Ultimate Guide for Men: How to Attract High-Quality Women

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  • Опубліковано 11 вер 2024

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  • @MSLILLY4533
    @MSLILLY4533 Рік тому +76

    A relationship with Christ is THEE most important thing. Men should also understand that women don't like to be objectified.

  • @NatalieBaucum
    @NatalieBaucum Рік тому +55

    I hope I'm not out of bounds for adding to your list, but here goes.
    1. Dental hygiene is a MUST! I have met many corporate, blue collar, teachers, professors entrepreneur brothers who are missing teeth! I've also met brothers whose teeth are decaying! Not taking care of your teeth and gums can lead to so many comorbidities. If you don't have dental insurance, find a free dental clinic. Most of the universities with a dental school, have clinic days and it's either free or on a sliding scale.
    2. Other low-cost shopping options are: H&M, Fashion Nova, Asos, and believe or not K&G. I've purchased one of my brothers like 2 suits with shirts, ties and dress shoes for my mom's funeral for around $300.
    Every man needs at least one black and one navy suit and black shoes. Get 1 white shirt and one tie with black, blue and white in it and you can wear the shirt with both suits. Get the double sided belt where one side is black and the other blue. Get black shoes. And no, this isn't just for an interview. This is for when a young lady asks you to attend a work function or an event where more formal attire is needed, you're not scrambling or saying you don't have a suit.
    3. Open doors for ANY woman and every woman. Give up your chair to ANY and every woman. Why? The woman you want to talk to is watching how you treat other women. If you aren't chivalrous to EVERY woman, then she's doubting you will be to her.
    4. Stop telling women they are smart and pretty. It's boring. Find something on her to compliment her about that's non-sexual. Like, I compliment men who have nice teeth. 😂 "You have a very pretty smile." They blush every time!

    • @TheHighclass26
      @TheHighclass26 Рік тому +8

      This was so wonderful and so true. Thank you for this comment!

    • @NatalieBaucum
      @NatalieBaucum Рік тому +2

      @@TheHighclass26 I love helping my people accel and be great. I teach these things to my youngins in my classes.

    • @denesejamerson2356
      @denesejamerson2356 Рік тому

      @ The Polymathic Professor. BINGO bro!

    • @Keldria
      @Keldria Рік тому

      I'm big on this too! 😁

  • @belleame4671
    @belleame4671 Рік тому +35

    If you want kindness from someone, be kind
    You want patience, practice being patient..
    Alot of us are the opposite selfish lustful and stubborn..
    Do the work

  • @truetwinflameandspirituala8211
    @truetwinflameandspirituala8211 Рік тому +25

    WHEW!! I need Black Men to do more Content focused on how to create husbands and BETTER husbands. I think Women, especially Black Women, are overloaded with all the "Women, fix yourselves to get a man!" content. I have been seeing those articles and videos since I was a teenager. I'm 40 years old now.😑 It's time for GOOD men to educate MEN and allow Women to work on Women. Thank you.😌🙏🏾❤️

  • @charlesolivierdorcent
    @charlesolivierdorcent Рік тому +63

    I’m 20 years old soaking up all this information! Thanks Shumake, I been watching your channel for 4 months and I look up to guys like you. I feel the same way about family and children as you, so keep it coming. Not gonna lie, I can’t wait for my beautiful black women to settle down and have kids with one day. Anymore information ladies, that I need to know? Y’all got me curious right now. 🤔

    • @MSLILLY4533
      @MSLILLY4533 Рік тому +20

      Have a relationship with Christ, make your intentions known (don't beat around the bush and waste anyone's time) Be authentically you.

    • @TheShumakeWay
      @TheShumakeWay  Рік тому +15

      I appreciate you bro. If there’s any way I can help you let me know. My goal is to get you further than me, faster than me.

    • @heartsocto9440
      @heartsocto9440 Рік тому +3

      @Ultimate: Carry yourself, at all times, like someone is watching. It will help you to balance your emotions and create character. A lot of life is determined by how you react to and in your surroundings...Keep up the good work!

    • @broco6608
      @broco6608 Рік тому +4

      Don't "sow your wild oats". Don't live your life in a reckless manner just because you're young. While you're young, be building the foundation of your life: Jesus, church, family relationships, proper friendships, education, etc. Find someone to mentor you in the right way, someone honest. Feed your mind with good things.

