To be fair, growing up in a bad family environment doesn’t guarantee someone will be bad, and growing up in a great home doesn’t guarantee them to be a great person. The highest quality girl I’ve met came from a terrible family environment with zero good role models, however she is unbelievably moral and genuine. That being said people like this are the exception to the rule but they definitely exist, and you should judge people based on their actions and personality, not things they cannot choose.
Minority doesn't change the stat. As a person pretty much without parents I can tell you that what he says is 100% true. Just because there is few of us exceptions it doesn't change the fact we're deeply broken and in need of alot of work to be normal and healthy to stay around. I'm a guy so it's been easier and girls have it really tough when it comes to self improvement. Majority of people from broken families never recover from it, especially girls since they are not pressured to be better.
I don’t think hamzah was saying if they have a bad family don’t date them, it’s just more something to be weary of. Obviously not every single high quality man / woman will have every box ticked, but it’s just something to be mindful of when going forward with dating them etc
It's more of proper role models presence in life thing I guess. You may have terrible parents but great grandparents, teachers, mentors. Well even neighbors, uncles and aunts.
1-great relationship with father 2-her parents still together 3-her mom is attractive 4-nice personality and kind? 5-limited hookups 6-high quality friendds
@@adamali7891 literally, except for us as Muslims it’s no hookups since that’s super haram. But yeah if only people realized Islam solves all of these problems the west is facing right now when it comes to this.
@@TheRealNabil while I respect that people find a good path in Islam, I doubt that islam will solve all the problems in the west when it clearly hasn’t solved all the problems in the East. Same can be said about any religion.
@@TheRealNabil while I respect that people find a good path in Islam, I doubt that islam will solve all the problems in the west when it clearly hasn’t solved all the problems in the East. Same can be said about any religion.
I am a woman, and I agree with 95% of your videos and love your content as I think it applies to both men and women, however with this one I do personally think it would be better to highlight characteristics, personality traits and choices people make over things that are out of their control such as family issues as the effect of those can be overcome. :)
@@croft4746 The same with personality traits, you can change but it's not easy. I've met women with good personality traits and horrible background and they still made auwful choices. So both things matter
@@jamino2012 If you don't have a strong, solid foundation, and don't know how to NOT act like a child for the rest of your life, you always crumble, because that's what matters most when shit hits the fan or when easy but very very deceptive opportunities present themselves. They bash and batter you until they come to a point where they either penetrate your soul or get obliterated. However a strong character is a bit different between men and women, but is still crucial nonetheless. Women who either lacked a father, were SUPER pampered, or were highly abused, usually lack a lot of discipline. Therefore, they cannot consciously distinguish and control the urges they have for shitty men who still make them emotionally confused, which ends up destroying their dignity and virtue, and most of the time attached to shitty and abusive relationships. Society in the west in general will confuse them to think that the more attention and the more independent they get, the mightier they get. But if you have been watching channels like Hamza's by now you realize that that is EVERY MAN's dream not a woman's. We're artificially imposing it on women, just like we're imposing feminine traits in men, hence why they eventually end up in a very shitty situation like artificially feminized men later in life. When we fuck with nature it fucks us back 100x harder EVERYTIME. Remember that folks!
I only agree on flags 5 and 6. Sometimes we are not blessed with good families, but our traits and how we overcame those struggles should be a green flag.
@@leandras1669 He didn't mean you would idolise them, it's just that subconsciously you are going to remember that and carry across how things worked onto your future relationships. If a girl has an abusive father then she'll have daddy issues (if untreated) and be really clingy etc because she didn't get that attention from her dad.
Two days ago I met up with my sister who I haven't talked with for some time. She used to be a party girl, but is now in a very busy life with a crushing work load. Recently I got out of a very toxic relationship and we started chatting about girls I like now. So I mentioned the green flags which are named in this vid and others by Hamza. The reaction i got from her was astounding: She took everything personal, felt offended and actually told me that I had no chance meeting a girl who has these traits since I am 34 years old now. Very disappointing. Made a mental note to never talk with girls again about green flags in girls, because nearly all western girls get offended by at least half of these green flags. Stay quiet about your preferences with girls gents, I learned the hard way.
She is right though, nearly no girl has all of these. But obviously not because they're exaggerated, but because modern women are trash. These things should be almost guaranteed but they aren't
From a girl's perspective: my mother has a physical disfigurement that definitely lowers her attractiveness quite a bit. She split up with my father when I was a baby. Thankfully, I do have a good relationship with my brother and he's grown up to be a strong person. You raise good points. From now on I'll pay close attention to the characteristics that are within my control, thank you.
honestly, a lot of these points work in reverse, applying them to guys you'll see, a lot of the time, guys with mommy issues or absent father figures can be a major red flag, as well as guys who participate far too much in hookup and party culture, etc.
This video came in the perfect time, been in the talking stage with this girl for a couple of months (2 months give or take) And I wasn't sure if I wanted to pursue something more serious with her, this video gave me a massive reality check that this girl is worth my time. She was checking every single green flag in this video. Time to make my move boys
girl here, i definitely agree with the points regarding family life. i do not have a good relationship with my father, i am trying my best to build one up but he was never really around so i’ve suffered through some stuff surrounding him. i think i’m better now, i have made significant progress in trying to make sure i don’t fall for guys who are generally abusive. and having parents who have a good relationship is SO very important. my parents do not have one and i see how that impacts me and the entire family. it’s exhausting living in this environment, and i think i would be a healthier person if i had grown up in a nice loving family. to sum it all up, yes it is generally a green flag if your love interest has a good family life. there is huge potentials for it being a red flag if she has has a bad family environment, but not always so; however you should stay cautious.
Hey, I know this video isn't for me, but I want to say that it's so positive to listen to this male perspective - it actually helps me a lot! Not every girl meet can meet these standards (abusive families, parents divorced etc), but there are good women out there who want to work on themselves to meet a strong minded man eventually. You're doing a lot of good here, keep it up.
I think this is meant to be seen as general "Green flags" someone doesn't need all green flags to be a good person to be with. It's like a privilege thing.
Although I 100% agree with every single point you have like legit 100% woman can’t really control who their parents are. I believe that the casual sex, personality and friends are the very important ones but family aspect is also insanely important. I love this advice and will keep it in mind from now on, I never truly realized the impact of parents since I turned out quite different compared to my parents.
Not all girls with parents that are still married are better off. I’ve known many girls with parents who are married and have their own share of problems. For example, becoming spoiled/entitled by parents or being too sheltered and rebelling through adulthood. What it all comes down to is morals and values. While parents are a big influence in development through childhood, you also grow as an adult still learning and improving if you choose to. You can’t choose if your parents stay married or not and likewise I’m sure a lot of your followers have divorced parents. However, we do choose how we conduct ourselves as adults and if we want to work through those issues and become better partners to one another.
That's why there is another green flag if she has casual sex. You need to take into consideration all the green flag, and there are always exceptions too
There are tonnes of girls with massive body counts but almost all other green flags in this video. So certainly family couldnt do shit. She wasn't a high quality fem to begin with
1 - great relationship with father (is most likely gonna result in a healthy one with you) 2 - her parents still together (if they split up chances are you will) 3 - her mom is attractive (because most girls turn out like them like if you think the mom is hot thats probably how she is gonna look in the future) 4 - nice personality and kind (no need to explain) 5 - low to none body count (if we are over 17) 6 - high quality friends (people are like their friends so if they do drugs or make bad decisions chances are she will) thats how you find a good quality girl and not somebody that belongs to the streets
As a girl, I want to say thank you for making this video. I've watched too many videos that only had hateful things to say about women and the comments were obnoxious (things like: I'll stay away from women and marriage). It's really important for guys to remember that high value women are out there. Gender wars are just absurd and detrimental overall. If you're resentful towards a whole gender, the problem is within you. Edit: Wanted to clarify that my marriage reference is about men who see marriage as evil because they see women as evil as well. Nothing to do with why it's better to marry or not and marriage as an institution.
