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Thank you for this video, it was just what I needed today. What you said in another video about being just friends until we decide to get married really changed my perspective and I want to adopt that mindset going forward. I am ready to marry him. I would marry him tomorrow if he wanted to. But he is not ready to marry me or anyone, so I need to accept that. I decided that I am going to be friends with him and try to follow God's guidance every step of the way, because I really feel God is telling me this is my husband ❤
The best advice my dad gave me after a very messy breakup was.. Choose to love him. Don't build hate. Because love sets you free, pray good things for him, bless him, speak good things about him. And finally I was free!!
That happened exactly to me. Saw my husband the first time at 14, then actually met again at 16 broke up after 3months, he went back overseas. I never forgot him, went on to experience life and after 13 years he returned and we hooked up and got married 3 months later. Now my love has passed on after 40 years of marriage and I will love him forever.
@@goldenblue3865whatever is on your heart… Prayer is about communicating and releasing your inner most thoughts and feelings… Whichever way your spirit leads, that’s what your pray for🤗
I agree🩷🩷 I been praying he finds his way back to the right path, wherever that may be. Meeting him restored my belief and faith in God. Which is pretty significant I think. I don't think that was just a confidence.
Yes. And I like how real he does get without saying anything judgemental. When we feel certain connections I do feel like it's God. But like he said we move on and get married instead of focus on what God wants us to do. Now I don't know what to do.
@@kimberlymyers2992 we all experience this type of stuff. Be easy on yourself and take time to grow. F everybody for a minute and I mean everybody. Get your mine body and spirit right and pop out if you feel the need to. But by all means....do you!
I still love my rachted baby daddy ex husband but it's ok. I don't want or need to be with him. I got too much to offer my current husband to trip over a clown with a crown. I love them both for different reasons but I care about what those reasons are. They make a huge difference. I chose the one who brings me peace instead of the streets. Every day is a struggle but everyday is worth it cause my new boo is worth it. The total disrespect is gone and I can work with anything that's not a deal breaker. So far so good.....we got married after 2 weeks of meeting each other and we just celebrated our 1 year anniversary a couple of weeks ago.
Yes no boyfriend/girlfriend I need a commitment and he knows...been there but I'm so into God that I don't want to do things I'm not suppose to eg fornication....so commit or the feelings don't mean much to me...
Wow! I love your explanation. Now, I understand better. I do still love my ex-bf. I have 2 just accept it. I still have moved forward with my life. I'm single by choice. My focus: God, music, and family.
Yes ❤ this makes me fight against my loving feelings & I begin to assume it's something wrong with me & love, or I'm not made to love, all this negative stuff that's simply not true.
“God doesn’t even operate with the boyfriend/girlfriend stuff” THANK YOU! I’ve been screaming this and no one wants to hear it. Attachment is the root of all suffering. Freedom above all else and let the chips fall where they may.
God is an everlasting energy. He knows your pain. He feels your pain... Your soul cries out to him because he is your soul. There isn't a sparrow that falls from the sky that GOD doesn't know about. God knows every spirit because it flows through him. It's in him. It is him. The flesh is the layer that blocks us from God.
All this is bull crap men know exactly what they want my last situation the guy led me on till the one he wanted was available which was a person who had more money than me a man will use a woman for entertainment purposes and know this from the jump I know they say choose better 😅 then it's God is saying not now come on ladies be foreal
We broke up 4 years ago and this weekends I found out he’s getting married. My feelings never went away nevertheless I wish him the best on his new journey
Wow! I have been asking God to remove my love for this man. My feelings are real. It's not the right time. He's not emotionally available for me. He's in another relationship that he knows he needs to end. I don't pursue him. Also, he has not done anything for me, but be my friend when he can and he's prayed for me. He knows there is a strong connection, and we both want to honor God. If it's meant for us to be together, God will move on his behalf & he'll make his free will choice to do whatever it takes for us to be together. Until then, I'll keep putting God 1st in my life. In Jesus Mighty Name! Amen & Amen!🙏😇❣️
I'M there right now. I didn't know he lied about being single. He's all nice and loving when he wants intimacy. I know he only wanted me for one thinghisbut he fed me fairy tales. I can't believe I stayed for 7 mths when I had a hunch he was lying. I work within the same warehouse but different sections. He said he was in limbo between her and I. Today,I told him I wasn't an option or a choice. I was uses but I can't forgive myself for not leaving earlier. He even said the other girl treats him horribly, calls him names and was on a dating app sitting right beside him. I'm going to text him today (she checks all his texts and tracks his truck. I'm telling him I can't do this. I'm not a side chic. I am not used to the secrets and obviously he still wants her because he puts up with her putting him down. I have to get everything off my chest and hopefully she will see that I'm not a hoe like he said she called me.
It’s ok to love him still, understand that it doesn’t always mean you need to be with him. For context, I was with my husband for 30 years, I left him but will love him until the day I die.
Exactly, 10 years later still in my dreams. I was so blind, he became a pimp, all kinds of cheating. Now I accept the love was once real and now I can move on.
It's the memories that won't let go. My 1st love was my HS sweetheart. After realizing we were not good together was telling myself I would love him from afar. That changed my thoughts and put my feeling about him in the past.
I just love how the comment section is therapeutic and helps us all to understand that we all have similar experiences and we all will eventually see the rainbow after the rain!🌈
But i also believe that God puts people in our lives at certain times for different reasons. Some aren't meant to be permanent. When we hold onto things not meant for us instead of letting them go like God intended...that's where problems arise🙏🏾❤️
Finding peace in accepting the connection is real but the timing is wrong. Pouring into myself helps limit the amount of mental/emotional space I allow it to occupy.
😢Loving someone and it doesn't work can be painful. BUT we have to remember when we pray to God...the devil is listening too. We must be careful to not blame God for everything. God makes no mistakes....so yes don't be in a rush until you know it's a God send.
This made me cry. Thank you so much, the timing couldn’t have been more perfect. I’ve been beating myself up about why I can’t get over my feelings for this person, and this video gave me so much peace. I appreciate your videos Stephan, thank you ❤️🙏🏼
Sometimes we just fall in love with people who are not right for us. This happened to me; I still have love for the person and he loves me, but I know if we were to get together again it would end the same way. I used to believe that if you love someone and they love you, that's all that matters and it will work out, but that simply isn't true. I have learned to accept the feelings, but also know that they're just feelings.
When you can not forget about someone that you never had a relationship with, that is even more of a struggle. No dating or anything. Just quick encounters. When this person crosses my mind, which is often, I just pray for him.
I didn’t think it was possible but yes this is facts! Just hanging out, more often than not and being made to feel like you’re important whenever you’re around him😊 Then having to let go just because I guess he stopped being interested in my company😔😔😔
I can relate, my husband passed 2022 as well. And he was my soulmate we were together for 29 years. He passed it broke the heck out of me. But God helped me and freed me from whatever depression tried holding me down. But he will forever be in my heart. But I won’t let it hold me back either. All these things are new and I’m learning me all over again. pushing for growth spiritually mentally emotionally physically.
I’ve prayed the prayer for him to leave my life to stop thinking about him and everything. I’ve even made the decision following my head instead of my heart to let him go. And I’ve been having dreams about him. He’s not a bad guy at all he just has issues he hasn’t healed from and I was suffering for the actions from his past. I still love and we had a strong connection but I couldn’t deal with the come and go thing
Same on different levels. We had a strong connection- both grieving over someone (my Mom and his wife), well fast forward 7 yrs later and several weekend meetups, I’m sick of it all! No marriage proposal, not enough care, love, communication, plans and he does not have Jesus in his heart! And he drinks too heavily and and and. I’m finally stepping up for me and my needs but I’m sooo sooo sooo lonely and miss when he did talk to and care about me - but I am no fool. He wants a woman to be waiting on him? It can’t be meant to be! It just can’t be, right God? I’m so confused and lost after my 20 yr marriage crumbled, and that’s how I found this guy in the first place. I’ve failed in life and will be alone forever- as that’s how it feels now. My self esteem is suffering 😢 now and I know it shouldn’t. But I have no one to physically talk to anymore and wondering what I can do about that? Any ideas?
@@liveitup2788 you won’t be lonely forever. Happiness and joy will find you sooner than you think. I’m sorry your 20 year marriage felt apart. But you will find happiness again. You are a gorgeous person with a beautiful soul & heart. I am proud of you for walking away and protecting your heart. Your thoughts are your reality. You have to KNOW that you will find your soulmate and your divine partner & that he will find you. Don’t give up. Just keep God first, walk with Jesus, and continue evolving and working on yourself. My advice is to create new hobbies and make new friends. Pour into your social life! Try something new. This is a huge world we live in and it is too big to miss out on different opportunities and experiences. Travel, workout, eat healthy, change your hairstyle, dye your hair, change your wardrobe style. Reinvent yourself, spoil yourself, change yourself. All of this will boost your self esteem. Take care of yourself and take control over your life! God bless you. I pray you’re feeling better nowadays. 🙏🏾
I have always wondered why God hasn’t removed these feelings for him. He and I only dated for a few months but it was very intense and the last impression he left me was more powerful than my previous relationship before him (which was about 4 years). I accept that I will always love him. I know God has brought him into my life for a reason and I accept that and will continue to walk in God’s love and light and what He wants for me. Because God provides and protects His children, guiding them to the path they need to be on.