    • @Rachel_Robinson
      @Rachel_Robinson Рік тому +3

      Pursue your dreams/passion, with a diligence. No matter the obstacles, don’t allow anyone to talk you out of them. Because, God put them there, in your heart. You’re the only person who can complete it. You’re the difference maker, the world needs you. Look at Deion Sanders, he’s made a way, so that all his family is employed because of him. His children are on full ride scholarships. That Super Bowl commercial, all his family was in it, and I’m sure that was a 7 figure deal!

  • @jettj6088
    @jettj6088 Рік тому +35

    Thank you for telling men to get tailoring. I'm female and can shop at TJ Maxx or Ross but I tailor almost everything. Sometimes the tailoring is more expensive than the clothes but everything fits like a glove. A lot of men also don't care about grooming unless they are gay. Women care about how men look just as much as they care about us. Keep up the good work.

    • @bosslady4146
      @bosslady4146 Рік тому +1

      I love Ross i even work there..

    • @denesejamerson2356
      @denesejamerson2356 Рік тому

      Yes guys! Shave them "ratty" beards there're gross! Stop bagging, sagging, and dragging. Go to the dentist. Most of us work decent enough jobs where we can take advantage of those benefits. Go to wine tasting events, take up some physical activity if nothing more than walking around a park. Attend an Art Trail event, in other words, get some culture so that you'll be conversational. Like Shumake says, you've got to set yourself apart from the riff-raff, those guys who just want to act like animals!

  • @herscepter5263
    @herscepter5263 Рік тому +15

    I would add two more points. First is to learn to handle rejection from women in a respectful manner. Second, in order to lower your chances of getting rejected, show interest in women that are in your similar playing field.

  • @donavanfrea6768
    @donavanfrea6768 Рік тому +9

    It's so nice to hear somebody that's sharp and insightful for a change. Usually, UA-cam recommends me nothing, but toxic content. I dig what you're doing Shumake and I'll be a follower from here on out. Thanks for the words of wisdom

  • @delaneybucknor3710
    @delaneybucknor3710 Рік тому +7

    From a black & married women from the UK this is excellent advice.

  • @erickalucas5660
    @erickalucas5660 Рік тому +21

    This video came from such a loving and caring place❤️he has such a gentle, genuine and manly approach…I woulda been on there hollering at y’all 🤣men please don’t get defensive and hear what he is saying because he is right and the truth is we need y’all healed and stronger so we can rise together 🥰

    • @denesejamerson2356
      @denesejamerson2356 Рік тому +1

      Yes it did! I subscribed because it's uplifting and inspiring. Them other channels are bashing, thrashing, blaming, shaming men and women when we have outside "irritants" working against us!

    • @erickalucas5660
      @erickalucas5660 Рік тому

      @@denesejamerson2356 so true 🙌🏽🎉

  • @jessicascreenwritingservices
    @jessicascreenwritingservices Рік тому +14

    Wow solid advice Shumake. That was insightful that you said no girls between 12-24 months. A lot of people have to learn how to focus on themselves for a season. As humans we tend to resist that time to heal and improve, but it is so necessary.

  • @perrykeshahwalker5321
    @perrykeshahwalker5321 Рік тому +17

    As usual, bro. This is another awesome video.

  • @misskaykayRSA
    @misskaykayRSA Рік тому +5

    Looking “good” for a guy is not hard. It seriously isn’t. Even for the so called “ugly duckling” dudes. MOST women (with a healthy maturity) don’t care about how you look. Just take care of yourself!
    Some tips:
    - get in shape.
    - fix your teeth
    - make sure your hygiene is good (breath and body odour)
    - wear clean clothes e.g clean socks, clean vests, clean underwear, cut your nails and make sure your hands are clean and moisturised. If you have a beard, make sure it’s cut nicely and smells good.
    - dress nice
    - smell good
    - invest in some nice sneakers
    All I mentioned has nothing to do with being a baller. Just invest in your appearance. It is VERY doable.
    … also be genuinely kind and polite. I didn’t say be nice or a walk over but just be decent okay?, c’ mon now.
    Thanks bye ✌🏾

  • @ChavisGreenard
    @ChavisGreenard Рік тому +13

    All facts told, brother in Christ.

