5 TYPES OF PEOPLE WHO GET TRIGGERED BY THE INFJ
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- Опубліковано 11 лип 2024
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INFJ Life Coach Lesson: INFJs: no need for a makeover to fit others' comfort zones. Let those struggling to handle us choose: adjust or find joy elsewhere. Today, we explore 5 types who might struggle with INFJs - their challenge, not ours. Stay true, dear INFJs!
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What is your experience with people having a hard time "handling" you as an INFJ?
When people do not understand how my thought patterns work they project uncertainty by making assumptions about my personal interests or they point out certain sensory characteristics of me which they know are true. They try to fall back on what is known about me in the physical sense because they will never understand the unpredictability of my mental behavior.
They see something happening behind all the flesh that differs greatly from the norm they are used to but they are not able to pinpoint what exactly. People have a hard time dealing with this and they feel the need to test me many times, although it has no effect.
its why i have no friends irl
Oh, you should have just called this "Why does my dad hate me?".
@@MegaCyberleaderWhat the hell are friends?
The truth. 15:21 💪❤️🙏😇
Beginning to realize only infjs truly understand infjs.😂😭
Im infj and autistic 😭😭😭
See what it's like with an ENFP 😌❤😌
@SD-rm5ty - I agree with you.
I think ALL of US are extra sensorial, neurodivergents! I’m Highly Sensitive Person, still on Spectrum!
Hahaha…. Don’t tell none 🤣🤣🤣
Narcissist can't handle INFJs
That's why they break us. They want to be us, but since they can't, they do second best (to destroy us).
See right through them all the time.
Yup!!
I would add to this list, people who lack depth and emotional awareness. Shallow people who can only connect on a surface level.
Yes
Absolutely!
Another type is the person who refuses to develop their abstract, or intuitive, functions. Some people are bright enough, but absolutely refuse to go there.
“Therapists, experts, authority, people who don’t think for themselves”
Yes, I agree with your list. Basically 99% of the world.
I realize from being on Social Media. Most ppl are sheep. I was just created differently. I am an independent thinker and I don't follow trends nor feel the need to impress or prove anything to others. I see the whole of a person and often recognize agendas in depth. I thank God for that gift because I see how blessed I am. I agree.
Same. This is why i deleted fb. Its a dystopian platform full of ignorance 😂
@@etcwhatever Agree. I also deleted mine. 😂
I believe the technical term is “Sheeple” lol
@@etcwhateversamehere 😅😅
Did I write this and you erased my name? Ha..ha
I have never agreed with a comment 100% word for word on YT and your post is the first. Congrats!
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The beauty of that is when the other people who they consider Normal broke them down they come to you
I can’t be controlled or dominated.
I recently realised this too and it changed everything.
True to that, good point
Someone literally told me one time that I was "too much". I didn't understand it at the time, but thanks to you, I understand it now. I'm not too much, I was just too much for him to handle. It's his issue, not mine. Thank you for all you do! 😊
My daughters have said that to me🤭
Mama you’re intense just by being you🤷🏻♀️
Yes TOO MUCH HEY 👋 😊😊❤ 12:40
I've always been a lone wolf. You can even go as far back to high school and I would have friends in all social groups and enemies but never be in a group but that never stopped people trying to classify me. This happens wherever I go half the people love me and half hate me. It used to hurt and I never knew why people hated me but it wasn't until I got older that I realized it's because of their own weaknesses that they hate me.
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People are gonna people. That’s never going to change. I used to feel hurt by it, now I just accept it. It is what it is.
These days, I barely have enough energy to move about through my own days, anymore. So, out of sheer necessity, I’ve been blessed, via my crappy health, with being forced out of allowing myself to give a care about everyone else’s issues, with me or otherwise.
Universe has physically forced me to stop worrying about everyone else’s everything, all the time😅🤦🏻♀️
Same. Auto immune disease gone wild...you forget about others opinions very fast.
