Debunking 'Red-Pill' Divorce Myths
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- Опубліковано 5 тра 2024
- Matt Walsh and divorce lawyer James J. Sexton discuss the realities of divorce.
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1. Sacrificial love
2 .Sacramental marriage
3. Shared values
Absolutely. And what most people refuse to acknowledge...
Ecclesiastes 4:12 KJV a threefold cord is not quickly broken.
Exactly @@oldhickory4686
Yeah, until she decides she wants and deserves more AND realizes she gets cash and prizes for breaking the covenant.
The marriage laws are straight from the pit of hell. Change those to get rid of no fault divorce and whoever breaks the contract gets punished in the divorce.
But women won't fight for that. Hell, no. They'll just keep demanding men line up for the wood chipper.
THis is not the NOrman Rockwell American myth that Matt Wallsh clings to. Yes, we all wish to have marital bliss- today that is RARE. Matt lives in Mayberry.
@@stevesetzer3361 there’s truth in what both of you say … the comments from the majority of the men in this comment thread is honestly bitter and angry…
No fault there , because it signifies to me that these men have had some bad experiences with women they once loved ..
Marriage never was designed to be administered by the state . It means nothing outside of a the covenant through God.
Even then , it’s not guaranteed …. But what in this life ever is ?
There are many examples of bad marriages that end horribly … but that can’t rest fully on the man nor the woman …
There are also many examples of good healthy marriage .
Men and women are better married .
"Runs off with his secretary"
How many men have secretaries?
Glad someone picked up on that stupid shit.
ikr bro over here acting like most men have secretary's
yea the top 10% of Men might
but not the overwhelming vast Majority of Men
Best way to protect your marriage is to not let the husband have a secretary.
I think you're taking this too literally - it's basically just a catch-all term to mean that the guy was cheating, maybe even with a colleague (by the way, extremely common). Having said that, I still hear stories of men running off with their secretaries. Executive Assistants are very much a real position and often they are assistants to male CEOs/upper management.
@@speciabilitatoryou're talking about the ten-percenters that can have anyone they want if they flaunt enough money. Also, I've been around the block long enough to realize the majority of women won't stoop to dating their married coworkers, they ALWAYS want the boss.
My mom cheated and left my father when I was about 14 . I continued to live with my dad until I left home. He had to pay child support nonetheless. He considered it worth it to keep her gone.
Child support for the woman since women are children?
My father left us for his side chick
My mom lost her marbles when I was young, 8ish, hard to pinpoint the date. Parents got divorced when I was 13, and my dad had to fight tooth and nail to get custody, even though my mom didn't even want it, and was clearly not well, not one of those "have to know her" crazy types, the crazy type that if you just saw her for 5 seconds at the grocery store you would think "holy hell, what's that lady's problem?" It was really that bad, she couldn't even have a momentary interaction with someone without somehow acting crazy. And this was back in the late 90s, the fact that the custody battle was even a battle is mind blowing. Any judge worth a damn would have immediately granted full custody to my dad.
@@raesully2615 Is that what your mom said. It's what mine said and then 40 years later she told me the truth that my father was 100% faithful to her and she accused him of infidelity anyway.
Your dad did not have to. HE CHOSE to. Your mother never had legal custody of you, yet the court said that she did and your dad went along with that? A lot is missing here
Divorce has a devastating impact on children, it should always be avoided unless ABSOLUTE required.
And WE ALL know what Sex does, so using THAT as an excuse is asinine to end someone else. STOP SLEEPING AROUND!
It really is.
A bad marriage has a worse effect on children than a divorce does.
Sure but if both sides failed to support each other why should they be together. I don’t want the kids to suffer but if they can’t handle each other it’ll be a bigger mess putting on a show for 5-15 years
@@middleguy1776you have to make a judgement call, no marriage is perfect, you shouldn't get divorced just because things didn't turn out like you planned. The grass is always greener on the other side. If it gets to an extreme, yes staying in an awful marriage is worse than divorce. But a lot of people get divorced just because they have unreasonable expectations.
Perfect marriages or relationships are a myth. There's no one-size-fits-all approach. What Adam finds effective might not be the solution for Peter. However, I've come to realize that there's always a way out of every situation. Half a decade ago, my spouse and I almost split up due to difficulties, but we patched things up. It was a rough patch, but we pulled through.
Your words carry profound meaning, and I truly hope my feelings echo yours. Despite our current apartness, I cannot fathom my life devoid of her; my love for her is boundless. I long to have her by my side again, and I'm ready to exert any effort to make it so. We've explored various routes, such as therapy, in our endeavor to mend things.
Releasing the grip on someone dear is always tough, but in my scenario, I was fortunate to have the counsel of a spiritual guide who preserved my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
I'm grateful for your guidance. I'll quickly search for her online. Thanks. I'm hopeful that adopting this strategy will also bring me the results I desire; I miss her greatly.
You definitely should
They aren’t a myth. I’m a virtuous man who married a virtuous woman. Yes it’s just that simple.
Matt’s out here to trigger as many people as he can today. Good stuff
Not really if you watch the full episode Matt very much realizes he’s a bit out of touch with how bad it can be. We are mostly talking past each other red pill has an issue with Marriage as a legal contract not a spiritual contract. The issue is the government is lord over your relationship not god today that’s the biggest problem. And when god isn’t who you abide by your more likely to divorce or be bad husbands and wives. And the marriage laws are outdated and terrible. But I disagree on the triggering thing I think Matt realized he keeps getting upset about people bad mouthing marriage it’s not the idea of marriage it’s the legal contract they are lampooning not the idea.
spot on 👆
What it proves is that men are punished for filing and women are not. If the divorce laws were fair then we'd see more equalization.
Punished in what way?
