Lee, what is it about people with NPD and the need to be chased? I've noticed they all play games to make you text, to make you call, to make you start the conversation. Is it for attention? Is it to avoid accountability, as in it was your idea to be their friend / lover / whatever? 🤨 thx
If the narcissist is in spirit form how can someone get rid of them because I have 3 or 4 spirits that I know for a fact that 3 of them are narcissist and I think the 4th one is too😮
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So true. Before I knew he was a narcissist I asked if he had a diagnosis he hadn’t disclosed after he kept passionately making false accusations against me. This caused him sleepless night for him during which he woke me up 4/7 nights to interrogate me and narcissistic rage. Discard happened shortly after
When I figured the Narc I was with. He started moving around the house as if he was scared of me cause I started calling him out on his mess and exposing him to people
It’s ironic because the real self that narcissists have is so much more lovable than their false persona. That real authentic self that they hate is what’s actually redeemable if they actually were to accept their true selves.
@@therapeutic_music_for_sleep I mean the true self that they denied when they were a child. The soul that everyone has, people aren’t inherently evil it’s society that teaches them to be.
@@lizardluminals9324 thank you for your answer. I think they're abusing their inner child, they hate their own vulnerability, everything that makes them weak and vulnerable. Because they were shamed for it and for having needs. This is how I understand it now, I'm in the process of learning.
This is why Narcs want to know what you are thinking all the time. Not cus they care about you, but because they want to see how much you know/have figured out. If its too much truth, they'll call you a liar, pick a fight and leave.
This is true. The narcissist that I loved had mom issues and he told me “he doesn’t believe anyone loves him if his own mother couldn’t love him” and that stuck with me. It’s so sad because I really cared for him, but you have to save yourself. 😢🙏🏽♥️
Yours may be mild spectrum narcissistic.. But others have experienced more bs from high spectrum narcissists.. I have experienced both some are childish and some are outright evil @Cfteresa
I never in my life knew what a narcissist was . I put two and two together and realized my husband was a narcissist. After ten years of being with the man I found out that his Past actions towards me and his behavior was because he’s a narcissist. When I did my research and found out that he was a research I seriously felt like I was Albert Einstein and like I discovered a new universal formula. I felt enlightened. I confronted my husband and told him “ I know who you are , YOU ARE A NARCISSIST”. And literally a month later he left me.
So true. The moment I figured her out, it was game over. When I confronted her, devaluing, gaslighting, blameshifting and namecalling got worse. After I told her that is narcissistic behaviour, which I will not tolerate, I quickly got discarded and blocked everywhere.
@@LaPetitePlaneteDeRoxi I am sorry you had to go through it. It is mindboggling how they immediately act like neither us nor our relationship never mattered, isn't it? Yet, we are the ones questioning ourself, missing them etc.
@@nickus51 For me it's already been 5 months and I managed to detach. I blocked him on everything to stop the "waiting" feeling, binge watched videos on narcissism, and made a big list with the 9 NPD criteria with bullet points of the ways he checked those criteria. At some point it just hit me that he was never going to be able to match the kind of feelings I had for him, compared him in my mind and renamed his (blocked) number to Rotten Fruit and detached. Rotten fruit because on the outside there was no way of telling that anything was wrong, but once I got to really know him I saw the damage that his childhood traumas made. I made peace with the detachment by thinking I can't help him as long as he doesn't want to be helped, but should he at some point realise he has a problem I will gladly support him. As a friend only, I have zero interest in ever getting into a relationship with NPD, it's way to triggering for me. They are people also and deserve to be with nice people once they are in therapy, but I wouldn't see this possible with someone who has their own issues (CPTSD like me, or BPD etc).
@nickus51 I was hurt initially, but then I realised I am happy he removed himself from my path without any additional drama 🤭. I was already aware he has NPD and was already informed on it.
Ran over me with a car. I’m not keeping a record of wrongs but come on. You hit me with a car! You don’t forget someone hitting you with a car easily one state.
When I exposed mine he really couldn’t help but to start devaluing me by putting me down and saying hurtful things he never said before . This is when they want out and project all their dumb shit onto you and make you the problem and why they can’t be with you anymore 🙄
My ex narc girlfriend abruptly discarded me after I figured her out. I didnt even say anything. Its like she sensed it through the changes in my behavior towards her
On Monday I laid it all out, on Tuesday talked 2 hours by phone & acted like Monday never happened, Wednesday and until today, he went total no contact. Still laying all of it to rest. He'll never be happy with anyone as he can't be happy with himself. Onward.
This narc I was with (as of today) went total scorched earth on me because a family friend put air in my tire! This entity is EXTREMELY EVIL ! Yes, he is PARANOID AND CRAZY AS HELL !!
Same. But sadly I have a child with her. He's 6. He gets punished and grounded for telling me the truth. He called her out one day on the phone about stealing from his own piggy bank. So he got lied to, stolen from, and still got grounded for telling me the truth. It's so sickening tbh.
Wish I didn't let him know I know... ur right it is less painful if u keep it to yourself and move along stealthy in the background. Wish I did that. Now I get ignored, no help whatsoever even if I'm right in his face struggling... learn to be a better actor than them... my advice as well. Lol
Same mine got so strange when the mask slipped.. I called him out for exactly what he was.. He lost his shit.. two months later.. done.. no contact now and healing.. ❤
YOU DON’T HAVE TO TELL THEM. That is such SOUND advice. “You don’t have to tell them. If you want to leave, make a plan. If you want to stay, make a plan”. That is it. That’s 100% it. This is one of the most helpful advice I’ve heard from you (or anyone out here) and I appreciate it SO MUCH. Thank you for all you do for us!
I feel you🎉 mine wanted to be with me all the time but when I did give her time she used all the excuses in the book to NOT spend time together 😮like wth😮
they don't want "unconditional LOVE." they want UNCONDITIONAL CONTROL, ADMIRATION, VALIDATION THAT THEY ARE THE BE ALL END ALL...SUPPLY!!!!!!!! PEACE!!!
@diane5593 I'm sorry that you have to experience this,WHY CAN'T YOU JUST BOUNCE! WHAT'S HOLDING YOU BACK? HIM OR YOU. I've moved out and on with my life,never looking back then and certainly not now!!!
My narc LOST it when he discovered I had put a tracker on the car….. HE was like “This is crazy! Why would you do this!” I said “To remind myself that everything you say is a lie and not to fall for the I love yous, I‘m not doing you dirty, I dont want that b*tch kinda talk! That you will say whatever you need to protect your image over taking any sort of accountability” 🤷🏽♀️ yea sorry NOT sorry if its ok for you to stalk me, watch me 24/7 thru cameras and accuse me of cheating then keep me from going anywhere becauase you hide the keys ...... WELL then dont be surprised when I start flippin the crazy on you. I learned CRAZY from the OG OF CRAZY! 😑
Ooo! They can’t STAND to be tracked. Mine act like it’s only supposed to work one way. Tracking me, always acting like he’s not, but magically knows to call whenever I leave the house. Watchin me, but can’t see that he’s not sharing his location.
