Negative bias is innate. That is true. Sad songs are better quality that many happy songs. Meaning in our good mood ..sad songs are better. Thank you giving solutions. Good one. Cheers
it is so amazing to listen to you. the number one issue in mental health is arrogance. therapists armed to fix people and forget the importance of human level connection and not ppl feeling like "tested on animals"
Thank you - that is a very meaningful comment to me... The most effective therapy is definitely where the therapist is not trying to "fix,", rather explore...
I too feel like I am being fixed but it also goes to how we are conditioned. Sometimes that what we think we need & we attract that as a service to us because it is our norm 😢
Me 💯%. I am trying to not do this anymore. Kicking out the ANTs, by being aware, then asking myself "is this really true", then think about what other possibilities can there be.
I've been doing this recently, after having had therapy for depression, once I started feeling better I decided to focus on what is good in my life. It really does help and becomes habit after a short time. This episode was very helpful in reinforcing those habits plus some good additional information about why we think negatively and how to change that pattern. Thanks for this. ☺️
Congrats Susan! It is certainly easier said than done, but once you get into the rythm of focusing on what is good in your life, cultivating a gratitude bias if you will, it can so transformative! Barbara, you talk about it so well in your video. I hope you'll continue to release new videos on similar topics like this soon!
Absolutely! A very hard pattern to change.. I’m trying to list 2-3 things I can be grateful for everyday. Having serious anxiety and panic attacks this works someday and not so much other times.
This is great!!! I especially liked where you emphasized the deeper work. You can`t just be positive. You need to do the work! Thank you very much for reminding me that the deeper work is a must.
Wonderful session on an issue that affects almost everyone. I loved the butterfly tapping idea. I just did that to myself and it put a smile on my face immediately. Thanks for all your suggestions!
Dear Barbara, I am from Slovenija,Europe, I recently discovered your chanel and find it very helpful!! I struggle with depression and anxiety and I will try to overcome them with your help too 😀👍
Thank you for the video Barbara and for the suggestions on how to retrain our minds to be more grateful and compassionate. This will help me a lot, and I will try the tapping! The bottom line is that a lot of our own negativity is only in our minds, and sometimes it's just hard to realize that while you're in the middle of a very highly emotional moment,
I've been depressed for years now trying all sorts of antidepressants that never worked,i now realise it's my own thinking about stuff that's causing it.When I'm really low i get these strong paranoid thoughts that people are doing or saying things just to annoy me and i do the mind reading lots and pleanty of self sabotage.Feel like I'm so missing out on life I'm constantly caught up in my own thinking and can't concentrate on things around me 🙄
Thanks for telling your experience. Have you managed to make a little progress. If you find cbt helpful, you might also like "blindboy intro to cognitive therapy". It has four parts to it.
Hi Barbara, I don't seem to have accessed anything new in the last 3 weeks, since the Negativity Bias, and I'm missing your wise and helpful videos, so hope you and your family are safe and well, and many thanks for your videos and topics up to date.
Hi Mary: Thanks for noticing!! Everything is fine. I have been working hard on a new coaching program I am launching (info in notes under my videos) and also on a new, free webinar, Rewiring Your Brain for Joy and Confidence. If interested check the notes (click Show More) under the video. And I'll be back to UA-cam relatively soon :)
@@BarbaraHeffernan Hi Barbara thank you so much for taking the time to reply, and glad all is well! I look forward to seeing your new material! You do make a difference, and you are missed!
Hi: I'm in CT too.. and yes, it is cold! Sometimes curiosity is a nice emotion to engage when we are having trouble feeling the way we think we should. I hope you have a lovely trip!
Hi Barbara Happy to how found you I live in New York City I need EMDR I’ve been traumatized since my parents died when I was a child I’m now 76 years old someone told me I need EMDR desperately Can you suggest anyone Thank you
Hi, thx for your videos and sharing your compassion. I live in Cambodia. I practice gratitude, I started to meditate and pray, watch my feelings. Its really not easy to not get involved. How to let go the feeling of being abandoned ? How to stay positive when the man you love complains?...Thx
Hi! I just hate I have to work on myself. I was doing negative core beliefs and ( I really critical towards both myself and the teachers) and it was ok when I was doing transformations even felt deep self compassion but the next morning I just got so stiff. Not angry but..like I am ok enough made me feel doubtful and resistant towards it
How does it happen that anxiety and fear and worry and depressed feelings come up when menopause hits? Do these ‘rewiring practices’ help for this time in our lives? I feel I’ve had the same thoughts for 40 years. They weren’t pressing all the time, though, but now they’ve come to the top and I’m having trouble. I feel lately that I need to hash out some past issues so I can feel better about myself.