@@etcwhatever Sorry about that. I hope you find a good, balanced management routine which can help you find the peace and comfort you deserve, as much as possible.
@jane1891 - Same thing happened to me, I had a majour health problem and it forced me to take care of me, and no one else.
It's not my fault although it has taken much of a lifetime to realise that. Thanks Wenzes
Same!!
I also feel like if someone doesn’t want to be in my life or if I don’t think they should be in my life. Show them the door. They don’t need to be a part of our lives.
Most of the time they don't deserve to be in our lives anyway.
I show them the door the minute I realise they are a narc (which sometimes happens 2 hours after I meet them).
I only wish I had heard someone tell me this years ago. So ,many years banging my head against brick walls . Thank you!
I say the same thing. I wish I knew all of this in my teens.
Ditto
Same.
I'm 61 years old. The older I have become the more comfortable and confident I am at just being the Sigma INFJ-T that I am without accommodating the desires of others for my being. I don't live my life for 'likes' in life or on social media platforms.
I got to know someone that was very popular and I was looking at the people that were following this person as mindless and just going along with everything this person did without question. I on the other hand saw through them in time and expressed that in what I thought was a friendly way. Well that didn't work and now was pushed away hard as the followers keep on following with no questions. I think I have had interactions with every type of person mentioned. Some are fake and others just like me as I am. Those are the ones that we want to stay with. Thanks Wenzes this was a good one and helping me to understand that I don't have to worry about what others think of me and just enjoy my life as I want. Ken
Unfortunately I married someone who is a combination of all these traits. I chose to divorce him because he kept getting more and more aggressive as I relaxed into myself. The more I am myself, the more he avoids me and by extension our three young children who live with me. He doesn't have to but he does. 😢 It's hard for me to accept that no matter what I do, he will make his own choices about how he parents our children. I will likely end up with full custody and all the decisions about how much time they spend with him will be up to me. I don't even want this much power or responsibility but he pushed it onto me. I'm learning to take 100% reaponsibility for the children. It's very hard to draw those boundaries and let things fall as they may. It's hard to have faith that I'm enough for my children, and that if I focus on my well being and theirs, that we will all be ok.
I was always taught that I wasn't enough, and that I needed other people's energy to "balance" me or I become too much. And honestly, they aren't wrong.
Being myself means I have to constantly encounter the resistance of the world against me. It's a lot. I don't know if I want this life for my children. I don't know if being myself is worth more than inclusion and group "safety".
It doesn't actually matter though because I don't actually have a choice. And I think that's what bothers me the most. I'm PDA autistic and being forced to "be who I am" doesn't seem fair or just. I should be free to be whoever I want! And I am free but I'm also not. I'm limited by my energy. I will likely end up choosing myself 😂😂😂 but it NEEDS to be my choice. How do I rationalize that? I will ask my guru chatGPT 😂
I have been through where you've been and it's one of the biggest obstacle to get through in life. You have to truly make the biggest decision for yourself to let you learn from it.
I am not able to give you any advice to do this or that. People, especially INFJs, need to experience it first hand in order to understand and that experience cannot be robbed from you.
I could advice you that INFJ is a clever and talented human, we have our own logic working based on our own moral values that may be against how the world works(mostly work settings) but that doesn't necessarily mean it won't work in our own social circle. We also have the power to hold both the worldly view and our own views and use them whenever needed but this needs training. Instead of trying to logic or rationalize your way out which how it works in the world we grew up in, we empathetic creatures are very emotional and we actually have to learn EQ knowledge to take control of our own emotions and making use of its fullest potential to blend into our current world.
Emotions blind us with our own logic as well as the people around us who uses their logic to project onto us even if they seem to be grounded and in control(it may be a trait of repressed or dismissal of their own emotions making them look mature and superior but it's actually a narcissist trait to take control, which also may manifest into a form of gaslight).
