7 Things Men Notice First In Women & Find Attractive
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- When it comes to dating and specifically to dating high-value men, first impression is very important. In this video I cover just some of the things that men notice first about women, so you can to step up your dating game. For more unfiltered conversations & guidance in your level up journey, join my Patreon: / annabey
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One and only tip: Invest in an education so you don’t have to chase somebody else’s money
I'm thinking the women watching this aren't interested in having to work to earn their own money. Lol the very idea of having to "invest" & the work associated with obtaining the education...
Eh. If someone actually manages to snag a rich husband, eventually reality of life will catch them in the end... everything gets old. Toys don't stay shiny & new.
I watch this because I want to be the best woman he can ever met. He is not wealthy btw. But I love him.
@@yujin8741 agreed!!! I figure there's a ton of those kind of women watching!!! Everyone's always curious about affluent people, especially cause, aren't they in the minority??? So it's a curious question, what are "those types" into??? After watching the video , they're seeking the same thing everyone else is seeking.
What if your education is to get a man?
@@laurel1865 you learn to catch the man? Then hopefully they can get a master's degree in keeping the man. Lol
I am 60 and happily married but I love watching you so that I do not let myself go. My husband still compliments me.
I am also in my sixties and trying to stay as attractive as possible. I’m trying to take off extra pounds and have changed up my makeup, and my friends are complimenting how nice it looks. 😊
Go you ladies!!
Marriage goals 💕 I pray I find the one with whom I have a mutual love and genuine relationship with for the long haul!
You're very blessed & give the rest of us hope!
I'd rather have genuine love any day over someone with money that I was simply content with & who has an ample bank account.
Virgie Rutledge exactly why I watch her videos!
I am so sorry. when I wrote this I was 69. So now, I am 70. Married 50 yrs. Never perfect but worth the work. We both worked and raised two sons. Be the best you can be and true to yourself. Love and peace to all. People all the time tell us we don't look or act like 70.
The most attractive quality is being kind.
Decent CLEAN MINDED DIGNIFIED WELL MANNERED RESPECTABLE KIND. GOOD RIGHTEOUSLY KIND defines as being a DECENT WOMAN With good training in good POLITE manners SPEECH. 👑💪✌🏆🙌
Men can’t notice first if she is kind or not 🤔
lol
You’re playing yourself, Dev
Absolutely agree with you!
What I have heard from men myself is:
- how happy she seem to be
- smile
- how kind she is
- how drama free she is
- playfulness
- waist to hip ratio
- feminine style
- feminine behavior
As a man I agree with the first six points
She’s like the older sister we never had ❤️
So true
Omgg😍🌈
Rand
yes
omgsh! SO TRUE TO ME! lol never had a sister!... thank God for youtube :)
Number one is intelligence. I met a stunning woman. Has everything you mentioned, but as soon as she spoke....the magic was gone. When there’s no intelligence, men get bored...
seneca Yeah! The same with the women. If I see a "perfect" man on the outside but hollow on the inside... well, I feel kind of pitty for him. And kind of amused. I wouldn't bother chatting with a boring a limited person.
same for women :)
Intelligence is indeed a major factor, but it is not the only factor. I fell in love with a woman despite myself. My first impressions of her were awful, and she was much less intelligent than I, but she turned out to be such a sweet, caring individual that I just couldn't prevent my heart from becoming attached. I fought hard against it for a long time, but eventually lost the battle. Unfortunate for me. My love was unrequited, and will continue to be for the rest of my life, but I can only wish her well.
Khalaq So you lost her? Maybe she will want to come back to you sometime.
@@DJShire_ATL I did end up telling her I loved her, and she didn't want to be anything more than friends, so I don't know if you can say I "lost her." The last time I saw her was shortly after she married someone else. If my memory is accurate, that was in 1987.
I like how sincere she is. She adimits her hair is thin and wears extentions. She is genuine.
there might be this millionaire or there who s looking for the thin haired girl..... and she'd miss out!!!
for good skin- autophagy or self-eating rejuvenates the body, try eating every other day, it releases growth hormone, inhibits inflammation, I recommend it.
What you teach is what EVERY mother should teach their daughters. Be passionate, be elegant, take care of yourself and educate yourself. Having 100 degrees from University will do nothing for you if you have zero social skills. And let’s face it! Been a Feminist is not about renouncing to your Femininity! It is owning it and knowing how to use it to your benefit. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
100% about social skills, titles don't give you manners.
no a mother should not be oppsesd with teaching her daughter how to get a rich mans money
So true! I have two aunts who are doctors and they have zero Femininity and the partners they have are very beneath them, the affluent men they would attract would never stay….
@@oliviacitrus3576”oppsesd”? Incorrect English spelling and grammar is not elegant.
@@suzanneemerson9787 Iam Sorry that the Fifth Language i speak is not perfekt 😗.
Our diets can influence our smell. Eat clean; smell clean.
Yes! It goes a long way :-)
Spices, garlic and onions are extremely healthy yet very stinky
I started taking liquid chlorophyll. Keeps you fresh from the inside
@Bunny Bubs I use the Vitamin Shoppe liquid with a dropper. One dropperful daily. Be careful it can stain teeth. I use a straw. Also, Puritand pride sells a chewable. You can use them for mints
@@patricemarie3412 I tried taking the Vitamin Shoppe liquid with a dropper 😷. Now I'm a person that enjoys bitter, peppery greens but there was something about the liquid chlorophyll I couldn't handle. It tasted like metallic pond scum. If it actually works, I may try a chewable.
