my divorce...opening up 3 years later
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- Опубліковано 9 лип 2024
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Can't believe is been that long I still remember your wedding video and diy decor for your wedding. So happy to hear that you are both happy.
Hi Evelina,
I watch you for 6(!?) years now, and I just want to tell you, I really love your content and your authenticity! I guess you read comments like this a lot, but I just wanted to put it out there, since I don't comment a lot on youtube. I kind of grew up with your videos, and I just want to say thank you. I'm really happy for you, being so happy now :-) You are beautiful!
That's so crazy! Thank you so much for supporting my channel all these years!
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same here 😻❤️
I saw Daniel shooting a wedding I was at last summer in Dana Point. It was so trippy I was like wow that's Evelina's ex-husband. Thank you for sharing Evi! So happy to hear you're both doing well and have moved on!
hello
relationships take a lot of work to keep the person that you love and if you're not both giving 100% then chances are the person doing all the work is going to feel let down until there is no more relationship
They don't take work Shelly, they take a good fucking and decent head unless you want to get cheated on. That, and you either losing weight or not getting fat in the first place.
I'm so happy you finally were able to open up about this bc it is such a sensitive issue! As a Christian, I am so appalled by the people from your old church who claim to be your support system and just turn their back on you when you need them and feel the need to judge you for making that difficult decision. Christians like that are the reasons why Christians arent very well liked. We're all human and at the end of the day, even if we make mistakes and decisions that oppose the law of the Bible, there's Grace. And yes evelina, God loves you and wants nothing more than to see you happy and growing in your journey. Love ya ❤️
Amen amen!
naohms amennnnn
naohms You are blaming christians for following what the bible says? Because, what you say about there being grace for bad decisions is not true. ( Hebrews 10.26 If we deliberately keep on sinning after we have received the knowledge of the truth, no sacrifice for sins is left, 27 but only a fearful expectation of judgment and of raging fire that will consume the enemies of God.) So yes, if you made a mistake there is grace. But you can't keep on making bad decisions and relying on grace. If you do not know the bible than please stop making wrong accusations on christians. Thank you.
Agnesa Meshkov you're right, grace does not give people the license to sin, but it's also not up to me to judge people based on what they have done because i am in no position to. Im human and imperfect. If someone i love went through what evelina went through, i would offer my advice, but whatever decision she made i should still love her regardless, because thats how the Jesus that i have come to know would. It's not up to me to pass judgment or punishment for those who have made mistakes. Did Jesus stone the whore when the pharisees brought her to him? If a righteous man like him showed her compassion and forgiveness, who am i to not do the same? Grace came so that we can be empowered to overcome sin. Right believing leads to right behaving. And in my opinion, nobody should go through the problems of life alone just bc it's "sinful". Jesus meets us where we are because we can never be righteous on our own merit. “I am writing to you, dear children, because your sins have been forgiven on account of his name.” 1 John 2:12 our past, present and future sins have been forgiven and not just if we decide to confess. We dont get negated access to God's righteousness and blessing for making a mistake, whats the point of Jesus coming in the first place? Everyone goes through storms in their life, and amidst all of that, God is there to meet us where we're at, so for me, i believe that i should meet people where they're at and be like Jesus to them when theyre going through a bad season. ❤️ have a great day!
