Narcissist HATE when you go no contact

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  • @Candace-Hooker
    @Candace-Hooker 9 місяців тому +170

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      @Candace-Hooker 9 місяців тому

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  • @olganunez5965
    @olganunez5965 10 місяців тому +197

    Because they can't control me

    • @knoxx1111
      @knoxx1111 10 місяців тому +7

      💯

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  10 місяців тому +17

      That’s a big part

    • @safeeffective385
      @safeeffective385 9 місяців тому +5

      Control is EVERYTHING to a true NPD case.

    • @debbiechadwick861
      @debbiechadwick861 9 місяців тому

      Kudos to you for becoming self aware. 👏 I wonder if it was a slow process or a sudden shock. Does it take ongoing practice?

    • @kenyonhardy7560
      @kenyonhardy7560 9 місяців тому

      She broke up with me over an argument prior to before that she was accusing me of cheating and the one time me and her family get into a fuss she packs all my belongings and every memory we made over the years and now she is reaching out asking me do I want things out the house and how she found this and did I want it… I told her I don’t keep it those were bought for us but now for you so enjoy it… I’m sure she didn’t like that response but I know she needs counseling which I offered to go with her to work it out but now she is on her own and when she hits rock bottom I don’t want to be the first person she calls because it’s affecting me and she is so happy moving on making me seem like I was the monster when I was the victim catering to her every needs…

  • @knoxx1111
    @knoxx1111 10 місяців тому +158

    Breaking no contact after years was the biggest mistake I’ve ever made. Back to 2 weeks no contact.

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  10 місяців тому +38

      Stay strong

    • @knoxx1111
      @knoxx1111 10 місяців тому +14

      @@MentalHealness Thank you. I really appreciate it. Your videos have been helping a lot. You truly do help people.

    • @movingsaudade6028
      @movingsaudade6028 9 місяців тому +6

      What did you break no contact for?😮

    • @cthnc53
      @cthnc53 9 місяців тому +4

      I’m 1.5 weeks. I’m going through it but I’m standing firm. I’ve been buckling down in my business and srudies

    • @knoxx1111
      @knoxx1111 9 місяців тому

      @@cthnc53 stay strong. Sending positive vibes your way. 💫🫶🏻💜

  • @mortischahicks5341
    @mortischahicks5341 10 місяців тому +208

    I have been NO Contact for 69 days now! I love my life again. I am glad that I got out. These are some horrible, evil, and weird people. Just walk away and don't look 👀 back! Keep it moving to a better you! No Contact! No Contact! It works. Be strong and good luck 👍 Stay No Contact and don't go back!

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  10 місяців тому +17

      Stay empowered

    • @anneyoung2310
      @anneyoung2310 9 місяців тому +16

      Thank you for saying it "horrible, evil, and weird." No one talks about how embarrassingly weird they can be.

    • @natalyalomakina3800
      @natalyalomakina3800 9 місяців тому

      @@anneyoung2310 exactly!! I still have to pass through the communication with this evil person as my clothes left in his house and I am so tired of his evil attitude. These people is crazy as the whole family, it’s narcissistic cult 👍🏼

    • @cthnc53
      @cthnc53 9 місяців тому +9

      1.5 weeks. I’m going through it but I will stand firm.

    • @inaphtali6176
      @inaphtali6176 9 місяців тому +8

      No contact 3 months praises be to the peace that God has bestowed priceless 🙏🏽 keep moving on its our life not theirs.

  • @sanatm
    @sanatm 9 місяців тому +26

    when he was ghosting me, my stomach use to pain ,i got breathing issue out of nowhere , i use to cry for no reason ,i always was sweating for some reason , i was in fear and never knew why. the moment i blocked him, everything healed in unexpected ways. it is more like he came and these problems entered ,i removed him, my all problems left. wasn't feeling this normal for years .finally feeling AWESOME .i stopped feeling exhausted. i am breathing normal without any treatment because it was him that made me feel worse.

  • @lynnanderson1923
    @lynnanderson1923 9 місяців тому +79

    It's mind blowing that they cannot accept it's their behaviour that's the problem. In their minds it must be because you have someone else 🤯

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  9 місяців тому +14

      it slowly destroys them from the inside out

    • @Kat-zl8pz
      @Kat-zl8pz 9 місяців тому +4

      @@MentalHealness ive been no contact for 2 years but i wonder sometimes if he's happy or living in regret

    • @BashayG7175
      @BashayG7175 9 місяців тому +1

      I've been 2 weeks with no contact with my ex narc gf and she just keeps texting and texting with no response

  • @marycampeau9378
    @marycampeau9378 10 місяців тому +91

    i assumed he was embarrassed to have to admit that, after 20 years, i want nothing to do with him

  • @Kat-zl8pz
    @Kat-zl8pz 10 місяців тому +68

    Not my narc. He gave silent treatment first and i went no contact cold
    Turkey blocked deleted everywhere changed my number. He's so used to giving silent treatment for days weeks months.. i am done for good. It's been 2 years now. No pop ups.

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  9 місяців тому +11

      stay safe and empowered

    • @pl1763
      @pl1763 9 місяців тому +11

      Same. He was playing the triangulation game and he stopped calling so I didn’t call either. Then he started messaging me. Wouldn’t call but kept messaging and the communication was weird. Then he went silent again and that’s when I blocked him and deleted everything. I know he wanted me to chase him but I was finally done. It’s been 4 years.
      I’m glad you got your power back.

