5 SURPRISING SECRETS THE INFJ IS HIDING (RAREST PERSONALITY TYPE)
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What are some of your "INFJ secrets" that you barely ever share with others?
My love of psychology and spirituality. Not to mention all my other interests.
Definitely dissociating from my own life, even from my own apartment.
that we are indeed a very powerful mirror to others - it is something I did not discovered for a long time
I may be calm on the outside but on the inside my mind is chaos 🤯
All of the mentioned, most of all point 2, 3 and 5. It's really fascinating how things are so reversed in us as an INFJs, like our struggle to seem like good people not because of low self esteem and that uniquely reversed superiority complex that is making us taking more and more load because we think that we could take more than others. It's the same in point five. There is no other so superior dominance as the sigma dominance and we know it, but that is why it is so hard for us to use it in the right direction.
My solution to this problem is to shut out the world. I used to think it might not be healthy, but to be honest, for the INFJ, it is a necessity. We have a very, very rich inner world.
The comment section is the safest place for an INFJ. Good life, my fellow brothers in Christ.
Christ has nothing to do with this. ITs alll you.
@@MegaCyberleader I am not even a Christian.
I’m a Christian and an INJF. I’m so grateful I’m made this way, and immensely appreciative for being connected in this way with all my fellow INFJs. ❤👋
Love you all ❤❤❤
I know a secret only infjs know. There's a question you can ask people who are infjs that determines yes/no, with 99% accuracy. Does anyone know how to weed out people who want or think they are infjs
This is the proof we INFJs are very loyal just don’t destroy our respect for you.
Overcompensating, yes, I do that! Why? I like things done right, I like to help others, I like to share my gifts. But, I do know when to step back, to not give so much when it's not appreciated.
But our measurement is often unrealistic unattainable even for ourselves, being an idealist so we should be aware
Same here. I’m well into middle age.
It’s all about discernment and boundaries, which it took me a long time to learn.
Wow! #3 is so freaking true and it lands me in so much trouble especially with certain types of narcissists. My bad. Took forever to learn that it's ok to focus on my own happiness instead of others.
For me, when the reality of the pain of the current situation was greater than change itself; I changed.
So true 👍
The superiority complex is spot on. I have found that the rare times I have stepped out of this and placed myself first I always get grief from others and it is always me trying once to do what other consistently do. And they never get grief.Anyone else experience this?
Thats why others are misunderstood us INFJ like superiority but in a good way not being narcissistic
100% Dawn!!! I've dealt with the same s### consistently from users. Our kind nature isn't seen as kind, but rather weak and to be exploited by the wrongdoers. So when we replicate their behaviour, it's often met with extreme anger and disproval.
"We're safe."
This is also our dangerous place when it comes to narcissists. We're potentially a tasty little source of "supply" for them... Until we learn what our "Epic Life" can be.💜
I've used the term 'safe' for 30'ish years now when describing myself or when looking for other like-minded peole.
So true, so very true!
Exactly this trait..that we are safe..This is something we should start acknowledging severely more when it comes to ourselves. We tend to forget that beautiful gift of ours cuz..we be blind for it.. Till the moment people people start to take advantage of it..start abusing it for their own needs met
The most dangerouse game, Standing against narcssism.
Always the supply never the true love 😂
1:22 Secret #1
5:06 Secret #2
7:51 Secret #3
12:22 Secret #4
17:26 Secret #5
Now I can listen to it all over again. If somebody was wondering why I do that, the main reason - I have more than one - is that I can really take the information in, otherwise I would not retain it. And of course, I can not do that for every single videos she is publishing. And I share because I could simply grab my personal journal and write those timestamps there but I like to help people while helping myself. I kill two birds with one stone so why not?
the secret of 5 secrets.
Good idea.
@@lindateuling7862 Thank you for showing appreciation.
@@MegaCyberleader haha
@@MegaCyberleader Keep your sense of humor, love it.
