Why is the burden on the woman? A married should respect his marriage and stay away from single women. When are we going to hold men accountable for their actions. Now as a single woman I have to evaluate myself and do all this work so a married man won't approach Me? How fair is that? Let's teach men to respect relationships and treat women accordingly....this would be fair, give us a break. We've been suffering under men for years, when will it end?
Nona the burden is on the both Agreed 33 years of marriage here...high school sweethearts..if u don’t respect your marriage then other will not either much love First Lady Viv
@Jamilla Dobson Yep I hot approached more as a young lady then now as a women knowing her worths and working on myself I'll check him in the door come correct I'm a redflag detector lol
Stephan Speaks, the responsibility begins with the man. He is married, the single woman is not. The man has the responsibility of staying faithful to his wife. It starts and ends with the married man.
Period!!! The blame shifting or responsibility has got to be shifted to the issue at hand, being the man. The whole cheating of a married man starts and ENDS with that married man. It does not matter if women are sending off vibes and energy ti attract anybody. If he is married he has no business entertaining that. The focus shud stop being on women and how we shud conduct ourselves . We need to hold men accountable for what they have signed up for. They r not victims but predators and hunters
@@nelzg5819 Exactly. My energy is the way it is for a reason..They had no business bothering me period. Its just demonic really. They are purposely trying to destroy a good woman, then go home to their wives who don't know how evil their husbands are. They enjoy the benefits of a partner while you surf the web alone at night. Its unfair and just wrong because these men mostly lie about their relationship status.
@@Machelle3200 yes my dear. Many women are out here minding their own business and praying for a good man, a good partner and a good husband. Boom! Rocks up a married man and then we r told about energy thats attracting chancers. No, no. Men who are bored in their marriages have chosen the women they r bored from. They need to make it work or leave. But this dipping outside is not it
@@nelzg5819 Exactly...They choose the wrong women for selfish reasons..And then try to make innocent women pay for it..No way! They must pay the cost of their bad decisions!
@@Machelle3200 unless they were forced into marriage, they made their own choice. They made their own bed now they need to lay in it. Single women cannot be blamed for their selfish needs period
A married man approaches you because he is a typical selfish man. Stop finding reasons to make women feel like it’s something we are doing. These women they approach are minding their single business. Stop it
Women it is NOT your fault a married man tries to hook up with you. I’m in no way shape or form emotionally detached or w/e and married SAVED men won’t leave me alone because THEY are unhappy. If a man is in a relationship or married and can’t be honest, respectful or faithful to the woman he’s with then what do you think will happen when y’all get together? How you gettem is how you losem. I think the conversation should be helping men get counseling for the relationship/marriage they are in and making the relationship healthy rather than explaining to women why they are getting hit on by married men.
I have a huge problem with men and women who break their limbs reaching to make someone outside of themselves to blame for their own decisions. I also struggle with men who “appeal” to women to tell then about themselves. These kinds of videos are as manipulative and narcissistic as the men he’s speaking about.
Amen! If you are an attractive woman, then you're going to attract men...However, we don't have to accept the role they attempt to put you in...I'm not going to be the side chick, 2nd momma, money loaner, shelter-in-place provider...I have standards and believe God will provide what I need, so I walk away from men who are not worthy...it's just that simple...we all have choices, I choose to be single until God provides whom I need. I disagree with this biased video!😡😡😡😡
Change your attitude. Seriously, sis... Men are HUNTERS. They pick up on weak women. No offense to you because I am with my sisters. Listen, sister men know men and what they do. Trust me. Everything in this video is 100 percent true that is being stated. It's up to women to accept left overs men give us. We should be strong and have high standards. If a married man hit on us then he's hitting on other women as well. Think about STD and how cursed you will be being with a married man...Love you ladies!!! As women we got to do better.
@@CC-xl4ln yes this is definitely true! They try their luck with other women while in a relationship and if they aren’t given that chance they don’t win or lose.
Married men who look for side chicks are predators. Predators attack whatever they are attracted to in their proximity. If they fail in their approach/chase, they go home to their wives. They risk nothing except their character which they have little of in the first place because they are looking to cheat on their wives. Sad.
Let me this share with everyone: Yes, he's a married man but remains a human being. I've never been approached by a married man until recently! It was the first time I've had an unavailable man pursue me. I felt frustrated and confused, even scared. I blamed myself as if I had done something wrong or had given the wrong impression but this experience taught me that married men and women are human beings. And that's where you gotta be careful! I stopped giving him attitude, I prayed to God to open this man's heart to not view me as someone to play or have an affair with. I cried in my room and told myself that "Although not perfect, I am a good girl, I listen to my parents, I help them and my family, I'm pursing my education, I care for others, I'm not a selfish person." YOU can't allow someone to take your moral character from you. You can't give the enemy that chance! Since we're human and will mistakes, we should always seek God's direction in everything we do. Pray to Him and he will listen to you. I stopped worrying about this man attention and cues and focused on building a professional relationship with him instead. Sometimes, God doesn't ask you to hate the person because he's Holy, he is pure in everything that he does. So God may ask you to ignore but be loving and kind, maintaining a personal guard around that person. God requires us to be loving not hateful :)
Yes, me too! First time a separated/married man approached me recently. I'm glad I was able to completely detach from a man that approached me after I recently left the workplace for a new job. Had been on a few dates with him quite intimately, thankfully no full sex as I set good boundaries and thank God I didn't give in although I did enjoy the times together. Managed to completely remove myself emotionally from the situationship as found that he may not be separated although he said he was over 2 yrs separated, and about to divorce I felt something wasn't right either like hiding something and not telling the whole truth on his situation. When he was half whispering in the hallway after I asked him to call me on video after he gets inside his home to freshen up when he'd video called me in his car. Later he did as I suggested but I'd suspected he'd made up an excuse saying WiFi had very bad signal so cut the call short with whispering in the hallway that I saw in the background which led up to the stairs lol.... and excuse like car broken down and needed fixing tomorrow so have to end the call etc. How coincidental rite lol. The hallway part you'd think only happen in movies!!! 🙄 LOL of man possibly cheating on his wife scenario lolololol... Got me laughing loudly after I told my good friend 😂😭🤣 DONT SETTLE FOR LESS. Be receptive and open to the Man/Woman that God has for you!!! You've got this!!
I’ve been a side-chick ... thought stupidly it would be a different outcome. I definitely was clingy and was Invested. I thought he was too. I’ve been approached MANY MANY times. I’m extremely feminine and emotional. I am definitely not in anyway masculine or guarded. I absolutely agree that I didn’t argue against him, and allowed his devaluing. I know I’m worth MORE. I won’t be a side-chick ever again.
@@JahannamHellfire doesn’t the first wife have to give permission to the husband in order for him to marry another? Also the multiple wives is a bad idea because there is no way a man can love and give equally to all. There will always be a favorite.
Yes I've been approached by married/taken men. But the connection doesn't last long! Because I'm not allowing any 3rd party situation.. And I'm not going to invest my time and energy to anyone who is not available. So I continue working on myself and not lowering my standards💯
I've been in a relationship with a married man for 15 years. It started when I was in a bad marriage. It started off as just friends with benefits but then we fell in love. I have low self esteem. I tried to not let him in and keep myself detached and not develop any feelings. He is the one who pushed his way in and told me he loved me and I allowed it. I got divorced and I was married to a narcissistic man who emotionally abused me. So I guess I was the perfect prey. Now 15 years later him and his wife are separated and I found out he started sleeping with another woman in February. I'm devastated. I'm so heartbroken he was also my best friend. I'm still seeing him. I'm just not ready to let go he's been such a big part of my life. I've been sick over this since I found out. I feel like I will never be able to feel the kind of love I feel for him ever again and I don't think I could ever trust another man or go through this again.
@@jessicapetrullo5445 I'm really sorry. You need to detach from him. Im sorry to hear that you have low self esteem as well. Often times people judge others in situations like this without realizing there's typically a source of pain as the cause of it all. I pray that God upholds you and gives you strength to leave him alone completely. I pray that you see you see your worth and understand you can have the man who deserves you. It all starts with self love. Try shifting your focus to things you enjoy and focus on yourself. Build your life around God and positive things and you will see that you begin to magnetically attract happier people and things into your life...and in comes the man that you deserve and who deserves you. Take it one day at a time. Decide to turn away from him, make it up in your mind, and watch how much better life gets for you. He's a user and he's selfish. He never cared he just cared what he could get from you. But you'll be okay. I truly wish you all the best🌸
When a married man approaches me, I call him a Devil and tell him, "you better hope I never see you with your wife". The look on their faces are priceless 🤣 I'm attractive, fun, and laid back. I'm a prize!
This is why I hardly give these black male so called relationship gurus any play. I cant believe he is actually blaming single women for a married man's choice to seek them out. Do black men ever take any accountability?
4 reasons why a married man keeps approaching you ladies 1. Because he doesn’t value his vows 2. Because he projects his flaws and inconsistencies off onto single women. (LIKE THIS TOXIC MALE PUBLIC SPEAKER) 3. Because he was raised wrong. 4. Because he married for material conformities instead of true love! DEAR LADIES, DO NOT ALLOW NOOOO MAN TO MANIPULATE AND CONVINCING YOU TO CARRYING THE BURDEN OF HIS MINDFULNESS!!!
I pressed pause the minute I read this comment. I do believe that there's always two sides to a story but there seems to be a generalised issue of not addressing the actual problem and trying to justify it instead. I do agree that as people we attract what we give off but we must also not forget that wrong is wrong. A married man pursuing a woman other than his wife is wrong and that is the first issue to be addressed. A woman accepting to get involved with a married man (knowing he belongs to another woman) is equally wrong. But noooooo, we're teaching women to "protect themselves" as per usual. How about we give our boys a scholding the minute we see them flirt with another girl knowing that he's dating Cynthia from 8th grade?? And why don't we teach Cynthia's friend that she must say no to him because he has a girlfriend. It all starts when we say "they're just kids". Kids become men and women. Just saying
you don't have to give off any kind of energy. HE just doesn't have the kind of character that is FAITHFUL. It isn't a woman's fault. If you're married then you shouldn't be hitting on me anyways no matter what energy it is.
True! I feel the same way but it doesn't change anything. Honestly I get approached by married or unavailable men more than single men constantly. It's crazy.