Please teach me, where do I place the tracker in the car so he doesn't find it? Pls which particular one did you use? Please help me , am dealing with a NARCISSIST pathological liar, who breathes and exhales LIESSSSSS, IT is revolting. Please help me in how to go about it, I have caught him in tge past he still denies it, but my gut is telling me he is still cheating and Lieing, I need to Catch him red handed ,please teach me what I need to know, God bless you, Thank you in advance.
This is spot on. I never told the narcissist of what I knew b/c I knew that it was only going to give them a reason why they’re upset or angry with me once you have them figured out. which makes no sense. I remember the last conversation after I told him to stop contacting me was “so what do you know” or “is there someone else” as he already knew that I knew way more then what he thought I didn’t know at first. The best power to me is knowing the narcissist real personality or for who they truly are and never have to go out your way to air out their business to others as a revenge. God always have the final say.
The key is recognizing that the individual you met and fell in love with isn't real, and doesn't exist. They were an actor on a stage, acting in ways they believe you find important and make you feel special. Once you are hooked they begin to act as they really are. This sometimes takes between 3 months and 2 years. They can't keep the mask on forever. The key is flip flopping so you think the negative experiences just are lack of understanding etc.
@@brendakauffman2222 I totally agree with the beginning of your comment and this information assisted me to see that it meant that I didn't love any of the exes in my past either when I found out. It felt like I couldn't live without them at the time, which certainly wasn't healthy, yet I had huge abandonment and other unhealed childhood trauma issues! I'm planning to stay single from now on though. 🙂
I experienced this with my ex. I was so confused by his negative reaction to me telling him "I see exactly who you are and still love you." I expected it to alleviate anxiety, not create more.
I understand the advice in this video, but to be honest I really struggle with it. So often I hear “don’t confront the narcissist” “don’t call them out” .. because of the risk of triggering their narcissistic rage. Yes, narcissistic rage can be dangerous - I have been on the receiving end of it myself. But why should they just get away with it??! If everybody continues to tiptoe around them, they become a law unto themselves. Is that acceptable??
That look you threw at 3:18 I totally laughed out loud because you explained it soooo perfectly!!! PRAYERS of healing to us all - including the narcissist
So proud of you. Wish my dad and the ex husband would do such challenging inner work. Instead, they both hate me because I figured them out. I don’t care about being the enemy in their minds. I care that they aren’t living better, more connected lives. Oh well. Off to smell my roses.
Same here, I realized I married my father, unfinished business 😔, both of them now is on the smear campaign making me out to be the bad guy, but hey it feels good to be villain sometimes, VILLAIN MODE#
So this exact thing is happening to me now. I work with my ex narcissist and he constantly watches me up close, studying me to see where there is an “in”… he will be charming but then know it has no influence… so then he will stay quiet… and it’s always indirect communication (parking beside my car, standing close to me when in the same room as me, does things to draw my attention like making noises while I’m talking to someone else) it’s friggen WEIRD and I don’t know what the hell he wants.
I filed for divorce almost a year ago. He has been dragging this out but to his shock, I have continued to push on toward getting the divorce finalized. When he learned that I signed the divorce decree he literally started rambling, almost incoherently about how he was sure that I was on the verge of reconciling with him and he cannot believe I’m moving forward with this. He actually admitted that he is having a hard time processing that I’m leaving him. He then said something along the lines of “You don’t know me.” I told him, “You are absolutely, unequivocally right! I don’t at all know you. I mean how can I or anyone else possibly know someone, such as yourself, who lives a double life!” He stared at me without saying anything for a while then got up and left the room without arguing with me for once. 🤷🏾♀️ I’m just ready to get away from him. And God is leading the way for me 🙏🏾
💯 on the only being vulnerable when they are drunk, I got to clean the evidence of those messes up too. Meanwhile, he remained an unmarked, perfect “angel” to everyone bc he has a good paying job with an “important” title and lots of “stuff”. These people will one day reach a point where the bottle can’t help them and they have to live in the destruction they created. Alone. Miserable. Just like they themselves dished out when they were in their “prime”.
My partner of 16 years straight cut ties when I found out about all the cheating and lies. Never saw him again. No hoover, nothing. Feels incredibly weird to this day, no closure at all.
Yes. Similar experience here. I began enforcing boundaries with the help of my counselor and it was war on for him. He set up a secret life with the latest affair and took off right into her house. I figured out so much and called him out on so much and he never talked to me again and dropped the decent dad act, too. 23 years, and married 18 with 3 kids. Never talked to him again… been 5 years. Terrible and I’m glad I healed at all which I have. But I don’t take it for granted and I’m so thankful for resources like Lee. Blessings to all on this journey.
You're the real thing, @mentalhealness. Thank you for what you are doing. This is so true. When you say 'I know you' the narc hears 'you disgust me' because they know themselves and they're disgusted with themselves. It is genuinely sad and I hope any narcissists here can find the help they need. If you're tangled with one, please get out of there immediately. Hope they find help, but please run.
@@DopeFiend Me neither. But I figured it out the hard way. In fact a friend said to me - isn´t he a narcissist?... And so everything started. Now I know...(Not a pleasent journey I went through - but I learned a hard lesson...).
They know they are an actor on a stage, acting the way they can convince you they are someone they are not. They generally know what they are like, but sometimes they repeat the lies ( that it is you) long enough they begin to believe them themselves
I loved and still love my narcissistic husband so much and miss him to this day. When he love bombed me at the beginning, I thought i found the love of my life and i wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. As soon as we got married, he changed or the mask fell off? The good times were GREAT, but the bad times were HELL. Sometimes he seemed normal is why I questioned if he really was a narcissist? One day, i was flirting with him and said, "you met your match, buddy" in a playful way and he looked very upset. Maybe that's what changed the dynamic of our marriage? At some point I became his target and enemy. I do feel like I didn't know him, because i never knew what he was thinking. Our relationship became more and more toxic and I couldn't take the cruelty anymore. I filed for divorce for my peace of mind and mental health. My heart still breaks, but I know he would throw me under the bus if he had one more chance. 😢
He didn't change, the beginning is all faked. It's not their personality, it's a mirror of you. What you like, they say they like it. What you appreciate, they "appreciate". Where you wanna go, they wanna go. It's all fake.