How do I get a copy of your "tranform your negative thoughts" handout? I searched for the link online???? Thanks for your videos, very helpful to me to hone my skills as a therapist, and clarify some of these CBT concepts.
Thank you very much for this great work. Please let me know how i can contact you. Im physician and have something to share and need your great experience. Thanks in advance
Hi: I have found online therapy to be as helpful as in person with most clients. But some people definitely prefer in person! Wishing you health and healing.
I need help now I can't sleep I can't eat I try to stay positive but it's hard when you have anxiety and panic day in day out have to pee every five minutes
Your instructions are great and helpful. Thank you. I was sorry to hear you say that you are a buddist. Jesus is the Way, the Truth, and the Life. No one gets to God the Father except through His Son, Jesus. Read the Gospel of John.
Negative bias is innate. That is true. Sad songs are better quality that many happy songs. Meaning in our good mood ..sad songs are better. Thank you giving solutions. Good one. Cheers
You are welcome!
it is so amazing to listen to you. the number one issue in mental health is arrogance. therapists armed to fix people and forget the importance of human level connection and not ppl feeling like "tested on animals"
Thank you - that is a very meaningful comment to me... The most effective therapy is definitely where the therapist is not trying to "fix,", rather explore...
I too feel like I am being fixed but it also goes to how we are conditioned. Sometimes that what we think we need & we attract that as a service to us because it is our norm 😢
Special thanks and appreciation from Saudi Arabia 💝
Me 💯%.
I am trying to not do this anymore. Kicking out the ANTs, by being aware, then asking myself "is this really true", then think about what other possibilities can there be.
Thanks. Feels better listening to you.
I've been doing this recently, after having had therapy for depression, once I started feeling better I decided to focus on what is good in my life. It really does help and becomes habit after a short time.
This episode was very helpful in reinforcing those habits plus some good additional information about why we think negatively and how to change that pattern.
Thanks for this. ☺️
That is so terrific that you were able to change that pattern!
Congrats Susan! It is certainly easier said than done, but once you get into the rythm of focusing on what is good in your life, cultivating a gratitude bias if you will, it can so transformative!
Barbara, you talk about it so well in your video. I hope you'll continue to release new videos on similar topics like this soon!
I'm scared to be happy. Terrified. If I'm happy something horrible will happen.
I almost avoid happiness.
That might be a superstition worth questioning...
I am so thankful for your videos Barbara.
Ron, thanks for letting me know!!
@@BarbaraHeffernan You're an angel
Absolutely! A very hard pattern to change.. I’m trying to list 2-3 things I can be grateful for everyday. Having serious anxiety and panic attacks this works someday and not so much other times.
This is great!!! I especially liked where you emphasized the deeper work. You can`t just be positive. You need to do the work! Thank you very much for reminding me that the deeper work is a must.
THANK YOU so much for your clear explanations! Very helpful. I've been watching several of your videos in the past month or two.
where do you want me to pick you up at
Wonderful session on an issue that affects almost everyone. I loved the butterfly tapping idea. I just did that to myself and it put a smile on my face immediately. Thanks for all your suggestions!
Wonderful! So glad to hear that!
Redmond, Oregon, USA
Thank you (from Australia)
You are welcome!
Some of the strategies you provide make a lot of sense
Terrific!
Dear Barbara, I am from Slovenija,Europe, I recently discovered your chanel and find it very helpful!! I struggle with depression and anxiety and I will try to overcome them with your help too 😀👍
SO glad the videos are helpful!
Thank you for the video Barbara and for the suggestions on how to retrain our minds to be more grateful and compassionate. This will help me a lot, and I will try the tapping! The bottom line is that a lot of our own negativity is only in our minds, and sometimes it's just hard to realize that while you're in the middle of a very highly emotional moment,
yes!
Thank you from Ukraine!❤️
You are welcome!