That superiority complex got me 😅
Thank you Wenzes. Sometimes I feel like I'm getting free psychotherapy from your videos 😅 You really have a deep understanding of human, and especially INFJ nature. The superiority complex of being able to take more burden than others really rings a bell for me. Never heard it put that way. One of the things I obsess over is what kind of example I make for others. Pretty much all becomes a teaching moment and a lesson shaped specifically to the needs of the "student" that is observing me in the given moment.
It also rings my bell. It's a very huge sacrifice but even though it's kind of challenging and painful, I'm happy. I will accept this part of nature of INFJ, but not in a way that it's toxic to myself. And I hope you too. : ) mwuah
I don't need you to worry for me 'cause I'm alright
I don't want you to tell me it's time to come home
I don't care what you say anymore, this is my life
Go ahead with your own life, leave me alone
I’m not only INFJ but I’m autistic and have ADD as well as serious disabilities and disorders. So I’m doing my thing being out and open as an INFJ and people have VISCERAL reactions to me being ‘me’ which feels violent so I shut down and cry a lot
I won't pity on you as long as you DON'T pity on yourself.
depending on your age, you are probally not autistic and have ADD, as I have worked with people with those acutal problems, and they are NO WHERE near articulate as you are, based on your presentation of your comment. I used to think the same way, you are most likely very special in the way that you havnt discovered how to utilize your powers.
If they can’t get you for who you are then you don’t need them.
What I've noticed is that the people who hate us or feel threatened by us being real about who we actually are are actually too scared to be themselves. And seeing someone else do it freaks them out.
That sucks. I didn't hear someone say I was ADD till my late 50's&loss of 2nd home. I found out I'm INFJ with Electromagnetic Hypersensitivity in my 60's. Everyone has disappeared since we found out my Ex was a Spy, so I don't care if they can't handle me expressing myself anymore.🤷😃
I’m not concerned if people think of me as a “bad person”. This is not true, and personally I don’t question it. People can project whatever they want, I don’t believe it. I’ve met many people and am not super impressed in general. There are good people and they stand out because they are increasingly rare. Others deserve more is BS too. I have been protecting lately and if it is not praised, so be it. Well over all that!
You're most likely not an ifj.
I know a secret only infjs know. There's a question you can ask people who are infjs that determines yes/no, with 99% accuracy. Does anyone know how to weed out people who want or think they are infjs
@KESJEDWJ I took the test for the 1st time yesterday and was assigned this personality grouping. Would you be so kind as to let me know what it is please mate? I'm curious as to what it is lol.
@@KingDomsKingdom85 given the test results in conjunction with your life and experience and if you honestly assess and are aware of how your personality interacts with the world in society, would you change it? If you could test as a different personality type other than infj would you switch,?
@@KESJEDWJ as problematic as it can be, I still wouldn't. I like having a big heart and helping people. I see so many people who aren't empathetic and just cannot comprehend that, you know? I like being nice, even if it means I'm open to potential exploitation at times.
@@KingDomsKingdom85 well you might want to take the test again take it in different moods and take it over the course of time extended time you may be something else INFJs would trade in a heartbeat
I think this might be one of the best videos you have ever posted. Thank you very much for sharing.
"We're afraid that people will see us differently." VERY TRUE! That's one of the reason that keeps holding me back. Because, I know deep inside I'm capable of more than I could imagine. And I don't want to intimidate people or I don't want that the people I know can no longer find a common ground in me. Because the truth I'm really different and I'm aware of that. But, seeing this video is LIFE CHANGING. Thanks to God and thanks Wenze! Sooner or later, I will reach my full potential in God's graces, I pray in Jesus name!
Life has always been very hard for me as an INFJ and this channel makes me feel like I’m not alone anymore. Thank for your videos.
Thank you Wenzes! 😊
Interesting...I just recently went on a 2 hour drive with an old high school friend of which I haven't really socialized with for a few decades now. He drank booze before we left and smoked an alarming amount of cannabis whilst behind the wheel. And as per usual, I bore witness silently, and then recorded it in my journal later. Such reckless behaviour is shamefully abhorrent to me, and yet I allowed myself to almost disassociate from the entire situation, as to avoid damaging our fragile and notably (at least by me) melancholic rapport.
