How To Find Closure When A Narcissist Discards You

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  • Опубліковано 24 лис 2024

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  • @MelanieToniaEvans
    @MelanieToniaEvans  2 роки тому +2

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  • @britanniau.k.4352
    @britanniau.k.4352 10 місяців тому +1

    11:40..Mel mentions self love and acceptance as the key to closure.....

  • @annbuda990
    @annbuda990 2 роки тому +10

    as i ugly cry, snot pouring down my face, i am so incredibly broken, lost and afraid. your soothing and compassionate voice was a hug for my soul. there is no one and nothing that can even come close to comprehending the depth and darkness of my pain, in fact, they think i am insane for being so traumatized by such a monster. thank you from the place within where use to reside a heart and GOD bless you for sharing your peace and kindness with me.

    • @estherrogers7533
      @estherrogers7533 2 роки тому +2

      Ann. It’s gut wrenching-yess I and others believe you. I’m finally getting my through and intentionally setting my goals to self love in ways I never knew. God bless you dear Ann🌹🕊🌹

    • @belight6280
      @belight6280 2 роки тому +1

      Same here. Not fun. Divorced twice, never experienced any kind of pain since when my girlfriend of 8 yrs discarded me, unexpectedly. Stole a bunch of things while I was out of town during her move out. I've been in therapy 😌. Even suicidal. Horrible what damage these monsters do to honest people.

  • @djjasonalan8
    @djjasonalan8 2 роки тому +12

    Thank you, Melanie. After the initial discard, I felt worthless, my self-esteem dropped to an all-time low, and I was left with so many questions. I still have my ups-n-downs and daily struggles, but your videos and wisdom have helped me greatly. Much love and many blessings to you.

    • @ThesySurface
      @ThesySurface 2 роки тому +2

      My issue is not a discard, it’s they keep coming at you on the internet & then when you react to THEIR games they are “surprised” and call you “crazy.” 😉 Go away Narc! 😎

    • @MelanieToniaEvans
      @MelanieToniaEvans  2 роки тому +1

      Keep on healing @Jason Alan, you've got this! ❤🦋

  • @peterknyk1942
    @peterknyk1942 2 роки тому +8

    Dear Melanie! I'm so glad that I have NARP to help and guide me through all of this! I've dealt with personal trauma, the loss of children, loss of my brother.... For the most part I have gotten closure with most everything that was traumatic, difficult and tragic in my life! However, what I am going through after being so brutally discarded by a cruel, nasty, vicious narcissist is still literally terrifying....😔 thankfully I'm getting glimpses here and there, with the help of NARP, of what it means to be managing that terror.....Thanks for continuing to give us guidance, inspiration and hope!
    Much love ❤️🦋❤️

  • @HellasGD88
    @HellasGD88 2 роки тому +7

    I was discarded nearly 8 yrs ago, he ran off and remarried, financially destroyed us tripled the mortgage barely gave me money to feed our 3 kids, left me with cptsd and 3 kids to look after I could hardly get out of bed the tension in my shoulders and back of my neck was excruciating, not one person came to knock on my door (smear campaign) yet went to his wedding to celebrate his 'new life' (evil entity).

    • @Canaday291
      @Canaday291 2 роки тому +2

      Your sad horrific story is similar to what the malignant narcissist alcoholic I divorced did to me and my three beautiful young children . We were going through life in what was a typical family life and on Easter Sunday he decided to completely abandon us while I was at church with my children. He moved out and ran off with his married co worker ..after I called him numerous times to get an explanation without him bothering to answer and I’m in complete shock as the bottom of our world has fallen out from underneath by him he finally answers and coldly and cruelly with zero regard , or concern, for our feelings or welfare just decided he didn’t feel like being married or a dad anymore
      Even though that monster had planned it for months while having his affair. I was from there on never the same again as he caused so much irreversible damage to not only myself, but my children .
      I’m convinced anyone that uncaring , unfeeling, with absolutely no regard , conscience, or empathy for anyone else especially his own children is possessed by evil.

