Honest Ramblings Of A New Mom
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- Опубліковано 10 лип 2024
- Okay, I was hesitant to post this because it’s… just… all over the place. But then I decided, no. I’ll post it. Because I know I’m not the only one out there sitting in their thoughts processing them out with the Lord. And I want to let you know, you’re not alone in this crazy journey. I always feel so encouraged when I hear others being real and unscripted and just being honest. So here you go lol. It’s all over, it’s raw , there’s tears, laughter, and hope! Because praise God, I didn’t sit in this heaviness for too long. So be encouraged, if you’re sitting in heaviness right now… Joy comes in the morning. 💜
-M
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@morganolliges
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@PaulandMorgan
Momo's! No matter where you're at in life, I hope you can be encouraged that we're all just figuring things out. This journey with the Lord is constant, our refinement never ends, it's beautiful and painful all at the same time! Drop some encouragement for the fam below! ❤
👆👉and Pray Repent and Stay in GODS Word Daily....JESUS CHRIST is the Only way.
Hey, Morgan it's the other Michael LOL. I am obviously a dude but I am a super supporter so I watch your videos as well. You know I love you guys and your vulnerability is such a treasure that many young mom's will cherish. Much love and hopefully I will be old enough to come on next patron retreat!
I’m not a mom, but came to say I personally really like these casual videos. UA-cam is full of beautiful and perfectly curated videos and although it’s nice to look at, I get really tired of it. I miss when UA-cam was mostly videos like this - people sharing their lives and not just trying to sell an image or aesthetic. It’s really hard to find these days.
Morgan, being a mom is the hardest and most important job in the world. The lonliness you feel is ironically so common. I see you doing such a great job being a mom. We love the unfiltered! Don’t feel pressured to edit like other creators, you’re a mother and wife first. Be encouraged that millions around the world have been through what you’re going through. You are so deeply loved❤️
I don’t typically agree with you and your husbands opinions, but let me tell you… the motherhood experience is something that is felt across the board, regardless of belief (or anything, really). You are NOT alone. I have a 6 year old and each year there are new joys and new struggles (each month.. week… day). That first year exhaustion is like no other. I’ve just started to recognize and try to let go of mother guilt. That selfishness you’re feeling is normal but you have to let go of it. You so obviously love your family and do your best and that’s what matters. You’re allowed to feel overwhelmed, exhausted, stressed, everything. Recognizing those things in yourself and taking care of YOU is just as important as taking care of everyone else. I still work on that six years later. I’m sure I’ll be working on it in another 10. But letting go of the guilt for putting you first sometimes is so important. I do my best… but I mess up a LOT (like everyone else) and the love of my child is unwavering. I’m the “best mom in the galaxy” according to her. And one day your son will say those same words to you. You’re doing a great job. You got this.
Agreed!!
I’m a first time mom of a 3 month old baby boy and I literally have thought all these things Morgan. As hard as it is to believe sometimes, God’s got us and we will have peace and joy in our lives again soon. ❤
Motherhood is such a hard gift. You speak on what every mother has gone through. Sending my love and hugs. And remember, comparison is not of the Lord. Videos like this mean so much to me because you get to see the realness above all else.
Oh gosh the loooooneliness! I remember these days so clearly. The pit in your stomach kind of loneliness…like everything feels foreign and you just can’t find that “at home comfort” kind of feeling. It was SUCH a blessing when these days passed and 1000% God who got me to the other side of them! Us mamas have to stick together! ♥️
Thank you for your ability to be open and vulnerable, it is deeply appreciated and valued. ❤️
Thank you so much for sharing this video Morgan! I really needed this today ❤ so encouraged and blessed by you!!
Yes joy comes in the morning❤ Thank you for spreading hope even in times of struggle.
Going from no kids to 1 kids is the toughest change. With 3, I am constantly going to God and saying, “I can’t do this… I need you to empower me to do the everyday normal things”. It utterly floors me how dependent and weak I am… and need to be… because God’s power is made perfect in my weakness. Even though I don’t feel it all the time.