Point 1 and 2 are so true. My biological father left my mom the moment I was born, and my step father was sexually assaulted me constantly during puberty and beginning of adolescence. It took me about 2 years of therapy and a great mental strength to overcome my periods of depression in order to be fully ready for a relationship. Not everyone has the family that should have, but it's in your possibility to become better
Good job overcoming those trials.I personally do not understand everything that you went through but I still hope you have the will to continue life and bettering yourself
the men like your step-father are the type of men that are considered the men that my dad tells me "Unloveable pigs".These "men" tell themselves they have done bad things in the past and that they will improve but their value will not go higher than a dirty dog on the streets. In any way shape of form please do not let these type of men change the prespective of how you view men and I hope you feel safe now knowing you have recovered from the bad years.
The point made about the relationship of a girl with her father is so true. Hearing my girlfriend talk about her father can bring tears to my eyes, of how caring and supportive he was. But this story became so tragic and yet even more beautiful when I understood his wife (gf's mother) helped drive him to suicide. It's a messy world, but we are all gonna it bruh.
i just wanted to see how i can improve "as a girl" and the first 2 points threw me off loool, there's nothing i could've done about my parents relationship and it really hasn't changed my view on love
It's complete bullshit, most of these things are out of a girl's control. Just be yourself, be a kind, genuine person and don't be toxic to your partner. Your parents still being together has nothing to do with YOUR personality. Just work on bettering yourself and that's all.
@@victherattlehead5099 and that’s facts, i really enjoy going out with the boys, but just going to random parties it really is lame af, lotta lame ass people doing dumb shit, no, thanks
I’ve been over parties since my junior year of college. I don’t find getting shitfaced to be in my best interest anymore. I’m hoping I can meet girls who are fun, but don’t need to do that for fun. Not easy these days.
They stopped being fun when I was in high school. Back when Facebook wasn’t full with conspiracy boomers, me and my friends use to go to those random neighborhoods Facebook house parties. Let me tell you how scary the vibes were in those parties, like having a bunch of drunk or drugged out gangbangers waiting for anyone to try something. By the time I got to college I was totally over it, and just went to student club events
Dudes. Do not rush a relationship. Figure yourself out before you are forced to figure someone else out. Girl i was dating checked all these green flags and was such a kind and genuine person but my issues got in the way of this and resulted in us splitting. I thank her for this experience and for opening my eyes.
Damn... Every point in this vid makes me think about the girl that I like and i'm telling myself "wow she's perfect". We v'e never been so close together and I think its partly thanks to you, so I would like to thank you for making me do the hard work
Love that there is actually specific and genuine advice fam, as guys we all try to help each other with common qoutes and stereotypes but really we need more specific advice like this because it shows expertise and genuine knowledge that one possesses. I love what you're doing out here for us fam, truly inspiring.
i'm glad the people in the comments actually have some sense. there's nothing wrong with avoiding these traits i do agree that most women & people like this in general are no good for long term relationships, but i do feel with each passing year more and more people of these fucked up backgrounds get better and reject the toxicity they were raised in. my only point is, you shouldn't fully discriminate against circumstances people had no control over. you should be perceptive enough to understand who fully embraced & who rejected the bad environments they were raised in.
Of course, in the end you should make your own evaluation and judgement on whether or not the person is worth your time. These are merely "flags," and are supposed to be a general guideline, not a definitive formula. Follow your good judgement, basically.
Not really for women, it’s the you’re perfect in every way mantra that they preach now. There’s more burden placed on men to be better and overcome there issues. Especially young women who blame everything on men and them the victims. A victim doesn’t see the need to improve.
@@adio8824 I’m not like that, and I know plenty of other woman aren’t like that too. Avoid unfair women who lack compassion and responsibility, the same way I avoid men who are like that.
Hey! girl's pov around here: although I do love my parents, I cannot control who they are, and that's kind of important, you know? Sometimes everything we can do is respect where life has taken them and what they were able to do with it, also taking the bad experiences as examples of what *not* to do. Don't close your minds to everyone who's not part of the royal family, y'all. Just be kind and seek for kindness too, it can come from highly unexpected places!
I think this can also apply to men as well. Instead of having a good relationship with the father, he has a good relationship with his mom and so and so.
The part where Hamza hugged his dad genuinely put a smile on my face. It reminds me of my own father and how grateful I am for him since he is honestly a role model to me. He does have his flaws since he isn’t in particularly good shape and has a dad bod, but he shows me the true value of hard work, planning and determination. He on his own basically carries my family financially and with those funds he took me and my brother to great schools outside of the shit country I lived in (Bolivia). Even with all this COVID crap, he always stood high knowing that things would work out if we just kept trying and adjusting our plans as we go, looking for the best probable outcome. I think this is why I always like people who have good relationships with their parents, it just says a lot about the person your with and the people who surround them.
Honest to god, thank you for this video Hamza. I recently got a girl liking me for pretty much the first time and she actively pursuits my attention, but because of lack of experience, I wasn't certain about what kind of process would I be diving into. I am grateful for your channel
As an exception to GF 2, my parents were (and LEGALLY still are) together for the past 30 or so years. Recently, I’ve learnt my father has cheated on four separate occasions at least and now I find some semblance of solace in these videos Hamza, Ty for helping others to think about improving themselves. I for one aim to be better than my father.
The thing about the mother isn't always true, I know someone who is very different from her mother in every way, and much closer to her grandmother in terms of caring about herself etc. The mother used to try to suppress in her whatever she didn't like for herself, but in the end it was who she was and became a totally different woman than her mother.
If I would've seen this video 3 years ago I wouldn't have wasted these 3 years and my health on a girl that cheated on me and just broke up with her 2 hours ago. Thanks for giving me an idea for what to avoid in the future. You are awesome!
Nice vid once again hamza, also i think the part where you explain how adonis got to where he is today was very nice as sometimes it can feel like adonis always has been perfect (i don't think so, but others might interpret it as such and feel bad about themselves and in turn don't even want to try to be like adonis, because they themselves are not perfect right now and therefore have not always been perfect already according to their view of adonis). Keep it up big brother
I think the relationship with the Mother is very important too. I dated a woman who's relationship with her mother was so vitriolic and toxic that it was nothing but pure hatred for each other, but she'd always say I just don't understand their relationship and to never defend her. That same manipulation and toxicity eventually bled into our own relationship. I would also say that 90% of the women in my family have a Mother-Daughter hate relationship. They say they love each other, but frequently have up to an hour long screaming matches over literally nothing. So if I ever meet a woman who has a positive relationship with her mother that is beyond a green flag to me, because if she matches up well with me and is the one. I don't have to worry about her going into a default hatred mode if any of the children end up being daughters.
This channel is BASED. Based on human evolution psychology. Speaking nothing but facts (y) Really agree that everyone should take these into consideration. Of course these are not the rules for a perfect girl - might help you decide between more than one option though :)
It's not about where they came from The real value is in who they are and where they're going. Shit happens and most (I should say all) of us get mixed in with the wrong crowd at varying stages of their lives, either due to family or peer pressure, finances, etc I'd rather date a girl who grew up without a father and has a higher-than-zero body count but is friendly to others, kind, smart, and trying to go to school and do good with their life vs instead dating a girl who has both her parent's and is still a virgin, but is a massive narcissist who plans to sponge off of either a husband or her parents, doing nothing productice with herself, and has less of a personality than a cardboard box. Always look for women (or men, whatever you like) who are going somewhere with their life and have a shining personality. I always ask myself, "Once we're old and our looks and bodies are gone, would I still be attracted to her?"