@@katydid2877 financially obviously . Family courts are even more unfair when it comes to child custody
@@darthcholo My ex filed. I needed alimony cause while he was traveling internationally making 6 figures I was raising our son and doing everything else. We were married 30 years. We were grandparents at that point, so no custody battle. But, yes, I get you. I knew a couple, the Mom used their kid like a pawn to get stuff out of him. Disgusting.
@@katydid2877 the exception only proves the rule. Most women work now and they pay a babysitter. More women graduate college now than men. These laws were made when women were stay at home mothers and did not enter the workplace. Also when your son was a teenager, what the heck did you do all day? why didn't you get an education and enter the workforce?
@@darthcholo As I stated, I was working as a teachers aide. I had an obsolete 2 year degree in graphic design. By the time I found myself divorced I was 57.
My Mom stayed home, I stayed home, and now my dil is homeschooling their 4 kids. If a woman plans on having a corporate 60-80 hr a week career, there’s no reason to have kids.
If you are having any doubts at all about getting married, DONT DO IT. Don’t write it off as normal, call off the wedding. Better a broken engagement than a broken marriage.
But when are you going to debate Better Batchelor or CGA?
Never. Because those 2 would bring too much sense into the conversation. DW will only deal with the pickup artist side of MGTOW, because they don't have any real arguments against men like Joker and Coach.
Both sides on this thing kinda crack me... one side says "all women act this way" while looking at a specific pool of women... the other says "No they don't!" while looking at another. 🤦
How about some apples-to-apples comparisons.
I do think the AVERAGE guy doesn't have great martial prospects though.
Most women aren't feminine.
Many men aren't manly.
...but it certainly seems that women are the greedier of the sexes as you really see any women content with "just enough".
Haha of course Matt would lose to CGA. The coach and Joker would be quick to call out a 'Hope strategist' 😂@@user-ff8rs7gk6r
"Till death do us part." If you plan to someday, possibly get divorced, don't get married. If it isn't that simple for you, you are not being true to yourself.
I’d lose a thumb wrestling match to this attorney, very bendy.
I moved out of the house because she tried to kill me in my sleep.
I came here for the "men bad" argument and I got it😂
People can be some of the worst people on earth.
@@rtyriaof all of the worst people I know, all of them are people.
Same man. Rolling my eyes so hard. Sometimes I just want to give up on society and go live as a Catholic monk.
Then they'd call you a pedo@@FlaMan407
Then did you listen? There was no "men bad" that was the main point they both brought up its rarely one person 'bad' it's normally BOTH.
I'm not buying this attorney's angle. He must be trolling for a niche in his market. I've known many divorced couples. In all the cases, the wives initiated the divorce, often egged on by outside acquaintances because they felt bored, felt "underserviced" compared to the social representation of their "competitor's" lives (which was often exaggerated or unsustainable), or thought they could "trade up."
And they almost always regret their decision years later 😢
Thats great however the stats on that are also clear. Women on average end up POORER than the men do.
I know personally 3 marriages that ended the way he described husband took off and drained all their joint accounts.
Did you actually listen to what he said or you just shut down just because he’s a lawyer?
You don't have to buy it. YOU ARE WRONG and every divorce attorney on here knows it.
@@LizThomas-dp7sr Divorce often has a bad impact on the finances for both sides. I think there are many variables in economics (and life) and how richer or poorer are determined. I guess that's why "for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part," is incorporated into traditional wedding vows. It's supposed to be a covenant for life.
Did not debunk any red pill myths. The divorce rate is still what it is. The rate that are initiated by women is still the same. Divorce court and family law is still biased towards women. All the red pill talking points were confirmed in this clip, just downplayed.
Yep. They never actually talk about the real red pill points, because they don't have a way to refute them.
This is the difference between knowledge and understanding. You know the numbers but you do not understand them, and so are misled. I don't know if you know much about hockey, but there's something called the +/- ("plus-minus") statistic, representing (in a nutshell) goals scored by the player's team (+) or opponents (-) while he was on the ice. That stat often shows negative results for players with strong defense because they are put on the ice against the other team's best offense, while those with strong offense are put on the ice against the weaker defense (ideally). If you don't know that, you'd think that players with the better +/- are better defensively.
This video is explaining the story behind the statistics, not attempting to portray the statistics as false.
@@p-47thunderbolt57the story is feminism.
@@p-47thunderbolt57 Uh no. It's in the title: "debunking red pill myths". and then they didn't debunk anything. they just said "yes it's all true but"
Hey, one of my best friends was married to a woman for 10 years but for eight of those years she was plotting to leave him. She was just waiting for him to finish raising her children so she could then leave with no strings attached.
A divorce lawyer looking for business is not going to say negative things about women. He knows who his clientele are. BS. That 70 percent statistic is absolutely a statement in how modern women perceive marriage. Why would he chastise 70 percent of his potential clientele?
Nearly 75%.
At best women are easily manipulated into falling for others. This is especially due to media and lack of the training women are meant to receive from their mothers starting at a young age. At worst women are what the MI:2 villain said; A monkey making sure to hold on to a new branch before letting go of the last one.
It's 90% if they are college educated
He did say some negative things. Did you actually listen to the whole video?
What that makes no sense. BOTH the husband and the wife need lawyers.
I ended up being a man who filed the divorce action but didn’t want to because my wife left and wouldn’t file. As far as the point is “statistics are tricky” that very much rings true from my perspective.
Women and men aren't equally yoked. As a result, the imbalance makes marriage a raw deal
If you state that publicly you might get yourself yolked😅
The term yoked is a religious term implying that the couple has a similar religious faith and said dedication to the faith. From what I've seen in my church is that many women of faith have not married men as committed to their faith, since they end up going to church without their husbands.