*Take note: A truly wise individual will not make anyone feel any tension with their own mindset. Anyone can agree to disagree and move on with a light heart even for differing perspective but a wise one will never go against your own experience/perspective.
By learning EQ knowledge, you will learn to step into the world of others while able to retain your own and also be able to control the outcome of any social situation without feeling that everyone is going against you anymore because we can't stop that but we can change how we look at that situation from another perspective.
I was impressed by people who didn't fit the "norm" of their peers and yet stayed themselves. That's bc I believed I have to hide who I am to survive. But if it wasn't true for everyone it wasn't true for me neither. Differences are to be celebrated not hidden.
I have been looking at your videos for years and I noticed a change in your personality over the years too, Wenzes.
You now talk in a calm and collected manner voicing out your opinion instead of projecting it. As though you were holding onto many past, regrets and baggage that have finally let go of and experiencing life to its fullest.
I am an INFJ-A, I recognize this as the high form of an emotionally mature INFJ. I have no idea if there are even higher form but I'll be looking forward to more improvement along the way.
What is a INFJ-A ??
I’ve been seeing this lately, I tested many years ago and it wasn’t a part of the Myers-Briggs testing that I know of lol
I took that test twice bc I didn’t want it to be INFJ🤦🏻♀️just bc life has been hard already, I’ve excepted now but it took a bit of time
@@DianeFord-ff2kpThe fifth letter referred as the "modifier," is used to denote an individual's level of assertiveness or flexibility in their Judging (J) or Perceiving (P) function.
A - Assertive: An INFJ with the A modifier tends to be more relaxed, adaptable, and open to new experiences. They may be more spontaneous and flexible in their approach to life, preferring to go with the flow rather than rigidly sticking to plans.
T - Turbulent: On the other hand, an INFJ with the T modifier may exhibit higher levels of stress, perfectionism, and self-doubt. They might be more sensitive to criticism and more prone to overthinking situations. They may also have a stronger drive for achievement and success.
These modifiers add nuance to the INFJ personality type, highlighting differences in how individuals within the same type might navigate the world and interact with others.
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Assertive (A) INFJ
Pros:
1. Adaptability: An assertive INFJ is often more flexible and adaptable to changes in their environment or plans. They can easily adjust their approach and perspectives as needed.
2. Openness to Experience: Assertive INFJs tend to be more open-minded and willing to explore new ideas, opportunities, and experiences. They may seek out novel experiences and enjoy trying new things.
3. Lower Stress Levels: They may experience lower levels of stress and anxiety compared to their turbulent counterparts, as they are more likely to go with the flow and not get overly fixated on potential negative outcomes.
4. Enhanced Resilience: Assertive INFJs often display greater resilience in the face of challenges or setbacks. They can bounce back more quickly and maintain a positive outlook even during difficult times.
Cons:
1. Risk of Procrastination: Their adaptability and relaxed approach may sometimes lead to procrastination or difficulty in sticking to deadlines and commitments.
2. Less Drive for Achievement: They may be less motivated by traditional markers of success and achievement, as they are more focused on enjoying the present moment and exploring different possibilities.
3. Potential Lack of Direction: Assertive INFJs might struggle with setting clear goals and priorities, as they may prefer to keep their options open rather than committing to specific paths or plans.
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Turbulent (T) INFJ:
Pros:
1. High Standards: Turbulent INFJs often have high standards for themselves and others, driving them to strive for excellence and pursue personal growth and development.
2. Attention to Detail: They are more likely to pay attention to details and consider potential risks and pitfalls in their decision-making process.
3. Motivation for Success: Turbulent INFJs may have a strong internal drive for achievement and success, motivating them to work hard and pursue their goals relentlessly.
4. Preparedness: They are often more prepared for potential challenges or obstacles, as they tend to anticipate problems and plan ahead to mitigate them.
Cons:
1. Perfectionism: Turbulent INFJs may struggle with perfectionism, leading to self-doubt, anxiety, and dissatisfaction with their achievements.