I'm more than happy with the girl I am rn. She's amazing in every way you can think of. An amazing relationship with her parents, treats everyone with respect, is highly moral, very kind, ambitious and enthusiastic, childish and feminine. She is the best girl I know along with my mum. Even before watching this video, I knew that she will have any and every green flag there can be. She absolutely HATES casual sex, is much much more mature than the girls her age. She is lovely and I know for a fact, that she will grow in life and push me to close to my limit, but fuck them coz I'll cross them ;) I've been in love with her for more than 4 years, and it increases every day, I love it when she pushes herself and works hard towards her goals, I'm proud of you babe
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I generally like your videos, may not agree 100% always, but you are indeed a pretty good role model for young guys and it's nice to see youtubers who literally have as their goal to help raise the youth. However, I find myself disagreeing with you a lot on this one, mostly because I fear that a lot of guys here will take everything way too literally or try to enforce your advice to the extreme (I'm saying this based on comments I'd seen on other videos: "why is he using his phone while eating, he said he never does that" "why is he eating this while outside with friends? he said he never eats junk" etc). So for all the guys out there: 1)Unfortunately we cannot control our relationship with our father. If it ends up negatively impacting us it's our responsibility to start dealing with the issues as we grow up. Everyone carries baggage though, so giving people a chance is not a bad idea. They are also going to be dealing with your issues. 2)Divorce rates are high, but it's not the kids fault. Yes, it does in a lot of cases leave you with issues that you have to work on, but again, this is the case for everyone. Once you become aware of your problem, you have to start working on it. 3)Whether the girl's mother is attractive or not shouldn't be much of a green/red flag. A mother of an adult girl has gone through pregnancies, thousands of hours of work (for most western households, while in the east they take care of the house bythemselves for the whole family), stress, problems in relationships and generally almost everything that also a man has to deal with on the daily. Now imagine that doing it for double the time that YOU HAVE BEEN ALIVE. Also, my mother's choices are hers, and mine are mine. Having lived in the same house with someone, doesn't automatically make you into the same person. 4)Yes, being kind and honest is importand. Main green flag to look for. 5)Limited hookups is a bit of a tricky one. I think it's generally best if you are with someone who has about the same amount of experience as you. Hamza for example seems to have had his fair share of fun with random people before he decided that he prefers commitement. Does that mean that any girl who is initially interested in him should avoid him because of that? Is he more likely to cheat on her? I certainly don't think so. (Hamza, if you're reading this, I don't know you and I've only seen some videos of yours the past few days so yeah, don't take it personally, just trying to make a point here). Most men who have had random hookups judge girls for that and consider them unfit for a serious relationship, when they have been doing the exact same thing with the type of girls that they so harshly judge. 6)We do have a saying in my language which translates to "show me your friends and I'll tell you who you are". Now, I do believe that it's true to an extent that your closest friends have a big impact on you and also that friendship grows between similar in certain aspects people. But that's the key here. IN CERTAIN ASPECTS. I had an issue with my boyfriend (well, it still remains unsolved but we talk about it here and there) and I once talked about it with two close friends of mine. Both suggested that I lie to him and go ahead and do what I want behind his back and so I did. No, I'm kidding, I even told him I discussed it with them and got surprised by their advice. But that's the point, people will give you stupid advice all the time, even if they are really kind, creative, loving to you otherwise. For anyone who argues that I have bad friends, you don't know them and I've also written a whole essay already, I'm not going to write anymore explaining why they are my friends. If you made it till the end, congrats y'all. Hamza, you make nice videos overall, keep up the great work! And I'd love to see a book recs video from you if other people are interested in that as well. All the best!
I don't encourage anyone to do casual hookups male or female but a promiscuous women shouldn't be compared to promiscuous men because men has to work or have skills to get sex while if you are a women, you just have to exist.
@@kaz9242 Okay, what does that have to do with anything? Weather or not you have a difficult time getting hookups doesn't change the fact that you had hookups and it most certainly does not reduce your body count.
@Jai Statistics aren't everything bro, there are a lot of people out there constantly working on themselves to overcome certain unlucky and uncontrollable circumstances. Chances are your relationship won't be healthy no matter what if you never work on yourself, no matter what environment you grew up in.
Have been with my lady for a while now, following two years of dedication to self improvement, similar to hamzas story. Our bond started with months of nothing but serious conversation about everything imagineable. Fell in love with her largely due to an enormous amount of respect for her mindset and work ethic ive never seen in someone else. Never gave a thought to flags, playing vague games or anything of the sort, never cared for dating before her either, just knew the longer i talked with her that if i will ever find someone worth giving my all, truly my all, it would be her. Luckily for me, the exact same feelings flowed the other way, us both being each other's first and likely forever partner. Though it does not sound to me like these flags you describe would all be necessary, they describe her perfectly.
@@three6ninestudios i won't say my mother is ugly, but is it sensible to judge someone's mother by appearance as the basis of attractiveness for her daughter (the woman you desire)? for example, (if you're a guy) what if you're ugly but your dad's not? the girl might just fuck your dad instead of commiting a long term relationship with you smh. also that's bs. who in the right mind checks out someone's parent??? it's okay to look at them and that's it. why should it boil down to "their mom is a mother I'd love to fuck. her daughter is fuckable for sure" you're probably a guy who calls their mother (or father) ugly and find it funny to laugh about their appearance i don't like to make assumptions; whether if your mother or father is ugly but they seem to raise you quite poorly in the moral aspect. now i could understand if they have shortcomings in being a good parent [financial shortcomings etc.] so try to find, see, realize or identify things that make you a bad son/daughter for them. i apologize in advance if this hurt you (i genuinely do sir/ma'am)
So, half of the flags are things that someone can't even control. You can't choose your family, you can't choose your mother, you can't choose her appearence, and deffinetly you can't change how you are gonna age. You may help it by doing exercise and taking care of yourself but being similar or the completly opposite of your fathers at their age isn't really something you can change. Moreover, you cannot judge a person by the relationship they have with their family. There are some fathers up there that doesn't deserve to have children or neglected them. I would even consider a green flag if someone have really bad familiars and despite that, they managed to overcome that and grow on their own. That's really strong. Same for promiscuity. The number of people you had sex with doesn't determine your personality or your loyalty. The old relationships of your partner are PAST, and you are the PRESENT.
Bro i had a girl in my life that had all these traits but unfortunately she lost interest and that was the moment i realized im a Jeffree and im on self improvement now! Appreciate all the motivation ♥️🔥🔥💪
This video is timed perfectly. First you taught us how to get in shape. Now we're a bit better shape, getting girls, but we have to be careful about it!
Another note on this, I had decided to not date for a while due to personal stuff going on. A few years later I dated someone I thought was it for me, and it really really wasn't lmao. After being alone for so long I didn't realise my own standards had lowered due to the absence of a relationship. I had to re-learn a lot of the things in these videos. After our break-up, the clarity kicked in so hard and I realised that I had forgotten the standards that came naturally before. They had been so dulled that I picked the wrong person to come back to dating for.
Green flags for guys.. 1) Her relationship with her father is good. 2) Her parents are good couples. 3) You see her mother represents genuine respectful feminine trait. 4) She's a kind person, doesn't talk bad about anyone behind bad. 5) She has low or zero casual sex experience. (means she's from a good famil with high values ). 6) She has high quality friends with good values . ✨👌
Sex doesn't mean family values, I know a lot of people who have sex because they come from strict parents and that's their way of feeling in control, it's not black and white, one thing doesn't mean the other always.
This video came just after I had to dump a girl because I literally just asked her out because I knew she liked me. A word of advice: make an effort to be their friend first and don't be too shy to have standards of your own, you're allowed to be picky.