I’m not even a mom yet, but a job change for me has left me with days feeling the same way. Thanks for sharing, we’re here with you going through similar things. And it’s very true, seems like a roller coaster of emotions sometimes, you’ll have a heavy depressing day and the next will be so much better. So thankful we have the Lord as our constant in spite of our emotions :) ❤
🫂 You are loved gal! Praying for you through this new journey you're trekking. God's so proud of you & he's rooting for you & so are we 🙏🏼
First time mama here. I have a six month old. I CAN RELATE. you said it and I just started to ball because I never had the words to explain it and you said it and I felt as if you took the words out of my mind. I appreciate you and your videos. Needing the Lords strength each and every day. You’re SO AMAZING 💗
Hormones and PPD are very real throughout the first year after giving birth. Seek out help and give yourself extra grace and love. You only have to be who God has made YOU to be not anybody else. I appreciate your honesty and vulnerability. ❤️
Omg YES please keep doing these type of videos!! Don’t feel the need to do the edited & cutesy ones right now!! These are some of my faves!!
Agreed! Real is best!
Thank you for putting words to how so many of us new moms are feeling. I totally relate to everything you said. I have a 13-month-old daughter. I will say that the past 3ish months have felt lighter, and I feel more adjusted to this new life. Some things that help me when I feel lonely or isolated is going on a stroller walk and talking to God or calling a friend, and reaching out to my mom or sister to watch my daughter so I can go get coffee with a friend and reconnect, or just take some time to be alone, or grab a meal with my husband.
Love your channel, and you don't need fancy editing, your authenticity is refreshing ✨💗
I totally feel you on the lonely thing. I have friends. I have my husband who is super supportive and helpful, but motherhood has also made me feel super lonely for some reason that I can’t quite identify.
You have a pure soul, God bless you! I am sure you are doing your best and that's enough. Don't give up, God gives you strength
I'm not a mom, but I can understand what your saying, Morgan! Especially wondering if the Lord cares about my "little problems" in the scheme of so many the more serious things. I'd been truly struggling with this a lot when, as I was reading through the book of Psalms, I discovered this verse in Psalm 56: "My wanderings you have noted; are my tears not stored in your flask, recorded in your book?" I can't even tell you how much it consoled my heart! The fact that it is stated so clearly that God sees all my suffering and cares enough about my tears that everyone is seen by Him and "stored" and my recorded weariness recorded! I hope you find this verse as helpful, consoling, and confirming as I did! I'm glad you're feeling better, take care of yourself! Remember you're engraved on the palms of His hands (Is 49:16), the hands that bear wounds for love of us! God bless!!!❤❤❤
"With the lid down" hahaha
I give and want every encouragement for Morgan In the midst of your vulnerability, I see confidence. That confidence seems (to me) pushed under when she is with Paul, replaced with nervous laughter. As a woman, a mom, a wife, may your confidence in yourself as a treasure of God always shine through.
You’re doing a great job Morgan! We appreciate your vulnerability
You are sooo beautiful and so strong!! May God bless you & give you strength!!! 💞💞
Thanks for sharing your testimony and experience. I had a very similar experience with motherhood being so lonely and difficult. Thanks for your vulnerability and openness. It helped me not feel so alone ❤️
Oh dear Sweet Morgan…this how I felt after my second child…however I kept repeating this mantra to myself: God-Family-Job…in that order…by age 31 I figured it out…sorta😊. But when I kinda got a handle I would just repeat that to myself…it kept things super simple…Motherhood is just hard and lonely at times❤️. You are so strong and so sweet and will be praying for you🙏❤️🙏
It is one of the hardest jobs you'll ever do it in life ! Mom life never ends.. when they're adults you still worry . God bless , you have a lot of support here and hope you have family as well. My first video of yours . Therefore, I don't know if you have family support . This is great you shared this raw video for new and seasoned moms. It never gets easy.
Something I’ve been learning recently too… I’m a selfish human being and only God can help me in my struggles. It’s amazing how God not only listens to us but He cares for us too. Thanks for being vulnerable Morgan! It’s awesome how your letting God refine you in this season your in.
Thank you so much for sharing this 🤍 you are not alone!
