Hi guys! I just wanted to come back to this and say I’ve had a lot of questions regarding seeking advice from me, you can reach out to me VIA Sunroom here: sunroom.so/lumma I know I would’ve needed something like this when I was going through it, I’m here for you! Love you all
You helped me so much 2 years ago when you made this video, i just want to let you know and ive seen your more recent videos im happy youve healed and you look so much happier ❤
@@anamariawolfie heey, yeah he called me on new years eve telling me that he missed me and that he wanted us to be friends and wasn't giving up on trying unless I pushed him away really hard. We tried doing that but it wasn't working for me coz Def I was still in love with him and I told him that and he ghosted me😭 and I guess that was my sign that he didn't care and was done with me and i took it as my closure. Piece of advice to anyone who goes no contact hoping that in the sixth month he will come back, don't wait coz it will probably never happen and if it does you deserve better.
It sucks to experience both. I lost my dad 3 months ago and my girlfriend left me a while after. I just feel like I'm alone, I've lost half of my heart, I want to die... It all sucks man.
This comment! Yes. It’s been seven months and I’m still healing somewhat because he just randomly disappeared and left me wondering. almost fully healed though!❤️
Yes, that's hurts so much that i don't know 'why' that happened, is there's something wrong with me or with her ? But then after 4 months it just came to my mind that maybe there's no reason She just left me for no reason Nothing literally happened before that she just ignored me and treated me like a strange person
Well that's is challenging,but I kept on looking myself in the mirror seeing the image of myself,and I smile to a brighter day, because I know love will find me again
i broke up with my ex but i still cared lord about him . i just knew he wasn’t available so i chose to walk away . pepe can still care very much and choose to walk away
I hate that i can’t talk to him anymore. I hate that he left me instead of fighting for us. I hate that I’m crying for him. I hate that i miss him. But hopefully my heart will forget and that we’ll all become our most beautiful selves after this heartbreak
Hey, sweetie, it does get better. I'm 4 month post breakup and 2 month post no contact phase. He cheated on me, it was so fck hard , i really thought that i was dying, crying all day, not sleeping enough. I can tell you now that im in the best place ive ever been. So so happy and grateful for everything even the pain. I realized now that i dont want him to come back anymore. Only time heals, do things, go out with your friends, focus on your pain. You'll get through it. It is so good to be on the other side. Take care of yourself.
Harsh reality it’s so hard for us at first but for them they have already let go mentally in their heads n hearts.. so now it’s our turn to go thru it n what’s different is we weren’t prepared for it. Keep pushing!
"if you can love the wrong person for you so deeply, then imagine how it would be to love the right person for you" I've never heard anyone say that but it hit ME like a brick now too. Thanks!
The person who ends the relationship always breaks up with you in their head. In his mind, it had ended long ago, which is why it seems like they're fine and you're not. They had a chance to prepare and grieve first, and you were blindsided. I know this is an old video but these old fears can come back. If and when they do, just remind yourself you didn't have a chance to grieve before he did. It's not a reflection of you.
exactly this happend to me 3 months ago. While I was pushing her away and taking her for granted, she had already processed the breakup before actually doing it. After two weeks it all hit me at once and i got a very hard time processing the breakup and my feelings, she had moved on and left it all behind her.
I’m going through a breakup with someone I met at 15 years old and now I’m 27. We were together 11 years. It feels excruciating. I don’t understand how this is real life. I pictured myself with him forever. My situation is different because I’m the one who broke up with him. I had to. By the end of the relationship I was crying everyday because of the mistreatment. He turned emotionally unavailable, prioritized partying/going out/smoking weed over me, we saw each other (if I was lucky and because I would make the plans) twice a week, and he became extremely cold to my family. In a way the mistreatment helps validate my decision, but it doesn’t change how hard I am grieving. I’m almost 3 weeks in and all I want to do is pretend this isn’t happening. I cry everyday. Thank you for this video. I am looking forward to the day that I am stronger
Im going thru a break up rn. It’s unbearable. When I almost give him everything, we almost had a child. He hurt me so bad in the past for soooo many times but i still let him back into my life. But one mistake , which was because I cared for his future so I told him to be careful about his new friend, and he blocked me everywhere . 2 weeks no vontact. I feel so worthless
Omg this is exactly what I am going through. We had been together for 6 years and suddenly he started acting cold. Lied to me about his whereabouts, hid his phone with his life, was always busy even to send a text message. Turned out he had been out drinking with his friends and kissed a girl behind my back. He says he feels sorry and that he was drunk. I sometimes think maybe it was a mistake so I should forgive him but then I can't bear the thought that he would do such a thing and chose another girl over me. I feel angry that he has left no way for me to even forgive him. Was it worth it? Losing all we had. His friends also had a bad influence on him. But in the end it was his decision. I really do love him. It's killing me. I am scared I might never find anyone who would love me . I am so frustrated.
I am going through a similar situation, i left mine of 8yrs bcz i could see him falling out of love, the understanding was gone. we tried so many pauses but nothing helped, one day i made a plan and he AGAIN didn't show up, i decided that was it. It's excruciating, the pain, it's tragic to see us fail bcz oh lord we were so good together and the fact he is really a nice human...just not in love with me anymore. Sometimes i can't breathe
Hey everyone. Grateful to know I’m not alone… It’s been a little over 4 weeks now, almost 5. He’s reached out once but he was drunk. Idk I feel clarity of like feeling better emotionally because I can reflect and see how much my needs weren’t being met. But it literally hurts so badly even to just lose that companionship. I hate that romantic breakups also double as breaking up with a friend. We shared so many intimate life moments together. He helped me through so many dark dark challenges. One being my mother’s alcoholism. I have anxious-attachment, and his is dismissive avoidant… in other words and if you know anything about attachment theory… a match made in hell lol I keep telling myself that I never know what the future will hold (basically soothing/calming myself with the thoughts that there might, one day, be a rekindling, where he’s a healthier and emotionally available version of himself so as for us to be together again). This shit is tough. I’m 27 and I just kinda feel like love might be something I don’t experience in this life again. That might’ve been it. I can’t grieve like this again. And the chances that the next hypothetical relationship I’m in actually works and is my person and we make it the distance, is kinda slim chances. I just wanna be done giving myself to anyone for a long while. It sucks because I’ve ALWAYS wanted motherhood. Being a mom has been probably my number one goal. Unfortunately you need a partner for that, and for the sake of the child, one that is healthy and wants to be apart of their lives. Feeling lost and depressed. How is everyone else doing?
Pff.. yeah right. Women can go out next day with their friends and meet someone and get a shitload of attention. You don't remotely feel the same level of loneliness and depression that any man feels after having their heart ripped out. Not even close.
@FloopidyMcDoopidy dont even dare to say that. Not all women move on that quick. I am a woman and i can say that my breakup has torn me into pieces and i still see him at school, but i chose to pick myself up instead of moping around all day, and no that doesn’t mean getting with other guys. Not every woman moves on in one way.
The big difference is that if a man posts a 20 minute video crying about heartbreak, the response isn't 2m views on UA-cam and tons of sympathetic comments.
Agreed, seeing this video & vlog helped me feel like I wasn’t being crazy but that this is a common crisis & helps me to trust the process even tho I feel like I AM DYING :/ however I do wake up at 5:15 every morning and shower, put my make up on, fix my hair, and go to work. Take care of my home, cook, clean… Fall apart in between, dust off my knees, wipe my tears and keep moving. The whole process is absolutely exhausting.
2 years ago I was here heartbroken. Didn't know I would completely healed . NEVER UNDERESTIMATE THE POWER OF TIME. To anyone going through heartbreak. I'm sending hugs, that thing called time will slowly but surely clean house. Find these online therapists in the meantime . Esp Stephanie, Lynn. And embrace spirituality like theres no tomorrow.
@@anamariawolfie At the begining of month 6 . I suddenly started feeling like I'd rather have a piece of fried chicken than spend even a minute thinking about him. I did not realize what was happening. I was healing . But it took a full year to go from love to nothing .
@@sandialyn thank you so much for answering, you made me laugh 😂 That helped a lot. Although my situation is kind of fucked up because we were never official but it still somehow screwed me over completely.
@@anamariawolfie I'm glad it helped. Find these relationship coaches and spend hours with them . Ace metaphor, Stephanie Lyn , Derick Jaxn or any that you prefer. Those are my top picks.
I’m only 2 days into no contact and it’s devastating. I really wish this pain would stop. Thank you so much for this video. This feels like my story. I’m hurting so bad right now.
I hope you feel better. It's day 2 for me now. I feel so broken, and that is was all my fault. Pleaded with him to give me a chance to fix things, but he said he doesn't want me anymore.
I am 18 days into being dumped by my wife for a girl at work who is 10 years our junior. I say dumped bc that’s how it felt. She made it look so doable. I wish I had realized her grief before mine. 🖤🥀
I remember nights like this, balling my eyes out for what seemed to be weeks on end. 4 years later I married my best friend and now we have a daughter and a baby boy coming in January! It gets better! Thanks for sharing!
Hey mate, Congratulations for this. Even though I'm going through a tough as shit time but this comment of yours made my heart warm. All the best wishes to you and your family!
To all of you, I've been here too. Severe weight loss, apathy, depression. Fear that dissolved my core and followed me around every where. That was two yrs ago. Now, I am healthy vibrant and totally recovered. Believe me, you recover, time legit dissolves all of the scary anxiety and heart break. You get rebuild 2.0 please hang in there. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ Rooting for you all currently going through this. It's so terrifying but it will PASS
How can the sweetest man turn so cold after he says he wants a break all of a sudden. I can not handle it. I am watching your video and hope I can fall asleep without crying and weeping tonight.
I feel the exact same way. He wants a break to re evaluate everything for an unknown amount of time and it’s moving towards a breakup. Everything was good and now it’s nothing
How you're doing right now? I am to weeks in and i am about to give up on strugling everyday en playing that i am happy. So i can do my work but i want to give up i feel myself so worhtless. On the weekend days like today its the worse. What is he doing with who is he and he is partying and being happy. And i feel completly alone, crying i hate my life zo much right now.😔
@@user-uh2kn1ux6g It's been almost 2 months since he stopped communicating with me. We never talk since then. I was struggling to be fine every single day. Sometimes I woke up in the middle of the night and cried. Or some evenings if I spend time alone by myself It would make me feel down and cry. Now I do not think about him that much anymore but as the song said, when I sit down and think of him. The hurts come back again. I still miss him from time to time. He is still the same place in my heart but If I do not look at him. His appearance won't bother me. I try to read more about self-love and self-acceptance. Some of my favorite authors are Najwa Zebian and Gloria Zang.
2 months in, it gets better guys, it really does. I still cry, I sobbed on a walk yesterday by myself, but its a different type of grief as time goes on. We've got this💪
2 months as well, I can say I don’t get sad anymore about it but I definitely feel an emotional emptiness, in this moment I find it hard to believe I can love someone else. Hopefully time will change that.
@@cyclingtexas1670 don’t let yourself become cold hearted. Remember that the love you gave them didn’t come from them, but you and you alone. You have the capability to love THAT hard, and someone in your future will feel that.