I love it when she calls us elegant ladies even though i;m in my leggings and hoodie slouching on my chair watching a youtube video.
haha exactlyyyy....I haven't had time to actually purchase the transformation pieces yet.
I know ryt, it makes me feel loved and happy , she's so sweet and I don't even mind her teachings because well unfortunate for me I can't be cool girl ,so I kind of am these things 😅
I know right 🤣
🤣😘
Ok! Lolololololololol.......
-Smile
-Thick hair (healthy)
-Skin (healthy)
-Hygiene (Smells!)
-Body (healthy)
-Eyes
-Confidence (for example posture)
Long,Thick and Healthy Hair that bounces!
Skin with a Healthy Glow!
tell me how do I get thick hair when my hair is naturally super thin 😐
@@kokoskokso rogaine shampoo and hair vitamins
@@GH-hr5xc thank you! Do you have experience with Regaine, has it helped you?
Completely agree with u
In my dating days, I exclusively dated professional wealthy men. I am nothing special and was not from a wealthy background. These men did not care about my education level or how much money I made. I was proposed to 4 times. The main qualities I possessed to get high value men was that I maintained a slim figure, feminine clothes, impeccable grooming and always being a positive presence in their lives. Thats it. Any shortcomings I had in terms of education or background, these men overlooked.
Wow you are a really lucky soul ✨
Something a male friend once told me, is that he appreciates a woman who is smart, but doesn't act like she knows everything. A well-balanced ego.
Ankida Edin usually they like smart but not smarter than them. No one likes being outsmarted!
@@TB-rx1ue True, those men exist. However, my comment was not a reference to intelligence. Moreso whether you act kindly or not. Because I have also seen these women who truly are smart, but they they rub it in everyone's faces. Which makes both men and women dislike them.
My husband married me knowing I'm smart,
Years later threw it in my face as an insult 😂
Yelling so loud the neighbors began to peek out their windows
I yelled back if you wanted a bimbo you should have married one
And walked away..
Lol
Idk why that man married me..
I'm not his type at all..
Ankida Edin only weak men end up with bimbos. Men of stature choose brilliance and beauty; a stupid woman can’t be a mans rock when he is down. I’ve seen this from personal experience
Expecting so much from us. Smh.
Hygiene is the most important thing of all. One of the best compliments I ever received was from a man I was squeezed next to on an airport shuttle before 6:00 am. He said “it’s such a pleasure to sit next to a lady that smells so fresh this early in the morning”. Even though I had to wake up by 4:00, I had showered, shampooed, eaten, and brushed and flossed my teeth for the upcoming flight. His compliment reminded me that this extra effort is always worth it! My mother taught me young to always eat something before leaving the house, or being with anyone, and this is really important. I can always tell at work the people who don’t eat breakfast - their breath can be so unpleasant that I can’t really face them before lunch.
Hello Kimberly. How are you doing today?
You dont want to meet me before I haad coffee and my blueberry muffin!
@@martinamettesmamftc7165 Do you mind us texting outside UA-cam?
I am engaged to a multi-millionaire and I have to say all your content is so true. What I really like to add is that it is important to be passionate about your profession/hobby and try to have allround knowledge about history and/or politics. Men of wealth love women who know stuff 🤣🤣Listening to Anna, my elegant ladies💋
Linda G does he cheat on you after you do all that stuff?
Girl how did you do it ? I know guys don't care about money or status but are you a a millionaire yourself?
Where did you meet him? Please share! Best, Olga :)
@@MH-jd1ww Because women in general do care about a man's status/resources and earnings ,even if the woman earns herself. Women find high status/successful men more attractive ,while men are just attracted to youth and beauty. It has evolutionary reasons to it and has been proven multiple times by survey studies.
5062 يسرا ثروت احمد hahahaha nooooo
I’d like to point out that exuding confidence not only attracts a certain man, it’s a repellant to predators.
I’m a stay home mom. I dress up prettily everyday even if I’m not going anywhere. Hubby likes it.
Yes, women have to think about this carefully because their husbands who work in offices etc meet and see beautiful women everyday, if not beautiful, then at least well dressed. And if they come home from work and their woman is looking like a slob and havent showered and never puts on makeup or makes herself look pretty and smell good, he'll lose interest fast. Especially if she only does it when going out with friends etc and never for him. You have to respect your man and understand what's important for them. Ofc this goes for men too, women deserve a man who is clean shaved everyday and showered and smelling good.
Good for you 👌👍😉
I don’t care for attracting a rich man BUT I watch these videos because I like how she carries herself & her independent bluntly “my self” attitude she has 👌🏾💕💕 she provides so much more insight than just love & dating as people assume. Love u Anna
Mayah N I think the only reason there’s a stigma against woman wanting a “rich man” is because of men that want to shame women into lowering there standards. Think about how men are never shamed for wanting an attractive/beautiful spouse?! At least you can control your income lmao 😂
Same here... because I am a totally opposite of her... lol a tomboy... but I enjoy watching her videos.
I have a feeling that most wealthy men, especially powerful men, would RUN from someone like that. I think men like that value loyalty to them as a very top priority. They are not looking for someone that challenges them, but for someone that will fight on their side with everything they have....and that means putting their own needs second.
Same!! I’m only recently embracing/accepting my femininity. It’s a strange thing. I was always embarrassed of being a girl for whatever reason.
@@alwaysyouramanda I think society today sort of tries to push us into being ashamed of acting feminine, so I get it. I think its wonderful that you have the balls to be yourself. That always gets respect in my eyes. Even though I dress a bit too "fashion forward" and am far too weird in general to appeal to many. I don't care, because Im married. My curiosity just got the better of me.