Exactly...The only energy that will stop this behavior is having a resting bytch face.. I'm not friendly to random men anymore..And they stay away more. Sadly, it maybe driving away a good person but at this point, I think I'd just rather be alone.
A lot of married men will try with anyone, I think. They have no respect for their vows and they lie! But it depends on how the woman will respond: will she entertain him or cut him off right away, when she finds out he's married 🤷
While I appreciate Stephen giving this advice, to not address the low/lacking moral character of these type of men that would even look for a “side chick” is rubbing me the wrong way.
Boom! Victim-blaming. And as you can see from some comments, the side chicks had been emotional and feminine as well. So I don't think it's about that!.... They really are just predators and never want to take responsibility for that.
am not liking this vedio....i am beautiful bold and smart younger lady...married and not married men approach me all the time even when I am in a relationship. so is not our fault, some married men are just womanizer..i have seen a married man approaching a pregnant woman does it means she's desperate?
Yep. It's always women who have to watch their emotions, watch what they say, watch what they wear, who they are with. Men with this type of platform, and there are several of them, never call men out. Ever. It's always something wrong with women that cause men to do ish.
Women is the key. No flirt man can manipulate women if some women will not allow them. The more they entertain that kind of guy they will give them confidence. Men can sense if they have chances so they will continue if there is no boundaries drawn by some women.
he is not saying its woman's fault. I‘m a victim and I just found out what he said is totally true. I’m gonna be faithful on myself and love after watching this
YES! I've been divorced for 8 years now and married men always approach me. What makes them think because I'm single that I want to be anyone's side chick! My worth is too valuable for that!
@Carol Hood I feel you I've been divorced for six I ain't tripping either, I'm not insecure in me I love me I know I'm worthy of loving someone else, I'll wait or just be happy with me I'm not being second been there done it all before.
I have been divorced for over 20 years!! I was in a 25 year marriage to an abusive drug addict and womanizer. I am 70 years old and I am constantly being approached by married or taken men; even my cousin's husband approached me!! I do consider myself attractive and I have a great personality. I constantly let them know that I am not interested in being a side piece!! I truly believe in loyalty, and faithfulness in a marriage!
Yes agree. The one that approached me never asked much about me, nor my status until I asked him... I'm glad I was able to completely detach from a man that approached me after I recently left the workplace for a new job. Had been on a few dates with him quite intimately, thankfully no full sex as I set good boundaries and thank God I didn't give in although I did enjoy the times together. Managed to completely remove myself emotionally from the situationship as found that he may not be separated although he said he was over 2 yrs separated, and about to divorce I felt something wasn't right either like hiding something and not telling the whole truth on his situation. When he was half whispering in the hallway after I asked him to call me on video after he gets inside his home to freshen up when he'd video called me in his car. Later he did as I suggested but I'd suspected he'd made up an excuse saying WiFi had very bad signal so cut the call short with whispering in the hallway that I saw in the background which led up to the stairs lol.... and excuse like car broken down and needed fixing tomorrow so have to end the call etc. How coincidental rite lol. The hallway part you'd think only happen in movies!!! 🙄 LOL of man possibly cheating on his wife scenario lolololol... Got me laughing loudly after I told my good friend 😂😭🤣 DONT SETTLE FOR LESS. Be receptive and open to the Man/Woman that God has for you!!! You've got this!!
I’m glad to know that. I had no idea why I seemed irresistible to married men. However the fact that I am not a big ball of emotions and I prefer to address situations in a logical manner has always been an asset to me. I have no intention of changing that, or worrying about my “aura” because someone married a man who doesn’t respect the vow he made to God, his wife, or himself. I’ll just continue to put them in their place.
Actually wonder if they go for a certain type of woman because I’ve never been approached by a married man… Thank God of course. I just have very little interest in men much older than me anyways
@@nontokozombatha9182 Trust me, I know. But the key is to not get involved in the first place. It spares you of time wasted and avoids emotional injury.
@@brittniekeene1921 That's very true! Does the truth always surface? I'm sure sometimes it doesn't but once I find out I'm not the entree, he's kickin rocks.
As a guy I would be so angry and disgusted if a taken woman approached me or if I saw a taken guy pursue another woman. Cheating is something we need to abolish as we all become more mature in love and more knowledgable in romance. I've had a father figures and a mentor who had a whole 2nd family kids and all. Long story short he saved his original marriage and decades later we talked about it and he told me not only he hurt his wife is a grave way, but he really hurt himself in a massive spiritually way. I still love him though, as I said he's like my dad
Thats what sad about you. You judging someone without knowing their situation on why they approach you. It’s best to listen to understand before you speak on the situation.
Stephanie Brooks let me enlighten you. I’m talking about the beginning of the paragraph not the end. Not the father part. You can’t judge everyone as disgusting if their taken by their approach you. You never know their situation. You can turn a situation from a negative to a positive. I helped plenty of ppl that was taken & they was broken spirit. Some ppl need to hear the Word, but the truth from the outside. Some ppl be blinded by love & don’t know their own worth. I never judge anyone without listening to them. Maybe I experience the same thing & I can help them, so it depends on the situation & I’m sticking to that
Ser_g_ooo WOW SIDE WOMEN GOT USED BY HIM, HE NEVER SAID HOW BAD HE HURT HER SHE HAD CHILDREN BY HIM, JUST GOT USED COMPLETELY, KNOWING HE WOULD NEVER LEAVE HIS, WIFE, LADIES STOP LETTING THEM MARRIED MAN IN THEY MEAN YOU NO GOOD,IT'S ONLY SEXUAL.
He’s right. I’ve been that woman, several times. I’m just tired now and want my own man. But I do want to say this, I got my things together and always made sure they helped out while they were around. I also feel that most men (not all) will cheat. Makes me think again when it comes to wanting one all to myself because I feel like they’re more than likely are going to cheat on you. And you can be his everything, and the brother will still cheat if they think they can get away with it. However, I do love my freedom! ❤ Also, a lot of married women knew their husbands weren’t sh*t long before he met me. A lot of them knew how she got him.
Sooo.....the men who look for these kind of women are???? Weak? Because if he wants to take advantage of a broken woman just to get his thrill on, he's just as broken.
Sister men actually are hunters from the beginning. That's the main factor women keep forgetting. You are most definitely correct in reference to men being broken; because there are a lot of men that come from all different traits and backgrounds. I dated a guy one time that had a horrible pass that he did not tell me from the beginning. However, he tried to portray he was well educated and lived a lavious lifestyle. Therefore, his actions and characteristics showed me different. Don't get me wrong some men can change after some bad aspects happen in their life. However, it will take God to do a lot in their life for that to happen. I actually, pull his background/criminal record and found out everything about this guy. Women if you dating someone and you see red flags I would suggest during some research on your guy. Of course the rest was history he and I was over. If honesty and truthfulness is now told from the beginning from a man then that man is not to be trusted period. Love my sisters!!! 💜💜💜 We got to help each other.
You know what I remember. Way back then when I first met him, we had a conversation about fidelity, I didn't know he was married, so I was calling cheating men weak that don't have enough strength to walk away from their marriages if they were unhappy and his response was "I don't think they are weak" or something along the lines. That stuck in my mind for some reason. Long story short a year later I found out he was married. And I'm not even gonna count how many times he lied to me. Good thing I didn't give myself. I asked him to get a divorce, let's see what he's gonna do.
I feel I give off masculine energy... but I’m totally over being a side chick. I did that in my 20s never again. It’s not worth it. These men does nothing but let you age while they enjoy their wife/kids and life. You are left to play catch up with your life. Run fast from these type of men/women!
@@amandalee714 Ummm NO. That’s a load of BS. I just turned 41 and am still fertile sweetie. Even my older sister had one of her kids at the age of 45. Please stop spreading misogynistic insults and propaganda.
I ALWAYS attract married men always and I could never figure out what I was giving off now I have a better understanding thanks to you and I more determined than ever to get free from this ! I didn’t know what I was giving off but now I know. Thank you for your insight this helps so very much and I am ready to make the necessary steps to walk away from this awful pattern
Wow this made a lot of sense for me!! When you see patterns in your life the common denominator is you. We can't change how people behave, only ourselves. The time & energy I've invested into myself and my healing over the years has made it easy to peep game. Seeing how married, involved, attached men behave makes me even more happy that I'm single.
All I get approached my are married men. Very rarely do single men shoot their shot. It's crazy, it's on a constant basis and I have trust issues because of it.
For me, being a side is business. I don’t need the problems that come with a relationship and getting screwed over. I pride myself on the fact that I have learned to survive in this man’s world that is presented to me. Do I want a husband one day? Of course, but I think my strong independence is what men are afraid of. A married man doesn’t judge that ability. I wish a single man could be a compliment to independence than to fear it from a female.
What Stephen should do is have an open panel for men who are married and ask them questions about how they feel about themselves being a married man and do they value their VOWS. Just a suggestion to Stephan
I remember after living in my current city after a couple years and I was going through a divorce. I'd just started a new job. My boss at the time right away told me you will never find a good man in this city. She began opening up about how she was often approached by married guys and could not understand it. As time went by in getting to know her, it made sense. She did not trust, she came off as friendly but was not really, when she did meet a single guy she seemed to push him away by finding something wrong with him, she was emotionally detached. I saw this beautiful, smart woman who on the outside who appeared strong, but just in a few exchanges, was unhappy and needed to be in control. Just as we as women pick up vibes on others, men do too. If you want better you have to be willing to self reflect and ask...what's going within me that I continue to attract the same type of experiences repeatedly? When one becomes open to the answer that's where the game changes.
