I get frustrated with the morning anxiety I experience because it makes the start of each day very difficult. This really helped! It’s hard when you are in the moment to realize you are doing yourself a disservice with your reaction. I pretend to be happy and optimistic when I first wake up, but when that doesn’t work I very quickly become defeated and frustrated. I guess I am trying to make it go away instead of just letting it be and making sure I am feeling safe. Thank you.
Morning Anxiety... I get that.. How's the pain going to be? How am I going to manage? etc Then of course it can worsen.. I personally find doing breathing exercises as soon as I wake helps a little. Doesn't sort everything.. But makes a little difference..
I know I have to start the day with prayer being grateful to God for All His blessings and not focusing on what I can and cannot do I know there's times I can get caught up in the pain and the symptoms and can easily be in fight and flight there's no peace when I start each day with gratitude with a little movement and hand this pain over to God there's more peace
I know I have to start the day with prayer being grateful to God for All His blessings and not focusing on what I can and cannot do I know there's times I can get caught up in the pain and the symptoms and can easily be in fight and flight there's no peace when I start each day with gratitude with a little movement hand in my paint over to God there's more peace
your videos are so good tanner. i was wondering if you had any on how to realease trauma from the body. i know you have one to process emotions, but what about trapped survival stress/trauma. thanks as always. so glad i found your channel
You are helping me so much. You have a way of explaining so clearly. I've found a therapist here in the states to help me with Pain Reprocessing Therapy -- I have been on that pain-train for 9 years. I've found your approach - and these videos -- to be invaluable. Too many videos are light on info and heavy on segues. A DEEP BOW OF GRATITUDE TO YOU.
I hear you! I got off benzos and an antidepressant after 20 years, and the withdrawal symptoms were horrific. But I got through it and recovered most of my health after 20 years disabled. (Turns out the meds had been harming instead of helping.) I literally went from crawling - my blood pressure was so dangerously low - to dancing! Our brains DO heal - but it takes time. I'm SO glad you've discovered what works far better, and hope that makes your withdrawal shorter and less severe. Empowering yourself and learning to accept that WD symptoms too are harmless (though challenging) and will pass helps hugely, as does journaling, shaking and dancing, and various forms of meditation. You're in the right place! Tanner is one of the best teachers of somatic work on UA-cam. Best of luck!
@@thedancingdivaofdaviestree2320 Hey, thanks for your thoughtful reply. I know all too well how much meds can harm, despite how downplayed it is by the industry and practitioners. I’m getting really close. Down to 11mg of Effexor after ten years of 150mg. I’m doing a lot of the things you mention and I know I’m on the right path. I joined a group a few months back that focuses on knowing you’re gonna heal and doing the self-work necessary to get through it and thrive on the other end. So many of these things are helping. Practicing mindfulness, acceptance, balancing pushing and lulling the nervous system, showing the limbic system that it’s safe, journaling, coping skills, changing my diet (for now). It always helps to hear positive stories like yours. I appreciate your comment.
Amazing practice!! I've been hugely stuck in my fight response for a long time, I often work on resetting my nervous system overall, but I have never focused on this specific aspect. I found I could feel the fight response as tightness in my chest, breathing into that space dialled it down noticeably. Thanks Tanner!!
I really enjoy this video. I did the meditation twice and interestingly, both times I had a big release of sadness. I don't know why it comes up in the context of this meditation, but it feels very relieving. Thank you 😊
Although I'm convinced that I have both reactive and degenerative tendinopathy, and whatever the equivalent overuse injury in my plantar fascia, these videos are good reminders of general principles, plus some of the stuff in The Way Out. The joke about watching your videos 5 hours a day definitely reminds me of some elements of my personality. I'm open to the idea that maybe 30% of my pain is neuroplastic and that could make all the difference.
My body aches even after little activity , anxiety is crippling me . I realise when a very long day of struggle in bed I’m still struggling to turn off symptoms however just seconds before a fall asleep it turns off . I know our brain waves change when going into sleep mode so when I wake up I return waking brain activity and my daily symptoms return . Can you explain what’s happening ?
Hi Tanner, I had a one-to-one session with another SE therapist and he encouraged me to not regulate consciously when I felt dysregulation (just while doing SE). An example would be not swallowing ( i seem to do that a lot when activated ) or not taking a deeper breath when it felt short/ constricted.. he said just sit with that and let that come up and observe it but it seems to be contracting the self soothing of this and some other SE meditations.. thoughts? Thanks so much for the meditation anyway I’m doing it most days and it’s very helpful. ❤
This is hard for me to answer as there are so many factors to consider why a therapist would suggest or not suggest a certain practice. Sorry I can't be more help!