naohms I am not saying we should not love sinners but we should not accept their sin as something that is ok just because that is who they are.You are right, we should love everyone like Jesus did the whore, but also not forget that he told her to sin no more and to change her ways. ❤
People spend so much time and money Planning their wedding and NOT on their actual marriage. After your wedding day how are you going to uphold a promise for a life time without preparation and guidance. Marriage at the start is like an empty box and you have to continue to fill it up with intimacy, love, friendship, and more. It's like a baby that you have to take care of. Maturity is also really important. Just because you may think that you're mature doesn't mean you actually are. I grew up really fast because of my beliefs and childhood. My husband and I were both living on our own. Marriage is hard. You must love unconditionally and be patient... People get divorced after they are no longer in love and their spouse is acting up, but when one gets married you don't say to the other that you'll be together until they no longer please you. Marriage is work and staying in love takes work. Marriage is a journey and you don't know how to be a husband or a wife at the start so it's crazy have many expectations of each other. My husband and I have gone through so much, but our marriage is getting so much better over time. We got married at 20. People who want easy things and have the wrong ideas about marriage always end up in divorce. You don't just become one once you say I do... it's a process and a decision to say yes. Love is a choice.... infatuation and feelings on the other hand are not reliable. You can stay in love in marriage as long as you keep pushing for closeness, forgiving, being a friend, serving each other, and more. It's not that difficult, but some of us make it more difficult than it has to be. 💕
Klarieliz Fernandez VERY well said! 👏🏾👏🏾
How about if they stay a man child that is too picky to get a job? While you grow into a stronger person who values herself and pays all the bills? Marriage is about two sides giving, all the time. Not for a short time after the convo. Sometimes the guy is just not strong enough to change, and the girl decides that she has outgrown him and wants someone at her level of ferocity in life?
@@cathleenturner630 Are you sure thats what happened? You sure he would say you didnt have your issues?
@@LAinLA86 of course I do too. It's just that the effort for sustaining marriage was one sided, and I put in all the work. When I noticed my behavior was not promoting health marriage ( like put my self interests above his) I would recognize and correct that. The problem tho, is that because it was one sided, over time it ended up with his needs always being met...and my needs were not met. And he refused to recognize this problem. I tolerated this for years, until the last few months I went under drastic changes, and I learned to value myself and meet my needs. So, I split up with him. Because I have changed, and he did not.
Evelina: Kalel is the sister that I never had! thank you
Kalel: I have no friends
I thought the same thing xD
Kalel : 🤔🐍
That’s beauty community for you lol
so glad you opened up to us, we'll always support you much love!! ❤️❤️
Sarah Castillo what if she killed someone? lol
I always thought that getting married before 25 was crazy, like in europe where I live it's rare to hear about a couple married before that age and usually people date for 3 to 10 years.
I live in the Nederlands and i got married at 19 years old and my husband was 21
In Moldova all the girls have the goals of getting a boyfriend and a husband, that's how it is. Moldova isn't a fully European country yet (we still have a long way to go), so people are pretty conservative over here.
it depends on which part of Europe. I supose west Europe. Where I live its a normal thing. Im 22 and half of my school class is already married and has childreen. Most girls end school and get married after it. I will get married after finishing my studies. But I live in a small village, in big citys is kinda different.
Yeah, its such an american thing to do aswell, you know that kind of mindset of having a big fairytail wedding, almost seems like thats the point in life for them.
the American dream mentality
I am one of those rare people who married young and I'm still with my husband 17 years later. I have always been on the mature side with a strong sense of self, so I haven't really changed much since we met when I was 17. However, I don't think I would want the same for my kids because I realize the majority of people do change quite a bit in their young adult years. You are a very wise person, Evelina, and you have a great outlook on life and relationships. Oh, and your lipstick is ON POINT!
wow, so you have not developed whatsoever since you were 17? We all change constantly, we develop, we grow. If you did not, then it is kind of sad
MoonieLass It's unfortunate that's all you got out of my comment. Of course I have grown and developed; I merely stated that I have always known who I am and that hasn't changed.
Amen sister !!!!!!!!
That's really sweet ❤️
You gave us such amazing advice! I love how you were so intense and direct about the compatibility thing and about not owing anyone anything, making decisions for what you need. Your openness and vulnerability is so beautiful. I've been watching your channel since 2011 💕💛
So glad you waited till you were ready to open up more! love you evelina ~~
I don't fully agree with this video... 95% compatibility is a really high percentage.
I'm together with my boyfriend for a little over 3 years and we have huge differences but we still make it work. Partially because we're both patient in our own different ways and also because we know our love is strong enough to have our differences.
Communication but also mentality is key.
MeMalissa sooo true!!