    • @Kat-zl8pz
      @Kat-zl8pz 9 місяців тому

      @@pl1763 thanks for sharing and as unfortunate as the whole experience thank you for the reassurance. 🙏🏼

    • @Kharizmah
      @Kharizmah 9 місяців тому +1

      Mine went in an interesting order. He popped up twice, broke In through a window. The second time he did a drive by. I left the state. After 4 months I tried to contact him to get a divorce. So as payback he blocked me and deleted everything. So now still trying to do divorce by publication…

  • @mercyrahma9501
    @mercyrahma9501 10 місяців тому +85

    No contact for life !!!!🙌 God willing

  • @Annie-ol3jx
    @Annie-ol3jx 9 місяців тому +59

    Who cares why they hate it, we have to always do what we have to do for ourselves. I've been no contact for almost 6 years now, beautiful thing!!!! It's time to take care of self in 2024, let's go people ❤❤

    • @cthnc53
      @cthnc53 9 місяців тому +2

      Amen. I’m
      Working to be strong as you

    • @Annie-ol3jx
      @Annie-ol3jx 9 місяців тому +3

      @@cthnc53 you are already, just you sharing your thoughts with everyone!! Keep pushing, love you❤️

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  9 місяців тому +4

      🙏🏽

    • @Bob-zh6dw
      @Bob-zh6dw 9 місяців тому +4

      Been in No Contact for 4-1/2 years now. She tried to Hoover me several times in the last couple of months. I did not respond.

    • @Annie-ol3jx
      @Annie-ol3jx 9 місяців тому +6

      @@Bob-zh6dw that's right,don't ever go back no matter what!! You can and will do 10000% better. You deserve the best 👌

  • @itchyscratchy7167
    @itchyscratchy7167 9 місяців тому +48

    He thinks he is in control by stonewalling me. All I've done is educate myself.

    • @cthnc53
      @cthnc53 9 місяців тому +4

      Right. I’m on 1.5 weeks. It’s hard but I’m determining to stand firm. I know the man for me is out there

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  9 місяців тому +1

      🙏🏽💯

  • @pendennis123
    @pendennis123 9 місяців тому +45

    I stayed for 12 years and it’s taken a whole 2years of no contact to even begin to feel like my old self and parts of that self are gone forever now. Take my advice and don’t hang on in there. Every year you stay destroys you a little more.

    • @knoxx1111
      @knoxx1111 9 місяців тому +5

      so true. Congrats on 2 years no contact. I agree that they can forever change us especially if we were with them for many years.
      Sending positive vibes your way. ♥️

    • @nabilc1667
      @nabilc1667 9 місяців тому +2

      Congrats 💪🏻

    • @ladyvirgo013
      @ladyvirgo013 9 місяців тому +1

      12 years for me as well. Huge mistake on my part

  • @donnadaniels5095
    @donnadaniels5095 Місяць тому +1

    They don't have to worry about me,They never did like me,I forgave Them and I moved on✌️❤

  • @RealLadi228
    @RealLadi228 9 місяців тому +16

    They never like what they do to others
    Especially Abandonment

  • @priscillarose_
    @priscillarose_ 9 місяців тому +18

    8 months no contact and I’ve lived-slept - worked - think and feel peaceful . I take full accountability for what I allowed and from I had not healed from within.

  • @dargonliu
    @dargonliu 10 місяців тому +54

    After 2yrs the narc gave up and good riddance too! I see no weird fake friend requests anymore, no flying monkeys in my dm anymore. He moved onto the next supply. What a relief tho🎉

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  9 місяців тому +3

      stay strong

    • @TheBossLady85
      @TheBossLady85 9 місяців тому +2

      Nah, he tried for a whole 2 years. He will come back again because they can't maintain a relationship. When the new supply offends him, he will try to get you back as a side piece. Stay alert!

  • @bklynqn8325
    @bklynqn8325 10 місяців тому +61

    He has zero self control....there's no way in 10 hells he can control me! I could care less what he thinks or says about me! 😂😂 🤡

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  10 місяців тому +2

      😆

    • @bklynqn8325
      @bklynqn8325 10 місяців тому +2

      @@MentalHealness Thank you for your work Lee! Your transparency is helping so many heal! Sending you healing energy and light (with caution ⚠) You are aware and trying!!😘

    • @anneyoung2310
      @anneyoung2310 9 місяців тому

      They can't control themselves enough to respect anyone's privacy, abstain from trying to mentally molest and manipulate others for a day,...etc. They are sick addicts.

  • @IanM-id8or
    @IanM-id8or 10 місяців тому +41

    My sister was smearing me before I went no contact. She stalked me incessantly for 15 years afterward - until I returned her last letter marked "RTS DEC'D". It's been 15 years since then - now she only occasionally stalks me.
    I haven't broken no contact. She remains obsessed.
    I ended up losing literally all my "friends". They were mostly narcissists and their flying monkeys too. If you're brought up to be narcissistically abused you'll get more narcs.
    I've got real friends now

    • @InkdNXS
      @InkdNXS 9 місяців тому +1

      Same here. She admittedly hates me because I was born. She was quite mean and abusive until I got big enough to defend myself. She went so far as to marry an ex-boyfriend that she has had to support for almost 40 years now.

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  9 місяців тому +1

      oh my goodness

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  9 місяців тому +2

      I really hate to hear that

    • @deneendemosthenes9921
      @deneendemosthenes9921 9 місяців тому

      That sounds like my life.