So true.. but being on this side of the game and not a wife.. to see how some married men are..is alarming. I've learned to seek Christ in ALL things first, I wish I would have known this younger.🙏🏽💕 "Jesus Said: But Seek First The Kingdom of God and His Righteousness and A L L these things shall be added unto you." I promise you 💕🙏🏽He Provides everything🙏🏽💕 beautifully, just Trust Him, Read The Word (Bible)📖✨💕, He is Faithful, He is The God of A L L✨👑, AND HE IS LOVE💞 , And He is On The Throne Forevermore 💕🙏🏽👑✨📜
@@abladeofgrass1003 stay true to you. listen to your divine intuition. Marriage/children are not our destiny. We get to choose what we want and need and when. 💙
@@Selflovematters4life I've learned to seek Christ in ALL things first, I wish I would have known this younger.🙏🏽💕 "Jesus Said: But Seek First The Kingdom of God and His Righteousness and A L L these things shall be added unto you." I promise you 💕🙏🏽He Provides everything🙏🏽💕 beautifully, just Trust Him, Read The Word (Bible)📖✨💕, He is Faithful, He is The God of A L L✨👑, AND HE IS LOVE💞 , And He is On The Throne Forevermore 💕🙏🏽👑✨📜
I meet all the criteria's, I have Complex PTSD and I'm awaiting trauma therpy. I was closed off to the idea of relationships because I attract the wrong type of men. This video made me so emotional because it's all very true. Thank you
For the last 5-6 years, 95% of encounters were men that were in a relationship, engaged, or married... I really thought something was wrong with me by not attracting men that are AVAILABLE. I am not emotionally dettached, nor am I okay with cheating in any capacity, I'm just a laid back introvert 😩😒. Thanks for making this video, I'll be working on this perception. I also have been learning about exuding more feminine energy, I'm naturally more masculine because of a single mother upbringing... This is probably why I have trust issues because most men who have approached me have been cheaters!!!!! Where were you when I turned 20!?? 😫
I feel the same way too but I'm not going to take on that responsibility and worry about my energy or whatever. I think these are just lying cheating men who cannot be faithful and think that women are objects to be played with...
No no no Girls... what I've noticed instead is that certain spirits are looking for innocent/naive/good hearted to play with their emotions... molesting spirit is looking for pure, innocent souls for example... Stephan though claiming to be a Christian speaks from the flash only
You are not 'THAT GIRL' because you are inquiring about it. BE honest with yourself and analyze what it is that creates this pattern. Being approached by a married man is not the problem, but entertaining one is. Do you pay attention to the red flags? Do you speak up when something seems 'off'? Those are the little things you can do to repel them. 🙏
I been in this position, multiple times, but Ladies its not us. These men for one “LIE” about their relationship status, no guy approaches a women and say Listen Im married, Lets have an affair. We normally find out months down the line, after we are already practically serious. And majority of these married men, are not happy, and dont want to pay child support and ALimony, so they have affairs. Its not the “Side women” issue. I LEAVE though! Eff that!
Soooo what I'm hearing is, the men who are married are weak. Women can still be feminine and still not be emotionally attached to you. You say that married men(the weak link) are attracted to women who give off the "detached" vibes also assume that it's okay for the single woman to be okay with biting the bait by disrespecting the married man's marriage as well as themselves. It is not a womans RESPONSIBILITY to change her "detached" vibe to prevent married men from approaching her when her focus was not on them in the first place. That's a lot of effort to be putting in when you're not even mine. Instead of worrying about why she's attracting said married man so much, you being the man with such a "clear" "yes or no?" Level headed, straightforward conscience, should be able to work on the issue within your marriage and stop stepping out expecting the next woman to change her attractive vibe to suit your fragile needs. Let's be honest. Say I follow everything that was mentioned in this video right? The moment things go left, I'll be known as the home wrecker. So, I basically changed myself for nothing. Hold the men accountable and please stop shaping women into being toys.
This has never happened to me but I don’t understand why he seems to place the onus on the woman for simply being approached. Isn’t HE married?!? Didn’t HE take vows?
I never understood why I’m always approached but now I get it. I’m very emotionally unattached I have been told I have a male thought process this is so me very detached with my guards up
Women should think more like men...Or they will continue to get devoured..Do you want to be the unssupecting wife at home getting cheated on? And fyi, I know several masculine women that are in fact married...to their husbands with wandering eyes.. Smfh.
🤯 this makes sooo much sense!! I’m a busy woman and definitely emotionally detached but wasn’t aware I’m focused on my goals and am very in tune with my masculine side.. Although I’m not ready to be in a relationship I’m tired of being approached by married men or men in relationships.. it’s such a blow to my self esteem.. I now know what to work on. Thank you 🙏🏼
I'm late 50's, children grown. There's a woman that works in the same building as I do. She arrived about 3 years ago. Ever since I laid eyes on her, I cannot get her out of my mind. We've made eye contact a couple of times, smiled, but nothing more. I've seen A LOT of attractive women in my time that I haven't thought twice about, but this is far different. It's hard to explain....I feel a connection to her like never before, even though I've never officially met her to talk to. I see the way that she interacts with others, her upbeat attitude, her smile, her energy.....I love my wife (been together for 16 years), but cannot get her out of my mind. Never felt like this before. Sometimes it's painful thinking about her, wondering if I've found "the one" too late..... can anyone relate?
I feel you. I met who I thought was CREATOR sent to me. EVERYTHINGGGGG I desired in a man yet come to find out he's married🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️. He doesn't know I know but I do. Unsure if he's unhappy at home but he does EVERYTHING for me. Tells me how much he needs me, how much he doesn't ever wanna lose me, how much he adores me, how glad he is that we met. Before I found out I believed his words, now I simply smh when he's talking. I'm so grateful that I'm not an emotional woman. I'm disappointed in him but not enough to leave him. I'm gonna ride the train, enjoy the time but I'll never be intimate with him after finding this out. I truly wish he wasn't married, but he is.
Yes I’m being approached by married and men in relationships and it’s seems a lot but my spirit is focused on God , I just ignore them , they have nothing to offer me . I believe god has my husband and he is working on him . Thanks again for this video
Yes I get approached all the time. This has been happening since I was 17-18. That has happened to me when I was younger, I never give in. Still won’t.
I am fully aware those are my 2 main issues.... I am emotionally detached AND I give off a masculine energy.🤦🏾♀️ Am definitely NOT desperate at all though. Will not be with a man that is taken
I literally sat on the edge of my bed this morning, and wondered this very thing!! It is so timely. And I am beyond grateful for your wisdom. I’m honing in on this thing and I’m going to fix this. Thank you, Stephan! I love your ENERGY!
Well this explains why I attract men who are not available, ie married, taken, emotionally unavailable, etc. I’m taking time now for myself to address the issue. Love the breakdown. Thank you!!
Must be, bc I REALLY don't agree with half this SHIT......child PLEASE!!!! I'm not desperate for no stankn AsS Man.....you tried IT......... maybe some women,but NOT all women!!
I had a guy who told me that he hadn't been intimidate with his wife since he cheated on her 16 years ago and was I opened to a sexual relationship. I almost threw my sangria in his face! I literally felt my hand reaching for my sangria! When he died his obituary stated that he was the Reverend such and such and was even a pastor at one point in his life. It's people like him that give Christians a bad name.
My granny had five words “leave that married man alone he has nothing to offer you and God don’t like ugly,you are setting yourself for the worst life,don’t waste your time or energy being a home wrecker.”Karma
There is also the Jackie Kennedy syndrome- she had a dad to whom she has a very close /friendship (psychological terms too a "mistress " as the dad and mom didn't get along well) and she always found men who cheated on her, were distant, worked never had time etc bc she kept reliving the childhood patterns/wound. Also very interesting.
I’ve been in that situation before. I never get hit on by a single man. However I feel all men cheat at some point anyway. I’m somewhat emotional detached cause you have to keep your guard up out here in these streets. The male pool out here is horrible. You got to have some kind of wall up or you going to get railroaded. I’m really tired of all the fake men out here. I can do bad by myself I don’t need ANY help with that.
This is so on point...I decided to start dating again after years....And every man that approached me this year was married except 1!!! I keep asking why? Thanks for the insight.
This happened once recently. I never stuck around to try and get the full truth. Based on what happened I concluded he must have a woman or a woman who felt she was his woman enough to do what she did. I cut him off with no explanation, and he never questioned me. I’m still cordial but it’s business only. I don’t have time for that. 🤦🏽♀️
I never thought of myself as emotionally detached or masculine energy but I do know I had that in the past, but I've changed myself and am no longer approached by married and taken men. I did read a love after heartbreak from you and it help tremendously. I know my worth and I now only go out with men who I feel are worthy of my heart ❤ and love. Thank you for all your help and encouragement it is greatly appreciated.
I can totally agree with you! I’ve had this problem and I can honestly say I come off as emotionally detached and masculine energy. I never paid attention to my energy until I watched this video. I’m very straightforward when it comes to men..I let them know what I want and if they can’t give that to me...then I’m out
True or correct?...1. Because they want to. 2. Because they can. 3. Because they can. 4. Because they want to...man can do what he wants whether he is married or not.
Yeah if that's the consensus in his relationship, otherwise the wife can do it too no problem lol. You just won't know and she just won't know, everybody happy
Men always think the grass is greener on the other side until he get over there and find out it's spray painted lol 😂 no for real the eyes of men never satisfied ...men need to be strong love themselves and have respect for themselves
Very idiotic to believe that neglected grass would continue growing healthy and green... And the nerve to complain about how dry it is & then compare it to how lush and green it is on the other side
I definitely attract married and taken men. I wasn't aware of the masculine energy or the emotional detachment. I feel that im emotionality aware of my feelings and I'm always positive. I know there is a man God has for me.
Yes, many times. Even after I discourage them , they return. I have been single for over 20 years. I’ve got my own business. I support myself and I’m very independent. This has been happening for years. Now I’m 70 years old and last night I had two different married men text messaging me. And first thing this morning, there was messages waiting. I don’t understand so your podcast was helpful. I am an alpha female and that I’m independent and run my own business and have four 4050 years. Plus, I’m a registered nurse, educated articulate, ambitious, energized, and much of the time these men aren’t at my level. The two that are chasing me now however are both doctors in their field. It was awesome to see if it was actually something addressing this issue when I went to UA-cam I googled this very question and was fortunate to find your broadcast. Thank you.
I suspected that just by the title of the video that the "reasons" were going to involve blaming/shaming the women instead of putting the onus on the married men. And I didn't even bother to actually listen to the video, but opted to just read some of the comments and got my confirmation.
Mr. Labossiere? If you ever get the time, will you please do two videos explaining: the qualities of an emotionally detached woman and another video about and the qualities of a woman who gives off masculine energy versus a woman who who gives off feminine energy.🌺✨thank you for taking time to read this comment.✨🌺
I never was approached by a married Man before, but I got approached by a Man that was in a relationship not knowing that he had a girlfriend. But I refuse to settle. I'm waiting on the LORD for the right person.