  • @monadavid1292
    @monadavid1292 Рік тому +13

    Yes, seek God first and his right way of doing things. And all things will be added to you. Also allow yourself to heal first before you enter in a relationship.

    • @Jesus.SaVeS77
      @Jesus.SaVeS77 Рік тому +2

      Gdm. Mona David, hey that script. is (Mat. 6:33)- Seek ye/u 1st the Kingdom of God & His Righteousness, & All these things shall be added unto U. (KJV).
      Mona D., I heard that script. so much as a Yng adult til it was etched in my memory/mind, heart, spirit 4ever. 😉😊🤭😀😂 So I will never 4get it again. Lol God's word says: Watever U/we have read, the Holy Spirit will bring it back to our rememberance/memory, remind us. That's 4 sure. 😀 👍🏾

  • @Wonderwoman79G
    @Wonderwoman79G Рік тому +8

    Is this part of an ongoing series for young men? Great post,once again.

    • @TheShumakeWay
      @TheShumakeWay  Рік тому +7

      It's not really a series, but I will be doing videos similar to this for my male subscribers from time to time.

  • @jtt1928
    @jtt1928 Рік тому +10

    You are speaking from the truth bruh 🙌🏾🤙🏾🙏🏾!!! I feel like you are a great vessel for all of us to hear from!

  • @shenquejames7598
    @shenquejames7598 Рік тому +3

    Excellent Advice you hit every point. All women love clean, good smelling, nice teeth, God fearing, good character, good shape, well read, emotional intelligent, and excellent communication skills.

  • @creating1_c1999
    @creating1_c1999 Рік тому +8

    I made a video series about this last year. Everyone has the commission to check their soil. Everyone needs to evaluate how they spend their time and who they spend their time with. Too many of us are putting all of our valuable resources into what is familiar, even when what is familiar is spoiled and rancid.

  • @valrio8224
    @valrio8224 Рік тому +4

    Everything you said was FACTS! If a man completes all of these steps he will definitely be husband material and he will find a wife.

  • @nyleac4389
    @nyleac4389 Рік тому +4

    I also want to add, learn to genuinely love and respect women as people. Doing all this but not genuinely being kind, having a deep respect for your partner and relationship will result in short term success. Learn to value emotional maturity. Be interested in the person that you have, not just in having them. Your bond with whoever you find will be tight.

  • @HappyBeeTV-BeeHappy
    @HappyBeeTV-BeeHappy Рік тому +11

    How a man can level up and WIN a good woman. If he’s not gonna make an effort to her heart and looking for her to come to him, then he’s not worth considering. Just another would be waste of time. The universe want the female in every species won. But it’s only humans who don’t get this and want it the opposite. For the man to be the prize and the woman gotta win him.

  • @barbara.d690
    @barbara.d690 Рік тому +7

    Well said, Shumake keep speaking the truth 👍🏾

  • @younicenganga51
    @younicenganga51 Рік тому +4

    This is an awesome video, love from Kenya

  • @chronicfatiguehermithiker3022
    @chronicfatiguehermithiker3022 Рік тому +5

    I didn’t know there was a formula, but those steps literally built a person. Someone with purpose and substance. Following these steps, a person might not want family right away anymore, because they might end up opening up so much more life, because a lot of people want a family because they are bored and lonely, the person being built will not be any of those things.

  • @els1573
    @els1573 Рік тому +7

    You did a fantastic job.

  • @msbe.9792
    @msbe.9792 Рік тому +2

    This was EXCEPTIONAL. Well done. God bless!

  • @janiceparkerson4727
    @janiceparkerson4727 Рік тому +4

    Bravo. Good information to the fellas ❤❤❤❤.

