8 Signs Your Friends Can ACTUALLY KlLL YOU! Even the supportive “nice” friends!
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- Опубліковано 30 вер 2024
- 8 Signs Your Friends Can ACTUALLY KlLL YOU! Even the supportive “nice” friends!
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So traumatized from fake friends assaulting me, using me, going on smear campaigns and backstabbing. This is why I keep to myself and only need a couple trusted people in my life at most.
This is why you always vet your friends like you vet your dates!
men celebrate one another's successes generally, women are like crabs in a bucket, that's why women like marilyn ended up so alone, women hate it
same here.i have PTSD from fake ass friends raping me,drugging me,etc.now I keep to myself.
@@rochellethundercloud346 I’m so sorry. I hope you get all the healing and peace you need. We deserve to have only the best and safest people in our circles
so true. I'm so tired I just stay to myself now
@@rochellethundercloud346 your female friend raped you?
This is why I won’t make new friends. I’m still traumtizied from past friendships especially after my ex friend followed me home threatening me back in college all because we got into an argument and I quickly called my mother. I hope Shanquella gets justice and her friends are arrested. 🙏🏿
I’ve been there but I wouldn’t rule people out. One thing that’s helped me is choosing people who have similar values. I’m big into fitness so I prefer people who are the same. Usually people on the other end of the spectrum become very jealous that you do something like that. So just have people with similar values hun ♥️
Im so sorry you went through that.
Thank you for this video!! My heart aches for that poor girl who lost her life. I’ve dealt with a lot of jealousy throughout my life and cut people out who I noticed had a dark and sinister side. If I ever have a daughter I will tell her jealousy is a very real and dangerous thing. Please warn your daughters especially if they’re beautiful. And you’re right about people who have something off about them. One girl I felt something off with had a bunch of dark and bad things she was doing in the dark. Ladies please protect yourself
dread, relational aggression, interrogation, gaslighting, controlling, backbiting, spiteful, fake discipline, unsolicited sabotage "advice", so many signs I missed because I didn't think I was worthy of being envied
👏👏👏👏
I’ve had plenty of experiences with “friends” who had feelings of animosity, jealousy, and generally ill intentions towards me. They would intentionally exclude me from social outings, associate with people who they knew didn’t like me, or would ghost me for months on end for no apparent reason. I tended to undermine these negative traits and covert signs because I deeply cared about them. Now that I have a keen sense of discernment, I’m wary about who I allow into my life or associate with.
True friends aren’t vultures
Friends and families these days are dangerous to you health. Literally. Some people want you to elevate or surpass them in life. Others want you to do good but not better than them.
Karine you recently got a shoutout from LOVELYTI! This youtube thing is DEFINITELY working for you sis! Congrats and keep going boo!
Thank you love! I’ll stick around a little longer 🥰🥰🥰
This is why I keep to myself. Smh
Shanquella's story is one of the most TRAGIC stories of the year. I believe she had jealous and EVIL male and female frienemies! She should not have been close to any of them. They did not mean well. Shanquella was in need of discernment. Please take heed to this CAUTIONARY tale. I hope all involved who did not protect her will be arrested and sentenced. Rest in peace Shanquella Robinson.😔🙏🏾❤️🕊️
This story is horrific. The people who killed her really hated her and it seems like she had no idea until it happened.
@@Sara-et4et 💔💔💔💔💔
@@danavixen6274 idk why but I find what happened to her especially disturbing even compared to the other horrible things I see on the news.
@@Sara-et4et Yes. There are other TRAGIC stories that hurt my heart, yet this one hits home considering I'm West African American. Just the fact all involved are Black hurts the most! 😔
@@danavixen6274 yeah maybe it is that they are all black that it hurts. I’m not sure why. Black people kill each other too sometimes. But this story just really bothers me.
Dear God. This beautiful woman gone 💔🤦♀️ Jealous people will destroy you 💔
This is why I won't have any friends, especially when I'm married.. but no new friends period
I still prefer to 'see' the good in people, lord knows how much I've been deceived.
I keep seeing comments warning about the dangers of making new friendships. Unfortunately there are many examples of how that can go wrong, however, I feel like people disregard that sometimes the 'friends' that will compete with you and resent you (without you even knowing) are the ones you grew up with. I'm not saying all of course but it's just more likely
She seemed like such a sweetheart 🥺🥺. I feel like crying right now 😞. She should still be here. Justice for Shanquella Robinson 😢😢❤️❤️
A loved one of mine was the most beautiful girl in highschool. Her fake friends cheered her on to drink heavily and get mixed up with awful men who treated her horribly. They wanted to drag her down to their level. I do believe they contributed heavily to a downward spiral that ended in her tragic death at a very young age.
