I totally agree. It took a lot of work with professionals to find the root cause of my anxiety, more specifically social anxiety. I worked with therapists, a psychologist and a psychiatrist to find the root cause of my anxiety which is Complex PTSD due to childhood trauma. Something I’ve started testing recently are dietary changes. There’s an intrinsic link between gut health and brain health. I’m in the US and our food is very toxic. Eating an unprocessed, low sugar diet can help reduce gut problems, inflammation and in turn anxiety, depression and negative emotions. Exercise and professional help are also great ways to help with mental health and if you combine that with a quality diet it’s a recipe for a healthy mind.
@Pat_rick_W thanks for sharing a bit of your story with us and your valuable tips. :) I definitely agree, exercise and whole foods contribute so so much in mental and emotional health. All the best to you Patrick, and I'm glad to read about your courage to work through all these difficult things. You're a big inspiration for so many. Thanks for sharing your voice here.
I love how you emphasize internal coherence rather than division when dealing with anxiety. This kind of deep healing is exactly what more people need to hear about❤
What you're sharing is deep, precise and accessible without religious language or symbols. I love your consistency of posting and generosity with the information. This channel is a great support, so happy I found it. Thank you. 🎵🧡
@babykrishna1872 thanks so much for sharing your voice with us, I'm glad it resonates with you. I'm glad I get to support you. Sending you all the best. :)
Thank You for your idea and options. I appreciate it very much and I manage to gain something for the inner self. Thank you deeply and I will remember your wisdom shared when I am required to apply it. the Universe and God blesses you and your family amazing one. The dog seems to be so excited, keep up the good work and perhaps let it join you in your next recordings.
given the experiences I've had, I think it would be a bad idea for me to feel confident in expressing myself how I am around others. it doesn't prevent me from expressing myself how I am but it would be an inappropriate emotional state for me to feel like that is "safe" to do. people frequently respond extremely negatively to how I actually am because it does not fit into the narrative that they've grown up accepting.
since hundreds of people have factually told me to kms because of my understanding, and since nearly every person I've ever encountered has demonstrated an assumptive nature to interpret things based on their own emotional state rather than careful analysis of language, I don't have social anxiety because of beliefs, but because of facts. I factually do not "belong", as in, I factually do not fit in any good way into the society that exists.
@@improvetheworldnow thank you for sharing where you're at. I can imagine not feeling like you belong or understood is hard. I get that. If I was in your place I would ask myself how does the response of people make me feel. What sort of people do I want to surround myself with and am I showing up as a person like that. I would also follow my natural excitement to go to places and experiences that genuinely make me happy no matter if alone or with others. We all belong which is not the same as fitting in. When you say you factually do not belong this in itself is a limiting belief. Even though some people see the world with less conscious eyes than others, there are people out there that are safe to express to. You're doing it right now. :) And I'm not judging you or seeing you in a negative light. We don't need to open up to people we don't feel safe with. It's ok to protect yourself if you don't feel welcome with some people. But there may be a whole world of people out there you haven't discovered yet. What could you do to open up to that? Where does your heart need healing - and what are your core needs you need met? I would start there. I wish you all the best.
@@VanessaNaumann27 It's definitely not a feeling, that I don't belong and am not understood. I am already showing up as a person I'd want to surround myself with, but other people don't want to surround themselves with the type of people I want to surround myself with. the only places I like being are in the middle of the forest and I spend a lot of time there but life is pointless to me if it's lived in isolation. I do not want to be involved in anything that other people are doing around me. I open up to people regardless, but no one ever chooses to be part of my life, not that there is much life to be part of, since everything is so incredibly suppressed by the corrupt system that humans have chosen to live by on earth. I already spent 15 years trying to find people I am compatible with but the only way to meet people is by going places I don't want to be and I never found anyone I'm compatible with so I stopped doing it now. my heart doesn't need healing, and I think that is a big part of why I am incompatible with other people, and my core needs are not available to be met because there are no people who want to work with me to create a healthy life aligned with the principles of ecosystems and the water cycle and as far removed from the economy as possible. but thanks for your reply.