Thank you for opening up. Don't ever worry about what other people think of you - like you said, you only owe anything to YOURSELF :)
"Look at me now! Living, still alive, eating well" haha best part
After the break up with the love of my life (I wanna live abroad, he doesn't) just over a month ago I needed this. Getting to know myself again without a relationship, after being in relationships ever since I was 17. Thank you for being so open about it and it's definitely all gonna be fine
TRAVEL VLOG IV i'm going through the same thing now, it was the hardest decision i ever had to make. It's so scary and painful but i'm trying to stay strong and push through. I hope you're doing fine now and you came out strong on the other side
I've been waiting for that video for so long!
Three years
I just broke off an engagement and this helped me so so much. You really do have to put yourself first and you are the only person you owe anything to. Stay strong E!
Thank you for sharing, you had myself in tears! I have begun this journey has well of self love and acceptance. Knowing my choices are mine. At twenty one I was married. Now looking at it, its HARD. Now am rebuilding my life. But I see it has a blessing. I'm doing this journey at a young age, am blessed to have a lesson that will shape my future self. xx love you evelina, the timing is amazing. Thank you.
catherine myers I have been married for over 6 years (married at 19) and I have no regrets, though I will say there have definitely been tough times that we have had to work through. Thankfully, they have made us stronger. Again, it hasn't been easy but it's worth it and we have grown a lot over these years. I totally relate to your comments about self love. All the best to you :)
Very inspiring. You are a strong, beautiful woman and I appreciate your honesty ❤️
I bet the bitch spells space with a w somewhere in the middle
ed fastward ?
Your honesty is so refreshing!
I got engaged at 21 and ended it a year later (thankfully before our wedding) when I realized that we were both changing very quickly and in ways that caused us to clash. We tried counseling and a number of other ways of dealing with our differences but ultimately it seemed like we both just wanted that sense of family and stability to the extent that we were ignoring the red flags in our relationship. At one point he suggested to me that we just get married and if we get divorced, oh well... and that was the red flag I couldn't ignore. It's so much better to wait! If you're going to be together forever, there shouldn't be a rush.
Thank you for this video, it feels good to be able to relate to your story!
So I got married to my husband when I was 19 years old we met at the end of February we married in November he's 4 years older than me. At that time he wasn't a legal residents in U.S I decided to marry him and sponsor him. I went into this marriage thinking if it works out it will if it won't I'm still young I can do whatever I want in my life even if we end up divorcing I wanted him to have the same opportunities as I did in this country. Right now I'm almost 28 this spring we welcomed our first son Robbie. Life is very unpredictable but we can not be afraid of it. For us it worked out even though I don't feel that we are so compatible :-)
Such a strong message 💗 You do you, life's too short to just live up to someone else's expectations! Love from Poland xxx 🙌🏻🦄-
I love that you opened up about this and also gave relationship advice. This is really helpful🙌🏾
Needed this video so much 💗💗💗💗 thanks so much xxxxx
Thank you thank you thank you for being so mature and seeing the positive things and not hating on him at all but being happy for him!
I can't stand it when people split up and automatically only see the bad parts of a relationship.. I mean there obviously were good oned, too, you wouldn't have started a relationship otherwise?
This was so mature and honest and true to yourself and I dearly thank you for that and wish you all the best in life! ♥️
I married my husband at 20 and we are still happily married, have a beautiful baby boy, and are working towards buying a house. (Hopefully next year) We are growing but we are growing together. (No one ever stops growing, where would be the fun in that) I got lucky to find my special someone at a young age. I'm happy your happy and that's all that matters.
I'm so happy to hear the way you are now, you Evelina, Im so happy for your decisions. I believe you, I was the same like you, until I realized who I am now, at 29, your make different decisions. I'm happy for you Evelina. I didn't watched your videos in a while and now when I see where u at, I'm proud.