PLEASE WAIT!!! It’ll be so worth it!!! I waited and waited. I thought God forgot about me. I stopped looking but not hoping. When I wasn’t looking, love found me , and it came from the least expected place.
Finally, a man who cares enough about women to 1) level with us and 2) do it in a frank but not demeaning way. What's more is that nobody needed to be a Christian to get the truth from this guy. Thank you!
This was an interesting take on why married or taken men approach me all the time, but as you stated if your attractive men will be men and shoot their shot. I'm sure I'm coming off as emotionally unattached and giving masculine energy, but there is more to it than that. I know my worth and just not settling. When your operating in this mindset you not out here making yourself emotionally available not are you letting your walls down until you vet them. Hence why you could appear to be unattached and giving off a masculine vibe. Not to mention these cheating men aslio lie about being married or taken. Plus they don't necessarily need a willing side chick cause some women are and don't even know it.
Wow! Yep. Masculine Energy (For Protection) ✅, Great Wall of China erected ✅, Low Self-Worth ✅, Did he sense that I was broken and had childhood drama and hidden desperateness? ✅. I was perfect side until I wasn’t...I was under a cloud thinking he cares or loved me. The biggest L in my life....that almost cost me my life. Please don’t do this. I fell into it and it wasn’t worth it. Finally words: Choice Love and don’t fall into because you will fall for the wrong person but if you chose you will lead with your head and not your heart.
Quin Tessa, you just told my whole story with this comment. And like you I fell into it, and I was young and a virgin. It took the Lord to get me out. I did not know the game married men play or the "script" they operate from to get women. Telling you how horrible their wives are, or how hurt they are because she cheated. They know how to play on a woman's nurturing instincts and desire to care, which is why they present themselves as these neglected beings in need of your love. IT'S ALL BULL💩! The experience left me wrecked for years, and it took a long time for me to forgive myself for even allowing myself to be to be that naive and gullible.
Yes! I get approached by men who are married. I think I do give off masculine energy. I am very feminine looking, confident, strong and independent. Very interesting video. Thank you!!
It happened to me often for reasons 1, 2, and 4. But because I’m in the process of healing, I’m gracefully blowing off married/taken guys. Just like Michael Jackson, I’m now telling those guys to “beat it”. I know my worth and have much to offer the right person.
Always.. always....I feel like it's the only type of men who approach me!! I want it to stop..I wish it can stop..I need it to stop!! In the end I'm always a fool!!
I needed to hear this so bad. I hate that I attract married men or taken men, I would never take anyone's man. But the fact that I attract them is disheartening to be in any relationship.
Yep. Just learned the 2 guys I have been dating are both married 😮 I am far from desperate I just live a busy life and don’t have a lot of time for dating.
This Happens so much until I’m Disgusted !!! And gets mad when I’m Firm with saying “No”! I want my own Single man!! Do I look like side chick material to you!!! Geeeshh🤦🏽♀️
Well done young lady. Setting strong boundaries 💪 is the key. Self awareness of knowing who you are and ensuring your emotional needs are met will also help you choose not attract people that have your best interest at heart ❤️ instead of trying to toss your salad. Married or unavailable man are only interested in sex and they fear commitment ( married but fear the entrapment of being with one person so they self sabotage their relationship due to this securit.immaturity play as well. So don't let his image / worldview of himself block your heart/ blessing.
I'm just wondering how Covid-19 postive married men are spreading the virus during this time. Fact is there is always someone out there willing to entertain them especially if they have the money
I think men will just try. It's up to us to reinforce our boundaries and watch out for the man who tries the "brother" approach also. If you are single, don't fall prey to this either. Gut instinct is powerful. It's always on time. Do research and pay attention to those things that DON'T line up. Don't be a fool with dating. So he is separated...hmmm...ask questions. Pay attention and never feel like he's the last person interested in you. WE as women are the prize!! There is nothing wrong with taking our time to get to know him. And don't reveal everything about yourself. Listen to what he says and see if the actions align. This is my advice for this subject. Lastly, don't accept being anyone's second choice. Don't entertain that type of drama in your life and keep yourself protected with Godly wisdom. Normalize being only #1 from the onset! Become picky and selective -- same approach as picking out your new home for Y-O-U😊 🙌🏽
I’ve been seeing a guy in the gym over the past 3 years (he is about 20 years older than me lol, but he looks really good). I always liked him. We only said Hi for a long time. He finally asked me out and finally realized that he is married. He said he is separated but not divorced yet cuz of their daughter. He wanted me to have a casual relationship with him and just fool around, even though I am definitely out of his league in terms of so many aspects. It was so hard to not even hang out as a friend with him, cuz I really liked him, but I finally made my decision and told him we are not on the same page, and I moved on!
Stephan I'm confused here. So,women being emotionally detached rather attracts a married man? So are we then supposed to be emotionally attached? The man is married he should mind his business with his wife,why should i be emotionally attached to him? I'm not really getting this. Please explain further
I think he means emotionally detached from the OUTCOME that you desire, which, for most women, is true love/ an exclusive commited relationship/ marriage. If you, for instance, don't really care about getting married/ a commitment from a man, you're just down to f*ck, OR you are a doormat who won't stand up for her needs (hence detached from her desired outcome), you won't cause him any problems.
@@destinybabb9862 yes Queen Destiny, I totally agree with you. Queen Linda...also, I believe Stephen was addressing a specific question presented to him...this may be why he did not address how the married man should conduct himself.
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I'm just 18 yrs old and i've been approached a lot by married men. I don't know why
Wow makes sense
Damn I’m a Feminine Tomboy, and Desperate.. That’s Just Depressing- Now I gotta Watch your Whole Channel.
You cannot control who you attract, but you can control who you entertain. Period.
Energy attracts likewise energy, familiar spirits.
Facts why don't you have more likes
Love this ❤
Absolutely
Simple facts!100%
Why is the burden on the woman? A married should respect his marriage and stay away from single women. When are we going to hold men accountable for their actions. Now as a single woman I have to evaluate myself and do all this work so a married man won't approach Me? How fair is that?
Let's teach men to respect relationships and treat women accordingly....this would be fair, give us a break. We've been suffering under men for years, when will it end?
Nona the burden is on the both Agreed
33 years of marriage here...high school sweethearts..if u don’t respect your marriage then other will not either much love First Lady Viv
Amen !!!
Very well-stated,Nona! Yes! Thank You!!
EXACTLY
Nona right this is a video thats gaslighting women. You are no derrick Jaxn. hang up your mic
A married or taken man should not be approaching other women. Ridiculous!
Unfortunately it happens
Amen 🙏🏿 and Ase 🙇🏿♀️🙇🏿♀️🙏🏿🙏🏿💃🏿💃🏿🎊
@Jamilla Dobson Yep I hot approached more as a young lady then now as a women knowing her worths and working on myself I'll check him in the door come correct I'm a redflag detector lol
That's not the point 🤦🏽♀️
And we would actually have more respect for man in general if they would appreciate their families
Stephan Speaks, the responsibility begins with the man. He is married, the single woman is not. The man has the responsibility of staying faithful to his wife. It starts and ends with the married man.
Period!!! The blame shifting or responsibility has got to be shifted to the issue at hand, being the man. The whole cheating of a married man starts and ENDS with that married man. It does not matter if women are sending off vibes and energy ti attract anybody. If he is married he has no business entertaining that. The focus shud stop being on women and how we shud conduct ourselves . We need to hold men accountable for what they have signed up for. They r not victims but predators and hunters
@@nelzg5819 Exactly. My energy is the way it is for a reason..They had no business bothering me period. Its just demonic really. They are purposely trying to destroy a good woman, then go home to their wives who don't know how evil their husbands are. They enjoy the benefits of a partner while you surf the web alone at night. Its unfair and just wrong because these men mostly lie about their relationship status.
@@Machelle3200 yes my dear. Many women are out here minding their own business and praying for a good man, a good partner and a good husband. Boom! Rocks up a married man and then we r told about energy thats attracting chancers. No, no. Men who are bored in their marriages have chosen the women they r bored from. They need to make it work or leave. But this dipping outside is not it
@@nelzg5819 Exactly...They choose the wrong women for selfish reasons..And then try to make innocent women pay for it..No way! They must pay the cost of their bad decisions!
@@Machelle3200 unless they were forced into marriage, they made their own choice. They made their own bed now they need to lay in it. Single women cannot be blamed for their selfish needs period
A married man approaches you because he is a typical selfish man. Stop finding reasons to make women feel like it’s something we are doing. These women they approach are minding their single business. Stop it
Very well said
Women it is NOT your fault a married man tries to hook up with you. I’m in no way shape or form emotionally detached or w/e and married SAVED men won’t leave me alone because THEY are unhappy. If a man is in a relationship or married and can’t be honest, respectful or faithful to the woman he’s with then what do you think will happen when y’all get together? How you gettem is how you losem. I think the conversation should be helping men get counseling for the relationship/marriage they are in and making the relationship healthy rather than explaining to women why they are getting hit on by married men.
Catie Elizabeth I totally agree with you!So sick of the blame always being on the woman!
I have a huge problem with men and women who break their limbs reaching to make someone outside of themselves to blame for their own decisions. I also struggle with men who “appeal” to women to tell then about themselves. These kinds of videos are as manipulative and narcissistic as the men he’s speaking about.
Amen! If you are an attractive woman, then you're going to attract men...However, we don't have to accept the role they attempt to put you in...I'm not going to be the side chick, 2nd momma, money loaner, shelter-in-place provider...I have standards and believe God will provide what I need, so I walk away from men who are not worthy...it's just that simple...we all have choices, I choose to be single until God provides whom I need. I disagree with this biased video!😡😡😡😡
Change your attitude. Seriously, sis... Men are HUNTERS. They pick up on weak women. No offense to you because I am with my sisters. Listen, sister men know men and what they do. Trust me. Everything in this video is 100 percent true that is being stated. It's up to women to accept left overs men give us. We should be strong and have high standards. If a married man hit on us then he's hitting on other women as well. Think about STD and how cursed you will be being with a married man...Love you ladies!!! As women we got to do better.
If the man is unhappy in their marriage that resulted them to cheat, then they should separate themselves on move on.
Too many guys that are in relationships already often approach me more than single men. It’s annoying and honestly frustrating 🤦🏾♀️
The married men seem to be moving more fast these days.