I’m 35 and currently going through my 4th heartbreak. It never gets easier, and it still helps to hear about other people’s experiences, thank you for sharing your story
"Nothing can fix it.. even him coming back can't fix it" I feel your pain deeply, going through it right now. Thank you for the video girl, we're not alone
My ex came back to me few days ago ❤️ I got help from a Relationship Restorer Dr Steve Who was able to mend back my broken relationship and make my ex to come back and beg for a second chance. He can bring your ex back
i think the scariest part of heartbreaks is that during the first few days/weeks you feel like it's never going to get better, like you won't meet anyone new, and like your self worth/self confidence is just gone. i also think it's beautiful how the healing process works and how your mind and thoughts develop through it as well. thank you for sharing. this touched me
One of the best advice to anyone going through it Face it! Don't distract yourself from the pain and everything that comes with it. If you want the storm to be over soon, you should walk through it not away from it.
I was cheated by her yesterday. I found her with the guy she cheated and she protected him and told me to walk away.Sad, the pain is unbearable.Sending hugs for those going through this phase.We all gonna make it.
@@julzjulia676 for me in a month, Its still hurt for me to be honest, but I can't do anything abt it. So I accepted it . If u need someone to talk to coz I know there was the time I really need someone to talk to., I can listen it for you. Or you can do journaling by urself.
i hope you feel better asap. this is one of the worst parts of falling in love. just remember that as each day goes by, you are getting closer to the end goal. i hope 2022 is a much better year for you
My fiance left me 6 days prior to our wedding. This video hit hard. I'm currently at the 3 month mark. Anyone reading this, it does get better. There are things that trigger me to cry once in a while, but you must face your emotions to speed up the recovery process. Learn to respect and love yourself. Keep your confidence high, and you'll attract someone much better! Trust the process!
Update: She constantly reaches out to me and states she messed up and wants me back. I can never go back. I always remind myself of the emotional pain I went through and the struggle with the recovery process to get where I am now.
We broke up after 13 years and it was my first relationship. It’s been almost one week but today he came home to drop the keys and it hit hard. I have no one to talk to and feel really depressed. Every single part of this house, even the food in the fridge, reminds me of him. It sucks! I am so unhappy and do not have a clue how to move on. The pain is real. 😢
So can I... 💔 I'm on 2 months now and still sob every single day. Asking myself HOW and WHY he could do this to me and let me go so easily like I never even mattered... 💔
I used to always question why girls would cry for months over boys and breakups. I never understood it, till I experienced heartbreak myself. And maaann its a pain I would never wish upon anyone. It stirs up so much confusion and mixed emotions for so long. and its cool to now be able to sympathize with those going through the process.
Yup. And I know plenty of guys who cry and rage for months too after breakup and some are even begging for their ex to come back. Breakups suck for everyone...
I still live with trauma from the breakup i had 5 years ago with my ex. We promised "forever" only for it to be gone and it taught me that anything can change. Its the most painful feeling anyone can go through and i never wish it upon anyone
He left me 2 weeks ago saying that he lost intrest in me. I miss him every single day & Night. I cry everyday. Ik he's living his life to the fullest and this breaks my heart even more badly. I hope someday i wake up and don't feel this way. This suffering is hell.
You shouldn't feel embarrassed for feeling how you feel. The only one who should feel embarrassed is the person who broke your precious little heart. I'm so sorry, I feel you, I'm been going through a breakup phase since early December. I hope we both heal and move on stronger from this.
You will feel the pain for months.... But this shall too pass Im also going through a break up , she is a beautiful girl, i completely love her . I was so sure that she ll be there with me till death, i wanted to learn,grow , travel with her .. everything was so beautiful in our relationship, the connection was so intense . Just in a matter of 10 mins evrything changed . I was hugging her and lying on her shoulders, we wre talking and i just took a topic we fought over few days ago and she suddenly changed completely and ended the relationship there. ( felt really horrible) ( the first week ) . We had some intense fights , she just kept adding on thoughts in her brain . She told i was feeling this relationship wont workout for past 20 days but i just suppressed those thoughts . She could have told me the first time she felt something , i would have sat with her , talked and would have corrected myself. I will correct any of mistakes for her , i value our relationship the most . I love her a lot, anything wrong in my side i will sit work on and will correct for her . But she didnt want anything , she just told its mentally draining for me and i dont want to be with you. She was the perfect one for me . (Soulmate ) i saw me in her . A burning desire to improve , grow . She helpd me a lot . I felt peace . Its over between us . And i dont know if ill ever love a person again lile that . With full belief, being completely vulnerable, emotionally feeling free . I suffered the pain of one sided love , now break up (aka) death of soulmate but whose still alive physically in this world . There s nothing more now . Im immune to anything now 🙂
When you said, “If they can leave you and not talk to you, they are ok with being without you, and not contacting you, that is the closure you need” that part is so true. Thinking that way really makes things easier. If they are ok without you, Be ok without them! You WILL be OK. I promise. ❤️
Balling my eyes out fr! Ik at the moment nothing makes sense and you start questioning your existence, it hurts so bad that it reaches to the point where it starts hurting physically but i also know we're gonna get through this together!
hey hey trust me you will be okay love. it gets SO much better. let me tell you something. last year, this guy was not my FIRST love but he was my first LOVE. god when he broke up with me I didn't feel like doing anything. i was in shambles and I could believe it. god my heart ached for him. it hurt so bad. even my parents began noticing it. but looking back at all that time wasted, I realized life gets SO much better. SOO much happier. trust me. you don't need a man to be happy.
@@roseblack6057 it will get better trust me! I am almost hitting 3 month post breakup and I enjoying life to the fullest right now. I balled my eyes out for this one guy who didn’t wanted me, so please don’t waste your time to be sad all the time! It will get better just start to feel your pain and emotions and let them living there life not choosing you! Cry and feel you will feel better after some weeks I truly know this pain! Time is healing so be patient 🩷
Yesterday my wife told me that she is in love with someone else. I've never been in so much pain. I am too anxious to sleep. I stayed late in the office mindlessly watching videos. After watching yours I just went and cried in the toiled and felt pathetic. But it helped, I feel better if only slightly. I cant share this with anyone I know, nor should I, so the best I can do is to write this for the strangers on the internet to read. Thank you for posting such an intimate and personal video. Hopefully in time I could come back to this comment and say that I am better. UPD. Wow, thank you all for the support! Even though it was really rough, I am doing a lot better now. I started taking ADs and we do couple therapy. The future is still uncertain, but I am a bit more at peace with it. Stay strong, people!
I wish I could hug your heart back together! I'm so sorry this happened to you :( I'm wishing and praying for you, that you are able to find your peace again!
This is a blessing in disguise even though it doesn’t feel like that at the moment. Better things are coming your way. I can’t wait for you to come back and say you are healed. Giving you a virtual hug ❤
It's really interesting that how losing someone can actually cause you physical pain. I got dumped after 3.5 years, and I just can't believe the weight on my chest. I can't wait for it to be gone.
After almost 8 years of relationship my husband suddenly announced me that he is unhappy and doesn’t believe we are meant to be together. This is so sudden, I’m left heartbroken, lost and lonely. I have no support, no relationship with my family, I leave in a different country that where I grew up. I didn’t have the easiest life growing up and I was really hoping of never having to feel this kind of pain again, I thought for once it was my turn to feel happiness and loved, and I believed it. Now I’m completely destroyed and scared.
Very similar story except we have a 2.5 daughter. Not only he swept the rug from under my feet . I was completely dependent on him financially he basically destroyed me . Now I moved back to my parents house struggling to find a job and unable to grieve properly as my daughter is dependent on me . The divorce isn't finished yet so it's just a big mess . Just taking it day by day
It’s been a month. It’s up and down. Moments of light and moments of pulling myself up out of the darkness. I know I am getting better even though I can’t feel it in this time.
three weeks ago. is there anything you can share with someone that just got theit heart broken as of today?.. i'm sorry, you don't have to answer, i just feel like i'm desperately looking for any signs of light at the end of what right now feels like an endless dark, lonely and painful tunnel...
@@knjsrkive I’m not gonna lie I’m still hurting there’s good and bad days. But you have to allow yourself to cry and feel your emotions. It’s going to suck but hang in there we will get through this I still have a long road of healing ahead of me as I’m still a mess most nights.
it hurts so much knowing you’ve been with someone everyday. You did everything with this person. Then they just suddenly aren’t there anymore. It’s like you really feel like nothing.
My ex came back to me a few days ago ❤️ I got help from a Relationship Restorer Dr Steve who was able to mend back my broken relationship and make my ex to come back and beg for a second chance. He can bring your ex back. Also attracting SP, soulmate, and removing Third parties which works within 48hours...
@@stephaniegaray980 I’ve been recovering though, everything happens for a reason yk. Just keep your head up and do you, and always remember the only person that really knows you and can truly love you is yourself. Way before anyone else
I was watching this two years ago after my breakup. This video helped and now I’m in the BEST place in my life. When she said “You will ABSOLUTELY be ok”, it’s true. I immediately went no contact, not even knowing anything about no contact. It was just instinctual and over time, I understood he was not the best for me. The tears eventually stopped and peace has filled my heart. My life is beautiful. There is absolutely NO WAY I would EVER go back. That is my HONEST TRUTH. It may not be easy, but, Please believe it will get better when you allow the process.
I remember the first few weeks, it was like i was placed in a parallel reality, and the world just seemed so dull and strange, hard to describe, but i literally couldnt do anything. Didnt eat for weeks, hit the bottle hard, lost about 40 pounds. Lost her, my house, and my 3 dogs whom i loved so much. I sacrificed so much of myself just to be with her, but about 4 months later now, and i feel rejuvenated! Im working out again, eating healthy, no heavy drinking, and pursuing the dream that i gave up to be with her. I still have days where i reminisce, and sometimes break down, but the tears are less and less each time. To anyone going through this, just keep pushing. One day at a time, do the things you enjoy, or find NEW things to enjoy (that was a big one for me). Im looking at life in a totally different way now, and i guess thats one thing i can thank her for. Push through and you will come out the other side a much stronger, and smarter person. Best of luck to anyone that reads this! Youre gonna be okay!
I can NOT thank you enough. A week ago my fiancé dumped me over text. There’s hasn’t been anything, NOTHING that has made me feel just a tiny bit better. Thank you!!!
Let things be as they are, it just means he is not in a position to love you and you don't need a person like this. You deserve so much love and things will be so much better!
I see breakups as interventions from God so that you have the chance to find the right person that will value you the way that he sees you deserve ❤ Trust him
Thank you. I needed to hear this. He spared me from more pain from a man who betrayed me. Pain was excruciating but at least the overthinking has stopped now and I have confirmed my suspicion.
The #1 rule of getting over a break up is, and im not kidding, to surround yourself with people, with love. Do not fight it alone, or you will probably lose. I should know. I almost LOST but I found peace in friends and family, and they got me past the dangerous parts.
I remember watching this the first day of my break up and I was crying my eyes out I felt so drained. Didn’t eat or sleep for days. I didn’t even get out of bed. But here I am now can watch this and just smile because I made it. If you’re going through a hard time please keep going. YOU WILL BE OK! Thank you for this video ❤
3 years ago I went through the worst breakup of my life. today I can't even remember the pain I went through. I was bedridden for 4 months, in and out of the hospital got diagnosed with derealization and I did not get over this for quite some time. it is crazy how at the moment you can't possibly imagine how you'd overcome this, but I am living proof that the pain subsides and you can find yourself again
I'm going through one right now. She left me after 12 years, told me she didn't love me anymore and left. Comments like this give me a little bit of hope, but it's so extremely hard to process.