2. Higher Stress Levels: They are more prone to stress and anxiety due to their perfectionist tendencies and sensitivity to criticism.
3. Rigidity: Turbulent INFJs may have a more rigid approach to life, finding it challenging to adapt to unexpected changes or uncertainties.
4. Overthinking: They may be prone to overthinking situations, which can lead to analysis paralysis and indecision.
Overall, both assertive and turbulent INFJs bring unique strengths and challenges to their personalities. It's essential for individuals to recognize their own tendencies and find ways to leverage their strengths while mitigating the potential pitfalls associated with their modifier. Finding a balance between assertiveness and flexibility, as well as between perfectionism and adaptability, can lead to greater overall well-being and success.
I am 78% A but I still do have traits of turbulent like overthinking(sometimes negatively), rigidity(wanting things to go my way or setting rigid boundary), high standard and attention to details. However a mature INFJ will be able to make use of these good traits and set a limit for ourselves to prevent these traits from taking control over us. Being to recognize signs to put a stop when it happens.
@@DianeFord-ff2kp I do agree the life of an INFJ is really hard. Great power comes with great responsibility. Accepting failure, mistake and flaws of everyone including yourself helps to relieve that. There may seem to have an eternal war inside you with your own moral values, once you've overcame it, you'll probably become the most beautifully hearted being walking on the land of earth.
@@TamagoEgg
Thank you for explaining all of this, it’s very helpful !!😊
@@TamagoEgg How do I go about finding out what letter represents me most?
Thanks Wenzes! "Stop making yourself look normal" That should sound worrying ... however, I tried normal but it didn't work for me. So now I do my own thing :)
Me too!
Side note: this shirt color is really pretty on you! It brings out the warmth of your skin tone and your eye color. Love that for you 😌💅🏽
Most of them walk away.
Facts. Or at least they try to. Even when they leave they have to fight themselves about it eventually. Most of the time they pop back up at some point.
You have the same tone as your last video. Not sure why, however, it's a different tone. More soft and caring, however a feeling of a lowness. Hope you're doing okay and nothing bad is happening in your life. Feel free to reach out if it's something you need to talk about. God blesses you, and is for you, especially in the mist of hardship.
You have helped so many, remember that many are here to help you out too, Wenzes!
Im not hard to handle. I cant be handled 😂 be honest, direct. No manipulation, no bS
Well said!
Omg I have that top.
I'm sorry to take the smile off you face but life is a hard fact of life ppl just hate up because they know we're different and better than all the rest
I pity the narcissist.
I don't and never will. I tried helping them and all they did was break me. There is no pity party for them from me.
@@bumblebee_mrs Amen! Avoid them. They are unworthy of your time.
I have a hard time with small talk. I hate it. I want to go deep immediately . So, if someone is greyrocking me, I move on quickly.
Dating is hard because I am what you would call qerky or "unique". I want to see that strange or even spooky part of others first thing. If they turn out to be boing and a poser, I just excuse myself and go home to read books and do magick.
Your discernment needs to be strong. The last quirky and unique person I met was a narcissist. Just be sure to stretch out the beginning in a slow vetting process....because they will mirror you and look like your twin flame on purpose, with malicious intent.
I get confused sometimes with distinguishing between INFJ & other personalities types + astrology. I understand what you mean! I too have struggled with this. Finding the balance has been the goal for me.
I stood up for all my coworkers when I found out we were being shorted hours. I made a huge scene at a safety meeting. My boss and supervisor talked to me after and my supervisor asked me if I was depressed 😂 I was like the only thing that I’m bothered by right now is how disappointed I am by you guys. And my supervisor told me how frustrated he is about how much I’ve been complaining lately and he said it takes a lot to make him frustrated . I bluntly said, “I know , you’re on anger medication” . He blew up at me and yelled that he’s been off of it for months and then he ran out saying that he was gonna tell the security guard and that they are gonna fire me for saying that 😂🤣 I was like “go for it” later I texted him and I said I was sorry if it sounded like a dig and that I was proud of him for getting off the meds. No reply. Pretty sure he’s just gonna distance 🤷♀️
"Too much"?---ahh the ole "insult his masculine pride" tactic. Fortunately, I have no pride! 😆
Thanks!
