Mel Robbins ON: If You STRUGGLE With Stress & Anxiety, This Will CHANGE Your Life! | Jay Shetty
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- Опубліковано 4 тра 2024
- Today, I am talking to Mel Robbins. Mel is one of the leading voices in personal development and transformation and a New York Times Bestselling author. Her work includes "The High 5 Habit," "The 5 Second Rule," four #1 bestselling audiobooks, the #1 podcast on Audible, as well as signature online courses that have changed the lives of more than half a million students worldwide. Her groundbreaking work on behavior change has been translated into 41 languages and is used by healthcare professionals, veterans’ organizations, and the world’s leading brands to inspire people to be more confident, effective, and fulfilled.
This time, Mel generously shares her thoughts on why people are unhappy and steps they can take to find genuine and lasting happiness, how to deal with our inner voice that's focus on negativity, why dreams are called directional signals, and the truth behind the struggles most of us go through as adults.
What We Discuss:
00:00:00 Intro
00:04:41 Why am I holding on to the things that are making me unhappy?
00:13:58 The constant drumbeat of negativity
00:21:56 Engaging in your own campaign of misery
00:36:50 Difference between dream and delusion
00:50:04 Parental mismatch
00:57:48 Girls struggle with crippling perfectionism
01:02:21 Confidence is the willingness to try
01:09:53 Why it’s easier to question how somebody’s changing
01:16:19 How to find happiness again
01:21:45 Verbal acknowledgement of the little achievements
To everyone reading this Keep going. No matter how stuck you feel, no matter how bad things are right now, no matter how hopeless & depressed you feel, no matter how many days you have spent wishing things were different. I promise you won't feel this way forever. Keep going.
Ahhh needed this !! You won’t feel this way forever right ! Day by day !
But its not possible by everyone because all one as equal situations .
My only struggle is it gets better and then worse and then better.. its the cycle.. and I know I’m not alone in that
Thank you❤
Thank you! You keep going too!
To anyone reading this, I hope that whatever is bothering you or that you are constantly worried about gets better. May all negative thoughts, overthinking, and doubt leave your mind right now. May clarity triumph over obscurity. May your life be filled with peace and calm.
Thank you so much for the beautiful prayer!!!!💜 SO THOUGHTFUL!!!💜
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For me it's being worried that I'll never find true love and get married
"One of the greatest gift's of being adult is separating is separating from your parents and deciding how you wanna talk to yourself"
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As a psychologist myself, I can say that every single point of wisdom Mel robbins makes is SO accurate. In my counselling sessions with clients, i teach them almost the same principles. Keep spreading the wisdom Mel and Jay, you guys are truly doing God's work!!!
It is so interesting how terms like self-help, therapist/therapy, life coach, and wellness can absolutely change people's receptiveness to the main messages of positive growth.
P.S. Fatima, please remind yourself on those really difficult days (speaking from one healthcare provider to another) that you are appreciated and loved because of who you are and not for what you do for others. I wish someone had told me this decades ago.
@@HeartofaHummingbird thank you, that means a lot
@Fatima_T - can you please let me know if you pursued psychological in India?
A therapist of mine said the same thing about "fake it until you make it." She said reframe that to be "believe it until you become it."
I love Mel’s honesty and ability to share her own imperfections to help others learn about themselves.
We should all be able to do this !! And I agree.. if not to anyone.. find someone to share it with ! ❤
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Mel Robbins is one of my greatest inspirations! I started to help people because of her. Thank you for this amazing interview Jay!
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What’s the solution give me five solutions she describes to transform your mind which would transform your actions and your life!
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"Your dreams actually can't leave you, they're meant for you." Powerful words Mel. Thank you both for this inspiring podcast!
Im going through this right now. Im convinced I cant take care of a dog and ive been dying for one for years. Now I just tell myself I cant do anything and other people have a better life than I do because they dont have anxiety. This podcast made me cry.
I wish you good luck with believing in yourself! You can do it!🌺
"Your dreams won't leave you because they are meant to you "♥️
I have recently learned that the key to be happy is to find the balance.