@@Smitty3600 Going through it too, 3 weeks now after 22 years and 2 kids. I feel like I’m dying inside losing weight no interest in anything . I won’t contact her I know she would have to come to me or we will be finished. Sad every day but we can get through it with time.
@@fredbrooks2939 I’ve lost a ton of weight too, which is good I guess since I was overweight (not anymore, lol). But I’d happily give up the weight loss to be with her again. Losing a part of your family is horrible. I wish you all the best and hope you can look back at this comment in a couple of years and smile about it. I hope I can,
Thank you so much Lumma. You truly are beautiful inside and out. It's been 4 weeks post-breakup after a 5 year relationship in which I gave my all. It's amazing how there is a community of wonderful women here who can relate to each other and give words of encouragement through these tough times. You got this everyone!
I’m on day two after 8 years together. It is so incredibly hard and your video made me feel like I’m not alone and I will be okay eventually. Thank you for sharing your story.
I recently got my ex back through the help of a love specialist , the love specialist offers the best solution and the best way in restoring broken relationship.
I’m a 58 year-old man who was dumped 6 weeks ago. The pain is still staggering and I found your video as I desperately needed some support. Your transparency has been so helpful and healing. Just wanted to share that heartbreak has no gender or age group… I’ve been divorced twice and yet this breakup is unlike anything I’ve ever experienced. Thanks for sharing your deepest moments.
I'm a 16 year old girl who has a lot of emotional and physical trauma. Nobody has ever had a crush on me, except for them. I met them a year ago, and today is my "Day 1". I loved them, and I thought they loved me. Apparently, they weren't ready yet. They said everything I wanted to hear, and meant it, but still had feelings for their ex. They had NO intention of dating me any time soon. So while I was falling in love, waiting to get asked out soon, they were just enjoying our friendship. Yesterday I found out about this, and I decided to stay friends. Today, I'm writing them paragraphs on how I feel, and how my choice to stay friends was the wrong choice. I can't do it. I love them too much, to stay in contact. It hurts because they love me so much, and want me to stay in their life. So leaving them because of my emotional trauma, hurts me. So thank you for doingthis Lumma. Thank you for showing me that it hurts. Thank you for showing me that crying every day, is okay. I haven't stopped crying since 3am yesterday when I found out, so thank you. It's difficult to go through the pain, since my parents don't know about it. So I have to hide the agonizing feeling whenever they walk in, and pretend that I'm alright. But with my friends help, and yours, I hope I'll be alright.
You are not alone. In the midst of her pain, Lumma said “I can’t wait to see who I become-how strong I become.” It’s so hard to get through this, but you WILL come out stronger on the other side, and you will love and respect yourself even more for making it through. Hang in there-it gets better!
“ I don’t know if anyone will love me” such a deep and true feeling. I feel this almost every day. About to go through a breakup and I’m so tired of breakups. They hurt and cut deep every time
Hi, get anyone you love or (SP) attracted to you. And also get your EX back coming to you begging you for a second chance through the help of Dr Steve, he helped me restore my 5 years broken relationship. Also Dr Steve always keep up with his words, I will advise you seek his help thanks.
They don't say that no body loves you 'your lover is on the way coming stop thinking about the past pull your self together he is not ment for you let him go the right person is desperately waiting for you is a matter of time .I have also been in that situation before
Thank you for sharing your journey. Today is the first day that my fiancee and I have broken up. She is the love of my life and I gave the relationship everything that I got, but she still left me. May your experience inspire me to be able to move on eventually.
Thank you for posting this. I’m going through such a difficult time right now. I can’t do anything without suddenly hysterically crying. Watching your video and journey lets me know that this it’s okay to just feel .. and that I’m going to be okay ❤
I want to cry for you cause it will get worse before it gets better. No contact, and don't go looking up his social media to see what he's doing; block him everywhere, and you will get through it faster.
My ex came back to me few days ago ❤️ I got help from a Relationship Restorer Dr Steve Who was able to mend back my broken relationship and make my ex to come back and beg for a second chance. He can bring your ex back
I suffered severe depression several years ago. I could remember several years ago after divorce with my wife which brought me into my disastrous journey on Alcohol and cigarettes. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Got diagnosed with cptsd. Not until a friend recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Much respect to mother nature the great magic shrooms.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Germany. Really need
Still processing the betrayal I've been through. It's heart wrenching, I feel your emotions so badly. But it makes me realize I'm not alone in this. This feeling make me feel better. Thank you for your vulnerability. It helps :')
This is like watching myself right now. I am a 35 year old man and I reacted the exact way. The crying, the hopeless feeling. My ex and I were going to get married and we had been together for 11 years. For me it felt like everything was right were it should but she did not. You are a strong woman and thank you for making this video.
Going through similar situation as yours. My heart is broken and his coldness really shatters me. The wake up call was “ your soulmate will never leave you, they will always choose you.” I need to stop watching anything that’s related to how to win my ex back.
To anyone reading this if he ever comes back… remember everything he’s put you through… Lumma if he ever comes back come back to this video and remember everything he’s put you through
This is what i promised to myself. I have been through such a hard heart break this November. I thought i would not make out of it alive. Several thoughts of self harming and everything i held hard onto myself and i protected me. I am proud of myself, i know i am loved and lovable. 🥰
@@tessw5304this happened to me and told myself that i can’t trust him again and take him back and he came back eventually, asked for a second chance but i couldn’t forgive him. Now he moved on again and has a new gf and i found myself in another breakup, it’s my fault now, i regret it and feel like i should’ve take him back :(
This video reminds me of my first heartbreak. I was crying so much I was annoyed with myself for crying too much... then one day, I don't remember the specific day, but he didn't matter anymore and that made me so happy. Currently going through another heartbreak, it hurts but I honestly cannot cry. the tears are not coming out. I kinda want to cry because I think it will help me let go faster but I'm struggling with that too. It's exhausting.
Before watching this video, I had been constantly talking to people about this and I felt really bad about it. I started thinking... Its been 2 months, get a grip. But then I realised... Its ok. I watched this video, reliving my past, feeling my present, and living my future. I cried when she cried, laughed when she laughed, and felt every single word she said. And some words she said... Its healing a tiny part of me, and it makes me feel that little lighter. I relate so much to this, and I appreciate this video so much. Thank you for making this video. I really hope you're in a better place now ❤ and to all fellow leaders, listen to your body and your mind, and dont forget to prioritise yourself, those happy moments will make those sad ones much less painful. You're the only one that can bring light into your life, dont forget it!
"If they can go through the day without you, then they are not the right person for you." I really needed to hear that... It's been a month since the break up and it's been difficult. Some days are good and some are horrible. Your video has helped me feel less alone and helped me feel less inclined to reaching back out to them again.
I remember sitting on my bathroom floor and bawling my eyes out for MONTHS. Holding my mouth so nobody in the house can hear me scream and cry. I was so depressed that I stopped going to school and my mom had to homeschool me. I kept getting hospitalized because I was so heartbroken and just wanted the pain to end... Eventually time does heal. Talking to people about my issues really helped me move on with my break up. I'm so much happier now. I didn't think anyone could ever love me and that I would be alone forever. I'm happily married with the most amazing man that has never ever made me cry!
5weeks later. The tears have become lesser. But I still feel terrible. He actually broke up with me on my birthday. Looking back I'm just shaking my head. He tried texting and checking how I was doing but his decision was still the same. On week 3 I decided to go to his place when I knew he was at work to get my stuff. To my surprise I found a a girl there in his t-shirt. I bravely just took my stuff and left his there. That was another heartbreak again. It hurts even now remembering the scene. It's another story on its own... Just taking it one day at a time. Sometimes I don't even know what I feel anymore. I know, I believe, I'll be fine one day. Damn
This is the most horrible feeling in the world. My story is so similar. This pain is killing me. I feel like my heart is ripped out of my chest. This is exactly what I am going through. The crying won’t stop.
Day 13 of NC. I'm missing him so much, I've checked my phone a hundred times but there's no text back from him. Can't wait for the day I'll be over him.
This video really helped me. My girlfriend of 6 1/2 years left me for someone else 2 weeks ago. I did everything I could to try and save us and nothing worked. Within a week she’s already slept with a coworker she had already been talking to apparently. In our last conversation today she said that she doesn’t even know if she ever loved me, regrets it all, is way happier with her new life, she’s free, and that we were a mistake. I’m completely heartbroken and feel the lowest I’ve ever felt in my entire life. However, I now have the clarity that there is no hope for us and that she’s moved on. I’m so incredibly hurt by it all. I’m just hoping as time passes I’ll get better. Check up on me in a few months and I guess we’ll see.
My ex came back to me a few days ago ❤️ I got help from a Relationship Restorer Dr Steve who was able to mend back my broken relationship and make my ex to come back and beg for a second chance. He can bring your ex back
im so so sorry. better days are coming, I promise, better days are coming. ask for help if you need to, do not feel weak for doing so. look for Christ too, I promise you He will make you feel better. and please, do not ever allow that girl back in your life.
7 years bro just ended 2 or 3 days ago... shed been seing someine else since January and its June, it hurts a lot. a lot. but I guess its time to love myself instead of someone else. dont feel alone man you got strangers on the internet to talk to anytime if you arent cool talking to it with your family. hope youre good brother really do. sending love.
i remember watching ur video 3 months ago when it was the worst for me…like u, i was me the one that thought i’ll marry him, have a family with him and spent my whole life with him. i wanted to stop doing everything i do and cry myself till i die everyday. i couldn’t do it and contacted him because i wanted us to work but by that time he was indifferent and didn’t show any more love or interest to fix things. i think in that moment i hit rock bottom and realized he’s not coming back and not giving me at least the closure i wanted. so now, i’m okay with that. i accepted it and i’m happy that i have lived this , of course there’s still days that just thinking ab us makes me cry my eyes out but i know that tomorrow i can be happy again, like u said. i don’t feel this is the end of my life like i used to anymore, just some bad days but with hope now. thank you so much for this video so that a lot of us know we can get out of this.
It's so much more difficult to let your heart cry and put out your emotions to feel light when you live in a joint family, and you keep on constantly checking if people are around, because crying in the washroom isn't possible all the time, its so difficult to go through this
This absolutely broke my heart because I remember feeling exactly how you’re feeling. It feels like it takes FOREVER! My suggestion to those going through the same thing, FEEL your FEELINGS! This too shall pass.
I’m still mourning even two years later. The pain is very infrequent now but sometimes it hits like a train when you least expect it. Thanks for helping me feel less alone.
This video hits different. Seeing you cry in those videos, it is literally me going thru this right now. It is painful and I am going thru grief and angry and grief again and I am angry at myself for being such an idiot. Thanks for this video ❤
6 months of no contact- completely healed!!! lummas videos helped, listen to her, I promise anyone going through heartbreak right now.. it will pass!! Process and accept all the feelings inside you and then one day you’ll get fed up of feeling shit and that’s when you start to focus on yourself!
This video is SO accurate in terms of the process we all go through in a break up. I honestly gotta say it is in fact true that it will get better. Trust me you all, it will. Went through it all as well, felt like dying, but it made me realize all of the unresolved trauma I had carrying with me. Please please, if you all have a difficult background or unresolved trauma (often from childhood), find a way to work through it before getting in a relationship. No one is responsible of our happinnes, but ourselves. Resolving past stuff really will help us attract the right, healthy loving people into our lives. You all got this!