That's so sad! My condolences. I wish we were taught to really protect our boundaries more and not let ourselves be swayed to fit in. It's not her fault of course, I just wish that kids were raised with greater awareness to protect themselves
I believe the only friend us humans can truly trust 100% of the time is God Himself. People can fail us at any time, but we are so blessed to have a Creator who loves us more than anyone else ever could. He proved it on that cross ❤
Yess❤❤
@@LouisaFidelis69 I currently have no friends at the age of 20 . Sometimes it can get lonely but my relationship with God became stronger and I learned that the only way you’re truly alone Is if you abandon God . I would love to make friends one day but right now it’s time for me to isolate and figure myself out and learn how to love myself more before giving a piece of me to anyone else .
@@ambin916 take time and yes you should put all your trust in God ❤️❤️
Wow, I went through all of these kinds of terrible people when I was in my young 20s. Where now I have PTSD from childhood trauma and anxiety from friendships. Being comfortable with who I'm with and getting self care has become so important to me.
this is why I'm extremely introverted and antisocial.
This doesn´t help, for more frighten that it´s to make friends and go on dates, it´s important to continue to have a social life, it´s a risk, but life has to go on.
This is a brilliant video Karine, a well needed breakdown on this topic.
I learned very early on that not everyone in my friendship circle is there because they actually like me. I only had some friends because of how much I did for people and how confident I am.
I stopped being so generous, helpful and dropping everything to be there for people who were using me.
Fake friends are the worst! Best way I spotted them is to not share everything about you at all until you've vetted them. Fake friends always get sone sort of way the moment they can get anything on you and they tell on themselves through back handed comments or picking points or trying.
This was a great informative video . I really loved your points because they were very true. I’m a person that a very good intuition so I pick up on a lot of things very fast about people but sometimes I second guess myself but videos like this give me confirmation that I make the right decisions when it comes to friendships. I rather have 1 or 2 friends than 100 friends because I value quality over quantity. This was a great video & rest in peace to shanquella. I don’t care what anyone has to say that girl didn’t deserve to get killed like that. That story is very tragic and sad 💔
This story is so heartbreaking. I pray that her family receives justice for her untimely demise. RIP Shanquella
This is true. Best example youlada Salvador Selena is a prime example. Facts!!! She was Salena biggest fans but still killed her
I always think of that example and it horrifies me! The ultimate cold-hearted act! To have so much hatred for someone as genuine and loving as Selena?! I guess if anything it shows that its truly not a reflection of oneself receiving the hate but the person that's giving it. Wow, I think I just had a breakthrough, hopefully healing my own torment about the so-called friends that spread smear campaigns against me
negging, relational aggression, signs of envy
I used to assume I wasn't worthy of being envied but anyone is.
These types of friends are very dangerous. I just got rid of a so called bestie of 20yrs. She always have to know what I'm wearing before we go out. We took a trip to Mexico last December and we had some itinerary planned and because I asked her what's the price for my itinerary, she was upset with me because she expected me to pay for her daughter's portion. We took a trip to Puerto Rico over the summer and she brought it up for the first time of how upset she was with me. We made it through the trip and on the way home, I told her this friendship is over. You never know who people really are. I'm so happy she exposed herself to me
Thank you for this great message 🙏
@violet Thank you for your concern and sharing your experience as well. It's never ok to lose someone that's been in your life, especially for this long. However, going through my awakening taught me some much and as I analyzed our friendship, I realized that I didn't know her in depth, our whole friendship was based on shallow and surface things, like going out, turning up, and posting on social media. I've done some healing and I'm over those types of people and relationships, I grieved and moved on.
Block that former friend, people like that would never understand you so save your energy. I hope you're able to heal from it. Take care🥰✨️💫
I thought I had a good group of girlfriends for 15 years, until I found out they're talking shit about me behind my back for years. Yes, I acknowledge I was not my best self when I was around them. Everything you mentioned is 100% truth. I'm glad I got out of that negative friendship. Now, I have a small group of friends I tust. I keep my group very small and I like it that way, and to protect my energy.