@@mtngrl5859 Paul has specific instruction for people whose spouses are not Christian. If the spouse wants a divorce over religion, allow then to go. But do not initiate divorce over a difference in faith. I'm still sympathetic to the problem, but I also recognize a bad solution.
Disgusting and pathetic sophistry of a guy pretending (73%) women divorcing men should to be ignored.
Notice how they never advocate for changing the laws or having women take responsibility and change the laws.
Yep
Stop complaining and point to a law that you'd change that balances power and doesn't create a power imbalance.
@@songofthefierce9647 simple answer no fault divorce no alimony
@@songofthefierce9647 alimony shouldn't exist, spousal support shouldn't exist, child support optional not mandatory or state involvement.
Guy-lawyer-man also conveniently "forgetting" ~80% lesbian marriages end in divorce and THE MAN has nothing (0, zero, zilch, nada) to do with that stat.
But the men are still at fault
Marriage is not a good option for most men and women these days. Culture, lifestyles, independence, finances, sex, children, different religions, physical and emotional abuse, addictions, etc., all of these and more are working against marriages. Men only see their point of view, women only see their point of view and unless two people are very dedicated Christians who pray together daily and put God first in their lives, most marriages today are doomed from the start. There are exceptions, but prior to the last 3 decades, both men and women knew how to compromise, overlook the other person’s faults, work together to solve problems and set goals, and focus on the positive aspects of their marriage. But most young ppl these days all want to be catered to and both sexes look to their spouse to make them happy, which is actually impossible. Without God in the center of a relationship for both the man and the woman, there’s really no point in even making a commitment that neither is able to keep. People are better off single and childless than married and miserable or divorced with kids caught in the middle.
TLDR: It takes 3 persons to get married.
Too many horror stories out there of "good christian" women blowing up their marriages.
you state the clearest point on this possible
Marriage without God is worthless
and in a country where the rate of believing in God are declining it's only natural that Divorce rates go up and Marriage rates go down
@@Grabthar191 That’s because women are told by the church to “submit” but men are not told by the church to love their wives as Christ loves the church and gave up His life for. Ive heard many sermons on submission and exactly zero sermons about men being abusive. Churches fail in this area dreadfully. There have been exactly 3 divorces in my family. All three times, the men were extremely abusive. Two of those men went to church every Sunday. The other one played Christian until married then returned to porn and partying. The women all continued to go to church and serve God faithfully after the divorces. The men all quit church and God. So it wasn’t the Christian women who blew up the marriages. It was the men who used their power to abuse rather than protect and provide. All the other Christian couples in my family are happily married for many yrs. Two who experienced divorce remarried and had happy long term successful relationships. The other one may never try again as she has small kids and doesn’t want to expose them to any more trauma. She is a wonderful devoted Christian lady.
@@encouragingword1172 Anecdotal stories don't measure the general reality of the landscape. The church is failing. It drives men away. Women use the church as a social society. They believe they will be forgiven for their bad behavior. So they put on a veneer of piety, then act how they please. To paraphrase the Bard, "They clothe their naked villainy with odd old ends stolen out of holy writ, and seem a saint, when most they play the devil. "
Even among "Good Christian Women" they are the ones that file for divorce, and Harvard studies have shown women are nearly as likely to be abusive in relationships as men, and nowadays according to Psychology Today MORE likely to engage in Infidelity. The Church is no longer a place for men. They will have to seek God elsewhere, as his house has become corrupted by the 304s of Babylon.
Women will treat a man like garbage for 10 years until he makes 1 mistake and file the paperwork. Then say "I don't want a divorce" I just want to have total control over everything he says and does and no accountability for my own actions'
Oh please. Hope you get treatment
@@pep590 ok boomer.
If a guy thinks he only made one mistake in 10 years of marriage …..no wonder she got out!😂
If only the world was as simple as your brain capacity😂😂
Exactly. The lawyer was in full simp mode with his bull shit. I hope he's not stupid enough to believe the BS they're selling him.
Marriage is a business contract in most states here in the US. It’s not romantic, but it’s true. Many states will not sanction church weddings; it’s illegal unless the officiate is licensed with the state.
I am not sure why. Unless, church weddings/unions are in direct competition with “contract” marriages, and the state has no control or jurisdiction over them. In the end, it’s all about power, control, assets, and money.
There are plenty of divorce lawyers, with a lot of experience both men and women that share views more in line with the anti-marriage movement if that is what you want to call it.
A contact that is fundamentally not designed in spirit of granting balanced treatment to the parties involves is unworthy of defence.
This interview is like going to the car lot and asking the salesman why people should keep their cars longer.
Your comment is like a college student attending gender studies to avoid the real world.
Don't cry. Sorry she left you.
@@pep590 😂 💯 true
I am married. 13 years. I have no fear of my wife divorcing me. We love each other, talk to each other, and are persuing Jesus together.
Lots of stories out there of guys blindsided even at 20 years of marriage. I hope you were knocking on wood.
@@Grabthar191 and we could perish in a car accident tomorrow, so stop driving 🙄
@@katrinagiovanni891 The odds are much better diving 100 miles per hour drunk in a Ford Pento than getting married.
@@Grabthar191 Exactly. 25 years married now 5 years divorced. Never thought it could happen to me until it did.
@@Grabthar191 yeah I’m 24 I’ll be staying single… I enjoy my freedom and no drama and headaches from women is how I like it. Every single woman on the planet whether shes a girlfriend /fiancee/wife has the emotional instability to instantly change her mind and not want to be married anymore she’ll get bored and cheat and then divorce you doesn’t matter if you’ve been married 60 years… she can still pull the divorce grenade
Gentlemen, NEVER enter into an contract with someone who is incentivized to break it.