It's crazy even at a young age how much TIME, EFFORT, and ENERGY it takes when we are focused/in a relationship. Even at 12 or 15 years old, you don't realize, but that's not the time to have your mind be on a significant other. You're still a kid point blank period. Everyone around me grew up fast per se so I felt the need to jump into one very early. Boy how I wish I could tell all the young girls you will thank yourself and have way more fun not focusing on boys/relationships yet. You'll get he rest of your life to do that!!
I didn't get married, but I thought I was SO in love (also to escape home situation) that I moved across country with my partner at 19. It was such a wakeup call when I realized FOUR years later that I was with an unstable person and had wasted all those years in a toxic relationship. If I could give any advice to anyone at 18/19 even 15, is to PLEASE FIND A HOBBY OR FAVORITE ACTIVITY AND FOCUS ON THAT INSTEAD OF RELATIONSHIPS. Those years are so crucial to find what you love and fine tune your craft. To think of having relationship experience (not really) under your belt, and THEN at 23-25 start to play, have fun, learn a new language/instrument/skill you can really feel behind in a sense. I understand it's sometimes inevitable the way family, culture, religion etc sets us up to desire things BUT if I could help out any one person to choose to spend some great years "finding" themselves or just having fun instead of in a romantic relationship, I'd be so happy.
Caroline It's not that serious.
love this. motivation, inspiration. i love the positivity in this video Evelina and hearing this after a break up is all i need. thank you!
Your story is so inspiring... Such a genuine and open discussion. I completely agree, people truly don't know themselves until they're much older. Glad you're spreading so much positivity out of your situation!! 💕💕
girl this is so good.
i had wondered about that, and not that you ever owed the world an explanation but I wanted to thank you for sharing your experience and words. this is hitting me as such a powerful time - i just broke up with my first serious boyfriend of a year and we had been looking at marriage, etc, and your video right now is exactly the thoughts I am/was having. thank you
My heart dropped when you said Mishka because that's the name of the guy that I love 😭
I don't know if this is rude to ask, but what lipstick are you wearing, and are they naturally this plump?
Cornelia Hanimann she has lipfillers☺️
thanks Caroline. does she share that somewhere or are you guessing?
looks good to me, I really was just curious if I assumed wrong or something...
Omg...thought the same thing🙈😂 her lips are looking soooo good😊
Just watch her older videos and you'll see the change ;)
I've seen her older videos, I noticed it because they look fuller.
I'm asking if she confirmed it anywhere.
Such a great video-you're helping a lot of people by talking about this
Glad you shared this with us! Was hoping you'd make a video about this
I love your eye makeup in this video!😍
Thank you for being so brave and putting yourself out there. I haven't watched your channel properly in a few years but some of the things you said in this video were things I needed to hear. I'm glad you're happy and I wish you the best x
love you girl
Stumbled upon this video and wow! Thank you so much for sharing. I wish more people would share things like this even though it's very hard to talk about. We mostly see the happy picture of all the good times on the internet but it is rare to see the other side when things go sideways. I think it's so important to see both sides and LEARN from that! This has definitely opened my eyes.
we will always support you evelina!!God bless
I really needed this video. The points you made about compatibility and knowing yourself and not jumping into something are so relevant, especially now more than ever. Thank you so much for making this video and opening up. It's positive for you, and hopefully people like me can learn a lot from your experiences
Thank you so much for sharing and being so genuine! I went through a similar experience and appreciate the fact that there are people who are out there also being open about their experiences.
So well spoken! Thanks for your openness and honesty!
Thank you for sharing Evelina! Love you!
💗💗thank you for sharing your story! I'm sending you lots of love. 💗💗
On and off for close to 6 years I've been watching videos from you. I love that you shared this. For the last 7 years so my whole adult life I've been with pretty much the same person. We took a year hiatus because we had lost who we are. It's still a struggle. I needed to hear it's OK to need to end something to be who you are.
Thanks for making this video Evelina! You put into perspective how important it is to put yourself first and to not settle for unhappiness. I definitely needed this encouragement in my life and it was even better coming from you!
