Love it. After decade and a half of migraine, panic attacks, full body pain, severe fatigue, depression, depersonalisation, OCD, people pleasing, perfectionism etc etc, I am beginning to heal ❤
This has helped me so much. I remembered a situation from my childhhod which put me in fight or flight and this has given me peace. Your method of teaching is calm and wonderful
Something I often struggle with is finding emotions in my body, I guess I usually imagine them being in my head. However with my chronic pain, that is clearly something felt in my body, even though the origin is sort of within my nervous system/emotions. A lot of the work I've been doing that has helped reduce my pain has been some hard-core self care, which included quitting my job. Love the videos Tanner, they are such an incredible free resource for us, I am very grateful for them.
Thank you so so so much for all the free content you put out here - it feels like I can finally wrap my mind around what's going on, after so many debilitating years - and, even better, it feels like it finally makes sense what I CAN and should and want to DO about it. Every single video of yours is SO so eye opening for me! Thank you!!! I have spent SO much money on (really good) programmes already, but nothing was SO eye opening. Finally all the pieces I learned about seem to be coming together in a DOABLE approach. Money has run out - so being able to learn all this from you is truly the biggest gift. Cannot thank you enough!!! 🙏🙏🙏
Thank you so much for these videos. It really makes sense, although so strange as the symptoms can feel so real and scary when you're going through them you think "there has to to be something wrong with me", but then doctors can't find find anything and you are left in this terrible state of, "ok so now what do I do?" How can I go on with my life in any normal way when my body is being so reactive and is so afraid of getting the symptoms that I'm afraid to leave the house b/c I may get dizzy or can't lay down or take a bath if the sensations come on. So to find videos like yours are very helpful. I think the mind-body connection is a lot stronger than many doctors realize, and how the nervous system can change based on outside stimulus and illnesses, and there should be much more training on this stuff in medical school. How to rewire your nervous system into regulation and harmony again, and how to keep it there.
Your videos are really great, Tanner. It’s very kind of you to make this available for free. One thing which still has me in knots though is the polyvagal ladder concept. The ladder states that we have to move through sympathetic energy BEFORE we get to ventral safety at the top. So if someone is in freeze, they need to process the shutdown and the fight flight in order to climb the ladder. But the idea of the window of tolerance seems to suggest that we need to get to ventral FIRST, in order to process the things keeping us stuck. I still can’t help seeing this as a complete paradox, and paradoxes are just about the worst thing for a stressed mind. Is the polyvagal ladder theory complete bunk? If it’s a predictable sequence then according to the theory we won’t be to access safety until we’ve processed our stored stress/trauma (fight flight), and moved on up the ladder.
These are essentially different models explaining the nervous system, and it is important to find which one fits best for you. Personally I have found for myself and with clients, that as we come out of a shutdown state sympathetic energy often occurs and needs to be processed. I wish you the best in your healing.
Thank you so much for this! I learned the hard way that I need to release the anger in a healthy expression as I got so angry at the neuropathy in my feet and I stomped so hard I ended up on crutches for 6 weeks, so appreciate any advice on releasing anger in a healthy way!
I found dancing out the anger helped hugely. Lots of kicking and punching! Then I'd laugh, and feel SO much better. I also had a toddler temper tantrum on the bed safely - it not only felt great, I laughed at releasing my inner toddler - and we BOTH felt better afterwards. Writing it out in a journal can be safer than stomping too. With Tanner's help, though - one day you may be able to stomp as your feet have healed! I had neuropathy in the feet too - and went from having to wear Ronald McDonald shoes 3 sizes too large - to dancing daily in ballet flats! Yonit Arthur has a video on just anger, which might be a nice addition to Tanner's video. He's the best teacher on UA-cam!
This was soooooo well done! I recognize that sometimes I do this work intuitively (like a run to release emotions) but the curiosity and naming emotions vs just holding all that energy in. I’m in a very stressful situation right now and you have unpacked tools to help me navigate and stay in that healing window.