  • @mimicapri530
    @mimicapri530 Рік тому +1

    Omg I need all the men to watch this video!! You literally hit the nail on the head on EVERY POINT! Lol 💯

  • @hallamdyal5730
    @hallamdyal5730 Рік тому +2

    Respect n salute sir got my CDL Class B drove a bus 4 a small company for 8 years & 8 months recently starting saving just because,Trying 2 get myself back in shape & about 2 start a new job @ the post office so respect 2 u sir

  • @jessicatsao92
    @jessicatsao92 Рік тому +2

    I'm not sure if this was mentioned before specifically: Ladies, find a man with a solid degree of common sense and judgement of character. Gentlemen, find a lady who has solid character, plenty of life purpose, and principles.
    For the ladies, a man who can read people well and understand the wisdom of common sense is a good partner to have, especially nowadays when the world gets more crazy by the millisecond. For the men, a woman with a good personality (even in a church, vet on character, it will save you a lot of pain) and has self-control and discipline is worth more than even gold. She will be the best partner in the ocean of life with you on the same boat.

  • @4bnfree
    @4bnfree Рік тому +3

    I am a 58 year old women and I agree with everything you said. A true relationship with God is key. Dont just join a church but read the Bible for yourself. It will guide you and change you. It will change what you value, what you think, how you think, how you act. You truly will become a new person. Let me offer a part two for you. At the end you have the men meeting women. You should make a video on the top reasons why women divorce their husband's. 80% of marriages are initiated by woman. Its one thing to get a wife and another to keep one...and yes I have initiated a divorce and I consider myself a good woman

  • @mgh174
    @mgh174 Рік тому +1

    This is The beat advice I’ve heard! As a woman that listened to KS points with care and respect this man in this video is golden. All this advice can also help us ladies! And I’m in these very stages now- I’m already doing 90% of what he says and my life is changing. ❤
    Fellas i hope his message will encourage you because it’s building up us as being better people no matter what we decide to do in the end.
    Thank you sir for sharing this.

  • @quincybeauplan3514
    @quincybeauplan3514 Рік тому +5

    💯Good advice

  • @jamiepope9823
    @jamiepope9823 Рік тому +1

    I'm so happy I listened to this....keep doing the Lords work!

  • @vdes78
    @vdes78 Рік тому +2

    Valid points! Great video as always!

  • @denesejamerson2356
    @denesejamerson2356 Рік тому

    Love Shumake's commentaries. Speaking about men's looks, exhibit A, Lil Wayne!!!!!!!

  • @chloelageaux769
    @chloelageaux769 Рік тому +4

    Awesome information!

  • @dneal8293
    @dneal8293 Рік тому +1

    As men seek a "Proverbs 31" woman, women should seek an "Ephesians 5 Man".

  • @nett8998
    @nett8998 10 місяців тому

    Watching this with my sons. Thank you Mr. Shumake.😊

  • @trueblueclue
    @trueblueclue 7 місяців тому

    I'm going to share this around. This is some good info!

  • @MoveNgroove93
    @MoveNgroove93 Рік тому +1

    Subscribed!

  • @heartsocto9440
    @heartsocto9440 Рік тому

    A man knows when to listen and accept advice. He learns the difference between when he has something to offer, and when there is something he needs to hear.

  • @AAA34FL448
    @AAA34FL448 Рік тому +2

    When I started getting into the Bible to find peace in my life, I realized the study guide for a happier life was right in front of me the entire time. My boyfriend does not want the same. Doesn't even entertain God. It has brought a light into a dark place. Some will never be walking the same path, and that's ok

    • @lindajohnson3247
      @lindajohnson3247 Рік тому +4

      He should no longer be your boyfriend. How can two walk together except they agree?

    • @broco6608
      @broco6608 Рік тому

      ​@@lindajohnson3247 If you're not walking the same path, you shouldn't be with him.

  • @theronbassett5505
    @theronbassett5505 6 місяців тому

    Nice! Kevin Samules gave the EXACT same advice. You guys are similar. 👍

  • @Kenneth181
    @Kenneth181 Рік тому +3

    Salute to you good man for taking the time to make this video. I think men can benefit from the kind of advice you gave in this video but they can also benefit a whole lot from the redpill/manosphere content as well.

  • @KiaMonet26
    @KiaMonet26 Рік тому +1

    EVERYTHING spot on!

  • @enidemichel4860
    @enidemichel4860 Рік тому

    Great advice!! Men should consider becoming an elevator and escalator installers and repairers, also called elevator and escalator constructors or mechanics.