I'm a strong believer, that we see things when we are ready. I watch your podcasts all the time, but I can across this one today even though it was posted 7 months ago and God only knows how much I needed this. Its almost as if, Mel and you spoke about everything I've been asking the universe for a few weeks now. I quit my job 4,5 years ago, followed my purpose, but sometimes because we don't see the results in the physical world, we feel like its not there. You both gave me hope, and I feel fueled by faith again. I also believe that everything happens FOR you, not TO you. This happened for me, and I claim it.❤
The further along the path of recovery from depression I get, the more I've come to appreciate my parents and the role they played in supporting me and this episode has just elevated that respect. A lot of the things that Mel mentioned you should do, I've noticed them doing over the last 12 months as I've begun to stand on my own two feet again so I wanted to extend a huge thanks to yourself, Jay, and Mel for deepening my respect for, and recognition of, my parents and all they've done to support me over the last few years.
The honesty is always refreshing especially in a landscape in which many of us feel pressured to only share the most socially acceptable happy sides of ourselves and hearing someone share honest struggles with zero hesitation is refreshing to hear and see, I hope Mel and all who are currently having a hard time feeling happy learn how to create a space in which happiness is the strongest default. I'm inherently positive, loving and supportive and those who have been in my presence in person seem drawn to me and uplifted but I struggle to feel happy, you wouldn't be able to tell in person I'm not a downer I'm often very encouraging towards others but I've been through a lot of stuff thus I have to work on being happy from within and sadly this is the case for many people there are no quick fixes it's an on going learning process in terms of understanding what we can do to help us become more happy and content. Edit I love what Mel said regarding dreams being directional signal that's a cool perspective makes sense.
Mel is so real you can’t even tell she’s been at this for as long as she has. I love how she shares her testimonies so bravely and authentically. She doesn’t care how it makes her look or sound to people who are just looking to judge and take apart her perspective as long as it’s a testimony that can help someone who is actually listening and trying to learn ON PURPOSE. It’s really helpful to know that even after all the work she does for her own personal mental health she’s still humble enough to say - Hey I said some shitty things to my husband last week etc ..
it’s like whoaaa! We’re all just growing it never stops. It’s just about calling yourself out and as Jordan Peterson says “ treat yourself like someone you care about “ by the jay! You gotta bring JP on he’s my media dad! There are some celebrities like big Sean and Trevor Noah who really get this game of life and I REALLY took away a lot from them they were my favourite podcasts of 2022 by the way. But if they’re not as informative as them I think bringing experts and real teachers instead of some famous person on the contrary will be more entertaining. Anyway jay your doing great! Thanks for anther awesome episode. Mel is a real one! Bring her on again!
This all is so relatable. I've always struggled to stay in the moment.. on the court..on the trail. I'm such an overthinker and always looking at the end goal instead of how fun the journey getting there is. It makes me doubt myself and talk myself out of starting things because I'm afraid of failing. I need to remind myself how fun the process is even if I fail or don't reach the "goal" at the end 😌
Mel has a really great skill in taking intangible concepts, often brought up in mental health, and making them more understandable and attainable. I've always struggled to understand what exactly confidence was supposed to be. It always sounded like having belief in oneself despite not knowing whether you had an ability to do something or whether the outcome would be successful. Defining confidence as a 'willingness to try and the belief in what you are doing' makes so much more sense. There's no innate skill requirement or need to be anything but who you already are. Confidence is a mindset that's available to everyone. Definitely going to subscribe to Mel's podcast and looking forward to more gems of wisdom like this!
Mel: why am I focusing on tomorrow when I am not even here right now
That hit me hard!!! Love to all!❤️❤️🌷🌼🌼🌼
Am so blessed to find this podcast. Last year got diagnosed with Cancer and did double mastectomy. Thank you so much Mel Robbins for saying STOP LISTENING TO CAMPAIGN MISERY in our head! ❤️🙏🏻 it’s awakening for me. Like my therapist also mentions that Chaos=Cancer. Godspeed 🙏🏻🙏🏻
I just came across this video today. It’s so eye opening. I feel I’ve been in the stands my whole life. My anxiety keeps me from stepping into the court. I want so badly to be on the court. I’ve always been told there is no trying and just doing. But I now see that I can try and just by doing that I’m moving forward. I’m terrified to fail and I find it incredibly sad that my anxiety has been so strong that it has been holding me back from pursing my dream. I don’t want to be stuck anymore.