    • @ReeseFlynn8mmun
      @ReeseFlynn8mmun 9 місяців тому +1

      Sounds like my life, but I don't have any friends just me and my kids and grandkids, I've been no contact for the 3rd and last time( I finally did it right!!! My sister always said , she was the one that guit talking to me that's when I knew she wanted complete control, if you answer the phone or the door , it's like inviting the devil in, I had to learn no contact means no contact, Don't answer the phone or the door, and get rid of Facebook they constantly make new fake names .you sound strong , that's inspiring to me!!

  • @vera-pr9oo
    @vera-pr9oo 10 місяців тому +31

    I know from experience, if they look at you and say if o can't have you...Noone can,they mean that.Crazy

  • @nicolebeard6051
    @nicolebeard6051 9 місяців тому +24

    I went no contact AND changed my phone number after the last hoovering attempt. I blocked him after I filed for divorce in 2022 but he texted me from a new phone number. As much as I wanted to tell him about himself, I decided to ignore the message and change my phone number. I hope that keeps him from contacting me. I know he will not change, he will only get worse as the years go by. No thanks.

    • @stephaniepetion6100
      @stephaniepetion6100 9 місяців тому +3

      I am glad you stand your ground Friend. You are not alone🙏

    • @aylara84
      @aylara84 9 місяців тому +4

      Exactly! With age they only get worse 100%

    • @nicolebeard6051
      @nicolebeard6051 9 місяців тому +2

      @@aylara84 agreed! My narcissistic father is in his 70s and has gotten worse over the years

  • @simongore29
    @simongore29 9 місяців тому +13

    My former father was grandiose narcissist, my former mother was a vulnerable narcissist. I was disowned by them 13 years ago. All I did was hold them accountable for their actions and maintain no contact for 13 years and counting. They were not invited to my wedding or graduation and they have never met my daughter. Until I saved my daughter's life, this was the best decision I ever made. I'm a free man and I'm happy. No contact really works

    • @nabilc1667
      @nabilc1667 9 місяців тому +1

      I'm sorry you have such parents who violated you. No contact is the only option left yes

    • @keenyah333
      @keenyah333 9 місяців тому

      Aw man 💔 sorry they haven’t met your daughter . Gotta protect yourself and her ❤

    • @simongore29
      @simongore29 9 місяців тому +1

      Please, no one be sorry. I'm happy now. Those people were child abusers. We are all better without that in our lives - I'm certainly not going to let things like that happen to my child, as they did to me. But I appreciate your support - thank you

  •  10 місяців тому +22

    survived two narc relationships and a narc parent at 21 ❤ thank god.

  • @robinjohnson1003
    @robinjohnson1003 9 місяців тому +10

    He would pop up at my job & knew my work schedule. I stopped working consistent hours & picked up a random schedule. He knew that I knew who he really was & I went no contact even harder I deactivated all of my social media accounts & avoid going to common places. Been over 9 months & I’m never going back to that broken shell of a person. Safe & unbothered living in my truth.

  • @rsj4192
    @rsj4192 10 місяців тому +29

    I've gone no contact for the last 3 weeks and I feel GREAT! And the icing on the cake is he's doing the same 🙏🏽

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  10 місяців тому +4

      You got this!

    • @rsj4192
      @rsj4192 10 місяців тому +2

      @@MentalHealness ❤️

    • @phoenixfaithvisions9154
      @phoenixfaithvisions9154 10 місяців тому +2

      Wait til it’s a year. Don’t go back because if the roles were reversed they wouldn’t.

  • @kevabrown9387
    @kevabrown9387 10 місяців тому +23

    It’s been almost a good month since I’ve gone No Contact. I think that person is finally gone. Thank ya Jesus!!

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  9 місяців тому +4

      stay empowered

    • @Tom-ig3li
      @Tom-ig3li 9 місяців тому +5

      WARNING. they are never gone.

    • @queenr.480
      @queenr.480 9 місяців тому +1

      I second that ☝🏾

    • @LaMesaC
      @LaMesaC 9 місяців тому

      ​​@Tom-ig3li DAM!! Really😡 Four months NC and divorcing with RO on mine.

    • @kevabrown9387
      @kevabrown9387 9 місяців тому

      @@Tom-ig3li you don’t think so, it’s been almost two months

  • @anneyoung2310
    @anneyoung2310 9 місяців тому +9

    I'm confused, and the comments confirm what I am about to say: we are trying to do exactly what you said they fear. I.e. the fear is surprisingly accurate, and one a normal person deals with on some level in any relationship, but a narcissist sees others as their property. That's 100% on them. They will pull out all stops to try to prevent no contact. They have no power over an emotional fortress.

  • @nzponch
    @nzponch 9 місяців тому +31

    I couldn't give a rats a if they hate it or not. Is for my mental wellbeing not theres 🤷‍♂️

  • @tubegen11
    @tubegen11 9 місяців тому +9

    He told me no one will want you..boy did I show him 😊

  • @espiritu_
    @espiritu_ 9 місяців тому +7

    My husband and I decided to go NC with his mom. She didn’t like it and randomly showed up to our house one day. When asked why she crossed a personal boundary and showed up she said that she “just wanted to drive by HER sons house”. That statement alone showed me that she sees him as a possession.