I feel like you've said everything I've been feeling. My girl is 7 months today, and motherhood has certainly been lonely... even though you know millions of women are going through the same thing? It's such an odd dynamic. You're a fantastic mother, Morgan. I hope you never doubt that!
Miss your candid, raw vlogs like this Morgan. You are a great mom and so attentive to Luca. You've been through so much and are adjusting to the constant changes of motherhood. I am not one myself, but you are so much stronger than you might feel right now. You definitely aren't alone.
I love your videos the way you do them!! We all have rough days. Don’t let the bad days win! You got this and are a great mother!
Praying that the Lord gives you peace and wisdom and guidance! I think your content is great! I appreciate your honesty! May God richly bless u and strengthen u!
Love how raw and real you got with us mama’s, I feel you 💯
You’re and amazing mom
So glad you shared this Morgan. I had my first baby in April, and I’m the first one out of my younger friends to have children. The rest of my friends have grown children or have teens. It can feel so lonely, especially if you are a stay at home/work at home mom.
Thank you for being willing to be honest about these feelings; it makes me feel a little less crazy knowing that I’m not alone in the way I feel about the change from “none to 1”. ❤
I can relate!! Since having Faith (she's almost 3 months) I've had a few times of loneliness here and there that I didn't expect. I especially look forward to David (hubby) getting home and find I'm missing him a lot! You have a bond with baby that's so strong and beautiful, but you are responsible for that life and they are entirely dependant... I think the loneliness can come because you're the only one who is the mama of your specific child and it is your duty to care for them. It's a blessing of a duty, but it can be hard when there isn't another you walking around who can understand all those struggles that maybe your husband can't.
That's my assumption as to why that loneliness exists, but maybe that's just me! So grateful for the Lord and His constant reminders of who we are and Whose we are. When I take a step back it's a lot easier to see that God is holding every moment and understands my every struggle. But I do wish He was here in the flesh showing me 😊 lots of love, encouragement, and prayers! Boy I'm glad that sun always comes back out 😄
Oh. And as far as Jess Conte goes... Morgan, I can't even keep my house clean let alone start filming vlogs. The sink is full of dishes, there are baskets of laundry, the toilet is gross, the floors are full of junk, the kitchen sink in addition to the dishes is covered in grease and food, the bathroom sink has toothpaste drips all over, the mirror has splash marks, etc! But my baby is fed. She's sleeping. I just had my third out of four meals a day (breastfeeding!). I got good sleep. Would i like to sleep more? YES! But i am okay. My furnace is giving us heat. My husband is coming home tonight and despite my worries as he drives in a snowstorm (we're in Michigan and supposed to get 6-10 inches) I know that the Lord will get him here safe!
Whew, remembering all those things helps me even right now, as earlier I was slightly panicked as to how disastrous this place is
God is good and He is here with us, mamas!
I remember feeling the exact same way with my first baby. It was the most difficult time of my life. Thank you for being so open and vulnerable. I know that there are many new mothers experiencing the same challenges right now. If I would have listened to this video in my season of being a new mom, I would have been so encouraged to know that I’m not alone. I remember listening to another mom who had her baby at the same time as me talk about how he just slept all the time and would only cry when he wanted to eat, and how she was able to get so much done with him. That made me feel like I was doing something wrong because my baby was VERY fussy ALL THE TIME. Looking back, I see how God was molding me and using the challenges of motherhood to produce His fruit.
Being a mom is one of the hardest things, yet most rewarding things I’ve done. Your feelings are normal- just keep casting your cares on the Lord! And Jess Conte and you may have different skills but that doesn’t make you of any less value or her any better than you. God designed us all with our own strengths and purposes- even when it comes to motherhood. You are so precious sister, and God has a plan and purpose for you. Keep clinging to Him! ❤️
Morgan, one of the few realest people on UA-cam and Instagram. I appreciate you as always. You speak my heart, mind and soul most times 😂😂 LOVE YOU GIRL
I’m not a mom yet… but I hope to be and I feel like this is such a special window into motherhood. Thank you so much!