I think because they’re not afraid of rejection they see it more like a challenge and if they get rejected well they don’t lose nothing
@@CC-xl4ln yes this is definitely true! They try their luck with other women while in a relationship and if they aren’t given that chance they don’t win or lose.
Married men only take advantage of single women after they get bored they find new women!
It's so tiring, sis 🙄🙄🙄🙄
Why would a married man with moral and spiritual boundaries follow another woman, unless he’s a narcissist psychopath.
Many many reasons other than what you mentioned
They're human but have to choose not to say NO walk away crucify the flesh if the man has a relationship with Jesus
Victorious Ayesha amen 🙏
Because they’re horny🤣🤣
@@drea4373 but they have a wife to please them sexually 🤔
Married men who look for side chicks are predators. Predators attack whatever they are attracted to in their proximity. If they fail in their approach/chase, they go home to their wives. They risk nothing except their character which they have little of in the first place because they are looking to cheat on their wives. Sad.
Yes, you got it right.
Wait til the wives finds out
How it's predatory? Lol it's not a crime, he should of stay single..most time the wife get cold feet and lead to this.
@@FM-lp7on than divorce and move on.wife is not my mother, she find out, what's done is done.
Sick man, he needs help
Let me this share with everyone: Yes, he's a married man but remains a human being. I've never been approached by a married man until recently! It was the first time I've had an unavailable man pursue me. I felt frustrated and confused, even scared. I blamed myself as if I had done something wrong or had given the wrong impression but this experience taught me that married men and women are human beings. And that's where you gotta be careful! I stopped giving him attitude, I prayed to God to open this man's heart to not view me as someone to play or have an affair with. I cried in my room and told myself that "Although not perfect, I am a good girl, I listen to my parents, I help them and my family, I'm pursing my education, I care for others, I'm not a selfish person." YOU can't allow someone to take your moral character from you. You can't give the enemy that chance! Since we're human and will mistakes, we should always seek God's direction in everything we do. Pray to Him and he will listen to you. I stopped worrying about this man attention and cues and focused on building a professional relationship with him instead. Sometimes, God doesn't ask you to hate the person because he's Holy, he is pure in everything that he does. So God may ask you to ignore but be loving and kind, maintaining a personal guard around that person. God requires us to be loving not hateful :)
Yes, me too! First time a separated/married man approached me recently.
I'm glad I was able to completely detach from a man that approached me after I recently left the workplace for a new job. Had been on a few dates with him quite intimately, thankfully no full sex as I set good boundaries and thank God I didn't give in although I did enjoy the times together. Managed to completely remove myself emotionally from the situationship as found that he may not be separated although he said he was over 2 yrs separated, and about to divorce I felt something wasn't right either like hiding something and not telling the whole truth on his situation.
When he was half whispering in the hallway after I asked him to call me on video after he gets inside his home to freshen up when he'd video called me in his car.
Later he did as I suggested but I'd suspected he'd made up an excuse saying WiFi had very bad signal so cut the call short with whispering in the hallway that I saw in the background which led up to the stairs lol.... and excuse like car broken down and needed fixing tomorrow so have to end the call etc. How coincidental rite lol.
The hallway part you'd think only happen in movies!!! 🙄 LOL of man possibly cheating on his wife scenario lolololol... Got me laughing loudly after I told my good friend 😂😭🤣
DONT SETTLE FOR LESS. Be receptive and open to the Man/Woman that God has for you!!! You've got this!!
Wow you are inspiring !!!❤
I’ve been a side-chick ... thought stupidly it would be a different outcome. I definitely was clingy and was Invested. I thought he was too. I’ve been approached MANY MANY times. I’m extremely feminine and emotional. I am definitely not in anyway masculine or guarded. I absolutely agree that I didn’t argue against him, and allowed his devaluing. I know I’m worth MORE. I won’t be a side-chick ever again.
You ARE worth it Tina!! God bless you 😊
Roxanne Thank you So much!!!!
YESSSS TINA BEEN THERE DONE THAT
@@roxannerobinson2347 AQAQQ1aaa
Yop nobody perfect bless up
A married man, wants a woman who, will create little or no Drama, for him. We as women should never settle.
They are so cheap that they can't afford two women
Exactly! Settling will never get you the relationship you desire.
That's why Muslim second wives are suffering with Muslim men! I'm Muslim
Right! Like his wife
@@JahannamHellfire doesn’t the first wife have to give permission to the husband in order for him to marry another? Also the multiple wives is a bad idea because there is no way a man can love and give equally to all. There will always be a favorite.
Yes I've been approached by married/taken men. But the connection doesn't last long! Because I'm not allowing any 3rd party situation.. And I'm not going to invest my time and energy to anyone who is not available. So I continue working on myself and not lowering my standards💯
Amen SIS 👏👏👏
You are a strong woman! God bless you 🙏🏼
You are self aware and have self respect. That's rare
I've been in a relationship with a married man for 15 years. It started when I was in a bad marriage. It started off as just friends with benefits but then we fell in love. I have low self esteem. I tried to not let him in and keep myself detached and not develop any feelings. He is the one who pushed his way in and told me he loved me and I allowed it. I got divorced and I was married to a narcissistic man who emotionally abused me. So I guess I was the perfect prey. Now 15 years later him and his wife are separated and I found out he started sleeping with another woman in February. I'm devastated. I'm so heartbroken he was also my best friend. I'm still seeing him. I'm just not ready to let go he's been such a big part of my life. I've been sick over this since I found out. I feel like I will never be able to feel the kind of love I feel for him ever again and I don't think I could ever trust another man or go through this again.
@@jessicapetrullo5445 I'm really sorry. You need to detach from him. Im sorry to hear that you have low self esteem as well. Often times people judge others in situations like this without realizing there's typically a source of pain as the cause of it all. I pray that God upholds you and gives you strength to leave him alone completely. I pray that you see you see your worth and understand you can have the man who deserves you. It all starts with self love. Try shifting your focus to things you enjoy and focus on yourself. Build your life around God and positive things and you will see that you begin to magnetically attract happier people and things into your life...and in comes the man that you deserve and who deserves you. Take it one day at a time. Decide to turn away from him, make it up in your mind, and watch how much better life gets for you. He's a user and he's selfish. He never cared he just cared what he could get from you. But you'll be okay. I truly wish you all the best🌸
When a married man approaches me, I call him a Devil and tell him, "you better hope I never see you with your wife". The look on their faces are priceless 🤣 I'm attractive, fun, and laid back. I'm a prize!
Yes ma'am! We definitely are prizes!
What about married women who seek single men. What are their four reasons 🤷🏾♀️?
All women are prizes and should be treated as so
Goodluck with the venom from the wife.
@@marianbuckle5049 husband not treating them right.
This is why I hardly give these black male so called relationship gurus any play. I cant believe he is actually blaming single women for a married man's choice to seek them out. Do black men ever take any accountability?
They never did
Yup, its all the woman's fault smh..im tired of these videos.. Some Men just dont have any shame
If you look around our culture, it’s riddled with black male narcissist. That’s why they aren’t accountable.
They just want money at the expense of our stupidity 😁
They never do!!!!!!!! Sick of them
Ladies, we have to know our worth and never settle I know it’s hard but it’s a process to get to this point and realize we deserve the best!!
You look over 35.. you should have told yourself that 15 years ago. Its practically over you when it comes to the dating scene
True
@@TerryJulianLive Wrong. For women the dating scene is NEVER over.
I’m super fucking annoyed
4 reasons why a married man keeps approaching you ladies
1. Because he doesn’t value his vows
2. Because he projects his flaws and inconsistencies off onto single women. (LIKE THIS TOXIC MALE PUBLIC SPEAKER)
3. Because he was raised wrong.
4. Because he married for material conformities instead of true love!
DEAR LADIES,
DO NOT ALLOW NOOOO MAN TO MANIPULATE AND CONVINCING YOU TO CARRYING THE BURDEN OF HIS MINDFULNESS!!!
Thank u. Married men approach you because they want to. The only blame women should take is accepting
💯✊🏽✊🏽✊🏽
well said they don't value their significant other that's it
I pressed pause the minute I read this comment. I do believe that there's always two sides to a story but there seems to be a generalised issue of not addressing the actual problem and trying to justify it instead. I do agree that as people we attract what we give off but we must also not forget that wrong is wrong. A married man pursuing a woman other than his wife is wrong and that is the first issue to be addressed. A woman accepting to get involved with a married man (knowing he belongs to another woman) is equally wrong. But noooooo, we're teaching women to "protect themselves" as per usual. How about we give our boys a scholding the minute we see them flirt with another girl knowing that he's dating Cynthia from 8th grade?? And why don't we teach Cynthia's friend that she must say no to him because he has a girlfriend. It all starts when we say "they're just kids". Kids become men and women. Just saying
Yes Ma’am!
you don't have to give off any kind of energy. HE just doesn't have the kind of character that is FAITHFUL. It isn't a woman's fault. If you're married then you shouldn't be hitting on me anyways no matter what energy it is.
Agreed!!
True! I feel the same way but it doesn't change anything. Honestly I get approached by married or unavailable men more than single men constantly. It's crazy.
I agree with you! his response is bullshit
Exactly...The only energy that will stop this behavior is having a resting bytch face.. I'm not friendly to random men anymore..And they stay away more. Sadly, it maybe driving away a good person but at this point, I think I'd just rather be alone.
THANK YOU. MORALS AND CHARACTER IS EVERYTHING IN THE WORLD!
A lot of married men will try with anyone, I think. They have no respect for their vows and they lie! But it depends on how the woman will respond: will she entertain him or cut him off right away, when she finds out he's married 🤷
Maybe he was force
I had a married man approach me I went off and ask him how he would feel if a married man approaches his daughter he walked away
While I appreciate Stephen giving this advice, to not address the low/lacking moral character of these type of men that would even look for a “side chick” is rubbing me the wrong way.
Precisely. He seems a bit excited as well.
Boom! Victim-blaming. And as you can see from some comments, the side chicks had been emotional and feminine as well. So I don't think it's about that!.... They really are just predators and never want to take responsibility for that.
am not liking this vedio....i am beautiful bold and smart younger lady...married and not married men approach me all the time even when I am in a relationship. so is not our fault, some married men are just womanizer..i have seen a married man approaching a pregnant woman does it means she's desperate?