But she should be physically attractive to you too, just to keep as a reminder for you guys. At least that's my opinion because sex is very important in a relationship(generally). Edit: My bad, the mother part covers that.
bro just going to make this short, this video has legitimately pulled me out of a rejection pit that i know was going to lead to incel habits, thank you so much for creating things like this so that i can know that issues come from more than just me.
A green flag doesn't have to mean "only date girls who are like this" just "this is a good sign" and you can of course find good chicks who don't have all these traits
Girls or high quality women aren't chicks first of all if you want someone to treat u with respect you need to be respectful to them as well, efforts come from both sides
its only the ones they don't have in control such as how her mother looks, how her parent's relationships are, and how her dad treated her. the other traits are very well in control and represent them (casual sex as he specifically said 'casual' meaning doesn't account for rape so yes it is also in control)
Don't ever think, "If I'm gonna be that selective I'm never gonna get a girl cuz girls like that don't exist." THEY DO you just have to be patient. You don't need a girlfriend you're just finding the one so don't think you gotta make yourself more available. That's just my opinion; if something works out better for you, go with that. :)
Hamza man, I love your videos. I am a woman, so out of courisity I clicked on this video. My parents are divorced because my dad literarally used to abuse my brother and I: just as you said. My mom isn't attractive but shes got a kind heart which matters significantly more. Like I stated this happened to my brother and I, boy's perspective and girl's. Does that eliminate these being green flags for both of us equally? I am not like the girls you mentioned, I wrestle for starters so I am really strict about who and what goes into my body. Every relationship I have been in involves healthy boundaries and communication.. Every as in 2. Both of which lasted (or are lasting currently) for 1-3 years. ALL IM SAYING is... You can still have respect for yourself as a guy and date a girl with no dad/an abusive one/divorced parents, as long as she has coped with whatever she needs to.
He didn't mean all he is just saying the majority of people with fathers abuse are more likely same as father.. There are exception.. You don't have to feel bad
Any person who works to change themselves, TRULY be introspective and go to therapy for issues like these is perfectly fine. Just don't fall into the mindset of thinking that you're different from your parents or you don't have underlying issues that even you won't find out until very late on in life
i think the main thing about growing up in a "bad" family is how you deal with it yourself. i dont have anyone to look up to in my family and knowing that most of what they do is "wrong", i keep in my mind that i should never adapt their behaviour. i guess it depends on the individual but thats my situation. now i know what to avoid, or whatever idk at this point im gonna say random stuff lol im tired anyways that was that. have a good day ❤
Must challenge all this hagiography: Hamza's advice to a large number of people is too often an explanation he's given himself for one of his own experiences, and he contradicts himself like crazy! We barely notice, though, because he's just so damn mesmerising! Self improvement is difficult because if you go too fast, homeostasis will knock you right back, but if you go too slow you'll stop without noticing! Key words to live by: "I will not give up".
Yup! Truth is, listening to self help guru's is actually quite counterproductive. They're usually either grifter's, or simple minds that teach based off experiences that can't be evenly applied to most
Yup! Truth is, listening to self help guru's is actually quite counterproductive. They're usually either grifter's, or simple minds that teach based off experiences that can't be evenly applied to most
God dang i didnt expect this much of content in 5 mins frfr . I say you had healthy and conservwtive pov towards the subject and i found that intriquing and helpful
He just made me realize all my ex’s had like a bunch of red flags coming, now I literally see them as club b’s that I slept with for some months and if I was seeking healthy love or a realationship I should have focused myself on those who were raised properly and know their values instead of tryna protect a b that was easy to get in the first place.
A lot of young men tend to overlook having base standards of kindness and decent personality in women, too many young men today are so desperate for a woman to be around or sleep with them cause they think it validates their worth. You should not put up with bitterness and shit personalities just because the woman is bad asf.
3:51 "If she leaves you for another, there's always her mother"
my man
Amen
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@@Maniac-007 Yes
@@Maniac-007 master oogwgay*
To be fair, growing up in a bad family environment doesn’t guarantee someone will be bad, and growing up in a great home doesn’t guarantee them to be a great person. The highest quality girl I’ve met came from a terrible family environment with zero good role models, however she is unbelievably moral and genuine. That being said people like this are the exception to the rule but they definitely exist, and you should judge people based on their actions and personality, not things they cannot choose.
Totally agree, because I am one example of that!
Minority doesn't change the stat. As a person pretty much without parents I can tell you that what he says is 100% true. Just because there is few of us exceptions it doesn't change the fact we're deeply broken and in need of alot of work to be normal and healthy to stay around. I'm a guy so it's been easier and girls have it really tough when it comes to self improvement. Majority of people from broken families never recover from it, especially girls since they are not pressured to be better.
I don’t think hamzah was saying if they have a bad family don’t date them, it’s just more something to be weary of. Obviously not every single high quality man / woman will have every box ticked, but it’s just something to be mindful of when going forward with dating them etc
It's more of proper role models presence in life thing I guess. You may have terrible parents but great grandparents, teachers, mentors. Well even neighbors, uncles and aunts.
just wait a few months xd
1-great relationship with father
2-her parents still together
3-her mom is attractive
4-nice personality and kind?
5-limited hookups
6-high quality friendds
= Islam
Except it should be
3- she is attractive.
4 - no hook-ups.
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@@adamali7891 literally, except for us as Muslims it’s no hookups since that’s super haram. But yeah if only people realized Islam solves all of these problems the west is facing right now when it comes to this.
@@TheRealNabil May Allah increase you in understanding, guide us all and keep us steadfast until our last breath. Ameen
@@TheRealNabil while I respect that people find a good path in Islam, I doubt that islam will solve all the problems in the west when it clearly hasn’t solved all the problems in the East. Same can be said about any religion.
@@TheRealNabil while I respect that people find a good path in Islam, I doubt that islam will solve all the problems in the west when it clearly hasn’t solved all the problems in the East. Same can be said about any religion.
Number 3 is wild💀
I am a woman, and I agree with 95% of your videos and love your content as I think it applies to both men and women, however with this one I do personally think it would be better to highlight characteristics, personality traits and choices people make over things that are out of their control such as family issues as the effect of those can be overcome. :)
Environmental issues are not overcome easily or at all. Absurd.
@@datoolz0 they’re not overcome easily but they can be overcome, and I feel very sad for you if you don’t realise that
@@croft4746 You should feel sad for any man dumb enough to fall for that line. Once. I'm sure no one is fool enough to listen twice.
@@croft4746 The same with personality traits, you can change but it's not easy. I've met women with good personality traits and horrible background and they still made auwful choices. So both things matter
@@jamino2012 If you don't have a strong, solid foundation, and don't know how to NOT act like a child for the rest of your life, you always crumble, because that's what matters most when shit hits the fan or when easy but very very deceptive opportunities present themselves. They bash and batter you until they come to a point where they either penetrate your soul or get obliterated. However a strong character is a bit different between men and women, but is still crucial nonetheless. Women who either lacked a father, were SUPER pampered, or were highly abused, usually lack a lot of discipline. Therefore, they cannot consciously distinguish and control the urges they have for shitty men who still make them emotionally confused, which ends up destroying their dignity and virtue, and most of the time attached to shitty and abusive relationships. Society in the west in general will confuse them to think that the more attention and the more independent they get, the mightier they get. But if you have been watching channels like Hamza's by now you realize that that is EVERY MAN's dream not a woman's. We're artificially imposing it on women, just like we're imposing feminine traits in men, hence why they eventually end up in a very shitty situation like artificially feminized men later in life. When we fuck with nature it fucks us back 100x harder EVERYTIME. Remember that folks!
I only agree on flags 5 and 6.