Thank you Mel & Jay for a wonderful enlightening session. "Draw a line on a piece of paper, write the experiences that gave you happiness. Take the steps to complete one of the same actions you did that made you happy." "Acknowledge your smallest accommplishments." I believe "happiness" is overrated. I like the feeling of seeing others joyful or confident, and it brings me peace and satisfaction when I can help others achieve there goals. My job now is to "Defeat the campaigns of misery" I participate in. Compassion, transparency, integrity and accountability for all!😁😎😷🙋♀️
Hi Mel, I love when you spoke about your child, being your love, and letting her spread her wings and grow as you spoke with tears in your eyes and cracked voice. I am a mother of a only and I am myself and 55. My daughter is soon to be 21 she commutes to college and I do know that someday she is going to be on her own just knowing that I know I will be OK And I’ve learned so much in this podcast that I want to thank you so much keep doing what you’re doing. It’s helping and making a difference out in this world❤️
It’s insane how much this all resonates with my life right now. Thank you both for this honest conversation!!
Love love love Mel…I can always relate to her!!! It’s like she’s talking about me but it’s so many people 💙
This conversation has hit me in a way I didn’t expect & I feel grateful for that ❤️ thank you both for taking the time to have this conversation & sharing it with the world
I'm in my early 40s and I feel all of this so hard. Mel gives me so much hope and motivation. I listen to her podcast or podcasts she is being interviewed on every morning.
I love how the perfect content pops up at the exact moment I need it! Seriously ALL the content you present is SO relevant at every moment 💗💗💗
This has been one of the most insightful videos I have EVER come across. I have just started reading think like a monk to start my journey to find myself and inspiration too. It’s been a difficult month but this makes me feel I’m not alone. To anyone reading this.. let’s think of our next step and work towards that. ❤
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
YES very sure of bergwilly11__. I have the same experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD and addiction and Mushrooms definitely made a huge huge difference to why am clean today.
I wish they were readily available in my place.
Microdosing was my next plan of care for my husband. He is 59 & has so many mental health issues plus probable CTE & a TBI that left him in a coma 8 days. It's too late now I had to get a TPO as he's 6'6 300+ pound homicidal maniac.
He's constantly talking about killing someone.
He's violent. Anyone reading this Familiar w/ BPD know if it is common for an obsession with violence.
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Microdosing helped me get out of the pit of my worst depressive episode, a three year long episode, enough to start working on my mental health.
The work you two are doing in the world is a godsend! Minute 58, Mel you brought me to tears!!!! Thank you both for the gift of insight, self acceptance that blooms into aggressive self love and love for others. Your two podcasts are my “church”.
Thank you both so much - you are both holding up lights that are sending ripples far and wide into the world, bless you
And on the 60% bit... I CANT EMPHASIZE THIS ENOUGH! so glad she talked about this. I had to realize this and once I did the whole world opened up. Apply for all the jobs, even if you are under qualified from the posting (wishlist is perfect word for this) it never hurts to apply, they don't have to respond. But what if THEY DO! it's a game changer. You can always learn as you go, I'm a graphic designer and was honest about the programs I knew, and my job encourages me to learn other ones on the job to help expand my knowledge and skills which they directly benefit from. Always can self teach yourself from UA-cam or whatever if you feel there are areas you want to improve. But never let the job posting not being 100% you discourage you.
It’s hard to truly appreciate what you have without comparing it to what you could lose. The trick is to not let the grief of knowing what can be lost over consume you.
I love how Mel Robbins explained what confidence is. It's just having the courage to try. It stuck with me and I do agree.
I first listened to Mel talking about the 5 sec rule at Diary of the CEO podcast. The rule has been helping me so much, particularly with dealing with loss and other aspects that I've been struggling with. So great to get to listen to her and Jay, which is another one of ny favs podcaster 💗
Thank you Mel for all your information and insights and inspiration. Following you now for quite some time with life being very challenging as a single mother, children and one with special needs. Need all the wisdom and motivation I can get to stay well and healthy. Mel and Jay keep up the great work. You help so many,it’s astounding. 🙏👍💕
You guys just spelled my brain out with words, im so gratefull this will change my life
Completely resonate with Mel especially on the part on starting a podcast, the loneliness and desire to connect on deeper level. I'm a new fan!! Not getting Jay, you are such an inspiration. There is soo much to learn from you and I'm looking you up as a role model. Thank you so much, Jay, Mel! Bless you - Luv, Rachel.
