @purplelove3666 7 місяців тому

      You guide in what? Are you saying,you don't have a brain of your own?

  • @napez4126
    @napez4126 Рік тому +55

    As a mom to 4 boys… I totally agree with her

    • @Jahannam...Hellfire.
      @Jahannam...Hellfire. Рік тому +1

      Allah said "And seek by means of what Allah has given you the future abode, and do not neglect your portion of this world, and do good (to others) as Allah has done good to you, and do not seek to make mischief in the land, surely Allah does not love the mischief-makers. Quran 28:77

    • @napez4126
      @napez4126 Рік тому

      @@Jahannam...Hellfire. SubhanAllah

    • @mina-mina6095
      @mina-mina6095 Рік тому

      if you had girls you will think diffrently but yeah

    • @LilyYuzo
      @LilyYuzo 3 місяці тому

      @@napez4126 yeah that’s why you agree with her selfish comments

  • @anmolays
    @anmolays Рік тому +7

    Wow wonderful talk! I feel Im exactly likes this always wanted to be a wife a mother.... despite being a bright girl myself didn't persue my career left my MBA and got married as my husband says dont worry complete your MBA here in UK. When i came i just supported my husband and build my family nothing else. Today when my husband has become atheist i got separated . Now im thinking what to do i didnt work or pursue my education. Give my all to build him he didn't invest in me . All i have is my son who believes in Allah swt thts my achievement in marriage. May Allah make him sadqe jariah for me. Im so feminine always want my husband to lead. Never like him in kitchen. He barely helped at home. But now im forced to be at my masculine to protect and provide for my self which is against my nature. Please pray for me that Allah grant me a God conscious spouse a real masculine man . Ameen

    • @muslimmenarecovertnarcissi346
      @muslimmenarecovertnarcissi346 Рік тому

      Prophet wanted to put a stop to all cruelties to women. He preached kindness towards them. He told the Muslims: "Fear Allah in respect of women." And: "The best of you are they who behave best to their wives." And: "A Muslim must not hate his wife, and if he be displeased with one bad quality in her, let him be pleased with one that is good." And:"The more civil and kind a Muslim is to his wife, the more perfect in faith he is."
      The Prophet (peace be upon him) was most emphatic in enjoining upon Muslims to be kind to their women when he delivered his famous khutba on the Mount of Mercy at Arafat in the presence of one hundred and twenty-four thousand of his Companions who had gathered there for the Hajj al-Wada (Farewell Pilgrimage). In it he ordered those present, and through them all those Muslims who were to come later, to be respectful and kind towards women. He said:
      "Fear Allah regarding women. Verily you have married them with the trust of Allah, and made their bodies lawful with the word of Allah. You have got (rights) over them, and they have got (rights) over you in respect of their food and clothing according to your means."
      In Islam a woman is a completely independent personality. She can make any contract or bequest in her own name. She is entitled to inherit in her position as mother, as wife, as sister and as daughter. She has perfect liberty to choose her husband. The pagan society of pre-Islamic Arabia had an irrational prejudice against their female children whom they used to bury alive. The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) was totally opposed to this practice. He showed them that supporting their female

    • @alphauno6614
      @alphauno6614 Рік тому

      Sister may Allah make it easy for you. Islam allows you to remarry so I don’t think you are out of options.

    • @freespirit7835
      @freespirit7835 10 місяців тому

      Are you still looking to get married?

    • @anmolays
      @anmolays 10 місяців тому

      ​@freespirit7835 yes inshaAllah I trust Allah will compensate me with great believer who's heart is connected to his Lord.

    • @freespirit7835
      @freespirit7835 10 місяців тому

      @@anmolays , do you live in UK? I wanted to marry a second wife, will you be interested?

  • @alyarrf
    @alyarrf Рік тому +3

    Thank you soooooooooo much my brother Ali and my sister in Islam for this video and discussion. It has given me so much clarity.
    The things my sister is saying here, are the things that I always needed from my partner, and not getting in return that was due to me I was confused and thought that I was going crazy.
    Like I did my very best for the last 18 years, but still it was never enough and never accounted for, never valued. SubhanAllah.
    Asking for my simple rights prescribed by Allah became topics of futile arguments.
    May Allah guide my parter in her future life without me. May He make it easy for all the brothers and sisters out there, ameen.