@@jackiesanchz Thank you for your reply... it means a lot! :" I got diagnosed with a rare disease right after I graduated college, I can't get a job, I had to go back and forth to the hospital, I "lost" my friends since they're getting busy with their new stage of life, then Covid hit too.... I ended up trying my luck with online business, and he was the only person that comforted and supported me. Now I have nobody:( .... I really feel like I can't walk alone... This is so much pain to handle:( but I am trying my best to focus on my online business right now to prove that I can be independent, i can make my own happiness...
To you who is reading this comment. I feel you. I know the pain is excruciating. When you cry, hold yourself and say, "I am sorry. I am here for you now" I know it may sounds silly but just do it. Don't focus on the pain, focus on yourself, think of yourself as a friend in need. Listen to yourself, comfort yourself, be there for yourself
I am LITERALLY CRYING every time you're crying!! Going through a break up of 6 years. Married this person. She's the love of my life! Now it's all gone and I have to let her go. It's only been a week. 3 months from now I wanna say IT GETS BETTER. I hope so. it fucking sucks at the moment.
It’s been about a month and a half, came completely out of the blue. We made plans for our 5 year anniversary in September, plans for Memorial Day weekend, and a cruise booked for December. She came to visit me and out of no where decided it wasn’t working out anymore. She was my best friend and the person I cared most about. I want to say it’s getting easier, and it certainly is, but there are times I find myself breaking down. I know she’s not the right one because I was severely mistreated, especially the last year during our LDR, but part of me misses her so dearly. Even when I reflect on the times she emotionally abused me or treated me poorly, it only makes it temporarily easier because I miss having her in my life. I’d like to check back in here in a few months to see how much progress I’ve made. Praying it goes well.
1 week into a break up and I cannot tell you the amount of hope and comfort this video brought me. Thank you for being brave enough to be vulnerable - to help strangers. Thank you so much
Stay strong it does get less painful day after day. I am at the 1 month mark and it’s not as painful as the first 2 weeks stay strong and keep no contact no matter what. It does get better I’m still going through it but I feel your pain.
Absolutely same here thank you for sharing Lumma it really meant the world to me to feel that the experience happens and you can get over it. A huge heartfelt THANK YOU!
"Love is a drug".. it sure did look like withdrawal was my thought the whole time. My heart goes out to you and as someone who relates to what you've been through emotionally, I am proud of you. You are now on the other side and no contact queen!
I was 5.5 years in a relationship. It's been 7.5 months and I'm still going through the breakup period. The psychologist helps, but it's more difficult than I thought. Today I found out that she has a boyfriend. it hurts so much, but I’m still holding on... Time doesn’t heal, you can’t rely on time alone. You need to try to change your attitude towards what happened, change your thinking. I'm still on the way to this, I'm not giving up. Good luck to everyone, everything will be fine, I’m with you.
A few weeks of crying, and you realize you are the only one who is capable and responsible for your happiness. These types of breakups change you forever. It’s gonna be fucking hard. Really hard. But you’ll grow and one day they won’t creep in as much, and you’ll be okay. I love you❤
I just don't know I will able to find the love again it's just feel like he was the only one whom I want even if the relationship was toxic but i really want him the comfort with him wass literally so comfortable I want to see him it's so harddd dude am I able to happy again am I going find love again this question just break me I don't even have friends I'm just lonely I only had him I used to share everything with him I just feel like he will never leave me I was very happy with but maybe he was not i badly want to see him literally he was my only best friend n bf he was my everything even if it was toxic it was so comfortable to me as it was the first emotional attachment with any person growing up I never had emotional attachment to anyone literally I can't describe my pain in words I just don't know what to do I have exam tomorrow I can hardly focus on studies ohh God pls help me
My ex broke up with me in July, I was completely blind sided and the breakup destroyed me. It still hurts sometimes but im in a better place and im much happier now, the breakup is a blessing in disguise! This just means we’re closer to being with the person we’re supposed to be with :)
same, apart from i'm a guy and we fell out. She found someone immediately and started posting pictures of both of them straight away...just to stick the knife in
But sometimes I feel like maybe we are meant to be…despite everything and even though it’s been a month since we separated I can’t stop thinking about him. He knows I still love him and he told me he still loves me but there’s just too much against us. I hate this
If you’re meant to be, you’d be together, no matter what - it would work. Sometimes in life we come across connections that are very special and have a big impact on our life, but it doesn’t mean they’re your long term partner, even if that’s what you believed, even if you believed they’re the one. Someone else will come along one day that you have just as much of an amazing connection with (most likely an even better connection), and they’ll stay by your side and it’ll work - that will be meant to be.
Hi guys! I just wanted to come back to this and say I’ve had a lot of questions regarding seeking advice from me, you can reach out to me VIA Sunroom here: sunroom.so/lumma
I know I would’ve needed something like this when I was going through it, I’m here for you! Love you all
You helped me so much 2 years ago when you made this video, i just want to let you know and ive seen your more recent videos im happy youve healed and you look so much happier ❤
🕯️🫶 you’ll be okay
Thanks for the advice, i think she found someone else and doesn't want to tell me!
Did he ever called or txt you
i have no money to text u >> i just liked your photos with my all coins
Me re-watching this 7 months after I thought I would die. Guys, it gets easier, trust me. Lumma God bless you.
Did they try to reach out during the period?
@@anamariawolfie heey, yeah he called me on new years eve telling me that he missed me and that he wanted us to be friends and wasn't giving up on trying unless I pushed him away really hard. We tried doing that but it wasn't working for me coz Def I was still in love with him and I told him that and he ghosted me😭 and I guess that was my sign that he didn't care and was done with me and i took it as my closure. Piece of advice to anyone who goes no contact hoping that in the sixth month he will come back, don't wait coz it will probably never happen and if it does you deserve better.
@@wanjirujenny thank you for answering.
I'm sorry to hear that happened.
@@anamariawolfie Anytime. Thank you❤️
I’m reading this 5 months after and I am feeling better. It does get easier.
Mourning someone that is still alive is a pain like no other.
@@SuspiciousFish69to each, their own. Pain can never be compared. Anyways, RIP to your father. You'll be better :)
It sucks to experience both. I lost my dad 3 months ago and my girlfriend left me a while after. I just feel like I'm alone, I've lost half of my heart, I want to die...
It all sucks man.
I’ve also lost my dad and other loved ones, I didn’t mean to diminish anyones pain by this comment, it’s all valid & it all hurts deeply ❤️
Absolutely
@@starrfuzionhey dude. I'm so sorry. It sounds horrible
One thing I learned; when you break up with someone, GIVE A REASON. Don’t let them wonder, that is CRUEL
Hug
This comment! Yes. It’s been seven months and I’m still healing somewhat because he just randomly disappeared and left me wondering. almost fully healed though!❤️
He did this to me i feel destroyed
Yes, that's hurts so much that i don't know 'why' that happened, is there's something wrong with me or with her ?
But then after 4 months it just came to my mind that maybe there's no reason
She just left me for no reason
Nothing literally happened before that she just ignored me and treated me like a strange person
@@AmiinaaBenzhow are you now?
The “I just want to talk to him” got me 😭😭😭 I can FULLY relate.
The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too
Too Deep
Well that's is challenging,but I kept on looking myself in the mirror seeing the image of myself,and I smile to a brighter day, because I know love will find me again
😔😔😔
Yes! Well said
Yess..god definitely has 'the one' for everyone .👍wait for him/her
the hardest part is when you realize the other person never felt the same or even never cared about you .
i broke up with my ex but i still cared lord about him . i just knew he wasn’t available so i chose to walk away . pepe can still care very much and choose to walk away
Or felt forced into the relationship
Gosh it was the worst for me
A thousand (" I love you") texts to build something..
and only one text ("I never loved you") to tear it all down.
I had someone say the same ... really sucks. But that reflects on them, not you. Ultimately the best path is forward.
I hate that i can’t talk to him anymore. I hate that he left me instead of fighting for us. I hate that I’m crying for him. I hate that i miss him. But hopefully my heart will forget and that we’ll all become our most beautiful selves after this heartbreak
❤ I hope that you become the most beautiful version of yourself.
@@MabusNero-bb3sv why not
@@angelawessels i hope the same for you too sweetie💕
@@MabusNero-bb3svyour a disgusting person!
How are you now? Does it really get better overtime?
there is something comforting seeing someone go through the same thing while I am
Hey, sweetie, it does get better. I'm 4 month post breakup and 2 month post no contact phase. He cheated on me, it was so fck hard , i really thought that i was dying, crying all day, not sleeping enough. I can tell you now that im in the best place ive ever been. So so happy and grateful for everything even the pain. I realized now that i dont want him to come back anymore. Only time heals, do things, go out with your friends, focus on your pain. You'll get through it. It is so good to be on the other side. Take care of yourself.
@@jannzmoss9466 i know it will get better i just wish it was faster, almost on month 2 now and its so damn hard most days
“the person you needed most will teach you not to need anyone” that’s the lesson that I learned from this journey
Harsh reality it’s so hard for us at first but for them they have already let go mentally in their heads n hearts.. so now it’s our turn to go thru it n what’s different is we weren’t prepared for it. Keep pushing!
Only lesson I've learned is that, there is no right person or even person. Love isn't real it's just not...
@@daphneytadlocj4041 theres no love. Just attachment and fear of ending up alone.
God gives what you need not what you want
Couldn't say better!
"if you can love the wrong person for you so deeply, then imagine how it would be to love the right person for you" I've never heard anyone say that but it hit ME like a brick now too. Thanks!
We don’t know all the people that are yet to enter our lives to love us even greater
This helps to hear 👂
omg
very true
The creepiest thing just happened. I read this comment at EXACTLY the moment she said it in the video. Isn't that weird?
The person who ends the relationship always breaks up with you in their head. In his mind, it had ended long ago, which is why it seems like they're fine and you're not. They had a chance to prepare and grieve first, and you were blindsided.
I know this is an old video but these old fears can come back. If and when they do, just remind yourself you didn't have a chance to grieve before he did. It's not a reflection of you.
So true, thanks for saying that.
Well said
He physically suddenly left and also said has a new girl. I was so blindsided.
@clip012 I'm so sorry. I have had a very similar experience, and I know much it hurts and how much it can destroy your self confidence.
exactly this happend to me 3 months ago. While I was pushing her away and taking her for granted, she had already processed the breakup before actually doing it. After two weeks it all hit me at once and i got a very hard time processing the breakup and my feelings, she had moved on and left it all behind her.
I’m going through a breakup with someone I met at 15 years old and now I’m 27. We were together 11 years. It feels excruciating. I don’t understand how this is real life. I pictured myself with him forever. My situation is different because I’m the one who broke up with him. I had to. By the end of the relationship I was crying everyday because of the mistreatment. He turned emotionally unavailable, prioritized partying/going out/smoking weed over me, we saw each other (if I was lucky and because I would make the plans) twice a week, and he became extremely cold to my family. In a way the mistreatment helps validate my decision, but it doesn’t change how hard I am grieving. I’m almost 3 weeks in and all I want to do is pretend this isn’t happening. I cry everyday.
Thank you for this video. I am looking forward to the day that I am stronger
Update please
Im going thru a break up rn. It’s unbearable. When I almost give him everything, we almost had a child. He hurt me so bad in the past for soooo many times but i still let him back into my life. But one mistake , which was because I cared for his future so I told him to be careful about his new friend, and he blocked me everywhere . 2 weeks no vontact. I feel so worthless
Omg this is exactly what I am going through. We had been together for 6 years and suddenly he started acting cold. Lied to me about his whereabouts, hid his phone with his life, was always busy even to send a text message. Turned out he had been out drinking with his friends and kissed a girl behind my back. He says he feels sorry and that he was drunk. I sometimes think maybe it was a mistake so I should forgive him but then I can't bear the thought that he would do such a thing and chose another girl over me. I feel angry that he has left no way for me to even forgive him. Was it worth it? Losing all we had. His friends also had a bad influence on him. But in the end it was his decision. I really do love him. It's killing me. I am scared I might never find anyone who would love me . I am so frustrated.