Yep. It's always women who have to watch their emotions, watch what they say, watch what they wear, who they are with. Men with this type of platform, and there are several of them, never call men out. Ever. It's always something wrong with women that cause men to do ish.
@@solointheburbs its really unfortunate
No! It’s not the woman’s fault!
i second that.... it is not our fault at all
He’s not saying it is our fault. He know’s a man can’t get to you unless you allow it. He knows we hold all the power.
Women is the key. No flirt man can manipulate women if some women will not allow them. The more they entertain that kind of guy they will give them confidence. Men can sense if they have chances so they will continue if there is no boundaries drawn by some women.
he is not saying its woman's fault. I‘m a victim and I just found out what he said is totally true. I’m gonna be faithful on myself and love after watching this
Not true some woman are
YES! I've been divorced for 8 years now and married men always approach me. What makes them think because I'm single that I want to be anyone's side chick! My worth is too valuable for that!
@Carol Hood I feel you I've been divorced for six I ain't tripping either, I'm not insecure in me I love me I know I'm worthy of loving someone else, I'll wait or just be happy with me I'm not being second been there done it all before.
Brother you are right some of the women thatare single have good qualities butmarried men keep on approach them
I have been divorced for over 20 years!! I was in a 25 year marriage to an abusive drug addict and womanizer. I am 70 years old and I am constantly being approached by married or taken men; even my cousin's husband approached me!! I do consider myself attractive and I have a great personality. I constantly let them know that I am not interested in being a side piece!! I truly believe in loyalty, and faithfulness in a marriage!
Yes agree. The one that approached me never asked much about me, nor my status until I asked him...
I'm glad I was able to completely detach from a man that approached me after I recently left the workplace for a new job. Had been on a few dates with him quite intimately, thankfully no full sex as I set good boundaries and thank God I didn't give in although I did enjoy the times together. Managed to completely remove myself emotionally from the situationship as found that he may not be separated although he said he was over 2 yrs separated, and about to divorce I felt something wasn't right either like hiding something and not telling the whole truth on his situation.
When he was half whispering in the hallway after I asked him to call me on video after he gets inside his home to freshen up when he'd video called me in his car.
Later he did as I suggested but I'd suspected he'd made up an excuse saying WiFi had very bad signal so cut the call short with whispering in the hallway that I saw in the background which led up to the stairs lol.... and excuse like car broken down and needed fixing tomorrow so have to end the call etc. How coincidental rite lol.
The hallway part you'd think only happen in movies!!! 🙄 LOL of man possibly cheating on his wife scenario lolololol... Got me laughing loudly after I told my good friend 😂😭🤣
DONT SETTLE FOR LESS. Be receptive and open to the Man/Woman that God has for you!!! You've got this!!
I’m glad to know that. I had no idea why I seemed irresistible to married men. However the fact that I am not a big ball of emotions and I prefer to address situations in a logical manner has always been an asset to me. I have no intention of changing that, or worrying about my “aura” because someone married a man who doesn’t respect the vow he made to God, his wife, or himself. I’ll just continue to put them in their place.
HAHAH YOU SOUND AS NASTY AS ME ....
Ditto
Women: "Why do married men approach me?"
Answer: because they are heterosexual 😐
Thank you! I’m just like get over it that’s men lol. Just don’t get involved with them.
Actually wonder if they go for a certain type of woman because I’ve never been approached by a married man… Thank God of course. I just have very little interest in men much older than me anyways
No hunni.. because they lack a moral compass. A PENIS does not mean they cheat .
EXACTLY!!! 🎯🎯🎯
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Sidechicks catch feelings eventually. Been there done that. Leave taken men the eff alone. They don't want you for real.
Easier said than done at times
@@nontokozombatha9182 Trust me, I know. But the key is to not get involved in the first place. It spares you of time wasted and avoids emotional injury.
They aren’t always honest about their status..
@@brittniekeene1921 That's very true! Does the truth always surface? I'm sure sometimes it doesn't but once I find out I'm not the entree, he's kickin rocks.
@@brittniekeene1921 learn to know who they are before dating them
I walk in positivity. I walk in love. I walk in healing. ❤️
As a guy I would be so angry and disgusted if a taken woman approached me or if I saw a taken guy pursue another woman. Cheating is something we need to abolish as we all become more mature in love and more knowledgable in romance. I've had a father figures and a mentor who had a whole 2nd family kids and all. Long story short he saved his original marriage and decades later we talked about it and he told me not only he hurt his wife is a grave way, but he really hurt himself in a massive spiritually way. I still love him though, as I said he's like my dad
Thats what sad about you. You judging someone without knowing their situation on why they approach you. It’s best to listen to understand before you speak on the situation.
Stephanie Brooks let me enlighten you. I’m talking about the beginning of the paragraph not the end. Not the father part. You can’t judge everyone as disgusting if their taken by their approach you. You never know their situation. You can turn a situation from a negative to a positive. I helped plenty of ppl that was taken & they was broken spirit. Some ppl need to hear the Word, but the truth from the outside. Some ppl be blinded by love & don’t know their own worth. I never judge anyone without listening to them. Maybe I experience the same thing & I can help them, so it depends on the situation & I’m sticking to that
Ser_g_ooo WOW SIDE WOMEN GOT USED BY HIM, HE NEVER SAID HOW BAD HE HURT HER SHE HAD CHILDREN BY HIM, JUST GOT USED COMPLETELY, KNOWING HE WOULD NEVER LEAVE HIS, WIFE, LADIES STOP LETTING THEM MARRIED MAN IN THEY MEAN YOU NO GOOD,IT'S ONLY SEXUAL.
DISGUSTED!!!!!! they are like festering wounds!! Ughhh i hate it... so nasty.
You, my friend, are a total simp
He’s right. I’ve been that woman, several times. I’m just tired now and want my own man. But I do want to say this, I got my things together and always made sure they helped out while they were around. I also feel that most men (not all) will cheat. Makes me think again when it comes to wanting one all to myself because I feel like they’re more than likely are going to cheat on you. And you can be his everything, and the brother will still cheat if they think they can get away with it.
However, I do love my freedom! ❤
Also, a lot of married women knew their husbands weren’t sh*t long before he met me. A lot of them knew how she got him.
I don't understand why people want relationships so bad 😂 most of the time it's miserable
Just that he , a married man would think, she could be a good side chick is an INSULT!!!
Sooo.....the men who look for these kind of women are???? Weak? Because if he wants to take advantage of a broken woman just to get his thrill on, he's just as broken.
Mostly insecure and looking for some validation of ego. I used to date married women for the same reason he highlights.
Sister men actually are hunters from the beginning. That's the main factor women keep forgetting. You are most definitely correct in reference to men being broken; because there are a lot of men that come from all different traits and backgrounds. I dated a guy one time that had a horrible pass that he did not tell me from the beginning. However, he tried to portray he was well educated and lived a lavious lifestyle. Therefore, his actions and characteristics showed me different. Don't get me wrong some men can change after some bad aspects happen in their life. However, it will take God to do a lot in their life for that to happen. I actually, pull his background/criminal record and found out everything about this guy. Women if you dating someone and you see red flags I would suggest during some research on your guy. Of course the rest was history he and I was over. If honesty and truthfulness is now told from the beginning from a man then that man is not to be trusted period. Love my sisters!!! 💜💜💜 We got to help each other.
I have been approach by married men my whole life
You know what I remember. Way back then when I first met him, we had a conversation about fidelity, I didn't know he was married, so I was calling cheating men weak that don't have enough strength to walk away from their marriages if they were unhappy and his response was "I don't think they are weak" or something along the lines. That stuck in my mind for some reason. Long story short a year later I found out he was married. And I'm not even gonna count how many times he lied to me. Good thing I didn't give myself. I asked him to get a divorce, let's see what he's gonna do.
I feel I give off masculine energy... but I’m totally over being a side chick. I did that in my 20s never again. It’s not worth it. These men does nothing but let you age while they enjoy their wife/kids and life. You are left to play catch up with your life. Run fast from these type of men/women!
Yes. Yes. Yes. Then you’re 40 and your eggs are all dried up and your opportunity to have a family is over.
@@amandalee714 you’re co-signing single motherhood regardless if the guy no longer wants to stay and be active with the child.
@@amandalee714 Ummm NO. That’s a load of BS. I just turned 41 and am still fertile sweetie. Even my older sister had one of her kids at the age of 45. Please stop spreading misogynistic insults and propaganda.
I ALWAYS attract married men always and I could never figure out what I was giving off now I have a better understanding thanks to you and I more determined than ever to get free from this ! I didn’t know what I was giving off but now I know. Thank you for your insight this helps so very much and I am ready to make the necessary steps to walk away from this awful pattern
Wow this made a lot of sense for me!! When you see patterns in your life the common denominator is you. We can't change how people behave, only ourselves. The time & energy I've invested into myself and my healing over the years has made it easy to peep game. Seeing how married, involved, attached men behave makes me even more happy that I'm single.
All I get approached my are married men. Very rarely do single men shoot their shot. It's crazy, it's on a constant basis and I have trust issues because of it.
I feel you, but he just stepped on my toes, because that mistrust is the walls he's talking about. I pray we both come out of this better women.
I can relate totally
I am single and living in Orlando so if you interested link me up......
Me too
Same feelings
How to get rid of taken/married men that approach you??? Ask them, "You got some money?!?!?!?!"
I do this anytime I want to get rid of someone and it definitely Works’s
Facts!
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I’m gonna try this next time 😂
Lol
For me, being a side is business. I don’t need the problems that come with a relationship and getting screwed over. I pride myself on the fact that I have learned to survive in this man’s world that is presented to me. Do I want a husband one day? Of course, but I think my strong independence is what men are afraid of. A married man doesn’t judge that ability. I wish a single man could be a compliment to independence than to fear it from a female.