This speaks to me because I almost got married when I was 21 but it didn't work out and I met someone else who is so much more compatible with my life and who I am now. But you are right, you don't know what you really want in a relationship untill after college... I'm so happy now.
Great video Evelina! I always enjoy the videos you create especially the ones where you open up to us about life's challenges. Your channel is one of my favorites because you are so genuine! Thank you for being so open and honest. You are definitely an inspiration to me. :)
♡ Adrienne
Evelina, I have also been watching since your DIY/wedding videos and this video was wonderful and your attitude is inspiring. Thank you for sharing xo
You are amazing! Thank you for this video!
I'm so happy for you Evelina and you always inspire me. My life since 4 years is so hard. My story is different but we have some things in common, and whenever I feel sad I watch your videos and Kalel's although I didn't know that you are that close. But I have to say that everything you said in this video is 100% right and thank you for sharing your story. I'm so happy for you 🤗
This was a very powerful video. Thanks I needed this!
gr8 words of advice, thank u for opening up and sharing such a vulnerable topic!!
Thank you for sharing with us, Evelina! I've been following your YT journey since 2012 and I'm still here 'cause I know you've always been true to yourself, and that's why I'll always support you! 💜 I'm glad you've found true happiness now 🙂
Love from Argentina xx
the fact that she opened up to us like that without her owing us any explanation just proves how awesome she really is, love you Evie!
This is such great advice! Love you girl thanks for this video ❤️
thanks for sharing with us your story evelina :) and i'm so glad you have found happiness and calm in your life!
I love how calm and peaceful you are with yourself and how you spoke about it not bashing any sides. Its not easy to open up about a topic like this one but im sure it'll help someone out there, because you made some really good points to consider. Much love xoxo
Thank you Evelina. I honestly don't watch too many of your videos anymore, but this was really helpful for me at a confusing time in my life...the message at the end was what I needed to hear. xx
Thank you for being so open and genuinely authentic!
Hi evelina, im kinda in a tough situation right now, relationship wise and hearing your story and your advices makes my prospective really clear in a way, so thank you!❤️❤️ you're so brave for opening up and being vulnerable like this
And I loved your makeup by the way i just can't do anything but wondering how amazing it is, hope you always be happy and yes I enjoyed listening to you , thanks for sharing these things with us 💗
Spitting truth so hard right now. Needed to hear this 6 months after my first ever break up. Thanks Evelina, wishing you the best always. love you girl.
I'm so glad you shared this story, Evelina! I loved hearing your point of view and your thoughts on relationships and marriage.
I can't imagine getting married at 21! I turned 25 today (it's my birthday!) and am a completely different person 4 years ago. I've grown up, my emotions/thoughts have matured, graduated from college, dated different guys, growing my own business, working on personal projects. Sometimes people aren't supposed to stay but will bring us closer to the people we are supposed to be with. I agree partners should be compatible and see what you do have in common. Opposites don't attract, 2 people can have different hobbies can bring, you into their world but they can't be so opposite that you hate everything each other does or don't have the same values. You have to be similar in life experiences over time that's how you get to know someone & build trust.
This was an amazing video! I loved every second of it
Evelina! It's been years since I started watching your videos! I just can't choose the words to tell you how I'm proud of you and what's a pleasure to listen to your thoughts! And of course, I feel so happy when I see your sincere smile. Many years ago you taught me to be brave. Thank you for who you are🙏🏾 ❤️
I have been you subscriber since probably 7 years ago. I really love your videos and you will always have my support with love!!!! Your comments in this video are very inspiring!! Our past failures do not define who we are, we learn from our mistakes and we move on and be better. I just have one question: what lipstick you use in this video? I really like this lip color on you!!
this video is beautiful, honest and just so full of lessons that can touch or inspire many lives. Thank you Evelina! I'm sending positive vibes of love and blessings your way! Love you forever and always!
Thank you so much for your kind comment! Means so much to have your support:)
Thank you so much for your great courage to open up your story! You're such an amazing person. Thank you again!