I am going through a similar situation, i left mine of 8yrs bcz i could see him falling out of love, the understanding was gone. we tried so many pauses but nothing helped, one day i made a plan and he AGAIN didn't show up, i decided that was it. It's excruciating, the pain, it's tragic to see us fail bcz oh lord we were so good together and the fact he is really a nice human...just not in love with me anymore. Sometimes i can't breathe
Hey everyone. Grateful to know I’m not alone…
It’s been a little over 4 weeks now, almost 5.
He’s reached out once but he was drunk. Idk I feel clarity of like feeling better emotionally because I can reflect and see how much my needs weren’t being met. But it literally hurts so badly even to just lose that companionship. I hate that romantic breakups also double as breaking up with a friend. We shared so many intimate life moments together. He helped me through so many dark dark challenges. One being my mother’s alcoholism.
I have anxious-attachment, and his is dismissive avoidant… in other words and if you know anything about attachment theory… a match made in hell lol
I keep telling myself that I never know what the future will hold (basically soothing/calming myself with the thoughts that there might, one day, be a rekindling, where he’s a healthier and emotionally available version of himself so as for us to be together again).
This shit is tough. I’m 27 and I just kinda feel like love might be something I don’t experience in this life again. That might’ve been it. I can’t grieve like this again. And the chances that the next hypothetical relationship I’m in actually works and is my person and we make it the distance, is kinda slim chances.
I just wanna be done giving myself to anyone for a long while.
It sucks because I’ve ALWAYS wanted motherhood. Being a mom has been probably my number one goal. Unfortunately you need a partner for that, and for the sake of the child, one that is healthy and wants to be apart of their lives.
Feeling lost and depressed.
How is everyone else doing?
it’s so crazy realizing we’re all human and we all feel the same emotions
Yeah so crazy, hello am David
Pff.. yeah right. Women can go out next day with their friends and meet someone and get a shitload of attention. You don't remotely feel the same level of loneliness and depression that any man feels after having their heart ripped out. Not even close.
@FloopidyMcDoopidy dont even dare to say that. Not all women move on that quick. I am a woman and i can say that my breakup has torn me into pieces and i still see him at school, but i chose to pick myself up instead of moping around all day, and no that doesn’t mean getting with other guys. Not every woman moves on in one way.
The big difference is that if a man posts a 20 minute video crying about heartbreak, the response isn't 2m views on UA-cam and tons of sympathetic comments.
literally no one said men don't have it hard?? you don't need to invalidate other people's experiences@@FuzzyNinja21
it’s so validating to know we really aren’t alone in feeling this awful pain
Yes worst pain ever 😞 but we aren’t alone
nobody desrv diz muchh pain
Have you ever burdened this same pain upon someone yourself?
Agreed, seeing this video & vlog helped me feel like I wasn’t being crazy but that this is a common crisis & helps me to trust the process even tho I feel like I AM DYING :/ however I do wake up at 5:15 every morning and shower, put my make up on, fix my hair, and go to work. Take care of my home, cook, clean… Fall apart in between, dust off my knees, wipe my tears and keep moving. The whole process is absolutely exhausting.
Yes.. it is the weirdest pain ever
2 years ago I was here heartbroken. Didn't know I would completely healed . NEVER UNDERESTIMATE THE POWER OF TIME.
To anyone going through heartbreak. I'm sending hugs, that thing called time will slowly but surely clean house. Find these online therapists in the meantime . Esp Stephanie, Lynn. And embrace spirituality like theres no tomorrow.
How long did it take you to heal?
@@anamariawolfie At the begining of month 6 . I suddenly started feeling like I'd rather have a piece of fried chicken than spend even a minute thinking about him. I did not realize what was happening. I was healing . But it took a full year to go from love to nothing .
@@sandialyn thank you so much for answering, you made me laugh 😂
That helped a lot.
Although my situation is kind of fucked up because we were never official but it still somehow screwed me over completely.
@@anamariawolfie I'm glad it helped. Find these relationship coaches and spend hours with them . Ace metaphor, Stephanie Lyn , Derick Jaxn or any that you prefer. Those are my top picks.
Thank you so much for showing that it heals🥹
I’m only 2 days into no contact and it’s devastating. I really wish this pain would stop. Thank you so much for this video. This feels like my story. I’m hurting so bad right now.
I hope you feel better. It's day 2 for me now. I feel so broken, and that is was all my fault. Pleaded with him to give me a chance to fix things, but he said he doesn't want me anymore.
I am 18 days into being dumped by my wife for a girl at work who is 10 years our junior. I say dumped bc that’s how it felt. She made it look so doable. I wish I had realized her grief before mine. 🖤🥀
'even him coming back wouldn't help because I don't trust him anymore'
Oh girl ❤️❤️❤️
people can change tho
@@quackquack6646 non they don't
@@tiffanypr.9448 Maybe you ve met the wrong people I ve seen people and me myself changed upside down after some very hard period of my life
You are probably ok now? Since I always find these things much after its over...
Dont Say plz u are German!!!
I remember nights like this, balling my eyes out for what seemed to be weeks on end.
4 years later
I married my best friend and now we have a daughter and a baby boy coming in January!
It gets better! Thanks for sharing!
Hey mate, Congratulations for this. Even though I'm going through a tough as shit time but this comment of yours made my heart warm. All the best wishes to you and your family!
That is so great Congratulations. How did you know it was time to move on
Gives me hope
Wasn't it hard for you
this is the dream
To all of you, I've been here too. Severe weight loss, apathy, depression. Fear that dissolved my core and followed me around every where. That was two yrs ago. Now, I am healthy vibrant and totally recovered. Believe me, you recover, time legit dissolves all of the scary anxiety and heart break. You get rebuild 2.0 please hang in there. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ Rooting for you all currently going through this. It's so terrifying but it will PASS
How can the sweetest man turn so cold after he says he wants a break all of a sudden. I can not handle it. I am watching your video and hope I can fall asleep without crying and weeping tonight.
I feel the exact same way. He wants a break to re evaluate everything for an unknown amount of time and it’s moving towards a breakup. Everything was good and now it’s nothing
@@karinaphelps6087 I'm 50 days into a "break" with no end in sight. I think he's waiting for me to break up with him. Coward.
How you're doing right now? I am to weeks in and i am about to give up on strugling everyday en playing that i am happy. So i can do my work but i want to give up i feel myself so worhtless. On the weekend days like today its the worse. What is he doing with who is he and he is partying and being happy. And i feel completly alone, crying i hate my life zo much right now.😔
@@user-uh2kn1ux6g It's been almost 2 months since he stopped communicating with me. We never talk since then. I was struggling to be fine every single day. Sometimes I woke up in the middle of the night and cried. Or some evenings if I spend time alone by myself It would make me feel down and cry. Now I do not think about him that much anymore but as the song said, when I sit down and think of him. The hurts come back again. I still miss him from time to time. He is still the same place in my heart but If I do not look at him. His appearance won't bother me. I try to read more about self-love and self-acceptance. Some of my favorite authors are Najwa Zebian and Gloria Zang.
@@user-uh2kn1ux6ghow are you feeling now?
2 months in, it gets better guys, it really does. I still cry, I sobbed on a walk yesterday by myself, but its a different type of grief as time goes on. We've got this💪
3 months in I am still hurt but I don't remember the last time I cried😂. I agree the grief has totally changed. I am in a good space. We got this
2 months as well, I can say I don’t get sad anymore about it but I definitely feel an emotional emptiness, in this moment I find it hard to believe I can love someone else. Hopefully time will change that.
@@cyclingtexas1670 don’t let yourself become cold hearted. Remember that the love you gave them didn’t come from them, but you and you alone. You have the capability to love THAT hard, and someone in your future will feel that.
@@felliesweetie happy for you
2 month ...the last few days have been particulary bad ...
I’m 35 and currently going through my 4th heartbreak. It never gets easier, and it still helps to hear about other people’s experiences, thank you for sharing your story
"Nothing can fix it.. even him coming back can't fix it" I feel your pain deeply, going through it right now. Thank you for the video girl, we're not alone
My ex came back to me few days ago ❤️ I got help from a Relationship Restorer Dr Steve Who was able to mend back my broken relationship and make my ex to come back and beg for a second chance. He can bring your ex back
Same
🤣🤣🤣🤣
Wishing you healing
im the same. honestly the damage is done.
i think the scariest part of heartbreaks is that during the first few days/weeks you feel like it's never going to get better, like you won't meet anyone new, and like your self worth/self confidence is just gone. i also think it's beautiful how the healing process works and how your mind and thoughts develop through it as well. thank you for sharing. this touched me
If self-worth and confidence wouldn't go away, I guess it wouldn't be as difficult
So true the confidence like where did it go… building it back.. wheewww
🙏🏾
it still feels the same even after 3 months and pain got even worse.
Yup
One of the best advice to anyone going through it
Face it! Don't distract yourself from the pain and everything that comes with it.
If you want the storm to be over soon, you should walk through it not away from it.
I was cheated by her yesterday. I found her with the guy she cheated and she protected him and told me to walk away.Sad, the pain is unbearable.Sending hugs for those going through this phase.We all gonna make it.
It's hard for me to 😢
@@julzjulia676 just cry if you need to, give urself the time to heal. Spend time with ppl u love. Trust me it's hard but u gonna make it. ❤️
How are you feeling? How long has it been for you? I'm 2 weeks in .
@@julzjulia676 for me in a month, Its still hurt for me to be honest, but I can't do anything abt it. So I accepted it . If u need someone to talk to coz I know there was the time I really need someone to talk to., I can listen it for you. Or you can do journaling by urself.
I'm sorry this horrible thing has happened to you
It’s day 3. Woke up at 2am and busted out crying and fell back asleep. This video is everything 🙏🏽💕
You got this. I'm month 5
i hope you feel better asap. this is one of the worst parts of falling in love. just remember that as each day goes by, you are getting closer to the end goal. i hope 2022 is a much better year for you
We got this. First night of suffering 😭💔
2 weeks * keep strong , we will get through this ❤️
You got this. I'm on my month three and still healing. Just be kind to yourself.
My fiance left me 6 days prior to our wedding. This video hit hard. I'm currently at the 3 month mark. Anyone reading this, it does get better. There are things that trigger me to cry once in a while, but you must face your emotions to speed up the recovery process. Learn to respect and love yourself. Keep your confidence high, and you'll attract someone much better! Trust the process!
Did you get your money bck for the wedding though
WTF OMG IM SCARED OF LOVE WTF
I got about 95% of my money back. Could have been worse!
Update: She constantly reaches out to me and states she messed up and wants me back. I can never go back. I always remind myself of the emotional pain I went through and the struggle with the recovery process to get where I am now.