My heart broke for Shanquella & her family. 😢 I can sense different things, good and bad, about people just by their body language & it has saved me numerous times from women with jealousy & envy in their hearts. Ladies, we all have to pray for guidance with all of this. Ask God to show you what you NEED to see & not what you just want to see because you consider someone a “friend.”
i’m so glad she addressed the little things, like women trying to act smarter than their friend, around their friends man, and the other small gestures mentioned! people don’t want to talk about those things, but they are so important. a lot of toxicity isn’t direct. as a matter of fact, from my experience, most toxicity i’ve experienced that got really bad started out with those little things. little looks, attitudes, and ppl trying to one up me. it rarely ever starts off extreme and i’m glad she addressed those little things, because it helps people notice them before they become bigger issues. i always try to cut ppl off the moment i peep those traits now, instead of sticking around bc it never leads to something positive.
So true! I've learned of the term "micro-expression" - very fleeting facial expressions that are subconscious/unintentional - and looking back at the person's behavior that I now realize was a fake friend they displayed micro expressions that reflected their inner hostility that they managed to otherwise mask. Revealed their true self when they attempted to defame me and pass it off as a joke, attempting to gaslight me over it, etc
@@drebugsita and this is so true??? you worded exactly how I've felt about it perfectly!!! Its a real problem that they make sure you can't address without sounding "dramatic". But once I've started only being around people who treat me the way I treat them, I've noticed I don't deal w that problem anymore. I started seeing it like, if I don't do it because I know it's intentionally rude, then why should I let it slide when others do it? Like, its just nasty subtle mean girl behavior!!! and thats hater energy that we do NOT need.
@@adderae Very good point! I think it is the ingrained people-pleasing (childhood coping mechanism) that has led me to let too many things slide. I am trying to actually heed those signs now instead of shrugging them off. Absolutely do not need any hater energy!
Agree 100% my circle is getting super small and the last few years I’ve just been disappointed 😮 “friends” jealous at me and just been toxic 🙈
I feel like the supportive friend really won't kill you. you just need to have a strong sense of discernment and pay attention to what someone says and their actions. me personally? I dont have a lot of friends due to past experiences and I would support them in so many ways but when it came to me? crickets or no congratulations. I support some friends in the music industry and the thing is I can tell they think that im going to use them which I wouldn't even dare because I want to work my own connections without association and I have to remind them like hey just letting you know, I care more about you as a person vs your occupation.
for example, if I were friends with Rihanna and she told me to take a picture with her and her baby, I wouldn't even leak nothing. those are precious moments. if she and I got into a argument, you would hear crickets from me. no bad mouthing from me at all.
I remember being in high school and being friends with a group of girls, and later, treated me like crap and I really dont know why or remember why but my business was spread out like wildfire the next day. they told me secrets but I kept quiet.
it's hard out here for genuine people to thrive or be seen as genuine without agenda because of the advantage people took off others. so mainly just have a strong sense of discernment and strong bond with God.
This case disturbs me to the core…
Shanquilla was not a fighter…she was a kind hearted girl…believing the best in her friends.
Her family deserves justice and those fakes should pay for the life they stole…what brutal cruelty.
Don’t be an energy stealing Vampire it’s not fun it’s not cute. I was one and still trying to be better so don’t do it. Your problems aren’t the world’s problems.
I have a few friends that have a really mean streak. And say super hurtful things when in an argument.
They are NOT your friends. Friends DO Not say mean and hurtful things to each other
Although its hard start distsncing yourself from them.
Relationships are messy. It depends on the frequency of what’s being said.
Hunny that subtle control! I noticed that with a friend. Always trying to tell me what to do. Meanwhile her life a whole mess. I noticed the nasty spirit behind it not too long ago. Distance applied. And this Shanquella story shows it.
This was/is so good! I keep my business to myself. More peaceful that way! Can't trust anyone!!🤷🏾♀️
You have some vicious men/women out here.
Thank you Karine for this video ❤!
It can also happen that friendship, which were good in the beginning, start to become bad/toxic after years… This year I had to end two friendships as they became toxic, grudges were hold, no excuses were made, only I was blamed for everything. It hurts but at the same time I feel so much lighter.
Maybe you could also do a video about how to heal from such bad friendship?
Fake friends will try to have you jumped in the club
I've experienced "friends" like these and it honestly hurt that they could be this way. Maybe they had their own internal issues. Thank God they are no longer in my life. I wish them well and pray they have a change of heart. ❤
Everything you’ve said is right on, not until I moved out of state I realized how toxic my friendships were 😢
Those out of state moves are something!! They show everything.