How much is your course Tanner? I listened to your story recently, and i identified with your story. I have issues with substances and with pain and its good to see someone who is recovering from both and doing well. 🙏
Sorry to hear what you are dealing with. We are actually uncertain of cost as of yet, once I announce the launch in detail on the channel we will let you know what the cost is. I hope my content can be helpful for you!
Great video Tanner ty so much, may I ask is there a resource available to offers different types of exercises or practices for expressing different emotions? I would love to see something that explains this a little deeper.
Yes I'd you look on the meditation playlist on my channel I have a somatic practice for anxiety and the dorsal vagal state (shutdown)! I hope they help!
How do I know when Im out of my Healingwindow? For example: when I sit with sadness and I start to cry. Is this a sign that I am outside the healing window? How do I know when it is too much? Thank you very mich for your work!!!
This can be tricky to figure out. In the healing window the sensations are uncomfortable but tolerable. If you are outside of it typically difficult sensations increase to a level you can not tolerate.
😊 thank you it's so true what you're saying I had a hard time expressing myself for such the longest time and then I learned how to express myself through dance Zumba ballet and I would have a sense of peace and release but since I have herniations in my back and I've been experiencing a lot of tightness and burning for like 6 to 9 months I haven't really moved as much as I want to I'm starting to move a little bit more even through the discomfort and burning and tightness so movement is such a big part of my healing Journey so I pray I can go back to dance
Such a powerful video!!!!cant wait for thr course. What if our conditioned response to the emotion is to brace , contract and suppress? My body has gone into full body contractions to avoid all emotions. I am dealing with complex trauma and fibromyalgia due to the constant suppression of painful scary emotions. I definitely dont struggle to connect with the emotions, but find my window to tolerate them is so small and I panic and struggle to create the shift.
So sorry to hear about your trauma and symptoms. Yes, when our healing window is small and resistance to emotions is high, it can be important to first utilize this practice with mild emotions and then increase over time. Keep going!
So good Tanner ❤ i’ve always been a “big feeler“ and have done many years of therapy including bioenergetic therapy, which is a body centered psychotherapy. But I find myself getting to a layer of rage that has taken me by surprise, and by storm! This is a very valuable video, and I really thank you for taking the time to make it. I look forward to your course. (Peggy)
Thank you for sharing about your healing. Yes, it can be surprising the emotions and states that occur long into our healing. I'm so glad my content is helpful. Keep going!
I thank you very much for your videos I have a question... I am doing your somatic exercise video and brain reprogramming meditation everyday... is there anything else I should be doing I saw your video what you are doing each day to keep your body regulated like cold shower however this is something I cannot do is it enough to do the meditation everyday?
This is a hard question for me to answer. It really depends person to person, and you need to go off of how consistent you are feeling regulated. This can help guide if you need more practices or life changes.
@@painpsychotherapy thank you for your support.. could you please tell me what you meant by regulated? I heard that word very often in your videos but I can't quite understand what kind of feeling it is., you meant the state of feeling calm and no worries?
Thank you Tanner. This is really really helpful. One of the things I struggle with is feeling and expressing emotions around other people. I can do journalling etc but myself without too much issue. But around people I still get very self conscious and anxious about feeling any sort of emotion and then it gets suppressed and somatisized. How do I go about resolving this? Thanks!
@@painpsychotherapy That would be so helpful thanks! Will this be covered in your course as well? It's not just the expression that's an issue in social situations for me though, it's staying present with the feelings. I get a big automatic response of anxiety when I feel any sort of emotion in public . So that overrides the emotion and takes me completely out of my body.
We are hoping to launch the digital course by end of June. Unfortunately at first there will be no live group coaching offered. Here is the link to our site: www.mbodycommunity.com/
Hi and thank you for this video 🙏 I have a question please. If we have alot of trauma can we think of a event that happened in the past to evoke feeling and then use this method to feel and release it or is this method just what we are feeling in the moment and more recent events?
Yes, this is what I do with my clients. Of course make sure you are staying in the healing window. It can be important to work with a therapist if you find too much activation is occurring.