Thank you for sharing Morgan. I can totally relate to these feelings! I might even send it to my husband as a little insight. It is so hard! But so rewarding and I and grateful I get to do it alongside the Lord! Parenting without Him Must seem impossible for non believers!
I struggle with comparison as a new mama, social media (the moms on there) really messed with my mental health and I had to get rid of it, you aren’t alone in this Morgan, but just know that even being self aware of your feelings is the first step into recovering from those feelings. My son is heading into 6 months and it’s tough but I love him sooooo much ❤
I have a two year old and I’m pregnant with my second. That first year is the loneliest, hardest time that’s full of constantly questioning and constantly wondering and constantly feeling like every single choice you make is wrong.
Lean into your people and your faith, as I’m sure you do. Think about maybe a faith based counselor. Remember that you have SO.MUCH. going on. You have physical changes, you’re still postpartum, family changes, dynamics change with you and your husband. It’s just how it is. Having a counselor of some sort would be very very helpful.
When it comes to the loneliness…in my daughters first few months, when I was crying that I felt the most alone in the middle of the night and it felt so unfair (because I was so freaking tired, mostly😅), someone told me to open the blinds on a window by where I was feeding every time I fed and picture a light on top of every other mom’s house who was awake at that moment caring for a child. I don’t know who all is a mom around me. I would just picture lights on top of random houses that I could see. On the off chance that someone did have a light on in their house, I would tell myself that they’re probably taking care of their child. We are not alone, as moms. There are so many of us going through it all but we can’t see every single mom out there doing what they do every day. So, I pictured it in my head. Maybe the family down the street has a kid who can’t sleep tonight and their mom is up, maybe that house over there has a breastfeeding mom, maybe that one down there has a little one who is sick, maybe that one has a kid who woke up because they needed water. Somehow, for me, it was helpful to picture it. Because it’s true. Somewhere, someone is breastfeeding, someone is helping their little one back to sleep, someone is getting their child a drink, someone has a sick little one. In those moments, I would add in a prayer for those mommas that they wouldn’t feel lonely and maybe they would stop and picture a light on top of my house and realize I was awake too and they aren’t mom-ing by themselves.
This is beautiful ❤ thanks for sharing and keeping others in your prayers!
The beautiful raw journey of motherhood! As a first time mumma I too struggle with the feelings of loneliness and comparison. Thank you for being a beautiful example of a rooted Christian mumma! We’re all flawed, so it makes Gods grace even more beautiful and welcomed hehe. Keep going! You’re doing an amazing job ❤️
You’re so beautiful and such an inspiration to me Morgan ❤ in case nobody told you today, you’re doing an amazing job. The struggle makes you a warrior 🙏🏼
Amen to all of this. Thank you x
Hey, Morgan. Personally I say to not worry about cute edited videos, cuz all I need in a youtube video is rawness, which you truly have. It is incredible to hear someone share so honest their emotional struggles. I really feel the need of hearing people's emotional journeys, because people look like they are fine. Usually there are not contexts to talk about these struggles with people around us and for sure we all struggle at one point or more.
For me it is helpful to hear you share and encourage. It does not matter how the video looks.
I hope it will get easier for you and you will find peace as a mother 🙏🏻🤗
Thank you for sharing! I often remember Jesus saying,when I struggle , “If you want to be my follower, pick up your cross and follow me”. We have to carry our daily cross and follow Jesus.
I think the UA-camrs who have the cute content etc have outside editors and managers. It’s definitely challenging being a mom!! All the things you said. Selfless. And I think us moms encouraging each other is so important!!! Husbands do a great job helping but it’s really heavy on us. We deserve EVERYTHING. All the praise. Moms are the real family carriers. MVPs. Our marriages are all different for sure. Stronger we hope. But definitely takes a toll
im right there with ya sister ; pregnancy/motherhood is the loneliest ive ever felt. no one seems to understand u. its incredibly hard. but keep praying. God is with us always, there is a reason for the season
I was JUST talking to my husband about this! You are not alone!
I think a lot of content creators are just good at putting up facades. I mean, they’re literally putting together the clips of their day/life that make them look the most put together.
My heart goes out to you.