People who set you up in life is someone . They will be around you to reap the benefits and rewards but when you stop doing things for them and the claws and fangs will come out. Also some people don't want you to be happy and can't wait to hear about you bad luck so they can secretly be happy
This is so well articulated, if only teachers can teach such in schools also as parents we should teach our children, this is informative & so true.
Great information. Yes, watch friends and family members too that show these signs. Thanks for sharing!
Sending love to her family for this undeserved pain and loss 😢
It breaks my heart that this beautiful lady has become a cautionary tale. She really didn't deserve that 😪 people are scary 😔
Now I will say there are ppl with multiple gifts. I definitely have more than one gift and it draws jealousy. I think insecure ppl get jealous of ppl that are good at multiple things. But I don’t hang in groups of women and don’t desire to anymore.
Rest in Peace Shanquella. Praying for Justice
Good Advice.
I had fake friends who lied to me, used me, talked behind my back used passive aggressiveness, tried getting me fired, competed with me and the thing they love to do most is date my ex's that's something they love doing but whenever my ex's try running back to me or their relationship doesn't work out because I was right they never admitted that they were wrong they tried to break a happy home even when I was alone they tried breaking my spirit but my spirit lives on.
Omgosh this video is on point!
Hey Karine. Fantastic video. Your video came on the right time. I’m in this last quarter in 2022 too on reflecting/assessing my friendships. Your video is the third confirmation of the thing going on my mind. What happened to Shanquella is devastating. Envy is the biggest of the deadly sin because it’s wearing a mask and it can go as far as betrayal, murder, etc. Shanquella looks like a sweet girl. May her soul Rest In Peace.
You mentioned about yourself “not being a nice person with your boundaries.” Maybe you can share your ideas to your friendship circle who are genuine, friendly, but are having trouble with disrespectful “friends.” I’m very much interested in you creating a video on how you enforce your boundaries or politely talk to people when they cross your boundaries. Please and Thank you very much. We’ll be there in your next video.
I stay singular ❤. Had a few jealous ones😅
When they bring ppl you do not know, “oh this so and so” but seeing them it’s giving plot vibes fall back
Yes, shine thieves are definitely a real thing. We all have different gifts and we can all shine in different ways on different days.
They’re jealous and don’t feel they’re wrong about it; they can hurt you. 👀✅
I agree with you. Pay attention to how they make you feel because sometimes they will hide their true intentions. I will not shears be overt. 🤢
Can u do on jealous family members
I feel like this came right in time for me thank you for the timing
I'd really love a video from you on energy vampires! It is NEEDED Karine haha 😄
It’s hard working with women and especially if they are in power because they always exerting their power.
First one here 🎉
I've been invited,but always been guarding myself until they prove themselves but I need to understand how to read it ok to be safe, competition has come from my older brother we are 1 1/2 older than me another sibling has codependent symptoms,I have control issues looking out for other's,I try don't know better but learning. I like your teachings it has made me feel Grateful for personal growth,self love and improvement
Hi Karine hope all is well. I reached out before on another video of yours, may I ask what resort did you film in DR? Im considering a trip there soon and wouldn't mind that spot. Please get back to me soon. Thanks
I've had traumatic experiences with fake friends, I don't do them at all. Very scary thing. My friends are my 2 brothers, Parents and my son. That's where it STOPS.
This is exactly why I fly solo. I don't trust people at all. I have been betrayed many times even by my own family. Endured a lot of trauma & I know how horrible people truly are. Most people are honestly not good people. There's a lot of things people do that irritate me, I feel most relaxed & at ease when I am by myself. I have always been on the receiving end of hatred & people doing/saying things they have no business doing/saying. Having friends is overrated. People are overrated.
Narcissistic friends gaslight and manipulate you.
I’m a new Subscriber from your other channel…so far, pretty good 👍🏼
Yes please make the energy vampire video because omg the worst 🙄😩🤣
The safest way to protect ourselves against negative surprises from friends is to accept the friendship of those with a high level of education. Narcissism is almost the only flaw that may come with them,which is a lot easier to deal with.
How ? If someone's point seems to matter more at all time ; do not discard it. Instead, I always display a fake support...to ideas that do not reason to me. By just not discussing them...already comforts the individual at first,...to later on realize that my actions do not match them at all. It is like a psychological punch in the face !!!
It is clearly obvious that you have turned a deaf ear to his or her advices to avoid open confrontation which is never sane to safeguard the relationship. Next time, he is prone to avoid repeating this.