I'm praying you keep your peace and love yourself so much you don't notice he's gone. I learn a lot from channels like this and I also watch videos on complex trauma and how I developed a people pleasing coping mechanisms and how to stop that, learn healthier coping skills and live my life more fully and authentically. I needed to heal myself and I'm doing that. I pray you work on yourself too. Focus inward
After I called them out on being a narcissist and confronted her about the gaslighting and disrespect she ghosted me. I told her that her mask was falling off and she responded with the laughing emojis via text and then ghosted me. It has been a little over a month of no contact which is unusual because she always hoovered me in the past after we had a disagreement. She was definitely paranoid and a conspiracist.
i swear i started hearing that toni braxton song as i read your comment: "let it flow, let it flow, everything's gonna work out right you know!" PEACE!!!!!
The same exact thing happened to me, called her out and said I think shes a narcissist and she lost it and kept saying no I'm not a narcissist and then out of nowhere she makes this 👿 angry satanic face!!! Then she stayed away from me and ghosted me, then I got a lonnggg text of her saying she's leaving and she never loved me and now she's onto the new supply!!! The day I got that text message, i have to say I was happy!!! So happy I went to the movies the same day to celebrate and that now I don't have to see or deal with her ever again!!!!!
@@paulwisdom1090 It seems like they don't like being seen for who they really are. So once you figure them out and see behind the mask how abusive they are and you aren't going to stand for it any longer their game of manipulation is over. I'm glad your narcissist took herself out of your life so that you don't have to continue dealing with the emotional abuse. I just wish things were different and turned out different with my situation.
I've heard that some narcissistic people don't know that they are a narcissist. So, i think that they should be made aware, but it needs to be approached in a well thought out way
Dumped and blocked in a nanosecond. He’d already groomed my replacement is my belief. I rumbled him and the contradictions were falling over themselves. 15 years and now I feel angry which is uncomfortable. A horrible house of cards 🌷
I knew him better than he knew himself. 32 yrs, and he really never knew me. He was insecure, paranoid, manipulating, addicted to porn, calculating, a multi millionaire who thought that his money was keeping me with him. He did not like that I knew what it was to have money. He also, did like that my father a black single parent to my brother and I since we were three and two yrs old was a successful businessman. I just learned the word narcissist three yrs ago and I have been seeing about me/healing since. No, we weren't married, didn't live together, although he took care of all my expenses, and NO, we did not have any children together. I stayed all those yrs., because I believed ALL his stories that everyone wronged him, and I thought, I could help.
Thinking we can help. This is part of our good nature. They want to be saved. But then try to destroy whats saving them because of this deep seating shame and unworthiness. Which i guess we have too, otherwise why would we let this happen.
Very cool video A month ago, I ended a five-year relationship. My soulmate made the decision to walk away from me, and even though I've done everything in my power to get him back, I can't help but feel disappointed because I can't see my life with anyone else. I want to say that I've tried everything to stop thinking about him, but I simply can't. I miss him so much and I don't know why I'm saying this here.
I learnt the hard way that saying goodbye to someone you love is difficult when a 12-year relationship ends. But I was unable to let him go, so I made every effort to get him back. I eventually sought aid from a spiritual counsellor, and he was able to assist me in getting him back.
I appreciate you providing this important information; I've just checked him up online. striking I just checked Father Obah Eze online, and wow, he's really genuine. Thank you so much again ❤
There's no need to live on eggshells.. Find you... And by that , I mean , concentrate on things that make you happy and do them.. Live your life like he is not there... And every time he does something mean and hurtful, write it down Somewhere like on your bedroom wall He will. Read it everyday And if he has any sort of heart Like mr lee here It will drive him crazy Because he will secretly have to accept accountability , which narcissus hate. However, it will remind you by you.Reading it everyday that he does not really care about you. Either he will change to a person you can live with or You will see for yourself. That you really do need to leave.But either way , be careful , narcissistic people and that rage of theirs is dangerous
Face your reality, one day at a time! Praying you don’t lose you, trying to survive him! Whatever that trauma bond is, if you have one, start taking care of you and make plans to leave ..
I have had many experiences with people on the cluster B spectrum and I can sincerely say that it took a lot of recovery on my part, not to simply hate people who have narcissism and what I love about your channel and your delightful sense of humor is that you prove to me that not going into hatred is the right thing to do. Your transparency about your experiences and what it’s like to have narcissism makes me see that it’s not personal at all. And I really and sincerely and genuinely thank you for this. Thank you so much for being part of my healing journey, I discovered you many years ago and I’ve only started looking at your channel in the last three days again after a long break of getting narcissism off of my consciousness because I didn’t want to deal with it anymore. and you’re still out here smashing it and I’m so happy to see it. Thank you❤
Switching up until your dizzy pure insanity.🥵it was so much drama going anywhere with him, he thought everyone was looking at him because he thought he was so good looking. I wished I knew then what I know now. Another red flag Thanks Lee🙏🥰
Some of us have a spirit of discernment & if you pay attention they tells on themselves my daughter told me her husband is a narcissist so I told my dude what she said his response was he’s not a narcissist I use to be one in my head I’m like use to be one😳that nvr left me few months later i went no contact for 2 weeks blocked I started praying & researching & I did confront him as well as others I asked him how many ppl told you that you are a narcissist he said 2 so I guess I’m the 3rd to confront him 🤣🤣
I just walked away don’t even want to know or care why my intuition was bugging me the crap out of me. They’re a coward and staying away, which is a blessing ❤
yep. I use it at this point. I'm so over the games I don't even care if it's dangerous anymore, if I encounter someone in the wild playing these games I'll start narrating it like I'm David Attenborough. not to flaunt it necessarily, but because with some narcissists they will take you just saying you know like a dare. if I demonstrate, they usually get the hell out of my periphery so I don't mess up all their plots. and that's all I want, exclude me from your narrative.
Lee can you make a video on malignant narcissist and also on how some narcissists rush a relationship. Like I’m still healing over something that only lasted 6 weeks
10:00 so accurate... And I've said that myself after figuring out I was in this for sixteen year cycle ... Thank God he ghosted me because that's how I figured it out.. he gave me plenty of time to give myself the answers I needed ...
My ex narc told me I've always knew who he was. I said i didn't know what you was but the Holy Spirit revealed that to me which sent me on this journey of narcissism
That is so True I'm with this type of person and knows that I don't put up with his S**t that why he watching what he says to me . Cause I will call him out on his S**t . Thank you
Lee it is BRAVE to disclose this info because its vulnerable TRUTH ❤ that is a true sign of Growth !! thank you for helping me Understand my husband's bizzarre behavior.
I knew he had narc traits, I wanted him to know I knew because I wanted him to know I'd love him anyway. But it backfired, he switched it up and turned it on me, then discard when I got sick and couldn't do what he wanted. It's sad I really thought if he knew someone could live him truly unconditionally he might love me too but that is just not a reality.
I told my narc friend that he isn’t as good at pretending as he thought he was. I told him I noticed it when I first met him. The only thing I didn’t know is how it would affect my life in the long run.