One of my trauma is to worry about my cats who are 14 years old.. whenever i see somthing seem to bother them i am freaking out and worried...on one hand u want to take them to the vet to make me feel better to know nothing is wrong with them but at the same time i really don't want to go to the vet because ny cats hate it and get stressed out. Visiting the vet also stress me out so much that i can't sleep or eat to think about it. My tendency is I don't allow option to be available because i don't like all options and i don't know what to think and not to do. The next day i worry about it as again if i should take them or not and fight with the feelings which is worse or better...and I can't decide and days repeat itsalf...during allthese time i am in danger status... please tell me what i can do or how to orient myself..
So sorry to hear about your symptoms. Tinnitus and visual snow can possibly be neuroplastic. Of course it is important to have physical causes ruled out by a physician. I hope my content can be helpful.
This is one of your best videos, Tanner - and you have so many good ones! I hadn't recognized frustration as part of the Fight Response of Fight, Freeze, or Flight. I always thought of that as physically fighting because of my bullying history when my mother found out I'd been hit and hurt many times and taught me to fight back. I always thought I had a bad temper (mostly under control), but now suspect that too was caused by trauma. As defending myself from bullies worked so well and felt SO good - my brain sometimes protects me by wanting me to fight situations and sensations that are better off with compassionate acceptance. Does that make sense? Thanks, Tanner!
Yes, this is so common. In childhood our nervous system codes what survival responses help create safety, and then these are repeated in the future. I'm so glad this video was helpful!
@@painpsychotherapy Thanks, Tanner! That makes sense. But later, too much anger and frustration can become habitual ways of "coping" that increase inflammation and the Fight or Flight response. Fascinating - and that helps me release it more quickly. Knowledge IS power!
❤ Can you please clarify… I’m having trouble delineating between accepting symptoms and continuing with activities versus pushing through the symptoms - which could potentially be fighting them. As an example, I go for a daily walk, as I walk up the hill I feel fatigue and pain and keep going. Mostly I’m in a matter of fact mindset but sometimes I’m in a “this is a struggle, I just have to keep going” mindset. Would this be pushing through/fighting? Example 2: for the last couple of years I have been going to dancing classes. Lot of the time there is pain, fatigue and dizziness. I just kind of ignore the symptoms and keep going. When I evaluate I would say I’ve been doing more activities but I don’t think my baseline symptoms have shifted. I would say that I have the same level of pain, dizziness and fatigue during walking, dancing and other activities. So, I’m thinking my approach might be wrong. I potentially have time to do somatic practices while I’m walking because I’m on my own. I often practice pendulation or somatic tracking. I’ve been doing the pendulation for at least a year. I don’t expect immediate results but looking back I’m thinking that if there’s been no improvement over that time that I’m missing something or my approach is not right. I think I just tried to do as much as I can and be as “normal“ as I can - so most of the time I’m tolerating, ignoring or putting up with the symptoms. I’m not sure what the ride approach is for day-to-day symptoms. I have background symptoms all the time of tinnitus, fatigue, heaviness and pain. Others, like brain fog and dizziness, come and go. I’d say I get those symptoms as often now as I did 3 to 5 years ago. With dancing the pace is set by what the teacher is demonstrating, the pace of the music and my dance partner. I don’t get opportunities to practice any sort of somatic tracking. Maybe it’s not helpful for me. Maybe it’s pushing/forcing/fighting? What do you think?
Good question. IT can be tricky to figure out. We definitely don't want to push through high pain or symptoms, and at this point avoidance can be helpful. I unfortunately can't comment on what would work for your case over social media, as I don't know your case fully. You can check out my podcast on conditioned responses: ua-cam.com/video/swzQC_yoJkE/v-deo.html
As always, this video is so helpful. Not trying to beat ourselves up because of the pain but allow it as it used to protect us when we needed to survive. Being patient with the pain is hard but your somatic practice is extremely helpful. Thank you
So difficult, i notice i really hate my tinnitus en really get sad and frustrated when i hear it. Try not to fight it so much, but that's hard work. Maybe trying letting de hate be there first then, maybe it will subside in time
I have been doing this somatic practice every day and find it extremely helpful. I, too, would welcome a video on releasing trauma from the body, hopefully it will include a somatic practice. Thank you!❤
This is something I struggle with, I don't fear my symptoms any longer but still get frustrated sometimes if symptoms flare up but then what to do about the frustration? It feels like a natural and understandable response. On the one hand we are not supposed to be frustrated about the symptoms bc it is fighting but on the other hand we are not supposed to suppress our emotions? not letting the frustrations out and pretending not to be frustrated just feels like pushing this anger down and does not seem to be helpful for me, at the same time I feel bad about feeling frustrated and angry as it is the "wrong way" to go.