Maybe he vouldnt tell the difference in his feelings either !? It might have been new to him, it might have been feelings he didnt want to, or wasnt ready to, feel. You felt his genuine affection. But it wasnt a stable thing. Maybe bevause HE wasnt stable.
Had to jump and say something.. I agree with everything you said… I have been in love and connected to a man for 8 years now with the very sam feelings from the start. I cried .. I prayed it away but God revealed to me the reason you feel the way you feel because he’s going to be your husband. And it’s HARD to live each day with all this within but God keeps me and comforts me. But I wanted to say this to someone who’s going through this.. thinking your crazy or obsessing over someone who’s not in your life . But leave it to God and let him create your perfect person at the perfect time.. Love is coming ❤ I truly believe it 😊
I beleive sometimes God does'nt even bring these people in our lives, it's our own flesh. Sometimes this is just lessons to get you to have a better relationship with God. Everything we ask for in relationships valuing, respect, honest , Love we have to build that with God first so we can then build this within ourselves so we can find that right person. At 42 i'm learning this , and even with going through a horrible breakup and it's hard. I beleive this is God courting me and saying daughter i'm here its my time. You hit it on the nail. He's getting our attention. Amen!
It’s always God’s time! He wants fellowship with every single person, then, all their other relationships will be richer and fuller! He causes us to be grateful for the Presence of our loved ones and appreciate them as we have spent time first just enjoying our Heavenly Father! It puts us in the right spirit to handle life’s complicated circumstances. He gave us one another to enjoy, love 33:51 and have companionship with. He created man and woman to help each other in our journey of life! We are supposed to seek God daily, then, have a loving relationship with your partner and others whom God has in your life like family, friends, and neighbors near and far! This is the abundant life Christ talks about! A life full of the love of God for us, in us and out through us! He is Praised for evermore! ❤
As a woman of God, I find that whenever someone is heavy on my mind or heart it's because I need to pray and intercede for them. I am done with my ex and he wants he, but I don't want him. But I still have feelings for him but I refuse to go back. I keep him in prayer and keep my feets moving forward with my life.
30+ years later, I still haven't been able to forget him no matter how hard I tried. In my constant dreams he's always so loving and protective of me. About 2 years ago, I saw him at our class reunion for the first time in years. I was leaving early just to avoid him when his best friend caught up to me. He expressed disbelief that I was leaving before his friend had an opportunity to see me. He immediately called him over. The love between us was undeniable. I left because I couldn't handle being face to face with him knowing he's married to someone else 💔
@@naomidambe I’m essentially saying that you have to mourn those that you love and lose, put them in the grave, because that then kills the emotional connection. have you a whole morning session and keep it moving
We broke up almost a year ago, and i fight every day to not text him. Go on his social media. I do love him, but we broke up with no closure. He didn't apologize for things that hurt me, and i had to walk away. 😢
Seeking and waiting for validation of the pain he caused would mean he was truly inested in who you were, and had internalized you. It is so understandable that you would want ths because you truly loved this person. The fact that he never showed remorse when he hurt you will keep you hanging on because you do not want to believe he did not connect with you in the same way. Most likely, he is not capable of that kind of connection- not toward you or anyone else. It is hard to find closure without the other person's explanation and validation, but we must find it somehow without them. He can not give you what he does not have the caacity for, even though you deserve to have gotten that. Wishing you peace.
I know what you mean.They're are letters composed in my mind constantly along with imaginary phone calls texts letters That will just remain In my heart and in my mind
I wish one of us had broken up with eachother. We never broke up. It's been 27 years. When we do talk 1x/year over the phone just to "check in" he reminds me "Hey! We never broke up, so we are still together!" 😮
I'm sorry to hear you are still missing him. I know the pain. It sucks. I'm going through the same. One thing that helps my healing, im training my brain to dismiss the thoughts of her. It's over and time to invest in myself. If I stayed in my relationship it would of killed me from anxiety. I made the decision to leave because my peace is better then suffering from the stress of her life. Some relationships won't work for whatever reasons.
Stop going on his social media. Block it so you can't look. You deserve to move on to something new and better. You cant drive looking in the rear view mirror my luv❤
I don’t think god is keeping the feelings there I think it is the person who has a soul tie. Soul ties exist and I believe that’s why especially if they were bad for you gotta fast n pray that soul tie to be undone!
I hung up with my niece when I saw this title pop up in my notifications. I can't emphasize enough how many times I've prayed for my feelings to be removed about this man.
Great video! You might consider another reason a woman still loves a man. Narcissism. I was in a relationship for three years and he had me hooked. Literally. He was like a drug. Treat me nice, then treat me bad. I wanted him back so I'd accept anything. I couldn't understand how, if he said he loved me, then say and do horrible things to me. At the end, he ghosted me.. he left without warning. I was heartbroken. Then his new woman saw me on Facebook and wrote to me. He had done the same things to her. She said he was a narcissist if she ever saw one. So I started researching narcissism. I learned so much and I finally understood and I could let him go. Maybe it was love on my part, but maybe it wasn't. Maybe he was just a drug. That's how they operate. Give you some love (drug) and then take it away. You'll accept almost anything to have more. I still think about him, but it doesn't hurt anymore because I understand what it was now. He never loved me. So, my point is, maybe a woman still loves a man because she doesn't understand narcissism. I was able to get over it and heal, but I had to understand first. Thanks for this video. I'm single now and very happy. One day, the guy God has for me will come along. I'll wait.
I too had a similar situation. Your comment just put a lot into perspective for me about the reality of my past situation as well. He was definitely a narcissist manipulator and now I understand why I struggle with my feelings toward him. In order for me to be able to let go I must first understand and accept what wasn’t real. Thank you for this!
@@shamonicahoward7594 You're very welcome. I'm glad I could help. One phrase that helped me a lot was, "In order to win with a narcissist is not to play the game". Hugs!!
Same thing happened to me. I was only 32. I had no idea what narcissism was or that people like that existed. It damaged me for a long time. He was a religious narcissist so it was harder to navigate. He is happily married with 3 children. He made sure to tell me when was about to be married how much better she was and how God favored him more because she is getting married and I am single. Up to this day I still ask God if he was right.
That's why scripture says that we are not to create graven images of anything, including creating a mental image of how we want a person to be in our lives. Now you have to do something with the graven false image which is now part of your subconscious. The war of letting go is found in the subconscious and not with God. Answer? Be transformed by the renewing of your mind and replacing the lesser image with a greater image helps too. 😊
I disagree, I can choose to love him & let him go... I shouldn't be with someone who won't help me, puts me down, & tried to kill me. I loved him, he didn't love me, end of that story... moving on to better things not being bitter. 🙌 🌞 Learning to love myself no matter what is pure gold 💛🥰
I thought it was just me. Was having a conversation yesterday about my situationship, asking my girls why I can’t shake this man that I only see 3x a year. What perfect timing of this video. Confirmation that I need to fast and pray about it. Probably won’t remove my feelings but I pray fasting and prayer gives me clarity and/or strengthens my resistance, good lawd ha’ mercy 🥵😩
I feel that, I've seen mine 2x in about 3.5 years and we live almost 6 hrs apart. Not only that, saw him at the same random place. No plans, nothing. It's God's timing.
I have never… left a comment on one of your videos before. I’ve been watching you for 3 years and you have helped me tremendously. THIS video. Is exactly the kick I needed. I know that the guy I had is the guy for me. And now I am one HUNDRED percent aware of the fact that I have been dilly dallying in my preparation for God, which is another reason why everything is so much more confusing, and hurts so much longer than it should have. I am, so excited to get in tune with God, because he’s been trying to get in tune with me for a while now and I haven’t been paying attention. So thank you. From the bottom of my heart, this video changed my life.
@@MeetStephanSpeaks oh, I sent it to my best friend immediately😂 (and oh my gosh I can’t believe I’m actually talking to you. It feels like I’m talking to a celebrity🤭😂😂🤓)!)
Yes, because it stirs up every insecurity we have ever had about our core value. If you had been given the time to see for yourself who this person really was, chances are you would have walked away at some point, knowing it was the best thing to do, It is much harder when we have been rejected before we have had a chance to see for ourselves that this person was never going to make us happy.
I have and am still experiencing a divine connection with someone, although we are not together. It is the strongest connection I have ever experienced. I have been working to heal some past trauma, getting better. I definitely feel it was the right person wrong time, now that I have started to work on myself. I believe he is a part of my purpose and destiny. I will continue to work on myself and seek God for guidance and patience. Thanks so much for heeding and walking in your purpose!!❤❤❤
All things are possible with God. Give it all to God SIS. Find other ways to occupy your time. If the man was toxic ain't no way God keeping that man in your heart. That is the flesh. God is not the author of chaos and confusion. Fight with the word of God. God don't want us sitting around wasting the life HE gave waiting on some man to love us. God said HE will never leave us nor forsake us. So you are NEVER alone. Pray that God remove that love for this person so you can be prepared to have that love with the appropriate person at the right time with the person HE sends. Stop leaning unto your own understanding when it comes to dating. Pray before dating. Let God lead and guide you to your boaz.