Hi, I understood feelings are sensations in the body, and emotions are the mental frame. When your using the word 'emotions' are you referring to the mental or the feelings (physical sensations)?
The other thing I wanted to say was “stay in the healing window” was crucial for me to hear. I think I held everything inside because I was too afraid of the strong emotions …. What would happen if I really let myself feel it?
By going outside safe zone cause flair ups or new pain patterns? I have been doing shadow work and freaking my self out. I need to learn this new process,because I know I have a lot of built up anger and shame.
Love it. After decade and a half of migraine, panic attacks, full body pain, severe fatigue, depression, depersonalisation, OCD, people pleasing, perfectionism etc etc, I am beginning to heal ❤
Amazing healing work. Keep going!
This has helped me so much. I remembered a situation from my childhhod which put me in fight or flight and this has given me peace. Your method of teaching is calm and wonderful
I'm so glad it was helpful! Keep going!
Something I often struggle with is finding emotions in my body, I guess I usually imagine them being in my head. However with my chronic pain, that is clearly something felt in my body, even though the origin is sort of within my nervous system/emotions. A lot of the work I've been doing that has helped reduce my pain has been some hard-core self care, which included quitting my job. Love the videos Tanner, they are such an incredible free resource for us, I am very grateful for them.
Yes, I know at first I really struggled noticing my emotions in my body. It is great to hear about the progress you are making. Keep going!
Same here.
Thank you so so so much for all the free content you put out here - it feels like I can finally wrap my mind around what's going on, after so many debilitating years - and, even better, it feels like it finally makes sense what I CAN and should and want to DO about it.
Every single video of yours is SO so eye opening for me!
Thank you!!!
I have spent SO much money on (really good) programmes already, but nothing was SO eye opening.
Finally all the pieces I learned about seem to be coming together in a DOABLE approach.
Money has run out - so being able to learn all this from you is truly the biggest gift.
Cannot thank you enough!!! 🙏🙏🙏
I'm so glad my content is helpful! I wish you the best in your healing!
@@painpsychotherapy Thanks a lot
Thank you so much for these videos. It really makes sense, although so strange as the symptoms can feel so real and scary when you're going through them you think "there has to to be something wrong with me", but then doctors can't find find anything and you are left in this terrible state of, "ok so now what do I do?" How can I go on with my life in any normal way when my body is being so reactive and is so afraid of getting the symptoms that I'm afraid to leave the house b/c I may get dizzy or can't lay down or take a bath if the sensations come on.
So to find videos like yours are very helpful. I think the mind-body connection is a lot stronger than many doctors realize, and how the nervous system can change based on outside stimulus and illnesses, and there should be much more training on this stuff in medical school.
How to rewire your nervous system into regulation and harmony again, and how to keep it there.
I'm so sorry to hear what you are going through. I'm so glad my content is helpful!
Your videos are really great, Tanner. It’s very kind of you to make this available for free.
One thing which still has me in knots though is the polyvagal ladder concept. The ladder states that we have to move through sympathetic energy BEFORE we get to ventral safety at the top. So if someone is in freeze, they need to process the shutdown and the fight flight in order to climb the ladder.
But the idea of the window of tolerance seems to suggest that we need to get to ventral FIRST, in order to process the things keeping us stuck.
I still can’t help seeing this as a complete paradox, and paradoxes are just about the worst thing for a stressed mind.
Is the polyvagal ladder theory complete bunk? If it’s a predictable sequence then according to the theory we won’t be to access safety until we’ve processed our stored stress/trauma (fight flight), and moved on up the ladder.
These are essentially different models explaining the nervous system, and it is important to find which one fits best for you. Personally I have found for myself and with clients, that as we come out of a shutdown state sympathetic energy often occurs and needs to be processed. I wish you the best in your healing.
This is the piece I've been missing in my work of healing.
Thank you soooo much ❤
So happy it was helpful!
Thank you so much for this! I learned the hard way that I need to release the anger in a healthy expression as I got so angry at the neuropathy in my feet and I stomped so hard I ended up on crutches for 6 weeks, so appreciate any advice on releasing anger in a healthy way!