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  9 місяців тому +1

      oh my goodness

    • @empressb444
      @empressb444 9 місяців тому +2

      Next time call the cops have her removed from the property

  • @tball84
    @tball84 9 місяців тому +2

    It isn't just narcissists. However when you have people playing victim they will make you feel that way and have many people step inbetween.

  • @marsha04053
    @marsha04053 9 місяців тому +6

    Its been 6 months now and no contact with my narcissist husband. My life is awesome without his controlling and mental abused by him.and trust me.he still trying to keep tabs on my life.

  • @deezgex
    @deezgex 10 місяців тому +13

    The reverse is the same. When they ignore, block in the middle of you speaking or responding etc. But want to say something to you after telling you to leave them alone then when you respond omg you were just suppose to shut up

  • @1Gibson
    @1Gibson 10 місяців тому +23

    I praise the Lord Jesus i live in another state from my narcissistic family members and my narcissistic ex husband. No contact i will remain.

    • @rsj4192
      @rsj4192 10 місяців тому +2

      Feels good eh? Powerful!

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  9 місяців тому

      ‼️‼️🙏🏽

  • @TerriLynch
    @TerriLynch 10 місяців тому +13

    I think mine would love me to be silent and not talk etc.

    • @IsabellaPiesch
      @IsabellaPiesch 9 місяців тому +5

      That only seems that way. Believe me they don´t want that. (Yeah they say that but they sure don´t mean it). Because if you do so there is no fuel for them.

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  9 місяців тому +2

      🥴

  • @SamuraiColorCutter
    @SamuraiColorCutter 9 місяців тому +2

    My thing is: I no longer have a need or desire for anyone like them in my life. The role has been dissolved altogether. Good day.

  • @bxboyupqllnight
    @bxboyupqllnight 9 місяців тому +2

    So they can't put no witch craft on us

  • @NinaSpence-xe7rf
    @NinaSpence-xe7rf 9 місяців тому +4

    Mine kept downloading apps to disguise his number and even sent me a text pretending to be my bank trying to get me to confirm yes or no to an unusual charge on my account.
    He had just called me from a million different numbers so I knew it was him 🤦🏻‍♀️

    • @VGH1967
      @VGH1967 9 місяців тому

      😂😂😂😂😂

    • @empressb444
      @empressb444 9 місяців тому

      Just change your number and I stops, hes too immature to stop doing it.

  • @gwenmoore160
    @gwenmoore160 10 місяців тому +9

    Balance of awareness from Lee looks like this: truth, passion in his videos, he's so hilarious, body gestures, you get the drift. Bring that balance with that awareness. Get set free, and you'll see what I'm saying. Go Lee 😂❤😊

  • @louno8506
    @louno8506 9 місяців тому +1

    He discarded me expecting for us to stay friends. I stood up and said he wasnt going to hear from me again. No contact for 3 weeks, deleted all my social media that he uses to control people and supplies. Started today to receive strange group invitations on WhatsApp that never happened before from weird foreign numbers. He is a software engineer, I dont know if he just trying to see my WhatsApp profile picture or he is entering my number on shady stuff or just a mere coincidence. I dont know that person anymore or what to expect.

  • @BetterDays316
    @BetterDays316 10 місяців тому +25

    He done said farting all over the place... 😂

  • @SzilviK
    @SzilviK 9 місяців тому +11

    This is 💯💯💯💯! For the 1st time in 12 years I went no contact with him . Blocked on everything changed #. No access. After all that is what he wanted . 3 months goes by everything is nice and peaceful. All of a sudden guess who pops up at my house ? Flew 2000 miles to come see me . Talking about I was worried about you. I been trying to reach you ... oh I shouldn't be here you probably got a boyfriend 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @michellelynch2698
    @michellelynch2698 9 місяців тому +3

    They can't control me 💯‼️

  • @dumpmail-xz2qp
    @dumpmail-xz2qp 9 місяців тому +5

    I went full no contact because I would not enable her getting joy out of devaluing me and seeing me at my low. Thanks to videos like yours I was able to stay strict and not give any more chances while avoiding her like the plague 🙈 🙉 🙊

  • @MsDestinydiva
    @MsDestinydiva 9 місяців тому +3

    They talk about you but don’t want you to talk about them ❤🎉 freeeeedommmmm

  • @whoaskedyou.
    @whoaskedyou. 10 місяців тому +7

    Yes narcissist want to be in control my narcissist ex want contact with me but he lied on me and has a po against me but he's contacted me and I told my lawyer he hated that because he liked to use the fact that I can get in trouble for violating the order he used it as a form of control but I exposed him why is he contacting me if I did something to him ?

    • @whoaskedyou.
      @whoaskedyou. 10 місяців тому +1

      @@lilli-beth this isn't a class room and did you check everyone else's punctuation since you're obviously an English teacher 🙄

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  9 місяців тому +2

      sometimes they want to get that contrl back

  • @paolafigueredo7610
    @paolafigueredo7610 9 місяців тому +3

    Mine always gave me expensive gifts, attentions. The love bombing phase was always incredible. I was diagnose with bpd and I have been doing therapy since 2022 but he does not help! He does not even want to he involved or he does not even ask me how to help me avoid a crisis. He does not give a fuck about me. We were separated for more than 7 months and I was feeling better, and I was not having ups and down as now when I decided to give him another opportunity. I noticed he did not want me to feel good I think he rather see me unstable and suffering. Thank for I broke up with him and there is no return. Thank you !