Oh God, I'm so sorry. I hope you find peace some day soon ♡
We broke up after 13 years and it was my first relationship. It’s been almost one week but today he came home to drop the keys and it hit hard. I have no one to talk to and feel really depressed. Every single part of this house, even the food in the fridge, reminds me of him. It sucks! I am so unhappy and do not have a clue how to move on. The pain is real. 😢
you can do it
we will get through it honey
@@bw2010 thank you! ♥️
@@tinytron it’s just one month with ups and downs but i think i’m good. thanks for the encouragement 💪
We will get through it!! It’s day two for me. ❤
5:05 when she pressed her hands on her heart, I know how this heartbreak pain feels like, I could feel her
I can totally relate too. It's physical pain you could feel in your chest. Heartbreak and the pain is for real. It actually happens.
🥺🥺
So can I... 💔 I'm on 2 months now and still sob every single day. Asking myself HOW and WHY he could do this to me and let me go so easily like I never even mattered... 💔
Going through it rn my heart hurts so much
@@simranwho ikr it's like you can actually physically feel the pain like your heart's actually breaking that hurts more than anything
I used to always question why girls would cry for months over boys and breakups. I never understood it, till I experienced heartbreak myself. And maaann its a pain I would never wish upon anyone. It stirs up so much confusion and mixed emotions for so long. and its cool to now be able to sympathize with those going through the process.
true! i thought ppl were being overdramatic for crying over a heartbreak until i experienced it myself ;-;
Yup. And I know plenty of guys who cry and rage for months too after breakup and some are even begging for their ex to come back. Breakups suck for everyone...
same
I still live with trauma from the breakup i had 5 years ago with my ex. We promised "forever" only for it to be gone and it taught me that anything can change. Its the most painful feeling anyone can go through and i never wish it upon anyone
@@kaelyn1fr;-;
He left me 2 weeks ago saying that he lost intrest in me. I miss him every single day & Night. I cry everyday. Ik he's living his life to the fullest and this breaks my heart even more badly.
I hope someday i wake up and don't feel this way. This suffering is hell.
Emotional pain is the worst pain...thank you for being so vulnerable
it’s so embarrassing how many times i have watched this and cried with you. 2 weeks in and i still feel like dying.
You shouldn't feel embarrassed for feeling how you feel. The only one who should feel embarrassed is the person who broke your precious little heart. I'm so sorry, I feel you, I'm been going through a breakup phase since early December. I hope we both heal and move on stronger from this.
You will feel the pain for months....
But this shall too pass
Im also going through a break up , she is a beautiful girl, i completely love her . I was so sure that she ll be there with me till death, i wanted to learn,grow , travel with her .. everything was so beautiful in our relationship, the connection was so intense . Just in a matter of 10 mins evrything changed . I was hugging her and lying on her shoulders, we wre talking and i just took a topic we fought over few days ago and she suddenly changed completely and ended the relationship there. ( felt really horrible) ( the first week ) . We had some intense fights , she just kept adding on thoughts in her brain . She told i was feeling this relationship wont workout for past 20 days but i just suppressed those thoughts . She could have told me the first time she felt something , i would have sat with her , talked and would have corrected myself. I will correct any of mistakes for her , i value our relationship the most . I love her a lot, anything wrong in my side i will sit work on and will correct for her . But she didnt want anything , she just told its mentally draining for me and i dont want to be with you. She was the perfect one for me . (Soulmate ) i saw me in her . A burning desire to improve , grow . She helpd me a lot . I felt peace . Its over between us . And i dont know if ill ever love a person again lile that . With full belief, being completely vulnerable, emotionally feeling free . I suffered the pain of one sided love , now break up (aka) death of soulmate but whose still alive physically in this world . There s nothing more now . Im immune to anything now 🙂
@@nh4572 me too
How are doing?
how are you? I'm 2 months in but I'm dying as well. I miss him so much. I'm here with you
When you said, “If they can leave you and not talk to you, they are ok with being without you, and not contacting you, that is the closure you need” that part is so true. Thinking that way really makes things easier. If they are ok without you, Be ok without them! You WILL be OK. I promise. ❤️
I know....but my ego is killing me
but he’s not okay with being without me
i lied. he’s totally okay being without me.
@@whoisu5929 he don't deserve u
@@whoisu5929 f him!!
Balling my eyes out fr! Ik at the moment nothing makes sense and you start questioning your existence, it hurts so bad that it reaches to the point where it starts hurting physically but i also know we're gonna get through this together!
same sis I feel like I want to vanish than feel all this pain. :( I hope we heal fast
I feel the same way... are you all any better ? 😢 I need some hope
it’s actually scary of how much pain it can cause you. No one seems to understand that.
@@julzjulia676how are you feeling? Does it get better?
Been crying almost daily since June 1, 2024. I saw my future with him as well. I still love him and want to be with him. This is so hard 😢
With you on this. For me since June 14th.
hey hey trust me you will be okay love. it gets SO much better. let me tell you something. last year, this guy was not my FIRST love but he was my first LOVE. god when he broke up with me I didn't feel like doing anything. i was in shambles and I could believe it. god my heart ached for him. it hurt so bad. even my parents began noticing it. but looking back at all that time wasted, I realized life gets SO much better. SOO much happier. trust me. you don't need a man to be happy.
@@Marlane- thank you 😊
@@roseblack6057 it will get better trust me! I am almost hitting 3 month post breakup and I enjoying life to the fullest right now. I balled my eyes out for this one guy who didn’t wanted me, so please don’t waste your time to be sad all the time! It will get better just start to feel your pain and emotions and let them living there life not choosing you! Cry and feel you will feel better after some weeks I truly know this pain! Time is healing so be patient 🩷
Hey are r u ok now?
Yesterday my wife told me that she is in love with someone else. I've never been in so much pain. I am too anxious to sleep. I stayed late in the office mindlessly watching videos. After watching yours I just went and cried in the toiled and felt pathetic. But it helped, I feel better if only slightly. I cant share this with anyone I know, nor should I, so the best I can do is to write this for the strangers on the internet to read. Thank you for posting such an intimate and personal video. Hopefully in time I could come back to this comment and say that I am better.
UPD. Wow, thank you all for the support! Even though it was really rough, I am doing a lot better now. I started taking ADs and we do couple therapy. The future is still uncertain, but I am a bit more at peace with it. Stay strong, people!
You're strong for telling about this, you have my support🙌
Im sorry for your heartbreak. Wishing you well 💕 it will eventually be okay.
I wish I could hug your heart back together! I'm so sorry this happened to you :( I'm wishing and praying for you, that you are able to find your peace again!
I’m so sorry about this. Please keep going and take care of yourself ❤
This is a blessing in disguise even though it doesn’t feel like that at the moment. Better things are coming your way. I can’t wait for you to come back and say you are healed. Giving you a virtual hug ❤
It's really interesting that how losing someone can actually cause you physical pain. I got dumped after 3.5 years, and I just can't believe the weight on my chest. I can't wait for it to be gone.
how is it going?
did it dissappear
how are you now? : )
This is currently me now, day 5. The feeling of standing on two feet but floating around. It’s horrible. But thankful for my amazing support system. 😞
How are you now?
After almost 8 years of relationship my husband suddenly announced me that he is unhappy and doesn’t believe we are meant to be together. This is so sudden, I’m left heartbroken, lost and lonely.
I have no support, no relationship with my family, I leave in a different country that where I grew up.
I didn’t have the easiest life growing up and I was really hoping of never having to feel this kind of pain again, I thought for once it was my turn to feel happiness and loved, and I believed it.
Now I’m completely destroyed and scared.
itll get better
It's not forever, you'll get better❤
I'm so sorry. Sending you peace and comfort.
Hope you’re doing better
Very similar story except we have a 2.5 daughter. Not only he swept the rug from under my feet . I was completely dependent on him financially he basically destroyed me . Now I moved back to my parents house struggling to find a job and unable to grieve properly as my daughter is dependent on me . The divorce isn't finished yet so it's just a big mess . Just taking it day by day
It’s been a month. It’s up and down. Moments of light and moments of pulling myself up out of the darkness. I know I am getting better even though I can’t feel it in this time.
"There's no way you can skip the healing process."
Currently going through my first break up. My heart hurts I never knew this type of pain existed
For real…
Heartbreak really does hurt.. stay strong
three weeks ago. is there anything you can share with someone that just got theit heart broken as of today?.. i'm sorry, you don't have to answer, i just feel like i'm desperately looking for any signs of light at the end of what right now feels like an endless dark, lonely and painful tunnel...
@@knjsrkive I’m not gonna lie I’m still hurting there’s good and bad days. But you have to allow yourself to cry and feel your emotions. It’s going to suck but hang in there we will get through this I still have a long road of healing ahead of me as I’m still a mess most nights.
@@ohhoney777 thank you 💜
it hurts so much knowing you’ve been with someone everyday. You did everything with this person. Then they just suddenly aren’t there anymore. It’s like you really feel like nothing.
My ex came back to me a few days ago ❤️ I got help from a Relationship Restorer Dr Steve who was able to mend back my broken relationship and make my ex to come back and beg for a second chance. He can bring your ex back. Also attracting SP, soulmate, and removing Third parties which works within 48hours...
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@@stephaniegaray980 I’ve been recovering though, everything happens for a reason yk. Just keep your head up and do you, and always remember the only person that really knows you and can truly love you is yourself. Way before anyone else
Just a stranger with memories. Damn
its exactly how i feel now
I was watching this two years ago after my breakup. This video helped and now I’m in the BEST place in my life. When she said “You will ABSOLUTELY be ok”, it’s true. I immediately went no contact, not even knowing anything about no contact. It was just instinctual and over time, I understood he was not the best for me. The tears eventually stopped and peace has filled my heart. My life is beautiful. There is absolutely NO WAY I would EVER go back. That is my HONEST TRUTH. It may not be easy, but, Please believe it will get better when you allow the process.
I remember the first few weeks, it was like i was placed in a parallel reality, and the world just seemed so dull and strange, hard to describe, but i literally couldnt do anything. Didnt eat for weeks, hit the bottle hard, lost about 40 pounds. Lost her, my house, and my 3 dogs whom i loved so much. I sacrificed so much of myself just to be with her, but about 4 months later now, and i feel rejuvenated! Im working out again, eating healthy, no heavy drinking, and pursuing the dream that i gave up to be with her. I still have days where i reminisce, and sometimes break down, but the tears are less and less each time. To anyone going through this, just keep pushing. One day at a time, do the things you enjoy, or find NEW things to enjoy (that was a big one for me). Im looking at life in a totally different way now, and i guess thats one thing i can thank her for. Push through and you will come out the other side a much stronger, and smarter person. Best of luck to anyone that reads this! Youre gonna be okay!
i cried the whole time while watching this because i’m going through this exact same thing right now
Same!!
Me too
Me too :(
Same
To all this people here believe me it gets better! All you need to do is be strong and don't give up! Better days are coming
I can NOT thank you enough. A week ago my fiancé dumped me over text. There’s hasn’t been anything, NOTHING that has made me feel just a tiny bit better. Thank you!!!
@@ashleymancilla1566 probably someone that has a hate for people and isn't internally happy, to make a comment like that to someone on a low
Mine, kicked me out of their parent’s home while on vacation around the holidays. I can’t totally relate. It gets easier…
hugs 🥺💗
Let things be as they are, it just means he is not in a position to love you and you don't need a person like this. You deserve so much love and things will be so much better!
I am so sorry you are going through this. Sending love to you.
I see breakups as interventions from God so that you have the chance to find the right person that will value you the way that he sees you deserve ❤ Trust him
Thank you. I needed to hear this. He spared me from more pain from a man who betrayed me. Pain was excruciating but at least the overthinking has stopped now and I have confirmed my suspicion.