Modern marriage is a mess.
I was incentivized to break off my marriage due to my ex’s needle use, inability to keep a job, lack of interest in taking care of anything at all or paying any attention at all to our child. Most of the women lve known in my 65 yrs got absolutely nothing out of their divorce financially and didn’t want anything, just to get out. That’s all l got and that’s all l wanted, just to be rid of him. Best decision of my life. And, he never changed. I remarried and stayed married until my husband passed, 32 yrs. Most women divorce bc their ex was a big jerk. I know there are exceptions, but not that many. I am very glad for no fault divorce. Without it, many women’s lives would be totally ruined. Men are good actors until after the marriage, then the real guy appears. 👹🤡
Being childless and old seems so boring to me 😢
@@katrinagiovanni891 My ex STOLE my children so I am old and childless and living my best life.
No fault, divorce has ruined society.
@@tombutler7296 you’re living your best life having no contact or relationship with your children ? They’re not worth fighting for ?
@@katrinagiovanni891 My ex made clear that she would end my children's life if they had anything to do with me just as my mother did with my siblings.
Causing pain to a man who loved her was far more important to both of them than the happy healthy life of their children.
All fighting with my ex could have done was cause my children to live in abject poverty, just as my siblings and I were forced by my mother to do as she slept with every man she could.
The judge in my divorce was removed from the bench one month after my divorce was finalized because she was sleeping with my ex-wife's attorney. There was no way to change the outcome only the outgo of funds!
What I learned from my mother is that children are far more likely to forgive a parent targeted for parental alienation if the targeted parent always does what is in the children's best interest even if that means walking away without a fight. In my mind, everything I have belongs to my children and should not go to divorce lairs, oops I meant lawyers.
As for living my best life. I am truly healthier and happier than I have ever been because I am not trying to please a narcissist.
Sorry, you need to lie to yourself about the nature of modern women and how they have destroyed marriage and in the process the only thing of value we have, our children.
Pretty amazing how well this guy positions himself to women for divorce settlements. What he's saying there is "Women come to me, I get you, you won't feel like it's your fault, I'll get you out of your marriage".. Pretty brilliant actually.
So based off of this video, either the majority of women are forced to dvorce because the man left for some other girl, or the woman divorces because she doesn't want to work through any problems and instead wants to get cash and prizes. Lets see the defenses for both of these claims. For the first one, we have this guys personal experience as a divorce lawyer, and we have the statistic that around 20 percent of married men cheat on their wives. For the other claim, we have the knowledge of how our culture and no fault divorce incentivises women to divorce their husbands wothout any repercussions and with a payout at the end, as well as our knowledge of how hypergamy can lead a woman to settling down with a man she doesnt find attractive, as well as statistics showing that it is extremely difficult for a man to get with multiple women unless he is in the top 20 percent of men in the first place. It seems to me that most of the statistics align with the second claim, while statistics directly contradict this guys claim.
Yeah that argument may have flown in 1960, not in the girl boss era. Nice try slimeball.
This person is ridiculous. He ENCOURAGES women to divorce. It is his bread and butter. He said as much.
The laws encourage women to divorce to get cash and prizes.
If there were robust laws against abandonment he would be suggesting that action instead. Ever since no-fault divorce turned shattering marriages with kids into a profitable business for family court and state governments (state governments get federal $ for every dollar charged in child support, something like $3 if memory serves) - there has been absolutely no interest on either the federal level or state level to defend marriage. They would lose lots of money if lawyers discouraged it. It's a racket.
I think what he said went way over your head.
In order to get a judge involved or a man to the table to talk if he's abandoned her, then an ACTION has to be filed, divorce is one of the only actions that will have enough legal weight. Or did you just not comprehend?
So what would you tell the woman in that situation to do? Your husband has abandoned you and closed the joint accounts taken all the money and dumped you with the children and the bills.
What would you tell her to do? lose the house and hope he then comes home to join you and the kids on the street.
And personally know two women this happened too. One sadly in my own family and I was related to the scum who did that to his wife. My uncle bragged about calling her to tell her he was leaving had taken the money and had the utilities turned off. They have 4 children and he just left. She didn't cheat, he did that as he owned a business that failed and that was how he dealt with it. Sold what he could and abandoned his wife and kids to deal with the debts.
This is the perfect take on the reality of my marriage. We’ve succeeded now, but when we faced divorce, I had failed my wife and she would have had to file. “The truth is at the bottom of a bottomless pit.”
Why do women usually file for divorce? Because they know how to handle the paperwork, and they're not afraid to file a complaint!
That doesn’t make any sense.
When my brother's ex-girlfriend abandoned him and their kid my brother was able to lean on our parents for child care while he worked until he found another girlfriend to take care of the kid. He didn't need his ex for anything. It is a lot easier to replace a dead-beat mom than it is to replace a dead beat dad.
@@rtyria well statistics do say children do better with a single father then a single mother
the why being discipline usually goes out the window when the Man is no longer in the home
@@kurtpunchesthings2411 I believe it, because women who are good at disciplining their kids are usually very good at self-discipline as well. The better your self-discipline, the more likely you are to form the sort of habits that preserve the marriage. It's not a guarantee, but it does seem to help.
@@rtyria honestly i agree usually these women made a good choice in partner / spouse and are together raising a child
Never believe lawyers.
Marriage is a legal contract, best way to avoid lawyers is not get married
There is one person in the courtroom that is legally allowed to lie. The lawyer.
All lawyers? Sounds like you got screwed 😂
professional liars
He's correct on the women filing 73% of divorce, but no where near that number wants it part of the first few minutes. I've said the same thing many times as I've seen it like him.
Also, bringing on a divorse attorney to convince men that marriage is a good idea?