  • @kikikoko607
    @kikikoko607 Рік тому +11

    It's a two way street. Rights come with duties. A lot of duties, a lot of rights. It's giving and taking. Not only taking!

  • @ducadukeoflondontown9473
    @ducadukeoflondontown9473 Рік тому +3

    Very interesting discussion. Nice one!

  • @mohpat9989
    @mohpat9989 Рік тому +2

    Very good discussion, keep up the good work

  • @Sarararara.
    @Sarararara. Рік тому +10

    I think whats missing in this discussion is the aspect of compatibility in marriage. Love languages and compatibility within marriage need to be discussed as a criteria as much as everything else.
    Also if the marriage becomes fractured, that will have an impact on the upbringing and environment that the children will be exposed to. So its important that people solve their issues (as long as the issue isnt extreme) before having children. This is especially important if the marriage is one were the couple do not know each other too well.
    There are married women who take their husbsands for granted but equally there are married men who take their wives for granted.
    Also in regards to education. Education is a right that Allah has encouraged for all of us regardless of gender. If males are underperforming it shoudn't be that females are discouraged from education but males are encouraged to become more educated and successful. Also just because someone is educated does not mean they become masculine. The reason some women prioritise careers is for their own safety and because of the failures of previous and current generations. And because life has become a lot more expensive in many countries that one income may not be enough to sustain a comfortable lifestyle, especially with children.
    People need to realize that Islamically and in an ideal world it shouldnt matter what salary the husband or wife are getting does as long as they can fulfilling their obligations.
    Inshallah we muslims can heal our traumas and do better as an ummah in the future .

    • @JahannamIsReal
      @JahannamIsReal Рік тому

      Allah said "And seek by means of what Allah has given you the future abode, and do not neglect your portion of this world, and do good (to others) as Allah has done good to you, and do not seek to make mischief in the land, surely Allah does not love the mischief-makers. Quran 28:77

    • @America_1st_the.rest.r_last
      @America_1st_the.rest.r_last Рік тому +1

      Most of the current dangerous issues are from women. Women initiate 80% of divorces. Videos can't address 100% of situations. By default, it is assumed they are talking about the general public, not the miniscule percentage of bad husbands

    • @purplelove3666
      @purplelove3666 7 місяців тому

      ​​@@America_1st_the.rest.r_lastyou wouldn't stay at a job where your boss disrespects you but you expect women to stay with husbands that don't contribute to the marriage ?obviously they are not holding their end in the marriage if their wives are divorcing them

  • @IsmailKamdar
    @IsmailKamdar Рік тому

    I am so glad you interviewed Sr. Na'ima, she is one of the rare voices of truth on this topic.

  • @bazooka3730
    @bazooka3730 Рік тому

    Sister Naima makes me cry! At these days it seems like especially women dont want to be critized in any way, even if things are true. SubhanAllah sister Naima speaks the absoluteley truth!!! May Allah protect you and open womens hearts through your wise words.

    • @purplelove3666
      @purplelove3666 7 місяців тому +2

      But are men ok with being criticized? either,be real

  • @poeticjustice9649
    @poeticjustice9649 Рік тому +2

    Salaam, this was a refreshing reminder so I can’t wait for Sr Naima as a special guest on the show inshallah. Brother Ali, can you pin the link to Sr Naima’s coaching/book writing. Jazakallah kheyr

  • @Onajourney519
    @Onajourney519 Рік тому +17

    many men don't fulfil their responsibility hence why many women are sick of hearing this!!

    • @mohamedaboobaker2794
      @mohamedaboobaker2794 Рік тому +5

      Speak for yourself

    • @Onajourney519
      @Onajourney519 Рік тому

      @@mohamedaboobaker2794 it's always a woman hating individual who feels the need to respond to me, I bet you anything he's onz of these men who abuse women, just typical cry baby and not masculine. Go and be a man instead of a doush who feels the need to throw around one liners .