I believe God brings that person into our life to be a catalyst for our journey. That man is to teach us about ourselves, so when can heal from past trauma. And when We separate for whatever reason its team for that man to heal. So in the mean time we have to go on with life, because man my take a lil longer. And if its meant to be God will bring us back together. I hope i explained it right. I wish everyone love and light.
If its real it will not go away and be destroyed..Its been 3 years..I stopped fighting it,just made peace with it and acceptted it and trying to have sane quality life ..
You are so right It cannot be destroyed Because I've tried everything from counseling hypnosis soul tie delivery sessions And he's in my heart and mind everyday and night Yeah I accepted and just live with the feelings And wish him well
This best advice I’ve read. I never thought about this way!!! Lord I’ve been praying and asking God to remove these feelings and thoughts. I got some healing to do and this just gave me a huge push. “energy can never be destroyed”
GOD IS SO AMAZING. i WAS ONLY PRAYING 2 HOURS BEFORE WATCHING THIS. " God please take the feelings I have for this woman away fron me. " THEN THIS VIDEO POPS UP OUT OF NOWHERE FOR ME TO WATCH. God is so real my friend and He loves and cares for you so much ...............believe it.
@@micheles8796 Should never date right after a Divorce. I was a mess. This guy seemed nice. Had sex too soon. End of story. Years went by. Never really knew him or myself! Sex clouds everything. We really had nothing in common except loners wanting sex. Argh!
Everything happens for a reason I really didn't want to watch this 😭 because I'm going through the title of this video. God works in mysterious ways he puts people's places and things in our lives to prepare and teach us how to live in this world especially through his Word. I talked to God earlier before watching your video and this is what he prepared me for after I cried out to him about how I feel 😭 . I'm healing and trusting God 🙌🏾
Sometimes there are strong feelings because God puts it in your heart and wants y'all together but some people are stubborn and prefer to go elsewhere. God hardened Pharoes heart. The Israelites doubted themselves several times and hesitated to do God's will. God called them stiff necked in other words hard headed. They were stubborn.
Let me tell you how good God is. I was just having this conversation with a coworker of mine about a man that I was in a recent relationship with and the struggles that I’ve been facing trying to move on. Literally while I was talking to her this video popped up as a notification on my cell phone. Thank God for always hearing my prayers and thank you Stephen for allowing God to use you as a vessel. 🙏🏾🙌🏾
Yes God is Good, God is Great, But that was not God , that was your phone hearing that and then sending you the video recommendation, Google and app's have access to your phone's microphone.
The right man wrong time can also mean that you may have outgrown this type of partner that you used to desired back in the day or from your past state of mind by the time the person manifests in your life
I know right! Its definitely real! I will never stop loving him and I know that as well! Love is patient! But Lord, help me tho! I can't let go....whew chile! Great content....not talking to yourself 😬🤣 I so needed this today! Pray about it!
Thank you for sharing this. I met a wonderful man who became my friend whilst I was going through a hard time in my marriage till I reached a point of divorce. He really supported me and at some point feelings developed. He took a decision to end the friendship because one he didn't want to act out of integrity, two he wants to give me space to heal and three he got conflicted with the fact that I have 3 kids from my marriage. I respect this man so much should he had gone ahead and lead us deep into a relationship I am sure I would have fumbled him but the space I have is allowing me to take my journey of healing with out any disturbance. Yet I miss him dearly and I realise that I do love him. The way he treated me makes me appreciate him, respect him.
Sometimes, I think we feel like we love someone but theres a lot of red flags and we think we can still love that person lifetime regardless of the redflags and God is trying to protect us from our relationship demise because they aren't the right one. We have to listen to Gods voice. If he's trying to stir u in a different direction listen to his still small voice. 🙏🙏❤❤
Thank you for this video. I started crying when you said it’s real love. I know it is. I knew he was special on our first date and I looked at him. It’s been over a year, he has moved on to a new relationship. I tried dating, didn’t work. I still think about him. I have learnt so much and have clarity since he left. I miss him but I hope he finds happiness wherever he is.
I think the best thing to do is pray to God and be genuinely honest about how you feel and ask him to help you to channel those feelings into something positive. Maybe you need to learn forgiveness or maybe you simply need to accept that the feelings are there and choose to focus on progressing. It is what it is. Don't fight it just accept that the feelings are real and that person meant something to you but now the void is there and you need to ask God to fill the void.
I struggle with letting go. But the truth is this guy is allergic to work & continues to be destructive. I told him, I'm doing things differently. I won't let him continue to bring me down. More than 10 years LOST😢 our time together has expired.
This is powerful. I met and dated a man that I had the most incredible connection and love with. He had some mental health and traumas which led to our parting ways. He has made some very poor choices since and reaches out every so often. I have tried so hard to stop caring about him and move forward. He hurt me and yet I still think about him and care about him. I have just been focusing on myself and bettering myself.
I definitely need this! I'm trying to move on after a (break up) from a bad situationship I shouldn't have ever been in, lost my self respect, my heart is broken, and I didn't love me more because I was too busy loving him more and he didnt even value me enough to choose me, so this is motivation for me to move forward but at a slower pace because I'm still hurting and I just want to heal from this toxic situationship that nearly crushed me and stopped me from enjoying the greater things that life has to offer.
Met the man i loved dearly 23years after our first connection. It didn t work out unfortunatly... God send him to me to remove myself from my illusions but still love him even if we still not on the same path. It hurts to the core.
Mine has almost been that long since the last time we spoke. I saw him after 17 years, and he had a big reaction it seemed like he really wanted to talk, but I just ignored him. Now, a few years later, I can't stop thinking about him. I didn't feel this when I saw him but for some reason now I think about him all the time. I don't know if it's closure that is needed or what. I'm sorry to hear about the pain you're experiencing. I know that's painful after all these years later.
Thank you for your support. I think that we have to give ourselves our own closure . Everything they could say can be tricky for us. Did he try to contact you ever since? Sorry for my english I m french
@ninette9803 Well, it was me that needed to give closure, and I never did. He never reached out because I never had social media with the last name that he knew. He doesn't have any mutual friends ether.
@@michellegirau8136 maybe it's a God protection. He send us what you need and can endure. I think God knew I was ready to meet him again to finally learn my lessons. Still painful, I know how you feel. You should write all your feelings down to give yourself closure you need. I truly believe God will send him to you again if you really meant to be. The hardest part is how to move on in our lives thinking of them....
@@michellegirau8136maybe it s God protection. I truly believe that he send us what we can endure and need the most. The hardest part is to move on in our love lives thinking about them all the time. Maybe like Stephan says we still live in this fantasy of what could have been or who they really are. I often say to myself that I must be insane to love a man like him so deeply knowing that is not what I deserve
Love is not always just a feeling. It is a choice to continue loving sometimes long after feelings of any kind of romantic love or human respect have gone.
A lot times its not love, just delusion or an unhealthy emotional attachment to who a person was or who you want them to be. Loneliness and insecurities can really blur the lines. If someone isn't reciprocating the love or being consistent, let them go despite what feelings you have.
It’s been 4 months since our breakup after him being in my life for 18 years. He’s ignored every call and text. I think of him every single day. I have prayed for this tie to be removed many times. I’m exhausted by it.
After 18 years. You need atleast 6 months NO CONTACT to recover. I promise you. If you stop contacting him your life will change for the better. You the prize. Not him
Not learning from the test and having to take it over and over and over again is the MOST DIFFICULT. I am taking EVERYTHING SLOW AND THINKING THOROUGHLY NOW!! We’ve come back to one another 5 times!!! Love was never lost!!
I just ended round 2 last week after not being together for 8 years....first time was 10 months....this time was 3.5 years. He pursued me off and on throughout the time apart....and I decided to give it another shot back in 2020. It was like nothing ever happened....so I DEFINITELY understand where you're coming from.
You're not alone in failing the tests. I have been getting tested a lot lately. I feel like I started to fail, but the last couple of days, I'm overcoming these tests. I dont know if they are going to stop now or I will keep getting tested. Just stay strong you do got this.
For me, 17 years and we broke up for two years in 2019. Then Jan. 2024 I left him because of his drinking. Now I turned back to God and just pray for this man who used to be mine.
This entire comment section makes me want to cry….im actually holding back my tears….but it gives me comfort knowing that I’m not the only one going through this heartbreak
@@SuchASaintyes I’m learning to look into me, love me.. embrace all parts of me and know there is no loss it’s only perceived loss and there is no lack. In this moment I have all I need and more. Then I attract from there. I’m seeking God first and he’s giving me the keys to myself so I can unlock the blocks
Broe I can see you a firm believer in Christ... Love the way how you enlighten us here🎉🎉🎉more grace more wisdom to you n may God continue using you Mightly
One of the hardest things I had to learn from past relationships was I put too much into it too fast, before it was even reciprocated, and they took my kindness for weakness. I always heard, "love conquers all", thats true, but only if you both have genuine love for each other, not just one way. I also had the illusion in my head of what i wanted him to be, and not for what God was showing me for who he was. I learned my lesson!
I pray and pray and pray. I fell for the avoidant breadcrumber. I know Im bent, not broken, and God is protecting me. Energy spirit cannot be destroyed - love that!!!