Faking agreement to people views, is rather wisdom than cowardice.
The narcissist can never retain his ego...it's like keeping his valued thoughts suppressed.in fact,nobody like
To be in that spot,that's what often escalates discussions to a level where the existing harmony has to be broken.
What unfolds next, is a trend of deceits,
Hypocrisy, betrayal that Subsequently leads one to harm's way.
We must cautiously choose our friends
And respect everyone comfort zone.
Yes very few influential figures like to be
The center of attentions, meanwhile they subconsciously sense that nature is not so made. We need one another to get things done....through our talents.
The enemy starts as a friend,otherwise he or she would not have access to cause you troubles. Your work superior or partner is not your foe because you expext to disagree with that one at certain time,....nor would the burglar who robs is an enemy since he is predictable. Your adversaries come from
The one time trusted ones,....who overtime, become jalous of your happiness, your intelligence and accomplishments in life.
The root of all antagonism result
From a lack of wisdom, we hurt our love
Ones sometimes carelessly in ways that the matter could be tactfully addressed but for not being lenient, we deal with it
As it present itself.
Could be tactfully
Eccentricity
Could be tactfully eccentricity is not meant to be in my statement it does end
By " we deal with it as it presents itself.
Thank you.
I just started working at this job about 2 weeks ago , I follow a couple of my coworkers on Ig and they was acting aggy bc I wouldn’t drink with them from that moment red flag 🚩 #1 then they started throwing slick shots saying I’m still a child and don’t have a life red flag 🚩 #2 i had lied and said my moms wanted to me to do something for her and deleted numbers they questioned me at work and I told em I have a busy schedule and don’t care to hang out bc I don’t like confertation and females will fight you for not agreeing to be there friend these days
In Jamaica we say my spirit don’t take to you
Just read people's energy it's just that simple what's in their hearts don't lie.
This case was a shocker. But then I have no friends...
Great video and also for personal reflection, thank you
subtle competition is true: I told a friend we should sign up for this barmaid class to learn how to do drinks, I was money ready but she wasnt and she said i should wait for her... 5-6 months later we met up again and she told me she completed the class...................ok? We got into a huge fight because of her a few weeks before my 25th birthday and she knew I was planning to do it big mind you, we werent talking, she reached out to me because she wanted to know if she was still coming to my party or if I was still mad at her !! I knew right there I had to cut her off for good.
I’ve been hurt by people and gaslit to the point where I believe I cannot keep friends. I have had friends try to put me down and cancel me after one mistake but extend grace to other friends in the group when they messed up, these were people I would bend over backwards for showing up for them all year around and they couldn’t even show up to one event I planned . I honestly stopped trying to make friends now.
Love this, please more info on energy vampires, i find it childish to show your bad mood like expecting everyone to try cheer them up but it never works.
I neeeed that video about men being energy vampires
and people wonder why it is so hard to make new friends. I've been living in Florida for 2 years and I have colleagues that I'm getting to know at work. I wfh though so I don't hang out with them. It is so hard to make friends as an adult bc of the trauma and the anxiety of letting someone new in your life.
Amen!
Rest in peace beautiful angel. I so sorry your life had to succumb to lowlifes,gutter rats and hood bogahs and left you alone Ina foreign country. I hope all those demons go to prison and rot for the rest of their worthless lives.
Very insightful video
However every person has a shadow side
It’s more about what that person is “adding” to our lives mentally physically & spiritually to make our lives better that we actually need
We have to put up with some nonsense from the people close to us
Just as they have to put up with our nonsense
As a counterbalance would you be willing to make a video about “the kinds of people it’s wise to keep as friends”?
Keep up the good work
I totally agree.
I was attacked by my best friend other bridesmaid and a grown man. This could’ve been me. I’m so sorry Shanquella I hope you rest in paradise.
Pls do a video on the energy vampire husbands. Thank you😔
Oh please talk about energy vampires please!
Just ask are you my friend or a karmic? You’ll get your answer. 😉
Karine, please do the videos about having energy vampires as a boyfriend.
Great information. You speak so fast. Rapid fire.
Yeah, sadly our country its quite shitty
U gonna end up on a roller coaster with me😂😂😂
9:00 boundary setting
13:50 they can't forgive
I was waiting for you to talk about this karine! such a great video ❤
Plz do energy vampires 💯
Hit it on the nail with the tips!!!
Facts my best friend was my biggest supporter. And then she owed me a lot of money and played dumb. No. Bye