And admittedly, without intention, I found his weakness somewhat empowering.
I don't care to be empowered by the shortcomings of others, and have often reflected on the many ruthless retrospections akin to those aforementioned that I've experienced throughout my life, and yet, I cannot deny the feelings of superiority such interactions do, on occasion, enable within.
Great video Wenzes, bullseye!
What if nothing changes? I've asked myself that before, my answer was- Right time right place. Embrace impermanence and things will change. I'm prepared for things to get better and prepared for things to get worse. Most people find themselves wanting as opposed to simply being.
Trust me, it will when you make those iimportant decsisions.
wow, omg, seriously? !!! You hit the nail on the head. This is very, very important for us to recognize. Otherwise we can't be present with our own lives and we are living in a story we create ourselves instead.
Uh, I'm confused because I never felt this way as an infj!
do ya see all the colours of the wind? Yes, we all do.
This was a much needed video. Thank you
💯 and it’s so good to hear that 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 Those are facts not just OUR assumptions or feelings! Thank you Wenzes 💪❤️
Yes the Superiority Complex . I've noticed it in myself, and felt bad about it, and wondered where it was coming from and tried to "correct it" in myself. Somehow thinking that I was better than another person didn't really fit. Your explanation was comforting and enlightening.
This lady is a godsend at letting me know the correct way to navigate my introspective brain. What she said about always being the Martyr, as we know we can take it and dont want others to suffer when we could, is incredibly accurate.
Thank you Wenzes. #2
Thank you Wenzes for the video
spot on. Thank you for this.
So grateful to have found this channel! Thank you❤
Another excellent video. Inspires me to journal on several topics brought up here.
Thanks you!
I love you guys!❤
Thank you ❤
Perfect. Thank you
The first point you made stood out; I was always struggling to come across as a good person. Like a lot of young people I went through my share of self-doubt. Being raised in a very extrovert-preferred culture didn't help, either. But as I listened to this video, I realized that I actually did practice a lot of what you shared in this video without realizing anything about Myers-Briggs.
I believe that we INFJs are capable of designing behaviors and attitudes that will fit us and help us cope. Using good, sound logic along with our intuition, we can develop habits and insights to simply "be" a good person - and not have to "show" ourselves that way.
My lady, THANK YOU.
I realized all this way later in life, and now I think differently.
I never said you had to offer me a second chance
(I never said you had to...)
I never said I was a victim of circumstance
(I never said...)
I still belong (Still belong)
Don't get me wrong (Get me wrong)
And you can speak your mind
But not on my time
Don't Belong
People say I'm in the way
People say never betray
Oh when I've gone, when I've gone
You'll turn to me when I've gone, when I've gone
Need a little understanding for all I've done
In another situation I don't belong (belong)
Every day humiliate
Every way solemn in trait
Oh when I've gone, when I've gone
You'll turn the key when I've gone
Don't belong...
Need a little understanding for all I've done
In another situation I don't belong
Need a little understanding for all I've done
In another situation I would belong (belong)
Need a little understanding for all I've done
In another situation I don't belong
Need a little understanding for all I've done
In another situation I would belong (belong)
Paradise Lost - Don't belong [2005]
I have never ever in my life been in a relationship that the person knew me like you know, i guess i found out why i feel like an alien,,,, and therfore as an infj that can spot exactly what he needs, and goes for it i have to ask to marry me 😂😂😂
No worries i’m not weird i’m a Canadian INFJ.
Let’s embrace our kind!!!
Thanks for all your videos🎉
It may be just a hunch but I trully believe INFJ is kind of personality ppl develop because they were rejected by their caretakers very early on.
Oh yeah that's a definitely a reason. More answers surely in the books of Alice Miller. The NF gets created through trauma.