  • @AllThingsShun
    @AllThingsShun 9 місяців тому

    I went no contact in 2012 and today 4/1/2024 I found that he was following me on social media (he created a new page, with his actual picture) so I blocked him again on all socials! I have not had any contact with him since 2012, I don’t think about him nor have I mentioned him! Ugh, it’s so annoying to know he’s been lurking.

  • @Deakkon_and_the_Diplomat
    @Deakkon_and_the_Diplomat 9 місяців тому +1

    Unfortunately they are damaged people. Don't allow your empathy to overtake common sense. Look at how they treat people around them, family, co-workers, friends etc. Will tell you everything.

    • @LaMesaC
      @LaMesaC 9 місяців тому

      You right. I failed listening to my intuition when dealing with my narc abusive husband. Cost me my character, sanity, and health. Fortunately, due to FATE divinely stepping in, I was able to go to a DV shelter for help and they secured a new place and RO, established no contact and it's gotten slightly better. He has and is still committing adultery with new supply but I ain't going back and don't want or need him. Bad karma been taking care of this washed up has been musician, deadbeat, fraud, predator, conniving, wife beating player at 62. He had always been a loser known by his family, friends, associates, coworkers and projected his insecurities of this on me but started to wake up when I spoke up.

  • @electriclioness4607naga
    @electriclioness4607naga 9 місяців тому +1

    He will have to hate no contact for eternity then

  • @kimberlyharris9712
    @kimberlyharris9712 10 місяців тому +4

    Lee, you and family are the Rock Stars! 🌟 You're doing the work. You're encouraging people with NPD and people victimized to get help. Your videos are tremendous blessings. Thanks to the work you're doing, I'm getting stronger, wiser and healing. I appreciate your honesty and humor 😂. God bless you and your beautiful family 🙏🏿

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  9 місяців тому

      🙏🏽🙏🏽 God bless you as well

  • @IfOnlyYouKnewPodcast
    @IfOnlyYouKnewPodcast 9 місяців тому +1

    So true, I went no contact with my child’s father who is a narcissistic & he stole my damn car. He thought I would call his phone asking why lol nope! I went to buy another one & just moved on. Than I get papers in mail for joint custody of our child, WHO he gave me continuously excused on why he couldn’t get her lol it’s all a game

  • @vedabrown8217
    @vedabrown8217 9 місяців тому +1

    I have gone no contact for 9 years with my Mother after trying to bring her back for 3 years. She was worse when I brought her back around. Well, I am done. I have learned to love her from a distance. The peace has been amazing for 9 years. No calls on birthdays, holidays, birthdays, or Mother's Day. Toxic is toxic regardless of what day it is. I pray for her healing and I am on my own journey with The Heavenly Father.

    • @nabilc1667
      @nabilc1667 9 місяців тому

      Loving her would mean not loving yourself though. Self love is not accessible if you love someone who abused you. I assume your mother is a narcissist.

  • @iamconstancecarter
    @iamconstancecarter 9 місяців тому

    I ain’t dealt with mine in a couple of years. He pops up every now and then at places he knows I’m gonna be at and text and calls me to test the waters. When I told him please don’t call me I have a man, he stepped it up major

  • @chloellebond5682
    @chloellebond5682 9 місяців тому +1

    Usually there would be aggressive hoovering but this time it’s been quiet. I’m hoping that when I went no contact they moved on to a new supply. 🥴 It’s been a few days so I’m hoping that pop up thing wont go down.

  • @Bonniebella1111
    @Bonniebella1111 9 місяців тому +3

    I finally changed my number! In the process of moving out of the place we shared. I haven’t reached out, deactivated all my social media. Married or not idc my peace and mental health is more important I’ll allow God to work out the divorce in due time. Only my family and close friends have my new number.

  • @BriannaRochelleCreative
    @BriannaRochelleCreative 10 місяців тому +4

    Just shy of 3 weeks no contact with ex narc husband and my narc family. 🎉

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  9 місяців тому

      🙏🏽🙏🏽‼️‼️ stay strong

  • @Skysmeller1
    @Skysmeller1 9 місяців тому

    My wife and I recently exposed my mother and she stormed off and reached out to our entire family to make herself the victim. I spoke to her after and she wouldn’t respond to any questions I asked her. She said she left my house out of love. No contact now and my house has peace.

  • @jacquelineglitter4328
    @jacquelineglitter4328 9 місяців тому

    I am no contact with my family except one person. The drama continues. I like being without them.

  • @jimvenne1117
    @jimvenne1117 9 місяців тому +1

    Im about to do it waiting for her to get her stuff out of my house.shes had 3 boyfriends behind my back.alcholic physical verbal abuse.this has so been one of hardest challenges im going through.

  • @chandelle_glee
    @chandelle_glee 9 місяців тому +3

    This is my mother. She hated me for having a boyfriend so her “get back” Was turning my child against me. In her mind she replaced me with my child. She’s getting so mad bc I just recently cut her off financially. She’s drained me of over $800.00 the past month I can hardly afford my expensive ass place. She’s so greedy and so evil in every way you can imagine. Now she’s hooked on fenty so she’s out of control. It’s all so much more intense and she’s taking crazy risks to get it. She’s on the verge of getting evicted again and this time I can’t save her. I’m feeling so sick lately from the stress alone. Need a miracle

  • @themonicameza
    @themonicameza 10 місяців тому +7

    I'm confused. He leaves me a bunch of desperate messages for about a month and then I email him back telling him my reasons and then he discards me. Did he finally get the message or is this a game or possibly both?