Yes, there is often confusion around this! It is so natural and normal to have frustration, fear, or sadness about our symptoms and often this needs to be processed. Overtime we just want to also work towards responding with ease and curiosity to our symptoms. Both are vital!
@@painpsychotherapy You did a wonderful video that helped with understand and processing frustration, both accepting and allowing the emotion, then releasing it, but I can't recall which one, Tanner.
@@painpsychotherapyI was doing very well but last week, I tested doing my old habits, I started pushing and rushing the things I do, had chest pain and short breath come back, but funny thing is I did the same activity but in a rush way and pushing way, when I do it in a pacing way and relaxed way I don’t get the same intensity
I get frustrated with the morning anxiety I experience because it makes the start of each day very difficult. This really helped! It’s hard when you are in the moment to realize you are doing yourself a disservice with your reaction. I pretend to be happy and optimistic when I first wake up, but when that doesn’t work I very quickly become defeated and frustrated. I guess I am trying to make it go away instead of just letting it be and making sure I am feeling safe. Thank you.
So sorry to hear about your anxiety. Accepting and allowing are key steps!
Morning Anxiety... I get that..
How's the pain going to be?
How am I going to manage? etc
Then of course it can worsen..
I personally find doing breathing exercises as soon as I wake helps a little.
Doesn't sort everything.. But makes a little difference..
I know I have to start the day with prayer being grateful to God for All His blessings and not focusing on what I can and cannot do I know there's times I can get caught up in the pain and the symptoms and can easily be in fight and flight there's no peace when I start each day with gratitude with a little movement and hand this pain over to God there's more peace
I know I have to start the day with prayer being grateful to God for All His blessings and not focusing on what I can and cannot do I know there's times I can get caught up in the pain and the symptoms and can easily be in fight and flight there's no peace when I start each day with gratitude with a little movement hand in my paint over to God there's more peace
@@painpsychotherapy thank you
More of these, please! So many channels give this advice but never give such direct and simple directions. You are a legend sir!
I'm so glad it was useful. More to come!
your videos are so good tanner. i was wondering if you had any on how to realease trauma from the body. i know you have one to process emotions, but what about trapped survival stress/trauma. thanks as always. so glad i found your channel
I'm so glad my content is helpful! I'm hoping to do a video on this soon. I have an anxiety and dorsal vagal practice!
@@painpsychotherapy can you please put the links to these vids. thanks tanner. can't wait to watch the trauma video whenever you do it
You are helping me so much. You have a way of explaining so clearly. I've found a therapist here in the states to help me with Pain Reprocessing Therapy -- I have been on that pain-train for 9 years. I've found your approach - and these videos -- to be invaluable. Too many videos are light on info and heavy on segues. A DEEP BOW OF GRATITUDE TO YOU.
I'm so glad you are progressing in your healing! I wish you the best!
Thank you so much for this. Super helpful, even in antidepressant withdrawal (which is horrifying lol).
I wish you the best in your healing! 💚💚
I hear you! I got off benzos and an antidepressant after 20 years, and the withdrawal symptoms were horrific. But I got through it and recovered most of my health after 20 years disabled. (Turns out the meds had been harming instead of helping.) I literally went from crawling - my blood pressure was so dangerously low - to dancing! Our brains DO heal - but it takes time. I'm SO glad you've discovered what works far better, and hope that makes your withdrawal shorter and less severe. Empowering yourself and learning to accept that WD symptoms too are harmless (though challenging) and will pass helps hugely, as does journaling, shaking and dancing, and various forms of meditation. You're in the right place! Tanner is one of the best teachers of somatic work on UA-cam. Best of luck!
@@thedancingdivaofdaviestree2320 Hey, thanks for your thoughtful reply. I know all too well how much meds can harm, despite how downplayed it is by the industry and practitioners. I’m getting really close. Down to 11mg of Effexor after ten years of 150mg. I’m doing a lot of the things you mention and I know I’m on the right path. I joined a group a few months back that focuses on knowing you’re gonna heal and doing the self-work necessary to get through it and thrive on the other end. So many of these things are helping. Practicing mindfulness, acceptance, balancing pushing and lulling the nervous system, showing the limbic system that it’s safe, journaling, coping skills, changing my diet (for now). It always helps to hear positive stories like yours. I appreciate your comment.