@@lextor4712 "funny" thing is that she herself abused her son. It really takes a lot of self awareness and work to be a person who does not repeats the story
I am alone most of my life
Same
Same
Becoming the same.
Grind alone.
I won't go all "Christian" on you, rest assured you're not alone. This has been a lifelong perpetual experience that depending on circumstances can make things better or worse. I've come to the place where I want a triple down on my weakness. I have a fear of abandonment. Do I die all those nights alone? No. Was it hard. Hell yeah. Did it make me a deeper, more complex, person? Definitely. In some of the harder moments I would do exactly what you are doing which is watch videos on personal growth and maturation. Anything to drown out cyclical thinking in the self-talk that's happening during loneliness helps a lot. Red wine doesn't.
Whats up INFJ family!!
Hi!
Helloo
I defeat the procrastination & fear to outshine by turning my focus onto the *Stunned mullet look i always get when i just let go & *Shine.
The hardest part though is deciding what is more important.... the shallow friend you are about to lose, cause you will or reaching your goal.
you will lose your friend/s through making them look stupid
Some people, who are not even infjs, but resonate with some parts really are pathetic and unlucky with love, soumates and twin frames, they seem to always beg for love, always putting so much effort to people who are just out there mocking them and don't even need them. Though, they're addicted to pain, I guess they'll be better some day.
I like the video you make 3 year ago
What do you mean
@@miloszgondekyou just asked yourself what you meant
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Thank you Wenzes
❤
When I drive a ford f-150 pick up truck I drive differently than I do when I’m driving a small car, or motorcycle, but I am neither of them, which brings us to the INFJ… Did we earn the right to inherit the body of an INFJ, or is it a tool that fits our experiences of past lives? It’s all interesting for sure.
If I wasn't a scapegoat, would I be an INFJ?
Happy birthday me
Happy Birthday! 🥳
Happy Birthday to You!!😊
Happy Birthday to you 🎶🎉 🎂
00:57 🎁 INFJs often struggle to see themselves as good people despite their efforts to be helpful and kind.
02:19 🧠 INFJs tend to overcompensate in social interactions to avoid making others uncomfortable, often neglecting their own needs.
08:07 🎭 INFJs may develop a unique superiority complex, feeling they must endure more struggles than others, which can hinder personal growth.
12:31 🌌 INFJs have difficulty connecting with their own lives, often avoiding facing reality and seeking escapism.
17:46 💪 INFJs hide their immense power, fearing how others will perceive them, but embracing it can lead to significant personal growth and fulfillment.
Intuition is the sum of many small details....
Or many very big ones.
The secret is a watch for universal patterns, And those patterns 99% of the time "or 99% the time I see" Tell me, like the pattern of Trusting my intuition. That one comes up all the time in patterns of 3's
infjs have no way out , wenzes explanation creates confusion 😢
I think her explanations are quite clear and helpful.
So if you had it figured out before Wenzes provided her clear explanations and examples, leading you to your confusion, what exactly are you doing here? Listen to her now. Understand her later. You have nothing to lose given your doomsday opinion of yourself and others.
You are not an INFJ
Whenever we are healthy we are the ones who chooses between various opinions which are closest to things that are really good , wenzes statements have a serious deviation according to me hopefully its a misunderstanding from my part since I wish her well , debates are not allowed in the world and among us that should not be the case , to be a critic is not necessarily a bad thing
But she is a young INFJ, remember this. She will grow and change, just as I did. And you will. We are actually more altruistic, than even we can believe, in our 30s. That’s the one thing I would share with her. She is a bit too harsh at times. But I was too, at her age, toward ourselves, and our “type”. I think she will find, as I have, that she was wrong, in some ways, to place the burden upon herself, when in reality, it truly is on others. This, however, presents a new conundrum for the INFJ. Sometimes the world around us IS in actuality, crazy, and we, as impossible as it may have seemed, are the sane one. We don’t prepare for this.
"I can sacrifice more than others." Yes! That's the superiority complex we have. We are epitome of being "hard on oneself"🥲