@@improvetheworldnow I do believe your heart desires a whole lot of love and connection from what you're sharing. But I won't dig any further, I don't feel like you're open to it and I respect that. But I want to leave you with this: if you feel like you've exhausted all your efforts to connect, why not go find a place that feels good to you, maybe travel, do what your heart desires. Usually when we surrender to what we're given - and maybe in your case it is to forge your own path - do that, build that place and maybe you'll be the start for others to come join you. Maybe you know Joe's story, this reminded me a bit of his story. If you don't know it check it out. He started off by himself and built a whole community. www.youtube.com/@mountaingardens
@@VanessaNaumann27 Yes I desire a lot of love and connection, and I am open to it, but it's not available to me. There is nowhere for me to go that feels good to me. what my heart desires is to create a homestead without throwing away years of my life trying to get money to buy permission to do it, and that's not an option alone. the only land I was able to buy is not land that a community can be formed on, and my efforts to create a homestead there are constantly limited by arbitrary governmental restrictions and it's pointless because I am alone, and there is no way for me to find even one person who would want to work with me to create a life there. The idea of being part of a community is completely unrealistic for me since I cannot even find one person who wants to make a life with me. I would be totally fine with having a partner and not a community but that isn't an option. the only option available to me is to be alone and wait for this pointless life to go by.
@Ghostman80 thank you for sharing so vulnerably. I know making money is a tricky topic. I completely get that it gives you anxiety, I've been there too. I would recommend to feel your fear and even ask yourself: what's the worst that could happen - and - what is the best case scenario. It also depends on where you're at - do you have a job at all or do you have a hard time finding one. Ask yourself or journal on these questions: What are you afraid of? What excites you in terms of work? What would you like to do? What are your values around work - e.g. pay, hours, environment, colleagues, boss, practical work or mind work, etc. How are the people like that you can trust?(e.g. they do what they say, you feel comfortable and safe, you feel seen and heard). Get really clear on what you want and even if this is not accessible right now and it is a dream, what is an accessible stage now. E.g. you want to have your own clothing brand - maybe do an internship at a clothing brand. Or you want to have your own cafe, start working at a place that has good energy and good people. Get started somewhere even as a bridge to where you want to go. Also, do you feel worthy of the job you want to do? If not, what are your limiting beliefs around it? Start with getting clear on these things and then take practical steps. I would also recommend, once you know a bit what you're afraid of to try this meditation (it says anger release but it works for any fear as well) ua-cam.com/video/2VmMxFUyCvQ/v-deo.html try it several times to get clarity and unblock what holds you back. You've got this and you are going to change your trajectory. I believe in you, please start believing in yourself as well. :)
@@VanessaNaumann27 I would like to thank you for your kind and inspiring words. I just need to snap out of my way of thinking how the world works. I feel like all these youtubers just create content for money. I always ask myself how I can do that.
@@Ghostman80 you're so welcome... if you feel passionate about sharing about a certain topic or your life just give it a try. What do you have to loose? I wouldn't just do it for the money though, because it takes a lot of time, effort and passion and it can take time to get monetized. I think you're on the right track with changing your thinking, it's all about that. Trust your passions and take little steps towards it. Keep me updated, you've got this. :)
Question: How is possible to connect with people that can truly provide emotional support to me? And build apon beneficial human relationships, when I am still experiencing social & emotional burnout? I still continuously and heavily experience not wanting to be social, not feeling the desire mostly (I don't understand whats happening). From time to time I experience feeling the desire to comment on people's social posts, across the web. But I still have these frequent moments where I don't want to socialize, either verbally or in written form. I am pre-judging myself as I write this comment, because I sense that I may not naturally feel inspired to comment back to you (a frequent occurrence for me), if you were to respond to me. It seems as though an aspect of me is socially done with being social. I am strongly confused and frustrated with my unknown experience.
@MERCERENiTY hey dear, thank you for your question. I know this is vulnerable and I'm proud of you for daring to share it. I just recorded a video to answer this question because it feels really important and helpful to talk about this for many people, so let's let them in on our conversation. One thing I haven't shared in the video that just came to mind (and which is a little more spiritual): from what you're sharing, you're in a stage of recalibration where you're needing alone time to meet yourself deeper and purify, possibly even heal from past social relationships. So also take this opportunity to check in what kind of social relationships would feel good. what are those people like? what kind of activities are you doing together etc... when we don't have energy to spend our time as we used to, there is usually the need for different kinds of interaction and when we spend time alone we get to acknowledge those "new" needs that come to the surface. Get curious and just know you deserve love and connection. Go to places and spaces that make you feel good and sooner or later you'll make new friendships that make you feel connected and held. The foundation is always being ourselves and sometimes when we're still a raw wobbly egg it feels more vulnerable .... then we gotta take that cooking time and simmer in the water till we're hard boiled and ready to go back out into the world. (haha I hope that makes sense) all the best to you. PS: you do not have to answer to this message if you don't feel like it. ;)
@@VanessaNaumann27 Yes, it make 1000% sense 😊. I so like the receiving of that validation, in regards to me responding back or not. I feel safe, after receiving all the validations & confirmations.