Amazing practice!! I've been hugely stuck in my fight response for a long time, I often work on resetting my nervous system overall, but I have never focused on this specific aspect. I found I could feel the fight response as tightness in my chest, breathing into that space dialled it down noticeably. Thanks Tanner!!
I"m so happy it was helpful. I wish you the best in your healing!
I really enjoy this video. I did the meditation twice and interestingly, both times I had a big release of sadness. I don't know why it comes up in the context of this meditation, but it feels very relieving. Thank you 😊
I'm so happy my content is helpful! Keep going!
Although I'm convinced that I have both reactive and degenerative tendinopathy, and whatever the equivalent overuse injury in my plantar fascia, these videos are good reminders of general principles, plus some of the stuff in The Way Out. The joke about watching your videos 5 hours a day definitely reminds me of some elements of my personality. I'm open to the idea that maybe 30% of my pain is neuroplastic and that could make all the difference.
It is wonderful you are engaging in the work. Keep going!
My body aches even after little activity , anxiety is crippling me . I realise when a very long day of struggle in bed I’m still struggling to turn off symptoms however just seconds before a fall asleep it turns off . I know our brain waves change when going into sleep mode so when I wake up I return waking brain activity and my daily symptoms return . Can you explain what’s happening ?
Sorry to hear what you are dealing with. This could potential be a conditioned response. Check out this video: ua-cam.com/video/swzQC_yoJkE/v-deo.html
Hi Tanner, I had a one-to-one session with another SE therapist and he encouraged me to not regulate consciously when I felt dysregulation (just while doing SE).
An example would be not swallowing ( i seem to do that a lot when activated ) or not taking a deeper breath when it felt short/ constricted.. he said just sit with that and let that come up and observe it but it seems to be contracting the self soothing of this and some other SE meditations.. thoughts? Thanks so much for the meditation anyway I’m doing it most days and it’s very helpful. ❤
This is hard for me to answer as there are so many factors to consider why a therapist would suggest or not suggest a certain practice. Sorry I can't be more help!
Thank you for this simple, no-frills, BEAUTIFUL and peaceful video. ❤
I'm so happy it was helpful. I wish you the best in your healing!
One of my trauma is to worry about my cats who are 14 years old.. whenever i see somthing seem to bother them i am freaking out and worried...on one hand u want to take them to the vet to make me feel better to know nothing is wrong with them but at the same time i really don't want to go to the vet because ny cats hate it and get stressed out. Visiting the vet also stress me out so much that i can't sleep or eat to think about it. My tendency is I don't allow option to be available because i don't like all options and i don't know what to think and not to do. The next day i worry about it as again if i should take them or not and fight with the feelings which is worse or better...and I can't decide and days repeat itsalf...during allthese time i am in danger status... please tell me what i can do or how to orient myself..
I"m so sorry to hear what you are going through. Please check out the somatic practices on my channel. I hope they are helpful.
I got eye floaters and tinitis and visual snow headache brain on fire could this be survival mode
So sorry to hear about your symptoms. Tinnitus and visual snow can possibly be neuroplastic. Of course it is important to have physical causes ruled out by a physician. I hope my content can be helpful.
This is one of your best videos, Tanner - and you have so many good ones! I hadn't recognized frustration as part of the Fight Response of Fight, Freeze, or Flight. I always thought of that as physically fighting because of my bullying history when my mother found out I'd been hit and hurt many times and taught me to fight back. I always thought I had a bad temper (mostly under control), but now suspect that too was caused by trauma. As defending myself from bullies worked so well and felt SO good - my brain sometimes protects me by wanting me to fight situations and sensations that are better off with compassionate acceptance. Does that make sense? Thanks, Tanner!
Yes, this is so common. In childhood our nervous system codes what survival responses help create safety, and then these are repeated in the future. I'm so glad this video was helpful!
@@painpsychotherapy Thanks, Tanner! That makes sense. But later, too much anger and frustration can become habitual ways of "coping" that increase inflammation and the Fight or Flight response. Fascinating - and that helps me release it more quickly. Knowledge IS power!
Is it ok to do your exercises when I am taking pain killer simultaneously?
I am unable to comment on medication. However, I have seen people recover using a mind-body approach while either taking or not taking medication.
Thank you@@painpsychotherapy
Beautiful thank you. ❤
💚✨💚
❤ Can you please clarify… I’m having trouble delineating between accepting symptoms and continuing with activities versus pushing through the symptoms - which could potentially be fighting them.