Wow, that's pretty dumb.
Men, get married! I need a down payment for my third house!
Yup, that will work.
I honestly can't understand why we should consider the advice of a man who ties his livelihood up in the dissolution of commitment. What is this interview? A billboard?
That was my initial reaction to him as well, but I was surprised. I think he defends himself quite well from that criticism. He is a big fan of healthy marriages and is trying to tell people how to avoid the divorces that he sees on a daily basis. You should listen to the whole interview. It is quite insightful.
Matt finally found someone to sign off on his bs. Of course this attorney paints a great picture for the wives. That is who, by far, he is making money off of.
Because he has a different perspective that we cannot possibly have? Stop dismissing people because you disagree with them.
@@Gboi8 don't see any dismissal there, just recognizing that this "interview" will be great for his business.
@@scubasteve3032 matt isn't anti men tho. And he would never promote someone who would lead to the unhappiness of men.
He gives the example of the husband cheating on his wife but she wanted to work through it but he refused. Now the question I gotta as is how many issues did they both or perhaps one of them choose to not work on for him to cheat on his wife. Let’s be real here no one just starts at cheating. Not inherently blaming the wife but I wanna make the point that this idea that people want to work this out is often a cop out used after not doing it all along.
That's wrong. Many couples, objectively, have quite decent marriages and an affair often blindside's the one betrayed. It's not a fault with the marriage; it's a fault in ONE of the people in the marriage, usually a fault that is very well hidden and kept under wraps....until it isn't.
People cheat in otherwise happy marriages, because something is missing inside of them - not inside of the marriage.
I have actually met dudes who had no interest in fidelity. They had their wife to keep _his_ home comfortable and side flings because they could. Not nice dudes at all. One was my uncle who stayed married because in those days a woman was shamed if she divorced her husband (this was long before the 60's). The others were too young to 'benefit' from that taboo and haven't managed to keep a marriage together for more than a few years.
@@FromUsToAshes this isn’t about whether the marriage is happy or not. It’s about whether it was healthy and that’s a completely separate issue. If one party is missing something that’s not in the marriage it had to start somewhere and it was ignored. Regardless of who initiates the divorce it’s clear that working through it was never on the table. Also it’s a contradiction to say you’re in a decent marriage if you’re actively cheating on your partner. It’s like saying i’m a pretty upstanding citizen minus all the felonies.
The cheater is ALWAYS at fault for choosing to cheat, regardless if it is a man or a woman. Stop making excuses for cheaters.
@@Bella.Parabellum not making excuses for cheaters i’m stating that when it comes to divorce their are plenty of people who say they want fix things now that the house has collapsed but the reality is they don’t. If it was really the case you wouldn’t have ignored every opportunity to fix those issues that said house collapsing. (by one or both partners). This happens a lot particularly when it comes to divorce surround finances. The red flags are everywhere but one partner refuses to ask any questions or get involved. Then when it comes to a head it’s some sort of surprise.
The three divorces I know of which were initiated by the wives:
1) The husband cheated on her, beat and strangled her, and threatened credibly to kill her entire family.
2) The husband cheated on the wife, and moved to another country to continue his affair.
3) The husband neglected his wife for several years and moved out, and refused to communicate with her in any way.
That women initiate divorce number is because women generally have their act together and are the more responsible parties, so they take care of the business their sloppy husbands don't get done.
Key word",their sloppy husbands" that they married 😂 😂 and they are said to have " great intuition " than men 😂😂 yet continue to choose "scmbags " for marriage
You don't even have to marry her in order for your relationship to count as common law marriage. I'm a 27 year old man who never had a girlfriend. The divorce laws are scaring me to death.
Common law doesn't exist in most states anymore.
I'm almost 50 and refuse to live with a female. If they don't have a home and a life of their own, I want nothing to due with them.
It seems more scary to me to miss out on the joys of raising children within a family . Choose a good woman . They exist 🙏🏽
Don't live with one in a common law state
@@katrinagiovanni891 "Choose a good woman . They exist" Right so do unicorns, they are called white rhinos!
20 years married before my first of three heart attacks. 5 years later my wife divorced me because she did not feel the tingles anymore. her words, not mine.
It's now been 5 more years and I am living my best life ever, but I have not been allowed to see my children since she filed.
She had spent over a year planning the divorce before she filed to get maximum benefit for herself and cause me the maximum pain!
Women change and a good woman today will NEVER stay a good woman for life.
Demanding the man pay half of his wealth is insane. Pre-nup should be standard.
The divorce lawyer makes off with your money from all these gol digging women so I am supposed to take his advice right?
So you have ZERO IDEA how divorce law and court work.
Dude you def didn’t watch the full interview! Most men don’t have shit to get
yea no offense to him maybe he's right but the fact that he's financially incentivized when people get divorced makes me believe he's biased towards subtly pushing people to divorce
plus he's even admitted he got divorced as well so that's an extra layer of it
@@kurtpunchesthings2411 yeah but he represents defendants and plaintiffs! So your point is flawed based on his actual work
@@daniella8400
And even more women don't got shit to get either!
He’d have more credibility if he wasn’t divorced himself. Overall, the discussion was interesting to hear
We need this guy to debate pearl.
Debate? They would end up making out with each other 😄
Marriage is the #1 cause of divorce.
Don't get married, never worry about divorce.
He's literally giving his EXPERT advice based on decades of experience and yet people are still correcting him with their own anecdotal information. 🤣🤣 What does he know? Quite a lot, clearly. Maybe have the intelligence to listen to his entire interview first, it's actually very interesting.
I don’t agree with no fault divorce. I was able to get ‘adultery’ put on the certificate. That way future generations know what he did. It gave me a slim bit of justice and some peace.