Hey bro like your imformation .i lnow two narcassists caught them out and i notice they ho quiet and keep their distant.they dtill throw their dirty low remarks to get at you on the sly ,cannot ever to be trusted,their also dangerous.the best way to is yo stand up to them and dont fear their threats because in the end they are the weakest kind of people .
hahaha told him I can see you all the things you try so hard to hide I see them... he looked terrified didn't say anything and we both went back to what we were doing
Yep all i said to my ex Narc is people all ways do things for you but you hate doing things for anybody,he went silent when we was in the car,then dry begged,i didnt offer,let him know it's over,you cant raised your voice at me im scared of loud Big men,Narc hate i called him selfish,but you f.... Up when you raised your voice I don't answer calls, was over him please get over me, Single life is Beautiful ❤
Yesssss I tell my girl I see through u yo thoughts show up on yo face u can't sneak u so obvious I tell her this so she can trust me and open up to me but she acts up 😂smh thanks for the insight again keep up yo great work thank you 💯💯💯💯
Hes said that to me too .. How can you Love me .. hes said & done e everything you said & I did ask him if he wanted help coz I had his back even though he never had mine ... I love your vids they help me to not Love too hard.. that has to be earned
Lol. My to ex that I have kids with won't even call or see the kids. Every couple of months he will drop a txt to the kids. Like the last txt said" I'm going back to Texas, there's nothing here and I moved here for y'all and y'all don't want to do nothing with me" At least I tried" Mind you he hasn't been in the kids lives since he chose the military over them. He kick it a notch ever since I told him his a narcissist . Years ago before I stopped feeding the narcissist mentally, I was sending him the videos of Lee. N I noticed the switch. So I stopped all contact and asked him to email me when it came to the kids. Just so I have better trail for court.
It’s crazy that you say a lot of people say that they don’t know that person. I remember writing a letter to a relative who attacked me about a relationship that I have with somebody who is narcissistic. The narcissist basically set up a scenario to make it look like I was this unforgiving person for not wanting to interact with her. I wrote a letter to that relative explaining everything in the last thing I said Was I feel like I never knew that Was I feel like I never knew that person. I also told her to Google vulnerable narcissism, and triangulation because that is exactly what happened.
Not always. I figured out him after one month, he was already in a relationship but I was curious to know him anyway and see what could happened. Long story short I felt deeply for him and we had our bond for a while but he didn't wanted to be official when he became single. I even told him about narcissism. He blocked me for the first time but after some days he reached out. I love him, but I left. It lasted two years.
You can be with one if you have immense self confidence. The girl I’m with now is a raging narcissist and thinks I’m biting on her attacks, but in reality, NOBODY can crack my confidence. If anything, all her attacks do is motivate me to be a little better, which in all fairness I have been lacking in since I’ve been with her.
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Lee, what is it about people with NPD and the need to be chased? I've noticed they all play games to make you text, to make you call, to make you start the conversation. Is it for attention? Is it to avoid accountability, as in it was your idea to be their friend / lover / whatever? 🤨 thx
If the narcissist is in spirit form how can someone get rid of them because I have 3 or 4 spirits that I know for a fact that 3 of them are narcissist and I think the 4th one is too😮
And if a narcissist can not seem to love yourself then why not try doing subliminals as they have helped me with this problem in the past!!!!
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It’s like telling an Oscar winning actor you don’t like their acting to their face 😂
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It's more like telling a bad actor........ "You will never win an Oscar because your acting SUCKS!"
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I know it's childish but the truth is, it feels awesome 😂
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“I’m such a good masker… How dare you figure me out” 😂😂
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@@starrababy31 it’s everyone though!
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Once you find out, they want to get away from you. They don’t sleep through the night. Very stressful on them.
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Yep
So true. Before I knew he was a narcissist I asked if he had a diagnosis he hadn’t disclosed after he kept passionately making false accusations against me. This caused him sleepless night for him during which he woke me up 4/7 nights to interrogate me and narcissistic rage. Discard happened shortly after
When I figured the Narc I was with. He started moving around the house as if he was scared of me cause I started calling him out on his mess and exposing him to people
well, then, good. "get away." STAY AWAY!!!!
PEACE!
It’s ironic because the real self that narcissists have is so much more lovable than their false persona. That real authentic self that they hate is what’s actually redeemable if they actually were to accept their true selves.
This is so true!
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@@lizardluminals9324 What does their true self look like?
@@therapeutic_music_for_sleep I mean the true self that they denied when they were a child. The soul that everyone has, people aren’t inherently evil it’s society that teaches them to be.
@@lizardluminals9324 thank you for your answer. I think they're abusing their inner child, they hate their own vulnerability, everything that makes them weak and vulnerable. Because they were shamed for it and for having needs. This is how I understand it now, I'm in the process of learning.
This is why Narcs want to know what you are thinking all the time. Not cus they care about you, but because they want to see how much you know/have figured out.
If its too much truth, they'll call you a liar, pick a fight and leave.
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Like get out of my head. Too many cooks spoil the broth but everyone is just fine with a million people crowding their mind? 🤷🏻♀️… don’t get it!
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True they like to know everything that is going on in your life while keeping their life a secret
Yessss, you got it right
This is true. The narcissist that I loved had mom issues and he told me “he doesn’t believe anyone loves him if his own mother couldn’t love him” and that stuck with me. It’s so sad because I really cared for him, but you have to save yourself. 😢🙏🏽♥️
The thinking process is just so sick & twisted it’s like if you stay with a person of this caliber you will eventually lose your mind.
Yours may be mild spectrum narcissistic.. But others have experienced more bs from high spectrum narcissists.. I have experienced both some are childish and some are outright evil
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I never in my life knew what a narcissist was . I put two and two together and realized my husband was a narcissist. After ten years of being with the man I found out that his Past actions towards me and his behavior was because he’s a narcissist. When I did my research and found out that he was a research I seriously felt like I was Albert Einstein and like I discovered a new universal formula. I felt enlightened. I confronted my husband and told him “ I know who you are , YOU ARE A NARCISSIST”. And literally a month later he left me.
Omg this just happened to me and you could not have said it better 😢
So true. The moment I figured her out, it was game over. When I confronted her, devaluing, gaslighting, blameshifting and namecalling got worse. After I told her that is narcissistic behaviour, which I will not tolerate, I quickly got discarded and blocked everywhere.
Same for me, first and final discard, 24h from that conversation, after 3 years of relationship.
@@LaPetitePlaneteDeRoxi I am sorry you had to go through it. It is mindboggling how they immediately act like neither us nor our relationship never mattered, isn't it?
Yet, we are the ones questioning ourself, missing them etc.