I totally agree. It took a lot of work with professionals to find the root cause of my anxiety, more specifically social anxiety. I worked with therapists, a psychologist and a psychiatrist to find the root cause of my anxiety which is Complex PTSD due to childhood trauma. Something I’ve started testing recently are dietary changes. There’s an intrinsic link between gut health and brain health. I’m in the US and our food is very toxic. Eating an unprocessed, low sugar diet can help reduce gut problems, inflammation and in turn anxiety, depression and negative emotions. Exercise and professional help are also great ways to help with mental health and if you combine that with a quality diet it’s a recipe for a healthy mind.
@Pat_rick_W thanks for sharing a bit of your story with us and your valuable tips. :) I definitely agree, exercise and whole foods contribute so so much in mental and emotional health. All the best to you Patrick, and I'm glad to read about your courage to work through all these difficult things. You're a big inspiration for so many. Thanks for sharing your voice here.
I love how you emphasize internal coherence rather than division when dealing with anxiety. This kind of deep healing is exactly what more people need to hear about❤
@emranhossainbhuiyan770 thank you so much for sharing, I'm glad it resonates with you. Sending you all the best.
The puppy is reflecting my inner parts, I sense.
What you're sharing is deep, precise and accessible without religious language or symbols. I love your consistency of posting and generosity with the information. This channel is a great support, so happy I found it. Thank you. 🎵🧡
@babykrishna1872 thanks so much for sharing your voice with us, I'm glad it resonates with you. I'm glad I get to support you. Sending you all the best. :)
Thank You for your idea and options. I appreciate it very much and I manage to gain something for the inner self. Thank you deeply and I will remember your wisdom shared when I am required to apply it. the Universe and God blesses you and your family amazing one. The dog seems to be so excited, keep up the good work and perhaps let it join you in your next recordings.
@aaaadamaaa Hey, thank you for sharing and I'm happy to read you gained something from it. Sending you blessings and all the best. :)
given the experiences I've had, I think it would be a bad idea for me to feel confident in expressing myself how I am around others. it doesn't prevent me from expressing myself how I am but it would be an inappropriate emotional state for me to feel like that is "safe" to do. people frequently respond extremely negatively to how I actually am because it does not fit into the narrative that they've grown up accepting.
since hundreds of people have factually told me to kms because of my understanding, and since nearly every person I've ever encountered has demonstrated an assumptive nature to interpret things based on their own emotional state rather than careful analysis of language, I don't have social anxiety because of beliefs, but because of facts. I factually do not "belong", as in, I factually do not fit in any good way into the society that exists.
@@improvetheworldnow thank you for sharing where you're at. I can imagine not feeling like you belong or understood is hard. I get that. If I was in your place I would ask myself how does the response of people make me feel. What sort of people do I want to surround myself with and am I showing up as a person like that. I would also follow my natural excitement to go to places and experiences that genuinely make me happy no matter if alone or with others. We all belong which is not the same as fitting in. When you say you factually do not belong this in itself is a limiting belief. Even though some people see the world with less conscious eyes than others, there are people out there that are safe to express to. You're doing it right now. :) And I'm not judging you or seeing you in a negative light. We don't need to open up to people we don't feel safe with. It's ok to protect yourself if you don't feel welcome with some people. But there may be a whole world of people out there you haven't discovered yet. What could you do to open up to that? Where does your heart need healing - and what are your core needs you need met? I would start there. I wish you all the best.
@@VanessaNaumann27 It's definitely not a feeling, that I don't belong and am not understood. I am already showing up as a person I'd want to surround myself with, but other people don't want to surround themselves with the type of people I want to surround myself with. the only places I like being are in the middle of the forest and I spend a lot of time there but life is pointless to me if it's lived in isolation. I do not want to be involved in anything that other people are doing around me. I open up to people regardless, but no one ever chooses to be part of my life, not that there is much life to be part of, since everything is so incredibly suppressed by the corrupt system that humans have chosen to live by on earth. I already spent 15 years trying to find people I am compatible with but the only way to meet people is by going places I don't want to be and I never found anyone I'm compatible with so I stopped doing it now. my heart doesn't need healing, and I think that is a big part of why I am incompatible with other people, and my core needs are not available to be met because there are no people who want to work with me to create a healthy life aligned with the principles of ecosystems and the water cycle and as far removed from the economy as possible. but thanks for your reply.