Sometimes we are not blessed with good families, but our traits and how we overcame those struggles should be a green flag.
@Jai it’s what you’re most comfortable with. I wouldn’t say I idolize an physical abusive relationship.
@Jai agreed with him.
they were green flags, so if a girl has a good family its a +, when she doesn't have that its not automaticly a -
Its not like the opposite of these are 100% a red flag
@@leandras1669 He didn't mean you would idolise them, it's just that subconsciously you are going to remember that and carry across how things worked onto your future relationships. If a girl has an abusive father then she'll have daddy issues (if untreated) and be really clingy etc because she didn't get that attention from her dad.
"One of the most liberating feelings in the world is the ability to attract your twin flame."
Ayo it’s Dhruv
Yes bruv
If her body count ain’t zero, don’t be her hero 💯
@@bockman55 "Added to my vocabulary"
@@Jiro997 of stupid quotes?
That party breakdown is the most accurate thing I’ve heard 🤦🏾♂️😂
Lad the baloons bit hahaha spot on
Fax those keys😭😭
Lol, why I never go to college parties. Pit of degeneracy. Hanging out with a smaller group is much more satisfying
i'd kill to go to a party with dancing zyzz
I'm glad I've never experienced this.
*Green flags like emotional maturity, respect for boundaries, and a genuine desire for open communication are essential in any healthy relationship.*
Two days ago I met up with my sister who I haven't talked with for some time. She used to be a party girl, but is now in a very busy life with a crushing work load. Recently I got out of a very toxic relationship and we started chatting about girls I like now. So I mentioned the green flags which are named in this vid and others by Hamza. The reaction i got from her was astounding: She took everything personal, felt offended and actually told me that I had no chance meeting a girl who has these traits since I am 34 years old now. Very disappointing. Made a mental note to never talk with girls again about green flags in girls, because nearly all western girls get offended by at least half of these green flags.
Stay quiet about your preferences with girls gents, I learned the hard way.
She is right though, nearly no girl has all of these. But obviously not because they're exaggerated, but because modern women are trash. These things should be almost guaranteed but they aren't
From a girl's perspective: my mother has a physical disfigurement that definitely lowers her attractiveness quite a bit. She split up with my father when I was a baby. Thankfully, I do have a good relationship with my brother and he's grown up to be a strong person.
You raise good points. From now on I'll pay close attention to the characteristics that are within my control, thank you.
It's cool that girls like you are looking for self-improvement. Keep it up 👍
@@mattrouviere yeah, these type of videos usually just turn into alot of screeching, good to see someone with a flexible brain.
@@mattrouviere thank you
@@gromswowguide7927 Rare to see a woman not feel attacked
honestly, a lot of these points work in reverse, applying them to guys you'll see, a lot of the time, guys with mommy issues or absent father figures can be a major red flag, as well as guys who participate far too much in hookup and party culture, etc.
I'm lowkey traumatised by the sound of the balloon being filled up with NOS. So thankful I'm not in that environment anymore.
Lol
Fuck its so good i miss it
@@AleArno9 lol!?
Saw your short and it was hilarious 😂 😃
i'm sure you must have been FAST AND FURIOUS at that time
This video came in the perfect time, been in the talking stage with this girl for a couple of months (2 months give or take)
And I wasn't sure if I wanted to pursue something more serious with her, this video gave me a massive reality check that this girl is worth my time. She was checking every single green flag in this video.
Time to make my move boys
good luck bud💜🙏
@Sparksender Ever?
Good luck bro!
you have to update us on it, good luck man
All the best
girl here, i definitely agree with the points regarding family life. i do not have a good relationship with my father, i am trying my best to build one up but he was never really around so i’ve suffered through some stuff surrounding him. i think i’m better now, i have made significant progress in trying to make sure i don’t fall for guys who are generally abusive.
and having parents who have a good relationship is SO very important. my parents do not have one and i see how that impacts me and the entire family. it’s exhausting living in this environment, and i think i would be a healthier person if i had grown up in a nice loving family.
to sum it all up, yes it is generally a green flag if your love interest has a good family life. there is huge potentials for it being a red flag if she has has a bad family environment, but not always so; however you should stay cautious.
Aight, booking my appointment in the gym. First time ever. Wish me luck!
Journey to Addonis has begun
how's it going
Hey, I know this video isn't for me, but I want to say that it's so positive to listen to this male perspective - it actually helps me a lot! Not every girl meet can meet these standards (abusive families, parents divorced etc), but there are good women out there who want to work on themselves to meet a strong minded man eventually. You're doing a lot of good here, keep it up.
based woman, we love to see it!
I think this is meant to be seen as general "Green flags" someone doesn't need all green flags to be a good person to be with. It's like a privilege thing.
Although I 100% agree with every single point you have like legit 100% woman can’t really control who their parents are. I believe that the casual sex, personality and friends are the very important ones but family aspect is also insanely important. I love this advice and will keep it in mind from now on, I never truly realized the impact of parents since I turned out quite different compared to my parents.
thats why its "green flags" and not "make or break traits"
Of course, but after she's out of the house she can either be good or bad to her family. That's what he dating to judge on
@@xardev yes, but if someone’s parents are abusive and toxic, that person shouldn’t be obligated to keep in contact with their parents.
@@kate7152 I never said that tf r u on
Exactly lol, let’s say you can’t see her mom cause she’s adopted, what now?
Not all girls with parents that are still married are better off. I’ve known many girls with parents who are married and have their own share of problems. For example, becoming spoiled/entitled by parents or being too sheltered and rebelling through adulthood. What it all comes down to is morals and values.
While parents are a big influence in development through childhood, you also grow as an adult still learning and improving if you choose to. You can’t choose if your parents stay married or not and likewise I’m sure a lot of your followers have divorced parents. However, we do choose how we conduct ourselves as adults and if we want to work through those issues and become better partners to one another.
Not all not all not all... but most
That's why there is another green flag if she has casual sex. You need to take into consideration all the green flag, and there are always exceptions too
HE IS TALKING ABOUT Majority!!!
There are tonnes of girls with massive body counts but almost all other green flags in this video.
So certainly family couldnt do shit. She wasn't a high quality fem to begin with
Bro its just a green flag ofc theres outliers
IM still cracking up at number 3
1 - great relationship with father (is most likely gonna result in a healthy one with you)
2 - her parents still together (if they split up chances are you will)
3 - her mom is attractive (because most girls turn out like them like if you think the mom is hot thats probably how she is gonna look in the future)
4 - nice personality and kind (no need to explain)
5 - low to none body count (if we are over 17)
6 - high quality friends (people are like their friends so if they do drugs or make bad decisions chances are she will)
thats how you find a good quality girl and not somebody that belongs to the streets
As a girl, I want to say thank you for making this video. I've watched too many videos that only had hateful things to say about women and the comments were obnoxious (things like: I'll stay away from women and marriage). It's really important for guys to remember that high value women are out there. Gender wars are just absurd and detrimental overall. If you're resentful towards a whole gender, the problem is within you.
Edit: Wanted to clarify that my marriage reference is about men who see marriage as evil because they see women as evil as well. Nothing to do with why it's better to marry or not and marriage as an institution.
another girl here, and i feel the same
I'll stay away from women and marriage
@@josephstar1883 lmao thanks for the info
@@sxaturnova ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°) the problem is within me, Sensei ...
@@josephstar1883 very true, kohai, get better soon
Point 1 and 2 are so true. My biological father left my mom the moment I was born, and my step father was sexually assaulted me constantly during puberty and beginning of adolescence. It took me about 2 years of therapy and a great mental strength to overcome my periods of depression in order to be fully ready for a relationship. Not everyone has the family that should have, but it's in your possibility to become better
Good job overcoming those trials.I personally do not understand everything that you went through but I still hope you have the will to continue life and bettering yourself
the men like your step-father are the type of men that are considered the men that my dad tells me "Unloveable pigs".These "men" tell themselves they have done bad things in the past and that they will improve but their value will not go higher than a dirty dog on the streets.