Stephan, I had to learn this the hard way. When I accepted that, it just is, and it was real, I stopped focusing on it, and it moved in other forms. Learning this lesson took me 20 years
I on most days find myself in tears and praying, begging God to please remove every part of years and my divorce from this toxic emotional abuse, demonic spiritual narcissistic man I married that abandoned me on several times for any and everything of the world. All while after I became disabled behind some injures. Left me in the street, homeless, while he elsewhere that I have no clue with are where. God 🙏🏾 please..
Ah, just let him go. He's dragging you down. Pray for God to bring him to repentance, and love him from a distance. It gets easier. You love him, okay? But the pain made you who you are. God will use you to help others who could not get through it without your seasoned and understanding counsel. And remember, God wouldn't have let you go through this, if he knew he couldn't trust you to use it for his glory. But first, you need to let go! Dear God in heaven, how many times I left my husband on the altar, only to pick him up again. Each week in church, God would speak to my heart, "di d you leave him o n the altar?" "Well, I thought i did. But no, here I was, still stressing. You need to give him to God. Then get closure. Walk through the door, and leave him on the others side, out of your mind. YOu have prayed. But give him to God. He can handle him. Get free. Let him go (God's got this). When you start to worry, give him to God. When yo cry, give him to God. When you feel like you can't breathe, give him to God. Here's how to get closure (God showed me this!) Walk to the door. Step through. Close the door. And leave him on the other side. Don't let him in your mind. You've already prayed! God doesn't want you sad all day, he want you to give the person to him and leave him there. Keep moving forward, and focus on yourself. God's got this. Now you take care of you. Sit in a chair and make it the lamb's throne. Ask Jesus to hug you. Ask God to love on you. Make that chair a heavenly place where you feel God and receiive! You need to learn to receive God's love for yourself. I know you are an empath and it's so hard to receive, we want to give and give. But ask God to pour his love all over you. Ask him for THAT each day, so the enemy doesn't drain you. That's his plan. But love overcomes all. Not our love, but HIS love! So detach from that man, and plug into God. You got this!
Having been in a narcisstic relationship myself I’m struggling with the same questions. Why would God yoke me with a demonic spirit? Maybe we could argue it was the devil attacking us and not God. Maybe it is just a mirror for something in ourselves that needs to be healed.
I was just praying about his last night. Right guy and wrong time. But in fairness, how can it work if you are willing to prepare yourself and the other person can’t even see the need for them to do the same? It takes two. He and I keep crossing paths over and over again. Just hoping that we cross again at the right time and God allows it to work out before I die. We both deserve real love. Thanks Stephan! Great content and you truly were the exact msg I needed today. 🙏❤️☮️
I keep having dreams of my ex,and god came in my dream saying your going to be with him ,it going to be a process,but I'm asking God to remove him from my mind, because I just want to move on or be his friend,I'm going to keep praying,I know God not going to let me be with someone I don't want now.
Yes currently going through this. I broke up with my ex at the beginning of January due to him cheating. I still find myself getting emotional about the situation and idk why. I prayed and prayed and I can't seem to understand why I'm still feeling these emotions for him.
Omg I identify with this so much because I think I met my person because my feelings for him haven’t went away after a decade of other relationships and not talking, we didnt talk because there was always a mutual attraction and we didnt want it affecting something new. We recently talked and the convo is like we never missed a beat
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Would this apply vice versa for a man having feelings for a woman?
@@arandomtrip8082 yes
I'm being told I'm 2 weeks away from divorce. Hmm We'll see what God does
Thank you for this video, it was just what I needed today. What you said in another video about being just friends until we decide to get married really changed my perspective and I want to adopt that mindset going forward.
I am ready to marry him. I would marry him tomorrow if he wanted to. But he is not ready to marry me or anyone, so I need to accept that.
I decided that I am going to be friends with him and try to follow God's guidance every step of the way, because I really feel God is telling me this is my husband ❤
The best advice my dad gave me after a very messy breakup was.. Choose to love him. Don't build hate. Because love sets you free, pray good things for him, bless him, speak good things about him. And finally I was free!!
Beautiful Wisdom
Forgive & forget by speak good even if s/ he doesn't deserve, it frees you & once free, you will move on blessed.
Ooooh this is good!!!! Thank you
I like this! Thank you💕🙏🏽
Amen
I just wanna delete this man from my brain and move on 😅
Lol right lol
Lol
What you said 😂
Same here 😞
THIS!!!
That happened exactly to me. Saw my husband the first time at 14, then actually met again at 16 broke up after 3months, he went back overseas. I never forgot him, went on to experience life and after 13 years he returned and we hooked up and got married 3 months later. Now my love has passed on after 40 years of marriage and I will love him forever.
God bless you thanks for sharing your story. Sorry for your loss, glad you experienced real love
This is powerful, you are so blessed
May the good lord strengthen you and keep you and warm your heart with the amazing memories you have built together
God bless you. I pray you’re healing and finding happiness everyday. I know your husband is protecting you and is proud of you.
We are living identical lives 😮😢
I think the best thing to do when you still have feelings for a man is praying for him.
What would the prayer be❔
@@goldenblue3865whatever is on your heart… Prayer is about communicating and releasing your inner most thoughts and feelings… Whichever way your spirit leads, that’s what your pray for🤗
I agree🩷🩷 I been praying he finds his way back to the right path, wherever that may be. Meeting him restored my belief and faith in God. Which is pretty significant I think. I don't think that was just a confidence.
@@goldenblue3865I find so many on Pinterest.
@@goldenblue3865ask God to change him
I’m feeling so much better reading these comments knowing I’m not going thru this alone!
Yes. And I like how real he does get without saying anything judgemental. When we feel certain connections I do feel like it's God. But like he said we move on and get married instead of focus on what God wants us to do. Now I don't know what to do.
Yes! I thought it was just me & I was obsessed or something 🤦🏽♀️
Same here.
No you're not alone
I'm with you Sis!!❤
Just because you love someone doesn't mean you should be with them.
Love from a distance and pray for them.
Like 1191 Miles... He said on numerous times:
"I can't believe you left! I thought I knew you!"
Woooooowwwwww this hit me like a ton of bricks! Now I need to unpack this for a couple of days! Whew😮💨
@@kimberlymyers2992 we all experience this type of stuff. Be easy on yourself and take time to grow.
F everybody for a minute and I mean everybody. Get your mine body and spirit right and pop out if you feel the need to.
But by all means....do you!
I still love my rachted baby daddy ex husband but it's ok. I don't want or need to be with him.
I got too much to offer my current husband to trip over a clown with a crown.
I love them both for different reasons but I care about what those reasons are.
They make a huge difference.
I chose the one who brings me peace instead of the streets.
Every day is a struggle but everyday is worth it cause my new boo is worth it.
The total disrespect is gone and I can work with anything that's not a deal breaker.
So far so good.....we got married after 2 weeks of meeting each other and we just celebrated our 1 year anniversary a couple of weeks ago.
Rejection is Gods protection
Rejection is Gods Protection and Redirection👍
Yes very true but that isn't what the title is referencing. Many times rejection doesn't include the persons energy in your heart/mind 24/7.
Amen!🙏
amen
True true
Just trust God.
The end.
Yeah
That! Amen.
Amen 😮😢😊
Amen 🙏🏽
💯 👏🙌🙏 AMEN
Recognize that a trauma bond can 'feel' like a true connection.
Right especially with a narcissist
Absolutely!
That's deep. And that's GOOOO!
O M G !!!
Right!!
I believe anyone watching this video, we are the only ones who hasn’t moved on while they’re living theirs lives not thinking about us!!!
🙏 ❤️
Maybe…
Very true 👍
You are right! It's been a year and half and I'm still in love with him
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Only God knows. I just pray that love finds us ...even when we are hiding from it.
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Right
Same Here Like literally every night and day
Thank you🌟👍💯
Yes no boyfriend/girlfriend I need a commitment and he knows...been there but I'm so into God that I don't want to do things I'm not suppose to eg fornication....so commit or the feelings don't mean much to me...
Im still in love with my ex husband but he no longer loves me. Theres nothing worse than loving someone that doesnt love you back 😢
I can identify, my husband loves drugs more than me
Find the courage to love yourself more.
@@leonalargo8622pray for him.
I'm sorry love I know how you feel I'm dealing with the same situation hard to do but stay encouraged 🙏🏾
@@leonalargo8622Mine left me for drugs
Proverbs 20:21
An inheritance claimed too soon will not be blessed at the end.
Ok 👍
Thanks
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Not everyone is meant to stay ... but LOVE just does ❤
This ❤
Well said
😭
Finally some rational spirotual understanding of How God operates.
When he's embedded into your heart, you can not be with anyone else. It feels strange. It doesn't feel right. It feels very wrong.
Felt ko like this sometimes
Wow! I love your explanation.
Now, I understand better.
I do still love my ex-bf. I have 2 just accept it.
I still have moved forward with my life. I'm single by choice. My focus: God, music, and family.
Yes ❤ this makes me fight against my loving feelings & I begin to assume it's something wrong with me & love, or I'm not made to love, all this negative stuff that's simply not true.
That’s how I feel right now
Damn .. this real
“God doesn’t even operate with the boyfriend/girlfriend stuff”
THANK YOU! I’ve been screaming this and no one wants to hear it. Attachment is the root of all suffering. Freedom above all else and let the chips fall where they may.