As an example, I go for a daily walk, as I walk up the hill I feel fatigue and pain and keep going. Mostly I’m in a matter of fact mindset but sometimes I’m in a “this is a struggle, I just have to keep going” mindset. Would this be pushing through/fighting?
Example 2: for the last couple of years I have been going to dancing classes. Lot of the time there is pain, fatigue and dizziness. I just kind of ignore the symptoms and keep going.
When I evaluate I would say I’ve been doing more activities but I don’t think my baseline symptoms have shifted. I would say that I have the same level of pain, dizziness and fatigue during walking, dancing and other activities.
So, I’m thinking my approach might be wrong.
I potentially have time to do somatic practices while I’m walking because I’m on my own. I often practice pendulation or somatic tracking. I’ve been doing the pendulation for at least a year. I don’t expect immediate results but looking back I’m thinking that if there’s been no improvement over that time that I’m missing something or my approach is not right. I think I just tried to do as much as I can and be as “normal“ as I can - so most of the time I’m tolerating, ignoring or putting up with the symptoms. I’m not sure what the ride approach is for day-to-day symptoms. I have background symptoms all the time of tinnitus, fatigue, heaviness and pain. Others, like brain fog and dizziness, come and go. I’d say I get those symptoms as often now as I did 3 to 5 years ago.
With dancing the pace is set by what the teacher is demonstrating, the pace of the music and my dance partner. I don’t get opportunities to practice any sort of somatic tracking. Maybe it’s not helpful for me. Maybe it’s pushing/forcing/fighting? What do you think?
Good question. IT can be tricky to figure out. We definitely don't want to push through high pain or symptoms, and at this point avoidance can be helpful. I unfortunately can't comment on what would work for your case over social media, as I don't know your case fully. You can check out my podcast on conditioned responses: ua-cam.com/video/swzQC_yoJkE/v-deo.html
As always, this video is so helpful. Not trying to beat ourselves up because of the pain but allow it as it used to protect us when we needed to survive. Being patient with the pain is hard but your somatic practice is extremely helpful. Thank you
I'm so happy this was helpful. I wish you the best in your healing!
These mediations are awesome, keep them coming - I really like when you include metaphors - works way better with that!
I'm so happy my content is helpful! Keep going!
Thank you!! That was fantastic. Perfect length for me.❤
I'm so happy my content is helpful! Keep going!
Thank you!! That was fantastic. Perfect length for me.❤
I'm so happy my content is helpful! Keep going!
So difficult, i notice i really hate my tinnitus en really get sad and frustrated when i hear it. Try not to fight it so much, but that's hard work. Maybe trying letting de hate be there first then, maybe it will subside in time
So sorry to hear what you are dealing with. I hope my content is helpful!
Beautiful, thank you Tanner. I shall do this practice regularly in the future. Fred
So happy it was useful!
I have been doing this somatic practice every day and find it extremely helpful. I, too, would welcome a video on releasing trauma from the body, hopefully it will include a somatic practice. Thank you!❤
I will do somatic practices for this in the future!
@@painpsychotherapyThank you !
very helpful content, thank you💗
Glad it was helpful!
This is something I struggle with, I don't fear my symptoms any longer but still get frustrated sometimes if symptoms flare up but then what to do about the frustration? It feels like a natural and understandable response. On the one hand we are not supposed to be frustrated about the symptoms bc it is fighting but on the other hand we are not supposed to suppress our emotions? not letting the frustrations out and pretending not to be frustrated just feels like pushing this anger down and does not seem to be helpful for me, at the same time I feel bad about feeling frustrated and angry as it is the "wrong way" to go.
I can really relate to this
Yes, there is often confusion around this! It is so natural and normal to have frustration, fear, or sadness about our symptoms and often this needs to be processed. Overtime we just want to also work towards responding with ease and curiosity to our symptoms. Both are vital!
@@painpsychotherapy You did a wonderful video that helped with understand and processing frustration, both accepting and allowing the emotion, then releasing it, but I can't recall which one, Tanner.
This video was the best one
You mentioned all the stuff I deal with
Short breath
Chest tight
Oh wow I feel so confident now I can heal it
I'm so happy it was helpful for your healing!
@@painpsychotherapyI was doing very well but last week, I tested doing my old habits, I started pushing and rushing the things I do, had chest pain and short breath come back, but funny thing is I did the same activity but in a rush way and pushing way, when I do it in a pacing way and relaxed way I don’t get the same intensity
A lovely meditation. ⚘
I'm so happy my content is helpful! Keep going!
Thank you 😊
You're welcome 😊