    • @debrakarr996
      @debrakarr996 10 місяців тому +5

      Girl if u think u have a narc who cares if he is discarding or a game. Get out while u can. It will be traumatizing to u. U will not be the same girl once he is done with u. RUN RUN RUN as fast as u can. This very moment I'm in a state that I don't even care or want another man like forever. That is very sad anyone would feel that way but it's true. Prayers to u.

    • @strawberrysangria1474
      @strawberrysangria1474 10 місяців тому +3

      Sometimes the only way to win a game is not to play. You'll never know, but you can find closure in knowing that they know why you left.

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  9 місяців тому

      seems like a game

    • @chrissemenko628
      @chrissemenko628 9 місяців тому

      ​@@lilli-bethWell said!

    • @themonicameza
      @themonicameza 9 місяців тому

      @@MentalHealness Thanks for the response.

  • @Nicole-v2e8w
    @Nicole-v2e8w 4 дні тому

    Yes you learn that they lie when it comes to questions about other people & how come she looked at you like she knows you that way or who's that person to you .. these questions they will lie about but there facials & body language tells you otherwise but when it comes to you & they say anything towards your well being they mean what they say .. I've felt threatened by my X where I strongly felt I had to tell him If anything happens to me , my kids will know it was you

  • @auntieb3621
    @auntieb3621 9 місяців тому

    Called me crying they miss me hope I'm having a good day God bless me etc etc... Called my friends and family and trashed me and my husband... Called a very close friend concerned that I'm being controlled by my husband or that I'm going through a mental health crisis...yo! I am finished with this. Toddlers are awesome of that behavior. Dude thank you for your videos. Truthfully helpful in my life ❤

  • @whitneyparker5168
    @whitneyparker5168 9 місяців тому

    I’ve went no contact and things are peaceful but now he’s reaching out because we have a kid but he doesn’t treat him right and his family does too

  • @jeraecontreras6166
    @jeraecontreras6166 10 місяців тому +4

    How do they feel with restraining orders as the law has more control than them

  • @marsha04053
    @marsha04053 9 місяців тому +1

    😂😂😂😂 Lee.you are right.hes got a Facebook with his girlfriend and he don't look good at all and not happy with her.he is stalking my Facebook. 😂😂😂

  • @Ghostx1977
    @Ghostx1977 9 місяців тому +2

    I can't go no contact because of the trauma bond 😢

    • @MissOne
      @MissOne 9 місяців тому +3

      I can relate 😢 ...now, I just try to maintain healthy boundaries. He'll eventually 'final discard' me this time, hopefully 😢 ❤. it's been 7 +1/2 years minus my 1 year break.

  • @yasesaka
    @yasesaka 9 місяців тому +2

    This is currently what I'm going through in my life. My narcissistic ex judged me because of my virginity, my mindset, and my looks and he told me that he finds me divine which sounds ridiculous. Yesterday he classically emailed me from various types of emails and just blamed me that I've already found someone else and even though ''he was wrong at some point'' my only aim was replacing him which is NOT TRUE. He only believes that he is the tallest person in the world he is the wiser person in the world he hates black people he hates employees and more I mean I'm FED UP.

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  9 місяців тому

      dear lord

    • @franco2b145
      @franco2b145 9 місяців тому

      He sounds like a piece of work.

    • @yasesaka
      @yasesaka 9 місяців тому

      @@franco2b145 what do u mean🥺

    • @franco2b145
      @franco2b145 9 місяців тому

      @@yasesaka
      He sounds like a piece of shit! Better? Hope you left this fool

  • @Lovingjesus100
    @Lovingjesus100 9 місяців тому

    It’s crazy how when you leave them, they send you message after message after message, talking about they will get help and do whatever it takes. Then, when you fall for it and go back, the behavior ends up changing back to the same old thing. Saying, “they would hate to see you marry someone else”…
    I admit, in my situation, I have seen a lot of changes since we have been together. But, this is a real disorder. And, honestly, I can’t settle for the unending disrespect in my life, wether I can forgive unconditionally and love unconditionally or not.

  • @jilross4892
    @jilross4892 9 місяців тому +9

    Folks should involve the cops if they get harrassed

  • @Mafia1World
    @Mafia1World 9 місяців тому +5

    Trying to do No Contact as a narcissist is also hard.

    • @IsabellaPiesch
      @IsabellaPiesch 9 місяців тому +2

      That part... Because silence means peace. (No drama, no chaos - nothing. That is too boring for a narcissist). They will catch other people (that is for sure).

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  9 місяців тому

      stay safe and strong

  • @robbiewooden5067
    @robbiewooden5067 9 місяців тому +12

    They want to control your life.

  • @jennifersanni3248
    @jennifersanni3248 9 місяців тому

    I left mine, before I realized what he was, solely for the sake of my children because they were not handling my leaving their father well. That being said, he started to abuse me after I left him, but I was afraid to go no contact because I was afraid of what he might do to "punish" me, so I played his game (with the help of your videos, amongst others) and waited for him to quietly go away. 6 months later, he suddenly just went silent. Our last conversation was pleasant, about a piece of artwork I made that he had given tips to me on. He loved it, I thought my next would be better. This was 5 weeks ago and I haven't heard a peep since. I REFUSE to contact him and he isn't contacting me. I don't know why, and I am a little afraid that he's planning something bad. I heard if you do not do what they want, i.e. "beg for them to talk to you", or "apologise for whatever made them mad" (for example), that you will never hear from them again. Is this true? I understand that everyone, and situation, is different, but there must be a usual pattern, I feel.