Yessss!!
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Come on now 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
I’ve come to agree, love is a huge distraction from my studies of my Father … I’m almost 60, and happily single
Agreed
The timing is crazy... Its like this video was a message from God. THANK YOU❤
You’re welcome 🙏
Amen❤
💯
Same
I felt the same too.
It's 😢 very painful to love someone soo deeply and can't get same in return
Agreed😢
If it's real love, it wouldnt
be that way! Actual Love is 100% mutual.
We don't get to fail the test with God. We keep taking it until we pass it.
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
😂😂😂😂
Wait. Why did he respond like that?!
It’s my first time in his comments so I’m not sure…
What the heck it's going on it's absolutely nuts
I have tried to move forward and go ahead. But unfortunately he never leaves me
I CANT MAKE THIS UP I LITERALLY PRAYED FOR GOD TO REMOVE MY FEELINGS FOR SOMEONE. THEN YOUR VIDEO POPS UP! 😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮
Me Too!!!!!!!
SAME HERE I EVEN PRAY FOR TO SPEAK TO VIA WRITING AND HEARING. Then this … I’m at awww
It’s crazy!!! Been praying since I found out I will be seeing them at an event in a few weeks!!
God is an everlasting energy. He knows your pain. He feels your pain... Your soul cries out to him because he is your soul. There isn't a sparrow that falls from the sky that GOD doesn't know about. God knows every spirit because it flows through him. It's in him. It is him. The flesh is the layer that blocks us from God.
All this is bull crap men know exactly what they want my last situation the guy led me on till the one he wanted was available which was a person who had more money than me a man will use a woman for entertainment purposes and know this from the jump I know they say choose better 😅 then it's God is saying not now come on ladies be foreal
We broke up 4 years ago and this weekends I found out he’s getting married. My feelings never went away nevertheless I wish him the best on his new journey
I just want the feelings completely gone, I will never be able to move on, it wouldn't be fair
@@TwilaRob-yj1jnwhy wouldn’t it be fair for you to move on if he’s married
Wow! I have been asking God to remove my love for this man. My feelings are real. It's not the right time. He's not emotionally available for me. He's in another relationship that he knows he needs to end. I don't pursue him. Also, he has not done anything for me, but be my friend when he can and he's prayed for me. He knows there is a strong connection, and we both want to honor God. If it's meant for us to be together, God will move on his behalf & he'll make his free will choice to do whatever it takes for us to be together. Until then, I'll keep putting God 1st in my life. In Jesus Mighty Name! Amen & Amen!🙏😇❣️
I understand that!
I'M there right now. I didn't know he lied about being single. He's all nice and loving when he wants intimacy. I know he only wanted me for one thinghisbut he fed me fairy tales. I can't believe I stayed for 7 mths when I had a hunch he was lying. I work within the same warehouse but different sections. He said he was in limbo between her and I. Today,I told him I wasn't an option or a choice. I was uses but I can't forgive myself for not leaving earlier. He even said the other girl treats him horribly, calls him names and was on a dating app sitting right beside him.
I'm going to text him today (she checks all his texts and tracks his truck. I'm telling him I can't do this. I'm not a side chic. I am not used to the secrets and obviously he still wants her because he puts up with her putting him down.
I have to get everything off my chest and hopefully she will see that I'm not a hoe like he said she called me.
God will absolutely NEVER send you the right one who is with someone else. NEVER. He ain't the one, sis.
❤this
@@seasons365thank you !!
It’s ok to love him still, understand that it doesn’t always mean you need to be with him.
For context, I was with my husband for 30 years, I left him but will love him until the day I die.
Of course that’s the topic but we all know when it’s too people feeling the same it is hard
Exactly, 10 years later still in my dreams. I was so blind, he became a pimp, all kinds of cheating. Now I accept the love was once real and now I can move on.
True. Love alone is not enough.
That should've been addressed in the beginning b4 the relationship took off.😏
It's the memories that won't let go.
My 1st love was my HS sweetheart. After realizing we were not good together was telling myself I would love him from afar. That changed my thoughts and put my feeling about him in the past.
I just love how the comment section is therapeutic and helps us all to understand that we all have similar experiences and we all will eventually see the rainbow after the rain!🌈
I love that you always pull God back to head of the equation. Love your thoughts.
Some of us don't see that rainbow.
But i also believe that God puts people in our lives at certain times for different reasons. Some aren't meant to be permanent. When we hold onto things not meant for us instead of letting them go like God intended...that's where problems arise🙏🏾❤️
That's when you get lifetime stalkers
The heart wants what it wants.i just ignore mine.
I believe this as well, a reason, a season an d a lifetime relationship
Finding peace in accepting the connection is real but the timing is wrong. Pouring into myself helps limit the amount of mental/emotional space I allow it to occupy.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏
I love the way you put that! Thank you for sharing. God Bless! ❤🩹
easier said than done.
@@marileegarfield7436 Absolutely but I’m doing it. So can you.
😢Loving someone and it doesn't work can be painful. BUT we have to remember when we pray to God...the devil is listening too. We must be careful to not blame God for everything. God makes no mistakes....so yes don't be in a rush until you know it's a God send.
What hurts is your EGO, that’s all.
Amen!!!!! Love is real but the one youlove may not!
This made me cry. Thank you so much, the timing couldn’t have been more perfect. I’ve been beating myself up about why I can’t get over my feelings for this person, and this video gave me so much peace. I appreciate your videos Stephan, thank you ❤️🙏🏼
Me too
Me also
Sometimes we just fall in love with people who are not right for us. This happened to me; I still have love for the person and he loves me, but I know if we were to get together again it would end the same way. I used to believe that if you love someone and they love you, that's all that matters and it will work out, but that simply isn't true. I have learned to accept the feelings, but also know that they're just feelings.
Truth!
FACTS!! Love is NOT enough. I learned the same.
So true
@@carahenken4452 true
When you can not forget about someone that you never had a relationship with, that is even more of a struggle. No dating or anything. Just quick encounters. When this person crosses my mind, which is often, I just pray for him.
I didn’t think it was possible but yes this is facts!
Just hanging out, more often than not and being made to feel like you’re important whenever you’re around him😊
Then having to let go just because I guess he stopped being interested in my company😔😔😔
🙌🙌💔💔💔
💯 true
Same, we just talked/ chat for almost 2 months
Struggling with this right now :(((((
My Husband passed in 2022 since he left I will never stop loving him. That Bond was very strong and all I have is our Memories.
Ask him to take you darling
I can relate, my husband passed 2022 as well. And he was my soulmate we were together for 29 years. He passed it broke the heck out of me. But God helped me and freed me from whatever depression tried holding me down. But he will forever be in my heart. But I won’t let it hold me back either. All these things are new and I’m learning me all over again. pushing for growth spiritually mentally emotionally physically.
@@MrsDirtythoughtsmine passed in 2023….33 yrs married
Mine passed in 2022
This is bitter but so beautiful at the same time
I’ve prayed the prayer for him to leave my life to stop thinking about him and everything. I’ve even made the decision following my head instead of my heart to let him go. And I’ve been having dreams about him. He’s not a bad guy at all he just has issues he hasn’t healed from and I was suffering for the actions from his past. I still love and we had a strong connection but I couldn’t deal with the come and go thing
Wow,this is exactly what I am going through!
Same here
Same for me😢
Same on different levels. We had a strong connection- both grieving over someone (my Mom and his wife), well fast forward 7 yrs later and several weekend meetups, I’m sick of it all! No marriage proposal, not enough care, love, communication, plans and he does not have Jesus in his heart! And he drinks too heavily and and and. I’m finally stepping up for me and my needs but I’m sooo sooo sooo lonely and miss when he did talk to and care about me - but I am no fool. He wants a woman to be waiting on him? It can’t be meant to be! It just can’t be, right God? I’m so confused and lost after my 20 yr marriage crumbled, and that’s how I found this guy in the first place. I’ve failed in life and will be alone forever- as that’s how it feels now. My self esteem is suffering 😢 now and I know it shouldn’t. But I have no one to physically talk to anymore and wondering what I can do about that? Any ideas?
@@liveitup2788 you won’t be lonely forever. Happiness and joy will find you sooner than you think. I’m sorry your 20 year marriage felt apart. But you will find happiness again. You are a gorgeous person with a beautiful soul & heart. I am proud of you for walking away and protecting your heart. Your thoughts are your reality. You have to KNOW that you will find your soulmate and your divine partner & that he will find you. Don’t give up. Just keep God first, walk with Jesus, and continue evolving and working on yourself.
My advice is to create new hobbies and make new friends. Pour into your social life!
Try something new.
This is a huge world we live in and it is too big to miss out on different opportunities and experiences.
Travel, workout, eat healthy, change your hairstyle, dye your hair, change your wardrobe style.
Reinvent yourself, spoil yourself, change yourself.
All of this will boost your self esteem.
Take care of yourself and take control over your life!
God bless you. I pray you’re feeling better nowadays. 🙏🏾
I have always wondered why God hasn’t removed these feelings for him. He and I only dated for a few months but it was very intense and the last impression he left me was more powerful than my previous relationship before him (which was about 4 years).
I accept that I will always love him. I know God has brought him into my life for a reason and I accept that and will continue to walk in God’s love and light and what He wants for me. Because God provides and protects His children, guiding them to the path they need to be on.