@@nickus51 For me it's already been 5 months and I managed to detach. I blocked him on everything to stop the "waiting" feeling, binge watched videos on narcissism, and made a big list with the 9 NPD criteria with bullet points of the ways he checked those criteria. At some point it just hit me that he was never going to be able to match the kind of feelings I had for him, compared him in my mind and renamed his (blocked) number to Rotten Fruit and detached. Rotten fruit because on the outside there was no way of telling that anything was wrong, but once I got to really know him I saw the damage that his childhood traumas made. I made peace with the detachment by thinking I can't help him as long as he doesn't want to be helped, but should he at some point realise he has a problem I will gladly support him. As a friend only, I have zero interest in ever getting into a relationship with NPD, it's way to triggering for me. They are people also and deserve to be with nice people once they are in therapy, but I wouldn't see this possible with someone who has their own issues (CPTSD like me, or BPD etc).
same here with the last ex narc lmao. that person is weird lol
@nickus51 I was hurt initially, but then I realised I am happy he removed himself from my path without any additional drama 🤭. I was already aware he has NPD and was already informed on it.
They become unhinged
Ran over me with a car. I’m not keeping a record of wrongs but come on. You hit me with a car! You don’t forget someone hitting you with a car easily one state.
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Narcs do😣😫😭
When I exposed mine he really couldn’t help but to start devaluing me by putting me down and saying hurtful things he never said before . This is when they want out and project all their dumb shit onto you and make you the problem and why they can’t be with you anymore 🙄
How did u get away,
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Facts
Omg facts!!!!!
.... My current life.lmfao
My ex narc girlfriend abruptly discarded me after I figured her out. I didnt even say anything. Its like she sensed it through the changes in my behavior towards her
Omg legit same it’s like they can feel the dynamic shift
Better to know sooner than later 💯💯💯
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Bc if we knew who they really were we wouldn’t have anything to do with them! 💯🙅🏽♀️😈🎭
@@tanyaw7180 my ex husband had the nerve to tell me, “if you knew the real me you wouldn't have got with me”. I told him I surely wouldn't have.
chiiiiild!!!!!!!!!!! NOT ON ANY, ANY, A-N-Y LEVEL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
PEACE!!!!
On Monday I laid it all out, on Tuesday talked 2 hours by phone & acted like Monday never happened, Wednesday and until today, he went total no contact. Still laying all of it to rest. He'll never be happy with anyone as he can't be happy with himself. Onward.
Wouldn't be surprised if you never hear from him ever again 😂
Yep, yep, and yep.
This narc I was with (as of today) went total scorched earth on me because a family friend put air in my tire! This entity is EXTREMELY EVIL ! Yes, he is PARANOID AND CRAZY AS HELL !!
Same. But sadly I have a child with her. He's 6. He gets punished and grounded for telling me the truth. He called her out one day on the phone about stealing from his own piggy bank. So he got lied to, stolen from, and still got grounded for telling me the truth. It's so sickening tbh.
that's right, honey, "ONWARD!!!!"
grow through your pain. heal. recover. experience a new you!!!!!
PEACE!!!!!!!
He was very angry when I figured him out. It was scary!
stay safe
Never tell them!!! Just adjust the level of access (if any) and what you say to them. Let everyone else deal with their toxic self.
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Wish I didn't let him know I know... ur right it is less painful if u keep it to yourself and move along stealthy in the background. Wish I did that. Now I get ignored, no help whatsoever even if I'm right in his face struggling... learn to be a better actor than them... my advice as well. Lol
He was so scared when he knew I figured out his game. It was almost funny
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Same mine got so strange when the mask slipped.. I called him out for exactly what he was.. He lost his shit.. two months later.. done.. no contact now and healing.. ❤
Bro their game is so, so, so, repetitive I'll tell you once you got it there's no going back to unseen mode.🎉😂
YOU DON’T HAVE TO TELL THEM. That is such SOUND advice. “You don’t have to tell them. If you want to leave, make a plan. If you want to stay, make a plan”. That is it. That’s 100% it. This is one of the most helpful advice I’ve heard from you (or anyone out here) and I appreciate it SO MUCH. Thank you for all you do for us!
Yeah its kind of confusing because they want unconditional love, butcant handle it
Or give it back to you
I feel you🎉 mine wanted to be with me all the time but when I did give her time she used all the excuses in the book to NOT spend time together 😮like wth😮
they don't want "unconditional LOVE."
they want UNCONDITIONAL CONTROL, ADMIRATION, VALIDATION THAT THEY ARE THE BE ALL END ALL...SUPPLY!!!!!!!!
PEACE!!!
Yes, they think they're above the Messiah himself
Once they know you know at that point it is game over for them and they know it. That's why the become more of a demon.
Mine became a stone in the house and stopped doing anything for the home,our pets, me etc. Don't do this if you can't leave. For me it got worse.
@diane5593 I'm sorry that you have to experience this,WHY CAN'T YOU JUST BOUNCE! WHAT'S HOLDING YOU BACK? HIM OR YOU. I've moved out and on with my life,never looking back then and certainly not now!!!
Yes. I never really knew this person. They aren't different from a stranger.
It’s amazing how they will turn everything on you. To criticize and accuse you for what they’re doing all along.
The accusations are always confessions.
My narc LOST it when he discovered I had put a tracker on the car…..
HE was like
“This is crazy! Why would you do this!”
I said
“To remind myself that everything you say is a lie and not to fall for the I love yous, I‘m not doing you dirty, I dont want that b*tch kinda talk! That you will say whatever you need to protect your image over taking any sort of accountability” 🤷🏽♀️
yea sorry NOT sorry if its ok for you to stalk me, watch me
24/7 thru cameras and accuse me of cheating then keep me from going anywhere becauase you hide the keys ...... WELL then dont be surprised when I start flippin the crazy on you. I learned CRAZY from the OG OF CRAZY!
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Ooo! They can’t STAND to be tracked. Mine act like it’s only supposed to work one way. Tracking me, always acting like he’s not, but magically knows to call whenever I leave the house. Watchin me, but can’t see that he’s not sharing his location.
Sounds About Right. Mine Burned My Car Up. Thank God I'm Still Here ❤
Please teach me, where do I place the tracker in the car so he doesn't find it? Pls which particular one did you use? Please help me , am dealing with a NARCISSIST pathological liar, who breathes and exhales LIESSSSSS, IT is revolting. Please help me in how to go about it, I have caught him in tge past he still denies it, but my gut is telling me he is still cheating and Lieing, I need to Catch him red handed ,please teach me what I need to know, God bless you, Thank you in advance.
Proud of you
My narc tracked me for years…. Location, browser history, everything…. Sucked, lol. Good to help me leave though! Wish I tracked her…. 3 year affair😊
This is spot on. I never told the narcissist of what I knew b/c I knew that it was only going to give them a reason why they’re upset or angry with me once you have them figured out. which makes no sense. I remember the last conversation after I told him to stop contacting me was “so what do you know” or “is there someone else” as he already knew that I knew way more then what he thought I didn’t know at first. The best power to me is knowing the narcissist real personality or for who they truly are and never have to go out your way to air out their business to others as a revenge. God always have the final say.