Take it from a man who knows men very well. No matter what a woman's body type may be, she will attract men if she is healthy and "clean." Each man has his own preferences when it comes to body type, and there is some leeway in that, but there is no "perfect type" that is attractive to all men. If a lady is unable to pique a guy's interest, she should move on so as to meet men looking for someone like her. Be confident in your own, gorgeous self and they will find you.
Changing the subject, I believe the most valuable thing a woman can learn about men is how to differentiate between those looking for a "date" and those looking for a "mate." There is a world of difference between the two for men, and women waste tremendous amounts of time and effort trying to turn the former into the latter. That is not how it works with men. Until a man goes into "marriage mode," any pairing is viewed by him as temporary. Men seeking a spouse behave differently and value different female qualities than those seeking only company.
Thank you for your honesty. Most men lie by ommisson so they just string us along as we develop soul ties which damage us women. And they already know they don't want to marry us
What's 'clean'
@@missNCW "Clean" means she performs basic hygiene. If her hair is dirty and smells like vomit, if her skin is full of scabs, if her clothing smells of perspiration (not sweat) and urine, if she hasn't brushed her teeth in so long that you can tell from ten feet away, your impression of her is not going to be favorable. (I'm pretty sure this applies equally to both males and females.)
What if a woman is wheelchair bound?
@@lunasinger2735 There are many possible reasons for being wheelchair-bound, and many possible effects it might have on the woman. (In many cases, using a wheelchair does not necessarily "bind" one to it.) In addition, a man's reaction to said woman is going to vary greatly in accordance with his personality and life experience. For those reasons, I cannot offer a generalization beyond "it depends."
More importantly, however, is that I have met wheelchair-bound women who have been courted and married by loving and supportive men, underlining my original assertion that any woman seeking companionship should be looking for someone who appreciates her for who she is. It is a waste of time and effort to pursue someone who does not.
This is gonna seem really basic to a lot of people but since you mentioned it, as a Cosmetologist, I felt like going into detail because I've genuinely met a lot of people who come in and have these little issues, bare in mind I don't only work with hair but I also work with nails and aesthetics:
1) Shower your body EVERYDAY but your hair you shouldn't shampoo everyday - it depends on your hair, if you have more coarse ethnic hair then often times it's best to shampoo your hair every 4 days or once a week, some people go even further. Then, the finer and especially straighter your hair is the more you'll have to shampoo. I have thick but fine hair so I shampoo my hair every 3 days.
The reason your hair gets oily everyday if it does is because with your shampooing everyday, you're stripping away natural oils and your hair is suffocating right now, so it's producing more oils because you're shampooing everyday which is extremely unhealthy. I know it's hair, but stick to a good dry shampoo, and also get you a good shampoo and conditioner - STOP, USING, PANTENE and similar brands!!! The reason these kinds of shampoos make your hair oh so "shiny" is because they have similar ingredients in them that are found in certain paints and waxes not meant for hair which is why they're able to produce these products in large amounts and so cheaply.
You can still find a decent cheap brand for your hair, the cheapest I would recommend is Onyx which you can find at Walmart, Targots, online or anywhere just about, Onyx is about the same price as something such as Pantene, it only comes in a little bit of a smaller bottle - regardless it will do you wonders way better than brands like Pantene or Treseme.
Anyway sorry, I had to stress it a little. I care about hair.
2) Use body soap for your body type like you would face wash for your face type - not only because of how it smells.
3) Clean behind your ears really good. You'd be surprised at the amount of people, even seemingly well off people who come in and sit in my chair with crusty ears. This matters most of all because it can smell and regardless of perfume, people can possibly smell it if they come close to you.
4) Use a nail brush to clear your nails and toe nails, file, buff, clear coat, and for the love of all goodness please gently push your cuticles back using a cuticle pusher and some cuticle oil. Some cuticles can really grow out and look off putting, do this if you don't go to a salon.
(The last two are personal touches of mine.)
5) Use a lightly scented body lotion (or oil) and a lightly scented body spray after coming out of the shower. I use a fresh cotton one and it works wonders. Baby oil can work too - If you're into that really fresh powder smell, you can add a teensy bit of Love's baby soft, but that's up to your personal taste and body's chemistry.
6) Try dry brushing - You've probably heard this before, however, *do not* do it everyday. Many people will say "I do it everyday." And I can promise you either they're bluffing or their skin is badly damaged and sensitive under all the pretty. Doing it everyday can cause your skin to become sensitive and red, it can make it hurt. You're literally using oil and a brush on bare skin so be gentle, do it once or twice a week. It removes dead skin, it's not been proven but it has been shown to seemingly help overweight women not get too much loose skin when they did it during their weight loss journeys, and it can help prevent spider and varicose veins.
Anyway I apologize if this was really long, but I feel like some people really forget these things and need to have it stressed to them. I love your videos Anna, I watch them all the time. One day I may even attend your online finishing school!
Great info! Thx
Thanks
It was long but worth reading. Thanks so much for all the advice.
Thank you for the advice!
Thank you so very much for taking the time to share your expertise and opinions...very informative...except I have no idea what dry brushing is..lol 😆...happy holidays and stay blessed!!
What I love about you is that you encourage women to firstly love and take care of themselves. It's about you first. That's how you attract what you want.
Love and like YOURSELF and others WILL LIKE YOU
Ikr.... she's a wonderful person
What I love most about Ana is that she speaks the truth even if it makes some people uncomfortable. We are biologically wired this way yet people try to shut these ideas down like they don’t exist. Keep telling it like it is! 💖✨
She s a match consultant, and she knows and talk a lot to rich men, so i guess she knows
Dojocho: Um what
“Biologically wired”
Honey no... that’s not how you science...