If you wanna be successful, you must take responsibility for your emotions, not place the blame on others. In addition to making you feel more guilty about your faults, pointing the finger at others will only serve to increase your sense of personal accountability. There's always a risk in every investment, yet people still invest and succeed. You must look outward if you wanna be successful in life...
Absolutely. Market success requires emotional maturity
The first step to successful investing is figuring out your goals and risk tolerance either on your own or with the help of a financial professional but is very advisable you make use of a professional
I trade as a side hustle while keeping my job. I'm tired of trading in losses myself. I've blown my account twice and it's frustrating. I see people making a living out of trading and I want to do the same. Please I need help can someone teach me how to trade?
the market is profiting if you are using a good broker or account manager to help out with trades or provide signals
I'll recommend Expert Mrs. Theresa Walton to you. She's the best I've seen. She trades my fx account and makes me good profits weekly
Love that Mel is always unedited and honest. Jay of course amazing and calming to listen to. So glad I found this and subscribed to both.
I love your conversation around getting into the court of life. Very profound and inspiring.
Oh my goodness! I'm literally experiencing the whole it's one way or the other. Like Ive felt for so long... That I had to choose one way for my education for the career I've been searching for of where I'm meant to be. I absolutely love that this talk session is so clear and opens my mind to acceptance!!
I am so deeply appreciative for the depth of vulnerability it took for you both to create this conversation together. Thank you for the profound conversation you have helped to start in me.
Thank you Jay & Mel, you’ve moved me. Stumbling on this today sparked something in me and I smiled deeply in appreciation of your conversation.❤
This is the best wake up call, I've been living in the campaign of misery. This interview challenged me. Thank you
I saw that previous episode with Mel Robbins, loved that, loving it now, she is amazing❤
Love Mel's honesty, and this interview was so eye-opening. Thank you for sharing. Love you both.
This podcast feels absolutely so relatable to me ....
I did start indulging in campaign of misery .... I just sit in stance and think about what I am able to do instead of being on the ground and playing ....
Thanks for this eye opening podcast.... it is a lot helpful to me 🙂🙂
I have to before anything else is said that you have 100% saved my life. Literally made me feel like I want to crawl out of my darkness and get out of bed feeling like I mean something to myself, not just quit life. And thanks to you, and Mel Robin's I've drawn so much respect and appreciation for your love, work, and wisdom. Thank you for helping me save myself. I'm using the skills that you provide and educate me on. I am regaining my hope and light slowly but surely ❤ Thank you so very much for love of all, my heart is so full and Grateful ❤
Thank you for pointing that out about the distractions to cope with not being happy. That explains my past shopping habit. I agree with having the kind going 1000 miles a minute, looking for what is wrong in many situations wanting to fix things. I am never satisfied as well. I also am working on that at the same age. 🙌🏽
OMG! Jay, thank you for asking this question about the difference between a dream and delusion. I am so stuck in my life path.
Yesssss... we all have negative imprints from childhood. This is what I seek to heal in me and in my clients. So we can live free and full in the moment. Love listening to Mel Robbins
Being in the moment is difficult for everyone. Compassion, transparency, integrity and accountability for all!
Man what do I say. I listened to this podcast at the exact time I needed it the most. Lately I've been indecisive and in a dilemma. The line that Mel said, "Dreams are not meant to be achieved. They're a signal from a chapter from your future to work towards them." This line flushed away all the dilemma that I've been facing. Hopefully I'll meet y'all on the other side. Till then, all the best to everyone who's trying to make their dream a reality.
Love Mel Robbins. Thank you both for sharing your wisdoms, it’s much appreciated by people like us. ❤
Oh dear, these podcast is really, really the one that I needed. I'm crying cause I found the treassure. Thank both of you. You are great.
Love Mel! Thank you Jay for bringing her on. You both are doing a great work. You both constantly help change my perspective.
I’m in my 34th year hopeless no certificate no future no money no my own family still working as waitress for more than 5 years day by day fell down even when I’m listening to this video can’t relate even I’m writing this with so many mistakes cuz I can’t master English even though I’m trying for years to learn, I feel really unhappy 😢
The energy you both bring, amazingly uplifting!
Jay, Ive been watching your podcasts for quite some time and what amazes me, is how you LISTEN, HEAR, FEEL AND UNDERSTAND every word the other person says, and NEVER interrupt....you are one awesome young man.