That’s deep.. right guy wrong time!
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
Have had that happen but not being in best place and need to work on things.
I was with someone who was emotionally unavailable and throughout I couldn't tell the difference when he was genuinely caring.
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Maybe he vouldnt tell the difference in his feelings either !? It might have been new to him, it might have been feelings he didnt want to, or wasnt ready to, feel. You felt his genuine affection. But it wasnt a stable thing. Maybe bevause HE wasnt stable.
What you resist, persists. What you embrace is erased
This isn't entirely true
The title alone had me click immediately. 🤣😅 coming back to this later.
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YOU HEAR ME! And I'm dealing with a whole woman. 😂❤
Lol you too 😂 I just been praying about this 😅
@@Mika-ok8xp lol 😂🤣🤣🤣🤣 hey it still applies.
@@essenceg11 yessss lol seen it and said OH yeah now I gotta watch that. Lol.
It’s like “I love you ..but I love me more”!! So therefore I accept it and choose to move forward and trust the most high on my journey 💞🙏🏾
That’s just simply not biblical.Bible says we should love others more than ourselves
Had to jump and say something.. I agree with everything you said… I have been in love and connected to a man for 8 years now with the very sam feelings from the start. I cried .. I prayed it away but God revealed to me the reason you feel the way you feel because he’s going to be your husband. And it’s HARD to live each day with all this within but God keeps me and comforts me. But I wanted to say this to someone who’s going through this.. thinking your crazy or obsessing over someone who’s not in your life . But leave it to God and let him create your perfect person at the perfect time.. Love is coming ❤ I truly believe it 😊
I beleive sometimes God does'nt even bring these people in our lives, it's our own flesh. Sometimes this is just lessons to get you to have a better relationship with God. Everything we ask for in relationships valuing, respect, honest , Love we have to build that with God first so we can then build this within ourselves so we can find that right person. At 42 i'm learning this , and even with going through a horrible breakup and it's hard. I beleive this is God courting me and saying daughter i'm here its my time. You hit it on the nail. He's getting our attention. Amen!
Amen 🙏🏽
I had him in my life, we were married for 46 years, then God took him home. I am 77 years old now, and there will never be anyone else.
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So how long do a person keep waiting years in already just waiting & waiting ⁉️
It’s always God’s time! He wants fellowship with every single person, then, all their other relationships will be richer and fuller! He causes us to be grateful for the Presence of our loved ones and appreciate them as we have spent time first just enjoying our Heavenly Father! It puts us in the right spirit to handle life’s complicated circumstances. He gave us one another to enjoy, love 33:51 and have companionship with. He created man and woman to help each other in our journey of life! We are supposed to seek God daily, then, have a loving relationship with your partner and others whom God has in your life like family, friends, and neighbors near and far! This is the abundant life Christ talks about! A life full of the love of God for us, in us and out through us! He is Praised for evermore! ❤
As a woman of God, I find that whenever someone is heavy on my mind or heart it's because I need to pray and intercede for them. I am done with my ex and he wants he, but I don't want him. But I still have feelings for him but I refuse to go back. I keep him in prayer and keep my feets moving forward with my life.
I’ve been running for years now and I’m flipping tired ‼️
Smart women who moved on rational decision making verses blaming God and repeating non progressive love.
30+ years later, I still haven't been able to forget him no matter how hard I tried. In my constant dreams he's always so loving and protective of me. About 2 years ago, I saw him at our class reunion for the first time in years. I was leaving early just to avoid him when his best friend caught up to me. He expressed disbelief that I was leaving before his friend had an opportunity to see me. He immediately called him over. The love between us was undeniable. I left because I couldn't handle being face to face with him knowing he's married to someone else 💔
Have a funeral service for him and move forward sis
@octaviakf whattt😭😭
Those dreams are the worst thing ever. Like please get out and stay out of my freaking dreams. I hate that!
@@naomidambe I’m essentially saying that you have to mourn those that you love and lose, put them in the grave, because that then kills the emotional connection. have you a whole morning session and keep it moving
@octaviakf okay I understand, i did that before. ❤️🙏
We broke up almost a year ago, and i fight every day to not text him. Go on his social media. I do love him, but we broke up with no closure. He didn't apologize for things that hurt me, and i had to walk away. 😢
Seeking and waiting for validation of the pain he caused would mean he was truly inested in who you were, and had internalized you. It is so understandable that you would want ths because you truly loved this person. The fact that he never showed remorse when he hurt you will keep you hanging on because you do not want to believe he did not connect with you in the same way. Most likely, he is not capable of that kind of connection- not toward you or anyone else. It is hard to find closure without the other person's explanation and validation, but we must find it somehow without them. He can not give you what he does not have the caacity for, even though you deserve to have gotten that. Wishing you peace.
I know what you mean.They're are letters composed in my mind constantly along with imaginary phone calls texts letters That will just remain In my heart and in my mind
I wish one of us had broken up with eachother. We never broke up. It's been 27 years. When we do talk 1x/year over the phone just to "check in" he reminds me "Hey! We never broke up, so we are still together!" 😮
I'm sorry to hear you are still missing him. I know the pain. It sucks. I'm going through the same. One thing that helps my healing, im training my brain to dismiss the thoughts of her. It's over and time to invest in myself. If I stayed in my relationship it would of killed me from anxiety. I made the decision to leave because my peace is better then suffering from the stress of her life. Some relationships won't work for whatever reasons.
Stop going on his social media. Block it so you can't look. You deserve to move on to something new and better. You cant drive looking in the rear view mirror my luv❤
I don’t think god is keeping the feelings there I think it is the person who has a soul tie. Soul ties exist and I believe that’s why especially if they were bad for you gotta fast n pray that soul tie to be undone!
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤
Soul ties are SERIOUS!!!
What causes soul ties?
@@Khanyi_81 sex
@@Khanyi_81 fornication that’s a better word lol
"Healing is what will set you free and set you up for bigger and better things" 😭🙌🏻
The teacher is always silent while the student is taking the test. That is the quote. You're amazing Stephan. Thank you for sharing your insights!
also, when the student is ready, the teacher appears.
I hung up with my niece when I saw this title pop up in my notifications. I can't emphasize enough how many times I've prayed for my feelings to be removed about this man.
Lol! I just hung up with my friend. I told her let me call you back. I'm finna listen to this real quick.
Same with me ,I can't get him off my mind
Same with me. I’m like is this a soul tie and why can’t break?
You’re not alone. May God help us all
@@shaneensmith5016 you're absolutely right, it's a soul tie 📌
Great video! You might consider another reason a woman still loves a man. Narcissism. I was in a relationship for three years and he had me hooked. Literally. He was like a drug. Treat me nice, then treat me bad. I wanted him back so I'd accept anything. I couldn't understand how, if he said he loved me, then say and do horrible things to me. At the end, he ghosted me.. he left without warning. I was heartbroken. Then his new woman saw me on Facebook and wrote to me. He had done the same things to her. She said he was a narcissist if she ever saw one. So I started researching narcissism. I learned so much and I finally understood and I could let him go. Maybe it was love on my part, but maybe it wasn't. Maybe he was just a drug. That's how they operate. Give you some love (drug) and then take it away. You'll accept almost anything to have more. I still think about him, but it doesn't hurt anymore because I understand what it was now. He never loved me. So, my point is, maybe a woman still loves a man because she doesn't understand narcissism. I was able to get over it and heal, but I had to understand first. Thanks for this video. I'm single now and very happy. One day, the guy God has for me will come along. I'll wait.
God. Yes, its the narcissism 😢
I too had a similar situation. Your comment just put a lot into perspective for me about the reality of my past situation as well. He was definitely a narcissist manipulator and now I understand why I struggle with my feelings toward him. In order for me to be able to let go I must first understand and accept what wasn’t real. Thank you for this!
@@shamonicahoward7594 You're very welcome. I'm glad I could help. One phrase that helped me a lot was, "In order to win with a narcissist is not to play the game". Hugs!!
Amen Amen Amen Amen
Same thing happened to me. I was only 32. I had no idea what narcissism was or that people like that existed. It damaged me for a long time. He was a religious narcissist so it was harder to navigate. He is happily married with 3 children. He made sure to tell me when was about to be married how much better she was and how God favored him more because she is getting married and I am single. Up to this day I still ask God if he was right.
That's why scripture says that we are not to create graven images of anything, including creating a mental image of how we want a person to be in our lives.
Now you have to do something with the graven false image which is now part of your subconscious. The war of letting go is found in the subconscious and not with God. Answer? Be transformed by the renewing of your mind and replacing the lesser image with a greater image helps too. 😊
Thank you for these encouraging words. ❤
That's true
So true. The person has become an idol. Give God back his rightful place.
Just Like Forgiveness 👍 We must let Go of Past Failures in Order to move on 🙏
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I disagree, I can choose to love him & let him go... I shouldn't be with someone who won't help me, puts me down, & tried to kill me.
I loved him, he didn't love me, end of that story... moving on to better things not being bitter. 🙌 🌞
Learning to love myself no matter what is pure gold 💛🥰
I thought it was just me. Was having a conversation yesterday about my situationship, asking my girls why I can’t shake this man that I only see 3x a year. What perfect timing of this video. Confirmation that I need to fast and pray about it. Probably won’t remove my feelings but I pray fasting and prayer gives me clarity and/or strengthens my resistance, good lawd ha’ mercy 🥵😩
Same only saw mine 3xs.