Yes it’s true. They hate when you know you have them figured out. I put mines in his place yesterday and he said “Your Blocked” lol
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That level of defensivenes is cruel.🎉😂
Once you start seeing how they're able to flip-flop even on the core principles of their personalities, you give up caring.
The key is recognizing that the individual you met and fell in love with isn't real, and doesn't exist. They were an actor on a stage, acting in ways they believe you find important and make you feel special. Once you are hooked they begin to act as they really are. This sometimes takes between 3 months and 2 years. They can't keep the mask on forever. The key is flip flopping so you think the negative experiences just are lack of understanding etc.
@@brendakauffman2222 I totally agree with the beginning of your comment and this information assisted me to see that it meant that I didn't love any of the exes in my past either when I found out.
It felt like I couldn't live without them at the time, which certainly wasn't healthy, yet I had huge abandonment and other unhealed childhood trauma issues! I'm planning to stay single from now on though. 🙂
I experienced this with my ex. I was so confused by his negative reaction to me telling him "I see exactly who you are and still love you." I expected it to alleviate anxiety, not create more.
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when I confronted one narc, I remember I could see how the anger the eyes and eyes turning black......then, acting like nothing happen..
I did notice that after I asked him where do you go everyday at the same time and he did change it up and started going out an hour earlier. Lol
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His man's house. Lol dl man.
if he's still around, tell him next time to just STAY GONE to wherever he goes!!!!
PEACE!
@angelac.3217 that's actually hilarious 😅
I understand the advice in this video, but to be honest I really struggle with it.
So often I hear “don’t confront the narcissist” “don’t call them out” .. because of the risk of triggering their narcissistic rage. Yes, narcissistic rage can be dangerous - I have been on the receiving end of it myself.
But why should they just get away with it??! If everybody continues to tiptoe around them, they become a law unto themselves. Is that acceptable??
That look you threw at 3:18 I totally laughed out loud because you explained it soooo perfectly!!! PRAYERS of healing to us all - including the narcissist
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So proud of you. Wish my dad and the ex husband would do such challenging inner work. Instead, they both hate me because I figured them out. I don’t care about being the enemy in their minds. I care that they aren’t living better, more connected lives. Oh well. Off to smell my roses.
Same here, I realized I married my father, unfinished business 😔, both of them now is on the smear campaign making me out to be the bad guy, but hey it feels good to be villain sometimes, VILLAIN MODE#
So this exact thing is happening to me now. I work with my ex narcissist and he constantly watches me up close, studying me to see where there is an “in”… he will be charming but then know it has no influence… so then he will stay quiet… and it’s always indirect communication (parking beside my car, standing close to me when in the same room as me, does things to draw my attention like making noises while I’m talking to someone else) it’s friggen WEIRD and I don’t know what the hell he wants.
To be in your sphere of energy and potentially hoover.
Passive aggressive behavior. I've had to deal with that for so long...
I filed for divorce almost a year ago. He has been dragging this out but to his shock, I have continued to push on toward getting the divorce finalized. When he learned that I signed the divorce decree he literally started rambling, almost incoherently about how he was sure that I was on the verge of reconciling with him and he cannot believe I’m moving forward with this. He actually admitted that he is having a hard time processing that I’m leaving him. He then said something along the lines of “You don’t know me.” I told him, “You are absolutely, unequivocally right! I don’t at all know you. I mean how can I or anyone else possibly know someone, such as yourself, who lives a double life!” He stared at me without saying anything for a while then got up and left the room without arguing with me for once. 🤷🏾♀️
I’m just ready to get away from him. And God is leading the way for me 🙏🏾
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They are running away with their shoes in the hand. They don´t want to face you again. (They don´t like to be held responsible).
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💯 on the only being vulnerable when they are drunk, I got to clean the evidence of those messes up too. Meanwhile, he remained an unmarked, perfect “angel” to everyone bc he has a good paying job with an “important” title and lots of “stuff”. These people will one day reach a point where the bottle can’t help them and they have to live in the destruction they created. Alone. Miserable. Just like they themselves dished out when they were in their “prime”.
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Yup!
My partner of 16 years straight cut ties when I found out about all the cheating and lies. Never saw him again. No hoover, nothing. Feels incredibly weird to this day, no closure at all.
Sorry, that awful!!
Yes.
Similar experience here.
I began enforcing boundaries with the help of my counselor and it was war on for him. He set up a secret life with the latest affair and took off right into her house.
I figured out so much and called him out on so much and he never talked to me again and dropped the decent dad act, too.
23 years, and married 18 with 3 kids.
Never talked to him again… been 5 years.
Terrible and I’m glad I healed at all which I have. But I don’t take it for granted and I’m so thankful for resources like Lee.
Blessings to all on this journey.
You're the real thing, @mentalhealness. Thank you for what you are doing. This is so true. When you say 'I know you' the narc hears 'you disgust me' because they know themselves and they're disgusted with themselves. It is genuinely sad and I hope any narcissists here can find the help they need. If you're tangled with one, please get out of there immediately. Hope they find help, but please run.
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Love and live through it there’s a light on the other side of narcissistic abuse
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you know it!!! there was light before. there IS light after! and it's far more brilliant!!!
PEACE!!
I called him a Spirit. I never heard from him again 😂😂😂. He ran away.
Most of them don't even know what they are themselves.
They know exactly what they do.
@@IsabellaPiesch one i was good friends with didn't even know what ''narcissit means''
@@DopeFiend Me neither. But I figured it out the hard way. In fact a friend said to me - isn´t he a narcissist?... And so everything started. Now I know...(Not a pleasent journey I went through - but I learned a hard lesson...).
They know they are an actor on a stage, acting the way they can convince you they are someone they are not. They generally know what they are like, but sometimes they repeat the lies ( that it is you) long enough they begin to believe them themselves
@@IsabellaPieschthey know exactly what they are doing, BUT most of them doesn't knew it's a mental disorder. 🎉😂
My Narc stopped FaceTiming me when I recognized something in the background that didn’t match where he said he was
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I loved and still love my narcissistic husband so much and miss him to this day. When he love bombed me at the beginning, I thought i found the love of my life and i wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. As soon as we got married, he changed or the mask fell off? The good times were GREAT, but the bad times were HELL. Sometimes he seemed normal is why I questioned if he really was a narcissist?
One day, i was flirting with him and said, "you met your match, buddy" in a playful way and he looked very upset. Maybe that's what changed the dynamic of our marriage? At some point I became his target and enemy.