I spent part of my day earing you both! Than you!!!
Mel is always such a great listen. Full of gems. Loved this episode.
I need one more video with Mel, she is a genius and has ingenious ideas. Love her... Thanks Jay for deep questions and amazing almost hour and a half of my life!!!!🥰🥰🥰
" avoiding the thing that is inside you, doesn't make the dream go away it just creates more pain." wow ! a word !
Two of my favorite influencers together on this podcast? So friggin excited. Loved every second of it. Thank you both for being so honest and real.
When I’m forgetting stuff 😅I watch Jay , also watch Mel Robins to back to my routine, to settle down 😅😂 to do actions ❤ rather than sitting and judging others. Thank you for sharing this beautiful interview ❤
I literally LOVE listening to Mel Robbins, she's keeps it so real and there's no pretence or sugar coating in her words, and that's something that's SO important to create REAL progress in life. Thank you for having her on again, this was a truly informative talk
I needed this, thank you. I´ll keep pushing through to get my dreams come true.
I have to watch this over and over again this really apply to my wife and i. This really help thank you so much. Great great content. You guys are the best!! Thank you
These podcasts are changing my life and I am so grateful.
So needed all things explained about lasting happiness & confidence! Keep up great podcast episodes in this coming year 2023!
Mel thank you so much I needed that last bit on how to get back to happiness again.
Wow! I just needed this morning. I am in the worst time of my life right now and listening to Mel Robbins and Jay Shetty talking on how to get out on the stand, making me realize I need to do that. Getting out of misery campaign is such a great terminology. I am only half thru this podcast video and I needed to just say Thank you to both of you to share this.
Mel’s wisdom is just 🧡
Mel is amazing, she mixes humor, wisdom, personal experience, self-awareness with research, that's why her conversations are magical and powerful.Jay thank you for this interview.
Thank you for this deep conversation and teaching!
I am psychologist and all I can say is YES! AMAZING episode and so many important topics covered in a user friendly, digestible way! I will be revisiting this one from time to time. Thank you!
God must be the center of our lives. The more we make him our focus, the more things will come together for us.
This is the best podcast I have ever listened to in my life! The advice and insight has opened my eyes to life- thank you so much
I never asked myself why do leaves fall in the autumn. You really are a wonder woman. Thank you for sharing. Amazing! 🤩
Hands down one of the best podcast that I’ve ever come across! Thank you guys for this eye opener ❤ much more power to you!
Two beautiful souls in one place. I love you guys. Mel thank you so much for this
I really loved listening to this podcast. Very uplifting and motivating for me. Thank you both so much!
I really like both Mel and Jay I do feel as though Mel is so for the people and her story within itself is so genuine. I adore her truly.
I SO understand your feeling & emotions about your daughter. I miss my Mom SO much as she past away unexpectedly during the beginning of Covid! No words! She is/was my best friend, my champion & my everything! I love ❤️ this message. Thank you! I love you Mel & Jay!!
So sorry for your loss. Thank you for listening and commenting!
I Sure Do Understand!When I Lost My Mom,I Lost A part Of My Soul ❤
Thank you so much to you both for such an amazing interview 🙏🙏
Powerful. So many things had my mouth open
One of the most insightful conversations ever!! Learned so much from this!!
I'm happy to hear this.This episode helped put my mind at ease.Thank you very much.❤🙏
LOVÈ IT!!!! I am starting my weekend full of gratitude. Thank you so much to you both
Thank you so much for this conversation.
What a wonderful conversation between Mel and Jay. I have gained tools that I can definitely use in my relationships and have also learned valuable information on how to work on myself. Thank you
Wow, this podcast has had me in absolute tears. Thank you Mel Robbins and Jay shetty!
You two are my favorite! I love seeing you two together in a setting like this!
Absolutely love it. Thank you so much Jay and Mel for sharing the knowledge and the love 🙌🏽🙏🏽🤩💗
I love this conversation.
So powerful words👏🏻👏🏻.
THANK YOU BOTH.. for this. This words just came to mi life when ineeded the most.
i seriously love this woman!!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Such a great podcast! Thank you! Love Mel and her advice. ❤
It's so resonate with me..I almost cried from time to time. It was like therapy session. Thank you so much. Many things I need to think about and work out. Really apriciated for such a great time with both of you.