Never ever thought motherhood would be so challenging... and it for sure brings out the selfish desires. But for sure is a way to 'challenge' your faith and help you grow / make you better 💓 You are NOT alone - (2.5 years into motherhood) in those hard times where my mind starts spinning i turn on worship and helps me think less of me more of Him 🙌 He is SO good.
Don't stress about the cute-sy videos... i would much rather see this honest video or just you loving on that sweet Luca and being excited when he has a BM 😅
You are rocking it mamma!!
Also... here for the hug 🤣🤗
I appreciate you being honest. The book of Isaiah really encourages me. Keep your eyes on the Lord. Press forward and run this race with joy. Lots of these spiraling thoughts happen when you are focused inward. Instead, look outward and UP to the sky where your help comes from. God loves looking back at you. God is always with you. Just try to spend more time in His presence. He will recharge you.
I actually came to faith when my babies were small thanks to all the difficulties I went thru as a new mom. I love your honesty. Stay blessed sister and come visit Israel sometime 😊
Great video...thanks for being so honest....i love your spirit !!!
I remember those days. 3 of mine are now grown, 2 are married. My teenager is the last one and we have had a very very rough 2 years with her. I just keep remembering, Find it all joy. I thank God for the hard days. That is not easy but I do.
Hugging you tightly from chch nz 😊 praise the lord 🙏!
Hey morgan!
I definitely get this feeling and impression of not being enough when I look at different creators of content.But you are not alone though some of us don't always comment one thing's sure is that you are not alone.And I feel lonely most of the time but I know that creators/people like you and knowing that Jesus cares and is with me helps me being less alone and lonely.
Hope it helps someone.
Much love
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Motherhood is hard❤, the first 6 months were the hardest for me with my son, and for my daughter it was very easy. He was a more challenging baby lol and she was very easy. Hes like a little billy goat and shes a gentle lamb. So its a tug a war at home plus Lack of sleep can wear any mother out. You will gain experience over the months and years and things will get easier. Hugs. you will look back and wish you would had took time and laughed a little more lol. Its crazy how time flies. GOD BLESS YOUR FAMILY, btw i still go to bed exhausted and wakeup like here 😮we go again. Lol one day at a time😊
Try to remember to not be too hard on yourself. Sometimes it feels like we can get thru it can’t get there but then turn around and see how far you have come. You realize “you’re doing it”.
A lot of the motherhood stuff they don’t tell us. I feel like I wish people wouldn’t hide the hard stuff so women aren’t just faced with this stuff so suddenly and weren’t prepared for the super difficult things.
We all see our own flaws and look at ourselves diff than the world sees us. You are NOT inadequate. I don’t believe you are ridiculously selfish either. I think you’re human. I think the vloggers that are showing everything perfect it’s all set up. You are good enough, you’re great. Remember that.
Morgan I'm.worriex about you ! 😢I felt the exact same way after I had mu y twin girls. I akdo become very postnally depressed! I recommend getting some counciling maybe from a Christian councilor who is experienced in postnatal depression or working with new mums. I also found attending groups with other mums really helpful to meet other mums and have that company and talk with other mums ! All the best look after yourself
I think motherhood is glamorized to an unhealthy degree. While it is beautiful and such a high calling, it's not always fun or amazing. When people tell us, "Enjoy every moment" and similar sentiments, it can make us feel guilty when we're NOT enjoying every moment or guilty when we admit that sometimes motherhood feels burdensome and messy. Add to that the comparison game we play as we observe others navigating the journey seemingly blissfully and perfectly. I think we shouldn't be too hard on ourselves. The truth is, no one has done it or will do it perfectly. Morgan, I'm so sorry you're lonely. Getting together with fellow moms can really be beneficial. Several years ago, I used Facebook and church to find mom groups to join, which was encouraging, and helped me feel less alone. Sometimes we would put babies in strollers and take walks. Other times we'd meet at a park, one another's homes, etc.
I think Jess has an editor for her videos maybe? 🤷♀️ But tbh I prefer to watch you over Jess. Nothing against her she so sweet, but something about you I just vibe with…sorry for saying “vibe with” idk how else to put it lol
I agree! Not even subbed to Jess. Nothing against her, but I can relate to Morgan's content so much more than hers.