    • @safiaoud3245
      @safiaoud3245 Рік тому

      Yeah that's why these women have insecurities and distrust which caused them to look away from Islam's prospective of marriage and focus on the Hollywood love story

    • @Onajourney519
      @Onajourney519 Рік тому

      @@Peace-lm7sj just go anf look at the men who are looking for polygamy and who are single I think most of the men on there are not providers and are just takes with a big sense of entitlement

    • @safiaoud3245
      @safiaoud3245 Рік тому +6

      @@Peace-lm7sj she said many men ,not all men ,stop misinterpreting

  • @unapologeticmuslim1575
    @unapologeticmuslim1575 Рік тому +2

    Brother Ali. I have criticised you in the past, however this was very fair. Good one bro 👏 mashaAllah

  • @BlacFireSan
    @BlacFireSan Рік тому +46

    I already know this is going to be good 😂❤ I love Sister Naima. May Allah grant her deceased husband Jannah firdaus. He was a great man.

    • @halalmuslimsidechickssexyf4641
      @halalmuslimsidechickssexyf4641 Рік тому

      Prophet wanted to put a stop to all cruelties to women. He preached kindness towards them. He told the Muslims: "Fear Allah in respect of women." And: "The best of you are they who behave best to their wives." And: "A Muslim must not hate his wife, and if he be displeased with one bad quality in her, let him be pleased with one that is good." And:"The more civil and kind a Muslim is to his wife, the more perfect in faith he is."
      The Prophet (peace be upon him) was most emphatic in enjoining upon Muslims to be kind to their women when he delivered his famous khutba on the Mount of Mercy at Arafat in the presence of one hundred and twenty-four thousand of his Companions who had gathered there for the Hajj al-Wada (Farewell Pilgrimage). In it he ordered those present, and through them all those Muslims who were to come later, to be respectful and kind towards women. He said:
      "Fear Allah regarding women. Verily you have married them with the trust of Allah, and made their bodies lawful with the word of Allah. You have got (rights) over them, and they have got (rights) over you in respect of their food and clothing according to your means."
      In Islam a woman is a completely independent personality. She can make any contract or bequest in her own name. She is entitled to inherit in her position as mother, as wife, as sister and as daughter. She has perfect liberty to choose her husband. The pagan society of pre-Islamic Arabia had an irrational prejudice against their female children whom they used to bury alive. The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) was totally opposed to this practice. He showed them that supporting their female

    • @Naimah_Vlogs
      @Naimah_Vlogs Рік тому +1

      Ameen 🤲

  • @arfanaveed8308
    @arfanaveed8308 Рік тому

    Hats off to both of you, Jazak Allah! I realized today that half knowledge is sooo dangerous and it literally makes you biased. At 13, 14 years old I started to feel bitter about boys and men in general even though I didn't even know what 'feminism' meant at that time. To some, it may sound funny that look a kiddo who ain't knows nothing was being judgmental of men, go get mature first but I think it eventually was going to shape my mindset in future, it would just get severe later on. It was this mostly irrational, exaggerated negative perspective of men that I noticed I was begining to develop, the issue was I was lacking knowledge & I got to know some horrific stories and murders( internet ok !) with women and girls as victims and how boys flex about their masculinity on social media...A mix of fear, anger and hatred grew within me. But I am so grateful and happy that now as I grow older I am seeing the other side of the picture. You guys and lots of others like you are praise worthy in this regard. I will like to say something to all who begin to feel this hatred and envy for boys/men..these mistakes I was making. 1) Lack of knowledge 2) Extremism ( don't do this, put yourself in their shoes, acknowledge men struggles as well 3) YOU ARE NOT A MAN SO DON'T THINK YOU KNOW WHAT IT TAKES TO BE A MAN 4) Do not GENERALIZE, not all the men are to be blamed due to some SPECIFIC men 5) ONLINE Not all you see is real...sometimes it is but men also face same issues it is just not highlighted with as much intensity 5) WATCH videos like this one with a neutral approach and magic will happen, everything will fall in to place.