@@alexbennet4195
Yeah, exactly.
Evolutionary psychology?
Pseudoscience 101.
There are certain aspects of the sexes that make for a more desirable mate, this is proven by SCIENCE! Ana touches on this a little during this video but most importantly she doesn’t care to speak up about what she believes, meaning providing her OPINION, through out all of her content. I truly admire that. ✨
I think you should tell men too, that a shower a day is assumed.
Right! And there is 0 reason to wear the same underwear two days in a row! That's unacceptable.
My divorce has been hard on me. It has had me question my entire being. Then these videos started popping up on my page just when I needed it the most. I am forever grateful to Anna. She's helped remind me of who I am and that no matter what no one can take my dignity from me unless I let them.
Stop watching reality TV. Trash in, trash out. I can’t stress this enough.
Especially the Kardashians and all of those stupid Housewives shows!!!! Both are low class, imho.
@@RG-hf4et Oh good lord, Chelsea R G, PREACH! Mindless reality TV is an *enormous* turnoff for me, that signals you're going to be boring and superficial to get to know. I get that we all have our guilty pleasures. But to be blunt, my body may respond to someone's good looks, but if you can't hold a conversation about something, or express your individuality, the only appeal is sexual. When I was younger and naive I couldn't understand why other guys seemed so shallow and stupid about their views on sex and dating; but now I just pity them for limiting themselves to chasing superficial people.
PS Considering we're on a video about rich men, there's a distinct separation between those that know their worth and want an equal partner who wants them for more than their cash, and those who flex their affluence, and chase sexual ego-boosts to compensate for their pre-wealth insecurity
This is bullshit😊 I'm talk fit and blonde and men are so intimidated by me I disagree 😊 men tend to go for their average girl in my opinion don't get me wrong yes I attract wealthy men and smart 😊 have to be yourself and live your inner truth
Who still watches TV? I'm on my internet literally all day, it's this generation's new television. UA-cam have everything you need to know.
I think we need to add kindness and authenticity to the list. Men are turned off by self-centeredness.
And less is more with make-up. UA-cam make-up stars are causing everyone to look like clowns.
These videos make me feel like women are running behind wealthy men when they just pretty and not upto their class.. such relations doesn't work honestly..
Something I have noticed is men typically do not like to hear a woman swear. The occasional slip can be sexy but do not be blatantly vulgar.
Gosh same thing about men..they look so vulgar when they swear..i haven't found any man look sexy or tolerable when they swear
It's the same with men
You hit the nail on the head. I find swearing repulsive and I’m a woman
I don't care. If you are creative in swearing that's even a plus.
Agree. Swearing signals a lack of vocabulary.
I remember there was a guy who asked me if these were my natural nails without any nail polish and etc. and when i said yes he made me a compliment about my nails, how he liked she shape and also the skin around my nails, how they were really healthy. And I was shocked a little bit to be honest, because I've never expected to hear a compliment for the skin around my nails haha Men look at such details that you will probably never expect them to look at
Probably should start locking your door if that guy knows where you live. xD
@@user-jh6kx1fw9h 🤣😂
I notice small details too. I look at men's nails even the skin and hairs on their feet
@@ellied.ananayo7116 same 😂. I thought I was weird for that
I heard from men that they do really care about nail health. One man said that if he saw unkept toenails it really turned them off and some people can't compromise on it. If you don't care about small details of health and hygiene then it can also foreshadow how you will treat other aspects of life. You don't need to have above average features, just be well maintained in all different areas of body and have healthy lifestyle and its enough to attract opposite sex...plus personality which makes you a unique person.
Making it 10:
8. Sense of humor (appropriate and with cuth)
9. Great personal style
10. Intelligence
Couth
Intelligence
Actually there has been research about men & attraction to intelligent females. Men don't want a woman who is smarter than them.
Kimberley so sad that man are afraid of intelligent women. I hope never be with someone like that.
You don't want to be with someone who doesn't value your intelligence. Plus, intelligence makes for great conversations.
My mum always says to eat appropriate , drink plenty of liquids and keep yourself clean at all times. She also says that keep your waist line small and be financially independent whether I need the money or not. Love my mommy❤️❤️💖💙
My husband, who is very affluent...really values that I’m open to learning from him. Sometimes we can be very opinionated and stuck in our ways, but when we have a partner who’s open to growing and seeing different perspectives I think it makes for a great life companion.
Confidence is honestly the biggest one. I can't tell you enough how often I'm complimented on my confident aura. Sometimes your confidence itself is enough to cause a double take.
Us: Howdy
Anna: Speaks in cursive
Suga Princess this was so funny 😂😂😂😂🤣
Omg yes 😂
YESSS!
True!
Lol
Bad breath from smoking is a real turn off for me.
I WILL NOT date someone who smokes. It means they don't take care of themselves, they do not value good health, and it's just plain disgusting.
Wenda Workman so true
I agree, the same applies to men, if men smells with cigarettes or his breath is bad, it's a no
Hahaha i always laugh when i see a man commenting on Anna's videos
Lol..
OMG!!!! I have been hiding myself in my safe shell during so many years!!!! It is time to get out and say hello to the world!!!
Same here.
@@shandahlibarra2736 and now you are stuck
So do I.