In any way shape of form please do not let these type of men change the prespective of how you view men and I hope you feel safe now knowing you have recovered from the bad years.
The point made about the relationship of a girl with her father is so true. Hearing my girlfriend talk about her father can bring tears to my eyes, of how caring and supportive he was. But this story became so tragic and yet even more beautiful when I understood his wife (gf's mother) helped drive him to suicide. It's a messy world, but we are all gonna it bruh.
Editor is on point, I am dead from laughing.
i just wanted to see how i can improve "as a girl" and the first 2 points threw me off loool, there's nothing i could've done about my parents relationship and it really hasn't changed my view on love
It's complete bullshit, most of these things are out of a girl's control. Just be yourself, be a kind, genuine person and don't be toxic to your partner. Your parents still being together has nothing to do with YOUR personality. Just work on bettering yourself and that's all.
I swear parties at this point are just for gettin blackout drunk and generally arent fun
Yeah thats all they have ever been, that's what separates parties from hanging out with the boys. The boys are genuine, party thots ain't
@@victherattlehead5099 and that’s facts, i really enjoy going out with the boys, but just going to random parties it really is lame af, lotta lame ass people doing dumb shit, no, thanks
I’ve been over parties since my junior year of college. I don’t find getting shitfaced to be in my best interest anymore. I’m hoping I can meet girls who are fun, but don’t need to do that for fun. Not easy these days.
They stopped being fun when I was in high school. Back when Facebook wasn’t full with conspiracy boomers, me and my friends use to go to those random neighborhoods Facebook house parties. Let me tell you how scary the vibes were in those parties, like having a bunch of drunk or drugged out gangbangers waiting for anyone to try something. By the time I got to college I was totally over it, and just went to student club events
Then you simply were at the wrong parties
Dudes.
Do not rush a relationship. Figure yourself out before you are forced to figure someone else out. Girl i was dating checked all these green flags and was such a kind and genuine person but my issues got in the way of this and resulted in us splitting. I thank her for this experience and for opening my eyes.
Damn... Every point in this vid makes me think about the girl that I like and i'm telling myself "wow she's perfect". We v'e never been so close together and I think its partly thanks to you, so I would like to thank you for making me do the hard work
Good luck bro.
It would be nice if you keep us updated tbh.
It would give hope to some guys that want to give up.
big W
King
W bro . Do the hard work especially when you don't feel like it.
@@dr.manojbhama6619 now dont kiss ur screen
This man saved my life
Love that there is actually specific and genuine advice fam, as guys we all try to help each other with common qoutes and stereotypes but really we need more specific advice like this because it shows expertise and genuine knowledge that one possesses. I love what you're doing out here for us fam, truly inspiring.
i'm glad the people in the comments actually have some sense. there's nothing wrong with avoiding these traits i do agree that most women & people like this in general are no good for long term relationships, but i do feel with each passing year more and more people of these fucked up backgrounds get better and reject the toxicity they were raised in.
my only point is, you shouldn't fully discriminate against circumstances people had no control over. you should be perceptive enough to understand who fully embraced & who rejected the bad environments they were raised in.
Of course, in the end you should make your own evaluation and judgement on whether or not the person is worth your time. These are merely "flags," and are supposed to be a general guideline, not a definitive formula. Follow your good judgement, basically.
Not really for women, it’s the you’re perfect in every way mantra that they preach now. There’s more burden placed on men to be better and overcome there issues. Especially young women who blame everything on men and them the victims. A victim doesn’t see the need to improve.
PREACH 🙌
@@adio8824 I’m not like that, and I know plenty of other woman aren’t like that too. Avoid unfair women who lack compassion and responsibility, the same way I avoid men who are like that.
Bad family is only 1 red flag
If she has a lot of green flags but only 1 red flag, i guess its not a big deal
Props to the editors cause what u guys do is 🔥
okay.. this editing is hard to look away from.. it is insanely engaging. this took hours or days no doubt.
bro stop making me overthink my relationship now when finally im happy jesus
"Just like when you got chewing gum at school everyone becomes your friend" so relatable. I once brought gum and everyone swarmed me trying to get one
Bro kudos to Hamza. Man’s speaking truth like no one else today.
Hitting the gym after watching this! Thank you big brother Hamza 💪
We have lockdown, can gym only before work at 5:30 am:(
@@etienne2805 hit the gym really early and get to work right after, it’s my morning routine, I heavily recommend this
Im so glad that im pulling my self out of negative surroundings thanks to hamza
Sam deserves an award for edditing this. So much intricacy
Nice to know i’m doing all the right things
bro your videos just keep getting better and better
🤔
Whoever created this wojack with references like Berserk, you sir have my utmost respect.
Editor is doing one heck of a job, hamza being the wise big brother as always❤️
this vid is helping me get over my breakup, she's literally the opposite of all these green flags
1:42 nice, the 48 laws of power, would recommend
i fucking love this frequency, keep up with the good work
I'm just so glad to be a part of this man circle
I feel like Hamza is my big bro. These advices are amazing never even thought about them before. But they make 100% sense
Hey! girl's pov around here: although I do love my parents, I cannot control who they are, and that's kind of important, you know? Sometimes everything we can do is respect where life has taken them and what they were able to do with it, also taking the bad experiences as examples of what *not* to do.
Don't close your minds to everyone who's not part of the royal family, y'all. Just be kind and seek for kindness too, it can come from highly unexpected places!
I think this can also apply to men as well. Instead of having a good relationship with the father, he has a good relationship with his mom and so and so.
1 min in the video. The editing is crazy 🔥
The part where Hamza hugged his dad genuinely put a smile on my face. It reminds me of my own father and how grateful I am for him since he is honestly a role model to me. He does have his flaws since he isn’t in particularly good shape and has a dad bod, but he shows me the true value of hard work, planning and determination. He on his own basically carries my family financially and with those funds he took me and my brother to great schools outside of the shit country I lived in (Bolivia). Even with all this COVID crap, he always stood high knowing that things would work out if we just kept trying and adjusting our plans as we go, looking for the best probable outcome. I think this is why I always like people who have good relationships with their parents, it just says a lot about the person your with and the people who surround them.
Honest to god, thank you for this video Hamza. I recently got a girl liking me for pretty much the first time and she actively pursuits my attention, but because of lack of experience, I wasn't certain about what kind of process would I be diving into. I am grateful for your channel
from a girls perspective, this is very helpful i only see people talk about red flags...
Alright now i got to know the red flags in myself
“why is everyone smelling keys??” 😂😂
Legendary animations. Hamza and editor youre geniuses
Gotta love the edits man,the first minute had me dying with Jeffrey being an imbecile and hamza being the frog lover🤣
As an exception to GF 2, my parents were (and LEGALLY still are) together for the past 30 or so years. Recently, I’ve learnt my father has cheated on four separate occasions at least and now I find some semblance of solace in these videos Hamza, Ty for helping others to think about improving themselves. I for one aim to be better than my father.
this guy is straight up saving lifes
The thing about the mother isn't always true, I know someone who is very different from her mother in every way, and much closer to her grandmother in terms of caring about herself etc. The mother used to try to suppress in her whatever she didn't like for herself, but in the end it was who she was and became a totally different woman than her mother.
If I would've seen this video 3 years ago I wouldn't have wasted these 3 years and my health on a girl that cheated on me and just broke up with her 2 hours ago. Thanks for giving me an idea for what to avoid in the future. You are awesome!