I'm so glad this video was helpful. I wish you the best in your healing.
I found dancing out the anger helped hugely. Lots of kicking and punching! Then I'd laugh, and feel SO much better. I also had a toddler temper tantrum on the bed safely - it not only felt great, I laughed at releasing my inner toddler - and we BOTH felt better afterwards. Writing it out in a journal can be safer than stomping too. With Tanner's help, though - one day you may be able to stomp as your feet have healed! I had neuropathy in the feet too - and went from having to wear Ronald McDonald shoes 3 sizes too large - to dancing daily in ballet flats! Yonit Arthur has a video on just anger, which might be a nice addition to Tanner's video. He's the best teacher on UA-cam!
This was soooooo well done! I recognize that sometimes I do this work intuitively (like a run to release emotions) but the curiosity and naming emotions vs just holding all that energy in. I’m in a very stressful situation right now and you have unpacked tools to help me navigate and stay in that healing window.
I'm so glad this practice was useful. I wish you the best in your healing.
How much is your course Tanner? I listened to your story recently, and i identified with your story. I have issues with substances and with pain and its good to see someone who is recovering from both and doing well. 🙏
Sorry to hear what you are dealing with. We are actually uncertain of cost as of yet, once I announce the launch in detail on the channel we will let you know what the cost is. I hope my content can be helpful for you!
Thank you tanner keep uploading your a life saver 🙏🏿
I'm so happy my channel is helpful!
Thank you, good things
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This sounds like a truly valuable practice for managing emotions!
So important!
this video and so many others are like gold tanner. love you man. though i wish you would smile more in your videos!!!
I'm so happy it was useful. I will work on smiling!
@@painpsychotherapyfunny…I see you smiling the entire time.
Tanner smiles with his eyes❤
Great video Tanner ty so much, may I ask is there a resource available to offers different types of exercises or practices for expressing different emotions? I would love to see something that explains this a little deeper.
Yes I'd you look on the meditation playlist on my channel I have a somatic practice for anxiety and the dorsal vagal state (shutdown)! I hope they help!
@@painpsychotherapy awesome, ty very much, hey you do a great job by the way sharing all of this infomration, i just wanted to acknowledge that. :)
This is so incredibly useful thank you again Tanner 😊
I'm so glad it was helpful!
Another amazing video. Thankyou🙏 My friends(also in recovery) and I are always sharing your channel👌
Thanks for sharing!!
You and Anne are awesome. 🤩
Thanks for your kind words! We are so happy our content is helpful!
Thank you so much!
Glad it helped!
How do I know when Im out of my Healingwindow? For example: when I sit with sadness and I start to cry. Is this a sign that I am outside the healing window? How do I know when it is too much? Thank you very mich for your work!!!
This can be tricky to figure out. In the healing window the sensations are uncomfortable but tolerable. If you are outside of it typically difficult sensations increase to a level you can not tolerate.
Tanner just love these calming hax. ❤🎉
I'm so happy my content is helpful!
😊 thank you it's so true what you're saying I had a hard time expressing myself for such the longest time and then I learned how to express myself through dance Zumba ballet and I would have a sense of peace and release but since I have herniations in my back and I've been experiencing a lot of tightness and burning for like 6 to 9 months I haven't really moved as much as I want to I'm starting to move a little bit more even through the discomfort and burning and tightness so movement is such a big part of my healing Journey so I pray I can go back to dance
So sorry to hear what you are going through. I wish you the best in your healing!
@@painpsychotherapythank you
When will u be adding the group coaching? Will you please let me know when the course will be available? Thanks!
We are uncertain of this. Our digital course we are hoping will become available on June 30th!
❤ fantastic info! Thank you 🙏💛
Glad it was helpful!
Such a powerful video!!!!cant wait for thr course. What if our conditioned response to the emotion is to brace , contract and suppress? My body has gone into full body contractions to avoid all emotions. I am dealing with complex trauma and fibromyalgia due to the constant suppression of painful scary emotions. I definitely dont struggle to connect with the emotions, but find my window to tolerate them is so small and I panic and struggle to create the shift.