@@Erks0728 you're welcome 🙏 I'm so sorry. You deserve so much better
The #1 rule of getting over a break up is, and im not kidding, to surround yourself with people, with love. Do not fight it alone, or you will probably lose. I should know. I almost LOST but I found peace in friends and family, and they got me past the dangerous parts.
Not everyone has that luxury
I remember watching this the first day of my break up and I was crying my eyes out I felt so drained. Didn’t eat or sleep for days. I didn’t even get out of bed. But here I am now can watch this and just smile because I made it. If you’re going through a hard time please keep going. YOU WILL BE OK! Thank you for this video ❤
how long did it take before you felt better? It’s been a month for me, cry less than before but it still sucks..
@@dunkow 2 months
PERIOD! me too queen! Proud of you!!!!!!!
Trust me next year you are gonna look back and not even recognise that version anymore
@@Lifewithishh Been a little more than 2 months ago and i’m already doing great🙌 Crazy to think how fast things can change!!
3 years ago I went through the worst breakup of my life. today I can't even remember the pain I went through. I was bedridden for 4 months, in and out of the hospital got diagnosed with derealization and I did not get over this for quite some time. it is crazy how at the moment you can't possibly imagine how you'd overcome this, but I am living proof that the pain subsides and you can find yourself again
proud of you :D
I'm going through one right now. She left me after 12 years, told me she didn't love me anymore and left. Comments like this give me a little bit of hope, but it's so extremely hard to process.
@@Smitty3600 Going through it too, 3 weeks now after 22 years and 2 kids. I feel like I’m dying inside losing weight no interest in anything . I won’t contact her I know she would have to come to me or we will be finished. Sad every day but we can get through it with time.
@@fredbrooks2939 I’ve lost a ton of weight too, which is good I guess since I was overweight (not anymore, lol). But I’d happily give up the weight loss to be with her again. Losing a part of your family is horrible. I wish you all the best and hope you can look back at this comment in a couple of years and smile about it. I hope I can,
i'm going through it rn. i really need help
Thank you so much Lumma. You truly are beautiful inside and out. It's been 4 weeks post-breakup after a 5 year relationship in which I gave my all. It's amazing how there is a community of wonderful women here who can relate to each other and give words of encouragement through these tough times. You got this everyone!
going through the same thing right now, all i want to do is to cry in his arms but i cant. he seems happy without me, i miss him like crazy
😭i feel you bro , that shit is so bad that we still want to cry in arms of that guy who made us cry
@@user-ml9ue3lw1x you know what, i did cry in his arms like 2 days ago and it felt so good, but the fact we cant go back to how we were is just UGHHHH
I’m on day two after 8 years together. It is so incredibly hard and your video made me feel like I’m not alone and I will be okay eventually. Thank you for sharing your story.
I recently got my ex back through the help of a love specialist , the love specialist offers the best solution and the best way in restoring broken relationship.
The love specialist can help you fix and restore your broken relationships, just the way he helped me..
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How are you doing now love?
Stay strong
I’m a 58 year-old man who was dumped 6 weeks ago. The pain is still staggering and I found your video as I desperately needed some support. Your transparency has been so helpful and healing. Just wanted to share that heartbreak has no gender or age group… I’ve been divorced twice and yet this breakup is unlike anything I’ve ever experienced. Thanks for sharing your deepest moments.
I really hope you’re doing well! It is going to be okay!
you will get through it talk to people and share your feelings
How do u feel? I have a weird situation that's too long go text but I was betrayed and heartbroken too. It feels like a heart attack.
I'm sorry, Joe that it has happened to you. May you heal soon.
thinking of you Joe, hope you are well, its month 2 for me now, time does heal
“Nothing can fix this pain, not even him coming back, of how he left…” wow that hit me, with the true.
I'm a 16 year old girl who has a lot of emotional and physical trauma. Nobody has ever had a crush on me, except for them. I met them a year ago, and today is my "Day 1". I loved them, and I thought they loved me. Apparently, they weren't ready yet. They said everything I wanted to hear, and meant it, but still had feelings for their ex. They had NO intention of dating me any time soon. So while I was falling in love, waiting to get asked out soon, they were just enjoying our friendship. Yesterday I found out about this, and I decided to stay friends. Today, I'm writing them paragraphs on how I feel, and how my choice to stay friends was the wrong choice. I can't do it. I love them too much, to stay in contact. It hurts because they love me so much, and want me to stay in their life. So leaving them because of my emotional trauma, hurts me. So thank you for doingthis Lumma. Thank you for showing me that it hurts. Thank you for showing me that crying every day, is okay. I haven't stopped crying since 3am yesterday when I found out, so thank you. It's difficult to go through the pain, since my parents don't know about it. So I have to hide the agonizing feeling whenever they walk in, and pretend that I'm alright. But with my friends help, and yours, I hope I'll be alright.
You are not alone. In the midst of her pain, Lumma said “I can’t wait to see who I become-how strong I become.” It’s so hard to get through this, but you WILL come out stronger on the other side, and you will love and respect yourself even more for making it through. Hang in there-it gets better!
My bf just broke up with me just now and saw this. Cheers to everyone who struggle and experiencing the same. We can make it
can we be breakup bestie bcs mine just ended 2hrs ago too 🥹
May i join to both of you 😥
@@awienhamzah6855 how are you today?
Mine just ended some minutes ago
mine broke up with me 2 days ago and it hurts so bad
“ I don’t know if anyone will love me” such a deep and true feeling. I feel this almost every day. About to go through a breakup and I’m so tired of breakups. They hurt and cut deep every time
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Same situation for me now, I can feel now am not alone going through this.
They don't say that no body loves you 'your lover is on the way coming stop thinking about the past pull your self together he is not ment for you let him go the right person is desperately waiting for you is a matter of time .I have also been in that situation before
Thank you for sharing your journey. Today is the first day that my fiancee and I have broken up. She is the love of my life and I gave the relationship everything that I got, but she still left me. May your experience inspire me to be able to move on eventually.
Thank you for posting this. I’m going through such a difficult time right now. I can’t do anything without suddenly hysterically crying. Watching your video and journey lets me know that this it’s okay to just feel .. and that I’m going to be okay ❤
Same situation im here if u wanna talk
i cried along with you, I'm on my 2nd day post breakup, heartbreak is literal hell, best regards!
I hope you feel better. I am praying for you.
@@sonrisa8775 thanks you ♥️
Seba Cuevas don’t be sad my boo left me too. Just last week
I want to cry for you cause it will get worse before it gets better. No contact, and don't go looking up his social media to see what he's doing; block him everywhere, and you will get through it faster.
Priscilla Tehmeh I think I’ma be okay. I pray everyday! He don’t talk to me anyway. So I’m good. I appreciate him for not bothering me.
Going through the same situation. You literally feel the pain in your chest when you cry and wonder why
My ex came back to me few days ago ❤️ I got help from a Relationship Restorer Dr Steve Who was able to mend back my broken relationship and make my ex to come back and beg for a second chance. He can bring your ex back
THIS IS ME RIGHT NOW
Hey how are you doing now??? I really hope you're doing well goodluck
@@jessicasenchure6409 me too.
@@becca5736 Its tough but we can get through this
I suffered severe depression several years ago. I could remember several years ago after divorce with my wife which brought me into my disastrous journey on Alcohol and cigarettes. I suffered severe depression and mental disorder. Got diagnosed with cptsd.
Not until a friend recommended me to psilocybin mushrooms treatment. Psilocybin treatment saved my life honestly. 8 years totally clean. Much respect to mother nature the great magic shrooms.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Germany. Really need
The shroom experience stands as my most remarkable journey, an awe-inspiring encounter that left an indelible mark of amazement.
Is he on instagram?
Does he make delivery across the state??
Still processing the betrayal I've been through. It's heart wrenching, I feel your emotions so badly. But it makes me realize I'm not alone in this. This feeling make me feel better. Thank you for your vulnerability. It helps :')
This is like watching myself right now. I am a 35 year old man and I reacted the exact way. The crying, the hopeless feeling. My ex and I were going to get married and we had been together for 11 years. For me it felt like everything was right were it should but she did not. You are a strong woman and thank you for making this video.
Going through similar situation as yours. My heart is broken and his coldness really shatters me. The wake up call was “ your soulmate will never leave you, they will always choose you.” I need to stop watching anything that’s related to how to win my ex back.
To anyone reading this if he ever comes back… remember everything he’s put you through… Lumma if he ever comes back come back to this video and remember everything he’s put you through
Yes !!! I write everything down . Because I think of all the good and when he comes back I read everything .
He came back and broke my heart all over again 🙃
@@elsyrodriguez1639 I’m sorry mama :((
@@elsyrodriguez1639 what happened? :(
This is what i promised to myself. I have been through such a hard heart break this November. I thought i would not make out of it alive. Several thoughts of self harming and everything i held hard onto myself and i protected me. I am proud of myself, i know i am loved and lovable. 🥰
‘You don’t do this to someone you love, i can’t imagine myself taking him back and trusting him again’ those lines touched me 🙂
hits hard
Once I realized it, moving on feels easier to handle (It's been 2 weeks since the break up for me)
exactly this. all i wanted was for him to change his mind and take me back. but i know i would never ever trust him again
I would not trust my ex with my heart ever again.
@@tessw5304this happened to me and told myself that i can’t trust him again and take him back and he came back eventually, asked for a second chance but i couldn’t forgive him. Now he moved on again and has a new gf and i found myself in another breakup, it’s my fault now, i regret it and feel like i should’ve take him back :(
This video reminds me of my first heartbreak. I was crying so much I was annoyed with myself for crying too much... then one day, I don't remember the specific day, but he didn't matter anymore and that made me so happy. Currently going through another heartbreak, it hurts but I honestly cannot cry. the tears are not coming out. I kinda want to cry because I think it will help me let go faster but I'm struggling with that too. It's exhausting.
Before watching this video, I had been constantly talking to people about this and I felt really bad about it. I started thinking... Its been 2 months, get a grip. But then I realised... Its ok. I watched this video, reliving my past, feeling my present, and living my future. I cried when she cried, laughed when she laughed, and felt every single word she said. And some words she said... Its healing a tiny part of me, and it makes me feel that little lighter. I relate so much to this, and I appreciate this video so much. Thank you for making this video. I really hope you're in a better place now ❤ and to all fellow leaders, listen to your body and your mind, and dont forget to prioritise yourself, those happy moments will make those sad ones much less painful. You're the only one that can bring light into your life, dont forget it!
"If they can go through the day without you, then they are not the right person for you." I really needed to hear that... It's been a month since the break up and it's been difficult. Some days are good and some are horrible. Your video has helped me feel less alone and helped me feel less inclined to reaching back out to them again.
How are you feeling now?
I remember sitting on my bathroom floor and bawling my eyes out for MONTHS. Holding my mouth so nobody in the house can hear me scream and cry. I was so depressed that I stopped going to school and my mom had to homeschool me. I kept getting hospitalized because I was so heartbroken and just wanted the pain to end... Eventually time does heal. Talking to people about my issues really helped me move on with my break up. I'm so much happier now. I didn't think anyone could ever love me and that I would be alone forever. I'm happily married with the most amazing man that has never ever made me cry!
I know of a man who could help you restore back your relationship either your ex or soulmate🥰👩❤️👩
He was the one who helped me in restoring back my ex partner three days ago without delay🥰😘
Whtsaap him"**???