I agree with you . I am 72 years old married for 50 plus years. I still carry myself a certain way that is attractive to my husband. Thanks for keeping it real . Be bless
I would like to add that for the ladies out there who sport their hair in natural styles or locs, please don’t see this as a setback. Yes, society typically favours long, flowing, European type hair. However, please believe me when I say that I have zero troubles in this department. I keep my hair clean and tidy, but I am also authentic and original. Most of the time, the biggest compliments I receive are on my smile, personality, and intellect. I absolutely concur that a smile and healthy confidence, not to be confused with cockiness, will get you a long way. Always strive to be your greatest, but most importantly, be comfortable with the skin you’re in ladies. Self love and appreciation first 🌹
As a lady with natural hair (3b/c) I second this! You don’t need to have European-style hair to look elegant! Whatever you suit and feel comfortable in is perfect
Thank you I am blessed with my African kinky hair.
I was wondering if there are African ladies here,thank God I'm not alone
Mescia Mason thank you! My best advice? Take your time if you want to. It’s all up to you 😌I believe that as long as you don’t make a big deal out of it, no one else will either. I have received nothing but positive compliments since beginning my loc journey a year ago. I was natural for 10 years before that. It’s not the hair, it’s the confidence behind it 😉 you’ve got this ✨
Ella 100% 🙌🏽🌹
All these topics are important but I feel that being a good listener goes far. Men love to talk about themselves.
Roxy Kotlarek very true!! But this comes as step 2. it wouldn't even come to a chat with a classy gentleman with a woman with bad odour, broken nails, ...etc
@@svetlanavukolic8242 I agree, however some women are polished and refined but never let the man talk.
So do women. I knew a guy in high school and college who could sweep pretty much any woman off her feet. How? I finally figured out that he just asked questions and let the chicks talk. Women love to get their quota of words in and hear themselves talk. He made them feel smart, fascinating, and deep. I concluded that they fell in love with themselves but thought they were in love with him. Charming!
@@RCGagain Wow, you are very clever, what a fascinating analysis. Truly!
@@RCGagain Thats literally just Manipulation
All of the men I've dated who had dated a plethora of beautiful, attractive women have always said that the thing that set me apart was my intelligence.
I posed an intellectual challenge, was capable of an intelligent conversation on almost any topic which made me fun to be around & a great companion, in addition to being attractive and having a physical connection.
Please don't limit yourself to simply being the pretty arm piece. Eventually, they may want to actually converse... shocking 😁💕
I totally agree! Same thing with me I appreciate a handsome man but if he has no sense of humor & we can’t even hold a conversation…FORGET IT!
I'm a 26 year old mom of two boys. A few weeks ago I starched my husband & sons jeans to go out to a nice dinner. Then went in my closet and was overwhelmed by the amount of juvenilish clothes. Ever since that day I got rid of 90% of my wardrobe & have elevated my style into more of a classy elegant woman. Ofcourse with your help Anna Bey, thank you.
Skin,hair, nails are the outward evidence of inward care.
Correct
Debra Cannon,RN,DSN
Sadly, in my experience, the friends I have that take excessive care of their appearance, live in the filthiest homes. I've never been able to figure that one out.
The ones with simple manicures and pedicures at home, simple makeup, bathing and shampooing at least once at day, practical clothing, etc., those friends seem to have it all together and live in clean environments. But, the ones who everything is about appearance live in filth. Again, why?
Nails? I think : eyes, body, skin, confidence, posture.
And Smell!! Yes. And your voice, of course.
@@justathought354 true, because they are not "married material" , man look smart, practical women for married, they really dont care make up and nails.
All this "fluff" may interest a man, but the real challenge is getting his mother's approval if you're not educated or from the same social class.
You hit the nail right on the head. I grew up poor and an orphan raising myself in the streets. I married into a middle class "family" and my mother in law is a nice lady, but deep down in his mother's and father's eyes, their son or my husband married "down." There's nothing I can do about that. I cannot change that I grew up poor and orphaned. I've been married for 26 years now and they reluctantly have accepted it.
@@delyparker777 What really counts is that you're a good person and you've accomplished what most never do--you've made marriage last!
@z e and heart. And character...
Nah, you put it on him right he won’t be thinking about his mama.
Unfortunately this is true in some cases but I think a man can defend his love for his woman with the proper reassurance to his mother to let his mom know that the love he has for his wife will not take away the love he has for his mother. A mamas boy so to speak can’t do that thus is not ready for marriage...
Who cares about rich men? I want a man with a brain who knows how to treat me. Money comes and goes, but a good man is worth millions in my mind🥰
A thousand times yes.
Whatever
If you're not interested in high society, then this channel is not for you. And your comment is useless...we all want an intelligent man who treats us well.
@@michelleohanian111 Dear Einstein, I mean if you have to chose between a "High society man" with money, or a man who loves you and takes care of you, then go for the one who loves you. It is not a given that everyone looking for a "high society" man wants a man who will take care of them. Different strokes for different folks. So don't assume that. Therefore, my reply is not useless. Finally, I can watch and reply to every video on UA-cam whether it interests me or not. That's my prerogative. So, you live your life, and don't try to tell me or others how to live ours. It's not very becoming. Definitely a turn off to those "High society" men. Good luck in your endeavors.
Exactly
One thing men hate is heavy makeup. I’ve asked men for years about this. Recently, a male friend said you me, “You don’t wear any makeup, do you.” Of course I do! Keep it natural.
Dear Anna, I have to add something: I have a skin disease, called eczema. It means I get rash all over my body, on my hands and sometimes on my face. But I decided this won't stop me on my path to become a high-caliber woman. I take care of my hair, clothes, body shape (exercise!) and maintain my energy level and even though my skin isn't perfect, I still carry myself with confidence. And men like it! Thank you for great content!