YOU are the Best Asset to for me. Thanks to Utube. It was more than worth it paying for the subscription ❤
I have experienced a recent awakening and found my exact purpose, both as a human and parenthetically as an INFJ: Set an example of freedom to be YOU by being absolutely 100% ME!!!!! This great, big, beautiful light of mine? O! I am going to LET IT SHINE!!!!!😁
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Thank you Wenzes.
Wenzes, thank you for another superb video!
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sometimes i feel like a nuclear fueled ice breaker. Forcing through no matter what, in a icy hard environment, powered from the core.
Great stuff! Thank you.
Thank you, Wenzes! I am catching up on your latest, after being otherwise occupied. I pray you stay safe, and well! Ocho 8
Hi, Wenzes…I’ve been quietly watching. Thanks for this video :)
Superb Wenzes, such a respite. ❤
Thank you 🪷💕🪷
Amazing video!
I really could have taken all I needed from the thumbnail!! Yaaaaas❤
This is so helpful❤ as all of your videos, thanks Wenzes!✨️
You speak very well! Your video is very validating and answers some lifelong questions for me, thank you so much 💝
Perfect explanation!
@Wenzes thank you so very much. For this Sigma INFJ-T this has been by far the most insightful and useful of your videos.
I love the new presentation style that you have adopted.
Excited most days...
Am looking for an infj relationship, i have failed thrice because am misunderstood, am broken, this time maybe i try a fellow infj
Very helpful and well presented program, Wenzes. Thank you. For beginner INFJs, I REALLY recommend the book, "Good Inside" by Dr. Becky Kennedy. Use each chapter as a therapy sesson because.... each is a "Ah HA" moment. Blessings!
Thank you Wenzes ! You’re tops! 😊
Yes let them go/ ignore you. Who cares? Not me anymore 🎉
Exactly. Who needs them?
@@bumblebee_mrs 💓
Joined an INFJ Support Group on fb 2020. I commented advice. The only reply I got was "Get over yourself". I laugh a lot.
Nothing is coincidence when a type of people are mostly down in society and are not rising, there might be a loop a true cycle of events that is worth considering, i think we infjs are broad thinkers naturally free and joyful and that is our strength, unfortunately some of us get too rigid and it's evident once we are rigid we no longer radiate that light , more strain appears and what is worse we are the ones who miss out on great opportunities when great men appear we fail to recognise them , we are at fault since we are the ones who have the espectacular vision to find extraordinary persons who needs to be known and be friended🎉
I handle with care but I'm.not fragile
People are stupid.
Right on 🤜🤛✌️
What happened?
The worst is being an INFJ and the kids are triggered . Can you please make a video about being an INFJ parent please
Wenzeslawa: you seem to be talking more slowly and in a lower tone today. I hope that you are well. I checked that I had not inadvertently changed the UA-cam playback speed.
It's not our problem if they don't what we think, we are not here to live their lives and we have to be more selfish. We are just too much of a givers, we give away our secrets too easy and we are just to predictable and we fall down to that self esteem without thinking about the consiquences. We have to build our selves to the bad ass that we are, stop carrying about what others expect of you and go for what do you expect from your self. If we use our most precious time in solitude we can become the most powerful people on this planet, and we can use that for something good.
Mystic (MBTI test), Sigma (Male/Androgynous) , INFJ. I've taken many personality tests for fun. Are all INFJs Mystics/Sigmas too?