Being a parent is the hardest thing you will ever do. We all struggle and dont be afraid to show it or ask for help when you need it.
You already know this, Mama Momo, but many years from now, when lil' Luca reaches of age, becomes the greatest man any man could possibly be, marries the woman of his dream, and has his own baby boy (or girl), first thing he'll do is sit with you, or call you on the phone and say "Mama (or Mom), I love you. I love you so much. It must've been difficult, but I want you to know I love you."
My Aunt, no matter what others say, is my REAL mother. I love her so very much. Lil' Luca loves you, Morgan. Always remember that, no matter how tough it gets, and God bless you & Paul!
Morgan, raw vlogs are the best ones anyways ! It will come with time, and other moms who have $ hire Nannie’s etc, to do fancy edits- so it’s okay, relax girl ! The best thing that helped me (3 kids, 3rd is 6 months) was getting involved in church groups, especially having a good circle
Of moms around you. Everyone gets it, and understands, and there’s never pressure. Remember, God never meant for us to be lonely, he cares about every moment of this life ! This is just a push to find the moms around you to link arms with ❤ this changes everything 😊
I’m right there with you ❤
First time mama of a four month old. Couldn’t relate more ❤
I much prefer raw videos like this over any fancy UA-camr that does things just “for the ‘gram” or to make a video. Morgan, we love you for who you are. You are not Jess Conte. And, guess what, I don’t follow Jess Conte (nothing against her. Lol). I follow Morgan Olliges because you’re who I relate to. It is so comforting to know that I am not alone in these feelings of inadequacy and loneliness. Keep being you and looking to Christ to be enough. If we were enough we wouldn’t need Him.
Your awareness of your struggles and what God is doing in your life is already evidence that he is removing these things from your life, it's just a matter of time. If you can SEE it (your anger, selfishness, stubbornness) it's as good as gone. This is something ALL parents can relate to, and like you said, it is absolutely the ultimate test of faith. Becoming a parent can be the greatest impetus for you to truly see yourself, or that is to have God show you your true self with all your flaws, and not to hate them but to just see them for what they are so that he may take them away. Most choose to ignore these signs or distract themselves from it and prolong their suffering indefinitely. I commend you for truly sitting in the pain and sharing that experience. It's a beautiful journey you and Paul are on and I appreciate your honesty and authenticity. Vidoes like these resonate much more deeply than any carefully curated, artificial "life" that I've seen on this platform.
Morgan, I believe Jess and Gabe have paid editors and other members of their business team who help with all of the creation of the content! Which is awesome for them!
It doesn’t make your content any less impactful or enjoyable to watch ❤️ You’re an amazing woman of God, mama, wife, daughter, friend, sister, and yes, content creator!
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All of these feelings are so very common for us mommies, and yes, it is certainly a refining process and God will certainly change us lots throughout motherhood! But I want to offer a gentle reminder to be gentle with yourself. This is a huge change. It is not evil or horrible for you to have a hard time with such a drastic change and.. AND.. we are made for connection and community. Especially in motherhood. I stay at home with my children and we are a military family, so my motherhood journey has always been extremely lonely. We’ve never lived near family or friends since having kids. The loneliness almost killed me, and I realized it’s because we are not meant to go through life alone! Go on stroller walk and talk’s in your community, join a mother-specific Bible study group (life changing for me). Connect with other mamas, face to face on a regular basis. I can’t recommend that enough.
Looking forward to hugging you soon! 💜😸
I had a hard time leaving the house with my baby at 3 months like it was a struggle to leave with everything you have to prep before and some of my friends were out more then I was with a newborn and I didn’t get it. I still struggle leaving the house just Becuz all the work and timing of naps I just don’t get how other people do it either. My baby is 6 months now
Your not alone
Loneliness is so common in motherhood. What I have learned (3rd baby in), is that it does get better. The schedule and needs of a little baby are very demanding. I had to learn to embrace the baby stage even though it felt really isolating. In an ideal world, new mothers should be surrounded for the first year or two by family, but that style of community is lost in the western world.