    • @emmad.176
      @emmad.176 2 роки тому +2

      I'm so sorry. I hope finding others with similar stories, as well as finding Melanie, helps you find a way through. x

    • @HellasGD88
      @HellasGD88 2 роки тому

      @@Canaday291 what normal person would do that to his family?, these people are infested, they're demonic entities, that's so heartbreaking, stay strong u are loved x

  • @andycampbell91
    @andycampbell91 2 роки тому +9

    "Soul Graduation"...I learn many emotionally valuable expressions from your videos Mel...
    I always come away with something internally health building...Thank you...❤️🌞🌈

    • @MelanieToniaEvans
      @MelanieToniaEvans  2 роки тому +1

      I'm so pleased to hear my message is resonating with you. Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts. Lots of love to you @Andy Campbell 👍🦋

    • @andycampbell91
      @andycampbell91 2 роки тому

      @@MelanieToniaEvans ❤️👍🌈😇

  • @jromeo8247
    @jromeo8247 2 роки тому +3

    It has been a long, arduous journey out of the grips of hell of being in a relationship with a narcissist. Melanie truly helped me break through of the horrific cycle of abuse.

  • @paulzedx636ninja7
    @paulzedx636ninja7 2 роки тому +5

    It's always an uphill battle expecting closure even a glimmer, It's just not going to happen. 😥

    • @estherrogers7533
      @estherrogers7533 2 роки тому +3

      So true. He did something that hurt so deep …but I knew this time…don’t look to him for closure…You have a new chapter to dance into…keep getting healing ❤️‍🩹

    • @paulzedx636ninja7
      @paulzedx636ninja7 2 роки тому +3

      @@estherrogers7533 The cold heartedness is doing the most hurtful things. Then showing no care or concerns of what it does to you. I've experienced it and it's gut wrenchingly painful. That with no closure is some of the most painful thing's narc's do. 😥

  • @Elle-mz7fr
    @Elle-mz7fr 2 роки тому

    4:50 to 5:35 yes I have been SO tortured by this with a girl I thought was like family to me & the girls she smeared me to… actually, she is behaving like family to me-the family I came from, not the family to cherish me. Thanks Mel for explaining so well to help me see, learn, identify & grow & heal & rise & surpass

  • @shaniom913
    @shaniom913 2 роки тому

    Pema is still with us, living & working in NY. 🙏🏾🙏🏾

  • @missdecemberbaby
    @missdecemberbaby 2 роки тому

    Your videos always cross my feet at the exact moment I need to see them. I have slipped back into ruminations and thinking of ways that I could get apologies or acknowledgment or anything to help me find closure. Earlier today I was crying as I was writing in my journal about why I feel like I need closure from him and how can I get it from myself. I thought about writing letters I’ve thought about writing letters to his new supply I thought about everything. And I never take action on those things but I am in so much pain. People don’t understand how completely awful this abuse is. It’s so hard to hang in there. It’s so hard to move forward without vindication. We feel like we need everybody to know the truth, but I hope I suppose is that our truth is it now.

  • @nanettesimon9388
    @nanettesimon9388 2 роки тому +2

    So on point once i found out what he was doing i went crazy telling him you tried to kill me i had him scare he stared acting like a girl then he discarded me but however i got him to come back to try again but he didn't change i discarded him he went crazy calling me sick this happened a week ago lol I'm done and free so happy now!!!

  • @willowway42
    @willowway42 2 роки тому +1

    The boot camp was absolutely brilliant... brilliant. Cannot recommend highly enough ♡

    • @MelanieToniaEvans
      @MelanieToniaEvans  2 роки тому +1

      Thank you @Willow Way for your wonderful words about the Thrive Program. It means so much to me to see you comment. Thank you dear Thriver 😙🦋

    • @willowway42
      @willowway42 2 роки тому

      I will be eternally grateful ♡

  • @jromeo8247
    @jromeo8247 2 роки тому +1

    For two years I wasted, yes wasted waiting for closure. After my healing, I didn't need it. Not from them anyway.

  • @yayfatou79
    @yayfatou79 2 роки тому

    You always so spot on. And helpful. Thank you!

  • @missdecemberbaby
    @missdecemberbaby 2 роки тому

    My narcissist told one of my best friend’s that I was no longer human to him anymore.

  • @clareowens2597
    @clareowens2597 2 роки тому

    I love you Mel! Thank you so much 😊

  • @b-positiveginny
    @b-positiveginny 2 роки тому

    Hello Melanie, I had a Question to you.... In your Masterclass experience is an Meditation with Quanam. Is it normal that a lot of old Past Life Pictures are poping up? It is creepy. And intensive..... Just how to deal with that.

  • @CCTOOLE
    @CCTOOLE 11 місяців тому

    Another video of what abuse feels like with absolutely nothing on how to get closure.