I do feel like I didn't know him, because i never knew what he was thinking. Our relationship became more and more toxic and I couldn't take the cruelty anymore. I filed for divorce for my peace of mind and mental health. My heart still breaks, but I know he would throw me under the bus if he had one more chance. 😢
Best wishes to you on this new journey. You're stronger than you know❤
He didn't change, the beginning is all faked. It's not their personality, it's a mirror of you. What you like, they say they like it. What you appreciate, they "appreciate". Where you wanna go, they wanna go. It's all fake.
I'm praying you keep your peace and love yourself so much you don't notice he's gone. I learn a lot from channels like this and I also watch videos on complex trauma and how I developed a people pleasing coping mechanisms and how to stop that, learn healthier coping skills and live my life more fully and authentically. I needed to heal myself and I'm doing that. I pray you work on yourself too. Focus inward
You don't love him . . . You are trauma bonded . . . You love who you imagine he could be . . . Open your eyes .
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Mee too
After I called them out on being a narcissist and confronted her about the gaslighting and disrespect she ghosted me. I told her that her mask was falling off and she responded with the laughing emojis via text and then ghosted me. It has been a little over a month of no contact which is unusual because she always hoovered me in the past after we had a disagreement. She was definitely paranoid and a conspiracist.
i swear i started hearing that toni braxton song as i read your comment: "let it flow, let it flow, everything's gonna work out right you know!"
PEACE!!!!!
@@ItsSoarTime Thank you and I receive it :)
The same exact thing happened to me, called her out and said I think shes a narcissist and she lost it and kept saying no I'm not a narcissist and then out of nowhere she makes this 👿 angry satanic face!!! Then she stayed away from me and ghosted me, then I got a lonnggg text of her saying she's leaving and she never loved me and now she's onto the new supply!!! The day I got that text message, i have to say I was happy!!! So happy I went to the movies the same day to celebrate and that now I don't have to see or deal with her ever again!!!!!
@@paulwisdom1090 It seems like they don't like being seen for who they really are. So once you figure them out and see behind the mask how abusive they are and you aren't going to stand for it any longer their game of manipulation is over. I'm glad your narcissist took herself out of your life so that you don't have to continue dealing with the emotional abuse. I just wish things were different and turned out different with my situation.
Lol that’s the jam. Literally had that on repeat all last week
Mines just avoids me or ghosts me but whenever he needs a favor and can’t find someone to do it I’m the last resort I guess … a dam shame
Can I borrow $20
I've heard that some narcissistic people don't know that they are a narcissist. So, i think that they should be made aware, but it needs to be approached in a well thought out way
Narcs are so,so predictable ! It’s absolutely unbelievable how much so
Your vulnerability in explaining how you feel is really impressive.
I said i dont have the emotional capacity to deal with this it totally shocked him he didn't know what to do
This is very true he knows im onto him but lies like hell. Its very stressful on us
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Dumped and blocked in a nanosecond. He’d already groomed my replacement is my belief. I rumbled him and the contradictions were falling over themselves.
15 years and now I feel angry which is uncomfortable. A horrible house of cards 🌷
I knew him better than he knew himself. 32 yrs, and he really never knew me. He was insecure, paranoid, manipulating, addicted to porn, calculating, a multi millionaire who thought that his money was keeping me with him. He did not like that I knew what it was to have money. He also, did like that my father a black single parent to my brother and I since we were three and two yrs old was a successful businessman. I just learned the word narcissist three yrs ago and I have been seeing about me/healing since. No, we weren't married, didn't live together, although he took care of all my expenses, and NO, we did not have any children together. I stayed all those yrs., because I believed ALL his stories that everyone wronged him, and I thought, I could help.
You knew him better than he knew himself and stayed for THIRTY TWO YEARS.
Wow.
Thinking we can help. This is part of our good nature. They want to be saved. But then try to destroy whats saving them because of this deep seating shame and unworthiness. Which i guess we have too, otherwise why would we let this happen.
Very cool video A month ago, I ended a five-year relationship. My soulmate made the decision to walk away from me, and even though I've done everything in my power to get him back, I can't help but feel disappointed because I can't see my life with anyone else. I want to say that I've tried everything to stop thinking about him, but I simply can't. I miss him so much and I don't know why I'm saying this here.
I learnt the hard way that saying goodbye to someone you love is difficult when a 12-year relationship ends. But I was unable to let him go, so I made every effort to get him back. I eventually sought aid from a spiritual counsellor, and he was able to assist me in getting him back.
Interesting-sounding! How can I most efficiently get in contact with a spiritual counsellor that you recommended?
His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.
I appreciate you providing this important information; I've just checked him up online. striking I just checked Father Obah Eze online, and wow, he's really genuine. Thank you so much again ❤
That's right...Never let them know
She knew when I told her , you do you and I will do me
I like how bluntly u describe everything.
My narcissist steps up.. .. then when he got me "believing" in him, he switches up and "the shoe drops". I am always living on eggshells. ...
There's no need to live on eggshells.. Find you... And by that , I mean , concentrate on things that make you happy and do them.. Live your life like he is not there... And every time he does something mean and hurtful, write it down Somewhere like on your bedroom wall He will.
Read it everyday And if he has any sort of heart Like mr lee here It will drive him crazy Because he will secretly have to accept accountability , which narcissus hate. However, it will remind you by you.Reading it everyday that he does not really care about you. Either he will change to a person you can live with or You will see for yourself.
That you really do need to leave.But either way , be careful , narcissistic people and that rage of theirs is dangerous
Face your reality, one day at a time! Praying you don’t lose you, trying to survive him! Whatever that trauma bond is, if you have one, start taking care of you and make plans to leave ..
" my narcissist" in the name of Jesus Christ may I never claim a narcissist to be in my life..
2:58 I hollered😂 “I thought you knew girl🤠”
I have had many experiences with people on the cluster B spectrum and I can sincerely say that it took a lot of recovery on my part, not to simply hate people who have narcissism and what I love about your channel and your delightful sense of humor is that you prove to me that not going into hatred is the right thing to do.
Your transparency about your experiences and what it’s like to have narcissism makes me see that it’s not personal at all. And I really and sincerely and genuinely thank you for this. Thank you so much for being part of my healing journey, I discovered you many years ago and I’ve only started looking at your channel in the last three days again after a long break of getting narcissism off of my consciousness because I didn’t want to deal with it anymore. and you’re still out here smashing it and I’m so happy to see it.
Thank you❤
I truly appreciate this. Thank you 🙏🏾
Thanks!
Wow. Thank you so much.