What Stephen should do is have an open panel for men who are married and ask them questions about how they feel about themselves being a married man and do they value their VOWS. Just a suggestion to Stephan
How will YOU have a husband 1 day if u allow yourself to be a sideChick or a sideBusiness
that's low value, trust me you deserve better
I remember after living in my current city after a couple years and I was going through a divorce. I'd just started a new job. My boss at the time right away told me you will never find a good man in this city. She began opening up about how she was often approached by married guys and could not understand it. As time went by in getting to know her, it made sense. She did not trust, she came off as friendly but was not really, when she did meet a single guy she seemed to push him away by finding something wrong with him, she was emotionally detached. I saw this beautiful, smart woman who on the outside who appeared strong, but just in a few exchanges, was unhappy and needed to be in control. Just as we as women pick up vibes on others, men do too. If you want better you have to be willing to self reflect and ask...what's going within me that I continue to attract the same type of experiences repeatedly? When one becomes open to the answer that's where the game changes.
So true.. but being on this side of the game and not a wife.. to see how some married men are..is alarming. I've learned to seek Christ in ALL things first, I wish I would have known this younger.🙏🏽💕
"Jesus Said: But Seek First The Kingdom of God and His Righteousness and A L L these things shall be added unto you."
I promise you 💕🙏🏽He Provides everything🙏🏽💕 beautifully, just Trust Him, Read The Word (Bible)📖✨💕, He is Faithful, He is The God of A L L✨👑, AND HE IS LOVE💞 , And He is On The Throne Forevermore 💕🙏🏽👑✨📜
Get out of here!
@@abladeofgrass1003 stay true to you. listen to your divine intuition. Marriage/children are not our destiny. We get to choose what we want and need and when. 💙
@@Selflovematters4life I've learned to seek Christ in ALL things first, I wish I would have known this younger.🙏🏽💕
"Jesus Said: But Seek First The Kingdom of God and His Righteousness and A L L these things shall be added unto you."
I promise you 💕🙏🏽He Provides everything🙏🏽💕 beautifully, just Trust Him, Read The Word (Bible)📖✨💕, He is Faithful, He is The God of A L L✨👑, AND HE IS LOVE💞 , And He is On The Throne Forevermore 💕🙏🏽👑✨📜
I meet all the criteria's, I have Complex PTSD and I'm awaiting trauma therpy.
I was closed off to the idea of relationships because I attract the wrong type of men.
This video made me so emotional because it's all very true.
Thank you
This is the day my energy changes
For the last 5-6 years, 95% of encounters were men that were in a relationship, engaged, or married... I really thought something was wrong with me by not attracting men that are AVAILABLE. I am not emotionally dettached, nor am I okay with cheating in any capacity, I'm just a laid back introvert 😩😒. Thanks for making this video, I'll be working on this perception. I also have been learning about exuding more feminine energy, I'm naturally more masculine because of a single mother upbringing... This is probably why I have trust issues because most men who have approached me have been cheaters!!!!! Where were you when I turned 20!?? 😫
I didn’t wanna seem like “that girl” but YES. It’s like I have a sign on my forehead that reads “accepting married men” I never understood it..???
I feel the same way.
I feel the same way too but I'm not going to take on that responsibility and worry about my energy or whatever. I think these are just lying cheating men who cannot be faithful and think that women are objects to be played with...
No no no Girls... what I've noticed instead is that certain spirits are looking for innocent/naive/good hearted to play with their emotions... molesting spirit is looking for pure, innocent souls for example... Stephan though claiming to be a Christian speaks from the flash only
You are not 'THAT GIRL' because you are inquiring about it. BE honest with yourself and analyze what it is that creates this pattern. Being approached by a married man is not the problem, but entertaining one is. Do you pay attention to the red flags? Do you speak up when something seems 'off'? Those are the little things you can do to repel them. 🙏
I been in this position, multiple times, but Ladies its not us. These men for one “LIE” about their relationship status, no guy approaches a women and say Listen Im married, Lets have an affair. We normally find out months down the line, after we are already practically serious. And majority of these married men, are not happy, and dont want to pay child support and ALimony, so they have affairs. Its not the “Side women” issue. I LEAVE though! Eff that!
Soooo what I'm hearing is, the men who are married are weak.
Women can still be feminine and still not be emotionally attached to you. You say that married men(the weak link) are attracted to women who give off the "detached" vibes also assume that it's okay for the single woman to be okay with biting the bait by disrespecting the married man's marriage as well as themselves. It is not a womans RESPONSIBILITY to change her "detached" vibe to prevent married men from approaching her when her focus was not on them in the first place. That's a lot of effort to be putting in when you're not even mine.
Instead of worrying about why she's attracting said married man so much, you being the man with such a "clear" "yes or no?" Level headed, straightforward conscience, should be able to work on the issue within your marriage and stop stepping out expecting the next woman to change her attractive vibe to suit your fragile needs.
Let's be honest. Say I follow everything that was mentioned in this video right? The moment things go left, I'll be known as the home wrecker. So, I basically changed myself for nothing.
Hold the men accountable and please stop shaping women into being toys.
Very well said!
This has never happened to me but I don’t understand why he seems to place the onus on the woman for simply being approached. Isn’t HE married?!? Didn’t HE take vows?
I never understood why I’m always approached but now I get it. I’m very emotionally unattached I have been told I have a male thought process this is so me very detached with my guards up
Me as well
I definitely have a male thought process.
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Same
Women should think more like men...Or they will continue to get devoured..Do you want to be the unssupecting wife at home getting cheated on? And fyi, I know several masculine women that are in fact married...to their husbands with wandering eyes.. Smfh.
🤯 this makes sooo much sense!! I’m a busy woman and definitely emotionally detached but wasn’t aware I’m focused on my goals and am very in tune with my masculine side.. Although I’m not ready to be in a relationship I’m tired of being approached by married men or men in relationships.. it’s such a blow to my self esteem.. I now know what to work on. Thank you 🙏🏼
Same here
Yes I have consistently been approached by married men. Most times I don't know and find out later
@lavidavi I have been. I'm single not rushing anything. Been burned now just watching a lot more
@lavidavi exactly
I feel like a woman that is emotionally detached will eventually switch to emotionally invested because something will change them.
I'm late 50's, children grown. There's a woman that works in the same building as I do. She arrived about 3 years ago. Ever since I laid eyes on her, I cannot get her out of my mind. We've made eye contact a couple of times, smiled, but nothing more. I've seen A LOT of attractive women in my time that I haven't thought twice about, but this is far different. It's hard to explain....I feel a connection to her like never before, even though I've never officially met her to talk to. I see the way that she interacts with others, her upbeat attitude, her smile, her energy.....I love my wife (been together for 16 years), but cannot get her out of my mind. Never felt like this before. Sometimes it's painful thinking about her, wondering if I've found "the one" too late..... can anyone relate?
It hints of “lust”
You need help ‼️
@@peacefulvibe8357 And just how did you come to that illogical conclusion? No need to attack.
I feel you. I met who I thought was CREATOR sent to me. EVERYTHINGGGGG I desired in a man yet come to find out he's married🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️. He doesn't know I know but I do. Unsure if he's unhappy at home but he does EVERYTHING for me. Tells me how much he needs me, how much he doesn't ever wanna lose me, how much he adores me, how glad he is that we met. Before I found out I believed his words, now I simply smh when he's talking. I'm so grateful that I'm not an emotional woman. I'm disappointed in him but not enough to leave him. I'm gonna ride the train, enjoy the time but I'll never be intimate with him after finding this out. I truly wish he wasn't married, but he is.
@@joemarchand8313 I don't see "an attack", I see a suggestion, sir... One you should consider seriously!! 💡💡💡
Yes I’m being approached by married and men in relationships and it’s seems a lot but my spirit is focused on God , I just ignore them , they have nothing to offer me . I believe god has my husband and he is working on him . Thanks again for this video
I was emotionally detached and didn't know myself and my worth. Ok, i tolerated this toxic guy in my masculine energy. Ok. Thanks for advice.
Yes I get approached all the time. This has been happening since I was 17-18. That has happened to me when I was younger, I never give in. Still won’t.
I am fully aware those are my 2 main issues.... I am emotionally detached AND I give off a masculine energy.🤦🏾♀️ Am definitely NOT desperate at all though. Will not be with a man that is taken
I literally sat on the edge of my bed this morning, and wondered this very thing!! It is so timely. And I am beyond grateful for your wisdom. I’m honing in on this thing and I’m going to fix this. Thank you, Stephan! I love your ENERGY!
Well this explains why I attract men who are not available, ie married, taken, emotionally unavailable, etc. I’m taking time now for myself to address the issue. Love the breakdown. Thank you!!
Ditto!
Basically, he's talking about narcissist men
Basically
Yes it’s a narcissist. I’m pretty sure.
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Facts!!!
Must be, bc I REALLY don't agree with half this SHIT......child PLEASE!!!! I'm not desperate for no stankn AsS Man.....you tried IT......... maybe some women,but NOT all women!!
I had a guy who told me that he hadn't been intimidate with his wife since he cheated on her 16 years ago and was I opened to a sexual relationship. I almost threw my sangria in his face! I literally felt my hand reaching for my sangria!
When he died his obituary stated that he was the Reverend such and such and was even a pastor at one point in his life. It's people like him that give Christians a bad name.
Oh no. What a creep.
I’m glad you didn’t waste that sangria!
He was lying to you about being intimate with his wife...😏. Not unless he had a illness to keep him from performing.
What a story!!!
This is me, very straightforward and walls up. Very detached emotionally and very logical. Who DOESN’T want a married man.
Ditto! I always thought these were good traits to have
My granny had five words “leave that married man alone he has nothing to offer you and God don’t like ugly,you are setting yourself for the worst life,don’t waste your time or energy being a home wrecker.”Karma
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
There is also the Jackie Kennedy syndrome- she had a dad to whom she has a very close /friendship (psychological terms too a "mistress " as the dad and mom didn't get along well) and she always found men who cheated on her, were distant, worked never had time etc bc she kept reliving the childhood patterns/wound. Also very interesting.
The timing of this video was impeccable for me..and these concepts make sooo much sense. I needed this. Im beyond thankful for these words.
Me too Sis, right on time!
Amen!
Me too omg!!!!
Yes me too
Crystal Durden was a
I’ve been in that situation before. I never get hit on by a single man. However I feel all men cheat at some point anyway. I’m somewhat emotional detached cause you have to keep your guard up out here in these streets. The male pool out here is horrible. You got to have some kind of wall up or you going to get railroaded. I’m really tired of all the fake men out here. I can do bad by myself I don’t need ANY help with that.
Only married men. It's devastating. I don't even want a husband. It looks embarrassing to be a wife.