  • @run6182
    @run6182 9 місяців тому

    It depends to me. I seen people try and turn me into a narcissist. Which im not the one controling. It was totally different being. Some serious covert mess. They couldnt even get that it wasnt me stright was manipating my words by listenng because they work in governmemt .They didnt get the person was doing this some did and didnt care. So crazy I have become reclusive and dont date or have many relationships just about. Some narcissist want your gifts literally spiritually and mentally and physically. They never healed from the abuse they recieved. And they don't want you to heal either or pass them.

  • @PAOLA2D3
    @PAOLA2D3 9 місяців тому

    Why is it that you go no contact because they ghosted you during an argument and after that I finally had enough so went no contact. The moment I took the call after weeks of not talking, just to see if he would apologize for what he did I’m not gonna get into it, but what he did was really abusive to me mentally. He acted as of nothing, but when he saw that I was actually being polite, he abused me again. So did he just want to talk to me just to inflict pain in case I was healing????

  • @ecemakal4880
    @ecemakal4880 9 місяців тому +4

    They be hating on no contact unless they are the ones who went no contact 🙄 they are really two faced that’s insane lmfao

    • @Bluepearl187
      @Bluepearl187 9 місяців тому +1

      Exactly! My ex told me not to contact him unless it was for the kids or our mutual payments 🙄

    • @ecemakal4880
      @ecemakal4880 9 місяців тому +2

      @@Bluepearl187 lol they just want to say the last words and still be in control but what they think and want are far away from the actual truth (which is how f***ed up they are😂) I hope you and your kids will be happy without your ex and I hope u thrive in this life 😌🩵

    • @Bluepearl187
      @Bluepearl187 9 місяців тому

      @@ecemakal4880 exactly! Yet he is always the first one that sees my whatapp status 🤦🏻‍♀️ Thank you 🙏🏻❤️

    • @LaMesaC
      @LaMesaC 9 місяців тому

      ​@@ecemakal4880yeah

  • @shalapatterson2499
    @shalapatterson2499 10 місяців тому +11

    He ain’t never lied 😒

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  10 місяців тому +2

      😔

    • @debrakarr996
      @debrakarr996 10 місяців тому

      You just haven't found one yet. Mine seemed to never lie till 5 mos in then he lied all the time once it's noticed. Better pay better attention they are all LIARS! Best of luck to you.

  • @geoffreybester7953
    @geoffreybester7953 9 місяців тому +2

    I never been in narc relationships, but the last two have been life threatening! I go back cause the options are at zero now.

  • @ShenellTwenica
    @ShenellTwenica 10 місяців тому +6

    I feel like mine doesn’t care

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  10 місяців тому +1

      😰

    • @rayray7906
      @rayray7906 10 місяців тому +7

      They dont🤷🏾‍♀️. Tough pill to swallow but it's true. They don't care like normal people care. They truly don't care about themselves so how can they care about you?

    • @debrakarr996
      @debrakarr996 10 місяців тому +2

      Wait till it feels like hate instead of love. U have no idea how bad that feels day after day after day. RUN RUN RUN AS FAST AS U CAN. Prayers to u.

    • @IsabellaPiesch
      @IsabellaPiesch 9 місяців тому +4

      They care - because they know they lost a great supply. Stay safe and don´t worry!

  • @DannySims-y3y
    @DannySims-y3y 9 місяців тому +4

    I can't express it enough that I don't give a f-ck what these demons think..

  • @Bonniebella1111
    @Bonniebella1111 9 місяців тому

    3 week update my wife called my job nonstop! Popped up unexpectedly without my knowledge with her new gf dropped my car off after 4 months and harassed me on my work phone every day! 🤦🏾‍♀️ even had her new gf call me and ask about our divorce. Now I’m trying to be a ghost, I shouldn’t have to live like this

  • @IsabellaPiesch
    @IsabellaPiesch 9 місяців тому +3

    In fact they irony is they go no contact first. (They ghost you, are angry at you, just don´t talk to you)... So a normal reaction to this is you do just the same. (Isn´t it). BUT: What really haunts me that those people never forgive you - they can´t let it go. It is not healthy to live in anger. (At least I am not that person. Sure I take my rights but otherwise I don´t live in the past). But narcissists just can´t let it go.

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  9 місяців тому +2

      they def have a hard time letting go

    • @IsabellaPiesch
      @IsabellaPiesch 9 місяців тому +1

      @@MentalHealness Yeah I know! I experience it and they really think you want to take revenge on them. (NO I don´t - I don´t know how to make that clear - I can write that or spell that in big LETTERS - there is just no way that you make them believe).