I’m very lonely right now too. I’m sorry you feel this way. It will get better I think having a baby is lonely. I’m on my second and now that I have an infant again it’s hard. Your life kinda revolves around naps. I’m very lonely. I miss getting to use all of my strength to love my husband but instead I’m trying and failing to regulate my own and my toddler emotions😅
Thank you so much for these very vulnerable sit downs. I hope that they help you and i am sure they're very helpful to others. No matter what we go through, God is going to help us and He is also going to help us help ourselves...but with Him, and His guiding hand on us, it's completely OK to seek additional help. If you are not already, and you come to a point you want to try say talks to a therapist or your family doctor, etc, I encourage you to do so. I believe God places His helping hands on doctors in order to help us when we need it. And God can put them in our paths, as well as certain medications if we need them. There is NO SHAME in seeking and receiving that type of help, and if it helps it helps. Nothing is going to take away all of our pain as long as we are on this Earth, but keeping God in mind and reaching out for help from others--friends, family, and possibly doctors and possibly medications--can better help us to care for ourselves and others. I really hate to see you suffer and I really hope that you will take advantage of different resources that are out there that could make a big difference. I believe honering our bodies is honering our mental health as well. It doesn't make you weak or inadequate, it makes you human. ❤ Side note, if you would like to and haven't yet, listen to the song A Symptom of Being Human by Shinedown. There's no vulger language, it's a very pure, powerful and beautiful song that when dealing with things that are taking over you and you feel so down on yourself and out of control, it uplifts and puts things into perspective.
Hi Morgan, I just want to say I think raw content like yours is so much better than the “perfect, artsy”, and let’s be honest-edited x1000 content other “mom vloggers” put out. What you see in their content is not reality; many of them have a team of people helping them edit, curate, and create those online personas. It’s not just one person most of the time. But I really want to stress-IT’S NOT REAL!! You are more than good enough Morgan, don’t let the fake stuff you see online (aka a fake world) make you feel any less. People have taken issue with some of these mom content creators because they depict a perfect life (which is not the reality) and make other moms feel less than.
Motherhood can be extremely lonely, especially when you’re a new mom. Two things I wanted to suggest-1) could you join an in-person mom/new mom group? Maybe one through the church so you’d feel more comfortable? 2) I know you’ve struggled with mental health in the past, and the Lord helped you through it. But PPD is a real thing that affects many new mothers. I think Jesus would 100% support you getting some help if you need it. I know the Lord’s light and love is where we find our true selves, but there is no shame in needing help from other people sometimes. Be it a pastor or a therapist, just someone to talk to. I take issue with how stigmatized getting mental health help is in some Christian communities. I know God wants me to have whatever support I need to navigate life, and while I get much from him-sometimes another human perspective helps as well.
Sorry for the long ramble, I am glad the Lord has blessed you and renewed you in his light, but I hope you will consider some of my suggestions. Much love ♥️
Edit: left out a word
you are touching on identity in ALL the ways. were you struggling with identity in high school by any chance? I did. it was so lonely. but God sees you. he hears you. ALL the time ❤️🙏
3:48 true words.
Morgan, if you’re at the place where you can hire out a virtual assistant or a social media manager, please do so. Having the extra workload on yourself as a content creator is not worth pushing yourself to a point of burnout. If this is really what you want to do as a source of income, having that extra help would probably be beneficial and would give you more of that balance that you’re looking for. There’s nothing wrong with asking for help and always remember that as a mom, you need to take care of yourself, too. It will make you a much better mom to your son and a better wife to your husband. It is by no means being selfish, but on the contrary, it’s the most loving thing you can do for your family, so always keep that in mind. Hope this helps.
I read somewhere about it being like being in a rock tumbler. We're all rubbing up against each other nonstop and getting our rough edges rubbed off..but it's not like it's always fun. It's rough and tumble, baby.
I'm so sorry that you feel very lonely. Do you feel like people don't understand your struggle? Have you thought about the possibility of postpartum depression?
I pray you can feel God's love during this journey.