    • @broco6608
      @broco6608 Рік тому

      All good jobs. Even some bus drivers make good money.

  • @Keldria
    @Keldria Рік тому

    Thank you for sharing such valuable information.

  • @VettaBoop
    @VettaBoop Рік тому +3

    I'm close to God, but I'm not religious.

    • @TheShumakeWay
      @TheShumakeWay  Рік тому +4

      I used to feel like that. But then I realized that I was in something like a one way relationship with him and it was all about me. God knew everything about me and I expected him to provide for me and help me when I was in trouble and stuff like that, but I wasn't taking the time to REALLY get to know him and figure out what he wanted. Over time I picked up the Bible and really started praying for understanding. I realized that praying is how we talk to God, but one of the ways he talks back is through his written word. After I figured that out I realized that you can have encounters with God and even start a relationship with him without religion, but you can't REALLY get close to him and KNOW him on an intimate level without it. Just think about it like this... Would you think a man really loved you if the whole time you were together it was all about him? What if all he did was constantly ask you for stuff while never trying to get to know you or figure out what your interests are? I'm pretty sure you wouldn't go for that. We treat God worse than that though, because he created us and everything in the world. Then he had to send his son to die for us because we're so sinful. Why did he ultimately do that? So that we can go to heaven one day and hang out with him. All God wants us to do is spend time with him, but so many of us don't even try. Sorry for the long reply. I'm just passionate about this.

    • @VettaBoop
      @VettaBoop Рік тому +2

      @@TheShumakeWay I don't mind the long response. I agree with what you have to say, I just feel like different things work for different people. Religion isn't something that I morally believe in. The one thing every religion has I'm common is that there's a God, everything else is debated. It's what draws me away from it. But I totally understand what you mean. I think overall God knows our hearts and knows if we're genuine or not.

  • @micro-uhgresh-uhnn
    @micro-uhgresh-uhnn Рік тому

    The devil is in the details. Define “good” in good man. 😂

  • @bosslady4146
    @bosslady4146 Рік тому +1

    what does religion have to do with building a relationship with God?

    • @TheShumakeWay
      @TheShumakeWay  Рік тому +14

      Religion: a particular system of faith and worship.
      I believe in Jesus, I pray multiple times a day, I read the bible, and I apply biblical principles to my every day life. I'm a Christian. In my opinion religion is very necessary.

    • @bosslady4146
      @bosslady4146 Рік тому

      @@TheShumakeWay i read the original meaning of Religion which means bondage so that would make since since you are bonded to Christ. Religion w/o Christ is tradition. I saw you grow into this and have been watching your channel for a while so I know your truthful. ive been growing with you.. thanks for the reply..

  • @325ariel
    @325ariel Рік тому

    When you truly began to follow Christ, you will learn so much about yourself and things will appear and hurt and be painful, but if you can't face yourself with Christ, then you have to keep trying. Much love and respect to everyone and I pray that you all come to find Christ, repent and turn from those sins.

  • @tw7127
    @tw7127 Рік тому +2

    I’m not trying to be funny, but Kenneth should learn the difference between there, their and they’re.

    • @MsSnu
      @MsSnu Рік тому +3

      Grammar police is a wasted skillset. It's belittling. Do better.

    • @tw7127
      @tw7127 Рік тому +2

      @@MsSnu Reading is fundamental, I stated I wasn’t trying to be funny. Grammar is a skill set you should have as an adult, so it’s not a waste. Since when is helping someone evolve belittling?🤣 A lot of people including myself always say “correct me if I’m wrong “ pronouncing a particular word, so we can get educated. Get out of your feelings.

    • @MsSnu
      @MsSnu Рік тому

      @@tw7127 My vocabulary and delivery are very good. I would never need your tutoring. The key to what you are saying is ppl ask for your input. No one here asked. You assume ppl want your opinion. That is the pitfall. ✌️

    • @tw7127
      @tw7127 Рік тому +3

      @@MsSnu Who said anything about your delivery or vocabulary? I get it you don’t like constructive criticism and you felt attacked, as if I was talking to you personally. The video that you’re listening to is filled with wisdom and opinions. We wouldn’t gain knowledge or wisdom without someone stating facts or opinions. I hope you get to the root to what’s really bothering you. Have a bless day.