What percentage of married guys who get divorced have secretaries? What percentage here? That’s gotta be a very low percentage of 73% as he says.
this guy is fckin gaslighting like hell - exactly... he is talking about 0.1% of men in society who go off with their hot secretary...
There are men who can craft a happy, committed marriage with just about any woman. Be one of those men.
LOLOL....no.
Lol people in this comment section getting defensive.
Yes, and if you read further, you would probably figure out why.
I agree with Mr. Sexton. Sometimes people assume that the person who files for divorce (first) is automatically the villain. But sometimes it's for a very good reason.
Daily wire is getting more obsolete with each day passing. Walsh should keep trolling the Alphabets instead of doing this. He has a good chance of getting crowdered
I didn’t hear much debunking
Because you can’t debunk what gets confessed 10000x on TikTok everyday
His point was that claiming who FILED for divorce is automatically and always the party who WANTED the divorce is false and misleading. Which it is, and he is correct, that is how the divorce process works and how the records are recorded.
Doesn’t mean that women are accountable, or that marriage is a smart idea by any means, but his point holds water.
Men are sick and tired of hearing these stories from divorced women that go like, “I didn’t want to break up the family, but I just had no choice but to file.“ The fact that the divorce attorney pressured her into doing it certainly does not help either. Whether or not the person “wanted” a divorce is irrelevant - The point is, whoever files gets the blame and the accountability, including for when their kids turn into punks and delinquents later down the road as a result of growing up in a broken family. All you’re doing is giving women a license to say “It’s not my fault, I had no choice, and the lawyer made me do it.“
So he didnt play the smarty pants to the divorce lawer when the subject was about divorce. Maybe he is a good listener
Another daily wire bull spit video that does nothing to change any divorce laws that in my opinion (and I am not alone) are against men!
I don't understand your question or thrust?
2:18 "The problem is you cant force someone to stay married to you, you cant force someone to come back home and pay the bills unless you file the divorce action". Can anyone else see the first two rationales for divorce are incoherent?
It has been traditional for the woman to file for divorce in the US even if the husband has been having an affair and left her for another woman. It was always considered the gentlemanly thing to do is for her to preserve her dignity by the one to file for divorce. Also, the concept of "No Fault" divorce benefitted men originally not women. Previous to no fault, one had to prove infidelity, abuse, or abandonment. This meant one had to have evidence either by witnesses or photographic evidence. This meant one had to be able to hire investigators, many people couldn't afford these services. So, no fault divorce went into effect. Of course, once No Fault divorce went into effect there were more divorces.
In No Fault states like California where I live, it is uncommon for either side to get alimony unless it was a very long marriage (over 20 years) where the spouse was a stay at home parent.
How about just get government out of the marriage game. Seems like it would solve literally everything.
Well you consider it a game. That's not the gvts fault.
@@tranquility9325 everything in life is a game. The most successful people know that.
Lawyers man! They will flip on their own kids and sell them for the right price.
Yeah this guy is almost cliché with his lawyer-speak.
If this podcast was a college course it would be called marriage shilling 101.
No. It's like a public health college course about diabetes, pre-diabetes, obesity, cancers, and substance abuse. It all really happens, sad to say. Regards, Calif paralegal for 30 yrs & ☦️
If this guy has narrowed his practice to the point where the majority of women that come to him for divorce have have husbands with well paying jobs and secretaries, then salut!
Red pill guys are just dead set on figuring out how they can become victims. I’ve lived with my wife since i was 18, and I’m about to turn 31. We’ve been through pain and suffering together but if you put it in Gods hands and truly live a lifestyle that pleases and honors God then it only builds your relationship stronger. We didn’t always live as Christians, even though we would have claimed to be, and when we changed our perspectives and lifestyles we grew so much closer to each other.
anecdotal isn’t statistical, but stay blessed in ur marriage. the world has changed quite a bit in the past decade, and the sanctity of marriage is unfortunately no longer valued in the way it has in the past by this generation.
@@quaticus I know tons of really good young men and women, both married and still single, who value the sanctity of marriage. If you think there are no good women or no good men anymore, you’re probably looking in the wrong places.
@@davidgoodwin6997i know people that do as well, but that has declined as a whole compared to the past.
people in here saying he's defending women. you guys know this is the lawyer walter hired right? he's the fresh n fit lawyer lol. he and rollo tomassi are also very good friends lol.
and the 70% of divorces are initiated by women fact is as he says. just because the women initiated it, that doesn't mean they are at fault for the marriage falling apart. every time you hear a podcast bring that stat up, not a single one of them tells out of that 70% how many was the fault of men, how many was the fault of women. if 70% were initiated by men, does that then automatically men that the men are to blame for the marriage falling apart?
Ive been married for 20 years. We have two awesome boys. My wife and i have gone through so many challenges. We are still together. I feel in the nowadays society, gives to many reasons to give up so easily. Nobody now wants to put in work. People give up too easily.
Seen this guy on SWU. It was an interesting listen. Ending no fault divorce would be a good start.
So ...Statistical data analysis is now not factual in 2024. Ok got it. 😂
Stats don't equal truth. You can find stats to prove anything if you ask the right question and select the right data sets.
For example the stat that most women end up POORER in divorce then men is ignored by most people who quote the women start more divorces crowd.
So you think you know more than him. Got it 😂
@@pep590How do you know he doesn’t?
@@LizThomas-dp7sr How is her failure to manage her finances after receiving the house and half his portfolio, in any way his fault?
Except what he is saying. Is the minority of the cases. Women are more likely to leave for new excitement than they are to file because the husband ran off
What is this statement based on?
@@Thisthat1234Data. Actual numbers.