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I think on some level yes. I am Nonbinary, assigned Female at birth, a very free spirit and a bit of a libertine. I like to experience life. To top it off, I have a Scorpio rising and Leo midheaven. Someone told me once I was like Marilyn Manson in Betty Crocker's body. That is fairly accurate.
From what I’ve lived, come across & read imo I think so.
Also imo there’s a spiritual depth & hunger most just don’t get
@@DianeFord-ff2kp It's an awareness most don't reach. If an INFJ does their work. Their curiosity will lead right to those spiritual aspects. No doubt.
I am unnormal the unnormal one, even unnormal won’t like me, but I love it! Being myself is the most joyful thing to do😊..but still I like beings, there is always some good ones around😊
I have two girlfriends. One is INFJ T and one who is INFJ A. The T is far more sensitive and emotional and the A is emotional. I tested as INTP A. Our INFJ A girlfriend is a bit more reserved imaginative and chill yet can get anyone to smile. People gravitate towards her. INFJ T Girlfriend is a bit of a control freak worrysome loud and also can attract friends but she takes some dealing with she is an amazing and responsible women at that. Very thorough and both are EXTREMELY INTELLIGENT. We bump heads alot. Im an INTP A. HIGHLY INTROVERTED. How i have two girlfriends is beyond me. Yes it is challenging. But they are like two halfs of a brain and it made sense why after we all took the MBIT.
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I think infjs should hangout more it’s not impossible,maybe like a meet up and test to see if you’re an infj
Sounds exciting at first, second thought goes to how exhausting.. I'm already drained by the thought of it..especially if I were to meet someone who thinks like I do, endless deep conversations until the wee hours of the morning and having to recover from it for the next 3- 4 days 🥺🤔😅
@@KimMarshall44 why would you think they would be like you , i think that the experience would more informative, you need a better handle on your temperament
@@Blackgrimreaper2024 because I've already imagined it and it wouldn't be rocket science to figure that if you're watching possible personality type 😉
@@KimMarshall44 you sound more delusional than anything and just because you imagine something doesn’t make it true , sound like an unhealthy infj with self esteem issues imagine that
My comment got deleted smh I’m over this fake channel can’t even speak your mind but we can listen to her preach about infj but I can’t have an opinion about it what a joke one thing we don’t do is hide from the truth like I said fake channel
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Hi Wenzes, what temperament do you think the infj might be... I thinking Mel-San but Idk
Are you a Leo?
Eu prefiro estar sozinho e ser quem eu sou do que ter em minha companhia pessoas que querem que eu seja do jeito deles.
Me i just dont care anyone who r not in my inner world😂
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I guess my comments on other channels are too intense, if I give the benefit of a doubt.
But I'm not doubting myself much anymore. Nearly half a century of experience dealing with the people trying to make a mountain out of the superficial. Trying to steer me with contrivances. smh
What side does the fork go on the plate?
Whichever side you feel like putting it. 😂
The fork left the knife who ran away with the spoon. Fork on the left. lol
@duke3229 - I read all your comments and you are really funny, honest and a straight shooter. So good!
Essa é uma preocupação das mais idiotas no universo da etiqueta à mesa.
Dizem que o garfo deve estar do lado esquerdo, enquanto a faca e a colher do lado direito.
Penso que quem vai usá-los é quem deve decidir qual o lado mais confortável de se comer.🙄
Afinal de contas, a escolha por um lado de um utensílio por si só, não faz ninguém passar vergonha ou ser mal educado.🤷🏻♀️
I am not kind...
I am becoming less so . People take advantage of it
@@themountainsandthesea4121I think most of us get to that place by force.
@@bumblebee_mrs yes!
Aprendi a ser amigável com todos, mas que ser amigável é diferente de realmente ser uma amiga de alguém.
A realidade é que tenho colegas, apenas.
Amiga mesmo só minha mãe.
You expect others to adapt to you but you aren't willing to adapt to others. Sounds narsistic.
Go
Away.