Wow, I'm dealing with this very thing now!
Pray, seek God, and block his number. Make sure to cancel all communication with him and let him have no access to you.
I feel that, I've seen mine 2x in about 3.5 years and we live almost 6 hrs apart. Not only that, saw him at the same random place. No plans, nothing. It's God's timing.
That’s what I’ve been doing…
I have never… left a comment on one of your videos before. I’ve been watching you for 3 years and you have helped me tremendously.
THIS video.
Is exactly the kick I needed.
I know that the guy I had is the guy for me. And now I am one HUNDRED percent aware of the fact that I have been dilly dallying in my preparation for God, which is another reason why everything is so much more confusing, and hurts so much longer than it should have.
I am, so excited to get in tune with God, because he’s been trying to get in tune with me for a while now and I haven’t been paying attention. So thank you. From the bottom of my heart, this video changed my life.
I'm happy this has been helpful to you don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤️ 🙏🏼
@@MeetStephanSpeaks oh, I sent it to my best friend immediately😂 (and oh my gosh I can’t believe I’m actually talking to you. It feels like I’m talking to a celebrity🤭😂😂🤓)!)
I hate the fact Im having a hard time letting someone go and they not giving me second thought…I be ready to fight the air
I can relate but it’s not worth it .👍
Being rejected aften makes it harder to let go of emotions.
Don’t look at it as a rejection change your perspective
Yes, because it stirs up every insecurity we have ever had about our core value. If you had been given the time to see for yourself who this person really was, chances are you would have walked away at some point, knowing it was the best thing to do, It is much harder when we have been rejected before we have had a chance to see for ourselves that this person was never going to make us happy.
Don't think of it as being rejected, think of it as being re-directed to something much better for you!
Everything happens for a reason… that reason will become clear at some stage in your life.
It’s my first time getting rejected and I often ask myself why would I still care? But I still do love him so much
I have and am still experiencing a divine connection with someone, although we are not together. It is the strongest connection I have ever experienced. I have been working to heal some past trauma, getting better. I definitely feel it was the right person wrong time, now that I have started to work on myself. I believe he is a part of my purpose and destiny. I will continue to work on myself and seek God for guidance and patience.
Thanks so much for heeding and walking in your purpose!!❤❤❤
Same here
Same here 🤎
All things are possible with God. Give it all to God SIS. Find other ways to occupy your time. If the man was toxic ain't no way God keeping that man in your heart. That is the flesh. God is not the author of chaos and confusion. Fight with the word of God. God don't want us sitting around wasting the life HE gave waiting on some man to love us. God said HE will never leave us nor forsake us. So you are NEVER alone. Pray that God remove that love for this person so you can be prepared to have that love with the appropriate person at the right time with the person HE sends. Stop leaning unto your own understanding when it comes to dating. Pray before dating. Let God lead and guide you to your boaz.
I believe God brings that person into our life to be a catalyst for our journey. That man is to teach us about ourselves, so when can heal from past trauma. And when We separate for whatever reason its team for that man to heal. So in the mean time we have to go on with life, because man my take a lil longer. And if its meant to be God will bring us back together.
I hope i explained it right. I wish everyone love and light.
I like this, I can relate with this, thank you sister 💫🤍
I agree♥️🙏
this makes a lot of sense ❤
If its real it will not go away and be destroyed..Its been 3 years..I stopped fighting it,just made peace with it and acceptted it and trying to have sane quality life ..
You are so right It cannot be destroyed Because I've tried everything from counseling hypnosis soul tie delivery sessions And he's in my heart and mind everyday and night Yeah I accepted and just live with the feelings And wish him well
This best advice I’ve read. I never thought about this way!!! Lord I’ve been praying and asking God to remove these feelings and thoughts.
I got some healing to do and this just gave me a huge push.
“energy can never be destroyed”
Means i have to acceprt too.
GOD IS SO AMAZING. i WAS ONLY PRAYING 2 HOURS BEFORE WATCHING THIS. " God please take the feelings I have for this woman
away fron me. " THEN THIS VIDEO POPS UP OUT OF NOWHERE FOR ME TO WATCH.
God is so real my friend and He loves and cares for you so much ...............believe it.
That happened for me as well
It happened to me too.God really answer prayers
@@amakaezue2331 very happy for you
Why did he come into my life in the first place
its ever a lesson or love!
I’m still asking myself this same question
Temptations. I failed.
I repented.
@@yeswing10 me too
@@micheles8796 Should never date right after a Divorce. I was a mess. This guy seemed nice. Had sex too soon. End of story. Years went by. Never really knew him or myself!
Sex clouds everything. We really had nothing in common except loners wanting sex. Argh!
Everything happens for a reason I really didn't want to watch this 😭 because I'm going through the title of this video. God works in mysterious ways he puts people's places and things in our lives to prepare and teach us how to live in this world especially through his Word. I talked to God earlier before watching your video and this is what he prepared me for after I cried out to him about how I feel 😭 . I'm healing and trusting God 🙌🏾
I love the way you choose to speak to your audience. Your videos create a 1:1 dynamic that just gives “ I’m talking to a friend”. Thank you for that.
Sometimes there are strong feelings because God puts it in your heart and wants y'all together but some people are stubborn and prefer to go elsewhere. God hardened Pharoes heart. The Israelites doubted themselves several times and hesitated to do God's will. God called them stiff necked in other words hard headed. They were stubborn.
Let me tell you how good God is. I was just having this conversation with a coworker of mine about a man that I was in a recent relationship with and the struggles that I’ve been facing trying to move on. Literally while I was talking to her this video popped up as a notification on my cell phone. Thank God for always hearing my prayers and thank you Stephen for allowing God to use you as a vessel. 🙏🏾🙌🏾
Yes God is Good, God is Great, But that was not God , that was your phone hearing that and then sending you the video recommendation, Google and app's have access to your phone's microphone.
The right man wrong time can also mean that you may have outgrown this type of partner that you used to desired back in the day or from your past state of mind by the time the person manifests in your life
I know right! Its definitely real! I will never stop loving him and I know that as well! Love is patient! But Lord, help me tho! I can't let go....whew chile! Great content....not talking to yourself 😬🤣 I so needed this today! Pray about it!
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
Heavy on the Whew Chile lol
Thank you for sharing this. I met a wonderful man who became my friend whilst I was going through a hard time in my marriage till I reached a point of divorce. He really supported me and at some point feelings developed. He took a decision to end the friendship because one he didn't want to act out of integrity, two he wants to give me space to heal and three he got conflicted with the fact that I have 3 kids from my marriage. I respect this man so much should he had gone ahead and lead us deep into a relationship I am sure I would have fumbled him but the space I have is allowing me to take my journey of healing with out any disturbance. Yet I miss him dearly and I realise that I do love him. The way he treated me makes me appreciate him, respect him.
Sometimes, I think we feel like we love someone but theres a lot of red flags and we think we can still love that person lifetime regardless of the redflags and God is trying to protect us from our relationship demise because they aren't the right one. We have to listen to Gods voice. If he's trying to stir u in a different direction listen to his still small voice. 🙏🙏❤❤
YES! This!!! I wish I understood this a year ago 😔
I can't figure out whether God wants me to keep the feelings and wait, or to let go. 😔
❤️ 🙏🏼
Thank you for this video. I started crying when you said it’s real love. I know it is. I knew he was special on our first date and I looked at him. It’s been over a year, he has moved on to a new relationship. I tried dating, didn’t work. I still think about him. I have learnt so much and have clarity since he left. I miss him but I hope he finds happiness wherever he is.
My thoughts exactly 💜
I think the best thing to do is pray to God and be genuinely honest about how you feel and ask him to help you to channel those feelings into something positive.
Maybe you need to learn forgiveness or maybe you simply need to accept that the feelings are there and choose to focus on progressing. It is what it is. Don't fight it just accept that the feelings are real and that person meant something to you but now the void is there and you need to ask God to fill the void.
I struggle with letting go. But the truth is this guy is allergic to work & continues to be destructive. I told him, I'm doing things differently. I won't let him continue to bring me down. More than 10 years LOST😢 our time together has expired.
This is powerful. I met and dated a man that I had the most incredible connection and love with. He had some mental health and traumas which led to our parting ways. He has made some very poor choices since and reaches out every so often. I have tried so hard to stop caring about him and move forward. He hurt me and yet I still think about him and care about him. I have just been focusing on myself and bettering myself.
Story of my life
My current state
SElf care and moving forward. You got this!
I am going through same thing
Same here…
I definitely need this! I'm trying to move on after a (break up) from a bad situationship I shouldn't have ever been in, lost my self respect, my heart is broken, and I didn't love me more because I was too busy loving him more and he didnt even value me enough to choose me, so this is motivation for me to move forward but at a slower pace because I'm still hurting and I just want to heal from this toxic situationship that nearly crushed me and stopped me from enjoying the greater things that life has to offer.
Met the man i loved dearly 23years after our first connection. It didn t work out unfortunatly... God send him to me to remove myself from my illusions but still love him even if we still not on the same path. It hurts to the core.