Nice vid once again hamza, also i think the part where you explain how adonis got to where he is today was very nice as sometimes it can feel like adonis always has been perfect (i don't think so, but others might interpret it as such and feel bad about themselves and in turn don't even want to try to be like adonis, because they themselves are not perfect right now and therefore have not always been perfect already according to their view of adonis). Keep it up big brother
Yooo this guy is speaking facts 💯💯💯
I think the relationship with the Mother is very important too. I dated a woman who's relationship with her mother was so vitriolic and toxic that it was nothing but pure hatred for each other, but she'd always say I just don't understand their relationship and to never defend her. That same manipulation and toxicity eventually bled into our own relationship.
I would also say that 90% of the women in my family have a Mother-Daughter hate relationship. They say they love each other, but frequently have up to an hour long screaming matches over literally nothing. So if I ever meet a woman who has a positive relationship with her mother that is beyond a green flag to me, because if she matches up well with me and is the one. I don't have to worry about her going into a default hatred mode if any of the children end up being daughters.
This channel is BASED. Based on human evolution psychology. Speaking nothing but facts (y) Really agree that everyone should take these into consideration. Of course these are not the rules for a perfect girl - might help you decide between more than one option though :)
You crease me up whilst also giving 10/10 advice. One of the best and most real content creators
Lmao the editing is hilarious, perfect for Zoomers with 3ms attention spans
true
5 and 6 are actually the things most of us need to keep in mind.
It's not about where they came from
The real value is in who they are and where they're going.
Shit happens and most (I should say all) of us get mixed in with the wrong crowd at varying stages of their lives, either due to family or peer pressure, finances, etc
I'd rather date a girl who grew up without a father and has a higher-than-zero body count but is friendly to others, kind, smart, and trying to go to school and do good with their life vs instead dating a girl who has both her parent's and is still a virgin, but is a massive narcissist who plans to sponge off of either a husband or her parents, doing nothing productice with herself, and has less of a personality than a cardboard box.
Always look for women (or men, whatever you like) who are going somewhere with their life and have a shining personality. I always ask myself, "Once we're old and our looks and bodies are gone, would I still be attracted to her?"
I'm more than happy with the girl I am rn. She's amazing in every way you can think of. An amazing relationship with her parents, treats everyone with respect, is highly moral, very kind, ambitious and enthusiastic, childish and feminine. She is the best girl I know along with my mum. Even before watching this video, I knew that she will have any and every green flag there can be.
She absolutely HATES casual sex, is much much more mature than the girls her age. She is lovely and I know for a fact, that she will grow in life and push me to close to my limit, but fuck them coz I'll cross them ;) I've been in love with her for more than 4 years, and it increases every day, I love it when she pushes herself and works hard towards her goals, I'm proud of you babe
Based
@@kagakudoragon what does that mean kindly explain.
@@rubit1017 According To Urban Dictionary…
“A word used when you agree with something; or when you want to recognize someone for being themselves, i.e. courageous and unique or not caring what others think. Especially common in online political slang.
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I hope I can find that one day
How lovely :)
I will be watching this video everytime I start developing feelings for someone or come close to them.
Every thing you said has been true.
I generally like your videos, may not agree 100% always, but you are indeed a pretty good role model for young guys and it's nice to see youtubers who literally have as their goal to help raise the youth. However, I find myself disagreeing with you a lot on this one, mostly because I fear that a lot of guys here will take everything way too literally or try to enforce your advice to the extreme (I'm saying this based on comments I'd seen on other videos: "why is he using his phone while eating, he said he never does that" "why is he eating this while outside with friends? he said he never eats junk" etc).
So for all the guys out there:
1)Unfortunately we cannot control our relationship with our father. If it ends up negatively impacting us it's our responsibility to start dealing with the issues as we grow up. Everyone carries baggage though, so giving people a chance is not a bad idea. They are also going to be dealing with your issues.
2)Divorce rates are high, but it's not the kids fault. Yes, it does in a lot of cases leave you with issues that you have to work on, but again, this is the case for everyone. Once you become aware of your problem, you have to start working on it.
3)Whether the girl's mother is attractive or not shouldn't be much of a green/red flag. A mother of an adult girl has gone through pregnancies, thousands of hours of work (for most western households, while in the east they take care of the house bythemselves for the whole family), stress, problems in relationships and generally almost everything that also a man has to deal with on the daily. Now imagine that doing it for double the time that YOU HAVE BEEN ALIVE. Also, my mother's choices are hers, and mine are mine. Having lived in the same house with someone, doesn't automatically make you into the same person.
4)Yes, being kind and honest is importand. Main green flag to look for.
5)Limited hookups is a bit of a tricky one. I think it's generally best if you are with someone who has about the same amount of experience as you. Hamza for example seems to have had his fair share of fun with random people before he decided that he prefers commitement. Does that mean that any girl who is initially interested in him should avoid him because of that? Is he more likely to cheat on her? I certainly don't think so. (Hamza, if you're reading this, I don't know you and I've only seen some videos of yours the past few days so yeah, don't take it personally, just trying to make a point here). Most men who have had random hookups judge girls for that and consider them unfit for a serious relationship, when they have been doing the exact same thing with the type of girls that they so harshly judge.
6)We do have a saying in my language which translates to "show me your friends and I'll tell you who you are". Now, I do believe that it's true to an extent that your closest friends have a big impact on you and also that friendship grows between similar in certain aspects people. But that's the key here. IN CERTAIN ASPECTS. I had an issue with my boyfriend (well, it still remains unsolved but we talk about it here and there) and I once talked about it with two close friends of mine. Both suggested that I lie to him and go ahead and do what I want behind his back and so I did. No, I'm kidding, I even told him I discussed it with them and got surprised by their advice. But that's the point, people will give you stupid advice all the time, even if they are really kind, creative, loving to you otherwise. For anyone who argues that I have bad friends, you don't know them and I've also written a whole essay already, I'm not going to write anymore explaining why they are my friends.
If you made it till the end, congrats y'all.
Hamza, you make nice videos overall, keep up the great work! And I'd love to see a book recs video from you if other people are interested in that as well. All the best!
Right i cant control that my father was a bad person. I can only control being a better woman.
I don't encourage anyone to do casual hookups male or female but a promiscuous women shouldn't be compared to promiscuous men because men has to work or have skills to get sex while if you are a women, you just have to exist.
@@kaz9242 Okay, what does that have to do with anything? Weather or not you have a difficult time getting hookups doesn't change the fact that you had hookups and it most certainly does not reduce your body count.
@Jai Statistics aren't everything bro, there are a lot of people out there constantly working on themselves to overcome certain unlucky and uncontrollable circumstances. Chances are your relationship won't be healthy no matter what if you never work on yourself, no matter what environment you grew up in.
@@jasoncoenen4720 that's why these are green flags to look for and not being a literal guide or red flags that you should completely avoid bro
Can you make one of Green Flags on Men?
Have been with my lady for a while now, following two years of dedication to self improvement, similar to hamzas story. Our bond started with months of nothing but serious conversation about everything imagineable. Fell in love with her largely due to an enormous amount of respect for her mindset and work ethic ive never seen in someone else. Never gave a thought to flags, playing vague games or anything of the sort, never cared for dating before her either, just knew the longer i talked with her that if i will ever find someone worth giving my all, truly my all, it would be her. Luckily for me, the exact same feelings flowed the other way, us both being each other's first and likely forever partner.
Though it does not sound to me like these flags you describe would all be necessary, they describe her perfectly.
Lmaooo bruh you had me till the mother part like bro that’s not always the case bro 💀
i think that's creepy imo
“3: Would you date her mother is important.”
You can get an idea on how your girl will look when she starts to age by looking at her mother.
🚩 red flag for girls if a guy checks out a girl's mother. that creepy af
@@macshaneeee why you insecure? Is yo mama ugly? Lmao
What if she looks like her dad?