  • @michellebrown572
    @michellebrown572 9 місяців тому

    I feel like he stalk my social media. And I got him blocked

  • @RoslynCasey
    @RoslynCasey 9 місяців тому +1

    Had a revisit on no contact. Last week I made his cousin aware about some things I found out hes been saying about me, in a very nice way, did not mention narcissism, flying monkeys or the smear campaign
    I very gently told her that it needs to stop because the poisonous emails I got from a flying monkey is affecting my relationship and reputation (two years later after he monkey branched 😅)
    So I deactivated my social media again and I am no longer in contact with anyone connected.
    Sure its lonely, but I have nobody keeping tabs anymore. ❤ thanks be to you @MentalHealness , I am protecting my peace. We have no kids but too many mutual friends. 😅I'm expecting this through some other method. Lol. Much love from UK

  • @yowhatupmain
    @yowhatupmain 9 місяців тому +2

    She never thought I could reverse the silent treatment onto her but I did. 3 months straight not a word nothing. She did it so I would scramble and chase. Not this time.
    But she is holding strong no hoover ?!? 🤷🏻‍♂️
    Goodnight

  • @MeekeeKobellaDrNP
    @MeekeeKobellaDrNP 6 місяців тому

    I was single handed delivering major blows to that man’s ego, without even trying. I am definitely his karma. He cannot stand me now…. Lol

  • @maddiesmoon
    @maddiesmoon 9 місяців тому

    But they still send hurtful messages. Im scared to block them incase it gets worse. How do you ask them to leave you alone in a way that they dont go nasty!!

  • @gman-zf4dt
    @gman-zf4dt 9 місяців тому

    I went no contact with my dad, and its great. Luckily, I dont have to contend with other family members because I'm an only child, my mom divorced him when I was 2 for domestic violence, and any other mutual acquaintances have dropped him too. I highly recommend no contact with any narcissist

  • @MusicMusic22223
    @MusicMusic22223 9 місяців тому +1

    My ex narc came to my house to tell me he has a new child! We don’t give a F!!! U not aloud to see the other child you have shame on him!!! I wish he would leave us alone! I’m no contact but he keeps knocking my door with his weird self! I’m a have to move.

  • @brenocirne8693
    @brenocirne8693 9 місяців тому +1

    Grande curandeiro, astrólogo e um respeitado oráculo, Quíron era tido como o último dos centauros, e altamente reverenciado como professor e tutor. Você é um Quiron❤

  • @jacquelinenoel149
    @jacquelinenoel149 9 місяців тому

    The only choice i had was to send him a msg officially stating do not contact me in any way including txt social media email or face to face as ive reported you to the police ... Just leave me alone , not a word thank goodness now I can fully heal !

  • @diandreabrown8711
    @diandreabrown8711 9 місяців тому

    Do NOT break NC. I did for money owed to me after secretly moving out.. and i was given silent treatment and more toxic behavior. I had to let go of the money that was stolen from me. I had to deal with the pain alone and the juds being not able to talk to me anymore and their new supply completely defending the narc ex and i had to start NC all over again..
    This time I wont be foolish. I will not break it. They are dead to me and me to them.
    Thank you Lee.

  • @foechicken8023
    @foechicken8023 9 місяців тому

    I cut my mother out of my life. My spouse and kids also cut her out. My sister, also, did the same. So she reached out to my brother-in-law. When that failed, she reached out to my pastor.

  • @livonce81
    @livonce81 9 місяців тому

    Facts.For all intents and purposes.😅❤ 6:20

  • @lolly07801
    @lolly07801 9 місяців тому

    I try not to think of myself as a narcissist. I’ve been dealing with a narcissist relationship for four years and he’s done that to me a lot. I’ll say some thing that is hurting me and then I get the silent treatment for days
    . In this case he did some thing that was the last straw and I blew up and I basically told him to leave me alone and F off. that I was six days ago I haven’t heard a single word. Of course the trauma Bond. I gave in and I’ve been messaging, but I’m convinced he’s not even reading my messages, my thoughts are somebody says they care about you how can they just turn you off and act like you never existed in their life?? and not even read your messages or respond. I know this time I am done that’s not why I’m messaging. I’m messaging because I wanted closure to actually break it off and be mature about it but I’m just more and believe in this believe that I told him to leave me alone and that’s exactly what he’s doing. But here I am trying to be civil and mature . and I’m getting the silent treatment. This is a long is that he’s giving me the silent treatment usually it’s three days tops. listening to this video makes me feel like I’m being a narcissist because I’m blowing up his phone. But again, in my case, I don’t want to be back with him. I just want to break up maturely, so when we are out in public we are civil.

  • @ac9938
    @ac9938 9 місяців тому

    I really am about to throw the towel in because I tried to get away from my narc family as I am the scapegoat and my family hired a whole investigator to follow me across the country. Narcs are sicking😢

  • @sth1399
    @sth1399 10 місяців тому +1

    What's with when you tell them that you need some time for yourself and will get in touch when you feel better but after exactly one week they will block you? Happened to me two times eith two different people

    • @MentalHealness
      @MentalHealness  9 місяців тому +2

      they think you are trying to replace them

    • @sth1399
      @sth1399 9 місяців тому

      @@MentalHealness oh, thank you so much for answering! And yes, makes sense.

  • @hayleynicholas3446
    @hayleynicholas3446 9 місяців тому

    Thank you!
    Very insightful

  • @godsfavor6939
    @godsfavor6939 10 місяців тому +5

    Heyyyyyyy Lee! Are we not doing Thursday nights anymore with you and Jess? I miss yall 😔 or have I been MIA? 😬

  • @tjtanner9311
    @tjtanner9311 9 місяців тому +1

    Near the beginning our relationship, my ex told me that if I broke his heart, he would kill me! I jokingly/nervously laughed😅. I thought it was a bit extreme but I didn't take it seriously. I was naive at the time and very inexperienced. I didn't know that he was a narcissist. Thank goodness it was a long distance relationship. He didn't send me to heaven but he definitely turned my life upside down. I've been no contact for almost 2 years. He tried to reached out to me recently. I'm not breaking.