  • @Md_sadiq_Md
    @Md_sadiq_Md Рік тому +4

    Pushing the algorithm ❤

  • @Thatssswhatithought
    @Thatssswhatithought 3 місяці тому +2

    As a female I’m extremely allergic to feminist and 35 year old baby boys

    • @messimess9985
      @messimess9985 2 місяці тому

      What men are baby boys though at 35? 😂

  • @i.x222
    @i.x222 Рік тому

    jazakallahu khairan for this video brother. sisters need to hear this from everywhere. i certainly agree with what was said and its something that makes me upset about the condition of women today. allahumma barik for great content

    • @Hell...FireIsReal
      @Hell...FireIsReal Рік тому

      Prophet wanted to put a stop to all cruelties to women. He preached kindness towards them. He told the Muslims: "Fear Allah in respect of women." And: "The best of you are they who behave best to their wives." And: "A Muslim must not hate his wife, and if he be displeased with one bad quality in her, let him be pleased with one that is good." And:"The more civil and kind a Muslim is to his wife, the more perfect in faith he is."
      The Prophet (peace be upon him) was most emphatic in enjoining upon Muslims to be kind to their women when he delivered his famous khutba on the Mount of Mercy at Arafat in the presence of one hundred and twenty-four thousand of his Companions who had gathered there for the Hajj al-Wada (Farewell Pilgrimage). In it he ordered those present, and through them all those Muslims who were to come later, to be respectful and kind towards women. He said:
      "Fear Allah regarding women. Verily you have married them with the trust of Allah, and made their bodies lawful with the word of Allah. You have got (rights) over them, and they have got (rights) over you in respect of their food and clothing according to your means."
      In Islam a woman is a completely independent personality. She can make any contract or bequest in her own name. She is entitled to inherit in her position as mother, as wife, as sister and as daughter. She has perfect liberty to choose her husband. The pagan society of pre-Islamic Arabia had an irrational prejudice against their female children whom they used to bury alive. The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) was totally opposed to this practice. He showed them that supporting their female

  • @biancacappai-hc4xl
    @biancacappai-hc4xl Рік тому +1

    SubhanaAllah!, your videos are soo enlightening may Allah SWA bless sister Naima and you brother.

    • @muslimmenarecovertnarcissi346
      @muslimmenarecovertnarcissi346 Рік тому

      Islam showed full respect to the women and ensured rights, dignity and honour and equal status of men and women in case of marriage because for being a valid marriage acquiescence of the bride groom as well as bride is mandatory. In this regard no one is superior.

  • @BQ900
    @BQ900 Рік тому +4

    I have always prayed many times a day but never got into a religion. One day I enroll at the university and a man is there on business who asked me about a place to eat. I’m just minding my own business but tried to be kind to help. Turns out he is Muslim and we’ve been married 5 years. He never asked me to become Muslim. But I am learning the prayers that he says. Pray, listen to your parents, and Allah/God whatever name will send you the perfect person for you. 🙏

    • @Desert_Kingdom
      @Desert_Kingdom Рік тому +1

      If he didn't ask you to become muslim it doesn't mean he is open minded and respect your decision. A true friend corrects your mistake and defends you in your absence. If he was a serious muslim who knows about his religion or he cared about you, he would have asked you become one so he can be with you afterlife for eternity. 🐥

    • @BQ900
      @BQ900 Рік тому

      @@Desert_Kingdom the Muslims don’t get to be married for eternity. They all go to hell and their God pulls the good ones out. Also, there’s “no compulsion in religion” so my husband can’t order me to be Muslim. He apparently was taught differently.

    • @ladan3208
      @ladan3208 Рік тому +1

      @@BQ900HUH? Where are you getting this information from?

    • @BQ900
      @BQ900 Рік тому

      432. Abu Musa al-Ash'ari reported that the Messenger of Allah said, "On the Day of Rising, Allah will hand over a Jew or a Christian to every Muslim and say, ‘Here is your redemption from the Fire’." [Muslim]
      In another variant from him is that the Prophet said, "Some of the Muslims will be brought on the Day of Rising with sins the size of mountains and Allah will forgive them." (Al-Imam Abu Zakariya Yahya bin Sharaf An-Nawawi Ad-Dimashqi, Riyad as-Salihin (The Meadows of the Righteous), 51. Chapter: On Hope; italic emphasis ours)
      This raises a few questions. If Jews and Christians will be sent to hell in the place of Muslims as a ransom for the wickedness committed by Muhammad’s followers then why is Allah sending any Muslim to hell? What kind of ransom can this be if Muslims are still required to undergo torment in hell for their crimes and evil deeds?

    • @BQ900
      @BQ900 Рік тому

      @@zeroz82
      القرآن مكتوب باللغة العربية. هل تقرأ وتكتب اللغة العربية؟ سوف تحتاج إلى معرفة ذلك أولا.