@@improvetheworldnow I do believe your heart desires a whole lot of love and connection from what you're sharing. But I won't dig any further, I don't feel like you're open to it and I respect that. But I want to leave you with this: if you feel like you've exhausted all your efforts to connect, why not go find a place that feels good to you, maybe travel, do what your heart desires. Usually when we surrender to what we're given - and maybe in your case it is to forge your own path - do that, build that place and maybe you'll be the start for others to come join you. Maybe you know Joe's story, this reminded me a bit of his story. If you don't know it check it out. He started off by himself and built a whole community. www.youtube.com/@mountaingardens
@@VanessaNaumann27 Yes I desire a lot of love and connection, and I am open to it, but it's not available to me. There is nowhere for me to go that feels good to me. what my heart desires is to create a homestead without throwing away years of my life trying to get money to buy permission to do it, and that's not an option alone. the only land I was able to buy is not land that a community can be formed on, and my efforts to create a homestead there are constantly limited by arbitrary governmental restrictions and it's pointless because I am alone, and there is no way for me to find even one person who would want to work with me to create a life there. The idea of being part of a community is completely unrealistic for me since I cannot even find one person who wants to make a life with me. I would be totally fine with having a partner and not a community but that isn't an option. the only option available to me is to be alone and wait for this pointless life to go by.
I just dont know how to make money, and that gives me anxiety. Its hard to trust people.
@Ghostman80 thank you for sharing so vulnerably. I know making money is a tricky topic. I completely get that it gives you anxiety, I've been there too. I would recommend to feel your fear and even ask yourself: what's the worst that could happen - and - what is the best case scenario. It also depends on where you're at - do you have a job at all or do you have a hard time finding one. Ask yourself or journal on these questions: What are you afraid of? What excites you in terms of work? What would you like to do? What are your values around work - e.g. pay, hours, environment, colleagues, boss, practical work or mind work, etc. How are the people like that you can trust?(e.g. they do what they say, you feel comfortable and safe, you feel seen and heard). Get really clear on what you want and even if this is not accessible right now and it is a dream, what is an accessible stage now. E.g. you want to have your own clothing brand - maybe do an internship at a clothing brand. Or you want to have your own cafe, start working at a place that has good energy and good people. Get started somewhere even as a bridge to where you want to go. Also, do you feel worthy of the job you want to do? If not, what are your limiting beliefs around it? Start with getting clear on these things and then take practical steps. I would also recommend, once you know a bit what you're afraid of to try this meditation (it says anger release but it works for any fear as well) ua-cam.com/video/2VmMxFUyCvQ/v-deo.html try it several times to get clarity and unblock what holds you back. You've got this and you are going to change your trajectory. I believe in you, please start believing in yourself as well. :)
@@VanessaNaumann27 I would like to thank you for your kind and inspiring words. I just need to snap out of my way of thinking how the world works. I feel like all these youtubers just create content for money. I always ask myself how I can do that.
@@Ghostman80 you're so welcome... if you feel passionate about sharing about a certain topic or your life just give it a try. What do you have to loose? I wouldn't just do it for the money though, because it takes a lot of time, effort and passion and it can take time to get monetized. I think you're on the right track with changing your thinking, it's all about that. Trust your passions and take little steps towards it. Keep me updated, you've got this. :)
Question: How is possible to connect with people that can truly provide emotional support to me? And build apon beneficial human relationships, when I am still experiencing social & emotional burnout?
I still continuously and heavily experience not wanting to be social, not feeling the desire mostly (I don't understand whats happening). From time to time I experience feeling the desire to comment on people's social posts, across the web. But I still have these frequent moments where I don't want to socialize, either verbally or in written form.
I am pre-judging myself as I write this comment, because I sense that I may not naturally feel inspired to comment back to you (a frequent occurrence for me), if you were to respond to me. It seems as though an aspect of me is socially done with being social. I am strongly confused and frustrated with my unknown experience.
@MERCERENiTY hey dear, thank you for your question. I know this is vulnerable and I'm proud of you for daring to share it. I just recorded a video to answer this question because it feels really important and helpful to talk about this for many people, so let's let them in on our conversation. One thing I haven't shared in the video that just came to mind (and which is a little more spiritual): from what you're sharing, you're in a stage of recalibration where you're needing alone time to meet yourself deeper and purify, possibly even heal from past social relationships. So also take this opportunity to check in what kind of social relationships would feel good. what are those people like? what kind of activities are you doing together etc... when we don't have energy to spend our time as we used to, there is usually the need for different kinds of interaction and when we spend time alone we get to acknowledge those "new" needs that come to the surface. Get curious and just know you deserve love and connection. Go to places and spaces that make you feel good and sooner or later you'll make new friendships that make you feel connected and held. The foundation is always being ourselves and sometimes when we're still a raw wobbly egg it feels more vulnerable .... then we gotta take that cooking time and simmer in the water till we're hard boiled and ready to go back out into the world. (haha I hope that makes sense) all the best to you. PS: you do not have to answer to this message if you don't feel like it. ;)
@@VanessaNaumann27 Yes, it make 1000% sense 😊. I so like the receiving of that validation, in regards to me responding back or not. I feel safe, after receiving all the validations & confirmations.