@@three6ninestudios i won't say my mother is ugly, but is it sensible to judge someone's mother by appearance as the basis of attractiveness for her daughter (the woman you desire)?
for example, (if you're a guy) what if you're ugly but your dad's not? the girl might just fuck your dad instead of commiting a long term relationship with you smh. also that's bs. who in the right mind checks out someone's parent??? it's okay to look at them and that's it. why should it boil down to "their mom is a mother I'd love to fuck. her daughter is fuckable for sure"
you're probably a guy who calls their mother (or father) ugly and find it funny to laugh about their appearance
i don't like to make assumptions; whether if your mother or father is ugly but they seem to raise you quite poorly in the moral aspect. now i could understand if they have shortcomings in being a good parent [financial shortcomings etc.] so try to find, see, realize or identify things that make you a bad son/daughter for them. i apologize in advance if this hurt you (i genuinely do sir/ma'am)
@@three6ninestudios also i noticed that you have a solid black icon as your profile pic; i'm not insecure to hide my face. we're different.
Finally after 2 years i am now quite sure that I choose the wrong girl , and now it time to correct that .
So, half of the flags are things that someone can't even control. You can't choose your family, you can't choose your mother, you can't choose her appearence, and deffinetly you can't change how you are gonna age.
You may help it by doing exercise and taking care of yourself but being similar or the completly opposite of your fathers at their age isn't really something you can change. Moreover, you cannot judge a person by the relationship they have with their family. There are some fathers up there that doesn't deserve to have children or neglected them.
I would even consider a green flag if someone have really bad familiars and despite that, they managed to overcome that and grow on their own. That's really strong. Same for promiscuity. The number of people you had sex with doesn't determine your personality or your loyalty. The old relationships of your partner are PAST, and you are the PRESENT.
You are coping so hard it's hilarious. Simply accept that you're not wife material and move on. Real men don't want damaged,used up goods.
Bro i had a girl in my life that had all these traits but unfortunately she lost interest and that was the moment i realized im a Jeffree and im on self improvement now! Appreciate all the motivation ♥️🔥🔥💪
This video is timed perfectly.
First you taught us how to get in shape.
Now we're a bit better shape, getting girls, but we have to be careful about it!
Another note on this, I had decided to not date for a while due to personal stuff going on. A few years later I dated someone I thought was it for me, and it really really wasn't lmao. After being alone for so long I didn't realise my own standards had lowered due to the absence of a relationship. I had to re-learn a lot of the things in these videos. After our break-up, the clarity kicked in so hard and I realised that I had forgotten the standards that came naturally before. They had been so dulled that I picked the wrong person to come back to dating for.
Green flags for guys..
1) Her relationship with her father is good.
2) Her parents are good couples.
3) You see her mother represents genuine respectful feminine trait.
4) She's a kind person, doesn't talk bad about anyone behind bad.
5) She has low or zero casual sex experience. (means she's from a good famil with high values ).
6) She has high quality friends with good values . ✨👌
She has low or zero sexual casual experience? Haha
If you are a guy you can fuck a lot of girls,if you are a girl and want to have sex with multiple people you are a bitch xD
@@soar_dfuzr7514 whaaaat
If her body count ain’t zero, don’t be her hero 💯
Sex doesn't mean family values, I know a lot of people who have sex because they come from strict parents and that's their way of feeling in control, it's not black and white, one thing doesn't mean the other always.
My crush is good on first 5 but her best friend is the most toxic creature created and discovered on the planet
This video came just after I had to dump a girl because I literally just asked her out because I knew she liked me. A word of advice: make an effort to be their friend first and don't be too shy to have standards of your own, you're allowed to be picky.
1:48 that sound lmao
great video btw
But she should be physically attractive to you too, just to keep as a reminder for you guys. At least that's my opinion because sex is very important in a relationship(generally).
Edit: My bad, the mother part covers that.
I don’t regret breaking up now 💪🏻
bro just going to make this short, this video has legitimately pulled me out of a rejection pit that i know was going to lead to incel habits, thank you so much for creating things like this so that i can know that issues come from more than just me.
A green flag doesn't have to mean "only date girls who are like this" just "this is a good sign" and you can of course find good chicks who don't have all these traits
Girls or high quality women aren't chicks first of all if you want someone to treat u with respect you need to be respectful to them as well, efforts come from both sides
its only the ones they don't have in control such as how her mother looks, how her parent's relationships are, and how her dad treated her. the other traits are very well in control and represent them (casual sex as he specifically said 'casual' meaning doesn't account for rape so yes it is also in control)
Don't ever think, "If I'm gonna be that selective I'm never gonna get a girl cuz girls like that don't exist." THEY DO you just have to be patient. You don't need a girlfriend you're just finding the one so don't think you gotta make yourself more available. That's just my opinion; if something works out better for you, go with that. :)
Hamza man, I love your videos. I am a woman, so out of courisity I clicked on this video. My parents are divorced because my dad literarally used to abuse my brother and I: just as you said. My mom isn't attractive but shes got a kind heart which matters significantly more. Like I stated this happened to my brother and I, boy's perspective and girl's. Does that eliminate these being green flags for both of us equally? I am not like the girls you mentioned, I wrestle for starters so I am really strict about who and what goes into my body. Every relationship I have been in involves healthy boundaries and communication.. Every as in 2. Both of which lasted (or are lasting currently) for 1-3 years. ALL IM SAYING is... You can still have respect for yourself as a guy and date a girl with no dad/an abusive one/divorced parents, as long as she has coped with whatever she needs to.
He didn't mean all he is just saying the majority of people with fathers abuse are more likely same as father.. There are exception.. You don't have to feel bad
Any person who works to change themselves, TRULY be introspective and go to therapy for issues like these is perfectly fine. Just don't fall into the mindset of thinking that you're different from your parents or you don't have underlying issues that even you won't find out until very late on in life
i love that he showed him reading the 48 laws of power
Can‘t help but love people who are hilariously funny and informative at the same time
i think the main thing about growing up in a "bad" family is how you deal with it yourself. i dont have anyone to look up to in my family and knowing that most of what they do is "wrong", i keep in my mind that i should never adapt their behaviour. i guess it depends on the individual but thats my situation. now i know what to avoid, or whatever idk at this point im gonna say random stuff lol im tired anyways that was that. have a good day ❤
Must challenge all this hagiography: Hamza's advice to a large number of people is too often an explanation he's given himself for one of his own experiences, and he contradicts himself like crazy! We barely notice, though, because he's just so damn mesmerising!
Self improvement is difficult because if you go too fast, homeostasis will knock you right back, but if you go too slow you'll stop without noticing! Key words to live by: "I will not give up".
Yup! Truth is, listening to self help guru's is actually quite counterproductive. They're usually either grifter's, or simple minds that teach based off experiences that can't be evenly applied to most
Yup! Truth is, listening to self help guru's is actually quite counterproductive. They're usually either grifter's, or simple minds that teach based off experiences that can't be evenly applied to most
Yo Hamza, "48 Laws of Power" is an interesting book, isn't it?
God dang i didnt expect this much of content in 5 mins frfr . I say you had healthy and conservwtive pov towards the subject and i found that intriquing and helpful
He just made me realize all my ex’s had like a bunch of red flags coming, now I literally see them as club b’s that I slept with for some months and if I was seeking healthy love or a realationship I should have focused myself on those who were raised properly and know their values instead of tryna protect a b that was easy to get in the first place.
A lot of young men tend to overlook having base standards of kindness and decent personality in women, too many young men today are so desperate for a woman to be around or sleep with them cause they think it validates their worth. You should not put up with bitterness and shit personalities just because the woman is bad asf.
1.-3. is badly wrong
Care to explain why