  • @Asad-2166
    @Asad-2166 Рік тому +2

    56.00 I loved changing my children nappy feeding them and telling them stores, they grow up so fast🙏

  • @M1ha_67
    @M1ha_67 3 місяці тому

    Love this!

  • @STARKILLER15100
    @STARKILLER15100 Рік тому

    Wow. So much of what I have heard here I have heard before from red pill groups. Thing is it’s true. I’m honestly considering this religion. It speaks so much truth to me

  • @mubarakharuna6425
    @mubarakharuna6425 Рік тому

    A big thumb up to our sister😊 May Allah bless you and give you more wisdom 🙏

  • @iislam2283
    @iislam2283 Рік тому +2

    Allahuma barik to sister one of the best she speaks the truth.

  • @Aliyahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
    @Aliyahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh Рік тому +3

    Interesting intro
    Never thought of it that way 👍

  • @hammed368
    @hammed368 Рік тому +18

    Alhamdulilah for sisters like her. Inshallah my wife will be understanding like her because no real man ever want to oppress their wife unless they are mentally ill. Most men will do whatever necessary to keep the wife and family happy.

    • @adnanrashtogi4553
      @adnanrashtogi4553 Рік тому

      MühamMãd wanted to divorce Sauda because she had become old and sexually unattractive.
      . It is narrated by At-Tirmidhi, on the authority of Ibn ‘Abbas that he said: "Sawdah feared that she would be divorced by the Messenger of Allah and so she said: ‘Do not divorce me; keep me with you and give my day with you to ‘Aishah.’" Then Allah revealed in the Qur’an [Q. 4:128]: (The Honorable Wives of the Prophet, edited by Abdul Ahad

    • @Shaykh-Waleed-White
      @Shaykh-Waleed-White Рік тому

      @@adnanrashtogi4553 "If a woman fears either ill-treatment or aversion from her husband it is not wrong for the husband and wife to bring about reconciliation among themselves (by compromising on their rights), for settlement is better. Man's soul is always prone to selfishness, but if you do good and are God-fearing, then surely Allah is aware of the things you do."
      What's wrong with this and the prophet was a human being so what exactly is your argument and let's not forget that the prophet was used as an example in a log it things to provide guidance to the ummah
      If anything,this Ayah deals with a lot of contemporary problems faced by the ummah at large with a logical approach

  • @dr.ahmedfaraz3225
    @dr.ahmedfaraz3225 Рік тому +4

    Great message 🎉

  • @kudrah
    @kudrah Рік тому +16

    Many women have actually evolved to disliking a man that treats them well, yet the same women don't have the integrity to keep a relationship or a man. Divorces on the rise.

    • @shabanatasleem3532
      @shabanatasleem3532 Рік тому +10

      Some women are just ungrateful (without generalising). I know of a sister whose hub did everything to please her, not that he had to do this, however, she was acting like she was hard done by! May Allah guide us all, insha’Allah and grant us spouses that are beneficial for our Deen, insha’Allah. Ameen.

    • @kudrah
      @kudrah Рік тому +7

      @@shabanatasleem3532 Ameen... You've mentioned a point which the prophet (pbuh) refered to as the reason or one of the reasons why hell fire will mostly be filled with women. It's a sad reality of our times.

    • @nanabai329
      @nanabai329 3 місяці тому

      Bizarre take and it will only blind you to reality many women love kind good men this whole bad boy thing is about the aura of capability of the guy as women are attracted to men in positions of power due again to capability and it's usually teenagers who are attracted to the baby boy sterotype most doesn't mean we don't want a man to be good to us.

  • @MS-Hussain
    @MS-Hussain Рік тому +10

    She is indeed a very good speaker Masha Allah!!

    • @muslimmenarecovertnarcissi346
      @muslimmenarecovertnarcissi346 Рік тому

      The Quran explicitly states that men and women are equal in the eyes of God. Furthermore, the Quran: forbids female infanticide (practiced in pre-Islamic Arabia and other parts of the world) instructs Muslims to educate daughters as well as sons.

  • @baraji4653
    @baraji4653 Рік тому +2

    What a wonderful and fruitful talk between two stars to the other stars and planets around them 💟🎉

  • @anandnathan6851
    @anandnathan6851 Рік тому +4

    Brother Ali, we need Sister Naima's link in the description, please.