You should definitely seek out Christian counseling for this post partum period. It's such a huge change and your hormones are still such a mess. Having someone unbiased to talk to can really help.
Agreed!!
Yeah my kids are older and I wouldn't say it's 'easier' but it gets more natural... I definitely don't think you always have to pretend to be happy, it is really challenging!
Pretty sure we will spend the rest of our lives trying to figure out the next phase of motherhood. 😆
You are expressing very familiar feelings. You’re doing a good job. And if you’re feeling depressed get some help. Because, hormones are beasts. They can really screw with your brain chemistry. Try not to guilt yourself. You ARE doing a good job.
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I feel like Jess conte has a video editor…. Also you are more relatable and realistic which is a lot more helpful ❤
I wish you'd have shown the same empathy that you receive now for women who use birth control before you had a baby
It's always "follow the lords plan" until you want to follow your own plan
I believe they said to use Godly discernment.
Or you can disagree with her but still be a kind person and show empathy when she is struggling ❤ 😊
@@cappylover192 they were against contraception until it was something THEY wanted to use. They're so much harder on other people than they are on themselves.
@@peterlosingwendy7 I know, wish she'd have done that to other mothers as well
Remember this, as much as you love everyone, nobody will love them or you....more than Jesus.. He will never leave you nor forsake you. And it's OK to have needs.. you are human. Husbands are commanded to lay their lives down and love their wives, how much more during the raising of an infant. If things are difficult, I pray for peace, solutions, and revelation. It's OK to ask for help, and these seasons go easy on yourself. You're not expected to be a robot. Your health and your baby's health are so important..
It's hard you lose sleep alot and you worry even when they are older. Don't have kids right after the other. Pregnancy takes a toll on the body and emotions. Each stage is trying and fun too. Your child will stop napping and you may not be able to get your child to sleep at 7 or 8 pm
Give yourself grace and don’t feel afraid to ASK for HELP ! A lot of my friends would come over and hold my baby or we would go to target together it does wonders 💕
@@JustJasmineJ my mom helped me with both my daughters. My oldest daughter is 14 now . My baby is 4 years old. My oldest daughter has type 1 diabetes got diagnosed when pandemic shut everything down. My 4 yr old has level 3 autism she got diagnosed at 3 . So different stages. My mom is 3 doors down from me. We are italian so very close knit family
@@phantomvampyressshadowkiss4690 awe yay I’m so glad y’all are close and you have the support it truly takes a village 💕
@@JustJasmineJ yep true I'm also not a young girl anymore lolz. My kiddos are nicely spaced 10 yrs.
Also, show yourself some grace. I am always belittling myself and taking myself very seriously… too seriously… a lot. Don’t be like me.
I dont think i want to be a mom anymore :(
Please don’t feel that way. The first year is tough for sure-you realize you are completely responsible for this life you created and you fear everything that could go wrong. It’s natural as a new mother; I’d check on my babies even when they were sleeping soundly just to make sure they were still breathing. It can be tough, for sure… lonely, scary, and just heavy with responsibility.
BUT!!!-there is no greater joy than seeing your little ones grow into amazing humans!!! The love you’ll feel will be overwhelming (in the best way). It’s so rewarding and just amazing. It’s like life that way-yes there are hard times, but the good far outweighs the bad. In my opinion there is nothing more rewarding than motherhood.
That being said, it isn’t for everyone and if it’s not for you, that’s okay! But here Morgan is just being vulnerable and venting-if it’s just this video making you reconsider than please don’t. Life is full of ups and downs, as is motherhood. But being a parent is the best blessing I’ve ever received and I wouldn’t trade it for the world.
I say don't be, you are free to choose. It is a CHOICE not somehting we just do because society tells us to. Research all the negative aspects along with the positive so that you can compare.
Yeah I don’t want to be somebody’s mom either..
Sounds like you may be experiencing some postpartum blues.
Looks like a spiritual attack to me, the enemy doesnt want you to be happy and doesnt want you to think you are doing good by the grace and strength of God....we rebuke those thoughts in Jesus name!! You are you and everyones journey is different...dont compare yourself to others! ❤️