Yes, I do. Very often. Minding my business, out shopping, even in church.
This is so on point...I decided to start dating again after years....And every man that approached me this year was married except 1!!! I keep asking why? Thanks for the insight.
Apparently you need higher heels and sexier dress 🙄
This happened once recently. I never stuck around to try and get the full truth. Based on what happened I concluded he must have a woman or a woman who felt she was his woman enough to do what she did. I cut him off with no explanation, and he never questioned me. I’m still cordial but it’s business only. I don’t have time for that. 🤦🏽♀️
I never thought of myself as emotionally detached or masculine energy but I do know I had that in the past, but I've changed myself and am no longer approached by married and taken men. I did read a love after heartbreak from you and it help tremendously. I know my worth and I now only go out with men who I feel are worthy of my heart ❤ and love. Thank you for all your help and encouragement it is greatly appreciated.
Kim Frederick,you look stunning 🌹 🌹🌷 🌷🥀🌷🌺 🌺🌹🌷🌷 🌹🌹🥀 🥀🌹
@@oscarwilliamson1264 thank you, that's very much appreciated
I can totally agree with you! I’ve had this problem and I can honestly say I come off as emotionally detached and masculine energy. I never paid attention to my energy until I watched this video. I’m very straightforward when it comes to men..I let them know what I want and if they can’t give that to me...then I’m out
Until someone falls in love
True or correct?...1. Because they want to. 2. Because they can. 3. Because they can. 4. Because they want to...man can do what he wants whether he is married or not.
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Yeah if that's the consensus in his relationship, otherwise the wife can do it too no problem lol. You just won't know and she just won't know, everybody happy
Men always think the grass is greener on the other side until he get over there and find out it's spray painted lol 😂 no for real the eyes of men never satisfied ...men need to be strong love themselves and have respect for themselves
Very idiotic to believe that neglected grass would continue growing healthy and green... And the nerve to complain about how dry it is & then compare it to how lush and green it is on the other side
The grass is greener where its watered
@sha B that’s not true 😂
Veronica I got 10 likes were is yours lol 😂 😂
True💯💯
I definitely attract married and taken men. I wasn't aware of the masculine energy or the emotional detachment. I feel that im emotionality aware of my feelings and I'm always positive. I know there is a man God has for me.
As women, we embody both masculine and feminine. I love both aspects of myself. They both work for me.
Yes, many times. Even after I discourage them , they return.
I have been single for over 20 years. I’ve got my own business. I support myself and I’m very independent. This has been happening for years. Now I’m 70 years old and last night I had two different married men text messaging me. And first thing this morning, there was messages waiting. I don’t understand so your podcast was helpful. I am an alpha female and that I’m independent and run my own business and have four 4050 years. Plus, I’m a registered nurse, educated articulate, ambitious, energized, and much of the time these men aren’t at my level. The two that are chasing me now however are both doctors in their field.
It was awesome to see if it was actually something addressing this issue when I went to UA-cam I googled this very question and was fortunate to find your broadcast. Thank you.
I suspected that just by the title of the video that the "reasons" were going to involve blaming/shaming the women instead of putting the onus on the married men. And I didn't even bother to actually listen to the video, but opted to just read some of the comments and got my confirmation.
Yes I had that! Interesting I never thought about myself as detached but I can see that- especially the last few years (scared + push away)
Same
This is a really good video! Thanks for sharing your wisdom ❤️
Mr. Labossiere? If you ever get the time, will you please do two videos explaining: the qualities of an emotionally detached woman and another video about and the qualities of a woman who gives off masculine energy versus a woman who who gives off feminine energy.🌺✨thank you for taking time to read this comment.✨🌺
I love this!
Maybe it will help because I'm so confused😂
Good idea
I never was approached by a married Man before, but I got approached by a Man that was in a relationship not knowing that he had a girlfriend. But I refuse to settle. I'm waiting on the LORD for the right person.
Hey Karen may God bless you with the man of God you deserved blessings
@ I mean they could just go purchase a hooker...Instead they enjoy destroying innocent women.
PLEASE WAIT!!! It’ll be so worth it!!! I waited and waited. I thought God forgot about me. I stopped looking but not hoping. When I wasn’t looking, love found me , and it came from the least expected place.
Lord give me grace to be patient and sanctified and celibate while I wait
I hope his response shifts the responsibility on the MARRIED MAN.
Finally, a man who cares enough about women to 1) level with us and 2) do it in a frank but not demeaning way. What's more is that nobody needed to be a Christian to get the truth from this guy. Thank you!
I get approached all the time but I will neva EVA be anyone's secret!
BOOM!!! Agree!
This was an interesting take on why married or taken men approach me all the time, but as you stated if your attractive men will be men and shoot their shot. I'm sure I'm coming off as emotionally unattached and giving masculine energy, but there is more to it than that. I know my worth and just not settling. When your operating in this mindset you not out here making yourself emotionally available not are you letting your walls down until you vet them. Hence why you could appear to be unattached and giving off a masculine vibe. Not to mention these cheating men aslio lie about being married or taken. Plus they don't necessarily need a willing side chick cause some women are and don't even know it.
Wow! Yep. Masculine Energy (For Protection) ✅, Great Wall of China erected ✅, Low Self-Worth ✅, Did he sense that I was broken and had childhood drama and hidden desperateness? ✅. I was perfect side until I wasn’t...I was under a cloud thinking he cares or loved me. The biggest L in my life....that almost cost me my life. Please don’t do this. I fell into it and it wasn’t worth it. Finally words: Choice Love and don’t fall into because you will fall for the wrong person but if you chose you will lead with your head and not your heart.
Quin Tessa, you just told my whole story with this comment. And like you I fell into it, and I was young and a virgin. It took the Lord to get me out. I did not know the game married men play or the "script" they operate from to get women. Telling you how horrible their wives are, or how hurt they are because she cheated. They know how to play on a woman's nurturing instincts and desire to care, which is why they present themselves as these neglected beings in need of your love. IT'S ALL BULL💩! The experience left me wrecked for years, and it took a long time for me to forgive myself for even allowing myself to be to be that naive and gullible.
Yes! I get approached by men who are married. I think I do give off masculine energy. I am very feminine looking, confident, strong and independent.
Very interesting video. Thank you!!
I get approached by married/taken men all the time. I have often wondered why but now I understand why.
It happened to me often for reasons 1, 2, and 4. But because I’m in the process of healing, I’m gracefully blowing off married/taken guys. Just like Michael Jackson, I’m now telling those guys to “beat it”. I know my worth and have much to offer the right person.
Wow Stephan, this hit home! Checked reasons 1,2,&4😔 Energy evaluating moving forward!
Always.. always....I feel like it's the only type of men who approach me!! I want it to stop..I wish it can stop..I need it to stop!! In the end I'm always a fool!!
I needed to hear this so bad. I hate that I attract married men or taken men, I would never take anyone's man. But the fact that I attract them is disheartening to be in any relationship.
Yep. Just learned the 2 guys I have been dating are both married 😮 I am far from desperate I just live a busy life and don’t have a lot of time for dating.
This Happens so much until I’m Disgusted !!! And gets mad when I’m Firm with saying “No”! I want my own Single man!! Do I look like side chick material to you!!! Geeeshh🤦🏽♀️
Well done young lady. Setting strong boundaries 💪 is the key. Self awareness of knowing who you are and ensuring your emotional needs are met will also help you choose not attract people that have your best interest at heart ❤️ instead of trying to toss your salad. Married or unavailable man are only interested in sex and they fear commitment ( married but fear the entrapment of being with one person so they self sabotage their relationship due to this securit.immaturity play as well. So don't let his image / worldview of himself block your heart/ blessing.
I’m not dealing with any man who is married too much drama
Linda Hines yep it is
Too much drama how about morally wrong?
True and it dangerous
Yea just think of the STD he gonna give you
I'm just wondering how Covid-19 postive married men are spreading the virus during this time. Fact is there is always someone out there willing to entertain them especially if they have the money
I never thought of it that way or even saw myself giving that energy
I think men will just try. It's up to us to reinforce our boundaries and watch out for the man who tries the "brother" approach also. If you are single, don't fall prey to this either. Gut instinct is powerful. It's always on time. Do research and pay attention to those things that DON'T line up. Don't be a fool with dating. So he is separated...hmmm...ask questions. Pay attention and never feel like he's the last person interested in you. WE as women are the prize!! There is nothing wrong with taking our time to get to know him. And don't reveal everything about yourself. Listen to what he says and see if the actions align. This is my advice for this subject. Lastly, don't accept being anyone's second choice. Don't entertain that type of drama in your life and keep yourself protected with Godly wisdom. Normalize being only #1 from the onset! Become picky and selective -- same approach as picking out your new home for Y-O-U😊 🙌🏽
I’ve been seeing a guy in the gym over the past 3 years (he is about 20 years older than me lol, but he looks really good). I always liked him. We only said Hi for a long time. He finally asked me out and finally realized that he is married. He said he is separated but not divorced yet cuz of their daughter. He wanted me to have a casual relationship with him and just fool around, even though I am definitely out of his league in terms of so many aspects. It was so hard to not even hang out as a friend with him, cuz I really liked him, but I finally made my decision and told him we are not on the same page, and I moved on!
I'm not experiencing a lot of these type of men and thank you for this video. My goodness!!
Stephan I'm confused here. So,women being emotionally detached rather attracts a married man? So are we then supposed to be emotionally attached? The man is married he should mind his business with his wife,why should i be emotionally attached to him? I'm not really getting this. Please explain further
I think he means emotionally detached from the OUTCOME that you desire, which, for most women, is true love/ an exclusive commited relationship/ marriage.
If you, for instance, don't really care about getting married/ a commitment from a man, you're just down to f*ck, OR you are a doormat who won't stand up for her needs (hence detached from her desired outcome), you won't cause him any problems.
@@destinybabb9862 yes Queen Destiny, I totally agree with you. Queen Linda...also, I believe Stephen was addressing a specific question presented to him...this may be why he did not address how the married man should conduct himself.
@@SermonsSubtitled yes but he was talking about that rather attracting such men to you which I don't get.
It's happened before and when I say I'm engaged... One dude actually said 'So'... I was like seriously dude?😒 Men like that can kick rocks!
Sadly, I always get approached by married or taken men