  • @moynulkhan3810
    @moynulkhan3810 Рік тому +7

    Love from 🇧🇩 my bruda

  • @qoobsmcdoobs1
    @qoobsmcdoobs1 Рік тому +4

    It just seems like a lot of these issues start at home. Unfortunately, many parents are too trusting of their young daughters and don't develop a proper Islamic orientation. They also need to deconstruct messages in public schools and western culture and show the way secularism and feminism dehumanize men and put women on a pedestal. Many parents feel proud simply because their daughter knows some surahs and prays. But they don't see the poisoned mindset. There is zero effort to develop skills she would need as a wife and mother, which is majority of her adult life.

  • @muslimninja9017
    @muslimninja9017 Рік тому +5

    ALLAHU AKBAR!

  • @alhot11
    @alhot11 Рік тому

    More please it really helpful advice for us that still not married

  • @aishabashir5400
    @aishabashir5400 Рік тому +4

    I don’t usually comment but I’d like to give my personal opinion in one thing. At minute 50 she spoke about women who want to focus on themself and their careers until late 20s before marriage .. what we don’t realize is a loooooot of women (majority here in the Arab world) are actually afraid and under pressure that if they spend time on themself before marriage it’ll be too late .. and what ends up happening is she becomes desperate for marriage from an early age and compromises on things which she’ll regret down the line, just cus of this fear of not finding the right suitor in the future. This rush for women to marry in a certain time is why women are not choosing the right men and divorce is on the rise. If she worked on herself instead a little longer at least she would understand herself better , have more experience in life , understand things better and what she really needs in a man … instead of trying to “win” the title of “married” at the age of 19.

    • @purplelove3666
      @purplelove3666 7 місяців тому +1

      Thank you, some of these girls marrying don't even know themselves and then they come on UA-cam. And then ask what they should do ,because they didn't prepare

  • @muslimah6164
    @muslimah6164 Рік тому +9

    Love from India 🇮🇳

  • @maxm00d
    @maxm00d Рік тому

    جزاك الله خيرا to you sister naima.
    Some men have had their lives destroyed by women like these stealing their assets post divorce and stealing their children.

    • @SitKid721
      @SitKid721 Рік тому

      True it took me almost 10 years to finally feel joy again after my ex wife took my daughter from me.

  • @ummzaky2948
    @ummzaky2948 Рік тому +6

    Not all sisters . Some of us are actually quite in tune to doing our duties as wives and take fulfilling the rights of others especially our husbands seriously, regardless of whether he fulfills ours.. Just wanted to put it out there, there are plenty of us submissive souls 😊

    • @hoormalesinjannahforwomen2714
      @hoormalesinjannahforwomen2714 Рік тому

      Prophet wanted to put a stop to all cruelties to women. He preached kindness towards them. He told the Muslims: "Fear Allah in respect of women." And: "The best of you are they who behave best to their wives." And: "A Muslim must not hate his wife, and if he be displeased with one bad quality in her, let him be pleased with one that is good." And:"The more civil and kind a Muslim is to his wife, the more perfect in faith he is."
      The Prophet (peace be upon him) was most emphatic in enjoining upon Muslims to be kind to their women when he delivered his famous khutba on the Mount of Mercy at Arafat in the presence of one hundred and twenty-four thousand of his Companions who had gathered there for the Hajj al-Wada (Farewell Pilgrimage). In it he ordered those present, and through them all those Muslims who were to come later, to be respectful and kind towards women. He said:
      "Fear Allah regarding women. Verily you have married them with the trust of Allah, and made their bodies lawful with the word of Allah. You have got (rights) over them, and they have got (rights) over you in respect of their food and clothing according to your means."
      In Islam a woman is a completely independent personality. She can make any contract or bequest in her own name. She is entitled to inherit in her position as mother, as wife, as sister and as daughter. She has perfect liberty to choose her husband. The pagan society of pre-Islamic Arabia had an irrational prejudice against their female children whom they used to bury alive. The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) was totally opposed to this practice. He showed them that supporting their female

    • @MOTHUG786
      @MOTHUG786 Рік тому +1

      Well, may Allah bless you, but there's not enough of that. I, as a British Muslim Bengali man in my early 30s, I'm an electrician, I come across a lot of haughty women, like rebellious women. One even asked me if I support radical Islam because I was quoting the Qur'an and hadith to her. I've been looking for the past 5 years but now I've come to a point I'm actually put off of marriage. Either I am single for too long and I like my space and alone time, or I'm actually scared of having an empowered feminist woman coming and ruining my life... It's a tricky one. A lot of women I come across who are "looking for marriage" will openly say "men are dogs" why do they want to marry a dog? As a result, I now have disdain and distrust for women. Alhamdulillah, as a an electrician, I don't have to work with women, strictly with men, and I'm so grateful. Salaam.