Thank you ❤️
You’re welcome 😊
I've been depressed for years now trying all sorts of antidepressants that never worked,i now realise it's my own thinking about stuff that's causing it.When I'm really low i get these strong paranoid thoughts that people are doing or saying things just to annoy me and i do the mind reading lots and pleanty of self sabotage.Feel like I'm so missing out on life I'm constantly caught up in my own thinking and can't concentrate on things around me 🙄
Thanks for telling your experience. Have you managed to make a little progress.
If you find cbt helpful, you might also like "blindboy intro to cognitive therapy". It has four parts to it.
Thank goodness we can change our attitudes
Amazing
Thanks! I’m so pleased it resonated for you.
Hi Barbara, I don't seem to have accessed anything new in the last 3 weeks, since the Negativity Bias, and I'm missing your wise and helpful videos, so hope you and your family are safe and well, and many thanks for your videos and topics up to date.
Hi Mary: Thanks for noticing!! Everything is fine. I have been working hard on a new coaching program I am launching (info in notes under my videos) and also on a new, free webinar, Rewiring Your Brain for Joy and Confidence. If interested check the notes (click Show More) under the video. And I'll be back to UA-cam relatively soon :)
@@BarbaraHeffernan Hi Barbara thank you so much for taking the time to reply, and glad all is well! I look forward to seeing your new material! You do make a difference, and you are missed!
💐
@@BarbaraHeffernan 💕
Hi I've been watching your videos!
Butterfly 🦋 tap to myself!
😀
I live in CT and it is freezing her.. leave for FL on Sunday, but having trouble getting excited about it,
Hi: I'm in CT too.. and yes, it is cold! Sometimes curiosity is a nice emotion to engage when we are having trouble feeling the way we think we should. I hope you have a lovely trip!
Hi Barbara Happy to how found you I live in New York City I need EMDR I’ve been traumatized since my parents died when I was a child I’m now 76 years old someone told me I need EMDR desperately Can you suggest anyone Thank you
Nice 👍 thanks for the information quite remarkable actually 🙏❤️ from India 🙏👍
Thanks and welcome!
Hi, thx for your videos and sharing your compassion. I live in Cambodia. I practice gratitude, I started to meditate and pray, watch my feelings. Its really not easy to not get involved. How to let go the feeling of being abandoned ? How to stay positive when the man you love complains?...Thx
I hope my videos can be helpful for you. All the best,
CBT is a _massive_ time investment.
Hi! I just hate I have to work on myself. I was doing negative core beliefs and ( I really critical towards both myself and the teachers) and it was ok when I was doing transformations even felt deep self compassion but the next morning I just got so stiff. Not angry but..like I am ok enough made me feel doubtful and resistant towards it
How does it happen that anxiety and fear and worry and depressed feelings come up when menopause hits? Do these ‘rewiring practices’ help for this time in our lives? I feel I’ve had the same thoughts for 40 years. They weren’t pressing all the time, though, but now they’ve come to the top and I’m having trouble. I feel lately that I need to hash out some past issues so I can feel better about myself.
How do I get a copy of your "tranform your negative thoughts" handout? I searched for the link online???? Thanks for your videos, very helpful to me to hone my skills as a therapist, and clarify some of these CBT concepts.
Hi: The PDF Is in a link in the notes under each video. Click "show more" and you will see it!
Not sure what to do?!
Frida Algeria
Thank you very much for this great work. Please let me know how i can contact you. Im physician and have something to share and need your great experience.
Thanks in advance
How does online therapy help? I tried one but it was not helpful compared to in person .
Hi: I have found online therapy to be as helpful as in person with most clients. But some people definitely prefer in person! Wishing you health and healing.
I need help now I can't sleep I can't eat I try to stay positive but it's hard when you have anxiety and panic day in day out have to pee every five minutes
Liliya from Turkey
Humans are mammals
Absolutely True!
Your instructions are great and helpful. Thank you. I was sorry to hear you say that you are a buddist. Jesus is the Way, the Truth, and the Life. No one gets to God the Father except through His Son, Jesus. Read the Gospel of John.
I truly believe we all are allowed our own beliefs. In no way do I impose any religious beliefs. All the best, Barbara
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You are amazing u really say how I feel
I hope these videos are helpful for you!