Orange don’t give up. My friend have psoriasis and a scoliose, but she always avoid junk food, work out and always do her best to be the best version of herself. Some men even find her more attractive because of this and instead of being turned off they see her as a non-lazy woman who truly deserve admiration cause she have all the excuses to be lazy and giving up, but she didn’t.
She was gifted with good look, but the way she take care of her illiness, and how she carry herself instead of complaining made her look more charming and charismatic, and she have a lot of handsome men wanting her.
I know a girl who has a burn scar on her arm and breast and she said men are not turned off by this, in fact they want to care more but she has such attractive personality so the defect works in her favour actually.
Orange Dear Orange-you are so courageous! Have you researched supplements for your skin, especially mineral supplements ? Or eliminating certain foods like dairy or gluten? I wish you health !
Orange how do you do it?! I've had eczema for over 5 years & I've been covering up the scars by any means necessary! I dream of one day not caring & just stepping out without the fear of what people will say but I'm held back by this narrative that convinces me that it might turn men off...if you have any pointers or tips I'd be so grateful ❤
Go girl 👏👏👏
Another one is: Ambition. They want to know what your ambitions and goals are so they can help you in any way shape or form.
Yeah.. actually I've heard that men love women who are ambitious and actually have something working on in their lives..
My daughter was looking nice but her skin was ok but when she stopped drinking alcohol as part of a diet, her skin started looking GREAT, just glowing. Such a difference. Also her long thick hair was looking even glossier. A healthy diet, exercise and no alcohol really makes you more beautiful.
For healthy skin a cup of celery juice a day works best..or eat more celery...
In the past I have heard men say that a woman’s voice and mannerisms of speech is important. I try to speak clearly and confidently and avoid a high pitch or girl like voice. Definitely no cursing or criticizing people in conversation.
Love you channel!
Pitchy voice is the most annoying thing, men get tired of that woman very quickly
Yes voice is importand but wimen with creepy voice also get men so its not in first place lol.
Toning your voice while talking. Even talking is an art. Using pause at proper places, punctuation..this is very important. The way you speak, that has to be attractive. A flat tone of voice is boring
Thank you for pointing this out
Not only minding that your voice isn't flat, but that it isn't too loud too. My friend looks amazing but the whole room can hear her when and what about she is talking or if she laughs and it is always embarassing for the group of people she is in.
And also, the way you carry the words matters. You could be really talking something important or pointing something out...and if your tone sounds lazy or not the content related, it can be a huge turn off.
Debolina Mondal so true and well noticed. The voice, the way of talking and of course the vocabulary should show a lady of intelligence, good manners, education and femininity.
Just think of Cleopatra VII. She wasn't born pretty, but she managed to transform herself into the most attractive woman of her era. Of course she was wealthy beyond imagination, but apart from money she had dedication and style. The way she talked was one of the major factors of her charisma.
My thing to add is also nails and toes ! You must keep a mani and a pedi at all times ! :)
And please don’t forget a good sense of humor. Little teasing and smart conversation are super attractive.
YES! (for both)
Being nice and gracious to others is a to magnet to good men, affluent or not. Because it radiates your femininity which they crave.
Yessss!!!!
You are so right???
#1 indication of Class! Great point!
Spot on!
Guys have always told me that they are initially attracted by looks but stay for personality.
I’ve started with your intermittent fasting and starting eating at noon or later and this has been very helpful. After being plateaued for ages I feel like I’m starting to slim again. Thank you for this advise.
Her: 1st thing:smile
Me in youtube search: how to smile without being a fake.
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All celebrities have fake smiles
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If a guy is in to you mostly for your looks he’ll leave you if(when) you lose them.
TRUTH
Not if you have a possessive type that doesn’t ever want chnage
I agree with you, but I think it’s not what Anna means. She’s talking about how taking care of your looks/ appearance is good for yourself.
This is soo true...I have friends who lost it after having children... and they faced another serious challenge.
FlickerFlame But by then, you can extract a lot from him through divorce.
As a psychologist, all these things are true and I learned in psych classes.
Yes maybe its true. High standarts but do they match described lady?
For me: 1. Hair 2. Skin glow 3. Posture 4. Balance of mind, maturity.
I am not looking for a rich man to be a success woman I can be success by myself. I love your videos helps me to be more elegant. I work hard and I am very feminine. Thanks for everything.
I would definitely also add femininity - particularly feminine mannerisms
I agree with this, and I love your videos!
Michelle Garza thank you 😘
Agree 100%
Oh yes definitely 😊
such as?
I have heard from an old experienced gentleman that men like not just pretty dolls but a woman who's interesting, pleasant and that you can hold a conversation with. For that he recommended reading books on different topics. He was not impressed with being sexually overconfident. The whole fun was about pursuing the lady.
he was old not young.
Okay, great, it's fun pursuing the lady. Eventually, 1, 2, 3 years later, the lady has said yes, then what? The fun is gone, and...where is the end goal?
But where is the lady's fun
It should not be about the chase, it should be about the lady
Nothing more attractive than a woman who can carries a conversation, affluent men love this.
I’m 19 and my goal is to be a housewife and be the most feminine woman I can be. I am changing slowly to become the best version of myself. Thank you
That was my ambition when I was your age
Follow AB advice and you will be
Had a similar goal when I was young lol but you either have to have really good looks or lucky to get a partner to provide for you to be a housewife. Otherwise you wont get very far if that's your only goal. There is nothing wrong being a housewife but please also refine other hobbies and goals to be independent at your age.
@@Cancionera40 yes it is. Its just not YOUR goal. And thats ok.
The world needs someone like you, and I hope you become a mother to many children.