  • @israafaraj3520
    @israafaraj3520 3 місяці тому

    Very interesting discussion. My only negative would be that during these discussions the focus is exclusively focussed towards the unmarried sisters. I’d like to see divorcees incorporated into the discussion. For example, as a previous divorcee who remarried but with adult children, children is no longer the purpose or focus of marriage. Yet, we all strive for connection and can fall victim to the same ideologies. Thus, please try to incorporate advice for those co-wives, divorcees and those who’ve remarried too. Loved the discussion which has made me reflect.

  • @IosifStalin2
    @IosifStalin2 Рік тому +1

    This fills me with sadness and a little horror

  • @sabeca3337
    @sabeca3337 10 місяців тому

    Amazing discussion ❤

  • @jamdoughnut1873
    @jamdoughnut1873 3 місяці тому

    Good discussion. We can also see the same setup with children and parents, children are meant to please their parents and not the other way around, parents are meant to fulfil the rights of children which isn’t pleasing them.

  • @AbirAhmed-zd6ct
    @AbirAhmed-zd6ct Рік тому +2

    Majority of the follower of Dajjal will be women.
    This quote from our beloved Prophet is not to mock but to warn. So woman, moment you deny our Prophet's quote or get ill feelings you already became the follower of Dajjal! And I don't care about your feelings. Only the righteous women will take heed and follow the path Allah has chosen for us that lead towards Jannah, everlasting happiness.

  • @kikikoko607
    @kikikoko607 Рік тому +13

    Maybe some sisters are angry sis, because they feel you are generalizing. Or maybe the wrong generation feels addressed! Me and the women I know, are very decent, humble and sacrificing. Some of them have even horrible men, who ruined their lives. Of course it would be dumb to generalize the brothers, either. I hate this, too! I just don't feel represented in what the sister says. The Gen-Z generation seems to be very awful and entitled! Maybe they are the problem.

    • @paralleluniverse298
      @paralleluniverse298 Рік тому +1

      We're saying about majority.

    • @kikikoko607
      @kikikoko607 Рік тому +5

      @@paralleluniverse298 I don't know
      I don't think so. Maybe in certain cultures. Predominately in the West. I know a few japanese women, who converted.
      Alhamdulillah. I've never seen such women before! 💯Ma sha Allah. Generally sisters from Asian countries are very good wives.
      The sisters, I met in my home country, were all very good women, too though. A lot of them were German converts like me. They gave me beautiful advices and I profited from their friendships. It is clearly a generational problem.

    • @aminahussain9373
      @aminahussain9373 Рік тому +2

      I agree with you

    • @mianatwood
      @mianatwood Рік тому

      This is the problem. All you women think about is you! Everything is about you! Clearly she isn’t talking about every single damn woman and she clearly isn’t talking about sister who are actually good. She is talking about women corrupted by western liberal, feminist agenda! And these corrupted sisters could be back home too not just in the West. And yes majority of the women are corrupted in the West, and majority of Muslim men aren’t corrupted by the western liberal agenda some are but now that’s changing too because of Muslim women becoming so damn liberal that the Muslim men are getting corrupted by red pill now because of this!

  • @blessedhusseing
    @blessedhusseing Рік тому +3

    May Allah make women like this sister available for us to marry. If not we're doomed. May Allah bless and protect her.

  • @manymac656
    @manymac656 Рік тому +4

    Mash'Allah the speech of the Sister

  • @qanijees69
    @qanijees69 3 місяці тому

    Being single , I’m just watching these issues from afar.
    I don’t think I’m ready for marriage, so lazy to please someone or be pleased.
    Just want to enjoy my quiet life for now. I will just please Allah.