I've been watching you for years!! I remember your wedding video and all the decorations you did for your wedding. When you made that video I was sad bc I felt like you were a friend going though difficult times... but life goes on and now you're happy and I'm really happy for you. Love you 💞
I missed your videos! Thank you for being so real and for opening up about your family and your divorce. It's inspiring. I love your honest, opening up videos. They have helped me through my own hard times. Thank you for that!
I absolutely love this video 💛 I'm a pretty recent subscriber so I had no idea about your past, but I applaud you for getting your thoughts together and opening up about it to your audience, I feel exactly the same about so many of these things!
You are so brave! I am so sorry you had people condemning you and not showing you the love and grace you deserve. Praying for you💕
I've been one of your followers for about 4 years and I can't even express how amazing and strong you are eve. You are such an inspiration and so genuine! Will always stand by you and love you !!! ❤️❤️❤️
Evelina, we are so alike. I've gone through the same exact situation, with divorce and being on my own in a foreign country ( I'm from Moldova too!) it's very comforting to know that I'm not alone... and I completely find myself in every si hole word in this video. Cheers to us!!!!!!
You're strong and amazing and I'm glad that you're happy 💖 xx
I agree with you on a lot of things - about marrying that young, getting to know yourself, all of that stuff. But I dont think you need to be 95 % compatible for a relationship to work. Definitely you need to have similar views on some things and find similar things important but you don't have to be practically the same person, you can have different interests, opinions on things and stuff like that. That's how I see it. I do agree with you mostly tho, like you said you're always developing so it's better not to rush with such decisions. Don't take my comment the wrong way, I loved this video, I just wanted to share something I disagree with, everything else I think you hit spot on :)
thanks for doing this! i love these types of videos, like I'm talking to a friend. thanks for the advice
Love your videos and always have especially since the hair styling days and brunette evelina! So happy for what you've grown to be ❤️
This is probably one of the most helpful videos I've watched on youtube, thank you so much for sharing!
It's great seeing this, I still remember the castle you hand made for your wedding and it's crazy that it's been three years. This video addresses so many issues, and it's really very inspiring. Really loved it! Glad you're happy and moving on!
really glad you opened up! Also your make up is stunning, i love the colours
This video helped so much! Thank you for sharing your story. You are very brave❤
What a raw video of you. You are always truthful and your self which is why we love and support you.
Thank you for this inspirational video! Thank you for sharing your experience.
Thank you for shearing this with us. I was crying while whatching this video. You are such a strong girl. I wrote it before, but really you inspire me.
Love you Evelina! I''ve been watching your videos for 3 years now and you're the best! Always so happy to see when you post a new video.
I went through the same thing at the same time as you. I'm so glad to see you be able to open up about the whole thing and that it has turned out well for you. Keep doing what makes you happy!
Love your honesty❤ you are a beautiful soul.
i really needed to hear this. THANK YOU
I truly, truly appreciate that you decided to open up about this. You didn't have to, so I'm thankful you did. You are such an inspiring, perfectly imperfect, beautiful person. Thank you for sharing with us, whether it is about fashion or deeper things like this. Sending love your way!
I don't usually comment on videos, but this really touched me and I needed to hear much of what you said. I recently broke up with my exboyfriend of 4 years. We met when he was 17 and I had just turned 16 a month earlier. We had planned on getting married, I had a promise ring and things just to a point something needed to change. The break up happened so fast and I've been worried I'll never find another love like that. Everything you said in this video has made me feel better and that it's okay to not be with someone you're going to marry at the age of 20! Thank you, Evelin's 💕
Best video ever! Glad you are happy and true to yourself girl!
i think it's so awesome that you opened about this, and shared your experience and so glad you're in a better place now and know what you want!
you are just so brave and strong woman. i wish all the happiness and love to you, you really deserve it
I really appreciate listening to you because not everyone is so brave to share such a personal story! ❤ Thanks so much for sharing I thinks this could actually help a lot of people ❤ love you so so so much ❤😊