@@nicwelch so your “data” somehow quantified “ new excitement “ lmao yeah sure
yea is this guy really believing the majority of divorces is because a man cheated on his wife or abused her in some way ..........
sounds like Victim blaming to me
@@Thisthat1234 Women get bored very easily, and when they do, especially repeatedly, they cheat with another guy that gives them excitement and bufferfly feelings, that is a fact.
My take on this, as a man, is that the "preparation" process has to be thorough. Step one is you have to be the man who's worthy of the husband title. Strangely, that might be the easy part if you have realistic knowledge of self.
Though it's just not enough to vet the woman on her own. You need to know what her friends are like. What her family is like. What her job is like. I would argue that's more important than evaluating the woman herself, or how she presents herself.
Marriage is a pit that eventually becomes the man's grave. Just know what you're getting yourselves into, and be there for your children.
I once heard a story from a wife whose husband left her for another woman and was super petty about the division of marital property. He took everything he had ever given her as a gift according to her. Marriage is good when it is done properly but it surely can be bad when things go south.
Never trust a lawyer….
this one is telling you how not to need his services. I find common sense in his narrative.
@DonesdeMotivacion men hate it bec they want to lie cheat and manipulate and have women be ok with it lol.
So when Matt points out that a man would say something different and he agrees, yes, he would say that. So now he’s got to decide which person he believes. And I can tell you from experience I have never heard a woman give an accurate accounting of their bad relationship.
I seem to recall Matt saying to not to take marriage advice from someone who's been divorced
"Co-parenting" is just another name for "neglecting your children". Divorce not even once.
Interesting.
Not discounting this lawyer's experiences, nor calling him deceitful. And certainly he sees many more cases of divorce than I have. But the scenario he lays down as his typical, the scenario he uses, sounds like something out of 1985 frankly. And the reason why divorce law became so skewed.
I definitely in my life, from my divorce to friends to women I have dated, I definitely see a trend of the ladies leaving with all goodies 'just cuz'.
Other than that, I really found myself agreeing with a lot of what he said.
Marriage is a 3 way contract now more than ever. Her, backed by the law, against him.
Stay single boys.
Exactly. As a man, I am the bad guy in society's opinion. Thus, I owe society nothing.
What god are you thinking about 😂
When you need to get a divorce lawyer on your show to prove your point, you might be on the wrong side of the issue.
Rowing your boat together in the same direction is key! I’d also say that accepting that all boats need a captain and a first mate. When I married my husband, it was with the understanding that the boat needs to go in the direction of my husband’s career and anything I did job wise needed to be in support of that. It wouldn’t work if I’m at a set of oars working towards the direction I want while he’s at his set rowing the direction he wants.
Getting married before 30 doesn't make sense. People under 30 aren't getting married.
People under 30 aren't having children.
The gross majority of divorces happen to people under 30, with in the first 5 years
But, people like Matt Walsh look at people under 30 who don't get married or have children as irresponsible and selfish.
They don't, but his argument is that biologically, they are ready and should.
yep. women who leave child birthing to their 30s are stupid. simple. Biology cant be defeated.
@@pinchofsalt4566 biologically, the part of the human brain that is responsible for deductive reasoning doesn't fully develop until your late 20's.
So, someone gets married in their late teens-early 20's, and in less than ten years, they realize they married a mentally unstable idiot.
Are they supposed to stay with that person for another 50 years?
🤦... this is about as silly as...
"Most people with children are in a relationship... most young people aren't in relationships... AND they're not having children!... having children without a relationship wouldn't make sense!"
... do you think this profound knowledge was worth sharing? 🤦
That's not true. The #1 group filing for divorce is women in their 40s.
We want pre-nump. We want pre-nump.
We want to die alone, no legacy, forgotten.
A midlife crisis in men occurs because the aging woman gradually loses her sexual appeal and -desire, by each lunar cycle to the next, until at around the start of her perimenopause, she no longer has desire at all. So, somewhere along that path her man loses his sexual interest in her.
Jeez red pill bring statistics, laws, researchs , tonns of evidence
And Walsh bring some lawyer with anecdote about secretary???
4 real???
Wow, this guy changed his story
I noticed that too
The bottom line here is that marriage now a days is the worst financial decision a man can make. focus on children, not marriage
What? How does that even work? Is there a baby factory somewhere I'm unaware of?
@@kateruterbories2692 yes. Its called legacy for men, and a race against time for women to fill an ever present void if the window is missed.
i would love to see how many guys "run off and start new families with their mistresses" - that seems to be just about the last thing a guy would want from a mistress - another family.
If marriage rates are dropping then eventually divorces will too. That’s not good news for attorneys. No surprise to see one sitting in Matt’s chair defending the process. Cute how he rolled up his sleeves to to flash his ink and feign being one of the guys. The vest and artful language still scream attorney.
Imagine discussing divorce from the perspective of the intelligentsia, then trying to sell it to the working class, not even providing actual full context for any of these accounts either.
I've seen the quality of women in my generation, none of them are apt to be wives who serve their families just as well as I would.
Thanks, but no thanks.
So you are choosing to never have a family of your own ?
@@katrinagiovanni891 Not unless the presiding zeitgeist shifts dramatically towards a particular end, an investment that only bares fruit for the state is something I refuse to humor in the slightest.
@@RenascencePerennial it won’t change anytime soon when the counter culture refuses to marry or reproduce 🙏🏽
@@RenascencePerennial your loss . I suspect you are under 40 ..you’ll feel differently later in life.
@@katrinagiovanni891 I disagree, I have had plenty of relationships with women to know there is little differentiation, only variations of the same gradient.
Even though most of us men may seem isolated, the young amongst us still talk to and respect our elders, and we now have a thorough understanding of what has been divulged from the previous generation, and a further understanding that the quality since their time has only continued to decrease, say what you will.