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It gives me hope thx for sharing this story
I swear I thought I was going crazy for feeling all these same feelings. Thank you for this.
5weeks later. The tears have become lesser. But I still feel terrible. He actually broke up with me on my birthday. Looking back I'm just shaking my head. He tried texting and checking how I was doing but his decision was still the same. On week 3 I decided to go to his place when I knew he was at work to get my stuff. To my surprise I found a a girl there in his t-shirt. I bravely just took my stuff and left his there. That was another heartbreak again. It hurts even now remembering the scene. It's another story on its own...
Just taking it one day at a time. Sometimes I don't even know what I feel anymore. I know, I believe, I'll be fine one day. Damn
i understand. he couldnt even wait 24 hrs before he was with someone else. dont know what happened and dont think it matters- it hurts all the same.
It took me almost 3 years to fully let go and not hope anymore for him to come back. I cried the whole first year :/ proud of u
I feel like this will be me.... I’m only in week 2 x
One thing I can recommend is Adrienne everheart on feminine energy she has videos about breakups she’s super amazing❤️❤️🥰
@@natalieedwards5670 i swear i thought this too but youll see it gets better its hard and after year im still hurting but it gets better every day!
Ugh!! I hate waiting to see if they come back. 😔😢
Me too girl a whole year plus of crying, didn’t even know it was that long
It's so scary and sad how relatable every stage of heartbreak is.
This is the most horrible feeling in the world. My story is so similar. This pain is killing me. I feel like my heart is ripped out of my chest. This is exactly what I am going through. The crying won’t stop.
Day 13 of NC. I'm missing him so much, I've checked my phone a hundred times but there's no text back from him. Can't wait for the day I'll be over him.
This video really helped me. My girlfriend of 6 1/2 years left me for someone else 2 weeks ago. I did everything I could to try and save us and nothing worked. Within a week she’s already slept with a coworker she had already been talking to apparently. In our last conversation today she said that she doesn’t even know if she ever loved me, regrets it all, is way happier with her new life, she’s free, and that we were a mistake. I’m completely heartbroken and feel the lowest I’ve ever felt in my entire life. However, I now have the clarity that there is no hope for us and that she’s moved on. I’m so incredibly hurt by it all. I’m just hoping as time passes I’ll get better. Check up on me in a few months and I guess we’ll see.
My ex came back to me a few days ago ❤️ I got help from a Relationship Restorer Dr Steve who was able to mend back my broken relationship and make my ex to come back and beg for a second chance. He can bring your ex back
W-hatsap him⏬⏬ for help....
dude i'm rooting for u in ur healing journey. u deserve people who pour into u as much as u pour into them
im so so sorry. better days are coming, I promise, better days are coming. ask for help if you need to, do not feel weak for doing so. look for Christ too, I promise you He will make you feel better. and please, do not ever allow that girl back in your life.
7 years bro just ended 2 or 3 days ago... shed been seing someine else since January and its June, it hurts a lot. a lot. but I guess its time to love myself instead of someone else. dont feel alone man you got strangers on the internet to talk to anytime if you arent cool talking to it with your family. hope youre good brother really do. sending love.
“Even him coming back cant fix it” that’s exactly how I know I can never go back as much as I love him x
i remember watching ur video 3 months ago when it was the worst for me…like u, i was me the one that thought i’ll marry him, have a family with him and spent my whole life with him. i wanted to stop doing everything i do and cry myself till i die everyday. i couldn’t do it and contacted him because i wanted us to work but by that time he was indifferent and didn’t show any more love or interest to fix things. i think in that moment i hit rock bottom and realized he’s not coming back and not giving me at least the closure i wanted. so now, i’m okay with that. i accepted it and i’m happy that i have lived this , of course there’s still days that just thinking ab us makes me cry my eyes out but i know that tomorrow i can be happy again, like u said. i don’t feel this is the end of my life like i used to anymore, just some bad days but with hope now. thank you so much for this video so that a lot of us know we can get out of this.
It's so much more difficult to let your heart cry and put out your emotions to feel light when you live in a joint family, and you keep on constantly checking if people are around, because crying in the washroom isn't possible all the time, its so difficult to go through this
This absolutely broke my heart because I remember feeling exactly how you’re feeling. It feels like it takes FOREVER! My suggestion to those going through the same thing, FEEL your FEELINGS! This too shall pass.
I know of a man who could help you restore back your relationship either your ex or soulmate
He was the one who helped me in restoring back my ex partner three days ago without delay
Whtsaap him"for help""
I’m still mourning even two years later. The pain is very infrequent now but sometimes it hits like a train when you least expect it. Thanks for helping me feel less alone.
You’re not alone. You are worth more than you imagine. You are valuable. You are amazing
@@joev7014 thank you so so much🙏🏼 that just made my day much brighter💕
Same 😣🥺 ughhhh 🫂
I feel like this when my wife left me and marry another person, I can for get this day
Jeez. Even after two years. Mines just happened and the pain is unbearable. It's like a swarm of wasps around my heart
This video hits different. Seeing you cry in those videos, it is literally me going thru this right now. It is painful and I am going thru grief and angry and grief again and I am angry at myself for being such an idiot. Thanks for this video ❤
6 months of no contact- completely healed!!! lummas videos helped, listen to her, I promise anyone going through heartbreak right now.. it will pass!! Process and accept all the feelings inside you and then one day you’ll get fed up of feeling shit and that’s when you start to focus on yourself!
This video is SO accurate in terms of the process we all go through in a break up. I honestly gotta say it is in fact true that it will get better. Trust me you all, it will. Went through it all as well, felt like dying, but it made me realize all of the unresolved trauma I had carrying with me. Please please, if you all have a difficult background or unresolved trauma (often from childhood), find a way to work through it before getting in a relationship. No one is responsible of our happinnes, but ourselves. Resolving past stuff really will help us attract the right, healthy loving people into our lives. You all got this!
this is so true thank you so much
This is so true:( I'm trying so hard rn to solve my "difficult background"
@@adaninurs It will take time but you will heal once you face your internal wounds. Sending love your way❣
@@jackiesanchz Thank you for your reply... it means a lot! :" I got diagnosed with a rare disease right after I graduated college, I can't get a job, I had to go back and forth to the hospital, I "lost" my friends since they're getting busy with their new stage of life, then Covid hit too.... I ended up trying my luck with online business, and he was the only person that comforted and supported me. Now I have nobody:( .... I really feel like I can't walk alone... This is so much pain to handle:( but I am trying my best to focus on my online business right now to prove that I can be independent, i can make my own happiness...
Very true
To you who is reading this comment. I feel you. I know the pain is excruciating. When you cry, hold yourself and say, "I am sorry. I am here for you now" I know it may sounds silly but just do it. Don't focus on the pain, focus on yourself, think of yourself as a friend in need. Listen to yourself, comfort yourself, be there for yourself
Thank you.
Thank you
Thank you
I do exactly this....
This comment really hugged me in my time of need
I am LITERALLY CRYING every time you're crying!! Going through a break up of 6 years. Married this person. She's the love of my life! Now it's all gone and I have to let her go. It's only been a week.
3 months from now I wanna say IT GETS BETTER. I hope so. it fucking sucks at the moment.
It’s been about a month and a half, came completely out of the blue. We made plans for our 5 year anniversary in September, plans for Memorial Day weekend, and a cruise booked for December. She came to visit me and out of no where decided it wasn’t working out anymore. She was my best friend and the person I cared most about. I want to say it’s getting easier, and it certainly is, but there are times I find myself breaking down. I know she’s not the right one because I was severely mistreated, especially the last year during our LDR, but part of me misses her so dearly. Even when I reflect on the times she emotionally abused me or treated me poorly, it only makes it temporarily easier because I miss having her in my life. I’d like to check back in here in a few months to see how much progress I’ve made. Praying it goes well.
Girl I CANNOT EXPRESS how much this means to me, someone going through it RIGHT KNOW. All I can say is thank you
how is it going?
how are you doing now?
@sofiaswift9604 hello, for me it's been almost 2 months, I'm doing much better, not healed totally but much better
1 week into a break up and I cannot tell you the amount of hope and comfort this video brought me. Thank you for being brave enough to be vulnerable - to help strangers. Thank you so much
Stay strong it does get less painful day after day. I am at the 1 month mark and it’s not as painful as the first 2 weeks stay strong and keep no contact no matter what. It does get better I’m still going through it but I feel your pain.
i’m so sorry :( it really does get better, i promise 🤍 time is the greatest healer
@@savsings thank you :( I am healing day by day but it is freaking hard
yea this was awesome she's awesome
Absolutely same here thank you for sharing Lumma it really meant the world to me to feel that the experience happens and you can get over it. A huge heartfelt THANK YOU!
"he had an amazing family and he was very comforting for me" hits me hard bro. this is exactly what i feel :(((
"Love is a drug".. it sure did look like withdrawal was my thought the whole time. My heart goes out to you and as someone who relates to what you've been through emotionally, I am proud of you. You are now on the other side and no contact queen!
!!!! yes
4 weeks in, the pain is unbearable. I relate to this so much.
Almost another month down, I hope truly you’re doing better
Hey, how are you now?
Update?
Did it get better now.? How are you?
Baby girl how are you now?
I was 5.5 years in a relationship. It's been 7.5 months and I'm still going through the breakup period. The psychologist helps, but it's more difficult than I thought. Today I found out that she has a boyfriend. it hurts so much, but I’m still holding on... Time doesn’t heal, you can’t rely on time alone. You need to try to change your attitude towards what happened, change your thinking. I'm still on the way to this, I'm not giving up. Good luck to everyone, everything will be fine, I’m with you.
A few weeks of crying, and you realize you are the only one who is capable and responsible for your happiness. These types of breakups change you forever. It’s gonna be fucking hard. Really hard. But you’ll grow and one day they won’t creep in as much, and you’ll be okay. I love you❤
love u too
I just don't know I will able to find the love again it's just feel like he was the only one whom I want even if the relationship was toxic but i really want him the comfort with him wass literally so comfortable I want to see him it's so harddd dude am I able to happy again am I going find love again this question just break me I don't even have friends I'm just lonely I only had him I used to share everything with him I just feel like he will never leave me I was very happy with but maybe he was not i badly want to see him literally he was my only best friend n bf he was my everything even if it was toxic it was so comfortable to me as it was the first emotional attachment with any person growing up I never had emotional attachment to anyone literally I can't describe my pain in words I just don't know what to do I have exam tomorrow I can hardly focus on studies ohh God pls help me
thank you love you too
My ex broke up with me in July, I was completely blind sided and the breakup destroyed me. It still hurts sometimes but im in a better place and im much happier now, the breakup is a blessing in disguise! This just means we’re closer to being with the person we’re supposed to be with :)
also in the denial stage :(
same, apart from i'm a guy and we fell out. She found someone immediately and started posting pictures of both of them straight away...just to stick the knife in
But sometimes I feel like maybe we are meant to be…despite everything and even though it’s been a month since we separated I can’t stop thinking about him. He knows I still love him and he told me he still loves me but there’s just too much against us. I hate this
If you’re meant to be, you’d be together, no matter what - it would work. Sometimes in life we come across connections that are very special and have a big impact on our life, but it doesn’t mean they’re your long term partner, even if that’s what you believed, even if you believed they’re the one. Someone else will come along one day that you have just as much of an amazing connection with (most likely an even better connection), and they’ll stay by your side and it’ll work - that will be meant to be.