Oh dear you will not be happy
I didn’t have a mother in my up bring just to have come across you means everything ❤️
I would agree, while my husband is middle-high class and I come straight from low working class, when I asked him what attracted him to me if he could easily have found a well-off girl from his class. He said... your beautiful smile, your glowing eyes, your beautiful hair (which he loves for me to care for all the time) and your soft hands from when you first greeted me. He cares for me even more than I have ever cared for me lol
You sound really happy and that made me happy too. Btw, I also have a wonderful husband. :)
Yohana Sugehy Awww such a sweet story!!
Ingrid Edman-Markenfelt I am happy for you! And yes he makes me so happy
A BC thank you 🥰
Rally? My husband is far wealthier then me, although these days, I don't really know what "wealthy " means? A few million dollars still makes you upper middle class. And he loves me, because he trusts me, we have very similar political views, and generally think alike. This makes him think that I am smart, although I don't think I am at all, Im glad he thinks so....that said, he would probably be very unhappy if I got fat and sloppy. I doubt he would leave, but Im sure our relationship would suffer.
My experience tells me they pay a lot of attention to nails, hands, feet. They also pay attention to the fragrance you wear and how you sit, walk and behave. The hair is important too and they love to touch and play with hands and hair so they better be soft and with a good fragrance and clean. Thank you Anna. Looking on point as always 💗
I agree with the first comment. My boyfriend is not affluent, but he has high standards when it comes to someone he is dating, and I’m learning to become a better woman because of him. He tells me about how I should dress, how I should keep up with my hygiene, how I should tend to my nails, etc. it’s very rewarding ❤️
He sounds controlling
@@gavinpalmer1324 and what do you Hain from That LOL
I am married 39 years. I started watching your videos and I love the ideas. They work for me because I started exercising and dressing nice and I got compliments from my husband.
I love the note about confidence -- you're right, Anna, no matter how "unworthy" or out of place you feel, you can't let yourself shrink down and let your imposter syndrome show because that really, truly does put people off. You are absolutely right about the smile being so important to men too -- people fall in love so easily with a certain type of open, joyful, sincere smile. Even as a woman, when I see the rare bright, happy, warm smile on a man (like the character Wei Ying in the recent Chinese drama The Untamed), I fall in love instantly too!
Someone once gave me the advice to "layer" smell. Wash with soap, use body lotion and on top a spritz of perfume. Combine the clean,fresh smell with a perfume.
This works great for me =)
I do this only soap and lotion
And deodorant! Never forget that or your soap and moisturiser won’t have a chance
I love the realness of this video. Being feminine and elegant IS A POWERFUL quality. Embrace your beauty and improving yourself is never a bad thing. Nice to see a video like this.
I shower at least 2 to 3 times a day. I love being clean. Shower in the morning, shower after work, shower before bed. 🥰..And also being natural without any surgery is always best. Because those implants do not last forever.
Getting massages and visiting the chiropractor to achieve a relaxed composure
Whether or not someone is looking for romance, learning how to behave in a more refined manner benefits everyone. You will show better at job interviews. Command more respect from others and be held in higher regard. There is a saying about how a fine woman is at ease at either a hunt or a cocktail party. They are never out of their element or over faced. Also, learning better manners, and how to present yourself, are skills that you can pass down to your children. This channel benefits all women, single or married, and at any age. I am happily married, but have always enjoyed etiquette and fashion. Our clothing and mannerisms are key non verbal communication. What flag do you want to fly to the world? So many fashion trends are frankly cheap and appear too desperate for attention...the wrong kind of attention. You will never be taken seriously if you behave or dress tacky.
This channel is one of the few sources out there helping improve women, regardless of their goals.
This is such a beautiful comment! I completely agree with everything you said.
Desert Rose very well said
Desert Rose so true
Please Anna, teach about good perfumes! And enable subtitles so that people with hearing disabilities do not lose any information you share in the videos. Thank you so much!
Maria CC UA-cam has a plethora of videos on perfumes. Look up
Jeremy Fragrance
yes. i am in the market for a new perfume
You can enable captions on any video here on youtube. Have a good day :)
Chanel Chance or any of the flankers is a good place to start!
Best perfumes: Issey Miyake L'Eau D'Issey, Lucky You, and Calvin Klein Shock.
Lotion: Japanese Cherry Blossom lotion from Bath and Body Works.
A few weeks ago I had to speak to a male tenant about an issue that was affecting my tenant that lived below him. While I spoke to him, I was nervous, but I tried to deliver my message confidently. I distinctly remember staring directly into his eyes in our moment of silence. Immediately after that he dropped his guard and was more approachable. I said to myself, "It worked!"
Nothing sexier than to see a woman who knows what she wants and who is completely comfortable with herself and confident about who she is.
Princess Diana did not attract Charles with her Eyes. She was a naive girl, who fit exactly into what The monarchy neeeded At that moment! Poor Diana!
And Charles was actually in love with Camilla who was older than him and not beautiful like Diana.
@@ellenfarrell2785 So true. And people treated her like the other woman when really she was the first. Sad situation.
Sad but true
Princess Diana did not attract Charles with her good looks because he's already in love with Camellia, which was a true love that went beyond looks...
She was young/shy and hadn't had previous boyfriends, no there wasn't much risk of ex boyfriends going to the tabloids
My male friends (and ex-partners) told me that intelligence is very important to them. Eyes can be pretty but if the mind behind is dull the attraction wears off sooner than later. I too want my man to be intelligent, to see that spark in their eyes, surpassing mere looks and promising a depth to their being.
I also believe that humor is important. Laughing is so incredibly healthy and healing (a 'conditioner for the soul') As simple as it sounds, humor can be a pretty complex thing. Before I get involved with a man it's important to me to know what he finds funny, what amuses his mind. And I know of men who judge women the same way.