Mine has almost been that long since the last time we spoke. I saw him after 17 years, and he had a big reaction it seemed like he really wanted to talk, but I just ignored him. Now, a few years later, I can't stop thinking about him. I didn't feel this when I saw him but for some reason now I think about him all the time. I don't know if it's closure that is needed or what.
I'm sorry to hear about the pain you're experiencing. I know that's painful after all these years later.
Thank you for your support. I think that we have to give ourselves our own closure . Everything they could say can be tricky for us. Did he try to contact you ever since?
Sorry for my english I m french
@ninette9803 Well, it was me that needed to give closure, and I never did. He never reached out because I never had social media with the last name that he knew. He doesn't have any mutual friends ether.
@@michellegirau8136 maybe it's a God protection. He send us what you need and can endure. I think God knew I was ready to meet him again to finally learn my lessons. Still painful, I know how you feel. You should write all your feelings down to give yourself closure you need.
I truly believe God will send him to you again if you really meant to
be. The hardest part is how to move on in our lives thinking of them....
@@michellegirau8136maybe it s God protection. I truly believe that he send us what we can endure and need the most. The hardest part is to move on in our love lives thinking about them all the time. Maybe like Stephan says we still live in this fantasy of what could have been or who they really are. I often say to myself that I must be insane to love a man like him so deeply knowing that is not what I deserve
Love is not always just a feeling. It is a choice to continue loving sometimes long after feelings of any kind of romantic love or human respect have gone.
A lot times its not love, just delusion or an unhealthy emotional attachment to who a person was or who you want them to be. Loneliness and insecurities can really blur the lines. If someone isn't reciprocating the love or being consistent, let them go despite what feelings you have.
I like how you say love is a spirit, that explains.
Amen, God is love, the spirit is God , lust on the other hand is self control of emotions and handling our emotions without God's input.
My special man came into my life when we were in our 50s and now we are in our 60s. When is the right time we're not getting younger.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
@@MeetStephanSpeaksthese Ai generated responses are NOT cool.
I'm doing my part. I haven't ran to the arms of another. I'm working on me!!! So SET ME FREERREEE PLEASE!
Me too we broke up I can’t just move on that quick like some people do I rather be alone focus on my health my money and God
It’s been 4 months since our breakup after him being in my life for 18 years.
He’s ignored every call and text.
I think of him every single day.
I have prayed for this tie to be removed many times.
I’m exhausted by it.
girl stop calling and texting - why ? for what ?
@@Tell_it_like_it_is-xk4xi
I know I know. I just miss him.
4 months is way too less time. Give yourself time you will be over him
I feel this. 😢
After 18 years. You need atleast 6 months NO CONTACT to recover. I promise you. If you stop contacting him your life will change for the better. You the prize. Not him
Not learning from the test and having to take it over and over and over again is the MOST DIFFICULT. I am taking EVERYTHING SLOW AND THINKING THOROUGHLY NOW!! We’ve come back to one another 5 times!!! Love was never lost!!
I just ended round 2 last week after not being together for 8 years....first time was 10 months....this time was 3.5 years. He pursued me off and on throughout the time apart....and I decided to give it another shot back in 2020. It was like nothing ever happened....so I DEFINITELY understand where you're coming from.
You're not alone in failing the tests. I have been getting tested a lot lately. I feel like I started to fail, but the last couple of days, I'm overcoming these tests. I dont know if they are going to stop now or I will keep getting tested. Just stay strong you do got this.
For me, 17 years and we broke up for two years in 2019. Then Jan. 2024 I left him because of his drinking. Now I turned back to God and just pray for this man who used to be mine.
This entire comment section makes me want to cry….im actually holding back my tears….but it gives me comfort knowing that I’m not the only one going through this heartbreak
Feelings won’t go away till God gives you another one. I am living this
Most of the time the other one is you - yourself
I got married after a period of singleness & self-love
Wow😢
So true. I’m a living testament to this as well 🎯💯
Very happy to see these testimonies my heart has been aching these pass 2 years I’m so ready to receive true love
@@SuchASaintyes I’m learning to look into me, love me.. embrace all parts of me and know there is no loss it’s only perceived loss and there is no lack. In this moment I have all I need and more. Then I attract from there. I’m seeking God first and he’s giving me the keys to myself so I can unlock the blocks
Broe I can see you a firm believer in Christ... Love the way how you enlighten us here🎉🎉🎉more grace more wisdom to you n may God continue using you Mightly
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
One of the hardest things I had to learn from past relationships was I put too much into it too fast, before it was even reciprocated, and they took my kindness for weakness. I always heard, "love conquers all", thats true, but only if you both have genuine love for each other, not just one way. I also had the illusion in my head of what i wanted him to be, and not for what God was showing me for who he was. I learned my lesson!
I pray and pray and pray. I fell for the avoidant breadcrumber. I know Im bent, not broken, and God is protecting me. Energy spirit cannot be destroyed - love that!!!
I want to move on for this feeling and forget him because our relationship is very much complicated.
Stephan, I had to learn this the hard way. When I accepted that, it just is, and it was real, I stopped focusing on it, and it moved in other forms. Learning this lesson took me 20 years
I on most days find myself in tears and praying, begging God to please remove every part of years and my divorce from this toxic emotional abuse, demonic spiritual narcissistic man I married that abandoned me on several times for any and everything of the world. All while after I became disabled behind some injures. Left me in the street, homeless, while he elsewhere that I have no clue with are where. God 🙏🏾 please..
I'm so sorry that happened to you..I pray you find true peace Sis💛
Ah, just let him go. He's dragging you down. Pray for God to bring him to repentance, and love him from a distance. It gets easier. You love him, okay? But the pain made you who you are. God will use you to help others who could not get through it without your seasoned and understanding counsel. And remember, God wouldn't have let you go through this, if he knew he couldn't trust you to use it for his glory. But first, you need to let go! Dear God in heaven, how many times I left my husband on the altar, only to pick him up again. Each week in church, God would speak to my heart, "di d you leave him o n the altar?" "Well, I thought i did. But no, here I was, still stressing. You need to give him to God. Then get closure. Walk through the door, and leave him on the others side, out of your mind. YOu have prayed. But give him to God. He can handle him. Get free. Let him go (God's got this). When you start to worry, give him to God. When yo cry, give him to God. When you feel like you can't breathe, give him to God. Here's how to get closure (God showed me this!)
Walk to the door. Step through. Close the door. And leave him on the other side. Don't let him in your mind. You've already prayed! God doesn't want you sad all day, he want you to give the person to him and leave him there. Keep moving forward, and focus on yourself. God's got this. Now you take care of you. Sit in a chair and make it the lamb's throne. Ask Jesus to hug you. Ask God to love on you. Make that chair a heavenly place where you feel God and receiive! You need to learn to receive God's love for yourself. I know you are an empath and it's so hard to receive, we want to give and give. But ask God to pour his love all over you. Ask him for THAT each day, so the enemy doesn't drain you. That's his plan. But love overcomes all. Not our love, but HIS love! So detach from that man, and plug into God. You got this!
Narcissist are demonic vessels, not capable of loving another person. They're EVIL!
Having been in a narcisstic relationship myself I’m struggling with the same questions. Why would God yoke me with a demonic spirit? Maybe we could argue it was the devil attacking us and not God. Maybe it is just a mirror for something in ourselves that needs to be healed.
He’s probably dead start there google search 🔍 his name👍.
I was just praying about his last night. Right guy and wrong time. But in fairness, how can it work if you are willing to prepare yourself and the other person can’t even see the need for them to do the same? It takes two. He and I keep crossing paths over and over again. Just hoping that we cross again at the right time and God allows it to work out before I die. We both deserve real love. Thanks Stephan! Great content and you truly were the exact msg I needed today. 🙏❤️☮️
He has done me so wrong, but he still in my heart.
❤Love your videos, continue posting!! They are very impactful
Glad to hear that. Thank you for your feedback ❤ 🙏
I believe things happen for you and not to you… Thank You for ur words of confirmation. Sending love and light ur way. 💜☀️
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I appreciate your feedback ❤
I keep having dreams of my ex,and god came in my dream saying your going to be with him ,it going to be a process,but I'm asking God to remove him from my mind, because I just want to move on or be his friend,I'm going to keep praying,I know God not going to let me be with someone I don't want now.
I have dreams too and the strangest thing is that I see his birthday numbers everywhere all the time and I have strong feelings in my heart
Yes currently going through this. I broke up with my ex at the beginning of January due to him cheating. I still find myself getting emotional about the situation and idk why. I prayed and prayed and I can't seem to understand why I'm still feeling these emotions for him.
Love takes time to process. It's just like death in that's theirs and entire grief process.
Stephan, this video have me speechless thanks.
Omg I identify with this so much because I think I met my person because my feelings for him haven’t went away after a decade of other relationships and not talking, we didnt talk because there was always a mutual attraction and we didnt want it affecting something new. We recently talked and the convo is like we never missed a beat
Thank you for sharing I appreciate that ❤️
Excatly my status ❤❤❤ 30 yrs later always just wasn't our time ...yet
@@lisamcinnis6430 wow its crazy how that happens
That sounds like twin flame
This is honestly the most profound video I have watched on this very sensitive subject . So much wisdom here. Thank you.