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Switching up until your dizzy pure insanity.🥵it was so much drama going anywhere with him, he thought everyone was looking at him because he thought he was so good looking. I wished I knew then what I know now. Another red flag
Thanks Lee🙏🥰
Some of us have a spirit of discernment & if you pay attention they tells on themselves my daughter told me her husband is a narcissist so I told my dude what she said his response was he’s not a narcissist I use to be one in my head I’m like use to be one😳that nvr left me few months later i went no contact for 2 weeks blocked I started praying & researching & I did confront him as well as others I asked him how many ppl told you that you are a narcissist he said 2 so I guess I’m the 3rd to confront him 🤣🤣
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@@MentalHealness he has been blocked no contact since then I’ve been knowing him for 30yrs I am now 46 smh
You've figured them out when you realise that Halloween has come and gone and they're still wearing a god damn MASK!
I'm so proud of you. I love you and thank you for all you try to do to better yourself and those of your likeness ❤🙏
I just walked away don’t even want to know or care why my intuition was bugging me the crap out of me. They’re a coward and staying away, which is a blessing ❤
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yep. I use it at this point. I'm so over the games I don't even care if it's dangerous anymore, if I encounter someone in the wild playing these games I'll start narrating it like I'm David Attenborough. not to flaunt it necessarily, but because with some narcissists they will take you just saying you know like a dare. if I demonstrate, they usually get the hell out of my periphery so I don't mess up all their plots. and that's all I want, exclude me from your narrative.
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Im so thankful for the videos its really helping and totally making sense
Lee can you make a video on malignant narcissist and also on how some narcissists rush a relationship. Like I’m still healing over something that only lasted 6 weeks
Me too , it was only 9 weeks
10:00 so accurate... And I've said that myself after figuring out I was in this for sixteen year cycle ... Thank God he ghosted me because that's how I figured it out.. he gave me plenty of time to give myself the answers I needed ...
My ex narc told me I've always knew who he was. I said i didn't know what you was but the Holy Spirit revealed that to me which sent me on this journey of narcissism
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"You think I like Usher? I'll start listening to country music" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
That is so True I'm with this type of person and knows that
I don't put up with his S**t that why he watching what he says to me . Cause I will call him out on his S**t .
Thank you
Why do their eyes turn black when they become very angry.It was a bit frightening but i stood my ground in figuring him out.
That’s what happens to my narc husband when he goes into rage
Exactly, they hate it.
Lee it is BRAVE to disclose this info because its vulnerable TRUTH ❤ that is a true sign of Growth !! thank you for helping me Understand my husband's bizzarre behavior.
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I knew he had narc traits, I wanted him to know I knew because I wanted him to know I'd love him anyway. But it backfired, he switched it up and turned it on me, then discard when I got sick and couldn't do what he wanted. It's sad I really thought if he knew someone could live him truly unconditionally he might love me too but that is just not a reality.
My ex with highly manipulative traits BEGGED me to be vulnerable with them. Repeatedly. Why would they beg me to be “weak”?
I told my narc friend that he isn’t as good at pretending as he thought he was. I told him I noticed it when I first met him. The only thing I didn’t know is how it would affect my life in the long run.
Thanks Lee😊
you’re welcome ♥️
Hey bro like your imformation .i lnow two narcassists caught them out and i notice they ho quiet and keep their distant.they dtill throw their dirty low remarks to get at you on the sly ,cannot ever to be trusted,their also dangerous.the best way to is yo stand up to them and dont fear their threats because in the end they are the weakest kind of people .
“They think you mean that!” You’re the funniest
Thanks for this.
hahaha told him I can see you all the things you try so hard to hide I see them... he looked terrified didn't say anything and we both went back to what we were doing
Thank you so much for this channel.. how do narcissists become self aware or want to?
Lee get out of that hot car😂
Yep all i said to my ex Narc is people all ways do things for you but you hate doing things for anybody,he went silent when we was in the car,then dry begged,i didnt offer,let him know it's over,you cant raised your voice at me im scared of loud Big men,Narc hate i called him selfish,but you f.... Up when you raised your voice I don't answer calls, was over him please get over me, Single life is Beautiful ❤
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Thanks Lee for sharing this great advice and insight
you’re welcome
Yesssss I tell my girl I see through u yo thoughts show up on yo face u can't sneak u so obvious I tell her this so she can trust me and open up to me but she acts up 😂smh thanks for the insight again keep up yo great work thank you 💯💯💯💯
When you know they are totally ashamed and what is more, they can't operate... they will do everything to remove you from their environment😂
Hes said that to me too .. How can you Love me .. hes said & done e everything you said & I did ask him if he wanted help coz I had his back even though he never had mine ... I love your vids they help me to not Love too hard.. that has to be earned
Omg! He told me that once yo. He said he feels like someone's always watching him. 👀
Great video 💯♥️
I called him a Narcissist, I called him out, I should not have , but did not know at the time not to call a Narc a Narc out of his or her name.LOL
As a narcissist when you come across another narcissist can you tell straight away what they are.
nah, it takes time
@@MentalHealnessthnks for saying that. The self blame maybe but wondering if i should have seen it
Lol. My to ex that I have kids with won't even call or see the kids. Every couple of months he will drop a txt to the kids. Like the last txt said" I'm going back to Texas, there's nothing here and I moved here for y'all and y'all don't want to do nothing with me" At least I tried" Mind you he hasn't been in the kids lives since he chose the military over them. He kick it a notch ever since I told him his a narcissist . Years ago before I stopped feeding the narcissist mentally, I was sending him the videos of Lee. N I noticed the switch. So I stopped all contact and asked him to email me when it came to the kids. Just so I have better trail for court.
They sure hate Lees Videos.....
Like if a video triggers you that much isnt that a sign you need some serious help 😂
@@DanceChickaDee exactly!your 💯 right, but you know they think they can do nothing wrong.
@@zenaidarivera8054 hahaha if the watch till the end its because they put themselves in the victim position🤣
It’s crazy that you say a lot of people say that they don’t know that person. I remember writing a letter to a relative who attacked me about a relationship that I have with somebody who is narcissistic. The narcissist basically set up a scenario to make it look like I was this unforgiving person for not wanting to interact with her. I wrote a letter to that relative explaining everything in the last thing I said Was I feel like I never knew that Was I feel like I never knew that person. I also told her to Google vulnerable narcissism, and triangulation because that is exactly what happened.
Not always. I figured out him after one month, he was already in a relationship but I was curious to know him anyway and see what could happened. Long story short I felt deeply for him and we had our bond for a while but he didn't wanted to be official when he became single. I even told him about narcissism. He blocked me for the first time but after some days he reached out. I love him, but I left. It lasted two years.
You can be with one if you have immense self confidence. The girl I’m with now is a raging narcissist and thinks I’m biting on her attacks, but in reality, NOBODY can crack my confidence. If anything, all her attacks do is motivate me to be a little better, which in all fairness I have been lacking in since I’ve been with her.
I rekcon the same, but how does she handle ''no'' as an answer?
great insight. Thanks..
you’re welcome