Of the three or so men who have been abandoned by their wives, their children made to hate them, who were good kindhearted men who are now dead by their own devices or out of their own isolation, I vow to never make the mistake of marriage. For those I know who have died, I know many more who now live lives of misery with their families utterly demolished -- good christian men nontheless.
A sad era for all of humanity, where women writhe in their self-inflicted misery.
The attorney scenario is unlikely and doesn't ring of truth.
This reminds me of that meme where you have the dog sitting at the table, sipping his coffee, saying, "This is fine" while the house is engulfed in flames.
Except it's a video, and it has TWO human beings, comforting each other.
Nah, me and my homies avoid women/marriage like the plague. Marriage/divorce laws are a rigged game
You and your homies r prob immature AH
Perhaps we should remove the "till death do us part" from the vows? Would be more honest.
Tradcons have zero good arguments on this issue. It ultimately comes down to their feelings.
There's a clear connection between no fault divorce, the collapse of the family as the building block of society, and the impending collapse of civilization altogether. Reasoning about these issues requires drawing comparisons between the arc of our society and previous societies, and you should check out J.D. Unwin's "Sex and Culture" for a deeper understanding of how sexual mores affect the trajectory and lifespan of a civilization. It was written by a guy who sought the opposite conclusion from what he found from his life's work.
Except for national statistics on most quality of life indicators.
- The divorce rate for first-marriages is ~30% (or lower).
- The first-marriage divorce rate is further lowered when controlled for couples with the same views on morality, religion, finances & life goals.
- Married men and women consistently score higher in personal happiness, family stability, financial wealth, life satisfaction and even workplace performance than single or divorced men and women.
Nothing is ever completely free of risk, and the risk of divorce is always present in any marriage. By the same token, the risk of a traffic collision is always present in any car ride, so are you gonna just walk everywhere?
I wanted a divorce but my wife threatened to take everything. So I gave her a loveless relationship for a couple years until she filed. That way the resources were divided in a more realistic and fair way.
Lmao, 4D chess, she only got half your shit.
Wait a minute....
@@theywouldnthavetocensormei9231 I had an established farm before I met her. We started a separate farm down the road. She wanted both farms
@@theywouldnthavetocensormei9231 She was ready to fight to the death to get it all. After a couple years, she just wanted half of what we had built together and we parted amicably.
Why did you want a divorce though?
@@jasono2139 various reasons. We are both much happier now!
After 25 years of marriage my husband decided he needed a trophy wife and I wasn't it. He lied to me about flying around the country looking for a job when he was just meeting and sleeping with women he met online. He secretly transferred all our savings to a lover who was with an investment company, claiming to be single. He packed his new car and drove away from us(me and our three children) never to return, leaving with thousands of dollars in bills and the IRS calling to tell me they were going to garnish my wages because he hadn't filed. I divorced him in self defense( oh-did I forget to mention the incurable STI?!!!)
LOL
Damn… that sucks. It’s definitely a gamble. I knew a lady that saved herself for marriage at a young age and 10 years into it discovered he had been cheating on her for the majority of it and made her infertile because he gave her clahmydia and she didn’t know and it scarred up her fallopian tubes 💔
Obviously she never dared to remarry
So after that long you had no idea who you decided to marry? I don’t buy it.
Then stop going for ex-cons... I am at this point, when I dont believe women stories....
@@am-vy1fb they never tell the whole truth
here in California I don't know why but it is cheaper and sometimes even free if the woman files for divorce then the man some of my cousins that have gone divorced that are males have asked their Ex-Wives to file it so they wouldn't have to pay the fees and it can be cheaper for all of them also in the military some of our friends that we've seen geting divorced same thing. I asked this question to them and they just told me that some of them got help from a program that they can apply for them to assist them in the divorce.financially and also with legal advice.
Yeah, no to marriage. Even the most positive spin on it that he did still ended up translating to - yeah it’s a HUGE leap of faith that could very easily fuck you over in very very tangible ways for the rest of your life.
Hard pass. I’m an atheist. I have 0 reasons for any form of marriage. IF I ever wanted to be with a woman, I can just do so without documentation and do all the things a husband/wife would do. I don’t need to sign the worst contract I’ll likely ever be presented in my life.. just to love and take care of someone.
Yall just love bragging about being an atheist. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Never get married. Get fixed so you will never get hooked for support. Have a happy life.
Dying alone in some rat infested old folks home is a happy life?
@@kateruterbories2692for some ppl who are emotionally bankrupt, yes.
That's a pretty flimsy argument against the 73% statistic. No real argument there but what would be considered testimonials and heresay.
You are 1000% wrong and have NO IDEA what you are talking about. I work the field too and he is exactly right about that. Most men don't give a crap about filing. Most would go forever without filing. Most won't even go to a doctor for their own life saving health. Nothing flimsy about it.
@@pep590 And you too aren't using any evidence. What we know is that women are far more likely to file for a divorce and that they very often benefit to an absurd degree from doing so. That can be statistically proven. Does it mean women aren't making bad decisions in who they choose? No, I am sure they do. So if we accept the data is skewed what percentage do you think is really just out of impatience or having an affair?
@@pep590You did not back your claim with actual evidence. Only a personal anecdote. Please do better.
@@nicwelch Because I live it, see it, work it. Do you? There is no Britannica that backs up what this lawyer said.
wow, walsh has a guest!!
maybe his next guess will be someone with opposing views and we can wat h a proper debate!
I call BS on this, have had a front row seat to 3 co workers divorces, 2 male 1 female, the female was the instigator in all 3
Is this a joke? This was about as out of touch as can be possible. Conservative men can be such gullible losers!