Thank you Anna for your videos. ✨🙏🏽✨ I am learning a lot about elegance and grace through them and I am very happy to finally turn into the lady I always aspired to be and knew I was 🌹
This is very true beauty fades eventually.
You’re right Anna
My husband is attracted to grooming, good skin, fresh smelling hair and femininity. It’s really important to him, so I do all these things the best way I can. I’ve just painted my nails red & now Going to style my hair ❤️. We’ve been together now 30 years. Grooming never gets old, It’s worth it 💖
Well I hope he provides for all that high maintenance
@@semekiizuio lol I see Anna as a sister/mum I never had, her advice is excellent.
I don’t go to salons only for my hair once a month. I’m a DIY kinda gal. Painted my own nails yesterday and do all the cooking and cleaning etc yes, I’m well groomed but I’m my own stylist. Anna has been extremely helpful
Does anyone else feel like we need to do our hair and makeup before we watch Anna videos? 😂😂😂
Bottom line: just be yourself, but always thrive to be the best version of yourself. I personally think that if we’re emotionally healthy and confident, we will pay attention to our physical health (outside and inside).
Love it!!! I hate when you keep apologizing for being REAL. I can say from experience, EVERYTHING that was said in this video is 100% true and don't need apologies. I feel like when people say "It's the inside that counts" that part is basically after the initial meet, there has to be something that actually draws a man to you and this video is the first step. Great video as always! 😀👍
This video was real?... How do you define superficial to be real?
Another rhetorical for you... Would a man appreciate you for who you are without all the extra embellishment? Why is there a need to be something you aren't? Are you worthy?
LET'S GET PERSONAL With Steph thank you! Obviously personality counts, but looks matter! Why would anyone marry someone they’re not attracted to? You’re literally going to have sex with this person and LOOK at them for the rest of your life.
Good hygiene and grooming makes me feel confident and sexy. I believe that what you see on the outside is a reflection of what is happening on the inside.
Anna, you are so kind with everything you present to us! Sometimes the truth hurts, but the way you provide it, it makes me feel empowered!
I would add to the list the posture and walk. My man (middle high class) said he loved my elegant posture and walk, even though I was not dressed elegant that day. After one year I asked him why me and he said my long flowy hair (even though they are thin), the eyes and the smile but from far away he noticed my posture and walk first.
U forgot one important point. Have a nice mani/pedi. Women who have a beautiful hair or smile, then the woman reaches for something or her date wants to hold hands, then her date notices chipped polish or broken nail and that is a disaster, or she puts on sandals for a day at the beach, when her date looks down and her pedi is one major hot mess.
If ur date is a man who loves a woman with pretty feet , you.will not be on the list for a second date
Dear Anna. Thank you for putting this program together. It has been needed for many years. I am an Eligant older woman who remembers the beautiful loving advice my French grandmother shared with me. I love hearing these gems again. And the many more you are adding. Many special wishes to you and your adventure. Nancy
Ana, you are a true inspiration, I'm Not looking for a rich man by any means ( since I'm happy with my SO) but this videos that I click at first out of curiosity turn out to be a value etiquette guide not only for an upper-class socialité but to our day to day life. Great videos!
One thing that has been proven by men is a beautiful attitude. The tone of your attitude can make or break your chances with men of affluence.
I love this shirt/dress on you! I'd also love a closet tour!
I too loved it❤️❤️
Elizabeth Blanford yes! I would too!
I love your videos and I love how “blunt” you are. You are like an older sister who is giving me tips 🥰🤣
14:08 is an excellent point. Over confidence does give off masculine energy. When a person acts this way the mouth gets tighter and words come out sounding stern and preachy.
You mentioned smells and that got me thinking. Every grooming product we buy usually have a scent of its own and together they can create the most foul odor unless we are very careful. Hairspray for instance often stinks. Really stinks. I have found that Redken is fairly discreet, but it took me some tine to find that one. Then we have soaps, deodorants, hand and facial creams, body lotions and to top it all off, our own favourite perfume for the occation. To create a good mix from all that is hard work. I wish you could make a video on how to combine certain products to avoid a mix that smells like a One Dollar store.
Very good point
I agree and have found it best to stick to subtle scents across different products that compliment each other. I’m sure Anna has fantastic advice on this topic!
Ingrid Edman-Markenfelt woah. that topic would be so interesting
Try cerave products . They are fragrance free
@@ghizlanederkaoui1172 Yes, too many products are unnecessarily scented. 🤢
This list is true most men not just rich and influential men.
Eva Green Lover yeah I get it.
i don't care ,but who want a poor man . .no ambitious , no want to progress and good life. ,Yes we want a real man
who care and support in all😊
I’ve been solo for a long time and subscribed to figure out what I’m doing wrong. This video is a boost confirming what I’m doing right. Thank you, Anna!
I just watched this and yes, this all makes sense and builds confidence in all of us women. Thank you, Anna!
I have short healthy thick hair. People around say it's suit to my face. Moreover, I'm confident with short healthy thick hair 😍
Some women look better with short hair. Even shaved heads. I know this because I'm not one of them. I have a strong jawline and features, so the longer the better to frame my face. I'm so jealous, especially in the Aussie summer when I wanna do a Britney 2007 every other day. My mum has smaller/more delicate features and has had short hair since her 20s.
I wasn’t going to hit the play button since I am not looking for a rich man but I am glad I did because these are things we all can apply in our daily lives.
I appreciate you mentioning that there is different types of confidence, sometimes people get confused and they don't know how to behave confidently in their own way