So sorry to hear about your trauma and symptoms. Yes, when our healing window is small and resistance to emotions is high, it can be important to first utilize this practice with mild emotions and then increase over time. Keep going!
So good Tanner ❤ i’ve always been a “big feeler“ and have done many years of therapy including bioenergetic therapy, which is a body centered psychotherapy. But I find myself getting to a layer of rage that has taken me by surprise, and by storm! This is a very valuable video, and I really thank you for taking the time to make it. I look forward to your course. (Peggy)
Thank you for sharing about your healing. Yes, it can be surprising the emotions and states that occur long into our healing. I'm so glad my content is helpful. Keep going!
I thank you very much for your videos I have a question... I am doing your somatic exercise video and brain reprogramming meditation everyday... is there anything else I should be doing I saw your video what you are doing each day to keep your body regulated like cold shower however this is something I cannot do is it enough to do the meditation everyday?
This is a hard question for me to answer. It really depends person to person, and you need to go off of how consistent you are feeling regulated. This can help guide if you need more practices or life changes.
@@painpsychotherapy thank you for your support.. could you please tell me what you meant by regulated? I heard that word very often in your videos but I can't quite understand what kind of feeling it is., you meant the state of feeling calm and no worries?
Thank you Tanner. This is really really helpful. One of the things I struggle with is feeling and expressing emotions around other people. I can do journalling etc but myself without too much issue. But around people I still get very self conscious and anxious about feeling any sort of emotion and then it gets suppressed and somatisized. How do I go about resolving this? Thanks!
This can be so common. I will try to do a video soon on how to work on expressing emotions to others.
@@painpsychotherapy That would be so helpful thanks! Will this be covered in your course as well? It's not just the expression that's an issue in social situations for me though, it's staying present with the feelings. I get a big automatic response of anxiety when I feel any sort of emotion in public . So that overrides the emotion and takes me completely out of my body.
When is your course coming out? Online , zoom interactive ?
We are hoping to launch it by the end of June. It will consist of online modules!
Can I get a link to your online course? Is there any live group coaching with the program?
We are hoping to launch the digital course by end of June. Unfortunately at first there will be no live group coaching offered. Here is the link to our site: www.mbodycommunity.com/
Hi and thank you for this video 🙏
I have a question please.
If we have alot of trauma can we think of a event that happened in the past to evoke feeling and then use this method to feel and release it or is this method just what we are feeling in the moment and more recent events?
Yes, this is what I do with my clients. Of course make sure you are staying in the healing window. It can be important to work with a therapist if you find too much activation is occurring.
Thank you.
Hi, I understood feelings are sensations in the body, and emotions are the mental frame. When your using the word 'emotions' are you referring to the mental or the feelings (physical sensations)?
It is meant for the sensations of emotions in the body. 💚💚
Just feeling the emotions if its possible? I love the quote "you have to feel it, to heal it."
Your opinion?
Yes, feeling emotions is key. But we need to do it with enough safety. I'm posting a video on this soon!
The other thing I wanted to say was “stay in the healing window” was crucial for me to hear. I think I held everything inside because I was too afraid of the strong emotions …. What would happen if I really let myself feel it?
So key! Keep going.
By going outside safe zone cause flair ups or new pain patterns?
I have been doing shadow work and freaking my self out. I need to learn this new process,because I know I have a lot of built up anger and shame.
I'm glad this was helpful. I wish you the best in your healing!
Is releasing emotion done as effectively in somatic presence with the feeling?
Yes, this guide is to somatically release! We need connection with our body to do this.
@@painpsychotherapy is it common for symptoms to flare after starting somatic tracking??
@@juna8796 Yes, this can commonly occur to many, and may mean you need to slow the exposure to sensations down.
@@painpsychotherapy ok thanks will ease off a bit… 🙏
How do I sign up for your corse this June
I will post the link when the pre-order becomes available. We are hoping to launch by the end of June!
Thank You.
Of course. Keep going.
Is fear an emotion?
Yes. 💚💚